Thank you so much, when we lose our loved ones we are completely clueless how to handle this all of these emotions and it is a blessing to have channels like this where we can learn how to cope and to continue moving forward because it is all we can do. Blessing to all of us who have lost a loved ones and may all of our hearts continue to heal. There is always light at the end of the tunnel and the sun will always come out after the storm.
Today is Thanksgiving here and I’m trying very hard to be thankful for lots of things in my life. But he isn’t here to share it with me and that is so difficult. I am alone with my family enjoying thanksgiving without me,I think about how it was when we were together. We had our family here and had great meals but now I am by myself with only the beautiful memories.
Thankyou ,I'm only a month and a half in to losing my husband after 46 years.What I'm finding hard it having to take on the responsibilities of the household.I can pay the bills it's the outside stuff like snow removal, looking after the car ,getting it inspected things like that.I never had to do that stuff .I was 19 when I got married.Its just not having that someone to lean on.I was so happy when he got admitted to the hospital.I was sure they were going to fix hin up and he would come home.I never thought he wouldn.t come home again.Seeing him the last few days of his life were really hard as he was drugged up on morphine .He couldn.t talk to tell me he loved me although I knew he did .I just wanted to hear it one more time.His eyes were open but I don.t think he knew I was there.I sang to him and rubbed his head and face.And in a flash he was gone.You never really think that day will come .It is painful and difficult. I do find crying help .s to get it out.Its like your in slow motion ,you eat but never really taste it.Or you forget to eat .Sorry for the long winded post.Its good to get it out.
Loss my wife of 13 yrs to cervix cancer thinking it was only menopause was only 50, 8 1 23 the insomnia is still bad n never had a problem sleeping ... your in slow motion ,you eat but never really taste it.Or you forget to eat ... I agree, I lost 20 lbs from 165 to 145 but yes i knew her from 30 yrs ago for 3 yrs separated 17 got married for 12 n she left me for the 9th time for good n gave her my # n got back together in 2010 - but yeah 46 yrs is a long time, at 13 yrs plus, you become part of them n they are part of you...then find yourself alone is so infeasible.. hope us both healing
I'm here too; 47 years married, long time care giving so was somewhat ready. Except my body let go of years of pent up anxiety and now trying not to get ill and put the kids through another parent to take care of. I'm almost 4 months into this and becoming a little reclusive. So going to pool aerobics and a small bible study. Church feels like too much so taking a break. Haven't been able to cry tho. I can get misty from a song or a movie.
@carolrousseau3629 it is hard to lose the ones we love .10 months in now.Although some days are better I don't think we ll ever truly get over it maybe just pack it away .I.ve learned now not to go to certain songs that make me think about him but to switch to something else.I need to pack this away if not I.ll be living with grief forever.Its lonely though not having your best friend to talk to.I think he would be proud of me for what I've went through and got done this year.I have a dog that takes my attention so I still have something to take care of.All the best to you .
I'm a gay man doing some research on the behalf of a neighbor/friend who lost her husband of 40 years recently. This presentation is so helpful! Thank you from Maine USA.
Exactly what I needed to hear today! 17 months now for me; I miss him daily. It’s the secondary issues I’m working through. I’m continuing to find my new self. Thank you for your insight and inspiration.
God Bless You for doing what you do. I lost my husband a week ago and it hurts so bad. You are giving me tools to work with and hope for the future which is hard to fathom right now. Thank you!
Thank you, but it's so hard, I loss my husband to a tragic accident when he went to work on his day off and never made it back home. The loneliness the emptiness and the fear I feel of being in this world alone is just so over whelming until sometimes I don't know what to do, hoping someday it will get a little easier to go through.
A little over a year ago I found my husband, called 911, tried to revive him as I was screaming hysterically on the phone with 911. He was fine prior, we just had coffee together that Sunday morning. Everything changed that day. My entire life moving forward has changed. It’s still surreal.
@@carolanne3166 it seems such unfair that this things happen and I don ' t understand why. Anybody feel quilty? I don t know why I feel so quilty. I just remember when we have some discution.
I still need to keep hearing this 10 point reminder. I am almost to year two and the hurt and pain are still palpable. I see a doctor today (literally) that hopefully will help me more with the crisis and trauma counseling. I need more help because of the circumstances of my husband's death. Karen has been an invaluable help. I just know my struggle needs more attention so I have to go there first. Many thanks Karen for all you do for us. ❤️
Thank you very much for giving me an understanding of my grief. I lost my husband a month ago he had brain Lymphoma and in three months he was gone, I feel very guilty all the time thinking I could have done more to comfort him, life is not the same and it is going to be a long way for some recovery 😢
Don't apologize, that's a sad story yet your love for your husband is obvious.take care off yourself.he will always be with you. My beautiful husband died suddenly age 28. I've never gotten over the loss. I married later he died in June.i miss him two loves , different, time lessens the pain. I cannot at any time blame my 1st. Husbands death for the grief I've carried all these years. He did not leave me he was taken from me and his little daughter at the time. Take care of yourself. To love and be loved is a wonderful gift.give yourself time
Thank you this was excellent. I'm 3 weeks in and this actually comforted me as I listened to you. Tomorrow is 3 weeks....I don't want to end up hating Aug. 31/Saturdays.
Thank you so much, yes you change and you have to find Who you want to be. Your so right by saying we and our People surrounding us are clue less tell them ask for help and explain your needs. ❤🙌
Thank you. I’m still very early in my grief but point 8 gave me quite a lot of clarity Karen. You’re right, I have been thinking there’s nothing left for me, and if it wasn’t for my kids then maybe I’d be in a different place. My wife lost her life to cancer and didn’t get to have time to do all the things that a mum should get to do with their kids. I still have that opportunity to watch the kids grow and have a life & that’s not to be wasted or I’m just doing her disservice.
53 , and dealing with the loss of my bride after a 36 year relationship. Very hard but Ive accepted this is my new reality. Its very tough and I have my strong and confident moments and also my weak and vulnerable moments. Goals are to keep my body fit like a 20 hear old Marjne and living within my means. Im hoping a gorgeous woman like The host of this video will come into my life. In the meantime Ill be keeping busy and making good decisions. Ive tried to let certain people in but to the contrary they don’t want to be bothered….its true.
My husband and I was together a total of 30 years!! He passed out at work and died immediately!! OMG it’s so overwhelming and lonely 😞 Thanks for talking about this and sometimes I can’t breathe!!! He just passed away and I’m so lost.
Thank you so much, when we lose our loved ones we are completely clueless how to handle this all of these emotions and it is a blessing to have channels like this where we can learn how to cope and to continue moving forward because it is all we can do. Blessing to all of us who have lost a loved ones and may all of our hearts continue to heal. There is always light at the end of the tunnel and the sun will always come out after the storm.
Today is Thanksgiving here and I’m trying very hard to be thankful for lots of things in my life. But he isn’t here to share it with me and that is so difficult. I am alone with my family enjoying thanksgiving without me,I think about how it was when we were together. We had our family here and had great meals but now I am by myself with only the beautiful memories.
Thankyou ,I'm only a month and a half in to losing my husband after 46 years.What I'm finding hard it having to take on the responsibilities of the household.I can pay the bills it's the outside stuff like snow removal, looking after the car ,getting it inspected things like that.I never had to do that stuff .I was 19 when I got married.Its just not having that someone to lean on.I was so happy when he got admitted to the hospital.I was sure they were going to fix hin up and he would come home.I never thought he wouldn.t come home again.Seeing him the last few days of his life were really hard as he was drugged up on morphine .He couldn.t talk to tell me he loved me although I knew he did .I just wanted to hear it one more time.His eyes were open but I don.t think he knew I was there.I sang to him and rubbed his head and face.And in a flash he was gone.You never really think that day will come .It is painful and difficult. I do find crying help .s to get it out.Its like your in slow motion ,you eat but never really taste it.Or you forget to eat .Sorry for the long winded post.Its good to get it out.
Loss my wife of 13 yrs to cervix cancer thinking it was only menopause was only 50, 8 1 23 the insomnia is still bad n never had a problem sleeping ... your in slow motion ,you eat but never really taste it.Or you forget to eat ... I agree, I lost 20 lbs from 165 to 145 but yes i knew her from 30 yrs ago for 3 yrs separated 17 got married for 12 n she left me for the 9th time for good n gave her my # n got back together in 2010 - but yeah 46 yrs is a long time, at 13 yrs plus, you become part of them n they are part of you...then find yourself alone is so infeasible.. hope us both healing
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I'm here too; 47 years married, long time care giving so was somewhat ready. Except my body let go of years of pent up anxiety and now trying not to get ill and put the kids through another parent to take care of. I'm almost 4 months into this and becoming a little reclusive. So going to pool aerobics and a small bible study. Church feels like too much so taking a break. Haven't been able to cry tho. I can get misty from a song or a movie.
@carolrousseau3629 it is hard to lose the ones we love .10 months in now.Although some days are better I don't think we ll ever truly get over it maybe just pack it away .I.ve learned now not to go to certain songs that make me think about him but to switch to something else.I need to pack this away if not I.ll be living with grief forever.Its lonely though not having your best friend to talk to.I think he would be proud of me for what I've went through and got done this year.I have a dog that takes my attention so I still have something to take care of.All the best to you .
@beatleme2 all the best to you in your journey .We loved and recieved love and that alone was the greatest gift. Take care .Hugs
I'm a gay man doing some research on the behalf of a neighbor/friend who lost her husband of 40 years recently. This presentation is so helpful! Thank you from Maine USA.
Exactly what I needed to hear today! 17 months now for me; I miss him daily. It’s the secondary issues I’m working through. I’m continuing to find my new self. Thank you for your insight and inspiration.
Thank you: that was so helpful for me. ‘Your person’s life has ended, but Yours has not…’
It is very hard to go forward, but there is hope.
18 months in after loosing my wife after 37 years. I found this really helpful, viewed in a period of total despair. Thank you.
God Bless You for doing what you do. I lost my husband a week ago and it hurts so bad. You are giving me tools to work with and hope for the future which is hard to fathom right now. Thank you!
I'm sorry for your loss. Mine died 2 weeks ago tomorrow. I don't want to end up hating Saturdays!
Emptiness is overwhelming
It is!!!
Thank you, but it's so hard, I loss my husband to a tragic accident when he went to work on his day off and never made it back home. The loneliness the emptiness and the fear I feel of being in this world alone is just so over whelming until sometimes I don't know what to do, hoping someday it will get a little easier to go through.
I just lost my husband a little over a year ago and I feel the same way. I cry all the time, I miss him so bad
I lost my husbsnd a month agora. Moto accident and it' s so,so heart breaking.
A little over a year ago I found my husband, called 911, tried to revive him as I was screaming hysterically on the phone with 911. He was fine prior, we just had coffee together that Sunday morning. Everything changed that day. My entire life moving forward has changed. It’s still surreal.
@@carolanne3166 it seems such unfair that this things happen and I don ' t understand why. Anybody feel quilty? I don t know why I feel so quilty. I just remember when we have some discution.
@@ilenapop1352happened to me too. He was my soulmate and I miss him every second of every day. Bless you as you soldier on in honor of him. ❤
I still need to keep hearing this 10 point reminder. I am almost to year two and the hurt and pain are still palpable. I see a doctor today (literally) that hopefully will help me more with the crisis and trauma counseling. I need more help because of the circumstances of my husband's death. Karen has been an invaluable help. I just know my struggle needs more attention so I have to go there first. Many thanks Karen for all you do for us. ❤️
Thank you very much for giving me an understanding of my grief. I lost my husband a month ago he had brain Lymphoma and in three months he was gone, I feel very guilty all the time thinking I could have done more to comfort him, life is not the same and it is going to be a long way for some recovery 😢
Yes it does last forever. So so lonely.
Don't apologize, that's a sad story yet your love for your husband is obvious.take care off yourself.he will always be with you. My beautiful husband died suddenly age 28. I've never gotten over the loss. I married later he died in June.i miss him two loves , different, time lessens the pain. I cannot at any time blame my 1st. Husbands death for the grief I've carried all these years. He did not leave me he was taken from me and his little daughter at the time. Take care of yourself. To love and be loved is a wonderful gift.give yourself time
Thank you this was excellent. I'm 3 weeks in and this actually comforted me as I listened to you. Tomorrow is 3 weeks....I don't want to end up hating Aug. 31/Saturdays.
Lol! That made me laugh! The same "compliment " can give you different reactions. "You are so strong " has confused me so much.
Thank you so much, yes you change and you have to find Who you want to be. Your so right by saying we and our People surrounding us are clue less tell them ask for help and explain your needs. ❤🙌
Thank you. I’m still very early in my grief but point 8 gave me quite a lot of clarity Karen. You’re right, I have been thinking there’s nothing left for me, and if it wasn’t for my kids then maybe I’d be in a different place. My wife lost her life to cancer and didn’t get to have time to do all the things that a mum should get to do with their kids. I still have that opportunity to watch the kids grow and have a life & that’s not to be wasted or I’m just doing her disservice.
Your ball in a box analogy is on the mark.
Thank you this helped
53 , and dealing with the loss of my bride after a 36 year relationship.
Very hard but Ive accepted this is my new reality.
Its very tough and I have my strong and confident moments and also my weak and vulnerable moments.
Goals are to keep my body fit like a 20 hear old Marjne and living within my means.
Im hoping a gorgeous woman like The host of this video will come into my life.
In the meantime Ill be keeping busy and making good decisions.
Ive tried to let certain people in but to the contrary they don’t want to be bothered….its true.
Thanks karen so helpful . I lost my husband 6 wks ago at d age of 61 . ❤
Love the box that enlarges...
My husband and I was together a total of 30 years!! He passed out at work and died immediately!! OMG it’s so overwhelming and lonely 😞 Thanks for talking about this and sometimes I can’t breathe!!! He just passed away and I’m so lost.
Hi it feels like a hole has been made in the heart..do others agree
Oh yes s huge hole
I literally have chest pains I’m so sad all the time
Its like a physical pain. ❤
Hi just found your channel thank you for your kind thought you are a beautiful sole yourself, ❤
Thank you Karen, I have felt I should be better by now…
It's sad that people will he tell you that....'you should be doing better by now'. Don't let anyone tell you how you should be feeling or doing!!
Hi. Do not allow people to tell you how to grief. This is your own path. ❤
Thank you
Talk to your deseased husband he will help you, ask God for strength.
#8 😢
Half the widowed people are men. Any thoughts for the other 50%?