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@@hiddenname9809 ugh, sorry to hear that. I’ve been there too. Also had my boss tell me things like “Katy, you know what they say about the cow and the milk… why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”. I had just gotten back from my 3 year anniversary trip without a ring on it. Needless to say I no longer work there. Took a year more of that crap until I had had enough.
@@pmproblems assess how deep it is. If the drama and back stabbing are not worth the paycheck then leave when you get offered another position. If not as deep take as a teachable moment and find ways to not let it consume you because if it is a team against you for something important it is with taking a stand if it is a minor issue or petty issue it not worth bring up.
@@rolandobaluja7504 we can certainly agree that after a certain point, it's not worth staying at a toxic job. Our main reason for encouraging standing up to these types is so the problem doesn't grow too large, but there are some workplace situations that can't be overcome for sure.
Oh God that's so true! If you're new to a company and do a good job it can inspire jealousy in other women. Next thing? You don't make it through the 'probationery period' because someone who's been working there a long time feels threatened by you-so unfair! 😡
One coworker was super nice, but when I denied a request, she lost her mind and threw a tantrum, threatened me. I don’t even want to be in the same room as her now.
I will set boundaries with one of my needy coworkers that keeps following me around the job site I will tell that person to give me my personal space that’s all
To be honest I have had multiple jobs where coworkers have seen me as a threat and started causing issues for me. The moment this happens, I know I'm going to lose my job. The only thing is that if I don't do anything about it, I know I will just lose my job slower. It's making my CV look bad. But I know dealing with it will just make the whole situation worse. Documenting things has been pointless unless someone is backing you up, as they just say that you're lying. And going to HR is suicide.
Small hidden surveillance cameras and recording devices as well as explicitly documenting everything regardless of whether it minor, medicore, or major will benefit you as well as a good attorney if needed! Plenty of people and companies have had too settle and have been sued for coworkers harassing, slandering, provoking, and or terrorizing others. With that being said don't sweat the small stuff and take constructive criticism as it's beneficial for you! Trust me you will know if their trying too set you up for failure and you'll know if their just backstabbing narcissistic bullying and or slandering you! Take a stand against them and don't let them utilize or use you! I have lost all trust and faith in coworkers and most people in general and will never open up too any personal information about myself ever again at all whatsoever as they will either misunderstood, bend, twist, and or change what I said regardless of whether or not they truly understood what I said or meant! Their just your coworkers not 🚫 your genuine friends!!!!
If I can give you my 2 cents, and advise you to do what I didn’t know in my 20s, it’s three words - stand your ground. If you like your job and want to stay in it, first recognise that it is you who is good enough, and they are targeting you because they are not, or feel that they are not. Stand your ground. You’ll find you are well thought of by others and this person knows that. They can’t attain the social and political power you build so effortlessly without manipulating and coercing. Know that if you are being targeted it is because you are doing something right. Hold your head up high and remember your worth. You’ll find more people are on your side than you imagine! It’s easy to think everyone thinks the same as the bully in these situations but honestly they don’t! Documentation by the way is seen in as contemporaneous evidence - it’s 👍 Much love . Be well ❤
I've already discussed personal issues and have had to learn the hard way. I no longer do. My question now is what do I do? I hope it's not to late. My instincts tells me stop talking about personal stuff and move forward.
I have a coworker I'm dealing with and I see many red flags about her. When I was new going on four months now I was all excited and relaxed with her thinking I was going to make a friend turned out she has been saying some things behind my back of all I have said. Giving it a little twist to making me look like a bad person. I even believe she is taking it to the boss of anything I say or do is being used against me. I feel like I'll be losing my job soon. If I don't say much or talk to her or anything everyone else will know that I'm being rude. She sets me up. So,. I been trying to not say much at all only good morning and start working. But she becomes like static cling to me....I can't shake her off. It's every job I run into this kind of manipulative situations. Easily well hated person that I am. 😔
Sorry to hear you're experiencing this! I'd recommend documenting anything you can, staying in contact with your boss, copy multiple people on group email updates, memos, etc and generally try to remain in neutral as often as possible!
You are doing right just by speaking and jumping into work. If that person tries to bring up anyone, tries to gossip , you don’t say anything. That’s how they trick you. They are the ones that be cool with who they talking about. I would keep being professional and complete your task. Trust and believe, you will get work done without engaging with them all the time. I see those kind of people as miserable.
From personal experience no matter how niece they might seem, and even if they offer you drinks or food.... Never ignore your gut. They are snakes luring you in.
First off coworkers are not usually my friends only in rare circumstances in particular environments with more easy going types would I add on Facebook you never know where that could go.
A co worker constantly going to HR to complain that you are not doing enough work. E.g You are on a late shift and they are on earlies. They complain you left stuff for them to do in the morning. However, when you are on shift together you end up doing most of the work. I.e with kitchen porters some seem to think that all they have to do is just wash up and then go home and yet they don't clean the kitchen as well and expect others to do it for them. So when not all of the washing up gets done the night before they complain to HR that you are under performing.
Just seems like a lot of work on top of already having too work tbh smh.... People just be hating their lives and want too take it out on you for no reason because they think you're doing better than them.
How can I stop old co-workers who are still illegally harassing me and working to destroy my life? They dont care about laws or any human rights. Please help!
1) they lie 2) confided and shared your story to others 3) they love drama and gossip 4) manipulation Don’t share anything! Your coworkers are not your friends! If they gossip about others, they will gossip about you. Take it from a 51 year old woman that survived pharmaceutical sales for 25 years. Don’t share, don’t gossip, stay to yourself, be positive and just do your job and go home
Actually, I was extremely professional this year, but most people did not think about the projects as seriously as me. This ended up consuming my time to myself. I NEED TO ESTABLISH BETTER BOUNDARIES.
That must be frustrating. It’s certainly not easy to balance it all out, but at least you’re being introspective and thinking about your well being / best interest!
Should I report my coworker? See, our boss was in his face and practically called him slow and fooIish. Well, he got back at her. A month prior, our boss once told us she was literally sick of raspberries, because she once threw up after eating expired raspberry pie. Well, yesterday, there was some raspberry tarts in the break room, and my coworker told her they were cherry. But then she tasted raspberry and threw up. He "innocently" claimed he thought they were cherry, and she bought it. Well, later, I saw him laughing to himself and giving himself a self-five. I think he tricked her so she would feel naus eated and embarrass herself at work. She was disrespectfuI and beIittIing to him, yes, but to do this to her? Should I tell her?
Man, tough situation. I can only give my opinion of course. Since they’ve both shown some signs of animosity towards each other, it may be best to let it play out between them for now. The feeling of doing nothing can seem like we’re being complacent, but it is the best option in some cases…
@@pmproblems Yeah, maybe you're right. And I can't lie. Outside of business and professionalism, I personally thought she de served it. Especially since the guy happens to have a learning disabiIity and she made him sound imbeciIic (unintentionally, but still rude) Oh, _man,_ was she mad when he signed up for a one-person shift. No wonder he got back at her.
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I swear gossipers and slanderers at work destroy companies.
They destroy themselves in the process too, because it will come back and bite them in the @$$ at some point.
Jollies of being powerful & getting away with it IS among the top-motives for narcissist misanthropes.
Yeah and you can’t tell your boss because they are most likely depending on that person because they’re also stuck in that person’s web as well.
@@katy-t4v2b Yup. In fact, the boss is in the gossip circle and believes them.
@@hiddenname9809 ugh, sorry to hear that. I’ve been there too. Also had my boss tell me things like “Katy, you know what they say about the cow and the milk… why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”. I had just gotten back from my 3 year anniversary trip without a ring on it. Needless to say I no longer work there. Took a year more of that crap until I had had enough.
It is naive if you say take action because often the trifling co-worker that you can't trust is in cahoots with management.
I agree that these situations can be messy in that way, but is the alternative really better?
@@pmproblems assess how deep it is. If the drama and back stabbing are not worth the paycheck then leave when you get offered another position. If not as deep take as a teachable moment and find ways to not let it consume you because if it is a team against you for something important it is with taking a stand if it is a minor issue or petty issue it not worth bring up.
@@rolandobaluja7504 we can certainly agree that after a certain point, it's not worth staying at a toxic job. Our main reason for encouraging standing up to these types is so the problem doesn't grow too large, but there are some workplace situations that can't be overcome for sure.
Oh God that's so true! If you're new to a company and do a good job it can inspire jealousy in other women. Next thing? You don't make it through the 'probationery period' because someone who's been working there a long time feels threatened by you-so unfair! 😡
Nailed it. 💯
The work environment is all about survival or paying bills. It’s not about trust, friends, like or dislike; it’s about MONEY.
Unfortunately this is true in many instances
But without trust, there is no reason to be there. Go make money in a trustworthy environment.
@@rockstarofredondoYou can trust people to do their jobs to protect their survival
One coworker was super nice, but when I denied a request, she lost her mind and threw a tantrum, threatened me. I don’t even want to be in the same room as her now.
YES! I agree. NEVER RESPOND EMOTIONALLY. NEVER. :)
I never trust co workers period.
Straight up.
They give us many reasons not too.
I will set boundaries with one of my needy coworkers that keeps following me around the job site I will tell that person to give me my personal space that’s all
To be honest I have had multiple jobs where coworkers have seen me as a threat and started causing issues for me. The moment this happens, I know I'm going to lose my job. The only thing is that if I don't do anything about it, I know I will just lose my job slower. It's making my CV look bad. But I know dealing with it will just make the whole situation worse. Documenting things has been pointless unless someone is backing you up, as they just say that you're lying. And going to HR is suicide.
Small hidden surveillance cameras and recording devices as well as explicitly documenting everything regardless of whether it minor, medicore, or major will benefit you as well as a good attorney if needed! Plenty of people and companies have had too settle and have been sued for coworkers harassing, slandering, provoking, and or terrorizing others. With that being said don't sweat the small stuff and take constructive criticism as it's beneficial for you! Trust me you will know if their trying too set you up for failure and you'll know if their just backstabbing narcissistic bullying and or slandering you! Take a stand against them and don't let them utilize or use you! I have lost all trust and faith in coworkers and most people in general and will never open up too any personal information about myself ever again at all whatsoever as they will either misunderstood, bend, twist, and or change what I said regardless of whether or not they truly understood what I said or meant! Their just your coworkers not 🚫 your genuine friends!!!!
Start journaling the day if u get fired sure for toxic environment hr does suck but law is law document everything
If I can give you my 2 cents, and advise you to do what I didn’t know in my 20s, it’s three words - stand your ground. If you like your job and want to stay in it, first recognise that it is you who is good enough, and they are targeting you because they are not, or feel that they are not. Stand your ground. You’ll find you are well thought of by others and this person knows that. They can’t attain the social and political power you build so effortlessly without manipulating and coercing. Know that if you are being targeted it is because you are doing something right.
Hold your head up high and remember your worth. You’ll find more people are on your side than you imagine! It’s easy to think everyone thinks the same as the bully in these situations but honestly they don’t! Documentation by the way is seen in as contemporaneous evidence - it’s 👍 Much love . Be well ❤
I've already discussed personal issues and have had to learn the hard way. I no longer do. My question now is what do I do?
I hope it's not to late.
My instincts tells me stop talking about personal stuff and move forward.
Good advice about keeping your personal life private.
Never trust anyone at a job
Especially the boss
I have a coworker I'm dealing with and I see many red flags about her. When I was new going on four months now I was all excited and relaxed with her thinking I was going to make a friend turned out she has been saying some things behind my back of all I have said. Giving it a little twist to making me look like a bad person. I even believe she is taking it to the boss of anything I say or do is being used against me. I feel like I'll be losing my job soon. If I don't say much or talk to her or anything everyone else will know that I'm being rude. She sets me up. So,. I been trying to not say much at all only good morning and start working. But she becomes like static cling to me....I can't shake her off. It's every job I run into this kind of manipulative situations. Easily well hated person that I am. 😔
Sorry to hear you're experiencing this! I'd recommend documenting anything you can, staying in contact with your boss, copy multiple people on group email updates, memos, etc and generally try to remain in neutral as often as possible!
Document, document, document.
Stay as far away as you can from her. She sounds like a total nightmare. Like a bad smell that does not go away.
You are doing right just by speaking and jumping into work. If that person tries to bring up anyone, tries to gossip , you don’t say anything. That’s how they trick you. They are the ones that be cool with who they talking about. I would keep being professional and complete your task. Trust and believe, you will get work done without engaging with them all the time. I see those kind of people as miserable.
@@BB23573 lost my job in March. So guess it do t matter now. :(
I'm dealing with a person like this
From personal experience no matter how niece they might seem, and even if they offer you drinks or food....
Never ignore your gut. They are snakes luring you in.
First off coworkers are not usually my friends only in rare circumstances in particular environments with more easy going types would I add on Facebook you never know where that could go.
A co worker constantly going to HR to complain that you are not doing enough work. E.g You are on a late shift and they are on earlies. They complain you left stuff for them to do in the morning. However, when you are on shift together you end up doing most of the work. I.e with kitchen porters some seem to think that all they have to do is just wash up and then go home and yet they don't clean the kitchen as well and expect others to do it for them. So when not all of the washing up gets done the night before they complain to HR that you are under performing.
You know who was the biggest gossip in my office: my supervisor!!! She was like a damn viper!!!! I had to leave that place to keep my sanity!!!
That's tough! Caught between a rock and a hard place. Glad you got out of there!
Just seems like a lot of work on top of already having too work tbh smh.... People just be hating their lives and want too take it out on you for no reason because they think you're doing better than them.
How can I stop old co-workers who are still illegally harassing me and working to destroy my life? They dont care about laws or any human rights. Please help!
Wow. Sorry to hear. I'd consider contacting the authorities if they're breaking laws.
Fake
You can't trust anyone
What's the tune called?
Nice and clear inO. Thanks
Excellent video😊
Thanks so much
Working with some now.
1) they lie
2) confided and shared your story to others
3) they love drama and gossip
4) manipulation
Don’t share anything! Your coworkers are not your friends! If they gossip about others, they will gossip about you.
Take it from a 51 year old woman that survived pharmaceutical sales for 25 years. Don’t share, don’t gossip, stay to yourself, be positive and just do your job and go home
Actually, I was extremely professional this year, but most people did not think about the projects as seriously as me. This ended up consuming my time to myself. I NEED TO ESTABLISH BETTER BOUNDARIES.
That must be frustrating. It’s certainly not easy to balance it all out, but at least you’re being introspective and thinking about your well being / best interest!
Thanks!
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Should I report my coworker? See, our boss was in his face and practically called him slow and fooIish. Well, he got back at her. A month prior, our boss once told us she was literally sick of raspberries, because she once threw up after eating expired raspberry pie. Well, yesterday, there was some raspberry tarts in the break room, and my coworker told her they were cherry. But then she tasted raspberry and threw up. He "innocently" claimed he thought they were cherry, and she bought it. Well, later, I saw him laughing to himself and giving himself a self-five. I think he tricked her so she would feel naus eated and embarrass herself at work. She was disrespectfuI and beIittIing to him, yes, but to do this to her? Should I tell her?
Man, tough situation. I can only give my opinion of course. Since they’ve both shown some signs of animosity towards each other, it may be best to let it play out between them for now. The feeling of doing nothing can seem like we’re being complacent, but it is the best option in some cases…
@@pmproblems Yeah, maybe you're right. And I can't lie. Outside of business and professionalism, I personally thought she de served it. Especially since the guy happens to have a learning disabiIity and she made him sound imbeciIic (unintentionally, but still rude) Oh, _man,_ was she mad when he signed up for a one-person shift. No wonder he got back at her.
Onto it.