8 RULES TO FOLLOW THAT PROTECT YOU! How to improve your self esteem.

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    8 rules to protect your peace and increase your self esteem. Self love, self care, and self esteem.
    If you want better self esteem you need to follow these rules to get there. How to get better self esteem is a question I get all the time. In this video I go into detail about how that may be done.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 243

  • @KinkyCurlyVicki
    @KinkyCurlyVicki 2 роки тому +146

    "Putting someone down is often a symptom of being down."
    It's so true! You don't need to put anyone down to try to make yourself feel better when you are truly content.

  • @ruthyrosa3588
    @ruthyrosa3588 2 роки тому +261

    Don’t know if you even realize how God is using you to breakthrough the often destructive barrier of low self worth in many women and men . You are walking in alignment with Gods purpose for your life ! Many people wonder what is purpose ? It’s utilizing a God given talent to help solve a problem that only you can do in a unique way that God has designed. Keep posting these amazing videos with your unique insight! Keep Blocking the haters !

    • @The1youlove2hate28
      @The1youlove2hate28 2 роки тому +2

      💖✨💕🕊✔💕✨💖

    • @nmdetroit
      @nmdetroit 2 роки тому +2

      Truly Arch Angel Michael

    • @Iamcherese
      @Iamcherese 2 роки тому +2

      🔥💯

    • @jerrseyy1088
      @jerrseyy1088 2 роки тому +6

      Couldn’t of said it better myself. Thank you Mr Hicks

    • @demesmith8741
      @demesmith8741 2 роки тому +2

      Come on thru Ruth.!.👑💃💞 Give our bro th@ Encouraging Word💝 from 💖THE LORD. & Please Continue2 let 💖GOD💖 Use💌 u 2 sis.💋

  • @martavaldesenriquez3756
    @martavaldesenriquez3756 Рік тому +27

    Worth watching! Thanks Kev.
    1. Give no one the authority to invalidate you.
    2. Forget everything "They" say about you. Be unbreakable.
    3. Consider human nature.
    4. You are the master of you.
    5. Get your emotional self in order.
    6. Stand up for yourself.
    7. Always be growing.
    8. Love yourself because nobody can do it for you.
    Watch till the end. Thanks!

  • @gracelewis6071
    @gracelewis6071 Рік тому +12

    4:42 "No one else even has enough information to challenge your self concept."
    Woah... I never thought about it that way before. That's life changing.

  • @lucemluna8850
    @lucemluna8850 Рік тому +6

    “Learn the value of distance and silence.”

  • @isabellev.7227
    @isabellev.7227 2 роки тому +61

    Hey Kevin, I am happy today: I ticked all 8 boxes, finally had the courage yesterday to film myself and create my own UA-cam channel (cake recipes/life observations in both English and French, am bilingual). Also, I am a poetry writer and have started on a novel. I am a photographer, and I draw to illustrate my books. All of that in the space of 4 months. I have been the victim of narcissist abuse all my life, and being diagnosed as autistic in August prompted me to get the help I needed and reinvent myself. I concur with what you say, and wish you the very best. You rock!

    • @SonjaElizabethTeal
      @SonjaElizabethTeal 2 роки тому +2

      GOOD FOR YOU!!! Give yourself a huge hug!!!🥂❣🥂❣🥂👍🏾👍🏾

    • @gracelewis6071
      @gracelewis6071 Рік тому

      Cheering you on! Yay!

  • @latonyagather546
    @latonyagather546 2 роки тому +13

    Perfect example of misery loves company..protecting your peace is very important

  • @sovereign.spirit
    @sovereign.spirit 2 роки тому +14

    "they may not like it. But they're toxic. So f 'em." 🎯 On point per usual~

  • @MrsArwena
    @MrsArwena 2 роки тому +27

    Damn I wouldn't wanna be the one blocked by Kev. What a great guy he is. 🙋‍♀️🧚‍♀️

  • @r.h.6403
    @r.h.6403 2 роки тому +12

    Gosh I am tears right now..I gave birth to my son earlier this year, New mum, New challenges...gained weight and all the insults started..I intensely felt this video 🧡💛❤❤

  • @ShareseVHatch
    @ShareseVHatch 2 роки тому +30

    I wish I could "like" this video more than once!!

  • @sally8708
    @sally8708 2 роки тому +21

    I cried my way through this video, but they’re all things I needed to hear.
    They’re things I’ve heard before, things I know to be true. But even still, they are things I can never hear enough. Truly, thank you 🙏💜

    • @SonjaElizabethTeal
      @SonjaElizabethTeal 2 роки тому +2

      You Got This, Beautiful!! I'm ROOTING 4 U!!👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

  • @mrsbutterflyrainbows5900
    @mrsbutterflyrainbows5900 2 роки тому +47

    This was profound message. It is very true that there are many people unfit and unskilled to be parents and they create huge damage to the lives of their children. Sadly it often is a lifelong process to undo their destruction and unlearn the subconscious beliefs installed by abusive parents. Thank you for addressing this ❤
    P.s. You are a genius. I hope your channel will go viral in the near future.

    • @traceylennon1204
      @traceylennon1204 2 роки тому +1

      @mrs butterfly rainbows Your comment is very well said,I can't even begin to tell you the magnitude of how true your statement is!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯💯

  • @diananop6849
    @diananop6849 2 роки тому +21

    Omg thank you for this. I really needed to hear it because I have been struggling with this my whole life, and am currently addressing the issue and trying to overcome this obstacle. I am going to save this post and hopefully I will be able to reflect back on this video and my comment to remember where each part is at. I appreciate you and your truth, it has helped me a lot so far in changing my ways and being able to learn and grow. Thank you!`🥰😍
    0:46 1) Give no one the authority to invalidate you.
    2:18 2) Forget everything "They" said about you.
    3:54 3) Consider human nature.
    4:40 4) Understand you have dominion over you.
    5:40 5) Get your emotional health in order.
    6:36 6) Stand up for yourself.
    7:32 7) Always be growing.
    8:30 8) Love yourself, because nobody can do it for you.
    9:38 "In case no one has told you lately: You are good enough. You are worth the wait. You are smart enough. You are capable enough. You are beautiful. Someone will want you. You can find someone better. You are as great as you set out to be, and everyday you have a choice, so choose to believe in yourself." Needed this, thank you!`🥲☺

  • @74prettygirlrock
    @74prettygirlrock 2 роки тому +56

    Your Smile is Beautiful! Forget the haters! Blocking can be good for the soul! Thank you for your videos and keep the realness coming! It's truly appreciated 😌

  • @Mr247star
    @Mr247star 2 роки тому +60

    My father ruined me and my mother enabled it......now I gotta reprogram for the rest of my life. This is a good video but it's definite hard when you are taught self hate from your household at birth....but self love it possible...just hard in cases like mine.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  2 роки тому +21

      You don’t need easy. You just need possible. Focus on how you can over why you can’t. Build a plan and attack.

    • @Mr247star
      @Mr247star 2 роки тому +7

      @@KevHick u do not understand.... childhood trauma. This is more than just a mental battle.... it's attached to mental health. The attack is to identity "it" exist and the toxic it creates in the soul so u do not mimic the same habits. But, the destruction upon me has already been done...this will be a fight for the rest of my life....and the partner I choose will have to know in understanding the continuous love I will need that I never had.

    • @carlisamitchell6745
      @carlisamitchell6745 2 роки тому +10

      @@Mr247star Give yourself credit for admitting it and recognizing it that's hard for a lot of people to even do. In the black community many of us are taught to not even talk about it. I'm also add you got love yourself first.

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 2 роки тому +10

      And I understand childhood trauma very well as I lived it. And I still live with those monsters. Healing may take years. My case is so unusual that all of my siblings are narcissistic as well and hurt me as well. If I healed you can heal also☺️

    • @Mr247star
      @Mr247star 2 роки тому +2

      @@carlisamitchell6745 I didn't ask u!...I Have love for myself it still will not remove trauma....my level of abuse it mental, physical, and verbal. Also it ties into my livelyhood of the damage with not just the black community..the LGBT community. None of y'all are professional enough to understand. Digress...my comment is to support the post owner....not side line bitches who haven't mastered being women!

  • @user-cm1cb3yr1t
    @user-cm1cb3yr1t 2 роки тому +8

    My sister sent me this .. this was amazing .. we are all collectively changing evolving and growing.. it is beautiful and terrible at the same time.. but I wish you all patience peace and love ❤️❤️❤️

  • @eunoia991
    @eunoia991 2 роки тому +2

    - 05:09 “We are the ambition of our spirits. You are already the person that you wish you were. That's why you feel disconnected from your vision of you.”

    • @eunoia991
      @eunoia991 2 роки тому +1

      - 07:44 “Seek wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Try to focus less on what’s been done to you and more on what you can do to mold your future.”

  • @flatandsplat
    @flatandsplat 2 роки тому +20

    Omg! You had me crying on the train to work. Thank you! Your channel is so great and making a huge difference in my life!

  • @genesisordonez7938
    @genesisordonez7938 2 роки тому +15

    I'm so glad and blessed that you jave not stopped your advice videos over haters. I'm so glad you didnt listen to them. Thank you for your time and dedication that you put in to give women advice they need to hear.

  • @onyinyesspace9085
    @onyinyesspace9085 2 роки тому +11

    As soon as I was able to start my self confidence journey, I started my UA-cam channel. It's been a lot putting myself out there but I love how it's helping me become better. Your videos are therapeutic. Thank you.

  • @ramonaphillipsteach3284
    @ramonaphillipsteach3284 2 роки тому +6

    I pray daily for more wisdom, knowledge and understanding. I have changed, I am still changing.🙏🏽

  • @galinaioffe2250
    @galinaioffe2250 2 роки тому +4

    you cant control way people feel about you but you can control way you react to it. whether you agree with their opinion of you. whether you believe that they know you enough to even form that or any type of opinion of you in first place.

  • @KnightGeneral
    @KnightGeneral 2 роки тому +27

    Bro, you always drop these videos at the right time of my life. Thank you, Kev! God bless you

  • @realalldway-raw4996
    @realalldway-raw4996 2 роки тому +5

    Respect yourself and everyone else will.

    • @AmberSumerall
      @AmberSumerall 2 роки тому

      That’s the key and Self development!

  • @kyhawright978
    @kyhawright978 2 роки тому +3

    Omg! I am crying over here. I thank God so much for you. I just left a very abusive relationship. Where I lost everything. But my faith and self preservation has increased.

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 2 роки тому +23

    WOW!!! These seem like some great tips for ppl with self esteem issues. I don't have any self esteem issues like that...but these tips do seem great. I hope it helps the ones that it do apply for.

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 2 роки тому +1

      🤔I'm wondering if this is the video to my question 😄...Did you tell him?🙂

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому +1

      @@chelsieromero4874 Damn! I didn't even tell him yet. Sorry. I will get on it

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому +1

      @@chelsieromero4874 I just told him though

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 2 роки тому

      @@jayc5756 😂🤣No worries! I believe the third to last video Kevin did was the video that I wanted him to do so no problem. I was just excited🤣😆

    • @jayc5756
      @jayc5756 2 роки тому

      @@chelsieromero4874 OK 😎

  • @ozzyoz5210
    @ozzyoz5210 2 роки тому

    I don't think I've heard anyone say what you say! Thanks! I kept seeing the number 111. I woke up one morning and The words Now Faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen came out of my mouth! When I looked up the verse in the Bible, it was Hebrews 11:1! God is in control!

  • @blessedfromtx.1910
    @blessedfromtx.1910 2 роки тому +1

    Right on time Kev! Thanks👍

  • @WholeGrownWoman
    @WholeGrownWoman 2 роки тому +4

    Old lady here...😉☺️....I'm 56, not in a relationship and not looking for one right now but I'm lovin' on my self and lovin' on your videos, Kev! Your words are powerful and an inspiration for all of us ladies. From the bottom...to the top of my heart, I thank you.☺️

  • @goddessteia6590
    @goddessteia6590 2 роки тому +3

    Well said and greatly needed! Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @Amaryllis-4U
    @Amaryllis-4U 10 місяців тому

    Please don’t let your detractors get to you. You are an important voice with a powerful message for many who really need to hear it. ❤

  • @sofi1672
    @sofi1672 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Kev, this video was needed. 🙏🏾

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet 2 роки тому +6

    This is fantastic, Kev. Great life coaching 👍

  • @araceliscollazo5067
    @araceliscollazo5067 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for the encouragement Kev! May God bless you!

  • @ms.shenakawalters3977
    @ms.shenakawalters3977 2 роки тому +2

    This is so timely. I appreciate this. 🙌

  • @dani2cute4u
    @dani2cute4u 2 роки тому +3

    One of your best videos, Kev! Thank you for continuing to provide content that is tremendously uplifting and insightful.

  • @prettymetiff
    @prettymetiff 2 роки тому +2

    Bless your heart. Wonderful message. Alotta people need to understand this message.

  • @traceylennon1204
    @traceylennon1204 2 роки тому +1

    Kev..I've said this before..you can NEVER say enough!!! 🙌🏾❤💯

  • @shieldoffaith7099
    @shieldoffaith7099 2 роки тому +1

    Listening on a loop🥰

  • @jam1369
    @jam1369 2 роки тому

    Amen!!! This will set you free!

  • @sherlanapollonais8122
    @sherlanapollonais8122 2 роки тому

    Great message Kev thanks for sharing

  • @deetrahwilliams3253
    @deetrahwilliams3253 2 роки тому +2

    This was the best thing I heard all day 💯💯

  • @raziahzaman996
    @raziahzaman996 2 роки тому +1

    Hands down, one of the best videos you have ever made!

  • @ajourneyofthesoul8825
    @ajourneyofthesoul8825 2 роки тому +5

    🤣the last unbothered view on the video as you say... "get wit yal later" your facial expressions are priceless! Thank you for the re upload and humor.I save this vid as a reminder these were all facts 😊 Self esteem is everything !

  • @charlenepym5250
    @charlenepym5250 2 роки тому

    Thanks Kev I needed to hear this today.

  • @nancyrose2964
    @nancyrose2964 2 роки тому +3

    Love this 💯 Thanks Kev♥️

  • @betheone8292
    @betheone8292 2 роки тому +2

    This was needed for where I am in my life right now. Thank you!

  • @bernzberden7447
    @bernzberden7447 2 роки тому +4

    This is so enlightening...thanks😏

  • @nakiaalexander432
    @nakiaalexander432 2 роки тому +2

    I love love loveee this video Kev ❤️🖤💚… the word “selfish” has such a negative connotation attached to it most times …but it’s been the only way I’ve been able to increase my peace🧘🏾‍♀️💆🏾‍♀️…Thank you for this message King ☺️

  • @brookiey
    @brookiey 2 роки тому +1

    This was very encouraging for me this morning to listen to during my workout. Thank you!

  • @shewins3775
    @shewins3775 2 роки тому +4

    Kev this is real good 💗

  • @deirdretynan1781
    @deirdretynan1781 2 роки тому +2

    Loved this video. Very inspiring indeed ❤

  • @womenwhodate7643
    @womenwhodate7643 2 роки тому +12

    Your point of view is always so refreshing and you are incredibly thoughtful. What a great video 🙌

  • @sophieacapella
    @sophieacapella 10 місяців тому

    What a great video ! 👌
    Thanks a lot, Kevin ! 😊

  • @_queenbri_xo
    @_queenbri_xo 2 роки тому +1

    This is such an encouraging and refreshing video ☺️

  • @RRthee1
    @RRthee1 2 роки тому +7

    This is such a sweet, sweet video & spot on.
    It took a lot of years and self-work/healing work as well as unnecessary pain to reach these conclusions myself. Thanks for the reminders.

  • @ArshennaHines
    @ArshennaHines 2 роки тому

    Thank you for these positive reminders!

  • @anastasiasharidaali8217
    @anastasiasharidaali8217 2 роки тому

    This is so admonishing Kev.. Thanks much

  • @amyk8488
    @amyk8488 2 роки тому +2

    You make such great videos. Such good advice. I hope all the greatest things for you.

  • @junesimone
    @junesimone 2 роки тому

    This was a WORD!!!!!! Thank You!!!!

  • @linadiaz7101
    @linadiaz7101 Рік тому

    Such a great video, thank you, you are absolutely right on. I wish I saw this so much sooner

  • @ramonaphillipsteach3284
    @ramonaphillipsteach3284 2 роки тому +2

    Only God’s love is perfect. I had to learn what you taught on this video. I chose to get into therapy face truth, become aware, humble myself before God, admitting that I need Him more than anyone else. We must participate in our own healing/recovery process. God validates me. I was born with worth. “They” need to mind their business, get into therapy, learn to love themselves.

  • @cherylsmith8386
    @cherylsmith8386 5 місяців тому

    Wow ❤! Excellent video!

  • @cherthompson2546
    @cherthompson2546 2 роки тому

    Thank you for such a great message. 💗

  • @Iamcherese
    @Iamcherese 2 роки тому

    You just don’t know how much this was needed today🔥💯thanks Kev

  • @lobstergirlo
    @lobstergirlo 2 роки тому

    This was beautiful. A lone tear trickled down.

  • @abdulc5726
    @abdulc5726 2 роки тому +1

    This video has earned a subscription. Keep up the good work. God bless you.

  • @shingala8544
    @shingala8544 2 роки тому

    One of your most powerful videos. I find. Thank you!

  • @heidifisher8973
    @heidifisher8973 2 роки тому

    Thank you, you're awesome Kev.

  • @blooming_Lotus1493
    @blooming_Lotus1493 Рік тому

    Out of all of your videos that I've watched, and I watched dozens of them, this is the best one, hands down! Thanks for all the great advice that you share!

  • @FaonVoireArtistique
    @FaonVoireArtistique 2 роки тому +3

    I needed to hear this

  • @jen_counihan
    @jen_counihan 2 роки тому +1

    Thank You for making this video Kev!! I truly believe self love sets the tone for all our relationships. Like the beautiful song by Whitney Huston “The Greatness Love of All” Much love from Cali 🌴❤️🙏

  • @kristincousins6800
    @kristincousins6800 2 роки тому

    Kev, you are so motivational.

  • @isabellekayden5847
    @isabellekayden5847 2 роки тому

    This was such a good one. Thank you Kev

  • @emmas1082
    @emmas1082 Рік тому

    You give out the best advice!!! You are definitely wise beyond your years.

  • @tenniebramlett8827
    @tenniebramlett8827 Місяць тому

    Thank you thank you thank you Kev!!! Much love & appreciated!!💕💕💕💕

  • @eefiekel3954
    @eefiekel3954 2 роки тому

    It's the soothing calmness of this video for me 😍

  • @ramonaphillipsteach3284
    @ramonaphillipsteach3284 2 роки тому +3

    Block Block, detach, let go, you don’t need them.

  • @tabsemceee
    @tabsemceee 2 роки тому +1

    Sometimes we just need a reminder. Preciate you.🙂

  • @alayna286
    @alayna286 2 роки тому +3

    Kev, you're awesome. I have worked hard on myself to come to a place where I am happy -enough- with my life. Even if I don't end up finding a lifelong partner, who cares? I am me, I am who I will be with in when I pass on, and all I want in those final moments is to be content with the person I had been

  • @TheLionessLo
    @TheLionessLo 2 роки тому

    Amazing work!!

  • @mmommo-hx4dx
    @mmommo-hx4dx Рік тому

    yeah Kev!!!

  • @baritunde
    @baritunde 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this amazing, life changing video.

  • @angelxisa9808
    @angelxisa9808 2 роки тому

    love the vids... short simple to the point !!

  • @daniellebenning5706
    @daniellebenning5706 2 роки тому +1

    I ❤️ your channel! You are a beautiful soul inside and out!

  • @MegaMusical10
    @MegaMusical10 2 роки тому

    THIS GUY IS ALL OF THAT!!

  • @thebullwhisperer916
    @thebullwhisperer916 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you Judah! Praise Yahuah

  • @healingisthechildrensbread96
    @healingisthechildrensbread96 2 роки тому

    I absolutely the way this man speaks!!

  • @anthonyduraine2762
    @anthonyduraine2762 Рік тому

    You are wise, keep working, people need your thoughts.
    Help is also a form of growth
    Anthony

  • @RK-su4hs
    @RK-su4hs 2 роки тому

    Bless your caring humanitarian heart
    I’m sure you are a source of inspiration for more people than you imagine

  • @cd653
    @cd653 2 роки тому

    I love your videos... you my friend have a gift. Your words have really helped me today open my eyes up today! Thank you so much!

  • @onyinyesspace9085
    @onyinyesspace9085 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for your videos and encouragement.

  • @nonaperry5403
    @nonaperry5403 2 роки тому

    I love this message.

  • @SelfLovewithAT
    @SelfLovewithAT 8 місяців тому

    This video is very motivational ❤🔥‼️ My favorite 💯🏆Thanks professor Kev. You should go on tour‼️

  • @jacejacobs4175
    @jacejacobs4175 2 роки тому

    I'm so grateful for you, you have helped me so much

  • @kettlydesir2042
    @kettlydesir2042 2 роки тому

    You said all thanks you 🙏🙏👏❤❤

  • @latoyabaker787
    @latoyabaker787 4 місяці тому

    Kev, this message was the truth! You are so wise. I really appreciated this message! It was just what I needed to hear. I'm so glad that you are out here giving such solid advice . Your videos are my therapy! 😊

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  4 місяці тому

      Thank you!

  • @loripalinkas4516
    @loripalinkas4516 2 роки тому

    Really love listening to you

  • @tanyamo6525
    @tanyamo6525 3 дні тому

    Yes Kev🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾