9 EARLY Signs A Relationship WILL Fail

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  • Get "Love After Heartbreak" here 👉 bit.ly/LoveAfterHeartbreakYTS... - 9 Early Signs A Relationship Will Fail... In this dating advice video, I am going to give you the early signs that a relationship will fail and explain to you why most relationships fail. There are many reasons why relationships fail on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to this relationship help and be sure to watch the entire video.
    I don’t want you to get yourself into failed relationships. I want you to embrace this relationship advice so that you can understand why most relationships fail and be able to notice the signs a relationship will not last and avoid the heartache that comes with failed relationships.
    Sometimes we see the early signs a relationship will fail and we ignore or look past them because we believe that it’s normal and everyone goes through that. But these early signs are the reasons why most relationships fail. I want you to avoid wasting your time and energy in toxic relationships that will fail and instead focus on relationships that are healthy and will be successful.
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  • @MeetStephanSpeaks
    @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +111

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    • @marygomez1423
      @marygomez1423 2 роки тому +3

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      You give good advice but I need steps You give steps to watch out for but steps to bring up the issue without creating an issue. my husband who died 2yrs ago was difficult to speak with and we always argued when I wanted to talk. I want a healthy love relationship. I see red flags but who do I bring it up. I have been praying for several weeks to give me words of wisdom. Sir help me grow bcuz if this does not work I still need to know how to bring up flags I do not like.

    • @psychoblack6948
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  • @msdemeanour
    @msdemeanour 2 роки тому +2061

    Don't be trying to fix a man while he's breaking you in the process. Protect your soul from parasites. 💌

  • @JemyM
    @JemyM Рік тому +241

    Bad communication will kill every relationship.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  Рік тому +16

      Absolutely, communication is definitely key!

    • @mmommo10
      @mmommo10 Рік тому +2

      yes and my new date is not really communicating.....;(

    • @estelalopez3563
      @estelalopez3563 Рік тому +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks and reassurance is important

  • @heeybombshell1455
    @heeybombshell1455 2 роки тому +1424

    “Do not confuse two people staying together with success…Longevity doesn’t equal success.”
    Damn that hits so hard 💯

    • @sonjibrown4146
      @sonjibrown4146 2 роки тому +13

      It definitely does!!! 💯💯

    • @tiadavis5120
      @tiadavis5120 2 роки тому +3

      Facts

    • @ysmithriley
      @ysmithriley 2 роки тому +10

      @Bombshell Mom TRUTH! I had envied my brother for many years because he had a HAPPY MARRIAGE which I desperately yearned for...UNTIL HE DIDN'T‼️

    • @Mr.actor.1
      @Mr.actor.1 2 роки тому +3

      it is like a coin, the way you observe it, is totally difference from the way others sees it.

    • @evettashuler4490
      @evettashuler4490 2 роки тому +1

      True That!!!

  • @davannisj.donaldson5539
    @davannisj.donaldson5539 Рік тому +308

    9 EARLY signs that a relationship will fail:
    1. Sexual incompatibility
    2. Too soon (having sex)
    3. Not able to talk to each other
    4. One sided relationship
    5. You can’t be yourself around them
    6. The balance of energy is off in the relationship (Masculine & Feminine energy)
    7. Fighting and disrespect
    8. Lack of healing and lack of trust
    9. Bad timing
    10. Lack of connection (bonus)

    • @Cardenas50zz58
      @Cardenas50zz58 Рік тому +20

      I recently removed myself from someone because of No. 5 . I still don't look back and have no regrets because I kept telling myself If I can't be myself around him, this won't work. ✌️

    • @lisawentworth6831
      @lisawentworth6831 Рік тому +16

      I think number 2 was temper. People having sex too soon can be an issue, but it not a deal breaker and make relationships doomed

    • @schawnettarobinson8584
      @schawnettarobinson8584 Рік тому +1

      So true ❤❤❤

    • @spud4079
      @spud4079 Рік тому +3

      #4 is about to be the reason she's gonna lose me.

    • @linettelow
      @linettelow 8 місяців тому

      Thank you.🫶🫶

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 2 роки тому +251

    You will never be GOOD ENOUGH for the WRONG person because they are not good enough for themselves. Besides you can't make someone happy if they are not happy inside.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +5

      You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!

    • @she_sings_delightful_things
      @she_sings_delightful_things 2 роки тому +1

      RIGHT!!!!

    • @Faustinembeh_backup
      @Faustinembeh_backup Рік тому

      😂😂😂😂so true you will never be good enough for the wrong person

    • @mmommo10
      @mmommo10 Рік тому

      my new date is labeling ME stubborn (as well as himself) for us not communicating, twice he assumed I said something negative when I know I did not, he's telling friends where I am/am not, he never texts or calls, we get along, but, we really don't talk, very strange.

  • @atlantasfaithsmom
    @atlantasfaithsmom 2 роки тому +381

    "You can get physically naked, but can you get emotionally naked or vulnerable??" 🙌🏽🖤

  • @georgia6127
    @georgia6127 2 роки тому +556

    Sexual incompatibility = Disconnect = disappointment and frustration= resentment and anger= lack of desire= apathy= relationship failure.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +21

      Absolutely!

    • @danadane5497
      @danadane5497 2 роки тому +1

      Yes lord

    • @alexgarrison4729
      @alexgarrison4729 2 роки тому +4

      Wow this hit home

    • @sebrinaleepayne-biscardi5411
      @sebrinaleepayne-biscardi5411 2 роки тому +4

      Many of us are Christians on this channel, so sex probably would NOT really be a concern.

    • @cordeaniaknox4158
      @cordeaniaknox4158 2 роки тому +36

      @@sebrinaleepayne-biscardi5411 You’d be surprised at how many of us Christians still have sex before marriage knowing what the Bible says. It’s definitely needed.

  • @cherylhampton6033
    @cherylhampton6033 2 роки тому +280

    Great sex doesn't mean two people are meant for destiny together

  • @leslieweir7051
    @leslieweir7051 2 роки тому +595

    " friendship " and "respect" should be the basis of every relationship, if u can not be each other's friend then the relationship won't last, people let the outside world effect their relationship with their partner at times...people need to remember to fight together not apart....

  • @zeal4god402
    @zeal4god402 2 роки тому +745

    This video helped bring insights as to why God is against fornication and sexual immorality. Being patient, not rushing, and just enjoying learning about the person could prevent soooooooo much issues

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +38

      Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing!

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 2 роки тому +6

      Facts

    • @sunshine9426
      @sunshine9426 2 роки тому +8

      Points after POINTS! U R JUST KEEPING IT REAL! ALL PRAISES GOES 2 GOD ALMIGHTY WHEN YOU ASK 4 HIS DIRECTIONS ON ANYTHING U DO! AMEN! 😍😂🌞

    • @joygiftwilson286
      @joygiftwilson286 2 роки тому +2

      True

    • @Amatullah.574
      @Amatullah.574 2 роки тому +19

      Yes. God created us and knows what's best for us. We just don't listen.

  • @courtneyshiels6918
    @courtneyshiels6918 2 роки тому +179

    " I am not coaching you to tolerate any damn person" 🤣😂🤣😂 get it Stephen ❤💪👑

  • @lmcshortness1
    @lmcshortness1 2 роки тому +560

    I just ended a relationship like what hes describing. All my ex did was take take take not giving anything.
    Best decision. I made.
    Thank you Stephan!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +25

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

    • @mickyeuro81
      @mickyeuro81 2 роки тому +1

      *text him or whatsapp him ,he will make your rationship blossom again from California USA is a good adviser*

    • @mickyeuro81
      @mickyeuro81 2 роки тому

      ⏭⏭➕17743386651⏭⏭💕💕

    • @prettyme3150
      @prettyme3150 2 роки тому +7

      Some guys have no shame. I can't give a dime to any guy🙄 I can't stand them

    • @worldsmostmisunderstood8258
      @worldsmostmisunderstood8258 2 роки тому +7

      Glad you got out, I find a lot of women are staying put in bad relationships, just like our ancestors who couldn't do better.

  • @kokoalaska9888
    @kokoalaska9888 2 роки тому +549

    Also don’t relie on chemistry alone. Focus on compatibility! I thought I found my husband with a guy because we had 6 hour phone conversations. Turns out this guy was an alcoholic and drug taker looking for a life vest( me). Think about a man that fits your lifestyle AND is financially stable.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +8

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

    • @sixteen.candles.4644
      @sixteen.candles.4644 2 роки тому +8

      Wooooooowwww

    • @ilanittal2807
      @ilanittal2807 2 роки тому +2

      👏

    • @ritaodriscoll2093
      @ritaodriscoll2093 2 роки тому +14

      Amen. Same happened to me, 2 hour phone calls and he turned out to be a covert narc. I was the life vest also. 3 weeks after putting his name on the title of my house I got my first 10 day silent treatment

    • @kokoalaska9888
      @kokoalaska9888 2 роки тому +13

      @@ritaodriscoll2093 WOW! That’s horrible. So sorry to hear that. I hope you got your affairs back in check and left that dust bucket.🙁

  • @BBlongstroke1
    @BBlongstroke1 2 роки тому +422

    Also not being equally yoked or not putting God first in that relationship.

  • @winonamurray9518
    @winonamurray9518 2 роки тому +337

    Dang relationships are so hard. It's like a complex math problem.

    • @babyshsrk6977
      @babyshsrk6977 2 роки тому +33

      A complex math problem is solvable. Some relationships will never have a solution, other than termination.

    • @jessyh.6112
      @jessyh.6112 2 роки тому +13

      I agree!!! it's like no correct formula exist in order to make relationship successful

    • @janetferguson1864
      @janetferguson1864 2 роки тому +14

      I yearn for more simpler times. Back before dating coaches ever existed.

    • @mickeysammy5169
      @mickeysammy5169 2 роки тому +6

      No- nothing like math.
      They always have a solution.
      Some people are NOT fixable, therefore should NEVER be in relationships. He give strong, sound advice to help us steer clear from these toxic people!!

    • @kellyparadis1039
      @kellyparadis1039 2 роки тому +8

      I am not good at math or relationships so I stay single.

  • @Jules-zn2bo
    @Jules-zn2bo 2 роки тому +21

    Yes! Got divorced after 19 years of fake smiles

  • @catherinebroadnax4089
    @catherinebroadnax4089 2 роки тому +319

    This describes my marriage to a T. Been married 14 years, currently separated for almost a year. Trying to get the courage to file for a divorce. Change is difficult, but I'm working to get stronger emotionally.

    • @Beautyforashes613_
      @Beautyforashes613_ 2 роки тому +18

      Don’t rush. Take your time.. it took me 4 years being separated to file

    • @NattyGeek78
      @NattyGeek78 2 роки тому +2

      @@Beautyforashes613_ wow. What was the final tipping point? I know someone who’s wife after saying 2 years ago, I’m done, telling the kids in April and just last month told the guy she wanted him back, wasn’t ready to throw the marriage away. So he went back to see if there is something with salvaging. Is it really that much of a see-saw.

    • @prettykittea6299
      @prettykittea6299 2 роки тому +4

      My heart and prayers go out to you be strong and courageous and when you feel it’s to hard to stand kneel 💪🏾♥️💯🙏🏾😇

    • @jessicamorales2555
      @jessicamorales2555 2 роки тому +5

      God loves us, and he is always by our side. Stephan has a video about how to listen to God , you might want to look for it. All my best wishes of courage and healing to you.

    • @honestinspiration
      @honestinspiration 2 роки тому +2

      @Catherine Broadnax I'm hoping you find something within your heart to stay and try working it out, whether that is counseling or just getting reacquainted with your partner. That is, assuming there's no domestic violence or cheating. Divorce is no joke, especially if kids are involved. Good luck!

  • @williamanderson7647
    @williamanderson7647 2 роки тому +80

    Physically naked vs. Emotionally naked! That's what I've been missing my whole life. Whenever I'd open up I'd hear it back via a disagreement or a mutual friend. Not ok.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +1

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

  • @kimallnaturelle
    @kimallnaturelle 2 роки тому +181

    I knew I was sexually compatible with my boyfriend without having sex. His mere touch affected me and mine his. So attraction and interest was mutual. We spoke about our expectation (timing, our libidos, our goal in marriage for sexual intimacy) and philosophy of sex (service, connection or selfish pleasure) and that matched.

    • @paulokello5981
      @paulokello5981 2 роки тому +26

      That sounds awesome, no fornication but honest communication and emotional and spiritual connection

    • @nadirajansen9762
      @nadirajansen9762 2 роки тому +5

      How long after dating did you started to talk about sex with your partner?

    • @-uniqueamari
      @-uniqueamari 2 роки тому +5

      Update?

    • @Sandra-jc2fs
      @Sandra-jc2fs 2 роки тому +5

      Yes please, how long til you started talking openly about sex?

  • @zionurbanwear
    @zionurbanwear 2 роки тому +222

    I've heard many people mention meeting people at the wrong time and that's why the relationship didn't work. We also have to discuss not entertaining the right person because you were not in the right space at that time. The attraction could be so strong but because the person had goals or healing to do & didn't want to mess it up.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

    • @zionurbanwear
      @zionurbanwear 2 роки тому +5

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks We all appreciate you & your ministry

    • @toniwilson8212
      @toniwilson8212 2 роки тому

      So true Chase DePrize

    • @hoodhippychick
      @hoodhippychick Рік тому +2

      This happened to me and I was not ready - it was devastating. I believe the best thing to do is be friends first.

  • @n1godone9231
    @n1godone9231 2 роки тому +13

    “ You don’t lose a good man.You loses man who is not good for you.” - Steve Harvey

  • @chefnic4763
    @chefnic4763 2 роки тому +117

    I wish I had this info early in life. It would have saved me from alot of PAIN. I'm healed and in a loving marriage now, but the road was rocky getting here for sure!

  • @nyemanuel
    @nyemanuel 2 роки тому +96

    I truly feel the root of WHY deep relationships aren’t working amongst individuals is….LACK OF TRUST. We don’t trust one another. We’re scared to even be vulnerable to that level because it’s assumed that we will get hurt. This is for men to women and women to men. We hear the promotion for lack of trust in music especially, which is fueling this behavior. Females are for the “bag”. Males are for the “sex”. It may even stem back to the way some of us were raised, mother/father relationships. When we can truly get into relationships with pure hearts and intentions. Truly healed & healthy and not bringing along all this “baggage”. We’d be able to be our true self, able to communicate and just….LIVE & LOVE w/o all these hang ups. Thanks Stephan for this message. It was needed.

    • @palamirtammarimuthu1752
      @palamirtammarimuthu1752 2 роки тому +2

      Chemistry is very very exciting......alas, it's fleeting..... don't trust it.....✔️🤓 compatibility is preferable..... good friendship 👍🏼

    • @wendyzelaya182
      @wendyzelaya182 2 роки тому

      Welp goodbye I won’t date until 15 years, ima be healing in the meantime

  • @decklensworld1755
    @decklensworld1755 2 роки тому +89

    Omg, that’s so true. I unfortunately was way too masculine in my marriage and began to resent him. It wasn’t his fault, he was never taught how to be masculine. I’ve now learned how to be more feminine and look for men that are masculine.

    • @Whitashley1
      @Whitashley1 2 роки тому +4

      I was looking for this comment. I was with my daughter's father off and on and had to break it off. I was the masculine one, sexual incompatibility, and I realized we had nothing in common. I also felt restricted in the relationship.

    • @raquelwegesa7224
      @raquelwegesa7224 2 роки тому +1

      Mine was too feminine, just broke up yesterday coz I don't think it's a space we can co-exist in. It hurts but I'll be fine.

    • @marlobx7442
      @marlobx7442 2 роки тому

      @@raquelwegesa7224 wow that's deep

  • @mtaylor4523
    @mtaylor4523 2 роки тому +28

    My ex-boyfriend was a narcissistic. He was a pretty box of emptiness.

  • @Eevanova
    @Eevanova 2 роки тому +30

    Bad timing... It's so sad. 6 months later he comes and says "I have changed, I got new job, I want to be with you!" But you already moved on...

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +9

      I feel you, it isn't an easy situation but you need to focus on doing what is truly best!

  • @uhsaywhat
    @uhsaywhat 2 роки тому +90

    The struggle of getting someone to be emotionally naked is what can cause sexual intimacy issues as well. I can’t connect to you if we can’t understand each other. A person can feel used by a person they are with!

  • @rayveti
    @rayveti 2 роки тому +52

    Problem these days is people getting into situations and entanglements without doing the innerwork. Wasting time, effort, energy, resources with someone who is not relationship ready can take us off-track from meeting the right person for us. #believe #energybalance #wearyourcrown

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +1

      You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!

    • @ezzylafaith1100
      @ezzylafaith1100 2 роки тому

      This is so true ! I think this is where all my mistakes coming from.

  • @kriselvis4890
    @kriselvis4890 2 роки тому +49

    That masculine feminine energy balance is so real

  • @staceynelson6762
    @staceynelson6762 2 роки тому +118

    No successful longterm relationship has poor communication GREAT POINT 💯💯and nice shirt.

  • @mreemzo9099
    @mreemzo9099 2 роки тому +43

    THIS MAN IS A GURU, MAY LORD KEEP GIVING U WISDOM MY BROTHER.

    • @1010divajap
      @1010divajap 2 роки тому +1

      Nobody is a guru. This man makes a ton of sense and is excellent. I wish people wouldn't see an "expert" as a guru or somebody "enlightened'. That leads to blind listening.

  • @siyasanga_makie
    @siyasanga_makie Рік тому +57

    The second topic was really painful. That feeling of being so misunderstood by your partner and them not wanting to hear you out. I was vulnerable once and opened up about a past trauma that he used against me when we had an argument. Being alone is really better than being stuck in such a relationship. I don’t know how I went through 2 years of it.

    • @judithfloyd6693
      @judithfloyd6693 Рік тому +4

      Try 32 years of marriage with a partner not hearing what your saying. Not even interested in what you have to say.

  • @fayewearing581
    @fayewearing581 2 роки тому +33

    It's the PHYSICAL NAKEDNESS vs SPIRITUAL/EMOTIONAL NAKEDNESS 4ME! I've traveled the roads Stephan spoke on. I'm over 50 now and my tolerance to repeat mistakes such as these is NEGATIVE ZERO. Thank you, Stephan.

    • @vincentdamilola3790
      @vincentdamilola3790 2 роки тому +2

      At 52 , l feel you deeply. A woman has been in my life for over 15 years without emotional connection whatsoever.
      It drains me. I am in the military and lonely she has never complemented me as expected. Thinking on moving on. Grateful for your submission.

  • @LP-ur7cx
    @LP-ur7cx 2 роки тому +42

    I wasn’t really ready for all the truth this guy is dropping on me, by watching his channel. Callin me out for sure. Having a mirror put in front of you hurts sometimes. Growth hurts. 🖤

  • @taytayl3866
    @taytayl3866 2 роки тому +15

    "The safe choice is the wrong choice". Dang. That hit me 😅

  • @gwenzozodlams2307
    @gwenzozodlams2307 2 роки тому +18

    Totally I agree with ;if its 1 sided it wont last,whether dating or married,such a relationship drains you emotionally.

  • @rosettemarshall3024
    @rosettemarshall3024 2 роки тому +35

    Having sex in a relationship is just like any other aspect of the relationship. You will not get everything sexually or otherwise 100%. Don't ask anyone to do anything they don't want to and also don't expect to get all of your needs met. We are responsible for meeting our own needs. Just because the sex is good does not mean your parter will not cheat.

  • @Carolyn100000
    @Carolyn100000 2 роки тому +21

    "One sided relationships ", and something within you that needs healing. Wow

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

  • @toptenasia645
    @toptenasia645 2 роки тому +24

    I wish i would have seen this before i got into my last relationship that lasted 1.3 years. The signs were there.
    1. We couldn’t talk to each other about issues or he’d start crying.
    2. We were sexually incompatible. I am a bit into bondage and he was not.
    3. He acted like it was too much if i asked him for some snacks.
    4. He only focused on superficial things. He would constantly talk about the girls and how i should dress.
    5. My gut feeling saying break up
    6. He would flip out if i asked for his phone.
    7. Our visions for the future did not match.

  • @trackstr1
    @trackstr1 2 роки тому +58

    Just got out of a 3+ years. It was a mutual agreement to split and I've been trying to figure out the weak links in the relationship's foundation. Your videos have really been helping. Thanks for the content!

  • @belleveHER
    @belleveHER 2 роки тому +46

    Love it! Especially the sexual compatibility. No need to have sex with the person to know if you're sexually compatible. Just having a sex appeal about one self and it revealing itself energetically is enough to know if you are aligned with someone in such way

  • @jessicamorales2555
    @jessicamorales2555 2 роки тому +21

    Stephan is like wine. Becoming better and better each day, with each talk. Thank you a bunch!!!

  • @ShottaSlim1
    @ShottaSlim1 2 роки тому +9

    I’ve been broken & tryin to rebuild. I found a lady & she was great however she wouldn’t take accountability, hid me on social media, told her friends about the bad in our relationship so now they don’t respect me, made excuses for not reciprocating , very one sided, asked me to open up & when I did would be nonchalant when I expressed my concerns. During our last situation she was literally texting as I’m speaking my concerns!! Thanks for the video and help

  • @katinaserghis536
    @katinaserghis536 2 роки тому +175

    preach Stephan 🙏🏽 this described every aspect of my marriage, all these things were present in the beginning and ultimately brought it to an end. I hung on for 24 years, and I mean hung on, endured/tolerated because I was miserable and was trauma bonded not in love or connected with him. I awakened after my dark night of the soul. Much happier single, healing and doing the inner work to make the relationship with myself the most important one. If the right man comes along I want to be ready to receive him with God's blessing. Thank you for sharing ❤️

    • @gld927
      @gld927 2 роки тому +16

      I hung in 15 years

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +25

      I'm sorry to hear about that, but I'm glad you are now on a path to healing 🙌 ❤ and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you!

    • @Mekia-hr8qh
      @Mekia-hr8qh 2 роки тому +15

      24 years for me also. I can relate

    • @nyemanuel
      @nyemanuel 2 роки тому +16

      You told your story and it was as if “I” was speaking. Hung in for 15 years too long. Newly DIVORCED…and I finally feel free! May God bless all of us on our new paths of mental freedom , protection and emotional healing.

    • @TheShanieB
      @TheShanieB 2 роки тому +6

      Still hangin...😒🤦🏾‍♀️😢

  • @kekeletsokoena2893
    @kekeletsokoena2893 2 роки тому +16

    THANK YOU SO MUCH!! You nailed it there. Lack of good communication is a receipt for disaster! Fighting & Disrespect - HELL NO!

  • @t.s.5206
    @t.s.5206 2 роки тому +20

    An entire college-course can be done from this video! AWESOME AMAZING OUTPUT & ADVICE! love it, Stephan, thank you so much.

  • @nicoladouglas4059
    @nicoladouglas4059 2 роки тому +10

    Well been naive is such a recipe for disaster. You have to see someone for who they are not want you wanna believe.

  • @Allwin.28
    @Allwin.28 2 роки тому +41

    Sex was great but his loyalty is with someone else. Too late to have discovered we're incompatible still.. Can't force it to work. Thanks for the informative vids.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +3

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate your feedback and pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

    • @tprucha
      @tprucha 2 роки тому +1

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you I am sarah my husband controlled th is account. Your words are so true and intuitive. I am a step mom and always put everyone before me. This helps me to change this dynamic!!! I was strong and single no kids great career. I wish to grow and regain my self and strength.

  • @yolandamccarthy8446
    @yolandamccarthy8446 2 роки тому +24

    Just wanted to put out there how gifted you (Stephan) are in the area of human psychology & the psychology of relationships.. God has truly given you the gift of sight. It’s just amazing how clearly you can see so many things that most people miss every single time. All of your videos/message make sense & are extremely enlightening. You’re so on point. Thank you 🙏🏽 for all that you’re doing trying to help people understand relationship dynamics & for helping people gain a better understanding of themselves. The information that you’re providing can help people learn how to form strong relationships & remain together for the long haul. 💪🏾 ♥️ 💯

  • @faithamcneill9069
    @faithamcneill9069 2 роки тому +23

    Also not being an active listener hurts relationship too

  • @hollysusan3144
    @hollysusan3144 2 роки тому +52

    I love that you brought up when you have a feeling of energy of judgement from someone! Thanks for all you do 🙏

  • @Sbgoinbrrr
    @Sbgoinbrrr 2 роки тому +30

    Great sex actually sucks, because of that (The other person) or you, could get attached to the wrong person, if you’re unlucky.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +4

      You're absolutely right!

    • @demivydE
      @demivydE 2 роки тому +3

      Great sex is great if both people are in tune with other and want to be together not only for the sex.

  • @thisvetwantsyoutoknow
    @thisvetwantsyoutoknow 2 роки тому +38

    Wow! You just gave insight into my last relationship without even knowing me. This was painful to hear but needed. Thank you!

  • @brittd555
    @brittd555 2 роки тому +20

    You hit the nail on the head with the balance of energy! Been with my husband 9 years and I’m more masculine and he’s more feminine and I’m tired and have started to resent him!!!

    • @equitablehealthcare-drnatashak
      @equitablehealthcare-drnatashak 2 роки тому +6

      Please go to counseling. Pull back on the masculine energy. He accommodated you since he loves you.

    • @angelamccann2340
      @angelamccann2340 2 роки тому +6

      Same for me. Almost 10 years. I’ve become resentful. I do all the work. He’s more feminine totally.

  • @mswiseone12
    @mswiseone12 2 роки тому +5

    Amen! I just left my 22 year marriage because we didn't talk and I was walking on eggshells constantly.

    • @mswiseone12
      @mswiseone12 2 роки тому

      @Dunamis Farmers no thank you. He is a terrible narcissist. God delivered me from a horrible place after 22 years. I am not going to rebuke his blessing by going back or going to someone to do something to bring us back together.

  • @MaxPowerProfile
    @MaxPowerProfile 2 роки тому +60

    Stephan, you HAVE TO make a full video about connection. What is it? How to know if you have connection with someone? Give us some concrete examples

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +29

      Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

    • @daniellehamilton2331
      @daniellehamilton2331 2 роки тому +4

      I will agree!!!!! Super great idea!!!!! I myself would love to know!

    • @CazKing43
      @CazKing43 2 роки тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks I would also like to learn more about that too

    • @frahelis_betzaida8466
      @frahelis_betzaida8466 2 роки тому

      I agree yesss please .

    • @rebekam9362
      @rebekam9362 2 роки тому

      I agree!

  • @ameliyalorraine3959
    @ameliyalorraine3959 2 роки тому +21

    I love this guy , his videos are long but i love it because he gets to the point he explains everything…. He’s dedicated to explaining life and situations in relationships

  • @niahtanksley6782
    @niahtanksley6782 Рік тому +8

    Thank you for these pointers! When you started talking about “bad communication” that really hit me because when I met my boyfriend everything was glitter and gold but now communication on his side is failing really bad. For example I could tell him that I’m having a bad day and he’ll blankly stop texting/calling for hours and just start talking about other stuff which makes it seem like he doesn’t care about what I got going on but more focused on himself.

  • @fromaqueensperspective
    @fromaqueensperspective 2 роки тому +4

    This video is amazing! I love the way you dive deep. I was in a long distance relationship that it was one sided he was disrespectful I addressed it and it kept happening! I had been by single for about 11 years and I knew what I wanted and I knew what my boundaries were. I ended it I realized It’s not worth it to putting oneself through these things when a person knows they deserve better! I’m so grateful I walked away with my integrity and hope for the future! And you are correct those red flags you ignore in the beginning they will tear you apart in the end! Thank Stephan

  • @sacampbr1
    @sacampbr1 2 роки тому +43

    OMG, OMG, OMG!!! I feel like an inexperienced person soaking up all this life changing info! You surely know how to break a situation down…….. I definitely know now how and what I need to do to have an amazing and deep relationship going forward. Thank you again!!! Your video is making changes in people’s sexual lives for sure… 💯💯💯

  • @neyosega4330
    @neyosega4330 2 роки тому +147

    Glad I’m learning all this stuff before my first relationship, great video!

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +8

      Glad I could help!

    • @jenng5925
      @jenng5925 2 роки тому +14

      I’m glad you are too. Dating life has been hectic! Wish I had this advice earlier

    • @RhondaR4
      @RhondaR4 2 роки тому +2

      Stephan is an angel from GOD.❤️

    • @bremd2018
      @bremd2018 2 роки тому +4

      Yes, you’ll be ahead of the game!

    • @lizabethfebo1635
      @lizabethfebo1635 2 роки тому

      Lucky you

  • @mishakhooks
    @mishakhooks 2 роки тому +6

    Very powerful! The balance of Energy is so important!

  • @ezsand0077
    @ezsand0077 2 роки тому +8

    I agree that sexual incompatibility leads to resentment in long run

  • @Mekia-hr8qh
    @Mekia-hr8qh 2 роки тому +62

    This video was so awesome. I desire a partner that is open and transparent such as myself. Why? Because if I’m in a relationship with someone it has to be a relationship built on purpose therefore I want to know everything about that person without being judgmental. I want my next partner to feel comfortable enough with me to be vulnerable because we are trying to build. I feel if you have grown and healed from past situations it’s no reason not to be open with the person you are building with. I love ❤️ deep videos like this because so many people are very shallow when it comes with being open and transparent. As women we have to be gentle enough that a man feels comfortable with sharing himself with us verbally.

  • @latashaalexander5440
    @latashaalexander5440 2 роки тому +5

    Allow people to be who they are without judgment .

  • @GlobalFreeLiving
    @GlobalFreeLiving 2 роки тому +4

    My first boyfriend seriously chased me for two years... no sex. We became best friends first.

  • @apriljanefajardo7250
    @apriljanefajardo7250 2 роки тому +9

    You've been so helpful. Exactly one month now when he ghosted me (since i asked him what's his plans for us and still he got nothing to say,he ghosted me instead) in the first week of break up was a struggle and a survival week for me. Even before we're on and off and most of the time didn't understand each other's point of view. Since before, I overlooked all the redflags because I truly love the guy but in the process I lost myself and didn't have the focus of what I really need in my life. Letting go of more than 10 years in a relationship is too painful,but with your talks Sir Stephan, I am learning to appreciate the brighter side of it. Indeed,break up is also a blessing. Please continue inspiring people and helping us understand for things we barely see in a relationship. Great thing in my first week of heartbreak, I was able to find your talks here in youtube. Hope not to reach him back over and over again, Big help!🙌🏻

  • @psychoblack6948
    @psychoblack6948 2 роки тому +3

    This is spot on! Thank you Stephan ❤️ You have to have good communication, and a willingness to learn what the other's needs are!

  • @daniib.7619
    @daniib.7619 2 роки тому +25

    Thank you for another fantastic video, Stephan. I appreciate the time and effort that you pour into your content.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +1

      ❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

  • @joanagain007
    @joanagain007 2 роки тому +15

    You're so right, I just love listening to you, you're my coach! Thanks coach!

  • @laurenceum2657
    @laurenceum2657 2 роки тому +9

    You are a gift, you are a Gift, and you are A GIFT!! THANK YOU!!

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 2 роки тому +15

    Every single sign is spot on....no matter the order. All are 100% accurate... especially that core connection. If that is there, the rest can and will work out. Would love a video on that connection standpoint and what eventually happens, in any marriage/ relationship, when it was never there.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +1

      Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

  • @alangodfrey3598
    @alangodfrey3598 2 роки тому +9

    My ex refused to meet me half way in the relationship she said can't change who she is so we parted ways

  • @acelestin
    @acelestin 2 роки тому +4

    Wow. Every single point made reflects in my marriage. I'm unhappy and don't know how to leave. He's a great guy but we are not friends and wouldn't even be friends outside of marriage.

  • @paulinerubin92
    @paulinerubin92 2 роки тому +2

    Your videos are invaluable to me. I did not have a good roll model in relationships. I honestly did not know how to go about navigating one to end up with a healthy person. You have made me realize what I need is ok and it’s ok to be open with someone about that, even early on! I love how you make it ok not to play games and waste my time. I was always told how I need to behave in order to get a man instead of being me (the healthy ways) and not getting the man I deserve. Thank you so much!

  • @tiffanyyo5046
    @tiffanyyo5046 Рік тому +1

    I’ve been second guessing my relationship of almost 10 years lately. The signs apply. Sent him the communication video, he won’t watch it.
    Your videos are showing me that I waisted 10 years. Bread winner, paid everything, tried to push him for better.
    I can’t do this anymore. But he’s gonna be homeless when I leave.

  • @1010divajap
    @1010divajap 2 роки тому +3

    I really like your insights. There is so much common sense and truth here. This is the 1st night I've listened to you and I have these very same thoughts. Your ideas work for both men and women. I think you place integrity at the top - you're just not using that particular word. Wonderful video!

  • @loriperkins8490
    @loriperkins8490 2 роки тому +4

    I'm in a long term marriage and this is really resonating with my life. Thank you so much for this powerful insight Steven!! 👏 🙏✨

  • @marypowell3236
    @marypowell3236 2 роки тому +4

    If its not good I let them go straight away. Bad comments, no equal give and take, Red flags and other stuff. Don't allow anyone to devalue you 💖🌈take care out there guys 😊❤️🌈

  • @leeredman7586
    @leeredman7586 2 роки тому +1

    There's so much that I didn't know before going into my first relationship. I'm learning and healing. Thank you 🙏🙏

  • @melissamcgee4226
    @melissamcgee4226 2 роки тому +9

    Feelings of compassion connects people

  • @latoyajones9268
    @latoyajones9268 2 роки тому +4

    I couldn’t talk to my ex-husband, it was so draining. He lied all the time and I just stop talking, he literally disgusted me, smh just divorced and it was the best thing. He lived disrespectfully behind my back bc of his own insecurities. I say a life of dysfunction and destruction, he is for the streets, so the streets can have him.

    • @samanthawilliams5520
      @samanthawilliams5520 2 роки тому +1

      I felt this especially. Recently in a similar boat. I stopped continuing my dynamic of acting desperate when I’m not. Flexing my worth in a safe space without him.

  • @tammygerry4254
    @tammygerry4254 2 роки тому +1

    This all hits home. Ty for your wisdom Stephen.😊

  • @EciMajic
    @EciMajic 2 роки тому +1

    Hey Stephan. We met in LA in 2019 at the Self Love Summit. I was the volunteer (I actually paid for a VIP ticket, but chose to volunteer instead when asked) helping with the meet and greet and your book signing that obviously didn't know anything about your work. Even though I was wearing your merch lol. Just want to let you know that I've been reading your books and watching your videos a lot, and I really like your teaching. It's very down-to-earth and realistic.

  • @belindacrutchfield9259
    @belindacrutchfield9259 2 роки тому +12

    Two people with a matual understanding...and connection is this best..

  • @octobersnubia7966
    @octobersnubia7966 Рік тому +3

    You caught me I’m one of the ones in a relationship seeing if this applies to me lol. Please keep doing what you are doing I’ve been following you since my divorce 5 years ago and you have helped me to look into myself and see who and what I want in my relationship. Thank you

  • @katherinemarino2756
    @katherinemarino2756 2 роки тому +1

    U literally have no idea just how much u, ur videos have helped me. I wish I could tell u my story but there is no room here to do so. I agree with all u say on ur videos. I been through the hardest relationship ever the past 6 years. Like it literally ripped my soul from me. I'm still healing. It's been slow but I'm getting there. Thank u so much for what u do. It helps. Love u. Peace Love and light.

  • @MaryamAtcha
    @MaryamAtcha 2 роки тому +5

    Love that point about energy! Looking forward to a full video about it :)

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +2

      I will get it done soon, make sure you are subscribed and you click the notification bell so that you will be notified when I release it ❤

  • @codishaa
    @codishaa 2 роки тому +3

    Longevity does NOT equal success. Great point.

  • @ayana4601
    @ayana4601 2 роки тому +5

    Wow Stephan- you really opened my eyes up WIDE AS EVER- now I see clearer that we were doomed to fail
    no matter what. So much that you mentioned was present from day one to year 15, he dumped me and he cancelled our wedding for the 3rd time. I was delusional I was wanting to hold on to hope but the fact is that we were not compatible- barely ever on the same page. I accepted ALL a of his flaws n indiscretions, because of love/ now I realize that I should not have overlooked those things. He did as well - his constant thing to say was “ I love you BUT”.. he always ran off for days / ignored my calls for days whenever we started a “TALK” - he hated talking and was allergic to it so much that he literally hid from me for days. Clearly I was dumb.. he obviously had “somewhere” to hide and it wasn’t with me. I don’t blame him I blame me.. I just wish he had the balls to walk away year one.. instead of pussyfooting n playing because he loves the idea of having women around him to boost his ego.. I got hurt and emotionally destroyed in the process. I’m just reaching the surface for air since this was recent and I’m gna be just fine.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому

      I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

  • @stephlm79
    @stephlm79 2 роки тому +2

    You speak the truth my friend. Don’t know what your background is but I have Psychology, Philosophy, and Anthropology under my belt and I can tell you know what you’re talking about. It’s so nice of you to try to help people find true love cuz it’s not easy! 🙂God bless

  • @JemH1986
    @JemH1986 2 роки тому +3

    Wow your so right on this stuff! This definitely sounded like my dating years when I was younger. I waited 8 years until I found my True Love. Actually he found me and I didn’t really know what was going on lol! He had his eye on me. We’ve been together for over a year now. The 8 years of not dating was worth the wait! ❤️🙏🏻

  • @nightfallkittie
    @nightfallkittie 2 роки тому +5

    Great video as usual. And thanks a lot for the timeline! I really love it.

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +2

      Glad you enjoyed it, be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!

  • @narviaflournoy3869
    @narviaflournoy3869 2 роки тому +12

    Amen Amen, thank you for sharing !! 😊👣🙏

  • @reginadawson2700
    @reginadawson2700 2 роки тому +2

    That makes so much sense, you are so accurate!!!!

  • @rhemamensah6582
    @rhemamensah6582 2 роки тому +11

    I love the writing on your shirt Sir … ALPHA MAN OF GOD 🔥

  • @qk5574
    @qk5574 2 роки тому +31

    I haven’t watched yet but I liked the video because we needed one of these.

  • @Abbzylilmc99
    @Abbzylilmc99 2 роки тому +34

    Absolutely love this. Thank you for sharing. As someone who just got out of an unhealthy relationship a few months ago I feel like this is something I need to hear 💜

    • @MeetStephanSpeaks
      @MeetStephanSpeaks  2 роки тому +3

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

    • @MinstrelKI
      @MinstrelKI 2 роки тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks hey Steve I bro up with a relationship because the lady never communicates and each time I express myself to her she make me feel like an absolute terrible person to the point I started believing that I wasn’t good enough, I’ve never abused her verbally or emotionally, each time there’s a fight I have initiate we settling she does nothing and never says anything . I got frustrated and left. What do you this is? Is there something I am not getting right ? This is the first time I am experiencing this in my relationship. Thank you

    • @Pinkcandy777
      @Pinkcandy777 Рік тому

      @@MeetStephanSpeaks is it a sin to want to feel a bit dominated in sex?

  • @itsjustshug1765
    @itsjustshug1765 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much , I have been through the works and you have opened my eyes so much I was supposed to get married NEXT YEAR but I broke it off but he still is trying.