Do you get jealous easily? ⏲️ 6 Minute English
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- Do you get jealous if one of your friends gives more attention to someone else? Do you keep checking whether your partner is becoming too friendly with someone? Sam and Neil hear experts talking about jealousy and envy. And, as usual, they teach you vocabulary along the way.
❓❓❓This week's question
The expression ‘the green-eyed monster’ comes from a speech in one of William Shakespeare’s most famous plays, but which one?
a) Romeo and Juliet
b) Hamlet
c) Othello
Listen to the programme to find out the answer.
Vocabulary
✔️the green-eyed monster
(British English) jealousy or envy
✔️significant other
wife, husband or other romantic partner who you are in a long-term relationship with
✔️flirting
behaving as if you are sexually attracted to someone but playfully rather than with serious intentions
✔️envy
wanting to have the possessions or qualities that someone else has
✔️pill
medicine in the form of small tablet which you swallow
✔️cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
type of therapy which helps people deal with their emotional and behavioural problems by changing the way they think about them
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Vocabulary from this video BBC 6-minute English "Do you get jealous easily?":
- Jealous (adj) - feeling or showing envy; having feelings of dislike for any possible rivals (especially in love)
Jealousy (n) - a feeling of unhappiness and anger because someone has something or someone that you want.
Green-eyed monster = jealousy.
Jealousy is a feeling involving 3 people yourself, your loved one, and someone else.
Exp: Humans have struggled with jealousy for thousands of years. Jealousy damages friendships, destroys relationships, and can even become a motive for murder.
- Motive (n) - a reason for doing something.
- To take someone's mind off something (idiom) - to stop someone from worrying or thinking about a problem or pain, often by forcing them to think about other things.
Exp: Feeling jealous is no fun. You need to take your mind off it.
- Significant other (n) - any kind of romantic partner with who you are in a long-term relationship, such as wives, husbands, ...
Exp: She lives with her significant other in the UK.
- Envy (n) - an emotion of wanting what someone else has.
Envious (adj) - a feeling of envy.
Envy (v) - to wish that you had something that another person has.
Exp: Envy is an emotion that gets you to act when someone has something you want, and you have to somehow get that from them, then you feel envious.
I envy her ability to talk to people she's never met before.
Feeling envious of someone's possessions such as a new car, their achievement, or personal quality like being funny, good looking.
- Flirt (v) - to behave as if you are sexually attracted to someone, although not seriously.
To flirt with someone.
- A pill (n) - a medicine in a form of a small tablet that you swallow.
- Cognitive behavioral therapy (n) - is a type of therapy that helps people to deal with their emotions by changing how they think about things.
Applied paragraph:
Jealousy or feeling jealous is no fun, instead, you could try to take your mind off it. In fact, humans have struggled with jealousy for thousands of years. Jealousy damages friendships, destroys relationships, and can even be a motive for murder. There is a common misunderstanding between feelings of jealousy and feelings of envy. When you feel envious, you want something that others have, and you feel the need to obtain it from them. Envy involves two people, including yourself and someone else. In contrast, feelings of jealousy involve three people, including yourself, your loved one, and someone else. For example, you may experience jealousy when someone flirts with your significant other, while you may feel envious of someone's possessions, such as a new house, or their personal qualities, such as good looks or a great sense of humor. If you are struggling with feelings of jealousy, scientists suggest that cognitive-behavioral therapy could help you deal with your emotions by changing the way you think about things. So, do not let the green-eyed monster inside you damage your relationships with your loved ones.
Thanks much for this video. Have a nice weekend.
My experience tells me that being jealous of someone might not always be a bad thing. Sometimes being jealous of another person might make us want to be better than that person.
Do you mean envious which is between 2 people?
That's an interesting idea :)
@@eatlessandmovemore I created a short story. It should make it more clear.
Before, Neil always went to lunch with Rob. But now, Neil goes to lunch with Tom because they want to practice speaking Japanese. Rob is jealous of Tom, so Rob learns Japanese, and now, the three all go to lunch together.
But what if you always feel jealous and not satisfied with yourself? You never happy with the result you achieved
@@eatlessandmovemoreThis difference in the definition is crucial. Envious =2 x Jealous =3. Great.
I do believe that by stop comparing yourself with others, you eventually end up being confident in your skin.. The more you compare yourself with others, the more you get physically and mentally exhausted..
It's never ever late to turn our downsides into upsides..
Thank you for make my English better every day
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VOCABULARY FORM VIDEO "Do you get jealous easily? - 6 Minute English”
1. Murder: the crime of intentionally killing a person
- Murder of
- Get away with murder
- Be murder
- Be murder on sth
2. Meanwhile: while something else is happening
= in the meanwhile = while
3. Threatened : to say that you will cause someone harm or trouble if they do not do what you want
- threaten to do something
- threaten somebody with something
- be threatened with something
- threaten (that)
4. Envious: wanting something that someone else has → jealous
- envious of
5. Horrid = nasty: very unpleasant
EX: a horrid smell
6. Playful: very active, happy, and wanting to have fun
EX: a playful little dog
7. The green-eyed monster: (British English) jealousy or envy
8. Significant other: wife, husband or other romantic partner who you are in a long-term relationship with
9. Flirting: behaving as if you are sexually attracted to someone but playfully rather than with serious intentions
10. Envy: wanting to have the possessions or qualities that someone else has
11. Pill: medicine in the form of small tablet which you swallow
12. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT): type of therapy which helps people deal with their emotional and behavioural problems by changing the way they think about them
13. Struggle with
14. Harmonise with
15. Clinical psychologist
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When I was younger I used to get jealous really easily. I think it happened because I wasn't confident in myself and thought that there had been so many people around cable to replace me. But in reality it was the absolutely different situation and, fortunately, my close people managed to persuade me! I totally understand people who struggle with jealousy, but I'm also convinced that there is so much happiness and fun without this feeling
I agree with you. We often went through that in our childhood but with good confirmation from our caregivers, we could overcom that a bit.
That’s part of your genes and of course you can try to learn to control certain behaviours that might be harmful not only to yourself but to others as well.
What amazing topic and vocab!
Jealousy could be even worse than a green-eye monster because it destroys your mind, the trust in your partner . Envy and jealously look similar but the difference is the first one involve 2 people instead 3 of them. A common example is when you think your partner is flirting with someone else .
Fortunately, nowadays people have the chance of getting rid of it by CBT, changing the way they handle their emotions and behavior.
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What a nice explanation
Good job
very helpful
I think the husband and wife, and other relationships get jealous easily.
I saw couples jealous easily.
It was an interesting topic. I like this.
Thanks for the video
I found out a lot of new useful words
This is a really interesting topic! Thanks for sharing ⭐🙌🏻
Glad you enjoyed it!
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1:20 i love it
Envy wanting what someone else has.
You can be envious with someone's possessions like a new car or their achievements like promotion at work or a personal quality being funny or good looking.
Interesting topic! :)
It depends 😊
Firstly, thanks for this video and this was great again. I think that jealous benefits loads of people , if we don't overdose this feeling. Because the thing that develops and competes us is feeling of jealous, so when we know this function significantly and we can discriminate between envy and jealousy. We can come to one stage that we acquire everything.
Thanks BBC
My summary while listening
When people feel jealous, we see them experience a case of the green-eyed monster. Jealousy can lead to negative consequences, damaging friendships and destroying relationships. Sometimes it can become a motive for murder.
According to Dr. Alex Mielke, a psychologist, people feel jealous when their relationships with their family members, friends or significant other are threatened with the presence of someone else. This is different from envy, which makes you want something that other people have.
Also, from the viewpoint of Dr. Johan Ahlen, a clinical psychologist, jealousy cannot be cured by taking a pill, unfortunately. Instead, he recommends cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT for short which helps people deal with their emotions by changing how they think about things.
Finally, I knew the difference between jealousy and envy 😂
This is an interesting subject.
Someone who is jealous has high ego.
There is no cure and therapy for that.
In a romantic relationship, there is also a question of trust and honesty and of course, self-ego.
If your significant other hurts your ego, your relationship will go pear shape. It is as simple as that.
Jealousy is an uncomfortable feeling to us. But also it seems dangerous sometimes. This feeling can cause anxiety and stress on people. People can't sleep well at night, they might have insomnia. Jealousy can cause a lot of problematical situations. Psychologists can explain why people often feel this way. The reason is when person doesn't believe in himself, he try to be jealousy to somebody. Jealousy can be in couple, who don't trust to each other. People actually can cheat, that's why people have this emotion i think
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Have you always done that? :)
Pretty awesome,
Being jealous is OK. In my opinion, If person gets jealous easily this shows that person is in love. And another person shouldn't make that person jealous, anyways
Nice video❤🎉
Glad you liked it!
in brief:
In this episode of 6 Minute English from BBC Learning English, Sam and Neil discuss jealousy, also known as the green-eyed monster. Jealousy can damage friendships, relationships, and even lead to murder. The conversation focuses on the difference between jealousy and envy, and how to manage these emotions. They mention that cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help people deal with jealousy by changing the way they think about things. The term "green-eyed monster" comes from Shakespeare's play Othello.
1:28: for many people .....
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Where Can I see the text ?
C. Othello
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It's time to start the mindfulness..🧘🏼bye bye jealousy.👋😂
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Forgiveness can kill jealous.
Jealousy* great writing! 🙌🏻
There's is really a pill for treating jealousy. Neuroleptics. Or antypsychotics. Light kind of the medcine is Eglonil or Sulpiride.
That's interesting :)
After watching this video, I conclude that jealousy and envy can both damage relationships between people. But in my opinion, in some cases jealousy is love signal because you only get jealous with your friends and significant other. On the other hand, envy is pure harmful, it's the feeling of wanting things other deserve more than you.
Soooo, Is there anything not correct in these sentences? Thanks for reading.
Good sentences :) Careful though - we say 'jealous OF someone'.
Does somebody can help me how can I see the text ?
Open your eyes, open your mind, then you will be less jealous
Can i listen this talks to improve my ielts listening
Yes u can
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Don't be jealous, you should release your lover and find next one😊
Maybe the most useless feeling is envy. I don't agree envy makes us act.On the contrary,an envious person suffer because of neighbor welfare
How to get rid of jealousy?
how can i download the transcript?
You'll be able to download the transcript here: www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/features/6-minute-english_2023/ep-230330
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Hi 👋 Try this link - www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/features/6-minute-english_2023/ep-230330
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Envy wanting what someone has like promotion at work
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Don’t be jealous of others, copy them.
Neil has a case of the green-eyed monster or we can say jealous because of his friend Alicia who has lunch with her new friend jenny instead of him 😅. But jealous destroyed relationships Whatever the nature of the relationship wife and husband, a girl friend and a boyfriend, ... But it's not easy . We have two types of this feeling firstly we have jealousy when you feel like another person steals something of yours and envy when you be envious when someone else does something you want or it's a dream for you or has good luck. So jealousy involves 3 people you, your partner and someone else, whereas envy involves just two you and another person who has something you want. But there are a solution instead of feeling jealous try to feeling happy for her is more good of green-eyed monster. And to live a beautiful story for a long term try to understand and think well of your partner.
I need have been a doctor. Is this sentence correct?
I need to go to a doctor/ I needed to go to the doctor/ I had to go to the doctor/ I should have been a doctor. I'm not sure if you meant one of those options :)
@@andreafixes I should have been a doctor is correct. But is need to have been correct here?
@@skmehebub7262 no, it's either "I should have been a doctor" or "I needed to have been a doctor". :)
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Othello, just be taught in literature class. XD
Sam
Hello. This is 6 Minute English from BBC Learning English. I’m Sam.
Neil
And I’m Neil.
Sam
Your friend, Alicia, phoned and left you a message for you, Neil. She’s sorry but she has to cancel lunch today. I think she’s going with Jenny, instead.
Neil
That’s the third time this week they’ve had lunch together! Are they best friends now?
Sam
It sounds like Neil has a case of the green-eyed monster, in other words, jealousy - the fear that someone else may take something you think is yours. Humans have struggled with jealousy for thousands of years. Jealousy damages friendships, destroys relationships, and can even become a motive for murder.
Neil
In this programme, we’ll discuss jealousy to find out happens when the green-eyed monster raises its ugly head. And, as usual, we’ll be learning some useful new vocabulary. Meanwhile, my friend Alicia will be having lunch with Jenny instead of me…
Sam
Feeling jealous is no fun. Maybe this question will take your mind off it. The expression ‘the green-eyed monster’ comes from a speech in one of William Shakespeare’s most famous plays, but which one? Is it:
a) Romeo and Juliet?
b) Hamlet? or,
c) Othello?
Neil
I think the answer is Othello.
Sam
OK, Neil. I’ll reveal the answer later in the programme. For many people, feelings of jealousy occur in romantic relationships. Here psychologist, Dr Alex Mielke,explains whyto BBC World Service programme, CrowdScience.
Dr Alex Mielke
So you have a friend, a significant other, your parents… and you have the feeling that this relationship is threatened by someone else starting some form of relationship with them, starting a new friendship, you know, flirting with them and so on, which is different from envy, for example, which is probably the emotion that gets you to act when someone has something you want and you have to somehow get that from them - that’s when you feel envious.
Neil
Jealousy can be a problem for husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, or anyone involved in a romantic relationship. Dr Mielke uses the term, significant other, to describe any kind of romantic partner who you have a long-term relationship with.
Sam
You might feel jealous if someone flirts with your partner. Flirting is when you behave as if you are sexually attracted to someone but in a playful way rather than with serious intentions.
Neil
Dr Mielke also notes the difference between two words people often confuse: jealousy, and a similar term, envy - wanting what someone else has. You could be envious of someone’s possessions like a new car, their achievements like promotion at work, or a personal quality like being funny or good-looking.
Sam
So, jealousy involves three people - you, your loved one, and someone else - whereas envy involves just two - you and the person who has something you want. But while these emotions are easy to define, they can be very difficult to manage.
Neil
Jealousy can lead to controlling behaviour, like checking your partner’s text messages or monitoring who they see, behaviour which damages relationships. But unlike other psychological problems such as anxiety or obsessive-compulsive disorder, many do not feel brave enough to ask for help with their jealousy.
Sam
So, what can people who struggle with jealousy do? That’s the question Caroline Steel, presenter of BBC World Service programme, CrowdScience, asked clinical psychologist, Dr Johan Ahlen.
Caroline Steel
If there was sort of an ideal future for people looking for help with their jealousy, what would it be like? Could there be a pill? Or would it be a specific therapy? Or what’s kind of a realistic ideal future?
Dr Johan Ahlen
I believe that some kind of cognitive behavioural therapy where you work with decreasing this monitoring and checking behaviours like having a plan for how to do that because that's not easy. And also, at the same time increasing activities or behaviours that harmonise with how you want to become.
Neil
Unfortunately, Dr Ahlen says jealousy cannot be cured by taking a pill - medicine in the form of a small tablet that you swallow.
Sam
Instead, he recommends cognitive behavioural therapy, or CBT for short, a therapy which helps people deal with their emotions by changing how they think about things. Instead of feeling jealous that your best friend is spending time with someone else, try feeling happy that she’s made a new friend.
Neil
Good idea - plus I won’t have that horrid feeling of the green-eyed monster inside! Speaking of which, it’s time to reveal the answer to your question, Sam.
Sam
I asked which famous Shakespearian play first described jealousy as ‘the green-eyed monster’.
Neil
I said it was Othello. So, was I right?
Sam
Othello was the correct answer! Othello becomes so jealous that he murders his wife, Desdemona, before killing himself. If only he’d had some therapy! Right, let’s recap the vocabulary from this programme on the green-eyed monster, another name for jealousy.
Neil
A significant other is a wife, husband or other romantic partner who you are in a long-term relationship with.
Sam
Flirting means playfully pretending you are sexually attracted to someone.
Neil
The emotion envy means wanting what someone else has.
Sam
A pill is medicine in the form of a small tablet which you swallow.
Neil
And finally, cognitive behavioural therapy or CBT is a type of therapy where people are encouraged to change the way they think about their emotional and behavioural problems. Once again, our six minutes are up. Join us again soon for more emotional support as well as new and useful vocabulary here at 6 Minute English. Bye for now!
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I don't really have a girlfriend so I'm not jealous
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Yes I do , but with kitten 🤡every time I see someone grab cat I be jealous, I fell like all cats are mine 🤡
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Jealous is not always bed, you need to be jealous on some way.
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Thanks for the video
I found out a lot of new useful words