This my mother. Unfortunately. Tries to get her son and others fired. And makes up horrible horribe stories, if she does not get her way. So sad, and so impossible to accept and live in harmony with
This is exactly what I am going through. I was getting confused but saw through the behaviour as not normal which prompted me to see if this was a condition and the more I research the more my eyes begin to open. You have described her behaviour step by step! I cannot believe it. Wow! Now I am getting the threats constantly. Yesterday 147 vile messages. I do read just for the fun and to know what your enemies are up to.
Hey word of advice? You have to block. It’s a must. The face she can still send hate to you is no bueno! Take it from a survivor block block and block. Good luck!👍
It's best to BLOCK 🚫 If you're moving on to heal and take your power back. Viewing text, emails, or voice-mails sets you back and places you right back in the emotional, mental, and psychological spiral. Their intentions is to keep you from moving on so they can regain control and punish you for leaving. I divorced in 2019 after 16 years and went through much. My study of narcissism saved me before and after. For your own wellness, walk away from it all. They'll gaslight you and manipulate to no end to suck you back in their dysfunctional chaotic world. It's all calculating. And I suffered this also from my own blood brother/mother. I moved many miles away from my own family and ex to rid myself and have a lawyer on standby. Thank God, I never suffered physical abuse but have been threatened and they threatened their own lives. Life is sweet now.
Taking care of 85 year old alcoholic abusive narcissistic mother. Put my phone on record and have police number ready to call when she goes into narcissistic rage or else she’ll beat on me. Any suggestions of what I can do from here as she is too old to be left alone?
@Michelle-zn6oh sounds like you're in a trauma bond. She's too old ? She's too old to act that way. Pack your stuff and go and don't look back . Also get a therapist if you can.
so true this past summer/fall exploded with me seeing all these signs and the forcing guilt with their victim mentality..I didn't react and now I am so free from this toxic X friend.. lol I Totally Dont miss them..I was getting so sick of the whining and self made drama scene they love.
I've been there, if you are in this situation...get out....find a friend....get out!! Look for help from your family if possible...watch for people hanging out near your house.. get somewhere safe!!! Jim is right on.
You are right. I left a narcissist relationship. We owned a home. My neighbors were my safe place. I had an exterior lock on the guest room door. I sadly had to call the police.
@MichNative01 I'm safe now, and I'm happier than I've ever been. I see how I ended up in the relationship. We love, we care. Sometimes, we are in a bad place, and they promise us the world. That's sometime how we end up there.
Wow! My ex-narcissistic-husband did all of those things mentioned in this video, except he was always hesitant to go violent with me -- he yelled and belittled, but it never seemed to cross his mind to strike me. During his 15 years of gleaning information from me about my past, he was well aware that I grew up, physically fighting with my older brother, male bullies in my grammar school, and of the one and only time it was necessary for me to defend my younger sister from her ex-husband while she was holding their infant daughter in her arms (I put a stop to that immediately and dragged her and her daughter back home with me where they belonged). My ex was well aware of the fact that I would immediately deal with a direct, physical attack, but that I was pretty much useless to psychological and emotional abuse, which was something my narcissistic mother made sure would leave me pretty much mentally crippled. So, yes, it took me almost 15 years to figure out that my ex was the reason I kept feeling like I was losing my mind. Once I realized that I was fighting for my sanity (if not my life), he couldn't believe what happened next. I quickly moved out with our daughter, divorced him, and told him to leave me alone -- that was not a request; it was a god-damned demand. He then began his campaign to bring me back. As I look back on his subsequent skirmishes with me, even while they were happening, it was all pretty much funny. Life with him had been pure misery, but life ridding myself of him was hilarious. He did everything mentioned in this video that a narc would do to bring back his supply (his one failed attempt to strike me, sent him running off in fear), and I did my due diligence. Since nothing he said, or told people who knew me, was true -- and they knew it by virtue of knowing me -- we all just ignored him (my job was never in jeopardy; in fact, he once showed up at my job and every guy there was prepared to trounce him -- I had to get him out of there to save his life). I had him arrested three times -- the last time he spent three months in jail. Then he pulled a government scam and reported me as the culprit. I went to court, as summoned, and explained the situation and was quickly exonerated. I was told that because he was mostly a vagrant he couldn't be found to be charged, so I went to his friends -- the ones he claimed were watching me for him -- and told them that I was going to have him arrested again for a really long time. The next thing I heard about him was that he went home to his mother -- all the way back across the country. Life is good and drama free. 😁
Well, I'm trying not to have confirmation bias as I think my mother either has narcissistic personality disorder or sadistic personality disorder, yet the behaviour does seem very much like what happened last year when my sister and I broke out of my mother's manipulation and control. The thing is that my mother's "flying monkeys" are all of her entire family
You don't need any of them to continue breathing. Your mental health is directly linked to your physical health and safety. Build your own family with loving, caring, understanding friends. You get to choose.
As soon as I felt frightened I said NO... Went no contact... First time since moving overseas in 1986 that I was *glad I was in another country*. He.. 55yr old son...couldn't jump in a car and turn up at my door... He's still hoovering gaslighting threatening.... NO reply from me...
I am so glad these videos popped up one day as they have been so helpful for me to understand and put things into place. Thanks so much for sharing such valuable information.
Talking to police is not a good idea, trust me… if you end up in court, you better have really really really good evidence…because they love to protect narcissists in the courtroom… they get away with so many things due to loopholes within the broken system…if that happens, it’s gonna be a dangerous, long & grueling battle… orders of protection expire (it’s just a damn piece of paper)& it takes wayyyy less energy to walk away, than to win the sick game…You didn’t even want to play… you feel soooo drained even after you win & revenge is not worth the energy lost… 😫 they fall apart after karma gets them anyway
Thanks for this Jim. I feel like your channel is less steeped in the nonsense and way more pragmatic. My ex made me think I’m bringing drama all the time lol I was like no it follows you like a shadow woman. 😂🤙 again thanks and you’ve got a new subscriber
You have help me so much , thank you for what your doing , they are stalking there seem to be no bottom to their tactics , yes they reach to people I know and turn them into fling monkeys
Thanks,but if you don't confront their lies, the thief of wills, family money,etc then they walk all over you. Never back down completely, or you going to get walked on like a carpets. Really immature crooks, with no soul.
I discovered, with the help of my therapist, that my best friend of the last 30+ years is indeed a narcissist. It really hit me in the stomach and sent me into a deep, deep depression. I’ve known him since the first grade and so I couldn’t see this disorder until many years later. Children can’t be diagnosed with NPD anyway. My friends and I made excuses for him thinking that he was just socially awkward. Some of the key features to his narcissism include lack of empathy, an extreme sense of entitlement, fragile ego, the incessant need to be right about everything, critical about others and their decisions, extreme need to control others and/or situations, and gaslighting. The catalyst that really escalated the worst traits of his narcissistic behavior was the covid lockdown. Since he liked to control the activities of the group like going out to restaurants or traveling, he really became an unpleasant and toxic person since he no longer had control over people. He couldn’t really lash out at anyone directly because of the situation. I have a unique perspective about all of this because I’ve known him for so long, including his family. With the help of my therapist, I was able to identify that his late father was a narcissist too and his siblings played the roles of scapegoat and the invisible child, respectively. He played the role of the golden child and he was shamed by his father for not going to medical school to become an MD. When I reminded him of that situation, he denied it even happening. It’s difficult because on one hand I can feel tremendous anger towards him for the years of abusive behavior. On the other hand I can see clearly how this all unfolded and how the neglect and abuse he experienced from his parents did not set him up for success. The sad thing is I feel like I’ve wasted most of my life with a “friend” who was never able to be a real friend. And I’m also sad to know that the odds are very much against him that he will ever change or improve his behavior. I’m slowly moving forward but I’m finding it difficult to trust people since I feel so blind-sighted by all of this and thinking that maybe my intuitions are not as fine tuned as I’d like them to be.
Yes! Narcissistic rage is very, very frightening!!!
This my mother. Unfortunately. Tries to get her son and others fired. And makes up horrible horribe stories, if she does not get her way. So sad, and so impossible to accept and live in harmony with
I'm sorry. This is sad. My mother also was a narcissist. Very unpleasant. Also talked dirt about me to relatives.
Alot of this describes malignant narcissism and all narcissists may not present fully as all these.
This is exactly what I am going through. I was getting confused but saw through the behaviour as not normal which prompted me to see if this was a condition and the more I research the more my eyes begin to open. You have described her behaviour step by step! I cannot believe it. Wow! Now I am getting the threats constantly. Yesterday 147 vile messages. I do read just for the fun and to know what your enemies are up to.
Hey word of advice? You have to block. It’s a must. The face she can still send hate to you is no bueno! Take it from a survivor block block and block. Good luck!👍
It's best to BLOCK 🚫 If you're moving on to heal and take your power back. Viewing text, emails, or voice-mails sets you back and places you right back in the emotional, mental, and psychological spiral. Their intentions is to keep you from moving on so they can regain control and punish you for leaving. I divorced in 2019 after 16 years and went through much. My study of narcissism saved me before and after. For your own wellness, walk away from it all. They'll gaslight you and manipulate to no end to suck you back in their dysfunctional chaotic world. It's all calculating. And I suffered this also from my own blood brother/mother. I moved many miles away from my own family and ex to rid myself and have a lawyer on standby. Thank God, I never suffered physical abuse but have been threatened and they threatened their own lives.
Life is sweet now.
Taking care of 85 year old alcoholic abusive narcissistic mother. Put my phone on record and have police number ready to call when she goes into narcissistic rage or else she’ll beat on me. Any suggestions of what I can do from here as she is too old to be left alone?
@Michelle-zn6oh sounds like you're in a trauma bond. She's too old ? She's too old to act that way. Pack your stuff and go and don't look back . Also get a therapist if you can.
so true this past summer/fall exploded with me seeing all these signs and the forcing guilt with their victim mentality..I didn't react and now I am so free from this toxic X friend.. lol I Totally Dont miss them..I was getting so sick of the whining and self made drama scene they love.
Thier always dangerous. All of what they do is seriously damaging to a person.
I've been there, if you are in this situation...get out....find a friend....get out!! Look for help from your family if possible...watch for people hanging out near your house.. get somewhere safe!!!
Jim is right on.
You are right. I left a narcissist relationship. We owned a home. My neighbors were my safe place. I had an exterior lock on the guest room door.
I sadly had to call the police.
Dotty, I so sorry!! How do we get connected with these vampires?? Its all to sad, how are you now, are you safe?? Let me know...😊
@MichNative01 I'm safe now, and I'm happier than I've ever been. I see how I ended up in the relationship.
We love, we care. Sometimes, we are in a bad place, and they promise us the world. That's sometime how we end up there.
@@dottydavis glad you are safe...
@@MichNative01
Hey! Thanks. I'm officially separated and living my own life.
Wow! My ex-narcissistic-husband did all of those things mentioned in this video, except he was always hesitant to go violent with me -- he yelled and belittled, but it never seemed to cross his mind to strike me. During his 15 years of gleaning information from me about my past, he was well aware that I grew up, physically fighting with my older brother, male bullies in my grammar school, and of the one and only time it was necessary for me to defend my younger sister from her ex-husband while she was holding their infant daughter in her arms (I put a stop to that immediately and dragged her and her daughter back home with me where they belonged).
My ex was well aware of the fact that I would immediately deal with a direct, physical attack, but that I was pretty much useless to psychological and emotional abuse, which was something my narcissistic mother made sure would leave me pretty much mentally crippled. So, yes, it took me almost 15 years to figure out that my ex was the reason I kept feeling like I was losing my mind.
Once I realized that I was fighting for my sanity (if not my life), he couldn't believe what happened next. I quickly moved out with our daughter, divorced him, and told him to leave me alone -- that was not a request; it was a god-damned demand. He then began his campaign to bring me back. As I look back on his subsequent skirmishes with me, even while they were happening, it was all pretty much funny. Life with him had been pure misery, but life ridding myself of him was hilarious.
He did everything mentioned in this video that a narc would do to bring back his supply (his one failed attempt to strike me, sent him running off in fear), and I did my due diligence. Since nothing he said, or told people who knew me, was true -- and they knew it by virtue of knowing me -- we all just ignored him (my job was never in jeopardy; in fact, he once showed up at my job and every guy there was prepared to trounce him -- I had to get him out of there to save his life). I had him arrested three times -- the last time he spent three months in jail. Then he pulled a government scam and reported me as the culprit.
I went to court, as summoned, and explained the situation and was quickly exonerated. I was told that because he was mostly a vagrant he couldn't be found to be charged, so I went to his friends -- the ones he claimed were watching me for him -- and told them that I was going to have him arrested again for a really long time. The next thing I heard about him was that he went home to his mother -- all the way back across the country. Life is good and drama free. 😁
Mine 2....
Well, I'm trying not to have confirmation bias as I think my mother either has narcissistic personality disorder or sadistic personality disorder, yet the behaviour does seem very much like what happened last year when my sister and I broke out of my mother's manipulation and control.
The thing is that my mother's "flying monkeys" are all of her entire family
You don't need any of them to continue breathing. Your mental health is directly linked to your physical health and safety. Build your own family with loving, caring, understanding friends. You get to choose.
Jesus said, "This IS my family" about his friends (and disciples) when he was questioned on who that was
As soon as I felt frightened I said NO... Went no contact...
First time since moving overseas in 1986 that I was *glad I was in another country*. He.. 55yr old son...couldn't jump in a car and turn up at my door...
He's still hoovering gaslighting threatening.... NO reply from me...
I am so glad these videos popped up one day as they have been so helpful for me to understand and put things into place.
Thanks so much for sharing such valuable information.
Talking to police is not a good idea, trust me… if you end up in court, you better have really really really good evidence…because they love to protect narcissists in the courtroom… they get away with so many things due to loopholes within the broken system…if that happens, it’s gonna be a dangerous, long & grueling battle… orders of protection expire (it’s just a damn piece of paper)& it takes wayyyy less energy to walk away, than to win the sick game…You didn’t even want to play… you feel soooo drained even after you win & revenge is not worth the energy lost… 😫 they fall apart after karma gets them anyway
This is influenced by so many becoming narcissistic abusers themselves.
Thanks for this Jim. I feel like your channel is less steeped in the nonsense and way more pragmatic. My ex made me think I’m bringing drama all the time lol I was like no it follows you like a shadow woman. 😂🤙 again thanks and you’ve got a new subscriber
Thank you 😊
You have help me so much , thank you for what your doing , they are stalking there seem to be no bottom to their tactics , yes they reach to people I know and turn them into fling monkeys
💛THANK YOU💛
Great stuff.
Thanks,but if you don't confront their lies, the thief of wills, family money,etc then they walk all over you. Never back down completely, or you going to get walked on like a carpets.
Really immature crooks, with no soul.
I discovered, with the help of my therapist, that my best friend of the last 30+ years is indeed a narcissist. It really hit me in the stomach and sent me into a deep, deep depression. I’ve known him since the first grade and so I couldn’t see this disorder until many years later. Children can’t be diagnosed with NPD anyway. My friends and I made excuses for him thinking that he was just socially awkward. Some of the key features to his narcissism include lack of empathy, an extreme sense of entitlement, fragile ego, the incessant need to be right about everything, critical about others and their decisions, extreme need to control others and/or situations, and gaslighting. The catalyst that really escalated the worst traits of his narcissistic behavior was the covid lockdown. Since he liked to control the activities of the group like going out to restaurants or traveling, he really became an unpleasant and toxic person since he no longer had control over people. He couldn’t really lash out at anyone directly because of the situation. I have a unique perspective about all of this because I’ve known him for so long, including his family. With the help of my therapist, I was able to identify that his late father was a narcissist too and his siblings played the roles of scapegoat and the invisible child, respectively. He played the role of the golden child and he was shamed by his father for not going to medical school to become an MD. When I reminded him of that situation, he denied it even happening. It’s difficult because on one hand I can feel tremendous anger towards him for the years of abusive behavior. On the other hand I can see clearly how this all unfolded and how the neglect and abuse he experienced from his parents did not set him up for success. The sad thing is I feel like I’ve wasted most of my life with a “friend” who was never able to be a real friend. And I’m also sad to know that the odds are very much against him that he will ever change or improve his behavior. I’m slowly moving forward but I’m finding it difficult to trust people since I feel so blind-sighted by all of this and thinking that maybe my intuitions are not as fine tuned as I’d like them to be.
I know the only reason narc husband didn’t crack me is he didn’t want to lose his concealed carry permit sick
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A question: are all the stalkers narcissists or?..
This sounds like borderline..stalking and threating to Kill themselves
I had abusive narcissist family and they also stalk and abuse etc too
Thank you ❤❤❤