This is something I'm just realizing after doing some deep research on these personalities... I'm so disturbed that I almost married this person. They are absolutely creepy and I'm getting anxiety thinking about their "next move" once I cease all contact. Any advice?
You are so right. Being a primary supply is nothing to be proud of or a position to be envied. The primary supply is always treated the worse. I was the beautiful and educated trophy wife in front of people and a doormat behind closed doors for 24 years. I became so good at pretending that everyone thought we were the perfect couple and had the perfect marriage. Upon knowing on NPD, everything i had endured all these years made sense. He is a covert malignant narcissist and his discard was so brutal, cruel and callous. It was like as if I was trash. I now see it as a blessing. God's protection and re-direction for my life.
Same for me. I had what everybody thought was the perfect marriage (22 years). She was the perfect, kind and beautiful wife, I was the ever so good husband who could do no wrong. In public we were perfect. Behind closed doors she was a nightmare but I forgot about the behind closed doors version because I loved the public version and wanted to keep clinging to that. Then I got the very brutal discard - out of the blue - because of new supply. After 4 weeks I left and researched her behaviour and came across NPD and ,like you, things started to make sense to me. She was a very skilful covert. I couldn't understand how she could become so cold and disrespectful towards me after 22 years but this is what they do isn't it. Yes, like you, I now see it as a blessing. 12 months ago I was using You Tube to improve my DIY skills. Now I am using it to learn about NPD. Good luck on your journey.
@@janelleanderson6744 His flying monkeys and his family knew about the double life, his secret affairs and were in on it as they were being well compensated. To the rest he was this charming altruistic exemplary role model in our community. It was only after he left that many members of my family came forward with what they knew about his double life.
@@hazeleyes2381 WOW! Then Again People Don't Like To Get In Couples or Marriages. Because A LOT TIMES Like U Said U Put On ....A GOOD Actor That U Were FINE. And To Be Honest LADIES 😉 Guilty Of Taking Up For The MESS! Specially If I Don't Talk About To Them To Them. I Remember The Backlash When Either Not READY....Either MENTALLY Or PHYSICALLY Not Financial Stable To Leave...Yet! When FINALLY SET 🙌 BOUNDARIES U Do BE 💃
@@catherinewacker141 Catherine Im so very sorry this happened to your children and you... THE OFFENDER knows THE TRUTH, YOU know THE TRUTH, AND GOD knows THE TRUTH. In your knowing these basic facts, you may have some comfort knowing that God will take care of everything. He sees and knows your pain.
I have an 8 year old and he calls me trash and other names in front of him. I tell my son never treat a woman like that and i ignore his dumb ass father. He gets really pissed. I put my headphones on and let him rant like a fool. Ots hard but i refuse to gve in anymore. He wont leave and i cant move because of covid. No houses available now. But he is an evil human and im hating him more and more daily
they do! they slip up. my narc bro suffers Freudian slips, and says what he's thinking, it's revealed some crimes he has never, and would never admit to, things i've already called him out on. let them talk themselves into a corner. Personally, I keep away from these weirdos now, and live alone. I hope you have your life straight, and are narc free. Have a great day, man.
@@MHLivestreams Yes, I have a security videotape of my Narcissist projecting everything she was upon me. Some of the things I knew about, some I still do not and will never know because she hung herself to avoid facing public exposure of the Jezebel False Self. I wonder who hung her, her True Self, an abused child crying out for help or the False Self Jezebel to save them both from exposure, jail time, and destruction of any Pathological Narcissistic Space. Yes, life is best living alone if these predators are the option. They are jealous of neurotypical people because despite their false grandiosity, they are co-dependent on others (even the lowest of the low) for Narcissistic Supply.
Yes they do target confident, smart, and good looking people. It seems that they enjoy it when they toy with someone who is like that. It gives them better quality of fuel. It's like look how confident he/she is but we were able to manipulate him/her.
Theres one of those at my workplace and she seems to stalk me. I work on another floor for most of my shift and she just have to find a reason to go down there and kinda wonder around to see where I am. Mind you, we are both females but the way she is acting is like she has some other "ways" about her. I dont pay her or some of the others who need attention no mind. They like to make it seem as if I'm jealous of them but its them who see me socialize with other people and not say a word to them with no problem. What I know hurts their minuscule ego is to laugh at them but make it look like I'm laughing at something on listening to on my earplugs.😁
@@curli-lettey4319 True, but be careful now!! U don't need to rub it in their faces and piss them off like that. They turn vicious when you poke enough and trust it back fires.
No contact since 10 July 2020. Divorced him on 16 Oct 20. He tried to hoover me a month ago. Ignored him. Bought me a new car today. Moved on with my life and made new friends. Good luck to wife no 6.
Being wife number 5 could have been a warning. It was not. That's how callous narcs are. I am the son of a malignant covert one. Raised by the devil so to speak. Took me 54 years to find out. Yes, it ain't easy, but once you're over it life starts. Groetjes en sterkte btw.
My ex was a creepy narcissist. What I thought in the beginning that he must really like me. Coming to.my job standing there and watching me for hours. Now I know he was studying me. But you are right they are predators.
I act retarded or slow in front of people. Especially narcissist. You have to play a fool to catch a fool. Narcissist wants to know what you know, without them having to do the studying, going through life experiences. They know most people love showing how smart they are (pride,ego), so the narcissist will look for smart people to drain information from. If they think you’re dumb or slow, it will put a veil over their eyes. When they compliment you, immediately compliment them back. Because their complimenting you to see your reaction to the compliment, whether if your gullible or not. And their setting you up to lower your defenses,by making you think they are a friend and not a foe. Its a trick. Dont even relish in the compliment. Put the attention back on them.
Not all narcissist like smart people but if you play the game just be prepared to be burnt the game is to get out the game but four advice for the new subs here
@Bella Bella my older sister is the golden child and I hated her for it. I felt her life was way easier than mine because my parents forced me into the scapegoat and black sheep position and it was not easy to be in that position.
@@shug_no_avery8172 I keep running into them so i have learned definitely to be on guard at all times where ever i go. My parents are narcissists so I am very used to being around these types so I have to fight against the bad behavior and toxic environment that I got used to. They basically tried to make me the scapegoat child. They tried to make me think that i was the crazy one in the group by gaslighting me constantly. Anyways, glad to be no contact from them finally.
@@pazyamor1313 First he would say, “There is no us.” Next thing you know, he would be saying the opposite...trying to confuse and gaslight me. I was always onto him big time. It was the soul tie, that darned soul tie. It was hidden there, even after 40 years of not speaking with him until some months ago. Then it reared its deceptive head. Thankfully, I have learned. No contact has been in place for eight months.
@dr.carmenbryant my narcissists used his 68 year old uncle this past Monday. To gain entry into my home. Once in my house he was love bombing, blah blah. Once he could get what he wanted out of me. He called me a bitch. Went to my bedroom an stole my ruko. Now he is telling his family, I am lieing on him. She want to see me in jail. Omg.... I am mentally exhausted! 😢 He have a new supply since August. I don't think it is working out. Idc, I just want to know when will if ever leave me alone? I want peace.. I put up my boundaries... when I have been silent for to long. Here he comes! Mentally Tired 😫 😪
This hit heavy. I never thought about reasons why they give the silent treatment aside from punishment. The idea that they are focused on new supply blew my mind. Thank you for this.
When you are finally discarded there's already new supply waiting. Don't worry, the narc knows what he/she is doing. We do not. The supply must go on. In the eyes of the narc we are nothing more than supply. Yes, it's that bad.
I thought the same...how could someone have so much evil in them..I pray for their healing...and look forward to doing so myself...I’m am just coming out of my fog..it’s been 7 months..I’m finally starting to see who he was.
My narc was abused as a child. However he was raised by his narcissistic mother. He was the Holden child until his little brothers were born. He was rewarded by bad behavior. No regards/empath towards other people including myself. Around 9pm At times you would see eye of snake on his eyes. I was in no fear of the demon who would appear but would go away in the morning. After hours of mental abuse from my narc . Harassed me, stalked me, even put a tracking device on my car. He was definitely a predator and always looking for supply.
These people don't even like their children and they hurt them. I saw a vedio with my ex couple months ago with some object running after his son to kill him these people need to be deleted out of even their kids life
Thank you, I feel the same they have ownership, but in no way have their best interest at heart and like my case are so high risk from assessment that the future would be a roller coaster ride on the upside down
They love seeing fear or hurt in ppl & children this Narc / my daughter's dad harmed his son & came to my house I called the EMTs he said he fell at the park. Liess!! Something was wrong w. His (2yr old sons) arm..
My ex stopped speaking to/dealing with our children when I left. He's totally "disowned" them. At first I was very upset that a father could do that, before I understood what he is. Now that I've been on this year-long enlightenment of exactly what a narcissist is, I'm totally THANKFUL that he is removed from their lives. They are doing wonderfully, by the way. They are old enuf to know he is a jackass.
SILENCE! Yes, what they project to others IS opposite of who they really are. OMG this is so true! Listen so you can know them and their strategies. Gray rock it - so that’s what God was saying in my dream, be quiet and watch. Be alert! Be Wise! Keep emotions in check! I know I am slandered on a regular. Ha! God is emancipating this empath and making me into a mighty warrior in the presence of my enemies (parents, 3 sisters) Ha!
My husbands mom is a narcissist and I am just now realizing. She has done some really terrible things to me. I have been no contact for almost a year. She’s now starting to send gifts. I have stayed no contact. I am SO done.
it's horrible how sneaky they are, and wouldn't like to accept anything from them, but if you return it, it could draw attention more. i'm lucky because i don't have to be in contact with anyone, and nobody can really get to me. My own mother is a narc, ex-wife and elder brother. they are low-level people, best avoid them, and surround yourself with good people and nice things. have a great day.
Don't give in. She want you to be unhappy. Deep in her heart she wants to kill you. In order to ease her pain from childhood. You took her place as the first woman in your husband's life. She's second now since you married her son. We are talking jealousy here. And jealousy provokes hate. Be happy, stay no contact. Gifts from a narcissist are only a prelude to more pain and misery.
Tell it like it is Doc, I said it myself (Strong Woman). And he said to me, "I'mma break you" and trust me and you he almost did. But because of you and other programs I've listened to and learned from, ", I'm still here"and was able to escape. Thank you
My ex narc said the same thing in front of his grandma and he told me it two years ago too, not realizing that head set out to break me and destroy me. I should have ran for my life when he told me he was gonna break u until u learn to respect him and that day I was never the same with him again
Dr. Bryant this has been very helpful and confirming that I have been doing all the right things without even knowing it. I’m still in the home with this predictor and when I revealed to him that I saw him fully unmarked he has been avoiding being around me at all cost and has gone totally shut down. It’s been quiet & peaceful but I knew it was for punishment. Now that he sees his tactics aren’t working, he’s cycling back but I’m as grey as a 100 yr old woman’s hair. No emotions!
This advice is on point. I kept conversations with my mom to a minimum, but I slipped up to tell her info I learned about my deceased father. As soon as I thought we were having a cordial conversation she took the opportunity to throw my mistakes and insecurities in my face in a snide way to make me feel bad. It's best to stay mute with the narcissist.
13:30 that’s so crazy because he always said things that made no sense to the point I wondered was he “challenged”. I had no idea that was just manipulation to get correct info from me.
Examples : U can trust me / I aint that type / plz give me another chance / i promise ive changed ..." Those are phrases meaning I cant n wont trust the one saying them...they just grown from little 2 big bullies 😇 💗🌈🙏
Wow! You are sadly describing my life exactly! Now that realise what I’ve been suffering for so long and why, (plus my Children are 19 & 21),I’m now looking forward to ending this sick, abusive facade of a marriage. I stopped talking 3 months ago, when I realised our second lot of marriage counselling had failed. (Made him worse actually!) So I’m glad this is the same advice that you’re giving. Thank you for sharing your great insights.
Currently going through a situation and was actually thinking of responding back after two weeks of no communication. I wholeheartedly believe that this video was placed in my feed by a higher force for a specific reason. All of this to say, thank you.
Thank you for sharing. I am not crazy. 6 years no contact. Last thing I said to him " GET BEHIND ME SATAN". Setting up a therapist for complex PTSD. Please keep sharing. God bless
My ex plastered me and another girl all over social media before we began dating at the same time. It was so creepy because he excessively kept talking my about how he had a crush on both of us. Fast forward, he betrayed me for that girl and I found out that she was still a minor when he was doing all that. He was telling on himself the whole time and I overlooked it!
The last time he decided to dish out the silent treatment I decided to play him at his own game and told him if he wants the silent treatment he can have it permanently I havent uttered a word to him in 2 years I cut off all contact with him completely I can't see my self ever speaking to him again after 10 years of pure hell with his crap he now lodges with my neighbours
This video is AMAZING. I have experienced this soooo many times and I kept trying to prove myself and prove I am honest and trustworthy. They lie to rile you up when you try to be quiet and step away.
15:49 Amen!! You definately understand a narcissist. They are cunning and think they will out smart the system. As matter of fact, they're mediocre propensity is predictable and transparent, which in turn can play againts them. Thank you for your videos God Bless you Chi ❤
I'm not worried about the smear....anyone that actually knows me knows the truth. And I'm glad he left now. Did me a favor. If he snorts around again, that would be what I say, "Thank you for leaving. I'm free!" LOL. I'm moving on....God help the next one he stumbles on.
Advice for a grandmother whose daughter is narcissist and I have 3 grandsons. Ive gone no contact for a year. This was difficult but her jealousy of the grandkids love for me became a problem for the kids.
@@Faith-pf6cb, You can only control your own actions and protect yourself. I know someone going through that & she's had to use "tough love"...her daughter used her grandchildren against her...now no contact. She doesn't see her grandchildren, but she loves them & hopes someday they know the truth. She can't put her heart out there to be crushed by her daughter anymore though.
Girl I found out that the Narcissist that was in my life was in prison for murder and he was so abusive omg and the Narc look was pure evil so scary thank God I am away from him..
I really feel for you it's not as easy to move on and forget as the other person said...this is supposed to be a place for support...it isnt you it is them lovely I know how you feel it is heartbreaking x
@@vikki-leec6169 no its not easy at all i hate my self cus i love him and at the same time i hate everything about him and this has bean goung on with me 29 years long story i tried everything to leave him but my soul is with him
I know it hurts you, I have been there done that. But for yourself work on you and give them over to God. They go around seeing whom they can devour. And I know it’s hard but we have to forgive and move on. Forgiving ourselves as well. It breaks the (yolk) the bondage
@@amalalhalabi9541 you have a soultie with him that's making you feel that way. It's normal because your intentions for this person were genuine & they took you for granted. They are not sorry no matter how many times they say it. It will take longer for you to get him out of your system like Dr Carmen said. Your feelings aren't going to go away over night since it's been so long for you! You went through what you went through so that you can help someone else💖 RC Blake's Jr has videos on breaking Soulties.
Ugh I wish I had found your channel 2 years ago 🤦♀️ THANK YOU!!! This video alone has been more helpful and insightful than the 50 other videos I’ve watched combined!
NRC'S are such energy, joy and self esteem drained, Its toooooo muuuuuuch, I'm to old and to tired and god willingly I still have time for someone to value me for who iam and not for what I look like or how they can use me. I'm tired. Thank Dr. You break it down so vividly.
Yup! 50 years being surrounded by many of these predators. Watching you and others validate my life keeps me sane and alive. They simply can't put their masks back on. So so cruel. Still in it but implementing these tools to grow and go. Thank you, thank you🙏❤
My holiday Hoover started today, and he pop up out of the blue like nothing ever happened. I'll call the police so fast, he got back in his car and drove off.. 2020 is crazy all these people been getting killed smh.
My weakness is that I can get rode and arrogant when I am under stress. And I have been under tremendous stress for a long time, but I am working on myself through counseling, prayer, reading, writing and meditation. So lately I’ve been a calmer, nicer and more patient person. I am so thankful for the support I get here on UA-cam from you amazing couches and counselors. You give so much of yourselves to the public.
They think l am stupid and naive clearly...... I am not. Forty year old grown ass woman. Been through hell and back and l don't live in their dillusionary fantasy world of lies and bs.
They're opportunistic emotional predators period! I know this to be true through painful experience but man, it's exhausting always having to be on high alert around them when all you want is a normal interaction. Diabolical is how their minds work.
Told my husband, that i have been in fight or flight for 4 decades and he was gonna stop his shit or i was leaving he amped it up i left two weeks later my stress is greatly decreased.
4sure: 1. Be quiet & listen. 2. Let them talk & entrap themselves through their words. Mom used to say, think B4 You Speak!! ~Thx 4 another awesome video!!
That is deep. I have never heard it expressed so apropos. Narcissist sense your emotions as Heat. Like like FLIR forward-looking infrared. They zone in on your emotions like they are heat. That's a skill that is not of a human Source in my humble opinion
Excellent feedback! Best not to voice your opinion or get in a conversation it will all lead to an argument. They are oppositional so they can pull you into drama.
When I was a young empath I absorbed everything. Through learning! And grey rocking , I feel like I’ve been healing and learning to be a observer of my emotions instead of reacting has helped a lot. But I still slip up a lot, definitely a process.
Growing up with a narc means wondering. You knew from a young age and went greyrocking. The best thing to do. What else is there? You are getting wiser day by day and one day you will stop dealing with this sh*t. I tell you. And during your journey many of those around your narc do not learn a thing in life. Those are the current scapegoats, forgotten children, enablers and flying monkeys etc. Keep an eye on that too. You do well. So many are stuck in life while you grow. They take the misery every day again. You might slip every now and then. That's because you know what happened to you. You know what causes you to slip . It's your pain.Your anger. But you know where it all comes from. The others around your narc do not. You know what's good for you now. You are almost there. And very wise indeed.
Thank God for you on this holiday. I am grateful there are people like you in the world who totally understand major perception problems and personality issues. Thank you
Excellent info. Thank you, doctor! Also, any parents watching your video: Plz, plz, plz, do not ever vary from the court ordered parenting plan. One variation, such as having the narc parent keep the child during your appointed time for whatever reason, opens that door for the narc to run into court and take power of your child. And the family courts are so full of narc attorneys and judges, that they will stand against you and favor your narc for a 1 time event that is outside of the order. If you have to be away from your child for any reason during your ordered parenting time, plz make sure you have childcare through your connections ( unless the order says the narc parent has first right to care for the child when child care is needed). Follow that order to a "T" .
I saw the black in my predators eyes. I thought I was crazy and maybe seeing things because I was being abused for so long. During the end of the relationship, I started to "wake up" and would look into his eyes when he would abuse me and he would get even more angry. He would be so zoned out ...as if someone was else in his body. Thank you for this video! I'm trying to educated myself so I will not go back.
In a way you are dealing with two persons indeed. There's a hurt child protected by a mean mask. The mask is a defense mechanism. The mask is what/who you are dealing with. The hurt child is no longer there or what's left of it has nothing to say anymore. The mask took over long ago. You are dealing with a fake persona and nothing good can be expected. It took me 54 years to find out and I am happy to share. I love people. I do. Be wise and go no contact. No contact is your start to healing. If you stay you're surviving, never thriving. And since the narc's hate grows as time goes by, you will be killed in the end. Yes, murdered. Not kidding. Never a happy end with a narcissist.
I've been watching a lot of videos lately on narcissists and narcissism and hands down this is the absolute best video - as in really nailing down the pathology - I've seen so far. Thank you!
I've definitely study his behavior I pretend to engage in his petty arguments, and he either gets pissed or just starts saying shit the less I speak the madder he gets and the more he tells me what he doesn't want to 😑 he loves to push my buttons, and he knows that ghosting me hurts the most so he does it when he's upset.
I’ve been there too! Sometimes you can predict where they want the conversation to go so that they can engage you in mess. Whenever you talk to them, keep your emotions intact and keep it moving. You will see that the more that you just keep a cool head or ignore them, other than when they are chasing new supply, you won’t have to deal with them too much. One thing though, when you do engage with them and since you know and are pretending to engage by gray rock method, stay strong and be confident, that really grinds their gears and as long as you don’t engage too much, any scene that they make is on them. Best wishes on your journey!
Also, for when he uses “ghosting” to hurt you, start to learn and accept why they ghost. Once you start realizing that, you can start focusing on building and rebuilding yourself to a point that you look forward to wanting the ghosting to happen to give yourself some time for clarity and peace. The more time that you are alone and the fog lifts, the more you start to see just how awesome you really are!! :)
You don't wanna be their primary supply, Exopath got 2 hours 4x times a year in a high security contact centre, with the children one refuses most times, he's in jail again, they are 8 & 9 judge ruled never to have unsupervised contact
Get it Dr. Bryant!! Happy to see you thriving and on all these platforms now. I check back in to get my stores and reserves up but because of what you do I've come so far in this ordeal. Thanks for that alone no words can express my appreciation.
My daughter's father said the exact same thing to me. He said " just give me custody of her since you need child support." Meanwhile, he was living with some woman with 4 kids and using her for her vehicle and help with funding his life.
I'm so tired of him triangulating me with my oldest daughter. She can pick up my youngest but I have to argue and fight and he refuses. Its heartbreaking
I had a 2 month long distance relationship with a man who invited me to spend his birthday and Thanksgiving with him. Also, he invited me to stay with him in his home instead of a hotel. On the first day, he wanted to move me to relocate and move in. The next day he blamed me for his anger outbursts and kicked me out. I was confused. Prior to this, he would go silent; if I didn’t text him or call him back immediately. He told me plainly that he wanted me to feel what he felt. After watching your video, I have a better understanding of his behavior. Such a blessing, Thank you. I can have a better time letting him go.
Yes, I agree with you! I have changed my number and never looked back and didn't even try to reach out or anything! He sent my mother a text last month saying "happy new year's god bless you and your family, Love you." NOPE! I grabbed her phone and deleted the text and went no contact. He has me on the so-called silent treatment but I'm so glad I've the door and didn't fall for the bait! I'm trying to stay focused and stay strong and I refuse to bend to his will! Never!! No more of him causing pain I want to be free and be back to my old happy self again! BTW You look like Jlo with your hair like that, you so look so pretty
I’m in this situation where the narcissist expects me to be silent to help him cover his evil deeds and crimes. I know what hell will come when I expose him but I absolutely am afraid for society if I do not.
Don't expose. Go no contact. Worry for yourself. Society is the others. let society have the same experience with you narc as you had. That's life. That's how people know, suffer and grow. As you did. Nothing you can do about it. But grow. Don't take the burden. Start loving yourself instead of caring for unknown orhers. Your narc will loose in the end anyway. Let it be, let it go.
My mom is a narc.. The stare is omg makes u feel like u should crawl in a hole...the triangulation was so bad I dont have communication with any family. Im hoping to change that. I wrote my mom an email that i had forgiven her but we can no longer have a relationship. I went full n.c. and when she tried to call me and couldnt get thru the disconnected line, she called the police to my home (3×in 5yrs). Now the police are aware and she isnt allowed to waste their time.
The day you released this my now ex , no real fight at all, told me that I am a phukkin embarrassment and “get your shit out “. Friday after thanksgiving, I quietly moved out. I have never spoken or seen him. It’s January 2 and I am genuinely grateful. He has no conscience. One of your tribe /team members shared your channel. Thank you for your generosity and encouragement.
Mine kidnapped my child and went to psychologist and paid to make false accusations against me to say I was abusing my child. The supply he had was an addict just like him she stole 50,000 from him and I got my child back he never wanted to pay child support and was backed up. He hung himself even though I do not have to deal with him but it was traumatic for my kids especially my son who had to cut him down he did apologize before he killed himself for everything he put me through I still hate him but it's something I'm still dealing with
OMG!!!......may God in heaven comfort you and give you strength and especially give your children strength that they may still lead productive and happy lives despite this. May God's angels protect them!! 😔.....don't want to sound super religious but just wanted to say that. ☹️
Hey Dr. Carmen, thank you thank you, thank you for taking the time to help us, taking the time being here for us and taking the time to be there to help us heal. You are awesome 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Finally, after months of searching I find someone who makes so much sense on this awful topic. Thankyou doc, you just cleared my mind of so much junk in a lucid and non patronising manner :)
This video is on point 👌 thank God for the knowledge about narcissist personality disorder. It's never too late to learn something new; good supply are those who gets used the most until we wake up, and realized it's time to cut our loses and move on it's the best thing to do.
Wonderful video! You are the best. I listen to others who are great but you're the best. Some more spiritual, more emotional with their delivery and some who take you more into the minds of a narc but you're the most precise.
If I can listen to somebody for a whole 25 mins (the length of your video) and not be tempted to turn it off then I must have resonated with the things you said. I even made a few notes of the things you said because I don't want to forget them. Thanks Dr Carmen Bryant.
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse giving you a chance for what. You clearly know your stuff. I had quite a few light bulb moments with the things you said. Moments of validation. It's important for survivors to receive validation of what they have gone through.
WOW!!!!! The manipulation described in this video is EXACTLY what I have experienced!!!! The narcissist making false statements to get a response from me was super enlightening!!! Very manipulative.
All facts. Gray rocking is so hard. I let him talk to his son on his bday not trying to say nothing while he talking to his son throwing out tons of jabs, it’s like trying to turn the other cheek. gray rocking it’s hard but I’m trying. I just don’t want him to have leverage to say oh I am bitter or mad. When I feel I’m doing things out of hate. I try to shut it off cause I don’t wanna be like him. I now know he wants me to stoop to his level so he can tell ppl I’m so horrible. It’s hard tho.
They are thrilled when we stoop to their level. I feel dirty and numb after I cave in to the flesh and engage them on their level. It's disgusting behavior
They are predators, it's true and when you start to know them you realize they're creepy.
*very* creepy
Exactly that.. Creepy. You physically feel the evil and darkness that's in them.
Welp
Yes, you explained it well
This is something I'm just realizing after doing some deep research on these personalities... I'm so disturbed that I almost married this person. They are absolutely creepy and I'm getting anxiety thinking about their "next move" once I cease all contact. Any advice?
You are so right. Being a primary supply is nothing to be proud of or a position to be envied. The primary supply is always treated the worse. I was the beautiful and educated trophy wife in front of people and a doormat behind closed doors for 24 years. I became so good at pretending that everyone thought we were the perfect couple and had the perfect marriage. Upon knowing on NPD, everything i had endured all these years made sense. He is a covert malignant narcissist and his discard was so brutal, cruel and callous. It was like as if I was trash. I now see it as a blessing. God's protection and re-direction for my life.
Same for me. I had what everybody thought was the perfect marriage (22 years). She was the perfect, kind and beautiful wife, I was the ever so good husband who could do no wrong. In public we were perfect. Behind closed doors she was a nightmare but I forgot about the behind closed doors version because I loved the public version and wanted to keep clinging to that. Then I got the very brutal discard - out of the blue - because of new supply. After 4 weeks I left and researched her behaviour and came across NPD and ,like you, things started to make sense to me. She was a very skilful covert. I couldn't understand how she could become so cold and disrespectful towards me after 22 years but this is what they do isn't it. Yes, like you, I now see it as a blessing. 12 months ago I was using You Tube to improve my DIY skills. Now I am using it to learn about NPD. Good luck on your journey.
I have seen this document, on TV channels, about this killer, he was saying, he liked to see the person he's killing preying, and called him my lord.
Trust me; there were people who saw through your couple-facade. It's pretty easy to see through.
@@janelleanderson6744 His flying monkeys and his family knew about the double life, his secret affairs and were in on it as they were being well compensated. To the rest he was this charming altruistic exemplary role model in our community. It was only after he left that many members of my family came forward with what they knew about his double life.
@@hazeleyes2381 WOW! Then Again People Don't Like To Get In Couples or Marriages. Because A LOT TIMES Like U Said U Put On ....A GOOD Actor That U Were FINE. And To Be Honest LADIES 😉 Guilty Of Taking Up For The MESS! Specially If I Don't Talk About To Them To Them. I Remember The Backlash When Either Not READY....Either MENTALLY Or PHYSICALLY Not Financial Stable To Leave...Yet! When FINALLY SET 🙌 BOUNDARIES U Do BE 💃
They are way more work than they are worth. It's always a lopsided relationship with a fkn narc
That is totally true 👍
Most are predators and we are prey. When children get involved it is horrible for the children.
It's horrible what my children have been put through the last four years! Me? My whole life!
@@catherinewacker141
Catherine Im so very sorry this happened to your children and you...
THE OFFENDER knows THE TRUTH,
YOU know THE TRUTH,
AND GOD knows THE TRUTH.
In your knowing these basic facts, you may have some comfort knowing that God will take care of everything.
He sees and knows your pain.
I have an 8 year old and he calls me trash and other names in front of him. I tell my son never treat a woman like that and i ignore his dumb ass father. He gets really pissed. I put my headphones on and let him rant like a fool. Ots hard but i refuse to gve in anymore. He wont leave and i cant move because of covid. No houses available now. But he is an evil human and im hating him more and more daily
@@catherinewacker141 I been with a dude like this it so sad it mess my mind up my trust is bad
I’m single I can’t trust anybody or nobody sad
No contact is like taking the “ trash” out!!👍✌🏻
In my family, I was the truth, which is why they tried to destroy me.
Don't look back. It's a mess since you left. X
Yes, Narcissists tell on themselves.
Yep
Yep...all the time!
they do! they slip up. my narc bro suffers Freudian slips, and says what he's thinking, it's revealed some crimes he has never, and would never admit to, things i've already called him out on. let them talk themselves into a corner. Personally, I keep away from these weirdos now, and live alone. I hope you have your life straight, and are narc free. Have a great day, man.
@@MHLivestreams Yes, I have a security videotape of my Narcissist projecting everything she was upon me. Some of the things I knew about, some I still do not and will never know because she hung herself to avoid facing public exposure of the Jezebel False Self. I wonder who hung her, her True Self, an abused child crying out for help or the False Self Jezebel to save them both from exposure, jail time, and destruction of any Pathological Narcissistic Space. Yes, life is best living alone if these predators are the option. They are jealous of neurotypical people because despite their false grandiosity, they are co-dependent on others (even the lowest of the low) for Narcissistic Supply.
Yes they do.
Yes they do target confident, smart, and good looking people. It seems that they enjoy it when they toy with someone who is like that. It gives them better quality of fuel. It's like look how confident he/she is but we were able to manipulate him/her.
Theres one of those at my workplace and she seems to stalk me.
I work on another floor for most of my shift and she just have to find a reason to go down there and kinda wonder around to see where I am.
Mind you, we are both females but the way she is acting is like she has some other "ways" about her.
I dont pay her or some of the others who need attention no mind.
They like to make it seem as if I'm jealous of them but its them who see me socialize with other people and not say a word to them with no problem.
What I know hurts their minuscule ego is to laugh at them but make it look like I'm laughing at something on listening to on my earplugs.😁
@@curli-lettey4319 True, but be careful now!! U don't need to rub it in their faces and piss them off like that. They turn vicious when you poke enough and trust it back fires.
No contact since 10 July 2020. Divorced him on 16 Oct 20. He tried to hoover me a month ago. Ignored him. Bought me a new car today. Moved on with my life and made new friends. Good luck to wife no 6.
Being wife number 5 could have been a warning. It was not. That's how callous narcs are. I am the son of a malignant covert one. Raised by the devil so to speak. Took me 54 years to find out. Yes, it ain't easy, but once you're over it life starts. Groetjes en sterkte btw.
Also the “Holiday Hoover” has begun, as we speak! 😂😂😂 🪨 Grey rocking we will go!
You ain't never lie😂🤣😅🤔🤐
I always get the sweet sheep and as soon as the food digests here comes that wolf!
Block and delete is the best way to eliminate a hoover.
☝️ right there is step one 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
That sounds like the name of a Christmas carol
I've seen the black eyes for sure.
Scary I see him switch up in seconds
@@BLIQUEMIST26 Yep
The Narc I have a child with his gf/bm eyes turned Jet Black on me.. I turned back to look at her & boom there they were! Revealing itself..
@@eerynessential wow, straight demon
Maaaaaaaaannnnnnn I saw it too!!!! that shit bugged me all the way out!!! I had to blink thrice to see if I was seeing what I was seeing...
My ex was a creepy narcissist. What I thought in the beginning that he must really like me. Coming to.my job standing there and watching me for hours. Now I know he was studying me. But you are right they are predators.
Eek!
I act retarded or slow in front of people. Especially narcissist. You have to play a fool to catch a fool. Narcissist wants to know what you know, without them having to do the studying, going through life experiences. They know most people love showing how smart they are (pride,ego), so the narcissist will look for smart people to drain information from. If they think you’re dumb or slow, it will put a veil over their eyes. When they compliment you, immediately compliment them back. Because their complimenting you to see your reaction to the compliment, whether if your gullible or not. And their setting you up to lower your defenses,by making you think they are a friend and not a foe. Its a trick. Dont even relish in the compliment. Put the attention back on them.
Not all narcissist like smart people but if you play the game just be prepared to be burnt the game is to get out the game but four advice for the new subs here
They are terrors
Watching for hours.. that's a ghost. All narcs r ghosts
I’m so happy I’m a super empath now... I remember my younger days smh. Observe do not absorb!
Great advice and so important for highly sensitive people who are around insensitive people-
observe, but do not absorb. ⭐️ golden
The golden child is cruel for sure.
@Bella Bella my older sister is the golden child and I hated her for it. I felt her life was way easier than mine because my parents forced me into the scapegoat and black sheep position and it was not easy to be in that position.
I believe that the golden child always turns into the narc
@@shug_no_avery8172 yes, I see it. Also like the first lieutenant for a parent narc I noticed as well.
@@TheLordsbattleaxe yes def. not sure where and who groomed me but this is my first and prayerfully will be my last relationship with a narcissist
@@shug_no_avery8172 I keep running into them so i have learned definitely to be on guard at all times where ever i go. My parents are narcissists so I am very used to being around these types so I have to fight against the bad behavior and toxic environment that I got used to. They basically tried to make me the scapegoat child. They tried to make me think that i was the crazy one in the group by gaslighting me constantly. Anyways, glad to be no contact from them finally.
He talked my ear off then, when I finally told him that all he ever did was talk about himself, he said...”That hurts.”
It's always about them. I use to say "yes but what about me,us?"
@@pazyamor1313 First he would say, “There is no us.” Next thing you know, he would be saying the opposite...trying to confuse and gaslight me. I was always onto him big time. It was the soul tie, that darned soul tie. It was hidden there, even after 40 years of not speaking with him until some months ago. Then it reared its deceptive head. Thankfully, I have learned. No contact has been in place for eight months.
@@Eponagirl0810 imagine recording them and playing it back to them? saying "listen to how fucking nuts you are".....
They are simple and complicated at the same time. Need to remember this.
Very shallow people.
@@michaeljackson7361 i learned that superficial image to the public is everything to them.
@@TheLordsbattleaxe they are so phoney. Actually they make me sick to my stomach anymore.
@@michaeljackson7361 i definitely get sick to my stomach if one is in the same house as me i know that much.
@dr.carmenbryant my narcissists used his 68 year old uncle this past Monday. To gain entry into my home. Once in my house he was love bombing, blah blah.
Once he could get what he wanted out of me. He called me a bitch. Went to my bedroom an stole my ruko. Now he is telling his family, I am lieing on him. She want to see me in jail.
Omg.... I am mentally exhausted! 😢
He have a new supply since August. I don't think it is working out. Idc, I just want to know when will if ever leave me alone? I want peace..
I put up my boundaries... when I have been silent for to long. Here he comes!
Mentally Tired 😫 😪
This hit heavy. I never thought about reasons why they give the silent treatment aside from punishment. The idea that they are focused on new supply blew my mind. Thank you for this.
I never knew that either
When you are finally discarded there's already new supply waiting. Don't worry, the narc knows what he/she is doing. We do not. The supply must go on. In the eyes of the narc we are nothing more than supply. Yes, it's that bad.
I thought the same...how could someone have so much evil in them..I pray for their healing...and look forward to doing so myself...I’m am just coming out of my fog..it’s been 7 months..I’m finally starting to see who he was.
Me too. I can be in and out of cognitive dissonance and I think that is normal at times as we work through the fog as you say.
Narcissists can't heal. Sad but true.
Being a primary supply is not a good thing.
My narc was abused as a child. However he was raised by his narcissistic mother. He was the Holden child until his little brothers were born. He was rewarded by bad behavior. No regards/empath towards other people including myself. Around 9pm At times you would see eye of snake on his eyes. I was in no fear of the demon who would appear but would go away in the morning. After hours of mental abuse from my narc . Harassed me, stalked me, even put a tracking device on my car. He was definitely a predator and always looking for supply.
These people don't even like their children and they hurt them. I saw a vedio with my ex couple months ago with some object running after his son to kill him these people need to be deleted out of even their kids life
Thank you, I feel the same they have ownership, but in no way have their best interest at heart and like my case are so high risk from assessment that the future would be a roller coaster ride on the upside down
Facts!
They love seeing fear or hurt in ppl & children this Narc / my daughter's dad harmed his son & came to my house I called the EMTs he said he fell at the park. Liess!! Something was wrong w. His (2yr old sons) arm..
My ex stopped speaking to/dealing with our children when I left. He's totally "disowned" them. At first I was very upset that a father could do that, before I understood what he is. Now that I've been on this year-long enlightenment of exactly what a narcissist is, I'm totally THANKFUL that he is removed from their lives. They are doing wonderfully, by the way. They are old enuf to know he is a jackass.
This was excellent !
SILENCE! Yes, what they project to others IS opposite of who they really are. OMG this is so true! Listen so you can know them and their strategies. Gray rock it - so that’s what God was saying in my dream, be quiet and watch. Be alert! Be Wise! Keep emotions in check! I know I am slandered on a regular. Ha! God is emancipating this empath and making me into a mighty warrior in the presence of my enemies (parents, 3 sisters) Ha!
My husbands mom is a narcissist and I am just now realizing. She has done some really terrible things to me. I have been no contact for almost a year. She’s now starting to send gifts. I have stayed no contact. I am SO done.
it's horrible how sneaky they are, and wouldn't like to accept anything from them, but if you return it, it could draw attention more. i'm lucky because i don't have to be in contact with anyone, and nobody can really get to me. My own mother is a narc, ex-wife and elder brother. they are low-level people, best avoid them, and surround yourself with good people and nice things. have a great day.
Don't give in. She want you to be unhappy. Deep in her heart she wants to kill you. In order to ease her pain from childhood. You took her place as the first woman in your husband's life. She's second now since you married her son. We are talking jealousy here. And jealousy provokes hate. Be happy, stay no contact. Gifts from a narcissist are only a prelude to more pain and misery.
Tell it like it is Doc, I said it myself (Strong Woman). And he said to me, "I'mma break you" and trust me and you he almost did. But because of you and other programs I've listened to and learned from, ", I'm still here"and was able to escape. Thank you
Praise God!
My ex narc said the same thing in front of his grandma and he told me it two years ago too, not realizing that head set out to break me and destroy me. I should have ran for my life when he told me he was gonna break u until u learn to respect him and that day I was never the same with him again
The best favor he ever did was forcing me to abort his children
Dr. Bryant this has been very helpful and confirming that I have been doing all the right things without even knowing it. I’m still in the home with this predictor and when I revealed to him that I saw him fully unmarked he has been avoiding being around me at all cost and has gone totally shut down. It’s been quiet & peaceful but I knew it was for punishment. Now that he sees his tactics aren’t working, he’s cycling back but I’m as grey as a 100 yr old woman’s hair. No emotions!
Well done, you’ve got this! 😘
Indeed! They pry on your emotions and use this to their benefit.
This advice is on point. I kept conversations with my mom to a minimum, but I slipped up to tell her info I learned about my deceased father. As soon as I thought we were having a cordial conversation she took the opportunity to throw my mistakes and insecurities in my face in a snide way to make me feel bad. It's best to stay mute with the narcissist.
It is not cruel. They do prey on people. They are predators.
They are a "predator" - awful human beings.
I can sense when they try to induce me into conversation. I have told them: I am not answering questions, or, I do not consent .
If you so happy what you doing at my damn door is all I wanna know 🤨
13:30 that’s so crazy because he always said things that made no sense to the point I wondered was he “challenged”. I had no idea that was just manipulation to get correct info from me.
Examples : U can trust me / I aint that type / plz give me another chance / i promise ive changed ..."
Those are phrases meaning I cant n wont trust the one saying them...they just grown from little 2 big bullies 😇 💗🌈🙏
Wow! You are sadly describing my life exactly! Now that realise what I’ve been suffering for so long and why, (plus my Children are 19 & 21),I’m now looking forward to ending this sick, abusive facade of a marriage.
I stopped talking 3 months ago, when I realised our second lot of marriage counselling had failed. (Made him worse actually!) So I’m glad this is the same advice that you’re giving. Thank you for sharing your great insights.
Currently going through a situation and was actually thinking of responding back after two weeks of no communication. I wholeheartedly believe that this video was placed in my feed by a higher force for a specific reason. All of this to say, thank you.
Stay strong Queen
I hope you are still in no contact. It's our only way to prosperity. Our only way.
"Are you cheating me? Are you cheating me with your ex??!" - Said the narcissist that was cheating me and even made the woman pregnant.
Oh do they shift the blame.
Oof, this was the most effective trigger to make me cough up supply...
Lmao wow fucking sick
I Saw The Black Eyes For Sure When He Knew I Knew..The Devil
Thank you for sharing. I am not crazy. 6 years no contact. Last thing I said to him " GET BEHIND ME SATAN". Setting up a therapist for complex PTSD. Please keep sharing. God bless
My ex plastered me and another girl all over social media before we began dating at the same time. It was so creepy because he excessively kept talking my about how he had a crush on both of us. Fast forward, he betrayed me for that girl and I found out that she was still a minor when he was doing all that. He was telling on himself the whole time and I overlooked it!
The last time he decided to dish out the silent treatment I decided to play him at his own game and told him if he wants the silent treatment he can have it permanently I havent uttered a word to him in 2 years I cut off all contact with him completely I can't see my self ever speaking to him again after 10 years of pure hell with his crap he now lodges with my neighbours
Yep, The Devil will reveal itself for sure. That I know. 💯
This video is AMAZING. I have experienced this soooo many times and I kept trying to prove myself and prove I am honest and trustworthy. They lie to rile you up when you try to be quiet and step away.
I just sit back and watch lol. I wish him all the best....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
All the best what?
15:49 Amen!! You definately understand a narcissist. They are cunning and think they will out smart the system. As matter of fact, they're mediocre propensity is predictable and transparent, which in turn can play againts them.
Thank you for your videos
God Bless you
Chi ❤
I'm not worried about the smear....anyone that actually knows me knows the truth.
And I'm glad he left now. Did me a favor. If he snorts around again, that would be what I say, "Thank you for leaving. I'm free!" LOL.
I'm moving on....God help the next one he stumbles on.
Advice for a grandmother whose daughter is narcissist and I have 3 grandsons. Ive gone no contact for a year. This was difficult but her jealousy of the grandkids love for me became a problem for the kids.
@@Faith-pf6cb, You can only control your own actions and protect yourself. I know someone going through that & she's had to use "tough love"...her daughter used her grandchildren against her...now no contact. She doesn't see her grandchildren, but she loves them & hopes someday they know the truth. She can't put her heart out there to be crushed by her daughter anymore though.
Wow so on point. I’m a empath I don’t have the energy anymore for the bs his eyes are so dark I can’t look into them..
Girl I found out that the Narcissist that was in my life was in prison for murder and he was so abusive omg and the Narc look was pure evil so scary thank God I am away from him..
Yes exopath had a forensic Psychologist report in our case he was diagnosed with malignant NPD and Psychopathy
Even no contact hes sill killing me cus of his selfishness and how he goes on with his normal life i belive he is devil
I really feel for you it's not as easy to move on and forget as the other person said...this is supposed to be a place for support...it isnt you it is them lovely I know how you feel it is heartbreaking x
@@vikki-leec6169 no its not easy at all i hate my self cus i love him and at the same time i hate everything about him and this has bean goung on with me 29 years long story i tried everything to leave him but my soul is with him
I know it hurts you, I have been there done that.
But for yourself work on you and give them over to God.
They go around seeing whom they can devour.
And I know it’s hard but we have to forgive and move on.
Forgiving ourselves as well.
It breaks the (yolk) the bondage
@@amalalhalabi9541 you have a soultie with him that's making you feel that way. It's normal because your intentions for this person were genuine & they took you for granted. They are not sorry no matter how many times they say it. It will take longer for you to get him out of your system like Dr Carmen said. Your feelings aren't going to go away over night since it's been so long for you! You went through what you went through so that you can help someone else💖 RC Blake's Jr has videos on breaking Soulties.
@@user-tk9wx8bl3s yes we HAVE to Forgive them🙌🏾💖 and most importantly OURSELVES. 🥰
Ugh I wish I had found your channel 2 years ago 🤦♀️ THANK YOU!!! This video alone has been more helpful and insightful than the 50 other videos I’ve watched combined!
I watch a lot of different N channels, I LOVE how straight talking, accurate and super perceptive you are! Thanks for sharing and spreading 🙏💯👌
Thank you so much and thank you for being here
That's so true, if someone is really happy then they are busy actually being happy, not talking about it.
NRC'S are such energy, joy and self esteem drained, Its toooooo muuuuuuch, I'm to old and to tired and god willingly I still have time for someone to value me for who iam and not for what I look like or how they can use me. I'm tired. Thank Dr. You break it down so vividly.
I have felt that evil emanating from the malignant marcissists I have encountered.
Yup! 50 years being surrounded by many of these predators. Watching you and others validate my life keeps me sane and alive. They simply can't put their masks back on. So so cruel. Still in it but implementing these tools to grow and go. Thank you, thank you🙏❤
My holiday Hoover started today, and he pop up out of the blue like nothing ever happened. I'll call the police so fast, he got back in his car and drove off.. 2020 is crazy all these people been getting killed smh.
My weakness is that I can get rode and arrogant when I am under stress. And I have been under tremendous stress for a long time, but I am working on myself through counseling, prayer, reading, writing and meditation. So lately I’ve been a calmer, nicer and more patient person. I am so thankful for the support I get here on UA-cam from you amazing couches and counselors. You give so much of yourselves to the public.
They think l am stupid and naive clearly...... I am not. Forty year old grown ass woman. Been through hell and back and l don't live in their dillusionary fantasy world of lies and bs.
They're opportunistic emotional predators period! I know this to be true through painful experience but man, it's exhausting always having to be on high alert around them when all you want is a normal interaction. Diabolical is how their minds work.
True, you are in a constant state of fight or flee, and it takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally, and physically
Told my husband, that i have been in fight or flight for 4 decades and he was gonna stop his shit or i was leaving he amped it up i left two weeks later my stress is greatly decreased.
4sure: 1. Be quiet & listen. 2. Let them talk & entrap themselves through their words. Mom used to say, think B4 You Speak!! ~Thx 4 another awesome video!!
That is deep. I have never heard it expressed so apropos. Narcissist sense your emotions as Heat.
Like like FLIR forward-looking infrared. They zone in on your emotions like they are heat. That's a skill that is not of a human Source in my humble opinion
Excellent feedback! Best not to voice your opinion or get in a conversation it will all lead to an argument. They are oppositional so they can pull you into drama.
When I was a young empath I absorbed everything. Through learning! And grey rocking , I feel like I’ve been healing and learning to be a observer of my emotions instead of reacting has helped a lot. But I still slip up a lot, definitely a process.
Growing up with a narc means wondering. You knew from a young age and went greyrocking. The best thing to do. What else is there? You are getting wiser day by day and one day you will stop dealing with this sh*t. I tell you. And during your journey many of those around your narc do not learn a thing in life. Those are the current scapegoats, forgotten children, enablers and flying monkeys etc. Keep an eye on that too. You do well. So many are stuck in life while you grow. They take the misery every day again. You might slip every now and then. That's because you know what happened to you. You know what causes you to slip . It's your pain.Your anger. But you know where it all comes from. The others around your narc do not. You know what's good for you now. You are almost there. And very wise indeed.
Thank God for you on this holiday. I am grateful there are people like you in the world who totally understand major perception problems and personality issues. Thank you
Excellent info. Thank you, doctor!
Also, any parents watching your video:
Plz, plz, plz, do not ever vary from the court ordered parenting plan. One variation, such as having the narc parent keep the child during your appointed time for whatever reason, opens that door for the narc to run into court and take power of your child.
And the family courts are so full of narc attorneys and judges, that they will stand against you and favor your narc for a 1 time event that is outside of the order.
If you have to be away from your child for any reason during your ordered parenting time, plz make sure you have childcare through your connections ( unless the order says the narc parent has first right to care for the child when child care is needed).
Follow that order to a "T" .
I saw the black in my predators eyes. I thought I was crazy and maybe seeing things because I was being abused for so long. During the end of the relationship, I started to "wake up" and would look into his eyes when he would abuse me and he would get even more angry. He would be so zoned out ...as if someone was else in his body. Thank you for this video! I'm trying to educated myself so I will not go back.
In a way you are dealing with two persons indeed. There's a hurt child protected by a mean mask. The mask is a defense mechanism. The mask is what/who you are dealing with. The hurt child is no longer there or what's left of it has nothing to say anymore. The mask took over long ago. You are dealing with a fake persona and nothing good can be expected. It took me 54 years to find out and I am happy to share. I love people. I do. Be wise and go no contact. No contact is your start to healing. If you stay you're surviving, never thriving. And since the narc's hate grows as time goes by, you will be killed in the end. Yes, murdered. Not kidding. Never a happy end with a narcissist.
I've been watching a lot of videos lately on narcissists and narcissism and hands down this is the absolute best video - as in really nailing down the pathology - I've seen so far. Thank you!
Thank you so much and thank you for your support
I've definitely study his behavior I pretend to engage in his petty arguments, and he either gets pissed or just starts saying shit the less I speak the madder he gets and the more he tells me what he doesn't want to 😑 he loves to push my buttons, and he knows that ghosting me hurts the most so he does it when he's upset.
I’ve been there too! Sometimes you can predict where they want the conversation to go so that they can engage you in mess. Whenever you talk to them, keep your emotions intact and keep it moving. You will see that the more that you just keep a cool head or ignore them, other than when they are chasing new supply, you won’t have to deal with them too much. One thing though, when you do engage with them and since you know and are pretending to engage by gray rock method, stay strong and be confident, that really grinds their gears and as long as you don’t engage too much, any scene that they make is on them. Best wishes on your journey!
Also, for when he uses “ghosting” to hurt you, start to learn and accept why they ghost. Once you start realizing that, you can start focusing on building and rebuilding yourself to a point that you look forward to wanting the ghosting to happen to give yourself some time for clarity and peace. The more time that you are alone and the fog lifts, the more you start to see just how awesome you really are!! :)
@@KeeKeeM87 Thank you it's very difficult when you love someone like this, hardest thing ever! But this to shall pass.
Great info thank you
You don't wanna be their primary supply, Exopath got 2 hours 4x times a year in a high security contact centre, with the children one refuses most times, he's in jail again, they are 8 & 9 judge ruled never to have unsupervised contact
What did he do?
I'd have to write a book and plan to one-day soon, it's all very bad violence, also I have to be careful with triggering myself
Predator yes
Get it Dr. Bryant!! Happy to see you thriving and on all these platforms now. I check back in to get my stores and reserves up but because of what you do I've come so far in this ordeal. Thanks for that alone no words can express my appreciation.
You are right they always tell off on themselves
My daughter's father said the exact same thing to me. He said " just give me custody of her since you need child support." Meanwhile, he was living with some woman with 4 kids and using her for her vehicle and help with funding his life.
I'm so tired of him triangulating me with my oldest daughter. She can pick up my youngest but I have to argue and fight and he refuses. Its heartbreaking
Keep your boundaries 💞
I had a 2 month long distance relationship with a man who invited me to spend his birthday and Thanksgiving with him. Also, he invited me to stay with him in his home instead of a hotel. On the first day, he wanted to move me to relocate and move in. The next day he blamed me for his anger outbursts and kicked me out. I was confused. Prior to this, he would go silent; if I didn’t text him or call him back immediately. He told me plainly that he wanted me to feel what he felt. After watching your video, I have a better understanding of his behavior. Such a blessing, Thank you. I can have a better time letting him go.
Yes, I agree with you! I have changed my number and never looked back and didn't even try to reach out or anything! He sent my mother a text last month saying "happy new year's god bless you and your family, Love you." NOPE! I grabbed her phone and deleted the text and went no contact. He has me on the so-called silent treatment but I'm so glad I've the door and didn't fall for the bait!
I'm trying to stay focused and stay strong and I refuse to bend to his will! Never!!
No more of him causing pain I want to be free and be back to my old happy self again!
BTW You look like Jlo with your hair like that, you so look so pretty
Thank you for your assistance & dedication to this topic. Thank you for teaching ❤ us
Amen you’re right on point! God bless...💃🏻
You are so spot on it's crazy! Lol Your so right about all that you said!
The predator looked terrible. Lol. I know this is a serious topic. But we used to laugh about that.
He came to pick up his stuff and looked a Mess oh well hurry up and go✌️
When the one I know dies ? Be no funeral and it's ashes will go in a rubbish bin.
Silent for 2weeks now and never letting it any where near me again.
I’m in this situation where the narcissist expects me to be silent to help him cover his evil deeds and crimes. I know what hell will come when I expose him but I absolutely am afraid for society if I do not.
Don't expose. Go no contact. Worry for yourself. Society is the others. let society have the same experience with you narc as you had. That's life. That's how people know, suffer and grow. As you did. Nothing you can do about it. But grow. Don't take the burden. Start loving yourself instead of caring for unknown orhers. Your narc will loose in the end anyway. Let it be, let it go.
My mom is a narc.. The stare is omg makes u feel like u should crawl in a hole...the triangulation was so bad I dont have communication with any family. Im hoping to change that. I wrote my mom an email that i had forgiven her but we can no longer have a relationship. I went full n.c. and when she tried to call me and couldnt get thru the disconnected line, she called the police to my home (3×in 5yrs). Now the police are aware and she isnt allowed to waste their time.
The day you released this my now ex , no real fight at all, told me that I am a phukkin embarrassment and “get your shit out “. Friday after thanksgiving, I quietly moved out. I have never spoken or seen him. It’s January 2 and I am genuinely grateful. He has no conscience. One of your tribe /team members shared your channel. Thank you for your generosity and encouragement.
Thank you so much for being here
Mine kidnapped my child and went to psychologist and paid to make false accusations against me to say I was abusing my child. The supply he had was an addict just like him she stole 50,000 from him and I got my child back he never wanted to pay child support and was backed up. He hung himself even though I do not have to deal with him but it was traumatic for my kids especially my son who had to cut him down he did apologize before he killed himself for everything he put me through I still hate him but it's something I'm still dealing with
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OMG!!!......may God in heaven comfort you and give you strength and especially give your children strength that they may still lead productive and happy lives despite this. May God's angels protect them!! 😔.....don't want to sound super religious but just wanted to say that. ☹️
Hey Dr. Carmen, thank you thank you, thank you for taking the time to help us, taking the time being here for us and taking the time to be there to help us heal. You are awesome 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Awesome video 👍🏾 Making more sense as time went by. It’s always good to me to replay these videos 👍🏾
Thank you I'll keep my mouth shut even more now. Thank you.
Finally, after months of searching I find someone who makes so much sense on this awful topic. Thankyou doc, you just cleared my mind of so much junk in a lucid and non patronising manner :)
HAPPY THANKS Dr. Bryant! 💐 So grateful for your work! Thanks for your GOD given healing inspiration! 🌸 Love U 🙏🏾💖✊🏾🔥
This video is on point 👌 thank God for the knowledge about narcissist personality disorder. It's never too late to learn something new; good supply are those who gets used the most until we wake up, and realized it's time to cut our loses and move on it's the best thing to do.
Thank you so much. Very insightful. I love this. Great assessment.
👏👏👏Yes, we all have weknes, that is different as to be weak. Thats why we have to know ourselfes and do our work!
Wonderful video! You are the best. I listen to others who are great but you're the best. Some more spiritual, more emotional with their delivery and some who take you more into the minds of a narc but you're the most precise.
You are brilliant. Thank you.
If I can listen to somebody for a whole 25 mins (the length of your video) and not be tempted to turn it off then I must have resonated with the things you said. I even made a few notes of the things you said because I don't want to forget them. Thanks Dr Carmen Bryant.
Thank you fir giving me a chance
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse giving you a chance for what. You clearly know your stuff. I had quite a few light bulb moments with the things you said. Moments of validation. It's important for survivors to receive validation of what they have gone through.
This is so important. Just what I needed to hear right now and so well explained. Thank you! 👍 and Subscribed!
WOW!!!!! The manipulation described in this video is EXACTLY what I have experienced!!!! The narcissist making false statements to get a response from me was super enlightening!!! Very manipulative.
Giving thanks to Dr Carmen everyday especially on this special holiday of thanks! Blessings to one and all. Happy Thanksgiving!!🍁 🦃🍁
All facts. Gray rocking is so hard. I let him talk to his son on his bday not trying to say nothing while he talking to his son throwing out tons of jabs, it’s like trying to turn the other cheek. gray rocking it’s hard but I’m trying. I just don’t want him to have leverage to say oh I am bitter or mad. When I feel I’m doing things out of hate. I try to shut it off cause I don’t wanna be like him. I now know he wants me to stoop to his level so he can tell ppl I’m so horrible. It’s hard tho.
They are thrilled when we stoop to their level. I feel dirty and numb after I cave in to the flesh and engage them on their level. It's disgusting behavior