Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than UA-cam by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:35 Why Are We Having Less Sex Than Previous Generations? 09:00 How Could a Sex-Positive World be Having Bad Sex? 16:33 Why Sex Gets Worse After the Honeymoon Phase 25:46 What are Today’s ‘Pleasure Thieves?’ 32:54 How to Have Meaningful Conversations about Sex 42:07 What Women Wish Their Partners Did More in Bed 50:33 The Sexual Pressures that Men & Women Face 58:05 Where to Find Emily
Just because someone chooses to keep their sex life more private, I don’t believe shame is the only reason for that. Some things are just more special when not everyone knows about it. There is an abundance of info on sex out there today. If someone wants to share about their sex life, that’s fine. But it’s totally ok to me too if people want to keep it more private.
YES. I don't care about talking/writing about my self (I'm delusional and have huuuge one - self confidence that is) but I believe, that it's my/our duty, to respect other peoples wish of privacy.
I do agree with the element of privacy and special - but that doesn't remove the underpinnings that are present in our society around sex. Here's a question - are you comfortable directing your partner to do what you like and do you ask them what they want or receive instructions? I think this question is the benchmark for determining if an individual carries shame or embarassment about sex.
@@FunderDuck Hm, interesting idea! There does seem to be a concerted effort to blur and/or eliminate a lot of traditional boundaries in our culture. With respect to your question, my sense is that they are happening in parallel rather than as cause and effect.
@@BULLTRONHERO you could be right, or the privacy factor is just one of many; environmental factors, cultural, economic, religious, technological. My thinking is that a lot of communication these days is digital, and a large percentage of relationships start online or have some virtual component (dating apps, social media, messaging, entertainment, planning dates, recording important moments, etc). I can only speak for myself, but knowing that most if not all online interactions are constantly monitored, profiled, archived, and even bought and sold by corporations and governments has dramatically shifted how much I trust communication technology, and that unfortunately affects aspects of my relationships (intimate or otherwise). On your point about traditional boundaries, I agree, and there’s some subjectivity that’s led to an ongoing tug-of-war over the generations. Most societies around the world celebrated sexuality, maturation, chastity, fertility, etc in some facet. Some cultures are very open, others are very modest, and there’s always going to be a debate about the ideal perspective (if there even is one). Sculptures and artwork in museums often depict mature themes that were integral to certain cultures. Then at one point, Elvis shaking his hips on television was considered scandalous. Fast-forward and most people have access to entire archives of graphic imagery. Now with new AI tools, we’re likely going to experience another radical shift. I think that’s why it’s important to value self-control and respect within reason; too many people try to force their sensibilities onto the whole of society.
@@Joe-sg9ll If you think sex is equivalent to shitting, I feel genuinely sad for you. I don't know what went wrong in your life, but trust me, there's hope for you. I hope you're still young. Make an honest effort to find divinity in life, tell the truth, and work to make the world a better place for everyone around you.
You realize fifty shades of grey is the number one selling book in UK history? Women consume approximately 3-4x as much violent porn in every culture,from Sweden to Saudi Arabia ? Per the book everybody lies Many women actually want to slurp serial killers ? Including child killers like Chris Watts ? Ever read a romance novel and seen how they describe the sex act ? Do you realize women almost across the board prefer more masculine men ? Meanwhile testosterone levels in the US have declined 60+% ? See Chris's episode with Rob Henderson for the receipts about how women actually get more aroused by men based on how threatening they find them, being threatening actually is way more useful to hooking up than being attractive
And yet the best sex that most men will ever have in their lives will be with a prostitute. And I am referring to men who have "connected" with women not incels. What you people don't realise is that in this life, while a majority of women will be loved, all women will give an orgasm to almost all men that have sex with them, the contrary is not realistic. It is not about pessimism and black pill (I hate the black pill and any nihilism), it is about being realistic. We are men, we move with logic, not sentiment. Women due to their innate biology, can only truly love a minority of men (no, not 5% but still a minority of men 20%, 30% at best) while even in those cases they are not going to have an orgasm each and every time they go to bed with them. Not to say that other men cannot give orgasms to women here and there but it will be few and far in between. Women need to feel i n f e r i o r to men to have pleasurable sex with them. And the relation of most men and women out there today is not such one. Forget the rest. This woman gives 1970s-80s level of advice which has proven time after time wrong. The Red Pill has the answers, precisely because the Red Pill is impartial, it cares only about what it is, not about what it should be.
Sex is shameful if it's meaningless, is what Chris implies. She emphasizes shame as an impediment to pleasure. However, Sex just for pleasure does get meaningless over time with hedonistic adaptation.
I once said no to a GF for the first time (in that relationship), she broke down crying because she thought it meant we were breaking up, because "men always want it"
God they're such emotionally illiterate, fragile-ego-d little snowflakes. Endless vomitous double standards. I can't say who is because my comment will get cancelled. spoiler alert- it ain't men.
So, when the culture was more prude and people were more polite and reserved, they had more sex. Today, with a decadent culture of open sexual expression and the glorification and banality of sex, we have less sex. This tells more about our failings as a modern society and the failures in the principles that make up our modern "culture".
Well , sex is pretty boring, no? It's basically an over-rated, underwhelming social construct essentially designed to humiliate men and exploit their virtues and objectify their vulnerability.
You have missed the real causes because you have an agenda. People are having less sex not because they are decadent but because they are not connected to one another for many reasons. Dating for one thing is extremely tough these days.
Please stop equating "privacy" with "shame". The idea that people need to blurt out everything private to practical strangers nowadays is absurd. If you want to talk about sex with your loved ones (family, close loved ones) then fine, but don't act like everyone must or should or else they are ashamed of it. People need boundaries and it's not healthy to normalize sex to the extent that it's no different than talking about a ball game or the weather. Because it's NOT the same, on so many levels, and it's ludicrous to believe otherwise. For the record, I can certainly talk about sex with a partner with whom I am intimate and have a connection. And been able to figure out "what works" without much difficulty. But I don't go around talking about sex with every rando (online or otherwise) or even with family often -- because, again, boundaries.
@@ephraimwinslow no, like she said younger generations aren't doing it. Reason? Men are entitled jerks and more young women se through hookup culture... nor do we want the boys from the "manosphere" who hate and debase women.
She's from 20 years ago, the last time one of the 1000s of women 'sex therapists' took over the popular culture to teach men what they need to do in bed. 20 years later after the establishment of these 'sex coaches' and people are less satisfied than ever before.
@@TuffLuv1984 Then the 'sex coaches' failed miserably and it's all the more reason to dismiss this pop-culture institution. That said, we do know that 'how to please a woman in bed' tutorials and advice has gone beyond viral into what used to be men's magazines then internet videos and actual games where men earn points for virtual sex moves. I'm sure most of those are given out in public school sex-ed classes and libraries. Either way, the 'Sex Therapist' and 'TV Sex Coach' has done nothing. Of course, one of the fundamental flaws is supposing men should be concerned with sexually pleasing women, pleasing women, pleasing and satisfying women. Nor do they need to spend more than a moment thinking about what will please them past the most obvious inherently known desires.
Sex ed was started by Kinseys research,when he was a complete sadist and an accomplice to child predators Complete human scum Circumcized himself Inserted hair brushes in his urethra Also she says Americans are puritans,when meanwhile we are TRANSing the kids,when left wing countries like Norway, Sweden, Denmark dtc ban it We have some of the most extreme abortion laws in the world Oy 3 countries besides us allow abortion past 24 weeks China,PRNK, and Vietnam Planned Parenthood is passing out alphabet cards talking about golden amd brown showers to junior high students But shes saying we are puritanical Kindey institute should have been defunded a long time ago See Kinsey syndrome and Kinsey's pdf files for the receipts Nevermind that testosterone levels have declined by 60+% Women don't like unmasculine men Depression and mental illness are off the charts And PUFAs that are ruinous to mental health at 3-4% ate currently approximately 34% of all US calories Queer theory was started by advocates of child predation btw Freud invented Oedipus+ Electra complexes to cover for child predators Is sex so complicated that you cant figure it out as an adult sweetie ? Because finding out about sex is what ends your childhood sweetie, and you think we need to make sure that happens earlier huh ? Its just so complicated that you need to talk about it ad nauseam huh ? Does the fact that approximately 25-33% of young girls( much higher in the left wing girls btw) are on SSRIs ,which completely ruins libido/sex for most Nevermind the pill can lower testosterone by as much 95% btw,which completely destroys libido btw, nevermind the weight gain and depression Also you act like pleasure is some kind of guiding star,have you never heard of the hedonic treadmill sweetie?
I don't understand people who act like it is such a mystery as to why individuals, groups and entire societies are cautious of sex. Sex is great but it can also be incredibly dangerous and destabilizing to any given group that engage/indulge in it recklessly, there are so many examples of societies that descended into hedonism/reckless sexual behavior which inevitably lead to their demise. Sex carries the risk of disease, sex can lead to the burden of child, sex carries with it the risk of death. Sex is a wonderful thing, it creates life, it fosters connection, it carries with the possibility of great pleasure but any group/society that engages with sex recklessly will have consequences to pay
But I don't think that's what she's advocating for at all. She's making the case for better connection, which starts with better connecting with oneself. If anything, that is desperately needed nowadays, and has been for a very long time.
Nah they can keep doing so, you can’t control what women do. They’ll just have to suffer the consequences accordingly, no commitment from men en masse, no marriage, no protection, and no provision. Men make it very clear, value your purity, and we value you in return. Anything that deviates outside of that men’s aren’t gonna put up with. Simple💯
@Yoshi-rz8qi Do you know how many women have slept around and then got married later? Women who sleep around and still get relationships and money from men? Yall aren't stopping anything lmao
@@alexisc7565 Men have become increasingly aware of how women move, due to social media, and are adapting accordingly. Long ago this knowledge was almost taboo amongst men, nowadays in my everyday life I see men openly discussing these issues. Trust, men aren’t gonna be getting finessed as hard as they used to moving forward. You’re already seeing this now💯
@Yoshi-rz8qi I honestly don't see a slow down to the finessing...the thing is, yall have this knowledge and will STILL commit to women who have slept around because MOST men will take what they can get. Congrats to the small minority of you who will only commit to virgins tho. If you can find one lmao
This feels like one of those filler episodes where Chris seems more knowledgable and interesting than the guest. Still, this speaks to the high overall quality of the show. For the algo.
doing a binge of these podcasts, and this title seemed interesting. But, judging by the comments, this one sounds like its pretty safe to skip if she keeps dancing around questions and isn't very insightful....
Two things i really don't agree with in this Episode - 1. She mentioned that Sex isn't really talked about much - Bruh i am 24yrs old, My generation is so open about sex. Growing up as a kid watching pornographic content was beyond shameful but now we got everyone watching that shit, its literally freee! We have so much soft-porn contents on Instagram, Tiktok, UA-cam, music videos, movies and even cartoons. Sex workers aren't even remotely ashamed of being sex workers no longer nor are they judged as harshly as before, We have a high amount of Single Parent Households. Majority of the music in pop culture has either sex or drugs in it! Please how more open does she want it to be? 2.She spoked about introducing sex education to kids in schooling system - I honestly don't agree with this idea. I believe children are meant to be pure and naïve to anything sexual till they become teenager's. There's a reason why we say let kids be kids. The only things i cared about as a kid were my Family, Friends, Toys, Cartoons and games. Why complicate their life with irrelevant extras, you are literally defiling their purity with such notion.
Don't watch porn. You essentially desensitise yourself when you do, and the things that excite you become less estimulating. You become less motivated, and sex overall becomes less desirable and enjoyable
Your Point 1 is why your point 2 is wrong. Like she says, we have pornography without sex education. In this world Kids will never be "pure" they will just have the wrong exposure to sex.
@@nomoresunforever3695 children should be taught about sex at an appropriate pace. I would guess the OP didn’t mean not until they are 18 or something silly. But frankly, a toddler doesn’t need a bunch of details about sex or people’s sexual preferences. Anatomical names and what touch is okay and not okay with others is the majority of it with maybe a broad overview to where babies come from. It isn’t healthy for children to be exposed to overly sexual content at young ages. Whether it should be as accessible as it is is a different issue.
@TehKarmalizer OP said sex education should not be introduced into the schooling system. He said that children should remain 'pure'. You have a way different interpretation of that than me, apparently.
Birth control pills kill the vibe. I took them for a year when I was first married, and without ovulation, sex was perfunctory and just ok. When I went off of the pills, sex became mind blowing.
Yep, more and more women are realizing this. It's sad that they begin to prescribe the pill from the onset of puberty. Many women don't even know how it is to have a normal hormonal cycle.
Did you know that if your body become copper toxic you can have schizophrenic like symptoms, just saying a lot of women use copper based birth control.
I advise against her way of trying to get kissing back into the relationship. Don't make it sound like you miss it and you're trying to convince him to do it again. Just tell him something he did that made you really hot, and add that kissing gets you even hotter. Full stop. Then kiss him. Men don't need to hear about how beneficial certain actions would be for the emotional intimacy in the relationship. They just need to know what excites you and gets your engine going.
Because it's emotional intimacy that gets their engine going!!! Sex always starts there for women and then you can talk about techniques and things that excites them.
07:30 This is gonna be a hard sell of an episode if she buys the meme that women were somehow property and that "before" religion sex wasn't about procreation.
I'd replace "women were considered men's property" with "women were considered men's responsibility" and there was a reason for that. Times were much harsher back then but how soon we forget. There were also ton's of people talking about sex 20 year's ago, I don't know why she said it was only Dr. Ruth. What about Dr. Drew with Loveline and Dan Savage etc.. I could name hundreds.
There is a reason why female orgasm was barely discussed till 60-s of 20th century even Freud called it unnesecally and inferior to males orgasm. I really doubt lots of women had them in the past cause majority of women (roughly 70%) only can climax via clitoral stimulation which people in the past would consider as masturbation and we all know the view that church had on masturbation. So do the math.
Damn, i know IM not sexless by choice. Im not going after models or perfect partners either... i just get rejected left and right. Thats not a condemnation on women and their standards, but let's not pretend it's a random choice by everyone in the dating world.
It's also now a GLOBAL DATING MARKET. No longer the girl next door, my friend(*not sure you're male or female)but it's global now. Better start traveling more.
@@KangTheDigitalNomad Judging by your username (DigitalNomad), I would have to guess you've already started travelling more a while back. You may have even landed in the Philippines.
It's not shame, it's BOUNDARIES. And sadly I've now got to 43.34 and LOVE has not been mentioned ONCE . The best 'sec' is when you make love with someone you love, and it never gets boring. It's not rocket science.
as she said, the best sex wasnt about certain body parts and their size, it was the connection with that person you had sex with that made the sex the best sex. she did talk about it. love, connection, whatever filler word you wanna use, she did talk about it. and im sorry, but depending on your personality, some people tend to get bored more than others, and even if you arent bored per se, youre also now feeling the excitement or shyness or something new. nothing will stay feeling new, and thats ok, it doesnt mean its boring. its just shift into something else, but if you do go down the route where it became boring, which could happen , because something is missing for you, then yeah, talk about it and be happier with your partner. nobody can read your mind or guess what you want and how, and thats not just about sex.
When you're a very average guy, you don't wonder if you have good or bad sex, actually, you have almost no sexual life. You just feel lucky to have some sex sometime, good or not.
Hey Chris - thanks for another great talk. Been subscribed since the Goggins episode and your show has been the biggest drive for change in my life. I've started meditating, reassessed a lot of my priorities from my early twenties, drink less, barely eat sugar, sleep more etc. I feel like I've matured several years in a few months from listening to you and your guests!! That said, maybe it's just me but your eyes have been looking a bit more tired the last few episodes. Hope you're doing well my guy and still get time to rest! :) Thanks from a Canadian living in France
I don't know how Emily looks at our world of only fans, porn hub, gay pride parades, and drag queens and said to herself "you know we are too sexually repressed" 😂
I see what you mean, but I beg to differ. Here's my understanding : As you said, we are being constantly flooded with sexually over-saturated imagery & products. However, on an intimate level, we may be extremely deprived of anything meaningful. Of course, that's on a very individual, case-by-case basis. But I can definitely see how all the exposure we get, mainly through the media, of over-sexualized content, can create such enormous pressure to 'live up' to some unrealistic standards, that it could easily muddy the pool of personal/interpersonal satisfaction for a large contingent of the population.
Maybe what she means is we're too repressed in our intimacy. Sex is pretty much a public affair now, in a way that it never was before. Very performative and paradoxically conformist.
Sex ed was started by Kinseys research,when he was a complete sadist and an accomplice to child predators Complete human scum Circumcized himself Inserted hair brushes in his urethra Also she says Americans are puritans,when meanwhile we are TRANSing the kids,when left wing countries like Norway, Sweden, Denmark dtc ban it We have some of the most extreme abortion laws in the world Oy 3 countries besides us allow abortion past 24 weeks China,PRNK, and Vietnam Planned Parenthood is passing out alphabet cards talking about golden amd brown showers to junior high students But shes saying we are puritanical Kindey institute should have been defunded a long time ago See Kinsey syndrome and Kinsey's pdf files for the receipts Nevermind that testosterone levels have declined by 60+% Women don't like unmasculine men Depression and mental illness are off the charts And PUFAs that are ruinous to mental health at 3-4% ate currently approximately 34% of all US calories Queer theory was started by advocates of child predation btw Freud invented Oedipus+ Electra complexes to cover for child predators Is sex so complicated that you cant figure it out as an adult sweetie ? Because finding out about sex is what ends your childhood sweetie, and you think we need to make sure that happens earlier huh ? Its just so complicated that you need to talk about it ad nauseam huh ? Does the fact that approximately 25-33% of young girls( much higher in the left wing girls btw) are on SSRIs ,which completely ruins libido/sex for most Nevermind the pill can lower testosterone by as much 95% btw,which completely destroys libido btw, nevermind the weight gain and depression Also you act like pleasure is some kind of guiding star,have you never heard of the hedonic treadmill sweetie?
I really disliked this author, when asked a question straight up, she didn't have an answer multiple times. She would just talk around it or something else. Like the post-honeymoon question, he asked what should you do and she boils it down to: talk with your partner and reflect. As if those things would never be brought up prior to those 2 years. She literally thinks out loud "What kind of sex do we like having?" when the question already states that it's like your trip to the McD's, you know what you want, what you get, how long is the weight etc. Really wish we got more insightful answers from this person but it was so surface level, I just got annoyed.
I fully agree. She's terrible. Aside from her weird approach to geography - what "Dutch countries"?! There is one Dutch country, and that's the Netherlands. That the country name is a plural word doesn't mean it's more than one. United States of America is also plural. I'm 3 hours away from the Netherlands. I know Dutch people. They don't indoctrinate babies with sexual positivity. They focus on kids' education, not having creepy blue-haired "teachers" talk them through orgasms. I don't know where she's getting this from. No European country does that. To me it sounds like she's a fan of the leftist US grooming agenda and pretends that it has some root on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean. Talking about sex with unsuspecting kindergarteners? No. Simply no. Not eight year olds, not ten year olds - and sex ed in school SHOULD discuss avoiding teen pregnancies. Everything else is not teachers' job. You should talk about that with people you trust, ideally your parents, in a safe environment - aka at home, not in class. And, sorry, she doesn't get what AVERAGE people are into. This is all NYC sex and the city bla-bla with butt plugs and whatnot. Check out Alexey Walsh's videos (actually coaching men and women, not trying to get them to try crazy p0rn crap). He can tell you why your sexual strategy needs to change when you're going from being in love to loving someone longterm in a relationship. There is a solution to that, and it's not buying a bigger toy or lick pudding off of someone's eyeballs.
Gen X: We didn’t have iPhones, pornhub, instagram, we actually had to talk to a girl, ask her out. We had it good. So sorry for this generation. So sad.
I'm also Gen X. Some things I recall being different then, then what I hear today, is that men would always pay for dates, and women put a good deal of effort into their appearance for a date. Secondly a one night stand was viewed as degrading, and women avoided situations like this. It was rare to hear of a woman having sex on a first date.
Can you please bring Sadia Khan again? I want to listen to her for hours. Sadia is so poise, charismatic, I really resonate with her and how she explains things in such simple manner that makes sense 🥰💕😊👍
I'm thinking that the adaptive reason for not wanting to talk about sex with your parents has something to do with the natural ick of incest. Also, talking about that stuff can be arousing which makes it super uncomfortable if you're with anyone but just your partner. Talking about sex should remain private, but not shameful.
I’m a woman who has never had any issue with sex. Marriages take work. It’s only natural for things to slow down. I completely disagree with “Charlotte’s” views. She claims that our society is “still hung up on talking about it, and there is limited sex education” ..Since when do we need to learn anything extra except that basics in sex ed?? This is all ridiculous. We have all done fine for millions of years without putting it in schools!! I think there’s plenty of talking about it and seeing it. What the hell more does she want? F’ng on street corners? She is obviously left wing. There’s less sex because there’s less human interaction and too much screen time and ridiculous political opinions. When I was young, it was all about fun.
Well dang. Since you are a woman that's never had a problem with it I guess no woman ever has and that their hadn't been literally millions and even billions of women suffering over s3x for all of human history 😂
@@tempsoda As I sad she is thr one who said we as in everyone didn't need more knowledge because she didn't feel like she did. She's the one that tried to speak for what everyone else needs and minimized other women's experiences
I agree thatnothing beyond the basics needs to be taught in schools. Either the parents can talk to their kids about the extras or they can seek that info on their own when they are ready. They have an abundance of information at their fingertips to learn anything they want. We don't need high school teachers teaching students how to orgasm, or how to make their girlfriend orgasm. That's just not an appropriate topic for a classroom
I disagree with her on so many things she said. It’s like she’s late to the party. It’s like listing to a conversation from 15 years ago. Do we really need more sex education? In this hyper sexualised society? Really? Because from what I’m seeing in the atrocious dating scene, the answer seems to be less sex and not giving it away so quickly. To form an emotional connection with someone before “pleasure”. Gen Z are more conservative according to prw research. She talks about 50 years ago, yeah what happened 50-60 years ago? The pill. And now we have girls coming out of college having slept with 20 men without being in love. Is she trying to get that up to 30? Everyone’s moving on.
Generally sexual education leads to less sex, less risky behaviour around sex and more informed decisions in relation to disease. Usually it is also accompanied by strategies to turn sex down as well. Sexual education isn’t what a lot of kids people imagine it to be and often the curriculum is publicly available.
Depends of what you mean by shame around sex. It's like when people (wrongly) say that ancient greeks were open about homosexual sexuality. Depends of the country, region, city, century (or even decade), context, etc. You have a lot of cultures in the east that were not shy to depict sex scenes on their temples. Doesn't mean that in those cultures people would do it everywhere at any time. Context. An other example, we often see medieval Europe as a very strict society when in reality it varied greatly depending of the time and place. We have testimonies of people living in the countryside detailing what they would do during some popular festivities... and it would make modern gay prides look like prudes. I guess there is a "universal" danger associated with sex (for obvious reason), but I don't think it was always shame.
@@-Zakhiel- I'd have to do more research on that. It strikes me as the same type of "research" as is done with homosexuality in ancient Greece. Folks take a few examples out of context and extrapolate them to the entire society. Not saying that I think your assertion is wrong, but I've just seen too many examples of history being misconstrued for political points to grant it immediate credibility.
@@michaelwellen2866 uh... Ok I guess I'll make myself clear and elaborate and what I said in my first comment : "It's like when people (wrongly) say that ancient greeks were open about homosexual sexuality." I don't know why you used that example in your response because (as this quotes shows) I already talked about how people misrepresent views about homosexuality in ancient Greece. "You have a lot of cultures in the east that were not shy to depict sex scenes on their temples." I said that because of depictions of sex scenes on temples and palaces in India and some other places in east asia. You also have depictions of sexuality in religious traditions in Japan, like this celebration where they parade with a sculpture of a giant penis. As for what I wrote about medieval Europe, I didn't used the term "wild sexualy"... i was talking about some celebrations at precise moments. Again, context. Those kind of celebrations where rare but they existed, and it all depends of a lot of things, the century, decade or even in wich village that kind of celebration would took place. My whole point is, you can't just say "shame around sex is universal". It depends. Not only that but it's kinda anachronistic to try to mold our own definitions of shame on people and civilisations from thousands of years ago. It's like trying to debate if slavery was always the same and wrong in every place on earth for all manking history. It depends of not only what people thought bout it at the time but ALSO what did they mean by slavery, because the uses of the world itself changed over time.
@@HeWhoShallNotBeNamed- All due respect, I think you're mostly full of shit. Undoubtedly, there are therapists out there who are idealogically possessed and act the way you described, but all that means is that you need to find a different therapist.
It's hard to know what a stranger wants or likes in sex. The more you know your partner and the tighter the relationship the more you want to please, because that's what a good partner does and it's how you keep getting sex. If we drop the context of a relationship and are just doing a one-night stand the mentality changes. I don't know what you want, I don't care, I'm never gonna see you again, so I'm gonna focus on my own enjoyment. Whether you get off or not is your problem, not mine, I'll move on to the next girl after.
@@bionicnichola9251I'm the opposite but then I had a hard time finishing if I'm having casual sex, at best I have to think of her as a friend or else it's like masturbating with someone's body, except I don't know or trust her. I can perform but I can't finish typically.
That theory doesn’t explain why she’ll give the Alpha anything he desires while the beta who settled for her gets scraps and she wouldn’t dare do the risqué things with him.
@@Anotherguy1st Yes. As Jordan Peterson once said : ''Casual sex is a contradiction in terms. There's nothing casual about sex''. And on that point, I would have to agree.
After almost 2 years being single, I can't watch these kind of episodes without having a downward spiral that lasts two days. Sometimes I wonder if the crisis of singleness and sexlessness is getting worse by the reinforcement of the degree it is discussed.
@@KangTheDigitalNomad well, I’ve been single for 5 years, haven’t slept with anyone for 3.5. I do know I could easily get a hookup on Tinder if I wanted to, but can’t be bothered. It took me about 2 years to be truely happy ‘single’. Beforehand, a relationship was my default and that’s when I was most unhappy (going from in a relationship to rebound dating). I’m a woman in my mid 20s though.
@@AlexCats A Gen Z hmmm yeah she and others mentioned how bad BUT DIFFERENT for your reasons it is for you guys to have s3x. Not a surprise. Gen Xer we didn't have a lot of these road blocks but we also WERE NOT as responsible (coming on the heels of the whole A.I.D.S. epidemic) we still at the same time allowed for a lot more fun to be added into our s3x lives with safety & made s3x a priority somewhere in the mix of our daily lives. Now in 2023. Your generations dating market is GLOBAL, wilder when it comes to what's accepted and far more complex and niche/novelty. Kinda sad for you guys. I see it and watch the interaction it feels way too closed off and darker. Not good for the future and damn sure not good for starting out in learning about turn offs and turn ons etc.,
Here’s my reductionist answer prior to watching: people are having such bad sex because of the decay of trust (and by extension, connection) as a commodity. I’m curious to see if these two arrive at a similar conclusion.
Thank god i don't have to hear about my sisters, mother, grandparents, nieces, nephews, and so on discuss sex in casual conversation... if you have to "normalize" something, there is a reason why it should be private.
@@bearclaw5115it’s not abt being fearful, ain’t nobody scared. If you want to discuss it with someone’s, find somebody who will be willing to discuss instead of telling people they’re the problem bcuz they don’t feel comfortable talking abt all the shit you put up your arse or the different ‘’positions’ y’all tried. Things should only be normalised if they are absolutely necasaary, but talking abt sex with your family or the public is not necessary and you will survive. Instead talk abt it with a sex therapist, look online, and talk to you partner most importantly. Because at the end of the day sex is just between you and your partner, and that is when it feels the best, because it is something only you share.
Sex is dangerous. Paternity matters, especially in resource scarce pre-modern times. That’s why it’s private and shame exists around it. It’s not a “puritan” thing.
Well I gotta say I was a bit disapointed in this episode. It might just be me being chronically online having heard these talking points before, as well as the refutation to some of them, but I felt this discussion didn't deliver what I had expected from the title.
Some nuggets about sexual pleasure in there. But overall she was a subpar guest indeed. Just wildy wrong assumptions, a disconnection to the reality of the average man's sexual life and advocacy for hoeism
I am Dutch and allthough I agree with her instilling fear or shame around the topic is completely counterproductive.......here in the Netherlands they teach nothing about relationship or connection. It is ALL about pleasure. Message I got as a boy at school (and this is almost 30 years ago already) was, do it as often and with as many people as possible as long as it's safe and you're enjoying yourself. Detaching sex from relationship and attachment all together. Doesn't matter whether you're religious or not............how messed up is that?
Women are hilarious "in order to be turned on, the dishes need to be clean, laundry should be done, floor swept, house should be tidy and clean, he needs to flirt with me all day, build the tension throughout the day, shower me with compliments, worship me, make me feel sexy, etc..." Can you imagine if a man said "I just can't get in the mood cause the lawn hasn't been mowed" 😂😂😂
I actually am that man. In fact, I prefer doing the dishes, taking out the trash, cutting the grass over sex. At least washing the floors or shovelling the driveway is productive and has better results. Sex is so boring. Im 48, had many partners, (always get dumped haha). I honestly would rather do the laundry or clean out the fridge. ( it drives women absolutely nuts! LMAO )
Oh the lawn would just be the start of it! There's oil to be changed, snow to be plowed, sports practice, my goodness I haven't even shaved! How can I possibly feel sexy!
Sorry, she lost we when she was talking about religion impacting the role of sex 500,000 years ago. Recorded history began 5,500 years ago. I just can’t…
That number puzzled me for a few seconds and then I realized she meant "500 to 1000 years ago." I don't know whether the audio was a bit glitched there, or her speech was a bit glitched, or it was one of those "brain hiccups" where you say the wrong number without even realizing it...but when you substitute "500 to 1000 years ago", the rest of her sentence makes sense.
I'm not sure where the glitch happened -- in the audio, in her speech, or in her brain (one of those weird brain hiccups where you say the wrong number and don't even realize it) -- but it was supposed to be "500 to a thousand years ago." With that change, the rest of her sentence makes sense.
Schedules and routines are great when you have mastered sex in a loving monogamy marriage that is private. Having multiple partners and comparing them hurts you and the person you’re with.
because sex was always portrayed for what men want, in movies, in porn, its not appealing to women, and its harder to please a woman than a man, its far more complex cuz its not only purely physical, where as it was pretty easy for me to do what and how my boyfriend likes, and do it successfully, but i know itll be way harder for him to do that for me and also understand it.
Yeah this lady wears her political affiliation on her sleeve and injects it into her advice. I can’t help but feel that when I’m listening to her, I’m listening to an ideology instead of a person.
@@xwaazes6375 Which part of what she said is incorrect? I'm as anti modern feminist as they come but it seems to silly to deny facts about history. Many women weren't allowed to own property, were treated like property i.e. married off in trade. If you're going to argue against feminist narratives, you're best sticking to attacking what they're factually incorrect about (i.e. misleading narratives about how the wage-gap works, college campus assaults, that most men are snuggle strugglers in waiting). Unless you don't think women were basically property historically, in which case I'm going to need to hear a pretty compelling argument.
I totally disagree with her in many points that she made here. 1. Women became properties of men around 5000 years ago. - thousands of years ago. imagine your states,tribe,city, settlement doesn't have police and standing army. Due to women hypergammy women would always picked a high status man. When few man can have all women, all those Men who have nothing to live for and leftout would Creates chaos and unrest. Masses of those Men would revolt. Kill every high status Men. Then they would took those women as trophies( probably raped) so what you would to do if you were a leader of that tribe, settlement or city? You would make a arrangements marriages. That was easy solution. Now those same Men will fight for your city, tibe, settlement, because they got something to loose.
"look at the US with what's happening, like Roe V Wade..."...was about abortion, not sex. The conversation surrounding Roe V Wade was all about whether a single courts ruling could change individual state's laws on the maximum age of legal abortion, which is really a question about how the legal system works which was done through the platform of abortion rights.
The systemic dishonesty around sex isnt that its shameful. Its that "talking about it", "working to improve it", going to (god forbid) counseling about it", "trying new things". If youre doing that its already over. Get real. What wont people collectively decide to be dishonest about? Not that it isnt funny to listen to my thousandth woman gaslight me about wHaT wOmEn WaNt Women want it with That Guy. And she doesnt give a shit what he does as long as he's That Guy. Stop gaslighting, its ridiculous, harmful and damaging.
10:53, Being actually Dutch, so from and living in the Netherlands, while we are not nearly as restricted as some Americans, this is a gross exaggeration of how libertarian we really are. While I did have the "pleasure" of listening to my step daughter having a not very discrete orgasm on the sofa, while I and her mother were in bed sleeping 2 floors up, that would not be standard operating procedure. Yes, formal sex-ed is given at different ages, starting in primary school, until what y'all call high school. Getting more detailed as the years go on. Also here the average "first time" age is going up. Also here there is a new wave of prudishness. Where in the '90's topless sunbathing and beach-life would be standard, now that is reserved for some ladies who were young and pretty in those same 90's. As a guy who is fairly open minded, did some tantra and stuff, I am happy about that last bit: it is beautifull as freedom goes, but it is also uneasy on the hormones, let's call it that. So I am not sure where she gets her wisdom about how we handle things, but no. This is not how it goes. Women struggle as well. maybe a bit less. But still.
10:14 reluctance to talk about it is not about shame but about privacy. No matter how much you "talk about it" the reality is intensly personal and private between people.
That very last bit about stopping and then just staring at each other taking deep breaths for a few minutes and then going back to it was so funny to me. I'm like, "yeah sure we can do that, however it's pretty unlikely I'm going to be able to just get back in the mood again." The hormones came, then we stopped, and they left, so were gonna need to take a longer break than that and you're going to have to be the one to initiate this time, because the level of focus and effort it takes to shut myself down when I'm all revved up and my partner wants to stop, is just way too much for me to then just try to turn it back on again on demand. It definitely does not work that way for me.
Many suggestions she made are the death knell for some relationships. For example, a man being vulnerable with his partner may repulse some women. Agree though on many points about communication.
Some women don't like seeing vulnerability in men. They're a great match for guys who never want to show any vulnerability. If you're a guy who's emotionally aware and expressive though -- at least in my own experience -- many great women will practically line up to date you. It's all about learning that there are different kinds of people with different kinds of needs.
Anyone else stop the podcast at the part where she speaks about schools teaching children about genitals???? Ahhhhhh Chris, think you should’ve done more research on this one before starting a podcast with her
@@alyxfaust5663 not anti-puberty discussion, if this was a podcast about puberty then yes kids should learn about how their bodies develop but if we’re teaching kids to be more comfortable and aware about sex. We need to start asking questions. But in all fairness maybe there’s just a misunderstanding
@@Brothaman How well have parents been doing that over the years would you say? Most parents are professors and scholars of human anatomy and physiology? Are you prepared to declare that parents themselves carve out time to learn about these things to then teach their children it and not give a cop out bullshit explanation?
@@thabangmphela7322 No education as opposed to having sex like over 60% of people sometime under 18 and finding it out in the dark and playing sperm roulette to find this out?
I would like to know why it is that 63 percent of men are single, but whenever you go out in public, you can see a lot of men and women holding hands. I am a huge black piller, but I am vary confused.
You are the first person in all the comments I've read on so many vids where redpill men make comments that even acknowledges what he's sees on the street in real life on the daily. It's like all you hear from redpill is that woman ant men 6ft plus, rich, and sculpted. Yet the couples I see everyday definitely most men aren't 6ft plus (I'm 6ft so a walking measurement of that) arent rich, and arent in shape. Like every man I work with. Mostly shorter than me, making 30k to 40k and are out of shape with wives and or gfs and kids.
Are they young? Are you in school? That study was 18-29 and I don’t see many of those couples in my area. Plenty of couple but they’re older millennials, gen x and boomers. Lots of solo Zoomers
Honestly I feel the biggest problem I've had figureing out sex is despite how many studies are out there detailing how women are frustrated they aren't having good sex, if you ask them what they like during sex they don't seem to know or they often seem to tell you what you want to hear, possibly what they think they should like.
That's because if a woman has never even clim4xed from it then she can't tell you what is going to work because nothing ever has worked. Also a great many men don't like to be directed because it hurts their ego
@@Opal5674 Maybe so, but if you don't know what you want how can you blame someone else for not giving it to you? Perhaps women should first figure that out themselves then instruct their partners. Or just continue to have unsatisfied sex lives and blame men for it...
@@Anotherguy1st It's just more complicated than men want to believe and it always will be. It's more complicated than women would like it to be. I mean it's us that's having trouble feeling pleasure. If we knew an easy trigger why would we not share it? But this comment section alone proves my point that men don't like guidance or direction. Just look at all the men who are here in their feelings any woman would try to tell him he might could do better.
@5:05 @7:01 @9:44 some information can be learned by comparing cultures, especially in regard to female sexuality v. male sexuality (and nudity): for example, dutch v. UK v. italian v. saudi v. nigerian v. brazilian v. indian v. chinese. (n.b. puritans were from england.) evolutionary speaking, there is likely an adaptive mechanism to control (female) sexuality for stable procreation (child rearing) through the shame. homosexuality is not procreative, and that (and homosexual marriage) is also shamed, at least implicitly, in nearly every culture. and besides shame (negative feelings about one's own sexuality), there is jealousy (negative feelings about sexuality of others), which is exhibited differently among males and females. note also, that culture and religion (jewish, christian, muslim, buddhist, hindu,...) are usually related. for example, adam and eve is a story that has resonated for thousands of years. the commandments against adultery and coveting other spouses are also thousands of years old.
Glad this comment section is based. She is essentially promoting societal degradation. Sex SHOULD be private. It should not be an open ubiquitous discussion. Her mission isn't to get people to have "better" sex. Her mission is to make sex mundane. She wants to make it a recreational activity. It's not shameful. It's private.
I don't think religion is the reason people are uncomfortable with sex. I think it's as simple as engaging in sexual activity leaves you and your partner physically vulnerable. Therefor people would instinctively want to engage with their partner privately. Religion I think took advantage of that instinct later on as an attempted means of controlling peoples sexual behavior.
@@ephraimwinslow I mean, pretty bad experience with women. Women saved my life multiple times and I can't even imagine saying such a negative generalization.
@@ephraimwinslow Right, and I think the path is naive optimism to experienced cynicism to wise optimism. Hope and rigor in spite of the possibilities is what drives us forward imo.
I think asking for what you want in sex might be one of the most difficult things for many of us to do. Why is this? I talk with my patients about bodily functions - yet as you both speak about ... there is a taboo nature that seems linked to shame when it comes to sex, and most bodily function. People don't say "I felt so free and light this morning after I birthed a small child into the bowl" ... yet it might be the best part of their day!
"Skin Hunger" is problematic when we're programmed to physically distance, to be safe. I love to talk about pleasure and the powers of orgasms. We can always learn more from one another... Thank you @EmilyMorse, I'm with you wholeheartedly! 😘 I am on a personal mission to have more pleasure, as an essential feature in my life. Work is so addicting that it's a struggle sometimes and force myself away from the screen to play. But as soon as I close the lid and walk away I get an instant endorphin rush that increases each time I do it! I look forward to reading your book: Smart Sex, great title!
People actually have sex? How does that happen? I don't even know any women and don't even cross paths with any women during the course of my work day. Last year someone asked me when was the last time I was alone with a woman. I told them, "Well . . . I go to the dentist every 6 months so probably when the dental hygienist was cleaning my teeth."
“Five hundred thousand years ago sex became about procreation and women became men’s property” Omg I can’t listen to the fool one more minute. She really think we are completely oppressed compared to Before the Big C. 😂 i just can’t. The only sex I’ve ever wanted is with who I’ve had huge feelings for and found so attractive. That’s the key. It’s important sex doesn’t become meaningless or then who cares about it at all?!
3:18 Flip the Genders in that statement about the male massage therapist being asked by female clients for Happy Endings.. I like the glossing over, and that men are supposed to enjoy and be grateful to be put in that situation.
Oh man Dr. Sue Johansson is the literal GOAT in the sex education sector in Canada. Her show was on on Friday nights..late night...but she was funny, unpretentious and educational. She was everyone's grandma with the best advice. May she rest in eternal peace. You should look her up Chris and Emily Morse. Emily you would have loved her. We all did.
It seems crazy to me that people don't talk about intimacy, and sex with their partner. I don't understand how you could have sex with someone who you can't talk about sex with. I love those kind of discussions It would be wonderful if we could move toward a culture that openly embraces connection, and intimacy between people in a balanced, and healthy way. I'm all for that. I feel like the entire modern culture around relationships, intimacy, connection, and pleasure has been captured, and conditioned by prevailing market forces to the point where most people think of themselves, others, and interaction in terms of commodification, extraction, and transaction. It's gross, and totally artificial From everything we've learned in your multiple discussions on how women communicate, socialize, and compete, I feel that a great deal about how, and why open discussion of sexual themes is (and has been) considered taboo have already been explained. The information, and/or manipulation of information about sex, and sexual activity is one of the primary components within intra-female social interaction, and competition. Moving toward a culture where discussion about sex and intimacy become common, and widespread would require many of these historical, evolutionary (and at this point instinctive) structures around how women communicate and maintain the status quo to completely change. If it did happen, who knows if the resulting structures would be net positive. I don't know if it's possible, or beneficial to jam a wrench in that without knowing how many Nth order effects we might impact. I'd definitely prefer a healthier way, but I have no idea what that would look like
To those who believe that Emily is advocating for more promiscuity and casual sex, she is actually promoting the opposite. Most of her advice is tailored to COUPLES communicating with each other to improve their sex life. While she is dramatic about the extent communication in the first 15 minutes, I believe you will see this more as you approach the 40 minute mark of the podcast if you give her a chance!
@@tomcoop9750as if Christians didnt shame all other practices except penetrative vaginal seggs in the past? And some still do calling oral seggs and masturbation an abomination. 70% of women cant climax solely with the coitus how are they supposed to finish if masturbation is bad, 🐱 licking is gross and all other practices are shamed too.
An hour ago i got a Messages from a dude I know. He started lil bit of how ya doing, then went straight to " ya seeing anyone?" I said no. He said " ill just cut to the chase, wanna fck?". Lol... Very sweet.
@totem6064 haha! My dance card is full. I'm a busy woman. I did appreciate the offer it will end up with him heartbroken sitting outside my house crying. I told him that.... Plus, the porn has wrecked most dudes, even as badly as they want to participate. Seems the real thing can't compete with the D.I.Y. pornhole guys have been playing in for too long. ( in my experience in last 5 yrs)
@jfklb haha! Indeed. Sometimes I actually do need some sexual attention and I just don't know it.. my ex was good at fckin the Bitch outa me when I was stressed. Have to admit it worked. Until it didn't. Lol
My ex found it uncomfortable when I would talk about sex. We had an issue in bed because I have delayed ejaculation problems.. She thought it was about her, that maybe I didn’t find her attractive enough even though it was the furthest thing from the truth. She was a bombshell and way out of my league, but still couldn’t accept that it was an internal struggle that I had to work on and made it about her. Whenever I’d try to bring it up so she could have a better understanding she found it a turn off that I had to “figure out sex” with her. I know a lot of women aren’t like this, she was clearly selfish and tried to gaslight me but it’s made me apprehensive with talking about sex with my future partner.
Halfway thru my thoughts are that she doesn't seem to speak to sex of the present day. She is just echoing what others have said and talking about fictional sex of what it is and what it has to be. All thats being said is a temporary fix
Damn, why am I watching this? I mean, I don't have sex anyway. But I love this podcast, great discussions, great guests, but yeah, this one isn't for me.
Actually, there are four constituent countries on the Kingdom of the Netherlands - Aruba, Curacao, the Netherlands and Sint Maarten. Plus a handful of municipalities scattered around the Caribbean. They were a colonial/imperial power at one point :)
Well, that was about as useful as a video titled: "How to cut all the raw rubies you find" - except mineralogy is very fascinating on a chemical level ;) On a more constructive level I'd like to add one thing about the educational system you mention at 10:20. Growing up in a country using a Dutch model, or well, Scandinavian to be exact, is absolutely horrible if you're a person with low sociosexuality. I had so much of my school-time wasted by teachers insisting on talking to us about every aspect of sex. It was very much not fun or useful at all. And no, I can safely say that it doesn't stop talking about sex to be cringeworthy at all. Finally, I know she is yet another therapist peddling books and services but come on, the statement at 27:50 is a bit over the top: "Everybody needs therapy"..... Seriously? Do you think people in the Bronze Age had therapists? And yet we're all here, so some of them got it right anyway :)
I'm surprised she didn't bring up Dr. Drew and Love Line from back in the day. He was around during the AIDS epidemic. Another great resource of info on these things and health.
@@frankscholts3768 Yes men have been abusing, using, cheating, beating, killing, r4ping women. Lying and abandoning their children for since time began. And since tme began woman have rarely even had the right to choose what man got her pregnant. Now we have freedom but the pool of men we have to choose from may not for he most part be barbarians BUT they still aren't good strong men. But since every man is created by a woman I guess in a way you are right. We give birth to our problems. I guess our great crime is not smothering boys the moment they are born.
@@brianmeen2158 if you've paid attention the past 40 years, you are aware then, that it is women whom have changed. And men are being asked to accept that change. Statistically speaking, men are unwilling to accept what women have been tricked into being. The brainwashing really didn't begin to take men, until Gen z. Women attempting to date Gen z men.... you have my sympathies. But.... as the Gen z men are the product of single mothers... we are back to blaming the brainwashing media pushed upon the parent generation of Gen z men
@@brianmeen2158 Both sexes did change. Women changed to say they don't need men. And men changed to not need women. Turns out only one of those statements could be true.
Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than UA-cam by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn. Here’s the timestamps:
00:00 Intro
00:35 Why Are We Having Less Sex Than Previous Generations?
09:00 How Could a Sex-Positive World be Having Bad Sex?
16:33 Why Sex Gets Worse After the Honeymoon Phase
25:46 What are Today’s ‘Pleasure Thieves?’
32:54 How to Have Meaningful Conversations about Sex
42:07 What Women Wish Their Partners Did More in Bed
50:33 The Sexual Pressures that Men & Women Face
58:05 Where to Find Emily
Hmmm.. I was hoping for more fist up the freckle talk👍
Stop bringing women on
Just because someone chooses to keep their sex life more private, I don’t believe shame is the only reason for that. Some things are just more special when not everyone knows about it. There is an abundance of info on sex out there today. If someone wants to share about their sex life, that’s fine. But it’s totally ok to me too if people want to keep it more private.
YES. I don't care about talking/writing about my self (I'm delusional and have huuuge one - self confidence that is) but I believe, that it's my/our duty, to respect other peoples wish of privacy.
@@tempsoda very true
I do agree with the element of privacy and special - but that doesn't remove the underpinnings that are present in our society around sex.
Here's a question - are you comfortable directing your partner to do what you like and do you ask them what they want or receive instructions? I think this question is the benchmark for determining if an individual carries shame or embarassment about sex.
@@michaelrobinson9643 I have no problems doing those things personally. I’m pretty open when it comes to sex.
Those keeping it private may even have the most exciting sex lives i.e. they're not sharing details of their sex life as they're kinky AF.
Sex isn't "inherently shameful", it's "inherently private."
I wonder if there is a connection between the modern reduction in privacy and the reduction in sex.
@@FunderDuck Hm, interesting idea! There does seem to be a concerted effort to blur and/or eliminate a lot of traditional boundaries in our culture. With respect to your question, my sense is that they are happening in parallel rather than as cause and effect.
@@BULLTRONHERO you could be right, or the privacy factor is just one of many; environmental factors, cultural, economic, religious, technological.
My thinking is that a lot of communication these days is digital, and a large percentage of relationships start online or have some virtual component (dating apps, social media, messaging, entertainment, planning dates, recording important moments, etc). I can only speak for myself, but knowing that most if not all online interactions are constantly monitored, profiled, archived, and even bought and sold by corporations and governments has dramatically shifted how much I trust communication technology, and that unfortunately affects aspects of my relationships (intimate or otherwise).
On your point about traditional boundaries, I agree, and there’s some subjectivity that’s led to an ongoing tug-of-war over the generations. Most societies around the world celebrated sexuality, maturation, chastity, fertility, etc in some facet. Some cultures are very open, others are very modest, and there’s always going to be a debate about the ideal perspective (if there even is one). Sculptures and artwork in museums often depict mature themes that were integral to certain cultures. Then at one point, Elvis shaking his hips on television was considered scandalous. Fast-forward and most people have access to entire archives of graphic imagery. Now with new AI tools, we’re likely going to experience another radical shift. I think that’s why it’s important to value self-control and respect within reason; too many people try to force their sensibilities onto the whole of society.
@@Joe-sg9ll Maybe yours is.
@@Joe-sg9ll If you think sex is equivalent to shitting, I feel genuinely sad for you. I don't know what went wrong in your life, but trust me, there's hope for you. I hope you're still young. Make an honest effort to find divinity in life, tell the truth, and work to make the world a better place for everyone around you.
Emotional connection outweighs everything else during sex. It's always best to share this intimate moment with somebody you truly care about. ❤
💯 true
Facts.
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You realize fifty shades of grey is the number one selling book in UK history?
Women consume approximately 3-4x as much violent porn in every culture,from Sweden to Saudi Arabia ?
Per the book everybody lies
Many women actually want to slurp serial killers ? Including child killers like Chris Watts ?
Ever read a romance novel and seen how they describe the sex act ?
Do you realize women almost across the board prefer more masculine men ?
Meanwhile testosterone levels in the US have declined 60+% ?
See Chris's episode with Rob Henderson for the receipts about how women actually get more aroused by men based on how threatening they find them, being threatening actually is way more useful to hooking up than being attractive
And yet the best sex that most men will ever have in their lives will be with a prostitute. And I am referring to men who have "connected" with women not incels. What you people don't realise is that in this life, while a majority of women will be loved, all women will give an orgasm to almost all men that have sex with them, the contrary is not realistic. It is not about pessimism and black pill (I hate the black pill and any nihilism), it is about being realistic. We are men, we move with logic, not sentiment. Women due to their innate biology, can only truly love a minority of men (no, not 5% but still a minority of men 20%, 30% at best) while even in those cases they are not going to have an orgasm each and every time they go to bed with them. Not to say that other men cannot give orgasms to women here and there but it will be few and far in between. Women need to feel i n f e r i o r to men to have pleasurable sex with them. And the relation of most men and women out there today is not such one. Forget the rest. This woman gives 1970s-80s level of advice which has proven time after time wrong. The Red Pill has the answers, precisely because the Red Pill is impartial, it cares only about what it is, not about what it should be.
Sex is shameful if it's meaningless, is what Chris implies. She emphasizes shame as an impediment to pleasure. However, Sex just for pleasure does get meaningless over time with hedonistic adaptation.
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Also lowers the RMV of women the more their body count stands.
I once said no to a GF for the first time (in that relationship), she broke down crying because she thought it meant we were breaking up, because "men always want it"
OMG, they hate it when they get turned down!
The double standard is vomitous. Women are so freaking entitled and emotionally illiterate (ssshhhh). Total snowflakes.
God they're such emotionally illiterate, fragile-ego-d little snowflakes. Endless vomitous double standards. I can't say who is because my comment will get cancelled. spoiler alert- it ain't men.
So, when the culture was more prude and people were more polite and reserved, they had more sex.
Today, with a decadent culture of open sexual expression and the glorification and banality of sex, we have less sex.
This tells more about our failings as a modern society and the failures in the principles that make up our modern "culture".
Well , sex is pretty boring, no? It's basically an over-rated, underwhelming social construct essentially designed to humiliate men and exploit their virtues and objectify their vulnerability.
You have missed the real causes because you have an agenda. People are having less sex not because they are decadent but because they are not connected to one another for many reasons. Dating for one thing is extremely tough these days.
@bearclaw5115 but that's also link to how we view sex as commodity and not a sacred act. Which is the culture we live in today.
I think it just means one of the reasons we like sex is cus it's taboo....
If it was a commodity wouldn't we use that commodity more than if it was sacred?........lol
Please stop equating "privacy" with "shame". The idea that people need to blurt out everything private to practical strangers nowadays is absurd. If you want to talk about sex with your loved ones (family, close loved ones) then fine, but don't act like everyone must or should or else they are ashamed of it.
People need boundaries and it's not healthy to normalize sex to the extent that it's no different than talking about a ball game or the weather. Because it's NOT the same, on so many levels, and it's ludicrous to believe otherwise.
For the record, I can certainly talk about sex with a partner with whom I am intimate and have a connection. And been able to figure out "what works" without much difficulty. But I don't go around talking about sex with every rando (online or otherwise) or even with family often -- because, again, boundaries.
Because they are doing it with strangers. What does a stranger owe anyone?
The uncomfortable truth right here..
I think 95%+ of all sex happens inside of relationships
They owe, what is "in the contract" - written, spoken or implied.
@@ephraimwinslow no, like she said younger generations aren't doing it. Reason? Men are entitled jerks and more young women se through hookup culture... nor do we want the boys from the "manosphere" who hate and debase women.
@@smithereen97My source is that I made it the fuck up!
Thanks!
She's from 20 years ago, the last time one of the 1000s of women 'sex therapists' took over the popular culture to teach men what they need to do in bed. 20 years later after the establishment of these 'sex coaches' and people are less satisfied than ever before.
Yes so true
@@TuffLuv1984 wrong!
Look in the mirror, toots ❤
@@TuffLuv1984 Then the 'sex coaches' failed miserably and it's all the more reason to dismiss this pop-culture institution.
That said, we do know that 'how to please a woman in bed' tutorials and advice has gone beyond viral into what used to be men's magazines then internet videos and actual games where men earn points for virtual sex moves. I'm sure most of those are given out in public school sex-ed classes and libraries.
Either way, the 'Sex Therapist' and 'TV Sex Coach' has done nothing.
Of course, one of the fundamental flaws is supposing men should be concerned with sexually pleasing women, pleasing women, pleasing and satisfying women.
Nor do they need to spend more than a moment thinking about what will please them past the most obvious inherently known desires.
Bingo
Sex ed was started by Kinseys research,when he was a complete sadist and an accomplice to child predators
Complete human scum
Circumcized himself
Inserted hair brushes in his urethra
Also she says Americans are puritans,when meanwhile we are TRANSing the kids,when left wing countries like Norway, Sweden, Denmark dtc ban it
We have some of the most extreme abortion laws in the world
Oy 3 countries besides us allow abortion past 24 weeks
China,PRNK, and Vietnam
Planned Parenthood is passing out alphabet cards talking about golden amd brown showers to junior high students
But shes saying we are puritanical
Kindey institute should have been defunded a long time ago
See Kinsey syndrome and Kinsey's pdf files for the receipts
Nevermind that testosterone levels have declined by 60+%
Women don't like unmasculine men
Depression and mental illness are off the charts
And PUFAs that are ruinous to mental health at 3-4% ate currently approximately 34% of all US calories
Queer theory was started by advocates of child predation btw
Freud invented Oedipus+ Electra complexes to cover for child predators
Is sex so complicated that you cant figure it out as an adult sweetie ?
Because finding out about sex is what ends your childhood sweetie, and you think we need to make sure that happens earlier huh ?
Its just so complicated that you need to talk about it ad nauseam huh ?
Does the fact that approximately 25-33% of young girls( much higher in the left wing girls btw) are on SSRIs ,which completely ruins libido/sex for most
Nevermind the pill can lower testosterone by as much 95% btw,which completely destroys libido btw, nevermind the weight gain and depression
Also you act like pleasure is some kind of guiding star,have you never heard of the hedonic treadmill sweetie?
I don't understand people who act like it is such a mystery as to why individuals, groups and entire societies are cautious of sex. Sex is great but it can also be incredibly dangerous and destabilizing to any given group that engage/indulge in it recklessly, there are so many examples of societies that descended into hedonism/reckless sexual behavior which inevitably lead to their demise. Sex carries the risk of disease, sex can lead to the burden of child, sex carries with it the risk of death. Sex is a wonderful thing, it creates life, it fosters connection, it carries with the possibility of great pleasure but any group/society that engages with sex recklessly will have consequences to pay
But I don't think that's what she's advocating for at all. She's making the case for better connection, which starts with better connecting with oneself. If anything, that is desperately needed nowadays, and has been for a very long time.
@@ephraimwinslow Interesting. So what is 'the solution', according to you?
@@ephraimwinslowWell said
Exactly. You just described how many mighty empires fell. And today our society is in that over sexualized descended stage.
@@Omars17 It's also to be remembered that when Rome fell the barbarians were already living in the city as economic migrants.
Encouraging women to get out there and sleep around is a dangerous path to go down.
Nah they can keep doing so, you can’t control what women do. They’ll just have to suffer the consequences accordingly, no commitment from men en masse, no marriage, no protection, and no provision. Men make it very clear, value your purity, and we value you in return. Anything that deviates outside of that men’s aren’t gonna put up with. Simple💯
@Yoshi-rz8qi Do you know how many women have slept around and then got married later? Women who sleep around and still get relationships and money from men? Yall aren't stopping anything lmao
@@alexisc7565 Men have become increasingly aware of how women move, due to social media, and are adapting accordingly. Long ago this knowledge was almost taboo amongst men, nowadays in my everyday life I see men openly discussing these issues. Trust, men aren’t gonna be getting finessed as hard as they used to moving forward. You’re already seeing this now💯
@Yoshi-rz8qi I honestly don't see a slow down to the finessing...the thing is, yall have this knowledge and will STILL commit to women who have slept around because MOST men will take what they can get.
Congrats to the small minority of you who will only commit to virgins tho. If you can find one lmao
Plus the idea of sending nude pictures to your partner dating or married is perhaps the most retarded sex advice I've ever heard.
This feels like one of those filler episodes where Chris seems more knowledgable and interesting than the guest. Still, this speaks to the high overall quality of the show. For the algo.
Halfway through and I’ve been thinking that the whole time. There’s a whole lot of new age overthinking going on here.
doing a binge of these podcasts, and this title seemed interesting. But, judging by the comments, this one sounds like its pretty safe to skip if she keeps dancing around questions and isn't very insightful....
Two things i really don't agree with in this Episode -
1. She mentioned that Sex isn't really talked about much - Bruh i am 24yrs old, My generation is so open about sex. Growing up as a kid watching pornographic content was beyond shameful but now we got everyone watching that shit, its literally freee! We have so much soft-porn contents on Instagram, Tiktok, UA-cam, music videos, movies and even cartoons. Sex workers aren't even remotely ashamed of being sex workers no longer nor are they judged as harshly as before, We have a high amount of Single Parent Households. Majority of the music in pop culture has either sex or drugs in it!
Please how more open does she want it to be?
2.She spoked about introducing sex education to kids in schooling system - I honestly don't agree with this idea. I believe children are meant to be pure and naïve to anything sexual till they become teenager's. There's a reason why we say let kids be kids. The only things i cared about as a kid were my Family, Friends, Toys, Cartoons and games. Why complicate their life with irrelevant extras, you are literally defiling their purity with such notion.
Don't watch porn. You essentially desensitise yourself when you do, and the things that excite you become less estimulating.
You become less motivated, and sex overall becomes less desirable and enjoyable
Your Point 1 is why your point 2 is wrong. Like she says, we have pornography without sex education. In this world Kids will never be "pure" they will just have the wrong exposure to sex.
@@nomoresunforever3695 I agree. It's called sex education, not sex defiling.
@@nomoresunforever3695 children should be taught about sex at an appropriate pace. I would guess the OP didn’t mean not until they are 18 or something silly. But frankly, a toddler doesn’t need a bunch of details about sex or people’s sexual preferences. Anatomical names and what touch is okay and not okay with others is the majority of it with maybe a broad overview to where babies come from.
It isn’t healthy for children to be exposed to overly sexual content at young ages. Whether it should be as accessible as it is is a different issue.
@TehKarmalizer OP said sex education should not be introduced into the schooling system. He said that children should remain 'pure'. You have a way different interpretation of that than me, apparently.
Birth control pills kill the vibe. I took them for a year when I was first married, and without ovulation, sex was perfunctory and just ok. When I went off of the pills, sex became mind blowing.
Yep, more and more women are realizing this. It's sad that they begin to prescribe the pill from the onset of puberty. Many women don't even know how it is to have a normal hormonal cycle.
Everybody is different
Did you know that if your body become copper toxic you can have schizophrenic like symptoms, just saying a lot of women use copper based birth control.
Also all the antidepressants like Cipralex kills it
@lifter1000 I take antidepressants at the min for pain relief and it doesn't. I'm living proof.
I advise against her way of trying to get kissing back into the relationship. Don't make it sound like you miss it and you're trying to convince him to do it again.
Just tell him something he did that made you really hot, and add that kissing gets you even hotter. Full stop. Then kiss him.
Men don't need to hear about how beneficial certain actions would be for the emotional intimacy in the relationship. They just need to know what excites you and gets your engine going.
Because it's emotional intimacy that gets their engine going!!! Sex always starts there for women and then you can talk about techniques and things that excites them.
@@Ugnele Wait, are you taking about trying to get a woman to kiss more in a relationship? Because the video was about the other way around.
07:30 This is gonna be a hard sell of an episode if she buys the meme that women were somehow property and that "before" religion sex wasn't about procreation.
I'd replace "women were considered men's property" with "women were considered men's responsibility" and there was a reason for that. Times were much harsher back then but how soon we forget. There were also ton's of people talking about sex 20 year's ago, I don't know why she said it was only Dr. Ruth. What about Dr. Drew with Loveline and Dan Savage etc.. I could name hundreds.
Yeah she was definitely more disappointingly normie than most of the guests Chris has on
@@nelsonraley But did you at least listen for the following hour? Because there were some nuggets of (relatively) great value, in my opinion.
That's hard programming that she needs to break out of, be patient with her :P
There is a reason why female orgasm was barely discussed till 60-s of 20th century even Freud called it unnesecally and inferior to males orgasm. I really doubt lots of women had them in the past cause majority of women (roughly 70%) only can climax via clitoral stimulation which people in the past would consider as masturbation and we all know the view that church had on masturbation. So do the math.
It's nice to see the pretty people complaining about the lack of intimacy.
Spot on
😂
Damn, i know IM not sexless by choice. Im not going after models or perfect partners either... i just get rejected left and right. Thats not a condemnation on women and their standards, but let's not pretend it's a random choice by everyone in the dating world.
It's also now a GLOBAL DATING MARKET. No longer the girl next door, my friend(*not sure you're male or female)but it's global now. Better start traveling more.
@@KangTheDigitalNomad Judging by your username (DigitalNomad), I would have to guess you've already started travelling more a while back. You may have even landed in the Philippines.
It's not shame, it's BOUNDARIES. And sadly I've now got to 43.34 and LOVE has not been mentioned ONCE . The best 'sec' is when you make love with someone you love, and it never gets boring. It's not rocket science.
Based. Sex gurus always fail to talk about what men get turned on by and how love makes sex NOT boring.
as she said, the best sex wasnt about certain body parts and their size, it was the connection with that person you had sex with that made the sex the best sex. she did talk about it. love, connection, whatever filler word you wanna use, she did talk about it. and im sorry, but depending on your personality, some people tend to get bored more than others, and even if you arent bored per se, youre also now feeling the excitement or shyness or something new. nothing will stay feeling new, and thats ok, it doesnt mean its boring. its just shift into something else, but if you do go down the route where it became boring, which could happen , because something is missing for you, then yeah, talk about it and be happier with your partner. nobody can read your mind or guess what you want and how, and thats not just about sex.
When you're a very average guy, you don't wonder if you have good or bad sex, actually, you have almost no sexual life. You just feel lucky to have some sex sometime, good or not.
Hey Chris - thanks for another great talk. Been subscribed since the Goggins episode and your show has been the biggest drive for change in my life. I've started meditating, reassessed a lot of my priorities from my early twenties, drink less, barely eat sugar, sleep more etc. I feel like I've matured several years in a few months from listening to you and your guests!! That said, maybe it's just me but your eyes have been looking a bit more tired the last few episodes. Hope you're doing well my guy and still get time to rest! :) Thanks from a Canadian living in France
I don't know how Emily looks at our world of only fans, porn hub, gay pride parades, and drag queens and said to herself "you know we are too sexually repressed" 😂
I see what you mean, but I beg to differ. Here's my understanding : As you said, we are being constantly flooded with sexually over-saturated imagery & products. However, on an intimate level, we may be extremely deprived of anything meaningful. Of course, that's on a very individual, case-by-case basis. But I can definitely see how all the exposure we get, mainly through the media, of over-sexualized content, can create such enormous pressure to 'live up' to some unrealistic standards, that it could easily muddy the pool of personal/interpersonal satisfaction for a large contingent of the population.
Maybe what she means is we're too repressed in our intimacy. Sex is pretty much a public affair now, in a way that it never was before. Very performative and paradoxically conformist.
@@black-aliss Yes.
Sex ed was started by Kinseys research,when he was a complete sadist and an accomplice to child predators
Complete human scum
Circumcized himself
Inserted hair brushes in his urethra
Also she says Americans are puritans,when meanwhile we are TRANSing the kids,when left wing countries like Norway, Sweden, Denmark dtc ban it
We have some of the most extreme abortion laws in the world
Oy 3 countries besides us allow abortion past 24 weeks
China,PRNK, and Vietnam
Planned Parenthood is passing out alphabet cards talking about golden amd brown showers to junior high students
But shes saying we are puritanical
Kindey institute should have been defunded a long time ago
See Kinsey syndrome and Kinsey's pdf files for the receipts
Nevermind that testosterone levels have declined by 60+%
Women don't like unmasculine men
Depression and mental illness are off the charts
And PUFAs that are ruinous to mental health at 3-4% ate currently approximately 34% of all US calories
Queer theory was started by advocates of child predation btw
Freud invented Oedipus+ Electra complexes to cover for child predators
Is sex so complicated that you cant figure it out as an adult sweetie ?
Because finding out about sex is what ends your childhood sweetie, and you think we need to make sure that happens earlier huh ?
Its just so complicated that you need to talk about it ad nauseam huh ?
Does the fact that approximately 25-33% of young girls( much higher in the left wing girls btw) are on SSRIs ,which completely ruins libido/sex for most
Nevermind the pill can lower testosterone by as much 95% btw,which completely destroys libido btw, nevermind the weight gain and depression
Also you act like pleasure is some kind of guiding star,have you never heard of the hedonic treadmill sweetie?
@@marklasco3810 I think you do as well.
I really disliked this author, when asked a question straight up, she didn't have an answer multiple times. She would just talk around it or something else. Like the post-honeymoon question, he asked what should you do and she boils it down to: talk with your partner and reflect. As if those things would never be brought up prior to those 2 years. She literally thinks out loud "What kind of sex do we like having?" when the question already states that it's like your trip to the McD's, you know what you want, what you get, how long is the weight etc. Really wish we got more insightful answers from this person but it was so surface level, I just got annoyed.
I fully agree. She's terrible.
Aside from her weird approach to geography - what "Dutch countries"?! There is one Dutch country, and that's the Netherlands. That the country name is a plural word doesn't mean it's more than one. United States of America is also plural.
I'm 3 hours away from the Netherlands. I know Dutch people. They don't indoctrinate babies with sexual positivity. They focus on kids' education, not having creepy blue-haired "teachers" talk them through orgasms. I don't know where she's getting this from. No European country does that.
To me it sounds like she's a fan of the leftist US grooming agenda and pretends that it has some root on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean.
Talking about sex with unsuspecting kindergarteners? No. Simply no. Not eight year olds, not ten year olds - and sex ed in school SHOULD discuss avoiding teen pregnancies. Everything else is not teachers' job. You should talk about that with people you trust, ideally your parents, in a safe environment - aka at home, not in class.
And, sorry, she doesn't get what AVERAGE people are into. This is all NYC sex and the city bla-bla with butt plugs and whatnot.
Check out Alexey Walsh's videos (actually coaching men and women, not trying to get them to try crazy p0rn crap). He can tell you why your sexual strategy needs to change when you're going from being in love to loving someone longterm in a relationship. There is a solution to that, and it's not buying a bigger toy or lick pudding off of someone's eyeballs.
Gen X: We didn’t have iPhones, pornhub, instagram, we actually had to talk to a girl, ask her out. We had it good. So sorry for this generation. So sad.
Even that one guy who was awkward in Gen X got the 😺
You did have pagers, Playboy/VHS porn , strip clubs, prostitutes and um the grapevine? (Sorry I know it’s a stretch.)
@@AmeliaBodiliahaha not the same dopamine access as Internet porn.
@@BOZ_11 I couldn’t think of a GenX version of IG.
I'm also Gen X. Some things I recall being different then, then what I hear today, is that men would always pay for dates, and women put a good deal of effort into their appearance for a date. Secondly a one night stand was viewed as degrading, and women avoided situations like this. It was rare to hear of a woman having sex on a first date.
Can you please bring Sadia Khan again? I want to listen to her for hours. Sadia is so poise, charismatic, I really resonate with her and how she explains things in such simple manner that makes sense 🥰💕😊👍
I'm thinking that the adaptive reason for not wanting to talk about sex with your parents has something to do with the natural ick of incest. Also, talking about that stuff can be arousing which makes it super uncomfortable if you're with anyone but just your partner. Talking about sex should remain private, but not shameful.
glad someone is connecting the dots
EXACTLY. I was sitting here thinking, umm duh! Of course there is an evolutionary benefit to this! 🙄
whats arousing about talking about sex in an educational, biological and practical way? thats not even sexy, so whats arousing about it
I’m a woman who has never had any issue with sex. Marriages take work. It’s only natural for things to slow down. I completely disagree with “Charlotte’s” views. She claims that our society is “still hung up on talking about it, and there is limited sex education” ..Since when do we need to learn anything extra except that basics in sex ed?? This is all ridiculous. We have all done fine for millions of years without putting it in schools!! I think there’s plenty of talking about it and seeing it. What the hell more does she want? F’ng on street corners? She is obviously left wing. There’s less sex because there’s less human interaction and too much screen time and ridiculous political opinions. When I was young, it was all about fun.
Well dang. Since you are a woman that's never had a problem with it I guess no woman ever has and that their hadn't been literally millions and even billions of women suffering over s3x for all of human history 😂
If you think all the things men have done to women like FGM, r4pe, forced child baring, molestation, and p3dos is us "doing fine" twit 🙄
@@tempsodaShe's the one that acted like her experience should define every other woman's. Just because you agree with her doesn't make her correct.
@@tempsoda As I sad she is thr one who said we as in everyone didn't need more knowledge because she didn't feel like she did. She's the one that tried to speak for what everyone else needs and minimized other women's experiences
I agree thatnothing beyond the basics needs to be taught in schools. Either the parents can talk to their kids about the extras or they can seek that info on their own when they are ready. They have an abundance of information at their fingertips to learn anything they want. We don't need high school teachers teaching students how to orgasm, or how to make their girlfriend orgasm. That's just not an appropriate topic for a classroom
I disagree with her on so many things she said. It’s like she’s late to the party. It’s like listing to a conversation from 15 years ago. Do we really need more sex education? In this hyper sexualised society? Really?
Because from what I’m seeing in the atrocious dating scene, the answer seems to be less sex and not giving it away so quickly. To form an emotional connection with someone before “pleasure”.
Gen Z are more conservative according to prw research.
She talks about 50 years ago, yeah what happened 50-60 years ago? The pill. And now we have girls coming out of college having slept with 20 men without being in love. Is she trying to get that up to 30? Everyone’s moving on.
Generally sexual education leads to less sex, less risky behaviour around sex and more informed decisions in relation to disease.
Usually it is also accompanied by strategies to turn sex down as well.
Sexual education isn’t what a lot of kids people imagine it to be and often the curriculum is publicly available.
If shame around sex is universal and goes back for thousands of years, *maybe* there's a reason for it?
Depends of what you mean by shame around sex. It's like when people (wrongly) say that ancient greeks were open about homosexual sexuality.
Depends of the country, region, city, century (or even decade), context, etc.
You have a lot of cultures in the east that were not shy to depict sex scenes on their temples. Doesn't mean that in those cultures people would do it everywhere at any time. Context. An other example, we often see medieval Europe as a very strict society when in reality it varied greatly depending of the time and place. We have testimonies of people living in the countryside detailing what they would do during some popular festivities... and it would make modern gay prides look like prudes.
I guess there is a "universal" danger associated with sex (for obvious reason), but I don't think it was always shame.
@@-Zakhiel- I'd have to do more research on that. It strikes me as the same type of "research" as is done with homosexuality in ancient Greece. Folks take a few examples out of context and extrapolate them to the entire society. Not saying that I think your assertion is wrong, but I've just seen too many examples of history being misconstrued for political points to grant it immediate credibility.
@@michaelwellen2866 Uh... I didn't get your answer. We are both telling basically the same thing.
I'm confused...
@@-Zakhiel- Oh, the idea that sex scenes were common in temples, or that certain eras of the middle ages were wild sexually.
@@michaelwellen2866 uh... Ok I guess I'll make myself clear and elaborate and what I said in my first comment :
"It's like when people (wrongly) say that ancient greeks were open about homosexual sexuality."
I don't know why you used that example in your response because (as this quotes shows) I already talked about how people misrepresent views about homosexuality in ancient Greece.
"You have a lot of cultures in the east that were not shy to depict sex scenes on their temples."
I said that because of depictions of sex scenes on temples and palaces in India and some other places in east asia. You also have depictions of sexuality in religious traditions in Japan, like this celebration where they parade with a sculpture of a giant penis.
As for what I wrote about medieval Europe, I didn't used the term "wild sexualy"... i was talking about some celebrations at precise moments. Again, context. Those kind of celebrations where rare but they existed, and it all depends of a lot of things, the century, decade or even in wich village that kind of celebration would took place.
My whole point is, you can't just say "shame around sex is universal". It depends.
Not only that but it's kinda anachronistic to try to mold our own definitions of shame on people and civilisations from thousands of years ago. It's like trying to debate if slavery was always the same and wrong in every place on earth for all manking history. It depends of not only what people thought bout it at the time but ALSO what did they mean by slavery, because the uses of the world itself changed over time.
This is a strange mix of gold and absolute poison.
Ahahaha I’ve never agreed with a comment more.
If you need to see this woman, your relationship is in trouble already
Well to be fair, I think anyone who considers seeing a therapist for whatever reason has already admitted to the fact that they need help.
@@HeWhoShallNotBeNamed- All due respect, I think you're mostly full of shit. Undoubtedly, there are therapists out there who are idealogically possessed and act the way you described, but all that means is that you need to find a different therapist.
Facts haha 😂😂
If you need to see a doctor, I guess you might be sick?! At least you're trying to get better and not act like "everything's fine" when it's not.
This woman’s conclusions are so outrageously off the mark. She thinks the young generations are too conservative about it? It’s the exact opposite.
She is a conventionally attractive woman. She has absolutely no concept of reality.
I doubt she realizes how many people are not buying her old played out talking points 🙄
She’s actually not off the mark
It's hard to know what a stranger wants or likes in sex. The more you know your partner and the tighter the relationship the more you want to please, because that's what a good partner does and it's how you keep getting sex.
If we drop the context of a relationship and are just doing a one-night stand the mentality changes. I don't know what you want, I don't care, I'm never gonna see you again, so I'm gonna focus on my own enjoyment. Whether you get off or not is your problem, not mine, I'll move on to the next girl after.
Actually stranger sex people let themselves go where they won't with someone they know.
@@bionicnichola9251I'm the opposite but then I had a hard time finishing if I'm having casual sex, at best I have to think of her as a friend or else it's like masturbating with someone's body, except I don't know or trust her. I can perform but I can't finish typically.
That theory doesn’t explain why she’ll give the Alpha anything he desires while the beta who settled for her gets scraps and she wouldn’t dare do the risqué things with him.
@@andrewmackenzie325 Daring to do risky things always depends on the level of security/trust you feel at any given moment.
@@Anotherguy1st Yes. As Jordan Peterson once said : ''Casual sex is a contradiction in terms. There's nothing casual about sex''. And on that point, I would have to agree.
After almost 2 years being single, I can't watch these kind of episodes without having a downward spiral that lasts two days. Sometimes I wonder if the crisis of singleness and sexlessness is getting worse by the reinforcement of the degree it is discussed.
Don't listen to a darn thing this woman says. She is all about pleasure. There is no meaning in pleasure. Pleasure is a symptom of doing things right.
2 years isn’t that long…? Perhaps it may be worth focusing on yourself for a bit.
@@AlexCats 2 years isn't long....you high?
@@KangTheDigitalNomad well, I’ve been single for 5 years, haven’t slept with anyone for 3.5. I do know I could easily get a hookup on Tinder if I wanted to, but can’t be bothered. It took me about 2 years to be truely happy ‘single’. Beforehand, a relationship was my default and that’s when I was most unhappy (going from in a relationship to rebound dating). I’m a woman in my mid 20s though.
@@AlexCats A Gen Z hmmm yeah she and others mentioned how bad BUT DIFFERENT for your reasons it is for you guys to have s3x. Not a surprise. Gen Xer we didn't have a lot of these road blocks but we also WERE NOT as responsible (coming on the heels of the whole A.I.D.S. epidemic) we still at the same time allowed for a lot more fun to be added into our s3x lives with safety & made s3x a priority somewhere in the mix of our daily lives. Now in 2023. Your generations dating market is GLOBAL, wilder when it comes to what's accepted and far more complex and niche/novelty. Kinda sad for you guys. I see it and watch the interaction it feels way too closed off and darker. Not good for the future and damn sure not good for starting out in learning about turn offs and turn ons etc.,
Here’s my reductionist answer prior to watching: people are having such bad sex because of the decay of trust (and by extension, connection) as a commodity. I’m curious to see if these two arrive at a similar conclusion.
I don't want pleasure, I want purpose. There is no purpose of casual hook ups.
As curious men, I think we need to see a demonstration of this phenomenon
Thank god i don't have to hear about my sisters, mother, grandparents, nieces, nephews, and so on discuss sex in casual conversation... if you have to "normalize" something, there is a reason why it should be private.
I'd prefer things to be a bit more open and easier to talk about. People are too fearful IMO.
@@bearclaw5115it’s not abt being fearful, ain’t nobody scared. If you want to discuss it with someone’s, find somebody who will be willing to discuss instead of telling people they’re the problem bcuz they don’t feel comfortable talking abt all the shit you put up your arse or the different ‘’positions’ y’all tried. Things should only be normalised if they are absolutely necasaary, but talking abt sex with your family or the public is not necessary and you will survive. Instead talk abt it with a sex therapist, look online, and talk to you partner most importantly. Because at the end of the day sex is just between you and your partner, and that is when it feels the best, because it is something only you share.
Sex is dangerous. Paternity matters, especially in resource scarce pre-modern times. That’s why it’s private and shame exists around it. It’s not a “puritan” thing.
Well I gotta say I was a bit disapointed in this episode. It might just be me being chronically online having heard these talking points before, as well as the refutation to some of them, but I felt this discussion didn't deliver what I had expected from the title.
Some nuggets about sexual pleasure in there. But overall she was a subpar guest indeed.
Just wildy wrong assumptions, a disconnection to the reality of the average man's sexual life and advocacy for hoeism
You have to shout out Dr. Drew!
Love line was huge when I was a confused teen
she's been talking about sex for 20 years? never heard of her.
I am Dutch and allthough I agree with her instilling fear or shame around the topic is completely counterproductive.......here in the Netherlands they teach nothing about relationship or connection. It is ALL about pleasure. Message I got as a boy at school (and this is almost 30 years ago already) was, do it as often and with as many people as possible as long as it's safe and you're enjoying yourself. Detaching sex from relationship and attachment all together. Doesn't matter whether you're religious or not............how messed up is that?
Women are hilarious "in order to be turned on, the dishes need to be clean, laundry should be done, floor swept, house should be tidy and clean, he needs to flirt with me all day, build the tension throughout the day, shower me with compliments, worship me, make me feel sexy, etc..."
Can you imagine if a man said "I just can't get in the mood cause the lawn hasn't been mowed" 😂😂😂
I actually am that man. In fact, I prefer doing the dishes, taking out the trash, cutting the grass over sex. At least washing the floors or shovelling the driveway is productive and has better results. Sex is so boring. Im 48, had many partners, (always get dumped haha). I honestly would rather do the laundry or clean out the fridge. ( it drives women absolutely nuts! LMAO )
Oh the lawn would just be the start of it! There's oil to be changed, snow to be plowed, sports practice, my goodness I haven't even shaved! How can I possibly feel sexy!
Think about it more and it will make sense.
@@Bluzian74 you lucky bastard. The world is yours.
@@mrsherwood2599 lolzzz
Sorry, she lost we when she was talking about religion impacting the role of sex 500,000 years ago. Recorded history began 5,500 years ago. I just can’t…
The human species hasn't even existed for 300,000 years
That number puzzled me for a few seconds and then I realized she meant "500 to 1000 years ago." I don't know whether the audio was a bit glitched there, or her speech was a bit glitched, or it was one of those "brain hiccups" where you say the wrong number without even realizing it...but when you substitute "500 to 1000 years ago", the rest of her sentence makes sense.
I'm not sure where the glitch happened -- in the audio, in her speech, or in her brain (one of those weird brain hiccups where you say the wrong number and don't even realize it) -- but it was supposed to be "500 to a thousand years ago." With that change, the rest of her sentence makes sense.
This reminds me of the time I cried at the hairdresser because it was the first time I was touched after covid.
😂😂😂
Schedules and routines are great when you have mastered sex in a loving monogamy marriage that is private.
Having multiple partners and comparing them hurts you and the person you’re with.
Everyone doesn't need therapy. We need to get away from that mindset.
Notice there's a section time stamped about what women want, and not about what men want. That's all you need to know tldr
As guys it is our job in life and in the bedroom to do literally everything and for women to just experience it all.
because sex was always portrayed for what men want, in movies, in porn, its not appealing to women, and its harder to please a woman than a man, its far more complex cuz its not only purely physical, where as it was pretty easy for me to do what and how my boyfriend likes, and do it successfully, but i know itll be way harder for him to do that for me and also understand it.
Yeah this lady wears her political affiliation on her sleeve and injects it into her advice. I can’t help but feel that when I’m listening to her, I’m listening to an ideology instead of a person.
Yeah, about 15 minutes in I started thinking “oh, not this shit again“.
I can't but help to notice that the "women were basically property in the past" trope is the core dogma you're not allowed to question.
@@xwaazes6375 Which part of what she said is incorrect? I'm as anti modern feminist as they come but it seems to silly to deny facts about history. Many women weren't allowed to own property, were treated like property i.e. married off in trade. If you're going to argue against feminist narratives, you're best sticking to attacking what they're factually incorrect about (i.e. misleading narratives about how the wage-gap works, college campus assaults, that most men are snuggle strugglers in waiting). Unless you don't think women were basically property historically, in which case I'm going to need to hear a pretty compelling argument.
Yep big time agree
Couldn't have put it better myself
Almost no men are having sex. The sociopaths gets practically all the women.
7:47 Please don't perpetuate that misconception. The fall of Adam and Eve had nothing to do with sex.
I totally disagree with her in many points that she made here.
1. Women became properties of men around 5000 years ago.
- thousands of years ago. imagine your states,tribe,city, settlement doesn't have police and standing army. Due to women hypergammy women would always picked a high status man. When few man can have all women, all those Men who have nothing to live for and leftout would Creates chaos and unrest. Masses of those Men would revolt. Kill every high status Men. Then they would took those women as trophies( probably raped) so what you would to do if you were a leader of that tribe, settlement or city? You would make a arrangements marriages. That was easy solution. Now those same Men will fight for your city, tibe, settlement, because they got something to loose.
"look at the US with what's happening, like Roe V Wade..."...was about abortion, not sex. The conversation surrounding Roe V Wade was all about whether a single courts ruling could change individual state's laws on the maximum age of legal abortion, which is really a question about how the legal system works which was done through the platform of abortion rights.
She in the business of selling BS.
The systemic dishonesty around sex isnt that its shameful. Its that "talking about it", "working to improve it", going to (god forbid) counseling about it", "trying new things".
If youre doing that its already over. Get real. What wont people collectively decide to be dishonest about?
Not that it isnt funny to listen to my thousandth woman gaslight me about wHaT wOmEn WaNt
Women want it with That Guy. And she doesnt give a shit what he does as long as he's That Guy. Stop gaslighting, its ridiculous, harmful and damaging.
10:53, Being actually Dutch, so from and living in the Netherlands, while we are not nearly as restricted as some Americans, this is a gross exaggeration of how libertarian we really are. While I did have the "pleasure" of listening to my step daughter having a not very discrete orgasm on the sofa, while I and her mother were in bed sleeping 2 floors up, that would not be standard operating procedure. Yes, formal sex-ed is given at different ages, starting in primary school, until what y'all call high school. Getting more detailed as the years go on. Also here the average "first time" age is going up. Also here there is a new wave of prudishness. Where in the '90's topless sunbathing and beach-life would be standard, now that is reserved for some ladies who were young and pretty in those same 90's. As a guy who is fairly open minded, did some tantra and stuff, I am happy about that last bit: it is beautifull as freedom goes, but it is also uneasy on the hormones, let's call it that.
So I am not sure where she gets her wisdom about how we handle things, but no. This is not how it goes. Women struggle as well. maybe a bit less. But still.
Hands down the best sex stories you'll ever hear is at a morning safety meeting with a traveling construction crew.
I swear 90% of those stories are made up or heavily exaggerated. Worst part is when they'd ask me and I have to make something up on the spot 😂😂
10:14 reluctance to talk about it is not about shame but about privacy. No matter how much you "talk about it" the reality is intensly personal and private between people.
Maybe it's not actually shameful. Maybe in its proper form, it's in a way, sacred?
An institute that bears the name of Alfred Kinsey should be defunded indeed. That man did some sick researches back in the day.
That very last bit about stopping and then just staring at each other taking deep breaths for a few minutes and then going back to it was so funny to me. I'm like, "yeah sure we can do that, however it's pretty unlikely I'm going to be able to just get back in the mood again." The hormones came, then we stopped, and they left, so were gonna need to take a longer break than that and you're going to have to be the one to initiate this time, because the level of focus and effort it takes to shut myself down when I'm all revved up and my partner wants to stop, is just way too much for me to then just try to turn it back on again on demand. It definitely does not work that way for me.
Many suggestions she made are the death knell for some relationships. For example, a man being vulnerable with his partner may repulse some women.
Agree though on many points about communication.
Women giving advice about relationships is hilarious what will she say next? Just be yourself to meet women? Haha
@@filthymingesher advice is fine 🤷🏻♀️
_Never_ cry in front of girls. *EVER.*
Some women don't like seeing vulnerability in men. They're a great match for guys who never want to show any vulnerability.
If you're a guy who's emotionally aware and expressive though -- at least in my own experience -- many great women will practically line up to date you.
It's all about learning that there are different kinds of people with different kinds of needs.
If a woman you’re dating is repulsed by your vulnerability then she’s not the one you should be marrying anyway, drop her ass
Anyone else stop the podcast at the part where she speaks about schools teaching children about genitals???? Ahhhhhh Chris, think you should’ve done more research on this one before starting a podcast with her
Are you anti-discussion with regards to puberty?
@@alyxfaust5663I think that’s the parents job. I think out sourcing it to anyone else is turning out to be a bad idea.
@@alyxfaust5663 not anti-puberty discussion, if this was a podcast about puberty then yes kids should learn about how their bodies develop but if we’re teaching kids to be more comfortable and aware about sex. We need to start asking questions. But in all fairness maybe there’s just a misunderstanding
@@Brothaman How well have parents been doing that over the years would you say? Most parents are professors and scholars of human anatomy and physiology? Are you prepared to declare that parents themselves carve out time to learn about these things to then teach their children it and not give a cop out bullshit explanation?
@@thabangmphela7322 No education as opposed to having sex like over 60% of people sometime under 18 and finding it out in the dark and playing sperm roulette to find this out?
I thought it was Lisa Ann at first! xD
I would like to know why it is that 63 percent of men are single, but whenever you go out in public, you can see a lot of men and women holding hands. I am a huge black piller, but I am vary confused.
You are the first person in all the comments I've read on so many vids where redpill men make comments that even acknowledges what he's sees on the street in real life on the daily.
It's like all you hear from redpill is that woman ant men 6ft plus, rich, and sculpted. Yet the couples I see everyday definitely most men aren't 6ft plus (I'm 6ft so a walking measurement of that) arent rich, and arent in shape. Like every man I work with. Mostly shorter than me, making 30k to 40k and are out of shape with wives and or gfs and kids.
Are they young? Are you in school? That study was 18-29 and I don’t see many of those couples in my area. Plenty of couple but they’re older millennials, gen x and boomers. Lots of solo Zoomers
Anytime I've taken advice from a woman it usually plays out with 10 years of operating on misinformation, confused with terrible disjointed results.
"My assistant charges my sex toys." Holy shit. This woman is a terrible person. Full stop.
Honestly I feel the biggest problem I've had figureing out sex is despite how many studies are out there detailing how women are frustrated they aren't having good sex, if you ask them what they like during sex they don't seem to know or they often seem to tell you what you want to hear, possibly what they think they should like.
That's because if a woman has never even clim4xed from it then she can't tell you what is going to work because nothing ever has worked. Also a great many men don't like to be directed because it hurts their ego
@@Opal5674 Wut? Dudes get off on making their partner orgasm, they want to know what works and what doesn't.
@@Opal5674 Maybe so, but if you don't know what you want how can you blame someone else for not giving it to you? Perhaps women should first figure that out themselves then instruct their partners. Or just continue to have unsatisfied sex lives and blame men for it...
@@Anotherguy1st It's just more complicated than men want to believe and it always will be. It's more complicated than women would like it to be. I mean it's us that's having trouble feeling pleasure. If we knew an easy trigger why would we not share it?
But this comment section alone proves my point that men don't like guidance or direction. Just look at all the men who are here in their feelings any woman would try to tell him he might could do better.
Yep, they want to hide the fuct that they enjoy sex so they can continue to "do a favor" for you and you should appreciate it ☝️
@5:05 @7:01 @9:44 some information can be learned by comparing cultures, especially in regard to female sexuality v. male sexuality (and nudity): for example, dutch v. UK v. italian v. saudi v. nigerian v. brazilian v. indian v. chinese. (n.b. puritans were from england.) evolutionary speaking, there is likely an adaptive mechanism to control (female) sexuality for stable procreation (child rearing) through the shame. homosexuality is not procreative, and that (and homosexual marriage) is also shamed, at least implicitly, in nearly every culture.
and besides shame (negative feelings about one's own sexuality), there is jealousy (negative feelings about sexuality of others), which is exhibited differently among males and females.
note also, that culture and religion (jewish, christian, muslim, buddhist, hindu,...) are usually related. for example, adam and eve is a story that has resonated for thousands of years. the commandments against adultery and coveting other spouses are also thousands of years old.
Glad this comment section is based. She is essentially promoting societal degradation. Sex SHOULD be private. It should not be an open ubiquitous discussion. Her mission isn't to get people to have "better" sex. Her mission is to make sex mundane. She wants to make it a recreational activity.
It's not shameful. It's private.
I don't think religion is the reason people are uncomfortable with sex. I think it's as simple as engaging in sexual activity leaves you and your partner physically vulnerable. Therefor people would instinctively want to engage with their partner privately. Religion I think took advantage of that instinct later on as an attempted means of controlling peoples sexual behavior.
Controlling people...yes that is it
Having a relationship with a modern woman is similar to having a venomous snake for a pet. You have to be ever vigilant or it's not going to end well.
You are crazy.
@@ephraimwinslow I mean, pretty bad experience with women. Women saved my life multiple times and I can't even imagine saying such a negative generalization.
@@ozkavoshdjalla Seems like you're both right but experienced possibilities are not the only possibilities
@@nateauld You are right. I just think that even if you get hurt, it's not worth living in fear and becoming bitter and hurt forever.
@@ephraimwinslow Right, and I think the path is naive optimism to experienced cynicism to wise optimism. Hope and rigor in spite of the possibilities is what drives us forward imo.
I think asking for what you want in sex might be one of the most difficult things for many of us to do. Why is this?
I talk with my patients about bodily functions - yet as you both speak about ... there is a taboo nature that seems linked to shame when it comes to sex, and most bodily function. People don't say "I felt so free and light this morning after I birthed a small child into the bowl" ... yet it might be the best part of their day!
Yeah it's true
"Skin Hunger" is problematic when we're programmed to physically distance, to be safe. I love to talk about pleasure and the powers of orgasms. We can always learn more from one another... Thank you @EmilyMorse, I'm with you wholeheartedly! 😘
I am on a personal mission to have more pleasure, as an essential feature in my life. Work is so addicting that it's a struggle sometimes and force myself away from the screen to play. But as soon as I close the lid and walk away I get an instant endorphin rush that increases each time I do it! I look forward to reading your book: Smart Sex, great title!
Religion is what made sex about procreation? 500,000 years ago!? Yeah sorry but I can't even make it to the 8 min mark on this one.
Its not shame! It's private! Most people don't tell their friends brief overviews of it, why would they tell their parents?!
People actually have sex? How does that happen? I don't even know any women and don't even cross paths with any women during the course of my work day. Last year someone asked me when was the last time I was alone with a woman. I told them, "Well . . . I go to the dentist every 6 months so probably when the dental hygienist was cleaning my teeth."
“Five hundred thousand years ago sex became about procreation and women became men’s property” Omg I can’t listen to the fool one more minute. She really think we are completely oppressed compared to Before the Big C. 😂 i just can’t. The only sex I’ve ever wanted is with who I’ve had huge feelings for and found so attractive. That’s the key. It’s important sex doesn’t become meaningless or then who cares about it at all?!
Yeah another closeted feminist who thinks talking and feelings will fix what they have destroyed
3:18 Flip the Genders in that statement about the male massage therapist being asked by female clients for Happy Endings.. I like the glossing over, and that men are supposed to enjoy and be grateful to be put in that situation.
Oh man Dr. Sue Johansson is the literal GOAT in the sex education sector in Canada. Her show was on on Friday nights..late night...but she was funny, unpretentious and educational. She was everyone's grandma with the best advice. May she rest in eternal peace. You should look her up Chris and Emily Morse. Emily you would have loved her. We all did.
What makes you think Emily hasn't heard of her? This is her business!
It seems crazy to me that people don't talk about intimacy, and sex with their partner. I don't understand how you could have sex with someone who you can't talk about sex with. I love those kind of discussions
It would be wonderful if we could move toward a culture that openly embraces connection, and intimacy between people in a balanced, and healthy way. I'm all for that. I feel like the entire modern culture around relationships, intimacy, connection, and pleasure has been captured, and conditioned by prevailing market forces to the point where most people think of themselves, others, and interaction in terms of commodification, extraction, and transaction. It's gross, and totally artificial
From everything we've learned in your multiple discussions on how women communicate, socialize, and compete, I feel that a great deal about how, and why open discussion of sexual themes is (and has been) considered taboo have already been explained. The information, and/or manipulation of information about sex, and sexual activity is one of the primary components within intra-female social interaction, and competition. Moving toward a culture where discussion about sex and intimacy become common, and widespread would require many of these historical, evolutionary (and at this point instinctive) structures around how women communicate and maintain the status quo to completely change. If it did happen, who knows if the resulting structures would be net positive. I don't know if it's possible, or beneficial to jam a wrench in that without knowing how many Nth order effects we might impact. I'd definitely prefer a healthier way, but I have no idea what that would look like
Yes, yes, and yes.
To those who believe that Emily is advocating for more promiscuity and casual sex, she is actually promoting the opposite. Most of her advice is tailored to COUPLES communicating with each other to improve their sex life. While she is dramatic about the extent communication in the first 15 minutes, I believe you will see this more as you approach the 40 minute mark of the podcast if you give her a chance!
@@tomcoop9750as if Christians didnt shame all other practices except penetrative vaginal seggs in the past? And some still do calling oral seggs and masturbation an abomination. 70% of women cant climax solely with the coitus how are they supposed to finish if masturbation is bad, 🐱 licking is gross and all other practices are shamed too.
@@lalita9041incorrect
An hour ago i got a Messages from a dude I know. He started lil bit of how ya doing, then went straight to " ya seeing anyone?" I said no. He said " ill just cut to the chase, wanna fck?". Lol... Very sweet.
They have learned that from p0rn thinking all woman are just ready and waiting and as obsessed with the act as they are.
@totem6064 haha! My dance card is full. I'm a busy woman. I did appreciate the offer it will end up with him heartbroken sitting outside my house crying. I told him that.... Plus, the porn has wrecked most dudes, even as badly as they want to participate. Seems the real thing can't compete with the D.I.Y. pornhole guys have been playing in for too long. ( in my experience in last 5 yrs)
@jfklb haha! Indeed. Sometimes I actually do need some sexual attention and I just don't know it.. my ex was good at fckin the Bitch outa me when I was stressed. Have to admit it worked. Until it didn't. Lol
Rescue a lonely animal, and you will find the deepest meaning and joy in your life.
This lady needs to have a conversation with Jordan Petersen.
My ex found it uncomfortable when I would talk about sex. We had an issue in bed because I have delayed ejaculation problems.. She thought it was about her, that maybe I didn’t find her attractive enough even though it was the furthest thing from the truth. She was a bombshell and way out of my league, but still couldn’t accept that it was an internal struggle that I had to work on and made it about her. Whenever I’d try to bring it up so she could have a better understanding she found it a turn off that I had to “figure out sex” with her. I know a lot of women aren’t like this, she was clearly selfish and tried to gaslight me but it’s made me apprehensive with talking about sex with my future partner.
"way out of my league"
There is no such thing. Have some more respect for yourself.
Halfway thru my thoughts are that she doesn't seem to speak to sex of the present day. She is just echoing what others have said and talking about fictional sex of what it is and what it has to be. All thats being said is a temporary fix
Damn, why am I watching this? I mean, I don't have sex anyway.
But I love this podcast, great discussions, great guests, but yeah, this one isn't for me.
"Dutch counties"? There is only one, the Netherlands/ Holland.
Actually, there are four constituent countries on the Kingdom of the Netherlands - Aruba, Curacao, the Netherlands and Sint Maarten. Plus a handful of municipalities scattered around the Caribbean. They were a colonial/imperial power at one point :)
Well, that was about as useful as a video titled: "How to cut all the raw rubies you find" - except mineralogy is very fascinating on a chemical level ;)
On a more constructive level I'd like to add one thing about the educational system you mention at 10:20. Growing up in a country using a Dutch model, or well, Scandinavian to be exact, is absolutely horrible if you're a person with low sociosexuality. I had so much of my school-time wasted by teachers insisting on talking to us about every aspect of sex. It was very much not fun or useful at all. And no, I can safely say that it doesn't stop talking about sex to be cringeworthy at all.
Finally, I know she is yet another therapist peddling books and services but come on, the statement at 27:50 is a bit over the top: "Everybody needs therapy"..... Seriously? Do you think people in the Bronze Age had therapists? And yet we're all here, so some of them got it right anyway :)
Well, if couples are having most of the sex, now I (after 27 years of marriage) I feel responsible for having more of it lol.
I'm surprised she didn't bring up Dr. Drew and Love Line from back in the day. He was around during the AIDS epidemic. Another great resource of info on these things and health.
Very interesting and very informative 👍 👌
What I hear, from most of what she has had to say, puts the emphasis on men to fix.
And heaven knows that's not going to happen
@@Opal5674 with women having created their own problems, men feel no responsibility to fix them ;) best of luck with that.
@@frankscholts3768 Yes men have been abusing, using, cheating, beating, killing, r4ping women. Lying and abandoning their children for since time began. And since tme began woman have rarely even had the right to choose what man got her pregnant. Now we have freedom but the pool of men we have to choose from may not for he most part be barbarians BUT they still aren't good strong men.
But since every man is created by a woman I guess in a way you are right. We give birth to our problems. I guess our great crime is not smothering boys the moment they are born.
@@brianmeen2158 if you've paid attention the past 40 years, you are aware then, that it is women whom have changed. And men are being asked to accept that change. Statistically speaking, men are unwilling to accept what women have been tricked into being. The brainwashing really didn't begin to take men, until Gen z. Women attempting to date Gen z men.... you have my sympathies. But.... as the Gen z men are the product of single mothers... we are back to blaming the brainwashing media pushed upon the parent generation of Gen z men
@@brianmeen2158 Both sexes did change. Women changed to say they don't need men. And men changed to not need women. Turns out only one of those statements could be true.
Good conversation
Everyone = most women and a few men.
Love Andy’s perspective and I cherish my dragons.
I dont have a girlfriend so how am i supposed to do that?
Get a Russian bride.