How To Talk About Death and The Power of Pain with Leading Psychotherapist Julia Samuel

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  • @sara-dx3ix
    @sara-dx3ix 3 роки тому +5

    Incredibly comforting conversation beautify done. The mirroring of your bereavement with your father is uncannily like my own.
    My father died of Covid-19 in April I was not allowed to be with him there was no funeral I just collected his ashes. As per his wishes his remains are buried beneath a Acer tree in my garden. A few months later my mum died & I watched the funeral via Zoom.
    Grief is complex and messy I just feel they are still here alive in us.
    My love to everyone.

    • @viniprerna3831
      @viniprerna3831 3 роки тому +1

      I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this. India right now is going through the second wave of Covid and I lost someone very special to me 10 days ago. The pain is overwhelming.

    • @sara-dx3ix
      @sara-dx3ix 3 роки тому +1

      @@viniprerna3831 my sincerest empathy to you please look after yourself & take each day at a time x

  • @tgtg4512
    @tgtg4512 4 роки тому +8

    Just lost our fur baby💔💔💔 needed to hear this interview. Yes, we can't compare to human death, but love is love !

    • @sara-dx3ix
      @sara-dx3ix 3 роки тому +2

      I am so sorry sending you ❤

  • @Coffeecaffeineee
    @Coffeecaffeineee 4 роки тому +25

    I am 15 minutes in and I am loving this woman and the conversation. It is so genuine and honest... its like, "Yeah you're in pain and that is okay. Just feel these feelings."
    I will research Julia and delve into her, thank you Rangan and Julia :)

  • @moniclare4214
    @moniclare4214 2 роки тому +2

    Crying all the way through the interview. However I feel my soul has been soothed just by hearing the truth. I don't want to eat because he isn't anymore I don't want to breathe because he isn't any more I don't want to do anything because he doest any more. I don't want

  • @do8261
    @do8261 4 роки тому +10

    The title of this episode suggests a harrowing, sad, difficult listen or journey. It's so tremendously uplifting. So unbelievably supportive and comforting. Thank you both Xd

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому +1

      Thanks for sharing Deborah. Now starting to wonder if I should change the title!

  • @16Elless
    @16Elless 3 роки тому +4

    What a valuable talk. We all deal with grief in our own way. There’s no right or wrong & our own experience can be different depending on where we are in our lives at the time & the circumstances of the death. Having lost both parents in quite different circumstances 13 years apart my journey of grief was very different both times.

  • @ninadaly393
    @ninadaly393 4 роки тому +5

    Wonderful speaker such gentle wisdom. I hope Julie returns to speak with you again. So relatable to so many people. Fantastic.

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much Nina. Appreciate the feedback. Yes, would love to have Julia on again soon!

    • @viniprerna3831
      @viniprerna3831 3 роки тому

      @@DrChatterjeeRangan Yes, please do invite her again. This has given me hope and comfort at a very trying time. Thank you so much.

  • @ninja2388
    @ninja2388 4 роки тому +5

    What a magnificent woman - thank you so much for this conversation.

  • @beezroom6372
    @beezroom6372 3 роки тому +3

    Nearly three years after my dad died , I am still “hoping in and out of puddles”. Thanks for this insightful conversation .👍

  • @ronelbreet7762
    @ronelbreet7762 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you for sharing this important conversation. In grief it is SO valuable to feel HEARD because it can be such a lonely journey (even when surrouded by people) Thank you for making me feel less "apart & alone"

  • @dronevilOO
    @dronevilOO 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for speaking so openly about your dad. Mine also died, I could feel each of your stories, and it helped me in some way.

  • @junesherlock425
    @junesherlock425 4 роки тому +3

    Sorry Rangan. When I clicked on tonight It went right to the discussion. Earlier today it went through a minute and a half test pattern. I really enjoyed this interview. You are spot on. Also, you were both so down to earth. I heard things I can actually apply to my life, like going for a walk with my husband, and then Stopping the discussion and having a pleasant bonding moment. Thank you

  • @kelleymcfadden9675
    @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

    God bless you. I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found.
    Family Story
    Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
    My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
    That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
    a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
    Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
    His Story
    Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
    “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
    “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
    He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
    “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
    “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
    Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
    “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
    “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
    Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
    Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
    “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
    Your Story
    What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
    The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
    “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
    We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
    “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
    ******************************
    This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
    Tribute to Ethan Lakey
    ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @kaylabryson1932
    @kaylabryson1932 4 роки тому +2

    I love most change ! It’s exciting to me ..... unless of course, it’s like a change from good health to bad health. That’s awful. However new jobs, new house, new experience w/lockdown...have loved the new norm.
    Most of my life of 61yrs .... I have loved change .

  • @a.b.1184
    @a.b.1184 4 роки тому +1

    There is something about you Dr. Chatterjee that resonates with me. Your book "The 4 pillars" changed my life as I started talking walks for the duration of the audiobook while listening to the benefits of that very action. I started january the first and I will continue the rest of my long and healthy life. Thank you!

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому +1

      So happy to hear this. Thanks for taking the time to feedback!

    • @a.b.1184
      @a.b.1184 4 роки тому +1

      @@DrChatterjeeRangan My pleasure! Thank YOU for taking the time to answer ❣

  • @gwizzen
    @gwizzen 4 роки тому +2

    Amazing episode Dr Rangan, I thoroughly enjoyed listening to it all. When you can be 'vulnerable' and share your own family experiences, its so powerful and certainly enhances the conversation. Refreshing in modern times when for many maintaining face is so important on social media.

  • @GottaTele
    @GottaTele 4 роки тому +9

    This has been very helpful and I have shared with my grief group, however I believe that there is information here which will be helpful to all at any stage of life. Thank You for creating this talk.

  • @pamelavendetti1844
    @pamelavendetti1844 4 роки тому +5

    This conversation was life changing for me. I have an understanding I didn’t have before. Thank you.

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому

      I am so happy to hear this Pamela!

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      God bless you. I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found.
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @ViagensGringa
    @ViagensGringa 4 роки тому +2

    She is wise and lovely to listen to. Great point about futility of applying logic to feelings and how this differs btw sexes

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому

      YEs, I really liked that sentiment as well. Thanks for sharing

  • @LovingColorado598
    @LovingColorado598 5 місяців тому

    I really appreciate your podcast

  • @louisagraham8957
    @louisagraham8957 4 роки тому

    Very powerful to listen, I've listened to you Dr Chaterjee MANY times, seen you at the Barbican Centre in London therefore heard your story/background of the sad loss of your Father to which I am sorry. Listening to you today brought tears to my eyes feeling your pain. Learnt so much from listening to yiu both, Julia is very wise & her voice very soothing & calm to listen to THANK YOU . I will share x

  • @jaykay8158
    @jaykay8158 3 роки тому

    Love, love, love

  • @nimy3071
    @nimy3071 2 роки тому

    A great explanation of a holistic approach

    • @nimy3071
      @nimy3071 2 роки тому

      When Dr. Rangan says he wants to be a Therapist, I said 'no,no.
      He is an Exceptional Doctor.

    • @nimy3071
      @nimy3071 2 роки тому

      We are blessed by the Conversation.
      Julia is explaining so well processes we go through

  • @Sashas-mom
    @Sashas-mom 4 роки тому +2

    What a wonderful guest and Dr Rangan always brings out gold during his interviews.... I wonder if it’s his authenticity.

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +2

    Transcend your suffering with love

  • @broadcastmafia9878
    @broadcastmafia9878 3 роки тому +6

    My father passed away recently from coronavirus. He was a healthy active man. He had just retired. I am shocked and saddened by the injustice. He was 69 and had many good years left. How do I stop myself from falling into despair. The pain of losing him is unbearable. The anguish and misery is indescribable.

    • @geeem5408
      @geeem5408 3 роки тому +3

      I feel your pain💔 its been 3 months and its still hard to believe...i feel every single word you wrote!😩

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      God bless you. I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found.
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      @@geeem5408 God bless you. I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found.
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @georgebarker3356
    @georgebarker3356 2 роки тому +2

    Really enjoyed that Dr Chatterjee so much so I’ve subscribed.I have a similar story to you regarding grief as my mum died 8 years ago and the pain is still raw,I think of her often and have been I frequent sufferer with mental health.If you have any books you’d recommend I’d be great full.🤓🙏

  • @JaiSequoia
    @JaiSequoia 4 роки тому +2

    Such an important podcast thank you both very much.

  • @makyeebon
    @makyeebon 3 роки тому

    Such a great conversation and rapport. Enjoyed listening to this very much.

  • @shawn5835
    @shawn5835 4 роки тому +2

    Beautiful episode, thank you!

  • @Homeopathicharmony
    @Homeopathicharmony 4 роки тому +2

    Such a powerful conversation! I've just sent this and Julia's book to a friend who is grieving. Dr Chattergee, I felt your voice break when sharing the precious memory. Fantastic themes and 'carpe diem' . We have one life - live it! I do kickboxing too!!!!!

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much for sharing Neela. Kickboxing sounds fun - I will have to try it soon!

  • @upendasana7857
    @upendasana7857 4 роки тому +8

    I highly recommend Thomas Hubl for anyone who wishes to look more into ancestral and collective healing.Also family constellation work.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      Jesus is the best way. I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found.
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @nosaizekor8389
    @nosaizekor8389 3 роки тому +2

    i lost my mother last may i lost my mother to the horrible virus and it isn't the same without my mother she was my friend and my hero there is no mother that raised me she gave birth to me she knew me more than anyone she wanted me to settled down she always told me stories about my delivery when I lost my mother I never got the chance to said goodbye there was a time when I never hardly reconsider her in the hospital she was different I knew her mouth was blue that she was looking different I didn't get the chance to go to the funeral of my mother my mother I hatred the virus I wanted to go to the funeral of my mother because I wanted to said goodbye

  • @diannesmithett8133
    @diannesmithett8133 4 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +2

    😊it's like we need to talk normally you want to talk and most if the time it's confrontational
    Don't pick up the offence

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +2

    Celebrate their life

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +3

    You can miss them forever know that their spirit lives on and say hi and blow them a kiss I suggested this to do this on for eg their birthday

  • @charliehobson33
    @charliehobson33 4 роки тому

    Interesting talk, not all the way through yet, very interesting on knowing more about your relatives, i have found myself grieving my grandparents recently, wanting to talk with them, i am 40, they died between the age of 16 and 28.

  • @moniclare4214
    @moniclare4214 2 роки тому +1

    This sentence everyone deals with grief differently is driving me nuts . It's saying well I know you're different... to others .... and that's it.

  • @JohnW-z4i
    @JohnW-z4i 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for talking to men too.

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +1

    People accept the word death as they know irs coming having nursed in frail care for 11 yrs You really sort out what is of value and what's not like petty stuff.

  • @pritamshil5765
    @pritamshil5765 2 роки тому

    Sir,do physical pain tolerance and mental pain tolerance enhance psychological power and psychological strength

  • @bluceree7312
    @bluceree7312 4 роки тому +3

    Some people might feel that this is an instruction of how to be a "snowflake". They are very wrong. This is very essential. No-one is too strong to deal with their feelings. Some can deal with life and change differently than others but suppression and repression is very very harmful.

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +1

    Bounce back

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому

    You sort out your stuff the other may do the same it's up to each person to take responsibility

  • @VladyslavKL
    @VladyslavKL 3 роки тому

    🕊

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +1

    Kids know they are not lost but gone

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому +1

    People do perk up like that then go down and die

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому

    I call it a C like a wave We change by whom.we meet and have interaction with and what you learn and hopefully do not do the same thing we are able to make different decisions to get different results
    Another day another way

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 роки тому

      I'm trying to share my best friend's story with everyone because she understands where real hope and comfort is found.
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html

  • @tabularasa9576
    @tabularasa9576 3 роки тому

    Im too emotional too weak

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому

    We don't wear black we wear celebrity colours

  • @upendasana7857
    @upendasana7857 4 роки тому +2

    I also found what she said at the beginning about those who adapt and change and support themselves thrive and those who block it try and anaethetise themselves so not..."sorry I found this a highly privileged and ignorant perspective to come from especially as she "seems" to be a woman of a certain class who may well have had the means with which to support herself and her own healing and development.I'm sorry but when the emphasis is put on the individual in this way like it is their individual responsibilty to heal themselves or help themselves when first of all people have very different levels and degrees of trauma and also very different means and access to services and resources.I find this really problematic view and also cannot help but think is one coming from a woman who is "appears" white upper middle class judging by her accent and seems is from the dominant culture or majority culture in this society. I know everyone suffers trauma and adversity of some kind and but to say that we all are in it together like with the corona virus is blatantly not true.Not that is explicitly what she said but I felt there was no acknowledgement of the structural injustices which can cause or exercerbate trauma for many like poverty,poor education and lack of access to other things and basically structual discrimination.I'm sorry I found this interview to completely uninforming and did not tell me many things I didn't know and have not heard many others talk about.I'm sorry I found this interview hard to listen to personally.There was no mention as far as I know about lack of access to therapy and other healing modalities and those who are very often part of the mental health system never having access to any kind of therapy other than meds.Sorry found this almost impossible listening.Also I do not believe someone can be a leading psychotherapist,based on what ? writing some books! Please there must be better than this ! surely.I'm sorry I just found that she had literally nothing new to say around grief in all its forms and offers nothing to people out there who need support and are not getting it.How many more sucidies do we need to see before something is done.

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 4 роки тому

    Kids are not so programmed

  • @junesherlock425
    @junesherlock425 4 роки тому +1

    How weird at the first minute

    • @DrChatterjeeRangan
      @DrChatterjeeRangan  4 роки тому +1

      Hey June, thanks for the comment. Would you mind elaborating? Thanks so much, Rangan