Hi beautiful ladies it’s Nava 💕💕 I love reading all your words and want to say a few things that have been taken out of context. In this video I’m sharing my personal experience in marriage and I’m no expert. Just being me and sharing what God has shown me in my marriage. So let’s chat! 1. Let’s talk about the work comment. Marriage does take work of course! But Ive found it’s important in my marriage not to call it “work” and to put my marriage under that category. Calling it work all day can make it sound like a burden or a job you have to go to everyday. I don’t want to refer to my marriage as a 9-5 job. 2. Let’s talk about the comment about porn. My heart was to encourage women to pray for their husbands. Porn is an addiction and I’m not by any means blaming it on the wife. What I do want to encourage is for you to pray for them. By no means did I try to convey the idea that it’s the women’s fault!!! 3. If you are in an abusive relationship or you feel unsafe PLEASE reach out to a friend and if needed a social worker/counselor. Please speak up and reach out to someone!! Please feel free to ask me anything, I love the topic of marriage!!
Please do similar videos on your own channel where woman can ask you questions on marriage, faith and other things I feel like it would be such a blessing 🫶🏼
I appreciate this video and loved every part of it. So encouraged to try new habits to serve my husband and do God’s will in my marriage. Nava, your advice was on point 👌🏼
Nava mentioned loving your husband so well that he stops watching porn which I find to be biblically/spiritually inaccurate and I just wanted to address this in the most loving yet truthful way possible. Our husband’s sin is not a reflection of how well we are loving them. Their sin is their own choice and spiritual battle. We cannot love them enough to stop their sin. Only God can change their hearts and minds toward sin. To the woman who loves her husband as well as you possible can, biblically, if he is watching porn it is not your fault nor does it mean you aren’t loving him well enough. We have to stop the thought that we can make our husbands stop sinning. Yes, we can influence them towards Christ, pray for them, and love them through their sin but their sin is a spiritual battle that only God can win for them. Wife, you cannot make your husband stop sinning. He has to choose it through surrender and dependence on God. When I am being a rebellious wife with my tone, words, etc this isn’t because my husband isn’t loving me well. There are LOTS of times when my husband is loving me as biblically accurate as possible but I’m still a human who battles with my flesh and sin and I still can be extremely sinful toward him no matter how well he’s loving me. We are called to lovingly call out their sin, pray for them, and encourage them not love them so hard they stop sinning. Only God can take sinful addictions such as porn, not your love as a wife. You can be the best, most biblical, most beautiful wife in the world and your husband can still choose the sin of porn because he is his own person with his own spiritual battles. 🤍
These are such true words! I do think their hearts are in the right place, just a bit naive to how they sound to those who are in a different season of marriage. It sounds like they are all thriving in their relationships with the Lord and have acquired a very faith based, somewhat idealistic attitude after their years of marriage. I think this is so beautiful and a amazing thing. Just is not the case for all marriages. It might be a tough video for a married couple walking through a season such as trying to overcome an addiction to porn… which is very much dedicated “work”. I think it’s great to not view the relationship as purely “work”. But many seasons can feel like you are working so hard, so much, giving it everything you have and sometimes even casting all your cares on the Lord takes… well work. I think it’s okay to acknowledge this and call it work. You have to work hard at anything to create habits and a mentality that one day might feel like it’s not work at all. Different seasons. Different struggles. Different marriages. God can use your marriage for His glory no matter what season you are in.
I agree with your comment but I think Nava’s comment was more of a “love him so well that hopefully HE feels so convicted about porn that for himself he wants to stop watching an honour you” (but ofc the burden is still on him) rather than “if you love him enough/properly then he will stop watching porn and if he doesn’t then you’re not being a loving wife enough”.
As a woman who’s been married almost 7 years…and had an issue with porn addiction in our marriage…I would submit to the woman on the left…loving a man so well that he “stops watching porn” isn’t biblical… and please be careful what you say on a public platform..where there are wives like me who’ve been through hell and back. Thinking somehow we can “love” our husbands well enough that their own “worship disorder” and sin issue will just “stop or go away”, if we do our part. The issue is his own sin and relationship with God. We as wives have influence, not control. I say this in love because these issues are SO tender for some. Also it could lead other sisters astray in thinking that WE have the POWER to change our husbands sin patterns. We don’t. We can PRAY and have GODLY INFLUENCE. God has the power. And Only Him.
I agree with you completely. this is a very sensitive topic, and I'm sorry for what all you have been through I know that's hard. God knows your heart and that is the only thing that matters. He has compassion on you and your marriage, and he does not expect you to "fix" anothers sins.
When Nava said..if I hadn’t held my tongue it would have caused an argument, would have ruined the whole day and I would have had one less day with my best friend..that hit so hard bc life is fragile..8 years ago my fiancé passed away and this couldn’t be more true!
Most profound piece so far is when Navaa said “ People can see the dirt in your husband but it’s your job to see the treasure. It’s your job to pull it out “
Comment from a 66 year old with grown daughters. 😊Choose wisely, don’t chose one with more dirt than treasure. Look for a godly man in the first place. It’s always a privilege to pray for your husband but choose one who knows where true North (Star of Bethlehem), is, Jesus. Enjoyed your talk ladies❣️
And let me tell you this … MELANIE??! She spoke so much truth, so assertive with her words, for her not to have the experience of marriage but still talk with so much wisdom is impressive
I love how you said “crying is not a weakness” because a lot of people don’t get that. Crying is literally your body saying “I can no longer contain this feeling”
Don’t be a perfect wife, be a loving wife! This was such a beautiful conversation. It even led me to repentance and to ask forgiveness from my husband for an argument yesterday! Loved everything about this!
I’m sure this isn’t what Nava meant, but in case anyone is in a verbally or emotionally abusive marriage, it is ok to stand up for yourself and it is ok to speak up. Even if it’s in the moment, it might be needed. Keep yourself safe ❤️
I disagree with avoiding calling marriage work- I don’t think it’s a negative thing to call marriage work. Marriage is full of mountains and valleys- highs and lows… and if you’re in a valley it’s going to take “work” to get back on top of the mountain. Love is a choice and sometimes choosing to sacrifice your wants, wishes, or desires for your spouse is going to feel like work. We don’t need to make people feel guilty if they are in a season in marriage where it feels like work. If anything marriage is the hardest thing a person can do because it requires you to put someone else before yourself… and when both spouses are naturally sinful in nature it will not be easy… it will take work. With that being said, in my experience almost every good thing requires some degree of work- nothing comes for free… not even a thriving marriage.
I agree with this but some people can take work as negative connotation when in the context of a relationship for example love is a choice yes but instead of “work” it takes dedication to communicate through shortcomings disagreements etc
She isn’t saying you don’t have to work in a marriage. She is saying not to call it work and treat it like a job but instead a privilege to have the opportunity to bless him. Like she was saying, you will get out of it what you focus on
As I’m listening to this I am speaking to my husband about some of his opinions on what you’re saying. He mentioned that he would agree with Nava and say that marriage isn’t work. He would say that marriage is humility. It takes effort or work to be humble but humility is the ultimate fruit of the labor. There has to be humility in speech, sex, working with the kids, etc. I thought that was so beautiful! ❤️😌
There is a UA-camr called Kilean Rodriguez, I love her and her videos. Lately she’s been talking a lot about how you impacted her life and way of thinking even though she’s not a christian. I find it so amazing that you're able to spread the gospel all around and impact even people who are not Christian!
I think another good way to look at the "what is the hardest part of marriage?" question is to think "the hardest part in my marriage is me." When you start focusing on you can do to better your marriage and refine yourself, things will begin to get a lot easier. Personally when I hear that question I think of what is wrong with my HUSBAND before thinking about what I am doing wrong. "If he just did xyz things would be so much easier" and I have learned that that is simply not true.
Hardest thing about marriage- transitions. Like transitioning through new jobs, having kids, school, etc .. figuring out life together with each other. Not a bad "hard thing" but learning to do that with another person can be challenging
This video came out at the perfect time. We had such a nagging/ bickering day over the dumbest things! You can just feel the negative feelings in the home throughout the day. Thank you for posting this! Please keep doing videos like this! We need more Christian mamas advocating and fighting for our families ❤
This was an INCREDIBLE Holy Spirit filled conversation about marriage. I am so thankful for you ladies taking the time to share this powerful message needed in these times 🤍
I’m sorry…. “Women need to love their husbands enough so he stops watching porn???? “ Porn and cheating is HIS SIN. A wife can’t love him away from that. That’s like saying she doesn’t love him enough, so he’s going to cheat. You’re taking away responsibility from a cheating husband.
She didn't say it wasn't his sin or that it was the wife's fault. She's saying that arguing, nagging, and throwing his sin in his face doesn't change or cause him to repent of his sin. Praying over your husband and allowing God to convict your husband is the better route. You can't change your husband's heart and mind, that's God's job
Been married to my highschool sweetheart since I was 17 June will be my 29th year anniversary, 6 kids together Yes fight for your marriage my hubby is my best friend no one can replace him , love keeps us together ❤💪🏽 PS you can NEVER change your man only GOD can !
I'm getting married in August, so I am SO grateful to hear biblical marriage advice form three amazing women. It is such a way to be a testimony and different from the world
I love that through this video you can tell what conviction the Lord has brought on each one of these women. It really proves that the Lord is always working on each of his children in different ways. This conversation was beautiful to hear and helped bring light to some of my personal convictions I had been pushing down. It highlighted what a marriage should be versus the examples the world shows us. ❤
I’m currently in a season of separation from my husband (praying and believing that he will come home!), and it’s been easy some days to let the house slip since it’s just me and my two year old. But listening to this, I was reminded that I’m being made into the wife I want to be in this season where no one really sees it but God. I could let this season slip by and give into the fleshly urge to cut corners and sit back, or I could become a woman who honors God in all that I do. Thank you ladies for speaking hard truths and being women I can look up to and learn from!
I've been married for two years now and we have our first baby on the way! The last few days I have felt so much conviction of being a Godly wife. This video gave me so strength and courage. Thank you!
Usually a silent viewer, but want to say that these types of conversations are so powerful. Been following you since I was a teenager. Continue to allow God to lead you in sharing words of wisdom and encouragement. God is using you!! 👏🏽👏🏽
I honestly think this was the best video I have watched on Milena’s UA-cam. Three godly woman speaking on marriage is what we all need to hear. Thank you for this much needed conversation. I needed to hear this today ❤️
Im loving this chapter you are in, the devotion you have to seek the Lord and give us viewers your wisdom and what your currently learning. I can’t wait for this video because this topic is super important to me and I know this is going to be powerful🙌🏻👏🏻🥰
This was the video I needed in this season of my life!!! The last couple weeks God has been strongly convicting me of building up my marriage. I am trying so hard to be a more biblical wife. I have a great marriage and my husband is amazing but God definitely needs to be more centered into our marriage.
How refreshing!!! There are SO many videos complaining about marriage, just completely bashing men, bashing marriage in general. Im on a journey of trying to be more supportive and allowing Jesus to guide me to being the wife my husband needs. So that in turn hes the husband i need and the leader our fanily needs. I juat truly love this video and would love to see more content like this! I was watching your channel less and once i saw you were convicted to not have your kiddos on as much i dove back in and i have to say youre glowing girl!!!
I’m 24 and this was just the thing that saved me. I was looking at my partner and always found something he did wrong but not appreciated enough what he did and what he does. Thank you! ❤️
“She was busy yo” was so relatable, these woman are woman of God. They are also human, it’s beautiful to watch their relationship with the Lord & to remind myself although I don’t have a perfect relationship with the Lord, no one does. What matters is that we remain faithfully to Him and seek Him always. Thank you for this ladies!
Lord I pray for a friend group like this. 😭😍 Connection with others is a huge stuggle for me especially other women. This bond that you all share is encouraging! Thank you.
THIS! video is what I needed. To be honest, I struggle with faith for quite a while, I'm having trouble devoting myself fully to prayer, but deep inside I want to change it and renew my relationship with God. Also I'm getting married in 4 months and I really wish to be a godly wife. Your honest chat is helping me a lot. It's like the kick to get up and try once again to work on this. Dear Milena, I am so glad, God sent you this way in your life, because right now, you are the "friend" I need and can look up to, which I don't have in my real life. Thank you for your sharing and your work.
I am in the same boat. Been very disconnected from my faith for a long time. Every so often I think about God and want to grow my faith again. I really didnt feel like clicking on this video today but then I thought I probably should. I am so glad I did. This was just the nourishment I needed to get back in the word so I can reflect Jesus' light to those around me especially in my future marriage!
God bless you girls for this video, it was very needed. I started bowling my eyes out just a couple of minutes in, and then paused to pray for my husband and our marriage. Keep these conversations going! They’re very needed!
Wow such divine timing for me to watch this today. I’m not a Christian but I definitely subscribe to the Christian take on marriage. I will get back home today speaking life and being the gatekeeper of my family. This message was so empowering, and I soooo needed it:
I’m a little confused on 12:37 . Yes we should love our husbands so well but not so they “stop watching porn.” They shouldn’t be watching porn regardless!!
YES! I would add that porn is an addiction. It has nothing to do with how much our husbands love us or whether they are satisfied in marriage. It's heaping blame on the wife to make it seem like it's her fault for not "loving her husband enough" if he's watching porn. It has nothing to do with that.
I don’t have any Christian friends that are married with children, please speak more on this it’s opened my eyes to so much and also about raising children I feel super encouraged Thanking God for your platform
I'm not married but I find myself drown to home life, married couples and watching godly women. I thoroughly enjoyed this video and I hope that may God bless you and the Holy Spirit continue to strengthen each of you beautiful women to grow in wisdom and understanding in the time and status that yall are in right now.😊
Please do a video or podcast episode talking about raising sons! I have a 14 month old baby boy and my prayer is to raise him to fear God and be a light who shines and shares Jesus with all ❤️ This video encouraged me to pray and enjoy each season. I also just sent my husband a loving and encouraging text while he’s at work ❤ Loved this video ladies!
I like the idea of this video and was inspired about some things as a wife of 6 years. But i think saying “how do we love our husbands so they stop watching p**n” is an extremely problematic statement. That can be a severe addiction that can ruin a marriage that has absolutely NOTHING to do with the amount a wife is loving her husband. And is solely a responsibility of the partner that is choosing to watch those things over being fully committed to their spouse. I can’t stress that enough. Such a quick comment Can have a big impact for people who have truly walked or are walking through that situation. There needs to be more mindfulness when bringing things like that up in a topic around marriage. There’s so much more I could say but I will just leave it at that.
This video is what I needed! I got married two weeks ago and I had started being convicted about the nagging and the fasting. I didn’t know what any of it meant, the convictions. And then this video is posted and it all started to make sense. God started to plant a seed in me some days ago and then the video popped up and I could hear God louder.
I was inspired to pause this video and pray over myself as a future wife, my future husband, marriage, children, etc both in English and in my heavenly language! I love content the points people to Jesus, prayer, etc! Thank you for walking in your calling Milena!
All three of yall have spoken on a huge topic that women our age unfortunately do not completely get until either they are married or a bit older. Melanie, even though you are not married yet, I am SO happy you are able to fully understand marriage before you get married. You hit it on the spot, we are to look at our husbands the way we honor and respect Jesus, as we are His bride. It opened my eyes 100% to another level of respect for my husband, something I still have to work on, but changed my view of marriage at a 180 .
idk why the hate for Nava. she clearly has a wisdom and gift for being a wonderful wife. let’s embrace that. she’s an inspiration for real. thanks for bringing her on milena!!
An hour long video?! Yes please!! Also, I desperately needed to hear all of this. My husband and I struggle daily and I am far from a good wife. Thank you all for sharing your biblical wisdom on this 💕
We need more of these videos! I love this so much, I have prayed so long to have friends to share my faith with and I felt like we were all just hanging out! Also a great reminder to always focus on ourselves first and our family will follow. It’s so hard to get out of the selfish mindset of “oh he’s not helping with this or he’s not doing that”. I always feel so inspired after watching this version of you Milena! Keep preaching the word and encouraging women because it’s making an impact! ❤
I love your idea of prayer when you are taking care of things in the home! I started thanking God when I did things! And it was so life changing to giving me a thankful heart, rather than discontent One Major habit change for me was to play worship music in the morning when we get ready!! I would usually be so exhausted, so I do this to put us in Joy and praise of the Lord!
When milena started crying about how her children are listening and repeat what we say… I started crying too. Wow. My almost-3-year old has been repeating everything I say and I identify her telling herself to tame your tongue.
Loved this conversation ❤️ I have been married for 6 years now and it’s been a process of the Lord softening my heart and teaching me how to be more like Jesus each and every day. May our lives be a light and bring peace to our husband’s and those around us.
Such an encouraging message to hear as a newlywed. God really brought to light the wife I want to be for my husband. Thank you for this amazing conversation!
I have little words but they hold SO MUCH meaning behind them. Thank you so much for this video. I’ve learned so much and am going to begin praying for my future husband and our family. Thank you ❤
I fell into that trap of surrounding myself with women who was influencing my thoughts negatively towards my husband. My husband was dealing with depression and other things and here I was just squashing him even more on top of Satan attacking him! I can only imagine how awful I made him feel. Words are very powerful! The Bible talks so much about it because that’s the evidence of what’s inside the heart. Thank goodness we stuck through the rough times because it only made us stronger. My husband is my best friend and no one will ever change that. This video was so good and refreshing! Thank you Milena for posting these videos, it really has helped motivate me to draw nearer to God and strengthen my relationship with him! 💕
It's so good to have Melanie here! Loved the words she spoke with her introduction. I was in the place she was at and it's sooooo good to have a woman in waiting with the wives ❤ There's wisdom in both xoxo
I noticed Milena stopped calling the kids gremlins and even tho that’s such a little thing It really does change your mindset I can see the pruning being done with you and absolutely love it
I am a new mom and only been married for one year and I LOVE. This so much. We are in the beginning of our journey and we struggle a lot and I love the way you speak of the lord. I felt so convinced about what kind of wife I am. I am not a good wife and this inspired me to be a better wife. Thank you ❤
Such a fantastic video on the realness of marriage and living in community and in relationship with your spouse and children. So refreshing and encouraging!
Hi I really liked your video. I’m a Muslim and all what you said is relevant to our religion! It’s insane that it’s an important thing marriage is and how we should fight for it because it’s so spiritual and so real. I gained so much from your advices in this video and I really liked them. Thank you so much for opening my eyes to this, while we’re all in a busy and distracted world.
Please do more content like this! 🙏🏼 God is using you so beautifully to pave the way for faithful women & successful families in this generation. Thank you. 🤍
How timely!! I'm in a relationship right now that is on the trajectory for marriage, and I so desire to learn how to be a good wife to my husband. I am learning that my parents might not be the best role models for marriage, and I want things to be a complete 180 from what I've seen in my parents. I'm so thankful for the ministry you have on UA-cam and this season of refining that the Lord has you in. He is using you to help refine me as well!
As someone who is a wife and has recently become a Christian who wants to put Jesus above all else in my life, wow, I needed this video! Thank you so much for the wisdom and words of encouragement when it comes to being a biblical wife. Since coming to God my husband and I have realized how wrong our marriage has been in the 4 years since being married and how sinful our relationship has been as a whole. I am so thankful that we have found God and I truly believe it has saved us and our marriage. Nothing can penetrate a marriage that puts the Lord first. The enemy still tries but we will always prevail. God bless you beautiful ladies and I pray that the Lord continues to work through you. ❤
I’m so thankful to all of you for creating this video. I starting balling and then began walking around my house, praying. I heard God. I just have to put the work in
I’m not even 30 mins in but I’ve already teared up like 3 times 😅😂❤ I feel so convicted and encouraged at the same time because I can literally feel the Spirit speaking through you girls to me ❤ thank you for this video ❤❤
Thank y’all so much for your words of wisdom. I used to live in my marriage like you do but since having kids I’ve fallen hard in the opposite direction. Lately the Lord has been calling me forward to being my husbands biggest cheerleader and the most supportive wife I can be. My flesh is cringing so hard at loving my husband sacrificially again (instead of defending every wrong done against me) but I know it is what God has done for us and His love is to flow out of me. God said to me recently “don’t you trust me to defend you? Let me take that burden, I am the defender of your heart. You don’t need to defend every tiny thing. Hold your tongue and give me a chance to speak to him first.”
This is so encouraging to hear. I am getting married later this year and WOW this has given me a new insight on how to be a loving Christian wife for my husband
You guys, this was for me. Thank you for this video💗 I have been asking the Lord to show me certain things that I’m doing wrong in my marriage because I have only been seeing my husband’s faults, and He REALLY spoke to me through this video.
I have cried so many tears of happiness when watching this video. I thank Jesus and you for everything you shared, it touched my heart sooooo deeply😭❤️❤️
Can a video be a divine appointment? Because this was an answered prayer. Thank you for being open and vulnerable and encouraging. I so needed this. ♥️🙏🏽
🥺🥺🥺 when I tell you this is so convicting. I have been praying to be a better Wife. I noticed I do so many of these things! I will try and pray to apply these things in the daily life. Thank you so much for being vessels of the lord to convict us ❤ I will come back to this video over and over to get conviction lbs 😂❤ hugs and blessings ❤❤
My husband and I have been married for a little over 13 years and I didn’t think we would make it 1 or 2 years. The Lord had different plans for us and we are still going strong because of the Lords grace.
Love this biblical perspective! Struggling with how support my parents as there is so much hurt between them and only one is trying to restore the damage done. I would love prayer for a miracle for their marriage!!
Praying for them! My parents went through a similar thing for years, only one would put in effort and then it'd switch and only the other was putting in effort! God is slowly working a miracle in their relationship and it's wild how God can take something so disastrous and messy and painful and somehow make it beautiful again over time😭 Praying for that over your parents too as a fellow believer standing with you in prayer! Lord please heal their hearts too🙏🏾❤
I just want to say, this is my favorite video you have made. The content is so great and it has helped me change my mindset tremendously. Please keep making content like this, it’s truly beautiful to hear and very encouraging. I’ve been married for 7 years and needed to hear some of the things mentioned.
I feel when it comes to “nagging” there is a appropriate way to go about it. Even though yes we need to pray for them, because only God can change a person. It’s absolutely healthy to bring up situations that need to be talked about. We as wives need to feel loved, safe, and have peace as well. When their is mutual respect you change the things that are coming up that are hurting your wife/husband peace. Compromising is important in marriage 🤍
Milena!! God is working in women right now! I have had so many of the same convictions you have lately. I stopped the video and had a spontaneous picnic for my husband because I felt so lead to serve and love on him. Thank you so much for the tangible advice for serving your husband. It was a great reminder:)
Amazing words I could listen to you guys for hours! This really came at just the right time for me and I immediately had to apologize to my husband about an argument from the night before. I loved the part about bringing everything to God first and refining our words before speaking to either our husbands or anyone else. This video is such a blessing thank you❤
Thank you for this from a a fellow young mom and wife! ❤️ you ladies are so beautiful. And it goes far beyond physical beauty. It’s coming from within. Thankful for you all.
Ladies I LOVED this, I felt like I was right there with you! So many nuggets, humility, loving him, and being open to God's voice. As a Believer who is preparing for marriage, I love how it's NOT WORK, I call it an adventure!
Yes ladies!!!❤❤❤ Love this! This is also the area I feel like the Lord has given us the greatest testimony and it’s an AMAZING one! I LOVE the Marriage ministry and it is SO NEEDED! I think we need to understand as wives that we are the “helper” which is also what the Holy a spirit is called . The Lord has given us such a special anointing to speak into our husbands lives IF we are being obedient and submissive to the Lord and our husbands! It’s such a precious and beautiful blessing ❤❤❤
My husband left me when I was pregnant with our second baby and we “separated.” I prayed over him day and night. We did not live together during this time, I didn’t nag him, I didn’t tell him to return. I let him go and just prayed. He came back 7-8 months later. He was a changed man. During this time, I dedicated myself to God and prayer. God really changed our entire marriage and it’s better than it was before because we were just living in the world. Now we both have built our marriage on Jesus ❤ these woman are really giving solid advice.
The part where you mention strip clubs kinda messed with me. Like… that’s a legit biblical reason to split if your husband constantly cheats. You sure do have some power over the situation of your marriage, but if your partner isn’t invested and doesn’t care about you, cheats, lies etc. you have every right to leave. I don’t think it’s godly to guilt trip young wives into believing they gave reasons for their husbands to cheat. Maybe I got the point wrong, I don’t know, not a native English speaker.
Yeah I agree. I mean, you can make it work if you wanted to, but the Bible also says that’s grounds for divorce only because of our hardened hearts as humans. God would rather us not get divorced even in instances of cheating. But, I would absolutely leave.
I agree... watching porn, liking/looking at naked or inappropriate women photos in social media & complimenting other women on social media like "stunning" while telling you you're unattractive or only have a beautiful face.... that stuff is honestly traumatic (I didn't know until I went through it). God is helping us with our marriage but I am willing to leave if any of this resurfaces in the future. I can't handle it again
Please do the video about what the Lord has put on your hearts about raising sons! I have 4 young boys and I do feel so honored that He chose me to be their mom 😭 it feels like such an incredible blessing to be raising boys in this generation. Terrifying sometimes, yes, but He put us in this generation for a purpose ❤ the Lord radiates through you ladies! God bless each of you and your families🙏🏻
I just keep listening to this video over and over. You have helped me in my marriage, faith, and obedience SO MUCH with your videos and podcasts ❤️ I can’t be more thankful to God for leading me to your content it has truly changed my life
Hi beautiful ladies it’s Nava 💕💕
I love reading all your words and want to say a few things that have been taken out of context. In this video I’m sharing my personal experience in marriage and I’m no expert. Just being me and sharing what God has shown me in my marriage. So let’s chat!
1. Let’s talk about the work comment. Marriage does take work of course! But Ive found it’s important in my marriage not to call it “work” and to put my marriage under that category. Calling it work all day can make it sound like a burden or a job you have to go to everyday. I don’t want to refer to my marriage as a 9-5 job.
2. Let’s talk about the comment about porn. My heart was to encourage women to pray for their husbands. Porn is an addiction and I’m not by any means blaming it on the wife. What I do want to encourage is for you to pray for them. By no means did I try to convey the idea that it’s the women’s fault!!!
3. If you are in an abusive relationship or you feel unsafe PLEASE reach out to a friend and if needed a social worker/counselor. Please speak up and reach out to someone!!
Please feel free to ask me anything, I love the topic of marriage!!
Thanks for adding some clarity - praying for your family and Israel right now in all that’s going on 💕
Please do similar videos on your own channel where woman can ask you questions on marriage, faith and other things
I feel like it would be such a blessing 🫶🏼
Thank you for clarifying the porn comment. I definitely took it the other way so I’m appreciative that you explained further what you meant 😊
I appreciate this video and loved every part of it. So encouraged to try new habits to serve my husband and do God’s will in my marriage. Nava, your advice was on point 👌🏼
You are so beautiful inside and out. Everything you said, truly spoke to my heart. I appreciate it💞
Nava mentioned loving your husband so well that he stops watching porn which I find to be biblically/spiritually inaccurate and I just wanted to address this in the most loving yet truthful way possible.
Our husband’s sin is not a reflection of how well we are loving them. Their sin is their own choice and spiritual battle. We cannot love them enough to stop their sin. Only God can change their hearts and minds toward sin. To the woman who loves her husband as well as you possible can, biblically, if he is watching porn it is not your fault nor does it mean you aren’t loving him well enough. We have to stop the thought that we can make our husbands stop sinning. Yes, we can influence them towards Christ, pray for them, and love them through their sin but their sin is a spiritual battle that only God can win for them. Wife, you cannot make your husband stop sinning. He has to choose it through surrender and dependence on God.
When I am being a rebellious wife with my tone, words, etc this isn’t because my husband isn’t loving me well. There are LOTS of times when my husband is loving me as biblically accurate as possible but I’m still a human who battles with my flesh and sin and I still can be extremely sinful toward him no matter how well he’s loving me.
We are called to lovingly call out their sin, pray for them, and encourage them not love them so hard they stop sinning. Only God can take sinful addictions such as porn, not your love as a wife.
You can be the best, most biblical, most beautiful wife in the world and your husband can still choose the sin of porn because he is his own person with his own spiritual battles.
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so beautifully said ❤
Thank you for this!!
These are such true words!
I do think their hearts are in the right place, just a bit naive to how they sound to those who are in a different season of marriage. It sounds like they are all thriving in their relationships with the Lord and have acquired a very faith based, somewhat idealistic attitude after their years of marriage. I think this is so beautiful and a amazing thing. Just is not the case for all marriages. It might be a tough video for a married couple walking through a season such as trying to overcome an addiction to porn… which is very much dedicated “work”.
I think it’s great to not view the relationship as purely “work”. But many seasons can feel like you are working so hard, so much, giving it everything you have and sometimes even casting all your cares on the Lord takes… well work. I think it’s okay to acknowledge this and call it work. You have to work hard at anything to create habits and a mentality that one day might feel like it’s not work at all. Different seasons. Different struggles. Different marriages. God can use your marriage for His glory no matter what season you are in.
She clarified this in the comments
I agree with your comment but I think Nava’s comment was more of a “love him so well that hopefully HE feels so convicted about porn that for himself he wants to stop watching an honour you” (but ofc the burden is still on him) rather than “if you love him enough/properly then he will stop watching porn and if he doesn’t then you’re not being a loving wife enough”.
As a woman who’s been married almost 7 years…and had an issue with porn addiction in our marriage…I would submit to the woman on the left…loving a man so well that he “stops watching porn” isn’t biblical… and please be careful what you say on a public platform..where there are wives like me who’ve been through hell and back. Thinking somehow we can “love” our husbands well enough that their own “worship disorder” and sin issue will just “stop or go away”, if we do our part. The issue is his own sin and relationship with God. We as wives have influence, not control. I say this in love because these issues are SO tender for some. Also it could lead other sisters astray in thinking that WE have the POWER to change our husbands sin patterns. We don’t. We can PRAY and have GODLY INFLUENCE. God has the power. And Only Him.
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I agree with you completely. this is a very sensitive topic, and I'm sorry for what all you have been through I know that's hard. God knows your heart and that is the only thing that matters. He has compassion on you and your marriage, and he does not expect you to "fix" anothers sins.
When Nava said..if I hadn’t held my tongue it would have caused an argument, would have ruined the whole day and I would have had one less day with my best friend..that hit so hard bc life is fragile..8 years ago my fiancé passed away and this couldn’t be more true!
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Most profound piece so far is when Navaa said “ People can see the dirt in your husband but it’s your job to see the treasure. It’s your job to pull it out “
Beautiful
Comment from a 66 year old with grown daughters. 😊Choose wisely, don’t chose one with more dirt than treasure. Look for a godly man in the first place. It’s always a privilege to pray for your husband but choose one who knows where true North (Star of Bethlehem), is, Jesus.
Enjoyed your talk ladies❣️
And let me tell you this … MELANIE??! She spoke so much truth, so assertive with her words, for her not to have the experience of marriage but still talk with so much wisdom is impressive
Totally agree!!! 🙏🏽💗
I love how you said “crying is not a weakness” because a lot of people don’t get that.
Crying is literally your body saying “I can no longer contain this feeling”
Could not agree more!
Don’t be a perfect wife, be a loving wife! This was such a beautiful conversation. It even led me to repentance and to ask forgiveness from my husband for an argument yesterday! Loved everything about this!
I’m sure this isn’t what Nava meant, but in case anyone is in a verbally or emotionally abusive marriage, it is ok to stand up for yourself and it is ok to speak up. Even if it’s in the moment, it might be needed. Keep yourself safe ❤️
Man. I watched this and cried calling my husband in repentance. Thank you ladies for sharing. This was life changing.
Me too ❤
I disagree with avoiding calling marriage work- I don’t think it’s a negative thing to call marriage work. Marriage is full of mountains and valleys- highs and lows… and if you’re in a valley it’s going to take “work” to get back on top of the mountain. Love is a choice and sometimes choosing to sacrifice your wants, wishes, or desires for your spouse is going to feel like work. We don’t need to make people feel guilty if they are in a season in marriage where it feels like work. If anything marriage is the hardest thing a person can do because it requires you to put someone else before yourself… and when both spouses are naturally sinful in nature it will not be easy… it will take work. With that being said, in my experience almost every good thing requires some degree of work- nothing comes for free… not even a thriving marriage.
AMEN! Thank you! I thought the same thing.
I agree with this but some people can take work as negative connotation when in the context of a relationship for example love is a choice yes but instead of “work” it takes dedication to communicate through shortcomings disagreements etc
AMEN !!
She isn’t saying you don’t have to work in a marriage. She is saying not to call it work and treat it like a job but instead a privilege to have the opportunity to bless him. Like she was saying, you will get out of it what you focus on
Totally agree. Something being “work” does not make it bad. Since when was work bad? Just means it takes effort, intention, and time.
As I’m listening to this I am speaking to my husband about some of his opinions on what you’re saying. He mentioned that he would agree with Nava and say that marriage isn’t work. He would say that marriage is humility. It takes effort or work to be humble but humility is the ultimate fruit of the labor. There has to be humility in speech, sex, working with the kids, etc. I thought that was so beautiful! ❤️😌
This is literally a whole cheat sheet on how to honor your husband and kids, I LOVE THIS.
There is a UA-camr called Kilean Rodriguez, I love her and her videos. Lately she’s been talking a lot about how you impacted her life and way of thinking even though she’s not a christian. I find it so amazing that you're able to spread the gospel all around and impact even people who are not Christian!
I thought she was a Christian
I think another good way to look at the "what is the hardest part of marriage?" question is to think "the hardest part in my marriage is me." When you start focusing on you can do to better your marriage and refine yourself, things will begin to get a lot easier. Personally when I hear that question I think of what is wrong with my HUSBAND before thinking about what I am doing wrong. "If he just did xyz things would be so much easier" and I have learned that that is simply not true.
Hardest thing about marriage- transitions. Like transitioning through new jobs, having kids, school, etc .. figuring out life together with each other. Not a bad "hard thing" but learning to do that with another person can be challenging
Please please do a video on raising sons! I’d love to hear the wisdom you guys have gained
This video came out at the perfect time. We had such a nagging/ bickering day over the dumbest things! You can just feel the negative feelings in the home throughout the day. Thank you for posting this! Please keep doing videos like this! We need more Christian mamas advocating and fighting for our families ❤
Nava has such a gentle and genuine spirit. This was such a good convo to hear!
This was an INCREDIBLE Holy Spirit filled conversation about marriage. I am so thankful for you ladies taking the time to share this powerful message needed in these times 🤍
I’m sorry…. “Women need to love their husbands enough so he stops watching porn???? “ Porn and cheating is HIS SIN. A wife can’t love him away from that. That’s like saying she doesn’t love him enough, so he’s going to cheat. You’re taking away responsibility from a cheating husband.
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My thoughts exactly!
I think they could’ve added more context for reasons like this..
She didn't say it wasn't his sin or that it was the wife's fault. She's saying that arguing, nagging, and throwing his sin in his face doesn't change or cause him to repent of his sin. Praying over your husband and allowing God to convict your husband is the better route. You can't change your husband's heart and mind, that's God's job
Maybe she meant love your husband THROUGH all of that? Because I agree, his sin isn’t about you. That’s his heart issue.
Been married to my highschool sweetheart since I was 17
June will be my 29th year anniversary, 6 kids together
Yes fight for your marriage
my hubby is my best friend no one can replace him , love keeps us together ❤💪🏽
PS you can NEVER change your man only GOD can !
Amen!!!
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Happy 30 years!!!!!
My struggle is envying and not being grateful for what I have, and it’s something God is changing in me. These videos are helping so much!
I'm getting married in August, so I am SO grateful to hear biblical marriage advice form three amazing women. It is such a way to be a testimony and different from the world
how wonderful!!! congratulations!! 🥹🤍🌸🕊️ may the Lord bless you & your marriage abundantly 🙏🌅🕯️
I have 3 sons and would love for you guys to talk about raising sons in this day and age!
This is a podcast I would loooove to watch, it’s chatting with the girls but Godly and based on the Bible we need this!
I love that through this video you can tell what conviction the Lord has brought on each one of these women. It really proves that the Lord is always working on each of his children in different ways. This conversation was beautiful to hear and helped bring light to some of my personal convictions I had been pushing down. It highlighted what a marriage should be versus the examples the world shows us. ❤
This is why having godly women in your life is soooooo important, and women ahead and behind the season you’re in so you can learn and help each other
I’m currently in a season of separation from my husband (praying and believing that he will come home!), and it’s been easy some days to let the house slip since it’s just me and my two year old. But listening to this, I was reminded that I’m being made into the wife I want to be in this season where no one really sees it but God. I could let this season slip by and give into the fleshly urge to cut corners and sit back, or I could become a woman who honors God in all that I do. Thank you ladies for speaking hard truths and being women I can look up to and learn from!
I've been married for two years now and we have our first baby on the way! The last few days I have felt so much conviction of being a Godly wife. This video gave me so strength and courage. Thank you!
Usually a silent viewer, but want to say that these types of conversations are so powerful. Been following you since I was a teenager. Continue to allow God to lead you in sharing words of wisdom and encouragement. God is using you!! 👏🏽👏🏽
“that’s how you pray without ceasing” SO GOOOOOD. (around the 15 min mark)
I honestly think this was the best video I have watched on Milena’s UA-cam. Three godly woman speaking on marriage is what we all need to hear. Thank you for this much needed conversation. I needed to hear this today ❤️
Im loving this chapter you are in, the devotion you have to seek the Lord and give us viewers your wisdom and what your currently learning. I can’t wait for this video because this topic is super important to me and I know this is going to be powerful🙌🏻👏🏻🥰
This was the video I needed in this season of my life!!! The last couple weeks God has been strongly convicting me of building up my marriage. I am trying so hard to be a more biblical wife. I have a great marriage and my husband is amazing but God definitely needs to be more centered into our marriage.
It’s so important to pray for your heart in a moment of strife and THEN bring up hard things when you’re calm, then it will produce way more!
How refreshing!!! There are SO many videos complaining about marriage, just completely bashing men, bashing marriage in general. Im on a journey of trying to be more supportive and allowing Jesus to guide me to being the wife my husband needs. So that in turn hes the husband i need and the leader our fanily needs. I juat truly love this video and would love to see more content like this! I was watching your channel less and once i saw you were convicted to not have your kiddos on as much i dove back in and i have to say youre glowing girl!!!
I’m 24 and this was just the thing that saved me. I was looking at my partner and always found something he did wrong but not appreciated enough what he did and what he does. Thank you! ❤️
“She was busy yo” was so relatable, these woman are woman of God. They are also human, it’s beautiful to watch their relationship with the Lord & to remind myself although I don’t have a perfect relationship with the Lord, no one does. What matters is that we remain faithfully to Him and seek Him always. Thank you for this ladies!
Lord I pray for a friend group like this. 😭😍
Connection with others is a huge stuggle for me especially other women.
This bond that you all share is encouraging!
Thank you.
Wow the Holy Spirit just convicted me of so many things but in such a good way. This was sooooo needed
THIS! video is what I needed. To be honest, I struggle with faith for quite a while, I'm having trouble devoting myself fully to prayer, but deep inside I want to change it and renew my relationship with God. Also I'm getting married in 4 months and I really wish to be a godly wife. Your honest chat is helping me a lot. It's like the kick to get up and try once again to work on this. Dear Milena, I am so glad, God sent you this way in your life, because right now, you are the "friend" I need and can look up to, which I don't have in my real life. Thank you for your sharing and your work.
I am in the same boat. Been very disconnected from my faith for a long time. Every so often I think about God and want to grow my faith again. I really didnt feel like clicking on this video today but then I thought I probably should. I am so glad I did. This was just the nourishment I needed to get back in the word so I can reflect Jesus' light to those around me especially in my future marriage!
God bless you girls for this video, it was very needed. I started bowling my eyes out just a couple of minutes in, and then paused to pray for my husband and our marriage. Keep these conversations going! They’re very needed!
OH MY GOSH! My three favorite people to follow, together talking about GOD, for an hour!!!??? 😍 Are you kidding me? Best day of my life, period!
Right???? 😂❤🎉🥰🥰🥰
Wow such divine timing for me to watch this today. I’m not a Christian but I definitely subscribe to the Christian take on marriage. I will get back home today speaking life and being the gatekeeper of my family. This message was so empowering, and I soooo needed it:
I’m a little confused on 12:37 . Yes we should love our husbands so well but not so they “stop watching porn.” They shouldn’t be watching porn regardless!!
YES! I would add that porn is an addiction. It has nothing to do with how much our husbands love us or whether they are satisfied in marriage. It's heaping blame on the wife to make it seem like it's her fault for not "loving her husband enough" if he's watching porn. It has nothing to do with that.
Yep. I wrote a comment on this. Their sin is not a reflection of how well we are loving them.
Milena: It’s a BOULDER
Melanie: That’s a nice boulder
My humor right there 😂
I don’t have any Christian friends that are married with children, please speak more on this it’s opened my eyes to so much and also about raising children I feel super encouraged
Thanking God for your platform
I'm not married but I find myself drown to home life, married couples and watching godly women. I thoroughly enjoyed this video and I hope that may God bless you and the Holy Spirit continue to strengthen each of you beautiful women to grow in wisdom and understanding in the time and status that yall are in right now.😊
Please do a video or podcast episode talking about raising sons! I have a 14 month old baby boy and my prayer is to raise him to fear God and be a light who shines and shares Jesus with all ❤️ This video encouraged me to pray and enjoy each season. I also just sent my husband a loving and encouraging text while he’s at work ❤ Loved this video ladies!
I like the idea of this video and was inspired about some things as a wife of 6 years. But i think saying “how do we love our husbands so they stop watching p**n” is an extremely problematic statement. That can be a severe addiction that can ruin a marriage that has absolutely NOTHING to do with the amount a wife is loving her husband. And is solely a responsibility of the partner that is choosing to watch those things over being fully committed to their spouse. I can’t stress that enough. Such a quick comment Can have a big impact for people who have truly walked or are walking through that situation. There needs to be more mindfulness when bringing things like that up in a topic around marriage. There’s so much more I could say but I will just leave it at that.
Agreed 100%.
I was about to type this out
This video is what I needed! I got married two weeks ago and I had started being convicted about the nagging and the fasting. I didn’t know what any of it meant, the convictions. And then this video is posted and it all started to make sense. God started to plant a seed in me some days ago and then the video popped up and I could hear God louder.
What Navia said in the beginning about calling marriage hard and focusing on the good is so beautiful!!! I love that- life is all in perspective!!
I was inspired to pause this video and pray over myself as a future wife, my future husband, marriage, children, etc both in English and in my heavenly language! I love content the points people to Jesus, prayer, etc!
Thank you for walking in your calling Milena!
All three of yall have spoken on a huge topic that women our age unfortunately do not completely get until either they are married or a bit older. Melanie, even though you are not married yet, I am SO happy you are able to fully understand marriage before you get married. You hit it on the spot, we are to look at our husbands the way we honor and respect Jesus, as we are His bride. It opened my eyes 100% to another level of respect for my husband, something I still have to work on, but changed my view of marriage at a 180 .
Man people really willingly took a lot of this out of context because there was soo many gems in this talk ! Soo many gems !
idk why the hate for Nava. she clearly has a wisdom and gift for being a wonderful wife. let’s embrace that. she’s an inspiration for real. thanks for bringing her on milena!!
An hour long video?! Yes please!! Also, I desperately needed to hear all of this. My husband and I struggle daily and I am far from a good wife. Thank you all for sharing your biblical wisdom on this 💕
We need more of these videos! I love this so much, I have prayed so long to have friends to share my faith with and I felt like we were all just hanging out! Also a great reminder to always focus on ourselves first and our family will follow. It’s so hard to get out of the selfish mindset of “oh he’s not helping with this or he’s not doing that”. I always feel so inspired after watching this version of you Milena! Keep preaching the word and encouraging women because it’s making an impact! ❤
I love your idea of prayer when you are taking care of things in the home! I started thanking God when I did things! And it was so life changing to giving me a thankful heart, rather than discontent
One Major habit change for me was to play worship music in the morning when we get ready!! I would usually be so exhausted, so I do this to put us in Joy and praise of the Lord!
When milena started crying about how her children are listening and repeat what we say… I started crying too. Wow. My almost-3-year old has been repeating everything I say and I identify her telling herself to tame your tongue.
Loved this conversation ❤️ I have been married for 6 years now and it’s been a process of the Lord softening my heart and teaching me how to be more like Jesus each and every day. May our lives be a light and bring peace to our husband’s and those around us.
Such an encouraging message to hear as a newlywed. God really brought to light the wife I want to be for my husband. Thank you for this amazing conversation!
I have little words but they hold SO MUCH meaning behind them. Thank you so much for this video. I’ve learned so much and am going to begin praying for my future husband and our family. Thank you ❤
I fell into that trap of surrounding myself with women who was influencing my thoughts negatively towards my husband. My husband was dealing with depression and other things and here I was just squashing him even more on top of Satan attacking him! I can only imagine how awful I made him feel. Words are very powerful! The Bible talks so much about it because that’s the evidence of what’s inside the heart. Thank goodness we stuck through the rough times because it only made us stronger. My husband is my best friend and no one will ever change that. This video was so good and refreshing! Thank you Milena for posting these videos, it really has helped motivate me to draw nearer to God and strengthen my relationship with him! 💕
It's so good to have Melanie here! Loved the words she spoke with her introduction. I was in the place she was at and it's sooooo good to have a woman in waiting with the wives ❤ There's wisdom in both xoxo
I have loved listening to this whilst I'm playing with my kids and got the house all tidied up for my hubby to come home.
I noticed Milena stopped calling the kids gremlins and even tho that’s such a little thing It really does change your mindset I can see the pruning being done with you and absolutely love it
I am a new mom and only been married for one year and I LOVE. This so much. We are in the beginning of our journey and we struggle a lot and I love the way you speak of the lord. I felt so convinced about what kind of wife I am. I am not a good wife and this inspired me to be a better wife. Thank you ❤
Such a fantastic video on the realness of marriage and living in community and in relationship with your spouse and children. So refreshing and encouraging!
Hi I really liked your video. I’m a Muslim and all what you said is relevant to our religion! It’s insane that it’s an important thing marriage is and how we should fight for it because it’s so spiritual and so real. I gained so much from your advices in this video and I really liked them. Thank you so much for opening my eyes to this, while we’re all in a busy and distracted world.
Please do more content like this! 🙏🏼 God is using you so beautifully to pave the way for faithful women & successful families in this generation. Thank you. 🤍
How timely!! I'm in a relationship right now that is on the trajectory for marriage, and I so desire to learn how to be a good wife to my husband. I am learning that my parents might not be the best role models for marriage, and I want things to be a complete 180 from what I've seen in my parents. I'm so thankful for the ministry you have on UA-cam and this season of refining that the Lord has you in. He is using you to help refine me as well!
As someone who is a wife and has recently become a Christian who wants to put Jesus above all else in my life, wow, I needed this video! Thank you so much for the wisdom and words of encouragement when it comes to being a biblical wife. Since coming to God my husband and I have realized how wrong our marriage has been in the 4 years since being married and how sinful our relationship has been as a whole. I am so thankful that we have found God and I truly believe it has saved us and our marriage. Nothing can penetrate a marriage that puts the Lord first. The enemy still tries but we will always prevail. God bless you beautiful ladies and I pray that the Lord continues to work through you. ❤
I’m so thankful to all of you for creating this video. I starting balling and then began walking around my house, praying. I heard God. I just have to put the work in
I am getting married next month & im SO happy i got to listen to this to be an awesome christian wife❤️
Congratulations Sis❤️❤️💐
I’m not even 30 mins in but I’ve already teared up like 3 times 😅😂❤ I feel so convicted and encouraged at the same time because I can literally feel the Spirit speaking through you girls to me ❤ thank you for this video ❤❤
thank you for this eye-opening video! i feel like i’m much more prepared to be a loving wife once we get married in september!! be blessed ladies ❤️
Thank y’all so much for your words of wisdom. I used to live in my marriage like you do but since having kids I’ve fallen hard in the opposite direction. Lately the Lord has been calling me forward to being my husbands biggest cheerleader and the most supportive wife I can be. My flesh is cringing so hard at loving my husband sacrificially again (instead of defending every wrong done against me) but I know it is what God has done for us and His love is to flow out of me. God said to me recently “don’t you trust me to defend you? Let me take that burden, I am the defender of your heart. You don’t need to defend every tiny thing. Hold your tongue and give me a chance to speak to him first.”
This is so encouraging to hear. I am getting married later this year and WOW this has given me a new insight on how to be a loving Christian wife for my husband
You guys, this was for me. Thank you for this video💗 I have been asking the Lord to show me certain things that I’m doing wrong in my marriage because I have only been seeing my husband’s faults, and He REALLY spoke to me through this video.
I have cried so many tears of happiness when watching this video. I thank Jesus and you for everything you shared, it touched my heart sooooo deeply😭❤️❤️
Can a video be a divine appointment? Because this was an answered prayer. Thank you for being open and vulnerable and encouraging. I so needed this. ♥️🙏🏽
🥺🥺🥺 when I tell you this is so convicting. I have been praying to be a better Wife. I noticed I do so many of these things! I will try and pray to apply these things in the daily life. Thank you so much for being vessels of the lord to convict us ❤ I will come back to this video over and over to get conviction lbs 😂❤ hugs and blessings ❤❤
“I would have had one less day with my best friend”
WOW I have no words such a great perspective
My husband and I have been married for a little over 13 years and I didn’t think we would make it 1 or 2 years. The Lord had different plans for us and we are still going strong because of the Lords grace.
Love this biblical perspective! Struggling with how support my parents as there is so much hurt between them and only one is trying to restore the damage done. I would love prayer for a miracle for their marriage!!
Praying for them! My parents went through a similar thing for years, only one would put in effort and then it'd switch and only the other was putting in effort! God is slowly working a miracle in their relationship and it's wild how God can take something so disastrous and messy and painful and somehow make it beautiful again over time😭 Praying for that over your parents too as a fellow believer standing with you in prayer! Lord please heal their hearts too🙏🏾❤
Praying for your parents and you!
Same … request the prayer as well. 😊
Wow you both are amazing! Thank you thank you for praying!!!😭
I just want to say, this is my favorite video you have made. The content is so great and it has helped me change my mindset tremendously. Please keep making content like this, it’s truly beautiful to hear and very encouraging. I’ve been married for 7 years and needed to hear some of the things mentioned.
I feel when it comes to “nagging” there is a appropriate way to go about it. Even though yes we need to pray for them, because only God can change a person. It’s absolutely healthy to bring up situations that need to be talked about. We as wives need to feel loved, safe, and have peace as well. When their is mutual respect you change the things that are coming up that are hurting your wife/husband peace. Compromising is important in marriage 🤍
Milena!! God is working in women right now! I have had so many of the same convictions you have lately. I stopped the video and had a spontaneous picnic for my husband because I felt so lead to serve and love on him. Thank you so much for the tangible advice for serving your husband. It was a great reminder:)
Just rewatched this video after my first year of marriage. Still so powerful and a much needed reminder of how I want to be as a wife to my husband 🥰
Amazing words I could listen to you guys for hours! This really came at just the right time for me and I immediately had to apologize to my husband about an argument from the night before. I loved the part about bringing everything to God first and refining our words before speaking to either our husbands or anyone else. This video is such a blessing thank you❤
Thank you for this from a a fellow young mom and wife! ❤️ you ladies are so beautiful. And it goes far beyond physical beauty. It’s coming from within. Thankful for you all.
Ladies I LOVED this, I felt like I was right there with you! So many nuggets, humility, loving him, and being open to God's voice. As a Believer who is preparing for marriage, I love how it's NOT WORK, I call it an adventure!
Yes ladies!!!❤❤❤ Love this! This is also the area I feel like the Lord has given us the greatest testimony and it’s an AMAZING one! I LOVE the Marriage ministry and it is SO NEEDED! I think we need to understand as wives that we are the “helper” which is also what the Holy a spirit is called . The Lord has given us such a special anointing to speak into our husbands lives IF we are being obedient and submissive to the Lord and our husbands! It’s such a precious and beautiful blessing ❤❤❤
Well said
My husband left me when I was pregnant with our second baby and we “separated.” I prayed over him day and night. We did not live together during this time, I didn’t nag him, I didn’t tell him to return. I let him go and just prayed. He came back 7-8 months later. He was a changed man. During this time, I dedicated myself to God and prayer.
God really changed our entire marriage and it’s better than it was before because we were just living in the world. Now we both have built our marriage on Jesus ❤ these woman are really giving solid advice.
The part where you mention strip clubs kinda messed with me. Like… that’s a legit biblical reason to split if your husband constantly cheats. You sure do have some power over the situation of your marriage, but if your partner isn’t invested and doesn’t care about you, cheats, lies etc. you have every right to leave. I don’t think it’s godly to guilt trip young wives into believing they gave reasons for their husbands to cheat. Maybe I got the point wrong, I don’t know, not a native English speaker.
I can’t find this part of the video, could you tell me where it is?
Yeah I agree. I mean, you can make it work if you wanted to, but the Bible also says that’s grounds for divorce only because of our hardened hearts as humans. God would rather us not get divorced even in instances of cheating. But, I would absolutely leave.
@@sunnywildflowers5915it’s around 23 minutes
I agree
I agree... watching porn, liking/looking at naked or inappropriate women photos in social media & complimenting other women on social media like "stunning" while telling you you're unattractive or only have a beautiful face.... that stuff is honestly traumatic (I didn't know until I went through it). God is helping us with our marriage but I am willing to leave if any of this resurfaces in the future. I can't handle it again
Watching this a second time so I can really absorb it, what an empowering and encouraging video. Thank you for this!
I'm gonna save it or literally put pen to paper. This is gold!
Please do the video about what the Lord has put on your hearts about raising sons! I have 4 young boys and I do feel so honored that He chose me to be their mom 😭 it feels like such an incredible blessing to be raising boys in this generation. Terrifying sometimes, yes, but He put us in this generation for a purpose ❤ the Lord radiates through you ladies! God bless each of you and your families🙏🏻
I just keep listening to this video over and over. You have helped me in my marriage, faith, and obedience SO MUCH with your videos and podcasts ❤️ I can’t be more thankful to God for leading me to your content it has truly changed my life