This is exactly what ive been looking for! Thanks. After years of using alcohol as a crutch in social settings, I have to learn social skills i never built!
This video has earned a like from me. Some books take hours to get a simple point across for extra pages. This one did it very efficiently. Each section got right to the point, explained each concept, provided a brief explanation, then moved on. Excellent!
As an naturally inclined introvert the "small interactions" skill has been a game changer for me. There are so many opportunities during my day for these and I used to avoid them. Then you kinda build on those bit by bit..day by day and you build a very valuable skill.
I’ve tried a few of these ways of talking to people- most of them fall flat, ... it seems as if most people don’t want to be bothered or they act as if you’re inconveniencing them or there’s some “ reason “ you’re trying to talk to them- or whereas in the past, it was considered sweet or endearing that you tried to talk to them- Now you’re considered “lame”
@@RussellEricNewton We should start a movement to break this nasty cycle- I don’t quite know how it started (I’m sure social media has a lot to do with it) but somehow it needs to turn around because if it continues to grow it’ll be like an ugly, lonely societal cancer. It feels really cold and empty. It doesn’t have to be this way!
Good idea to learn to access your situation , you are right this can be bothersome. See sometimes it's not just what we say but what our body language says . But one thing is for certain a genuine smile can change someone's day . A smile is the most important tool we have . I can remember folks use to give the greeting of the day more . Just this simple thing creates common courtesy in other areas . Ones approach doesn't need to be nuclear keep it simple and remember you are not looking to.lach onto someone . Just as he speaks of the conversation with someone on the same Isle . I give the greeting of the day but to Walk up to someone and just start asking questions . I don't see myself doing that unless I have a question about something I'm looking for . And you always have to weigh personalities in there , yes even ours . So we read many things different approaches and take a little from here and there . But absolutes are in all things , then comes style
Something like that may come up here in the future, but you can get more from Patrick on Conversation Tactics (which includes a section on the resume) by registering with him at bit.ly/pkconsulting
15:55 -Warm up with a multitude of emotions use expressive/exagérate the different voices (imagine you’re reading to a 2nd grade class) be emotional and ridiculous. *
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Making small talk with baristas, waiters, shop assistants and other people in similar positions is super rude. Imagine you have to serve hundreds of people a day. Imagine everyone asks you how is your day going. Jesus Christ.
In some cases, I am sure you are correct, and in other cases, I am sure Patrick is correct. A person has to "read the room" and apply strategies as appropriate. There aren't any blanket solutions to any social skills, are there?
@@anatorres-ym8ke You are a rare exception. Most cashiers don't care about "shooting shit", they just want to earn their living and go home. By forcing your small talk on them for your selfish reasons, you are abusing their unfortunate position. They are doing very hard labor for pennies, often are abused by their supervisors, and now they have to be friendly to every person who uses them as a free "practice target"? Tell me about being antisocial
This is exactly what ive been looking for! Thanks. After years of using alcohol as a crutch in social settings, I have to learn social skills i never built!
Glad you found this helpful. There are many clips from Better Small Talk, both here and at @SocialSkillsCoaching
This video has earned a like from me. Some books take hours to get a simple point across for extra pages. This one did it very efficiently. Each section got right to the point, explained each concept, provided a brief explanation, then moved on. Excellent!
Glad you liked it!
You are right that's why I don't read books one point takes 15 pages to get that's why quotes are good
Your voice is calm and soothing. Peaceful like great examples
Wow, thank you!
As an naturally inclined introvert the "small interactions" skill has been a game changer for me. There are so many opportunities during my day for these and I used to avoid them. Then you kinda build on those bit by bit..day by day and you build a very valuable skill.
That's it exactly. Find one that works for you and work slowly and incrementally until it becomes habit!
I’ve tried a few of these ways of talking to people- most of them fall flat, ... it seems as if most people don’t want to be bothered or they act as if you’re inconveniencing them or there’s some “ reason “ you’re trying to talk to them- or whereas in the past, it was considered sweet or endearing that you tried to talk to them-
Now you’re considered “lame”
I know what you mean.
@@RussellEricNewton
We should start a movement to break this nasty cycle- I don’t quite know how it started (I’m sure social media has a lot to do with it) but somehow it needs to turn around because if it continues to grow it’ll be like an ugly, lonely societal cancer. It feels really cold and empty.
It doesn’t have to be this way!
Did covid and social distancing make it worst? Most likely
Good idea to learn to access your situation , you are right this can be bothersome.
See sometimes it's not just what we say but what our body language says .
But one thing is for certain a genuine smile can change someone's day .
A smile is the most important tool we have .
I can remember folks use to give the greeting of the day more .
Just this simple thing creates common courtesy in other areas .
Ones approach doesn't need to be nuclear keep it simple and remember you are not looking to.lach onto someone .
Just as he speaks of the conversation with someone on the same Isle .
I give the greeting of the day but to Walk up to someone and just start asking questions .
I don't see myself doing that unless I have a question about something I'm looking for .
And you always have to weigh personalities in there , yes even ours .
So we read many things different approaches and take a little from here and there .
But absolutes are in all things , then comes style
Yes, they look at you like you’re weird.
Good video, thank you for your work.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you enjoyed the video!
Great book 📖 👌🏾 Hit the key highlights of what makes a good convo ✨️🗣✨️
Thanks!
Kinda wish there was more on the conversation ‘resume’ part. I’m great at asking questions but terrible at talking about and expressing myself
Something like that may come up here in the future, but you can get more from Patrick on Conversation Tactics (which includes a section on the resume) by registering with him at bit.ly/pkconsulting
This is helpful thanks
Glad to hear!
A very meaningful book.
Thank you for your comment! I truly appreciate it when viewers connect with the content in a meaningful way.
27:02 - Good things to think about starts here
Interesting you would say that. I feared the things-to-think-about list format would be a detractor...
Thank you!
You're very welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed the content!
15:55
-Warm up with a multitude of emotions use expressive/exagérate the different voices (imagine you’re reading to a 2nd grade class) be emotional and ridiculous. *
Yes sir!
nice video👍👍
Thank you 👍
Is about attitude and confidence what makes a God talk good its all in u
Well said.
Alone.
Better not bother anyone.
I would never...
kick them out comes with section on my own maybe part time with my mom.
I would imagine so!
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Glad you noticed!
Just don’t say “how you doin” unless you actually want an answer lol
Haha, I totally get you! Sometimes it's just a casual greeting, but then you end up in a full-on conversation!
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this is a slideshow not a podcast.
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Thank you for your feedback. I understand that a traditional podcast involves an audio format, and the provided text may not fully capture the dynamic nature of spoken content. The intent of the previous response was to provide a condensed overview of the podcast episode's key points and structure, which could serve as a potential script or outline.
However, I acknowledge that a fully developed podcast script would require additional elements such as pacing, intonation, and natural language that are difficult to convey in written text. If you would like to explore the possibility of creating a more comprehensive podcast script, I would be happy to assist you in developing a detailed outline or even drafting a sample script.
Additionally, we can consider incorporating audio elements such as sound effects, background music, or interviews to enhance the overall listening experience. Please let me know if you would like to proceed with further development of the podcast script.
Making small talk with baristas, waiters, shop assistants and other people in similar positions is super rude. Imagine you have to serve hundreds of people a day. Imagine everyone asks you how is your day going. Jesus Christ.
In some cases, I am sure you are correct, and in other cases, I am sure Patrick is correct. A person has to "read the room" and apply strategies as appropriate. There aren't any blanket solutions to any social skills, are there?
When people make small talk, I think we’re trying to NOT be rude. Imagine if NOBODY asks how your day is!
@@staceypage8111imagine getting mad because someone is asking how is your day like what
@@reyy568right? Might as well get all of those jobs and replace them with robots if we can’t talk to them
@@anatorres-ym8ke You are a rare exception. Most cashiers don't care about "shooting shit", they just want to earn their living and go home. By forcing your small talk on them for your selfish reasons, you are abusing their unfortunate position. They are doing very hard labor for pennies, often are abused by their supervisors, and now they have to be friendly to every person who uses them as a free "practice target"? Tell me about being antisocial