Відео

Solace is a very difficult experience.

How can I join your holiday support group?

Not many would show up because they judged my husband for committing suicide. Still haven't 2 and half years in. Judging different grieving styles is totally different. I have been very hurt by this. Yes, I shy away from those conversations. I have become selfish to protect myself.

"I haven't got the energy for this." Isn't that the truth! Why would I, as a 70 year old, want to put myself through all of that? I don't even drink coffee! This self discovery thing, I don't know ... LOL!

Thank you for your vision and this podcast, i had a lot of aha moments💡. Very relyeble and insightfull🙌🌷

Hi Karen my wife passed away on August 11th 2024. I cry profusely every day and night I don’t see anyway out of this. We were married for 50 years. It feels like I have been amputated.

Thank you both for a great podcast. I am looking forward to the workbook! 🙏

Thats amazing that you met Mother Theresa. She was my Wife’s favorite superhero .

You have to move on they would want you to pray syau busy doing things you always wanted to do. Grief will get easier. Join a support group ❤❤

My husband died almost 3 months ago. We were married for 11 years but fought MCL a rare form of lymphoma for 10 years solid fight fight fight for your life! Anticipatory grief didn’t make it any easier. Just saying I miss him so much every waking moment of my lonesome day 😢 Love is something special ❤ I should be happy

Prayer helped me so much, and family and friends stayed close ❤

I am still listening Karen. I sometimes have to double or triple up on podcasts but I am still here. I am still working through many things ... arguing with my adult son, him blaming me for his father's suicide. I know I am a ways off and literally scratching to get there, but I am still trying. I had a set back just last week. The elections last week in the US were a trigger for me. At least the last time we had this idiot for president, I had my husband to commiserate with. We were scared but we had each other. Now I am alone, so alone to watch this horrible man ruin our country. It literally shattered me. I cried for days because David left me with this to live through. God help us. ♥️☘️

Thank you so much 🌺

🙌

What a wonderful gift you are, Karen, those of us who listen. My husband died suddenly, in my arms, of a heart attack in January of this year (he was 72, I am 69). Shock, and crippling grief ensued. Yes, I am now emerging out of the deepest depth of my grief. I have always pursued physical fitness and it has been a true release for me. I believe the endorphins fight the cortisol, but I am so disappointed to say that my once trim and muscular body has gained several pounds even though I haven't gone "off the rails" with eating and lack of weekly consistent exercise. So, not only do I not have my beloved here telling me I am beautiful, I am looking in the mirror and seeing a frumpy aging woman, where just one year ago, I was not. My physical appearance is reflective of my shrunken and sad soul. I hope to experience physical as well as emotional healing as time goes on. Grief has also actually changed my facial appearance as well. So interesting that grief is not just emotional.

My daughter passed just recently

Your conversation touched me. So many of the ideas you spoke to are feelings and emotions I have had in the last year. My wife Shannon died on Nov 14, 2023. I am in the midst of my journey.

It’s been 6 months now and after a period of mainly distraction, just survivalmode, I now take more time for myself, to feel everything. I’m a fixer and this can not be fixed so that’s a challenge. Also, I don’t want to be this grieving woman. That wasn’t what I signed up for. I don’t want to be that woman in a supportgroup, in therapy, sobbing about my dead husband. But I am.

Thank you for sharing ❤️

10-29-2024 My name is Karen Wilson. I live in Tucson,AZ USA. My husband Mark Passed away from a debilitating muscle disease 3 months ago today called Inclusion Body Myositis. We were married 44 years and together 45 years. He was 68 years old. I am 68 years old also. We have 2 children together. My daughter is 40 and is married and has given us 2 beautiful grandchildren a Grandson who is 4 and a granddaughter who is 18 months. Our Son was killed 9 years ago by a distracted driver riding his bicycle to work. He left us with his wife and 2 beautiful granddaughters who are now 15 and 13. We had a great life together. I took care of him for the last 4 years of his life. The last 9 months of his life we had the VA and hospice to help. We have been blessed with family and friends and a great church family to support us through it all. My husband was in much pain in the end I was glad he had hospice to help ease his pain. He was ready to move on to his next life with his son and Jesus in heaven. I knew I had to let him go but I was so busy taking care of him and then his memorial and making sure I sent him off in a beautiful way I didn’t realize when it was all said and done and I was so proud of myself for taking such good care of him and the beautiful memorial service and slide show of our life together and all of our family and friends were there. Now I’m three months down the road and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. Who am I ? I in a grief share group that is good. I have my friends and family. I know I’m still mom and Grami? I know I was trying to rush out of my pain and realize I can’t. I’m trying to figure out who else I am and what do I do now. I think I want to join your group. I’m going to search your group on Facebook and hope I find what I’m searching for💔

A friend insisted I go to emergency only 2 days after my husband passed; she was right. I had pneumonia and ear infection, plus they ruled out covid and flu. Followed up the next week with my Dr. who adjusted the meds. My daughter and I took care of him 24/7 for a year while he was bedridden, and 5 years of preparing for the inevitable. I would even suggest every woman have a full cardiac workup. I had a valve replacement 2 years prior and believe that saved my life for the very difficult caregiving. I worry mostly that I won't put my children through losing another parent. Water aerobics helped me the most, the warm water, lively music, and lovely people to share the pool with. We were able to postpone his burial for several weeks while we rested and mindfully planned his life celebration with only very close friends. His brother, a skilled craftsmen, made a beautiful wooden box for his ashes and my children dug his grave, all very therapeutic. Also, grief counseling every Friday with a group. Your local hospital should have a group through their chapel.

Having a massage sounds nice. Thanks for this Karen, I miss the kisses and cuddles so much xx

Thank you Karen...you so get it and put it so well with great advice

Thank You for addressing this subject. Your podcast defines the subject well. You can talk to no one about this subject one year after your spouse dies, not even your minister, because they have no idea what you have been through or where you are now. No one know what to say to you.

Thank you for this Karen. I have been hugged maybe three times since my husband died two and a half years ago. I don't want to have sex, but I wish people felt more comfortable just giving me a hug. ♥️☘️

I miss my douglas so much

I lost my husband in june 2024 And I was left with nothing at all the overwhelming feelings of doom keep me Full of anxiety

Today is Thanksgiving here and I’m trying very hard to be thankful for lots of things in my life. But he isn’t here to share it with me and that is so difficult. I am alone with my family enjoying thanksgiving without me,I think about how it was when we were together. We had our family here and had great meals but now I am by myself with only the beautiful memories.

Hi just found your channel thank you for your kind thought you are a beautiful sole yourself, ❤

I love the way you explained yourself here. Karen your explanation makes more sense than any other I have read or heard. At two and a half years in, I am a different egg altogether. As much as I have accepted it, there are still those that can't, won't, or don't get what I am going through. And there is still a part of me that struggles with steps or stages of grief and committing to working hard at a program as if I am afraid I will fail at it. But please know you words make a big difference with me. You resonate so deeply with me that I know I will get there one day in the not too distant future. Bless you Karen. You have been my rock more than you will ever know. X Janet ♥️☘️

This year, im going to do something kind for someone in remembrance of my husband. I'm also going to spend some time with my disabled stepdaughter. She lives alone in low income housing. I promised my husband that as long as I was alive, I would visit our daughter and love on her.

My husband died suddenly 10 years ago in November. My first goal was to get through that winter, which was tough. I was surrounded by a loving family but felt so lonely and still do to a certain extent. Life moves on for everyone else. For me it's not just anniversaries that act as grief triggers. It can hit me anytime.I still miss him all the time. Not so pole axing these days.And then one day I was suddenly aware that I was walking along and smiling, just because I was happy, that hadn't happened for a long time .That was when I knew I was beginning to cope, me myself on my own and build my own life. You keep mentioning year one, year 2 and maybe I was extreme but for years time just passed. I was working still then and grandchildren kept me busy but I couldn't divide time up into years. It just passed. We all grieve at different rates and in different ways and have different coping strategies and there is a life worth living but it will never be the same again. Fill your life with things you love to do and that is a good base to start the rest of YOUR life.

My husband and I was together a total of 30 years!! He passed out at work and died immediately!! OMG it’s so overwhelming and lonely 😞 Thanks for talking about this and sometimes I can’t breathe!!! He just passed away and I’m so lost.

Thank you sooo much. I sat here and cried and cried. How do I connect with you

My husband was 80 years old, retired Navy and truck driver. His kidneys started failing in 2018. We started grieving then. My husband was sick but he wanted to live. So im one year in and i hear him saying to me..Live for me. Do things for me. Keep living. Thats what im doing. Ty for all your words of wisdom. They have helped me so much!!!

Thank you. So much to think about, all very helpful x

Dear Karen, could you please improve the sound, it is a bit quiet. Thank you❤

You're amazing and have helped me stop thinking I'm going mad. He's been gone 4 months and your 10 things you should know has helped so much and so has this. ❤

Lost my husband 3 years tomorrow Sept 24th..we were married 46yrs. I'm not sure what the future holds now but I know I'm scared to face it alone. I still feel all this feelings you mentioned. I'm so confused .

Thank you for this. So much love to you both for sharing this hard journey.

Huge thank you only a couple of months into my journey feeling so lost and alone your videos are helping me get through each day❤😊

Thank you this was excellent. I'm 3 weeks in and this actually comforted me as I listened to you. Tomorrow is 3 weeks....I don't want to end up hating Aug. 31/Saturdays.

ive thrown most of everything away or in boxes

3 years later and I’m still trying to “fit in”

Hi Karen, It’s been 44 days since Greg moved into glory. Listening and recognizing #8 just about broke me this morning but I’m glad you’re here sharing wisdom and guidance. But really the pain of “taking my person along with me into my new life” just did me in. I’ve just started to wipe away the tears and figuring out what just happened long enough to write this. Thank you, Liz

Always lovely to hear your positive voice ring true. I do hope you are taking care of YOU and your own self care. Remember to take care of you and your girls first. ♥️☘️

God bless you, Karen. You’ve helped me so much.

Thank you

Yes it does last forever. So so lonely.

All I can say is a big THANK YOU. It's so painful, and your videos are comforting me.