6:00 stream starts, intro to "How to Raise a Healthy Gamer" which is released March 12, 2024 14:00 limiting iPad use for 5-year-old, etiquette for gifting technology, introducing concept of diminishing marginal returns to kids 28:47 defiance, cognitive fatigue, limbic system and emotional dysregulation, creating and practicing strategies/habit structures prior to conflict occurring 54:00 nagging, more examples of creating and practicing strategies/habit structures, helping a child make connections about why we do chores 1:16:40 impulsive expression of thoughts vs. intentionally lying, practicing impact of words and empathy 1:35:40 parent and child both needing to be right, jumping to conclusions 1:45:55 should I raise my kid exposed to videogames or not? 1:59:00 livestream summary thoughts
0:00: ⚖ Challenges of parenting kids with ADHD, impact of technology addiction, building alliances, and setting limits on screen time. 16:35: 💡 Tips for parents on managing children's technology usage and fostering healthy habits. 30:50: 🧠 Insights on understanding and parenting children with ADHD, focusing on cognitive exhaustion, emotional intensity, and attentional problems. 36:42: 🧠 Insights on managing ADHD in children through understanding brain function and building habits. 47:03: 💡 Effective strategies for parents of children with ADHD to build good habits and avoid nagging. 57:30: ⚡ Effective strategies for parenting children with ADHD to promote learning and independence. 1:16:46: ⚖ Parent seeking advice on 9-year-old ADHD son lying about her death, struggling with proper response and hurt feelings. 1:17:51: 💡 Insights on understanding and parenting children with ADHD, focusing on impulsivity and empathy challenges. 1:35:15: 💡 Insights on parenting a 10-year-old, addressing ego, and understanding child reasoning. 1:41:00: ⚖ Parenting dilemma on allowing gaming exposure to children, emphasizing balance, understanding, and healthy habits. 1:50:35: ⚖ Challenges of modern parenting in the digital age and the importance of educating parents on guiding children's gaming habits. 2:03:04: 💬 Insights on cultural parenting differences, advocating for ADHD evaluation, and book promotion. 2:10:56: ⚡ Discussion on upcoming book release, pre-order bonuses, addressing audience questions, and contact policy.
I need to get your book. I was born 1995, and hopped into gaming as soon as I could hold a controller. With my son being 5yrs old now, I am fighting the iPad for my son. So this video resonated with me so much. I'm not sure if me or my son has ADHD, or if anyone else in my family struggles with it, but still, this is a very mentally and emotionally exhausting era to be in, and the tip of falling on habits is super helpful.
I feel like even if nobody in a situation has ADHD, these strategies seem like they would still work pretty well in general. Good luck with everything, I can't imagine how tough it would be to be a parent these days
@@rachelgilbert3164 you got that right. Thanks! This is new for him, but his mood is so much better when I limit his usage. We also bond more with board games or toys. Even if he wanted to play his Minecraft game or anything other than UA-cam. He’s a great kid and if he’s not over stimulated, he’s able to function and listen perfectly. I try to explain as much as I can to a 5yr old 😅
Mucus is a glyco-protein so the lemon denatures (cooks, effectively) the protein part. It clumps up making it easier to cough out and also keeps it from coating your throat.
Attention was a confusing task to me. Because my parents (mostly mom) were exasperated when I didn't get messages and act on instructions, but they were also very vocally frustrated with me and loudly demanding I look at them when they talk to me, and I was... 100% engaged in demonstrating that I was paying attention. And as soon as they stop talking, the task is completed. I have paid attention. Big intrusion in whatever I was doing, imposition demanding a specific posture, then, like an intense gust of wind, the moment passes and I turn back to my own world again. That and a sense of the anger directed at me is... all I retain.
I did become aware of my attention difficulties, but was being actively compliant and quiet so nobody saw it as adhd, and I did not have a cooperative process with my parents to figure out how to be better at attention. (Just the demand: stop not doing it, start doing it.) So I knew I was failing, but had no idea what to do about it. It feels like... I'm on a train, and somebody outside the train is talking to me, and I roll on by, hearing the message but getting carried away. I feel (in retrospect, and in adult experience) like I need to step off of whatever train I happen to be on. Make myself still, not on my way anywhere, not about anything. Then, I can have some information presented to me. A task, even.
I’m an American single mom working on moving to Japan with my now-8-yr-old son in a couple years, and THANK YOU for mentioning the cosleeping thing, because he still sleeps with me, and my parents and some other people get weird about it and like… stop it. We’re both AuDHD, and there’s literally no reason that I NEED to force him to go sleep in his own bed.
Please look into and cover the effects of black mold & ADHD!!! I'm in the exact same situation and have thought that might be the case but hearing someone else ask it made me feel so much less alone!! I would love to hear your thoughts on whatever you discover there.
I don’t have kids but i do agree that parents’ job is to teach. What a great stream. Parenting is not easy and all people can try to is their best but with good advice the chance of success is higher. There’s much i learned from this for the tine when i have kids.
My mom isn't neurodivergent like I am, but she has this planner and is always "if it's not in my planner it doesn't exist." so when I was given planners at school in Middle school and High school for the school year she used that to help teach me how to use it properly. Later on when I hit high school I got a corkboard and I put assignments and stuff on it. It was there above my bed and always in my face. Things like "Homework Folders" and such can work especially well.
Thank you for what you do Dr. K. You're a blessing to this community. I just pre-ordered 3 copies of your book!! I'm looking forward to reading it even though I don't have a child ... yet. I plan on giving the other 2 copies to some coworkers who I think could benefit from it. One again, I love what you're doing! Keep up the great work man!
holy crap that lemon juice analogy is great. I'm unemployed, middle aged, but finally starting to find strategies that work for me and trying to work on those while I don't have work exhausting me. I've always been huge into video games, but one thing I noticed recently was if I wake up and video game all afternoon, by the evening I just kinda feel shitty. Often my mood is lower, I'm mroe mentally exhausted etc. The only way I really made this correlation was that for a while I got really into a new hobby away from the computer, I did this hobby and either didn't video game, or video games much later in the evening. My mood for that month was at an all time high. Then one day I woke up, thought fuck it and played a game all afternoon and instantly realised the huge change in my mood that night. Next day I video gamed all afternoon again; low mood by evening. I'm now trying to practice better management of gaming, so I save that time for the evening and it does help somewhat. I'd never even thought about how something like that could be squeezing all my juice out before I'm even done with a day.
I live in Ireland. It’s raining a good bit of the time so outside in the rain is fun for no one. When my kids were smaller, now 16 and 11, jumping in puddles and rainy day stuff was ok. Now they just want to be connected to their friends but also watching TV as well as the phone. My kid’s were never able to play in their own so technology gave me a break from doing biting kid’s stuff. I also have ADHD so doing 2 hours of play doh was absolute torture.
Diagnosed ADHD at age 12, that "I'm free at last!" and "one more thing? You're taking that awaaay!!" analogy for after-homework details is *exactly* what I feel every single time even though I'm not a child anymore. Stuff like this is what proves your credentials against naysayers in my book. Liked and shared ❤
I’d absolutely love to hear your findings and your perspective on adhd and eating. But also thank you so much for this livestream conversation you had. I look forward to ordering your book…my kids are in online school and do a basic amount of gaming and so I need some good insight for parenting with this dynamic which is so very different than what I had as a kid.
Thank you so much! I have ADHD. So does my son, I’ve done real well in some areas and realize I didn’t help build the skills necessary to do his class work. He’s 13. I made a conscious decision not to nag my husband. I realized that he did stuff at his Mom’s as a kid cause she always reminded him to clean up after himself.
Dr. K, have you considered trying to make close-caption translations in other languages available?? Heck, I'd volunteer to help with Spanish but don't know how to go about it. There's a lot of information that is not available in that language that explains ADHD behaviors that have deeply impacted relationships with family like them assuming malice where there is forgetfulness which leads to resentment from both parties but didn't have the insight to communicate or explain when they happened and as much as would like to send them videos like this as a resource, they wouldn't be able to understand any of it because of the language barrier.
I would set alarms. Reminders pop up and go away if dismissed. Alarms can be snoozed quite a few times and I will hear them from another room. I can hold home button on phone and say "set alarm called laundry for one and a half hours" and then I can literally forget about it and go play video games or whatever until the alarm goes off. Don't set too many alarms at once. START SMALL. If you get overwhelmed and start ignoring alarms it becomes a negative habit. Don't go do anything that takes a huge amount of time while waiting. Read a book, play a quick round of a game. Measure and record how long games take so you have a better idea of if a certain game can be played between alarms. Monster Hunter has a 45 min MAX timer per quest. I will not join a quest if I have a 30 minute alarm. If you are doing something, ask if it can wait, then only snooze if it's important, like food on the stove.
Looking for information. I am a mom with tech addiction and I need to know how to raise my sons and reraise myself to interact with technology (game, internet, social media, media content, steaming platform,...) in a healthy/constructive/cooperative way and not retrictive/authoritarian/forbidden mind set. Ordered the book. Looking foward reading it.
I just pre-ordered! This subject has been on my mind for awhile but I just felt lost and powerless over rampant electronics. Because of the generation we were born into we didn’t have any modeling on how to handle it all. It’s exhausting to try to be someone else’s self-control. Looking forward to it!
14:31 easy, either take away the ipad all together and put into good use (or sell it) or have a kid related app which locks the ipad and unlocks it for certain hours you deem ok for the child to use it.
It sounds like nanny McPhee. The kids say how they want to do it. With her magic they get their way but turned to 11 then seeing the consequence of that they work together to over come the problem. They come closer through over coming adversity together and learn the value in the way they were being asked to do something.
Love the video, here is a suggestion You should talk to Jonathan Decker from the Channel cinema therapy, Therapist talk to a therapist. Intresting concept if you ask mee✨
Is it ok if I share clips of this with my mom community on Facebook? You have solved so many potential parenting issues my husband is a horrible product of. I’ve always known what NOT to do but I now can see a clear path to managing my 6 year old in a healthy way without medication and I know several moms who would benefit greatly
1:14:54 omg this is what my mom did to me thru out my entire childhood😂and you know it, i was addicted to video game so bad that I graduated uni 5 years than I supposed to cuz of vid game
"often times kids with adhd have a different sence of humor" omg, this is so true. I see myself in this. The things that amuse me are so strange. Some awkward situation and I can laugh about it for hours xD
I'll tell you what it doubly sucks when the parent has ADHD. I'm putting in maximum effort to keep this ship afloat so when I see the papers not in the backpack AGAIN my tank is already empty and I've been pushing the car for a half mile. I thought I'd be more sympathetic, and I am in the easy moments, but the hard moments really hit hard.
Also I'm realising my mum's laid back approach to parenting helped my ADHD a fair bit when it came to learning coping mechanisms. She never wanted to nag, so if I didn't want to do something, she was very much in the "well, you can learn what the consequences are all by yourself". Meant at a very young age I could realise each action had a consequence, and that my mum wasn't gonna be there to wipe my ass after every single mistake. She was still there when I really asked for help, but when it came to shit like homework or getiting something done? She'd maybe mention it and that was it, if I forgot and went to school and got in trouble for no homework, that was my fault and no one elses. Edit: Also as an adult I'm finally coming to grips with the fact there is nothing wrong with asking for help and doing things mutually. I really struggle to get started on things like cleaning, but if I ensure I make it a group activity, it helps so much. Ensuring you do things WITH a kid with ADHD really does help imo. "DO UR CHORES!" can so easily be transferred into "ok if you could do the washing up, and I'll mop the floor, and we can have some music on and vibe", it's a totally different and life changing kinda approach.
Make your schedule have the same type of format every day. So blockout specific times of every day for "tasks" so your brain gets used to being checked in at certain times. Every day do something of a certain category at 10am and 7pm. Create an accountability group/buddy to do the things with. Those are just some ideas
my partner was not raised by parents and the advice on how to teach how to flush a toilet literally suits me very well :) Looks like I'm now the parent of a 40 year old gamer with ADHD and I need this book too
Concerning Gaming being a distraction / not useful for life. So I was pretty into Gaming when I was a young teen. Also thought it might be a Career path for me. At around 16, this shifted towards Filmmaking and recreationally / socially I was more interested in going out, making music, which peaked at me at 19 not even having any Device like a PC / Console. Skip forward to 26. I get a new Job as a Producer in Gaming media. I remember vividly preparing for a project reading up / studying how WoW worked, while thinking back that when WoW got popular among my friends, I stayed away from it thinking it was a colossal time-waster. Takeaway: You never know what things might end up being useful, as long as you consume in moderation most things can be worthwhile.
You are both creating a straw man and a false equivalency here. Dr K isn’t at all saying “ never let your kids play games” Dr is saying you need to help your kid create healthy boundaries around games. Letting your kid play ledge of legends for 18 hours a day because it improves reflexes is a problem. Yes they are getting better reflexes but at the cost of a lot of other important things. This also isn’t just about video games it’s about technology in general. Social media Tik Tok etc. Just because people ( not all people I would add) used to do things that were unhealthy doesn’t mean that the thing that is less unhealthy is good.
Remember the stream with IronMouse? I wonder if it would be possible for you to contact Dokibird. The girl probably needs it after what has transpired in the last couple weeks. I think it would help, even if a little bit.
i often tell something to my adhd older sister and she has developed a reflex pf answering yes even though she didnt understand a single thing that i said making it hard to know whether she got it or not.
I'm 36 and don't ever wanna have kids anyway it's not for me but as always educational stream by Dr k! One of the things about adhd at least in my case is that i failed maths and physics all the time in school despite the private math teacher i had for exams! At the time i was going through hell with it but now i understand why and what was hapening but still nobody knows nor wanna believe it... strangely maths/physics/numbers just dont go into my head!!
How would you deal with a parent who thinks they are the expert, that they think they don't need the expert but their judgment is good enough? Experts have been wrong before, they'll be wrong again.
The egotistical section has my anxiety super high... My two sons father is super egotistical and doesn't realize it no matter how much I pointed out. If I can't get him to see it, how am I going to keep my sons from learning his egotistical ways...
Wondering if Dr. K's book is something good to buy for someone's upcoming baby shower - after also buying something for them off their registry of course 🤔
Im sorry but gaming is more productive and helps with reaction time, dedication to projects and communication skills i lack. Video games alone has helped me through ALOT, more than drugs ever did! Heres a odd question for all of you here, what do you think our parents and others did 10,25,40,50 years ago or so? TV and radio. People used to sit outside in chairs smoking and drinking and listening to the radio and than going out drunk driving… yet those who play video games are portrayed as lazy and unmotivated or unproductive people which has truth to it but doesnt mean all gamers are this way vice versa with the radio statement but not as damaging as the repercussions that came with smoking packs of cigarettes endlessly doing nothing but getting cancer in the sun and inside the lungs.
I really suggest that you watch this video if you haven't already. It seems you are arguing against the thumbnail. Most of what Dr. K talks about in this video is about how anything addictive (tiktok, social media, games) can distract someone with ADHD, and how to set boundaries and have a good relationship with games and with social media. I used to express the same ideas that you do, and I still agree. But you have to agree that videogames and social media have gotten more addictive than TV, radio, and books ever could. When you click on the like button, it explodes in a burst of vibrant colors. Try it out on this video (you can always unlike). They've gameified liking a video. These things are crafted in a lab to drain your attention and drain your dopamine. This video DOES NOT perpetuate a stigma against video games. Dr. K plays video games. Please give it a shot.
Compared to? What? Doing nothing? Yeah sure. But compared to people who go out and exercise, learn practical skills, converse and meet with new people and explore the world first hand, you are nothing.
These parents are also being lazy by just putting the blame on videogames instead of teaching their kids about healthy boundaries. Yet they're the ones berating their kids for "being lazy". Talk about hypocrisy, these parents need to do better in adapting to the current times
All these reddit posts are incredible. These parents are obviously causing their children's problems! they've been doing it wrong for so long that now it will take them tons of time and effort to fix.
Does anyone else feels exhausted and annoyed just listening to all the hoops you have to jump through when raising a kids? For the love of god, can they not just figure out by themselves that the toilet needs to he flushed?
Put yourself in his shoes for a moment, could you consider if you'd really think it would be appropriate if you, yourself, were putting out general mental health content just like this video and someone said the same to you but said the god of some other religion was calling you to learn more about that religion and read their texts? Do you think you might find that a bit misplaced, at the very least? You're also assuming he hasn't done that, that he hasn't decided for himself what he believes, and that any of that should be up to anyone else to tell him what to do, unsolicited, just because his belief may not suit random other people. Put yourself in that position and see if you feel someone sticking that in the comments would really be okay, give it a good bit of thought.
@@kg6801 Misplaced would be this: - not acknowledging his good works - knowing the truth and keeping it for myself Jesus Christ was an actual person. He actualy died and he actualy rose from the dead on the third day bro. He accepts your choice if you deny him because he respects your free will. But I do not wish for you or dr. K to spend eternity away from his love and mercy.
6:00 stream starts, intro to "How to Raise a Healthy Gamer" which is released March 12, 2024
14:00 limiting iPad use for 5-year-old, etiquette for gifting technology, introducing concept of diminishing marginal returns to kids
28:47 defiance, cognitive fatigue, limbic system and emotional dysregulation, creating and practicing strategies/habit structures prior to conflict occurring
54:00 nagging, more examples of creating and practicing strategies/habit structures, helping a child make connections about why we do chores
1:16:40 impulsive expression of thoughts vs. intentionally lying, practicing impact of words and empathy
1:35:40 parent and child both needing to be right, jumping to conclusions
1:45:55 should I raise my kid exposed to videogames or not?
1:59:00 livestream summary thoughts
Thank you! Very helpful.
Stream starts at 06:00
Thank you. Hope your bloodline prosper.
thanks, hope both sides of your pillow are nice a cool every night
Thank you kind soul
our saviour
14:25 is more relevant tbh
0:00: ⚖ Challenges of parenting kids with ADHD, impact of technology addiction, building alliances, and setting limits on screen time.
16:35: 💡 Tips for parents on managing children's technology usage and fostering healthy habits.
30:50: 🧠 Insights on understanding and parenting children with ADHD, focusing on cognitive exhaustion, emotional intensity, and attentional problems.
36:42: 🧠 Insights on managing ADHD in children through understanding brain function and building habits.
47:03: 💡 Effective strategies for parents of children with ADHD to build good habits and avoid nagging.
57:30: ⚡ Effective strategies for parenting children with ADHD to promote learning and independence.
1:16:46: ⚖ Parent seeking advice on 9-year-old ADHD son lying about her death, struggling with proper response and hurt feelings.
1:17:51: 💡 Insights on understanding and parenting children with ADHD, focusing on impulsivity and empathy challenges.
1:35:15: 💡 Insights on parenting a 10-year-old, addressing ego, and understanding child reasoning.
1:41:00: ⚖ Parenting dilemma on allowing gaming exposure to children, emphasizing balance, understanding, and healthy habits.
1:50:35: ⚖ Challenges of modern parenting in the digital age and the importance of educating parents on guiding children's gaming habits.
2:03:04: 💬 Insights on cultural parenting differences, advocating for ADHD evaluation, and book promotion.
2:10:56: ⚡ Discussion on upcoming book release, pre-order bonuses, addressing audience questions, and contact policy.
I don't have a son, nor do I game but I watch your videos
He's great for general viewing as well ❤
I'm glad I'm not the only one.
I have a kid that is a gamer, I guess I should watch
Yeah I could see Dr. K's knowledge applied to many more people but he's pigeonholed himself as directed towards gamers (or parents of gamers).
Why are you specifically say "a son"?
As an ex-child with ADHD, undiagnosed at the time, all of this feels so good to hear.
I need to get your book. I was born 1995, and hopped into gaming as soon as I could hold a controller. With my son being 5yrs old now, I am fighting the iPad for my son. So this video resonated with me so much. I'm not sure if me or my son has ADHD, or if anyone else in my family struggles with it, but still, this is a very mentally and emotionally exhausting era to be in, and the tip of falling on habits is super helpful.
I feel like even if nobody in a situation has ADHD, these strategies seem like they would still work pretty well in general. Good luck with everything, I can't imagine how tough it would be to be a parent these days
@@rachelgilbert3164 you got that right. Thanks! This is new for him, but his mood is so much better when I limit his usage. We also bond more with board games or toys. Even if he wanted to play his Minecraft game or anything other than UA-cam. He’s a great kid and if he’s not over stimulated, he’s able to function and listen perfectly. I try to explain as much as I can to a 5yr old 😅
Mucus is a glyco-protein so the lemon denatures (cooks, effectively) the protein part. It clumps up making it easier to cough out and also keeps it from coating your throat.
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We have a 6 month old and I’ve got a terrible screen addiction. Both my wife and I have ADHD. This stream couldn’t have come at a better time
Using the stream to further fill your screen addiction 🤣😂
damn your kid is cooked
I'd recommend you check out Dr. K's guide to ADHD! That's been a lifesaver for me, and may be useful for y'all too
@@eebbaa5560 WTF does that mean :DD
Attention was a confusing task to me. Because my parents (mostly mom) were exasperated when I didn't get messages and act on instructions, but they were also very vocally frustrated with me and loudly demanding I look at them when they talk to me, and I was... 100% engaged in demonstrating that I was paying attention. And as soon as they stop talking, the task is completed. I have paid attention. Big intrusion in whatever I was doing, imposition demanding a specific posture, then, like an intense gust of wind, the moment passes and I turn back to my own world again. That and a sense of the anger directed at me is... all I retain.
I did become aware of my attention difficulties, but was being actively compliant and quiet so nobody saw it as adhd, and I did not have a cooperative process with my parents to figure out how to be better at attention. (Just the demand: stop not doing it, start doing it.) So I knew I was failing, but had no idea what to do about it. It feels like... I'm on a train, and somebody outside the train is talking to me, and I roll on by, hearing the message but getting carried away. I feel (in retrospect, and in adult experience) like I need to step off of whatever train I happen to be on. Make myself still, not on my way anywhere, not about anything. Then, I can have some information presented to me. A task, even.
I’m an American single mom working on moving to Japan with my now-8-yr-old son in a couple years, and THANK YOU for mentioning the cosleeping thing, because he still sleeps with me, and my parents and some other people get weird about it and like… stop it. We’re both AuDHD, and there’s literally no reason that I NEED to force him to go sleep in his own bed.
Please look into and cover the effects of black mold & ADHD!!! I'm in the exact same situation and have thought that might be the case but hearing someone else ask it made me feel so much less alone!! I would love to hear your thoughts on whatever you discover there.
I don’t have kids but i do agree that parents’ job is to teach. What a great stream. Parenting is not easy and all people can try to is their best but with good advice the chance of success is higher. There’s much i learned from this for the tine when i have kids.
My mom isn't neurodivergent like I am, but she has this planner and is always "if it's not in my planner it doesn't exist." so when I was given planners at school in Middle school and High school for the school year she used that to help teach me how to use it properly.
Later on when I hit high school I got a corkboard and I put assignments and stuff on it. It was there above my bed and always in my face.
Things like "Homework Folders" and such can work especially well.
1:34:19 that isn’t really what people mean when they say “ manipulative” direct confrontation isn’t manipulation.
Thank you for what you do Dr. K. You're a blessing to this community. I just pre-ordered 3 copies of your book!! I'm looking forward to reading it even though I don't have a child ... yet. I plan on giving the other 2 copies to some coworkers who I think could benefit from it. One again, I love what you're doing! Keep up the great work man!
im 18 and am a follower for a long time! i really like the way many things are portrayed by you . most things u say i relate , so yeah!
holy crap that lemon juice analogy is great. I'm unemployed, middle aged, but finally starting to find strategies that work for me and trying to work on those while I don't have work exhausting me. I've always been huge into video games, but one thing I noticed recently was if I wake up and video game all afternoon, by the evening I just kinda feel shitty. Often my mood is lower, I'm mroe mentally exhausted etc. The only way I really made this correlation was that for a while I got really into a new hobby away from the computer, I did this hobby and either didn't video game, or video games much later in the evening. My mood for that month was at an all time high. Then one day I woke up, thought fuck it and played a game all afternoon and instantly realised the huge change in my mood that night. Next day I video gamed all afternoon again; low mood by evening. I'm now trying to practice better management of gaming, so I save that time for the evening and it does help somewhat.
I'd never even thought about how something like that could be squeezing all my juice out before I'm even done with a day.
I live in Ireland. It’s raining a good bit of the time so outside in the rain is fun for no one. When my kids were smaller, now 16 and 11, jumping in puddles and rainy day stuff was ok. Now they just want to be connected to their friends but also watching TV as well as the phone. My kid’s were never able to play in their own so technology gave me a break from doing biting kid’s stuff. I also have ADHD so doing 2 hours of play doh was absolute torture.
Diagnosed ADHD at age 12, that "I'm free at last!" and "one more thing? You're taking that awaaay!!" analogy for after-homework details is *exactly* what I feel every single time even though I'm not a child anymore.
Stuff like this is what proves your credentials against naysayers in my book. Liked and shared ❤
May we please have timestamps for these long videos? Ty for the content
20:58 “my kids wake up… not anymore”
I'm one of the redditors you responded to. Thanks for taking the time to help!
I’d absolutely love to hear your findings and your perspective on adhd and eating. But also thank you so much for this livestream conversation you had. I look forward to ordering your book…my kids are in online school and do a basic amount of gaming and so I need some good insight for parenting with this dynamic which is so very different than what I had as a kid.
Start 6:00
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Bro is the equivalent of that paragraph guy 😂
watching this because i’m the son and i don’t want my mom to stop loving me 😊❤
Thank you so much! I have ADHD. So does my son, I’ve done real well in some areas and realize I didn’t help build the skills necessary to do his class work. He’s 13.
I made a conscious decision not to nag my husband. I realized that he did stuff at his Mom’s as a kid cause she always reminded him to clean up after himself.
Timestamp: 1:27:33 I feel seen and heard. Legit blurted out loud: Yes!
I wished I was parented a little more in the ways you describe
Dr. K has to write at least one episode of Bluey. Then the series will cross the threshold of perfection into what is beyond.
1:16:30 Checkpoint
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Dr. K, have you considered trying to make close-caption translations in other languages available?? Heck, I'd volunteer to help with Spanish but don't know how to go about it. There's a lot of information that is not available in that language that explains ADHD behaviors that have deeply impacted relationships with family like them assuming malice where there is forgetfulness which leads to resentment from both parties but didn't have the insight to communicate or explain when they happened and as much as would like to send them videos like this as a resource, they wouldn't be able to understand any of it because of the language barrier.
What if you're an adult with adhd who forgets to eat, drink, take all the stuff and is always late?
Then you also start small
Then you gotta heal and level up and organize your environment and regulate yourself so you can take care of the little ones
Not eating and drinking but defo doing the house chores I forget it's frustrating for myself and ppl around me! 😞
I would set alarms. Reminders pop up and go away if dismissed. Alarms can be snoozed quite a few times and I will hear them from another room. I can hold home button on phone and say "set alarm called laundry for one and a half hours" and then I can literally forget about it and go play video games or whatever until the alarm goes off. Don't set too many alarms at once. START SMALL. If you get overwhelmed and start ignoring alarms it becomes a negative habit.
Don't go do anything that takes a huge amount of time while waiting. Read a book, play a quick round of a game. Measure and record how long games take so you have a better idea of if a certain game can be played between alarms. Monster Hunter has a 45 min MAX timer per quest. I will not join a quest if I have a 30 minute alarm.
If you are doing something, ask if it can wait, then only snooze if it's important, like food on the stove.
20:57 "my kids used to wake up, not anymore"😂
You can also use that to self organise, no? 40:00
i wish dr k was around when my parents were trying to deal with me and my brother
Thanks for a livestream. Really love it🖤 Keep on doing it
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Looking for information. I am a mom with tech addiction and I need to know how to raise my sons and reraise myself to interact with technology (game, internet, social media, media content, steaming platform,...) in a healthy/constructive/cooperative way and not retrictive/authoritarian/forbidden mind set.
Ordered the book. Looking foward reading it.
I just pre-ordered! This subject has been on my mind for awhile but I just felt lost and powerless over rampant electronics. Because of the generation we were born into we didn’t have any modeling on how to handle it all. It’s exhausting to try to be someone else’s self-control. Looking forward to it!
14:31 easy, either take away the ipad all together and put into good use (or sell it) or have a kid related app which locks the ipad and unlocks it for certain hours you deem ok for the child to use it.
It sounds like nanny McPhee. The kids say how they want to do it. With her magic they get their way but turned to 11 then seeing the consequence of that they work together to over come the problem. They come closer through over coming adversity together and learn the value in the way they were being asked to do something.
Love the video, here is a suggestion
You should talk to Jonathan Decker from the Channel cinema therapy, Therapist talk to a therapist. Intresting concept if you ask mee✨
Is it ok if I share clips of this with my mom community on Facebook? You have solved so many potential parenting issues my husband is a horrible product of. I’ve always known what NOT to do but I now can see a clear path to managing my 6 year old in a healthy way without medication and I know several moms who would benefit greatly
1:14:54 omg this is what my mom did to me thru out my entire childhood😂and you know it, i was addicted to video game so bad that I graduated uni 5 years than I supposed to cuz of vid game
14:30 - first Reddit post - "How to limit iPad use"
"often times kids with adhd have a different sence of humor"
omg, this is so true. I see myself in this. The things that amuse me are so strange. Some awkward situation and I can laugh about it for hours xD
Lol, you people pleased and avoided controversy by saying "we evolved over tens of thousands of years". I think you're brilliant doctor.
I'll tell you what it doubly sucks when the parent has ADHD. I'm putting in maximum effort to keep this ship afloat so when I see the papers not in the backpack AGAIN my tank is already empty and I've been pushing the car for a half mile. I thought I'd be more sympathetic, and I am in the easy moments, but the hard moments really hit hard.
My son will be born in a few months so excited to get the book and start planning my thoughts.
We appreciate your insights. Keep working hard.
Also I'm realising my mum's laid back approach to parenting helped my ADHD a fair bit when it came to learning coping mechanisms. She never wanted to nag, so if I didn't want to do something, she was very much in the "well, you can learn what the consequences are all by yourself". Meant at a very young age I could realise each action had a consequence, and that my mum wasn't gonna be there to wipe my ass after every single mistake. She was still there when I really asked for help, but when it came to shit like homework or getiting something done? She'd maybe mention it and that was it, if I forgot and went to school and got in trouble for no homework, that was my fault and no one elses.
Edit: Also as an adult I'm finally coming to grips with the fact there is nothing wrong with asking for help and doing things mutually. I really struggle to get started on things like cleaning, but if I ensure I make it a group activity, it helps so much. Ensuring you do things WITH a kid with ADHD really does help imo. "DO UR CHORES!" can so easily be transferred into "ok if you could do the washing up, and I'll mop the floor, and we can have some music on and vibe", it's a totally different and life changing kinda approach.
Will this come a full audiobook pls?
The whole segment on the post about the kid with ADHD who doesn't put his homework away was superb. One of the best ad-hoc lectures on ADHD.
Also what if your college degree destroys any consistency of routine as one day you have classes at 10am the other 7pm?
schedule better next term
Make your schedule have the same type of format every day. So blockout specific times of every day for "tasks" so your brain gets used to being checked in at certain times. Every day do something of a certain category at 10am and 7pm. Create an accountability group/buddy to do the things with. Those are just some ideas
Thank you so much Dr. K 🙏
How do I always just barely miss the stream
Same
Also same
"My kids wake up... My kids used to wake up... Well they don't anymore" Uhh ??!
Does dopaminurgic resistance apply to other things in life like sexual activity?
(I.e. if you have a lot of sex, does sex become less enjoyable?)
Yes.
yea, same goes with pornography
Yup.
my partner was not raised by parents and the advice on how to teach how to flush a toilet literally suits me very well :)
Looks like I'm now the parent of a 40 year old gamer with ADHD and I need this book too
Concerning Gaming being a distraction / not useful for life.
So I was pretty into Gaming when I was a young teen. Also thought it might be a Career path for me. At around 16, this shifted towards Filmmaking and recreationally / socially I was more interested in going out, making music, which peaked at me at 19 not even having any Device like a PC / Console. Skip forward to 26. I get a new Job as a Producer in Gaming media. I remember vividly preparing for a project reading up / studying how WoW worked, while thinking back that when WoW got popular among my friends, I stayed away from it thinking it was a colossal time-waster.
Takeaway: You never know what things might end up being useful, as long as you consume in moderation most things can be worthwhile.
Just pre-ordered on audible and look forward to next month 😊
the one where the kid said netflix has a love button, i failed to see how it's correcting the parent when she was talking about amazon...
You are both creating a straw man and a false equivalency here. Dr K isn’t at all saying “ never let your kids play games” Dr is saying you need to help your kid create healthy boundaries around games. Letting your kid play ledge of legends for 18 hours a day because it improves reflexes is a problem. Yes they are getting better reflexes but at the cost of a lot of other important things. This also isn’t just about video games it’s about technology in general. Social media Tik Tok etc.
Just because people ( not all people I would add) used to do things that were unhealthy doesn’t mean that the thing that is less unhealthy is good.
Remember the stream with IronMouse? I wonder if it would be possible for you to contact Dokibird.
The girl probably needs it after what has transpired in the last couple weeks. I think it would help, even if a little bit.
i often tell something to my adhd older sister and she has developed a reflex pf answering yes even though she didnt understand a single thing that i said making it hard to know whether she got it or not.
Wow, im literally the same way lol
What kid with pappers and folder sounds literaly like me. Looks like its time to learn about it
To the "i forgot" post. That can also mean he forgot to do it himself before parent came in.
I'm 36 and don't ever wanna have kids anyway it's not for me but as always educational stream by Dr k! One of the things about adhd at least in my case is that i failed maths and physics all the time in school despite the private math teacher i had for exams! At the time i was going through hell with it but now i understand why and what was hapening but still nobody knows nor wanna believe it... strangely maths/physics/numbers just dont go into my head!!
I pre-ordered even tho my ADHD kid is 18 now, so we'll see how much it will help.
How would you deal with a parent who thinks they are the expert, that they think they don't need the expert but their judgment is good enough? Experts have been wrong before, they'll be wrong again.
The egotistical section has my anxiety super high... My two sons father is super egotistical and doesn't realize it no matter how much I pointed out. If I can't get him to see it, how am I going to keep my sons from learning his egotistical ways...
Wondering if Dr. K's book is something good to buy for someone's upcoming baby shower - after also buying something for them off their registry of course 🤔
bad idea
Please don't buy parenting books for other people. Recommend it to them if you think it will help
@@J.McLauchlan Thanks guys it was bait anyway 🙏
Need a electric outlet that uses debt square payment when kid earns chore money they can turn the outlet on. Ri
"My kid has ADHD and pleying games all day" . This is litteraly me (i'm 30 yo)
"My kids wake up--not anymore" 💀
I wish dr.k would've raised me
My childs NOT a gamer.... I am tho
Might need that book to parent myself XD
I wish my parents had watched this video
Mother is wondering why her pet son with adhd can’t follow simple commands
Doing something that ruins your life knowing that it does is so fucking stupid. You not only ruin your life but people around.
I hate this mindset.
Holy 2 hrs..
Dr K out of context farm 1:01:29
I teach my 5 yo that screen time is like sugar...ok in small amounts but bad for you in large amounts.
Having ADHD I really wish these videos were shorter sir
I listen to these videos like they are a podcast. Might take a few days to listen to it all.
You should talk about how some people (me) just put on these streams to fall asleep to and never follow through on the content.
YOU REMOVE THE GRANDPARENTS...😅
Im sorry but gaming is more productive and helps with reaction time, dedication to projects and communication skills i lack. Video games alone has helped me through ALOT, more than drugs ever did!
Heres a odd question for all of you here, what do you think our parents and others did 10,25,40,50 years ago or so? TV and radio. People used to sit outside in chairs smoking and drinking and listening to the radio and than going out drunk driving… yet those who play video games are portrayed as lazy and unmotivated or unproductive people which has truth to it but doesnt mean all gamers are this way vice versa with the radio statement but not as damaging as the repercussions that came with smoking packs of cigarettes endlessly doing nothing but getting cancer in the sun and inside the lungs.
I liked this perspective, thanks for sharing. I don't think anyone cared back then because their neighbors/friends/family did the same thing.
I really suggest that you watch this video if you haven't already. It seems you are arguing against the thumbnail. Most of what Dr. K talks about in this video is about how anything addictive (tiktok, social media, games) can distract someone with ADHD, and how to set boundaries and have a good relationship with games and with social media.
I used to express the same ideas that you do, and I still agree. But you have to agree that videogames and social media have gotten more addictive than TV, radio, and books ever could. When you click on the like button, it explodes in a burst of vibrant colors. Try it out on this video (you can always unlike). They've gameified liking a video. These things are crafted in a lab to drain your attention and drain your dopamine.
This video DOES NOT perpetuate a stigma against video games. Dr. K plays video games. Please give it a shot.
Compared to? What? Doing nothing? Yeah sure. But compared to people who go out and exercise, learn practical skills, converse and meet with new people and explore the world first hand, you are nothing.
video games are fun and all and i don’t want to stop playing them but i kind of used them to ruin my life so
These parents are also being lazy by just putting the blame on videogames instead of teaching their kids about healthy boundaries. Yet they're the ones berating their kids for "being lazy". Talk about hypocrisy, these parents need to do better in adapting to the current times
All these reddit posts are incredible. These parents are obviously causing their children's problems! they've been doing it wrong for so long that now it will take them tons of time and effort to fix.
Maybe she should let him keep playing because otherwise he will put in lots of hard work only for the world to completely shit on him lo,
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Does anyone else feels exhausted and annoyed just listening to all the hoops you have to jump through when raising a kids?
For the love of god, can they not just figure out by themselves that the toilet needs to he flushed?
Don't have kids
@@xCCflierx I wish. I don't think I'll manage to avoid it.
I hate parents
Doctor K all these teachings are great. But your Creator is calling you to learn more about him in the new testament. Jesus loves you dr. K
If he loves him so much, why doesn't he jump over this wall?
take your meds bro
He didn’t ask.
Put yourself in his shoes for a moment, could you consider if you'd really think it would be appropriate if you, yourself, were putting out general mental health content just like this video and someone said the same to you but said the god of some other religion was calling you to learn more about that religion and read their texts? Do you think you might find that a bit misplaced, at the very least? You're also assuming he hasn't done that, that he hasn't decided for himself what he believes, and that any of that should be up to anyone else to tell him what to do, unsolicited, just because his belief may not suit random other people. Put yourself in that position and see if you feel someone sticking that in the comments would really be okay, give it a good bit of thought.
@@kg6801 Misplaced would be this:
- not acknowledging his good works
- knowing the truth and keeping it for myself
Jesus Christ was an actual person. He actualy died and he actualy rose from the dead on the third day bro. He accepts your choice if you deny him because he respects your free will. But I do not wish for you or dr. K to spend eternity away from his love and mercy.