Dream Prisoners A life with Maladaptive daydreaming by Elena Rubtsova, The Czech Republic.
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- Опубліковано 2 лис 2022
- The purpose of this documentary movie is to spread information about the maladaptive daydreaming phenomenon, which might help people suffering from it and their surroundings. The film shows this phenomenon, underlines the reasons for its occurrence and manifestations, describes the dangers associated with it, and also provides suggestions on how to manage the mental state. This movie is based on people's real stories suffering from maladaptive daydreaming and the scientific opinions of two clinical psychologists, incl. Eli Somer, Ph.D. (Somer first described this phenomenon in 2002).
"Everything's gonna be alright..and this time, in real world" 🥲♥️♥️👍
"You don't fix the daydreaming, you fix the empty life"
Maladaptive daydreaming is more harder to quit than substance abuse for me because it is something that is available all the time. It's in your mind. It's you.
But I don't want to stop! It's so much better than real life.
Honestly, if I don't find a way to stop it, I don't know how can I live happily. My life is so sad and melancholic because of this shitty maladaptive daydreaming
I had to sell products in person today and the event was so traumatic I had to keep talking to my husband to stop myself from "going off." He knew I was stressed but it wasn't until we got in the car that he realized how serious it was. He kept trying to get me to converse with him and I physically couldn't hear him past my daydreaming. He stopped talking and looked at me just in time for me to blurt out "oh, okay." It was the first time I spoke out loud from daydreaming in front of him. Embarrassed is not the word.
Anybody leap up and start discussing with an imaginary interviewer maladaptive daydreaming whilst watching this? Oh I also managed to leap up again and start daydreaming about building a twin engined Austin Metro van. I think there was a third dream but I've forgotten it. Not even finished the video yet.
It seems quite obvious really what the solution is. Slow but steady positive community & social reinforcement since these people have been convinced they will be rejected by others. They need proof they are valuable to others and get the dopamine hits from thrills and successes with this. The brain must be rewired and the simple DNRS (dynamic neural retraining) exercises should help- these are visualization but a different kind. Feeling and being alone all the time will only feed the desire to retreat. What I find a bit scary is that most of these people are creatives! 3 here are Designers. Yikes! My life changed so much socially just before the pandemic and dramatically through the pandemic until even now- I’ve been really quite shockingly alone for 3 years, so I keep hitting walls of resistance being motivated and not retreating a little. It’s not extreme but seeing these folks I realize that I too don’t want to waste my life and remain in what’s “safe” but also a bit of a ghost’s existence. A challenging time to rebuild a social life when socialising can literally harm your health (covid & it’s scary long term impacts on everyone’s health). So it’s a whopper of a time we’re living in! Thx for the video, I’ll now watch the ones on how to reconnect to the world with excitement and positivity and enthusiasm for the good things it can hold. :)
I've been a prisoner of my Dreams during my whole life
I daydream alot and it’s sucks… however I know the reason. When I don’t get enough sleep is when it happens a lot. When I don’t hydrate enough it happens and when I’m self loathing which is the ego getting in the way of living a normal natural life. Simply taking care of your body to best of your ability, the gym etc is what always cures it for me.
Prisoner of dreams.
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Thank you!
Thank you so much for bringing recognition to this disorder. Knowing that i am not the only one suffering but many people across the world aswell makes me feel good. ❤
That’s insane! This is what I do my whole life, I call it my second life and I thought I’m only one who is doing it as I never found information about it. Now I’ve learned how is this called.
My childhood experience exactly. Domestic abuse, bullied at home and school, no real friends, just books, toys and my imagination. Trauma in adulthood made my mdd worse. In the past few years it’s all I have had. Yet unlike many people, I don’t need to move around. I do it no matter what I am doing, I don’t even realise many times (I have almost been hurt badly several times because of this, mdd can be dangerous) I prefer doing it laying down. Music enhances it, but I don’t even need that. It just happens. The more traumatised I became, the more my mind escaped using my imagination. And the daydreams are good and bad yes, I have hurt myself and had so many fights in them. I think this part is my mind trying to process my current emotions and cope with what is happening to me in real life. To be fully honest, mdd helped me cope with the trauma at first and was positive when it was in small phases/doses, but as my trauma increased in adulthood so too did the mdd, and now it has consumed me. I would be interested to hear if anyone else does not require to be moving around and just does it no matter what, without even thinking. I have heard of young people trying to acquire mdd, they force themselves to pace their room and wear headphones because this is what they have read to do. It is really sad, it may start out as an enjoyable escape from reality but in the end it can be horrifically destructive.
I wish there was a Russian translation for my family so I could show them, as this video is pretty complete imo. There's much more literature and videos about MDD in English than in any other language.
Dr. Somer, thank you for your hard work. I'm a tough dreamer. I always shake my hands when I fantasize. I run and jump. I don't understand this need. Sometimes I do this when I look at boiling water in a pot or kettle. I'm starting to feel this process as well as my dreams. Also, lying on the bed, I begin to toss and turn from thoughts that excite consciousness. I can imagine the interlocutor and talk to him out loud. Help
Even when watching the video I daydreamed that I encounter Eli Somer and talked to him.
As a autistic man this was very helpful❤ thank you very much everyone for sharing the topic.