My Daddy told me one time "Don't settle for a girl that settles for you. Find the one that wants you so bad she'll treat you like the man you should be."
She acts like that when you are the reserve dude. You are either second or third string on her team. When Chad, or Leighton aren't available, it's your turn to waste your money on her. The thing to understand is that she is the second or third option for Chad and Leighton.
@Kuba P or maybe she just doesn’t want to hurt your feeling and you can’t identify social cues. I don’t know why men continue to pursue woman who made it clear they are not attracted to them. It’s not hard. Get a clue.
Im turning 38 soon. And hafeez is 100%. If she doesnt want you, move on. This is what you have to do: Heal and confront your issues, go as deep as possible, work on yourself, if you want a high quality women you gotta level up yourself, never forget your personal growth comes first, you cant help anyone else without being solid yourself, when you find the right person, you gotta put in effort , consistency, and maintenance. Listen to me, no good things come easy. And if for whatever reason things dont work out, its never wrong to love, its always good to give love, forgive yourself and others, you are loved, you are respected, you are worth it. I love you guys and wish only the best for remainder of 2020. -a healing heart
@Tanghho Perfectly said sir. Just turned 38 here, and your advice is spot on. Appreciate this more than you know. Let’s do the damn thing gentleman! All the best sirs.💪
Nobody likes low hanging fruit. Not men, not women. Most of us want people who don't want us and we have no time for the people who would do anything for us.
Yep. It really doesn't matter male or female. The shit is true regardless. If you are chasing someone who doesn't want you, it's because you don't love yourself.
@@heatherstacy2976 Damn. That hit so deep, but oh so true. That was me though. Chasing a woman who was playing games for a year and I tried SO fucking hard to make it work, I did everything. I completely put myself out there, I was vulnerable with her. But NOTHING worked. Eventually I just told myself, "what the hell are you doing man... you don't deserve this." I've had past relationships/situationships where I felt like I could have done more to make them work... but for this, I have 0 regrets because I put it all out there, and if it didn't work that's on her.
Being a man isn’t just about getting what you want and celebrating your successes, it’s also about knowing when to walk away, knowing how to learn from your L’s.
Not really money. It is more like if the guy provides and protects. A rich guy with no intentions to provide and protect is a turn off. At the same time, a guy of moderate means, who would practically provide and protect, is great !
If you have to convince someone to spend time with you, something is not right. Don't beg for anybody's attention, you deserve better! That goes for friends too, not just love interests.
But, you do have to be mature enough to ask. But if there is a clear lack of interest then burdening yourself further will only hurt you and possibly the other person. Move along, heal if you need too, and keep bettering yourself as a person.
First of all, if she is "playing hard to get" or being rude with you is because she never been genuinely into you. I can garantee you 100% that's not how she would behave with a guy that she keeps on her mind. Don't waste your time guys, she is not the queen of Wakanda! I support this channel. From a Brazilian girl 😘
No. A lot of women don’t want a good man they just want a man to finance their lifestyle so that they can sit at home and be stay-at-home mothers. That’s all. That’s 85-90% of women. Majority of women don’t wanna work.
As the great Patrice o neal said a lot of women self sabotage when it comes to the elevating. Be ready to move on at any giving moment with or with out them.
I am so happy that so many men have woken up. The other day a friend of mine was complaining saying men have changed. That fellas don't care. She said initially when she rejects a guy, the guy would always come back. she says now, when she rejects a guy, he disappears for good. ✌🏿
Well, she may be hitting that wall too and/or developing a body count. 20 year old virgin? I might beg her back - can't find those. 35 year indebted femi-nazi drowning in debt who has been ran through? Dime a dozen.
100% accurate! It literally took me years to understand you absolutely CAN'T "make" a woman want you. The sexiest woman is the one who sees your worth and thinks you're the man.
not true... You can with money.. I have made relationships work for awhile solely on the fact that i offered them a free place to stay. if I didn't the relationship would have went nowhere
@Jaylin Owens They were somewhat... All 3 of them have wanted to leave only because I wasn't comfortable with her bringing friends over/ me getting jealous of her cheating on me... if I would have been laid back, and accepted the chances of her fucking another man from time to time on the side..... I still would be fucking a woman I find quite attractive to this day just for providing her free rent.... If you throw out morals, you can live a happier live I am finding out...... I'm in that situation now....
Yep that was me in teens and early 20s.. kept thinking about that 1 person.. for way too long.. then that one other person for way too long... wish I saw this at a younger age, so that I wouldn't have wasted so much time dreaming
A lot of people needed to hear this. Don’t chase after people who don’t want you. Think about all that you are missing out on with focusing on things that’s not pertaining to you or have your best interest at heart. We are here for a short time,don’t waste it on people who don’t value you.
When a woman desires you, you don't have to 'work hard' to get her or keep her. Nothing you do will keep a woman who doesn't want you. You may do all the right things, but the point is, she doesn't want those right things to come from you!
@The monster under your bed You DAMN right because MOST of you men are unattractive to women. Now, your gender gets to see what it's like when you are held to the same superficial standards of beauty.
Guys: I'm almost 60 yo and married for 30 years and I can attest that what Hafiz said is spot on. I wish someone told me this stuff when I was 20. I had to figure it out on my own.
@@ARTDEVGRU247 I am married, for 25 years, and counting. My point was that despite the ups and downs we've had, we still choose to stay together. I look to the future. And as long as my woman treats me right, most of the time, I will stay. I understand that people have bad days, and I am willing to cut her some slack. But I have made my boundaries very clear. Recently, she crossed the line, and I very openly searched the 'net for alternate accommodations. When she reluctantly asked what I was doing, I told her. I also told her I would stop looking if she gave me an honest apology, whereby she acknowledged her misstep, and then said she would not do it again. So far, she has not done it again. But if she tests me again, she knows I won't stay*. I told her less than a year ago, statistics say I have 20-25 years left, and with more yesterdays and fewer tomorrows, I have precious little patience left for being jerked around. Age gives freedom. The life I have given her has been, and continues to be, better than anything she could have had without me. It has been said that a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything. *Action speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. Actions take effort. Also actions, by definition, cannot be faked.
Although I didn't know how to articulate it back then, I married a woman at 22 primarily for one reason - that girl was on team ME. 27 years later, successful largely because of her support, and I could not be happier with how things turned out. So glad I didn't end up with one of those girls that wanted me to chase after her.
Right on and CONGRATULATIONS -- A marriage should be a Partnership because it take Teamwork to make the dream work. A woman is supposed to be a 'helpmate' according to the Bible -- If she is not willing to help you, she will likely end up hurting you.
Don't chase her, initiate and wait for her to reciprocate. Women like men who take initiative, trust me if she likes you she will show it. There's a difference between pursuing and chasing. Chasing implies the object of the chase doesn't want to be caught lol, pursuing should be on both sides. You both pursue each other
laja82 don’t expect a guy you do want to put effort into you then because he doesn’t want you. So many women say my man doesn’t put in effort blah blah blah
“Once a woman turns against you, forget it. They can love you, then something turns in them. They can watch you dying in a gutter, run over by a car, and they'll spit on you.” - Bukowski
a female in her true feminine energy would save your life! she would come after you and aid you in a hospital. stop with this misogany. it's bad. it's so bad. if a woman hates you she can control her emotions and turn back to loving you to save you. don't underestimate the power of a female's love and emotions.
@MeTHoD Yes, the first lesson is always: are you a mature and good enough person to be dating right now? Low self-esteem? Get it in check FIRST. If you are not good enough without an SO then you will not be good enough with an SO.
@@hangukhiphop I had to unlearn & rewire my self this year. Alot of us guys think it's our job to safe her and we end up sacrificing ourselves in the process. If she need help she should seek therapy. Alot of women out there are aware of this masculine energy we bring in and they capitalise it once you're not useful they move on to a better partner leaving you instead of you to channel that energy into building yourself as a Man
Or the "winning the trophy" mentality, where she does absolutely nothing and you jump through hoops and compete with other guys to prove yourself to her.
@@hangukhiphop and here we see antoher comment making it about how women feel. idc how women feel. This is about men. Stop trying to co-opt mens issues. and also if an attractive man was doing it it probably wouldn't be very distressing. Also, women are distressed by lots of things. Its cause theyre neurotic have a lot of irrational fears. not something men can help.
Live in abundance gentlemen, have options and be on your grind. There are billions of women on this earth, do not concentrate and focus on that one woman who is not investing in you. Keep your heads up and stay strong my fellow men.
Guys, its a last call from God, believe in Jesus and repent for your sins( change mind about sin),Jesus loves you and is going to give you peace and joy, hard times are coming to the Earth, you will remember my words, repent today and put your trust in Jesus, read the Bible to get to know him, tomorrow is not promised❤️
@BubonicTonic false most fat women especially bw want what they can't have and they will try to get with the best looking and most in shape guys, they don't go for the fat or balding guys unless they have no choice or are benefitting, most fat women can sleep with the attractive guy but he'll usually never be in a relationship with them
@@blackkyurem720 well, tbf, a lot of these stories that I’ve heard are from guys who don’t want to ruin a friendship, or they can’t tell if a girl is flirting or just being really friendly (naturally more extroverted).
KingJugganaut19 Really? So you are willing to date any woman? It doesn’t matter her size, how she looks or her personality???? Bro, the only difference is the type of “what you can do” For some people (men and women) it’s looks, for others it’s money, e.t.c
@@brandyandcream2 looks aimt what we mean by bringing to the table. This is 21 st century. We look for more in women. Every time I ask what women bring to the table ,all they say is sex and looks. We men have moved on from such things and are looking for more then that.
IvanXredpill women know who they’ll give it to on sight or during a first link up. If you out here wining and dining multiple times then you’re not Chad,Tyrone
My homie always says, "If I was Chris Brown, you would return my call immediately." That is the standard to live by; she needs to act urgently towards me or I'm out!
In my last relationship, I started to have feelings for my friend, I told her I liked her and I wanted her as my girlfriend, but she rejected me at the beginning. Then I kept seeing her and hanging out with her, and of course she liked my attention and my begging. She continued rejecting me for a while and I continued insisting. At the end she accepted to be my girlfriend and we dated for around 7 months... but guess what?... all that rejection from her and all that begging from me before, created resentful feelings towards her and that didn't help in the relationship once we were couple. Lesson learned! NEVER insist a woman to be your girlfriend, you ask her just once, if she says no, NEVER ask her again and move on!
I had a similar thing happen. I liked my brother's friend and would text him sometimes and he didn't really seem interested and wouldn't text back as much but we started dating a year later and the resentment got the best of me as well so I had to end things.
Needed this reality check!! I’ve been the guy who did all type of stuff to get a girl to like me, want me, and thought if I just kept trying it’ll workout. But like you said, we not doing that anymore!
Doing nice things for women (and others) is great! Just make sure you are doing it out of a selfless pure space instead of hoping to receive something in return. If you do nice things to try and win someone over, that's a form of manipulation that isn't so subtle.
AJ L it’s also manipulative for a woman to take things from a guy who she knows is into her but she’s not into him. Woman keep these men around for validation and non sexual attention all the time.
Never become an option. The second you realize that you are her option and not first choice... MOVE ON and don't look back. I have this happen and the girl messaged me a few months later and said she wanted to go out but was shocked when I passed. When she asked why, I told her it was because I was just an option to her and not a primary first choice.
I have also been That Guy who was up late crying because my “friend” who I loved so married another man. My moment of clarity was figuring out “while I’m lying here crying, she’s laid up under her husband not giving me a second thought...” So I decided right then to not let people stay on my mind whom I know don’t have me on theirs.
Your last thought has also been mine for the last 20 yrs. I would sometimes stop communicating with people just to see if they'd ever try to initiate contact. Let's just say, I have lost several 'friends' cause they never really were.
If a woman does not want you, move on, and move on quickly! In my opinion, his analogy of a job interview is right on point. If you were an employer, it would be highly foolish to hire or to even keep an employee who does not want to be there. Having such an employee would simply just bring more problems. So having a woman who does not really want to be a part of your life will bring you a great deal of drama, chaos, and disappointment. Staying away from such a woman is akin to dodging a bullet, so moving forward is a tremendous blessing. Better to find out now than later. 👍🏋😊
I’m an older man and I hope the young men listen to this message. It is 100% accurate. Unfortunately “most” young men don’t follow the instruction of their seniors...it will be to their detriment.
I've been stuck on a girl I work with for a year now. Falling in love really, been on dates and chased her the whole time. She cancelled on me on the day many times, slow replies always, of little interest but would never admit to me she wasn't interested, she told me she liked me but her actions said otherwise. Thanks for this video, I needed to watch something like this. It's time to move on, I deserve better!
I am forty-eight years old, and here is what I have learned: There is a small minority of women that I didn't get with because they didn't want me, like Hafeez says, or I had no game. But for the vast majority of women who didn't get with me, it was a huge blessing. I look at these women now, and I am like, "And to think that I could have ended up with her! Thank God she turned me down!" I want to clarify my statement because I can now see the ambiguity in what I said, based on some of the comments that have been made. First, I want to apologize if my use of “God” offended anyone. I am sorry. Staying in the context of the video, I am saying that men need not wallow in self pity for not being wanted by a woman. Rejection can lead you to a better place. I am not referring to misfortunes that have befallen anyone. It rains on all of us. Let’s just say that I am happy with my journey, thus far, and I doubt it would have been possible with these women.
I'm 26 and I feel like even sooner than your age I will feel that way about my ex. We are the same age, were together 8 years and have a child together. Shes definitely starting to go downhill....😂
@Rasul Daniels no is not, it is dumb luck, she had another sucker with better prespectives lined up, do not use God name in a situation like this, when you feel God protection you dont need years down the road and the misfortune of others to feel blessed, can you understand?
@Rasul Daniels obvious you do not, you are a modern person, the type that dosent respect the life experience of their ancestors and even worse dosent respect others beliefs.
I truly don't understand this theory of human beings being out of another human beings league. Y'all funny as hell. If u want to say that type of women isn't for everyone say that. Insta picture takers have plenty to bring up in terms of negative attributes but to say somehow there above someone else is ridiculous.
He’s right fellas. I ended up in a 2 1/2 year relationship (got engaged too) when something awakened in me that the relationship was never set on a strong foundation to begin with. It was my lust that allowed me to “pursue” her then it wasn’t till we were separated (she lives in Germany and I live here in the states) for a year AND during this COVID mess that forced me to sit down and ask myself, “Does this relationship actually make sense?” From there, I became enlightened on everything and realized I not only had a lot of personal issues to work through but I needed to end the relationship altogether before it would go too far (marriage).
When I was 21 I think...I wasted 2 years of my life chasing this girl. I mean from treating her to bowling and dinner, to hanging out with her. Trying my best to get her to change her mind..even after she friend zoned me. Years later..I was buying my current gf a gift from a store, and there she was. I just looked at her and laughed so hard 🙉😁. The cashier wanted to know what was so funny. I told him life lol👌🏾🙏🏾
Haha guys remember that women has an expiration, when they age 30+, they are now consider left over, you can see first with looks, flabby arms, wrinkles, bloated abdomen, and like a drum body. You guys cn lways get 20+yrs old, just improve yourself confidence. Those 30+, women only want your resources. Dont marry, because the court is always on their side. Dont give them chance to bite you. Just pump and dump hahaha
I’m pretty sure a lot of anime still tells it like it is, it is one of those mediums that is not completely yet polluted by any type of extreme feminist agenda or “bluepilled” (if you believe in the pills bs) so I’m pretty sure it wasn’t a good example. Not to mention most good anime does not focus on romantic relationships.
@@samuelvelazquez8834 Shalom Greetings I don't think I paid attention to the romantic relations in my favorite anime unless I had a crush- I couldn't watch it as much either so I didn't pay attention because I had to go to no fun school. Thank you for your perspective.
Absolutely agree! I had a guy walk away from me just to see him chase after a woman who didn’t want him and seemed to be very toxic. Even had a baby on him with her ex. When you see your interest chase after people like that, it’s not you. They are trying to fill a void they haven’t healed from yet. Everyone deserves to be desired in their relationship. Know your worth Kings and Queens!
Yes happened to me as well. Reminded me of women that come from abusive relationship and jumps right back into another abusive relationship. No time in between to reflect or heal. Unfortunately they generally are late to the game and continue this pattern thru out their life.
@@cashflowhustles thats true but i guess this guy is another all women are the same so he thinks is her fault. Same shit that girls do when they say that all men are bad
I'm extremely attractive n even I'm not good enough its usually ooohh ur a fuckboy or he's too pretty i rather go for a guy thats lesser than me so I can get validation from him while ironically I'd be the better match for her n can please her more than that simpleton ever could.
Deep down you know straight away when a woman really likes you.. But when you’re younger you think you can run these tricks and games to create genuine interest.. We’ve all had the feeling of pulling teeth and getting know where, and yet other times women have made it really easy.. That’s the difference between genuine interest and not.
Couldn't agree more. Chasing is tiring when the energy is not reciprocated. And having the right mindset will lead you both to pursuit each other. I know this sounds cliche but always choose YOU first and put yourself first. Once you establish you, trust the process. Someone amazing will come along and sweep you off unexpectedly. It did for me. Thanks Hafeez for another good video!
There is a difference between "chasing a girl" and "a girl who wants a little chase". The first is *your* decision and you look immature and desperate. The second is her decision and is only one among many hints she has made obvious that she is into you.
Sometimes you can't always have what you want in life and its okay, you're still alive, just take a breather and you'll come to understand you can live without it.
Yo, I'm a woman watching this, THIS MAN IS PREACHING. There have been guys I didn't want and then I hated them MORE because of them trying too hard, it was suffocating.
I tried this very often, when I was trying. I was told there is someone for everyone; and everyone has a soulmate. These are all lies. I dont believe any of this crap, not after 30+ years of trying. Only to get the old "can we just be friends." 7 years ago I came to the conclusion that I am going to die alone, not have a family. Now the end result of trying for so long 9and other reasons) I'm clinically depressed.
@@angelphoenix7784 Sorry to hear this man. I can relate. You need to find a purpose outside of marriage and a girlfriend. Self improvement, gym, make new friends, look for a new job. That's what I did. Still single, but I recently got a new job with one of the biggest tech companies on the planet. Working out, changing my diet. Honestly haven't been this happy in years despite being single.
The funny thing is, many girls will try to get into contact some time after they flaked or ghosted. Sometimes, you can get some action out of it, but I can guarantee you that sooner or later, they will flake or ghost again. Once a girl flakes or ghosts, never plan anything long term with her.
I would take a girl out im my car which okay but not really expensive. Then on the second date I would drive my dad's work truck and give no explanation as to why. If they avoided me after that then I knew what they were about. My wife rode with me no matter what I drove and we have been together for 32 years. We built together and she has my back.
Get you some and move on. She doesn't actually want you, she's playing you. Make it difficult for her and act aloof. Be distant, distracted and unfazed by her effort.
Absolutely! TV and movies got us guys all messed up in the head. Begging like Steve Urkel is not reality. Brothers DO NOT SETTLE. DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE MARGINALIZED.
I learned this years ago. TV screws up real life relationships with Hollywood script written fantasies. I swallowed their tripe myself until I hit my 30s. This information has been around for centuries just not shared or known to everyone especially men or your AVERAGE man. There were dudes in high school who knew about this but I was clueless back then.
Girls don't want Steve Urkel but they get sopping wet over his alter ego Stephon. TV also taught us that. When you have confidence, be about your goals, be the smooth alpha and women fall over themselves to get to you. Trust.
@@EzeICE they crazy thing about Steve Urkel. He wanted Laura so bad. She did not really give him the time of day unless he was more like his Alter ego Stephan. He literally had to change who he was for her to give him a chance. Whole time his equal Myra was in love with him. She was smart and beautiful. They had more in common but he could not see that. I think she mirrored who he was and Laura mirrored who he wanted to be when it comes to social status. He could not see what he had in front of him.
My man, Hafeez, is exactly on point. I'm 59 and have chased too many women top many times and the urge to chase still remains. We must always remember that if we as men are constantly chasing it simply means that the woman doesn't want to be caught. Pursue? Absolutely. Chase? NEVER!!!
I was in this situation in my early 20s and it was really painful to the extent that i started doubting myself.It can destroy a young mans confidence as he grows up to become a better man.
I stopped chasing women in 2005. I only have access to one stand nights. I am well positioned and I saved lots of money so people are a bit jealous of my lifestyle. With covid everything is different, I can't do that much but I keep studying and I work twice so: more money.
3 years in my college days I liked a girl, went college jst so I could see her , been 2 years since I completed my college N guess what I'm happily single Learned it the hard way but I guess we all learn.
Guys, its a last call from God, believe in Jesus and repent for your sins( change mind about sin),Jesus loves you and is going to give you peace and joy, hard times are coming to the Earth, you will remember my words, repent today and put your trust in Jesus, read the Bible to get to know him, tomorrow is not promised❤️
Robert G you do know this is a Christian based channel right? Like he talks about God and praying and faith all the time... just saying.... i feel like your just coming at dude just to have something to be combative over. Thats not how a man acts bubba....
El Luech smart people don’t have to call themselves smart and announce it to everyone using it as an excuse to chastise someone else for their beliefs. For the record, I don’t subscribe to religion, as I believe anything based in dogma and ideology is not only nonsense but dangerous. You don’t have to be a dick though. Y’all look just as fanatical as he does at this point....
Look up Serapis Christos to find where Jesus Christ originated. Also Reincarnation was removed from the Bible in the 1500's by Justinian's wife as well as the book of Enoch, & more
right. people need to realize that as time goes by there will be flaws and down times. if you and your partner are able to persevere through those tough times then that’s how you know your relationship is worth it and meant to be.
Yeah it’s true. The exact thing happen to me in my early 20’s with I a girl I was working with in Walmart. Spent 2 years pursing her all while telling myself “just be myself, prove my worth and putting in the effort and time.” Did everything she said she wanted from a man. Guess what I was putting in all the hard work and effort for other man that weren’t even doing half the things I was doing for her. It was a wasted 2 years but a valuable lesson. Know when to walk away from a women.
I always tell my guy friends, look you know that most of these ladies dah keep high standards, you know there are one or two guys, that easily mess around with her and you could even be better looking. So why waste your time investing.
The greatest problem in the world is distribution. There are millions of young boys and men in early 20s who need this video so bad but they will never watch this cos they don't know this exists and sadly most of them learn after going through a very demoralizing experience lol
it'll be okay - you ever notice how there's a hundred different versions of the "Hang in there" motivational poster? same concept here. there's a book that became popular a few years ago (cant remembers its name atm) but it had the same message in one chapter, "Don't be with someone who isn't excited to be with you" the message is getting out there, even if they don't see this video, i have faith they'll see a version of it and take action
Female prospective: I can recall two separate instances when I politely rejected a man, not because of any fault of his or appearance reasons...I was just genuinely not interested. I politely rejected them & they both took it in stride. They didn’t try to convince me, question me, or suddenly become outraged like many have in the past. They pretty much just smiled, said they enjoyed hanging out with me, and said their goodbyes. I can honestly tell you I felt a tremendous amount of respect for them as people & how they conducted themselves. I actually thanked both of them for being really cool about it and told them I really appreciated it.
Just found this channel and I'm thoroughly Impressed. I'm 36 and have been thinking like this for years so it gives me hope for the future. Good job fellas, great content 👍😎
You are such an amazing, godly, handsome man!!! The loss was hers. She really did not see your value. She definitely was broken. Thank you for all you do in these podcasts. Love listening to your advice. Wish I had this information along time ago.❤️🙏
Hafeez...I truly think there needs to be a topic on ARTICULATION. Some men truly dont know how to articulate what they want specifically. And then they wander why they have the outcomes they do....”Say what you mean and mean what you say...”
"ANIME IS A LIE" Whoa man. I was with you until you said that. My childhood friend who beat me up when we were kids will definitely fall in love with me by next year.
I agree with some of the points, however I’m glad there’s a big brother out there for men to look up to and learn how to be high quality! Definitely going to do a reaction and talk on your video on my UA-cam. As I teach ladies how to be a high quality lady.
I think most men know this intuitively and logically. However, one-itis is strong and oftentimes overwhelms our rational inclinations. I experienced this once in my late 20's. In my case, due to a combitination of outside factors, her and I were briefly involved. Up to that point in my life I'd never been treated as the guy that a woman would "settle" for. One of the worst romantic experiences I've had. In hindsight, I'm grateful for it. Great video bruh. Keep dropping 🔥🔥🔥
Indeed. While I agree with Hafeez (hope I'm spelling his name correctly) for the most part, I deviate in the sense that I think most men would benefit from an experience where he is viewed, treated, and disposed of as "the place holder." Better to learn this early and have that experience deposited into your behavioral memory for future use than to realize this after marriage and a few kids. Bad experiences are good for us. We need them.
@JBcoolbreez it is humbling. But humbling experiences trigger introspection. It sucked at the time, but I'm thankful I had that experience. And I have no ill-will towards her. Experience is a brutal teacher but we rarely forget its lessons.
I'm glad to see men learning like this. Women seem incapable of self-refllection. They keep making the same mistakes until its too late for them and then have the audacity to blame men.
Making mistakes is super important thou. It's also important to have someone to teach you about those mistakes.. Made a shitload of mistakes still do and no one there to teach me what I'm doing wrong or have to do right. Thou...The roommates is changing that! Awesome stuff!
I've had this happen to me from guys who like to play games and don't see the value in me, when this happens, be very quick to move on guys and girls! They're not worthy of you! God will only send you someone who sees your value! 🙏
My Daddy told me one time "Don't settle for a girl that settles for you. Find the one that wants you so bad she'll treat you like the man you should be."
But what if you're not attracted to her?
@@toomuchinformation Find one you are attracted to. Men like women don't have to settle.
Lauriston Smith they’ll pass right over her in the same way that attractive women are passing over them
@@toomuchinformation brother if it ain't mutual move on and build a life u like everything a gamble
Factsssss
When a girl ghosts you, flakes on you, is always late, she is not playing hard to get. She just doesn't give a crap about you.
Lol
She acts like that when you are the reserve dude. You are either second or third string on her team. When Chad, or Leighton aren't available, it's your turn to waste your money on her.
The thing to understand is that she is the second or third option for Chad and Leighton.
@Kuba P not at all. Like another commenter said yesterday the boulevard hath owneth her.
@@tradealotinjj9464 I don't expect anything from you all anymore
@Kuba P or maybe she just doesn’t want to hurt your feeling and you can’t identify social cues. I don’t know why men continue to pursue woman who made it clear they are not attracted to them. It’s not hard. Get a clue.
Treat a woman like a CELEBRITY and she'll treat you like a FAN.
Lmao im a woman and I don't know why I find that funny lmao😂
@@loranaSays because u got plenty of simps dudes u run over.. Its the truth
@@neilwilliams3639
Ong
"nice medifore".....
Vice versa 🤗
Im turning 38 soon. And hafeez is 100%. If she doesnt want you, move on. This is what you have to do: Heal and confront your issues, go as deep as possible, work on yourself, if you want a high quality women you gotta level up yourself, never forget your personal growth comes first, you cant help anyone else without being solid yourself, when you find the right person, you gotta put in effort , consistency, and maintenance. Listen to me, no good things come easy. And if for whatever reason things dont work out, its never wrong to love, its always good to give love, forgive yourself and others, you are loved, you are respected, you are worth it. I love you guys and wish only the best for remainder of 2020.
-a healing heart
Thanks so much for the love brother.
Thanks for sharing such powerful advice! Can apply these tips
@@TheRoommatesPodcast thank you your content has helped me
This is gold
@Tanghho Perfectly said sir. Just turned 38 here, and your advice is spot on. Appreciate this more than you know. Let’s do the damn thing gentleman! All the best sirs.💪
“Choose a woman who chooses you.”
-The Way of the Superior Man
A 22yo angel georgous sexy petite blonde with blue eyes sociopath narcissit choose me...
Worst experience of my life.
Nobody likes low hanging fruit. Not men, not women. Most of us want people who don't want us and we have no time for the people who would do anything for us.
Nah I'm good
@@G.DD3SS Your way of thinking is why many relationships don't last. Pick the fruits at your level. It's all about compatibility.
@@reydensmithen3124 It's not my way of thinking; it's an observation.
I guess the real question is, why would you even want to try to force being with someone. Love is so much better when it’s reciprocated
Yep. It really doesn't matter male or female. The shit is true regardless. If you are chasing someone who doesn't want you, it's because you don't love yourself.
@@heatherstacy2976 Damn. That hit so deep, but oh so true.
That was me though. Chasing a woman who was playing games for a year and I tried SO fucking hard to make it work, I did everything. I completely put myself out there, I was vulnerable with her. But NOTHING worked. Eventually I just told myself, "what the hell are you doing man... you don't deserve this."
I've had past relationships/situationships where I felt like I could have done more to make them work... but for this, I have 0 regrets because I put it all out there, and if it didn't work that's on her.
90s and 2000s movies my friend,that's why
If she's "hard to read" she's not interested
well said.
Say it louder.
@@Tethloach1 Took me the longest time to figure this out, especially in online dating
anything that's not an enthusiastic "YES" is just shades of "NO"
damn, that hurts.
@Kawhi's burner account... accurate
Being a man isn’t just about getting what you want and celebrating your successes, it’s also about knowing when to walk away, knowing how to learn from your L’s.
Exactly I took mines
Thanks for the advice my fellow King 🤴 "Learn from your L's" 💯
... Word ! ... Deadass ! ...
Yeah. Real talk.
Yes sir
we associate good looks with quality, like they associate money with quality
Good looks on the outside but ugly on the inside.
True
Huh?they who?can pple stop talking en behalf of everybody?thanks
Not really money. It is more like if the guy provides and protects. A rich guy with no intentions to provide and protect is a turn off. At the same time, a guy of moderate means, who would practically provide and protect, is great !
@@Freedom_and_Acceptance total bullshit
She’s either a lesson or a blessin’
Simple and to the point
Word
A blessing or a curse
Speaking truth, right here!
Shit even if she’s just a lesson, I still look at it as a blessing. Just more experience for me
If you have to convince someone to spend time with you, something is not right. Don't beg for anybody's attention, you deserve better! That goes for friends too, not just love interests.
Agree
#concur
But, you do have to be mature enough to ask. But if there is a clear lack of interest then burdening yourself further will only hurt you and possibly the other person. Move along, heal if you need too, and keep bettering yourself as a person.
Yes - there should be one set of rules for everyone in that regard with maybe the exception being you're paid for your time.
@@jepkofficial this is why I miss clubs now the game is alot harder..
The worst is when she only wants you when she becomes a single mother lol
But never wanted you in highschool 😂
Even then you will be priority number 5 after the kid, the dog, cat, the ex, then you
@@benhartart9487 lol
Exactly
@@benhartart9487 Chad & Cat
First of all, if she is "playing hard to get" or being rude with you is because she never been genuinely into you. I can garantee you 100% that's not how she would behave with a guy that she keeps on her mind. Don't waste your time guys, she is not the queen of Wakanda!
I support this channel. From a Brazilian girl 😘
Thank you Millenne Nunes. I take it to heart.
@Anne So how do you expect a good man to know you like him? I don't get it.
Whats the point, if it works against you?
Brazil😍
@Anne That's what girls in high school do. Mature women don't play these stupid games, period.
@@millienunes well said 👍
All women want a good man, until they meet one that requires them to be a better woman.
Sheeshh
No... they want a good man after they hit the wall.
No. A lot of women don’t want a good man they just want a man to finance their lifestyle so that they can sit at home and be stay-at-home mothers. That’s all. That’s 85-90% of women. Majority of women don’t wanna work.
As the great Patrice o neal said a lot of women self sabotage when it comes to the elevating. Be ready to move on at any giving moment with or with out them.
john good that’s what you’re supposed to be doing anyway lol
Summary: take your Ls, make lemonade and chill. Stop simping
... Indeed ! ...
Lol
I like this 😂
Keep pimpin
@@legitballin1986 says the guy that ain’t pimpin lmfao
I am so happy that so many men have woken up. The other day a friend of mine was complaining saying men have changed. That fellas don't care. She said initially when she rejects a guy, the guy would always come back. she says now, when she rejects a guy, he disappears for good.
✌🏿
srly why wouldn´t he? what does she think she is? a pizza and coffee breakfast? xD
This is good news. This begging is embarassing for girls too.
Well, she may be hitting that wall too and/or developing a body count. 20 year old virgin? I might beg her back - can't find those. 35 year indebted femi-nazi drowning in debt who has been ran through? Dime a dozen.
Caught on to the game and no longer interested in the time wasting nonsense 👍
Yes move on!!!
100% accurate! It literally took me years to understand you absolutely CAN'T "make" a woman want you. The sexiest woman is the one who sees your worth and thinks you're the man.
not true... You can with money.. I have made relationships work for awhile solely on the fact that i offered them a free place to stay. if I didn't the relationship would have went nowhere
@@michaelangst6078 *That is essentially prostitution.*
@@haza123b4 and?? It's better than being a sexually frustrated incel virgin making ignorant women hating comments on all videos like this everyday
@Jaylin Owens They were somewhat... All 3 of them have wanted to leave only because I wasn't comfortable with her bringing friends over/ me getting jealous of her cheating on me... if I would have been laid back, and accepted the chances of her fucking another man from time to time on the side..... I still would be fucking a woman I find quite attractive to this day just for providing her free rent.... If you throw out morals, you can live a happier live I am finding out...... I'm in that situation now....
@s 97 which it's fkn crazy when you think about it
I’m a woman and I have to applaud this video👏👏👏👏👏👏
Smart woman!!!!
👍
Yep that was me in teens and early 20s.. kept thinking about that 1 person.. for way too long.. then that one other person for way too long... wish I saw this at a younger age, so that I wouldn't have wasted so much time dreaming
I know my god if he was around when we were growing up 😍😍
A lot of people needed to hear this. Don’t chase after people who don’t want you. Think about all that you are missing out on with focusing on things that’s not pertaining to you or have your best interest at heart. We are here for a short time,don’t waste it on people who don’t value you.
Q Lock swear
Big facts
100%
“Here for a good time, not a long time”
Well said
When a woman desires you, you don't have to 'work hard' to get her or keep her.
Nothing you do will keep a woman who doesn't want you. You may do all the right things, but the point is, she doesn't want those right things to come from you!
Right on!
@@mr.e5791 The day these simps understand and practice what you've just said will be the day when they will start winning
@spyda E. You are right
You work hard for EVERYTHING you want.
@The monster under your bed You DAMN right because MOST of you men are unattractive to women. Now, your gender gets to see what it's like when you are held to the same superficial standards of beauty.
Guys: I'm almost 60 yo and married for 30 years and I can attest that what Hafiz said is spot on. I wish someone told me this stuff when I was 20. I had to figure it out on my own.
Copy that. Late 50s guy here. 30 years with the same woman. She, and I, can leave at will. 30 yrs later we are still together.
@@Ace.0.0.0. you not married?
@@ARTDEVGRU247 I am married, for 25 years, and counting. My point was that despite the ups and downs we've had, we still choose to stay together. I look to the future. And as long as my woman treats me right, most of the time, I will stay. I understand that people have bad days, and I am willing to cut her some slack. But I have made my boundaries very clear. Recently, she crossed the line, and I very openly searched the 'net for alternate accommodations. When she reluctantly asked what I was doing, I told her. I also told her I would stop looking if she gave me an honest apology, whereby she acknowledged her misstep, and then said she would not do it again. So far, she has not done it again. But if she tests me again, she knows I won't stay*. I told her less than a year ago, statistics say I have 20-25 years left, and with more yesterdays and fewer tomorrows, I have precious little patience left for being jerked around. Age gives freedom. The life I have given her has been, and continues to be, better than anything she could have had without me.
It has been said that a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything.
*Action speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. Actions take effort. Also actions, by definition, cannot be faked.
@@Ace.0.0.0. what line did she cross Ace?
When men start valuing themselves, women will follow suit.
^ this is a good one! :D
Big facts.
Never chase never date. Only fuck and go do not invest in things that will leave you because they are a losing bet
Facts! The best advice on here.
Facts. Too many beta simps out here nowadays
Although I didn't know how to articulate it back then, I married a woman at 22 primarily for one reason - that girl was on team ME.
27 years later, successful largely because of her support, and I could not be happier with how things turned out. So glad I didn't end up with one of those girls that wanted me to chase after her.
Right on and CONGRATULATIONS -- A marriage should be a Partnership because it take Teamwork to make the dream work.
A woman is supposed to be a 'helpmate' according to the Bible -- If she is not willing to help you, she will likely end up hurting you.
you are a smart man!! That's what retain love in a relationship: being on the same team!
Pimp mentality right there
c1981 simp
@Maip video says the one triggered about my comment lmao
You don't want to be a woman's free agency pick..that statement got to me
That some deep shit right there
Always be the 1st round pick boyz!
If men and women are getting the same advice; who is leading the courtship? Men lead period. Women dont chase. This is the natural order.
@@rodrigooyague8425 that shit made me die
Also subscribe to my UA-cam I'm on the grind
I don't care cause someone do desire me, just not her stay on your purpose and move towards your purpose MEN..
Focusing on your purpose is so key.
The numbers are in your favor men. There is always some woman who will desire you. Remember, most women want to be in relationships.
@@TheRoommatesPodcast Absolutely definitely cause it alleviates you from having to be needy by focusing on self improvement growth..
Facts
@@Chanel5-q5o Most women want the bag.
Don't chase her, initiate and wait for her to reciprocate. Women like men who take initiative, trust me if she likes you she will show it. There's a difference between pursuing and chasing. Chasing implies the object of the chase doesn't want to be caught lol, pursuing should be on both sides. You both pursue each other
As a woman I agree with this. I don't want to be bothered by someone I don't want.
Mutual pursuit is everything.
laja82 💯
laja82 don’t expect a guy you do want to put effort into you then because he doesn’t want you. So many women say my man doesn’t put in effort blah blah blah
@@chaseo4557 so my punishment for not entertaining a man I don't want is that a man I do want won't put in effort. Cool. Thanks for sharing.
“Once a woman turns against you, forget it. They can love you, then something turns in them. They can watch you dying in a gutter, run over by a car, and they'll spit on you.”
- Bukowski
Amen. Truth right there brother.
Because they think with emotion, not with logic.
@@CosminPerisan The problem is not that they think with emotions, it's that their emotions are all over the place.
@@independentthought3390 you are right, man, I was wrong on this one
a female in her true feminine energy would save your life! she would come after you and aid you in a hospital. stop with this misogany. it's bad. it's so bad. if a woman hates you she can control her emotions and turn back to loving you to save you. don't underestimate the power of a female's love and emotions.
forest gump is the darkest romantic movie ever, just think about it.
Thats sooo true
Forest Gump is a Red pill movie. Pay attention to what Jenny does to Forrest throughout the whole movie.
@southern king I'm not denying that and I agree. I'm just pointing out that it's a red pill movie and that it's relevant.
I never thought about it. Also, look at what Forrest does when Jenny leaves each time. He keeps going and does his thing.
@@frankiebursey7745 then the real question you want to ask is, is that his child?
Amen hafeez. Be with who wants you. Women need to take heed as well
I am happy so many people on both genders are concious of this or waking up. Gives me hope for the future
Facts
Please women check out salkis re channel
@Lions Hunt view a man as the prize? 🤔
@MeTHoD Yes, the first lesson is always: are you a mature and good enough person to be dating right now? Low self-esteem? Get it in check FIRST. If you are not good enough without an SO then you will not be good enough with an SO.
"Save the damsel from distress" mentality needs to stop guys.
100%
especially if you're the one distressing her 😂
@@hangukhiphop I had to unlearn & rewire my self this year. Alot of us guys think it's our job to safe her and we end up sacrificing ourselves in the process. If she need help she should seek therapy. Alot of women out there are aware of this masculine energy we bring in and they capitalise it once you're not useful they move on to a better partner leaving you instead of you to channel that energy into building yourself as a Man
Or the "winning the trophy" mentality, where she does absolutely nothing and you jump through hoops and compete with other guys to prove yourself to her.
@@hangukhiphop and here we see antoher comment making it about how women feel. idc how women feel. This is about men. Stop trying to co-opt mens issues. and also if an attractive man was doing it it probably wouldn't be very distressing. Also, women are distressed by lots of things. Its cause theyre neurotic have a lot of irrational fears. not something men can help.
Live in abundance gentlemen, have options and be on your grind. There are billions of women on this earth, do not concentrate and focus on that one woman who is not investing in you. Keep your heads up and stay strong my fellow men.
Thanks boss I’m in that situation now
Guys, its a last call from God, believe in Jesus and repent for your sins( change mind about sin),Jesus loves you and is going to give you peace and joy, hard times are coming to the Earth, you will remember my words, repent today and put your trust in Jesus, read the Bible to get to know him, tomorrow is not promised❤️
@BubonicTonic literally. lmao
@BubonicTonic 👏👏👏👏it's rare to hear this from a Man. Self reflection on point 👌
@BubonicTonic false most fat women especially bw want what they can't have and they will try to get with the best looking and most in shape guys, they don't go for the fat or balding guys unless they have no choice or are benefitting, most fat women can sleep with the attractive guy but he'll usually never be in a relationship with them
"Anime is a lie"
All my dreams... Shattered.. in to pieces
You should've worded it like "All my dreams... Shattered.. into One Piece"😹
@@lwazizozi5469 nice one
Into One Piece
We all want a konan or hinata but all we get is a delusional sakura 😔
Idk. Naruto was on point.
If a girl likes you, you will know. There won't be any confusion
Nah alot of people can be oblivious or the woman doesn't want the man to know because she's shy. I've definitely seen these cases.
@@blackkyurem720 well, tbf, a lot of these stories that I’ve heard are from guys who don’t want to ruin a friendship, or they can’t tell if a girl is flirting or just being really friendly (naturally more extroverted).
Facts
Always keep a pair on the spare...Don't ever let a woman own or control over your sexuality plus women are at their best when they compete
I understand that but I gotta say I'm pretty oblivious when it comes to it.
She doesn't want you, she wants what you can do for her
And it's time for all men to move on...
How much for 2 hours a week chick?
The same can be said for men.
KingJugganaut19
Really? So you are willing to date any woman? It doesn’t matter her size, how she looks or her personality????
Bro, the only difference is the type of “what you can do”
For some people (men and women) it’s looks, for others it’s money, e.t.c
@@brandyandcream2 looks aimt what we mean by bringing to the table. This is 21 st century. We look for more in women. Every time I ask what women bring to the table ,all they say is sex and looks. We men have moved on from such things and are looking for more then that.
Why pay and jump through hoops for what someone else got for free?
Agreed.
Virgin women can demand a man wait.
Non virgins cannot. Period.
Would they make their celebrity crush wait? Ask yourself that when dealing with a female
Bro stfu 😂 ouch!!!! I’m shook
IvanXredpill women know who they’ll give it to on sight or during a first link up. If you out here wining and dining multiple times then you’re not Chad,Tyrone
@@breakingthemasks ... Word ... This is the only exception !!! ...
My homie always says, "If I was Chris Brown, you would return my call immediately." That is the standard to live by; she needs to act urgently towards me or I'm out!
Yeah cause he would whoop her ass if she didn't
@@michawkwalter4205 you a fool😂
@@michawkwalter4205 that's hilarious
@Armine Bagdasaryan i see you plan on taking the wall on at full speed, best of luck
@@michawkwalter4205 that's fucked up. lol
In my last relationship, I started to have feelings for my friend, I told her I liked her and I wanted her as my girlfriend, but she rejected me at the beginning. Then I kept seeing her and hanging out with her, and of course she liked my attention and my begging. She continued rejecting me for a while and I continued insisting. At the end she accepted to be my girlfriend and we dated for around 7 months... but guess what?... all that rejection from her and all that begging from me before, created resentful feelings towards her and that didn't help in the relationship once we were couple. Lesson learned! NEVER insist a woman to be your girlfriend, you ask her just once, if she says no, NEVER ask her again and move on!
I had a similar thing happen. I liked my brother's friend and would text him sometimes and he didn't really seem interested and wouldn't text back as much but we started dating a year later and the resentment got the best of me as well so I had to end things.
You SMASHED TAKE THE GIFT N MOVE ON LOLOL
@@Greenrivers14 Yes, why would we want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with us? Now I see it, but it takes a while to sink in our mind
@@paulkofa3238 Lol
This is REAL talk!
Needed this reality check!! I’ve been the guy who did all type of stuff to get a girl to like me, want me, and thought if I just kept trying it’ll workout. But like you said, we not doing that anymore!
I am glad you're getting better Derrius. We all need it.
The more confidence you have to walk away, the more they will flock to you. Show her you’re interested, but leave it there.
Doing nice things for women (and others) is great! Just make sure you are doing it out of a selfless pure space instead of hoping to receive something in return. If you do nice things to try and win someone over, that's a form of manipulation that isn't so subtle.
AJ L
it’s also manipulative for a woman to take things from a guy who she knows is into her but she’s not into him. Woman keep these men around for validation and non sexual attention all the time.
@@D878D5g7 How is receiving a gift manipulative? Non-sexual attention? You mean FRIENDSHIP?
Never become an option. The second you realize that you are her option and not first choice... MOVE ON and don't look back.
I have this happen and the girl messaged me a few months later and said she wanted to go out but was shocked when I passed. When she asked why, I told her it was because I was just an option to her and not a primary first choice.
whoa man. You're the king
All hail to the king 👑
Same thing happened with me, she likes to monkey branch. I hate monkeys 😂
What did she say in return?
What did she answer?
Don’t bother a woman who doesn’t want to be bothered with you🧐
I have also been That Guy who was up late crying because my “friend” who I loved so married another man. My moment of clarity was figuring out “while I’m lying here crying, she’s laid up under her husband not giving me a second thought...” So I decided right then to not let people stay on my mind whom I know don’t have me on theirs.
Your last thought has also been mine for the last 20 yrs. I would sometimes stop communicating with people just to see if they'd ever try to initiate contact. Let's just say, I have lost several 'friends' cause they never really were.
@@migueljonz3901 yeah also family members can't seem to pick up the phone either.
He said “I’m proud of you guys” I felt that Big Bruh. We appreciate you!
If a woman does not want you, move on, and move on quickly! In my opinion, his analogy of a job interview is right on point. If you were an employer, it would be highly foolish to hire or to even keep an employee who does not want to be there. Having such an employee would simply just bring more problems. So having a woman who does not really want to be a part of your life will bring you a great deal of drama, chaos, and disappointment. Staying away from such a woman is akin to dodging a bullet, so moving forward is a tremendous blessing. Better to find out now than later. 👍🏋😊
I’m an older man and I hope the young men listen to this message. It is 100% accurate. Unfortunately “most” young men don’t follow the instruction of their seniors...it will be to their detriment.
I'm listening! I'm trying to apply this! Don't stop trying to teach, for there are those of us who hear!
I’m not rebellious and I really appreciate posts like these
I've been stuck on a girl I work with for a year now. Falling in love really, been on dates and chased her the whole time. She cancelled on me on the day many times, slow replies always, of little interest but would never admit to me she wasn't interested, she told me she liked me but her actions said otherwise. Thanks for this video, I needed to watch something like this. It's time to move on, I deserve better!
I hope you did. Love attachment is powerful. Give it to someone who is deserving.
Keep it up men. You need to be first round draft pick
You are in the friend zone.
Smart choice to move on
Update?
she's playing you my dude. Move on.
I am forty-eight years old, and here is what I have learned: There is a small minority of women that I didn't get with because they didn't want me, like Hafeez says, or I had no game. But for the vast majority of women who didn't get with me, it was a huge blessing. I look at these women now, and I am like, "And to think that I could have ended up with her! Thank God she turned me down!"
I want to clarify my statement because I can now see the ambiguity in what I said, based on some of the comments that have been made. First, I want to apologize if my use of “God” offended anyone. I am sorry.
Staying in the context of the video, I am saying that men need not wallow in self pity for not being wanted by a woman. Rejection can lead you to a better place. I am not referring to misfortunes that have befallen anyone. It rains on all of us. Let’s just say that I am happy with my journey, thus far, and I doubt it would have been possible with these women.
@Rasul Daniels Absolutely!
I'm 26 and I feel like even sooner than your age I will feel that way about my ex. We are the same age, were together 8 years and have a child together. Shes definitely starting to go downhill....😂
@Rasul Daniels lol, good one.
@Rasul Daniels no is not, it is dumb luck, she had another sucker with better prespectives lined up, do not use God name in a situation like this, when you feel God protection you dont need years down the road and the misfortune of others to feel blessed, can you understand?
@Rasul Daniels obvious you do not, you are a modern person, the type that dosent respect the life experience of their ancestors and even worse dosent respect others beliefs.
Also, if you're pinning after IG models, all of this is your fault
He’s lusting after woman that are out of his league and complaining about getting hurt 🤦🏾♀️
Sarah exactly... I don't feel sorry for Men like this. They act like victims because they simp after "IG Models" and get denied.
And the same for women lusting after thugs and playboys
I truly don't understand this theory of human beings being out of another human beings league. Y'all funny as hell. If u want to say that type of women isn't for everyone say that. Insta picture takers have plenty to bring up in terms of negative attributes but to say somehow there above someone else is ridiculous.
@@spazz-ok9nr Good point!
He’s right fellas. I ended up in a 2 1/2 year relationship (got engaged too) when something awakened in me that the relationship was never set on a strong foundation to begin with. It was my lust that allowed me to “pursue” her then it wasn’t till we were separated (she lives in Germany and I live here in the states) for a year AND during this COVID mess that forced me to sit down and ask myself, “Does this relationship actually make sense?” From there, I became enlightened on everything and realized I not only had a lot of personal issues to work through but I needed to end the relationship altogether before it would go too far (marriage).
I wasted so much time but I'm glad I learned the hard lessons.
Amen 🙏
You sound like me but yeah 9 years is too much of my teen years
We all learn brutha...trust...no man is immune to the bull $hit.
I am there with you, lad.
When I was 21 I think...I wasted 2 years of my life chasing this girl. I mean from treating her to bowling and dinner, to hanging out with her. Trying my best to get her to change her mind..even after she friend zoned me. Years later..I was buying my current gf a gift from a store, and there she was. I just looked at her and laughed so hard 🙉😁. The cashier wanted to know what was so funny. I told him life lol👌🏾🙏🏾
Spot on, and this goes for ladies too. If a man wants you, you will know, if he doesn't want you, you will be confused....keep it pushing.
Yep. Never let someone make you crazy.
Haha guys remember that women has an expiration, when they age 30+, they are now consider left over, you can see first with looks, flabby arms, wrinkles, bloated abdomen, and like a drum body. You guys cn lways get 20+yrs old, just improve yourself confidence. Those 30+, women only want your resources. Dont marry, because the court is always on their side. Dont give them chance to bite you. Just pump and dump hahaha
@@rey-nf3nh
I'm a man i hate feminists ideology but No i dont agree with you there are 20+ woman who will make your life hell in the west so no
Rey has already been rejected and expired hahahahaha
Bro is straight up talking to me
anime is a lie?! are you telling me i will never achieve Super Saiyan?! Blasphemy!!
Noo!!!!! That is the one thing that is true. The only lie is that you need to regrow your tail to reach SS4. I've done it without...
I’m pretty sure a lot of anime still tells it like it is, it is one of those mediums that is not completely yet polluted by any type of extreme feminist agenda or “bluepilled” (if you believe in the pills bs) so I’m pretty sure it wasn’t a good example. Not to mention most good anime does not focus on romantic relationships.
@@samuelvelazquez8834 Shalom Greetings I don't think I paid attention to the romantic relations in my favorite anime unless I had a crush- I couldn't watch it as much either so I didn't pay attention because I had to go to no fun school. Thank you for your perspective.
I AM, PUHH-ZZLED 😲, LOST MAN LOST MAN YEA THAT’S ME
@@TheRoommatesPodcast right on !!
“My mom told me I need to stop screaming on my channel” 🤣 HAHAHA
Lol that was jokes
She did lol
@@TheRoommatesPodcast grandma said you need stop all that noise cause you running up her phone bill
Oh Canada peak Inceldom lol. People can watch whatever the fuck they want brah.
Oh Canada Lol no
"ANIME IS A LIE!"
I laughed waay too hard when he said that🤣
Absolutely agree! I had a guy walk away from me just to see him chase after a woman who didn’t want him and seemed to be very toxic. Even had a baby on him with her ex. When you see your interest chase after people like that, it’s not you. They are trying to fill a void they haven’t healed from yet. Everyone deserves to be desired in their relationship. Know your worth Kings and Queens!
Yes happened to me as well. Reminded me of women that come from abusive relationship and jumps right back into another abusive relationship. No time in between to reflect or heal. Unfortunately they generally are late to the game and continue this pattern thru out their life.
Steph: You probably put him in the friend zone. Tell the whole story lol
Karen Aguilar: Because women don’t know how to take responsibilities. He moved on for a reason. I’d like to hear his side.
@MeTHoD Dysfunction. These types of folks and relationships are out there.
@@cashflowhustles thats true but i guess this guy is another all women are the same so he thinks is her fault. Same shit that girls do when they say that all men are bad
I heard this in the radio yesterday and I think it applies here. love is like a fart,
If you have to force it, its probably sh**
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Lmao 🤣
You ain't never lied lmaoooo
The really attractive ones are looking for a man that doesn’t exist 😂
Facts. Even ones who are moderately attractive
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I'm extremely attractive n even I'm not good enough its usually ooohh ur a fuckboy or he's too pretty i rather go for a guy thats lesser than me so I can get validation from him while ironically I'd be the better match for her n can please her more than that simpleton ever could.
@@ESFDragxnFistEntertainment damn bro you too?
Facts
Deep down you know straight away when a woman really likes you.. But when you’re younger you think you can run these tricks and games to create genuine interest.. We’ve all had the feeling of pulling teeth and getting know where, and yet other times women have made it really easy.. That’s the difference between genuine interest and not.
Couldn't agree more. Chasing is tiring when the energy is not reciprocated. And having the right mindset will lead you both to pursuit each other. I know this sounds cliche but always choose YOU first and put yourself first. Once you establish you, trust the process. Someone amazing will come along and sweep you off unexpectedly. It did for me. Thanks Hafeez for another good video!
There is a difference between "chasing a girl" and "a girl who wants a little chase". The first is *your* decision and you look immature and desperate. The second is her decision and is only one among many hints she has made obvious that she is into you.
Sometimes you can't always have what you want in life and its okay, you're still alive, just take a breather and you'll come to understand you can live without it.
Yo, I'm a woman watching this, THIS MAN IS PREACHING. There have been guys I didn't want and then I hated them MORE because of them trying too hard, it was suffocating.
"If at first you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again" That song just encouraged stalkers.
Try Again by Aaliyah? No, I viewed it as: know your worth, dust it off and try dating again by seeing other people.
@@lizethcalvario9038
"See you don't wanna throw it all away.
I might be shy on the first day,
But what about the next day?"
with a different girl
I tried this very often, when I was trying. I was told there is someone for everyone; and everyone has a soulmate. These are all lies. I dont believe any of this crap, not after 30+ years of trying. Only to get the old "can we just be friends." 7 years ago I came to the conclusion that I am going to die alone, not have a family. Now the end result of trying for so long 9and other reasons) I'm clinically depressed.
@@angelphoenix7784 Sorry to hear this man. I can relate. You need to find a purpose outside of marriage and a girlfriend. Self improvement, gym, make new friends, look for a new job. That's what I did. Still single, but I recently got a new job with one of the biggest tech companies on the planet. Working out, changing my diet. Honestly haven't been this happy in years despite being single.
I recently started practicing this.
I invited a girl over about 2 months ago and she didn't show up. She texted me 4 days ago, i dont plan on replying
The funny thing is, many girls will try to get into contact some time after they flaked or ghosted. Sometimes, you can get some action out of it, but I can guarantee you that sooner or later, they will flake or ghost again. Once a girl flakes or ghosts, never plan anything long term with her.
What happend man?
I would take a girl out im my car which okay but not really expensive. Then on the second date I would drive my dad's work truck and give no explanation as to why. If they avoided me after that then I knew what they were about. My wife rode with me no matter what I drove and we have been together for 32 years. We built together and she has my back.
Get you some and move on. She doesn't actually want you, she's playing you. Make it difficult for her and act aloof. Be distant, distracted and unfazed by her effort.
May be she was in jail 🤣
Absolutely! TV and movies got us guys all messed up in the head. Begging like Steve Urkel is not reality. Brothers DO NOT SETTLE. DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE MARGINALIZED.
TV has messed up us women, too.
I learned this years ago. TV screws up real life relationships with Hollywood script written fantasies. I swallowed their tripe myself until I hit my 30s. This information has been around for centuries just not shared or known to everyone especially men or your AVERAGE man. There were dudes in high school who knew about this but I was clueless back then.
Girls don't want Steve Urkel but they get sopping wet over his alter ego Stephon. TV also taught us that. When you have confidence, be about your goals, be the smooth alpha and women fall over themselves to get to you. Trust.
@@EzeICE they crazy thing about Steve Urkel. He wanted Laura so bad. She did not really give him the time of day unless he was more like his Alter ego Stephan. He literally had to change who he was for her to give him a chance. Whole time his equal Myra was in love with him. She was smart and beautiful. They had more in common but he could not see that. I think she mirrored who he was and Laura mirrored who he wanted to be when it comes to social status. He could not see what he had in front of him.
Word. Very few TV shows get it right in that regard.
My man, Hafeez, is exactly on point. I'm 59 and have chased too many women top many times and the urge to chase still remains. We must always remember that if we as men are constantly chasing it simply means that the woman doesn't want to be caught. Pursue? Absolutely. Chase? NEVER!!!
Focus on your career, keep hustling and build self-esteem. Always have low expectations in relationships and marriage or else it will destroy you.
P O R S C H E
Can’t be disappointed when your expectations are already low to begin with 💯
True
@@nizzyneyrogers1181 exactly
I beg to differ. Have high (but realistic) expectations and find a woman with integrity and class. Don't settle for defeat.
Love this video! As I woman I think this is spot on! Even when she says she wants you but her actions say something else, MOVE ON!
This is not even for you
@@davon_DaGod what's your point! I am a young woman showing support to a young man you should be proud! Smh
@Oh Canada y'all men should be happy a woman is agreeing! Smh small minda
@Scooby Doo lol. ure rudeness is for what reason? stay in your own lane...
@@davon_DaGod so?
I was in this situation in my early 20s and it was really painful to the extent that i started doubting myself.It can destroy a young mans confidence as he grows up to become a better man.
I did stop chasing women for two years ago, haven't dated a girl since 😂😂
Been 4 years for me
I stopped chasing women in 2005. I only have access to one stand nights. I am well positioned and I saved lots of money so people are a bit jealous of my lifestyle. With covid everything is different, I can't do that much but I keep studying and I work twice so: more money.
Almost 4 years here 😎
I think we respect time. There is nothing important than time in this world. Time flows like water, once it gone, it gone forever.
3 years in my college days I liked a girl, went college jst so I could see her , been 2 years since I completed my college
N guess what I'm happily single
Learned it the hard way but I guess we all learn.
I'm dealing with the same thing but he is a man and I'm a woman...Oh well, time to keep it moving.
Redrose Rose 😂😂😂😂 facts 💯💯
Guys, its a last call from God, believe in Jesus and repent for your sins( change mind about sin),Jesus loves you and is going to give you peace and joy, hard times are coming to the Earth, you will remember my words, repent today and put your trust in Jesus, read the Bible to get to know him, tomorrow is not promised❤️
Robert G you do know this is a Christian based channel right? Like he talks about God and praying and faith all the time... just saying.... i feel like your just coming at dude just to have something to be combative over. Thats not how a man acts bubba....
El Luech smart people don’t have to call themselves smart and announce it to everyone using it as an excuse to chastise someone else for their beliefs. For the record, I don’t subscribe to religion, as I believe anything based in dogma and ideology is not only nonsense but dangerous. You don’t have to be a dick though. Y’all look just as fanatical as he does at this point....
Look up Serapis Christos to find where Jesus Christ originated. Also Reincarnation was removed from the Bible in the 1500's by Justinian's wife as well as the book of Enoch, & more
Don't believe those Disney movies. Its not "happily married after"
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True!
It's work
right. people need to realize that as time goes by there will be flaws and down times. if you and your partner are able to persevere through those tough times then that’s how you know your relationship is worth it and meant to be.
Media been manipulative in allowing us to think as if its sunshines and peaches when we get the girl but it aint
Whoever is reading this, you deserve someone who wants you just as much as you want them. YOU DESERVE BETTER!
"I don't want nobody that don't want me."
Learning abundance really helps with this sort of thing. Girls want 'confidence' and an abundant personality is what I think that looks like.
this fella spittin fax all over the shop. youll be like him. sooner or later.
Father Gascoigne was a real OG and we didn’t even know
All facts. I learned this at 20 years old. The "average Andy" part had me laughing. Great video.
I'm a girl and don't know why this was recommended to me but I'll like the video to support this creator!
It can apply to females too. It’s the same concept.
You’re literally the big brother I never had but needed
Lol
Yeah it’s true. The exact thing happen to me in my early 20’s with I a girl I was working with in Walmart. Spent 2 years pursing her all while telling myself “just be myself, prove my worth and putting in the effort and time.” Did everything she said she wanted from a man. Guess what I was putting in all the hard work and effort for other man that weren’t even doing half the things I was doing for her. It was a wasted 2 years but a valuable lesson. Know when to walk away from a women.
Yeah dude but the anger of being lied to about women and the time wasted creeps up on me from time to time.
I always tell my guy friends, look you know that most of these ladies dah keep high standards, you know there are one or two guys, that easily mess around with her and you could even be better looking. So why waste your time investing.
The greatest problem in the world is distribution. There are millions of young boys and men in early 20s who need this video so bad but they will never watch this cos they don't know this exists and sadly most of them learn after going through a very demoralizing experience lol
it'll be okay - you ever notice how there's a hundred different versions of the "Hang in there" motivational poster? same concept here. there's a book that became popular a few years ago (cant remembers its name atm) but it had the same message in one chapter, "Don't be with someone who isn't excited to be with you"
the message is getting out there, even if they don't see this video, i have faith they'll see a version of it and take action
Keep preaching the truth. More people need to hear it.
Female prospective:
I can recall two separate instances when I politely rejected a man, not because of any fault of his or appearance reasons...I was just genuinely not interested. I politely rejected them & they both took it in stride. They didn’t try to convince me, question me, or suddenly become outraged like many have in the past. They pretty much just smiled, said they enjoyed hanging out with me, and said their goodbyes. I can honestly tell you I felt a tremendous amount of respect for them as people & how they conducted themselves. I actually thanked both of them for being really cool about it and told them I really appreciated it.
Female 'perspective'.
this man has spoken the most truth in any dating video ive ever watched
I just found this channel, and already feel SO much better about myself. We're all kings on this channel
Reciprocity is key.
Be the 1st choice, not the alternate riding on the bench.
@Oh Canada as a Health Care Practitioner I am only speaking to men who need to know all Black Women are not against them. Be blesed young man.
I don’t care what place i am, if I’m smashing then it’s all good, I just won’t get attached.
Just wanna say I’m proud of you guys keep pushing ✊🏾💯
Just found this channel and I'm thoroughly Impressed. I'm 36 and have been thinking like this for years so it gives me hope for the future. Good job fellas, great content 👍😎
I did the same thing I tried that giving her “distance “ thing and we haven’t talked since .
That SKANK
Did yourself a favor
You are such an amazing, godly, handsome man!!! The loss was hers. She really did not see your value. She definitely was broken. Thank you for all you do in these podcasts. Love listening to your advice. Wish I had this information along time ago.❤️🙏
Hafeez...I truly think there needs to be a topic on ARTICULATION. Some men truly dont know how to articulate what they want specifically. And then they wander why they have the outcomes they do....”Say what you mean and mean what you say...”
I think that takes time to learn. Its exceedingly difficult when we are young and giddy and full of romantic lies about girls.
Good point
They say what they want; we as women just don't listen.
Wow this is great! Even hearing this as a woman. It can relate both ways.
Can easily be applied both ways. Thank you Tia.
Agreed!
LOL, it does not go both ways. The idea maybe, not the reality. But it is not the same, don't be that ignorant.
@@jtorres5381 facts
Juan Torres what’s ignorant about it? I don’t think a woman should be chasing and trying to get a man to like her either when he doesn’t
"ANIME IS A LIE"
Whoa man. I was with you until you said that. My childhood friend who beat me up when we were kids will definitely fall in love with me by next year.
I agree with some of the points, however I’m glad there’s a big brother out there for men to look up to and learn how to be high quality! Definitely going to do a reaction and talk on your video on my UA-cam. As I teach ladies how to be a high quality lady.
I think most men know this intuitively and logically. However, one-itis is strong and oftentimes overwhelms our rational inclinations. I experienced this once in my late 20's. In my case, due to a combitination of outside factors, her and I were briefly involved. Up to that point in my life I'd never been treated as the guy that a woman would "settle" for. One of the worst romantic experiences I've had. In hindsight, I'm grateful for it. Great video bruh. Keep dropping 🔥🔥🔥
Indeed. While I agree with Hafeez (hope I'm spelling his name correctly) for the most part, I deviate in the sense that I think most men would benefit from an experience where he is viewed, treated, and disposed of as "the place holder." Better to learn this early and have that experience deposited into your behavioral memory for future use than to realize this after marriage and a few kids. Bad experiences are good for us. We need them.
@JBcoolbreez it is humbling. But humbling experiences trigger introspection. It sucked at the time, but I'm thankful I had that experience. And I have no ill-will towards her. Experience is a brutal teacher but we rarely forget its lessons.
I'm glad to see men learning like this. Women seem incapable of self-refllection. They keep making the same mistakes until its too late for them and then have the audacity to blame men.
@@rokko_fable Women do learn dear, you just haven't met the ones that do..
@@itsmztee Men never meet the "ones". At some point men just don't even want to meet them anymore because it's too late:
Making mistakes is super important thou. It's also important to have someone to teach you about those mistakes..
Made a shitload of mistakes still do and no one there to teach me what I'm doing wrong or have to do right.
Thou...The roommates is changing that! Awesome stuff!
You are like a cleaner version of AMS. More people need to know and learn this. We need strong men back in this feminine society
I've had this happen to me from guys who like to play games and don't see the value in me, when this happens, be very quick to move on guys and girls! They're not worthy of you! God will only send you someone who sees your value! 🙏
That right there will only happen when you put in the work and LEARN how to cultivate your true value!
Fax my guy, keep up the good content 💪🏾
Thanks so much brother.