how to ACTUALLY submit to your husband - part 2: the application
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I really like the following explanation someone once told me: "submission" = "sub" + "mission" = under the same mission. This means that together, as a couple, husband and wife are doing what they are called to do together: serving the Lord by serving each other in their own roles. As Milena said, this has nothing to do with just doing what the man commands. It is based on love: love for Christ and love for husband/wife.
Love that!
A friend once told me “you cannot nag your husband to death about things, but you CAN badger the Lord, and He will convict him.
Best advice ever and has saved us many arguments.
Girl you are putting out content lately that is so controversial in these times and I am absolutely HERE for it. It’s so easy to stay quiet about this stuff and so easy to be discouraged when obviously not everyone is going to agree with you. But a lot of women including myself have got to start speaking out about this. There is strength in numbers. Thank you for being brave enough to say these things Milena
This was so amazing and felt like a Bible study. It would be so great to see a video of Jordan speaking of the man’s role in being the head and the responsibility’s of a man having a submissive wife.
Yes!! Would love a vid like this too
Same!!
Yessssss!!!!❤
Yes I agree!!
Yessss 🙌🏻
Completely identify with the backseat driver thing. Something that struck a chord with me was the thought ‘why is it okay to be so controlling towards our husbands when we would be furious if they acted the same way?’ It’s too exhausting. They are human. The more I let him lead, the better of a leader he has become.
Wow! Yes sis!
My sister!! I am so FED and BLESSED by your ministry here for women! God bless you ❤️❤️
Milena! I have to start off by saying I was not a follower of Jesus for a long time due to religious trauma I experienced as a child, but Ever since I started watching your videos, years ago has helped me slowly heal that trauma, but these last months of yours videos have been so eye opening and have been helping me find my path back to the lord. I am so thankful you helped me and probably many others find our way back❤ keep doing what you do 🙏🏼
This is beautiful! Thank you for sharing ❤️
So lovely! ❤
these are things 90% of women will NOT admit, thank you for being so unbelievably honest and genuine with us Milena
you never cease to "hid your flaws" I dont know not even one woman that doesn't struggle with this!
its hard but the rewards in heaven are so worth it! I pray that i can please the Lord in the way i treat my husband too
If “submitting” is in a woman’s nature, there would be no need to tell women over and over again to “submit.”
@@sarahdussome4790Exactly! 🎉
@@sarahdussome4790
It was not in the past but unbridled feminism has eroded our society.
@@sarahdussome4790our “nature” is sinful and fallen. Humans murder and steal and harm and abuse. God didn’t intentionally design us this way, but sin transformed us into this. We must keep ourselves pure in the eyes of our Father, following His commands 😊🙏🌸
@@flowersandlace And men are the very same way. They can be just sinful, slovenly, prideful, quick to anger, greedy, boastful. We all have that nature. Men included.
Wow I needed to see this, I always end up taking out my frustration on my husband for no reason! He’s literally the best man on this planet.
Not for no reason, it's an internal struggle we all go through.
Honestly, this is pure gold for a wife!!!
I would truly love if Jordan did this series for husbands, you guys speak so much truth and wisdom
Amazing!! I am a Christian, have been married for over 20 years, and just now realized how much I need to improve as a wife...
Thank you sooo much!
Would be so nice to hear from Jordan for husbands ❤
Same
The concept of referring to him in a loving way in the midst of conflict is something I NEEDED to hear! I have such a poor habit of being huffy and irritated instead of remembering that we are on the same team, and this could easily solve so many of those instances with a simple change of heart posture in the moment.
The original word in Genesis is “helpmate” which not only means helper but a companion! We are meant to challenge each other in growth in our roles and to be a team in our walks.
Even stronger, the word is mostly used for God Himself in regards to helping humanity!
the voiceover while washing dishes was so peaceful!
Wow…I can cry at how much this spoke to me I needed this lord knows I’ve needed this for soo long it’s soo hard to submit when you’re hurt from past events though.
If i had a woman like this, I would put my literal life on the line for them and do anything I could to make sure that she is taken care of. Girls today dont realize the core values that a dude wants... just simple support at home is what that vast majority of guys want. Whether they are secular or religious. My prayers to you that you saw the actual values of what a woman brings to the table for a man.
Some of our husbands feel respected when we communicate that we are tired and accept the help they want to provide after they've had a long day away from the family they love too. Allowing them to step in when we need to go to the father because we may feel weak and our strength needs to be perfected through Christ. There's purpose is in partnership.
This helps me so much! especially because you are so honest and transparent.
Literally downloaded this to listen to when I’m feeling angry with my partner. I try and fail at being kind and respectful to him and I really need a reminder of my goals because I know it will pay off and be returned in ten fold. I consider myself agnostic and I still see how much value there is in this
oh I enjoyed it so so much! thank you milena, you’re one of the wisest women I know. I wish we’d have more of you in our church 🥺🧡
This was amazing. I’m 51 have been married for more than 25 years, have a good marriage, and this schooled me. You are 1 million times more wise than I. The part on driving is 100% me. Thank you so much for this video. Very convicting.
One thing I started doing that has completely changed my marriage is I started asking my husband for guidance. This lowers his guard and I truly get to see my husbands heart in specific matters. Our husbands see things about us that we tend to turn a blind eye to. And for me personally, I know my husband doesn't want to come to me when I always think I'm right and even when I need his help I'm "still right". Humbling ourselves and asking him for his guidance helps us to see what it means to be submissive.
I'm loving this series! I feel like the Lord is waking us all up this year! This word is JUICY! On a different note, I learned about the Gallileean wedding and YA'LL! It's got me sleeping in my spiritual wedding dress and giddy! Love to you my sisters!
Love the disclaimer in the beginning. "If you are in abusive relationship this does not apply, seek counseling..protect yourself and child". Really appreciate the disclaimer since many nonbelievers like to pick this specific scenario to criticize christians.
This series has been so amazing. Thank you for this study, for bringing this topic to light and bringing us closer to the word and to our duties as wives. I’m loving and coincidentally, it has been something I’ve been trying to really work on in the past few months.
I think we so much live in a time where we are told that we should be speaking our minds and being “independent”, and that makes us not want to rely on her husband and also sometimes not even work on our marriages. It is so easy to just start pointing fingers and playing the blame game.
So thank you for this series! It is very much needed.
It all started when you did the video with your friend and sister as wives. It really put my mindset into a different perspective on how I view my role as a wife. Thank you for blessing us with this video. xx
I’ve been so convicted to be a better wife and a better homemaker. We’ve been struggling to have a family, so I’ve made excuses that I don’t need to make our home sweet since there’s no kids. But it starts with God and then my husband, so I know I have to work on that in order to be a blessing to my future kids.
I’ve definitely gone through this sis! But God told me to “Prepare for what you are praying for” You are preparing your heart then your home, it will already be ready for when you guys have your first baby 💗
Do it now sister! Because kids and lack of sleep add extra stress.
You’re such an encouragement! Thank you! I love your quiet and gentle voice. Keep going 😊
Amazing Milena! Future video idea, hearing Jordan’s side of how he leads you as a Christian man/his journey with that!
These videos were so so good for the soul and esp as another young wife, and we’re expecting our first baby. I’d love for you to make more videos like this, true soul food. And I love how you led through verses and told us to pull out our bibles. Please make more videos like this! Had me hooked!
I’ve been having so much conviction over submission and being the wife God has called me to be, & I’ve loved following you for YEARS & i love all these videos you’re coming out with bc man you’re hitting the nail on the head for what I’m seeking and searching to be better. LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU. Keep doing what you’re doin girl.
We need more women like you in today's generation❤
Everyone in the comments must be joking… We are all equals with our husbands and as a couple we are meant to guide each other through our life.
Thank you!!! I’m so saddened by lots of these comments.
Of course we are equals and made equally/loved equally by God. However he has an order for our marriage. Allowing/helping our husbands lead and being submissive doesn’t mean we can’t guide each other through life or that we can’t speak or have opinions.
@@dianan4153What does submission to a Husband mean/look like to you?
@@globetrotter3956your question itself isn’t even worded correctly, because submission to our husbands isn’t something that “looks different” from couple to couple. Submission is submission. It’s all the same. God created men as the leaders of the home. Not women. We are our man’s helper, not mother. 😊
Nowhere biblically does it say men and women are equal
Omg your example of submitting while your husband is driving was the ah-ha moment for me!! I love it!!
I looooveeee these series girl. As a single woman, these are just a blessing!!!
Fr! I feel I'm being prepared well
Please do post the video that shows what a man should do day to day and what his role looks like in a household according to Bible, maybe ask your husband to come and explain so we all can better understand the two roles that we are supposed to live by❤
I cannot wait for more on this topic absolutely love this series!!! Sometimes the simple reminder and calling it out are we loving like we are called to be thank you for this 🙏🏼❤️
You are wise beyond your years sissy. I love watching videos like this. Your so right. God bless
You
Ahhhhhh, boy. This was much needed and convicting. Working through a trial in my marriage right now and this was perfect timing that is helping to humble me. My husband said he didn’t want to come home but would because he wanted to serve me and boy….I did and didn’t want him to come home but am so thankful for him, trying to work on humbling myself. Perfect timing Milena ❤
This is so helpful, I come back to it very often. Happily waiting for part 3. Thank you and God bless you. ❤
This is such a beautiful series. Are we going to see parts 3 and 4? Love what you are doing, God bless your family. ❤️
I’m so glad I found your content. I have grown so much in my walk with Christ but still have a ways to go. Getting ready to marry my sweetie soon and I’m grateful for these videos!
„You may read this and say Okay cool.“ 😂 I love how you put this into modern words, as if you know what I am thinking. Very helpful 😊
I can listen to you all day! It’s such good reminders and knowledge. Thank you! Thank you! 🙏🏽
This message is so powerful. I admire the boldness God has brought in you. I literally cried watching this. I’m a newlywed, and this is such a big struggle for me. It’s so thought provoking to hear what the Bible has to say about women. The original intention is lost in our culture today. We need to be the examples and bring it back🫶
I am a Muslim and I love what you say.... God bless you ❤️
OMG! I LOVE this message. Amazing example on submitting to your husband when I am in the car. I need to practice this and appreciate your tips.
I so wish you could have a copy of the same exact content in Spanish so I could just play your videos at a women’s group at my church 😫😂🙌🏼 I feel like translating word for word and sending it with subtitles 😂 because this is SO GOOD!!!
Love you so much Milena!! This is a new topic that I have fallen in love with learning about!
Amen, sister!
I love that you highlighted the fact that our husband will have to be accountable before the Lord one day on how he lead both us and our children. Honestly when I’m personally struggling with submission because of what my husband is or is not doing, or how he has treated me, whatever the case is- remembering that it is he is accountable to God ultimately- it’s not my job to judge. ❤️
This is so needed in the church today! Thank you so much!🙂
Such beautiful truth and so humbling. Lord search my heart and tame my tongue! Thank u milena!! Can’t wait for part 3!
It's normal with 2 under 2 to being tired, exsausted etc.. I have a 5 month baby and a 10 years girl and thanks god I can do everything by myself happy with that BUT when I am tired when my cup is full i order good junk food i turn on TV and NOBODY say nothing because everyday the home is clean, fresh with homecooked meals and crazy funny mama here. So i give myself rest and Its absolutely ok. I work a lot too at home sometime more than my husband because mama it's 24/24 7/7 so no regrets being myself.
Yup!!!
Loving these podcast style videos and how they’ve just helped guide me back to the word and to love my husband in more beautiful humble way
This is beautiful and amazing. Thank you so much!!! I've been waiting for a holy woman to talk to about this subject and while you and I didn't actually speak, it was wonderful.
I am not married but I love this series!I am learning so much, thank you!
As a Muslim women this was really beneficial!
I appreciate you putting out these videos especially the way the world is now. We need to remind each other to remain selfless and not selfish 😊 and this is one way to remain being selfless.
Knocked it out of the park! Absolutely loved this thank you for sharing this much needed biblical wisdom ❤
Thank you so much for sharing with the rest of us! I really appreciate seeing God work in your life, it’s such a blessing to me. I am in a season of not having friends.. at times it’s a real challenge when it seems like I am the only one excited about the Truth of God’s Word for us as wife, mother, and homemaker! I listen to others on here who encourage and challenge me as I clean my house! Thank you and may you be blessed as you cheerfully serve your family in your home!
Thank you for this. I'd also love to hear your take on wisely and prudently choosing a husband. I am married, but know a few single women and I am at a loss sometimes for advice on this. I feel that God has blessed me so abundantly with my husband that I truly don't have advice aside from pray about it (which I know is powerful in itself).
I didn't feel like I struggled much with summiting, but I watched this anyways. I'm so glad I did. You helped me see so many areas I need to work on. After, I watched this I really dug into the word on the subject and I'm not done. I'll have to give this a few more listens to make sure I got it all. ❤
Milena, I have to admit that I was unsure clicking on this video. However, I feel a conviction to try and implement this into my own marriage now. You've made me realize how much I've neglected to prioritize my husband and marriage. Thank you.
A video with Jordan would be amazing!! We’d love to hear his thoughts & share his voice !!
The car thing…. Oh my I need this 😂 thank you 🙏🏽
LOOOVVEEEEEE THISSSS VIDEO! We need a video or podcast on Jordans perspective!
This is the direction I am shifting my perspective towards as well, and it has been wonderful. Thank you for being bold to post this :)
I don’t think I have the correct words to tell you how much I needed to stumble across your channel. God has answered a lot of my prayers by speaking through you. I will anxiously wait for the next video in this subject! May God continue to bless you and use you for His kingdom!!! I wish I could give you a hug lol
I also would like to say how refreshing to see this type of content in a superficial world. I literally just want to please the Lord and this world wants to label us as different or weird. I’m happy to see there’s people out there that feel convicted to the same things.
Milena, I've followed you since the beginning but I've found myself called to these videos you've been making. You've inspired me to be a better wife and put in that work . Thank you!
THANKYOU for this video. As a wife I found that while we are in arguments I would Shut down & not face him nor look at him & he would always say how that made him feel disrespected. I just came to the realization that that was the enemy shutting me down because there were a few times when I looked at him in the eyes and snapped out of it, or a few times in arguments my husband would just come and hug me & it would make me put into perspective how much I in fact do LOVE this man and would instantly realize the argument wasn’t us against each other, it was us against the enemy. WOW i don’t know why it took me this long to come to this but THANKYOU Holy Spirit. So my advice and takeaway would be to have that direct contact with your husband WHILE talking through any problem so you keep yourself aware of who you are talking to. I know this may seem silly but for me I know this will be a breakthrough for our conversations ❤️❤️✝️
I cant even tell you how much of a blessing this is was for me
Please do a part 3 and 4! I love all the practical applications, feel free to share more concrete and specific things what submission could look like in our answers, our speech, in our behavior, in certain situations as wives. Thank you so much for all you share. 😊🙏🏼 Also a quick idea: Perhaps you could share the bible verses that you reference in each video in the video description? You share all the links to decor etc., and that's great, but how cool would it be to have all the bible verses you reference in one spot to quickly refer back to. (Especially in the first video on submission, I was going back and pausing the video to take note of all the passages referenced.) Thank you!! 🙂
Thank you for sharing this! So encouraging to my heart! Love that you have changed your content to encourage women of the Lord! Your channel is such an amazing resource and encouragement to the church! Thank You! 🧡🧡🧡
That is how I became to realize submission too !! Haha that’s so funny! I use to be soooo bad, I started to close my eyes to keep silent
Hi Milena! Just wanted to say hi and thank you for your content. I found your UA-cam channel at the beginning of January when I felt a very big push from the Lord to get serious about following Him daily. Your videos speak so much truth, and your marriage videos in particular ended up preparing me to love and submit to my husband after a month of being apart so he could help support us financially. When he got back, it was amazing how out of practice I was at being a wife after only a month. Although it was challenging, my mentality recovered quickly as your videos pointed me to the Word and encouraged me to dive into what God says about being a wife, praying and applying it daily. Once again, thank you for your content and helping us to follow the Lord’s will for our lives by pointing us to his Word and leading by example! Prayers for you and your family as you get closer to welcoming another little one! 🫶🏼
I'm single as I was saved unmarried and had to leave that relationship but I see all the mistakes I've made in every relationship I've been in. I have 2 children so even just watch you diligently keep your home and cook nutritious meals blesses me. When we come to Christ we have to completely unlearn the worlds ways and renew our minds daily!!! These really help prepare me when God blessed me with my husband.
It is so hard to find biblical truth on social media. The beauty and wisdom in this video is so amazing that the Lord just anointed you to speak on this topic. I recently prayed for my husband about some thing and the next day he was up at the altar. Prayer is so powerful !
The book You and Me Forever by Francis Chan and Lisa Chan is an amazing book to read with your spouse !
I've watched this video a few times ...ive already caught myself in the car on trying to direct his better driving skills. I thought of your video & I immediately shut up & just enjoyed the ride of us going home 💛 thanks for your dedication & encouragement to make this video. I'm processing alot of it 😇
There’s nothing wrong with giving your husband feedback if it comes from a place of love!
Yes please can you please ask if Jordan can talk about what men are called out to do for God. ❤
I would LOVE this video!
Yes, please Milena...I agree with this. There is so much information out there on the women's role in submission, but so little information about how the husband is to lead.
@@dehelwigthis isn’t an accident 🙄
These videos are so fruitful and convicting in the best way! ❤
I agree! Her first video really opened my eyes. ❤
Understanding that we’re each different.!
So instead of seeing it as problem see it as a strength.
I’m weak in a area my husband is strong in. && vice versa.
So start seeing it as a strength and realizing hey, this is an area that I can learn from my husband in an area that I can grow in . ❤
I’m getting married next month and watching these now are really helping just know thank you.
Please do more such videos, they are truly going to be something I’m going to come back to when I need it.
I love this. Do you think it's "easier" for a wife to submit to her husband if she is a SAHM and the husband works? I can't help but think that environment is more conducive to biblical submission. If the wife works and the husband either stays at home or is retired, it more difficult. Thoughts?
I feel like it’s a bit harder for w working mom/wife.
Personally I feel like I just serve and serve and serve and continuously pour out and have no help. I WANT to be a great wife and submission doesn’t come hard to me. But at the same time I feel so overwhelmed
A woman can work too. But it is for the man to provide for his wife and kids either way
@@amberkhan3692 that’s not always the case though. Sometimes we need both incomes to survive
Ooh the passenger driver.... oooooh that hit me. That's great advice and I need to do the same thing
The car situation 😂 yes! Something I started out with too.
Thank you for keeping these up ❤ the world wants us to follow conventional wisdom but the results are terrible. It’s hard I know but trusting God for it
Oh Lord, me in the car with my husband driving 🙊 SO convicting. Pray for me in this area 😂
I struggle submitting to my husband when it comes to parenting. I keep praying he follows a more biblical approach. I'm home with the kids more than he is, so I feel like I understand them better and know how to work with them better. I also have a more biblical approach and submit to the Lord in my parenting before my husband..hope that makes sense😅
Thank you 🙏🏻 it really felt like a Bible study listening to you today 💗
Not even halfway through the video and I have chills! So needed to hear this!
Me too
Beautiful!!! As a non-native speaker I could follow this video much better than the pt. 1. I thank you a lot for what you share here and the way (slowly speaking, with more examples and less reading) is the way I understand better. Maybe you can type a list of bible quotes to check after the video so that I can catch them up later in my mother tongue :) the Lord bless you and your family!
Thank you for being led by the Lord to do these videos. I’ve been married 25 years. I needed to hear this again! I love how you gave illustrations in how to be submissive. Thank you again and I look forward to listening to the next couple of videos. God Bless
I can’t believe the shift in content. I love seeing your heart just so on fire for the Lord - you’ve really come into your calling ❤
I would love to at least get some verses on the things Men are called to do, just as a guide to study more in depth. I read the Proverbs 31 verses to my husband and he immediately asked, "does it say what husbands should do ?" I have found a few but would love to see which you and your husband have found. Thank you for these helpful videos 💕
I already feel convicted of this and I'm not even married 😅
My bf and I are in a serious, long distance relationship. We are talking about marriage and buying a house next year. However, I've been very pushy with the whole process of engagement- choosing and buying a ring especially. Watching this video showed me that I can practice being submissive to him by trusting my bf and also in God's timing. I want to prepare right now for being the best, loving, submissive and respecting wife I can be for him one day.
Twice now….just recently I might add….I have prayed for my husband instead of tearing him down and God answered within a matter of a couple of days. Opened up opportunity for me talk about it with him without frustration and anger while also giving me a boost in my faith! I just love God.
God is good all the time, all the time God is good!
Milena, I look forward to every one of your videos. You are so encouraging to me. So thankful for the content you’ve been making recently particularly about marriage and motherhood.
At this point I want a live Sunday service from you every week pleaseee lol
Amazing and so much needed content, Milena! God bless you for recording these videos. Life changing!
This series is blessing me so much! Wow. My fiancé and I are getting married the end of this month and I have a whole page full of notes from this! The Lord began to highlight things that I could be better about and I’m looking forward to talking to my fiancé about this. Thank you girl 💗