I'm sorry but any guy who says "I don't care what she looks like" falls into either of these categories: 1. No standards, low self-worth 2. Will bang anything, therefore no standards and low self-worth 3. Desperate 4. Ultra low value man 5. Ugly and knows he's ugly and can't do better I'm not saying a guy has to have an Instagram model, but if you're a normal man with normal adjustment to life, you're going to want to be at least attracted to the other person. Personally, I like plain women, but not women who don't care how they look, are busted, ugly, and don't know how to be feminine.
@@christianmartin2879 why, she doesn't miss you. Look at my post, I added some channels that will help men like yourself, there is really great content there, not this trash.
@@christianmartin2879 you need to move on with your life, the most important person is you, if she cared about you she would be with you. You can not force someone else to want to be with you, you want them to be with you on their own accord, not because you want them to. I went through the insanity many years ago, it's a waste of time, time is all you have. I added some channels for you to watch, I suggest your start with their old content first, this channel is not doing you any good. If you need to talk, I will be listening. Don't drive yourself crazy, life is too short for that. ua-cam.com/users/AnEarforMen ua-cam.com/users/huMANs_channel
Another thing is even those "baddies" are STILL PEOPLE. Even if you DO get the supermodel looking chick or the instagram chick, you'll find out how very REAL it is to actually be with her. She has issues, she doesn't always look the way she does in the photos because she uses makeup, lighting and filters. She's human and shits, farts, and has morning breath just like the rest of us. She's not a trophy to be won, just a woman in a better looking package
Wait...did you think she was not a real-life human before? Like, have you ever met a person that doesn’t shit, fart, etc., or is your view of women purely objectification?
Yeah the hypocrisy is unacceptable guys. If you want a 1% woman you better be a 1% man. It's as simple as that. And anyway, you wouldn't even be able to keep them because your insecurities would shoot through the roof from the kind of attention they get on a daily basis!
Any guy trying to get with an IG model is an idiot, that's like wanting the cheeseburger you see in the commercial knowing full well it doesn't look that thick and juicy in real life. Don't chase women.
Dont chase women but most importantly you gotta put the work in. Take care of your body. Work on yourself a dude that’s objectively 3/10 can become 7/10 8/10. With hard work there are alot of things that go into looks.
I love how Hafeez starts off calm and end up yelling at us 😂😂 Keep up the passionate work fellas! I truly enjoy the content and i share these videos with my male and female friends!!!
I stopped watching porn cold turkey almost 10 weeks ago. It took awhile for me to notice the effects, but I’m feeling much better without it. Hafeez is right; it takes your mental health down a dark alley.
Bigger problem is that men want women that are the result of filters and selective posing/posting. Not even those women look like that in real life. Porn and Instagram have you thinking that you want a 10 IG supermodel when in reality you’d do just as a fine with the cute next door chick.
The instagram thots do nothing for me. I just look at them and am like yeah you got no substance. Sadly a lot of guys out there just throw attention at them like candy which is totally breaking the market. I am all for men having realistic standards but we also need to stop pedastilizing total mediocrity.
They definitely for the streets obviously..lets stay focused on power intelligence, our purpose greatness and improvement,evolving intelligent Men..in conclusions this what's vital to us as Men,Life becomes amazingly adventurous,phenomenal, all in the process of that worthwhile purpose admirations goals ambitions...
The issue all starts with even wanting a baddie. How many baddies have values? All this chasing the wind and thinking it’s going to pay off in the end. Leave the baddies alone.
That's the problem. Men put WAY too much value in a "baddie". These baddies are all for show. It's an act and incredibly superficial. They know what they're doing. Now, if you're ok with that, then more power to you. Just don't be upset when you fall for their bs, lol. The other problem is that there is hardly any discipline, work ethic or family values, especially lately. We have really turned into a whiny and entitled society. Hollywood and instagram have really warped everyone's perception and expectations of life.
Axel - video after video they tell you to do all this work... Men level up... brothers get on your game .. bro, reach your potential physically, spiritually, emotionally, financially, character-wise etc ... then go out there and chase a baddie. Lol all that doesn’t even go together. They keep showing these *very* low value women who clearly don’t value themselves (much less you) who you’re not taking home to your family, to any type of business event as your reflection, to any kind of high function ...and you’re doing all this work just to go chase them in the end??? Crazy
No lies detected AT ALL in this video!!! And I am SO HAPPY that another MAN is speaking on it bc when we women say it, we’re too picky and have unrealistic standards. Never expect anything you are not or can’t reciprocate
This needed to be said fr. I've only seen one other youtuber telling men to either level up or stay in their lane. Gents, y'all have been bamboozled. A baddy is surface level. Don't fall for the looks alone. Her not having good character, morals, emotional intelligence, and the ability to think rationally should turn you off faster than the speed of light.
It's interesting to hear you say this. My 10yo son plays video games and he told me he wanted to be in the NBA. He cried when I told him he didn't. I had to give him the reality check that he was playing a game on XBOX and not outside practicing the actual skills of bball. I told him Im not crushing your dream but there is some kid with a ball in his hand in the gym practicing while you play 2k thinking you are going to get in the nba from playing a game. We all have to have that reality check some times.
As an older man who dated pretty women....and divorced a beauty.....im here to tell you that an average looking woman with character with worth way more than the hottest ones on IG Looks are somewhat important (just don't be absurdly fat or ugly), but her character, emotional intelligence, commitment to loyalty and self improve, real self esteem, emotional maturity, ability to self reflect, think for herself, and just be a good person is way more important if you're trying to build with her. Superficial stuff like looks and money and even personality a lot of times aren't a measure of a person's goodness or realness. It's icing for sure, but not necessary for me. I've been with the superficially gorgeous chick and im here to tell you.....if u fall in love with her and she lacks character....you're in for a bad time in the end. I'd rather date a down to earth adjustable 6 with a dope character and pleasant demeanor working at a bookstore than a good looking successful corporate chick with a terrible/contentious attitude.
This right here is what it's about. But to the men that still need to have that baddie, you gotta put in the work. Just don't be upset when you realize your relationship is based on material things and the woman you live with doesn't care about who you are as a person. Accept the trade off you signed up for.
I'm amazed to find someone chasing an intelligent goal in this comments section. Most people are just talking about how to prove themselves in completely superficial relationships.
@Glizzy God A fair assessment but I would remind you that we're not all sailing that ship. I understand hypergamy and would be lying if I said it's never made me doubt myself before, but apart from that I can tell you I've never been attracted to it. The whole thing is gigantic waste of time. Though it's rarely won me favors in social circles, I've always preferred on other areas of life that actually matter instead like my health, career, purpose, etc. You end up a lot less popular that way, but the friends you do make last a lifetime. There's also nothing better than a genuine relationship with someone you actually connect with, even if those are few and far between these days. Sometimes the rare thing is worth waiting for. Certainly better than eye candy that's full of self-doubt. I spent my entire college and young adult life largely around people who didn't understand me or my mentality here, but I wouldn't have changed a thing. That's just been my general experience through life though, and I've met enough people to know the truth in your statements as well.
@Glizzy God we have our own set of issues that are just like that too with men. Men want a 10, they want a baddie, freak in bed, but you also have to be a good girl with virtue and do housework be loyal and put up with thousands of mistakes while get thrown away after one small one or if baddie betty comes along? Honestly it all s seems like 2 sides of the same dysfunctional and fucked up coin let's be real. Also they want an ambitious woman All in the same breath. Not meaning to generalize, because not all men are unrealistic and unhealthy. Did you see the video? Not arguing. Please dont think so. I come in peace. Just saying that the worst low value narcissists of each gender are ruining The natural order of things. We are failing to differentiate people with mental health issues ( the people chasing negative types and the unhealthy ones being selected) (gender is interchangeable as well bc both genders are guilty of this) from people who have character and good morals and maybe just alittle less shiny. Culture has taught us all to be thirsty shallow narcissistic savages. This is a mental health and lack of parenting problem at the root that masquerades as the gender war or dating crisis. Also female/male hypergamy isnt bad its about standards, value, self respect, and raising the bar for yourself so that when you're finally at your best you will attract someone. And yes, even though women are hypergamous, only bc men ( females who grew up with good fathers at least) teach us to be and it's apart of traditionalism, while women are waiting to be married we are out here grinding making and saving money especially now a days bc men say that women do not bring anything to the table. But I've heard plenty of men say that they don't give a fuck about a woman's career all in the same breath. But fathers ( the good ones and the daughters who again at least had one) are empowering their daughters to be independent and take care of themselves because they dont trust another man to "take care of their little girl" they want their daughters to be smart and educated all in the same breath?The ones that arent classified as baddies do actually have something to bring to the table js. Men should be hypergamous too. Gold diggers are real af. There's a difference between a gold digger and a hypergamous woman who is actually a good woman. These kind of women will hold it down for you if you ever get sick they will find a way to hustle to keep you and the house going. Would you rather be the breadwinner of a loyal hypergamous 6 or 7 with good character or baddie bettie the gold digger Who wont be submissive and feminine respectful with good character? Men and women have to stop miscategorizing people and see red flags and get away without generalizing everyone and everything. Also man that's a 6 and woman that's a 6 can easily turn into a 9 plus with work and time bc it's exterior. Bad character can take a lifetime to fix or that is if it can even be salvaged at all. 🤷♀️ @TheRoomates your thoughts?
Some of the "manosphere" content creators are also partly to blame for this because they're actively giving people false expectations. Their business model depends on it.
The hypergamy and red pill manosphere channels are literally profiting off of people's insecurities and it's rather sad. Grant it some of them have good messages and everyone should do their due diligence and trim the fat off of the messages.
The average man is obsessed with getting women to the point he will be easily manipulated by any content that either tells him how to get women or tells him that women are bad and he shouldn’t even want them anyway. Same for the women getting sold a bridge by the hypergamy women. Ladies and gentlemen we need to focus on curing world hunger 1% as much as we focus on getting a man/woman and whew where’d we be as a society
Really appreciate and respect this perspective from a guy. A lot of channels about relationships ran by men have turned into women bashing. Borderline violent. Cocky and bitter men calling women every name in the book with no personal responsibilities, while portraying themselves as flawless or enlightened. It's horrifying and tragic. I fear for the lives ruined by this new dating world. We are all human. This is definitely more conducive towards a better society rather than pointing fingers.
This is accurate. Than men get mad that women like that reject them and call them "Gold-diggers" 😂. Men you want a high maintenance beautiful women? You better step it up and make some $$$$. Otherwise you are a "beauty-digger" and need to fuck off 😂😂
Average looking girls are hot. Lol and do the MOST MOST. To make sure you’re good lol. Yeah I got a type but that type doesn’t involve her looks but more how she carries herself
That girl at 3:32 is my type. I don't really like the alcohol part of the picture, but that kinda girl is my type. Hell, there's a girl I work with who could be my type if she just changed a couple things: Worked out at least 3 to 5 times a week like I do 5 day a week and quit smoking. She refuses to even do some simple squats with me and calls herself fat and makes excuses for herself and why she can't quit smoking. Like, alright, then we ain't banging. Is that wrong? To turn down a girl who doesn't stand up to your standards? Another girl I briefly met tried to move extremely fast with me, trying to get me to take her out on dates, trying to bang, all that in the first week of meeting her, and I'm not like that. I have to take things slow. Plus she was 7 years older than me. Yeah, I might've missed an opportunity to have sex, but I'm also tryna be responsible and watch out for red flags. I don't want to get caught with a kid and/or child support either, so I'm being responsible. Screw anyone who thinks being responsible is lame and that getting laid is more improtant. Nah, fuck you. You can get caught with the crazy exes and child support bills. I ain't. see ya!
@@Jake38nine damn I'm a chick and i felt this shit. I'm not letting anyone talk me into being sexually irresponsible and irresponsible in general because they want to bring me down to their level. Fuck that.
@@Dhunt118 Good for you. I don't let anyone talk me into drinking or smoking either. Peer pressure is evil. Nobody has to have sex or do drugs or drink or smoke. Those are all individual decisions. That's why I don't take kindly to excuses. I drank once and I knew immediately that I would be an addict if I did it again, so I never did it again. Plain and simple. Take accountability for yourself and your actions. I can't be with someone who doesn't do the same. I've already lived with parents who couldn't do it. I've already had friends who couldn't do it. I ain't about date, fuck, and marry someone who couldn't do it. Nope. I might lay you if you're hot enough, but the idea of rejecting a hot crazy bitch and making her mad seems like more fun to me because I like proving I have control over myself and nobody can control me.
Love it bro, but be careful following money and material things. Life is so much more than that. I used to think that same way until I got sick. What does it matter that I had a lot of money in the bank but I’m sick and can’t use it.
@@georgelopez9517 this quote about chasing money and stuffs is taken out of context. It simply means that you must get a job and a life, not that you will find happiness in being a workaholic. If you only focus on money then the only women you’ll attract with be gold diggers. Spending time with your significant other is important, especially that now women have their own money, so a high value woman will want a partner not necessarily a provider.
I needed to hear this. Opened my eyes on a viewpoint I had never considered, not in a rush to get into a relationship but at that point where I need to rearrange my life to get somethings done.
I'll take a slightly different approach. *MEN*: there is nothing wrong with wanting a woman or a relationship. NO YOU DON'T HAVE TO STOP FOCUSING ON WOMEN. All you do is stretch that relationship goal out by giving it a longer time timeline until you achieve it. But what you do is, you take that wanting for a baddie and you let it MOTIVATE you to self-improve. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be the ishh for you and your future chicks. So get dope over time and eventually attract those dope females.
@Glizzy God yeah and you'd be the same dude on this page seeking advice for how to get a chick. The point is, use music as motivation to grind but ultimately you ain't about to mgtow indefinitely. I know you want a baddie too.
@Glizzy God Just because you can quote a rap lyrics doesn't mean it's true. Rap is mostly cap. The fact that you took the other 80% of your post to tell me about women indicates my point exactly. You can come on here and spill your rap lyrics but look how clear it is that you want a woman. That's my point. Dudes be out here cappin like its "money over B", "Don't chase no H" and be the same dude talking about how they want such and such kind of women. The point I'm making here is that it's okay to be motivated by women. It's okay to want a nice chick and to be on your grind to achieve the relationship you want. But to come on here and act all hard with a rap quote is stupid. Be honest with what you want.
Dude I just started watching your vids today man Im tryna boss up and become a different person, and be less socially awkward. These vids are a good start, it's weird they give me a somewhat confidence boost.
One thing I've noticed in your youtube thumbnail photos to promote your videos: For the positive more enticing commentary you use White or Latino women. Typically, for the more negative, unappealing commentary photos of Black women are used. Why is that?
@@Godzilla-ct2pp you're responding to someone with a background in marketing. I am simply asking a man of color with a large platform why he chooses specific marketing tactics..
i see some blk women in the "positive" ones edit: okay i disagree with you. I went through his thumbnails and noticed he uses white/lation(not a race) women for the negative commentary and blk women for positive
Girl all these black male youtubers do this and someone in the comment section always points it out. But honestly for this channel, it’s a mix actually.
This is true...you need self discipline...i do gym, I'm a nurse working like crazy to acumulate more experience to help me in the future...play some video games to relax myself, reading books, study bible, travelling and my savings grow..and the most importing working on relationship with myself and loving myself (the most importing aspect)..but never ever i consume my energy to chase women...and I'm 31 still single....salary substantially grow every 2 years...and to be honest with you on 25 i stop chasing girls...and my life becomes better and better....it just an example...and women they will observe you...and you're attraction grow when you will not be interested in having a relationship...women smell it and they want to be in you're presence...
This right here is a perfect example of a man on his purpose! Get on your purpose, focus on yourself, and watch your life improve drastically. Afterwards, women start to chase you. For the past 2 years I haven’t chased women and I’ve had a major improvement in ALL areas of my life. If u go to my channel and look at my oldest vids which are 2 years ago, compared to the vids I put up yesterday u will see an INSANE transformation. That’s because I’ve been on my purpose and I’m doing exactly what you’re doing bro! Keep going!
@c1981 search about self-love and singleness...and i want to present an exemple...exemple are necesary...plus if want to be with someone else...for me it is extremly easy...but i chose the single life...i feell better...
@@mizzhelloo That's right ladies! Stand firm in it. I have had several men in REAL LIFE try to get with me without resources and I decline everytime. I only date and submit to my man if he can PROVIDE. I just can not fathom taking care of my child with welfare
I swear to God, this is my first ever YT comment. I never ever comment But this video is message is sooo important. I wish all men AND women would understand this. "Become who you want to attract"
If you consider yourself a quality man, looking for a woman to get to know on a more deeper level, you're not gonna want the baddies anyway. There's a reason when you match with big booty Judy on Tinder, she's super boring & uninterested. Match with average, kinda cute (and actually gets cuter than that when she "cleans up") Lexx? And you'll never encounter another person with as much personality & high interest. And I'm just speaking from my own experience.
I’ve met a few baddies with great personalities. They usually were ugly or fat as a kid and worked on themselves lol, but I’m just letting u know there are some out there with great personalities
Beautiful video, every single time I find myself getting into a pity party/entitlement rant in my head I think to myself - go out and earn it, you're not a champion until you win a championship so don't expect a trophy.
@@anyamiranda9452 thanks, I wish that I was more focused and dedicated as that paragraph makes me seem though but fatigue & distractions bare major weight... regardless, I still need to find a way.
Bro, please talk about the truth about these "baddies" and highly attractive women. I'm an attractive guy, I'm an entrepreneur and very focused on business and at this point leave very little time for women. I've been around attractive women most of my life, many of them are good friends of mine, and I've had opportunities to go out with and hook up with girls that are considered extremely attractive... With that being said, here's what I've noticed. Not all, but majority of these women have horrible attitudes, no personality, no sense of humor, no hobbies, no real goals, lazy in bed, and act super entitled because of simps worshipping the ground they walk on and enabling this behavior. They're bland and can barely hold a conversation because they've never had the need to develop social skills. They just "show up". At this point, I'll pick a less attractive girl with a great personality, intellect, etc. Instead of one of these "baddies" everytime. And one thing that I've noticed, its usually the average looking girls that end up getting married, having kids and a family. Whereas these highly attractive women usually end up staying single or becoming single mothers. Take it from me fellas, don't believe the hype, these women look good... but for many of them, that's it. They have nothing else to offer you.
These "baddies" are learning that from their environment. As women we STILL grow up learning our value is in our looks, not our brains. Now that we have access to education, women are expected to be able to do everything - but not better than any men. Women constantly receiving messages about their looks essentially from birth, whether positive or negative, teaches them that that is what they will be judged on and so that is where they focus. If they are just pretty enough they will get treated well, is the underlying message. Beauty is the price of admission. Even feminism is teaching this idea of "all women are beautiful!" And constantly placing emphasis on women's beauty as if broadening the definition of beauty is going to solve the commodifying of women's bodies. Our body hair is still deemed disgusting and not shaving or plucking or waxing is akin to some kind of radical political act. Point is, the game is rigged. There's no winning. I hope we can step away from demeaning women for doing exactly what society has asked of them for a lot of recorded history. Your standards are yours, and my message is not "date vapid women" but it isn't so black and white as "beautiful but dumb" "ugly but has personality". We need to stop treating one another as objects at an auction.
Hi Brandon ! I love most of what you said. However, you stated in your writing that you will seek less attractive women. Not sure if it was meant to sound this way. But it sounds a bit degrading. Like the young lady stated below, dating should not be an auction. Although it does often comes across that way. Seek someone whom you can compliment. Have a nice day.
@@tanielmoore1610 No, wasn't meant to sound that way, let me further clarify. Throughout my many interactions with women, I've noticed that the "young" women who are deemed more attractive by society tend to have less desirable character traits than the women who are considered not as attractive. Not saying this is everyone, but it is what I see most commonly. This is just what I've observed. Now if you're asking me personally, looks don't make up much of my attraction towards women. A better way for me to word it is to say; I find an average looking girl with a great personality and character to be significantly more attractive than a woman who's hot but has no character. The reason why I made that comment is, far too many men have fallen victim to the illusion that just because a girl is physically attractive, that she's somehow also an amazing person. Not saying whether they are or aren't. And it's impossible to determine that solely based on someone's social media page. But far too many men squander their time, money, and attention solely in pursuit of these girls instead of focusing on themselves. Pursuing them with this false notion that if they get with these women, they'll be happier when in fact, majority of the time that's not the case.
@@utopicspeculation5285 I agree with you, and by no means is it these women's fault. They are a product of their environment, and that's the point that I'm trying to make. In the age of social media, these girls receive an exponentially greater amount of validation from society without having to have done much personal development to match that attention. To the point that their egos are so inflated that it has become toxic. And the majority of the blame is towards us men. We're the ones who are throwing all of our money, time, and attention at these girls. This video alone proves it. The fact that us men are; working out, making money, developing our mental, social, spiritual skills SOLELY to attract these women instead of wanting to become the greatest version of ourselves is a serious problem. And like I said in the other comment, men have fallen victim to the illusion that just because these girls are attractive, that they're somehow a great person when those 2 things have no direct correlation. I'm not generalizing, I'm just stating what I've seen to be most common amongst. I've met plenty of women who don't fit that narrative at all. I just want us men to stop validating girls solely because of their looks, and actually, be a judge of character. And to stop dedicating their hustle to a lie they've told themselves and open their eyes.
@Que_Rico Wow, this is a great question. I don't think that you have to change what you're looking for or who you are, because the right woman will be exactly what you need and want in her. You seem like a great guy, so I'm sure you'll be able to find a good girl. You just have to look in the right places. Also, it's ok to have different options (aka skinny women,) because you never know, the love of your life may not be a 'thicker' woman, so I think it's good to explore different avenues when dating and trying to find the right person for you.
@Que_Rico wow, now that is interesting.... I dont think its just physical though. If there is a thick beautiful womena and that is just a physical strength does not mean shenis excelling in other areas of life so anyone with a profound confidence while having ONLY attained a socially accepted body hass not mentally stabalized themselves yet anyway, so it should balance itself out in other ways
Please can you stop talking like that about your fellow women? There are like millions of videos calling women picky just for not being okay with dating a homeless dwarf, so stop acting like a pickme.
I am the guy in question in this video. How were you able to change yourself? I'd really like to know, so I can hopefully do the same. I will be 38 this year, and I've never dated.
FINALLY, a man call out guys on their delusional mindset about women and dating! I remember a nerd who look like Pepe the Frog and dress like Steve Urkel told one of his nerd friend that I will not be good enough for him because I don't have big enough boobs for him to be attracted to me. Yet, I gotten guys who have athletic body like Hafeez and girls were saying how fine/ cute my ex bf was when I am considered to be average or cute for a girl
I'm a beautiful woman myself and I had a guy friend who is a legit 5, if that, talking about his girl needs to be a 10. I laughed lol. I said you better have a bank account that's a 10 then.
@@CrockyDile15 some those guys believe they could only win girls over with their nice personality because their bank account, social skills, and looks are trash
Ya i had an average maybe 2 guy tell me he loved my personality and everything but i wasnt attractive to him because my boobs werent big enough. If you were to cut off every guy that didnt have a big enough schlong you'd be cutting off a lot of dudes.
I’ve seen a guy who look like Napoleon Dynamite’s brother, Kip, and he had a Brazilian Instagram model with fake implants saved as his phone screen. He actually believe he could that type of women while working at Goodwill
@Glizzy God But the majority of men WANT a baddie. Well if that's true then YOU just confirmed that MAJORITY of men on the planet aren't worth getting involved with.
The fundamental problem is guys are not talking to girls in real life enough because if you approach enough ladies you will find out that looks is not really thing because actually feminine character traits are more sexy than just a pretty face .
A baddie is like a Maserati. Luxurious and flashy, but overtime guess what happens to her. She requires maintenance. You know what the guy who leased her does? He trades her in for Lamborghini. You know what happens to the Maserati? She gets bought by an average guy who wants to own her. Now he's stuck with the repair and maintenance costs of what the previous driver has done. Im sticking to my Toyota Camry. Reliable and good on gas. Lets appreciate the reliable women yall.
Just adding...but as your value grows as a man and you put in the work, you understand how much effort it takes to reach where you are and the façade of prettiness falls away. Now the "baddies" don't seem that enticing anymore because you expect someone who works on themselves as much as you have and not just someone that "looks good" she might look good but can she handle that bag tho? Can she show your son what a good woman is? Can she show your daughter how to be a good woman? Is she really adding to you life? All these thing stand out more that just her face and her shape as you level up. It is what it is, go strong brothers!👊
I think a video on the Law Of Attraction would be super efficient for men, and even just education of knowledge on good vibrations as well. I think Aaron Doughty would be a really interesting guest to have and everyone could learn things about peace of mind, meditation, affirmations, letting go, and the Law Of Attraction.
Porn, social media , consumer culture constantly sells the image, without telling you the work you need to put in. Everyone can talk about how nice that new Lamborghini as looks like.....but the ad don't tell you, you will need money to get that car
I understand men are visual, but I think talking about wanting a woman of good character is important too. Alot of the '1%' pictures you showed dont scream having character and other good values that would be good for marriage.
@Teddy James they don't as an all encompassing rule. Many women cannot stand a man that have a large amount of bodies. Some find it repulsive. Don't fall for the absolutes on UA-cam and the internet. Not every woman is the same.
@Teddy James I may no longer be the 'norm' in our culture, but I would prefer to be with a virgin. I am waiting for marriage and I would prefer the man I marry to do the same. However, the older I've become the less I think it'll happen. I gave up on that dream. However, I definitely do not want someone that's been with alot of women...there are many reasons for that.
My Uber driver, a 50 year old balding man,was telling me about his girlfriend. She beautiful, blond and Brazilian BUT he couldn't keep up with her money demands I said " Why don't you get someone on your level?" He said "OH NO ! God wants me to be with her." 🤷🏾♀️
@@TheRoommatesPodcast I'm confused why you would respond like this ? Your talking point was men becoming delusional, I was just stating a real life example I knew of. Obviously we all know adults can do what they want.
Search for Yeshua, man. The woman you are seeking will come, for patience is better than power. You guys seriously need to check out Yeshua. He is extremely awesome, man.
Great video. It's the like film 'Shallow Hal' with Jack Black. He was an out of shape guy with not much going for him and he was out there only wanting to deal with the top tier of women. And I'll admit at times I've been delusional. Back when I was 17-18 I used to chase women that got a lot of male attention, I would pursue them for some time and end up frustrated that nothing came of it. Looking back these girls were just using me for attention and validation. Being the simp that I was back then, I used to give them too much validation, particularly over social media. Always 'liking' their pictures and sending 'pokes' lol. Yet at the time I was just a typical 18 year old, no money, living at home, acne, skinny, bad haircut, cheap clothes. I did have some other girls show interest in me at the time, these girls were not as good looking, maybe a bit overweight, but I'd think I was 'above' them and ignore them.
Hey Hafeez I agree with everything you said! Doesn’t it just seem like a vicious cycle? There are men who know “I’m a 5 in looks” so then they proceed to go after girls who are 4-5s, but the girl who is a 4-5 doesn’t know she is because she gets pumped and dumped by 8s. Just seems like a never ending vicious cycle. The only way for a man to win is to level up physically and financially. You can be a 4 physically and a 8 financially and still lose. Gotta be 8 in both.
Thank you, I always warn men of superficial dating, if you have a decent government job, go for women that work in retail because to them you are a high value male, nothing wrong again with dating a 6 in looks but a 9 or 10 when it comes to femininity, that's just how life works, but as you get older as a man you start to see this clearly
Who told you this? I work in retail and a high value male is one who makes 6 figures, or more. Doesn't matter what title it is, it's the digits. Or if he can afford to take care of and provide for his woman and a family, is high value.
It's crazy how the qualities of a high value man is way more all encompassing than a high value woman. Getting in shape, getting your finances together, gaining confidence but the only thing that he pointed out about the girl is that she looks good. A high value man has to have his life together, while a high value woman just has to look good lol. We are delusional in more than just one way. Our standards are both too high and too low or at least too short-sighted.
Well, you gotta pay the cost to be the boss. If you want wear the pants in the relationship you do have to work harder. Period. And men really only care about a women’s looks... not her career. Women’s careers are for themselves. Men’s careers are to get access to women.
You're right bro. I rather have a 7 with morals and values than a 10 who is an Instagram thot with a loud mouth and attention seeking behavior. Men dont really have high expectations for women, besides their body. I'll tell you this, the older I get, the more I'm starting to realize that other qualities in a woman matter, especially if you're trying to raise a proper family. Needless to say, nothing guarantees marriage till death do us apart. Regardless, I would prefer a woman over an Instagram thot to raise my children. Choose wisely men!
i dont even use instagram, or post pictures of me because i don't want to be a trial for men... and girls usually compare each other beauty wise subconsciously ... and it made me feel so guilty that i had to close my instagram account down... and i wouldn't want my son, if i ever have, to feel like this ever... feeling like he is not "good enough" for a girl on who is on instagram and who is fake af..
Great video bro. In this space of self improvement for men, I often see creators talk over and over about what women are doing wrong. Feminism, Hypergamy etc etc but not enough about what we as men need to work on and change. Porn and every IG which is basically softcore porn these days has definitely wrapped the mental state of a lot of young dudes including. I've had to delete my socials off my phone in order to focus and get to where I'm trying to get to. There's too much distraction and potential to become disillusioned with how to engage actual women.
After reading some of the comments by guys about average girls and baddies, PLEASE, STOP USING AVERAGE GIRLS AS STEPPING STONES SO YOU COULD LEAVE HER FOR A BADDIE! That's not right AT ALL.
Right!!! I was just about to say that. You need to be by yourself if you trying to do all that. You know good and damn well you wouldn't want a woman to do you like that.
@@MSNFE_01 Exactly! These guys act like us average girls don't have feelings or insecure problems when they level up without us and leave us for a baddie. Stay single then get your baddie!
they're not going to listen sis. Men are not going to sacrifice convenient, free sex. It's up to women to weed out these guys. Only date successful men who have a lot of options, wait as long as possible for sex (4-6 months minimum), and no children out of wedlock! ua-cam.com/video/kUp8Ekt4W4Y/v-deo.html
Thank you so much. I'm so tired of hearing guys complain about gold diggers and then run after super models. I think both genders need to ask themselves what they are bringing to the table
You're not lying. I'm extremely confident in my attractiveness. I also know that I don't possess the typical/western standard of beauty. I'm curvy, I don't wear makeup etc. When I got on FB dating early on in the pandemic due to boredom, the guys that actually hit my profile where not even on the same level of attractiveness as me. They were sloppy and unkept looking, backwoods, no substance type of dudes on their profiles. Like he said, there's nothing wrong with desiring that but stay in your lane fam. They had me looking at myself like am I not cute?!🥴
I hate to brake it to you but you look kinda average for a black woman. As a rwandese man i can assure we have one of the most beautiful black women and you would be quite average. Maybe why those guys only hitted you. You are what you attract it's basic chemistry as harsh as it sounds.
@@josephmusabyimana3557 I hate to break it to you but your opinion of me has no bearing to what goes on over here. I hope you are able to get one of those beautiful black women and worry less about me. 🙃
@Victoria Moses Girl, if that is your face without makeup, you are pretty! Like the guy in the video mentioned, this men are used to the Instagram look. Guys say they want natural but far from true as you can see from these comments. I bet if you put on makeup, fake lashes, fake hair, painted on eyebrows, has your tits showing and butt poking, they’d be singing a different tune.
Both men and women need a reality check! Quit telling all these kids and grown folks that they are good looking when they really aren’t. Be humble and know yourself and your worth! Not everybody is worth the same value. It’s true, you want the baddies but you over here looking like the worst version of you
Too bad they won't listen. At least in my Eastern European country, 99,9% of m3n genuinely see themselves as Brad Pitt and get *really* angry if they get rejected.
This is just straight facts and I hold men even more accountable than women because we should know better. We all want an attractive woman but what do you bring to the table. Women want men who are in shape, with ambition who do have their economic situation in a good state. The worst thing is that they are things that we can all achieve as men. Any man I see complaining but not doing anything is not considered a man to me. "PUT IN THE WORK".
"Get off the porn!"... Me: "Never!" But seriously you're right... I recently forced myself back into dating and to be honest I don't have much need for it and makes no sense given what I want to accomplish. Feels more like a distraction rather than a help. You'll find that girl eventually... You just have to wait it out and do you.
Your content is gold my guy I’m always inspired after hearing your message we just got to keep pouring time into ourselves everything else will fall into place
@@geescold2985 and that’s the problem, a lot of average women have astronomical standards, meanwhile the man she is equivalent to she deems “dusty” 🤦🏾♂️
Stop lying! Otherwise, I would've been off the market instead of being single. I've gotten stood up by guys for being too nice and they don't care how much time/money I wasted. I dated a guy with potential meaning he was broke, no car, and he was working on his goals. As soon as, he gotten where he wanted to be then he dump me for another girl! He made me pay for a plane ticket just to be stranded in another state by myself for few days until I gotten back home
@@msj8216 thats f'ed up....but what made you attracted to that type of man in the 1st place. Of course not you specifically, im sure you're different than the rest of these women out here..... But a lot of women I personally know....and dated seem to be color blinded to red flags that seem pretty obvious to me.
Lately I’ve been having a hard time attracting a girl. I’m realistic not expecting a IG model but in the same right not going home with a Peggy Hill type either.
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Your right dawg porn is fucking up lifes .
Nothing but facts.
I'm sorry but any guy who says "I don't care what she looks like" falls into either of these categories:
1. No standards, low self-worth
2. Will bang anything, therefore no standards and low self-worth
3. Desperate
4. Ultra low value man
5. Ugly and knows he's ugly and can't do better
I'm not saying a guy has to have an Instagram model, but if you're a normal man with normal adjustment to life, you're going to want to be at least attracted to the other person. Personally, I like plain women, but not women who don't care how they look, are busted, ugly, and don't know how to be feminine.
@@christianmartin2879 why, she doesn't miss you. Look at my post, I added some channels that will help men like yourself, there is really great content there, not this trash.
@@christianmartin2879 you need to move on with your life, the most important person is you, if she cared about you she would be with you. You can not force someone else to want to be with you, you want them to be with you on their own accord, not because you want them to. I went through the insanity many years ago, it's a waste of time, time is all you have.
I added some channels for you to watch, I suggest your start with their old content first, this channel is not doing you any good. If you need to talk, I will be listening. Don't drive yourself crazy, life is too short for that.
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Another thing is even those "baddies" are STILL PEOPLE. Even if you DO get the supermodel looking chick or the instagram chick, you'll find out how very REAL it is to actually be with her. She has issues, she doesn't always look the way she does in the photos because she uses makeup, lighting and filters. She's human and shits, farts, and has morning breath just like the rest of us. She's not a trophy to be won, just a woman in a better looking package
Well said.. and most of those bitches are crazy 🤣🤣🤣
@Roots truth. It applies to both sexes
Wait...did you think she was not a real-life human before? Like, have you ever met a person that doesn’t shit, fart, etc., or is your view of women purely objectification?
@@karenmassey8354 You're trying too hard lol give it up...
@@karenmassey8354 it’s always a Karen smh
Yeah the hypocrisy is unacceptable guys. If you want a 1% woman you better be a 1% man. It's as simple as that. And anyway, you wouldn't even be able to keep them because your insecurities would shoot through the roof from the kind of attention they get on a daily basis!
Great point, I feel like many dont realise the point with keeping them.
You gotta put the work in
It’s really a mutual hypocrisy tho.
Most can't even afford her lifestyle too.
What’s a 1% women?
Sounds like some guys are trying to engage in acts of hypergamy but they haven't put in the work.
this right here here ^^^
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This made me re-examine myself. Lol
I’ve been guilty of this 100%. I’ve taken drastic steps to correct this. Appreciate you calling it like it is sir.
They have to put the work in
Any guy trying to get with an IG model is an idiot, that's like wanting the cheeseburger you see in the commercial knowing full well it doesn't look that thick and juicy in real life. Don't chase women.
Thank you Mr. Woodz
Senior Woodz giving us the forest of knowledge
Lol. Great analogy
Dont chase women but most importantly you gotta put the work in. Take care of your body. Work on yourself a dude that’s objectively 3/10 can become 7/10 8/10. With hard work there are alot of things that go into looks.
photoshop is REAL
Why won’t you work with her the way you want her to work with you.. phew you dropped too many gems in this one for me... Good content👍🏽
I felt this!!!!
I thought Build-A-Boo was a no-no...?
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I love how Hafeez starts off calm and end up yelling at us 😂😂 Keep up the passionate work fellas! I truly enjoy the content and i share these videos with my male and female friends!!!
Lol I’m passionate
I stopped watching porn cold turkey almost 10 weeks ago. It took awhile for me to notice the effects, but I’m feeling much better without it. Hafeez is right; it takes your mental health down a dark alley.
That’s good! Good job
good job dude
Good job bro
What are some of the benefits you have felt. Im on day 33 and am just curious what awaits me.
Good job dude!!!
Once you stop watching porn and hold onto your seed all other aspects of your life will improve
@𝓢𝓮𝕟𝕒𝓭 get a hobby
does it really tho?
No fap November is coming up. I told my followers we’re all going to participate
no. not really. reality is, it's all MENTAL. like it or not.
you really think successful people don't fuckin jack off and watch porn!? hahaha
Thank you Jaxx
Bigger problem is that men want women that are the result of filters and selective posing/posting. Not even those women look like that in real life.
Porn and Instagram have you thinking that you want a 10 IG supermodel when in reality you’d do just as a fine with the cute next door chick.
Thank you Ruben
The cute girl next door is a baddie with filters, poses and lighting. People are so hung up on pictures that we can’t see the beauty in the real
Facts
The instagram thots do nothing for me. I just look at them and am like yeah you got no substance. Sadly a lot of guys out there just throw attention at them like candy which is totally breaking the market. I am all for men having realistic standards but we also need to stop pedastilizing total mediocrity.
They definitely for the streets obviously..lets stay focused on power intelligence, our purpose greatness and improvement,evolving intelligent Men..in conclusions this what's vital to us as Men,Life becomes amazingly adventurous,phenomenal, all in the process of that worthwhile purpose admirations goals ambitions...
You want a baddie? You need to become a badass in all areas of your life
The issue all starts with even wanting a baddie. How many baddies have values? All this chasing the wind and thinking it’s going to pay off in the end.
Leave the baddies alone.
That's the problem. Men put WAY too much value in a "baddie". These baddies are all for show. It's an act and incredibly superficial. They know what they're doing. Now, if you're ok with that, then more power to you. Just don't be upset when you fall for their bs, lol.
The other problem is that there is hardly any discipline, work ethic or family values, especially lately. We have really turned into a whiny and entitled society.
Hollywood and instagram have really warped everyone's perception and expectations of life.
@@axelfoley1406 💯
Baddies are wack bro. Even using the word baddie sounds childish. If she refers herself as a baddie, pump and dump. Only suckers marry baddies.
Axel - video after video they tell you to do all this work... Men level up... brothers get on your game .. bro, reach your potential physically, spiritually, emotionally, financially, character-wise etc ... then go out there and chase a baddie. Lol all that doesn’t even go together.
They keep showing these *very* low value women who clearly don’t value themselves (much less you) who you’re not taking home to your family, to any type of business event as your reflection, to any kind of high function ...and you’re doing all this work just to go chase them in the end???
Crazy
No lies detected AT ALL in this video!!! And I am SO HAPPY that another MAN is speaking on it bc when we women say it, we’re too picky and have unrealistic standards. Never expect anything you are not or can’t reciprocate
This needed to be said fr.
I've only seen one other youtuber telling men to either level up or stay in their lane. Gents, y'all have been bamboozled. A baddy is surface level. Don't fall for the looks alone. Her not having good character, morals, emotional intelligence, and the ability to think rationally should turn you off faster than the speed of light.
It's interesting to hear you say this. My 10yo son plays video games and he told me he wanted to be in the NBA. He cried when I told him he didn't. I had to give him the reality check that he was playing a game on XBOX and not outside practicing the actual skills of bball. I told him Im not crushing your dream but there is some kid with a ball in his hand in the gym practicing while you play 2k thinking you are going to get in the nba from playing a game. We all have to have that reality check some times.
As an older man who dated pretty women....and divorced a beauty.....im here to tell you that an average looking woman with character with worth way more than the hottest ones on IG
Looks are somewhat important (just don't be absurdly fat or ugly),
but her character, emotional intelligence, commitment to loyalty and self improve, real self esteem, emotional maturity, ability to self reflect, think for herself, and just be a good person is way more important if you're trying to build with her.
Superficial stuff like looks and money and even personality a lot of times aren't a measure of a person's goodness or realness. It's icing for sure, but not necessary for me.
I've been with the superficially gorgeous chick and im here to tell you.....if u fall in love with her and she lacks character....you're in for a bad time in the end.
I'd rather date a down to earth adjustable 6 with a dope character and pleasant demeanor working at a bookstore than a good looking successful corporate chick with a terrible/contentious attitude.
Good points
This right here is what it's about. But to the men that still need to have that baddie, you gotta put in the work. Just don't be upset when you realize your relationship is based on material things and the woman you live with doesn't care about who you are as a person. Accept the trade off you signed up for.
I'm amazed to find someone chasing an intelligent goal in this comments section. Most people are just talking about how to prove themselves in completely superficial relationships.
@Glizzy God A fair assessment but I would remind you that we're not all sailing that ship. I understand hypergamy and would be lying if I said it's never made me doubt myself before, but apart from that I can tell you I've never been attracted to it. The whole thing is gigantic waste of time. Though it's rarely won me favors in social circles, I've always preferred on other areas of life that actually matter instead like my health, career, purpose, etc. You end up a lot less popular that way, but the friends you do make last a lifetime. There's also nothing better than a genuine relationship with someone you actually connect with, even if those are few and far between these days. Sometimes the rare thing is worth waiting for. Certainly better than eye candy that's full of self-doubt. I spent my entire college and young adult life largely around people who didn't understand me or my mentality here, but I wouldn't have changed a thing.
That's just been my general experience through life though, and I've met enough people to know the truth in your statements as well.
@Glizzy God we have our own set of issues that are just like that too with men.
Men want a 10, they want a baddie, freak in bed, but you also have to be a good girl with virtue and do housework be loyal and put up with thousands of mistakes while get thrown away after one small one or if baddie betty comes along? Honestly it all s seems like 2 sides of the same dysfunctional and fucked up coin let's be real.
Also they want an ambitious woman
All in the same breath. Not meaning to generalize, because not all men are unrealistic and unhealthy. Did you see the video? Not arguing. Please dont think so.
I come in peace.
Just saying that the worst low value narcissists of each gender are ruining
The natural order of things.
We are failing to differentiate people with mental health issues ( the people chasing negative types and the unhealthy ones being selected)
(gender is interchangeable as well bc both genders are guilty of this) from people who have character and good morals and maybe just alittle less shiny.
Culture has taught us all to be thirsty shallow narcissistic savages. This is a mental health and lack of parenting problem at the root that masquerades as the gender war or dating crisis.
Also female/male hypergamy isnt bad its about standards, value, self respect, and raising the bar for yourself so that when you're finally at your best you will attract someone. And yes, even though women are hypergamous, only bc men ( females who grew up with good fathers at least) teach us to be and it's apart of traditionalism, while women are waiting to be married we are out here grinding making and saving money especially now a days bc men say that women do not bring anything to the table. But I've heard plenty of men say that they don't give a fuck about a woman's career all in the same breath. But fathers ( the good ones and the daughters who again at least had one) are empowering their daughters to be independent and take care of themselves because they dont trust another man to "take care of their little girl" they want their daughters to be smart and educated all in the same breath?The ones that arent classified as baddies do actually have something to bring to the table js.
Men should be hypergamous too. Gold diggers are real af. There's a difference between a gold digger and a hypergamous woman who is actually a good woman. These kind of women will hold it down for you if you ever get sick they will find a way to hustle to keep you and the house going.
Would you rather be the breadwinner of a loyal hypergamous 6 or 7 with good character or baddie bettie the gold digger
Who wont be submissive and feminine respectful with good character?
Men and women have to stop miscategorizing people and see red flags and get away without generalizing everyone and everything. Also man that's a 6 and woman that's a 6 can easily turn into a 9 plus with work and time bc it's exterior.
Bad character can take a lifetime to fix or that is if it can even be salvaged at all. 🤷♀️
@TheRoomates your thoughts?
Some of the "manosphere" content creators are also partly to blame for this because they're actively giving people false expectations. Their business model depends on it.
Yep
The hypergamy and red pill manosphere channels are literally profiting off of people's insecurities and it's rather sad.
Grant it some of them have good messages and everyone should do their due diligence and trim the fat off of the messages.
Obviously you never listen to them because they say the exact opposite from this. They say "don't bother", not "try to get the Instagram models".
The average man is obsessed with getting women to the point he will be easily manipulated by any content that either tells him how to get women or tells him that women are bad and he shouldn’t even want them anyway.
Same for the women getting sold a bridge by the hypergamy women.
Ladies and gentlemen we need to focus on curing world hunger 1% as much as we focus on getting a man/woman and whew where’d we be as a society
Your rhetoric is impressive sir. I know guys just like this. 300 pounds 5’8” and still picky 😂.
Can't wait for reality to h!t them.
The thumbs down are from utterly delusional guys.
and the ones who will always say "b-but women!!! they do it too!!"
@@GabrielleTollerson, or women are worse. Lmfao.
Really appreciate and respect this perspective from a guy. A lot of channels about relationships ran by men have turned into women bashing. Borderline violent. Cocky and bitter men calling women every name in the book with no personal responsibilities, while portraying themselves as flawless or enlightened. It's horrifying and tragic. I fear for the lives ruined by this new dating world. We are all human. This is definitely more conducive towards a better society rather than pointing fingers.
This is accurate. Than men get mad that women like that reject them and call them "Gold-diggers" 😂. Men you want a high maintenance beautiful women? You better step it up and make some $$$$. Otherwise you are a "beauty-digger" and need to fuck off 😂😂
thank you!
Ha. Beauty digger.
I chuckled. That was good.
Facts!!
Average looking girls are hot. Lol and do the MOST MOST. To make sure you’re good lol. Yeah I got a type but that type doesn’t involve her looks but more how she carries herself
That girl at 3:32 is my type. I don't really like the alcohol part of the picture, but that kinda girl is my type. Hell, there's a girl I work with who could be my type if she just changed a couple things: Worked out at least 3 to 5 times a week like I do 5 day a week and quit smoking. She refuses to even do some simple squats with me and calls herself fat and makes excuses for herself and why she can't quit smoking. Like, alright, then we ain't banging. Is that wrong? To turn down a girl who doesn't stand up to your standards?
Another girl I briefly met tried to move extremely fast with me, trying to get me to take her out on dates, trying to bang, all that in the first week of meeting her, and I'm not like that. I have to take things slow. Plus she was 7 years older than me.
Yeah, I might've missed an opportunity to have sex, but I'm also tryna be responsible and watch out for red flags. I don't want to get caught with a kid and/or child support either, so I'm being responsible. Screw anyone who thinks being responsible is lame and that getting laid is more improtant. Nah, fuck you. You can get caught with the crazy exes and child support bills. I ain't. see ya!
@@Jake38nine she not my type but I feel you. I always say no to older women unless I want a nut.
@@Jake38nine damn I'm a chick and i felt this shit. I'm not letting anyone talk me into being sexually irresponsible and irresponsible in general because they want to bring me down to their level. Fuck that.
@@Dhunt118 Good for you. I don't let anyone talk me into drinking or smoking either. Peer pressure is evil. Nobody has to have sex or do drugs or drink or smoke. Those are all individual decisions. That's why I don't take kindly to excuses. I drank once and I knew immediately that I would be an addict if I did it again, so I never did it again. Plain and simple. Take accountability for yourself and your actions. I can't be with someone who doesn't do the same. I've already lived with parents who couldn't do it. I've already had friends who couldn't do it. I ain't about date, fuck, and marry someone who couldn't do it. Nope. I might lay you if you're hot enough, but the idea of rejecting a hot crazy bitch and making her mad seems like more fun to me because I like proving I have control over myself and nobody can control me.
EXACTLY!
Social media/internet creates the illusion of accessibility for men, but it actually creates easy access for women.
Thank you for sharing
You're saying a millionaire is gonna date an overweight waitress who had no education and no ambition? Make it make sense.
We fail when we compare our lives to the highlight reels of others.
Get after it! It’s worth the work!
Gotta put the work in
@@TheRoommatesPodcast 🙏 heck yeah! Nothing worth having is not worth working towards!!
you'll always lose money chasing women but never lose women chasing money
strive to improve everyday kings
this vid the realest shit i hurd all week
This comment is the realest comment I’ve read all week.
Love it bro, but be careful following money and material things. Life is so much more than that. I used to think that same way until I got sick. What does it matter that I had a lot of money in the bank but I’m sick and can’t use it.
Thank you
@@georgelopez9517 this quote about chasing money and stuffs is taken out of context. It simply means that you must get a job and a life, not that you will find happiness in being a workaholic. If you only focus on money then the only women you’ll attract with be gold diggers. Spending time with your significant other is important, especially that now women have their own money, so a high value woman will want a partner not necessarily a provider.
Both men and women
Yerp
Chasing excellence will get a man everything
One boot in front of the other daily
Facts.
Chasing excellence is one thing, chasing perfection is in fact Delusional!!
Exactly!
But even then, you still might not get what you want in this game called life.
So true. Please don’t chase women that are not interested in you. Be with a woman who wants you
No woman wants me.
@@petercoderch589 the world is filled with billions of women. Somebody out there does want you
@@petercoderch589, well first off. Look at your comment. No female wants a whiney man.
100% agree with everything you said. Too many people expect more from other than themselves.
I needed to hear this. Opened my eyes on a viewpoint I had never considered, not in a rush to get into a relationship but at that point where I need to rearrange my life to get somethings done.
Great fir you!
if looks are the only thing you're after as a guy then you need something to offer in return (money, looks etc)
I'll take a slightly different approach. *MEN*: there is nothing wrong with wanting a woman or a relationship. NO YOU DON'T HAVE TO STOP FOCUSING ON WOMEN. All you do is stretch that relationship goal out by giving it a longer time timeline until you achieve it. But what you do is, you take that wanting for a baddie and you let it MOTIVATE you to self-improve. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be the ishh for you and your future chicks. So get dope over time and eventually attract those dope females.
PROCESS...Evolving potential
Thank you for sharing!
@Glizzy God yeah and you'd be the same dude on this page seeking advice for how to get a chick. The point is, use music as motivation to grind but ultimately you ain't about to mgtow indefinitely. I know you want a baddie too.
@Glizzy God Just because you can quote a rap lyrics doesn't mean it's true. Rap is mostly cap. The fact that you took the other 80% of your post to tell me about women indicates my point exactly. You can come on here and spill your rap lyrics but look how clear it is that you want a woman. That's my point. Dudes be out here cappin like its "money over B", "Don't chase no H" and be the same dude talking about how they want such and such kind of women. The point I'm making here is that it's okay to be motivated by women. It's okay to want a nice chick and to be on your grind to achieve the relationship you want. But to come on here and act all hard with a rap quote is stupid. Be honest with what you want.
@Glizzy God triggered
Dude I just started watching your vids today man Im tryna boss up and become a different person, and be less socially awkward. These vids are a good start, it's weird they give me a somewhat confidence boost.
That's good to hear
One thing I've noticed in your youtube thumbnail photos to promote your videos: For the positive more enticing commentary you use White or Latino women. Typically, for the more negative, unappealing commentary photos of Black women are used.
Why is that?
You’re reading too much into it
@@Godzilla-ct2pp you're responding to someone with a background in marketing. I am simply asking a man of color with a large platform why he chooses specific marketing tactics..
i see some blk women in the "positive" ones
edit: okay i disagree with you. I went through his thumbnails and noticed he uses white/lation(not a race) women for the negative commentary and blk women for positive
Very powerful video thanks
Girl all these black male youtubers do this and someone in the comment section always points it out. But honestly for this channel, it’s a mix actually.
I love how you address men AND women. Your messages are always smart and honest. Great work!
Main point: don't sleep on a Honda Civic, they're pretty dope. Personally want an Accord
This is true...you need self discipline...i do gym, I'm a nurse working like crazy to acumulate more experience to help me in the future...play some video games to relax myself, reading books, study bible, travelling and my savings grow..and the most importing working on relationship with myself and loving myself (the most importing aspect)..but never ever i consume my energy to chase women...and I'm 31 still single....salary substantially grow every 2 years...and to be honest with you on 25 i stop chasing girls...and my life becomes better and better....it just an example...and women they will observe you...and you're attraction grow when you will not be interested in having a relationship...women smell it and they want to be in you're presence...
This right here is a perfect example of a man on his purpose! Get on your purpose, focus on yourself, and watch your life improve drastically. Afterwards, women start to chase you.
For the past 2 years I haven’t chased women and I’ve had a major improvement in ALL areas of my life.
If u go to my channel and look at my oldest vids which are 2 years ago, compared to the vids I put up yesterday u will see an INSANE transformation.
That’s because I’ve been on my purpose and I’m doing exactly what you’re doing bro! Keep going!
@c1981 search about self-love and singleness...and i want to present an exemple...exemple are necesary...plus if want to be with someone else...for me it is extremly easy...but i chose the single life...i feell better...
This is true feezo. It annoys me. Men who have nothing going on for themselves think they deserve a baddie
@LoveLace or a submissive woman. Not happening.
@@mizzhelloo That's right ladies! Stand firm in it. I have had several men in REAL LIFE try to get with me without resources and I decline everytime. I only date and submit to my man if he can PROVIDE. I just can not fathom taking care of my child with welfare
@@kimberlygreen1078 right they are quite pathetic. But as feminine women we just kindly dismiss these type men. PROVIDERS ONLY
@@therealsouthernbelles FACTS!!!
@@therealsouthernbelles FAAACTS
I fell under this delusion heavy. Waking up to this has given me something to work on.
I swear to God, this is my first ever YT comment. I never ever comment
But this video is message is sooo important. I wish all men AND women would understand this. "Become who you want to attract"
If you consider yourself a quality man, looking for a woman to get to know on a more deeper level, you're not gonna want the baddies anyway. There's a reason when you match with big booty Judy on Tinder, she's super boring & uninterested. Match with average, kinda cute (and actually gets cuter than that when she "cleans up") Lexx? And you'll never encounter another person with as much personality & high interest. And I'm just speaking from my own experience.
I’ve met a few baddies with great personalities. They usually were ugly or fat as a kid and worked on themselves lol, but I’m just letting u know there are some out there with great personalities
thank you for sharing
The first 30 seconds was the realist talk I’ve heard all 2020
Beautiful video, every single time I find myself getting into a pity party/entitlement rant in my head I think to myself - go out and earn it, you're not a champion until you win a championship so don't expect a trophy.
Thank you!
If even more than 50% of m3n (let alone all) thought like you, the g3nd3r w@r would end in a second.
@@anyamiranda9452 thanks, I wish that I was more focused and dedicated as that paragraph makes me seem though but fatigue & distractions bare major weight... regardless, I still need to find a way.
Bro, please talk about the truth about these "baddies" and highly attractive women. I'm an attractive guy, I'm an entrepreneur and very focused on business and at this point leave very little time for women. I've been around attractive women most of my life, many of them are good friends of mine, and I've had opportunities to go out with and hook up with girls that are considered extremely attractive... With that being said, here's what I've noticed. Not all, but majority of these women have horrible attitudes, no personality, no sense of humor, no hobbies, no real goals, lazy in bed, and act super entitled because of simps worshipping the ground they walk on and enabling this behavior. They're bland and can barely hold a conversation because they've never had the need to develop social skills. They just "show up". At this point, I'll pick a less attractive girl with a great personality, intellect, etc. Instead of one of these "baddies" everytime.
And one thing that I've noticed, its usually the average looking girls that end up getting married, having kids and a family. Whereas these highly attractive women usually end up staying single or becoming single mothers.
Take it from me fellas, don't believe the hype, these women look good... but for many of them, that's it. They have nothing else to offer you.
These "baddies" are learning that from their environment. As women we STILL grow up learning our value is in our looks, not our brains. Now that we have access to education, women are expected to be able to do everything - but not better than any men.
Women constantly receiving messages about their looks essentially from birth, whether positive or negative, teaches them that that is what they will be judged on and so that is where they focus. If they are just pretty enough they will get treated well, is the underlying message. Beauty is the price of admission. Even feminism is teaching this idea of "all women are beautiful!" And constantly placing emphasis on women's beauty as if broadening the definition of beauty is going to solve the commodifying of women's bodies. Our body hair is still deemed disgusting and not shaving or plucking or waxing is akin to some kind of radical political act. Point is, the game is rigged. There's no winning. I hope we can step away from demeaning women for doing exactly what society has asked of them for a lot of recorded history.
Your standards are yours, and my message is not "date vapid women" but it isn't so black and white as "beautiful but dumb" "ugly but has personality". We need to stop treating one another as objects at an auction.
@@utopicspeculation5285 You go girl 💕
Hi Brandon ! I love most of what you said. However, you stated in your writing that you will seek less attractive women. Not sure if it was meant to sound this way. But it sounds a bit degrading. Like the young lady stated below, dating should not be an auction. Although it does often comes across that way. Seek someone whom you can compliment. Have a nice day.
@@tanielmoore1610 No, wasn't meant to sound that way, let me further clarify. Throughout my many interactions with women, I've noticed that the "young" women who are deemed more attractive by society tend to have less desirable character traits than the women who are considered not as attractive. Not saying this is everyone, but it is what I see most commonly. This is just what I've observed. Now if you're asking me personally, looks don't make up much of my attraction towards women. A better way for me to word it is to say; I find an average looking girl with a great personality and character to be significantly more attractive than a woman who's hot but has no character. The reason why I made that comment is, far too many men have fallen victim to the illusion that just because a girl is physically attractive, that she's somehow also an amazing person. Not saying whether they are or aren't. And it's impossible to determine that solely based on someone's social media page. But far too many men squander their time, money, and attention solely in pursuit of these girls instead of focusing on themselves. Pursuing them with this false notion that if they get with these women, they'll be happier when in fact, majority of the time that's not the case.
@@utopicspeculation5285 I agree with you, and by no means is it these women's fault. They are a product of their environment, and that's the point that I'm trying to make. In the age of social media, these girls receive an exponentially greater amount of validation from society without having to have done much personal development to match that attention. To the point that their egos are so inflated that it has become toxic. And the majority of the blame is towards us men. We're the ones who are throwing all of our money, time, and attention at these girls. This video alone proves it. The fact that us men are; working out, making money, developing our mental, social, spiritual skills SOLELY to attract these women instead of wanting to become the greatest version of ourselves is a serious problem. And like I said in the other comment, men have fallen victim to the illusion that just because these girls are attractive, that they're somehow a great person when those 2 things have no direct correlation.
I'm not generalizing, I'm just stating what I've seen to be most common amongst. I've met plenty of women who don't fit that narrative at all. I just want us men to stop validating girls solely because of their looks, and actually, be a judge of character. And to stop dedicating their hustle to a lie they've told themselves and open their eyes.
Nothing wrong with a girl whose got a little extra or is just a little skinny.
Awww, Im a little skinny and never heard that ^ - ^
Deng... Real talk. Some dreams aren't worth chasing.
very true
Feezy be dropping dimes I hope there are plenty of gents taking heed
it's a movement
Preach bro! That intro was fire fr bro! Love to hear you speak on what's real
Thank you for actually saying this as a man!
Hafeez bro this is a very good point that dont get talked much about in the manosphere. Some men are delusional AF.
And somehow I don’t see a single woman even looking like the photos you showed 😂
👍👍👍
For real!! And men wanna get mad at US for it LMAO 😂
At last, someone said that... THANK YOU!!
“Porn is visual cocaine” PREACH SIR!!! 👏🏾
Work with her, the same way you want these women to work with you!!!! 💯
This isn't just a male problem. There are also females who think just like this when it comes to men (I use to be one)...
@Que_Rico Wow, this is a great question. I don't think that you have to change what you're looking for or who you are, because the right woman will be exactly what you need and want in her. You seem like a great guy, so I'm sure you'll be able to find a good girl. You just have to look in the right places. Also, it's ok to have different options (aka skinny women,) because you never know, the love of your life may not be a 'thicker' woman, so I think it's good to explore different avenues when dating and trying to find the right person for you.
@Que_Rico wow, now that is interesting....
I dont think its just physical though. If there is a thick beautiful womena and that is just a physical strength does not mean shenis excelling in other areas of life so anyone with a profound confidence while having ONLY attained a socially accepted body hass not mentally stabalized themselves yet anyway, so it should balance itself out in other ways
@@rrun2life you are my future wife..
Please can you stop talking like that about your fellow women? There are like millions of videos calling women picky just for not being okay with dating a homeless dwarf, so stop acting like a pickme.
I am the guy in question in this video. How were you able to change yourself? I'd really like to know, so I can hopefully do the same. I will be 38 this year, and I've never dated.
FINALLY, a man call out guys on their delusional mindset about women and dating! I remember a nerd who look like Pepe the Frog and dress like Steve Urkel told one of his nerd friend that I will not be good enough for him because I don't have big enough boobs for him to be attracted to me. Yet, I gotten guys who have athletic body like Hafeez and girls were saying how fine/ cute my ex bf was when I am considered to be average or cute for a girl
I'm a beautiful woman myself and I had a guy friend who is a legit 5, if that, talking about his girl needs to be a 10. I laughed lol. I said you better have a bank account that's a 10 then.
@@CrockyDile15 some those guys believe they could only win girls over with their nice personality because their bank account, social skills, and looks are trash
Ya i had an average maybe 2 guy tell me he loved my personality and everything but i wasnt attractive to him because my boobs werent big enough. If you were to cut off every guy that didnt have a big enough schlong you'd be cutting off a lot of dudes.
It's generally below average women with the ridiculous standards, but keep projecting.
I’ve seen a guy who look like Napoleon Dynamite’s brother, Kip, and he had a Brazilian Instagram model with fake implants saved as his phone screen. He actually believe he could that type of women while working at Goodwill
I never see baddies married doesn’t that tell you something about their character.
Good point!
Many do get married, but end up taking advantage of their husbands from what I can gather.
It sure tells me something about the character of the person who always wants to date baddies.
Character is definitely a major key
@Glizzy God But the majority of men WANT a baddie. Well if that's true then YOU just confirmed that MAJORITY of men on the planet aren't worth getting involved with.
This is so true for both men and women! I see a lot of my men friends who can fit in this category.
The fundamental problem is guys are not talking to girls in real life enough because if you approach enough ladies you will find out that looks is not really thing because actually feminine character traits are more sexy than just a pretty face .
I’m sharing this everywhere man wow
A baddie is like a Maserati. Luxurious and flashy, but overtime guess what happens to her. She requires maintenance. You know what the guy who leased her does? He trades her in for Lamborghini. You know what happens to the Maserati? She gets bought by an average guy who wants to own her. Now he's stuck with the repair and maintenance costs of what the previous driver has done. Im sticking to my Toyota Camry. Reliable and good on gas. Lets appreciate the reliable women yall.
About time you finally addressed this problem. Good work Hafeez ❤👏
Just adding...but as your value grows as a man and you put in the work, you understand how much effort it takes to reach where you are and the façade of prettiness falls away. Now the "baddies" don't seem that enticing anymore because you expect someone who works on themselves as much as you have and not just someone that "looks good"
she might look good but can she handle that bag tho? Can she show your son what a good woman is?
Can she show your daughter how to be a good woman?
Is she really adding to you life?
All these thing stand out more that just her face and her shape as you level up.
It is what it is, go strong brothers!👊
I think a video on the Law Of Attraction would be super efficient for men, and even just education of knowledge on good vibrations as well. I think Aaron Doughty would be a really interesting guest to have and everyone could learn things about peace of mind, meditation, affirmations, letting go, and the Law Of Attraction.
Thank you sooo much for this video! LVM don’t seem to understand this concept and it’s become really exhausting. Keep speaking the truth 👏🏾
Thank you Tracy
@@TheRoommatesPodcast You're welcome!
Porn, social media , consumer culture constantly sells the image, without telling you the work you need to put in. Everyone can talk about how nice that new Lamborghini as looks like.....but the ad don't tell you, you will need money to get that car
From Princeton Marcellis's song You Can Make It. "You can lose wealth chasing women but you'll never lose women chasing wealth."
EXACTLY
The janitor bit with the Lamborghini had me crying LMFAO
I understand men are visual, but I think talking about wanting a woman of good character is important too. Alot of the '1%' pictures you showed dont scream having character and other good values that would be good for marriage.
We talk about that
@@TheRoommatesPodcast Ok. I will look at more of your videos
@Teddy James they don't as an all encompassing rule. Many women cannot stand a man that have a large amount of bodies. Some find it repulsive.
Don't fall for the absolutes on UA-cam and the internet. Not every woman is the same.
@Teddy James I wish I had one who's virgin and will stay loyal
@Teddy James I may no longer be the 'norm' in our culture, but I would prefer to be with a virgin. I am waiting for marriage and I would prefer the man I marry to do the same. However, the older I've become the less I think it'll happen. I gave up on that dream. However, I definitely do not want someone that's been with alot of women...there are many reasons for that.
Bro this is so deja vu and prophetic Hafeez. I was just talking about this last night. Appreciate you bro
Funny you use the honda civics in your analogy, because they are SUPER reliable and if you put some work on it, can look badass.
@c1981 Yes they do
Water your lawn and it will grow
Big girls working out at the gym or running at the park definitely get my attention. I admire the fitness hustle.
My Uber driver, a 50 year old balding man,was telling me about his girlfriend. She beautiful, blond and Brazilian BUT he couldn't keep up with her money demands I said " Why don't you get someone on your level?" He said "OH NO ! God wants me to be with her." 🤷🏾♀️
It’s his life, he can do what he wants
Long as he doesn't complain about being broke as a result lol.
Live and let live.
@@TheRoommatesPodcast I'm confused why you would respond like this ? Your talking point was men becoming delusional, I was just stating a real life example I knew of. Obviously we all know adults can do what they want.
He doesn't know God then
@@TheRoommatesPodcast you were calling out delusional men in your video and then make this comment..lmao you're another one of them,sad 😂
Man this hit my soul...time to change my attitude and life in general
Search for Yeshua, man. The woman you are seeking will come, for patience is better than power. You guys seriously need to check out Yeshua. He is extremely awesome, man.
I’m going to put this video on a loop. Needed to hear this.
thank you bro
Me as a woman, I don‘t date because I‘m not at a point in life (fitness, income, confidence etc.) to date.
Great video.
It's the like film 'Shallow Hal' with Jack Black. He was an out of shape guy with not much going for him and he was out there only wanting to deal with the top tier of women.
And I'll admit at times I've been delusional. Back when I was 17-18 I used to chase women that got a lot of male attention, I would pursue them for some time and end up frustrated that nothing came of it. Looking back these girls were just using me for attention and validation. Being the simp that I was back then, I used to give them too much validation, particularly over social media. Always 'liking' their pictures and sending 'pokes' lol.
Yet at the time I was just a typical 18 year old, no money, living at home, acne, skinny, bad haircut, cheap clothes. I did have some other girls show interest in me at the time, these girls were not as good looking, maybe a bit overweight, but I'd think I was 'above' them and ignore them.
Hey Hafeez I agree with everything you said! Doesn’t it just seem like a vicious cycle? There are men who know “I’m a 5 in looks” so then they proceed to go after girls who are 4-5s, but the girl who is a 4-5 doesn’t know she is because she gets pumped and dumped by 8s. Just seems like a never ending vicious cycle. The only way for a man to win is to level up physically and financially. You can be a 4 physically and a 8 financially and still lose. Gotta be 8 in both.
💯 hafeez... I’m glad you pointed out the hypocrisy & even I can see where I fit in that range too. Time to level up!
Thank you, I always warn men of superficial dating, if you have a decent government job, go for women that work in retail because to them you are a high value male, nothing wrong again with dating a 6 in looks but a 9 or 10 when it comes to femininity, that's just how life works, but as you get older as a man you start to see this clearly
Who told you this? I work in retail and a high value male is one who makes 6 figures, or more. Doesn't matter what title it is, it's the digits. Or if he can afford to take care of and provide for his woman and a family, is high value.
I have a male family member that really needs to see this video.
It's crazy how the qualities of a high value man is way more all encompassing than a high value woman. Getting in shape, getting your finances together, gaining confidence but the only thing that he pointed out about the girl is that she looks good. A high value man has to have his life together, while a high value woman just has to look good lol. We are delusional in more than just one way. Our standards are both too high and too low or at least too short-sighted.
Exactly
Well, you gotta pay the cost to be the boss. If you want wear the pants in the relationship you do have to work harder. Period. And men really only care about a women’s looks... not her career. Women’s careers are for themselves. Men’s careers are to get access to women.
One thing I realized is people think it costs nothing to look good... looking good costs money
because men put more value on beautiful women, that's just how the game is set up 🤷🏽♂️
You're right bro. I rather have a 7 with morals and values than a 10 who is an Instagram thot with a loud mouth and attention seeking behavior. Men dont really have high expectations for women, besides their body. I'll tell you this, the older I get, the more I'm starting to realize that other qualities in a woman matter, especially if you're trying to raise a proper family. Needless to say, nothing guarantees marriage till death do us apart. Regardless, I would prefer a woman over an Instagram thot to raise my children. Choose wisely men!
I don’t know how this showed up on my feed but 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
i dont even use instagram, or post pictures of me because i don't want to be a trial for men... and girls usually compare each other beauty wise subconsciously ... and it made me feel so guilty that i had to close my instagram account down... and i wouldn't want my son, if i ever have, to feel like this ever... feeling like he is not "good enough" for a girl on who is on instagram and who is fake af..
Great video bro. In this space of self improvement for men, I often see creators talk over and over about what women are doing wrong. Feminism, Hypergamy etc etc but not enough about what we as men need to work on and change. Porn and every IG which is basically softcore porn these days has definitely wrapped the mental state of a lot of young dudes including. I've had to delete my socials off my phone in order to focus and get to where I'm trying to get to. There's too much distraction and potential to become disillusioned with how to engage actual women.
After reading some of the comments by guys about average girls and baddies, PLEASE, STOP USING AVERAGE GIRLS AS STEPPING STONES SO YOU COULD LEAVE HER FOR A BADDIE! That's not right AT ALL.
Right!!! I was just about to say that. You need to be by yourself if you trying to do all that. You know good and damn well you wouldn't want a woman to do you like that.
@@MSNFE_01 Exactly! These guys act like us average girls don't have feelings or insecure problems when they level up without us and leave us for a baddie. Stay single then get your baddie!
they're not going to listen sis. Men are not going to sacrifice convenient, free sex. It's up to women to weed out these guys. Only date successful men who have a lot of options, wait as long as possible for sex (4-6 months minimum), and no children out of wedlock! ua-cam.com/video/kUp8Ekt4W4Y/v-deo.html
This is trash behavior. Vet these men and hope for the best. Stay vigilant.
@@viceanterra3 So are you suggesting women should settle with average guy and use them until they level up for a high value man?
Thank you so much. I'm so tired of hearing guys complain about gold diggers and then run after super models. I think both genders need to ask themselves what they are bringing to the table
Ford Taurus chasing a Ferrari. Good luck catching it.
Become a Lamborghini then chase the Ferrari.
This video is so awesome!!! I love it, this opened my eyes!!!!
You're not lying. I'm extremely confident in my attractiveness. I also know that I don't possess the typical/western standard of beauty. I'm curvy, I don't wear makeup etc. When I got on FB dating early on in the pandemic due to boredom, the guys that actually hit my profile where not even on the same level of attractiveness as me. They were sloppy and unkept looking, backwoods, no substance type of dudes on their profiles. Like he said, there's nothing wrong with desiring that but stay in your lane fam. They had me looking at myself like am I not cute?!🥴
I hate to brake it to you but you look kinda average for a black woman. As a rwandese man i can assure we have one of the most beautiful black women and you would be quite average. Maybe why those guys only hitted you. You are what you attract it's basic chemistry as harsh as it sounds.
Youre a 5.5/10. Average leaning more to the ugly than to the pretty. Its actually insane how delusional you seem to be.
@@scoobydoo6836 🤣please...
@@josephmusabyimana3557 I hate to break it to you but your opinion of me has no bearing to what goes on over here. I hope you are able to get one of those beautiful black women and worry less about me. 🙃
@Victoria Moses Girl, if that is your face without makeup, you are pretty! Like the guy in the video mentioned, this men are used to the Instagram look. Guys say they want natural but far from true as you can see from these comments. I bet if you put on makeup, fake lashes, fake hair, painted on eyebrows, has your tits showing and butt poking, they’d be singing a different tune.
Hafeez, you are a genius. You stated it perfectly. Ive been delusional
Both men and women need a reality check! Quit telling all these kids and grown folks that they are good looking when they really aren’t. Be humble and know yourself and your worth! Not everybody is worth the same value. It’s true, you want the baddies but you over here looking like the worst version of you
Too bad they won't listen. At least in my Eastern European country, 99,9% of m3n genuinely see themselves as Brad Pitt and get *really* angry if they get rejected.
This is just straight facts and I hold men even more accountable than women because we should know better. We all want an attractive woman but what do you bring to the table. Women want men who are in shape, with ambition who do have their economic situation in a good state.
The worst thing is that they are things that we can all achieve as men. Any man I see complaining but not doing anything is not considered a man to me. "PUT IN THE WORK".
"Get off the porn!"...
Me: "Never!"
But seriously you're right... I recently forced myself back into dating and to be honest I don't have much need for it and makes no sense given what I want to accomplish.
Feels more like a distraction rather than a help. You'll find that girl eventually... You just have to wait it out and do you.
Kudos to you trying to get through to these men 😭😭 good luck
Preach !!! Help these Men ...
Your content is gold my guy I’m always inspired after hearing your message we just got to keep pouring time into ourselves everything else will fall into place
This isnt common though, most men just want a woman thats nice and pretty (relatively speaking), dating apps reveal alot about men and women standards
True i know i personally want a average girl to just vibe with
@@geescold2985 and that’s the problem, a lot of average women have astronomical standards, meanwhile the man she is equivalent to she deems “dusty” 🤦🏾♂️
Stop lying! Otherwise, I would've been off the market instead of being single. I've gotten stood up by guys for being too nice and they don't care how much time/money I wasted. I dated a guy with potential meaning he was broke, no car, and he was working on his goals. As soon as, he gotten where he wanted to be then he dump me for another girl! He made me pay for a plane ticket just to be stranded in another state by myself for few days until I gotten back home
@Lost GPS they always reach for the stars
@@msj8216 thats f'ed up....but what made you attracted to that type of man in the 1st place.
Of course not you specifically, im sure you're different than the rest of these women out here.....
But a lot of women I personally know....and dated seem to be color blinded to red flags that seem pretty obvious to me.
Great video. Keep up the good work. The problem with red pill videos is that they only blame women but do not talk about the problems among men.
Lately I’ve been having a hard time attracting a girl. I’m realistic not expecting a IG model but in the same right not going home with a Peggy Hill type either.
Dating is just hard for everyone at this point. Everyone thinks they can “do better”. It’s really a terrible cycle.
I bet you're not actually realistic. And if all you attract are overweight wom3n, wether you like it or not, your "smv" is very low.
@@Deanna0456 women still all have hundreds of options. It's only hard for them to choose the best one.