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I distanced myself from a toxic person who used, abused and exploited/manipulated me. It’s been a tough and very painful lesson. In the end I had to walk away to save myself as I no longer recognised me. 9 months on and I’m healing and growing having self reflected, introspected and taken a very long hard look in the mirror. I didn’t know my worth but I do now! I am looking forward to the future and I recognise where I went ‘wrong’ in the past and I’ve set goals for myself for 2024 to ensure my healing journey continues. Onwards and upwards. Going to live my best life and will stay fluid with my objectives in the future.
I’m in the same boat as you. It was a hard decision, but that’s a part of life and the hardest decisions usually turn out to be the best ones. I’ve never been more thrilled to really find myself and have the solitude I’ll have in between the time spent with my daughters. It’s not just another chapter, it’s a whole new book.
I empathize with you on so many levels, and salute you for taking the necessary steps toward your healing. I am doing likewise. Here’s to a healthy, happy, and prosperous new year for us all!🎉🕊️🥂
Mmm... I would have said not "even" but "...ESPECIALLY from family....". For in my life, the manipulating, judgemental and controlling nature of family relations and their fundamentality to me since infancy, made them the most destructive and also the most difficult to walk away from. But like Fidelio, by breaking out and walking away from them 20 years ago I walked at last into the Sun and Freedom where I could grow. It takes courage to be wise.
‼️ Between 3:00 & 5:00 , Growing up I always had the best relationship with my only older Brother and we had alot of the same friends (5). After we all graduated from High School we seen less and less of each other and eventually became different people with different views and opinions, they became Democraps and I became a Republican Trump supporter (👁 Hayte to use that analogy - 👁 never noticed the difference until BIDUMB and his like became). In the past 10 years or so, my older Brother has been @4:00 - Cruel and selfish with a disrespectful rude inconsiderate talk over me and others attitude 👎. When I confronted him recently about this and how uninviting it is to spend my precious limited free time away from my workplace with him, he tells me "Then don't, in fact you're no longer welcome at my home" - wtf? I told him he needs to grow up and accept some constructive criticism, he said "F off and hung up? I'm 50 he's 51. I'm already struggling to keep my head above water in many places in my life, then to have his constant negativity, I don't want to walk away - but the stress is killing me either choice I make - less stressful not dealing with his bad abusive attitude though. Any thoughts in this comment section of which direction I or you would or should go?‼️ NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
I left my 2nd Job on the eve of Xmas they demanded more from me than the full-time staff. They were toxic jealous and very unprofessional. No money is worth my Peace & Well-Being.
I said no last year in October after so many years of disrespect from my wife and now am praying to God almighty to give me directions not to hate but start a peaceful life.
You need to pull all of the strength imaginable from within, NOT from another person. Utilize nature and the great outdoors to rejuvenate your mind, with long walks. I've learned that reliance on others, however well-meaning they may seem, won't produce what is needed to get you to a place of contentment. Our own inner strength and commitment to change is vital in this battle. I wish for you that strength! You have it, I can tell, so use it as though your life depends upon it, because it does.
I hope that one day, I also be separated from my wife for good after also years of disrespect, stress, disregard, lack of feelings or empty from my wife. The list goes on.
Forgiveness is the key. It's not letting them off the hook. It's taking them off of your emotional hook and putting them on God's hook. Vengeance is His. Let Him repay them. I was honest with God. I told Him I didn't FEEL like forgiving. I asked Him to please help me to feel like forgiving. That was my start to healing. Forgiveness sets you free. May God bless you on your healing journey.
I was able to walk away from so called friends that were envious and jealous and back stabbing. These were people I grew up with, but as an adult I saw that they never truly respected or liked me. Walking away from them wasn’t easy, but I soon felt at peace, but walking away from someone I loved who spent years disrespecting, belittling and verbally, emotionally abusing and manipulating me was the hardest thing ever - but had to do it for my mental health and physical health and well being. It hurts still, but glad I did it now. Being single is better than being used, abused and made to feel like you are not good enough. I AM GOOD ENOUGH. GOD LOVES ME 🙏🏽
‼️ Between 3:00 & 5:00 , Growing up I always had the best relationship with my only older Brother and we had alot of the same friends (5). After we all graduated from High School we seen less and less of each other and eventually became different people with different views and opinions, they became Democraps and I became a Republican Trump supporter (👁 Hayte to use that analogy - 👁 never noticed the difference until BIDUMB and his like became). In the past 10 years or so, my older Brother has been @4:00 - Cruel and selfish with a disrespectful rude inconsiderate talk over me and others attitude 👎. When I confronted him recently about this and how uninviting it is to spend my precious limited free time away from my workplace with him, he tells me "Then don't, in fact you're no longer welcome at my home" - wtf? I told him he needs to grow up and accept some constructive criticism, he said "F off and hung up? I'm 50 he's 51. I'm already struggling to keep my head above water in many places in my life, then to have his constant negativity, I don't want to walk away - but the stress is killing me either choice I make - less stressful not dealing with his bad abusive attitude though. Any thoughts in this comment section of which direction I or you would or should go?‼️ NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
I have been through this. I was in a toxic relationship, and I had to walk away because I know myself worth. Now I am much happier then before and at peace, I give all the glory to God, he saved me and transformed me.
I left my marriage of 12 yesrs, as my ex husband was a dishonest man, selfish, refused to provide, never shared with me, made me a sole provider, never had affection for me could leave home for days without telling me where he was.. i developed high blood pressure and a heart condition in the process.. one afternoon i prepared his meal served him and he took a nap, thats how i packed my things and left.. he was in shock because he got comfortable mistreating me.. its not easy but am slowly realizing it was a good decision because my health has improved and am no longer sad and angry ..
My sister is a sociopath (no question about it). She has victimized me from the time we were children when she came after me swinging a butcher knife. I was able to get away when I tripped her and kicked the knife out of her hand. I walked away from her 11 years ago after she had stolen my identity. At this point I don't know if she is dead or alive. I still love her and dream about her almost every night, but I can no longer have her in my life because she will never change, and I can no longer tolerated her abuse. Sociopaths are created by extreme early childhood abuse so I know she can't help it. Our early childhood could be compared to a Charles Dicken's novel. My greatest gift is that I have empathy and compassion in spite of the abuse. But it has taken me a lifetime to overcome the effects and to set boundaries. Walking away from my sister and two abusive husbands has set me free to live my best life.
“I’d rather adjust my life to ur absence Than adjust my boundaries to accommodate ur disrespect “ Reading this somewhere was the beginning of making brave new steps away from toxic & towards health
Absolutely! Saying no when necessary is a crucial aspect of maintaining personal boundaries and ensuring that your needs and values are respected. It's an important skill in both personal and professional contexts, and it can lead to healthier relationships and a more balanced life. thanks for watching 😀
The true test here is to stop trying to understand a middle aged, homeless “child”, with a drug addiction and no strength to help themself, and have so have to choose your own sanity over their relentless poor choices.
This philosophy describes how I manage my life. I'm 80, insanely inquisitive and creative, generous and compassionate but, I won't unwillingly give away a minute of my time, not even a second. Thank you for this.
My mother taught me to persevere & grin & bear it. Which is ridiculous because it just empowers the people that are willing to treat us like crap to continue doing so. I recently wasted 5 years & $9,000 on a job that I should have walked away from in the first year.
Thank you God for giving me strength to walk away and stay away from abusive people christian or non christians. I ferl more peaceful and more freedom.
Advice, if at anytime you are feeling loneliness . Don’t make friends with idiots or controlling people . They will drain your energy.pick them carefully.
TY! I had to run away from a friendship i really wanted...but while they were a beautiful person, they were a social vampire. Sucked the life out of any one around them. Glad I ran away & didn't run. Don't look back & pray!
I was exactly this person.placing the needs of others before mine was a reality of my life until my fiftiees.i really regret but was never too late I realized it before i went over the cliff. thank you for these words of wisdom.
If you don't walk away it is just like committing suicide, love yourself first and all things will go on smoothly! Not only in marriage but applicable to relatives!
Agreed. I've been living in the situation where I always showed them my kindness. But I noticed that in the long run, I had been abused for not reacting to their behaviour and instead simply smiling at them. Until one day, I woke up asking why I kept doing that for others when there's nothing left for myself anymore. So I started to say NO and started to walk away from them in silence with self respect and integrity. My realization came later but at least I've learned my lesson. This is the journey I wanted. For now, I am free, I am relieved, and I can breathe. Thank you, Lord God, for being by my side.
Knowing my worth meant shutting out the noise. Distancing myself from a toxic abuser was painful, but it was the right choice for my peace and well-being.
When you get rid of toxic persons from your life, then only know how much valuable time was wasted. But this is not easy as those toxic persons would keep chasing you. ❤
Reacting like little children, going into emotional tantrum when they don,t get their way. Demanding explaining your No, and use every word against you, as their False way to having controle in their False Image of them self. It was never about the Empath, but about the Toxic, Troubled Soul using The End Heals All Means Strategy. Run !
I am being chased by 2 women who I blocked due to their toxicity...and they keep ambushing me pretending they're checking I.m okay...yes..I'm more okay the more you stay away...😅
If you have an internal compass that guides you in your life journey helping to navigate the challenges, you aren't susceptible to the influence and interests of others, their expectations and desires. You know well what is important to you and are capable to make decisions that align with your values and objectives.
There was a situation between a very good friend. It peeved me. To the point that rite now I had to back away from her. Friends for years. But I had to look at the situation as it is. And back away. Felt disrespected But I had to back away. It hurt like hell. But I had to distance myself for my inner peace.
I was in a toxic relationship where I stuck with her and said yes to everything she asked me…even though she was abusive and using me to pay for stuff….finally walked away and most of the anxiety I felt during the relationship was greatly reduced
Yeah I know the feeling. It's like you feel ill every time she comes around or calls you. That's a spiritual sign, that she isn't good for your well being.
Walking away from toxic environments can be very lonely. I just ended an over 20 years friendship with close family friends because i thought they were family but they obviously thought different and it hurts too much to be near them. I lost the majority of my close friends in that one fell swoop. People need to prepare for that loneliness and pain because that support is no longer there. Thank goddess for my best friend.
I believe that at some point in my upbringing I changed the way I truly was to fit in and stop scandalizing those around me specifically those who I loved, ever since I feel like I do live seeking others approval.
Sometimes we are taken apart by those who must get their own way, without listening to what we need. I walk away from toxic relationships. I learned that many have no boundary recognition and cannot take no, for an answer.
When you lived your life where your body was not your own, your feelings were not your own, your time was not your own, saying no and standing up for yourself is life-long lesson that keeps coming and keeps coming. In my 50s, I still struggle. No wonder as children one of the first few words spoken is no. We have a naturally innate boundary that people ruin in your childhood and in finding your NO, you do find yourself again.
Especially that generates, I hear you sister. It's been a life long struggle for me too. Hey, at least we are aware. I always remind myself that it could have been worse.
Especially that generates, I hear you sister. It's been a life long struggle for me too. Hey, at least we are aware. I always remind myself that it could have been worse.
I am in my 50's now and learning valuable lessons. I tried to help others to embark in this journey but if some are not ready we must go without them. Finding like minded people is where it's at.
I am in the process of doing it now. I am empowered by the clarity of the way forward. No regrets other than I waited this long to reach the conclusion.
I am in the process of stopping to please each and every person I encounter. Pleasing has been my default modus for as long as I can remember. It is a difficult journey but the feeling of relief is imense. And slowly I start to get a clearer sence of my own needs and values.
Ive distanced myself from so many toxic people from the past Im still working on it but part of my path is getting strong enough to welcome new people in my life. But that is way down the line for now I have a very small circle of amazing people and even though its lonely Ive accepted that I need to work on myself and my path first.
Instead of being perceived as a resource available to other, you are seen as an individual with your own desires, ambitions and passion....make a lot of sense...this quote hit the home run!!!
I have learned it doesn't matter what others think . They are not walking in your shoes. 2023 has been a lot of lessons. 2024 is going to be living life and walking away when we need to.Boundaries are already in place. My daughters are learning this too. Happy New Year everyone!
Yep. I hear you. I read this somewhere… “I’d rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect” Like you I found the courage to turn my back on toxic
Even with family there is so much you can take as the black sheep before you Walk Away from them. No contact, no drama, or belittling, or diminishing of your concerns, just plain and simple Peace
After nearly a lifetime I found my path out of there, on my own inner free will. It came over me that I released. Somewhat of a spiritual experience of respect that I created by manifesting only me. I feel reborn about it, but not in a organized religious way.
Had walked away from all he'll crazy shit in my life 😢it's was hard knew I had the power to do it now I'm 😊 happy in my life love my peace joyful healthy 💓 😊
I already walked away from my family. But I had to walk away from a guy I liked bc he didn’t listen when I said I wanted to see him more than twice a month. I don’t want to drag out my time and wind up used to
Had to walk away from someone this year. She started a relationship in June, by the end of October it was all over. Have heard nothing from them since. Have heeded advice of others and moved on. Should I cross paths with her again I'll ignore her. My efforts to keep things going were in vain so obviously not meant to be. Stoicism videos on UA-cam have been of benefit to me the past month.
🙏 respect 👍 🙏 💯 so true, when people recognize that your humble they run in trying to lead you In there direction, BUT NO " is a very powerful word ,stand up for yourself, and turn them back...
✨🙌🏼✨Indeed walking away it’s saying, enough is enough. You don’t own me regardless if it’s family. Love myself to a point that I prefer be on my own. Peace and love it’s abundant staying away from those that don’t respect my boundaries and choices as a free human being. Unfortunately, no! Has no meaning to certain individuals that don’t care about someone else’s feelings. Give yourself enough respect and self worth to look for what you deserve. May you find your happiness and accomplish all your wishes. ✨🙏🏼✨
A lovely but awry comment,you deserve nothing in this life,knowledge education are key,but if you have skill to add to that ethos in your chosen field,only then can you be a flower, to pass on what you know,maybe a teaching role is you,❤
I have been working on this difficult step for me.. it is really powerful.. I say no to meet again with the person that I adore but is not good for me, I walked away from a toxic friendship at work, now I was able to prepare myself to the big move from Fl to CA and be able to finally be close to the ones I love.. last I have been able to say no to laziness and procrastination , and will be graduating on May 👌👌I do not recognize myself!! From fragile and lacking of self worth to in love with my calm and assertive decisions!! If I was able to do it.. YOU TOO☺️❣️
I so enjoyed listening to this. It is a must listen to again and again. I have found myself in an abusive situation that I have endured far too long. It’s time for me to walk away. I learned that the more you do for some people, the less respect they have for you. Thank you for such great advice.❤
As Meyers-Briggs INFJ, it's my nature to walk away from conflict. If a line is crossed to the point where I don't walk away, I will be merciless and there's no way that you will prevail. 2 mentors in my life made a huge impression on reinforcing my approach. An aikido sensei told me, "If you can't talk your way out of it, walk your way out of it. If you can't walk your way out of it, run your way out of it. If you can't run your way out of it, turn the negative energy or action back on its source." An art mentor told me, "No remedy, no regard." Common sense told me to get divorced, move out into the forest, stay away from everyone, and get a good dog.
This video is one of THEE best I've come across in quite some time. It has reaffirmed my stance that I've been training myself to adhere to & what I teach others but haven't apparently had the right words because these people don't frikn LISTEN!! Im fixn to share this with a couple key women in my life & I'm writing this down to share with others in the future😏
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Don't forget "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius
Plz use some female features in your video illustrations or you’re promoting misogyny?
It's wonderful
I distanced myself from a toxic person who used, abused and exploited/manipulated me. It’s been a tough and very painful lesson. In the end I had to walk away to save myself as I no longer recognised me. 9 months on and I’m healing and growing having self reflected, introspected and taken a very long hard look in the mirror. I didn’t know my worth but I do now! I am looking forward to the future and I recognise where I went ‘wrong’ in the past and I’ve set goals for myself for 2024 to ensure my healing journey continues. Onwards and upwards. Going to live my best life and will stay fluid with my objectives in the future.
Thanks for sharing your experience❤
I’m in the same boat as you. It was a hard decision, but that’s a part of life and the hardest decisions usually turn out to be the best ones. I’ve never been more thrilled to really find myself and have the solitude I’ll have in between the time spent with my daughters. It’s not just another chapter, it’s a whole new book.
Best wishes towards a progressive future. Happy new year wishes in advance.
I’m happy for you continue on your journey and safe healing ❤️
I empathize with you on so many levels, and salute you for taking the necessary steps toward your healing. I am doing likewise. Here’s to a healthy, happy, and prosperous new year for us all!🎉🕊️🥂
When you know you're doing the right thing, other people's opinions don't matter.
Thanks. It really validates 🙏
Facts. That Part. ......
If it’s affirmation or motivation I don’t want to hear it
Your comment resonates with me today…was struggling a bit still allowing other’s opinion of “my walking away” to affect me. Thanks for the clarity.
Very,true. 👍
I stay away from miserable negative depressed people even family and friends who drain me
Me too!! 👏🙏👍 It's to soul draining 😭
Mmm... I would have said not "even" but "...ESPECIALLY from family....".
For in my life, the manipulating, judgemental and controlling nature of family relations and their fundamentality to me since infancy, made them the most destructive and also the most difficult to walk away from.
But like Fidelio, by breaking out and walking away from them 20 years ago I walked at last into the Sun and Freedom where I could grow.
It takes courage to be wise.
I've walked away from friends,family,jobs etc... its a matter of self respect.
There are always contrasts in life. Happiness beside sadness. Pleasure next to trouble.
Which side we focus on is entirely our own choice.
Walking away leads to freedom
"Just walk away, and there will be an end to the horror" -- Lord Humungus
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Z...........and he had a crew to start the horror !!!!
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” - Marcus Aurelius
Thanks
‼️ Between 3:00 & 5:00 , Growing up I always had the best relationship with my only older Brother and we had alot of the same friends (5). After we all graduated from High School we seen less and less of each other and eventually became different people with different views and opinions, they became Democraps and I became a Republican Trump supporter (👁 Hayte to use that analogy - 👁 never noticed the difference until BIDUMB and his like became). In the past 10 years or so, my older Brother has been @4:00 - Cruel and selfish with a disrespectful rude inconsiderate talk over me and others attitude 👎. When I confronted him recently about this and how uninviting it is to spend my precious limited free time away from my workplace with him, he tells me "Then don't, in fact you're no longer welcome at my home" - wtf? I told him he needs to grow up and accept some constructive criticism, he said "F off and hung up? I'm 50 he's 51. I'm already struggling to keep my head above water in many places in my life, then to have his constant negativity, I don't want to walk away - but the stress is killing me either choice I make - less stressful not dealing with his bad abusive attitude though. Any thoughts in this comment section of which direction I or you would or should go?‼️
NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
I don't like misleading quotes like this. Another is "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". They're untrue
Oh yes it does 🎉
The happiness of your life depends on jesus christ nothing else gives you everlasting peace and happiness this is the only truth
I left my 2nd Job on the eve of Xmas they demanded more from me than the full-time staff. They were toxic jealous and very unprofessional. No money is worth my Peace & Well-Being.
I hear you, I work with so many miserable women that I avoid “ I say to myself quit already!” 😂
This is what I always did in my 20 years of career .No money Worth more than ur health
Narcissistic bosses are everywhere. Be careful
This
The following words, when I found them, helped me, a great deal. I choose Peace over Drama, Distance over Disrespect.
I like that quote. ❤
"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius
This
Good men walk away if they have to
I tell ppl.be nice. Be understanding
Don't fight. Talk nicely. There is no need for abuse
I said no last year in October after so many years of disrespect from my wife and now am praying to God almighty to give me directions not to hate but start a peaceful life.
God bless you. 🙏💙
The Most High will give strength trust and have faith
You need to pull all of the strength imaginable from within, NOT from another person. Utilize nature and the great outdoors to rejuvenate your mind, with long walks. I've learned that reliance on others, however well-meaning they may seem, won't produce what is needed to get you to a place of contentment. Our own inner strength and commitment to change is vital in this battle.
I wish for you that strength! You have it, I can tell, so use it as though your life depends upon it, because it does.
I hope that one day, I also be separated from my wife for good after also years of disrespect, stress, disregard, lack of feelings or empty from my wife. The list goes on.
Forgiveness is the key. It's not letting them off the hook. It's taking them off of your emotional hook and putting them on God's hook. Vengeance is His. Let Him repay them. I was honest with God. I told Him I didn't FEEL like forgiving. I asked Him to please help me to feel like forgiving. That was my start to healing. Forgiveness sets you free. May God bless you on your healing journey.
I was able to walk away from so called friends that were envious and jealous and back stabbing. These were people I grew up with, but as an adult I saw that they never truly respected or liked me. Walking away from them wasn’t easy, but I soon felt at peace, but walking away from someone I loved who spent years disrespecting, belittling and verbally, emotionally abusing and manipulating me was the hardest thing ever - but had to do it for my mental health and physical health and well being.
It hurts still, but glad I did it now.
Being single is better than being used, abused and made to feel like you are not good enough.
I AM GOOD ENOUGH.
GOD LOVES ME 🙏🏽
You should be proud of yourself ❤❤❤
Your story sounds like my life at the moment. I need to break away. Good for you.
Your voice is too strong as the message itself.
‼️ Between 3:00 & 5:00 , Growing up I always had the best relationship with my only older Brother and we had alot of the same friends (5). After we all graduated from High School we seen less and less of each other and eventually became different people with different views and opinions, they became Democraps and I became a Republican Trump supporter (👁 Hayte to use that analogy - 👁 never noticed the difference until BIDUMB and his like became). In the past 10 years or so, my older Brother has been @4:00 - Cruel and selfish with a disrespectful rude inconsiderate talk over me and others attitude 👎. When I confronted him recently about this and how uninviting it is to spend my precious limited free time away from my workplace with him, he tells me "Then don't, in fact you're no longer welcome at my home" - wtf? I told him he needs to grow up and accept some constructive criticism, he said "F off and hung up? I'm 50 he's 51. I'm already struggling to keep my head above water in many places in my life, then to have his constant negativity, I don't want to walk away - but the stress is killing me either choice I make - less stressful not dealing with his bad abusive attitude though. Any thoughts in this comment section of which direction I or you would or should go?‼️
NEWCASTLE CALIFORNIA,USA 🇺🇸
Happy for you stay positive and never tolerate disrespect
I kept walking away from anyone I didn't like. My life is comfortable now, but sometimes I feel lonely, like once a year.
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This was a hard choice to walk away.
But when I did it.
It wasn't painful at all.
It was the fear of doing it.
Thank you!
I have been through this. I was in a toxic relationship, and I had to walk away because I know myself worth. Now I am much happier then before and at peace, I give all the glory to God, he saved me and transformed me.
This should be taught in all schools as a source of empowerment, especially for girl-child who are victims of minimizing their self esteem and worth.
😂😂😂 professional victim
Asian women are treated like slaves and no one cares about our feelings
It’s the women who do all the manipulation.
You cant make slaves if you teach this
I agree.
I left my marriage of 12 yesrs, as my ex husband was a dishonest man, selfish, refused to provide, never shared with me, made me a sole provider, never had affection for me could leave home for days without telling me where he was.. i developed high blood pressure and a heart condition in the process.. one afternoon i prepared his meal served him and he took a nap, thats how i packed my things and left.. he was in shock because he got comfortable mistreating me.. its not easy but am slowly realizing it was a good decision because my health has improved and am no longer sad and angry ..
My sister is a sociopath (no question about it). She has victimized me from the time we were children when she came after me swinging a butcher knife. I was able to get away when I tripped her and kicked the knife out of her hand. I walked away from her 11 years ago after she had stolen my identity. At this point I don't know if she is dead or alive. I still love her and dream about her almost every night, but I can no longer have her in my life because she will never change, and I can no longer tolerated her abuse. Sociopaths are created by extreme early childhood abuse so I know she can't help it. Our early childhood could be compared to a Charles Dicken's novel. My greatest gift is that I have empathy and compassion in spite of the abuse. But it has taken me a lifetime to overcome the effects and to set boundaries. Walking away from my sister and two abusive husbands has set me free to live my best life.
Sometimes it’s from a job or a family but I know that being true to myself is the only way to keep my internal climate peaceful & mild
“I’d rather adjust my life to ur absence
Than adjust my boundaries to accommodate ur disrespect “ Reading this somewhere was the beginning of making brave new steps away from toxic & towards health
Powerful
Saying no when it's necessary is the key
Absolutely! Saying no when necessary is a crucial aspect of maintaining personal boundaries and ensuring that your needs and values are respected. It's an important skill in both personal and professional contexts, and it can lead to healthier relationships and a more balanced life. thanks for watching 😀
What if you are TRICKED or FORCED or DEALT WITH?
@@stoicmindguy it s not easy. It needs practice in my experience, start saying NO to less important thing in order to achieve confidence
The true test here is to stop trying to understand a middle aged, homeless “child”, with a drug addiction and no strength to help themself, and have so have to choose your own sanity over their relentless poor choices.
Nearly 2 years for me, best decision I ever made
This philosophy describes how I manage my life. I'm 80, insanely inquisitive and creative, generous and compassionate but, I won't unwillingly give away a minute of my time, not even a second.
Thank you for this.
Walking away is what I have to do. It's worth it. Self preservation is important to me. ❤ new possibilities.
Walking away is a very smart decision that will help us retake the right path
I just walked away after helping a broken woman with two kids for three years. I was never really appreciated or loved.
They will never forget you for what you did for them,you leave a legacy for your actions,move on to a better place ❤
Isn't the kids fault.
My mother taught me to walk away when I was 14. I made 86 now and I can still walk away.g
My mother taught me to persevere & grin & bear it. Which is ridiculous because it just empowers the people that are willing to treat us like crap to continue doing so.
I recently wasted 5 years & $9,000 on a job that I should have walked away from in the first year.
Ditto. I walked away at 15 best decision ever.
Walking away and meaning it…. Is how you win ANY negotiation
Yup 😊 you vote with your walking shoes ❤
Agreed 💯% - it starts w/ good intentions but people eventually think their convenience is more valuable than your personal priorities (Don't do this)
It s easier said than done. Toxic people know how to manipulate us.
Well said ..
Really is...
This shits gold but one needs to know deeper
I first read marcus aurelius 30 years ago. Such a brave wise man.
Protect your peace at all costs. Many men have destroyed themselves by playing in toxic pools.
Love those that love you , it’s that simple
I understand self love simple ❤never let anyone bring you down mentally physically spirituality ❤
This could not have come at a better time.
It hurts, but it is true.
Sometimes walking away from family is the wisest thing to do notwithstanding the difficulty it causes. I did and I'm so much better for it.
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all with yourself; in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius
Let no good deed go unpunished. No matter how good you are to others, they’ll still treat you badly. Walk away.
Thank you God for giving me strength to walk away and stay away from abusive people christian or non christians. I ferl more peaceful and more freedom.
Guilt drives a lot of self neglect. Taking responsibility for mistakes made by others.
Advice, if at anytime you are feeling loneliness . Don’t make friends with idiots or controlling people . They will drain your energy.pick them carefully.
TY! I had to run away from a friendship i really wanted...but while they were a beautiful person, they were a social vampire. Sucked the life out of any one around them. Glad I ran away & didn't run. Don't look back & pray!
Just what I needed to hear this morning.
This is what l have been going through. Trying to help people out when it is not convenient for me. Still they don't value me in the longrun
I was exactly this person.placing the needs of others before mine was a reality of my life until my fiftiees.i really regret but was never too late I realized it before i went over the cliff. thank you for these words of wisdom.
If you don't walk away it is just like committing suicide, love yourself first and all things will go on smoothly! Not only in marriage but applicable to relatives!
I love your definition in defining not saying no,is like suicide been there and still suffering the consequences it can also lead u to suicide
Agreed. I've been living in the situation where I always showed them my kindness. But I noticed that in the long run, I had been abused for not reacting to their behaviour and instead simply smiling at them. Until one day, I woke up asking why I kept doing that for others when there's nothing left for myself anymore. So I started to say NO and started to walk away from them in silence with self respect and integrity. My realization came later but at least I've learned my lesson. This is the journey I wanted. For now, I am free, I am relieved, and I can breathe. Thank you, Lord God, for being by my side.
I'm so happy for you u must be so relieved.
This video validates that I am the right path to recovery from a narcissistic encounter 🙏
This vid made me feel strong where I felt guilty. It is a lonely road.
Knowing my worth meant shutting out the noise. Distancing myself from a toxic abuser was painful, but it was the right choice for my peace and well-being.
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I honestly believe that I will become myself again, but I must listen 👂 to this particular segment everyday. At least once a day.
When you get rid of toxic persons from your life, then only know how much valuable time was wasted. But this is not easy as those toxic persons would keep chasing you. ❤
Not me!!!! When I'm done with you I'm done!!!! 👏
Keep those boundaries non_negotiable.
Reacting like little children, going into emotional tantrum when they don,t get their way. Demanding explaining your No, and use every word against you, as their False way to having controle in their False Image of them self. It was never about the Empath, but about the Toxic, Troubled Soul using The End Heals All Means Strategy. Run !
Narcisists
I am being chased by 2 women who I blocked due to their toxicity...and they keep ambushing me pretending they're checking I.m okay...yes..I'm more okay the more you stay away...😅
If you have an internal compass that guides you in your life journey helping to navigate the challenges, you aren't susceptible to the influence and interests of others, their expectations and desires. You know well what is important to you and are capable to make decisions that align with your values and objectives.
I am good at creating healthy boundaries. That is why people who don't have good intentions for me events stay away from me.
Nice one.
There was a situation between a very good friend. It peeved me. To the point that rite now I had to back away from her. Friends for years. But I had to look at the situation as it is. And back away. Felt disrespected But I had to back away. It hurt like hell. But I had to distance myself for my inner peace.
I was in a toxic relationship where I stuck with her and said yes to everything she asked me…even though she was abusive and using me to pay for stuff….finally walked away and most of the anxiety I felt during the relationship was greatly reduced
Yeah I know the feeling. It's like you feel ill every time she comes around or calls you. That's a spiritual sign, that she isn't good for your well being.
Did you walked away broke?
One word 'GENIUS'.......
This video is self- esteem GOLD!! 👍🏻
Walking away from toxic environments can be very lonely. I just ended an over 20 years friendship with close family friends because i thought they were family but they obviously thought different and it hurts too much to be near them. I lost the majority of my close friends in that one fell swoop. People need to prepare for that loneliness and pain because that support is no longer there. Thank goddess for my best friend.
Full of wisdom , an act to be adopted instead of living in other’s prison
I believe that at some point in my upbringing I changed the way I truly was to fit in and stop scandalizing those around me specifically those who I loved, ever since I feel like I do live seeking others approval.
I'm so blessed to have found this. It is confirmation. ❤
Sometimes we are taken apart by those who must get their own way, without listening to what we need. I walk away from toxic relationships. I learned that many have no boundary recognition and cannot take no, for an answer.
White bird 🦢 ❤😊
So true attachment style affect us. Learning to love myself after 46 years of being for. Others. Thanks for all your teachings ❤❤
No is a beautiful and powerful word.
It can also be a an ugly and unpowerful word,so what's your point,just a thought
When you lived your life where your body was not your own, your feelings were not your own, your time was not your own, saying no and standing up for yourself is life-long lesson that keeps coming and keeps coming. In my 50s, I still struggle. No wonder as children one of the first few words spoken is no. We have a naturally innate boundary that people ruin in your childhood and in finding your NO, you do find yourself again.
Especially that generates, I hear you sister. It's been a life long struggle for me too. Hey, at least we are aware. I always remind myself that it could have been worse.
Especially that generates, I hear you sister. It's been a life long struggle for me too. Hey, at least we are aware. I always remind myself that it could have been worse.
I am in my 50's now and learning valuable lessons. I tried to help others to embark in this journey but if some are not ready we must go without them. Finding like minded people is where it's at.
Upto age 21 your parents r still in control ofyour life and punish u for not listening
I am in the process of doing it now. I am empowered by the clarity of the way forward. No regrets other than I waited this long to reach the conclusion.
This content is well presented and useful in impacting lives positively.
I am in the process of stopping to please each and every person I encounter. Pleasing has been my default modus for as long as I can remember. It is a difficult journey but the feeling of relief is imense. And slowly I start to get a clearer sence of my own needs and values.
Ive distanced myself from so many toxic people from the past Im still working on it but part of my path is getting strong enough to welcome new people in my life. But that is way down the line for now I have a very small circle of amazing people and even though its lonely Ive accepted that I need to work on myself and my path first.
Instead of being perceived as a resource available to other, you are seen as an individual with your own desires, ambitions and passion....make a lot of sense...this quote hit the home run!!!
Excellent reflection. Thank you so much.
So inspiring
An outstanding presentation and needful for our day today lives.
Thank you 🙏 I needed to hear this today, to validate it’s ok to walk away from toxic family and avoid nosey neighbors. Thank you.
Each word that was spoken in this video was like what a candy would be in the mouth....every word was so impressive as it went through my brains ❤❤
I have learned it doesn't matter what others think . They are not walking in your shoes. 2023 has been a lot of lessons. 2024 is going to be living life and walking away when we need to.Boundaries are already in place. My daughters are learning this too. Happy New Year everyone!
Be Strong , Be Stoic
I really needed to hear this, since I have always been there for others even when I’m in poor health… I need to learn to say NO! and walk away 👍💯
Yep. I hear you. I read this somewhere…
“I’d rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect” Like you I found the courage to turn my back on toxic
Amen I needed your help and I am very grateful
"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end"_ Seneca
Closing time
This brings us to the end of the lecture 🤝🤝🤝
Peace of mind and a self reflection of who we really are are is most valuable.❤
Even with family there is so much you can take as the black sheep before you Walk Away from them. No contact, no drama, or belittling, or diminishing of your concerns, just plain and simple Peace
I need to hear this as it opens my eyes. I will do what he says. Thank you. I a lot you woke me up
After nearly a lifetime
I found my path out of there, on my own inner free will. It came over me that I released. Somewhat of a spiritual experience of respect that I created by manifesting only me. I feel reborn about it, but not in a organized religious way.
Had walked away from all he'll crazy shit in my life 😢it's was hard knew I had the power to do it now I'm 😊 happy in my life love my peace joyful healthy 💓 😊
Your work is necessary ❤
Absolute intellengences
Self values nd confidence
Wow boundaries
Sanity.
This power to walk away is a mindset
Thank u.
I already walked away from my family. But I had to walk away from a guy I liked bc he didn’t listen when I said I wanted to see him more than twice a month. I don’t want to drag out my time and wind up used to
Had to walk away from someone this year. She started a relationship in June, by the end of October it was all over. Have heard nothing from them since. Have heeded advice of others and moved on. Should I cross paths with her again I'll ignore her. My efforts to keep things going were in vain so obviously not meant to be. Stoicism videos on UA-cam have been of benefit to me the past month.
🙏 respect 👍 🙏 💯 so true, when people recognize that your humble they run in trying to lead you In there direction, BUT NO " is a very powerful word ,stand up for yourself, and turn them back...
✨🙌🏼✨Indeed walking away it’s saying, enough is enough. You don’t own me regardless if it’s family. Love myself to a point that I prefer be on my own. Peace and love it’s abundant staying away from those that don’t respect my boundaries and choices as a free human being. Unfortunately, no! Has no meaning to certain individuals that don’t care about someone else’s feelings. Give yourself enough respect and self worth to look for what you deserve. May you find your happiness and accomplish all your wishes. ✨🙏🏼✨
A lovely but awry comment,you deserve nothing in this life,knowledge education are key,but if you have skill to add to that ethos in your chosen field,only then can you be a flower, to pass on what you know,maybe a teaching role is you,❤
I have been working on this difficult step for me.. it is really powerful.. I say no to meet again with the person that I adore but is not good for me, I walked away from a toxic friendship at work, now I was able to prepare myself to the big move from Fl to CA and be able to finally be close to the ones I love.. last I have been able to say no to laziness and procrastination , and will be graduating on May 👌👌I do not recognize myself!! From fragile and lacking of self worth to in love with my calm and assertive decisions!! If I was able to do it.. YOU TOO☺️❣️
Very educational lessons talk show very interesting thank you ❤
This gives me so much hope and destroys my anxiety. It's truly incredible how much of my suffering comes from my distorted view of the world
You are your own worst enemy as they say
I so enjoyed listening to this. It is a must listen to again and again. I have found myself in an abusive situation that I have endured far too long. It’s time for me to walk away. I learned that the more you do for some people, the less respect they have for you. Thank you for such great advice.❤
As Meyers-Briggs INFJ, it's my nature to walk away from conflict. If a line is crossed to the point where I don't walk away, I will be merciless and there's no way that you will prevail.
2 mentors in my life made a huge impression on reinforcing my approach.
An aikido sensei told me, "If you can't talk your way out of it, walk your way out of it. If you can't walk your way out of it, run your way out of it. If you can't run your way out of it, turn the negative energy or action back on its source."
An art mentor told me, "No remedy, no regard."
Common sense told me to get divorced, move out into the forest, stay away from everyone, and get a good dog.
i love the stoich wisdom , its superb, i learn many things from it, can boost morale
This video is one of THEE best I've come across in quite some time. It has reaffirmed my stance that I've been training myself to adhere to & what I teach others but haven't apparently had the right words because these people don't frikn LISTEN!! Im fixn to share this with a couple key women in my life & I'm writing this down to share with others in the future😏
No they don't freaking listen..cos they're feeding yr energy..😮