Brett: “I think porn is bad because it messes with hormones, causes young men to stay in isolation instead of seek real relationships, and has been linked to an increase in domestic violence” Jack: “ok but why is porn ITSELF bad”
@@DavidGonzalez-cw9mo again back to the PORN, it causes hormone issues, isolation, depression, is made on the backs of children and victims, unfairly pays, usually recordings are made drunk and high, causes addiction for the actresses/actors. thats the hill you died on?
@@DavidGonzalez-cw9moI agree, I feel like porn is only toxic for people who aren’t mentally mature enough to understand the difference between reality and fantasy.
very true, also for some reason whenever she wears less and less makeup, she looks more beautiful imo. I feel like were starting to associate things like certain ways of dressing and excessive makeup as less attractive, im finding myself no longer being attracted to women at the clubs or bars tbh.
@@okashiname8326 its because it isn't fake, she doesn't pile on the makeup and isn't getting the ridiculously extensive plastic surgery that some of these women are getting. I find that a lot of women are putting so much make up on its actually unattractive because its so noticeable, that and once they wash it away the skin underneath is substantially blemished and broke out due to being covered in makeup most of the day.
She doesnt wear excessive amounts of makeups, dresses up modestly, but the most important thing, she looks very very happy, a happy women is a good women
I gotta be honest. I remember when I first heard about her someone was bad mouthing her calling some far right extremist nutjob, but as soon as I actually listen to what she has to say, she brings up really valid points. Sucks when you believe what others tell you until you see it for yourself. She's amazing, we need more women like her in the world .
Regardless of which "side" is doing it, when someone is telling you what to think about something or telling you what critics say about something that's a red flag to not unquestionably believe it, especially if it aligns with your sentiments.
I didn't look at Ben Shapiro for a while for that reason. Until a creator who's definitely a lefty centrist said he listens to him. Which led to Brett's channel my favorite find of 2023.
@@submandave1125 most of CNN's content is about "what Republicans think"... there's not a single Republican in the building, how would they know what a Republican thinks?
I think it’s ironic that the ones that advocate for good mental health are the ones that also advocate probably the worst addiction that’s plaguing modern society today. They’re also the ones that are the most confused and depressed out of everyone. Then they have the audacity to ask us why we think porn and having multiple partners is so bad…they get factual answers that don’t go with their agendas and they say it’s bullshit.
🤔 I love Brett, she's probably my favorite UA-camr, but I'm reasonably sure there must be a couple others. 😆 Really, don't lose faith in us. Are a lot of us dumb? Yeah! But a lot of us aren't! I'd say a good 40 percent of us are reasonably sane. I wish it was more, but hey it's better than nothing, right? 😅😂
@@thejakelegionYeah, she didn't 100% know why she represented her position, even if it is the right one. The closest she came was that porn is morally wrong and destructive to society, but she couldn't articulate very well why that is the case. She's still young.
@@Pokey-xp9gn Back in the days, most consumers of porn were married guys that weren’t getting any action in the bedroom from their wives. Today it is guys that either can’t get a relationship or, like me, don’t give a fuck about getting one. All my relationships with women sucked a massive arse. I dated a lot of women throughout my life. I would rather beat off to porn to be honest.
There is a lot this ruining society then porn. Weirdly enough the states that consume the most porn are conservative states. Problem is most learn about sex from porn.
Porn is a major issue me and so many friends have battle severe porn addiction. It has plagued me since I was 13. It is truly a horrible thing and has only changed me for the worse. I feel for all of the women in the industry. So many young men and women in porn have killed themselves. It is horrible for the workers and the consumers. Walk away from porn. Be a man in control of your lust don't give up your time, energy, or love for this filth. Think of your future kids and spouse. Get out now, the longer you wait the harder it gets.
Then do something about it then by becoming a voice that battled porn addiction and just remember that it was your choice to become one in the first place and now you are free from it.
Speak for yourself. I'm tired of people acting like their experience should be the deciding factor for all others. Meanwhile, you have women out here getting casual sex or relationships (thus steady sex) whenever they want. If you want to take your advice from someone who has no comprehension of your struggle, go for it. But it sounds like a terrible idea to me.
This!!! Listen to podcasts of ex-pornstars. So many say they have seen so many people off themselves because of the industry and the other strong ties to it. And I think they mean control your actions. My controlling your actions you can wane yourself off of porn and your impulses will decrease because of it.
Do you suggest that we outlaw porn like with drugs? or would you prefer grown adults have the right to choose what adult content or chemicals they consume so long as they're informed of the potential dangers, without government interference?
@@Sourwhatup the DARE program was known to increase drug addiction rates and it continued to receive funding for years after!! Honest conversation and education is so much better than fear mongering.
@@coleeto2 I already know this. Why are you talking about the DARE program? Nobody is talking about that. The DARE program was a joke. So was the war on drugs.
@@kubrikansis7289 suggest we stop normalizing bad things whether it's porn or crack and start to promote education about the very bad negatives and no positives of these things. outlawing things doesn't work and taking away rights in the same of "safety", "security", or "protection" is always the bad route to go. also,your comment comes off as combative and doesn't actually want to seek a solution or even a real response/conversation from others.
Me and my grandma were watching an episode of dr.Phil, they were having a very similar conversation to this. My grandma made kind of a good point. She said things like OF will only work while your young and beautiful. One you start getting older, new “ content creators” will come and essentially replace you.
Eh the only issue with that statement is there are groups who have preferences for older women/men. So yeah you might not be the most popular but you can still make a living being a older model. And depending on how successful you are you can turn around and be a producer/owner of a site. Look at some of the gay pornstars who went from being young guys making hundreds of movies to being the face of a website/directors/producers.
This is a very *no shit* take. I'm pretty sure a lot of these girls, while hopeful that the remain hot for as long as possible, are just riding the wave of their youth and getting the massive amounts of money while they can. As far as money, most of the successful ones will be fine in their post-hot years - the real issue is how they'll handle the dwindling amount of attention they got so used to.
Porn is a young woman's game. And beauty is the first attribute about us that naturally fades the fastest. So any woman who focuses and specializes solely in her looks is going to be severely disappointed in old age when she no longer has her looks. A young woman can make a lot of money fast in porn... But it's sacrificing away her future for the present. Choosing a life in porn will have consequences that last longer than the money gained from it.
and yet she's right. it is simplified, but if you see after a while that you are not getting anywhere with anyone it might be a necessity to self reflect. it's also valid in a relationship when it start going downhill.
If you just go out and ask a random girl straight up for a date yeah it's going to be a lot of rejection even if you are good looking. By going out there , go somewhere where people go to have fun. Vacations , music shows even historical monuments etc. somewhere where people will be more open to meeting new people. By asking a girl out , start a random conversation completely unrelated to dating and after a while if you notice interest ( if she is talking with you for an hour there is a decent chance she is interested ) than ask her out. Its not easy by any means and rejection sucks , but I never used dating app in my life.
@@Makyura43 You do realise that men (and most women) use dating apps to sleep around, not to seek relationships, do you? You do also realise that the majority of women between 18 and 28 want to sleep around not form a relationship to lead to marriage, do you? The model you present reflects a past society which ceased to exist since at least the early 90s, i.e. it was dead even before the advent of the internet and about 20 years before the popularisation of dating apps. Go back and check the numbers. The numbers never lie, the give you the reality as it is. 80% of men are deemed unattractive by the average woman. That means that the average woman who could be "better" than merely the 35%-40% of the female population (i.e. a relatively unattractive woman) finds unattractive men who are better than 75% and even 80% of the male population. Average women find "somewhat attractive" and only "under strict conditions" some 15% of men (i.e. men who are better than the 80% of the male population) and they do find genuinely attractive only 5% of men (i.e. men who are better than 95%o of the male population). The average woman does not want to do anything with the average man and will only think of it around 30 years old, after she has been used and abused and being then desperate for a man to impregnate her and pay for her kids. That is the state of affairs today. If it was different most women would be married by 21-22 years old. They prefer to go have "careers" because they do not want to be associated with the men that actually correspond to them.
One thing I heard from a friend who got into porn and pulled away from it was that he started to realize he needed harder or weirded things to enjoy the experience. He basically said porn desensitized him to the normalcy of regular sex or sexual behavior. The fear is where that leads. Beastiality? Pedophelia? Its a slippery slope. I would imagine it's even worse for those involved in the porn industry as its not just normal to see, but also completely act out.
Slippery slope fallacy my guy. There is no evidence that porn of any kind will lead to beastiality and pedophilia for anyone but a relative few. Out of the billions of people who consume porn, how many do you think became pedophiles, sexual abusers, or rapists?
i admire Brett Cooper and her morals so much that this clip alone led me to delete my onlyfans account and to stop following instagram accounts that have similar overtones as onlyfans ... her influence over my moral compass is impressive given that she does not overtly tell people to change their ways ...
@@bigz5262because they do long form conversations breaching important topics with people who aren’t intelligent and haven’t thought about what their discussing much at all. Their 18 year old hot chicks. What do we expect. How am I supposed to sit through 4 hours of naive promiscuous women who just graduated high school take about things they know nothing of?
The fact that she spits dozens of facts on how bad the porn industry is, and they continue to stutter into "devils advocate" remarks to try and justify their own sins...speaks volumes. If they dont see it, it cant be true.
I remember growing up there was a worker next to curtains by the adult section at stores that would literally make sure we didn't go near it as kids. Now I go to the same stores as a 19 year old and there's no worker or curtain and you can just see the adult toys and content
I recall being like 16 at a movie store, here was an adult section in the back, got a few peeks. No big deal. OMG NAKED BODIES!!! Nature!!! The horror!
I abused porn for years. I am 2 months clean, and now finally want to get a job, my drivers license, I'm happier, but holy shit, it was so hard to quit. I get scared just going into yt comments because I have seen bots with just like a booty pic, and it was so hard not to watch porn for a couple days after that. All I did during my time abusing it was terrible. I hated it, and will always advise people to just not watch it.
There are tons of girls like Brett my friend you just have to look the right places, they’re at universities, your local coffee bar, church, Christian dating apps, the gym, etc. I went to a Christian college and they were tons of girls like Brett, cute, having good morals and being wifey material
Only Fans is enough proof that says that we're living in a totally messed up world. If you're on Onlyfans making money, you know where you stand and what's your moral ground.
Ethics police? Sorry pal we don’t have those here. Capitalism, freedom of expression, take it or leave it. So tired or religious zealots pretending to judge others for living. Tell me, which did more harm to America, porn, or 9/11? Think about it too don’t just blurt out porn 😂
I think porn is more a symptom of isolation vs a cause. Most people are turning to porn because they cannot find a date or because there are bad things going on in their relationships. Porn is a crutch. It is exceedingly rare, in my opinion, that men choose porn over real life relationships. They choose porn over nothing or as an outlet when they don’t know how to make their relationships work.
Should we ban alcohol next? It didn't work very well last time. How about we stop pretending it is the government's responsibility to parent people and their kids?
Porn should absolutely be regulated at least to make it way less accessible for underage people, it’s ruining millions of peoples lives and causing many to commit suicide.
Americans prize freedom extremely highly, to the point where it’s starts to feel like freedom at all costs. All is a really big category, people. We might want to think more nuanced than that.
The Porn Industry makes more than Netflix and Hollywood combined. So if money is the key factor - That is a pretty huge thing. But other than that? It's seedy and blergh. Not a fan. However it is hard to deny the amount of money it makes so I doubt it will ever go away.
You people need to get a serious grip on reality 😂 good god. Sex is normal, every mammal on this fucking planet has sex. Humans are sexual animals. What's the difference if it's filmed and paid or not ? Please enlighten us
Unlike what Brett nonchalantly suggested (going out and asking a [possible mate] out) there are individuals which through no fault of their own will never find someone to be their partner, who may not even have the function of preforming sexually, and for these people porn is likely the only method they have of experiencing even an inkling of sexual satisfaction, on top of this there are those who decided that they do not wish to breed, or form partnerships, but still have sexual desires(not to be confused with a romantic asexuals) which porn can solve. I won’t say that the current system isn’t full of problems(as is pretty much every system touched by capabilities greed) but it does have legitimate use cases outside of just hijacking the human sex drive.
Women made the porn industry a thing...the signed up for it, they are vein and fickle, and will do whatever for easy money. The song "Girls just wanna have fun!" comes to mind. Me are painted as sexual monsters, yet women are in actuality the sex freaks. But society can't let that be known as females run the system lol.
Brett is based. Edit: Us humans were given free will. What an individual does is their own doing. If a person wants to be vaccinated or not be vaccinated is the individuals own choice. In this country (I am American) the 1st Amendment gives the right to all Americans the right to free speech and opinions and that cannot be infringed on.
Except we had (and still have) a culture would consider you abnormal (weird) if you didn't get a vaccine just like in American male social circles it's like blinking and breathing if you watch porn but if you won't or don't you're this social pariah.
@DiogenesNephew When I was a child I did malicious things because I felt like it. There were consequences. Now I have a strong moral conscience and work in healthcare. Where I occasionally witness horrific things. You are wrong. We most certainly have free will and can freely choose to do terrible things. I have seen this myself more times than I care to imagine.
It baffles me how stupid men like you are not knowing what would happen if governments banned porn and women selling naked photos online. Riots would break out everywhere and mass shooting would increase big time
It's sinful, plain and simple. It's wrong on all counts. Any sex outside of marriage is wrong. Do not murder is the 6th commandment, do not steel is the 8th, and porn would fall into the 7th commandment - do not commit adultery.
Yeah true a lot of kids in my school watch it I’m lucky I never have and probably never will watch it but it sucks people look at random girls like that and pay for it
You do know that the bible has been used as a tool to start wars and commit atrocities for centuries by evil people who used the word of god as means for that ruler to gain more power. The bible is just a book like many others. But it is those who use it to spread kindness and understanding that matters the most for it is that type of person who understand the true word of god.
I am aware that most men do or have at some time viewed pornography. I don’t think it makes someone a terrible person, we all make mistakes And have things we struggle with. That being said, it is scientifically and objectively very bad for our society, no matter how we try to paint it. Yes, there are some creators who are not victims of anything, some who view it sparingly enough it doesn’t have a significant impact on their brain but in all reality it is like alcohol. It’s a terrible drug that ruins many lives but is viewed as normal or culturally accepted by many cultural groups around the world and is even being further normalized. The science is there, pornography is a terrible thing, we don’t need to go on as a society justifying it as empowering or freedom. We can accept that it does exist, because banning it is certainly a terrible idea (prohibition anyone?), but we need to stop accepting it and glorifying it because of the 1% who make a good living or don’t outwardly appear terribly affected by it.
One could argue with factual evidence that alcohol is way worse for society then porn is (like you said). Yet, we always seem to go to porn first because of the content.
@@eddawson9617 1) no 2) gun control isn't about banning guns. For me, at least it's about better laws for protection. We have to do a written and driving test before we get our license. We should do the same for guns. Show we know proper safety procedures; how to load and clean, don't point unless you are going to shoot. That stuff. And then in depth background checks. The logical people don't want to ban guns.
“We all make mistakes”? Lol watching pron is not intrinsically “a mistake.” If a person becomes lost in watching it, it’s harmful for them, sure. But they CHOSE to partake in it. It’s like cigarettes. They should not be outlawed, because smokers CHOOSE to smoke. But THE MAJORITY of dudes who watch pron just do it once in awhile for a few min to beat off and move on with their lives. That’s not a mistake. (Also, do u have any idea how many married men would cheat if they couldn’t watch pron. Men naturally get bored of having the same partner for so long. Better they beat off once or twice a week than actually go cheat)
This girl is way beyond her years, and these guys are idiots 😂 she is schooling them on something that should be common sense. Yes guys in total disbelief, porn massively affects your mental and physical health.
@@dannykent6190agreed. They were not at all "in total disbelief" like OP said. They mostly agreed with her, they just weren't as strictly adamant about it as she was. Just because someone challenges your thinking a bit with questions of discernment doesn't mean they're in disbelief, they're just clarifying the nuances of your stance.
@@chasejackson7248 I may not be able to persuade anyone from watching porn but it’s not good for you, not only for your mental and emotional health but physically also. And it’s not just yourself you’re hurting, many people in those videos and photos are sexually abused and it’s not all consensual and many of them are underage. When I was in my teens people always thought I was a lot older than I was, so you can’t just go off of looks and assume they’re adults.
And that's why you generally don't take advice from women. They don't understand the male struggle and, when it comes to dating, live a life of privilege.
I don't think its as simple as that. "Go ask girl out on a date." Good luck with that. For most (average) men be prepared for shit-ton of rejection. The #me-too movement, has taken care of that, you cant even approach woman at bar , store , gym , etc.. with out the possibility looking like a stalker. ( or perv) ( unless your attractive guy), Worse case scenario ,charged possibly for harassment. The key problem is that women are only interested in the very top of the scale. They do not realize just how selective they are. To them men of 6ft are plentiful - in reality only 15% of the population at best. Most women wouldn’t give a guy with the national average salary a second look. 50% of men will earn less than this average. Women are roughly twice as likely as men to say that they will value financial viability in a man, for him to increase his rating on a 10-point scale by two points he requires around a tenfold increase in his salary. For a woman to achieve the same two point Improvement on a 10-point scale in a salary would need to increase by 10,000 times. A woman is concerned about a partner's socioeconomic status. ( Most have the golden penis syndrome)
( your the type of guy that works with his hands for a living ,Blue collar - your chance are even worse ) And another big one need to be in top 20% in looks also - Now days average looking girl wont even give average looking guy a chance, she can go online and get all the dates, and validation she wants. That's one of reasons a lot of men, go to porn, you can pacify yourself without dealing with shit - I believe whole -heartily most men would want be in committed relationship if given a choice.
Work on yourself, stop thinking about getting girls. Getting them is the byproduct of working hard, taking care of your body and cultivating valuable skills. Dont blame society, fix what you can fix with yourself.
You could always go South East Asia. This working on yourself is just b.s. It won't work for the bottom 80 percent. Just be yourself. Times are different with tinder and instagram
Bro, you watch too much red pill content. Promise you, if you put in the work, be careful and look in the right places you can find someone. Don’t get bitter.
@@TheArturo1789 I've been in a few relationships early on , both ended with them cheating. I work in the blue collar field ( And not in the silver spoon family business way) the construction industry. "Look in the right places", whatever that means? I'm not a church person if that's what you talking about ? I do have a life besides looking for a mate and work. Some of things I like to do are rock climbing, through hiking - which is like 300, 400 miles ( if time permits)- and I do enjoy playing chess. ( something I picked up in highs school) Believe me I've been a around enough to know, that glaze look that comes over their faces, and the whole change in their demeaner when I tell them what do for a living. You get this stigma now. No diploma, your some kind of redneck ,dumbass, that wont support my lifestyle. ( That's ok - good to know that upfront) But its getting to the point where I'm getting old enough now that I'm not sure if I want to start family anymore?
I think the red pill guys end up stopping their logic on a surface level instead of digging deeper. It’s easy to say women only want the top 10% of men because it’s hyper gamy instincts. But as an actual evolutionary science nerd ican say you guys need to study more. I agree that the problem is bigger than porn. The modern world is NOTHING like a hunter gatherer tribe where we spent all of our human evolution. The problem includes the shaming you mentioned. Women thinking they are all tens. But don’t just pass that off as female nature like the bitter red pills do. It’s the modern environment. Women don’t need individual men anymore. That’s the biggest fundamental piece. It’s hard to want and appreciate things you don’t need. When your needs are met all you have left is desires that aren’t as important. The number one cause of male suicide is not feeling useful. And I would add that it’s probably not feeling useful to a woman. Hard for them to feel appreciative when they don’t have a use for you though. And I would say THAT is what makes them only interested in Chris Hemsworth rather than a dysfunctional ignorance of all average men. A hunter gatherer tribe wasn’t composed of one guy banging all the women and fifty virgins.Women aren’t THAT hypergamous in our natural habitat. The fifty guys would quickly just kill the alpha under those conditions. Please learn more so you can understand the real evolutionary causes instead of just blaming females instincts.
All this boils down to parenting. Everyone can say don't do this because it's bad but without an explanation it's just empty demands. At some point conversations have to be had about stuff like this explaining the pros and cons.
Yeah. Anytime I see online dudes saying [in response to sexual girl videos/shorts] things like "fellas, please don't forget to love your daughters" or "clearly, she didn't have a father in their life" I think are grossly underestimating how the accessibility of porn viewership and porn employment/ownership has so ramped up the massive financial appeal of it...that a father could've loved his daughter immensely and spent all sorts of quality time with her, while she still succumbed to at least trying to start an OnlyFans anyway. There's plenty of instances of parents doing their absolute best to raise their children certain ways, including to ensure that have certain values, only for those kids to either rebel against it or as simple as just turn into their own person despite the upbringing. Kids don't always follow the advice their parents give them. Even if you lay out the pros and cons for them, even with making them feel comfortable enough to talk to you about it, they may still walk away from those conversations convinced that the pros outweigh the cons.
@@chrisjfox8715 I mean I wasn't saying anything about a parent being absent. More so a cordial discussion is important. Yes, they can become their own person and make their own decisions even after the discussion but I am 99% sure that most of the people that go into the industry are not talking to their family about it first. I also think simple research on the industry would let you know how tumultuous it is. It's like saying movies glorify murder when we know by basic morals that murder is bad. It's the same thing here.
@@mcflyjp i agree that most that go into porn aren't talking to their parents first. But I wasn't even talking about absent parents. I'm talking about both parents present who love their kids very much and were there for them, but their kids manage to make this decision anyway...all because they assumed that love was enough. With how accessible both the consumption and the employment of porn is these days, love and conversations from parents isn't necessarily enough to rise above it.
It's the minority of people who actually don't mind selling their body that justifies allowing the legal existence of pornography? Also, the guest speaker is right about a problem with accessibility. A kid with a cell phone, data, and a web browser can access porn in no time. That's wherein the issue lies. When we start implementing a system with very little to no workarounds where people that wish to access pornography have to verify their ID ....that's a great start. My focus is more so on trying to keep young people from accessing it and that's what we really should address.
@@donaldstrubler3870 I don’t keep a list of sources but it’s a generally agreed upon fact scientifically that sex very heavily affects our brains to feel very close to the person we are having it with, so of course that doesn’t align with a one night stand or casual short term relationship or open relationship. I’m admittedly also speaking as a religious person who additionally believes in intelligent intentional design and that extends to intimacy and it being a bonding experience. It’s fairly easy to look up though, there’s various articles and studies supporting that it is harder for people with a history of casual sex to have long term committed relationships. I just googled it there are many many sources
Yeah I totally agree with Brett!! When I was 12 or 13 my school brought a therapist to give a speech for my class and some others and she talked about how masturbation was okay and you could do alone in the bathroom without anyone knowing and you just had to lock it to have more privacy, she also talked about how watching porn anonymously was also okay bc women have their needs (it was a speech just for girls) and she talked about how parents didn't have to know about everything bc they wouldn't understand us... At that time I was traumatized tbh I obviously told my parents, but I was really innocent, I literally discovered the concept of "bad words/ curse" when I was like 10 ou 11 bc my parents didn't use that language and I didn't know it existed, so I didn't understand ANY of what the therapist talked about until she explained everything at our face! That was a horrible experience honestly
One thing I strongly agree on with Brett here is the amount of triggers there are around us that make us want to watch porn in the first place. Porn is a problem, yes, but I can spend days without thinking about it. However, if I see but one ad for some shitty ass mobile game that portrays a woman with very revealing clothing, then my lizard brain kicks in and now I want to watch porn again. I went 3 months trying not to watch porn, ultimately I did about 7 times. And yet it was one the most profound and life renewing experience I'd had in a while, I really felt incredible. But it also made me realize how often we're subjected to sexual content. And it's pretty much all the time. This society has a deeply rooted obsession with sexuality.
I don't think this is a question of whether or not you agree with her about the commercialization of intimacy. It's a question of whether or not the content creators are willing to sustain a marketplace. If they are then they have that right, so long as they aren't breaking any laws
I don't really like or trust "porn is good" people. You're either deep in addiction yourself and are gaslighting everybody, you're a female for whom PMO is a surrogate activity, you're a bluepilled male with a gynocentric brain, your a teenager with kleenexes and lotion on standby as we speak, and/or you fortunately have have a productive and highly social life and have never had an addiction. Either way listening to them is like listening to someone advocating the virtue of crack use for the sake of people who have a passion for the crack cooking/drug dealing industry. No, I don't think the legal system is a solution to it, but YES, IT'S BAD. Illegality is not the cure for cultural rot, but just because its consenting adults doesn't mean it's good. The scope of immorality extends beyond N.A.P. and consent violations.
Single mothers are a much bigger problem for society than porn and yet you won't hear a peep from females about it because that's THEIR screw up. I'm sick of people who project their personal issus onto others. Just because YOU have an addiction to something doesn't mean everyone does. Many people abuse food. That doesn't mean food is the problem. I'm sure somebody will say that food is a necessity while sex is not. It does not change the fact that sex is a natural biological urge.
I don’t completely disagree with Brett, but she needs to realize those divorce abuse stats, are highly subjective and when women have a huge financial incentive to make those accusations, they can not be relied on, as truth.
And when it comes to domestic violence lets not gloss over how many women become slappers and hitters when frustrated during a verbal argument, especially when they are losing logically at said argument.
Here's my take on this issue: For Men to consider stop watching pron, you would have to give them some kind of compromise that is worth it for them. Modern day women have way too high of expectations on Men, so you could also argue the influx of Men watching pron is due to the lack of female partners out there willing to date on their level. If every man had a partner, guaranteed you would see a drop in Men wanting to watch pron. It wouldn't completely go away, but you would would see a major decline. Both parties involved have a responsibility to fix what's going on, not just Men.
Typically with arguments like this I'd say that men need to take responsibility for themselves well enough to stop expecting women to give them the time of day just because they say hi. A man, any person for that matter, should aim to become a better person for the sake of themselves..not to impress someone else and feel entitled to a reward for that self-improvement. If girls are rejecting you then take it as a blessing that those girls aren't right for you - become the best version of yourself *for yourself* and seek out the *right* girl, not the multitude. HOWEVER, I do agree that the struggle of all of that is what leads dudes to falling into it. It is a blind spot on Brett's part when she said "Go ask a girl on a date!", but here's the thing...a lot of these dudes spend more of their time and energy complaining about how girls are based largely on the echo chambers they stick to online far more than any significant amount of experience they have with actually socializing with people. Like the dudes claiming they're scared of getting charged with sexual harrassment, yet can't tell me of a single incident of such that that's ever happened to anyone they knoe. Staying at home is quite literally the most counterproductive solution to their problem of finding a woman, and at the end of the day a man needs to take responsibility for what he wants. That said, it's all a big circlejerk clusterfuck: girls make millions on onlyfans because there's a market of lonely men that "can't" get dates with real girls...all because real girls are picky and dismissive towards these men...all because the culture of *endless* choices being at girls' fingertips gave them room/NEED to be selective...all because a ton of horny men flood these women's inboxes with these endless choices. I think the start of the "Tinder" era led a lot of men to believe that it was going to make dating easier, not realizing that because SO many dudes are willing to get with just about any girl then girls online tend to get tons of attention which is addictive in its own way. Bottom line, porn and onlyfans are only successful for these women because of the market that feeds it. You're right that picky women create lonely men, but the entitlement of lonely men is the very thing that gave women more and more reason to get picky in the first place. Breed a culture of men with decently high standards then women, both in real life and online, won't have the massive inevitible audience anymore.
@@chrisjfox8715 Agreed. However, the likeliness of that happening is very slim. Everyone would have to cohesively work together to make it stop but I don't see that ever happening. There is always going to be a portion of people that give in. There has to be a compromise in place or deterrent to start seeing practical change on a mass scale. People generally change based on hedonistic tendencies or fear, not from the goodness of their heart. Every major historical leader operated on these factors, and unfortunately that's what it takes to change the world.
@@joshberry777 agreed. I actually think the influence of the internet overall got away from us faster than we knew how to deal with, and yes the genie is out of the bottle. But the very thing I'm getting at is that part of that compromise you speak of is that people need to start holding the men accountable for how we got here and are here just as much as they hold the women accountable. Everybody's waiting on someone else to make the righteous move. And much like with promiscuity and hook up culture in the real world, somehow the onus is on women to keep their legs closed yet it's okay for men to stick it in wherever they can get it all because "that's just biological" as if we can't societally rise above being a man-whore just because the candy's available. It takes two to tango... You can't have a society of sexually indulgent straight women without a society of sexually indulgent male partners to take part with them. And even to the degree that most men aren't man-whores at all, we live in a society that largely has no problem with those that are..if not encourages it. Then some of the very people that've encouraged it seem shocked and appalled that an era of sexually indulgent women has blown up the way that it has. I get that the sexual, even merely social, *depravation* of lonely men is what you're talking about, but much of the way a lot of these men's mental state responded to rejection has a TON to do with how much pressure society put on them (i.e., making them feel like they were less than a man just because they weren't getting laid as much as the next guy). Not just being rejected by women but being ridiculed by fellow men, making them not feel good enough well enough to just give up. But I will say that it has more to do with a longing for even just some basic human connection with a female, since many girls' impatience with even the slightest flaw from a man can often stand in the way of that connection...or dudes leading them to believe that "the friend zone" is a four-letter word as if there's no such thing as purposely and happily just being friends with a girl..which fundamentally stems from society being SO sex-crazed that many of these men have internalized every girl that isn't interested in getting sexual as a rejection well enough for them to give up on the real world, to then live online in echo chambers that help them justify the notion that "no girl" wants them...all because society, men included, made them feel like shit for not being sexually active enough.
If you’re pro-prostitution, I encourage you to watch a few episodes of Soft White Underbelly. There’s nothing glamorous or positive to the industry and it’s truly very sad to see the how controlled these people are by drugs and/or pimps. If you saw the reality of the lifestyle it brings, a compassionate person wouldn’t be in support of making prostitution legal.
Making it illegal also doesn't solve anything, obviously as you can see from stats in the USA alone. People should have the freedom to do whatever they want as long as they are not hurting anyone. But everyone should also have the ability to go to professional settings, same with drugs like in certain countries. They put up professional locals with professional nurses and doctors for all these drug consumers, all these areas that do this, crime has plummeted and drug use has fallen. I would say the same thing about porn... It's too readily available and completely FREE! It shouldn't be so easy to access, you should have to give your information and pay. I would like to add that I am against prostitution but I am entirely for freedom.
This is such a trash argument. There are plenty of irresponsible, substance abusers out there having sex for FREE. But if one does it for money, now it's an issue? And the most abused "substance" in the U.S. is alcohol. So are we going to treat all people this way? Where you aren't allowed to have any sexual activity with a person who consumes significant amounts of alcohol, as he/she is considered compromised? You want to baby grown adults.
That's one of the main reasons people argue that it SHOULD be legal. The reason the women are controlled by pimps is because they need protection and cannot go to any legal authority for said protection. Also, when the pimp takes advantage of them, who exactly are they supposed to call to remedy the situation? I've never even tried to be with a prostitute, but obviously it is going to happen whether it's legal or not. It's been that way since the beginning of time. I don't really see what good keeping it illegal and locking them up is going to do.
She is so refreshing and gives me hopevas a father, that its definitely possible to raise a girl with these values in this time. I was gonna try either way with all ive got but this put me at ease a bit.
I spent like 10 years thinking about this issue deeply, because I knew from the start that porn is gonna change our next generation and gonna transform civilization in a very negative way, I just didn't have a proof or reason, it was very intuitive feeling. Nowdays there's like a million reasons why I was right from the start, we can see the after effects everywhere at every corner, but I don't think we can stop it anymore, we can just educate people more. For people who still think porn does nothing with humanity, just give them a simple response that is true and based in reality, like "porn has progressed so much that some people are now sexually addicted to fictional animals fucking half humans and can't get off to humans anymore, but because there's not much of this specific content on the internet, they are willing to pay absurd amounts to authors of these works on Patreon etc.. just to get another dose.. to the point where they can't no longer function in a society and end up posting LGBTQ+ promotion content on Twitter all day and write fan fictions about different types of dragon's dicks"
You are conflating some issues there. A lot of research done on behaviours in regards to sex but in short human preferences are inate with only tramua being able to affect them. People have always being messed up to some degree and it real world events that will effect what you like not an image. That's why the whole T-kids thing is a major issue as you will screw up generations with stuff that in many cases will never get resolved. There are issues around access as easy access to it short circuits much of human evolution around realtionships and intermaticy and the value of such things and some health ones for guys as while going blue balls is not good neither is the other end of the scale as at best it will reduce hormone levels and increase fatigue. There is an absurd but deeply unethical point of study there.
The more an individual watches Korn, the more they build on what they want in a mate in looks and intimate acts. Continued exposure continues to build an unattainable expectation. For those already in relationships, it sends a message to their counterpart that they aren’t enough in more than one way. Both often lead to divorce or prevent people from getting married to somebody they might have otherwise been happy with. As for the Korn Stars, every added number to the body count desensitizes the emotional connection normally felt in intimate acts. This makes it harder to connect emotionally for long term relationships, also resulting in less marriage and more divorce. Don’t forget the transmitted disease and increase in abortions plus damage to various orifices. For those who would argue about protection, There is no 100% protection from these latter concerns.
Having reduced sexual morality down to just consent has created this. What we need is people to say that people can be harmed by engaging in activities even if they are consenting adults. We know this intuitively by women who feel shame and feel used by some one night stands. Selling your body whether online or in person damages yourself and the consumers.
the issue in this era, is guy wants a simple date, but is labeled a creep or stalker without even doing anything wrong. this is why guys turn to porn so much. ive seen this everywhere. guys are now scared to death to even speak to a girl cuz we dont want to get in trouble an stuff.
Men are not scared to talk to women, its the excessive hassle and bull shit now associated with modern women. I liken it to a box that has a 25% chance to give you everything but also has a 75% chance of being a bear trap and you losing a limb.
If you can't understand why people think you're too creepy to date, there's counseling to help you. Dating isn't magic and fairy tales. It's hard work to be dateable and easy to mess up and get hurt. Get yourself emotionally healthy, fund someone who tries to be emotionally healthy, and you'll have less problems.
Brett is one of the most well spoken person out there, there should be more people like her, and more should start listening to her so they can get out out of their fantasy world...btw loved the sentence about not being a politician = wouldn't be surprised that she'll be 1st woman president lol...will get my vote for sure....we need normal/intelligent in office, especially now...
They’re trying so hard to avoid bringing a religious moral argument into the conversation because they know Gen Z viewers will tune out immediately. Just have the courage to say it’s objectively wrong and cut it with the libertarian equivocation.
You couldve invited bre olsen or penny flame to the podcast and they'll easily tell you how much porn have effected their lives. Bre olsen was scrutinized for doing porn when she was trying to get a job at a elementary school, penny flame was addicted to porn watching and doing it. She was on celebrity rehab with dr.drew 2 decades ago
The problem is women no longer want average men. She acts as if these guys can just go out and get dates. They can't anymore. That's why they're on only fans. Women across the board feel entitled to the top 10% of men. That leaves a lot of men sh** out of luck. It's not entirely men's fault/choice. The problem is much deeper than men just being lazy and choosing porn over relationships. Nobody would make that choice given a better option. But not everyone can be a top 10-20% guy. Women need to take responsibility for their role in this problem too, which is embracing the false promises of feminism. They need to humble themselves and remember that being a woman is about fulfilling a social role more than it is about fulfilling selfish unrealistic fantasies. It's about building strong children, communities, and country more than any individual woman's fantasy. When women come to this epiphany, then and only then will the dating quagmire we're in begin to resolve itself.
women NEVER ever ever take responsibility for anything. Blaming porn is stupid because it is blaming the consequences instead of the root cause of the problem.
Just because you "know what you're getting into" (either as a performer or a consumer) doesn't mean the long term impact isn't dangerous and destructive. Lives are destroyed, marriages are destroyed, suicide rate is off the charts. Even if the performers were AI, the lives of the consumers still in danger.
Porn literally makes you a loser and a creep for watching other people have sex lmao think about it, it’s some creepy behavior that has become normalized which is why im glad she brought up the point of people having to literally go and rent porn videos at blockbuster
Been around for centuries you can see sex murals from ancient times I think sex is a positive thing it’s only religious puritans that tend to vilify sex.
I was thinking this yesterday. its's probably the reason being a "cuck" is a kink nowadays. watching other people have sex is just weird, but we normalized it. its like the industrial revolution and its consequences. all of us genz have to do the dirty work of past generations with climate change, global warming even porn.
If you are so concerned about it then do not buy it or rent it there is a reason why places like Blockbuster have an adult section that was restricted for adults.
@@JustTooDamnHonestit should just be banned all together. Trash content made by humans for trash people, to keep a trash mindset. Keep watching it buddy.
Brett! I watch your channel all the time but I don't see you speaking elsewhere very often. You should definitely do more videos without jump cuts. You're articulate enough to speak at length without the need of that crutch.
Once you are into the industry it impacts everything from then on. Think about how some random post gets you cancelled? What do you think a past of sex work will do?
@@technoloverish 1) there's a big jump between "sex work bad idea" and "intimacy is only for marriage, 2) there was no mention of how God theoretically judges sex work, but the societal judgement
That’s their problem. Not yours. People acting like they’re SOOOOO concerned with the futures of these young chicks that do OF. “What about when u get judged later in life? What if ur future kids get bullied? What if a future employer looks into ur background?” Quit playin, you don’t care lol. And neither do I. If it’s such a mistake (and I think many times it is), they’ll bear the consequences; not you or I.
Brett should have dug deeper into the inherent damage behind porn: it's not just biological, it's spiritual; the body is not extricable without the soul and vice-versa; the soul is saved or damned by the body.
Most people don’t believe that though so it’s not a convincing argument. The only people it would reach are people who already agree that porn is bad. Literally preaching to the choir.
@@CarlYota porn isn’t really bad, as long as it’s between two consenting adults and not hurting anyone, it can become an addiction which is bad however having a wank every now and then is proven to be beneficial for one’s health and it’s easier to have a wank when you have a pretty lady or handsome man to look at (however I will admit that a lot of girls are forced to do things they don’t want to in the porn industry behind the scenes and that’s very bad, but if the people involved in a video truly are consenting to it, it’s not really bad, so long as it’s nothing illegal and everyone involved is of age)
@@CarlYota The point was to begin to bridge the gap by attempting to explain the soul in a way which can translate to the materialist argument that it doesn't exist.
It’s wild we can’t articulate why porn is bad for people to participate in and watch. It ruins families, marriages, it’s as addictive as some drugs, it makes men less likely to pursue a woman in the real world, it gives very unrealistic expectations of sex, it changes the way you view women for the worse, and it’s also shameful. There is a lot of abuse, diseases, and does far more hard to society than good.
If it was banned and all other things regarding sex works, I could randomly get killed by a mass shooting caused by from some invisible incel not having any outlet for women.. Keep porn legal please
"Biological truths are axiomatically correct morally." Well, not all the time. There are some biological truths that are rooted in our cruel survival instincts. There are some things that are morally appalling but they are part of our wiring. For reference, remember that psychopathy is a mostly evolutionary thing that is rooted in our biology but many traits related to it are not morally acceptable.
“Two consenting adults who aren’t harming anyone” that’s the issue. It IS harming people. Young or not, it changes the brain chemistry of people, it sets unrealistic expectations, and it literally creates addictions. It’s bad
Brett: “I think porn is bad because it messes with hormones, causes young men to stay in isolation instead of seek real relationships, and has been linked to an increase in domestic violence”
Jack: “ok but why is porn ITSELF bad”
He's asking as an addicted person.
@@DavidGonzalez-cw9mo again back to the PORN, it causes hormone issues, isolation, depression, is made on the backs of children and victims, unfairly pays, usually recordings are made drunk and high, causes addiction for the actresses/actors. thats the hill you died on?
@@DavidGonzalez-cw9moI agree, I feel like porn is only toxic for people who aren’t mentally mature enough to understand the difference between reality and fantasy.
@@viiofwands3076 Agreed!
@B K 😂
“Two consenting adults” and “there’s a market for it” opens up endless possibilities for any kind of amoral activity.
@@ridhimalifestyle100 fucking disgusting and also doesn't even fit the broad criteria of 2 consenting adults
I agree. There must be more boundaries and rules than just consent. That's a shallow thing. People can consent to do the most gruesome acts possible.
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so is wine moderation and discretion is key
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the fact that men are so attracted to her because she's normal speaks volumes to our generation of women being screwed up
very true, also for some reason whenever she wears less and less makeup, she looks more beautiful imo. I feel like were starting to associate things like certain ways of dressing and excessive makeup as less attractive, im finding myself no longer being attracted to women at the clubs or bars tbh.
@@okashiname8326 its because it isn't fake, she doesn't pile on the makeup and isn't getting the ridiculously extensive plastic surgery that some of these women are getting. I find that a lot of women are putting so much make up on its actually unattractive because its so noticeable, that and once they wash it away the skin underneath is substantially blemished and broke out due to being covered in makeup most of the day.
wrong, men are attrected to her because she looks like Ben Shapiro
@@sanjikun206 XD ayo
She doesnt wear excessive amounts of makeups, dresses up modestly, but the most important thing, she looks very very happy, a happy women is a good women
I gotta be honest. I remember when I first heard about her someone was bad mouthing her calling some far right extremist nutjob, but as soon as I actually listen to what she has to say, she brings up really valid points. Sucks when you believe what others tell you until you see it for yourself. She's amazing, we need more women like her in the world .
Anyone saying "far right extremist" is to be taken with a grain of salt.
@@matthewlynch903 That's the issue with the far left, EVERYONE is a far right extremist to them.
Regardless of which "side" is doing it, when someone is telling you what to think about something or telling you what critics say about something that's a red flag to not unquestionably believe it, especially if it aligns with your sentiments.
I didn't look at Ben Shapiro for a while for that reason. Until a creator who's definitely a lefty centrist said he listens to him. Which led to Brett's channel my favorite find of 2023.
@@submandave1125 most of CNN's content is about "what Republicans think"... there's not a single Republican in the building, how would they know what a Republican thinks?
I love Brett Cooper, she's the only young women of our generation who seems to have the brains and doesn't have a problem speaking out.
I think it’s ironic that the ones that advocate for good mental health are the ones that also advocate probably the worst addiction that’s plaguing modern society today. They’re also the ones that are the most confused and depressed out of everyone. Then they have the audacity to ask us why we think porn and having multiple partners is so bad…they get factual answers that don’t go with their agendas and they say it’s bullshit.
@@MaDHaTT3R85Gen Z were much better and wild
She sounds like an idiot.
PSALMS 42:1 As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God.
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I love Brett, she's probably my favorite UA-camr, but I'm reasonably sure there must be a couple others. 😆
Really, don't lose faith in us. Are a lot of us dumb? Yeah! But a lot of us aren't! I'd say a good 40 percent of us are reasonably sane. I wish it was more, but hey it's better than nothing, right? 😅😂
We gotta protect this girl at all cost..
I think she is smart enough to protect herself
Put it back in your pants
She's a gun girl. I would be more worried about the other person.😂
@@lukeshaddick4105and likely armed enough to protect herself aswell!
Simp energy
Brett really knows her stuff and there’s still other people trying to discredit her of her own show.
What are people criticizing??
Funny, I was sitting here thinking she sounded pretty weak. I mean, not hard hitting at all.
@@clips7701 that she gets content from her staff and it's not her own
@@thejakelegion well her position about death penalty and birth control is quite intriguing for me. To each their own I guess
@@thejakelegionYeah, she didn't 100% know why she represented her position, even if it is the right one. The closest she came was that porn is morally wrong and destructive to society, but she couldn't articulate very well why that is the case. She's still young.
"Porn is destroying my generation", very true.
What generation is that? Porn has been around since seventies.
Porn has already ruined a generation of men. Probably two generations.
@@insomniacresurrected1000 yeah it has, the thing is availability, which has increased exponentially
@@Pokey-xp9gn Back in the days, most consumers of porn were married guys that weren’t getting any action in the bedroom from their wives. Today it is guys that either can’t get a relationship or, like me, don’t give a fuck about getting one. All my relationships with women sucked a massive arse. I dated a lot of women throughout my life. I would rather beat off to porn to be honest.
There is a lot this ruining society then porn. Weirdly enough the states that consume the most porn are conservative states. Problem is most learn about sex from porn.
Porn is a major issue me and so many friends have battle severe porn addiction. It has plagued me since I was 13. It is truly a horrible thing and has only changed me for the worse. I feel for all of the women in the industry. So many young men and women in porn have killed themselves. It is horrible for the workers and the consumers. Walk away from porn. Be a man in control of your lust don't give up your time, energy, or love for this filth. Think of your future kids and spouse. Get out now, the longer you wait the harder it gets.
Then do something about it then by becoming a voice that battled porn addiction and just remember that it was your choice to become one in the first place and now you are free from it.
Speak for yourself. I'm tired of people acting like their experience should be the deciding factor for all others. Meanwhile, you have women out here getting casual sex or relationships (thus steady sex) whenever they want. If you want to take your advice from someone who has no comprehension of your struggle, go for it. But it sounds like a terrible idea to me.
‘…control your lust.’ Emotions and intrusive thoughts are nearly impossible to control.
This!!! Listen to podcasts of ex-pornstars. So many say they have seen so many people off themselves because of the industry and the other strong ties to it.
And I think they mean control your actions. My controlling your actions you can wane yourself off of porn and your impulses will decrease because of it.
LUKE 1:37 For with God nothing is impossible."
PHILIPPIANS 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
I really can’t get over how mature she is at her age. She’s beyond well educated. 😮
How old is she?
It isn't just porn. We are dealing with exponential dangers that are being downplayed like drugs.
Do you suggest that we outlaw porn like with drugs? or would you prefer grown adults have the right to choose what adult content or chemicals they consume so long as they're informed of the potential dangers, without government interference?
@kubrikansis7289 no, I never said that... the war on drugs is a joke.
@@Sourwhatup the DARE program was known to increase drug addiction rates and it continued to receive funding for years after!!
Honest conversation and education is so much better than fear mongering.
@@coleeto2 I already know this. Why are you talking about the DARE program? Nobody is talking about that. The DARE program was a joke. So was the war on drugs.
@@kubrikansis7289 suggest we stop normalizing bad things whether it's porn or crack and start to promote education about the very bad negatives and no positives of these things. outlawing things doesn't work and taking away rights in the same of "safety", "security", or "protection" is always the bad route to go. also,your comment comes off as combative and doesn't actually want to seek a solution or even a real response/conversation from others.
Me and my grandma were watching an episode of dr.Phil, they were having a very similar conversation to this. My grandma made kind of a good point. She said things like OF will only work while your young and beautiful. One you start getting older, new “ content creators” will come and essentially replace you.
So I guess what she's saying is you can't hesitate... You need to milk it for all it's worth while you are still young?
Eh the only issue with that statement is there are groups who have preferences for older women/men. So yeah you might not be the most popular but you can still make a living being a older model. And depending on how successful you are you can turn around and be a producer/owner of a site. Look at some of the gay pornstars who went from being young guys making hundreds of movies to being the face of a website/directors/producers.
This is a very *no shit* take.
I'm pretty sure a lot of these girls, while hopeful that the remain hot for as long as possible, are just riding the wave of their youth and getting the massive amounts of money while they can. As far as money, most of the successful ones will be fine in their post-hot years - the real issue is how they'll handle the dwindling amount of attention they got so used to.
Pretty sure 99.9% of the female population doesn’t think about this nor care
Porn is a young woman's game. And beauty is the first attribute about us that naturally fades the fastest. So any woman who focuses and specializes solely in her looks is going to be severely disappointed in old age when she no longer has her looks.
A young woman can make a lot of money fast in porn... But it's sacrificing away her future for the present. Choosing a life in porn will have consequences that last longer than the money gained from it.
Every girl that says, "just go out there and ask a girl on a date" Should try doing it for a year.
and yet she's right. it is simplified, but if you see after a while that you are not getting anywhere with anyone it might be a necessity to self reflect. it's also valid in a relationship when it start going downhill.
If you just go out and ask a random girl straight up for a date yeah it's going to be a lot of rejection even if you are good looking.
By going out there , go somewhere where people go to have fun. Vacations , music shows even historical monuments etc. somewhere where people will be more open to meeting new people.
By asking a girl out , start a random conversation completely unrelated to dating and after a while if you notice interest ( if she is talking with you for an hour there is a decent chance she is interested ) than ask her out.
Its not easy by any means and rejection sucks , but I never used dating app in my life.
@@Makyura43 You do realise that men (and most women) use dating apps to sleep around, not to seek relationships, do you? You do also realise that the majority of women between 18 and 28 want to sleep around not form a relationship to lead to marriage, do you?
The model you present reflects a past society which ceased to exist since at least the early 90s, i.e. it was dead even before the advent of the internet and about 20 years before the popularisation of dating apps.
Go back and check the numbers. The numbers never lie, the give you the reality as it is. 80% of men are deemed unattractive by the average woman. That means that the average woman who could be "better" than merely the 35%-40% of the female population (i.e. a relatively unattractive woman) finds unattractive men who are better than 75% and even 80% of the male population. Average women find "somewhat attractive" and only "under strict conditions" some 15% of men (i.e. men who are better than the 80% of the male population) and they do find genuinely attractive only 5% of men (i.e. men who are better than 95%o of the male population).
The average woman does not want to do anything with the average man and will only think of it around 30 years old, after she has been used and abused and being then desperate for a man to impregnate her and pay for her kids. That is the state of affairs today. If it was different most women would be married by 21-22 years old. They prefer to go have "careers" because they do not want to be associated with the men that actually correspond to them.
elaborate?
Worst thing she can say is no!. unless she says EW.
One thing I heard from a friend who got into porn and pulled away from it was that he started to realize he needed harder or weirded things to enjoy the experience. He basically said porn desensitized him to the normalcy of regular sex or sexual behavior. The fear is where that leads. Beastiality? Pedophelia? Its a slippery slope. I would imagine it's even worse for those involved in the porn industry as its not just normal to see, but also completely act out.
Slippery slope fallacy my guy. There is no evidence that porn of any kind will lead to beastiality and pedophilia for anyone but a relative few. Out of the billions of people who consume porn, how many do you think became pedophiles, sexual abusers, or rapists?
Brett should do an Only Fans but troll people by wearing more clothing than what's socially acceptable
Omg.
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i admire Brett Cooper and her morals so much that this clip alone led me to delete my onlyfans account and to stop following instagram accounts that have similar overtones as onlyfans ... her influence over my moral compass is impressive given that she does not overtly tell people to change their ways ...
U must be easily influenced then 😂😂😂 You're basically the target audience for every right-wing cult 😂😂😂
Props to you actively making a change for the better
Damn what a real men
Are you making less money now though?
good job
When I was DJ I met many strippers and people working in the porn industry.
They had one thing in common, most are broken.
To be fair 98% of the people I’ve encountered in my life have been broken, some just hide it better
@@metalmanexetreme Agreed.
@@metalmanexetremebut 98% does not choose to work in that industry though...so not that broken.
@@geluix69 Doesn't this apply to any industry?
PSALMS 120:2 Save me, O LORD, from lying lips and from deceitful tongues.
Brett Cooper on the Whatever podcast would be awesome to watch.
The whatever podcast sucks
Brian is in talks to bring her on
@@sathvik6982how do u know
@@bigz5262because they do long form conversations breaching important topics with people who aren’t intelligent and haven’t thought about what their discussing much at all. Their 18 year old hot chicks. What do we expect.
How am I supposed to sit through 4 hours of naive promiscuous women who just graduated high school take about things they know nothing of?
@@goldenmemes51Source: Trust me bro
The fact that she spits dozens of facts on how bad the porn industry is, and they continue to stutter into "devils advocate" remarks to try and justify their own sins...speaks volumes. If they dont see it, it cant be true.
Brett is every guy’s dream girl tbh. Beautiful obviously but more importantly extremely smart and aware
She's just a cool person with great personality and morals
She means well but doesn’t understand that porn won’t go away unless women stop seeking the same men and ignoring 60 percent of all men.
You’ve never even met this person
1CORINTHIANS 8:1 Now about food sacrificed to idols: We know that we all possess knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up.
I remember growing up there was a worker next to curtains by the adult section at stores that would literally make sure we didn't go near it as kids. Now I go to the same stores as a 19 year old and there's no worker or curtain and you can just see the adult toys and content
Are there no adults period? Or are there no adults just stopping you?
wtf
I recall being like 16 at a movie store, here was an adult section in the back, got a few peeks. No big deal. OMG NAKED BODIES!!! Nature!!! The horror!
@@ItApproaches lmao
They literally say vibrators in Target stores now... Which everyone can see
I abused porn for years. I am 2 months clean, and now finally want to get a job, my drivers license, I'm happier, but holy shit, it was so hard to quit. I get scared just going into yt comments because I have seen bots with just like a booty pic, and it was so hard not to watch porn for a couple days after that. All I did during my time abusing it was terrible. I hated it, and will always advise people to just not watch it.
2 years here man. im withw you. i just got fed up and felt disgusted one day at how pathetic i was. ill never go back.
God bless. Replace with something better. Work three jobs if you have to.
@@kylecoleman1281 Three jobs? Are you trying to kill him?
Damn, you watched so much pr0n that you didn't have a job or license? Good for you for getting clean, keep at it.
HOW?? I'VE BEEN TRYING AND FAILING FOR MONTHS NOW
Jack: “Yes porn creates a bad culture and also it’s really dangerous.”
Also Jack: “Porn is totally fine.”
It’s bad. It’s addictive.
First time I’ve ever heard Brett drop an F Bomb, love her passion on this topic & how much knowledge she is spreading about this topic!
There should be way more people like Brett.
There are tons of girls like Brett my friend you just have to look the right places, they’re at universities, your local coffee bar, church, Christian dating apps, the gym, etc.
I went to a Christian college and they were tons of girls like Brett, cute, having good morals and being wifey material
Yall only go for OF models so… it’s your fault
Only Fans is enough proof that says that we're living in a totally messed up world. If you're on Onlyfans making money, you know where you stand and what's your moral ground.
Entrepreneurship is on the rise though kekw
well what's the problem with that, though?
@@idrk7509 O absolutely nothing wrong with that. I believe that's how you'd react when your sister says she wants to earn big bucks on Onlyfans
@@row0111 yea its on rise through methods that cross all lines of morality.
Ethics police? Sorry pal we don’t have those here.
Capitalism, freedom of expression, take it or leave it.
So tired or religious zealots pretending to judge others for living.
Tell me, which did more harm to America, porn, or 9/11? Think about it too don’t just blurt out porn 😂
Anyone been hearing Brett’s audio is a little off throughout the whole episode?
Like there's an echo? Yes
Probably voice being picked up by other mics
@@hewhorocketh yea that’s what I was thinking they were too close
@@RyanCraft_ easily sorted with a gate on the input
I think porn is more a symptom of isolation vs a cause. Most people are turning to porn because they cannot find a date or because there are bad things going on in their relationships. Porn is a crutch. It is exceedingly rare, in my opinion, that men choose porn over real life relationships. They choose porn over nothing or as an outlet when they don’t know how to make their relationships work.
Should we ban alcohol next? It didn't work very well last time. How about we stop pretending it is the government's responsibility to parent people and their kids?
Porn should absolutely be regulated at least to make it way less accessible for underage people, it’s ruining millions of peoples lives and causing many to commit suicide.
Idk how anyone can make a case for this “industry”.
Americans prize freedom extremely highly, to the point where it’s starts to feel like freedom at all costs. All is a really big category, people. We might want to think more nuanced than that.
The Porn Industry makes more than Netflix and Hollywood combined. So if money is the key factor - That is a pretty huge thing. But other than that? It's seedy and blergh. Not a fan. However it is hard to deny the amount of money it makes so I doubt it will ever go away.
You people need to get a serious grip on reality 😂 good god. Sex is normal, every mammal on this fucking planet has sex. Humans are sexual animals. What's the difference if it's filmed and paid or not ? Please enlighten us
Unlike what Brett nonchalantly suggested (going out and asking a [possible mate] out) there are individuals which through no fault of their own will never find someone to be their partner, who may not even have the function of preforming sexually, and for these people porn is likely the only method they have of experiencing even an inkling of sexual satisfaction, on top of this there are those who decided that they do not wish to breed, or form partnerships, but still have sexual desires(not to be confused with a romantic asexuals) which porn can solve. I won’t say that the current system isn’t full of problems(as is pretty much every system touched by capabilities greed) but it does have legitimate use cases outside of just hijacking the human sex drive.
Women made the porn industry a thing...the signed up for it, they are vein and fickle, and will do whatever for easy money. The song "Girls just wanna have fun!" comes to mind. Me are painted as sexual monsters, yet women are in actuality the sex freaks. But society can't let that be known as females run the system lol.
The Brett is real woman and raised very good, thankyou Brett mom
She is a fatherless (and it's shown) copypaste of Ben Shapiro. Shut up 😂
Brett is based.
Edit: Us humans were given free will. What an individual does is their own doing. If a person wants to be vaccinated or not be vaccinated is the individuals own choice. In this country (I am American) the 1st Amendment gives the right to all Americans the right to free speech and opinions and that cannot be infringed on.
Except we had (and still have) a culture would consider you abnormal (weird) if you didn't get a vaccine just like in American male social circles it's like blinking and breathing if you watch porn but if you won't or don't you're this social pariah.
@DiogenesNephewAre you sure about that?
We have enough free will to commit evil.
@DiogenesNephew When I was a child I did malicious things because I felt like it. There were consequences. Now I have a strong moral conscience and work in healthcare. Where I occasionally witness horrific things.
You are wrong. We most certainly have free will and can freely choose to do terrible things. I have seen this myself more times than I care to imagine.
Based? Bet her husband watches pxrn!
It baffles me how anyone can even attempt to justify porn. It’s one of the most obviously immoral things, next to murder and stealing.
It baffles me how stupid men like you are not knowing what would happen if governments banned porn and women selling naked photos online. Riots would break out everywhere and mass shooting would increase big time
@@julianchillby1024evidence?
It's sinful, plain and simple. It's wrong on all counts. Any sex outside of marriage is wrong. Do not murder is the 6th commandment, do not steel is the 8th, and porn would fall into the 7th commandment - do not commit adultery.
She absolutely destroyed their devils advocate arguments. She’s so right.
The VAST majority of the people are first exposed to pornography around 12-14 years old. By the time they turn 18, they’re already addicted
Yeah true a lot of kids in my school watch it I’m lucky I never have and probably never will watch it but it sucks people look at random girls like that and pay for it
This so-called addiction is not recognized by any medical bodies
The bible becomes more true to me the longer I live.
Amen
You do know that the bible has been used as a tool to start wars and commit atrocities for centuries by evil people who used the word of god as means for that ruler to gain more power.
The bible is just a book like many others. But it is those who use it to spread kindness and understanding that matters the most for it is that type of person who understand the true word of god.
Don't look too close...🫣
I am aware that most men do or have at some time viewed pornography. I don’t think it makes someone a terrible person, we all make mistakes
And have things we struggle with. That being said, it is scientifically and objectively very bad for our society, no matter how we try to paint it. Yes, there are some creators who are not victims of anything, some who view it sparingly enough it doesn’t have a significant impact on their brain but in all reality it is like alcohol. It’s a terrible drug that ruins many lives but is viewed as normal or culturally accepted by many cultural groups around the world and is even being further normalized. The science is there, pornography is a terrible thing, we don’t need to go on as a society justifying it as empowering or freedom. We can accept that it does exist, because banning it is certainly a terrible idea (prohibition anyone?), but we need to stop accepting it and glorifying it because of the 1% who make a good living or don’t outwardly appear terribly affected by it.
Sounds like a gun control argument.
One could argue with factual evidence that alcohol is way worse for society then porn is (like you said). Yet, we always seem to go to porn first because of the content.
@@eddawson9617 1) no
2) gun control isn't about banning guns. For me, at least it's about better laws for protection.
We have to do a written and driving test before we get our license. We should do the same for guns. Show we know proper safety procedures; how to load and clean, don't point unless you are going to shoot. That stuff.
And then in depth background checks.
The logical people don't want to ban guns.
@@eddawson9617 it’s not.
“We all make mistakes”? Lol watching pron is not intrinsically “a mistake.” If a person becomes lost in watching it, it’s harmful for them, sure. But they CHOSE to partake in it. It’s like cigarettes. They should not be outlawed, because smokers CHOOSE to smoke. But THE MAJORITY of dudes who watch pron just do it once in awhile for a few min to beat off and move on with their lives. That’s not a mistake. (Also, do u have any idea how many married men would cheat if they couldn’t watch pron. Men naturally get bored of having the same partner for so long. Better they beat off once or twice a week than actually go cheat)
The "parasocial relationships" reason for why "Onlyfans is better than Pornhub" is actually one of the fucking reasons it's bad lmao
Wow I am loving the fact that there is a girl like this for the young generation. Gives me hope.
You realize that there's probably millions of young people like her in the world?
@@gageduke7652 I would hope so.
@@gageduke7652 Nah. 24 y/o male here. Its a wasteland out here. Churches, sports clubs, bars. They are all the same with the same women.
@@ethanbednarek8080 You may not find them in a church, sports club, or bar.
The title is ambiguous. I thought Brett Cooper was on Onlyfans
Maybe someday, my bro
This girl is way beyond her years, and these guys are idiots 😂 she is schooling them on something that should be common sense. Yes guys in total disbelief, porn massively affects your mental and physical health.
I thought the same thing while watching this…
Seems like 3 adults having a solid meaningful conversation to me. I'm not sure any of them come across as idiots.
@@dannykent6190agreed. They were not at all "in total disbelief" like OP said. They mostly agreed with her, they just weren't as strictly adamant about it as she was.
Just because someone challenges your thinking a bit with questions of discernment doesn't mean they're in disbelief, they're just clarifying the nuances of your stance.
My mental health and physical health is fine.
@@chasejackson7248 I may not be able to persuade anyone from watching porn but it’s not good for you, not only for your mental and emotional health but physically also. And it’s not just yourself you’re hurting, many people in those videos and photos are sexually abused and it’s not all consensual and many of them are underage. When I was in my teens people always thought I was a lot older than I was, so you can’t just go off of looks and assume they’re adults.
That title is going to draw in some people with dirty minds
I scrolled down real far to find this comment and got caught in a frenzy of other discussions
A lot of the women who are in the industry are treated like shit and feel disgusted after what they do, they have admitted to it...
i don't think Brett understands how hard it is for men to find a date.
Brett a woman what did u expect
And that's why you generally don't take advice from women. They don't understand the male struggle and, when it comes to dating, live a life of privilege.
I don't see how that's relevant
It's hard for everyone to find a date .
@@angelahull9064 much easier for women, i mean the men usually do the asking and women can pick an choose who they want to date.
I don't think its as simple as that. "Go ask girl out on a date." Good luck with that. For most (average) men be prepared for shit-ton of rejection. The #me-too movement, has taken care of that, you cant even approach woman at bar , store , gym , etc.. with out the possibility looking like a stalker. ( or perv) ( unless your attractive guy), Worse case scenario ,charged possibly for harassment.
The key problem is that women are only interested in the very top of the scale. They do not realize just how selective they are. To them men of 6ft are plentiful - in reality only 15% of the population at best.
Most women wouldn’t give a guy with the national average salary a second look. 50% of men will earn less than this average. Women are roughly twice as likely as men to say that they will value financial viability in a man, for him to increase his rating on a 10-point scale by two points he requires around a tenfold increase in his salary. For a woman to achieve the same two point Improvement on a 10-point scale in a salary would need to increase by 10,000 times. A woman is concerned about a partner's socioeconomic status. ( Most have the golden penis syndrome)
( your the type of guy that works with his hands for a living ,Blue collar - your chance are even worse )
And another big one need to be in top 20% in looks also - Now days average looking girl wont even give average looking guy a chance, she can go online and get all the dates, and validation she wants.
That's one of reasons a lot of men, go to porn, you can pacify yourself without dealing with shit - I believe whole -heartily most men would want be in committed relationship if given a choice.
Work on yourself, stop thinking about getting girls. Getting them is the byproduct of working hard, taking care of your body and cultivating valuable skills. Dont blame society, fix what you can fix with yourself.
You could always go South East Asia. This working on yourself is just b.s. It won't work for the bottom 80 percent. Just be yourself. Times are different with tinder and instagram
Bro, you watch too much red pill content. Promise you, if you put in the work, be careful and look in the right places you can find someone. Don’t get bitter.
@@TheArturo1789 I've been in a few relationships early on , both ended with them cheating. I work in the blue collar field ( And not in the silver spoon family business way) the construction industry.
"Look in the right places", whatever that means?
I'm not a church person if that's what you talking about ?
I do have a life besides looking for a mate and work. Some of things I like to do are rock climbing, through hiking - which is like 300, 400 miles ( if time permits)- and I do enjoy playing chess. ( something I picked up in highs school)
Believe me I've been a around enough to know, that glaze look that comes over their faces, and the whole change in their demeaner when I tell them what do for a living.
You get this stigma now. No diploma, your some kind of redneck ,dumbass, that wont support my lifestyle. ( That's ok - good to know that upfront)
But its getting to the point where I'm getting old enough now that I'm not sure if I want to start family anymore?
I think the red pill guys end up stopping their logic on a surface level instead of digging deeper. It’s easy to say women only want the top 10% of men because it’s hyper gamy instincts. But as an actual evolutionary science nerd ican say you guys need to study more.
I agree that the problem is bigger than porn. The modern world is NOTHING like a hunter gatherer tribe where we spent all of our human evolution.
The problem includes the shaming you mentioned. Women thinking they are all tens. But don’t just pass that off as female nature like the bitter red pills do. It’s the modern environment.
Women don’t need individual men anymore. That’s the biggest fundamental piece. It’s hard to want and appreciate things you don’t need. When your needs are met all you have left is desires that aren’t as important.
The number one cause of male suicide is not feeling useful. And I would add that it’s probably not feeling useful to a woman. Hard for them to feel appreciative when they don’t have a use for you though. And I would say THAT is what makes them only interested in Chris Hemsworth rather than a dysfunctional ignorance of all average men.
A hunter gatherer tribe wasn’t composed of one guy banging all the women and fifty virgins.Women aren’t THAT hypergamous in our natural habitat. The fifty guys would quickly just kill the alpha under those conditions.
Please learn more so you can understand the real evolutionary causes instead of just blaming females instincts.
All this boils down to parenting. Everyone can say don't do this because it's bad but without an explanation it's just empty demands. At some point conversations have to be had about stuff like this explaining the pros and cons.
Yeah. Anytime I see online dudes saying [in response to sexual girl videos/shorts] things like "fellas, please don't forget to love your daughters" or "clearly, she didn't have a father in their life" I think are grossly underestimating how the accessibility of porn viewership and porn employment/ownership has so ramped up the massive financial appeal of it...that a father could've loved his daughter immensely and spent all sorts of quality time with her, while she still succumbed to at least trying to start an OnlyFans anyway.
There's plenty of instances of parents doing their absolute best to raise their children certain ways, including to ensure that have certain values, only for those kids to either rebel against it or as simple as just turn into their own person despite the upbringing.
Kids don't always follow the advice their parents give them. Even if you lay out the pros and cons for them, even with making them feel comfortable enough to talk to you about it, they may still walk away from those conversations convinced that the pros outweigh the cons.
@@chrisjfox8715 I mean I wasn't saying anything about a parent being absent. More so a cordial discussion is important. Yes, they can become their own person and make their own decisions even after the discussion but I am 99% sure that most of the people that go into the industry are not talking to their family about it first.
I also think simple research on the industry would let you know how tumultuous it is. It's like saying movies glorify murder when we know by basic morals that murder is bad. It's the same thing here.
@@mcflyjp i agree that most that go into porn aren't talking to their parents first. But I wasn't even talking about absent parents. I'm talking about both parents present who love their kids very much and were there for them, but their kids manage to make this decision anyway...all because they assumed that love was enough. With how accessible both the consumption and the employment of porn is these days, love and conversations from parents isn't necessarily enough to rise above it.
It's the minority of people who actually don't mind selling their body that justifies allowing the legal existence of pornography? Also, the guest speaker is right about a problem with accessibility. A kid with a cell phone, data, and a web browser can access porn in no time. That's wherein the issue lies. When we start implementing a system with very little to no workarounds where people that wish to access pornography have to verify their ID ....that's a great start. My focus is more so on trying to keep young people from accessing it and that's what we really should address.
Amazing to see Ben Shapiro's transition going so well
Right??!!!
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Does this make me gay 🎉
Ben shapiro's speed mirage 😂😂
I like her. She's surprisingly rational for her generation.
A reminder that the same exact argument can apply to be "we aren't designed to sit and podcast". The argument has to be much more precise
@@Alexa-qn6ke source?
@@donaldstrubler3870 I don’t keep a list of sources but it’s a generally agreed upon fact scientifically that sex very heavily affects our brains to feel very close to the person we are having it with, so of course that doesn’t align with a one night stand or casual short term relationship or open relationship. I’m admittedly also speaking as a religious person who additionally believes in intelligent intentional design and that extends to intimacy and it being a bonding experience. It’s fairly easy to look up though, there’s various articles and studies supporting that it is harder for people with a history of casual sex to have long term committed relationships. I just googled it there are many many sources
Yeah I totally agree with Brett!! When I was 12 or 13 my school brought a therapist to give a speech for my class and some others and she talked about how masturbation was okay and you could do alone in the bathroom without anyone knowing and you just had to lock it to have more privacy, she also talked about how watching porn anonymously was also okay bc women have their needs (it was a speech just for girls) and she talked about how parents didn't have to know about everything bc they wouldn't understand us... At that time I was traumatized tbh I obviously told my parents, but I was really innocent, I literally discovered the concept of "bad words/ curse" when I was like 10 ou 11 bc my parents didn't use that language and I didn't know it existed, so I didn't understand ANY of what the therapist talked about until she explained everything at our face! That was a horrible experience honestly
One thing I strongly agree on with Brett here is the amount of triggers there are around us that make us want to watch porn in the first place. Porn is a problem, yes, but I can spend days without thinking about it. However, if I see but one ad for some shitty ass mobile game that portrays a woman with very revealing clothing, then my lizard brain kicks in and now I want to watch porn again. I went 3 months trying not to watch porn, ultimately I did about 7 times. And yet it was one the most profound and life renewing experience I'd had in a while, I really felt incredible. But it also made me realize how often we're subjected to sexual content. And it's pretty much all the time. This society has a deeply rooted obsession with sexuality.
I don't think this is a question of whether or not you agree with her about the commercialization of intimacy. It's a question of whether or not the content creators are willing to sustain a marketplace. If they are then they have that right, so long as they aren't breaking any laws
prostitution is normally a sex trafficking situation.
"If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery or nudity common in the young generation"-Saladin
@@prasanththomas3130 prove it, also even if he didnt the point remains, but yes prove it
FACTS!!!!!! (or just destroy their morality)
The part about men living their sex lives online is very true but few people are actually discussing it.
I blame woman because they ignore me when I try to ask them to date.
@@Am.White.Privilged. prolly just your white privilege.
@@Am.White.Privilged. I always someone else for EVERYTHING that is not exactly the way I want it.
It's better for them to have some sort of choice. If porn and everything of the sort was banned. there would be riots and mass shootings
I don't really like or trust "porn is good" people. You're either deep in addiction yourself and are gaslighting everybody, you're a female for whom PMO is a surrogate activity, you're a bluepilled male with a gynocentric brain, your a teenager with kleenexes and lotion on standby as we speak, and/or you fortunately have have a productive and highly social life and have never had an addiction. Either way listening to them is like listening to someone advocating the virtue of crack use for the sake of people who have a passion for the crack cooking/drug dealing industry. No, I don't think the legal system is a solution to it, but YES, IT'S BAD. Illegality is not the cure for cultural rot, but just because its consenting adults doesn't mean it's good. The scope of immorality extends beyond N.A.P. and consent violations.
not only that, but imagine profiting out of peoples fetish
And imagine downgrading yourself to the point that you see yourself as a fetish object
Consenting adults are in the military field and they kill "the enemy" so this is where consenting adults can go sometimes.
Why crack and not Alcohol? You can do anything to excess, what's wrong with an Old Fashioned and a wank?
Single mothers are a much bigger problem for society than porn and yet you won't hear a peep from females about it because that's THEIR screw up. I'm sick of people who project their personal issus onto others. Just because YOU have an addiction to something doesn't mean everyone does. Many people abuse food. That doesn't mean food is the problem. I'm sure somebody will say that food is a necessity while sex is not. It does not change the fact that sex is a natural biological urge.
Just say that you’re scared of boobs
As much as I want to see more of Brett, OF is not the more I'd want to see from her. She is great and hilarious. We need more traditional women.
Traditional women were being smacked around by their husbands and had 0 rights!
I didn't know Ben Shapiro had a daughter.
I read the title as 'Brett Cooper is making OnlyFans content'
Same, this video was titled terribly 😂
@@inferno7528 yup! And I bet no one rapidly clicked on the video for that reason...
I don’t completely disagree with Brett, but she needs to realize those divorce abuse stats, are highly subjective and when women have a huge financial incentive to make those accusations, they can not be relied on, as truth.
And when it comes to domestic violence lets not gloss over how many women become slappers and hitters when frustrated during a verbal argument, especially when they are losing logically at said argument.
3:39 I can only handle being rejected so many times 😂😂
Lmao right? You think I'd be on the hub if it were that fucking easy?
Instructions unclear- I still can't find Brett Cooper's Onlyfans account 😢
What a misleading title. For a moment I thought she was now on OnlyFans and I got excited!
Here's my take on this issue: For Men to consider stop watching pron, you would have to give them some kind of compromise that is worth it for them. Modern day women have way too high of expectations on Men, so you could also argue the influx of Men watching pron is due to the lack of female partners out there willing to date on their level. If every man had a partner, guaranteed you would see a drop in Men wanting to watch pron. It wouldn't completely go away, but you would would see a major decline. Both parties involved have a responsibility to fix what's going on, not just Men.
Typically with arguments like this I'd say that men need to take responsibility for themselves well enough to stop expecting women to give them the time of day just because they say hi. A man, any person for that matter, should aim to become a better person for the sake of themselves..not to impress someone else and feel entitled to a reward for that self-improvement. If girls are rejecting you then take it as a blessing that those girls aren't right for you - become the best version of yourself *for yourself* and seek out the *right* girl, not the multitude.
HOWEVER, I do agree that the struggle of all of that is what leads dudes to falling into it. It is a blind spot on Brett's part when she said "Go ask a girl on a date!", but here's the thing...a lot of these dudes spend more of their time and energy complaining about how girls are based largely on the echo chambers they stick to online far more than any significant amount of experience they have with actually socializing with people. Like the dudes claiming they're scared of getting charged with sexual harrassment, yet can't tell me of a single incident of such that that's ever happened to anyone they knoe. Staying at home is quite literally the most counterproductive solution to their problem of finding a woman, and at the end of the day a man needs to take responsibility for what he wants.
That said, it's all a big circlejerk clusterfuck: girls make millions on onlyfans because there's a market of lonely men that "can't" get dates with real girls...all because real girls are picky and dismissive towards these men...all because the culture of *endless* choices being at girls' fingertips gave them room/NEED to be selective...all because a ton of horny men flood these women's inboxes with these endless choices. I think the start of the "Tinder" era led a lot of men to believe that it was going to make dating easier, not realizing that because SO many dudes are willing to get with just about any girl then girls online tend to get tons of attention which is addictive in its own way.
Bottom line, porn and onlyfans are only successful for these women because of the market that feeds it. You're right that picky women create lonely men, but the entitlement of lonely men is the very thing that gave women more and more reason to get picky in the first place. Breed a culture of men with decently high standards then women, both in real life and online, won't have the massive inevitible audience anymore.
@@chrisjfox8715 Agreed. However, the likeliness of that happening is very slim. Everyone would have to cohesively work together to make it stop but I don't see that ever happening. There is always going to be a portion of people that give in. There has to be a compromise in place or deterrent to start seeing practical change on a mass scale. People generally change based on hedonistic tendencies or fear, not from the goodness of their heart. Every major historical leader operated on these factors, and unfortunately that's what it takes to change the world.
@@joshberry777 agreed. I actually think the influence of the internet overall got away from us faster than we knew how to deal with, and yes the genie is out of the bottle.
But the very thing I'm getting at is that part of that compromise you speak of is that people need to start holding the men accountable for how we got here and are here just as much as they hold the women accountable. Everybody's waiting on someone else to make the righteous move. And much like with promiscuity and hook up culture in the real world, somehow the onus is on women to keep their legs closed yet it's okay for men to stick it in wherever they can get it all because "that's just biological" as if we can't societally rise above being a man-whore just because the candy's available. It takes two to tango... You can't have a society of sexually indulgent straight women without a society of sexually indulgent male partners to take part with them. And even to the degree that most men aren't man-whores at all, we live in a society that largely has no problem with those that are..if not encourages it. Then some of the very people that've encouraged it seem shocked and appalled that an era of sexually indulgent women has blown up the way that it has.
I get that the sexual, even merely social, *depravation* of lonely men is what you're talking about, but much of the way a lot of these men's mental state responded to rejection has a TON to do with how much pressure society put on them (i.e., making them feel like they were less than a man just because they weren't getting laid as much as the next guy). Not just being rejected by women but being ridiculed by fellow men, making them not feel good enough well enough to just give up. But I will say that it has more to do with a longing for even just some basic human connection with a female, since many girls' impatience with even the slightest flaw from a man can often stand in the way of that connection...or dudes leading them to believe that "the friend zone" is a four-letter word as if there's no such thing as purposely and happily just being friends with a girl..which fundamentally stems from society being SO sex-crazed that many of these men have internalized every girl that isn't interested in getting sexual as a rejection well enough for them to give up on the real world, to then live online in echo chambers that help them justify the notion that "no girl" wants them...all because society, men included, made them feel like shit for not being sexually active enough.
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The root of all of this is the fathers of these girls and boys no longer teaching morality.
If you’re pro-prostitution, I encourage you to watch a few episodes of Soft White Underbelly. There’s nothing glamorous or positive to the industry and it’s truly very sad to see the how controlled these people are by drugs and/or pimps. If you saw the reality of the lifestyle it brings, a compassionate person wouldn’t be in support of making prostitution legal.
Making it illegal also doesn't solve anything, obviously as you can see from stats in the USA alone. People should have the freedom to do whatever they want as long as they are not hurting anyone. But everyone should also have the ability to go to professional settings, same with drugs like in certain countries. They put up professional locals with professional nurses and doctors for all these drug consumers, all these areas that do this, crime has plummeted and drug use has fallen.
I would say the same thing about porn... It's too readily available and completely FREE! It shouldn't be so easy to access, you should have to give your information and pay.
I would like to add that I am against prostitution but I am entirely for freedom.
Decriminalize prostitution.
Two consenting adults should be able to buy and sell something that is legal to give away for free.
This is such a trash argument. There are plenty of irresponsible, substance abusers out there having sex for FREE. But if one does it for money, now it's an issue? And the most abused "substance" in the U.S. is alcohol. So are we going to treat all people this way? Where you aren't allowed to have any sexual activity with a person who consumes significant amounts of alcohol, as he/she is considered compromised? You want to baby grown adults.
That's one of the main reasons people argue that it SHOULD be legal. The reason the women are controlled by pimps is because they need protection and cannot go to any legal authority for said protection. Also, when the pimp takes advantage of them, who exactly are they supposed to call to remedy the situation? I've never even tried to be with a prostitute, but obviously it is going to happen whether it's legal or not. It's been that way since the beginning of time. I don't really see what good keeping it illegal and locking them up is going to do.
Bravo Brett. You handled yourself with grace and your arguments were great
She is so refreshing and gives me hopevas a father, that its definitely possible to raise a girl with these values in this time.
I was gonna try either way with all ive got but this put me at ease a bit.
You can't say intimate relationships don't often lead to paying child support, STDs, and heartbreaks... so yeah no thanks.
I spent like 10 years thinking about this issue deeply, because I knew from the start that porn is gonna change our next generation and gonna transform civilization in a very negative way, I just didn't have a proof or reason, it was very intuitive feeling. Nowdays there's like a million reasons why I was right from the start, we can see the after effects everywhere at every corner, but I don't think we can stop it anymore, we can just educate people more. For people who still think porn does nothing with humanity, just give them a simple response that is true and based in reality, like "porn has progressed so much that some people are now sexually addicted to fictional animals fucking half humans and can't get off to humans anymore, but because there's not much of this specific content on the internet, they are willing to pay absurd amounts to authors of these works on Patreon etc.. just to get another dose.. to the point where they can't no longer function in a society and end up posting LGBTQ+ promotion content on Twitter all day and write fan fictions about different types of dragon's dicks"
You are conflating some issues there. A lot of research done on behaviours in regards to sex but in short human preferences are inate with only tramua being able to affect them. People have always being messed up to some degree and it real world events that will effect what you like not an image. That's why the whole T-kids thing is a major issue as you will screw up generations with stuff that in many cases will never get resolved.
There are issues around access as easy access to it short circuits much of human evolution around realtionships and intermaticy and the value of such things and some health ones for guys as while going blue balls is not good neither is the other end of the scale as at best it will reduce hormone levels and increase fatigue. There is an absurd but deeply unethical point of study there.
The more an individual watches Korn, the more they build on what they want in a mate in looks and intimate acts. Continued exposure continues to build an unattainable expectation. For those already in relationships, it sends a message to their counterpart that they aren’t enough in more than one way. Both often lead to divorce or prevent people from getting married to somebody they might have otherwise been happy with.
As for the Korn Stars, every added number to the body count desensitizes the emotional connection normally felt in intimate acts. This makes it harder to connect emotionally for long term relationships, also resulting in less marriage and more divorce.
Don’t forget the transmitted disease and increase in abortions plus damage to various orifices. For those who would argue about protection, There is no 100% protection from these latter concerns.
Supporting evidence please?
@@gageduke7652 Youre honestly fucking stupid if you cant understand simple logic
“I used to watch porn. I still do, but I used to as well.”
MITCH!!!!! Lol.
Having reduced sexual morality down to just consent has created this. What we need is people to say that people can be harmed by engaging in activities even if they are consenting adults. We know this intuitively by women who feel shame and feel used by some one night stands. Selling your body whether online or in person damages yourself and the consumers.
I don’t care what people think or say, no matter your age or gender porn is dangerous. Not just for people in porn but people consuming it
jesus and god arent real. and porn is harmless. your just mad that boys arent talking to you.
its dangerous if you misuse it. if its regulated then its fine.
the issue in this era, is guy wants a simple date, but is labeled a creep or stalker without even doing anything wrong. this is why guys turn to porn so much. ive seen this everywhere. guys are now scared to death to even speak to a girl cuz we dont want to get in trouble an stuff.
Men are not scared to talk to women, its the excessive hassle and bull shit now associated with modern women. I liken it to a box that has a 25% chance to give you everything but also has a 75% chance of being a bear trap and you losing a limb.
that's a copout
@@backtoschool9760 It is truth. It also makes your trolling invalid.
If you can't understand why people think you're too creepy to date, there's counseling to help you. Dating isn't magic and fairy tales. It's hard work to be dateable and easy to mess up and get hurt. Get yourself emotionally healthy, fund someone who tries to be emotionally healthy, and you'll have less problems.
Women are pretty tone deaf and deliberately obtuse about that issue of how hard and how women lash out against cold approaches.
Brett is one of the most well spoken person out there, there should be more people like her, and more should start listening to her so they can get out out of their fantasy world...btw loved the sentence about not being a politician = wouldn't be surprised that she'll be 1st woman president lol...will get my vote for sure....we need normal/intelligent in office, especially now...
They’re trying so hard to avoid bringing a religious moral argument into the conversation because they know Gen Z viewers will tune out immediately.
Just have the courage to say it’s objectively wrong and cut it with the libertarian equivocation.
You got me excited with that title smfh
Men fight wars, women raise the children.
You couldve invited bre olsen or penny flame to the podcast and they'll easily tell you how much porn have effected their lives. Bre olsen was scrutinized for doing porn when she was trying to get a job at a elementary school, penny flame was addicted to porn watching and doing it. She was on celebrity rehab with dr.drew 2 decades ago
The problem is women no longer want average men. She acts as if these guys can just go out and get dates. They can't anymore. That's why they're on only fans. Women across the board feel entitled to the top 10% of men. That leaves a lot of men sh** out of luck. It's not entirely men's fault/choice. The problem is much deeper than men just being lazy and choosing porn over relationships. Nobody would make that choice given a better option. But not everyone can be a top 10-20% guy. Women need to take responsibility for their role in this problem too, which is embracing the false promises of feminism. They need to humble themselves and remember that being a woman is about fulfilling a social role more than it is about fulfilling selfish unrealistic fantasies. It's about building strong children, communities, and country more than any individual woman's fantasy. When women come to this epiphany, then and only then will the dating quagmire we're in begin to resolve itself.
Typed out a whole essay explaining why you can’t get laid LOL
women NEVER ever ever take responsibility for anything. Blaming porn is stupid because it is blaming the consequences instead of the root cause of the problem.
@@adrienchl4265Or you can stop obsessively watching porn and wondering why women don’t want you
If you blame all women, you have an external locus of control.
@@adrienchl4265and what is the root cause in your opinion?
The title of the video is both hilarious and off-putting at the same time. It's perfect.
Just because you "know what you're getting into" (either as a performer or a consumer) doesn't mean the long term impact isn't dangerous and destructive. Lives are destroyed, marriages are destroyed, suicide rate is off the charts. Even if the performers were AI, the lives of the consumers still in danger.
I like how the camera completely focuses on graham and is like fuck you jack your gonna look like a movie extra
Porn literally makes you a loser and a creep for watching other people have sex lmao think about it, it’s some creepy behavior that has become normalized which is why im glad she brought up the point of people having to literally go and rent porn videos at blockbuster
Been around for centuries you can see sex murals from ancient times
I think sex is a positive thing it’s only religious puritans that tend to vilify sex.
I’m still seeing people who don’t understand why it’s a bad thing to watch porn and it’s very concerning
I was thinking this yesterday. its's probably the reason being a "cuck" is a kink nowadays. watching other people have sex is just weird, but we normalized it. its like the industrial revolution and its consequences. all of us genz have to do the dirty work of past generations with climate change, global warming even porn.
If you are so concerned about it then do not buy it or rent it there is a reason why places like Blockbuster have an adult section that was restricted for adults.
@@JustTooDamnHonestit should just be banned all together.
Trash content made by humans for trash people, to keep a trash mindset.
Keep watching it buddy.
To me, onlyfans is basically internet prostitution.
This sounds more like people problem instead of porn problem
A wise man once told me that watching porn, or any kind of adult content like that is cheating on your significant other
Brett! I watch your channel all the time but I don't see you speaking elsewhere very often. You should definitely do more videos without jump cuts. You're articulate enough to speak at length without the need of that crutch.
Once you are into the industry it impacts everything from then on. Think about how some random post gets you cancelled? What do you think a past of sex work will do?
But isn't everyone technically a sinner?
@@technoloverish what does this have to do with religion?
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Generally-speaking, people who think intimacy is only for marriage are religious
@@technoloverish 1) there's a big jump between "sex work bad idea" and "intimacy is only for marriage, 2) there was no mention of how God theoretically judges sex work, but the societal judgement
That’s their problem. Not yours. People acting like they’re SOOOOO concerned with the futures of these young chicks that do OF. “What about when u get judged later in life? What if ur future kids get bullied? What if a future employer looks into ur background?” Quit playin, you don’t care lol. And neither do I. If it’s such a mistake (and I think many times it is), they’ll bear the consequences; not you or I.
She didn't see porn she watched it😂😂
Hey some of the best advocates that take a stand against porn not only watched it,but became addicted to it
Brett should have dug deeper into the inherent damage behind porn: it's not just biological, it's spiritual; the body is not extricable without the soul and vice-versa; the soul is saved or damned by the body.
I mean unless your talking about foot fetishisation how is porn anything to do with soles (you spelt it wrong as souls)?
Most people don’t believe that though so it’s not a convincing argument. The only people it would reach are people who already agree that porn is bad. Literally preaching to the choir.
@@CarlYota porn isn’t really bad, as long as it’s between two consenting adults and not hurting anyone, it can become an addiction which is bad however having a wank every now and then is proven to be beneficial for one’s health and it’s easier to have a wank when you have a pretty lady or handsome man to look at (however I will admit that a lot of girls are forced to do things they don’t want to in the porn industry behind the scenes and that’s very bad, but if the people involved in a video truly are consenting to it, it’s not really bad, so long as it’s nothing illegal and everyone involved is of age)
@@CarlYota The point was to begin to bridge the gap by attempting to explain the soul in a way which can translate to the materialist argument that it doesn't exist.
@@godemperorofmemekind4170 Whether the two consenting adults realize this, it is in fact, hurting them; it is hurting their soul.
“But, like, take out all the bad stuff and the lives it’s destroyed…is it good then?”
Uh, no.
It’s wild we can’t articulate why porn is bad for people to participate in and watch.
It ruins families, marriages, it’s as addictive as some drugs, it makes men less likely to pursue a woman in the real world, it gives very unrealistic expectations of sex, it changes the way you view women for the worse, and it’s also shameful. There is a lot of abuse, diseases, and does far more hard to society than good.
If it was banned and all other things regarding sex works, I could randomly get killed by a mass shooting caused by from some invisible incel not having any outlet for women.. Keep porn legal please
I could say the same thing about coal miners who work 60 hour work weeks
I think this would be a good question to ask. If porn was taken away would our society lose more or gain more? We would gain a lot more
Yes, I know everyone got a heart attack when they read the title.
"Biological truths are axiomatically correct morally." Well, not all the time. There are some biological truths that are rooted in our cruel survival instincts. There are some things that are morally appalling but they are part of our wiring. For reference, remember that psychopathy is a mostly evolutionary thing that is rooted in our biology but many traits related to it are not morally acceptable.
The echo is ridiculously bad.
“Two consenting adults who aren’t harming anyone” that’s the issue. It IS harming people. Young or not, it changes the brain chemistry of people, it sets unrealistic expectations, and it literally creates addictions. It’s bad
Amen!