As an over 60 male I agree with what you say. Scheduling is great because you have time to think about it and start looking forward to it. Toys and lubricants are part of our sex every time for a couple of reasons. One she doesn’t make her own lubricant like she use to and a good vibrator get her excited faster. For younger men quit thinking about yourself. The most important thing is to make sure she has an organism before you. I was in my 30s before I began to understand that and once I realized that sex became even greater, because there is nothing more exciting than watching her have her organism.
I completely agree with the end of your last sentence. I now suffer from extreme erectile dysfunction due to a radical prostatectomy three years ago. I'm now also suffering from delayed ejaculation (really it's delayed orgasm as I can now no longer ejaculate). I've shared with my wife that I now get my “orgasm” from watching her orgasm and not to worry about me. Sometimes it happens; most times not.
"For younger men quit thinking about yourself" When females date males that are taller, stronger, smarter, wealthier and overall higher status than they are, sexual, reproductive and maternal services are about the only remaining female contributions that make the relationship equal. Older dudes have no idea that modern females have shifted their gaze from the upper 20% of males to the upper 1%
Dr. This is the single best video from you in my opinion. You have hit every point needed that you and your partner should consider. #1 for me is communication. I agree with you that communication needs to happen outside the bedroom and everywhere else in our daily lives. Thank you for your time helping us, help ourselves.
One thing that women need to know about a man. We're not timeless nor are we ageless. And performances going to dwindle. If we don't supplement for the difference in our aging. It has nothing to do with the woman. Our brain wants her but our bodies can't keep up. It's a matter of communication yes. And she needs to be patient
I have found out there have been some reseasrch studies about BPA. Since we have gone from glass bottles to plastic. Men's stamina has dwindled since the conversion. Research studies have found that BPA is one of the leading cause and effects of ED.
Should mention that nonverbal sounds need to become a shared language, because being too verbal takes you out of the body awareness of inside and outside, plus simultaneous awareness of the partners responses and pleasure.
Dr Malik, I owe you a world of thanks. What you have shared is adding spunk to our lovelife. My wife and I have been married 67 years and are in almost unbelievable love. I consider my wife a god given gift. She has never had a headache and is the sexyest woman I have ever known. Needless to say the sex is outofthisworld. We have taken much of your advice to heart.
Number 10 exercise ! Rena, you sound like my lovely wife on that note! In any case , I am a senior, 71, and find your videos both enjoyable and informative. At the end of this video, when speaking of exercise, it reminded me of the joke: an elderly couple is on their front porch. The husband turns to his wife and says, “honey, it has been such a lovely day, what do you say that we go upstairs and have sex?” The wife turns to him and says, “pick one, the stairs or sex.”
No one taught me. But it’s common sense just like anything else in life. When I first became sexual, all I did was read about it to learn. And ask questions. I told my partner what I liked & asked him to tell me what he liked. If you can be sexually intimate with someone, how can people not feel comfortable about talking about intimacy? I mean you’re sleeping with this person. If you’re at that point you should already trust each other & know what each other wants. Or at least this is how it was years ago. Communication, education, honesty, love, trust & loyalty make a beautiful happy relationship. And the sex is just mind blowing. ❤
Dr. M. 🎉 If I had tried to communicate years earlier,my wife would have seen Her Gymo. Had her prolapsed utarus treated and wecwould have had about 10 more years of pleasurable sex. And no accusations of infidelity. Keep up your wonderful work.
So true that we don't learn how to communicate about sex. Worse, our society shames women for wanting sex, which handicaps their ability to communicate about something that definitely would get better with good communication. A barely-audible "Umh..." is supposed to mean "Lighter pressure on the cl**, please, with some circular motion at 11 o'clock, plus get a finger in there to touch the G-spot." For many women, getting them to say this requires an interrogation by New York's top detectives because while they generally want sex to be good, only bad girls come right out and say so. Men also could do a better job of doing exactly what she says she wants right when she says it. Gentlemen, when your woman asks for something, you ditch whatever it was you were doing and do that thing she asked for, as long as it isn't something you're not into. Learn to do it just the way she likes it. Once she gets the idea that you're listening to whatever feedback she gives you and taking it seriously, she will tell you how to make her experience better. Win-win.
My menopause as 42 now I’m 62, I believe for my lifestyle work out a lot so the sex not too bad. I am really enjoying more than I were younger, thank you so much for all your sharing Dr❤ i don’t need toy or anything to help to support just myself and my man super wonderful for me❤we like schedule for business before dinner I’m ready for look good and smell good 😂👍
As a man. When Dr. Malik is talking I only listen and take notes like I was a student in my anatomy and physiology class. We tend to assume that we’re born naturally gifted and ignore this subject until game time and you realize you ain’t got it. Guys take this opportunity with the Doc.
I wish you would cover addressing concerns with menopause. We haven't had physical intimacy in nearly two years. She has zero interest in sex. Her doctor insists she not take hormonal therapy until she's a year without a period. Unfortunately, yesterday she spotted, and now we have to wait another year. Masturbation makes me feel isolated and lonely.
I can completely empathize. And not every woman can do hormonal therapy either due to family cancer history, etc. That lack of drive puts a huge wedge between you. I could write a novel on this topic. Suffice it to say again I empathize from experience. I will say though with communication, intent, and counseling it can definitely get better.
I’m in the same boat. She is starting to realize that she needs HRT. It’s is causing major issues for our relationship. Basically it’s 10 minutes every 2 weeks she wants me. And that’s it. No consideration or empathy for partner. If I was in similar situation I’d at least do something/anything
Some women are like this irrespective of menopause. Super selfish, completely ignoring the realities of life. Way to deal with them? Find another woman and go guilt free. Not applicable to OP as his wife is going through menopause so not selfish, but even then, comminicate with her if she will allow you a mistress.
Dr. Malik, you recently posted a short about Sildenifil . As someone that has been diagnosed with an enlarged prostate (Caucasian, 65) about 15 years ago I have been taking 5 mg of Tadalafil a day to assist with it's control. I also take a bi-monthly T shot. I am also in a "dead bedroom" relationship (it's been about 10 years) but we have 5 kids, 9 grandkids and have been married for over 35 years, so there is no way we are gonna ever "change our situation". I would like to see a video on people like me (and according to Reddit there are a shit load of us!).....
If only my wife could mentally get 30% of this !!! Now she has comfort, a roof on her head and no fear of the future she behaves like an ice rock unless she has something to trade off.
thanks again for your clarity on a subject that here in america where the leftover Puritanical mindset imprisons those who are confined to societal norms
enjoyed this video, many things i wish i would have known and a couple that caused issues in my past, thanks for your wisdom and your relaxed delivery of the information
Seems like the hardest person to convince that it's okay to have an off love session with your partner as a man...is the man! Our egos are so fragile and pride is a inhibitor to success. Especially, after a cardiac event or procedure!
Her body is going through a change from childbearing ability to ceasing that function. My wife even became irritable; so she went to her doctor and got medical help. Encourage her to do so and give her a lot of effection.
Thanks for the video. I wish I had found your channel when I was younger. Of course, I realize that you probably didn't have this channel going before my health completely failed.
Is there a video on what to do when sexual energies are different? For example mine super high, my partner rather low...? If there isn't one, can we get one pretty please?
The number one way to always have pleasurable sex is to always be healthy yourself and sex with only a healthy individual. The fewer people involved the better.
My GF is entering pre-menopause at 41, she can get periods that will last 2-3 weeks on end, with abundant flow that would make a diva cup worthless in under half a morning shift at work, NOT JOKING. With the problems of access to gynos with the public health system crisis, she tries to find balance. Anything you think about Dr. that could be helpful?
I am 80 and your teaching me more than I have ever learned before. Thank you.
So sad for you! These are common sense points and you only learned then at 80?
@july-lian some people don't have common sense, like yourself.
Some people having learning disabilities. Give them grace
As an over 60 male I agree with what you say. Scheduling is great because you have time to think about it and start looking forward to it. Toys and lubricants are part of our sex every time for a couple of reasons. One she doesn’t make her own lubricant like she use to and a good vibrator get her excited faster. For younger men quit thinking about yourself. The most important thing is to make sure she has an organism before you. I was in my 30s before I began to understand that and once I realized that sex became even greater, because there is nothing more exciting than watching her have her organism.
I completely agree with the end of your last sentence. I now suffer from extreme erectile dysfunction due to a radical prostatectomy three years ago. I'm now also suffering from delayed ejaculation (really it's delayed orgasm as I can now no longer ejaculate). I've shared with my wife that I now get my “orgasm” from watching her orgasm and not to worry about me. Sometimes it happens; most times not.
Oh, those organisms! Hablas ingles?
"For younger men quit thinking about yourself"
When females date males that are taller, stronger, smarter, wealthier and overall higher status than they are, sexual, reproductive and maternal services are about the only remaining female contributions that make the relationship equal. Older dudes have no idea that modern females have shifted their gaze from the upper 20% of males to the upper 1%
@@GK-op4oc that would be sad. Watch an interview with Danica Patrick and Chris William it touches on this subject you wrote about
Sure, it's nice to see, but also men and women respond to orgasm differently, and men often get winded so should orgasm last
Dr. This is the single best video from you in my opinion. You have hit every point needed that you and your partner should consider. #1 for me is communication. I agree with you that communication needs to happen outside the bedroom and everywhere else in our daily lives. Thank you for your time helping us, help ourselves.
😊 0:15 😂🎉 thank 0:15
😅
One thing that women need to know about a man. We're not timeless nor are we ageless. And performances going to dwindle. If we don't supplement for the difference in our aging. It has nothing to do with the woman. Our brain wants her but our bodies can't keep up. It's a matter of communication yes. And she needs to be patient
Depending on your age you should know women are not patient 😂 but I definitely agree with your comment
Women are only about themselves, regardless what they say. I use that to play it in my favor. The woman wins and effort is minimal but important.
Doc, that's called communication. One part psychological, and one part physiological. And this is a single man talkin. For now.
I have found out there have been some reseasrch studies about BPA. Since we have gone from glass bottles to plastic. Men's stamina has dwindled since the conversion. Research studies have found that BPA is one of the leading cause and effects of ED.
@Warrior Beast 19 masturbating is like one of the main sources of that .. meaning you shouldn't masturbate
Should mention that nonverbal sounds need to become a shared language, because being too verbal takes you out of the body awareness of inside and outside, plus simultaneous awareness of the partners responses and pleasure.
Dr Malik, I owe you a world of thanks. What you have shared is adding spunk to our lovelife. My wife and I have been married 67 years and are in almost unbelievable love. I consider my wife a god given gift. She has never had a headache and is the sexyest woman I have ever known. Needless to say the sex is outofthisworld. We have taken much of your advice to heart.
Q giving each others a massage.
67 years...congratulations!
Every man and woman needs to hear this! Thanks
Number 10 exercise ! Rena, you sound like my lovely wife on that note! In any case , I am a senior, 71, and find your videos both enjoyable and informative. At the end of this video, when speaking of exercise, it reminded me of the joke: an elderly couple is on their front porch. The husband turns to his wife and says, “honey, it has been such a lovely day, what do you say that we go upstairs and have sex?” The wife turns to him and says, “pick one, the stairs or sex.”
Joke reversal. A 90yo man and a 30yo wife…she’s telling him to go upstairs and…he’s unable to do both😅
N nomop
I ask my wife that same question. Either she says yes. And I struggle .or she’s tired
You bring the second most important thing to the bedroom-a sense of humor. ❤
This is a really nice and informative video!! Your passion really shows!! Thanks a bunch doc!! ❤
Thank you Dr.
Your talk is so valuable for human being sexuality especially for younger couples.
No one taught me. But it’s common sense just like anything else in life. When I first became sexual, all I did was read about it to learn. And ask questions. I told my partner what I liked & asked him to tell me what he liked. If you can be sexually intimate with someone, how can people not feel comfortable about talking about intimacy? I mean you’re sleeping with this person. If you’re at that point you should already trust each other & know what each other wants. Or at least this is how it was years ago. Communication, education, honesty, love, trust & loyalty make a beautiful happy relationship. And the sex is just mind blowing. ❤
Make sense
Dr. You are a great blessing to the human race.
As always your my hero Doctor. Keep up the great work. Lots of good advice.
I am thankful that you have shared your knowledge with all of us. This may save some relationships along the way.
Dr Malik out here answering the important questions! Thank You!
What you are covering in this video is so good, people really need to hear stuff like this. You'd be surprised how clueless ppl are irl.
You are absolutely a savior. You always have a useful subject to share. You certainly helped with my past prostrate difficult period. Keep it up doc.
Dr. M. 🎉 If I had tried to communicate years earlier,my wife would have seen Her Gymo. Had her prolapsed utarus treated and wecwould have had about 10 more years of pleasurable sex. And no accusations of infidelity.
Keep up your wonderful work.
Thank you so much for your kind words and great suggestions and information
You always give excellent information Doctor Malik! Thank you for being there for Men & Women.
So true that we don't learn how to communicate about sex. Worse, our society shames women for wanting sex, which handicaps their ability to communicate about something that definitely would get better with good communication. A barely-audible "Umh..." is supposed to mean "Lighter pressure on the cl**, please, with some circular motion at 11 o'clock, plus get a finger in there to touch the G-spot." For many women, getting them to say this requires an interrogation by New York's top detectives because while they generally want sex to be good, only bad girls come right out and say so. Men also could do a better job of doing exactly what she says she wants right when she says it. Gentlemen, when your woman asks for something, you ditch whatever it was you were doing and do that thing she asked for, as long as it isn't something you're not into. Learn to do it just the way she likes it. Once she gets the idea that you're listening to whatever feedback she gives you and taking it seriously, she will tell you how to make her experience better. Win-win.
Well men shame us for wanting sex unless they are the only one they’ve ever had it with
"we all have sex"
woah hold on, you got a bit optimistic there doc 😂
My menopause as 42 now I’m 62, I believe for my lifestyle work out a lot so the sex not too bad. I am really enjoying more than I were younger, thank you so much for all your sharing Dr❤ i don’t need toy or anything to help to support just myself and my man super wonderful for me❤we like schedule for business before dinner I’m ready for look good and smell good 😂👍
Always intelligent and informative.
Wonderful information as always. Thank you Dr. Malik! 😊
Awesome!!!! I needed this,Dr.Rena Malik...
Hello, I been watching your video for awhile now, I must say. Very informative and not boring..class act. Appreciate the short lessons..
As a man. When Dr. Malik is talking I only listen and take notes like I was a student in my anatomy and physiology class. We tend to assume that we’re born naturally gifted and ignore this subject until game time and you realize you ain’t got it. Guys take this opportunity with the Doc.
LOL 😊
Exercise really is the key for Mr. Happy to be happy!
I wish you would cover addressing concerns with menopause. We haven't had physical intimacy in nearly two years. She has zero interest in sex. Her doctor insists she not take hormonal therapy until she's a year without a period. Unfortunately, yesterday she spotted, and now we have to wait another year. Masturbation makes me feel isolated and lonely.
I can completely empathize. And not every woman can do hormonal therapy either due to family cancer history, etc. That lack of drive puts a huge wedge between you. I could write a novel on this topic. Suffice it to say again I empathize from experience. I will say though with communication, intent, and counseling it can definitely get better.
1st....find a new dr.
I’m in the same boat. She is starting to realize that she needs HRT. It’s is causing major issues for our relationship. Basically it’s 10 minutes every 2 weeks she wants me. And that’s it. No consideration or empathy for partner. If I was in similar situation I’d at least do something/anything
Some women are like this irrespective of menopause. Super selfish, completely ignoring the realities of life.
Way to deal with them? Find another woman and go guilt free.
Not applicable to OP as his wife is going through menopause so not selfish, but even then, comminicate with her if she will allow you a mistress.
@@July-A7 I don’t know any woman that would allow a mistresses unless she doesn’t really want you herself 🤦🏻♀️
Dr. Rena l watch all your vlogs on UA-cam with great interest at 60 l learned a lot ❤
Dr. Malik, thanks for those 10 advices. Applied on time, they make the big difference…
I learn something from every one of your videos. Thank you so much and keep up the great work...
Would love to learn how your advice impacts your own relationship with your husband since all couples are different and behave/respond differently.
Thank You! You have taught me so much and brought so much benefit to the world!
Yup. It's how u say things get u up or u stay down. And find a different word than NO.
Dr. Malik, you recently posted a short about Sildenifil . As someone that has been diagnosed with an enlarged prostate (Caucasian, 65) about 15 years ago I have been taking 5 mg of Tadalafil a day to assist with it's control. I also take a bi-monthly T shot. I am also in a "dead bedroom" relationship (it's been about 10 years) but we have 5 kids, 9 grandkids and have been married for over 35 years, so there is no way we are gonna ever "change our situation". I would like to see a video on people like me (and according to Reddit there are a shit load of us!).....
Love from India. May your situation changes, too. 47, here.
@@rahuldoes me too same here
@@kabhisharma3464 ,that is how life rocks!
Hello Dr Malik .Thank you for your very informative information God bless you always. 🙏
Thanks
Amazing! You learn something every day!
Good video doctor rena I appreciate it very much 💪😎
Doc, you rock with the greatest advice and information!!!!! Thanks for being a down to Earth person!!!❤️
Dr. Rena,,, Thank you so much for your absolutely incredible analysis, Great video,,,, best regards,
This is fascinating...not sure it will restart an idle bedroom but these are things to consider. Thanks Rena!
Thank you beautiful doctor. Jim
Your husband is such a lucky man because you are amazing👏
Lmao
You are correct Doctor!
15:03 could you share the source of this study please
Yes, communication is the best for a good sex partnership. Thanks for being so upfront and to the point on these matters.
Valuable service, Rena Malik. Love your videos.
If only my wife could mentally get 30% of this !!! Now she has comfort, a roof on her head and no fear of the future she behaves like an ice rock unless she has something to trade off.
Your videos are very helpfull and infomative
Thanks for help Rena.
Best informative channel on the internet, imho. A++++
thanks again for your clarity on a subject that here in america where the leftover Puritanical mindset imprisons those who are confined to societal norms
I've just learned love beautiful woman ladies that are always there thank you so much for always
Thanks very much for your expertise on this particular subject!❤
I definitely open to my wife! She definitely knows what I feel and what I want!
I wonder if she practices what she preaches. I would be willing to learn new things with her and from her
Dr Rena, could you let us know about PT-141 Bremelanotide, what is it, does it work for men, any harmful side effects? Thanks
Great advice always enjoy your videos💕👍👍
Great advice! I need to improve in a few areas for my wife’s benefit.
❤❤it will get better and better because you have the perfect attitude ❤you are willing to listen and learn❤❤❤
enjoyed this video, many things i wish i would have known and a couple that caused issues in my past, thanks for your wisdom and your relaxed delivery of the information
Good information their Dr.
Pleasure each other.
Thanks for such great information
Damn... ThxSoMch. Appreciate you
Thank you for your lecture. Helps a lot!
Ordered a 15oz coffee cup. Trying to explain to my female urologist that coffee is the nectar of the ancient gods.
This was extraordinary information.. it works well for me..
You’re the best doc, thank you ❤
Parents should definitely teach their children about it.
Creepy
Seems like the hardest person to convince that it's okay to have an off love session with your partner as a man...is the man! Our egos are so fragile and pride is a inhibitor to success. Especially, after a cardiac event or procedure!
why ??
What if your spouse is continuously commenting about being tired and worn out ? Not exactly a turn on by no means . 😏😕
She's banging someone else
Is she going through menopause
@@tcb5141 Yeah
She may be cheating
Her body is going through a change from childbearing ability to ceasing that function. My wife even became irritable; so she went to her doctor and got medical help. Encourage her to do so and give her a lot of effection.
Thanks for the video. I wish I had found your channel when I was younger. Of course, I realize that you probably didn't have this channel going before my health completely failed.
Rena, you are excellent!
Is there a video on what to do when sexual energies are different? For example mine super high, my partner rather low...? If there isn't one, can we get one pretty please?
Respected Mam
Please let me know about ED and how to treating and how many treatments available of Venus leakage ?
still one of your best, rena!
Always great content.
"We all have sex" Now thats a lie 😅
Ha, ha, ha, just wanted to point the same 🤣🤣🤣
No problem for a nice cutie like her.
yea everyone knows married people do not..
We Mormons are not allowed to have sex for pleasure; only to bring babies to earth for their father who will become a go
Its been 5 years for me! Lol
I will recommend to use engine oil as lubricant 😭😂
always good advice.
Hi Dr. Very important 👍💯
The number one way to always have pleasurable sex is to always be healthy yourself and sex with only a healthy individual. The fewer people involved the better.
Great content!
Appreciate the effort keep doing it thanks
This is great advice!
Sounds good.. Sounds Good !!!
Useful information!
Excellent Doc thanks!
Thanks doc very helpful 👍 😀
Love your videos. Thank you.
My GF is entering pre-menopause at 41, she can get periods that will last 2-3 weeks on end,
with abundant flow that would make a diva cup worthless in under half a morning shift at work, NOT JOKING.
With the problems of access to gynos with the public health system crisis, she tries to find balance. Anything you think about Dr. that could be helpful?
Charity hospital
Use can use baby oil which is easily available as lubricant...🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing the information
Can you do a video on why a high body count in women and men is bad and wrong for your s3x life?
Appreciate ❤️
Best DR. ever. I wish she was my Dr. Hottest doctor too.
Nice video ⭕️