Just want to encourage other moms too- I cut screen time about two weeks ago and at first it was tough. He would tantrum and want it but after a few days of this, he realized it wasn’t coming back and was totally fine with it and doesn’t ask anymore. The craziest part is- his play changed. He would constantly want me to play with him and be entertained and now he goes and plays independently, or will go put his storypod on, and he’s fallen in love with reading and we read at least an hour a day. So it will be ROUGH at the beginning, but the reward for your child is so sweet.
“My children are not the problem. I am the problem” Wow! I have been struggling to find patience and not get overstimulated and easily frustrated. This video really hit home. Thank you so much for sharing!!! ❤
Currently drowning in pit of despair from the transition of 2 under 2 and I really reallyyyyyy needed to hear this. I’ve had suspicions about a few of these tips but my pride has just been keeping me under from surrendering to God in resting and yet numbing my brain in shows. You’re right! Is is so hard to rest and yet I waste the time at the end of the night to fill my mind with reality tv so drown out the scary thoughts in my mind when that’s a time that I could actually be reading my Bible and praying to God about what’s going on inside. Whoever sees this comment, can I please ask you to pray a little prayer on my behalf? I so badly want my motherhood to transform because I know what I’m living is not what God has intended but everything is just so hard that I just have no courage or strength to keep moving forward. I need Jesus to take the wheel
Corrina I pray that God may lift you outside of the slump your in and in his presence. God I ask that you use this for her good and this stage of her life will only be a stepping stone / testimony of what you will do next in her life. Thank you Lord for opening up her eyes. Give her strength and wisdom to discern what is right and of you. We thank you holy spirt in advance. I pray in the might name of Jesus .. amen
I completely understand how you are feeling. The Lord is with you in every moment of your day. Don’t feel guilty for your past, for it is forgiven. His mercies are new every morning! You’re doing great mama, & the Lord will reward your humility.
It’s amazing how many of us feel the same way!!! Praise the Lord bc I feel this is an amazing testimony of how God is waking us up!!! I love that we could be together in Christ!! I will be praying for you!! I hear you!! God able You and your family! We can do everything in Christ. Don’t let the enemy tell you that you’re lost. The way we are finally seeing that sth is not right is the way the Holy Spirit is proving us that He is at work within us!!! Praise the Lord sister!!!
The way I ✨needed✨ this encouragement as a mama of two and pregnant. U 👏🏼 ni 👏🏼 ty 👏🏼 in the family. Thank you Milena and thank you Lord for Your work through this wonderful woman.
Isn’t it crazy that what we call “distractions” (watching tv, scrolling, eating junk food) to distract us from worry actually distracts us from what cures our anxiety and worry? Which is spending time with God.
You are such an inspiration 🕊️ being in my Bible everyday, grabbing the word before I grab my phone has been the biggest blessing to my motherhood. With God I can do all things, without Him I'm lost.
Im 26 and just had my first baby in February of this year. It's crazy because you released this just as i started second-guessing myself. God really works in his own good time! ❤
I’m 26 with a 2 year old and an 8 month old. You had me tearing up at the part about involving kids and letting them choose the pace. I definitely get caught up in my own timeframe and I needed to hear that! Thank you for this video!
#5! As a mom of 4 I agree with alll of these! People think we're crazy for doing life WITH our kids as well. We homeschool, are entrepreneurs, we travel, all with our children. It's different to what I was taught as a first-gen Latina but this is what God revealed to us as we have made him the core of our family unit and lives. Great video!
Before clicking this I thought, "let's see what big sis is saying", then chuckle-smiled (is that a word?) after remembering, "wait, she's actually younger than me". Thank you for the example you are setting Milena, as a wife and mother, and as a daughter of the Most High. Thank you for being bold to share, bold to speak and bold to correct. Your videos are both encouraging and convicting, and your vulnerability and faithfulness is admirable. Pruning is a painful thing, it's difficult, but moreso it's beautiful, and there is a safety and a comfort in knowing that we are in the hands of the ultimate gardner, Who knows us better than we know ourselves. May His hands continue moulding you and may His love, peace and friendship continue sustaining you, in Jesus's name, amen "Don't let anyone look down on you before you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity." - 1 Timothy 4:12 💜
Something that I’ve been doing with my son is just being interested and involved in the things he enjoys like Minecraft or building with legos. I find that by being involved and interested it lets him know that I’m there and also to have him explore different things even if it’s not what other kids are doing.
26 with 4 under 4 :) I actually started watching your channel bc I was pregnant with my 1st and I had no idea what it looked like to be a mom. Came to Christ not long after he was born (I was 23 and my husband was a Christian *running away from God*) but God Himself snatched me up without me ever searching for Him. Now we have 4 children (I have also suffered 3 miscarriages) I gave my womb to the Lord whenever I got saved. But I have been so refreshed by these videos, and by yalls podcast. God bless you and your family.
Prayer walks are something I started in 2020 and o have continued to do them as a new mom. Just 30-45 minutes can change your whole day! I did it while I was pregnant and even when my daughter was a newborn I carried her in my arms and just prayed. I do this daily ❤ Pls pray for me and my daughter as I go back to work on the 14th after having the blessing of being able to have an extended maternity leave into 6 months of her life. Also that she starts sleeping through the night. I have loved breastfeeding and keeping that closeness I’ve made a bond with her, but I know for both of us to thrive and not just survive we need sleep.🙏🏼🙏🏼 thank you and God bless ❤
Don't have a husband or children yet but I am soaking up your wisdom girl your videos have been sanctifying me in the best way possible. Thank you for loving the Lord with all your being and displaying it in your actions, wish we could sit and have coffee together. I feel like I am preparing for whatever the Lord is preparing me for which is to someday become a wife and mother.❤
I really enjoyed listening to this video! It really opened up my eyes. I am an older mother 59, and my kids are grown and are now parents but I help watch my grandchildren and it is so important to take time for them and let them be a part of your day in so many ways. Yes, it takes longer and more patience to let them help but we need to teach them unity and do more WITH them. I just started watching your channel and it has already enriched my life. Thank you Milena!
Self care is so important. I used to feel so guilty for taking time for myself but then I would be such a cranky mom and I would end up taking it out on my family. Now I have learnt that self care is also family care. It doesn't take much to self care. Small but frequent is better than long and not often. Thank you for sharing this message. Too many moms don't feel like they are entitled to time out. The more we share the message - the happier we all will be
I have no one except my mother and my husband. And stuck home with my 5yo, 2yo, and 7mo.. Being around other Christians (especially women) sounds really nice and supportive.
You are doing a great job influencing so many women! I find myself viewing my marriage & life duties sooooo differently now! Even took my physical Bible out for the 1st time in years
this is so powerful Milena. im not even a mother yet but this video has given me so much encouragement for when i do enter into the season of motherhood.
You have been a big part in my walk with God. It is amazing seeing how much you’ve grown spiritually. From my view on vanity and raising my children ages 4, 2 and 1 all your advise is encouraging. Seeing you dye your hair back to your natural color inspired me to do the same. God is sanctifying his children. Keep speaking the truth sister 👏🏼
I haven't watched your videos in a long while and this has left me so fulfilled and encouraged! We recently adopted our son who is now 7 months and I've found that it's incredibly easy to put the baby on a "pedestal" per say. I know the order in which God lays out in the Bible and yet it is still so easy to mix things up. I loved the reminder so thank you. I'm definitely saving this one as I know as my boy gets older, I will need more of these truths.
You have no idea how many times I have to watch your videos in order to come back from the dark side. I am sobbing as I am typing right now. I am the one messing their childhood. In my head, they are walking too slow. They are taking too long. I am trying, it is so hard for me... God bless your wisdom and the fact that you are sharing, helping, giving hope, and uplifting mama's like me.
Thank you Mil! I’m currently pregnant with my third and I’ve been having the most challenging days and let me tell you I just felt the lord responding to all my answers through this video. It’s just crazy how he works. Thank you for this transformation you have done and have influenced me and many other. God bless you and you’re beautiful family.
Milena thank you so much for all that you do ❤ I am a mom of 2 and I have been so exhausted and burnt out by motherhood. I’ve been surrounded by a lack of understanding in regards to gentle respective parenting, or had my feelings invalidated constantly and dismissed admist my struggles, and it’s caused me to feel so isolated. I am actively praying that God brings like minded women around me. You have taught me so much, and made me feel like I had community while I’ve felt so alone in this journey of being a mom. Thank you! ❤
1. Hangout with friends 1-2 times per week 2. Limit screen times 3. My identy is as a daughter of christ first 4. Enjoy mordern day convinces 5. Take a day of rest 6. Our schedule revolves around my husband and my life not my kids 7. Mindset shifts 8. Order of household 9. Get dressed and read bible everyday 10. Doing hobbies that you enjoy
I'm a 38 yo first time mom to a 15mo. I shifted from a career life, moved abroad to pursue missionary life and had our baby last year. It's been challenging! but I LOVE your approach and it is SO SO useful! You inspire me in my motherhood.
Thank you for this video. I am pregnant with my second and my daughter just turned one. Anticipating two under two has rocked me but I know it is a challenge that is ultimately good for my soul. Mentality is so pivotal to motherhood because we have so much freedom in this role. But the Bible is full of instruction and encouragement and it really helps to know that it is good, important, and seasonal work.
I' not planning on becoming a mom anytime soon, but I'm already stressed over the thought of maybe "losing" myself over the mom-role. I've gotten the impression that having kids ruin everything; your persona, your reality, your hobbies and most importantly your relathionship with your partner and yourself. But this video helped a lot. Kids are a blessing, not a curse!
Doing stich work is so beneficial for mental health. It allows our brain to process emotions and helps sleep to be restorative too. Stich work is also implemented in psychiatric hospitals as an effective treatment in group therapy sessions. Something i only recently knew, it might be why youre feeling so much better lately
I honestly needed this video today. I am in my 3rd trimester and my patience with my toddler has been getting very thin and I've been feeling like a bad mom. But God definitely wanted me to see this video, thank you!
I sooooo needed this today mama it’s 10:30am here I Just now Got a chance to drink my coffee after re heating 3 times and what a joy to find you speaking on what I have been having issues w mama love u Mi❤🙏thank u for being obedient to the Lord and becoming the mama other mamas like myself can turn to for true Godly mama inspiration❤🙏🥺I recently became a widow in 2020 n since I don’t ever plan to remarry (yes never my hubby was my true God sent sweetheart)I struggle with being a single mom of teenager one special needs 21 yr old daughter and two younger ones 5,7 son and daughter but the Lord has blessed us in many ways I will always be grateful counting you n your channel amongst those blessings❤
I just turned 24, but I had our first baby today 9 weeks ago with 23. I’m so thankful for you making videos about such important topics. And I’m so thankful that you are making these NOW while my daughter is still a baby and I can start incorporating your habits early enough in my life 🥰 praise the lord! this is a real gift for me 🙏🏼
Milena you have really blessed my Life. Please dont leave UA-cam . Thank you so much for what you are doing, praise the Lord for leading you so beautifully ❤️
I’m older than you with no kids and and no husband and I’m here. I 100% don’t envy you because I really enjoy my freedom, but I appreciate you content so much!! ❤ Thanks for sharing your story
Milena, I am also a young stay-at-home mom like you and you have been such a blessing in my life. You inspire me to be better. Yesterday, I was feeling so depleted and this video showed up right in time. Praise God! Thank you for doing His work!
Mi, I have followed you since I was like 13- I’m now 19- can I just say I’m so proud of you 🥹💓 and I hope to flourish in such a beautiful woman and let the Lord mold me like how you have let the Lord work in you 🫶🏼 love you girl!
Our story is quite similar in a lot of ways! I’m also 26, I also had my first at 21 and I also had 3 very close! (All within 2 years and 10 months) my first two same as you were very close together! So that was fun to hear and go me too!! And I also 100% agree with what you have said - thank you for boldly proclaiming biblical truth ❤
PREACH! I absolutely needed to hear this and your message was an answer to my recent prayers. Your content has continued to grow in a Spirit filled and directed way that has been such a blessing to me. Keep being bold Milena. Your content is a light in this dark world. God bless you and your family!
MILENA!!! Girl! The Holy Spirit was ministering this same message to me as I was getting my hair braided this morning lol. Praise God for you and thank you for this video. I am blessed!
I turly love way ypu have allowed the Lord to change your minset . Im on this journey with joy and contentment with all the lillte thing wife and mom's do daily. Thank you for sharing🌺
I’ve been watching you since you had your first and now I’m currently pregnant with my first at 22, I also found out at 21! I am just soaking up all this wisdom, thank you for sharing!!
Thank you!! ❤ All your videos are beyond helpful! This summer I'm struggling so much with motherhood, keeping the house clean, renovating etc. My husband is working so much this summer that 90% of the time I'm alone with my 16 mo old son. I love being a mom, but not having community is so hard. I've always thought that my mind is like a rock, solid and calm, but this summer my mental health is worse than ever before. Once I almost crashed my car (my kid was not there) because I was that down. I definitely have to reevaluate my life and my relationships. I also try to spend more and more time with God, and your videos definitely help with that. Thank you!
I love the encouragement these videos being. Our family consists of two special needs toddlers so practically speaking I am unable to implement a majority of these but I will say I believe spending time with people who pour into you does bring joy and support we needs as mamas. Husband can’t understand all the ways we are pulled, so good friends bring refreshment. Please keep my family in prayer…our boys are 2 and 3 and navigating special needs has its own hardships…but I rest on “He will keep them in perfect peace who’s eyes are stayed on him because they trust him.”
My kids are the same ages as yours. I literally love all these videos. I find dishes and folding a bit hard/boring. So I listen to you and other mothers that encourage me during these times. And I leave feeling so encouraged for the rest of my day
I’m about to have my 3rd in November and I’ve been worried about that family shift but this has made me excited for the changes to come! I definitely need to work on being more present and happy with my kids as opposed to thinking I can’t do something because of them. Thank you ❤
I have three boys. Mom at 19 then another baby at 22 then again at 29. It’s been only two months since I’ve come across your videos. I am feeling so hopeful that I’m not the only one that has gone or going through everything you spoke about in this video. I’m so blessed to have your channel to help me out during my questions on life because other than the word of God I don’t have family or friends to help pour into topics like this because everyone is in their own journey with God and their family but I pray I find friends and family that understand each other in these areas in life and make change for our babies are selves and our partners as well. Ahhh I can go on and on but that you for ur videos. God bless ❤
Milena, thank you so much for these videos. You have changed my faith journey SO exponentially. Im a completely different person and you keep pushing me to do better, thank you so much!! I pray for you and your family, and that you will remain on YT sharing these videos for a long time ❤️🙏 they are truly life changing for people! If you or anyone is able, please pray for our little family to be able to grow❤ we so want alot more kids, or just more but it has proven challenging. We are blessed with a wonderful boy but would love to be able to bless him with siblings and more little blessings for our household❤️🙏
Milena, thank you! These videos have been so inspiring. I’m 33 yrs old, happily married with no children. And I find all 10 habits to be helpful. The world is constantly pushing us to individualize, to go, go, go. The more I start to let go of the worldly stuff and find time with Christ our Lord, I find myself being so content and restful. I find joy in things that use to cause me stress. The Lord is doing amazing things through you 🙏
"My identity is as a daughter of Christ, not a mother." Powerful! As much as I love being a mother, I definitely need the reminder that I am a Christian first and that is what defines me.
You're so right! I have an 18 year old and a 3 and 4 year old. It took that 18 year old to show me how quickly it goes by and I wish I could do it over again with what I know now. It makes me a much better mother and makes hard days easier to cope. You're so lucky to already have this figured out!
Thank you for making this video, Milena! Such a powerful message! The entire world needs to hear it! You are a true inspiration and embody what I aspire to be as a mother ❤
Your content has been such a blessing to me lately, praise God 😊. After listening to your recent video with Nava, I’ve been becoming more aware of what could be gossip and curbing my tongue. I already feel lighter and more peaceful at heart.
Thank you for this! I had our first baby 3 weeks ago and want to learn all I can. I am so surprised that we are the same age! I would have thought you were older because you are so mature 😊
I can't explain how much this video has blessed me and showed me a different perspective. It is such a blessing to hear from you Milena and thank you for sharing this wisdom with us! ❤❤
I love that you have gotten into needlework. I also love cross stitching and sewing. I do both of those things around my kids. Get interrupted a lot, but it’s still fun for me.
My 3rd is almost a year old and I've only now come to a similar place of realizing how crucial all of these things are. Going from 2 to 3 was our easiest transition (contrary to most experiences) because from pregnancy onward, I was actually plugged in to God. Great content :)
Oh and lastly, I think you and Katie from the Now that we are a family podcast are the two wisest moms on UA-cam and it would be so fun if you collaborated
Started this yesterday and finishing it now and I SUPER need this I love my babies more than ANYTHING and my actions and attitude does not line up and I HATE THAT! My childeren are a blessing from the Lord and I WANTED them here thank you so much for this I’m actually writing notes to pray before the Lord asking God to change my heart thank you so much ❤
I want to add that I don’t regret having them but I have been forgetting to “do life WITH them” and thinking I need to have them sleeping or having quiet time to do certain things and that’s SO WRONG they are the best little helpers! Another thing I do is get triggered with whining or repeated questions..😔 and so my prayer has been that God strip every single part of who I am and add only him inside because he is the PERFECT parent and the PERFECT everything🤍
I love your heart! God will help you! He’s with you. I’ve had such a hard time adjusting to being a mom and my patience has been so thin in the past. It still can be. But I’m slowly seeing change in myself. Praise God! Just take one day at a time. Apologize a lot. Look them in the eyes. You’ve got this. Praying for you!!
I feel just like that!! Lately I’ve been praying about any mom that would feel like me!! We’re new creatures in Christ! Let’s dress up in that!! Clothe ourselves in it!! God is doing His job in us!! He promises He will finish the work!!
This was incredibly so beautiful, so well worded! I feel and have so much connection through the whole video about motherhood and the way I’ve changed from 21 as a mom to 25 as a mom! I loved every second of this❤️ thank you for this video ❤️
I know you used to joke about it but even you stop calling your kids gremlins I feel like it made you appreciate them and not look down on them when they’re having a hard time or big feelings I really respect your honest opinion!
this was so good and helpful! I have been watching you for some years and the growth I’ve seen in you is amazing and inspiring! thank you for these tips! currently expecting baby #3 and I could use more help in balancing my relationship with Christ, my rest and care, homeschooling, marriage, and being a homemaker
I’m also 26 and my baby just turned 1. This video really spoke to me, especially tip #7, it made me tear up and realize that I really do need to slow down and enjoy every little moment. This was such a great video. Exactly what I needed at this time 💗
I am still in the beginning of the video, but friends are really something I'm missing. I cant seem to find good biblically-based friends. Its something I'm constantly praying for, genuine relationships with God-fearing women.
This video was so needed for me. I wanted to comment to just say thank you for these encouraging and inspiring videos! I love and appreciate them so much! I pray you continue to be blessed for being obedient and being a light in such a dark world.
Had my first daughter at 19 and I wish I had Christ following friends at the time. I definitely had postpartum and didn’t know. It wasn’t talked about 20 years ago. Love this video and think it’s so wonderful you share all this for Mamas
I completely agree with what you said about not rushing through life and letting your kids set the pace! My habit kind of ties into this. A regular breathwork practice has been game changing for me. I realized my nervous system was totally fried after weathering the almost daily tantrums. Once I started to heal through breathwork, I could hold space for my toddlers big emotions without getting swept up in them. My little girl needed to learn how to regulate her nervous system by watching me successfully do it first.
This was amazing, I definitely agree nails salons hair salons are not relaxing at all lol! I love the reminder of how do we want our kids to remember us ❤
This was really an amazing video to watch. Love all of your examples of how to incorporate motherhood into your personal life instead of keeping it separate..beautifully said ❤
So beautiful! I️ feel super encouraged by this video. I️ agree with everything you are saying. I️ have my first one and I️ am feeling the same as I’m enjoying this new journey of motherhood but it’s so important to keep our identity through Christ. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! 🔥
I needed this. I look forward to these vids all week. I’m having THE HARDEST time right now with my boys 2 u 2. He’s just been sooo defiant and hitting it’s been a rough few weeks 😢 but it will pass🙏🏼
This is a wonderful video, thank you Milena! I've recently had the conviction about reading my bible around my one year old. Her nap times are super inconsistent, so I just wasn't in the word because I wanted the perfect, two hour nap. Really I can get a decent 20 minute stretch of her playing while i read- or if she has to be in my lap, I will read to her!
These tips are great. Thank you. I haven’t watched one of your videos in a while - your skin and face is looking great , whatever you’ve done to change your look
I LOVE the drawings from your kids in your Bible. That has encouraged me to find a note taking Bible (I love mine now, but there's no room for notes :( ) and that will be such a treasure to look back on when they are grown.
I needed to hear this! Just had my second baby and I’m back at work and just trying to find some balance between such a busy and beautiful season of life. ❤ thank you for making videos like this.
I haven’t watched your channel in a while unfortunately but I NEEDED this…. I’ve been struggling with motherhood and this is beautiful your mindset is amazing thank you so much
Milena, this is amazing. I wish I would have had this 8 years ago when my first baby was born. Unfortunately as a first time mom I made a lot of mistakes and now I am much calmer with our second child. I feel awful because I was always rushing with my son. I wish I could take that back but I will start being more present/understanding today. Thank you!❤
I definitely needed this video.. I’m a first time mom at 23 and my son is now 5 months old. Some days are harder than others but I just want to romanticize this time as much as possible.
Milena, I thank God for you! Even as I am not a mother I can glean the principles of these points, especially the point you mentioned on finding your identity in Christ. In this world, we want to get validation from so many things around us. Our validation is in Christ! I enjoy getting these points of experience form you. May God continue to bless your ministry
Thank you for your words! I really needed this and i might watch this over and over till I get it right. I been doing the whole opposite of this and ugh I hate myself for it. I mentally have been everywhere and mentally struggling and just this. The lord is speaking to me! Thank you. ❤
“Don’t stop living life because you have kids, live life with your kids” I LOVE THATTTTTTTT❤
That was a liiiiine ❤
“If you can be on your phone around your kids, you can be in the Word.” 🔥
Just want to encourage other moms too- I cut screen time about two weeks ago and at first it was tough. He would tantrum and want it but after a few days of this, he realized it wasn’t coming back and was totally fine with it and doesn’t ask anymore. The craziest part is- his play changed. He would constantly want me to play with him and be entertained and now he goes and plays independently, or will go put his storypod on, and he’s fallen in love with reading and we read at least an hour a day. So it will be ROUGH at the beginning, but the reward for your child is so sweet.
“My children are not the problem. I am the problem” Wow! I have been struggling to find patience and not get overstimulated and easily frustrated. This video really hit home. Thank you so much for sharing!!! ❤
Currently drowning in pit of despair from the transition of 2 under 2 and I really reallyyyyyy needed to hear this. I’ve had suspicions about a few of these tips but my pride has just been keeping me under from surrendering to God in resting and yet numbing my brain in shows. You’re right! Is is so hard to rest and yet I waste the time at the end of the night to fill my mind with reality tv so drown out the scary thoughts in my mind when that’s a time that I could actually be reading my Bible and praying to God about what’s going on inside. Whoever sees this comment, can I please ask you to pray a little prayer on my behalf? I so badly want my motherhood to transform because I know what I’m living is not what God has intended but everything is just so hard that I just have no courage or strength to keep moving forward. I need Jesus to take the wheel
Corrina I pray that God may lift you outside of the slump your in and in his presence. God I ask that you use this for her good and this stage of her life will only be a stepping stone / testimony of what you will do next in her life. Thank you Lord for opening up her eyes. Give her strength and wisdom to discern what is right and of you. We thank you holy spirt in advance. I pray in the might name of Jesus .. amen
Praying for you! Ephesians 6!🙏🏼🛡️⚔️🩷
I completely understand how you are feeling. The Lord is with you in every moment of your day. Don’t feel guilty for your past, for it is forgiven. His mercies are new every morning! You’re doing great mama, & the Lord will reward your humility.
Praying for you! Keep your eyes and ears on Jesus, not on the world. He’s right with you helping you! Spend time with him. You’ve got this.
It’s amazing how many of us feel the same way!!! Praise the Lord bc I feel this is an amazing testimony of how God is waking us up!!! I love that we could be together in Christ!! I will be praying for you!! I hear you!! God able
You and your family! We can do everything in Christ. Don’t let the enemy tell you that you’re lost. The way we are finally seeing that sth is not right is the way the Holy Spirit is proving us that He is at work within us!!! Praise the Lord sister!!!
A podcast with you and Katie from Now That We Are a Family would be a great one! Y’all are filled with wisdom, blessings 🩷
The way I ✨needed✨ this encouragement as a mama of two and pregnant. U 👏🏼 ni 👏🏼 ty 👏🏼 in the family. Thank you Milena and thank you Lord for Your work through this wonderful woman.
Isn’t it crazy that what we call “distractions” (watching tv, scrolling, eating junk food) to distract us from worry actually distracts us from what cures our anxiety and worry? Which is spending time with God.
You are such an inspiration 🕊️ being in my Bible everyday, grabbing the word before I grab my phone has been the biggest blessing to my motherhood. With God I can do all things, without Him I'm lost.
Im 26 and just had my first baby in February of this year. It's crazy because you released this just as i started second-guessing myself. God really works in his own good time! ❤
I’m 26 with a 2 year old and an 8 month old. You had me tearing up at the part about involving kids and letting them choose the pace. I definitely get caught up in my own timeframe and I needed to hear that! Thank you for this video!
#5! As a mom of 4 I agree with alll of these! People think we're crazy for doing life WITH our kids as well. We homeschool, are entrepreneurs, we travel, all with our children. It's different to what I was taught as a first-gen Latina but this is what God revealed to us as we have made him the core of our family unit and lives. Great video!
"They weren't walking too slow; I was walking too fast. They weren't taking too long; I was rushing."
GIRL wheewww
Not sure if it was just from my end, but there was some overlapping in your talking
Yes at the end! But great video ❤
I got it too.
Yes me too at the beginning
Same at the beginning
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Before clicking this I thought, "let's see what big sis is saying", then chuckle-smiled (is that a word?) after remembering, "wait, she's actually younger than me". Thank you for the example you are setting Milena, as a wife and mother, and as a daughter of the Most High. Thank you for being bold to share, bold to speak and bold to correct. Your videos are both encouraging and convicting, and your vulnerability and faithfulness is admirable. Pruning is a painful thing, it's difficult, but moreso it's beautiful, and there is a safety and a comfort in knowing that we are in the hands of the ultimate gardner, Who knows us better than we know ourselves. May His hands continue moulding you and may His love, peace and friendship continue sustaining you, in Jesus's name, amen
"Don't let anyone look down on you before you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity." - 1 Timothy 4:12
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Something that I’ve been doing with my son is just being interested and involved in the things he enjoys like Minecraft or building with legos. I find that by being involved and interested it lets him know that I’m there and also to have him explore different things even if it’s not what other kids are doing.
26 with 4 under 4 :) I actually started watching your channel bc I was pregnant with my 1st and I had no idea what it looked like to be a mom. Came to Christ not long after he was born (I was 23 and my husband was a Christian *running away from God*) but God Himself snatched me up without me ever searching for Him. Now we have 4 children (I have also suffered 3 miscarriages) I gave my womb to the Lord whenever I got saved. But I have been so refreshed by these videos, and by yalls podcast. God bless you and your family.
Prayer walks are something I started in 2020 and o have continued to do them as a new mom. Just 30-45 minutes can change your whole day! I did it while I was pregnant and even when my daughter was a newborn I carried her in my arms and just prayed. I do this daily ❤
Pls pray for me and my daughter as I go back to work on the 14th after having the blessing of being able to have an extended maternity leave into 6 months of her life. Also that she starts sleeping through the night. I have loved breastfeeding and keeping that closeness I’ve made a bond with her, but I know for both of us to thrive and not just survive we need sleep.🙏🏼🙏🏼 thank you and God bless ❤
Don't have a husband or children yet but I am soaking up your wisdom girl your videos have been sanctifying me in the best way possible. Thank you for loving the Lord with all your being and displaying it in your actions, wish we could sit and have coffee together. I feel like I am preparing for whatever the Lord is preparing me for which is to someday become a wife and mother.❤
I really enjoyed listening to this video! It really opened up my eyes. I am an older mother 59, and my kids are grown and are now parents but I help watch my grandchildren and it is so important to take time for them and let them be a part of your day in so many ways. Yes, it takes longer and more patience to let them help but we need to teach them unity and do more WITH them. I just started watching your channel and it has already enriched my life. Thank you Milena!
Self care is so important. I used to feel so guilty for taking time for myself but then I would be such a cranky mom and I would end up taking it out on my family. Now I have learnt that self care is also family care. It doesn't take much to self care. Small but frequent is better than long and not often. Thank you for sharing this message. Too many moms don't feel like they are entitled to time out. The more we share the message - the happier we all will be
I have no one except my mother and my husband. And stuck home with my 5yo, 2yo, and 7mo.. Being around other Christians (especially women) sounds really nice and supportive.
You are doing a great job influencing so many women! I find myself viewing my marriage & life duties sooooo differently now! Even took my physical Bible out for the 1st time in years
this is so powerful Milena. im not even a mother yet but this video has given me so much encouragement for when i do enter into the season of motherhood.
THIS IS SO GOOD. It’s beautiful to see how God has been transforming you into the beautiful eternity-minded mother that you are. 🦋✨
Love that bit about kids being pure and content and how they love looking at flowers and the sky ❤
Thank you for how humble this vlog is
You have been a big part in my walk with God. It is amazing seeing how much you’ve grown spiritually. From my view on vanity and raising my children ages 4, 2 and 1 all your advise is encouraging. Seeing you dye your hair back to your natural color inspired me to do the same. God is sanctifying his children. Keep speaking the truth sister 👏🏼
I haven't watched your videos in a long while and this has left me so fulfilled and encouraged! We recently adopted our son who is now 7 months and I've found that it's incredibly easy to put the baby on a "pedestal" per say. I know the order in which God lays out in the Bible and yet it is still so easy to mix things up. I loved the reminder so thank you. I'm definitely saving this one as I know as my boy gets older, I will need more of these truths.
You have no idea how many times I have to watch your videos in order to come back from the dark side. I am sobbing as I am typing right now. I am the one messing their childhood. In my head, they are walking too slow. They are taking too long. I am trying, it is so hard for me... God bless your wisdom and the fact that you are sharing, helping, giving hope, and uplifting mama's like me.
This video convicted me so much. I definitely need to look at motherhood a little bit differently ❤
Thank you Mil! I’m currently pregnant with my third and I’ve been having the most challenging days and let me tell you I just felt the lord responding to all my answers through this video. It’s just crazy how he works. Thank you for this transformation you have done and have influenced me and many other. God bless you and you’re beautiful family.
Milena thank you so much for all that you do ❤ I am a mom of 2 and I have been so exhausted and burnt out by motherhood. I’ve been surrounded by a lack of understanding in regards to gentle respective parenting, or had my feelings invalidated constantly and dismissed admist my struggles, and it’s caused me to feel so isolated. I am actively praying that God brings like minded women around me. You have taught me so much, and made me feel like I had community while I’ve felt so alone in this journey of being a mom. Thank you! ❤
1. Hangout with friends 1-2 times per week
2. Limit screen times
3. My identy is as a daughter of christ first
4. Enjoy mordern day convinces
5. Take a day of rest
6. Our schedule revolves around my husband and my life not my kids
7. Mindset shifts
8. Order of household
9. Get dressed and read bible everyday
10. Doing hobbies that you enjoy
I'm a 38 yo first time mom to a 15mo. I shifted from a career life, moved abroad to pursue missionary life and had our baby last year. It's been challenging! but I LOVE your approach and it is SO SO useful! You inspire me in my motherhood.
Thank you for this video. I am pregnant with my second and my daughter just turned one. Anticipating two under two has rocked me but I know it is a challenge that is ultimately good for my soul. Mentality is so pivotal to motherhood because we have so much freedom in this role. But the Bible is full of instruction and encouragement and it really helps to know that it is good, important, and seasonal work.
sooooo many gems in this video. this is legit the best mom talk I've watched. Keep perservering in the Lord. Thank you.❤ Subscribed
I' not planning on becoming a mom anytime soon, but I'm already stressed over the thought of maybe "losing" myself over the mom-role. I've gotten the impression that having kids ruin everything; your persona, your reality, your hobbies and most importantly your relathionship with your partner and yourself. But this video helped a lot. Kids are a blessing, not a curse!
This is all great advice. It’s so hard with 3 little kids trying to work full time, commute, cook, care for our home, read and worship and pray, etc 😭
Doing stich work is so beneficial for mental health. It allows our brain to process emotions and helps sleep to be restorative too. Stich work is also implemented in psychiatric hospitals as an effective treatment in group therapy sessions. Something i only recently knew, it might be why youre feeling so much better lately
I honestly needed this video today. I am in my 3rd trimester and my patience with my toddler has been getting very thin and I've been feeling like a bad mom. But God definitely wanted me to see this video, thank you!
I sooooo needed this today mama it’s 10:30am here I Just now Got a chance to drink my coffee after re heating 3 times and what a joy to find you speaking on what I have been having issues w mama love u Mi❤🙏thank u for being obedient to the Lord and becoming the mama other mamas like myself can turn to for true Godly mama inspiration❤🙏🥺I recently became a widow in 2020 n since I don’t ever plan to remarry (yes never my hubby was my true God sent sweetheart)I struggle with being a single mom of teenager one special needs 21 yr old daughter and two younger ones 5,7 son and daughter but the Lord has blessed us in many ways I will always be grateful counting you n your channel amongst those blessings❤
I just turned 24, but I had our first baby today 9 weeks ago with 23. I’m so thankful for you making videos about such important topics. And I’m so thankful that you are making these NOW while my daughter is still a baby and I can start incorporating your habits early enough in my life 🥰 praise the lord! this is a real gift for me 🙏🏼
Milena you have really blessed my Life. Please dont leave UA-cam . Thank you so much for what you are doing, praise the Lord for leading you so beautifully ❤️
I’m older than you with no kids and and no husband and I’m here. I 100% don’t envy you because I really enjoy my freedom, but I appreciate you content so much!! ❤ Thanks for sharing your story
Milena, I am also a young stay-at-home mom like you and you have been such a blessing in my life. You inspire me to be better. Yesterday, I was feeling so depleted and this video showed up right in time. Praise God! Thank you for doing His work!
What an amazing list of new habits you have created! The Lord convicted me so much listening to this! Thank you 😭
Mi, I have followed you since I was like 13- I’m now 19- can I just say I’m so proud of you 🥹💓 and I hope to flourish in such a beautiful woman and let the Lord mold me like how you have let the Lord work in you 🫶🏼 love you girl!
Can you do a video on how you train up your children as opposed to discipline or where the line is? You have so so much wisdom!
Our story is quite similar in a lot of ways! I’m also 26, I also had my first at 21 and I also had 3 very close! (All within 2 years and 10 months) my first two same as you were very close together! So that was fun to hear and go me too!!
And I also 100% agree with what you have said - thank you for boldly proclaiming biblical truth ❤
PREACH! I absolutely needed to hear this and your message was an answer to my recent prayers. Your content has continued to grow in a Spirit filled and directed way that has been such a blessing to me. Keep being bold Milena. Your content is a light in this dark world. God bless you and your family!
MILENA!!! Girl! The Holy Spirit was ministering this same message to me as I was getting my hair braided this morning lol. Praise God for you and thank you for this video. I am blessed!
Anyone else get choked up when she said she would show her kids that they were apart of her time with the Lord because of the doodles in her Bible? 💞😂
I turly love way ypu have allowed the Lord to change your minset . Im on this journey with joy and contentment with all the lillte thing wife and mom's do daily. Thank you for sharing🌺
I’ve been watching you since you had your first and now I’m currently pregnant with my first at 22, I also found out at 21! I am just soaking up all this wisdom, thank you for sharing!!
Thank you!! ❤ All your videos are beyond helpful! This summer I'm struggling so much with motherhood, keeping the house clean, renovating etc. My husband is working so much this summer that 90% of the time I'm alone with my 16 mo old son. I love being a mom, but not having community is so hard. I've always thought that my mind is like a rock, solid and calm, but this summer my mental health is worse than ever before. Once I almost crashed my car (my kid was not there) because I was that down. I definitely have to reevaluate my life and my relationships. I also try to spend more and more time with God, and your videos definitely help with that. Thank you!
I love the encouragement these videos being. Our family consists of two special needs toddlers so practically speaking I am unable to implement a majority of these but I will say I believe spending time with people who pour into you does bring joy and support we needs as mamas. Husband can’t understand all the ways we are pulled, so good friends bring refreshment. Please keep my family in prayer…our boys are 2 and 3 and navigating special needs has its own hardships…but I rest on “He will keep them in perfect peace who’s eyes are stayed on him because they trust him.”
My kids are the same ages as yours. I literally love all these videos. I find dishes and folding a bit hard/boring. So I listen to you and other mothers that encourage me during these times. And I leave feeling so encouraged for the rest of my day
I’m about to have my 3rd in November and I’ve been worried about that family shift but this has made me excited for the changes to come! I definitely need to work on being more present and happy with my kids as opposed to thinking I can’t do something because of them. Thank you ❤
I have three boys. Mom at 19 then another baby at 22 then again at 29. It’s been only two months since I’ve come across your videos. I am feeling so hopeful that I’m not the only one that has gone or going through everything you spoke about in this video. I’m so blessed to have your channel to help me out during my questions on life because other than the word of God I don’t have family or friends to help pour into topics like this because everyone is in their own journey with God and their family but I pray I find friends and family that understand each other in these areas in life and make change for our babies are selves and our partners as well. Ahhh I can go on and on but that you for ur videos. God bless ❤
Milena, thank you so much for these videos. You have changed my faith journey SO exponentially. Im a completely different person and you keep pushing me to do better, thank you so much!!
I pray for you and your family, and that you will remain on YT sharing these videos for a long time ❤️🙏 they are truly life changing for people!
If you or anyone is able, please pray for our little family to be able to grow❤ we so want alot more kids, or just more but it has proven challenging. We are blessed with a wonderful boy but would love to be able to bless him with siblings and more little blessings for our household❤️🙏
Just prayed ❤
Praying for you!
Thank you both so much! ❤
Milena, thank you! These videos have been so inspiring. I’m 33 yrs old, happily married with no children. And I find all 10 habits to be helpful. The world is constantly pushing us to individualize, to go, go, go. The more I start to let go of the worldly stuff and find time with Christ our Lord, I find myself being so content and restful. I find joy in things that use to cause me stress. The Lord is doing amazing things through you 🙏
"My identity is as a daughter of Christ, not a mother." Powerful! As much as I love being a mother, I definitely need the reminder that I am a Christian first and that is what defines me.
My dilemma.. Where do you find these girlfriends ?!
You're so right! I have an 18 year old and a 3 and 4 year old. It took that 18 year old to show me how quickly it goes by and I wish I could do it over again with what I know now. It makes me a much better mother and makes hard days easier to cope. You're so lucky to already have this figured out!
Thank you for making this video, Milena! Such a powerful message! The entire world needs to hear it! You are a true inspiration and embody what I aspire to be as a mother ❤
“Trash tv can ruin your sober-mindedness” so true!
Your content has been such a blessing to me lately, praise God 😊. After listening to your recent video with Nava, I’ve been becoming more aware of what could be gossip and curbing my tongue. I already feel lighter and more peaceful at heart.
Thank you for this! I had our first baby 3 weeks ago and want to learn all I can. I am so surprised that we are the same age! I would have thought you were older because you are so mature 😊
I can't explain how much this video has blessed me and showed me a different perspective. It is such a blessing to hear from you Milena and thank you for sharing this wisdom with us! ❤❤
First time mom to a 17 month old. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you.
I love that you have gotten into needlework. I also love cross stitching and sewing. I do both of those things around my kids. Get interrupted a lot, but it’s still fun for me.
My 3rd is almost a year old and I've only now come to a similar place of realizing how crucial all of these things are. Going from 2 to 3 was our easiest transition (contrary to most experiences) because from pregnancy onward, I was actually plugged in to God. Great content :)
Oh and lastly, I think you and Katie from the Now that we are a family podcast are the two wisest moms on UA-cam and it would be so fun if you collaborated
Started this yesterday and finishing it now and I SUPER need this I love my babies more than ANYTHING and my actions and attitude does not line up and I HATE THAT! My childeren are a blessing from the Lord and I WANTED them here thank you so much for this I’m actually writing notes to pray before the Lord asking God to change my heart thank you so much ❤
I want to add that I don’t regret having them but I have been forgetting to “do life WITH them” and thinking I need to have them sleeping or having quiet time to do certain things and that’s SO WRONG they are the best little helpers! Another thing I do is get triggered with whining or repeated questions..😔 and so my prayer has been that God strip every single part of who I am and add only him inside because he is the PERFECT parent and the PERFECT everything🤍
In the same boat and it’s my BIGGEST struggle but these tips are sooo helpful! ❤
I love your heart! God will help you! He’s with you. I’ve had such a hard time adjusting to being a mom and my patience has been so thin in the past. It still can be. But I’m slowly seeing change in myself. Praise God! Just take one day at a time. Apologize a lot. Look them in the eyes. You’ve got this. Praying for you!!
I feel just like that!! Lately I’ve been praying about any mom that would feel like me!! We’re new creatures in Christ! Let’s dress up in that!! Clothe ourselves in it!! God is doing His job in us!! He promises He will finish the work!!
I really enjoyed this! It's so true. If you can be on your phone around your kids you can read your bible around your kids.
This was incredibly so beautiful, so well worded! I feel and have so much connection through the whole video about motherhood and the way I’ve changed from 21 as a mom to 25 as a mom! I loved every second of this❤️ thank you for this video ❤️
I know you used to joke about it but even you stop calling your kids gremlins I feel like it made you appreciate them and not look down on them when they’re having a hard time or big feelings I really respect your honest opinion!
this was so good and helpful! I have been watching you for some years and the growth I’ve seen in you is amazing and inspiring! thank you for these tips! currently expecting baby #3 and I could use more help in balancing my relationship with Christ, my rest and care, homeschooling, marriage, and being a homemaker
I’m also 26 and my baby just turned 1. This video really spoke to me, especially tip #7, it made me tear up and realize that I really do need to slow down and enjoy every little moment. This was such a great video. Exactly what I needed at this time 💗
I am still in the beginning of the video, but friends are really something I'm missing. I cant seem to find good biblically-based friends. Its something I'm constantly praying for, genuine relationships with God-fearing women.
This video was so needed for me. I wanted to comment to just say thank you for these encouraging and inspiring videos! I love and appreciate them so much! I pray you continue to be blessed for being obedient and being a light in such a dark world.
Had my first daughter at 19 and I wish I had Christ following friends at the time. I definitely had postpartum and didn’t know. It wasn’t talked about 20 years ago. Love this video and think it’s so wonderful you share all this for Mamas
Omg, Im a mom of 3 and this video is giving me chills. I want to practice this. Thank you❤
I completely agree with what you said about not rushing through life and letting your kids set the pace! My habit kind of ties into this. A regular breathwork practice has been game changing for me. I realized my nervous system was totally fried after weathering the almost daily tantrums. Once I started to heal through breathwork, I could hold space for my toddlers big emotions without getting swept up in them. My little girl needed to learn how to regulate her nervous system by watching me successfully do it first.
This was amazing, I definitely agree nails salons hair salons are not relaxing at all lol! I love the reminder of how do we want our kids to remember us ❤
This was really an amazing video to watch. Love all of your examples of how to incorporate motherhood into your personal life instead of keeping it separate..beautifully said ❤
I really needed to hear this. Thank you for taking the time to share your life lessons - they are truly inspiring and I'm starting today! ❤
It’s no nice to listen to a mother with similar goals! Thank you for your content
So beautiful! I️ feel super encouraged by this video. I️ agree with everything you are saying. I️ have my first one and I️ am feeling the same as I’m enjoying this new journey of motherhood but it’s so important to keep our identity through Christ. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! 🔥
I needed this. I look forward to these vids all week. I’m having THE HARDEST time right now with my boys 2 u 2. He’s just been sooo defiant and hitting it’s been a rough few weeks 😢 but it will pass🙏🏼
& im 22!
This is a wonderful video, thank you Milena! I've recently had the conviction about reading my bible around my one year old. Her nap times are super inconsistent, so I just wasn't in the word because I wanted the perfect, two hour nap. Really I can get a decent 20 minute stretch of her playing while i read- or if she has to be in my lap, I will read to her!
These tips are great. Thank you.
I haven’t watched one of your videos in a while - your skin and face is looking great , whatever you’ve done to change your look
Thank you sister ✝️🙏🏻❤️🔥 - from an Alaskan sister
I LOVE the drawings from your kids in your Bible. That has encouraged me to find a note taking Bible (I love mine now, but there's no room for notes :( ) and that will be such a treasure to look back on when they are grown.
I needed to hear this! Just had my second baby and I’m back at work and just trying to find some balance between such a busy and beautiful season of life. ❤ thank you for making videos like this.
I haven’t watched your channel in a while unfortunately but I NEEDED this…. I’ve been struggling with motherhood and this is beautiful your mindset is amazing thank you so much
Milena, this is amazing. I wish I would have had this 8 years ago when my first baby was born. Unfortunately as a first time mom I made a lot of mistakes and now I am much calmer with our second child. I feel awful because I was always rushing with my son. I wish I could take that back but I will start being more present/understanding today. Thank you!❤
I definitely needed this video.. I’m a first time mom at 23 and my son is now 5 months old. Some days are harder than others but I just want to romanticize this time as much as possible.
Milena, I thank God for you!
Even as I am not a mother I can glean the principles of these points, especially the point you mentioned on finding your identity in Christ.
In this world, we want to get validation from so many things around us. Our validation is in Christ! I enjoy getting these points of experience form you. May God continue to bless your ministry
Thank you for your words! I really needed this and i might watch this over and over till I get it right. I been doing the whole opposite of this and ugh I hate myself for it. I mentally have been everywhere and mentally struggling and just this. The lord is speaking to me! Thank you. ❤