4 months ago a friend of mine of 2 years and who's long distance ghosted me, no explanation, ignoring my texts and calls. Utterly destroyed me. The points you made are exactly what i should be doing for me. As much as it hurts and will never get that conversation from her i have to accept it
Update: She came back! She told me she has a lot on her mind but replies with 1-2 texts each day compared to before when it was frequent.. it's not the same
@@robertocervantes7268 hi!! im so happy for u, i hope with time everything will be just like before with her :) update : mine didn't come back but he said he need some time so oh well.
Letting go is not a sign of weakness; it's a pathway to healing and growth. Embrace the strength in releasing what no longer serves you for this is where new beginnings flourish!
"You have to love yourself enough to not want to stay the same." Wow. I NEVER thought of improvement and respect like this towards yourself. It's frustrating, having the same results but getting ideas of ways to change, and either sticking to them for a couple days, weeks, or months, or just never having the energy to start. I've found myself being desperate for being liked by strangers or people i work with or go to college with, and tried to make this a goal in my life, meaning Ive started to people please and it seeped into hobbies such as cooking or doing art comissions. I don't get those "and-then-it-clicked" moments when something makes sense, since i can grasp the common sense behind most things and to a point, its logic. After hearing that phrase, i realize I've had enough love for myself to even consider ways to become better however i need or want to. That alone is self-love and self-improvement, regardless of action in steps to that goal, because the thought itself was an action that started your process! Just saying "I need to do/be better" or realizing the issue and addressing it mentally or verbally to myself or someone who wants to help is a form of loving myself. I'm VERY stubborn and have a mentality that's stuck in high school still with a mix of my childhood, so reaching up is hard every day since i tend to have an empty head, pessimistic life views and speech, deflating vocabulary, trust trauma, grudges, and/or obtain information without giving myself time to think. Lately ive been watching these similar videos and less of things that are intended for brain rot or the usual Gen Z audiences nowadays so I can stay how i prefer to be: out of the trends and loops, but logically & creatively assisting evolution wherever I've set myself. I've begun to show more love for myself by doing this and striving for that result, which will expand until i flatline. There are other goals I've gotten down as well, like losing weight by taking perscribed weight loss pills and trying to find an affordable gym to get a personal trainer, since working out at home leaves me discouraged and feeling isolated. And getting used to being in public, since i had to grow up as a homebody due to the environment i grew up in until we moved cities for the first time around the pandemic. This especially refers to friendships and accepting that I have to put myself first and adjust to what isn't on my level yet, like finding my first ever partner and holding boundaries and well-raised (and well-raising) standards, so i dwell onto what i can manage and set boundaries for (and boundaries themselves are a form of loving yourself). I've been so mentally and emotionally tunnel visioned on what wasnt working or the choices and actions of other people, society, and strangers, that i didn't notice how much effort I've been putting into sticking to my truth and watering it regularly by staying reflexively aware of what needs to be done. I'm getting better at not defining my life based on what people say I have a chance in, no matter how many times its brought up. But rather, i question why it is they say this, look into it myself curiously, and if I like it, am strong in that industry, and feel like i can make it work, then i will! That phrase made me realize all of this in just 10 seconds or so. Writing it? whoo 😂😂. Wow. Thank you for helping all of us, including myself, who struggle with these tasks and altered mindsets. It's helping me ground myself bit by bit every day :)
needed this so bad. LOVING ME (even if i’m not there yet) is realizing THIS ISNT WORKING. this isn’t what i want for my life anymore .. i have to make that change!!!
A year ago I decided to let it go and create my new life. as you said:" Many of us are clinging to things that no longer serve a purpose in our lives. But instead, they hold us back more than anything else. Self-love comes in many different forms, and one form is what we allow ourselves to go through. "
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
Dude just care yourself, this feeling can not change in your heart but dont let this consume you and let you down, new Things come just in time and you will be fine, just dont give up on you and be for you like your best friend!! Its a hard time but you Will pass this and be someone more good than you ever be
I’ve never blocked anyone, but last week I did for the first time and it was hard, but those people had to go in my eyes and I’m not in a good place right now for myself anyway so I need to focus on myself anyway so I can better in the future.
thank you bro for ur videos. i try to watch every single one. this one made me realize A LOT. I am going through a break up and it’s so hard even though he treated very toxic
I am currently going through a tough break-up, I loved her so much and wanted the best for her, turned out she lied to me, ignored etc, it hurts but I know I will get through it and become a guy who she won't be able to achieve
Thank you. I got to that point today and it hurts a little even though it was a long time coming. But honestly it feels like a ton of bricks rolled off me . Time to heal and that's my main focus only 🥰
I feel like I am quick to like people and give energy, and be open to giving a chance, but I definitely have boundaries and a strict limit of how much I tolerate if my efforts and care are not being reciprocated and they clearly don’t want to grow with me but more just take advantage
My brother is extremely toxic and uses his working as an excuse . always judged me and who I am as a person and has done harm and whenever i try to distance myself he uses God against me but i am done I am ready to move out
Good video, question for you though is what about working through it with the person? You dont think that your personal growth could motivate them? Even if the situation is negative? Edit: I commented before the end of the video but I love what you said about you need to get tired!
I think you should always give effort to grow together and make change, but at what point do you accept the reality of the situation and respect yourself? You never want to be in a situation where you're waiting for someone's change that's never guaranteed to come
how do you go about letting go from someone who you outgrew? i realised i out grew someone when they went exhibited hot and cold behaviour and treated me so sweetly and made me a priority to not even replying to me for days… the shift happened for 2 weeks now, yet part of me still replies to their texts albeit im letting go now, do i just slowly fade out or block them? i feel so disrespected 💔. and i know it’s not for me anymore, i just don’t know how to cut this out of my life, it’s not for me anymore, it only causes me pain and overthinking
I feel this. I started dating someone and I told him my boundaries and told him that they are non negotiable. We keep going back and forth with the boundaries I'm exhausted. It may be hard for him too. But I need him to respect me. We've been going back and forth. I didn't handle it well. I ghosted him and he knows why. I know it was harsh but i if we talk we'll keep going back and forth and I've reached my breaking point. Any advice?
Sometimes you could be the right package, delivered at the wrong address 💯
That hit
Love that
this 🙌
4 months ago a friend of mine of 2 years and who's long distance ghosted me, no explanation, ignoring my texts and calls. Utterly destroyed me. The points you made are exactly what i should be doing for me. As much as it hurts and will never get that conversation from her i have to accept it
same, 2weeks ago :)
A month ago, not even long distance
Relatable
Update: She came back! She told me she has a lot on her mind but replies with 1-2 texts each day compared to before when it was frequent.. it's not the same
@@robertocervantes7268 hi!! im so happy for u, i hope with time everything will be just like before with her :)
update : mine didn't come back but he said he need some time so oh well.
Letting go is not a sign of weakness; it's a pathway to healing and growth.
Embrace the strength in releasing what no longer serves you for this is where new beginnings flourish!
"You have to love yourself enough to not want to stay the same."
Wow. I NEVER thought of improvement and respect like this towards yourself. It's frustrating, having the same results but getting ideas of ways to change, and either sticking to them for a couple days, weeks, or months, or just never having the energy to start. I've found myself being desperate for being liked by strangers or people i work with or go to college with, and tried to make this a goal in my life, meaning Ive started to people please and it seeped into hobbies such as cooking or doing art comissions. I don't get those "and-then-it-clicked" moments when something makes sense, since i can grasp the common sense behind most things and to a point, its logic. After hearing that phrase, i realize I've had enough love for myself to even consider ways to become better however i need or want to. That alone is self-love and self-improvement, regardless of action in steps to that goal, because the thought itself was an action that started your process!
Just saying "I need to do/be better" or realizing the issue and addressing it mentally or verbally to myself or someone who wants to help is a form of loving myself. I'm VERY stubborn and have a mentality that's stuck in high school still with a mix of my childhood, so reaching up is hard every day since i tend to have an empty head, pessimistic life views and speech, deflating vocabulary, trust trauma, grudges, and/or obtain information without giving myself time to think. Lately ive been watching these similar videos and less of things that are intended for brain rot or the usual Gen Z audiences nowadays so I can stay how i prefer to be: out of the trends and loops, but logically & creatively assisting evolution wherever I've set myself.
I've begun to show more love for myself by doing this and striving for that result, which will expand until i flatline. There are other goals I've gotten down as well, like losing weight by taking perscribed weight loss pills and trying to find an affordable gym to get a personal trainer, since working out at home leaves me discouraged and feeling isolated. And getting used to being in public, since i had to grow up as a homebody due to the environment i grew up in until we moved cities for the first time around the pandemic. This especially refers to friendships and accepting that I have to put myself first and adjust to what isn't on my level yet, like finding my first ever partner and holding boundaries and well-raised (and well-raising) standards, so i dwell onto what i can manage and set boundaries for (and boundaries themselves are a form of loving yourself).
I've been so mentally and emotionally tunnel visioned on what wasnt working or the choices and actions of other people, society, and strangers, that i didn't notice how much effort I've been putting into sticking to my truth and watering it regularly by staying reflexively aware of what needs to be done. I'm getting better at not defining my life based on what people say I have a chance in, no matter how many times its brought up. But rather, i question why it is they say this, look into it myself curiously, and if I like it, am strong in that industry, and feel like i can make it work, then i will!
That phrase made me realize all of this in just 10 seconds or so. Writing it? whoo 😂😂.
Wow. Thank you for helping all of us, including myself, who struggle with these tasks and altered mindsets. It's helping me ground myself bit by bit every day :)
I finally had that loyalty wake up call when my friend chose to hangout with the people who don’t like me
Great💯
@@HolisticHarmony_2024 Thanks
Good bro👏
needed this so bad. LOVING ME (even if i’m not there yet) is realizing THIS ISNT WORKING. this isn’t what i want for my life anymore .. i have to make that change!!!
A year ago I decided to let it go and create my new life. as you said:" Many of us are clinging to things that no longer serve a purpose in our lives. But instead, they hold us back more than anything else. Self-love comes in many different forms, and one form is what we allow ourselves to go through. "
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
Has it gotten any better?
Time heals are wounds
Dude just care yourself, this feeling can not change in your heart but dont let this consume you and let you down, new Things come just in time and you will be fine, just dont give up on you and be for you like your best friend!! Its a hard time but you Will pass this and be someone more good than you ever be
Gotta keep it pushing bro. We all experience that same scenario, I’m goin thru it too but everything will be alright
@@jasoncamacho4855me too bro. It’s killing me , I’ve even resorted to antidepressants.
I’ve never blocked anyone, but last week I did for the first time and it was hard, but those people had to go in my eyes and I’m not in a good place right now for myself anyway so I need to focus on myself anyway so I can better in the future.
thank you bro for ur videos. i try to watch every single one. this one made me realize A LOT. I am going through a break up and it’s so hard even though he treated very toxic
I am currently going through a tough break-up, I loved her so much and wanted the best for her, turned out she lied to me, ignored etc, it hurts but I know I will get through it and become a guy who she won't be able to achieve
I always overlook and try to see the good in people. That’s my problem right there.
Thank you. I got to that point today and it hurts a little even though it was a long time coming.
But honestly it feels like a ton of bricks rolled off me . Time to heal and that's my main focus only 🥰
This dude is always spitting I feel like I relate to this dude a lot. He does a good job of breaking stuff down and using examples
I had this on loop for a hour now. So many gems💎👏🏽👏🏽
I cant wait till one day i get tired of tryin . Im scared ill never get tired.
This channel came at the perfect time for me, im glad I found your content
Your wise beyond your years brother.
your videos have resonated with and helped me so much, thank you man you deserve good things ❤
You helped me so much man love you
Enjoyed this video! Thanks for sharing your wisdom
Thanks for this man. It helped.
Great content man, love your channel keep up the great work!
I feel like I am quick to like people and give energy, and be open to giving a chance, but I definitely have boundaries and a strict limit of how much I tolerate if my efforts and care are not being reciprocated and they clearly don’t want to grow with me but more just take advantage
Hope yk that ur content and message doesn’t go under appreciated brother ❤
I had to remove and finally let go of a relationship I was in that wasn’t serving me anymore
the timing for this to show on my suggested is crazy
Thank you
THANK YOU
Thank u for being here
Thanks bro ❤
My brother is extremely toxic and uses his working as an excuse . always judged me and who I am as a person and has done harm and whenever i try to distance myself he uses God against me but i am done I am ready to move out
This is true
so true thank you
Sometimes people rather u listen to what they are feeling and not want to listen to you 😢😢
something switched in my relationship and I don’t know what happened
I was so happy 1yr in and then boom my mood dropped and it’s never been up
fire
I still don’t understand how to let go..
Love yourself. Choose yourself instead of them
love your content
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Good video, question for you though is what about working through it with the person? You dont think that your personal growth could motivate them? Even if the situation is negative?
Edit: I commented before the end of the video but I love what you said about you need to get tired!
I think you should always give effort to grow together and make change, but at what point do you accept the reality of the situation and respect yourself? You never want to be in a situation where you're waiting for someone's change that's never guaranteed to come
Is there a way to love yourself without feeling like it’s cocky or full of yourself?
Absolutely outstanding! I think this could be even better with my video editing skills-would you be open to discussing it?
how do you go about letting go from someone who you outgrew? i realised i out grew someone when they went exhibited hot and cold behaviour and treated me so sweetly and made me a priority to not even replying to me for days… the shift happened for 2 weeks now, yet part of me still replies to their texts albeit im letting go now, do i just slowly fade out or block them? i feel so disrespected 💔. and i know it’s not for me anymore, i just don’t know how to cut this out of my life, it’s not for me anymore, it only causes me pain and overthinking
Your habits dictate your habitat
mad it’s october 🤣😭
I feel this.
I started dating someone and I told him my boundaries and told him that they are non negotiable.
We keep going back and forth with the boundaries I'm exhausted. It may be hard for him too. But I need him to respect me.
We've been going back and forth. I didn't handle it well. I ghosted him and he knows why. I know it was harsh but i if we talk we'll keep going back and forth and I've reached my breaking point.
Any advice?
Thank you 🥲💔❤️🩹
Your surrounding is dull and boring. Bright up your surrounding!
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