Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

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  • Опубліковано 7 лют 2025
  • A common phenomenon is people realizing that they believe they have married the wrong person. This is not unique, and it happens for a variety of reasons. In this video I explore the ways that I see people come to this conclusion, and the practical steps to get out of it. I hope this helps!

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  • @fathermosesmcpherson
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  • @nicolaxx8113
    @nicolaxx8113 5 місяців тому +153

    “Marriage works when you’re working on yourself”. Amen.

    • @DitaNoire
      @DitaNoire Місяць тому +2

      Not true,other half must work on themselfs too.

    • @edheldude
      @edheldude Місяць тому

      The other person has to work on themselves too, and be free of demons.

  • @jacquelinegiordano432
    @jacquelinegiordano432 5 місяців тому +283

    After suffering a false marriage for 7 years, and then being properly married for 18 years, I have come to realize that there is no such thing as the "right" person. People are just people, and if both of you are willing to put in the work, you can get through anything. Couples also forget the third person in their marriage, God. Go to Him when times are tough. God wants you to stay together, and He will help you out!

    • @carolyndilbeck7654
      @carolyndilbeck7654 5 місяців тому +5

      Absolutely greed that putting in the work and remaining devoted to one another and God is extremely important, but I do in fact believe that there's such a thing as the right person. When looking for a spouse, you need to find some who you're compatible with, and who shares your values/beliefs/goals/ect. I believe that if God intends for you to be married, He will reveal the spouse that He has created for you.

    • @juhadexcelsior
      @juhadexcelsior 5 місяців тому

      if only people understood this

    • @hip-pie2344
      @hip-pie2344 4 місяці тому +7

      This is false. Theres no "perfect" person. But there is a "right" and a "wrong". Lol aside from God being the most important, this is bad advice.

    • @maitwamaitwa7922
      @maitwamaitwa7922 4 місяці тому +7

      God is not the third person. He is the first person

    • @1BuFo
      @1BuFo 4 місяці тому

      If I could roll my eyes harder, they would land in my ass. Turn to god'' lmao

  • @Илья́Впрямь
    @Илья́Впрямь 6 місяців тому +986

    I got married in 2016... by 2018, I thought I had made a mistake. Fights, faults, arguments.
    Then, by 2019, we were pregnant and high-risk. My wife was in the hospital for 60 days, and the effort we put into taking care of our child rekindled a deeper love--and revealed to me, my own shortcomings. I was protestant.
    We lost our child that year. Not only did our marriage become better, because of my rekindled sense of responsibility and sacrifice, but our relationship with God took on a new, deeper form--suffering. Now, I am Orthodox (though my wife is hesitant), and I realize that losing a child, though hard in its own way, was just what I needed to learn to love the way God intended, rather than live selfishly as before.
    Glory to God, in all things.

    • @St.MosestheBlack
      @St.MosestheBlack 6 місяців тому +98

      May your childs memory be eternal. Thank you for sharing. God be with you.

    • @sirpepeofhousekek6741
      @sirpepeofhousekek6741 6 місяців тому +36

      Your child is happy in the arms of its Creator.

    • @WonderingGuy1
      @WonderingGuy1 6 місяців тому +7

      God bless you

    • @unisonrul1171
      @unisonrul1171 6 місяців тому +5

      God bless you brother

    • @PY7H460R3AN
      @PY7H460R3AN 6 місяців тому +4

      God bless you

  • @specialcombatdefensivetact1784
    @specialcombatdefensivetact1784 6 місяців тому +784

    If I live to a much older age, I must write two books, the first Diapers to Diapers, the Story of My Life, and the second Waiting on the Woman. I have been married for 51 years and have been together for almost 54 years. We would never have made it thus far without our faith in Christ. Praise be to God for a wife who would put up with me for so long.

    • @terrarium_minded
      @terrarium_minded 6 місяців тому +10

      Can't wait to read em

    • @BunnyUK
      @BunnyUK 6 місяців тому +28

      My late grandmother said her autobiography would be called “From Rags, To More Rags” 😂

    • @linda.yuri999
      @linda.yuri999 6 місяців тому +2

      🔥❤️

    • @linda.yuri999
      @linda.yuri999 6 місяців тому +2

      @@BunnyUK😂❤

    • @Christianelvin
      @Christianelvin 6 місяців тому

      Tell us when u publish the books ❤✝️

  • @arunxyz07
    @arunxyz07 6 місяців тому +190

    "marriage works when you're working on yourself"
    Well said, Father.
    Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏🏻

  • @IIZCHAOS
    @IIZCHAOS 6 місяців тому +655

    We must die to each other.
    I cant rember the saint who told this story but it goes like this.
    2 sets of partners , 1 argued constantly , their neighbours seemed to never argue.
    So 1 day the couple that argued decided to spy on their neighbours to see how they where so happy.
    When looking through their window they saw the husband knock a vase off the table and break it .
    He immidaitly apoligized and started to clean up.
    His wife then rushed over and said " no no its my fault i shouldent of left it their " and apoligized and started to help her husband clean up.
    There was no blame , each saught to blame and correct themselves first not the other.
    This is what we must strive for.
    Thankyou farther this id a hard task that we must work on our whole reltionship.
    May God help us.

    • @daniel-bc8lx
      @daniel-bc8lx 6 місяців тому +10

      Amazing story!

    • @dimitrytsalinka7203
      @dimitrytsalinka7203 5 місяців тому +5

      I think its St. John Chrysostom or St. Paisios

    • @joseg.6133
      @joseg.6133 5 місяців тому

      One couple is aggressive. The other couple is passive aggressive

    • @DyslexicBatnam99
      @DyslexicBatnam99 2 місяці тому

      @@joseg.6133 The other couple just enjoys each others company.

    • @joseg.6133
      @joseg.6133 2 місяці тому

      @@DyslexicBatnam99 breaking a vase passive aggressively and having your partner apologize because they don't want to argue about how it was in the place it was supposed to be sounds crazier than the aggressive couple who found themselves being nosey and spying on their neighbors.
      If they truly enjoyed each other's company they wouldn't be lying to each other. The husband lying about his aggression. The wife about whose fault it was.

  • @theophila214
    @theophila214 6 місяців тому +138

    I think some important factors for a good partnership are:
    -lifestyle compatibility,
    -shared vision,
    -shared values.

    • @moriiiiitz
      @moriiiiitz 4 місяці тому +5

      "Without a vision a peope perisheth"
      Not just a people, but also couple.

  • @colereece3902
    @colereece3902 6 місяців тому +254

    I heard this from a Protestant pastor but it applies here and I believe it to be true. When someone says “I’ve married the wrong person” his response is “well they’re the right one now.”

    • @s1n4m1n
      @s1n4m1n 3 місяці тому

      Yeah the old bait and switch.

  • @bigfootnmore6619
    @bigfootnmore6619 5 місяців тому +173

    As soon as you say "I do" they are the RIGHT person.

  • @johnnmusic
    @johnnmusic 6 місяців тому +106

    Seeking perfection in our relationships is a trauma response. I realized that the neglect and loneliness I felt since 13 led me to seek perfect outcomes because maybe *that* would award me the validation and acceptance I could never get previously. It took me 10 years to talk with my wife like a partner, instead of like someone I consistently had on a witness’ stand.

  • @Riley_04
    @Riley_04 6 місяців тому +158

    Brothers and sisters, you have to create or be someone who you yourself would want to be around with. What is it that you want from your partner? you be that person!

    • @fathermosesmcpherson
      @fathermosesmcpherson  6 місяців тому +29

      Great advice!

    • @ShaniOnSinai
      @ShaniOnSinai 6 місяців тому +7

      Wow that actually means a lot. As a woman I can also take the lead in peacemaking

    • @Riley_04
      @Riley_04 6 місяців тому +3

      @@ShaniOnSinai Definitely. protect your peace!

  • @St.MosestheBlack
    @St.MosestheBlack 6 місяців тому +143

    I've had this thought about my wife and I have found it often to be rooted in my own ego. Reading St. John Chrysostoms "On Marriage and Family Life" has helped me recognize my duty to myself and my wife as a man. Regardless of how I feel about her, I have accepted and taken on the responsibility to love and protect her. Go to confession weekly. This helps tremendously! Do not go looking for your priest to justify your concerns about your wife. Go to confess your sins! Marriage is martyrdom. Self-sacrifice is key! Fr. Moses, pray for me an unworthy sinner, that Christ will strengthen me as a man, husband, and father. You are truly helping us men.

    • @johnnmusic
      @johnnmusic 6 місяців тому +1

      Amen!

    • @thaimuayshoo1171
      @thaimuayshoo1171 6 місяців тому +3

      Do not go to your priest to justify your concerns with your wife? What?
      A husband should discuss concerns (and possible sins) that he has about his wife & the wife, likewise should do the exact same thing with her priest or spiritual father
      Yes, humility is important (if necessarily via a 2 way street,) but I'd argue that there are without question times where social pressure mechanisms by parishoners are the best path, such as, shaming, shunning, & possible excommunication for both men & women too. Yes, extend grace, patience, & love to them (to a degree) but without holding boundaries in your personal life & boundaries within the church, you leave a massive opening for the serpent to come in like a wrecking ball of wickedness.
      *obviously, granted, that not every single interaction should be like this but:
      Job rebuking his wife was Godly success while Adam failing to confront Eve's rebellion was ungodly failure

    • @St.MosestheBlack
      @St.MosestheBlack 6 місяців тому +5

      @@thaimuayshoo1171 I’m speaking of confession. Go to confess your sins. Confession is never a time to confess your wife sins. It’s a time to confess your sins.

  • @user-in4ex3tr4d
    @user-in4ex3tr4d 6 місяців тому +265

    You might not know it yet father but you are my pastor now even tho i am an atheist i love everything you say and how you saynit it is so inteligent and enlightening thank you so mutch❤

  • @Beyondabsence
    @Beyondabsence 5 місяців тому +26

    The very first time my wife and I locked eyes, we both knew it-without a word, we understood we were meant to be together. In that brief moment, it was like we recognized something we had always been looking for in each other. Fast forward, 18 years later, and it's a perfect symbiosis. What was it in that moment that imprinted on both of us the certainty of a lifetime together? I don’t know...

    • @MsPolly05
      @MsPolly05 3 місяці тому +5

      Oh my gosh i love stories like these. Makes my heart happy❤ good for you guys!

  • @dude9318
    @dude9318 5 місяців тому +14

    This is a very good video with great advice .
    As a young guy marriage scares me a lot because im afraid I might ruin it or that my wife will end up hating me
    However vidoes like these helped to understand how i should be in the marriage
    Putting her needs above my own , loving her as Christ loved the church .Most importantly putting God first.
    I think we can apply the advice in the video to anyone in our lives .
    Thank you for the message
    God bless .

  • @jordanpresy7671
    @jordanpresy7671 6 місяців тому +34

    What a fantastic ending to the video. Brilliantly put Father Moses

  • @FiremanKevin
    @FiremanKevin 6 місяців тому +92

    Absolutely married the wrong person. Had a kid. Then got a house. Then got married. Then had two more kids. Then i converted. We just had another child. We are broke as jokes. But we are ride or die for each other during each and every crisis. We fight with the same passion that we care for each other. Been together for 19 years. Married 14.
    God bless. This is a great word, father ☦️❤️

    • @Coastie901
      @Coastie901 5 місяців тому

      doesn’t that mean you married the right person?

    • @FiremanKevin
      @FiremanKevin 5 місяців тому +9

      @@Coastie901 it’s a joke referencing the topic bud

    • @supremegentleman4276
      @supremegentleman4276 5 місяців тому +3

      Love this testimony

    • @Steven-hq3go
      @Steven-hq3go 3 місяці тому

      You could be committing adultery by not being with the person you first married.

    • @FiremanKevin
      @FiremanKevin 3 місяці тому

      @ I don’t get what you mean ? I’ve been married once. All my kids are with my wife. We are still together. It’s was a sarcastic play on words to the topic father was discussing. Literally read the title of the video ? I dunno

  • @virginiaday2934
    @virginiaday2934 5 місяців тому +14

    I could have used this advice 28 years ago. It’s so much better than what secular counselors told me then.

  • @Bobthe0strich
    @Bobthe0strich 6 місяців тому +25

    I don’t understand all the criticism towards the clickbait title? It’s 2024. This is how you get videos out which helps get the message out. I swear people just look for anything to complain about. Great video and message Father Moses 💪🏼

    • @BBBRRROOODDDYYY
      @BBBRRROOODDDYYY 5 місяців тому

      Take note they are ALL North Americans. This is Puritanism raising its ugly head

    • @filay248
      @filay248 4 місяці тому +1

      "Wrong is wrong, even when everyone is doing it. Right is right, even when nobody is doing it"
      The year 2024 does not make it right.

  • @sincerethunderstorm9317
    @sincerethunderstorm9317 5 місяців тому +37

    I was having this conversation with my husband last night. I've come to realize how I have been delusional about my expectations and reality. I have asked him for forgiveness as I am now becoming aware of these traits. I'm grateful for this video and my recent love for orthodoxy. My view on life, marriage, children, and mankind was polluted by trauma and so I have been operating from that perspective.
    Lord, have mercy on me a sinner

  • @alfredoortiz6860
    @alfredoortiz6860 5 місяців тому +7

    I was once told that if you wanted to change people, you must change yourself. this video remined of this.

  • @StMiles
    @StMiles 6 місяців тому +14

    Man I really hope these videos reach both men and women. I’ve been working on tons of self development for the last 10 years and I can truthfully say that all of your videos resonate with my beliefs but they aren’t all sorted. Thankfully you help sort these thoughts and beliefs and for that I appreciate you and your knowledge.

  • @stathis301
    @stathis301 6 місяців тому +14

    Thank you father Moses. I'm a Greek orthodox, living in Thessaloniki, Greece and your speeches help me a whole a lot. I'm recently married. Please pray for me and my wife. My name is Efstathios and my wife is Marina Maria ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @clunktrunk
    @clunktrunk 6 місяців тому +8

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting these, father. Im restricted to my home area and dont have any Orthodox churches near me. Your videos are true lifesavers. Thank you for being our father❤

  • @simonplays5982
    @simonplays5982 6 місяців тому +8

    Thank you Fr Moses for this amazing video, I’m 18 years old Orthodox and these videos really inspire me to become a better man for the future and for the Women I get married to God willing 🙏🏾, your content is amazing keep it up!

  • @AngelissimaASMR
    @AngelissimaASMR 6 місяців тому +9

    Thank you, Father Moses, for the encouragement today. I've always thought it to be a thought from the enemy to cause confusion - to think that we married the wrong person. We need to prepare our engaged couples with this knowledge in pre-marital counseling.

  • @shekelthepersianprince7
    @shekelthepersianprince7 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this. I've heard the idea before but you lay it out so precisely it sits so well in my heart and mind.

  • @MyGuy42069
    @MyGuy42069 5 місяців тому +5

    I have been struggling hard with this idea recently. The fact that I have never seen or heard of your channel, yet this is the first video suggested to me, shows me God is real and he very much cares for his children.

  • @bobrobert1123
    @bobrobert1123 5 місяців тому +5

    Life is much simpler when you realize the right person for you doesn't exist. It's always gonna take work, there is no free lunch.

  • @ItsRaitisLV
    @ItsRaitisLV 6 місяців тому +2

    Thanks

  • @kennyfinance773
    @kennyfinance773 6 місяців тому +59

    Be aware with whom you melt your soul

    • @rachelross5829
      @rachelross5829 6 місяців тому +1

      Absolutely but the marriage contract/ covenant to me is just man made paradigm that only benefits if children are involved......maybe
      Who we are intimate with is such a powerful exchange of energy that you can either wither or flourish but who's to say we are to stay together forever. Moving on in love and fluid love at that is kinda the flow in this life. Do you actually believe we were meant for just 1 person forever? Well if so we got that shit screwed up as a whole don't ya think?

    • @andrew_70bob4
      @andrew_70bob4 6 місяців тому +4

      @@rachelross5829 I don't think the fall of man makes any sense if we are not meant for one person. As the priest says here, you have to change yourself not the external circumstances. If you divorce and remarry, you are trying to achieve paradise by picking the apple. Personally I am divorced myself though it wasn't really my choice.

    • @rachelross5829
      @rachelross5829 6 місяців тому

      @@andrew_70bob4 so you believe our creator picked someone for us or did we before we came here? Can twin flame dynamic even be a real one? To be honest , if not, Then I can't believe in love with only one person forever is our way. If it was then why would we not be doing it? Clearly we are not.

    • @jc-rq8or
      @jc-rq8or 5 місяців тому

      ​@@rachelross5829 The physical written contact is 100% man made, but that doesn't mean the spiritual/energy bond is. If we're basing the concept of marriage off more traditional ideas like that of the bible, then marriage is created through sex. Likely due to the energy exchange, which creates a permanent tie until one of the persons deaths. That's why Jesus says not to divorce, even in the case of infidelity. Because if you seperate then more than likely you will end up in another relationship which would be adultery. Just because you've physically separated doesn't mean you've spiritually separated. If the energy does in fact bond and permanently tie you to a person, then who knows what side affects there could be to developing muliple of these bonds with others who themselves have multiple bonds. I wonder if many of these "opressive" ideas are actually safe guards to help protect us. For example, i saw there was a new study finding that having multiple sexual partners increases your chances of cancer. The higher the body count the higher the risk. They said they don't know what could cause this, but I'm curious if it's due to having multiple sexual energy ties.

    • @andrew_70bob4
      @andrew_70bob4 5 місяців тому +2

      @@rachelross5829 I think it's about belief in the institution of marriage and family rather than the person. We're all perfect in the eyes of God so you need to see with God's eyes. People give up too easily, divorce is the easy option. That was my own personal experience but of course it spreads around, you need to change the culture. There's a toxic belief in romantic love. You can trace it back to post-war Hollywood, then pop music, soap operas.

  • @kd1675
    @kd1675 5 місяців тому +7

    I’m just leaving a comment to help the algorithm because this is gold 🙌

  • @jossdeiboss
    @jossdeiboss 6 місяців тому +2

    Wow, great words of wisdom!
    I am having doubts about IF I should marry the woman I have been dating. I am dating with marriage in mind but for some reason it is taking time for me to see clarity.
    This video really removes a lot of the dust from my eyes!
    Thank you and Thanks to God who is always guiding me through my blidness!

  • @miguelpsmiranda
    @miguelpsmiranda 6 місяців тому +4

    Thank you for these precious words Father. I am a protestant and I never heard such words from my church's pastor. God bless you!

    • @BBBRRROOODDDYYY
      @BBBRRROOODDDYYY 5 місяців тому

      And you wont. Come home ☦

    • @NickVTA
      @NickVTA 3 дні тому

      I have, it was a Ukrainian pastor, he gave me through seven pillars, seven important things to look for in a spouse. I believe I remember four, I regret not writing them down. But I remember him same pay attention to how she treats her parents, because when she's comfortable with you that's how she's going to engage with you. Also look at how they handle their enemies, because one day you're going to be their enemy, And so if they handle things with their enemies In a christ-like way, that's likely how they're going to be with you in marriage, see how they are around children, They had a really cool story. So This pastor asked his wife to marry him on the first date. I said Are you kidding me? He said I knew she was the one because she said yes and the other women said no. And then he went off to go to school in the United States and then she was going to follow him shortly later and get married and then they were under Soviet occupation and they had tracked a lot of Christians and somehow found out that they were part of a ministry and so before she was able to leave they basically confiscated her passport or something where she couldn't travel abroad so for 3 years he couldn't write to her or should I say she couldn't get his letters and she couldn't send any to him, so he didn't know if she found somebody else and she didn't know if he found somebody else. And then I forgot the circumstances but They end up getting in contact together and got married. But they waited for each other for 3 years without even knowing what the other was doing. Now they've been married for 40 plus years. But I wish I would remember it all seven of those things he said to look out for because they were like the best things anybody had ever told me.

  • @gagi333
    @gagi333 4 місяці тому +1

    Great video. I would also add that many people nowadays just dont wanna put any effort into saving the marriage because no-fault-divorce is just the "easier" way out

  • @TheBanjoShowOfficial
    @TheBanjoShowOfficial 6 місяців тому +8

    Father Moses thank you very much for this video I feel like I very much needed this talk. Sometimes I feel like nitpicking every single trait about my lady, we aren’t married but it’s my idea. I feel like I can be extremely critical of her especially when it’s not justified. The reality is we are all imperfect and completely incompatible people trying to make compatibility out of something inherently broken. We should ask ourselves always what can we do for our spouse, not what they can do for me? If you find someone that understands these things then that’s the right person, in the wrong person.

  • @DonRA33
    @DonRA33 6 місяців тому +7

    Absolute banger of a video thank you father ☦️ may God grant you many years.

  • @jimmygarcia6766
    @jimmygarcia6766 4 місяці тому +1

    Wow. I loved how this video was titled as well as how the message was delivered. God bless you brother.

  • @LaneFortnite
    @LaneFortnite 6 місяців тому +12

    love these videos thank you for continuing to post

  • @cmartsolf
    @cmartsolf 6 місяців тому +17

    Thank you, much of the modern world and Hollywood likes to portray the perfect relationship of “the one” and this mentality leads to anxiety, pride and then contempt. Just as Christ loves the church we are called in the same way, we may fall short but we continue to show love through all things.

  • @ericnorwood3991
    @ericnorwood3991 6 місяців тому +119

    Hot take: marriage is so super easy when you find the right person. Married 3 months after meeting. Going on 14 years and 3 kids. Huge pain in the ass but so am I. We are who we are and we recognized that early on. Never a doubt in my mind😊

    • @christianbahena5364
      @christianbahena5364 6 місяців тому +15

      God has blessed you my friend!

    • @tromboneman4517
      @tromboneman4517 6 місяців тому +19

      It’s not that it’s “easy,” it’s that you deal with the difficulties that arise far better.

    • @laurenatkinson1892
      @laurenatkinson1892 6 місяців тому +8

      I agree!! 8 years in for us plus 3 babies. Not once has this thought come to mind! If anything, the years and added stress of children have only solidified the feeling that I married the right one ❤

    • @docinmaking8894
      @docinmaking8894 5 місяців тому +2

      Beautiful ❤

    • @Aps-tf2te
      @Aps-tf2te 5 місяців тому +5

      Yes! Married after months . 13 years and 6 kids later. Love my marriage ❤

  • @maldihno
    @maldihno 6 місяців тому +34

    Thank you Father, I am Catholic and am 17 (in my last year of HS), although I may have theological disagreements with the Orthodox Faith, I want to thank you for your wisdom and I am hopeful that the two branches will reunite, God bless all of my orthodox brothers and sisters, and thank you again Father. ☦✝

    • @Wizard-Girl9
      @Wizard-Girl9 5 місяців тому

      I used to want that but Catholic path is a delusion & current Pope is a heretic kissing up to gay agenda. No to ecumenical trip

  • @TheTransfiguredLife
    @TheTransfiguredLife 6 місяців тому +4

    Sound wisdom Father. Everyone needs to hear this! ☦️

  • @FernandoHernandez-og6be
    @FernandoHernandez-og6be 6 місяців тому +5

    Spot on conclusion to a much needed message. Thank you for your service.

  • @johnnytnt9687
    @johnnytnt9687 6 місяців тому +18

    I swear this guy has the most creative titles. Good video

    • @oneshotprestige
      @oneshotprestige 6 місяців тому +2

      Yea he’s great at click-baiting people. Deception is not the way of the Lord.

    • @ryanbutela
      @ryanbutela 6 місяців тому

      @@oneshotprestigeare you saying the title he makes are deceptive and thus not of God?

    • @lucasnadamas9317
      @lucasnadamas9317 6 місяців тому

      ​@@oneshotprestige It's not deception it's a direct response to the belief that there's a "right" marriage and a "wrong" one, and that most people end up saying they "married wrong" which is sort of ridiculous in itself, but I do agree I don't like where it's going

  • @boyar3033
    @boyar3033 6 місяців тому +2

    Amen father ! As a young man, this is priceless wisdom.

  • @ConnorMBanks
    @ConnorMBanks 6 місяців тому +5

    Thank you, Father.

  • @BenDonahower
    @BenDonahower 3 місяці тому

    Great video. I also think that taking a marriage covenant helps a marriage. I'm Protestant, so I said marriage vows verbally. I have no alternative but to be married to my wife. If there are no other options, putting in the work to have a healthy relationship is a no brainer.

  • @npc7687
    @npc7687 6 місяців тому +7

    The truth is, my parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember, so I'm not in contact with my father, and the truth is, you really help me understand things that concern me personally, and I thank you

  • @salicrew2504
    @salicrew2504 6 місяців тому +1

    Hello father, you are on the money as always. Although we differ in a lot, your message is truly guided by the holy spirit. Much love from a catholic brother✝️☦️

  • @beeboi5881
    @beeboi5881 5 місяців тому +1

    This gave me so much hope for my current relationship. Thank you father 🙏

  • @thug2196
    @thug2196 6 місяців тому +1

    I think this is the best and most applicable wisdom i have heard in a long time. Thank you Father, God bless.

  • @BeefCastleXL
    @BeefCastleXL 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you, Father Moses. I struggle with this deeply. From unmet expectations, to vanity. I struggle. pray for me.

  • @codykrueger796
    @codykrueger796 5 місяців тому +3

    I wish we had confession as a protestant. Such a value to have someone of the cloth to share your deepest concerns.

    • @fathermosesmcpherson
      @fathermosesmcpherson  5 місяців тому +9

      Come home 🫶🏼

    • @hole_in_leftwing
      @hole_in_leftwing 4 місяці тому +1

      I’m a recent convert, was just prayed into the order of the catechumens like 2 weeks ago. Grew up Protestant, trust me when I say this, come home bro. Learn from the Orthodox Church why the Orthodox Church does what it does. Don’t go to outside sources who pass down hearsay. I say before the Lord in confidence: the Orthodox Church has maintained the very faith we proclaim to possess. Never in my life have I had so much peace amongst so many questions. See for yourself, you won’t regret it.

    • @zadok6709
      @zadok6709 4 місяці тому

      Then you are not protestant because protestants do have confession.

  • @RGTomoenage11
    @RGTomoenage11 5 місяців тому +3

    Glad to hear your confession Fr. 😂

  • @carlah6234
    @carlah6234 5 місяців тому +25

    There is no right person. Marriage is an ongoing work. The only time someone can marry the “wrong person” is if they are an unchanging, abusive relationship.

    • @annabanzon313
      @annabanzon313 2 місяці тому +1

      Agreed, also when someone changes so drastically and moves into neglect zone.

    • @Anton43218
      @Anton43218 Місяць тому

      99/100 times that would be the woman.

    • @annabanzon313
      @annabanzon313 Місяць тому

      @Anton43218 you would be surprised as some men age.

  • @christopherflanagan9626
    @christopherflanagan9626 5 місяців тому +1

    Wonderful message. Job taught me God doesn't owe me a wife, even if I trust him.

  • @FlOwGeTiCsPoEtRy
    @FlOwGeTiCsPoEtRy 6 місяців тому +4

    Ya know, i normally try not to leave comments on UA-cam videos, but this video came right on in time where it needed to be. I don't feel that i have a spiritual father (other than God of course, the upper Father), so, i come here. I don't know where to start but i woll say this. I don't think I've heard or met any man that has recently been able to reel me in and challenge my own thinking like father moses. There are a plethora of masculinity videos out here, but i prayed for answers speaking to Jesus, and i even wanted to talk to you father moses after watching several of your videos and suddenly, i see this. I've been trying to figure out some things personally, and i think this may have helped a lot, at least for now. My situation has been a bit complicated for me, but i Thank God for you. Many blessings to you and your family. 🙏🏽

    • @BBBRRROOODDDYYY
      @BBBRRROOODDDYYY 5 місяців тому

      Brother, check out the Royal Path Podcast with Father Turbo and Floridoxy (Both friends of Father Moses)

  • @martijnvdbent6908
    @martijnvdbent6908 4 місяці тому

    Great insights! Im devorced right a few years now. I think this would prevent a lot of devorces if preached regularly. God bless.

  • @Anwarl2022
    @Anwarl2022 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Father Moses. I think accepting a person’s weaknesses is just as important as recognizing their strengths, because there’s a push pull effect that will make a marriage stronger in the end.
    As long as the marriage is based in authenticity and shared values. This is one thing you realize by working on yourself as you’ve said.

  • @russianfolktales3641
    @russianfolktales3641 6 місяців тому +2

    I married the wrong person but for the right reasons. Blessed with two kids , together 20 years and still counting

  • @anthojn1651
    @anthojn1651 6 місяців тому +4

    Bless Father! Thanks a lot for this video. Greetings from France! ☦️

  • @trat1x
    @trat1x 5 місяців тому

    Father Moses, this video is incredible. I have never gotten this much insight on relationships in 10 minutes.

  • @AdamPaulTalks
    @AdamPaulTalks 6 місяців тому +3

    Fr Moses’s video titles go hard.

  • @ZukoRobin
    @ZukoRobin 6 місяців тому +3

    I wasn't married but in a relationship. I'm not the type of guy to hold your hand and cuddle everyday, that's something she expected from me. It's not like I didnt make mistakes, but I knew it wouldn't work out and still went through with it. I've learned my lesson.

  • @lucasnadamas9317
    @lucasnadamas9317 6 місяців тому +4

    I really like the content, very good to be able to gleem into actual real wisdom, this video included.
    I do see a trend with the titles getting a bit wacky though, please don't go into clickbait type stuff and stay true to making meaningfull content, thanks for everything so far, just wanted to say that

  • @ivangamboa1860
    @ivangamboa1860 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for making another video on marriage, I hope you continue to make a series along with family and relationships. Thank you VERY HELPFUL.

  • @markapost
    @markapost 5 місяців тому

    Thank you father for this wonderful video on mariage.
    Since you are frequently quoting St. Paisios, another incident which is also known in Greece.
    A few guys visited him and said to him: Elder, please pray to God so that we find some good girls to marry.
    His answer: Everyone keeps asking for good girls. What are we going to do with the bad girls?

  • @laceygreenwood
    @laceygreenwood 5 місяців тому

    Indeed! Hopefully many will listen!

  • @oveylia7408
    @oveylia7408 27 днів тому

    Thank you Father! I always think about Easter and to go to church with the kids at midnight I need him. When things are hard I think about that there is Easter coming and then another Easter and so on.

  • @careysubmission8312
    @careysubmission8312 5 місяців тому +1

    I needed this! Thank you Father. God bless you!

  • @StrongBodymindandspirit
    @StrongBodymindandspirit 5 місяців тому

    This is such a breath of fresh air

  • @connoryope5646
    @connoryope5646 5 місяців тому

    Great video! Father Moses I’m a inquirer of the Orthodox faith just started 6 months ago. I am here in Austin too! I go to Saint Elias.

  • @TitusCastiglione1503
    @TitusCastiglione1503 3 місяці тому +2

    At this point I’m just trying to get to the stage of “finding a woman to marry at all.”

  • @samuelinauen6552
    @samuelinauen6552 5 місяців тому +2

    Strong message as always father! Now I'm going to work on myself..it's deadlift day 😁🙏🕊️

  • @Saved.by.Jesus.
    @Saved.by.Jesus. 5 місяців тому +9

    Marry someone that prayers with you and read the Bible with you. Motivate your spouse to pray and read the Bible.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 5 місяців тому +2

      Yes. That's key. Is this man saved? Why does he call himself Father Moses? Only God is father or your dad.

    • @King_Immanuel
      @King_Immanuel 4 місяці тому

      ​@@danilaroche1156because he is a priest

  • @justaneditygangstar
    @justaneditygangstar 5 місяців тому +3

    The problem here is it has to apply to BOTH. If it applies to one and the other just refuses to change cause she/he constantly stuck in “making the wrong decision”
    It’s not gonna work out and tore both of them out.

    • @xPowerShotx
      @xPowerShotx 5 місяців тому

      They should though about before they married. What run do we run? My recommendation for this kind of case, they need to talk with a counsellor. They need to know what marriage is, or take a break and think carefully trough where they are heading, life or destruction? Why be in a marriage if they're only going to ruin. Be transparent to each other.

  • @jessejames88
    @jessejames88 7 днів тому

    Beautiful. Thank you, brother. God bless.

  • @d-vision2426
    @d-vision2426 6 місяців тому +1

    I'm glad I found this teaching now while I'm still single

  • @chunkylover23
    @chunkylover23 6 місяців тому +3

    I'm not necessarily a person of faith but from just one man to another:
    Amen, Father! ❤

  • @theantoniosilva
    @theantoniosilva 2 місяці тому +1

    I desire to have the fruit of The Spirit before I get married. I’m sure this will save me so much stress and hardship in the future

  • @petermanetas5162
    @petermanetas5162 5 місяців тому +1

    Excellent presentation that cuts to the heart of the topic.

  • @mathematician6182
    @mathematician6182 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you father Moses for your service! Looking forward to new videos (words of wisdom) from you.

  • @mr.hughes5808
    @mr.hughes5808 6 місяців тому +1

    Amazing, as always, Father.

  • @YSLRD
    @YSLRD 6 місяців тому +1

    This is sound advice for healthy people who are both devoted believers. It can go terribly wrong if the spouse has no moral character.

  • @chardonglenn2039
    @chardonglenn2039 6 місяців тому +41

    I would like to be married. But with the culture we live in and with people giving up on marriage because of this exact point. Or you not bowing down to everything they want. I’ve realized it’s probably not a reality that I will get married. And that’s cool. Because for me divorce isn’t an option, however I can’t speak for the lady. Marriage is supposed to be a mirroring image to our relationship with God. That doesn’t happen too often. Divorce is encouraged in our culture and it has unfortunately creeped into a lot of the church.

    • @colereece3902
      @colereece3902 6 місяців тому +11

      I would encourage you to not give up on the sacrament of marriage

    • @FatherSonSpirit1
      @FatherSonSpirit1 6 місяців тому +6

      Amen brother. Im right there with you. People will see don’t give up, but Paul even says he wished we would stay single for the sake of the Lord. You are worthy- without having to find a wife. A woman doesn’t complete us, Christ Risen completes us. I really am starting to enjoy my peace and solitude over relationships now that I am 30.

    • @stefanstefan161
      @stefanstefan161 6 місяців тому +3

      ​@@FatherSonSpirit1 I'm about to be 30 next year and still not married.There's a feeling that if I wait too long it might be too late, and I'd be alone the rest of my life.Any advice considering you seem to be in peace with being single and 30 years old?

    • @FatherSonSpirit1
      @FatherSonSpirit1 6 місяців тому +4

      @@stefanstefan161 yeah, if I know majority of women are not the best for me, and cannot contribute to my peace, Im mature enough now to realize being single (not alone) is better than having a toxic partner/ someone who doesn’t truly care. I believe some women have lost their ability to care and nurture. I can find a relationship 10 years from now (40) and have kids at that age. Are you a woman? That makes things a little different.

    • @stefanstefan161
      @stefanstefan161 6 місяців тому +2

      @@FatherSonSpirit1 I'm a single young man with a job, I have a few friends, but still I feel like I'm missing a meaningful life with purpose and intimate relationship.That's why I'm considering marriage bur fear I might get complacent about meeting a girl and getting married as I get older.

  • @jucarda572
    @jucarda572 5 місяців тому +2

    I've only been married for 5 years but this is absolutely true.

  • @CelticCatholic
    @CelticCatholic 6 місяців тому +1

    Thanks you father! Also I just realized how amazing your eyes are!

  • @ggbouvier9897
    @ggbouvier9897 5 місяців тому +1

    I think people make a big deal about EVERYTHING when this is just a temporary space for us. Be kind, & be thankful for a spouse being there for you.
    Make the best in life and don’t be so set in a certain way, certain ‘thing’ just be happy. Before you know it, you’ll be 80 and ready to say goodbye to the world!

  • @igboyaalale6145
    @igboyaalale6145 5 місяців тому +2

    Amen!!!! Thank You, Brother!

  • @NickVTA
    @NickVTA 3 дні тому

    My dad used to say "men marry in the hopes that the woman won't change, and women marry in the hopes that a man will change"

  • @MrLFox
    @MrLFox 5 місяців тому

    Thank you Father. Please adress also the scenario when only one person in the couple is trying to work on him/herself and the other is narcisistic, feels entitled and puts more pressure on the other.

  • @dymphnatherese2595
    @dymphnatherese2595 5 місяців тому

    Absolutely correct! I think it’s also been fruitful for my own relationship to offer the ways that I’ve felt bothered by my partner through Mary and to Jesus, that He take care of it. Keeping my mouth shut and trusting God has given in these sufferings has helped make him a man of far greater virtue I could never have dreamed of. The fruit of these offerings and prayers has been nothing short of incredible, and I’m so grateful for this mercy. The Lord fulfills the desires of our hearts. May our desires be His alone.

  • @knightoffailure1869
    @knightoffailure1869 6 місяців тому +3

    From my own experience of marriage, the most important thing is to talk about what you want to do and be together. Strengths and weaknesses don’t necessarily change, but motivated people can mitigate and strategize and work through their weaknesses to get better little by little. It’s people who don’t share goals who aren’t motivated to work through their weaknesses. People who don’t want to be parents don’t become more responsible and nurturing, even if you convince them to have a child for you, and people who don’t want to have a high level career don’t suddenly become motivated to get promotions and work hard just because they have someone to support. My wife and I want the same things, so we can agree on what our flaws are and work on them, instead of having different opinions of what constitutes a flaw and working at cross purposes to each other.

    • @BBBRRROOODDDYYY
      @BBBRRROOODDDYYY 5 місяців тому

      Basic...

    • @knightoffailure1869
      @knightoffailure1869 5 місяців тому

      @@BBBRRROOODDDYYY Totally, but I still meet people who don’t know the basics and get married (then usually divorced), so I’ll keep warning people about the basics.

  • @npc7687
    @npc7687 6 місяців тому +2

    Ma man is spitting some facts🔥

  • @jeanpaulmartin2600
    @jeanpaulmartin2600 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for your video! This morning I had a situation that made me really angry with my partner. Your video helped me calm down and change the approach. Thank you, be blessed!

  • @amyshaw444
    @amyshaw444 5 місяців тому +1

    I'm very single but for some reason I'm watching this 😂 Those were actually some excellent points that I will remember

  • @austinwelch2315
    @austinwelch2315 4 місяці тому +1

    I married during a dry patch in my spiritual position with God. Once I repented and focused on God, the yoke between myself and my wife was stagnant. Then I learned about service and selflessness, not as mere words but adopting them. Truly fixating on the marriage, the husband should love the wife like Jesus loves the Church. This turned my anger and regretfulness into love and patience while putting my counsel with God.

  • @betofittt
    @betofittt 5 місяців тому +2

    Marriage isn’t all sun flowers and rainbows there for sure will be obstacles the important thing is to overcome them together like God intended it to when you said “i do”