We Don't MOVE ON From Grief. We Move Forward With It | Dr. Joanne Cacciatore on We Do Hard Things
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2022
- On today’s show, we talk about the one topic that no one wants to talk about, working through grief and loss with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore.
More About Dr. Joanne Cacciatore
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore is a tenured research professor at Arizona State University where she runs the graduate Certificate in Trauma and Bereavement and is also the founder of the MISS Foundation.
Since 1996, Joanne has worked with and counseled those affected by traumatic death, most often the deaths of children. Her best-selling book, Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief, won the Indies Book of the Year Award and her next book of meditations, Grieving is Loving, was released in December of 2020.
On a personal note, Dr. Joanne Cacciatore has endured many untimely deaths during the course of her early life. But July of 1994 changed the course of her life forever: it was the day her baby daughter died. Since then, she has committed her life to the service of others suffering traumatic deaths.
Check out her book, Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief → www.amazon.com/Bearing-Unbear...
Check out her website → www.centerforlossandtrauma.com/
I don't think of my daughter just everyday. I am ALWAYS thinking of my daughter. It's amazing how many of my, what I thought were close friends, were not there for me. If I even tried to talk with them about her, they always changed the subject. This was only weeks after she passed away. I have since cut my ties with those friends. I don't want my daughter's memory to die along with her physical death. It was also amazing some friends that I never thought would be supportive, became extremely supportive. What comforting people they are. They are now my closest friends. I will always grieve for my daughter and will do so for the rest of my life. I do know I will be with her again someday and everyday I wake up, I know I am one day closer to being with her again.
Beautifully said !So sorry for your loss ❤
She’s so awesome!!! She’s 10000 % accurate! Of course we want to talk about our children!!!So many people are clueless about grief, it’s too bad!!
I have been suffering from complicated grief for over 40 years now. It is so hard and I feel as though I am living in a constant panic attack. Hearing you talk and the reassurance that grief is normal, that it’s ok to cry (something I wasn’t allowed to do), that I can stop being the happy one all the time made sense and I hope will help me the more I think about it. Bless you Joanne 🙏🏻
Thank you for listening 🙏
She is truly wonderful and understands what Deep Traumatic Grief is and does to us, forever. So many are completely ignorant.
I feel the same exact way after loosing my wife and soulmate of 30 years. I dont want to be here without her. 😢
My wife died suddenly and traumaticly from a brain hemorrhage less than two months ago. We were born for each other and shared the best years of our lives together. If it wasn't for our seven year old son, who my wife and I lived for, I sometimes think I would not want to go on. But I have others who love me and I don't want to hurt them. The level of suffering can be too much. Good luck to you!
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My husband fell dead in a restaurant bathroom 2 years ago. The way people have treated me, including my family, has not been kind or healing. Everything Dr Jo has said is completely true. Church doesn't want to deal with people like us either. Griefshare is always their answer and I don't subscribe to that format. I did Divorce Care. No. The people at church become hyper spiritual. I mean everyone wants you to be happy now or you're a weak Christian living on "old manna" and "old wine". I also need to get out of "the boat". No kidding. This was actually said to me. I received a video from someone at church by some "ministry" guy. He was so trite. In no way was he qualified or equipped to handle grieving and I disagreed with the message. His fine example of deep grief and how he handled it so excellently and spiritually was a job loss. A JOB LOSS? I am a Christian of 44 years. The only things beyond my faith that has made any difference are the words from my counselor and from watching Dr. Jo. Dr Jo makes me see I am normal and what I feel is valid.
My wife died of suicide almost 3 years ago, I'm still trying to get healing and still have faith in God, but it is so difficult.
My two brothers died from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and my sister passed away from a stroke. My Mom buried 3 of her 4 children.
Thank you ❤️ Dr Jo x
The reference to the school shootings hit me hard and I always want to be the best dad possible, this will remind me that every time my family leave the house it could be the last time, so I always make a point everyday to say I love them. I did the same with my mum thought did not think consciously that it would be the last time I would see her! I can’t imagine what it would be like to loose a child at all, I agree this would be too higher cost as Joanne said, again when she said to live a life of meaning and she is but would give it up to get her daughter back, that’s the deepest of pain and it seems it doesn’t go away. It’s something we have to live with, such open honesty and this will help a lot of people!
The part of feeling and living with the grief , even today did a run and went to the place my
Mum used to love and just felt my mum was there, and that made me feel better and this is the way I’m living with my grief and how I feel about her death🙏
I spoke to someone who was grieving recently and allowed them to talk about it , and just held the space. It’s great that Joanne says we should talk about it and not let it be the elephant in the room! I have been very open about my grief and it helped me to share and cry openly to process, and I can see already that people process grief in very different ways
Wow that moment about the Garth Brooks song so powerful!
Cannot believe that drug to get patients to detach from their loved one who passed away, totally agree that they would be detached from life, absolutely crazy!
That last point of no body died we can handle it, so true other things are solvable!
The last part about compassion, I know from my own grief I do have more compassion and it has definitely increased.
Thank you so much Joanne and Mark for having a conversation that not a lot of people are prepared to have. Loss and grief comes to us all. Let’s all support each other. I know my mum would want me to continue my work, so that’s helping me in terms of service which definitely helps. This is meaning in my life! #wedohardthings
in my opinion You deserve more subscribers. Keep grinding and thank you so much for making this video.
Thank you so much, Mark really appreciates it so keep sharing and tell everyone to come here to watch and subscribe! Thanks again for your support #wedohardthings - Jose
You are amazing. Thank you for this. So many need to see this. ❤❤
Thank you for making this video, you are helping me through a very tough time !!!!
You are so welcome!
Thank you for making this video. Really important stuff.
I really needed this today. Thank you
Thank you Doctor.
Dr I don’t have your full story
Have you
Lost a child?
She said that she lost a daughter many years ago and she still grieves.