HOW TO LOVE SOMEONE YOU DON'T LIKE | THE LOVE TEST
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What is love? What is the true meaning of love? Is love merely an emotion? What does it mean to actually love someone? And how in the world do you love someone that you don't like? In this video I provide 10 questions you should ask yourself when you are assessing your love for someone else. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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My brother it takes Gods strength and The Holy Spirit to Love in such a corrupt society.
Very true! This is a true test of Christian character. There is nothing easy about today's lesson.
Amen
Its really hard 😕😕
Facts!
ALL things are possible through Christ who strengthens me
That sentence at the end, "Love is an act of the will, not an emotion" is very strong. That was all I needed :) Thank you very much!
You're so welcome Kai! It really is! God bless you,
I need this. I've been disliking my sister in law for a year and a half now, and my God it is so draining. Thanks for this.
Amen. Love is an act of WILL, not an emotion. So many people put so much of their faith into the way that they feel. I talked about the same idea in one of my videos about faith, and how faith is not an emotional response but a decision that we make constantly. Keep it up, brother :)
I checked out your channel. Continue to do the work and you'll eventually get subscribers and views. Stay encouraged because it definitely takes time. God bless my friend,
Wow! I know the lord does not test us but I think he allowed a certain situation to come to pass which is testing my love!!! Man the lord works in many ways!!!!
Yes indeed He does Blaide. Thanks,
Good message brother. This past year has been tough. I have a nonbeliever mother in law and we butt heads alot. It can be difficult to love her with her attitude but 5 know my wife and I are some of the only Godly influences in her life. So I need to remember that God loves the whole world so I can love a few people who get under my skin
Very true John. Yes, this lesson is definitely not easy to apply in the least. Thank you for sharing about your mother-in-law.
John Lauland I understand. I'm basically the only believer in my family and it's challenging at times.
True!
Man I'm so happy for this one. Ive been struggling with this so much I had to ask our senior pastor "how do you pove people, even when you know they will dissapoint you?"
This video really helped me. God truly has spoken. I am going through some issues that requires and tests my Christian faith as a believer and my landlord who loves to do evil. This man has a very sick mind. But this video really convicted me through the Holy Spirit. Im so happy to know that God is with us and speaks to us through ministries like this. God bless u brotha and thanx!
Great lessons Reverend Allen. Trying to love people on a deeper level this year and beyond
Thank you my friend. And thanks for watching. Yes, I am as well. It definitely takes the power of God within us to love as he loves.
I shared this and other videos with a Sister in my Bible Study this evening. God is so amazing in how He confirms situations you are dealing with at the moment. Thank you so much for this word!!
Allen, it makes sense why there are so few views on this. Love is tough and we don't wanna go through the trouble. Thanks for this video. It helps to remind me when I'm at my wit's end
Thankyou for this. I have this problem at work, but God is dealing with me on it. We have a supervisor at work who mistreats us. Instead of the anger I asked God to perhaps change her heart and also the way I responded to it in the past. I could use prayers for this also.
Awesome video! This video should have gotten a million views...but unfortunately most Christians don't want to hear the message of LOVING ONE ANOTHER... because loving one another is the biggest struggle for most Christians.
The #1 COMMANDMENT is LOVE
I love you my brother 💓✊...thank you for this video... I added it to my LOVE LIKE JESUS MOVEMENT PROGRAM playlist!
I needed this word today! God bless you for this!!!
This is something I have to work on
Brother, keep on speaking for Jesus. Your short devotions edify many of us a lot. Thanks and blessings!
Thank you. I really needed this message as I am going through a divorce due to repeated infidelity. Everyday is a battle against hatred.
I am so sorry to hear that. Divorce can be devastating. I grew up in a family filled with divorce which is partially why I got married later in life. Stay strong and know that if there was infidelity then God has freed you and you should walk in that freedom.
Alan this was an on time, word I'm.currently in this season. I absolutely ate this word today, go head boy, God uses you and I absolutely thank you for this one. keep it up
Thank you so much Layla! How's the planning coming for your channel? God bless you sister,
+THE BEAT by Allen Parr I'm literally training my mind to be obedient and gear clearly from Gods voice, I have been studying so much.between work church and other little things I wanna make sure I am clear on what God would have me to do
Really pleased to watch a video with bible citations that ask better of us and not other's. Not all the mentioned points in the video pertained to me but the ones that did described me exactly and the video kindly asks me to challenge myself. This UA-camr truly understands the lessons he preaches and it has always been my understanding of Jesus but finally one voice the explains it. Ive work to do
Okay, first of all why are you speaking to me ? 😂😂 I feel attack, especially at number 7 😂. Thanks for the reminder!
Thank you for such encouraging and insightful videos. ❤
These quick precise very informative videos have changed my whole outlook and perspective am I understanding you have a god-given talent you are truly blessed and I'm so thankful that I found all of these videos I'm sharing them with everyone that I know God bless you and thank you. There were several other people on my account my name is Loretta and I'm so grateful that I found these videos to learn from. I do a lot of research and study with many books I have for that I am truly thankful
I should watch this every morning until I can get it. Thank you Jesus 💞
A very helpful video! Thank you! This is something I truly struggle with.
Such a good word, very convicting in some areas but definitely needed this.
Yes, it is very convicting. Only with the power of the Holy Spirit can we love others in this way.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you
Thank you so much!
God is so good. Mate, your on fire! A simple yet deeply moving and deep cutting message. It is early in the morning here in Australia and hearing this Word is a good start to the day. Keep these awesome videos coming, Bro.
Hey Clifford! Thank you so much my friend. I'd love to travel to Australia one day. That would be great!
Great Words my Brother, Love it keep up the good work.
Thank you Tony.
Can u forgive and still not hang around the person? I cut all ties with the individual. I wasn't rude I just said that its best not to speak anymore because of their toxic actions. Was I wrong?
no! you were not
Here's a rhetorical question! Did God do us that way? With our shortcomings and such?
Derek Childress in my opinion, which can be wrong, I don’t think it is the same and those questions are not legit in this topic. It is true God never gave up on us, nor He will never give up on us, but, first, we are not God. We are imperfect and corruptible human beings. You cannot corrupt God.
Yes, we are called to love like God loves us, but the Bible also says in 1 Corinthians 15:33-34: « Do not be misled, bad relationship corrupt good moral. Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God--I say this to your shame. » and also 2 Corinthians 6:14 : « Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? ». You can practice love, we have to always forgive others, but, sadly, there are times and people we have to let go of. It is not abandoning them. But, holding onto someone who is toxic to you is extremely dangerous for your soul. You take the risk to corrupt your own soul, and developing anger and unforgiveness and so many other soul ties. God did not deliver us to be again a slave to those kind of things. Jesus did not die for us to be forever upset because of someone’s actions. There is a saying which says that « you can’t keep dancing with the devil and a sky why you’re still in hell ». Go, if you gotta go. God will deal with the toxic people. Actually, you leaving them could be the best blessing you give to them - for, if God’s willing, it will open their eyes and they will see that what they were doing is wrong. Some people, and most people, nowadays, are way too pride to see the gentleness, patience or whatever of someone until they lost it. We need to lose in order to enjoy gains.
Imma stop stalking but long story: Yes, we are a light in this world. Yes, God called us to love others. But, sometime to love means to leave. While forcing yourself to stay with someone toxic, you put yourself in danger and you’re not helping them - because you’re, basically, telling them « the way you treat me is okay, I will endure it ». And talking to them is, most of the time, useless because they are often prideful and you can’t heal a wound if you let the knife in it.
May God bless you, and have a wonderful life ! 🙏🏾
@@addiesgoingon this is very good, and you are right! God so loved the world is why I say this. It was never His will that anyone will perish. The Bible also says a light cannot be hidden but is put on lampstand for everyone to see. The Lord even says to let your light shine before men so that they may glorify your Father who is in heaven. I'm not saying fellowship in what they do, be be loving in such a way that they see His light. A good example is going to work and you know a lot of them are bitter and unsaved. Situations arise and you have the opportunity to take the high road and show love. This has the power to impact their life and spark a curiosity of what makes you tick. You keep walking in this and you may have an opportunity to bring the Gospel to this person (remember the great commission). Jesus says that He will make you fishers of men! What you said was still powerful! I love you and peace be unto you!
U forgive them but beware of them for the sake of ur heart not to renew feelings or rub salt on ur wound.i think it's ok to keep ur distance for ur own self.its not selfishness its self love.May Allah always guide us and u as well inshalah ❤❤🙏🙏🙏
This video will definitely help me. It's not so much people in my life mistreating me, it's a few certain celebrities. I'm not jealous of them or what they have. It's basically their personalities and some if their behavior. I want to truly love all people, the way God loves all people.
Thank you thank you...that was awesone looking forward to watching yhis especially #5 until my soul is full in the love it was created for.
I’m car salesman so I work in a environment where I’m constantly under attack by the enemy. From cut throat coworker’s to judgmental customers. This lesson is so helpful & I’m thankful to God that he led me to it. Thank you brother! Your videos are truly a gift from God
loved it,u clearly defined love.
Well, God defined it for us! Now we just have to live it out.
OH MY GOD THANK YOU!! I REALLY NEEDED THIS!
This was such a great video!
God is love, so in order to discover the true meaning of love we must contextualize the different theological comments of love through the scripture. Each question served as great foundation for highlighting the different characteristic's of love. Thank you again for this Pastor. - Tyrone
Thanks Planet. I appreciate that kind feedback.
That's good teaching, my Brother! Thank you!
I love this message my brother. Very important for all Believers to know and practice. I have spoken to Christians who struggle in this area. It is an on time message.
thank you so much! really needed this. thank you for being such a blessing. may God bless you and your family more, brother.
This is late but, two things: 1) i prayed just today that God would expose my heart to things I dont see so that I may repent and really seek His good and 2) not even 5 minutes ago, i was thinking and getting angry at the fact of how little i like my dorm mate. I get upset when she is back, i have a disdain about being around her, and the worst of it all is that she isnt even that bad of one. I just dont like her character very much at all but when im actually around her it can be fun and totally o.k. this video is absolutely amazing and convicting and helpful. God bless
Love you Alan Parker been blessing helping me grow in my walk with the lord
Thank you! This will help me.. i really needed this video. Blessings
mannn, it's fricking hard when you're so maaaaadddd.
Oh yes you be preachin brother.irs very hard to do.but through Jesus strengthen you can 💕💕💕💕💕
DO AN “ENEMY” VIDEO!! How to handle your enemy!
Yeshua (Jesus) said to *love* your enemies...that is how you handle them.
It's not easy, but possible with Him...
MATTHEW 5:44-46 - *But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;*
*That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.*
*For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?*
Shalom
you brought again my brother! ❤
Thank you so much Surrenderingall!
Just this week, God has been teaching me this EXACT LESSON!! The part of this video where you talk about the true test of Christian character is if I love someone who has a nasty attitude. It's like, you repeated it all over again.
Dropping some truth
Great video, thanks!
Thanks; I really needed to hear that
That's awesome Kayla. I always enjoying hearing how God's spirit used these videos to speak directly to where people are in their daily life. Thanks for taking the time to share that.
Thank you for your challenging videos! 🏋️
Thank you Mary! God bless and thanks for watching.
Thanks for the great perspective. I have a hard time with this at times. Sometimes it is hard to love others when they kind of suck as a person :) One day at a time
Very true. It's extremely difficult! Lol.
Thank you so much my brother in Christ I really needed this. Also I would like to know how to deal with a bully and being assertive as a Christian.
That is a good question Terese. I need to do a video on that one for sure. Thank you,
hello. is it ok to love people from a distance, knowing a family member is toxic, hurtful, and damaging to your family and spouse. I am reminded of the scripture that bad company corrupts good character. new Christians can twist loving everyone to meaning submitting to accepting bad ways of the world and people. please clarify...
Thank you brother :) i have a question where do you get the greek english translation? and my request is always pray for me brother, i'll pray for you too.. God bless you.. your teachings are helpful.
Hey Alec, thank you for your reply. So, I encourage you to go to www.biblestudytools.com and click on the tab that says READ and then on INTERLINEAR Bible and then you can see the meanings of these words! I plan on coming out with a self-paced eCourse in a couple of months that shows the entire process for how to study the Bible. You will LOVE it! I'll keep you posted Alec. Thanks buddy,
THE BEAT by Allen Parr Thank you so much brother :) God bless youu!!
Oh my most of my family. Working through it.
Brother Allen, the Bible was written in Ancient Greek Language which is very reach language and it's very nice of you to look for the greek words and helps you to understand better the Word of God
Brother you're preaching right
O man...I need this but I really need prayer in this area.
There’s a kid from my past. He used to bully (or try to) everyone he could. I hated him for it. Recently he’s shown back up and ive had trouble, very big trouble, trying to be nice and forgive him. Ive been praying for a breakthrough.
I appreciate the points given in this video however this was more so describing what love is rather how to love someone that is difficult to love.
is it wrong to choose to not be around a person who uses me and upsets me? sorry im a bit confused. thankyou in advance and love your channel.
No, that is not wrong. Thank you for your question. But, while it is not wrong, that does let you know that there is still something that is within you that is unforgiving towards this person. I am not judging you because there is someone very significant to me that I'm struggling to be around at this time as well. And I know I need to deal with it. It's tough and it can take some time. Forgiveness is certainly a process for sure.
I love how it turned out biblical
Question: what about those who are toxic? Even maybe demon possessed, they bring nothing but unhappiness, gossip, being hateful? I thought we can love them from afar ??
Yes, you certainly can.
We volunteer in the homeless community & for the last almost 2 yrs have assisted 1 woman with many issues, mental health being one of them. I wanted to be obedient to God; this is what got me started in this endeavor however I'm getting emotionally exhausted, basically being used by this woman. I get that boundaries must be held in place & will address much of how I feel but love? No; I never feel love for most others outside of Gods family. Does God want me to love the unloveable the same way we love other Christians? I just don't know how to even try anymore. I do know that it is only through Jesus that we can truly love anyone. Help plz
This may be the hardest pill yet for me to swallow cause they really hurt me.
Can I love them and not allow them back in my life?
I hope so. If we cut it lose without anger, just to free us up for more positive actions. I think so
Brother Allen, I have a situation and I can sure use some guidance. Its my husbands mother 😩. She is not married and has been single for MANY years now. She is not a widow and her health is decent. She lost her public assistance housing and now has been couch surfing bouncing around from one family members house to another. She has not had a real consistant job in about 20-30 years(lived off the system this whole time) She recently took a few live in nanny jobs out of state where she worked in exchange for room and board. But she never sticks to them for more than 2 weeks. She seems to want someone in the family to step up and just take care of her and all her needs. Always lookimg for a handout. She has a lot of siblings she has stayed with but has worn out her welcome with all of them and is asking to come stay with us but i really dont want her to. She has had issues with stealing in the past, is VERY manipulative and passive-agressive and has mental illnesses and i just dont want to have all the stress that come along with taking her into my home with our children etc. HOWEVER, I want to do what im SUPPOSED TO as a christian dispite how badly i dnt want her to come and stay. Can you enlighten me on what the bible says about this? Ive heard things about taking care of the elders but also heard things about not throwing your pearls to the swines 😓 really need some help with this. Ill be praying about this becaise im just so lost and its weighing on me heavily.
they have low income housing for seniors and if she gets social security, they would base it off of her income; it would probably be an apartment. Maybe you could check into that.
Good video :)
I need help in this area so much!!!!
Also, how would I know which little acts of kindness the person could find good or useful? Also, sometimes its not met in kind-for example someone offered me to visit them but I didn't as I was scared, or another time I was suggesting employment ideas for someone and they told me they know I am trying to help but that they are not ready.
Helpful video, I just hope I can live up to it, but I sometimes feel its about opinions because I was in a bible study and some say to walk away-not to let people walk all over us, and others say basically the opposite/comparing to Jesus.
Thank you for this message, I really enjoyed it but, I have a question. In the end when you said that Love is not an emotion, but an act of will, does that mean that God does not emotionally love us? It's kinda hard for me to explain it but I thought he loved us with an abundance of that emotional love. You know, that soft, warm feeling of happiness and care for another person. I think I'm just not really understanding it here, someone please help me.
@Valora Pruett Wow, thank Valora, even though this comment was made by me 7 months ago, and had completely left my mind, you brought it back to my attention, and I joyfully thank you so much for telling me this. In fact, I actually kinda needed it, lol.
Thank you so much for taking your time to make this arduous reply, I really appreciate it 😊
Amazing!
I need a lot of help and prayers in this area. Its difficult for me to talk to people I don't like. In fact I which I never see them again and that's not good. May God help me 🙏🏿
I’m trying to crush on someone else to get over my actual one cuz I have no chance with her
Help us Jesus! Thank God for His grace!
Heavenly Father, I ask you to please bless me with strength and the power of the Holy Spirit. Teach me to go a step further as instructed, and love my neighbor as you have loved me, not just to be delivered from people, but to trust that you will see me through every situation no matter the circumstance, in Jesus name, Amen!
I really need to work on this. One of my worst problems is holding a grudge. I really need some prayers.
You said in question 10 to stay committed to a relationship through the ups and downs even when everything in you wants to call it quits. What if it’s a boyfriend who is a believer but doesn’t want to grow spiritually wants to just do whatever they want? I want a husband who will I can walk this Christian walk together with and have a godly marriage and hopefully even share the gospel together. We have a child together so I feel like we have to get married.
My mother told everyone she could that I was beating her, she lied, yet everyone except my sister who knows the real deal believes her! She is 88, and her mind is intact, but because she did that, incase she falls up or down the 50 steps she has to climb, I had to leave my daughter and friends to move across the country so I couldn't be blamed if she fell. I sit here alone, I still talk to her, say nothing mean, or even bring it up, but I'm crying on the inside, full of hurt and pain. I hate her for the 50 years of abuse, that's just the last time. I pray for her every time I think of her, I say in the name of Jesus I forgive her. Honesty, I want her to die so I can go home, and I don't know how to stop, makes me as bad as her. I need Jesus so badly, thinking that he is mad at me cause I harbour hate is making me sick. Don't know what to do? #sodepressed
God packs ups and leaves even separates himself from Churches and people because of the lack of Love and disobedience.
Morning bro. I know.this video is old and it applies to my life. My question is what if it's your pastor that may not like you or myself and him do not get along?
I need God's help on the last 1 you spoke. Oh girl gets under my skin. And im about to have to be in a room with her for 3 days on a women's retreat! God help me give me grace and agape love. Change my heart also Lord!
This is EXTREMELY difficult. Praying God continue's to work on me to become this person because right now I just wanna slap that other person, not love them, and tell them mean and hurtful things. Ugh.
I always felt that praying for someone I didn't like was showing love towards them. I don't like my.cousin for the way she treats me so I stay away and pray. If I bring her back she'll probably treat me bad and.cauae.me.to be bitter.
Allen, and what about verse 6?
I am going thru this in my church. Their is this lady at my church who I feel that does not like me. I feel in my heart that she likes to gossip a lot about ppl. When she approach me she state that she loves me, but I do not feel anything when she says that. How do I continue to love someone when I know in my heart that she has a lot of parasites inside of her?
What happens if u love a friend whos had a hard life but speaks evil off others what do i do help it hurts my spirit.
I have a question that I've never been able to find an answer for - maybe you can help? I love the way you describe things. In this video, you mention how Love is not jealous, however, God is perfect love, and He IS a jealous God. So, how can love be jealous, yet not jealous? That's always confused me. I know there are different contexts that come into play, however love is love, and God is love. Is it two different kinds of jealousy, or is our love not the same as God's (which seems contrary to far more of the Bible than this one topic), or am I just not understanding it properly? Any help would be appreciated! God bless! =)
That's actually a great question. So, our jealousy is based on negative motivation. In other words, it stems from a desire within us that sometime doesn't want other people to have things because perhaps we don't have it. That's sinful jealousy. Funny, that is the topic of tomorrow's video. But God's jealousy towards us is actually healthy. What I mean by this is it is healthy for a husband to be jealous of his wife when she begins to give her affections to another man. Why? Because she belongs to him and has pledged her sole allegiance to her. So, that is natural and normal and even healthy reaction. If a husband was no longer jealous then that would imply that his feelings have waned and he doesn't even care what she does. The same is true with God. He is jealous when we become more attached to other things than we do Him because we belong to Him and have pledged our sole allegiance to Him. I hope that makes sense.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr that makes perfect sense, thank you so much for explaining. The day I posted this question, God showed me things that made me think it was the way you explained, and your reply had confirmed His words for me! Thank you for all you do - you're a great help!
God bless.
I dont understand why there's only 500+ likes in this video
god bless you
Hey, I actually don't believe in god. Well, I do a tiny bit but I've always wanted to ask this question. Am I going to hell fr being Pansexual, Demisexual, and nonbinary?
@@croonch6538 lololol lemme make a correction cause I was still like, finding myself a year ago Im actually FTM trans and gay
But I would like to decline this offer although thank you anyways, I am pagan, sorry
(I found paganism was in my opinion a lot better for me than following the Christian god)
thanks
I've failed at all these aspects. Lord help me. Lol 😂 I can't do this on my own .
Pray for yourself before praying for them to change. Know God loves you so you can love others like He loves you. Pray that they accept God loves them.
+thebeatbyallenparr Is this supposed to go for anyone and everyone??? Even toxic or chronically selfish people around me??
Hey, Jesus loves you😁
How do you love someone that you don’t wanna be with anymore.due to lies and manipulation. Lies being, I just found out that I’m not legally married to my “husband”. Do I deny myself and allow God to work in my Heart even though I want to move on?
I feel stuck and unhappy at times. But God is great so I wanna honor God. So I constantly think on things that are pure, true and noble.
I still show him live in spite of the situation because I know that’s what God requires.
I don’t treat him bad at all. I do forgive him.
I want to move on though.
hey allen can you pray for me i'm going though alot and have no one to turn to thank you
Its very difficult right now to love my in-laws. They are the most pretentious people I've ever met.