Lol yeah, I'm almost 22 and still have never been in a relationship once. I'm waiting for the right person to come along before I get with someone. Until then I'll keep dreaming and falling for guys on the tv screens lol
That's pretty cool! Great decision! I also decide to not going in romantic relationship until i ready. I did have a romantic relationship before, but i realized that i wasn't ready yet. So...i kinda regret it lmao.
0:31 How do you act in your other relationships? 1:23 How do you feel about yourself? 2:07 Do you know what you want? 2:52 Do you change to attract people? 3:37 Do you feel pressured? Also, just for anyone who needs to hear it, please take your time. The world will not spin without you, it’s not gonna leave you behind. You deserve every kind of love, and self love is arguably the most important love of all. You’re allowed to take time to yourself, you’re allowed to feel uncertain, you are completely valid to value yourself. Don’t feel bad, you’re gonna do so well in life once you learn how much you matter and how much you’re truly loved.
When i was "talking" to someone for the first time, I realized how insecure i was. On top of that, I was dismissing all the red flags from this guy because I got attached so quickly, and I just wanted to be with him. I realized I had an attachment issue and a communication issue. So I am glad he ghosted me because I needed to work on myself so that I could attract people that also worked on themselves
I have a friend I’ve known for over 5 years. Ive had feelings for her that entire time. She never felt the same way, however. For the longest time, it was very difficult for me to come to terms with that. Hell, it still is. But one thing that helps, is that I know our relationship as very close friends, would absolutely be ruined if we were to take it further. I love her dearly. She means so much to me. And because of that, and pretty much every reason listed here, going into a relationship with her would be a terrible idea. The heart wants what the heart wants, still. But that’s going away more and more as I come to terms with this reality. There’s so much more to life than being with someone. We are our own people. We are infinitely complex creatures, to the point of sometimes even being hypocritical in nature. We are not defined by one thing, person, or event. And when we choose to be that way, it stifles our growth in all aspects. It makes us into a fraction of ourselves. And no one person can make us any more whole than how we choose to be, consciously or unconsciously. No one is going to complete you. No one is going to save you. A relationship just complicates things. And yes, there are so many beautiful things on the other side of all that complicated stuff, but unless you have someone with whom you can navigate that with, you’re never going to get there. And both of you are just going to become super messed up because of it all. Take time. Find yourself. And once you do, strive to become the greatest version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be all at once. Just a little bit every day. The only “too little” is nothing at all. Everything else will fall into place after that. I promise.
I’ve been in the same situation as you but after some time i realised it was for the best as her not liking me made me realise of my flaws and now I am working on them. Now I feel the same as you about this thing. Hoping for a great future for all of us ❤
After several failed attempts in finding love, I have determined that maybe I am better off alone. This is not meant to sound like self-deprecation, but more of a harsh reality check. There is no better half out there for me.
For me, I'd say that I'm not ready for a relationship, but I still really want one, and my biggest reason for wanting one is because I deeply want to feel loved and cared for by someone other than family. I have a great relationship with my mother and love her a lot, and I know she loves me, however, I've gotten to the point where her love just isn't enough anymore, I need someone my own age who I love and care for to do the same for me now, and she understands this too. Another major reason is because of the huge lack of people in my life. To get slightly more personal, the amount of people in my life is extremely low. I'm an only child, none of my grandparents are alive, and while I have some aunts, uncles and cousins, none of them are blood-related, and I don't really have a relationship with them at all and rarely see them. While my father is alive, our relationship is a little strained and I rarely see him either, and I also have no friends. So basically, the only person I have in my life is my mother, and again, while I love her, I just need more. I have a void in my life that, I feel, DESPARATELY needs to be filled. I always hear that getting into a relationship simply to fill in a void is generally a bad idea, but for me, because of how my life is, I just can't see it as a bad thing. After all, I hear constantly that humans are social creatures, and of course, most of us have a biological drive to find a mate. So I'm sorry, I just can't see "filling in a void" as a bad thing in my case. Plus, it's not wrong to want to be loved and have a fulfilling relationship, so my want and even need for one, I feel is completely justified. Now some might say that I should focus on making friends first, and I can understand that too. But to me, I view a partner as not only a romantic interest, but as your best friend, so in my mind, focusing on a partner is also focusing on friends to a degree. Now, of course having friends would be nice too, but even just having one person in my life (either a romantic partner or great friend, but preferably the former) would help me a ton. Of course, I can't know for sure until I have one, but that's how I feel currently.
@@error-lp5pp Thanks to you too! I definitely didn't expect much support from my comment, but I'm really happy! 🥰 I'm taking steps to better my life right now, it's just a very slow burn. I do hope to one day take steps to find friends / love, but we'll see.
This echoes a very similar feeling I have too. Wonderful loving family and a mom that’s incredible. But I find I’ve only ever had one real close friend at one time all my life. It’s never really been a group or a collection, my social circles are eras of one person. But I’m coming into late teenage years and finding peer relationships are very powerful, although scarce. When I was in a relationship, it was like that. We were the best of friends and could talk about anything to each other. We’d always check in at least once a day and call all of the time. That was enough socialization for me to be satisfied. But you don’t need to be someone’s partner to have that-a very close best friend is pretty much the same thing. It feels the best to have that deep intimacy, but as best friends you are already going to be similarly emotionally attached. I’m now looking just for people I can connect with on that level, romantic or not interests, just because there is a void that peers can only fill. I really hope you can find someone and that your relationship with your mom stays strong! Balancing your family and your other significant people in your life can be challenging! Having that strong relationship already is a wonderful thing. Best of luck!
@@neofulcrum5013 that is my problem. She is stuck in my head 24/7. I cant forget about the good memories i had with her during our first stages. I wanted to ask her out but just before that she told me she is seeing someone else
The only thing I can see I struggle with (and my partner as well) is the fact that I couldn't imagine a future for myself before meeting my bf, I felt horrible about myself, and just when I met him I felt like I had some worth, not just as a partner but as a whole person. I dont think that'll go away if we break up, but I've learned it with him. I hope we both get treated someday and can learn to love ourselves more, but I don't think I need to leave them to feel worthy for myself now.
I agree with loving yourself being important. But some people are arrogant in the way they do it. Constantly looking for validation and attention on social media. And that can damage you're self-esteem.
Yap Women will choose the best looking men in their social circle to show off on social media and with her girlies :b We, mid looking men, our hand is our true love.
After two failed marriages i had to come to terms with the fact that i have never been and will never be suited to a relationship. Its hard to give up on the ideal of sharing your life but some of us will never be able to. And...oh well.
There are so many different people in this world. If the people you were in a relationship with couldn’t deal with your flaws there’s a chance that there is someone who doesn’t mind out there. And besides there is always room to change for your partner
Since I was 12 what I've wanted more than anything is a girlfriend. I'm 58 and have never really had one. And aren't going to. No self-esteem. Zero. Full of self-loathing. Took me 25+ years to fully realize that, now I just drift along rudderless. No goals, no hope, nothing. Just waiting to get old and die. And I don't really care.
I've been asking myself recently if I'm ready for a long-term relationship (or if I actually even want one). So many people I've known for awhile have gotten married or had kids over the last few years so I've been getting that FOMO. But my family keeps telling me it's just not my time yet; I just gotta keep working on maturing as a person and eventually I'll meet that special someone
It seems obvious, but for us people pleasers, it’s damn near impossible not to end up just trying to make others happy while ignoring red flags and seeing our own desires as secondary.
27 and never been in a relationship. My thoughts over the years of being in a relationship alone have felt good. Thought of sharing my life with someone. Going on adventures, laughing with, and sharing intimacy, and being weird with each other. I think about that. But the thing is is I still am working on myself and the war that's going on in my head. Not to mention I'm introverted and get social anxiety. My social anxiety though has been getting better :D. I did have a girl tell me when I did go out that I'm the love of her life. I think about her alot. But I'm just working myself for right still. But a part of me just wants to scoop her up. But I am just not ready for a relationship.
Communication is definitely the key, though some of us genuinely can't speak at times, and people tend to just assume thing are wrong. Which also hurts. Like at work, the constant rudeness i get just because I'm quiet, and not a people person. But its just assumed I'm being rude for being anti social when i don't feel the need to speak or even be around people i dont care about. And just an extra rant im honestly just sad to walk away from the people who literally is my dream person, and we have so many many things in common. But for some reason she got it stuck in her head i was changing to be a certin way for her, when in reality that is my personality. But that doesn't really matter, but she said no, so had to walk away.
I believe we just need to find someone who will help us grow. If it is true that romantic relationship is not meant for someone, i think it should not be a reason to stop one's personal growth, example: teachers they don't need to be alone when their purpose is to teach students. What matters in life is you know your purpose and you can manage stress do you won't end up being depressed like the lonely people who lost their hope to continue living, because they think they don't have a purpose. This is just my insight based on my observations/ecperiences.
I have all the symptoms. Learning about attachement theory, people pleasing, rejection syndrome, and codependency. It's gonna take me a while. If I come across people interested in me, I'll have to be strong and tell them my weaknesses in order to prevent them to get too attached while I work on myself
I’m in the same boat! I watched this video yesterday and was sooo hurt, sad, angry with myself I have all these symptoms and didn’t realize it until my current relationship. We have been together 5yrs. First 2-3 was good. Needless to say, I’ve found out that I am a manipulator (had no idea) that, that’s what I was doing.
It has taken over 15 years, I finally had to crumple up my heart and desires for a relationship, and them both into the nearest dumpster. Then to walk away, never looking back. The pain that fills the void never really goes away, but can be grown numb to.
Videos like these remind me I'm not alone. Not alone in my perspective that I'm just not suited for romance, and that I just need relationships that are a worthy, healthy investment and not necessarily romance.
0:18 Many times I've thought, if I really want to be in a relationship like everyone else, I really should not care about the mental health, emotional well-being, and fulfillment of my partner. Toxic behavior is in now like it's got a sponsorship.
Literally yesterday me and this girl both liked each other, but somebody else got her before I did and she told me that we were not meant to be. I had watched a psytogo video the day before and now THIS my goodness
I have always jumped from relationship to relationship because I needed someone to show me who I need to be for them. But as I am being single for the first time in a very long time this very much opened my eyes to a lot of things thank you❤
The worst about it is craving. I envy aromantics for not haveing such desires in life, but for me, I'm dying to rush my life to the point where I can finally share it with someone. My only anchor is that I have a serious plan and I decided not to engage in any other serious thing like a relationship, but I'm yearning for it as hell. I taught myself to suppress the craving, but I still catch myself thinking about it. "how would it look like? when would it start? how could it end?" Even if you don't need it, you want it for the sake of wanting it and no matter what, if you get a chance to get in a destructive relationship, you'll take it. Not because you think it might work out, but because you want it to work out, even it has little to no chance to do so.
@@socramzetroc1535 Exactly and these women, lgbtqi, left-wingers, right-wingers, pagan, satanists, hindus and abrahamics who say otherwise are all deluded.
@@socramzetroc1535 That’s cap man, I’m decent looking(I get called cute) however I can’t find anyone and I’ve have seen guys aglier than me with good looking gorls. I found out location and your friend group is what determines your relationships. If you are in college or at a company there’s hope but if you are constantly by yourself it’s not gonna help.
Thank you for this. This video made me realise that I might not be ready quite yet for a relationship. Hopefully I will be some time in the future but for now I need to focus on fixing/upgrading my communication
Just confessed my feelings for a girl. She sadly she said she wasn’t sure whether or not she felt the same way. In hindsight I shouldn’t have done what I did as the timing just wasn’t right and I should have just asked her out to get to know each other better.(this was the first time we met up outside of school)For everyone, don’t rush it but do ask her out when you think the time is right as it will relieve knowing at least you tried.
When you're meant to be, you are meant to be. Nothing can stop that from happening. If not, then move on to the next. There is no use forcing something that's not bound to happen anyway..
I realized this the hard way when I used to be in a relationship with my former best friend because I accepted her confession just because I felt bad turning her down even tho I had no romantic feelings with her.Happy to be single now
My husband recently passed away on April 22nd & I'm 64 years of age & at this point in my life & still grieving, "Would it be a good idea to meet someone else & even want to start a new "relationship " with a new person?"
BIG YESS. HAVE A GO ASAP OLD PEOPLE ARE SO COOL...YOU NEED COMPANY AT YOUR AGE GRIEVING IS NORMAL AND IT WILL GO AWAY BY ITSELF. am just really excited to see you get back to love and be loved again... Be open though about it to whoever you date and don't let them take advantage of you🔥🔥 all the best ❤️
@@hugenehope Thank you for your reply. Tbh, other than being with my husband for close to 40 years & being comfortable with him, deep inside, I'm actually an Introvert & have a very difficult time making new friends. He was my everything in one package. Now that he's been gone for 2 months now as of today, I no longer have an so-called real friends. I have major Trust issues with other people. Even one's I know.
@@lindaalvarez8855 you could try working on your trust...find why it is an issue...you can make new friends it's not late. As an introvert try small companies it get's better there. Am sorry for your hard loss and that your going through grief. Take heart take care of yourself and with time you will HEAL.❤️
I know you don't wanna hear this, but I will be honest... You are 64 no one even cares about you beside your family and friends... It's over for you... There's no way you will find love again. You had a good life with your husband... That's more than some of us can accomplish anyways...
Being alone isn't all that bad. It can be a journey to find yourself and evolve to the best version of yourself as well. And another important thing: In my opinion, you grow more alone, since you have to face your own challenges/fears in life and overcome them yourself. Compared to when in you're in a relationship, where you also improve yourself but maybe more for the other person next to you? Dunno, then again, that's subjective. After all, getting support from a partner is very nice thing to have too. Good luck out there guys, be yourselves and accept the hard rejections. They will make you grow into an even better person.
I would’ve perhaps titled this “Signs you’re not ready for a relationship yet” because that leaves open the you may be ready someday. Not being “meant to be” in a relationship implies it probably will never be a good thing for you.
well, to some people, who happen to check some of these boxes, it will never be a good thing for them. SOme people are just wired in a way that makes them like that.
This is one of the few videos where therapy is suggested is often brought up. It made me realize that my budget will never allow me to be truly happy. At least not for quite a few years.
I can't attract anyone so I am content with being alone now and that's due to my personality see... you can say we all "deserve" we don't. I'm not ready I'll never be I don't deserve love my personality is too harsh to much to handle. It's not easily fixable too nor am I comfortable changing so much for someone who'd probably just leave as fast as they came into my life. Also as the famous saying goes and it's form the damn what 60's? "If you're lookin' for love you've gotta love yourself first". I can't do that nor will I ever be able to.
if you hate yourself, change yourself. do very deep introspection to find out what it is you hate about yourself and change it. you don't need to love yourself now, but you can turn yourself into someone you would see now and admire. find someone real or fictional you admire, and strive to take those characteristics to improve yourself.
I gave all of me to someone who else, who didn't live me in return. I lost myself in the process. I don't know if I'll ever be able to be in a relationship with anyone because of the damage done by the narcissistic partner I was with.
I know I’m not in a position to re-enter a new relationship I think all of my childhood trauma plus my PTSD from my last long term relationship has destroyed my brain I’m now way too easily triggered by anyone and everyone. And I wake up hating my life everyday 😢
Yeah, same here. Childhood trauma, PTSD, too many other brain problems, and hating life. I'm not triggered by everyone, but I'm often afraid to leave the house because I might get myself killed overreacting to a deliberate provocation by someone who's out for blood. I have comment notifications turned off because my opinions get me targeted for abuse. It's lonely as hell, though. Anyway, I hope things get better for you.
Honesty is important between the 2 when People hold back not reveal much personally they may not know the destruction there causing for anything to ever flourish and being to choosy can be a bad habit as well! There are things that are personal that need to be discussed and if not don't expect the other to be happy to give you personal questions! I'm not a big talker but this may also end the relationship quickly! Some of us people need this validation I do because it helps re assure me!
Watching this gave me a good self reflection, I have too many mental problems that def involve 4 of these.. hurts to realize but in the end it's not hopeless.
💙💙👍 We're learning by doing. We're discover together our moments. We don't have a good or bad scenario, every time we're writing together a next chapter of our story. 😜
I've been single for a while now and as much as I would like to believe in finding true love it's easier said than done the way people are now a days it's definitely hard to find good people now a days
I only need Little amount of darkness in my heart, ample amount of goodness to live forever. No matter how much painful it is to be single, Its best to tske it for better, it all depends on how the person desires to be single.
This hits different 😢😢 yk I've hurt someone I love & they keep coming back I keep expressing my love but don't know how still I love that person cause I am poor at communication so thanks #psych2go
Want a relationship… but still kinda figuring out who I am, what my goals are, and just really trying to live in the moment. I don’t want to get into a relationship just to impose on others because I wasn’t ready. I kind of had already made up my mind about this so I’m not sure why I watched the video now… maybe I’ll be back in a few years time to reflect on these things.
I will leave this comment at this time as a beautiful memory to remind me of this wonderful video in case anyone else comments - Thank you for this wonderful video.
@@Gift820 u didnt understood what i told The thing i said is.. I woke up at 2:30 last night for going to a function and i saw phone for seeing any new messages, Suddenly this chnl's video appeared so i clicked it and i(thought i) commented first At 3:30. So dont fight with me Kidd!!!
@@Gift820 oh... Iam okay for what you said but.... If u are asking a question,you have to use commas(,)and fullstops(.). Then I can understand what you are saying or asking. That could help to read a sentence. Maybe this could help
i am unfortunately stuck in a trap, i can't love myself because of my inability to get a relationship while a large majority of people my age have. i feel like i failed at life and am missing out. so yeah this is a what do you call it, a vicious cycle?
Hmm... it's understandable to feel that way. I am sorry you went through that. I don't know whether this can help you or not. I may not sound fluent in English either, but... remember that it's not your fault that you couldn't get a relationship. You are at least trying and that's what matters. You are a nice person. You don't hurt others and that's what matters. It's ok if you couldn't get a relationship. It's not your fault. A fault is when something is within your control, but a relationship isn't within your control, is it? A relationship is something in which two people like each other. You cannot make the other person magically or forcefully like you back, can you? So, it's not your fault. You are still as cool and worthy as you've always been ❤️
I grew out if touch with myself. Im so happy he sent me this stuff. Hes still trying to play games. Go away already, im still finding me. Thanks but no thanks. I have aick family memberrs i need to be there for who appreciate me.
Yeah I never have dated but I can relate to this topic because I don't know how to communicate with another person and I'm still working on improving my life and achieving my goals and honestly I may be a patient person but I'm really used to being alone and being independent. Honestly I want to be single until I die and I don't want to give a romantic relationship a chance ever in my life. I'm good with being single
"I'm just a looser in the game of ove I'm just a straight boy in the shade And how I wish to what love feels like To find someone to contemplate There's a voice and a million answers to the questions I don't ask A demon I have to contain When I'm walking through the fern Getting deep into the black Whispers I can't restrain Don't give in..."
I don´t know if it´s a compromise if you yourself are always lively and happy to be on yourself. Then if you think you can do something about the difference and you get used by other people for your kindness ... It so happens that you lose the touch to be connected again because it didn´t go very well and you were used in a divorce ... You didn´t like the idea but thought well if they want to murder you I am trying to help you ... The next you know is your standing with your back against the wall. Thinking you could turn the tide for others but life crashes down on you and you get all the shit over yourself. It was really nasty and maybe compromising to be there for others was the worst idea you ever did because you were soaked with agony in return ... Never be someone´s second if they can´t appreciate the first they have been with ... I was very annoyed by that and felt used by the fact that it all escalated very quickly around me ... Some wanted more attention than the other. saying things like well you were never there. You always leave me alone maybe I don´t deserve you bla bla bla ... I was fed up with the whole thought of a relationship it turned out to be a sour apple that I didn´t like at all ... Where I once was alone and without care I now felt constantly watched as if anything I did was cheating or doing wrong ... If looks could be deceiving I was very heartstruck by the fact I met someone who was in danger and thought well I shall help you ... But in the end it all died and I was heartbroken I felt battered and bruised by the fact that everything went down like crashing ... Maybe I shouldn´t have done it at all because in the end the greatest illusion before your own eyes isn´t the truth in real. I felt so stupid for not seeing through the looks that were deceiving and I thought you really are a jackass you just fell in love with her appearance. She looked like someone from your past but that had a sad end and you kept on hoping she was that special someone but that was so dumb of myself. I was honestly encouraged that I could make that change but in the end was just used and after that I took the blame and let it all come down on me. I became the victim of my own thoughts and accusations in which I took the full consequences for someone else but it wasn´t even my fault. I will never lower myself down for that level again although I was in love by the deception it was a bloody nightmare when I was on the menu. I will know better in time and I am sorry if things didn´t work out the way you or me had planned it to be. I don´t have the grip in life for others I can only help them so far and I will never let it happen again that I will be used for the scheme of divorce ... She put a bloody spell on me and I fell for it like a child. I really thought I could be the lifesaver and later on I was used for the unthinkable. She was very alluring and tempting she knew how to play that game very well and it was the stupidest lie I ever met in my entire life. For myself it just means don´t let yourself be tempted once more because your innocence and integrity gets destroyed by such deeds. Maybe it is true what they say people aren´t always on your side some want to bring you down in life make you feel guilty about yourself. Well I learned my lesson and I shall not be provoked or used in this way again I have been way too kind for my own good ...
I'm 28 and still single to this day. I'll date someone when I'm officially ready. Sometimes, it's better to be alone than be with the wrong person.
Lol yeah, I'm almost 22 and still have never been in a relationship once. I'm waiting for the right person to come along before I get with someone. Until then I'll keep dreaming and falling for guys on the tv screens lol
I've never been in a relationship too 😂😅 and I'm 26 🤣
@@crookedteethyan5594 🤣 I understand. But hey, there's no shame in it.
That's pretty cool! Great decision! I also decide to not going in romantic relationship until i ready. I did have a romantic relationship before, but i realized that i wasn't ready yet. So...i kinda regret it lmao.
Ive been in 1 long term relationship but at the cost of my senior year in highschool. Won't get that time back man
0:31 How do you act in your other relationships?
1:23 How do you feel about yourself?
2:07 Do you know what you want?
2:52 Do you change to attract people?
3:37 Do you feel pressured?
Also, just for anyone who needs to hear it, please take your time. The world will not spin without you, it’s not gonna leave you behind. You deserve every kind of love, and self love is arguably the most important love of all. You’re allowed to take time to yourself, you’re allowed to feel uncertain, you are completely valid to value yourself. Don’t feel bad, you’re gonna do so well in life once you learn how much you matter and how much you’re truly loved.
HOW?
3 DAYA AGO???
How did you post this comment 3 days ago while it's been 2 minutes since this video was uploaded. like how?
UA-cam time travel....
Thank you for those words. I pray you're right.
When i was "talking" to someone for the first time, I realized how insecure i was. On top of that, I was dismissing all the red flags from this guy because I got attached so quickly, and I just wanted to be with him. I realized I had an attachment issue and a communication issue. So I am glad he ghosted me because I needed to work on myself so that I could attract people that also worked on themselves
It’s kinda tiring seeing everyone you know in a happy relationship for years now. Happy for them yes, but it gets pretty lonely sometimes.
relateable.
Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.🌞🌝☀️
I rushed over here in like 2 seconds
That is very relatable😭
Why? There is someone for everyone
@@shangrilaladedaNah not rlly, I have an aunt who doesn’t have anyone other than family and friends, and she’s doing pretty well!
@@Elliotterise yes there is you just have to be accepting
On second thought I'd rather stay single cuz i got homies🗿
I have a friend I’ve known for over 5 years. Ive had feelings for her that entire time. She never felt the same way, however. For the longest time, it was very difficult for me to come to terms with that. Hell, it still is. But one thing that helps, is that I know our relationship as very close friends, would absolutely be ruined if we were to take it further.
I love her dearly. She means so much to me. And because of that, and pretty much every reason listed here, going into a relationship with her would be a terrible idea.
The heart wants what the heart wants, still. But that’s going away more and more as I come to terms with this reality.
There’s so much more to life than being with someone. We are our own people. We are infinitely complex creatures, to the point of sometimes even being hypocritical in nature. We are not defined by one thing, person, or event. And when we choose to be that way, it stifles our growth in all aspects. It makes us into a fraction of ourselves. And no one person can make us any more whole than how we choose to be, consciously or unconsciously.
No one is going to complete you. No one is going to save you. A relationship just complicates things. And yes, there are so many beautiful things on the other side of all that complicated stuff, but unless you have someone with whom you can navigate that with, you’re never going to get there. And both of you are just going to become super messed up because of it all.
Take time. Find yourself. And once you do, strive to become the greatest version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be all at once. Just a little bit every day. The only “too little” is nothing at all.
Everything else will fall into place after that.
I promise.
I’ve been in the same situation as you but after some time i realised it was for the best as her not liking me made me realise of my flaws and now I am working on them. Now I feel the same as you about this thing. Hoping for a great future for all of us ❤
My story exactly.
Thank you for this. I find myself in a similar position and will make the best of it.
I don't need a video to tell me that I'm not meant to be in a relationship. Figured that out a long time ago
I dont remember i wrote this comment
Same here we on the same boat 🛥️
Is this just a defeated remark or have you asked yourself one of these questions??
After several failed attempts in finding love, I have determined that maybe I am better off alone. This is not meant to sound like self-deprecation, but more of a harsh reality check. There is no better half out there for me.
same here
I know what you mean. They say there is another half orange for everybody, but some of us are lemons, not oranges.
same here
For me, I'd say that I'm not ready for a relationship, but I still really want one, and my biggest reason for wanting one is because I deeply want to feel loved and cared for by someone other than family. I have a great relationship with my mother and love her a lot, and I know she loves me, however, I've gotten to the point where her love just isn't enough anymore, I need someone my own age who I love and care for to do the same for me now, and she understands this too. Another major reason is because of the huge lack of people in my life.
To get slightly more personal, the amount of people in my life is extremely low. I'm an only child, none of my grandparents are alive, and while I have some aunts, uncles and cousins, none of them are blood-related, and I don't really have a relationship with them at all and rarely see them. While my father is alive, our relationship is a little strained and I rarely see him either, and I also have no friends. So basically, the only person I have in my life is my mother, and again, while I love her, I just need more. I have a void in my life that, I feel, DESPARATELY needs to be filled.
I always hear that getting into a relationship simply to fill in a void is generally a bad idea, but for me, because of how my life is, I just can't see it as a bad thing. After all, I hear constantly that humans are social creatures, and of course, most of us have a biological drive to find a mate. So I'm sorry, I just can't see "filling in a void" as a bad thing in my case. Plus, it's not wrong to want to be loved and have a fulfilling relationship, so my want and even need for one, I feel is completely justified. Now some might say that I should focus on making friends first, and I can understand that too. But to me, I view a partner as not only a romantic interest, but as your best friend, so in my mind, focusing on a partner is also focusing on friends to a degree. Now, of course having friends would be nice too, but even just having one person in my life (either a romantic partner or great friend, but preferably the former) would help me a ton. Of course, I can't know for sure until I have one, but that's how I feel currently.
this is so sad i hope you find the love of your life!
@@xChronyx Thanks! While I don't have a ton of faith in myself in that regard, I appreciate the support! 😊
I'm going through the same thing too.. hope things get better for you ❤
@@error-lp5pp Thanks to you too! I definitely didn't expect much support from my comment, but I'm really happy! 🥰
I'm taking steps to better my life right now, it's just a very slow burn. I do hope to one day take steps to find friends / love, but we'll see.
This echoes a very similar feeling I have too. Wonderful loving family and a mom that’s incredible. But I find I’ve only ever had one real close friend at one time all my life. It’s never really been a group or a collection, my social circles are eras of one person. But I’m coming into late teenage years and finding peer relationships are very powerful, although scarce. When I was in a relationship, it was like that. We were the best of friends and could talk about anything to each other. We’d always check in at least once a day and call all of the time. That was enough socialization for me to be satisfied.
But you don’t need to be someone’s partner to have that-a very close best friend is pretty much the same thing. It feels the best to have that deep intimacy, but as best friends you are already going to be similarly emotionally attached. I’m now looking just for people I can connect with on that level, romantic or not interests, just because there is a void that peers can only fill.
I really hope you can find someone and that your relationship with your mom stays strong! Balancing your family and your other significant people in your life can be challenging! Having that strong relationship already is a wonderful thing. Best of luck!
"You should love yourself, NOW"⚡⚡⚡
Okay, GUD commenter
YASSSSS
I don’t think I will
:p
Maybe in some other universe I could but not here
High tier god, is that you?
According to this video, im perfectly ready for a relation.
She chose someone else over me 😔
I feel that.
Keep moving forward mate. Don’t look back
@@neofulcrum5013 that is my problem. She is stuck in my head 24/7. I cant forget about the good memories i had with her during our first stages. I wanted to ask her out but just before that she told me she is seeing someone else
She chose someone better.
You never had the opportunity.
It was over from the beginning.
@@socramzetroc1535 you sound like someone who spends a lot of time alone
It's very uplifting to know that you will die unloved, alone...
Apparently, I'm doomed to be single forever. There's freedom in that though
Black pill
Its called cruising singlelife on autopilot. Its excruciatingly lonely but peaceful.
same here
The only thing I can see I struggle with (and my partner as well) is the fact that I couldn't imagine a future for myself before meeting my bf, I felt horrible about myself, and just when I met him I felt like I had some worth, not just as a partner but as a whole person. I dont think that'll go away if we break up, but I've learned it with him. I hope we both get treated someday and can learn to love ourselves more, but I don't think I need to leave them to feel worthy for myself now.
It's sad that there are multiple places in this video that stick out but I'm glad I watched this because honestly it's a wake up call.
I agree with loving yourself being important. But some people are arrogant in the way they do it. Constantly looking for validation and attention on social media. And that can damage you're self-esteem.
Yap
Women will choose the best looking men in their social circle to show off on social media and with her girlies :b
We, mid looking men, our hand is our true love.
It all depends on how you define loving yourself.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj I will said the same !
@@cannibalcarwash8388 that’s your perception when you saw them but it’s not in their mind ! It’s different !
After two failed marriages i had to come to terms with the fact that i have never been and will never be suited to a relationship. Its hard to give up on the ideal of sharing your life but some of us will never be able to. And...oh well.
My mom is like that too and it hurts to see, I’m not sure yet if I will ever find someone that I can share my life with
There are so many different people in this world. If the people you were in a relationship with couldn’t deal with your flaws there’s a chance that there is someone who doesn’t mind out there. And besides there is always room to change for your partner
Same here, i'm just undateable
Sometimes pets are better. 😉
@@abbykoop5363 i get along with cats much better than I have with anyone else. Lol.
Since I was 12 what I've wanted more than anything is a girlfriend. I'm 58 and have never really had one. And aren't going to.
No self-esteem. Zero. Full of self-loathing. Took me 25+ years to fully realize that, now I just drift along rudderless.
No goals, no hope, nothing. Just waiting to get old and die. And I don't really care.
I've been asking myself recently if I'm ready for a long-term relationship (or if I actually even want one). So many people I've known for awhile have gotten married or had kids over the last few years so I've been getting that FOMO. But my family keeps telling me it's just not my time yet; I just gotta keep working on maturing as a person and eventually I'll meet that special someone
I'm a 32-year-old woman who is not married with no kids. My friends are married with kids. These things will happen when they're meant to
good luck in your journey
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! i was actually wondering this earlier
After over 4 years I'm finally ready for a relationship. I just need to talk to more people instead of just my two best friends 😅
“You shouldn’t enter a relationship if you don’t want to.”
😂You shouldn't enter anywhere if you don't want to. Unless you have to. Wow this is such a beautiful nugget of wisdom
It seems obvious, but for us people pleasers, it’s damn near impossible not to end up just trying to make others happy while ignoring red flags and seeing our own desires as secondary.
Some are half hearted but would still say yes
If I'm not madly in love with someone I'm terribly selfish.
But as long as you still have friends and have a good time with them, don't give up for life
Being "madly in love" only lasts for a short while
I just need to know how to not want romantic relationships anymore. I can’t express how over this I am
27 and never been in a relationship. My thoughts over the years of being in a relationship alone have felt good. Thought of sharing my life with someone. Going on adventures, laughing with, and sharing intimacy, and being weird with each other. I think about that. But the thing is is I still am working on myself and the war that's going on in my head. Not to mention I'm introverted and get social anxiety. My social anxiety though has been getting better :D. I did have a girl tell me when I did go out that I'm the love of her life. I think about her alot. But I'm just working myself for right still. But a part of me just wants to scoop her up. But I am just not ready for a relationship.
Do it or some1 else does it... 😂😢
Communication is definitely the key, though some of us genuinely can't speak at times, and people tend to just assume thing are wrong. Which also hurts. Like at work, the constant rudeness i get just because I'm quiet, and not a people person. But its just assumed I'm being rude for being anti social when i don't feel the need to speak or even be around people i dont care about.
And just an extra rant im honestly just sad to walk away from the people who literally is my dream person, and we have so many many things in common. But for some reason she got it stuck in her head i was changing to be a certin way for her, when in reality that is my personality. But that doesn't really matter, but she said no, so had to walk away.
I believe we just need to find someone who will help us grow. If it is true that romantic relationship is not meant for someone, i think it should not be a reason to stop one's personal growth, example: teachers they don't need to be alone when their purpose is to teach students. What matters in life is you know your purpose and you can manage stress do you won't end up being depressed like the lonely people who lost their hope to continue living, because they think they don't have a purpose. This is just my insight based on my observations/ecperiences.
A relationship use to be one of the most important things to when I was younger, now I try to avoid people as much as possible
I am 22 years single, so my entire life, it should not be too hard to keep on doing it like that.
I have all the symptoms. Learning about attachement theory, people pleasing, rejection syndrome, and codependency.
It's gonna take me a while. If I come across people interested in me, I'll have to be strong and tell them my weaknesses in order to prevent them to get too attached while I work on myself
I’m in the same boat! I watched this video yesterday and was sooo hurt, sad, angry with myself I have all these symptoms and didn’t realize it until my current relationship. We have been together 5yrs. First 2-3 was good. Needless to say, I’ve found out that I am a manipulator (had no idea) that, that’s what I was doing.
It has taken over 15 years, I finally had to crumple up my heart and desires for a relationship, and them both into the nearest dumpster. Then to walk away, never looking back. The pain that fills the void never really goes away, but can be grown numb to.
Videos like these remind me I'm not alone.
Not alone in my perspective that I'm just not suited for romance, and that I just need relationships that are a worthy, healthy investment and not necessarily romance.
Not ready, definitely need to give it more time.
0:18 Many times I've thought, if I really want to be in a relationship like everyone else, I really should not care about the mental health, emotional well-being, and fulfillment of my partner. Toxic behavior is in now like it's got a sponsorship.
I believe have the "Do you feel pressured?" sign.
Literally yesterday me and this girl both liked each other, but somebody else got her before I did and she told me that we were not meant to be. I had watched a psytogo video the day before and now THIS my goodness
Its good to know my realisation towards relationships, albeit late, has scientific validity to it.
I don’t know who I am. I don’t know what I want to be. I just know I want to fix myself for someone else. Because fixing me for me is a pipe dream.
Dealing with your past experiences before making a decision about your future is a step often missed.
I have always jumped from relationship to relationship because I needed someone to show me who I need to be for them. But as I am being single for the first time in a very long time this very much opened my eyes to a lot of things thank you❤
Well, this video just settled it for me.... I don't deserve a relationship yet
The worst about it is craving. I envy aromantics for not haveing such desires in life, but for me, I'm dying to rush my life to the point where I can finally share it with someone. My only anchor is that I have a serious plan and I decided not to engage in any other serious thing like a relationship, but I'm yearning for it as hell. I taught myself to suppress the craving, but I still catch myself thinking about it. "how would it look like? when would it start? how could it end?" Even if you don't need it, you want it for the sake of wanting it and no matter what, if you get a chance to get in a destructive relationship, you'll take it. Not because you think it might work out, but because you want it to work out, even it has little to no chance to do so.
Never give up on trying to find love.
Sorry, too late for that
As a Black piller myself I can say love is not intended for agly men.
Only for the attractive ones.
I did ten years ago
@@socramzetroc1535 Exactly and these women, lgbtqi, left-wingers, right-wingers, pagan, satanists, hindus and abrahamics who say otherwise are all deluded.
@@socramzetroc1535 That’s cap man, I’m decent looking(I get called cute) however I can’t find anyone and I’ve have seen guys aglier than me with good looking gorls. I found out location and your friend group is what determines your relationships. If you are in college or at a company there’s hope but if you are constantly by yourself it’s not gonna help.
Thank you for this. This video made me realise that I might not be ready quite yet for a relationship. Hopefully I will be some time in the future but for now I need to focus on fixing/upgrading my communication
Same
Same!
Just confessed my feelings for a girl. She sadly she said she wasn’t sure whether or not she felt the same way. In hindsight I shouldn’t have done what I did as the timing just wasn’t right and I should have just asked her out to get to know each other better.(this was the first time we met up outside of school)For everyone, don’t rush it but do ask her out when you think the time is right as it will relieve knowing at least you tried.
When you're meant to be, you are meant to be. Nothing can stop that from happening. If not, then move on to the next. There is no use forcing something that's not bound to happen anyway..
I realized this the hard way when I used to be in a relationship with my former best friend because I accepted her confession just because I felt bad turning her down even tho I had no romantic feelings with her.Happy to be single now
My husband recently passed away on April 22nd & I'm 64 years of age & at this point in my life & still grieving, "Would it be a good idea to meet someone else & even want to start a new "relationship " with a new person?"
BIG YESS. HAVE A GO ASAP OLD PEOPLE ARE SO COOL...YOU NEED COMPANY AT YOUR AGE GRIEVING IS NORMAL AND IT WILL GO AWAY BY ITSELF.
am just really excited to see you get back to love and be loved again...
Be open though about it to whoever you date and don't let them take advantage of you🔥🔥 all the best ❤️
@@hugenehope Thank you for your reply. Tbh, other than being with my husband for close to 40 years & being comfortable with him, deep inside, I'm actually an Introvert & have a very difficult time making new friends. He was my everything in one package. Now that he's been gone for 2 months now as of today, I no longer have an so-called real friends. I have major Trust issues with other people. Even one's I know.
@@lindaalvarez8855 you could try working on your trust...find why it is an issue...you can make new friends it's not late. As an introvert try small companies it get's better there.
Am sorry for your hard loss and that your going through grief. Take heart take care of yourself and with time you will HEAL.❤️
I know you don't wanna hear this, but I will be honest... You are 64 no one even cares about you beside your family and friends... It's over for you... There's no way you will find love again. You had a good life with your husband... That's more than some of us can accomplish anyways...
You will never find love again with you're age... Be happy that you had a husband... Most of us cant even accomplish to get a spouse anyways... 😂
Everyone who ever loved me regretted it sooner rather than later. That's how I know I shouldn't keep trying.
Being alone isn't all that bad. It can be a journey to find yourself and evolve to the best version of yourself as well.
And another important thing: In my opinion, you grow more alone, since you have to face your own challenges/fears in life and overcome them yourself. Compared to when in you're in a relationship, where you also improve yourself but maybe more for the other person next to you? Dunno, then again, that's subjective. After all, getting support from a partner is very nice thing to have too.
Good luck out there guys, be yourselves and accept the hard rejections. They will make you grow into an even better person.
take your Copium buddy
@@socramzetroc1535 nah I'm fine. I'll let you have it instead. ;)
I just stay alone because I don't want to burden anyone with my presence. Plus I kind of deserve it so
I would’ve perhaps titled this “Signs you’re not ready for a relationship yet” because that leaves open the you may be ready someday. Not being “meant to be” in a relationship implies it probably will never be a good thing for you.
well, to some people, who happen to check some of these boxes, it will never be a good thing for them. SOme people are just wired in a way that makes them like that.
I can't express how much this video helped me! Thank you guys for all you do!!! ❤❤❤
Yes. Your statement backed My decision
This is one of the few videos where therapy is suggested is often brought up. It made me realize that my budget will never allow me to be truly happy. At least not for quite a few years.
I can't attract anyone so I am content with being alone now and that's due to my personality see... you can say we all "deserve" we don't. I'm not ready I'll never be I don't deserve love my personality is too harsh to much to handle.
It's not easily fixable too nor am I comfortable changing so much for someone who'd probably just leave as fast as they came into my life. Also as the famous saying goes and it's form the damn what 60's? "If you're lookin' for love you've gotta love yourself first".
I can't do that nor will I ever be able to.
The conflict that exists in love is a spiritual warfare between the angel's guidance and the devil's temptations.
Dam straight !! So real!! The attacks to keeep us apart from our soulmate are tactical af but I’m the only one who sees it that way
@@mikeypeinado383your not the only one , I'm with you on this one
Makes perfect sense. I'm 63, and never married.
Time is flying by and I have no friends. I refuse to embrace myself. I hate myself.
if you hate yourself, change yourself. do very deep introspection to find out what it is you hate about yourself and change it.
you don't need to love yourself now, but you can turn yourself into someone you would see now and admire.
find someone real or fictional you admire, and strive to take those characteristics to improve yourself.
I gave all of me to someone who else, who didn't live me in return. I lost myself in the process. I don't know if I'll ever be able to be in a relationship with anyone because of the damage done by the narcissistic partner I was with.
Okay okay okay. Exciting. Lets see if Im meant to. LMAOO
This is exactly what I wanted to hear.. that l'm not ready..
I know I’m not in a position to re-enter a new relationship I think all of my childhood trauma plus my PTSD from my last long term relationship has destroyed my brain I’m now way too easily triggered by anyone and everyone. And I wake up hating my life everyday 😢
Yeah, same here. Childhood trauma, PTSD, too many other brain problems, and hating life. I'm not triggered by everyone, but I'm often afraid to leave the house because I might get myself killed overreacting to a deliberate provocation by someone who's out for blood. I have comment notifications turned off because my opinions get me targeted for abuse. It's lonely as hell, though.
Anyway, I hope things get better for you.
Let me say this before I watch that I'm not ready for what I'm about to hear but let's do it anyways.
I still need some working on ❤
I clicked on this video thinking I would have every sign. Surprisingly I have none of these that I am aware of.
I only have a 1 of these, and that's the insecure one.
It's over
Honesty is important between the 2 when
People hold back not reveal much personally they may not know the destruction there causing for anything to ever flourish and being to choosy can be a bad habit as well! There are things that are personal that need to be discussed and if not don't expect the other to be happy to give you personal questions! I'm not a big talker but this may also end the relationship quickly! Some of us people need this validation I do because it helps re assure me!
Watching this gave me a good self reflection, I have too many mental problems that def involve 4 of these.. hurts to realize but in the end it's not hopeless.
Whelp, im fading away alone. Clearly it was meant to be so.
Don't give up hope for love folks, there is some one out there looking for the thing as you :)
"After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but often true."
- Mr. Spock
thanks im really not ready
Thank you for bringing closure to me. Alone I will remain... For now. Hopefully.
💙💙👍 We're learning by doing. We're discover together our moments. We don't have a good or bad scenario, every time we're writing together a next chapter of our story. 😜
I remember I used to try to rush into a relationship, ultimately failed though
I've been single for a while now and as much as I would like to believe in finding true love it's easier said than done the way people are now a days it's definitely hard to find good people now a days
I shouldn't be in a relationship but I shouldn't be alone
thats what i needed. more affirmation so i can feel good being single.
You must love yourself 1st. That doesn't mean being selfish, self centered or prideful.
I only need Little amount of darkness in my heart, ample amount of goodness to live forever. No matter how much painful it is to be single, Its best to tske it for better, it all depends on how the person desires to be single.
We Love Relationship Content More People Need To share this type of Content ❤
This is a sign... Thank you...
This hits different 😢😢 yk I've hurt someone I love & they keep coming back I keep expressing my love but don't know how still I love that person cause I am poor at communication so thanks #psych2go
The timing of this is crazyyyyyyyy I just got ghosted by a dude who I thought was gonna be my boyfriend 😭
Want a relationship… but still kinda figuring out who I am, what my goals are, and just really trying to live in the moment.
I don’t want to get into a relationship just to impose on others because I wasn’t ready.
I kind of had already made up my mind about this so I’m not sure why I watched the video now…
maybe I’ll be back in a few years time to reflect on these things.
I'm beginning to accept that thanks for the vids
I will leave this comment at this time as a beautiful memory to remind me of this wonderful video in case anyone else comments - Thank you for this wonderful video.
uhhh or you could just, yk, save the video, but this works too
@@ChaoticCupOfCoffee yk
I dont know why i clicked when the message came😂😂as an indian the time is really 3:30 night
Gurl same 😅
Indian man have courage in front of their parents? When it comes to meet a LDR no-Indian?
@@Gift820 u didnt understood what i told
The thing i said is..
I woke up at 2:30 last night for going to a function and i saw phone for seeing any new messages,
Suddenly this chnl's video appeared so i clicked it and i(thought i) commented first
At 3:30.
So dont fight with me
Kidd!!!
@@1savi345 what are you talking about I was simply asking a question lol I’m curious
@@Gift820 oh... Iam okay for what you said but....
If u are asking a question,you have to use commas(,)and fullstops(.).
Then I can understand what you are saying or asking.
That could help to read a sentence.
Maybe this could help
I am always not meant to be with any one 😂 I think I am a One self relationship 😂😂😭😭
I've been single for pretty much my entire life. i honestly just don't think im dating material. im very quiet and to myself, amongst other things.
i am unfortunately stuck in a trap, i can't love myself because of my inability to get a relationship while a large majority of people my age have. i feel like i failed at life and am missing out. so yeah this is a what do you call it, a vicious cycle?
Hmm... it's understandable to feel that way. I am sorry you went through that.
I don't know whether this can help you or not. I may not sound fluent in English either, but... remember that it's not your fault that you couldn't get a relationship. You are at least trying and that's what matters. You are a nice person. You don't hurt others and that's what matters. It's ok if you couldn't get a relationship. It's not your fault. A fault is when something is within your control, but a relationship isn't within your control, is it? A relationship is something in which two people like each other. You cannot make the other person magically or forcefully like you back, can you? So, it's not your fault. You are still as cool and worthy as you've always been ❤️
Also, maturity is when you like someone and you don't pressurise them to like you back :)
This video is very helpful, thank you
I grew out if touch with myself. Im so happy he sent me this stuff. Hes still trying to play games. Go away already, im still finding me. Thanks but no thanks. I have aick family memberrs i need to be there for who appreciate me.
Yeah I never have dated but I can relate to this topic because I don't know how to communicate with another person and I'm still working on improving my life and achieving my goals and honestly I may be a patient person but I'm really used to being alone and being independent. Honestly I want to be single until I die and I don't want to give a romantic relationship a chance ever in my life. I'm good with being single
Time to watch the most relatable video ever
Somehow very beautiful but hard to accept with a certain mindset I guess.
But seems to be the right path 😊
"I'm just a looser in the game of ove
I'm just a straight boy in the shade
And how I wish to what love feels like
To find someone to contemplate
There's a voice and a million answers to the questions I don't ask
A demon I have to contain
When I'm walking through the fern
Getting deep into the black
Whispers I can't restrain
Don't give in..."
I am realistic. Romantic relations do nothing for me anymore. Truthfully l get to triggered. Still working in myself. This lifetime its not for me.
I don´t know if it´s a compromise if you yourself are always lively and happy to be on yourself.
Then if you think you can do something about the difference and you get used by other people for your kindness ...
It so happens that you lose the touch to be connected again because it didn´t go very well and you were used in a divorce ...
You didn´t like the idea but thought well if they want to murder you I am trying to help you ...
The next you know is your standing with your back against the wall.
Thinking you could turn the tide for others but life crashes down on you and you get all the shit over yourself.
It was really nasty and maybe compromising to be there for others was the worst idea you ever did because you were soaked with agony in return ...
Never be someone´s second if they can´t appreciate the first they have been with ...
I was very annoyed by that and felt used by the fact that it all escalated very quickly around me ...
Some wanted more attention than the other. saying things like well you were never there.
You always leave me alone maybe I don´t deserve you bla bla bla ...
I was fed up with the whole thought of a relationship it turned out to be a sour apple that I didn´t like at all ...
Where I once was alone and without care I now felt constantly watched as if anything I did was cheating or doing wrong ...
If looks could be deceiving I was very heartstruck by the fact I met someone who was in danger and thought well I shall help you ...
But in the end it all died and I was heartbroken I felt battered and bruised by the fact that everything went down like crashing ...
Maybe I shouldn´t have done it at all because in the end the greatest illusion before your own eyes isn´t the truth in real.
I felt so stupid for not seeing through the looks that were deceiving and I thought you really are a jackass you just fell in love with her appearance.
She looked like someone from your past but that had a sad end and you kept on hoping she was that special someone but that was so dumb of myself.
I was honestly encouraged that I could make that change but in the end was just used and after that I took the blame and let it all come down on me.
I became the victim of my own thoughts and accusations in which I took the full consequences for someone else but it wasn´t even my fault.
I will never lower myself down for that level again although I was in love by the deception it was a bloody nightmare when I was on the menu.
I will know better in time and I am sorry if things didn´t work out the way you or me had planned it to be.
I don´t have the grip in life for others I can only help them so far and I will never let it happen again that I will be used for the scheme of divorce ...
She put a bloody spell on me and I fell for it like a child. I really thought I could be the lifesaver and later on I was used for the unthinkable.
She was very alluring and tempting she knew how to play that game very well and it was the stupidest lie I ever met in my entire life.
For myself it just means don´t let yourself be tempted once more because your innocence and integrity gets destroyed by such deeds.
Maybe it is true what they say people aren´t always on your side some want to bring you down in life make you feel guilty about yourself.
Well I learned my lesson and I shall not be provoked or used in this way again I have been way too kind for my own good ...
Sometimes you or the person you like, just can’t be in a relationship. And that’s OK.
-hard but should be accepted
very great notification to see after attending a wedding 😀👍🏻