I only created this video because it helped me a lot and felt it could do the same for someone else out there! Keep fighting through it and eventually things will get better 💪!
“She is actually the selfish, self centered person that cares about her self first and doesn’t care about you”. Is what I really needed to hear. Our whole relationship was me taking the steps to make it work and changing myself in whatever small ways were necessary to grow as a team. The moment I needed her to change, she cracked and ended it. I haven’t slept more than 3 hours in weeks. Thank you for this video. Edit: it’s been a year and a half now since posting this, and to everyone asking how I’m doing now, or if it gets better, I’m here to say yes! Since then I lost 35-40 pounds to get back in really good shape. I got in to power lifting, and switched up my careers. I now do cyber work for the Defense Department. I will tell you all this: that heartbreak was the best thing to ever happen to me. Let that heartbreak light a fire in your soul, and become the best man you can become.
I think a lot of people can relate to that line myself included! I hope you will be doing better soon and try to get some sleep! It will help you clear up your mind 💪
Being honest i'm in this process myself. I've been in a 8 year marriage that i've been working alone on and when i ask her to work with me she lashes out. And i think i'm finally done and i've been taking steps to get out. And these things help it's hard finding help for men in general.
Dated my girl 6 years she broke up with me and is dating someone else 4 days later, while we still live together. Life can be hell guys but keep your head up and strive to be better. Don’t be petty, kill them with kindness and let them watch you succeed without them. No one is perfect and if 4 days is all it takes to get over 6 years… I was living a lie. Love you all be safe and work hard!
It's really sad man. Especially when you had so much planned with this person, and you believe and trusted them so much. Now having to let go of the plans and memories you created really hurts, I'm so heartbrok💔
It really hurts! But we grow in adversity! You will all come out better and stronger on the other side of this. It's okay to be down and heartbroken for awhile but don't let the feelings consume you. Get back up and do things YOU want to do 💪
“The person that you built in your mind, doesn’t EXIST” … “So The pain that we feel isn’t based on reality, it’s based off the fantasy that we built in our mind” This is BEYOND DEEP! Wow I needed this!
How do i let go of this fantasy knowing she will never change to be honest 0 responsibility/accountability 0 nothing. Just me suffering like a miserable person hoping to get some sort of love/attention. I cant let go cause i want to be a part of my daughters lifes? I know its the best for my mental and emotional health to let go. But HOW?
Yup I’ve heard numerous motivation speeches and this is my second heartbreak so I kinda knew what to expect in regards to how my emotions would be, but that quote hit me like a rock and I’ve felt a peace I didn’t know was possible. Thank you
👸exactly!👍 the pain is for a fantasy. bc what was so great & extra special, one is missing now that they're gone?💁♀️ NOTHING! ZERO! ZILCH! NADA! in fact life is better, now that u have chance to meet a really good person who'd never voluntarily leave u.
Breakups are where champions are made. They leave you for someone else after all those months, or even years you guys were together. Making you feel like you weren't good enough. Two things you can do: Either confirm it by having her (or him) see you all upset, crying & depressed, or you get the hell up and crush all your boundaries. To my ex-girlfriend: Thank you for leaving. That taught me that I should never put anyone above me. The pain I was forced to go through ended up making me into the best possible version of myself I could've ever imagined. I learned to love myself. I started working out harder than I ever did before, eating healthy 24/7, significantly cutting back on alcohol, reading books regularly, made countless new friends, and went back to school. 24 hours in a day. 6 for sleep, 18 for grinding. Nothing else matters. Get up, dust yourself off, and prove them wrong!
Honestly it’s brilliant that you did a farewell note in a UA-cam comment. She doesn’t need to hear it, but you wanted to say it. And that’s totally fine. Right on right on.
I’m a woman I went through a toxic relationship and my belief about men had shattered.. it’s amazing to see so many men having so much to offer women.. my faith in good men has restored seeing the comments . To all the men here ,I hope you all meet good women who will love you no matter what ❤️
Forcing myself daily to press forward after my daughter passed away and then found out right away her mother was being unfaithful during all of it. Goddammmmmm I'm crawling out of a 12 foot hole to get UP!!
Right??!!! I agree. Unlike the “The body can achieve what the mind believes” … I mean, if you want to fly you can’t just jump off a building and flap your arms.
In 2021: I was let go of my job, I lost financial stability, she gave back the ring and left, 2 weeks later my grandfather died, a month later I dislocated my shoulder and was out of lifting for 2 months, and to top it all of before I got physical therapy for the shoulder, I got an infection that made my body go septic and I died for 5 seconds. All I'm 2021. It proved that I can take a lot torment, sadness, and punishment. I beat death. And I needed to hear these words. Thank you and God bless to all who read this.
My friend I broke my collarbone end of October, couldn’t lift a thing. Dumped in November, looking for a home going into December. 12 years down the toilet so she could get “attention” from other guys. Success will be my revenge. I pray it was yours too.
As someone who really really suffered the worst pain of my life when I broke up with my ex a year ago , let me tell you this . No matter how bad you're feeling right now , how much pain you're experiencing , how much you miss them and think you'll never find someone like them.. it's a process you have to go through and there is light at the end of it, one day you'll wake up and wont even remember their face ( of course delete all of their pictures ).
"She's not the sweet girl you thought she was. She's actually a selfish, self-centred person who only cares about herself." - J.W. Thank you for that. I had a hard time admitting that to myself.
Everyone coming here for wisdom and motivation after your breakup instead of choosing a rebound or addiction:BE PROUD OF YOURSELF! The willingness to change and learn says a lot about someone. You are the one who chose the healthy way. What you are doing is right. Don't ever doubt this. You are far more worth than their cheap promises and lack of dedication!
Listening to this, crying my eyes out, but doing it while i am getting my workout done. For once, i am proud of myself, that even though i am broken and hurting and destroyed, i'm still fighting for me.
Keep fighting. I promise it gets better! It’s been 2 years ago was my heartache. I thought I would die but I’m still here. I survived and I’m thriving now!! You will get there 🙏
I’m currently struggling about forgetting her,regretting many things and most importantly I get angry that I wasted 10-11 years on her and got nothing but,endless pain …. Ur comments giving me hope ….I hope things get better for me …I blame my self all things that happened to me …I’m having it enough….I paid too much for it and I hope good things will be a head off me ….
My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago I'm having a awful time finding myself. I cry every day and feel so worthless. Came to this video to look at comments and I know I'm not alone. We are not alone. Let's hope for better days for US not someone else US!
Not going to lie man I still miss her like hell. It hurts from time to time but I keep moving to better myself it's the only thing you can do. It's going to hurt no matter what my guy but know if you found one there are plenty y out there for you. Take this time to work on yourself so no one will want to leave you again
@@ItmeAnko Appreciate it my man. It's only been one month for you, im sure after 2-3 months you will be completely over it 🤞. It hurts to see others going through what feels like an unbearable pain.
You just have to know you're not alone even at that there are some people who have been through a lot more that I went through. Gotta keep your head up much love my brotha. Check in every other week let's make sure we doing okay bud 👊
It’s been 3 years since the break up and I can tell you this to anyone reading this. I know it hurts, I know time is moving so slow, the memories are constantly playing in your head, the sleepless nights feel like things will not get better. You hesitate to text her and you sometimes do and you end up getting hurt again. You look for any hope to be back together and make things right, all of this playing in your head is just killing you deep inside you. You feel unworthy, unhappy, lonely, stressed because of the whole break up. Don’t give up on yourself, keep going, keep pushing, do whatever you can to distract your mind and soul from this, use that anger and pain as motivation to be a better person. Don’t check up on her, don’t check her social media, just block her, erase all the texts and her number. You don’t need to go back to the same pain that put you through this. Let time heal you. Your life isn’t over, this is the opportunity to enjoy your life and discover yourself again. I’m over my ex and I’m happy where I’m at, I accomplished things that I didn’t think I was going to do and now I’m going to enroll in school to become a Registered Nurse and hopefully be a pediatrician like I always wanted to. Life gets better once you start to realize how much fun life really is and how far you can. You’ll end up finding someone but don’t be in a rush to look for it, first you gotta focus on yourself and fix all the problems you have in your life
First off , I'm really sorry this happened to you but happy that you could rise from the Darkness to be a better versión of you're self , so I'm in the same boat , this happened after New years (2024) she left me for another guy , supossadly because this New guy is in the same page as her , they both want kids NOW ! I wanted also children but didn't wanna rush it , also the new guy has money , I'm a normal guy that works a normal job , I'm trying to keep my self busy , work more hours , save up money to buy my own house, wanna open a side hustle for extra money , I havent done it but I wanna go to the gym etc just wanna be a better human being , sometimes I believe I wasn't enough for her , now I know that wasn't the case , she's just a selfish woman who only cares for her self , I wanna hate her for what she did to me but I just can't I still love her , but I know that love has to die ,every day when I wake uo I check my phone to see if I have any message from her or a misses call ... something ! Or thinking I'm gonna wake up from this nightmare , just to release this is my reality . I was wirh her for almost 4 years , I thought she was gonna be the last woman in my life and I was gonna be the last men is her life , but she had other plans . To everyone else going trough something like this or something even worse , remember , life ,the universe , GOD HIM SELF , will take something from you're life without you knowing in that moment it's really a blessing and that person that got moved was just occupaing space from another person that's really meant to be in you're life and love you how you deserves to be loved , this is one of the many things I say to my self every day , it helps , a bit , please brothers and sisters you will rise from this heartbreak and become a better versión of you're selfs , be sucesfull ...... I truly wanna believe everything gets better later , I really do ! 😢
Thank you guys for your comments. Going through very similar situation right now. She left me for someone better for herself right now, not even considering my efforts,my love throughout the years. Trying very hard to rebuild myself. I just won’t quit for someone who didn’t care for me a bit.
Of all the videos I've searched for, all while struggling through the hardest breakup and worst pain I've ever felt, this video helped me the most. I'm truly thankful.
Thank you so much for the nice comment! The only reason I make these videos is to help people in difficult situations. I wish you all the best on your journey to a new and better life
Being an ugly guy , who never ever had a girlfriend , who desperately seeks attention , who have a desire to be loved by someone , who never received admiration / compliment from anyone .....I really needed to watch these videos , in which " real men" remind me my real duty , my self-worth , my potential . I am a man after all . I was born to conquer . I was born to rule the storms . No one will admire you , no one will love you unconditionally . No one will pat your back when you are suffering from pain , struggles , failures . The desire to be love is just an illusion . Kill this desire and be free . I've read all the comments on this video . I just want to say thank you all & All the Best
Pain is based on the fantasy. She was not the perfect person I built in my mind. I needed to hear this. This came to me at the right time. To all of you. Keep the faith. The fantasy does not exist. God bless you all
All the future faking/promises to get you hooked and waiting to never receiving anything. Miserable life and when they chek out i was given hints but didnt listen she just was thier for the resources. Stoped giving my time resources cause i said you never kept your promises while i do and give all my time effort love and money. I was hit with the i was never going to do any of those things you know why i never tell you i love you cause i dont anymore. Me in my head u only said it through text never in person only during sex for like 10 years. I was blind I reliased she never loved you cause she never said it or did anything to prove it. She said i didnt even consider myself to be with you for over a year and a half. Im like you could of told me but i was naive not to see she was taking evrything i had cause she was preparing to leave or me calling it quits. Like you said she dont care she was never their so much time money freinds gone for her she never gave up anything or did anything for us it was all about her. She dont even let me see our daughters only when she wants something and xqught her mom telling her tell him to give you money good thing i saw. I was so this is why you wer so nice to me and let me see my girls.
I imagined a life with her, for the past months I have been the happiest person ever, but today 9 Sunday of April, at 4am, she texted me and broke up with me, and while I'm trying not to have a mental breakdown she is out there having fun, because she didn't even care about us. Brothers we must go on and make this situations our motivation to keep up, Im sure she will come back to me and I will be ready to make her regret how she has treated me. Keep strong ❤️
So sorry to hear your story. I hope, a year on, you have found happiness again, as you deserve. Breaking up with someone by text is cruel, cowardly and selfish. It makes everything clear about her and her real nature, it was never about you. Best wishes.
I came home on my lunch from work and walked in on my gf and her 2 friends packing up all her stuff. No warning no talk no nothing, she told me she was leaving me, and was planning on leaving a note for me to read when I got home. 4.5 years we’ve been together, unreal. Never been in so much pain in my life. She told me she needed time and then 4 days later I found out she was on every dating site out there. My heart and soul are shattered. Unreal how someone who was your life and best-friend can do that to you.
I wake up with a stomach ache each day and haven't eaten in a week. It's still so raw. He was seeing someone all this time and still continues to lead me on.
Recently got out of a relationship with a very toxic woman. She manipulated me into believing that she loved me, took advantage of me, once she used me up she was on to the next guy almost instantly with no regret. I actually feel bad for the guy, that he will go through the same situation one day. She made me believe she was this perfect, flawless caring woman when in reality she only ever looked out for herself. Be careful out there men, a lot of very fucked up women in the world.
There is no such thing as a perfect human. We all have our flaws, but some have worse than others. I hope you can fight your way back to a normal life soon 💪
I had to listen to this twice because it's all so true. I'm going through it right now. The pain is deep. I mean to the point where I have to scream out and cry at times when alone. Just to let out the sadness, the anger, and the feeling of failure. I hate to be made to feel like I'm not good enough in life. Despite the stage I am at in life now and knowing how to avoid the pitfalls, I find myself here yet again. Different women, same type of pain. This type of turmoil seems to happen around every 5 years for me. Getting after it in my workouts helps a lot. As a matter of fact, my angry workouts are by a mile my best ones.
I feel like I will be watching this vid every day for the next couple of months. 3 months past breakup, really stopped fighting for it a couple of days ago. Tried the last thing that I thought could make it work but I was the only one open for trying again. I feel like now the real heartbreak is there. It hurts, damn much but I will not stop fighting. I get up every day, I do my hobbies, meet friends, work out and stop smoking. Just hoping that time will do the rest... Brothers, you are not alone. Love you all!
You are doing everything anyone could possible ask you to. Time will no doubt heal these wounds and you should be happy with yourself for still finding the energy to do all the other things 💪 Keep working
Bro I know exactly how you feel, it’s been 2 months since my breakup now and today I have finally gave up after Iv found out she’s seeing her ex that cheated on her again. The worst feeling in the world, I was too good to her. Life is so hard and frustrating and this is probably the hardest thing Iv ever been through. You will get through it dude get after it! Love ya
We were together for almost 3 years. I spent the entire time changing things about myself to fit her narrative, but in the end it wasn't enough for her. We had plans to buy our own home out of state, I was a step dad to her daughter and I loved her more than life itself. Listening to this video helped give me a better perspective on why she isn't the Saint I made her out to be in my head. When it came down to it, she demanded perfection from me - but she refused to change in any way. Self centered and selfish. You're not alone in this heartbreak boys!
Thanks man, i got rejected by my crush and I thought I couldn't live with all the unrequited live in my heart. I didn't even have friends or someone to talk to about it. No one consoled me but me. She's a fantasy I'm gonna stop chasing. Thanks a lot.
Sorry to hear that, but as you might have already learned life goes on! There are a lot of positive things to experience and enjoy in life. Keep your head held high, stay positive and work on yourself and the good times will come ❤️
Your intent was pure and it was the girl who lost you. You are the prize, not the girl. Work on yourself, be a better version of yourself, be successful and one day the right girl will come to you. Don't chase someone who doesn't want you as much as you do.
As a girl, I want to say, if there were any girls that broke your heart, I hope you're recovering well. I have an older brother, and his heart was broken many times, till he found the one. I'm proud of him that he kept his self strong and he always was trying to find his self and love his self after he hit rock bottom. I hope ya'll have that power too, I wish ya'll all the best💜 remember who you are and think about yourself first! Love yourself before you love someone else. I need you to hold on and be patient, time WILL eventually heal, but you gotta let that healing process take place and by doing that, you gotta find peace. We love u
Thank you for standing with us! I've been watching these to shake this anxiety pity in my stomach from the memories, and learning how to cope. I know it's not just me or other guys, but many women out there who are struggling with this. Thank you so much for your kindness🙏🙏🙏
I thought I was alone. My 5 year girlfriend who we met in High school cheated on me without someone she met at work I found out but she was remorseful and I forgave her but it still hurts so bad since her personality has changed I feel like am loving someone who doesn't love me back it crashes me every time I think about her.I still love her so much. What do I do?
I had thought I found the one... 3 days ago she broke up with me 2 days after our anniversary and that just broke me completely and I am getting worse and worse because I don't know what to do because I am just struggling. I feel like she doesn't care about the split and I have depression too so it's hurting too much and I don't know what to do
I am at the lowest of my life right now, I don't think I will ever feel lower in my whole life, this has helped a bit which nothing else has, thank you for making this
I'm up 4.30 in the morning. Doing 15 km walk. Ready for work and prepared. Hitting gym after work. Keeping the mind busy. No room for bad thoughts. Weekends with family and friends. Fight the pain admit the truth. Better yourself. Take that pain and turn it into fuel. Don't waste time. Start now. Go radio silent and work on yourself so that when you ready to be out there you are in peak physical condition mentally strong. The rest will fall in place. Don't stand still waiting for the bus. MOVE.
The break Up with the love of my life really shook up the chess board! But, although it is a process of healing. I can say 11 years later I can’t even remember a tear! It will come to pass Gentlemen! God bless you all.
Chess is a great analogy...you can loose a piece, but the game goes on. You can even lose the Queen, but the game goes on. The game goes on until you lose the King...never forget you are the most important piece on the board!
The society we live in the leaves out how men feel after a breakup is very toxic. People are quick to go to the girl to comfort her and allow her to talk badly about us guys but no one asks us if we doing ok. Keep your heads up kings
When your heart is broken, there is nothing anyone can say to make my heart feel better. The only thing I found that has made it better was time. What’s so hard is getting over the fantasy. He is definitely right. They are not who you thought they were.
This video helped me a lot. I was going through unbearable pain as she left me but ironically she was the one who always said me to never leave her. My mental health got destroyed and so did my physical health. May God remove all the temporary people who do not even know how much it affects when you leave the person who loved you and wanted to be with you throughout
@@PromoteGreatness hey bro.... Does time heals everything!?? Like I had a break up recently....she's just in my mind.... I just wanna ask u "Does time heals"!!!!? Wanna an honest reply
I found this video 11 months ago after going thru a break up of a 5 year relationship and it helped me a lot more to push through those days I thought i couldn't. One advice i can give you if your going Thru this is, go to the gym or exercise, push yourself and even on the days that you feel good and think u can "ease up" don't darker days will come and only discipline will help you push past those days. On the days I would wake up and felt like nothing mattered i always told myself "just make it thru the day" "just one more day". And just like that it's been 11 months im in great shape and I can only thank the past version of me for gritting his teeth and pushing thru. There are better days to come hang in there kings 👑
"She is not the fantasy you've created in your mind" That statement was so important in my growth and it really allowed me to move forward. We tend to only remember the good times when we get lonely, and we forget all the bad things they did, it's really crucial to remember the bad as well as the good. Thank you for this video, it was much needed.
Exactly! It's important to take the sweet with the sour and remember the reality of the situation. Happy my video was useful/helpful! Wish you all the best 💪
We were together for 9 years. My wife was diagnosed with kidney disease last year. I was there through everything appointments, biopsies, sleepless nights, pain etc. She asked for a separation 6 weeks ago because she felt “smothered” but wanted to “remain faithful and try to fix the marriage”…I found on this past Friday she has been cheating on me the entire time we separated with a co-worker. She broke me. Saturday I had to call a crisis hotline before I did anything drastic. Along with my friends, these videos have helped me stay afloat in one of darkest periods in my life. I hope to find that peace that so many of you have seemed to find. Till then I’m going to keep pushing forward.
Be grateful! Nine years is painful, but it’s not thirty years and finding this out. The question is really simple and I know, because I’ve been there. Are you really going to let a cheating woman destroy your life.While your in misery, she screwing another guy. This can make you or this can break you. I have faith in you,
“The person you built in your mind does not exist, they aren’t real” was probably one of the truest things I’ve ever heard. It’s hard to make myself believe it but it is the truth
5 months after my illusion ended, CrossFit, weights, rucking, counting macros, and got into law school. Take that energy that no longer has a target, and focus them on yourself. Level up. You must.
The comment section really helps me realize I am not alone in these feelings. I am doing my best. I am proud of everyone for doing their best, it get's better.
Very well done. Even more so, I didn't even like my gf that much but after she dumped me all of a sudden my memories of her were amazing but I didn't actually even feel that when I was with her. I literally distorted my memory into false memories that were much better than the actual time that I was with her.
This is the sort of stuff my dad would say to me when I was a boy. I feel sad that we have a generation growing up that either don’t have a dad to say it to them or don’t have a dad that will say it to them so they have to make the journey to adulthood alone. I hope you make it kids. Tough journey but worth the grind. The worst times make the best stories.
For me I was taught to let it roll off your back, but all that does is make it harder to deal with later on. Confronting it will be hard, but confronting it as soon as you can will eliminate the anxiety and improve your future. Still trying to focus, but it will come with time💪 thank you for the motivation
"She's actually the selfish, self-centered person who cares about herself first and doesnt care about you' Damn. Didn't know how much I needed to have that confirmed.
@@savonlee158 Hey man. I am sorry to hear that. At least you've had 2 months to heal. My girl has been distant for a while now and yesterday I caught her admitting to her flirt that she doesn't see a future with me and that she wants to be with him. It's been 4 years since we started dating. I can't neither eat nor sleep. I am in so much pain. I hope you healed and moved on. Or if not, she came bck and she is treating you right.
My partner left me and drug me through the dirt when I needed them the most. I was in a situation where everything around me was falling apart, I was breaking if not already broken and she let me fall and shatter when I was looking for someone I could count on to help me through my struggles. To anyone who's gone through or going through something similar. I have something to share that I realized while being in that situation. You didn't need HER the most in that situation. You needed support, you needed comfort and you needed affection. It wasn't HER that you needed. When you need someone the most reach deep and find it in yourself. Be kind to yourself, if it was a rough day let yourself know it'll be okay and there's always tomorrow. Remind yourself of your accomplishments. Look back and remember all the things you got through and achieved when they weren't in your life. You did it without them. And most importantly love yourself through thick and thin. Tell yourself that you're worth it. Tell yourself that you're strong and whatever you're going through will make you stronger. Instead of HER being constantly repeated in your head, constantly repeat positivity about YOU in your head. Imagine if all the love that you gave or are giving to that person, you gave to yourself instead. Your heart and mind would be where you find your peace. Love yourself. Keep your heads up fellow kings and keep moving forward.
I think it's important that we only rely mostly on ourselves even in difficult times and that every bit of support those around us can help us with is just topping to the ice-cream.. If you know what I mean?
I honestly believe the best part of this is reading the comeback stories on this video. It shows everyone has gone through this struggle and have come out finding there true self. That's the best inspiration
He's right about the perfect imagen of her/him .You have to be able to remember the things that pissed u off or made you upset. Be a judge of your own character as well and what you did wrong . Forgive yourself and your significant other and find something (not a person) that makes you happy . An the biggest advice I can give is do things by yourself whether that's going to the grocery store or the movies etc and meditate. Cuz at the end of the day when you close your eyes too sleep it's you and you alone in there make sure it's a place u want to be 🙏
Late to reach this video. My ex dumped me a month ago , ever since then I was in denial ,angry and depressed. I took her to be the perfect person in my life to get married. Fastasy was what kept me to believe she was best. This video really opened my eyes. Thanks brother.
I got out of a 2 year relationship and this video helped me out so much. A year later I met someone new and 11 months later we’re here again and I’m going to bounce back like I did last time. Pain is temporary, I will become a better person
As someone who aims for perfection, knowing it’s unattainable, this hit home I’m also a hopeless romantic, so Jocko explaining how it is the memory and not the person really resonated with me
My friend called it "Unicorn Love"... This magical invention of a perfect love that doesn't actually exist in the real world, but we subconsciously seek.
Needed this so badly. Words don’t mean nothing to some people they just say to say it but don’t really commit to it. My gf broke up with me bc she wanted to left alone, didn’t have the same excitement or didn’t feel same anymore. She would tell me things like I meant everything, idk what I would without you and now she’s without me fine, wasn’t afraid to lose me but I was. Action speak louder than words is so true and she proved it.
Spent 10 years building a life with a woman. Life wasn't perfect, but we got by without struggling too much. Always had food, a roof over our head, little bit of spare money for dates. She left me about 9 months ago. No explanation, absolutely no reason given. Just said she didn't love me anymore and moved out. I felt like I was physically dying for the first two weeks of living in that house by myself. Thank goodness I'm doing better now, but I'm surprised I survived, to say the least.
Its an horrible pain...Thats why many men now days only want to fuck women n avoid dating or marriege,they r day by day more selfish n theres nothing we can do about it.
I was married for 14 years to a woman I didn't think was perfect, but I loved her unconditionally. While turning my life around, becoming a better person for her and my son, she was hiding the fact she filed for divorce and was leaving, taking him with her. I didn't find out until the day before. Now I come home to a 3 bedroom apartment that I can barely afford, one that I got for my family, so they could be safe from the part of town we used to live in. So my son could go to better schools. I sat down in that empty place we once shared together and realized, whatever I have now, I will always have more in the future. Guys, there are some really shitty women out there. Your mental health does matter, even though it feels like it doesn't. I thought she was my best friend, someone who would support me the same way I did for her, I was wrong.
That is a long time to spend with one person and then figuring out things aren't working out as expected. There is not much I can say here to dull the pain, but I hope you will use this time to work on yourself and try to stay positive 💪 Things will eventually work out, I am sure of it!
You are a great person. A great father. So many bad woman. So many bad people. Don’t want to sound to religious, but their is one person that will always have your back and will stand side by side with you until the end of times. Find him. He will give you strength you kept moving forward. King Up!
I broke up with my girl a few days ago, we dated for 4 years and lived together the last few months. I realized she wasn’t who I thought through the way I was treated. I didn’t want to be a doormat my entire life and broke things off. She kicked me out and I had no place to go. This video has helped me see a new light to life. I found a place, am continuing to put myself through an education and won’t let that “fake fairytale” person I built in my head win.
2 years ago, i watched this video when i nearly started relationship with her i thought this video is just a normal video.... But yesterday we broke up after 2 years , today I'm again here and this video is totally relatable. We never get lesson until we experienced it..
Wow, this short video has just made so much sense to me right now …..showed me that everything I feel is nothing but a completely fantasy story in my mind…..otherwise she’d be here with me right now! Thank you so much for helping me out opening my eyes and mind to the things that I was blind and I couldn’t see the truth right in front of me.
Its been 7 months and I still hurt from the break up. But I now love to exercise my anger and turn it into will power in order to better myself and stay away from toxic women. I'm glad there's a video for us guys because we're usually betrayed as being emotionless.
I love the support on this channel. I myself built a false person in my mind for so many years and wasted my life ruminating on something that wasn’t real. It was only until I woke up and realized that that person did not care about me at all and that they were was manipulative and using me in so many ways. I am so grateful to see videos like this to help see the way the mind works. Because as long as you’re building up this false person in your head, it’s you that’s creating the pain for yourself. It’s only until you realize that when you love yourself enough to get up, work out, go do things with your friends, and rebuild your life that you stay in the rut. Love yourself enough to get up! Care enough about yourself to not let the depression of a false made person keep you down!
I’m completely heartbroken i promised her I’ll be by her side while I’m at the Texas state trooper academy and when I most need her during my quarantine and stressing out she decides to leave me after I taught her with respect spoiled her and gave her all my love and she decided to ended quickly. This really helped me to get back on my feet
Damn man that sounds rough! But you just gotta keep moving forward, especially in these hard times! I'm glad I could help you just a little with my video!💪
The girl I love left me when I needed her the most too after I was there for her and didn't leave her. I blamed myself, it took my parents to get me to see it wasn't my fault she hurt me and left me I was there for her and cared
I'm devasted. My 9 year relationship was everything for me.. my future.. she broke up "out of the blue". Blamed me for everything... it hurts so much , I'm 34 she was 33... no kids and no marriage as we wanted... Thx for the motivation... Small update: nearly 4 months after the break up... for someone who ever pretended to stay on my side, no matter what... she shows that she doesn't even cares if her "husband" , now stranger, even lives...
I know everything sucks and doesn't seem very good! But you have to look on the bright side! You are still 34 years YOUNG and now you are COMPLETELY free to do whatever you want. Now is your time to really expand on your horizon and learn a lot about yourself and the world 💪
I'm sorry brother just work on yourself now it's for the best delete everything you got of her it will help you it will hurt but you will keep moving forward . Stay strong 💪
Thank you all guys... just realise that the woman I had, probably was emotionally disconnecting months ago... I try hard to build me up, but I struggle a lot, thinking about her... A man is loyal until death, could even take a bullet for her, but doing this to me breaks me down and it destroys my soul... Thank you again guys ...
She broke me down to a billion pieces I did everything for her while I did nothing for myself. I don't deserve this but I will not let this make my heart hard and dark I will be the same loving and genuine man I am . This video helps me alot and I watch it everyday THANK YOU!
Today my girlfriend ghosted me... I cried for 3 hours straight, but then rage and insanity replaced my overwhelming sadness, the pain, the burning pain I felt in my heart, it made me want to train harder, become better and prove her wrong. And most of all, made me want to become better, improve. Thanks for this.
I really needed to hear this. I was with my ex since 2015, lots of ups and downs, but always committed to being a better man. Committed to building a healthy life together. I didn't realize how unhealthy it had become and blamed myself for any issues, when it was her issues that she projected onto me. She left last month out of nowhere as the relationship rapidly went downhill. Now I'm waking up and realize she was never the person she presented herself to be. I need to let her go, she gives me false hope that eventually we will work out, while at the same time she keeps her options open for something better. I do love her, but I need to love myself more. Its the hardest thing I've done.
Well u r lucky that atleaat you have an ex...imagine all those people who can't even reach that stage...just endless crushes and fantasies and obsessions in their brain...and eventually taking their lives
@@realzhella6817 No one is ever lucky to lose someone they love. No matter the state of the relationship. Life is always doing things for reasons, and I sincerely hope to anyone who hasn't been so lucky to meet someone to love, that they get that experience. Though losing someone you love through anyway is never an easy thing, and is not something ever to be lucky to have. To those who took their lives at this, I can't help. Though anyone who is sad enough to have that want or feel like that's the right thing, I'll fully say it's not. Build yourself up, you're the foundation of your relationship as well as your partner. Remember your own identity, as well as yourself as a couple and that will make you feel better when you break up. If you never make it to a relationship, wait to find the person who you can be with, or are meant to be with. Love was never made to be an easy thing, because it's not love when it's off the spur of the moment. That's ignorance.
Jock Willink is so right on this. Especially for people like me, who have anxiously-preoccupied attachment to people. I fight with a realisation that people are not as in a fairytales stories i my head for months now, and it still hurts so much, my mind being in an inner conflict each day. Me being an old man already. But based on a series of shattering events in my life that happened in a short amount of time, I just can not return to old romantic, fabulous fairytales. Still not knowing where this is all going for me, I just know, I have to keep walking.
14yrs married, she left, broke up and haven’t talked for over a month. Kept myself busy at work and the gym. Still missing her, but gotta move past it, hopefully soon.
“If you take action with your body your mind will follow” is the truest thing I heard in this video. There’s going to be days when you feel like curling up in the fetal position and want to do nothing and die but those days are when it’s most important to get up and do something productive. Even something small like picking up the garbage in your room. Just something you can hang your hat on and eventually you can start stringing enough of the small things together to feel like you’re bettering yourself which will make you feel better. I came back to this video to share because I was in the hole a few months ago and that’s the best advice you can follow to get out of it
I’m currently suffering from heartbreak that happened recently, and I’m trying to get over it, and improve on myself. Diving into my physical exercises, boxing, College studies, and my wellbeing.
@@strictlysilly9867 I’m sorry to hear that man. I know it ain’t easy, I’m still dealing with it. It’s just one of those kick in the dick type situations. The only thing I can suggest to help, is the same as what was suggested to me. Try keep busy, take up hobbies, or if you already have hobbies, throw yourself into them, and just try and work on yourself. Stay strong 👑
@@strictlysilly9867 remember, right now we aren’t in our primes, but there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as you work on yourself, and put the effort in to elevate yourself to become a better, and stronger individual, then you can take pride in yourself, that you didn’t let the pain and struggles in your life break you, but rather you used that pain to make you better individual. That’s all any of us can do. Not let out pain hold us back, but rather use it as motivation to elevate us to a higher status. I hope everything work out well for you 🤘🏻
@@thelegend3965 Thanks a lot it’s really helpful to know that someone is going through the same thing as me❤️. Stay strong bro you’re a king for helping me 👑
I pray for everyone going thru pain and hope this video helps I know it helps me move on I did build a perfect person in my mind after a decade and it was fake I refused to acknowledge the truth grind brothers be strong life is awesome never give up
True words spoken brother... I've been through this dark side, had my 45 to my head and thank God i didn't pull the trigger... I made a commitment to myself, by taking a 2 year break from dating, using the" newfound time i had" making me better in every aspect of my life, going harder in the gym, my business. When i found the wonderful wife i have now i was in the shape of my life physically, emotionally and financially. That was 10 years ago... it's all mental, that painful past won't be painful one day. You'll actually look back and say I'm glad that didn't work out.
Exactly my man! Happy to hear your story. Actually you are kind of happy about the hardship you had because it makes you the more complete person later in life! Keep it up 💪
"The person that you built in your mind , that person doesn't actually exists. they aren't real. She wasn't who she appeared to be . that's your memory. That's what you built in your head" That part hardly hit. Thank you!
I wanted to say thank you I found out 2 days ago that my girlfriend (of almost 1 year) had anothere relationship behind my back for 2 months. I basically had only a few relationship, almost all of them ended simmilar and i was doubling down on this one. I used to read bed time stories to her when she was stressed out and this was my reward. Uni exams are close and i did not know how to deal with this, i somehow ended here and i realised that you are right. I did not lost a person that existed, i losta person that i created in my mind. That actually helped me a lot and i already fell better. I haven't completely recover of course, but i already have made plans on how to move on and where to focous. Thanks again, i will remember those words and those advices and hope that i never have to revisit this video.
Realizing that I've been living in an emotional fantasy for almost a year is hard, but all the people and relationships I've let slip and all the time wasted is what hurts to the core. I figured out I haven't exactly been in reality just a couple days ago and this was extremely needed, here's hoping tomorrow will be a breath of fresh air when I rejoin with you all. Best wishes to everyone here, right now 💪
Heartbreak is hard, really hard, especially if you still love the person truly. But the thing is we need to experience every emotion fully, so that we can appreciate the good when it happens.
This is what I need...I'm glad to see someone made a video to support the guys.. All the time, people just drop a quote or a video in favour of girls.. What are men then... A stone hearted so that girls dump us... Crap... Men do have hearts which are brave and sensitive at the same time....
Oh this is very true. It took me decades to learn this. I was married to a woman for almost 30 years who I believe loved me and cared about me when in reality she was a very damaged person due to being abused as a child and was a very toxic person. In my mind I saw her as a loving caring person but in reality she was far from it over the years she obtained seven restraining orders and filed for divorce four times against me. My life was a roller coaster, not much happiness, and very traumatic. But I was so blind to this because in my mind I just believed she loved me and really cared about me but now I understand that was not reality just some mental construct I had of her. I look back over pictures and videos of our family over the last few decades and it’s amazing how many of them she is not in there because we were fighting or quarreling or because she ran and took off periodically. My mother had to remind me just how bad it was all of the crazy antics and drama we had experience over the years. The advice given in this video is on point is very true I hope it helps others the way it helped me. Thank you and God bless.
I went through this. It's very true. I thought she was the one but it really was just an illusion of what i built in my mind. I went through such brutal mental and heartache in 2019 and 2020 but i knew i had to cut her off completely and forever because of betrayal. No matter how much crying and pleading they do to try and keep you , once you are betrayed and abused it's over. And now you are left to refocus and find out who you are and rebuild yourself. It's not a victory but a learning experience that truly changes you because of what you experienced. I will never let anything or anybody get that close to ever disrespect me again. And i will move on a stronger man now.
Exactly how I feel myself. Well written and I appreciate the good advice for anyone out there watching. Seems like you have learned a lot about yourself in those hard times💪
I’ve been listening to this everyday. I have the discipline and this is just the extra motivation I need. Spent years in one of the most emotionally abusive relationships I have ever experienced. Take care of yourselves, don’t stay stuck somewhere you aren’t meant to be. Get after it 💪
I only created this video because it helped me a lot and felt it could do the same for someone else out there!
Keep fighting through it and eventually things will get better 💪!
Thanks bro
Thanks ☺
I am going through heartbreak and this has helped enormously. Thank you !🙏
I needed this and am not afraid to admit I still do. I will get thru this.
I'm not alone in this loneliness
just want to say thanks bro. I really needed to hear this.
“She is actually the selfish, self centered person that cares about her self first and doesn’t care about you”. Is what I really needed to hear. Our whole relationship was me taking the steps to make it work and changing myself in whatever small ways were necessary to grow as a team. The moment I needed her to change, she cracked and ended it. I haven’t slept more than 3 hours in weeks. Thank you for this video.
Edit: it’s been a year and a half now since posting this, and to everyone asking how I’m doing now, or if it gets better, I’m here to say yes! Since then I lost 35-40 pounds to get back in really good shape. I got in to power lifting, and switched up my careers. I now do cyber work for the Defense Department. I will tell you all this: that heartbreak was the best thing to ever happen to me. Let that heartbreak light a fire in your soul, and become the best man you can become.
I think a lot of people can relate to that line myself included! I hope you will be doing better soon and try to get some sleep! It will help you clear up your mind 💪
it’ll be okay
Feel you Man! Same here.
It took me years finally figure this out...love really doesnt exist
Being honest i'm in this process myself. I've been in a 8 year marriage that i've been working alone on and when i ask her to work with me she lashes out. And i think i'm finally done and i've been taking steps to get out. And these things help it's hard finding help for men in general.
Dated my girl 6 years she broke up with me and is dating someone else 4 days later, while we still live together. Life can be hell guys but keep your head up and strive to be better. Don’t be petty, kill them with kindness and let them watch you succeed without them. No one is perfect and if 4 days is all it takes to get over 6 years… I was living a lie. Love you all be safe and work hard!
It wasn't your girl, it was just, your Turn. Remember that 🙏
Leave that ho
Bro what? I'm so sorry. Id be in jail if she did that to me
Not to be a dick but you’re still living a lie if you think she got over you in 4 days. That guy was there pre-breakup.
Same here brother. 4 years and engaged . Dating a guy after a week. I’m moving out tomorrow. She’ll feel this.
No matter who you are, if you needed this video just like me, remember that you're not alone.
Thanks, Brother.
i see you woke up to this reality
Thank You
Thanks man
Thanks man
It hurts when you ache for that someone all the while they are just trying to leave you behind.. it really breaks a man
It's really sad man. Especially when you had so much planned with this person, and you believe and trusted them so much. Now having to let go of the plans and memories you created really hurts, I'm so heartbrok💔
It really hurts! But we grow in adversity! You will all come out better and stronger on the other side of this. It's okay to be down and heartbroken for awhile but don't let the feelings consume you. Get back up and do things YOU want to do 💪
Im glad thaat im not in this situation alone. That im not weird. GUYS,we will go throught this And get steonger😎
@@tomashruska2171 brother I was thinking just the same as soon as read your comment
@@cablesummers5920 i hope you are fine now. I am :)
“The person that you built in your mind, doesn’t EXIST” … “So The pain that we feel isn’t based on reality, it’s based off the fantasy that we built in our mind” This is BEYOND DEEP! Wow I needed this!
Yeah that sentence right there pretty much summed up 90% of the video 💪
How do i let go of this fantasy knowing she will never change to be honest 0 responsibility/accountability 0 nothing. Just me suffering like a miserable person hoping to get some sort of love/attention. I cant let go cause i want to be a part of my daughters lifes? I know its the best for my mental and emotional health to let go. But HOW?
Yup I’ve heard numerous motivation speeches and this is my second heartbreak so I kinda knew what to expect in regards to how my emotions would be, but that quote hit me like a rock and I’ve felt a peace I didn’t know was possible. Thank you
👸exactly!👍 the pain is for a fantasy. bc what was so great & extra special, one is missing now that they're gone?💁♀️ NOTHING! ZERO! ZILCH! NADA! in fact life is better, now that u have chance to meet a really good person who'd never voluntarily leave u.
Love it. Here I am a year late but I’m sure I’m not the only one
Breakups are where champions are made.
They leave you for someone else after all those months, or even years you guys were together. Making you feel like you weren't good enough.
Two things you can do: Either confirm it by having her (or him) see you all upset, crying & depressed, or you get the hell up and crush all your boundaries.
To my ex-girlfriend:
Thank you for leaving. That taught me that I should never put anyone above me. The pain I was forced to go through ended up making me into the best possible version of myself I could've ever imagined. I learned to love myself. I started working out harder than I ever did before, eating healthy 24/7, significantly cutting back on alcohol, reading books regularly, made countless new friends, and went back to school.
24 hours in a day. 6 for sleep, 18 for grinding. Nothing else matters.
Get up, dust yourself off, and prove them wrong!
I always say that its in adversity we learn who we truly are and what we need to become 💪
Honestly it’s brilliant that you did a farewell note in a UA-cam comment. She doesn’t need to hear it, but you wanted to say it. And that’s totally fine. Right on right on.
I love this!
Inspirational
I hope i will become like you soon
I’m a woman I went through a toxic relationship and my belief about men had shattered.. it’s amazing to see so many men having so much to offer women.. my faith in good men has restored seeing the comments . To all the men here ,I hope you all meet good women who will love you no matter what ❤️
I am sorry you had to experience a toxic relationship, but hopefully you came out stronger 💪
@@PromoteGreatness trying my best to come out of it :) thankyou
There are good men out there, we’re just harder to find
Vice versa for me..pulse rate rises after the woman...
There are some amazing men out here! Keep your faith alive. Sorry for what you went through
Shout out to all the good men out there who are brave enough to put emotions and feelings on the line, we are the real men, keep the head up
Very true only brave men can love ..
@@rishabhvishwakarma44i’m not brave enough to love again after that shit. fuck that lol.
Salute my friend
They are brave I must say ,going through it now ,it stings hard
My guy🫵🏼🎯
“If you take action with your body, your mind will follow” Love that
Yeah that is also one of my favorite quotes from this one!
Forcing myself daily to press forward after my daughter passed away and then found out right away her mother was being unfaithful during all of it. Goddammmmmm I'm crawling out of a 12 foot hole to get UP!!
Right??!!! I agree. Unlike the “The body can achieve what the mind believes” … I mean, if you want to fly you can’t just jump off a building and flap your arms.
Thí Video Motivated me to go walking yêsterday👍👍👍👍👍👍
Military Quote . If I train my mind, my body will follow.
In 2021: I was let go of my job, I lost financial stability, she gave back the ring and left, 2 weeks later my grandfather died, a month later I dislocated my shoulder and was out of lifting for 2 months, and to top it all of before I got physical therapy for the shoulder, I got an infection that made my body go septic and I died for 5 seconds. All I'm 2021. It proved that I can take a lot torment, sadness, and punishment. I beat death. And I needed to hear these words. Thank you and God bless to all who read this.
Shows just how strong you are to endure all that! and 2022 can only get better than this 💪
Keep the faith and endure to the end! Hope the Lord has blessed you in your current season.
You got this man!!! I’m sure you are in a better position now!
Keep pushing
My friend I broke my collarbone end of October, couldn’t lift a thing. Dumped in November, looking for a home going into December. 12 years down the toilet so she could get “attention” from other guys. Success will be my revenge. I pray it was yours too.
I love you brothers………let’s raise ourselves from the ashes
Yes!
As someone who really really suffered the worst pain of my life when I broke up with my ex a year ago , let me tell you this . No matter how bad you're feeling right now , how much pain you're experiencing , how much you miss them and think you'll never find someone like them.. it's a process you have to go through and there is light at the end of it, one day you'll wake up and wont even remember their face ( of course delete all of their pictures ).
Exactly my point! Things usually get even better than before, because we learn so much from yourself in situations like these!
im in the same boat. sadly
but u looks awesome. russian？
Very true. Although I’m going through this now what you said is spot on and that keep me going (I’ve been there before)! Much love.
I feel that brother, she left me 3 months ago, but we must keep fighting…everything has a reason LIFE gets better 🙏🏼
“She is the selfish, self centered person who cares only about herself and doesn’t care about you” 🔥🔥 thank youuuu !!
Happy to help 💪
I know someone who can help you get your ex back!!!!!!!!!!
Amen to that
But yet, she called me selfish and inconsiderate. This is after I told her I'd do anything for her... Sigh Women...
or you are a dic...d not worth to be cared about
"She's not the sweet girl you thought she was. She's actually a selfish, self-centred person who only cares about herself." - J.W.
Thank you for that. I had a hard time admitting that to myself.
Everyone coming here for wisdom and motivation after your breakup instead of choosing a rebound or addiction:BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!
The willingness to change and learn says a lot about someone. You are the one who chose the healthy way. What you are doing is right. Don't ever doubt this. You are far more worth than their cheap promises and lack of dedication!
Indeed! Its important to be proud of yourself when you do good! That will only inspire to more 💪
If I thought drugs or alcohol would make me feel better, I'd use them. But I know they'd make me feel dangerously worse.
Listening to this, crying my eyes out, but doing it while i am getting my workout done. For once, i am proud of myself, that even though i am broken and hurting and destroyed, i'm still fighting for me.
That is awesome to hear man! Keep up the great work 💪
Keep fighting. I promise it gets better! It’s been 2 years ago was my heartache. I thought I would die but I’m still here. I survived and I’m thriving now!! You will get there 🙏
Damn I feel like shit rn and seeing your 6 pack is motivating af dude
Keep fighting champ. You got this ma man.
I’m currently struggling about forgetting her,regretting many things and most importantly I get angry that I wasted 10-11 years on her and got nothing but,endless pain …. Ur comments giving me hope ….I hope things get better for me …I blame my self all things that happened to me …I’m having it enough….I paid too much for it and I hope good things will be a head off me ….
My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago I'm having a awful time finding myself. I cry every day and feel so worthless. Came to this video to look at comments and I know I'm not alone. We are not alone. Let's hope for better days for US not someone else US!
In few months brother it will get better…ask me how I know. Same situation 4 months ago
How are you doing now? I'm going through a similar situation. Need some hope.
Not going to lie man I still miss her like hell. It hurts from time to time but I keep moving to better myself it's the only thing you can do. It's going to hurt no matter what my guy but know if you found one there are plenty y out there for you. Take this time to work on yourself so no one will want to leave you again
@@ItmeAnko Appreciate it my man. It's only been one month for you, im sure after 2-3 months you will be completely over it 🤞.
It hurts to see others going through what feels like an unbearable pain.
You just have to know you're not alone even at that there are some people who have been through a lot more that I went through. Gotta keep your head up much love my brotha. Check in every other week let's make sure we doing okay bud 👊
It’s been 3 years since the break up and I can tell you this to anyone reading this. I know it hurts, I know time is moving so slow, the memories are constantly playing in your head, the sleepless nights feel like things will not get better. You hesitate to text her and you sometimes do and you end up getting hurt again. You look for any hope to be back together and make things right, all of this playing in your head is just killing you deep inside you. You feel unworthy, unhappy, lonely, stressed because of the whole break up. Don’t give up on yourself, keep going, keep pushing, do whatever you can to distract your mind and soul from this, use that anger and pain as motivation to be a better person. Don’t check up on her, don’t check her social media, just block her, erase all the texts and her number. You don’t need to go back to the same pain that put you through this. Let time heal you. Your life isn’t over, this is the opportunity to enjoy your life and discover yourself again. I’m over my ex and I’m happy where I’m at, I accomplished things that I didn’t think I was going to do and now I’m going to enroll in school to become a Registered Nurse and hopefully be a pediatrician like I always wanted to. Life gets better once you start to realize how much fun life really is and how far you can. You’ll end up finding someone but don’t be in a rush to look for it, first you gotta focus on yourself and fix all the problems you have in your life
Thank you. I needed this.
Ty
Read my mind. Thank you.
First off , I'm really sorry this happened to you but happy that you could rise from the Darkness to be a better versión of you're self , so I'm in the same boat , this happened after New years (2024) she left me for another guy , supossadly because this New guy is in the same page as her , they both want kids NOW ! I wanted also children but didn't wanna rush it , also the new guy has money , I'm a normal guy that works a normal job , I'm trying to keep my self busy , work more hours , save up money to buy my own house, wanna open a side hustle for extra money , I havent done it but I wanna go to the gym etc just wanna be a better human being , sometimes I believe I wasn't enough for her , now I know that wasn't the case , she's just a selfish woman who only cares for her self , I wanna hate her for what she did to me but I just can't I still love her , but I know that love has to die ,every day when I wake uo I check my phone to see if I have any message from her or a misses call ... something ! Or thinking I'm gonna wake up from this nightmare , just to release this is my reality . I was wirh her for almost 4 years , I thought she was gonna be the last woman in my life and I was gonna be the last men is her life , but she had other plans . To everyone else going trough something like this or something even worse , remember , life ,the universe , GOD HIM SELF , will take something from you're life without you knowing in that moment it's really a blessing and that person that got moved was just occupaing space from another person that's really meant to be in you're life and love you how you deserves to be loved , this is one of the many things I say to my self every day , it helps , a bit , please brothers and sisters you will rise from this heartbreak and become a better versión of you're selfs , be sucesfull ...... I truly wanna believe everything gets better later , I really do ! 😢
Thank you guys for your comments.
Going through very similar situation right now.
She left me for someone better for herself right now, not even considering my efforts,my love throughout the years.
Trying very hard to rebuild myself.
I just won’t quit for someone who didn’t care for me a bit.
“Relationships are not supposed to work. Marriages are supposed to work.”
-A Wise Man
Of all the videos I've searched for, all while struggling through the hardest breakup and worst pain I've ever felt, this video helped me the most. I'm truly thankful.
Thank you so much for the nice comment! The only reason I make these videos is to help people in difficult situations.
I wish you all the best on your journey to a new and better life
Hang in there bro it gets better. Look me up on Instagram if you want to talk to someone.
@@raykhamis933 what’s your instagram
@@hunterjimenez5771 Raykhamis_
Me too brother. Right now.
This video is like a loving and necessary slap in the face by Jocko.
So glad I found this.
Being an ugly guy , who never ever had a girlfriend , who desperately seeks attention , who have a desire to be loved by someone , who never received admiration / compliment from anyone .....I really needed to watch these videos , in which " real men" remind me my real duty , my self-worth , my potential . I am a man after all . I was born to conquer . I was born to rule the storms .
No one will admire you , no one will love you unconditionally . No one will pat your back when you are suffering from pain , struggles , failures .
The desire to be love is just an illusion . Kill this desire and be free .
I've read all the comments on this video . I just want to say thank you all & All the Best
Pain is based on the fantasy. She was not the perfect person I built in my mind. I needed to hear this. This came to me at the right time. To all of you. Keep the faith. The fantasy does not exist. God bless you all
Exactly! Don't put the person or the memory on a pedestal. Noone is perfect.
All the future faking/promises to get you hooked and waiting to never receiving anything. Miserable life and when they chek out i was given hints but didnt listen she just was thier for the resources. Stoped giving my time resources cause i said you never kept your promises while i do and give all my time effort love and money. I was hit with the i was never going to do any of those things you know why i never tell you i love you cause i dont anymore. Me in my head u only said it through text never in person only during sex for like 10 years. I was blind I reliased she never loved you cause she never said it or did anything to prove it. She said i didnt even consider myself to be with you for over a year and a half. Im like you could of told me but i was naive not to see she was taking evrything i had cause she was preparing to leave or me calling it quits. Like you said she dont care she was never their so much time money freinds gone for her she never gave up anything or did anything for us it was all about her. She dont even let me see our daughters only when she wants something and xqught her mom telling her tell him to give you money good thing i saw. I was so this is why you wer so nice to me and let me see my girls.
I imagined a life with her, for the past months I have been the happiest person ever, but today 9 Sunday of April, at 4am, she texted me and broke up with me, and while I'm trying not to have a mental breakdown she is out there having fun, because she didn't even care about us. Brothers we must go on and make this situations our motivation to keep up, Im sure she will come back to me and I will be ready to make her regret how she has treated me. Keep strong ❤️
So sorry to hear your story. I hope, a year on, you have found happiness again, as you deserve. Breaking up with someone by text is cruel, cowardly and selfish. It makes everything clear about her and her real nature, it was never about you. Best wishes.
I came home on my lunch from work and walked in on my gf and her 2 friends packing up all her stuff. No warning no talk no nothing, she told me she was leaving me, and was planning on leaving a note for me to read when I got home. 4.5 years we’ve been together, unreal. Never been in so much pain in my life. She told me she needed time and then 4 days later I found out she was on every dating site out there. My heart and soul are shattered. Unreal how someone who was your life and best-friend can do that to you.
I wake up with a stomach ache each day and haven't eaten in a week. It's still so raw. He was seeing someone all this time and still continues to lead me on.
Well it sounds like you didn't lose anyone important then. Noone deserves to be treated like that. Wish you all the best 💪
Grow up
Recently got out of a relationship with a very toxic woman. She manipulated me into believing that she loved me, took advantage of me, once she used me up she was on to the next guy almost instantly with no regret. I actually feel bad for the guy, that he will go through the same situation one day. She made me believe she was this perfect, flawless caring woman when in reality she only ever looked out for herself. Be careful out there men, a lot of very fucked up women in the world.
She left me feeling so depressed and anxious I cant get through the day without benzos. Hoping I can forget about her and get back to normal quickly.
There is no such thing as a perfect human. We all have our flaws, but some have worse than others.
I hope you can fight your way back to a normal life soon 💪
I had to listen to this twice because it's all so true. I'm going through it right now. The pain is deep. I mean to the point where I have to scream out and cry at times when alone. Just to let out the sadness, the anger, and the feeling of failure. I hate to be made to feel like I'm not good enough in life. Despite the stage I am at in life now and knowing how to avoid the pitfalls, I find myself here yet again. Different women, same type of pain. This type of turmoil seems to happen around every 5 years for me. Getting after it in my workouts helps a lot. As a matter of fact, my angry workouts are by a mile my best ones.
When you work out, your muscles tear and come back stronger. That’s the same as a breakup. Your break down, but then you come back even stronger.
Exactly. If you allow yourself to learn from what just happened your next relationship should be better and stronger 💪
This comment made my night, thanks ☺️
I feel like I will be watching this vid every day for the next couple of months. 3 months past breakup, really stopped fighting for it a couple of days ago. Tried the last thing that I thought could make it work but I was the only one open for trying again. I feel like now the real heartbreak is there. It hurts, damn much but I will not stop fighting. I get up every day, I do my hobbies, meet friends, work out and stop smoking. Just hoping that time will do the rest... Brothers, you are not alone. Love you all!
You are doing everything anyone could possible ask you to. Time will no doubt heal these wounds and you should be happy with yourself for still finding the energy to do all the other things 💪 Keep working
Bro I know exactly how you feel, it’s been 2 months since my breakup now and today I have finally gave up after Iv found out she’s seeing her ex that cheated on her again. The worst feeling in the world, I was too good to her. Life is so hard and frustrating and this is probably the hardest thing Iv ever been through. You will get through it dude get after it! Love ya
@@jackperkins1905 did she come running back?
@@vasiliasfifa1655 she did bro, been back with her now for over a month and everything is going smooth and back to normal !!
@@jackperkins1905 congratulations brother, but do you trust and love her after everything?
We were together for almost 3 years. I spent the entire time changing things about myself to fit her narrative, but in the end it wasn't enough for her. We had plans to buy our own home out of state, I was a step dad to her daughter and I loved her more than life itself. Listening to this video helped give me a better perspective on why she isn't the Saint I made her out to be in my head. When it came down to it, she demanded perfection from me - but she refused to change in any way. Self centered and selfish. You're not alone in this heartbreak boys!
Thanks man, i got rejected by my crush and I thought I couldn't live with all the unrequited live in my heart. I didn't even have friends or someone to talk to about it. No one consoled me but me. She's a fantasy I'm gonna stop chasing. Thanks a lot.
Sorry to hear that, but as you might have already learned life goes on! There are a lot of positive things to experience and enjoy in life. Keep your head held high, stay positive and work on yourself and the good times will come ❤️
I feel you bro, we in this together
Your intent was pure and it was the girl who lost you. You are the prize, not the girl. Work on yourself, be a better version of yourself, be successful and one day the right girl will come to you.
Don't chase someone who doesn't want you as much as you do.
Hey I am going through something like that right now. We will make it and prove them wrong
How are you doing rn brother
As a girl, I want to say, if there were any girls that broke your heart, I hope you're recovering well. I have an older brother, and his heart was broken many times, till he found the one. I'm proud of him that he kept his self strong and he always was trying to find his self and love his self after he hit rock bottom. I hope ya'll have that power too, I wish ya'll all the best💜 remember who you are and think about yourself first! Love yourself before you love someone else. I need you to hold on and be patient, time WILL eventually heal, but you gotta let that healing process take place and by doing that, you gotta find peace. We love u
Those are some very nice words! I appreciate this and I think a lot of other people will too! Wish you all the best 😄
Thank you for standing with us! I've been watching these to shake this anxiety pity in my stomach from the memories, and learning how to cope. I know it's not just me or other guys, but many women out there who are struggling with this. Thank you so much for your kindness🙏🙏🙏
I thought I was alone.
My 5 year girlfriend who we met in High school cheated on me without someone she met at work I found out but she was remorseful and I forgave her but it still hurts so bad since her personality has changed I feel like am loving someone who doesn't love me back it crashes me every time I think about her.I still love her so much.
What do I do?
It's good that your willing to forgive but dump that B*tch. Trust me you don't need that you deserve gold not trash.💯
I had thought I found the one...
3 days ago she broke up with me 2 days after our anniversary and that just broke me completely and I am getting worse and worse because I don't know what to do because I am just struggling. I feel like she doesn't care about the split and I have depression too so it's hurting too much and I don't know what to do
“ inhale the future and exhale the past “ man that’s something I’m gonna always remember . Thank you for that brother
I am at the lowest of my life right now, I don't think I will ever feel lower in my whole life, this has helped a bit which nothing else has, thank you for making this
Well on the positive side of things, everything can only get better if you are on the bottom now. Stay strong 💪
How are you now after 7 months ?
Yea... how are you?
he ded 🤣
I'm up 4.30 in the morning. Doing 15 km walk. Ready for work and prepared. Hitting gym after work. Keeping the mind busy. No room for bad thoughts. Weekends with family and friends. Fight the pain admit the truth. Better yourself. Take that pain and turn it into fuel. Don't waste time. Start now. Go radio silent and work on yourself so that when you ready to be out there you are in peak physical condition mentally strong. The rest will fall in place. Don't stand still waiting for the bus. MOVE.
The break Up with the love of my life really shook up the chess board! But, although it is a process of healing. I can say 11 years later I can’t even remember a tear! It will come to pass Gentlemen! God bless you all.
Indeed it will. Thank you for giving some perspective form "the other side"
Chess is a great analogy...you can loose a piece, but the game goes on. You can even lose the Queen, but the game goes on. The game goes on until you lose the King...never forget you are the most important piece on the board!
It will hurt today, it will hurt tomorrow, but eventually it will be okay
The society we live in the leaves out how men feel after a breakup is very toxic. People are quick to go to the girl to comfort her and allow her to talk badly about us guys but no one asks us if we doing ok. Keep your heads up kings
Yeah i hope we can get more focus on men's mental health 💪
It is open season on men. Women usually play the victim.
When your heart is broken, there is nothing anyone can say to make my heart feel better. The only thing I found that has made it better was time. What’s so hard is getting over the fantasy. He is definitely right. They are not who you thought they were.
She'll never be able to comprehend how much I loved her, I'll still do anything to put a smile on her face.
Yeah they usually realize this to late :/
Girls don't want a simp
This video helped me a lot. I was going through unbearable pain as she left me but ironically she was the one who always said me to never leave her. My mental health got destroyed and so did my physical health. May God remove all the temporary people who do not even know how much it affects when you leave the person who loved you and wanted to be with you throughout
The pain can be unbearable but remember. We can't learn without pain 💪
Yeah they say they can't live without one day and then act like nothing happened after it's over. I learned that lesson years ago lol
@@PromoteGreatness hey bro....
Does time heals everything!??
Like I had a break up recently....she's just in my mind....
I just wanna ask u "Does time heals"!!!!?
Wanna an honest reply
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I found this video 11 months ago after going thru a break up of a 5 year relationship and it helped me a lot more to push through those days I thought i couldn't. One advice i can give you if your going Thru this is, go to the gym or exercise, push yourself and even on the days that you feel good and think u can "ease up" don't darker days will come and only discipline will help you push past those days. On the days I would wake up and felt like nothing mattered i always told myself "just make it thru the day" "just one more day".
And just like that it's been 11 months im in great shape and I can only thank the past version of me for gritting his teeth and pushing thru.
There are better days to come hang in there kings 👑
That’s not her, that’s your memory
Exactly the point💪!
Also when you break up you only remeber the good and not the bad
"She is not the fantasy you've created in your mind" That statement was so important in my growth and it really allowed me to move forward. We tend to only remember the good times when we get lonely, and we forget all the bad things they did, it's really crucial to remember the bad as well as the good. Thank you for this video, it was much needed.
Exactly! It's important to take the sweet with the sour and remember the reality of the situation. Happy my video was useful/helpful! Wish you all the best 💪
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10years 2kids all over and these videos are giving me knky glimps of hope
We were together for 9 years. My wife was diagnosed with kidney disease last year. I was there through everything appointments, biopsies, sleepless nights, pain etc.
She asked for a separation 6 weeks ago because she felt “smothered” but wanted to “remain faithful and try to fix the marriage”…I found on this past Friday she has been cheating on me the entire time we separated with a co-worker.
She broke me. Saturday I had to call a crisis hotline before I did anything drastic. Along with my friends, these videos have helped me stay afloat in one of darkest periods in my life. I hope to find that peace that so many of you have seemed to find. Till then I’m going to keep pushing forward.
Seems like you deserve someone you can smother man! Don't let this take you down.. You are worth more than that 💪
Be grateful! Nine years is painful, but it’s not thirty years and finding this out. The question is really simple and I know, because I’ve been there. Are you really going to let a cheating woman destroy your life.While your in misery, she screwing another guy. This can make you or this can break you. I have faith in you,
“The person you built in your mind does not exist, they aren’t real” was probably one of the truest things I’ve ever heard. It’s hard to make myself believe it but it is the truth
A four years old video and yet this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks.
5 months after my illusion ended, CrossFit, weights, rucking, counting macros, and got into law school. Take that energy that no longer has a target, and focus them on yourself. Level up. You must.
We created this pain in our hearts for an individual that wasn't real! Just like Jocko said, "move on"! They don't deserve us at all!
The comment section really helps me realize I am not alone in these feelings. I am doing my best. I am proud of everyone for doing their best, it get's better.
Very well done. Even more so, I didn't even like my gf that much but after she dumped me all of a sudden my memories of her were amazing but I didn't actually even feel that when I was with her. I literally distorted my memory into false memories that were much better than the actual time that I was with her.
Yeah this tend to happen and then we get down and depressed even tough we should be happy with being away from this person 💪
@@PromoteGreatness Its crazy how the mind tricks us
This is the sort of stuff my dad would say to me when I was a boy. I feel sad that we have a generation growing up that either don’t have a dad to say it to them or don’t have a dad that will say it to them so they have to make the journey to adulthood alone. I hope you make it kids. Tough journey but worth the grind. The worst times make the best stories.
But we are lucky to live in a time where we can learn all this information from strangers on the internet 😁
Nailed it mate
For me I was taught to let it roll off your back, but all that does is make it harder to deal with later on. Confronting it will be hard, but confronting it as soon as you can will eliminate the anxiety and improve your future. Still trying to focus, but it will come with time💪 thank you for the motivation
"She's actually the selfish, self-centered person who cares about herself first and doesnt care about you'
Damn. Didn't know how much I needed to have that confirmed.
Went through a breakup 2 days ago , this shit hits deep and helps .Thanks man
Just broke up with my girl today…4 years man…. Wish I didn’t have to feel this pain
@@savonlee158 same man
Good luck guys. I feel for y'all.
Im here with u mann me too i loved this girl and the times we shared even arguments i still miss her now
@@savonlee158 Hey man. I am sorry to hear that. At least you've had 2 months to heal. My girl has been distant for a while now and yesterday I caught her admitting to her flirt that she doesn't see a future with me and that she wants to be with him. It's been 4 years since we started dating. I can't neither eat nor sleep. I am in so much pain. I hope you healed and moved on. Or if not, she came bck and she is treating you right.
My partner left me and drug me through the dirt when I needed them the most. I was in a situation where everything around me was falling apart, I was breaking if not already broken and she let me fall and shatter when I was looking for someone I could count on to help me through my struggles. To anyone who's gone through or going through something similar. I have something to share that I realized while being in that situation.
You didn't need HER the most in that situation. You needed support, you needed comfort and you needed affection. It wasn't HER that you needed. When you need someone the most reach deep and find it in yourself. Be kind to yourself, if it was a rough day let yourself know it'll be okay and there's always tomorrow. Remind yourself of your accomplishments. Look back and remember all the things you got through and achieved when they weren't in your life. You did it without them. And most importantly love yourself through thick and thin. Tell yourself that you're worth it. Tell yourself that you're strong and whatever you're going through will make you stronger. Instead of HER being constantly repeated in your head, constantly repeat positivity about YOU in your head. Imagine if all the love that you gave or are giving to that person, you gave to yourself instead. Your heart and mind would be where you find your peace. Love yourself.
Keep your heads up fellow kings and keep moving forward.
I think it's important that we only rely mostly on ourselves even in difficult times and that every bit of support those around us can help us with is just topping to the ice-cream.. If you know what I mean?
Damn. Had me tearing up with the truth bombs! 👍👍👍
I needed this right now. I’m cutting it loose and building me.
I honestly believe the best part of this is reading the comeback stories on this video. It shows everyone has gone through this struggle and have come out finding there true self. That's the best inspiration
Exactly! Everybody thinks its the end, when in reality it's just the beginning!
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He's right about the perfect imagen of her/him .You have to be able to remember the things that pissed u off or made you upset. Be a judge of your own character as well and what you did wrong . Forgive yourself and your significant other and find something (not a person) that makes you happy . An the biggest advice I can give is do things by yourself whether that's going to the grocery store or the movies etc and meditate. Cuz at the end of the day when you close your eyes too sleep it's you and you alone in there make sure it's a place u want to be 🙏
Well said
Well spoken 💪
Late to reach this video. My ex dumped me a month ago , ever since then I was in denial ,angry and depressed. I took her to be the perfect person in my life to get married. Fastasy was what kept me to believe she was best.
This video really opened my eyes. Thanks brother.
I got out of a 2 year relationship and this video helped me out so much. A year later I met someone new and 11 months later we’re here again and I’m going to bounce back like I did last time. Pain is temporary, I will become a better person
As someone who aims for perfection, knowing it’s unattainable, this hit home
I’m also a hopeless romantic, so Jocko explaining how it is the memory and not the person really resonated with me
Yeah I am exactly the same!
This video has helped me tremendously. I play it constantly as a reminder to myself. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart.
My friend called it "Unicorn Love"... This magical invention of a perfect love that doesn't actually exist in the real world, but we subconsciously seek.
Needed this so badly. Words don’t mean nothing to some people they just say to say it but don’t really commit to it. My gf broke up with me bc she wanted to left alone, didn’t have the same excitement or didn’t feel same anymore. She would tell me things like I meant everything, idk what I would without you and now she’s without me fine, wasn’t afraid to lose me but I was. Action speak louder than words is so true and she proved it.
Spent 10 years building a life with a woman. Life wasn't perfect, but we got by without struggling too much. Always had food, a roof over our head, little bit of spare money for dates.
She left me about 9 months ago. No explanation, absolutely no reason given. Just said she didn't love me anymore and moved out.
I felt like I was physically dying for the first two weeks of living in that house by myself. Thank goodness I'm doing better now, but I'm surprised I survived, to say the least.
Its an horrible pain...Thats why many men now days only want to fuck women n avoid dating or marriege,they r day by day more selfish n theres nothing we can do about it.
sounds like a cheater getting eaten by her own guilt. She left before you figured it out 😢
I was married for 14 years to a woman I didn't think was perfect, but I loved her unconditionally. While turning my life around, becoming a better person for her and my son, she was hiding the fact she filed for divorce and was leaving, taking him with her. I didn't find out until the day before. Now I come home to a 3 bedroom apartment that I can barely afford, one that I got for my family, so they could be safe from the part of town we used to live in. So my son could go to better schools. I sat down in that empty place we once shared together and realized, whatever I have now, I will always have more in the future. Guys, there are some really shitty women out there. Your mental health does matter, even though it feels like it doesn't. I thought she was my best friend, someone who would support me the same way I did for her, I was wrong.
That is a long time to spend with one person and then figuring out things aren't working out as expected. There is not much I can say here to dull the pain, but I hope you will use this time to work on yourself and try to stay positive 💪 Things will eventually work out, I am sure of it!
Girls don’t appreciate kindness and unfortunately see it as a weekness .
I feel for you man, its always when you start trusting them whole heartedly and become comfortable
I hope you are doing better now 9 months later... I'm so sorry for you brother
You are a great person. A great father. So many bad woman. So many bad people. Don’t want to sound to religious, but their is one person that will always have your back and will stand side by side with you until the end of times. Find him. He will give you strength you kept moving forward. King Up!
I'm so thankful to me lord for saving me
I broke up with my girl a few days ago, we dated for 4 years and lived together the last few months. I realized she wasn’t who I thought through the way I was treated. I didn’t want to be a doormat my entire life and broke things off. She kicked me out and I had no place to go. This video has helped me see a new light to life. I found a place, am continuing to put myself through an education and won’t let that “fake fairytale” person I built in my head win.
I was feeling like I can’t breathe of pain, I don’t feel it now ❤️
That makes me happy to hear! Keep your head high 💪
Let them go Bro...
Keep going ,good luck brother
This is where I wanna be. I’m trying.
Thank you for this I really needs this so much right now ❤❤❤❤
2 years ago, i watched this video when i nearly started relationship with her i thought this video is just a normal video....
But yesterday we broke up after 2 years , today I'm again here and this video is totally relatable.
We never get lesson until we experienced it..
I needed this, I’ll heal in time but damn it hurts right now.
Wow, this short video has just made so much sense to me right now …..showed me that everything I feel is nothing but a completely fantasy story in my mind…..otherwise she’d be here with me right now!
Thank you so much for helping me out opening my eyes and mind to the things that I was blind and I couldn’t see the truth right in front of me.
That first part was the reality check we all needed to hear. Stay strong kings we’ll get thru this 2023 will end BETTER
Its been 7 months and I still hurt from the break up. But I now love to exercise my anger and turn it into will power in order to better myself and stay away from toxic women. I'm glad there's a video for us guys because we're usually betrayed as being emotionless.
Exactly! Now is the time to work on ourselves 💪
@@choolee1026 I rebuke you Satan!!!
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I love the support on this channel. I myself built a false person in my mind for so many years and wasted my life ruminating on something that wasn’t real. It was only until I woke up and realized that that person did not care about me at all and that they were was manipulative and using me in so many ways. I am so grateful to see videos like this to help see the way the mind works. Because as long as you’re building up this false person in your head, it’s you that’s creating the pain for yourself. It’s only until you realize that when you love yourself enough to get up, work out, go do things with your friends, and rebuild your life that you stay in the rut. Love yourself enough to get up! Care enough about yourself to not let the depression of a false made person keep you down!
I’m completely heartbroken i promised her I’ll be by her side while I’m at the Texas state trooper academy and when I most need her during my quarantine and stressing out she decides to leave me after I taught her with respect spoiled her and gave her all my love and she decided to ended quickly. This really helped me to get back on my feet
Damn man that sounds rough! But you just gotta keep moving forward, especially in these hard times! I'm glad I could help you just a little with my video!💪
The girl I love left me when I needed her the most too after I was there for her and didn't leave her. I blamed myself, it took my parents to get me to see it wasn't my fault she hurt me and left me I was there for her and cared
I’m also in a trooper academy and my girl left me. Can’t even explain how tough things are now that she’s gone
Stay strong brother
@@oimate9628 I’m in the academy in New Jersey too and my ex just left soo I’m right there with you.
I'm devasted. My 9 year relationship was everything for me.. my future.. she broke up "out of the blue". Blamed me for everything... it hurts so much , I'm 34 she was 33... no kids and no marriage as we wanted...
Thx for the motivation...
Small update: nearly 4 months after the break up... for someone who ever pretended to stay on my side, no matter what... she shows that she doesn't even cares if her "husband" , now stranger, even lives...
I know everything sucks and doesn't seem very good! But you have to look on the bright side! You are still 34 years YOUNG and now you are COMPLETELY free to do whatever you want. Now is your time to really expand on your horizon and learn a lot about yourself and the world 💪
I'm sorry brother just work on yourself now it's for the best delete everything you got of her it will help you it will hurt but you will keep moving forward . Stay strong 💪
Hit the gym and focus on being the best version of yourself, make some money and watch them line up when they smell the strive for excellence.
Focus on yourself brother. Please treat yourself. Grow, be strong 💪 We will be here for you if you need us. We have to stand together.
Thank you all guys... just realise that the woman I had, probably was emotionally disconnecting months ago...
I try hard to build me up, but I struggle a lot, thinking about her...
A man is loyal until death, could even take a bullet for her, but doing this to me breaks me down and it destroys my soul...
Thank you again guys ...
She broke me down to a billion pieces I did everything for her while I did nothing for myself. I don't deserve this but I will not let this make my heart hard and dark I will be the same loving and genuine man I am . This video helps me alot and I watch it everyday THANK YOU!
Can you imagine a billion pieces when they come back to one piece how strong is that piece wow
Today my girlfriend ghosted me... I cried for 3 hours straight, but then rage and insanity replaced my overwhelming sadness, the pain, the burning pain I felt in my heart, it made me want to train harder, become better and prove her wrong. And most of all, made me want to become better, improve. Thanks for this.
I really needed to hear this. I was with my ex since 2015, lots of ups and downs, but always committed to being a better man. Committed to building a healthy life together. I didn't realize how unhealthy it had become and blamed myself for any issues, when it was her issues that she projected onto me. She left last month out of nowhere as the relationship rapidly went downhill. Now I'm waking up and realize she was never the person she presented herself to be. I need to let her go, she gives me false hope that eventually we will work out, while at the same time she keeps her options open for something better. I do love her, but I need to love myself more. Its the hardest thing I've done.
All I can say it... prioritize yourself man 💪 Set yourself first
Well u r lucky that atleaat you have an ex...imagine all those people who can't even reach that stage...just endless crushes and fantasies and obsessions in their brain...and eventually taking their lives
@@realzhella6817 No one is ever lucky to lose someone they love. No matter the state of the relationship. Life is always doing things for reasons, and I sincerely hope to anyone who hasn't been so lucky to meet someone to love, that they get that experience. Though losing someone you love through anyway is never an easy thing, and is not something ever to be lucky to have. To those who took their lives at this, I can't help. Though anyone who is sad enough to have that want or feel like that's the right thing, I'll fully say it's not. Build yourself up, you're the foundation of your relationship as well as your partner. Remember your own identity, as well as yourself as a couple and that will make you feel better when you break up. If you never make it to a relationship, wait to find the person who you can be with, or are meant to be with. Love was never made to be an easy thing, because it's not love when it's off the spur of the moment. That's ignorance.
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Jock Willink is so right on this. Especially for people like me, who have anxiously-preoccupied attachment to people. I fight with a realisation that people are not as in a fairytales stories i my head for months now, and it still hurts so much, my mind being in an inner conflict each day. Me being an old man already. But based on a series of shattering events in my life that happened in a short amount of time, I just can not return to old romantic, fabulous fairytales. Still not knowing where this is all going for me, I just know, I have to keep walking.
14yrs married, she left, broke up and haven’t talked for over a month. Kept myself busy at work and the gym. Still missing her, but gotta move past it, hopefully soon.
14 years!? Kids? How r use doing?
“If you take action with your body your mind will follow” is the truest thing I heard in this video. There’s going to be days when you feel like curling up in the fetal position and want to do nothing and die but those days are when it’s most important to get up and do something productive. Even something small like picking up the garbage in your room. Just something you can hang your hat on and eventually you can start stringing enough of the small things together to feel like you’re bettering yourself which will make you feel better. I came back to this video to share because I was in the hole a few months ago and that’s the best advice you can follow to get out of it
I agree with this completely! More people need to realize and implement this, because it will drastically improve your life 💪
I’m currently suffering from heartbreak that happened recently, and I’m trying to get over it, and improve on myself. Diving into my physical exercises, boxing, College studies, and my wellbeing.
me too man just lost my favourite person ever. I took her for granted now I lost it all
@@strictlysilly9867 I’m sorry to hear that man. I know it ain’t easy, I’m still dealing with it. It’s just one of those kick in the dick type situations. The only thing I can suggest to help, is the same as what was suggested to me. Try keep busy, take up hobbies, or if you already have hobbies, throw yourself into them, and just try and work on yourself. Stay strong 👑
@@thelegend3965 Thanks I appreciate you bro, I’ll definitely start working on myself more❤️
@@strictlysilly9867 remember, right now we aren’t in our primes, but there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as you work on yourself, and put the effort in to elevate yourself to become a better, and stronger individual, then you can take pride in yourself, that you didn’t let the pain and struggles in your life break you, but rather you used that pain to make you better individual. That’s all any of us can do. Not let out pain hold us back, but rather use it as motivation to elevate us to a higher status. I hope everything work out well for you 🤘🏻
@@thelegend3965 Thanks a lot it’s really helpful to know that someone is going through the same thing as me❤️. Stay strong bro you’re a king for helping me 👑
I pray for everyone going thru pain and hope this video helps I know it helps me move on I did build a perfect person in my mind after a decade and it was fake I refused to acknowledge the truth grind brothers be strong life is awesome never give up
True words spoken brother... I've been through this dark side, had my 45 to my head and thank God i didn't pull the trigger... I made a commitment to myself, by taking a 2 year break from dating, using the" newfound time i had" making me better in every aspect of my life, going harder in the gym, my business. When i found the wonderful wife i have now i was in the shape of my life physically, emotionally and financially. That was 10 years ago... it's all mental, that painful past won't be painful one day. You'll actually look back and say I'm glad that didn't work out.
Exactly my man! Happy to hear your story. Actually you are kind of happy about the hardship you had because it makes you the more complete person later in life! Keep it up 💪
I find peace in this. Thanks so much. I hope I have this same testimony in a few years time
This is awesome to hear man, thanks.
3 years after being diagnosed with Stockholm syndrom hit a bottom and using these videos to remind me of the basic reality
"The person that you built in your mind , that person doesn't actually exists. they aren't real. She wasn't who she appeared to be . that's your memory. That's what you built in your head" That part hardly hit. Thank you!
I wanted to say thank you
I found out 2 days ago that my girlfriend (of almost 1 year) had anothere relationship behind my back for 2 months. I basically had only a few relationship, almost all of them ended simmilar and i was doubling down on this one. I used to read bed time stories to her when she was stressed out and this was my reward.
Uni exams are close and i did not know how to deal with this, i somehow ended here and i realised that you are right. I did not lost a person that existed, i losta person that i created in my mind. That actually helped me a lot and i already fell better. I haven't completely recover of course, but i already have made plans on how to move on and where to focous.
Thanks again, i will remember those words and those advices and hope that i never have to revisit this video.
Realizing that I've been living in an emotional fantasy for almost a year is hard, but all the people and relationships I've let slip and all the time wasted is what hurts to the core. I figured out I haven't exactly been in reality just a couple days ago and this was extremely needed, here's hoping tomorrow will be a breath of fresh air when I rejoin with you all. Best wishes to everyone here, right now 💪
Heartbreak is hard, really hard, especially if you still love the person truly. But the thing is we need to experience every emotion fully, so that we can appreciate the good when it happens.
Exactly! I love that way of thinking 💪
bro, thanks for this clip, its going to be my answer on my grief
Heartbreak makes us wiser, stay strong bois and ladies.
Indeed! Getting stronger is never bad!
This is what I need...I'm glad to see someone made a video to support the guys.. All the time, people just drop a quote or a video in favour of girls.. What are men then... A stone hearted so that girls dump us... Crap... Men do have hearts which are brave and sensitive at the same time....
Exactly! Happy you got something positive from my video 💪
Oh this is very true. It took me decades to learn this. I was married to a woman for almost 30 years who I believe loved me and cared about me when in reality she was a very damaged person due to being abused as a child and was a very toxic person. In my mind I saw her as a loving caring person but in reality she was far from it over the years she obtained seven restraining orders and filed for divorce four times against me. My life was a roller coaster, not much happiness, and very traumatic. But I was so blind to this because in my mind I just believed she loved me and really cared about me but now I understand that was not reality just some mental construct I had of her. I look back over pictures and videos of our family over the last few decades and it’s amazing how many of them she is not in there because we were fighting or quarreling or because she ran and took off periodically. My mother had to remind me just how bad it was all of the crazy antics and drama we had experience over the years. The advice given in this video is on point is very true I hope it helps others the way it helped me. Thank you and God bless.
I've been there too brother. One of my coworkers said to me "Hurt People hurt people". It is so true.
Thank you for sharing 💪
I went through this. It's very true. I thought she was the one but it really was just an illusion of what i built in my mind. I went through such brutal mental and heartache in 2019 and 2020 but i knew i had to cut her off completely and forever because of betrayal. No matter how much crying and pleading they do to try and keep you , once you are betrayed and abused it's over. And now you are left to refocus and find out who you are and rebuild yourself. It's not a victory but a learning experience that truly changes you because of what you experienced. I will never let anything or anybody get that close to ever disrespect me again. And i will move on a stronger man now.
Exactly how I feel myself. Well written and I appreciate the good advice for anyone out there watching. Seems like you have learned a lot about yourself in those hard times💪
@@PromoteGreatness Thank you
I’ve been listening to this everyday. I have the discipline and this is just the extra motivation I need. Spent years in one of the most emotionally abusive relationships I have ever experienced. Take care of yourselves, don’t stay stuck somewhere you aren’t meant to be. Get after it 💪