LGBT People Share Their Experience Being Rejected By the Church | Tell A Stranger
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- We invited two strangers to tell their coming out stories and talk about their shared experiences. How did they handle the uncertainty of how the world would see them after coming out...
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"And I get to have a sleepover with someone who wants to kiss me every night."
I started crying.
I died.
Poor kids who have to deal with all the bullying
Yep . . . totally lost it here, too 😢
Me too. This gives me so much hope.
Same! And then at the end she did it to me again. And i was crying with him over his friend , and i felt that in his 1st mention of it...
This is my friend from high school!! 😭😭 he is so amazing and really sweet and I’m so proud of him for his story!
he has an amazing recording voice....!!!! a baritone that speaks with a compassionate heart :) he could easily have a career in voice over work. do you know his FB or IG ? thank you, I want to refer him to someone in that industry
Yes please his ig or FB?↓
Tell him I said he is beautiful and has a lovely voice!
@Tic Toc That is NOT narcissism
@Tic Toc Well because religion doesn't matter! We are all human, and their belief should not make them hate people for love.
What scares me the most about owning my identity is the fact that I dont agree with the oversexualization of being gay.
I really want people to come together over the idea that being gay isn't only a sexual preference but its an aspect if character. I dont want people to see me as gay first i want people to treat me like a person. That's been difficult recently as ive moved to a more religious part of the country.
Really interesting insight. Thanks for sharing a piece of your experience with us ❤️
You are loved.
This! Underage people are gay. Kids can have same sex crushes. I don't understand why it has to be sexualised.
@@minimalchill hey man thanks. Ive been in a bad spot as of late. I know ill never meet you or anything but i needed that.
Yes! I have a real issue with the term, "the gays," "we gays," or, "a gay." It's an adjective that describes an aspect of me, not my entire identity. It's offensive.
I can not imagine my best friend in the world coming out as gay and me telling them I don't want them to be my best man/maid of honor anymore. What kind of horrible person would do something like that?
S s someone who believes their marriage is to be honored by God. U don't know what to think about that. I'm a Christian who knows Gods word is final.... But I'm ok with gay couples doing what straight couples failed at.... Parenting
Foster kids need families
@@marysunshine2027 It is disgusting that people choose the belief of the supernatural as more important than the loved ones who are standing in front of you. It is irrational to treat faith as the pathway to truth. It is ignorant to think that marriage is invented by Christianity.
@@Noa...... so you dont care jesus died on the cross for us?
Who had been stabbed on both hands and feet and was given a spike crown and losing blood for 3 days?
And did you know what he said... "Father they do not know what they are doing"
A God who chose to be merciful to sinners
Irretionals are for those who are sinners
People wake up I love yall cause I do have to keep his commandments because I love my father, but your way does not lead to truth, you follow his commands because you wanna be like the father and not like men
@Emanuel Teklu Prove it.
@Emanuel Teklu The burden of proof lies on the person who makes a positive claim such as the existence of god.
The woman is my teacher and our GSA leader at my school. I love you lots and am really proud of you!
@@varunprakaash9761 sorry no, but its in California and the Sacramento area
@@varunprakaash9761 that’s a little bit private 😅
It is so nice to see these people are opening up about themselves.
He is such a good looking guy.
@@legendaryexplorer8119 wtf
That’s horrible. How you disown your best friend so easily without a thought? That makes me so sad.😔
6:21 sounded very familiar to me. My mom's exact words were, "I love you but I cannot support you."
@@bencardenas11 Sorry that sucks. Hopefully you have found support somewhere else.
That’s so fûcked up, I’m too afraid to tell mine. She’ll either disown me or send me away to a gay
Conversion
Same mentality with both my parents. It's confusing, but all you can do is be patient, tolerant and loving.
@@stephenmccarthy2517 My parents are both gone now. Both died young.
@@mrbear1302 I'm sorry to hear that. I understand if you don't want to answer this, but I'm wondering. Are you content, or have you found closure with them not accepting that part of you before they passed? My parents are so convicted against it that I've sort of lost that hope for a closer relationship with them.
This was refreshing and hit me in the feels. Also, the guy is a total stud.
On the behalf of the LGBTQIA community I am so sorry! Jesus message was never a message of hate. He wanted EVERYONE to feel welcomed and loved and he still does! I’m so sorry on the behalf of the Christian church.
🙌
What does the IA mean?
@@Shamonsnipes Intersex and Asexual
@@tc.thefourleaf oh ok, appreciate it
@@pinkpink-kb6dl I would disagree with you. Intersex people are born that way, just like anyone who is gay or transgender. They do experience discrimination and gross misunderstanding. Their fight is our fight, for equality when it comes to sex and gender no matter how you identify.
I love this channel! As the mom of a trans daughter I’m really thankful for people like you who are spreading love instead of hate! Love always wins! ♥️🌈♥️
MsDreamcakes I love hearing stories of parents who stand by their kids no matter their sexual orientation or what they identify as. Thank you for standing by your daughter. You are a great mother. I am the mother of two girls, my oldest came out to me at age 14. She identifies as bi-sexual.
Even though she knew my stand on gay rights, and knew I was in a gay relationship in my late teens, she was still really scared to tell me. I love my daughter with all my heart, mind and being and she knows that, and still she was scared. She's my daughter and always will be. Who she loves is not going to change that. She could date orange, purple polka dotted aliens and all I would care about is weather she is treated right.
I will NEVER understand the parents who discard the precious gift their children are, just because of their identity or sexual orientation. If they think that is the worst thing their child could be or do, they are mental. My cousin is in jail for murdering his wife, he simply snapped and stabbed her 50 times. My aunt still loves her son and is devastated by his actions. She still visits him in jail, she loves him and will always love him because she is his mother. So I don't understand parents who throw away a child because of something they can't control. I just don't get it! Love is love. Love from Denmark
Ugh
Bless you! You're a fantastic mom to accept your child as she is and I wish I could hug you!
@TaunTaun's Mr.President
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@@legendaryexplorer8119
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As a straight male and a Christian, I can not wait to celebrate my child if or when they come out. That is my blood, and I can never hate or ignore my own blood. That is my kid and it’s not a choice.
Love is love man, I hope nothing but love and wellness for both of you in this video.
To anyone reading this, keep moving forward and love always win. God bless my friends :)
You are awesome!!! This is so nice to see, so often its the cis Christian men that are being the ugliest towards the lgbtq+ community. I consider myself pagan but to me you are what I consider a true Christian, Jesus preached love not hate and you understand and live that and that's awesome.
@@crazyredheadgrl right on! I'm a Christian and I am tired of the church in my town rejecting LGBTQ and addicts and the hurting..I've been there..God has called me a few years ago to start a Church and we are called The Rainbow City because of the LGBTQ Cafe and I'm starting a Church called The Rainbow City Church im announcing it soon and looking for a small space..I wanna teach the Love of Jesus and use my Ministry to make it a loving church where everyone can speak and share ideas of activities we can do when Church is not studying the Bible like feed the homeless and have Drag shows and so on it's just Art and I've been to them so fun..I'm going to ask the Mayor for some time because he's Gay and doing a super Awesome job restoring this small town that I think he will let me use one of the old abandoned buildings on main St or use it for cheap rent as I believe the city owns them..It's gonna be Amazing! I love the LGBTQ COMMUNITY they are so kind to me they are more Christ like then a lot of "accepting Christians ". In my town..sorry for ranting I'm doing planning now I wanna announce it today on Christmas! You have a merry Christmas okay ♥️😁 God bless
This comment gives me hope
Celebrate is a bit much
As someone who has only known Christians around me to be homophobic growing up, thank you.
Those two radiate love and compassion. Thank you so much
The church didn’t reject me because I never gave it the chance to.
That womans story was like a Moth slam. I was whimpering with tears the whole time. So much heart
I’m gay, found my faith alone and still am willing to get married to a man who shares my faith. I plan to be a faithful man who can befriend the hurt and rejected and let them know that I’m here, they’re not alone, and they can always find faith too, if they are willing to.
you’re going to hell. 🏳️🌈❌
😂😂😂 Oh, hi mister who thinks he’s God. Lil Swanty is a silly name by the way.
Lemerapis
sorry just speaking facts.
@@lilswanty2616 He'll see you there!🙃
The guy I'm dating is Christian.. he is more involved then I am.. he brings it up
This is heart-breakingly beautiful... the raw open-ness shared between strangers who have experienced similar pain is amazing. I think this is such a beautiful way to help people feel love and support!
These are powerful SoulPancake - thanks for doing these. As a 47 yr old gay father of 5 who came out 13 years ago, these stories, in a way, comfort me... making me feel less...alone ...
Thanks for sharing! I love the vulnerability in this video.
@Loo axethe hate is strong with this one.
@Loo axe Your making a lot of assumptions..... You assume I'm liberal and gay. Sounds like a lot of self projection on your end. Have a good day. ✌🏽
@Loo axe how did you know they have sex with dogs ? 🤣🤣🤣🤣Did u do it yourself? Of course everyone loves dogs, and they are meant to be loved and not to do sex with I'm LMAO at your shitty brain 😂🤣
That boy is a snacc... And so innocent.... My heart shatters.... If only world was a better place to live in
I’m a Christian and lemme just say, SUCH BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE WITH BEAUTIFUL PERSONALITIES!!! Ugh no fair I’m crying!!!😭😭😭😭🤦🏾♂️
I haven’t put much thought into it but as I am typing this I think I can say that without a doubt what scares me the most about owning my true identity is the possibility of my parents not loving me like they used to. I think that they would somewhat tolerate my identity but I’m afraid that their love and their actions towards me will change and go into a bad direction. I want to be able to own my identity with a supportive family by my side but I’m not so sure I can have that kind of love from them. I’m just so lucky to have extremely supportive friends that are okay with my identity and will always be the supportive family I need. ❤️
The lady melted my heart.Thank u soulpancake❤️
oh gosh the way they supported each other and cried for each other’s pain was so heartfelt it made me cry 😭
My church hangs the pride flag in the church every June🏳️🌈
That's beautiful
@@jesusislord7484 passing judgement on your fellow men is also a sin so I guess you're going to hell as well.
beth cass the Bible has no clearly objective stance on homosexuality
@@enxo3995 I'm not passing judgement at all. All I'm saying is that all sin is bad and we should refrain from doing so and repent. And telling others that sin is bad and should repent also is not passing judgement. I havent said anything to suggest I hate homosexuals or anyone in the LGBTQ community. In fact I love everyone and telling someone that I do not want them to go to hell is not hating on anyone. I would tell anyone who is carrying out any sinful behaviour to repent. However if they choose to not believe in God and remain in sin I do not care what they want to do, it is their life and they can choose to do what they want to do with it. I also try to repent of all of my sins and I'm sorry if I came across like I was passing judgement as I was not intending to do so. God bless x
beth cass Dear Beth, I am here to warn you. You are going to hell, if you do not repent, for I am sure you commit at least some of the following sins: Wearing ripped jeans, eating bacon, masturbating, wearing pearls, wearing a swimsuit, remarrying after getting divorced, watching porn, getting tattoos or piercings, wearing clothing made of mixed fabrics, binge watching Netflix, over drinking, having a Thanksgiving feast, rooting for your favorite sports team, etc. Wow. You better stop, or you shall go to hell!
This channel really gives pancakes to my soul❤ And what about you? 😉
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Same
NOPE
The best question I’ve ever heard was “When did you choose to be straight?” I’m straight. I didn’t choose it. I just am. I didn’t choose to be a Christian. I just am. And, I believe my God specifically said “Love your neighbor, as you love yourself” “love one another” and once I truly listened to that, I found a whole community of loving, talented people. Who like me just want to be loved, respected and free to love whom they please.
Rebekah Bridges-Tervydis no you didn’t choose your sexuality but you did choose your religious belief. You could be any other faith tomorrow morning - sexuality is the only thing you mentioned that cannot be changed.
Religion is a choice. Sexuality is not.
I chose to be atheist, my sexuality is never my choice, if it was, I would be straight, why wouldn't I when hateful Religious people oppress us?
Gosh it makes me so upset these beautiful people had to go through such hard things for being THEMSELVES AS GOD MADE THEM!! I know churches aren’t perfect, but there are a few churches out there that love and accept and support every. Single. Human. A few websites list reconciling churches all over the country and would gladly welcome ANYONE in with open arms.
Kailey Corder Yes yes yes ❤️ check out churchclarity.org, it is a growing database that gives scores to churches based on their policies on LGBTQ+ individuals and women in ministry!
God didn’t make these people to be gay, He made them to serve Him.
God didn't make them gay.
God doesn't make gays people makes gays
I also was unasked to be in a wedding for being gay. It’s so painful. We are working on our friendship to this day
This guy is one of the most attractive guys I've ever seen... He seems so sweet too 🥰
My family didn't accept that I'm gay so I had to leave them and now I live alone 😔😔
I send you all my love.
I hope things are a little better for you now ❤
The church is supposed to be open and accepting of all but their the first to reject you if you don't fit into this little box that ( " God " ) made for you
As a Christian, I just live differently. It's ok for us both to disagree, but we both still need to love one another. Love is the answer.
@@snowleopard89 I agree you seem like an open minded person that wouldn't condemn anyone I myself am atheist but we can both get along without condemning each other or our beliefs ( or lack of )
@@BS-dq1kz exactly! I'm not going to say that it's ok, but I'm not any different in the eyes of God. I've lied, cheated, stolen, been prideful, hated people, have addictions...I could go on. The list of my sins is endless and God doesn't see sins being higher than the other.
That is exactly why I go to the church I do. We are all very honest about what we struggle with in our lives and help each other. There's no eyebrow raising or stigma. It's life and everyone has something that God is changing.
Church isn't a museum for good people. It's a hospital for everyone.
@@BS-dq1kz if God is against gay people why did he make people gay the church is quick to shun people like they shunned you for your addiction they talk about love and forgiveness only their grounds
@@snowleopard89 God cant change someone being gay he made them that way I have to give you credit for still going to a church that shunned you instead of forgiving you for your addiction
i haven't come out yet but i do hope my religious family would be as accepting as their family. btw they were both so adorable
moty fokol I hope they are too. But remember that in case they are not, there is NOTHING wrong with you! You are as God made you and you are perfectly imperfect and just as you should be in his eyes. You are uniquely qualified to be YOU, nobody else can be you. And you are needed in this world, no matter how insignificant you might feel. Or how worthless others might make you feel. For someone at some point in your life you are just the person they need to get through another day. It can be someone you know now or in the future or it can be the stranger you smiled at on the train who really needed that smile to make it another day. You never know, but no matter what: you are important!
If I were you I would have a plan B, before I came out to my religious family. Know where you can turn to if all hell breaks loose. Is there somewhere safe you can stay?
I hope everything works out for you and your family realizes that you are still you no matter who you love or what you identify as. Best of luck.
Love from Denmark
@@eydnamortensen5985 oh my god i almost cried. 😭😭Thank you this means so much to me. It just makes me feel so comfortable to see people like you exist out in the world.😖 People like you, are precious and global treasure ❤ thank you again and i will remember your advice❤
@@eydnamortensen5985 that was beautiful
moty fokol Thank you for your kind words. I don't know why, but I just felt compelled to write those words to you. I know how scary it is to come out to your family. I was in a relationship with another girl when I was in my late teens, it's the only gay relationship I have had. It lasted 3 and a half years and I came out to my family. I have been the daughter who came out to her mom. And last year I was on the other end of the conversation with my daughter when she came out to me. And even though she knew my past and how I support the gay/trans community, she was still so scared to tell me. I look forward to the day, when coming out to your family is no bigger deal than to tell you prefer brunettes over blondes or vice versa. I have experienced the looks of disgust, the hateful words, the rejection. Even by some family members. A couple of my cousins told me I was a disgusting sinner and I was going to hell. Well, one of them is now locked up for murdering his wife, yeah, guess he was a saint, hu?
There is so much hatred directed at people who are the slightest bit different, it's ridiculous!
I have never fit in , not in my extended family nor in society. I have always been made to feel I was wrong or weird or too sensitive. But I am me!
I am worthy of love, respect and kindness. And so is you!
And today I got to be the one who uplifted another soul. That makes me feel so blessed.
Maybe you know someone who could benefit from receiving those words, if so pass them on:)
Love from Denmark
D Austin thank you
The lady he's talking to seems like a genuinely sweet person, someone very open-minded
I keep rewatching 6:24, such a sad moment and the music was perfect.
I'm straight but I always wondered how is same sex attraction a danger or a threat in this world??? Can someone who identify as gay or bisexual can cause to harm to a person with their attraction? If the God people serve is about love, how can she /he hate??? I thought this God loves everybody regardless of what-He/she believes in, I thought God loves believers and non-believers right??? I think people use religion to justify their hatred and beliefs...
Who knows? If angels can actually become IGNORANT and dissatisfied and suicidally prideful, seems heaven may become dangerous flawed, at times, too.
@@chrissonofpear1384 Heaven? Where are all these fairytale coming from...how do people know it's a heaven? Have u been there ?
@@ronniejones6025 Nah mate, I'm just pointing out how widely divergent their own logic can be, before they even start making various accusations.
@@chrissonofpear1384 I agree, religious people don't think from a common sense point of view.....they refuse to open up a biology book and learn how this universe navigate...Instead, they rather believe in invisibility instead of science....I flat out tell so-called religious people, do not project or force thier fraudulent beliefs on me...
@@ronniejones6025 Yeah, I know - or reflect on how their own story sounds to others, and how contradictory it can seem via it's own logic, often.
If possible I would love to do something like this for people with disabilities.
Kekistani Refugee its no longer one
A person once told me they thought lgbtq+ people were ugly or looked horrible. I told him it’s not because there ugly but because they don’t care about conforming to sociopolitical subjects like how you should look or who you should or shouldn’t like.
This video is amazing and inspiring! I think all LGBTQ people can relate to their stories. These beautiful people were brave enough to share their stories, I hope it inspires everyone and educate those with a more “narrow” mindset.
I’m gay and I STAN FOR MY LGBTQ+🏳️🌈 brothers and sisters
And you will be in Hell with your brothers and sisters too
Wow, this is so emotional to watch and listen too.
I love everything about this! And the fact that she’s a teacher gave me so much hope! I’m trained as a teacher and I’m in my 30’s still struggling to get a job. That’s probably what scares me the most... not being able to live a full and productive and normal life.
When I came out as bisexual, my grandma would always tell my mom she was praying for me. She wanted to pray me into a heterosexual life. I was abandoned by the church and I abandoned them a long time ago. I love videos like this because I feel like so many people can relate. It’s beautiful 💕💕
This is so beautiful 🌈⭐
@Loo axe your just being a troll loo axe seriously have you nothing better to do than post mean comments you must be desperate for attention
No it's not. Its disappointing. :(
I lost my best friend in a car accident two years ago, at a time when I had just began feeling an overwhelming urge to tell him that I was attracted to men. It made me reflect deeply on all the things that i never told him about myself, or how precious he was to me, and that feeling extended to everyone in my life. I was closed off, and this terrible experience made breaking down my walls so much easier because i realized that the worst feeling i've endured in my life was not based on anything that I had said, or done, but the things that I hadn't. Shortly after i came out to one of my friends, and shortly after that everyone in my life was informed, aside from my parents who i still feel uneasy about telling. Working on that one though 🤞
Sorry for your loss.
Can you please do one where LGBTQ Muslims were rejected not only by their mosques but their families too. They go through so much worst. It would be great to shed light on this given your platform.
Fukurouyoujo Excuse me? First of all I suggest you go onto forums to read more about how they suffer. Nothing comes worse to the laws they have. Never heard of public caning under Sharia Law? Educate yourself before spouting rubbish.
I want to give them both a hug too... awesome hearts!!
Jesus is LOVE.
That’s the message that we, Christians, need to spread.
NOT hate.
R. James you can’t pick and choose what Jesus said though.
Lamar Lawrence right.... we’ll ignore his teaching because love. Got it
Sami bigs That’s a very nasty god to be honest.
@@legendaryexplorer8119 And sin is merely a religious concept, whether you like it or not. No one is obliged to subject oneself to religious indoctrination and choose mythology over real life.
@Strange Watch Pedosexuals existed in biblical literature. And not been punished whatsoever. And incest too.
It's an honor to witness such honesty. All my love to you both.
I’ve been told I’m going to hell, god doesn’t love me, god hates me.. somtimes I feel like I need to be or act straight to be with god and have his love - lesbian
I knew I was gay when I was 7
This video is powerful and beautiful, and so relatable. Thank you for making this, SoulPancake
I just got rejected by my crush who is straight and I was just looking up on UA-cam “gays getting rejected by straights” and I found this....but my heart is honestly broken
I just want to just give them both the biggest hug 🤗
the church does not reject anyone, it is people who reject you under false pretenses, religion is just an excuse to undermine the right of women, to validate the power of men, to discriminate the different.
False. Did you fail history? The church through our history is well known to hold lots of power and abuse it. It is used to this day to justify discrimination and evil.
How was religion so easily subverted to those ends, too? God did not, ah, course correct it?
The woman had such a nice way of telling her story.
Videos like these make me so grateful to have a loving and supportive family.
I go to a baptist Christian church that will kick one out if they sin and are a members of the church. Go to AA and no one kicks you out. Isn’t that truly unbelievable? 🤦🏽♀️
This is so pure and wonderful ❤️
What scares you the most about owning your true identity?
That I'll get to lose everything I have. My family and the few friends I have. That my family will only see me as the demon possessed son/brother they gave birth too.
So every time I see people are happy of who they are, am happy, and sad, coz I know that that happiness isn't in the near future for me
7:35 I swear I knew she was a teacher!
Religion hasn't caught up with LGBTQI community. That's the main reason I left Catholicism, the intolerance is off the charts. I'm just an ally but can't live with bigotry, intolerance and homophobia that most churches preach.
Jill Springer Forrest I’m sorry that’s your experience with the church. I hate the fact that there is so much hypocrisy in the church in hating this but not actually following the bible and Jesus teaching. Change needs to happen. And I apologise for the hate you have received, I myself am part of the community and a Christian so I understand but I want to sincerely apologise.
@@eilidhmaccaillach4640 I don't know if you need to apologize unless your repping the Christian community as a whole. I imagine you experience intolerance on a daily basis. It's my community perpetrating the myths and the hatred, if anything I owe you the apology.
Am I the only person who feels like this title is misleading? Or at least that the parts about being rejected by the church were edited out?
She’s a wonderful speaker! I felt moved listening to both of them
cathy smith cool. I don’t care. My family literally disowned me for being gay. Talk to someone who cares 🤷🏻♀️
@cathy smith Sorry, Samuel 15:15 is all good? Leviticus 25:46 is all good?
And what even IS a 'natural man' ala 1 Corinthians 2:14? I thought Paul said nature was all GOOD and RELIABLE? And then he says differently, elsewhere?
Is it just me or does it seem like most people's responses at home to the "What scares you the most about owning your true identity" ( 7:29 ) was
" My parents "
Thank you both for sharing your important stories xoxo
this man has an amazing recording voice....!!!! a baritone that speaks with a compassionate heart :) he could easily have a career in voice over work. do you know his FB or IG ? thank you, I want to refer him to someone in that industry
Show your true colors no matter what❤️
This video was more relatable to me than any other LGBT oriented video I've ever seen. My parents still see it as a choice just like that man's friend, but also, like the woman, I realized that they still loved me in their own way, and that I never trusted that they wouldn't disown me if they had found out. I hope we can get to a point where this won't be viewed as a disorder/perversion.
Wow. I really appreciate the guy's story. My parents love me, and I deeply love them, but I know they don't agree with the choices I make. They support me but they will never approve of it. I think Eugene from Buzzfeed also mentioned the whole in the middle you feel with people from the church where you still love each other but there is a knowledge you have inside that your friendship is forever changed when you choose to love and embrace yourself, and you have to be accepting of that change.
They are lovely people! He is beautiful and seems like the sweetest guy ever and I wish them healing and all the happiness in the world!
Lovely but clearly uneducated. Church is a scam and anyone well educated would know that.
I am not gay, but I carry this criminal background which makes me realize how similar the mindset is of carrying this mentality of sharing and acceptance.
The fear, the rejections, the church, everything so relateable.
So hard to find peace.
Love you all, stay blessed in Jesus name
Amen
Parents, uncles, aunts and siblings are the first ones who know when a family member is gay.
This series is beautiful ❤️🏳️🌈
The thing that scares me the most is telling those around me and they don’t accept me. As of now I have gone to the LA pride parade but I told my parents that I’m there to support. They seemed fine with me going to support but I feel like they won’t be fine if I am apart of the community. When it comes to outside people I express that I’m bisexual but it like I come home and I lose all that energy. My family is religious as well but I’m not sure how they will take it. I have no idea how to tell them or express to them of who I am.
I am sorry that it’s so long. I couldn’t stop rambling. Sorry.
Never apologize for sharing who you are. There is no rush for you to come out, take your time, evaluate your situation, find a support system and come out whenever you are ready. WE will be here waiting with open arms.
Fernando Davila thank you so much!!!
I‘m crying lol.
I don’t want those beautiful people go through that fear of being a burden to the family’s of them.
Awesome stories, thanks for sharing. Coming out here in Sacramento at the State Fair to Mom was Great!
I have 2 obscene fundamentalist XXXian siblings....3+ decades so far of vicious circuitous mind games, in the name of their pathetic fundamentalist gawd & buy-bull. I've developed a variety of strategies that have stymied them for the last 1-2 decades. But the damage is done, & they're just fine with the pain they've been instrumental in shoving down my throat, of course, in the name of their vicious, fake loving, gawd. ....But I love seeing stories like these 2 in the vid as there has been dramatic progress!
OMG I just want to hug everyone
Some moms can be cool. Two of my girls are gay. I am not really sure why they don't bring their friends by. I invite them to everything that we have. Their friends say they don't know why?? May I am the square. LOL
Thank you for being accepting, you're the greatest mom that they could have. The friends maybe shy or trying to figure themselves out and they feel like you'd tell their parents. Give them time and love from the distance most importantly make them aware that you and your home are a safe place.
That is great that you love your girls unconditionally like that, but there are things they are gonna be dealin with especially in their teens that they aren't gonna want you to know or may be too scared to confide in you of fear of lack of understanding. It will take time but keep doing what your doin 👍
The answer could be as simple as which friend has a dog, an xbox, the softest bed, or more pizza bagels. Dont sweat it, you seem to be doing great
Stop this is so cute and im crying
The ending to her story was amazing
The church is meant to be a place of love. Within love there is patience, kindness, self-control, no envy, no pride, protection, trust, hope and perseverance. It doesn't hold records of wrongs, it is not self seeking and it never fails. This is pure biblical, sacrificial love that puts others before ourselves. God's love is unconditional meaning he doesn't place boundaries or have conditions for whether he will love you. God loves you despite your sin. The church of this world will not display these things and as a result has rejected those just as worthy as themselves. If a church has rejected you for having sin, it's probably for the best.
Love love love her story. I wish my mom accepted me like that but I am so happy for her being from a really religious family like mine.
He's so beautiful 😌
I'm from the same place as the lady in this video was so warm and wonderful. The weird thing is my parents don't accept my sexuality as a lesbian but they aren't religions. It doesn't matter anymore I have real family now but it's still sad to me.
Yeah i lost my best friend of 10 years when i came out and started dating a woman just recently. Bear in mind ive just told her i was bi long ago before i began dating a woman. She just didnt want to have anything to do with me and what i choose now that i was with a woman and not a man. It was painful because she was my closest friend and for a long time my only friend. But we cant be what people hope for us to be just for their own comfort.
"God resists the proud, but gives Grace to the Humble" Keep being proud and you're not gonna like what happens to you after you die and you can't say you didn't know.
Shut up.
this was beautiful!!!
"Whether its tumultuous or amazing" ... its something we all share🥺🥺🥺😍😍❤❤❤💗❤💗🌈🙏🥰❤💗💗❤😇🌈💥❣💥
Perfect video considering my parents just found out (didn't want to tell them) I just was told to leave the house and I'm not my mom's son anymore. Idk but personally i thought having a bad coming out story was good. It'd make me stand out. U don't want that. I'd much rather have my parents accept it then have a falling out.
Somedude1238, we're sorry you didn't have a more positive reaction from your parents. If you ever need help with the transition of coming out, there are lots of organizations out there that have made it their mission to do just that. Depending on where you live, you could consider Googling what some of your local orgs are. We wish you all the best and are sending love your way ❤️
Do you have any queer resources where you live?
@@Participant thank you so much I'll get on that :)
@@Educatedunhousedperson I can look. Idk how the situation is gonna go now. It's just scary tbh. Last night was pretty bad what my mom said but she told me today that she heard a loud noise in my room then proceeded to say I was hoping it was u hanging ur self... she hasn't done anything physical she's threatened it but I just don't know what to do if I'm going to be treated this way for 2 more years
This was exactly what I experienced! Both were asking me to denounce the other. I didn’t denounce either of them. My best friend told me to never talk to him again,I tried rescuing out to him but to this day he still wants nothing to do with me.
This video is so important in so many ways 🌈🌈❤️❤️
Love it ❤️🏳️🌈
I’m a Christian and sometimes it feels like coming out. Every time I meet a new person, especially an lgbtqa+ identifying person it’s like being automatically judged for a part of who I am. I’m a Christian at my core. I know that like I know my name. It’s hard because I’ve never in my life been mean to a gay person. Despite having our differences I’m still kind and try to reflect the love of Jesus. I know other Christians like this. My church is great and loving towards anyone lgbtqa. They get hugs and smiles and welcomed. I know because I’ve had gay friends that went to my church before moving away. For me the third path here would be kindness. I would never pull a gay friend from my wedding. We can all still love each other even if we don’t fully agree on everything. Even spouses don’t fully agree on everything lol. They compromise based on love, kindness, and respect. That’s what I have for everyone.
Maybe they're judging u because you just compared their tragic situations that could get them beaten or homeless to your own much less hurtful one. Being Christian is NOT like coming out. Maybe gay people dont like you because of how u invalidate their expiriences. You're not oppressed, you are the religious majority. If gay people arent comfortable around you, it's for their own safety. I'm nervous around religious people because I am worried for my safety. I'm waiting to be attacked whether verbally or physically. I'm on the defense. The religious person is NOT the victim in that situation. To be a good ally you need to sympathize with that, and understand its not about you. Make sure the queer person has no reason to feel unsafe around you, and they won't have any issues w you. It sucks that religious people are generalized, but it's not like it's for no reason. A gay person has the right to be kinda rude and off standish when they're analyzing the safety of an environment. You can be a good ally and show them it's safe. I know you mean well and it's okay to need to grow to be a better ally. The fact that you want to be an ally is great.
pink pink I’ve been not accepted by some of the gay community just because I’m Christian. No I don’t fear getting beat up or loosing my home but the fear of loosing friends, not finding someone to date, being judged, and verbal abuse is real. Yes your fear is greater and I acknowledge that. However, my fear of rejection is relevant in its own little right. Gay people do like me once they get to know me because I’m kind. I only said it “feels like coming out”. Just trying to say it can be scary for some Christians too.
@@pinkpink-kb6dl the same could be said about saying you’re a Christian though
Christians are mocked and have stuff thrown at them because they’re a Christian, im not downplaying your statement by any means but i’m just saying.
@@JamilaColeman it is scary sometimes, yes. Just remember that the Lord your God will go before you and He will *never* leave nor forsake you.
@@joe-cm4lz this is a peak example of the Christian persecution complex. Comparing the opressive majority getting a bit of push back from time to time to real life opression is in fact downplaying, and saying ur not downplaying it doesn't change that. Cry about christians being opressed when Christian weddings are illegal, when a huge portion of the population is anti Christian, when people are thrown in jail for being Christian
ill write a novel about julie's story. that touched me so much.
"And I get to have a sleepover with someone who wants to kiss me every night."
such a beautiful thing gives me hope that one day I'll have that.
They are both brave souls. I hope there partners will treasure them as much as I have treasured there story's.
I feel sorry for that dude I teared a little bit I mean your friend should have treated you better and said that he loves you no matter what and i'm pleased to know that your family supports you
In order to be born, you needed: 2 parents, 4 grandparents, 8 great-grandparents, 16 second great-grandparents, 32 third great-grandparents, 64 fourth great-grandparents, 128 fifth great-grandparents, 256 sixth great-grandparents, 512 seventh great-grandparents, 1024 eighth great-grandparents, 2048 ninth great-grandparents. For you to be born todays from 12 previous generations, you needed a total of 4096 over the last 400 years. Think for a moment - how many struggles? How many battles? How many difficulties? How much sadness? How much happiness? How many love stories? How many expressions of hope for the future? - did your ancestors have to undergo for you to exist in this present moment, and you want to end it?
Ah that discord video
@@IndiansAreWeirdos i spent a little time typing it out
i was just sooo teary throughout all of this, My coming out was relatively easy. I just know that some do not. #Respect x