The people who said "All men cheat" and that OP should still remain in her marriage are the same people who post on SupportforWayward (yes there is a support group for cheaters 🤮) boo hoo stories on how they're the victims.
Jake: guy who gives you time and space to figure out your feelings. Respects your boundaries Is willing to give you treats / thoughtful gifts Makes you feel seen and loved Someone you can do all that for in turn
Well, Jess is unhinged... She says she showed up at OP's house to apologize only to rage and almost kidnap her kid later on... This person definitely loves attention
Bruh the fact a freaking stranger cared more about OP than Jess who is supposed to be her childhood best friend speaks for itself. Seriously that random hookup was a better friend than Jess ever will be.
I think that... Tyler is upset that OP isn't losing her ish emotionally and isn't jumping up and down trying to beg for a scrap of his attention Ditzy (the newest Flavor of Tyler's Life) was trying to go for a power play and was seriously denied Jess was trying to drag OP down emotionally and when that failed, tried to act as if nothing happened. When that was shut down, tried to destroy OP's life. The three of them are toxic pieces of filth that I hope never have another moment in the lives of OP and the people she cares for Edited to add: eagerly waiting for the Wedding Update
Bruh, who wants to bet that Tyler is gonna start crawling back and crying to OP once his new GF leaves. The new flavor really knows how to pick em. Has cheating issues, anger issues and is a deadbeat. She can keep him.
My mother was married for 10 years, my father passed away and for the last 18 years she hasn't dated anyone, her answer "I have met my soul mate" that is the love I aspire
@@That_BrownGirl probably because she I got hurt badly but still rude to say that I never cheated but got cheated on in such a disrespectful way 2 times by my ex girlfriends but despite that I don't blame women to be all cheaters I wish sakyosha would realize that too
@@Sakyosha not to be sexist but in this day in age even before since technology advance it's been recorded that women cheat more than mean but before not as much but these days because of social media and influence other things I wont say woman cheat a lot more than men like by a lot and don't even see it as a big deal and would say and do things that's cruel I had 2 gf like that but I still don't say all women is bad there are good men there are bad men there are good women there are cruel woman what you saying makes you part of the cruel woman because even if a man never cheated like myself and has been cheating on we automatically a cheater and should be hurt and when that happens we in turn become viscous and cruel towards woman and being us to a place we currently at where woman and men hate each other 😢 we don't need that so please stop saying that especially when woman cheat more than men
@@daishaunholmes2298 Did you really write all that for nothing?! Victim mindset much… calm down. All they said was that there are plenty of men out there who are like Jake, that have been hurt but didn’t turn into a Tyler. Just like there are plenty of woman who have been hurt but didn’t turn into the female version of Tyler. Yes, hurt people hurt people. However, it doesn’t mean people will give the leeway for long nor are they required to give them any at all. It’s an explanation for how someone ended up the way they were but it’s not an excuse. Eventually, you have to put in the work to actually work through things to better yourself or stay stagnant as an inconsiderate, entitled asshole who hurts everyone & can’t accept the consequences to your own actions.
single motherhood is ROUGH sometimes. my sons father decided that cheating on me and becoming an alcoholic was more important than our son. i’ve never spoken poorly about him to my son. i give age appropriate answers to his questions…he hasn’t asked to see my son since he was 18 months old
@@BK-tp6jf of course my son is hurting not having his dad. but why would i make him do something he doesn’t want to do? i don’t keep him from his son, he could see him whenever he wants. he doesn’t want to.
I'm all for OP taking time to find herself and rebuild her ability to trust and love again. That way if / when she is open for love with Jake it can be healthy and equal.
People who could do this to someone in such a vulnerable position are truly awful people. Something is missing inside of them, they are shallow incomplete people with no heart or soul. It’s too evil to do to a loved one. If I was that man’s father, I would tell his new girlfriend exactly what he did and why she’s not safe with him. Why would literally ANYONE want a man that bad??? It defies belief. It’s the stupidest choice on the planet-being with a known multiple time cheater who abandons his children. She must not be very smart at all.
He probably already did, but she either didn't believe it or is in deep denial about it. Honestly though, if the relationship between the ex and new gf flops like Op's marriage, she only has herself to blame. Like you said, she probably isn't that bright.
She was having his kid, so I'm not THAT surprised. It's just the audacity to expect it after he specifically betrayed her like that. Cuz if they broke up amicably then him being in there makes sense, but he'd need to have sense for that.
May Tyler’s life fall to ruin and man Jake is amazing and a real man, Tyler is a walking talking joke and divorce number two will happen for sure, hope his parents disown and disinherit him and leaves everything to the kids he abandoned with OP.
i absolutely ADORE that as soon as people wanted to send her mail to keep her in good spirits, she immediately directed them to donate to homeless shelters! and to show that her charity wasn't surface-levels, asserted that she regularly donates and volunteers at local homeless shelters. i also genuinely believe that she knew giving out mail addresses would pose a giant security risk to her and her kids. she did mention that if tyler or jess saw this story on reddit or tiktok, they would immediately recognize it as OP. tyler's violent behavior prior, and jess' desperation to feel superior to OP would've lent themselves to risks toward the childrens' safety.
i heard this story when the last update was jake and op spending time at her dates house and the ex husband was arrested because of the baseball bat attack, glad she is fine
One thing about me is I don't tolerate cheating AT all. When getting with my boyfriend, I told him that was relationship ending. I don't understand the logic behind cheating and putting someone through such an emotional rollercoaster. This may be cliche to say but once a cheat, always a cheat methinks
Even if every man cheats its not a good idea to stay with unstable people. There are too many stories where the guy just gets emboldened to do far worse than cheating
Thank goodness OP and her dad left before the husband could kill either of them, cause it sounds like, from his reaction, that was a distinct possibility. What a scumbag.
The Ex texting her new boyfriend to remind him she was "Used Goods", lol... Kind of pathetic, but an apt analogy nonetheless. As it turns out, some people throw things away too hastily, before realizing their value. As such, men of discerning taste, with an eye for quality can find some real treasures on the second-hand market. Sounds like her ex was unintentionally correct for once, he just wasn't able to follow that train of thought to its inevitable conclusion.
@@infinityalbi9840I think the top commenter is trying to say that Tyler was calling OP "used goods", but Jake sees her as a "re-model" or something...I think. 🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾
@@marjoriethomas1681 I was using a rhetorical device, extending their own analogy to a logical, albeit opposite conclusion than what was originally intended. Yes, it was intended as an insult when it was said, that is not in contention. But the underlying implication that made it insulting is the theory that "something used is fundamentally of a lesser value". However, as that was clearly not the case here, that insult itself was flawed. That outcome can also be encapsulated in their own analogy and logical framework. And I never implied "women are things", that was a reference to the relationship itself, and everything that encompasses. I could have been more clear on that, it was in hindsight ambiguous. But as it was written, there were multiple valid ways to interpret that statement, and you're the one who chose to attribute it to women, not me. Let's not turn it into a linguistic Rorschach test, lol.
Jess is some piece of work. It's no doubt she loves them married men. I agree with some comments saying she's unhinged and obsessive both towards wanting Tyler back and her anger towards OP. Not to mention Jess surly loves getting attention in the wrong places. As for Jake, he has a heart of gold. I don't even need to repeat what OP said about him, he's such a gem. I wish nothing but the best for OP, her kiddos, Jake and her family.
Ok but Tyler is also another level of asshole. He cheats on his wife with her BFF, destroys their home and his FIL's, expects his parents to cut off their grandkids to spite his cheated wife, abandons his kids then proceeds to tell the guy who is basically being their dad cause he's too useless that he would never be their dad and their mom is used goods. Like, Jess may be unhinged but Tyler is the biggest loser.
So OP lost a father, best friend (practically a sister) and husband almost at once and people have the audacity to call her names and suggested to stay with cheater? After all her sweet comments hearing people's comments... Bruh💀 And after everything he's done Tyler better not crawling back to OP and their kids because "he's want's to play a family" with his gf's kids
@@southernflight5078 Who wasn't paying attention. Jake has been interested in OP for a long time. OP is also interested in Jake. That's why they are living together now.
She started out saying “Tyler” was really sweet, but I’m guessing that is just in case her kids see it later and also because she was already grieving for so long she didn’t my notice he wasn’t a good husband or father. The fact that the kids didn’t notice his absence is very telling. It also sounds as if bestfriend was only bestfriend because their moms were bestfriends and not because they actually would have anything in common otherwise
I tend to believe them because my family tend to find the crazies. Most recent was the 15 daughter of a cousin got a random lady going to her cheerleading comp to call her a wrench for cheating with her husband. Spoilers wife was catfishing him with her photo she “forgot in her drunkenness she made that profile!!! Angry cousin hired pr and got cops to investigate it. My favorite tho was my cousins grandma died she raised him he was a pallbearer so got a haircut and rented a suit so he was presentable for her farewell. His gf got suspicious it was a party showed up in str**er wear and the memorial turned into a fire and brimstone against spicy dancers. I just know my aunt was just cackling having the time of her after life.
I want to believe the best, but I'm a bit worried about how fast Jake got in with the kids..... You never really know people no matter how long you've been friends.
So true. No way I would have an unrelated adult man around kids that are not biologically his. Can’t trust any adult man around my babies, who is not their biological father. No way no how.
Trust me there's nothing unique about this story for him to realize it's about him. There are so many about the husband screwing the bff or sister or even the mom, one time it was the brother. There's nothing unique about a cheating story. It's all the same.
He probably thought it would be helpful. You know "There are people that love you that aren't family." and was being awkward. Not like the situation wasn't weird to him. His sister was cheating on her husband with her best friend's husband.
He's a little opportunistic, but if that's the worst of it, than he's still a big improvement on the last one. I'd still count that as an orange flag, personally.
I thought it was strange how involved with the kids he got. Hear me out, just a suspicion, not an accusation. It's been known that child preds will go after newly single/vulnerable women to get to the kids. Him asking for updates and pictures that quick when he doesn't want them to call him dad until he adopts them. Hopefully, he's just a better person, and doesn't social pressure get to him. Lol AMITA for having these suspicions?
I'd have thought it was weirder to help out and not say something. Like hang about without saying something like a vulture. I think honesty was the best option.
I hope I'm wrong but I find something about Jake is unsettling like when op asked for gf title he said she already was.You know the kind to come like your knight in shining armor that actually are a stalker vibes.He's sus
34:59 Jake sounds more like a father and husband than Tyler ever was. Also, very suspicious how Tyler OP quit her job stating daycare expenses. The truth was that he wanted OP dependent on him so even if cheated he had her money and baby trapped. Did not work
Idk I know the people were all excited with Jake but for me he gives me creepy vibes, the confession when she was in her lowest, the love bombing, the weird "retirement", how he took every chance to get closer, like when the weird friend came to her house and then he saw that as a opportunity to live with her, askung daily for her kids photos, even that her son is saying that he wsnt for Jake to be his dad is weird, its too soon, sound like he is even manipulating the kids into "loving" him, plus he is the brother of the weird obsess friend. Idk... too weird. I hope I am wrong and they live happily ever after.
I mean, if he always liked her but never felt it was right to say anything, then she married and it would definitely never be right, he had to take his shot at some point when the divorce was coming. Plus, his Sister was the course of her marriage collasping😢
there's an update now (two, actually): in the first part she says Jess OD'd and left a letter for OP in which she says she saw OP unhappy and decided while high that she needed to get Tyler away from her but she fell in love instead because of the lies he told her. OP doesn’t believe this and says she thinks Jess started using after the affair was discovered. the second part says Jake asked her to marry him and they’re having a long engagement
Kinda terrified of the fact people can go from loving and attentive to trashing their own home and punching holes in walls and attempting B&E on their hospice-bound in-laws when its revealed that they've just been caught cheating 😢😮
Before anyone says that religious people are the ones saying all men cheat…. Then you didn’t interact with a religious person you interacted with someone who uses religion as a means to get what they want or make themselves look better. as a Christian the Bible actually says that a couple should divorce if there is infidelity and while yes the sin it’s self is forgiven by God meaning that the cheater would still have a chance at heaven if they truly regretted the sin (not at getting caught). I know a lot of lukewarm Christian’s (people who claim to be Christian but bend the rules for themselves) will try to say this but in reality they are lying to themselves. And while I can’t speak for all religions is know Islam doesn’t even allow dating and only allows multiple wives if the first wife is okay with it.
Tyler is the one who should have left this Earth, not OP's Dad. What an absolute scrumbag. Trying to punish his kids by being a deadbeat dad as a result of his own trashy behavior. Jake is what Tyler should have been.
You know these are fake because they talk about their husband in the present tense like a good guy. Nobody who actually went through this would do that.
I remembwr when this story was read on Smosh. They only got the fkrst major part not the updates since. But the filmed it as thongs were "breaking" so its nice to hear how things have progressed.
Shocking that OP finds out ex was abusive later on, it's crazy that anyone could be that much of a jackyl and hyde. I hope the kids can call Jake Dad eventually, and they have all the love and security they always deserved.
It always makes me laugh in a bitter way when people act like it's impossible for people to disown a kid because it literally happens for the most inane shit every day. My husband has been on his own since 14 and is struggling with the results of a childhoods worth of medical neglect but suuuuuuure people become saints of forgiveness when they shoot a kid out of their nethers 😂😂😂😂
His crime? Being a transman and not wanting to live in a drug infested podunk for the rest of his life. Then later on the second time they kicked him to the curb it was for marrying my obviously indigenous ass. Never been slurred quite that thoroughly in my life.
30:15 Ah yes, that cheating prick is probably badmouthing her to his new Victim, him denying that these kids are his is a lying sceem to accuse the breakup reasons on her, saying it's his ex fault, saying she cheated and got Prego by another guy and that's why "he left" and that his ex wife is obsessed over him or something, sounds about right in character for him, and this chick straight up eats any shit he serves her as this jealous desperate Chick feels like everyone is coming for "her great man". I do drag her as for how she just believes anything he tells her, being antagonistic towards OP without even knowing her or having seen anything about that situation. Gurls and guys, if a new date badmouths his ex without proof and try to portray their ex as "the crazy one", doubt it, and demand proof, go and try to hear the other side first before believing the first one who run towards you scouting bunch of accusations with no proof... Lot's of time the victims don't say anything meanwhile the Toxic Narcissists will try anything to ruin someone's life for fun, even spreading lies for months about you, meanwhile smiling in your face, then do anything to trigger in you an mental breakdown (reactive Abuse), meanwhile they themselves immediately act calm, saint and reasonable, because they now got what they wanted and record it to spread that video, portraying you as the Abuser and themselves as the Victim who try to reason with you to "save the relationship", just so they can isolate their Victim even more and gaslighting their victim with "see, you are the problem, not me, I stayed with you even though you constantly abused me, because I try to help you!" And when the relationship still ends, you are the bad guy, them having "video proof" of how you just had an mental breakdown from all the abused you have faced, which they of course will never show or admit...
Nothing says, "I want to be forgiven" like making false accusations to the police, hacking all their social media and smearing them in the workplace 😇😇😇
34:08 I literally skipped to this part cus I didnt wanna watch this shi for 50 mins and I just hear "I have friends who practice witchcraft and I love they're so passionate about it" I GOT THIS IN MY RECOMMENDED FOR THE FIRST TIME BRUH
Cheating is not the worst thing that can happen to you and ruining people’s lives over it is cruel. From experience I feel like the emotional, physical, and financial abuse much worse than cheating. Bringing everyone into it is actually childish. OP should’ve handled it like an adult. Not saying what her husband and bff did was right, but it was between the three of them…
I know this is almoste certainly fake but it's entertaining and helps me time the dinner and if it's true well with friends like that who needs enemies.
Many people who cheat dont see their so as human they expect their spouse to be perfect they use one flaw as a reason to cheat and repeat... they think they re above their spouse on some way or another so when the spouse that was cheated on does not beg crumble and lose their mind their ego cant take it. They also think they own their spouse so even though they cheat they still believe their superiority owes them the time body energy and all that innocent spouse was doing for them thua the nagry meltdown or them accusing the innocent spouse of breaking the family when they re the one cheating .They think themselves better and take it as a defiance when the innocent spouse stand up to them and refuse to stay or refuse their crocodile tears. Cheaters see themselves superior thus they think they can cheat and you owe them forgiveness and should be grateful they chose to be with you....😂
My heart broke for OP losing her dad, husband and best friend all at once is such a blow.
To be fair, she only lost one person worth keeping. RIP to the dad
@merykhan97 Sad but true. When times get hard, you'll see people for who they are
I just know Jake was kicking his feet and smiling while reading the updates about him.
Oh, he sure did, anyone would ngl😅😅😅 Team Jake all the way
The people who said "All men cheat" and that OP should still remain in her marriage are the same people who post on SupportforWayward (yes there is a support group for cheaters 🤮) boo hoo stories on how they're the victims.
Oh I hate those people.
Or a religious background where staying married is godly, the sin of infindelity will be forgiven if you pray on it. Nuts.
Cheaters always act like they're the victims, and think they deserve forgiveness.
My mother who is a very religious God fearing woman told me to never let a man hit me twice and never let a man cheat on me twice.
@@NessaEllenesseonce
Jeez, I'm a straight guy and I want me a Jake.
Jake: guy who gives you time and space to figure out your feelings.
Respects your boundaries
Is willing to give you treats / thoughtful gifts
Makes you feel seen and loved
Someone you can do all that for in turn
Well, Jess is unhinged... She says she showed up at OP's house to apologize only to rage and almost kidnap her kid later on... This person definitely loves attention
Well she is going to love the attention she will get in jail now 😂
@@momoangel9243 yaasssss LMAOOO
so is the ex sperm donor. baseball bat? that is unhinged as well
That’s what straight jackets are for.
Bruh the fact a freaking stranger cared more about OP than Jess who is supposed to be her childhood best friend speaks for itself. Seriously that random hookup was a better friend than Jess ever will be.
I’ve heard this story. OP sounds so sweet and loving. Such a shame her ex couldn’t appreciate her and the love she gave.
But she now has Jake, soooooooo, yay team Jake!
"He's only staying with you for the children", however she keeps coming up pregnant. Side chick girl you need to wake up.
I think that...
Tyler is upset that OP isn't losing her ish emotionally and isn't jumping up and down trying to beg for a scrap of his attention
Ditzy (the newest Flavor of Tyler's Life) was trying to go for a power play and was seriously denied
Jess was trying to drag OP down emotionally and when that failed, tried to act as if nothing happened. When that was shut down, tried to destroy OP's life. The three of them are toxic pieces of filth that I hope never have another moment in the lives of OP and the people she cares for
Edited to add: eagerly waiting for the Wedding Update
Bruh, who wants to bet that Tyler is gonna start crawling back and crying to OP once his new GF leaves. The new flavor really knows how to pick em. Has cheating issues, anger issues and is a deadbeat. She can keep him.
I want an update of Tyler being disowned and disinherited
Bingo. I need a my own "Jake". 🕵🏽♀️ 👉🏽 🙋🏾♂️
And Tyler needed a kick in the head, or maybe a kick in the a$$. 🏃♂️🤺
My mother was married for 10 years, my father passed away and for the last 18 years she hasn't dated anyone, her answer "I have met my soul mate" that is the love I aspire
You’re a woman? not happening lmao
It's not a sin to remarry and have another wife or husband after death
@@BK-tp6jf they’re all aware. she was clear she didn’t want to. it’s also ok not to remarry
Ladies, get yourself a Jake
Every Tyler was once their Jake.
@@Sakyoshawhy so pessimistic man... There are a lot of good men out there who stay good
@@That_BrownGirl probably because she I got hurt badly but still rude to say that I never cheated but got cheated on in such a disrespectful way 2 times by my ex girlfriends but despite that I don't blame women to be all cheaters I wish sakyosha would realize that too
@@Sakyosha not to be sexist but in this day in age even before since technology advance it's been recorded that women cheat more than mean but before not as much but these days because of social media and influence other things I wont say woman cheat a lot more than men like by a lot and don't even see it as a big deal and would say and do things that's cruel I had 2 gf like that but I still don't say all women is bad there are good men there are bad men there are good women there are cruel woman what you saying makes you part of the cruel woman because even if a man never cheated like myself and has been cheating on we automatically a cheater and should be hurt and when that happens we in turn become viscous and cruel towards woman and being us to a place we currently at where woman and men hate each other 😢 we don't need that so please stop saying that especially when woman cheat more than men
@@daishaunholmes2298 Did you really write all that for nothing?! Victim mindset much… calm down. All they said was that there are plenty of men out there who are like Jake, that have been hurt but didn’t turn into a Tyler.
Just like there are plenty of woman who have been hurt but didn’t turn into the female version of Tyler.
Yes, hurt people hurt people. However, it doesn’t mean people will give the leeway for long nor are they required to give them any at all. It’s an explanation for how someone ended up the way they were but it’s not an excuse.
Eventually, you have to put in the work to actually work through things to better yourself or stay stagnant as an inconsiderate, entitled asshole who hurts everyone & can’t accept the consequences to your own actions.
single motherhood is ROUGH sometimes. my sons father decided that cheating on me and becoming an alcoholic was more important than our son. i’ve never spoken poorly about him to my son. i give age appropriate answers to his questions…he hasn’t asked to see my son since he was 18 months old
Try to make him do visitation through court maybe the kid is hurting without having time with his dad even supervised at first
@@BK-tp6jfeww no
@@BK-tp6jf of course my son is hurting not having his dad. but why would i make him do something he doesn’t want to do? i don’t keep him from his son, he could see him whenever he wants. he doesn’t want to.
OP has the best support system. Also OP x Jake ship! I am for it.
I'm all for OP taking time to find herself and rebuild her ability to trust and love again.
That way if / when she is open for love with Jake it can be healthy and equal.
People who could do this to someone in such a vulnerable position are truly awful people. Something is missing inside of them, they are shallow incomplete people with no heart or soul. It’s too evil to do to a loved one. If I was that man’s father, I would tell his new girlfriend exactly what he did and why she’s not safe with him. Why would literally ANYONE want a man that bad??? It defies belief. It’s the stupidest choice on the planet-being with a known multiple time cheater who abandons his children. She must not be very smart at all.
He probably already did, but she either didn't believe it or is in deep denial about it. Honestly though, if the relationship between the ex and new gf flops like Op's marriage, she only has herself to blame. Like you said, she probably isn't that bright.
This woman gave him an ultimatum either her or his kids and you think she's decent enough to realize his actions are wrong? That's his perfect match
Tyler honestly expected to be allowed in the delivery room of his EX wife?!?
She was probably having his child
She was having his kid, so I'm not THAT surprised. It's just the audacity to expect it after he specifically betrayed her like that. Cuz if they broke up amicably then him being in there makes sense, but he'd need to have sense for that.
@@cynthiaholland13so?
May Tyler’s life fall to ruin and man Jake is amazing and a real man, Tyler is a walking talking joke and divorce number two will happen for sure, hope his parents disown and disinherit him and leaves everything to the kids he abandoned with OP.
Probably will. I have a feeling that Tyler is just trying to start over even though he is clearly deranged.
i absolutely ADORE that as soon as people wanted to send her mail to keep her in good spirits, she immediately directed them to donate to homeless shelters! and to show that her charity wasn't surface-levels, asserted that she regularly donates and volunteers at local homeless shelters.
i also genuinely believe that she knew giving out mail addresses would pose a giant security risk to her and her kids. she did mention that if tyler or jess saw this story on reddit or tiktok, they would immediately recognize it as OP. tyler's violent behavior prior, and jess' desperation to feel superior to OP would've lent themselves to risks toward the childrens' safety.
i heard this story when the last update was jake and op spending time at her dates house and the ex husband was arrested because of the baseball bat attack,
glad she is fine
Omg now I need the details
Tyler was trash but girl ended up getting herself a king.
One thing about me is I don't tolerate cheating AT all. When getting with my boyfriend, I told him that was relationship ending. I don't understand the logic behind cheating and putting someone through such an emotional rollercoaster. This may be cliche to say but once a cheat, always a cheat methinks
Jake is totally a Simp for you and the kids.
And that's totally adorable and awesome. I wish you both the best
All men do not cheat, and any comment suggesting that they do is LITERAL bullshit.
my reply when someone says this because its usually women that do is that all women are cheating gold diggers
Even if every man cheats its not a good idea to stay with unstable people. There are too many stories where the guy just gets emboldened to do far worse than cheating
At some point, you just wonder if your so deep in denial that you only accept your version as reality.
Only her who knows her business and what actually happened in her marriage!
Found Tyler lol
@@MsSuBenabingo! 8-P
*you’re so deep…
@@vincentcleaver1925 Who is OP? Me? I know life and isn't pretensive! I know that nothing is as it appears to be!
Wow , her support system is amazing. 🙌❤ Love that 👍💕
Never ever quit your job...ever!
Thank goodness OP and her dad left before the husband could kill either of them, cause it sounds like, from his reaction, that was a distinct possibility. What a scumbag.
11:20 did she just say people told her to stay bc all men cheat?!?! wtf
The Ex texting her new boyfriend to remind him she was "Used Goods", lol...
Kind of pathetic, but an apt analogy nonetheless. As it turns out, some people throw things away too hastily, before realizing their value. As such, men of discerning taste, with an eye for quality can find some real treasures on the second-hand market.
Sounds like her ex was unintentionally correct for once, he just wasn't able to follow that train of thought to its inevitable conclusion.
If OP is used goods, Tyler is straight up unrecyclable trash.
I honestly can't tell if that was a compliment, an insult or something else entirely 😂
@@infinityalbi9840I think the top commenter is trying to say that Tyler was calling OP "used goods", but Jake sees her as a "re-model" or something...I think. 🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾
So women are "things"? Yikes. Used Goods is an insult. Period.
@@marjoriethomas1681 I was using a rhetorical device, extending their own analogy to a logical, albeit opposite conclusion than what was originally intended. Yes, it was intended as an insult when it was said, that is not in contention. But the underlying implication that made it insulting is the theory that "something used is fundamentally of a lesser value". However, as that was clearly not the case here, that insult itself was flawed. That outcome can also be encapsulated in their own analogy and logical framework.
And I never implied "women are things", that was a reference to the relationship itself, and everything that encompasses. I could have been more clear on that, it was in hindsight ambiguous. But as it was written, there were multiple valid ways to interpret that statement, and you're the one who chose to attribute it to women, not me. Let's not turn it into a linguistic Rorschach test, lol.
49 MINUTES??? PLEASE FEED US MORE WHILE I WASH THIS DISHES PLEASE🙏🙏🙏🙏
33:40 OP IS A W🔥🔥
Never give up your job...ever!
Jess is some piece of work. It's no doubt she loves them married men. I agree with some comments saying she's unhinged and obsessive both towards wanting Tyler back and her anger towards OP. Not to mention Jess surly loves getting attention in the wrong places.
As for Jake, he has a heart of gold. I don't even need to repeat what OP said about him, he's such a gem. I wish nothing but the best for OP, her kiddos, Jake and her family.
Ok but Tyler is also another level of asshole. He cheats on his wife with her BFF, destroys their home and his FIL's, expects his parents to cut off their grandkids to spite his cheated wife, abandons his kids then proceeds to tell the guy who is basically being their dad cause he's too useless that he would never be their dad and their mom is used goods. Like, Jess may be unhinged but Tyler is the biggest loser.
So OP lost a father, best friend (practically a sister) and husband almost at once and people have the audacity to call her names and suggested to stay with cheater? After all her sweet comments hearing people's comments... Bruh💀
And after everything he's done Tyler better not crawling back to OP and their kids because "he's want's to play a family" with his gf's kids
OP x Jake fanfics popping up everywhere
So is anyone taking bets as to the Wedding date for OP and Jake.🥰
Reddits obsession with fckng the relatives of the ex is fckng gross.
This guy wasn't paying attention. Lol
Jake is Jess' brother. The ex best friend. Not the scumbag ex-husband.
@@southernflight5078 Jake is Jess' brother, who has a crush on OP. So @lindah3803 isn't wrong.
@@southernflight5078 Who wasn't paying attention. Jake has been interested in OP for a long time. OP is also interested in Jake. That's why they are living together now.
I think @southernflight5078 was referring to @radish6740's comment...
Jake has been waiting a while and when they are ready he really sounds like a real man.
She started out saying “Tyler” was really sweet, but I’m guessing that is just in case her kids see it later and also because she was already grieving for so long she didn’t my notice he wasn’t a good husband or father. The fact that the kids didn’t notice his absence is very telling. It also sounds as if bestfriend was only bestfriend because their moms were bestfriends and not because they actually would have anything in common otherwise
Ive heard this story before but didn't know that there was more to it
All these stories always sound fake but i am always here for them. Like fanfic soap operas.
I tend to believe them because my family tend to find the crazies.
Most recent was the 15 daughter of a cousin got a random lady going to her cheerleading comp to call her a wrench for cheating with her husband. Spoilers wife was catfishing him with her photo she “forgot in her drunkenness she made that profile!!! Angry cousin hired pr and got cops to investigate it.
My favorite tho was my cousins grandma died she raised him he was a pallbearer so got a haircut and rented a suit so he was presentable for her farewell. His gf got suspicious it was a party showed up in str**er wear and the memorial turned into a fire and brimstone against spicy dancers.
I just know my aunt was just cackling having the time of her after life.
MIL: Ruth
FIL: Joe
Ex BFF Parents: Angie and Bob
Ex BFF: Jess
STB Ex: Tyler
Ex BFF’s Brother: Jake
I want to believe the best, but I'm a bit worried about how fast Jake got in with the kids.....
You never really know people no matter how long you've been friends.
So true. No way I would have an unrelated adult man around kids that are not biologically his. Can’t trust any adult man around my babies, who is not their biological father. No way no how.
So glad she had a good support system
Trust me there's nothing unique about this story for him to realize it's about him. There are so many about the husband screwing the bff or sister or even the mom, one time it was the brother. There's nothing unique about a cheating story. It's all the same.
I find Jake weird, saying that so shortly after op found out of the cheating. At least op kept it slow.
He probably thought it would be helpful. You know "There are people that love you that aren't family." and was being awkward. Not like the situation wasn't weird to him. His sister was cheating on her husband with her best friend's husband.
I think Jake had a thing for OP waaay before Tyler; he's known her basically all his life, right?
He's a little opportunistic, but if that's the worst of it, than he's still a big improvement on the last one. I'd still count that as an orange flag, personally.
I thought it was strange how involved with the kids he got. Hear me out, just a suspicion, not an accusation. It's been known that child preds will go after newly single/vulnerable women to get to the kids. Him asking for updates and pictures that quick when he doesn't want them to call him dad until he adopts them. Hopefully, he's just a better person, and doesn't social pressure get to him. Lol AMITA for having these suspicions?
I'd have thought it was weirder to help out and not say something. Like hang about without saying something like a vulture. I think honesty was the best option.
I hope I'm wrong but I find something about Jake is unsettling like when op asked for gf title he said she already was.You know the kind to come like your knight in shining armor that actually are a stalker vibes.He's sus
"once, not if, they get married" I squealed a little
Tbh this gives me major "jake made up this story and wrote it to fantazise about getting with a married girl he has a crush on"
lol yeah he seems to good to be true but I really wish it is true and that such happily ever afters do exist❤
Imagine if jake was the master mind who made his sister fell for tyler to get to OP
Drama plot twist
Well ex hubby still decided to cheat and jake didn't point a gun at him and forced him to cheat
34:59 Jake sounds more like a father and husband than Tyler ever was. Also, very suspicious how Tyler OP quit her job stating daycare expenses. The truth was that he wanted OP dependent on him so even if cheated he had her money and baby trapped. Did not work
I’m so glad I got a full update😢😢OP I LOVE YOU TOO! GO JAKE
Idk I know the people were all excited with Jake but for me he gives me creepy vibes, the confession when she was in her lowest, the love bombing, the weird "retirement", how he took every chance to get closer, like when the weird friend came to her house and then he saw that as a opportunity to live with her, askung daily for her kids photos, even that her son is saying that he wsnt for Jake to be his dad is weird, its too soon, sound like he is even manipulating the kids into "loving" him, plus he is the brother of the weird obsess friend. Idk... too weird. I hope I am wrong and they live happily ever after.
I mean, if he always liked her but never felt it was right to say anything, then she married and it would definitely never be right, he had to take his shot at some point when the divorce was coming. Plus, his Sister was the course of her marriage collasping😢
Yeah it's all just creative writing. Guys almost never swoop in on a single mom, especially one with a baby.
i can just imagine Jake kicking his feet and grinning while reading all the updates about him
there's an update now (two, actually): in the first part she says Jess OD'd and left a letter for OP in which she says she saw OP unhappy and decided while high that she needed to get Tyler away from her but she fell in love instead because of the lies he told her. OP doesn’t believe this and says she thinks Jess started using after the affair was discovered. the second part says Jake asked her to marry him and they’re having a long engagement
I read this up to I think the 2nd update a couple years ago and then lost track of the story I'm glad that everything turned out all right
Reddit could be both the most healthy and most toxic app at the same
Kinda terrified of the fact people can go from loving and attentive to trashing their own home and punching holes in walls and attempting B&E on their hospice-bound in-laws when its revealed that they've just been caught cheating 😢😮
I had tears in my eyes when Jake showed up for Christmas
Thanks for the fresh updates Secret voices 👍
I am pretty sure Jake is going to be a friend for the rest of his life
I think they will definitely be best friends, even after they get married❤
You should refrain from another relationship for at least a few months! Don't jump from man to man.
Before anyone says that religious people are the ones saying all men cheat…. Then you didn’t interact with a religious person you interacted with someone who uses religion as a means to get what they want or make themselves look better. as a Christian the Bible actually says that a couple should divorce if there is infidelity and while yes the sin it’s self is forgiven by God meaning that the cheater would still have a chance at heaven if they truly regretted the sin (not at getting caught). I know a lot of lukewarm Christian’s (people who claim to be Christian but bend the rules for themselves) will try to say this but in reality they are lying to themselves. And while I can’t speak for all religions is know Islam doesn’t even allow dating and only allows multiple wives if the first wife is okay with it.
When Jake's name was first mentioned , i knew . 😅 Then , after the 2nd time , " i knew , knew ." 😂🎉.
Well, all in all I think this worked out well.
Holy 🐄, this looks like it'll be unhinged. Oh yeah.... FIRST
Tyler is the one who should have left this Earth, not OP's Dad. What an absolute scrumbag. Trying to punish his kids by being a deadbeat dad as a result of his own trashy behavior. Jake is what Tyler should have been.
I feel so bad for OP, how horrible must her ex husband have been to make her think she was not worth Jake, you are worth Jake OP
Wow! Sounds like a film script.
34:38 would it be courting/courtship
You know these are fake because they talk about their husband in the present tense like a good guy. Nobody who actually went through this would do that.
I remembwr when this story was read on Smosh. They only got the fkrst major part not the updates since. But the filmed it as thongs were "breaking" so its nice to hear how things have progressed.
So happy with the updates !!
I think op is s real tough woman, pregnant, losing father, losing bff, losing husband, and still stand tall and think through everything
Shocking that OP finds out ex was abusive later on, it's crazy that anyone could be that much of a jackyl and hyde. I hope the kids can call Jake Dad eventually, and they have all the love and security they always deserved.
The op updated recently, and Jess is dead. She overdosed and was found in her apartment.
Wow really?
@@KekePfan16yep. This story is more and more like a soap opera every update
The fact Tyler called OP, the mother of his kids, "used goods" shows how Tyler is crap
Crazy
This has to be the hardest storm I've ever weathered, but dammit I know I'll sail through ❤
It always makes me laugh in a bitter way when people act like it's impossible for people to disown a kid because it literally happens for the most inane shit every day. My husband has been on his own since 14 and is struggling with the results of a childhoods worth of medical neglect but suuuuuuure people become saints of forgiveness when they shoot a kid out of their nethers 😂😂😂😂
His crime? Being a transman and not wanting to live in a drug infested podunk for the rest of his life. Then later on the second time they kicked him to the curb it was for marrying my obviously indigenous ass. Never been slurred quite that thoroughly in my life.
30:15 Ah yes, that cheating prick is probably badmouthing her to his new Victim, him denying that these kids are his is a lying sceem to accuse the breakup reasons on her, saying it's his ex fault, saying she cheated and got Prego by another guy and that's why "he left" and that his ex wife is obsessed over him or something, sounds about right in character for him, and this chick straight up eats any shit he serves her as this jealous desperate Chick feels like everyone is coming for "her great man".
I do drag her as for how she just believes anything he tells her, being antagonistic towards OP without even knowing her or having seen anything about that situation.
Gurls and guys, if a new date badmouths his ex without proof and try to portray their ex as "the crazy one", doubt it, and demand proof, go and try to hear the other side first before believing the first one who run towards you scouting bunch of accusations with no proof...
Lot's of time the victims don't say anything meanwhile the Toxic Narcissists will try anything to ruin someone's life for fun, even spreading lies for months about you, meanwhile smiling in your face, then do anything to trigger in you an mental breakdown (reactive Abuse), meanwhile they themselves immediately act calm, saint and reasonable, because they now got what they wanted and record it to spread that video, portraying you as the Abuser and themselves as the Victim who try to reason with you to "save the relationship", just so they can isolate their Victim even more and gaslighting their victim with "see, you are the problem, not me, I stayed with you even though you constantly abused me, because I try to help you!"
And when the relationship still ends, you are the bad guy, them having "video proof" of how you just had an mental breakdown from all the abused you have faced, which they of course will never show or admit...
Nothing says, "I want to be forgiven" like making false accusations to the police, hacking all their social media and smearing them in the workplace 😇😇😇
You know this is not real right?? Like irl this all never happened. Op was found out and actually admitted it. So embarrassing
34:08 I literally skipped to this part cus I didnt wanna watch this shi for 50 mins and I just hear "I have friends who practice witchcraft and I love they're so passionate about it" I GOT THIS IN MY RECOMMENDED FOR THE FIRST TIME BRUH
When OP was discribing her dad, I started thinking of my grandpa for no reason 😂 I do miss him though. (He is NOT dead)
This story appeared on Smosh ❤❤❤❤
Jake you dropped this 👑 👑👑
#teamjakealltheway #ineedajakeinmylifetoo
we need to get ourselves a jake
Dude I remember when this first came out I didn't know even more happened
The other party in our custody dispute would go NC for 11 months and 15 days. She did it twice.
Cheating is not the worst thing that can happen to you and ruining people’s lives over it is cruel. From experience I feel like the emotional, physical, and financial abuse much worse than cheating. Bringing everyone into it is actually childish. OP should’ve handled it like an adult. Not saying what her husband and bff did was right, but it was between the three of them…
I know this is almoste certainly fake but it's entertaining and helps me time the dinner and if it's true well with friends like that who needs enemies.
Girl wanted what her mom and dad had. Jake is it, unfortunately he doesnt work at statefarm. Yet....
#TeamJake ❤ what a sweetheart.
We love Jake 😂❤
I love this story so much 🥹 I love Jake
OP probably just has cats... This became more fake by the minute 😆
Ok look she wasn't concerned for him.
Who wasn't concerned for who?
Soooo...the whole gay/LGBT thing was unnecessary and a bit odd....
Oh baby when she healed up from the baby, I hope she went and wore her godsister out!!
Tyler sounds like a terrible human being. Jess is too
Many people who cheat dont see their so as human they expect their spouse to be perfect they use one flaw as a reason to cheat and repeat... they think they re above their spouse on some way or another so when the spouse that was cheated on does not beg crumble and lose their mind their ego cant take it. They also think they own their spouse so even though they cheat they still believe their superiority owes them the time body energy and all that innocent spouse was doing for them thua the nagry meltdown or them accusing the innocent spouse of breaking the family when they re the one cheating .They think themselves better and take it as a defiance when the innocent spouse stand up to them and refuse to stay or refuse their crocodile tears. Cheaters see themselves superior thus they think they can cheat and you owe them forgiveness and should be grateful they chose to be with you....😂
Typical Prot mindset