A lot of men like women with multiple partners that excites them. And their own kind of breed because other breeds seem to be stupid in their eyes. When in reality we just think different and act different.
1000%, just met a man like this. I am the only girl with 2 brothers and ALL boy cousins. Naturally, I’m a tomboy but he puts that shit on the back burner. I’ve never worn so much makeup
That’s a powerful statement and I am just able to see that at 50. I believe it’s an art … most of us have never seen it in done correctly from our mothers … either we become harden because how we see our mothers and our mantra becomes i wish a n would or you become a doormat .. some black women are awaking but now we need help to get there 🙂
1. More Open and Receptive 2. Being positive - smiling more, being positive with words, attitude, overall energy 3. Knowing how to persuade, not dictate. Not telling him what to do. 4. Practicing self care and keeping yourself up - appearance, mentally, emotionally, spiritually etc 5. Being attentive and considerate - encouraging, supportive, like their mothers(most) do. Be approachable. 6. Being lighthearted and have a sense of humour- peaceful, joyful, playful, fun, taking jokes as they are, not easily offended. Helping him relax. 7. Listen and learn - not throwing things back at his face, processing what he really said and not misinterpreting, assuming and analysing. Learning his desires, how he works, his love language. 8. Being selective - not easily gotten, not being for everybody. 8. Being willing to embrace his lead - trust his leadership
I was born feminine but became a tomboy at a young age to protect my body from harm, then became Feminine again at 17 when I realized how pretty I was but then became hardened because I didn’t receive the protection and safety from all the men in my life, I’m finally feminine again at age 44. I hope I receive the love I deserve. 🌹
Married 25 years!!!!! Everything you said is so true!!! As Black women we all need to strive to live in our Femininity, please do not let past relationships and heartache harden you!
I'm dealing with a man that acts like that, I decided to communicate this to him Emden I return from where I am. Won't continue like this💯I listen to him and more.. he just don't deliver fully based off another chic. Woman power🥰
Women having to do so much, including providing and protecting for themselves makes it hard for them to be operating in their feminine energy. We need more masculine men that are more providers/protectors, so that women do not have to work so hard and can be their more femine self. Great teaching.
@@missj5564 many of them are not in the life because some vengeful mothers don't want the father to be in the baby's life. Others are either fbois and men who were tricked into pregnancy.
When I married my husband I did as you said and embraced wanting to be healed. He was so far ahead of me in this, and because I trusted him I slid into this feminine role without even noticing how or why I was doing it. His masculinity just brought it out. And every hiccup we have had along the way I have since learned was me trying to step back into the masculine role. You and Adrian Everheart have literally named the things I was doing wrong in your talks. Listen up ladies, what they are teaching is so spot on.
I'm so pissed right now just came across this dude on a humbug!🤐😁 I just came out of a situation that he broke down in another video as if he was THERE !!! Being with a SAFE man...but BABY when he caught on. What I learned is that I was also his SAFE woman when he FINALLY got the slight attention of the woman he'd been chasing for yrs...all of this (unbeknownst to me). I ACTUALLY took the op to run b/c I could not have it both ways. I took the opportunity to ESCAPE b/c we had become codependent 👋. I'm learning to redirect my energy elsewhere while I learn to stand on my femininity. It is GLORIOUS, thanku GOD!
Feminine Qualities 1. Be open and receptive to kind gestures from men. Allow your man do for you, be vulnerable. Masculine men wants to provide for you, allow them. Let them feel needed. 2. Being positive and encouraging: for example; smile more which is easy if you are at peace with yourself. 3. Know how to persuade and not dictate: use more soft energy, it's more effective than being aggressive. Talk to your man politely. 4. Practice self-care, take good care of yourself and how you look. Make time for yourself. Dress more feminine; use bright colours (floral). 5. Be attentive, nurturing and considerate. 6. Be playful, lighthearted, don't be too serious but be joyful. Enjoy life and help your partner relax. 7. Be willing to listen and learn, be cooperative. 8. Be selective about who gets into your circle. Be mindful of clicks, have standard with the kind of men that comes around you. 9. Be willing to be led by your partner, be subservient to your man for a successful relationship.
As a finally healing person I must admit that this list is great and effective BUT in order to be treasured and respected you need to hold self-respect first. Make it soft, kind and everything just never ever lose it and don't let to violate it. Be gracious, open and tactful while holding it inside. Men don't just fall for an easy person. They may chose one to make life easier or as a safe place. But they take care of someone they value. They become more attentive, gentle, invest more, etc. Just remember, this is the core: to be someone who creates and holds the value.
That's so true ! I've been married to a man who drained me because I wanted to be easy to handle - he took advantage of me and never invested . I finally got divorced and got to know a great man - I've learned with him to be receptive and it feels soooo good. Great relationship now- we got married two months ago 😍
A clean home is part of self care. Women feel better to engage in self-care in a clean and inviting home atmosphere. It’s not just about staying busy for many women. But you’re right the effort is not always worth losing your free time over.
@@rasbot2 This is what I think happened in the 50's. Correct me if I'm wrong. Remembering that God created everything perfect. I think men undervalued the roll of the woman being the home maker. They made us feel that earning money was way more important than making a home for our family. And women believed that lie and just to show them they said "ok making money is more important, I can do that" and off to work she went. Who suffered? We all suffered. who cooked healthy meals for the family? Who takes the kids to the doctors, who helps them with their home work? Who wakes up during the night to give them water when you hear them coughing? Who is welcoming our kids home after School? Nobody. This might seem unimportant, earning money sure beats this. But you'd be wrong. We don't give any credit to our home makers. Our home gives us confidence in this world, it's our sanctuary, it's where everyone that loves us is. A mother who doesn't neglect us is priceless. We take it for granted when we have it. When we don't have it causes disasters such as, poor student, molestation, mal nutrition, bullying, criminal activity... the list goes on. So now women have both jobs earning money and making a home for their children. So what do we need a man for? We don't, so we kick him out and now she's a single mother raising kids on her own. No matter how good of a mother you are a woman can never be a father. She can't raise her boys to be good men. She doesn't know how. She does the best but the result falls short. Her boys grow up not knowing what a man's roll is in the family. They still have that responsibility they just don't know how to accomplish it because they have never seen it done. All their life mom handled it all. Now his wife will have the children and also be expected to work . And this cycle continues. When they say "they don't make men like they used to" they are right we don't. I've come to realize the things I love about men are all the things I don't have, like their decisiveness, their strength, the respect the world gives them, their rough hands, the way they men love and last but most important of course... you know. Men are also under valued by us and themselves I'm sad to say. Although good men ARE hard to find I still love them and need them and I don't want to live in a world where they're not there. This is just my opinion. Do you agree or disagree?
I was told by my companion that he loves my femininity. I didn't understand what he meant and I didn't ask him to elaborate. Here I am, trying to gain more understanding 🤣🤣 I think it's also imperative to have a man that allows a woman to be feminine. Because I feel so loved by him, I don't mind showing my vulnerability. I don't mind cooking for him, massaging him. We laugh together, we talk about everything 🥰
My man went to another town to pick up a desk I had seen on the side of the road lol. He had to locate it because I didn’t know the exact location lol. Then when he brought it to me, he actually fixed it up, nailed some places down etc. he did that! I would sometimes feel like I’m spoiled, or asking for unreasonable things etc. but he wants to make me happy and he goes above and beyond to do that. He comes over every day to clean my litter box and take out my trash! It’s so nice to be taken care of like that
This is so true. I was hurt so bad before meeting my husband. He was so freaking sweet, funny, and genuine that I didn't think he was real. I tried to run, and I saw how upset he was and how much he cared for me and my son, and it made me feel bad. Then I remembered the prayer I prayed to God, and I was very specific on what I wanted in a man. He reminded me that this is what I asked for, so let go and trust. So I did, and I have been with him for 8 years.
This is Gold. Any woman who runs with this will surely attract a good man in no time. I especially love number 6, that was the deal breaker with my ex. Ladies, please don't be too walled up and see every joke as a threat or a reason to get offended. Stephan is spilling out hard facts. You're God sent.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks it's a pleasure to be connected with you. I've shared this video with a close friend of mine. I'm sure she'll find it as valuable as I did
Bravo!!! I've listened to many of your videos and sincerely appreciate the way you convey these valued points. This video is my favorite so far!! Thank you and God bless you.
I think it depends honestly, if he’s not a good man he’s gonna constantly joke about things that are hurtful to you and then claim you’re being too sensitive when you get hurt by it… joking and sarcasm is amazing and healthy in small doses, the wrong man won’t have the common sense not to cross certain lines in the name of “joking”.
"You don't have time? NO. You haven't created the structure to MAKE that time." BOOM. I'm a mom and YES yes Y E S to ALL of this. Thank you for uplifting + informing.💎
This is so spot on! I used to be very aggressive with my approach, I would remove my own self care and focus more on the man. After I changed this perspective and focused on me and my femininity I attracted the man I always wanted. Men respect and will cater to a woman who can go within and know her own worth, you have to exude it in your presence everyday.
I was with a man for 10 years feeling like I was over masculine soon as I got with a man with confidence in his masculinity I was instantly softened I instantly realized i loved being submissive and sweet
Exactly! Our souls know what that masculinity is and how should be used an therefore we react instantly. So attractive when a man sits in his masculinity with ease and confidence.
Vulnerability takes courage. Maya Angelou said this much so many times. This is only one of her quotes about love... "Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time."
I have spent so much time around men with my brother and dad initially. I love masculine energy. I love being in my feminine. I genuinely think that’s why I’ve had great relationships with men.
Thank you for sharing that and being honest. I have long known already that healthier upbringings generally breed healthier people. You and others who are honest like you, are an example of that so thank you. It’s refreshing because a lot of people these days who had a good upbringing like to downplay it in order to relate to others but it does more harm than good because then people think that no one around them has had positive examples growing up and that dysfunction is normalized.
There are men that expect a feminine energy but expect one to do all the work as masculine. That's why I take care of me self care single because can't Deal with toxic men who don't lead and act more feminine than masculine. So I use my feminine energy self care for myself. Thanks for sharing much needed 🙏❤🙌💕💙♥
With u there.. these dudes seemly in 2021 are being too feminine but complain abt woman taking charge.. im over it..I give the dude I speak to attention and more yet still he's abt self. Say he don't want someone using him 4 $ but always taking abt his $.. what's ur character like with it dude
This is so on point. My beloved is a very masculine man he always tells me my feminine energy,soft voice,gentle touch is what made him fall in love with me🥰.
Yep, As a single female, I kinda got use to doing what needed to be done. With my overly independence, I find it hard to ask for help, or allow help to be given. Gotta work on this big time.
Wow. I needed this. I didn’t realize how much I lost of my femininity by coping with trama. I lost myself. I was turning masculine without even realizing it. Then I started attracting the wrong type of man.
I am in a new relationship which is different then any relationship before. I have learned to relax, not thinking so negative so much, and enjoying each other's company. I have learned to tap in to my feminine side more. I never really dressed 👗 up but my partner ask for me to wear a dress once. He loves it so I on occasion wear a dress and feel so comfortable and beautiful. I was put down by past partners for anything. My partner tells me how proud he is of me working hard and going to college. He helps me sometimes with homework and he does his office work when I do homework. We both love that support we give each other. I hope everyone finds love in them self. This will help you find love in a partner when it is time. ❤
His #3 should be called, "A masculine man doesn't want you to talk to him like your his Moma" . I saw this in action when I was working in a school office years ago; and I saw a Black male child psychologist and a Black female staff. She was a single mom. He was 1 of 3 men on the whole staff roster. They both were in the office and she said something to him as if she was his mother. It was a directive with authority. He responded calmly, but his words were effective. I can't remember what he said, but his words humbled her. She tried to be nicer, but the damage was done. He did not see her favorably for the rest of the school year. This was very good information. I bless you young man.
I am realizing that I could’ve been more feminine in my last relationship, even though he was draining my energy to the max. There were so many issues but maybe it would’ve been less draining if I was more persuasive than demanding. Always appreciate these videos
All facts. For the first time in my life, I am walking in my femininity on all levels from a healed place. That’s why every word spoken resonates with me. I love how careful, mindful, aware and intentional you are with every word that you speak. That’s how one knows that it’s all coming from a place of love. Thanks for edifying us the way that you do.
I cried in the part where he said “that’s what got me hurt before” I’m going to be fearless and feminine. I feel my natural energy is feminine and I know I can get it back.
I know this is an old comment, but the way you said “fearless and feminine” just made me realize that’s exactly it! It’s so brave to be open and feminine👏👏
I'm very blessed to say that I have a partner that has these conversations with me fairly often. And giving me pointers and tips towards how I speak to him. And your third point about being persuasive instead of dictating is right on the money. I feel like I come across very demanding and telling him what to do instead of requesting him to take what I have to say in the consideration. And he tells me that that is something that I need to work on.
I love being feminine! This really works ladies. I will have a man doing everything! They love it and whenever and with my husband and at a party with male friends you can see other man drawn to you because you are feminine and knows how to keep yourself smelling so good.
1) Honesty, 2) Affection 3) Mutual value in each other 4) Communication 5)Sense Of Humor6)NICE shape 7)Freakiness in sex with me 8)Doesn't ALWAYS ask for money 9) has own interests that will make me ADMIRE/DIG them more.......
I go into EVERY relationship, absolutely feminine. Yes, I am strong..but not so independent that I won't let a man be there for me. I ended up with a dude that did not want to do for me. He pretended he didn't see my needs, or made up excuses why he couldn't do for me. It was really bad. I never knew toxic masculinity until I met him. He even told me if he did anything for me financially that I was a prostitute for expecting anything from him but sex and time. Totally different spill from everything he said to get me. When I told him how men operate and used his dad as a perfect example he got angry and would deflect his flaws by bringing up other guys. He was so insecure I could not even walk in front of him. Even if I was running to get out of the cold🤦🏽♀️
Wow! I have a man in my life that just wants to do for me and take care of me and I find it hard to accept his gifts. I don't want him to think that I'm using him and I struggle with that as being feminine. He is very generous he pays for everything .
I have had a hard time cause I don’t want them to think I owe anything because that’s what I went through in the past, some men do stuff for and you accept it but they always try you, like try to get some sex out of it or something sexual.
I appreciate this video. Growing up in an abusive home and living on my own from so early, I was hyper independent and I only now realize how damaging that was. This honestly has me in tears because I feel like I spent decades being frustrated unnecessarily, so wish I had found you sooner :(
Thank you for speaking for me, this got me into tears , the life I have lived from trying to make a living alone at a tender age has ripped me off my feminity, i have lost good men coz of this , I feel like I need therapy😔, I miss being soft n tender, n more feminine🙏
I’m learning that trying to control/force a man and manipulate him (even subtlety) and not being able to accept “no” is also masculine. A lot of us want to control and it’s so much easier to let go and allow.
I have learned through my experience that I need to take care of myself first and love who I am before I can really project positivity to others. I notice that when I focus on improving myself physically, the mental is also improved. I totally agree that choice of words play a big role toward the reaction from men.
I am a very feminine woman. Men are very attracted to me. Femininity is not weakness or stupidity or naivity. Being independent is not a masculine trait. I am independent, but also am very feminine. Being feminine means also that I know how to stroke mens ego so that they feel respected and appreciated. When a man offers to do something for me: if I am not interested in having a sexual relationship with him I reject his help or I pay money for his help. Only if I am interested in having a sexual relationahip with him, will I let him help me and I will not pay him money for it. The reason I do that, is that I want people to know that I am not having sex with men I am not in an official relationhip with.
This resonated in my entire soul and I’m married!!!!! These tips are wonderful for any woman--single, divorced, married, widowed. Whoever. Keep dropping the knowledge King.
WOW‼️ I have checked off everything in my femininity toolbox. 🙌🏽 This is awesome because it made me look at the men that pursues me more. I’ve always been the type that knew what I want. Men are attracted to me like magnets and I typically make good choices. They become obsessive too soon and want to possess me. I don’t like the clingy over zealous undertones. Thank you so much for the enlightenment. 👑❤️
Interesting you sound like a competent business woman which has a lot of masculine energies and inadvertently attracting guys who are seeing in you what they lack in themselves. Explains the clinginess? Possible?
Same here! My youngest started at 4 folding clothes and 7 washing and drying with help. Kids are capable of doing so much more than we think. We just have to learn to be patient as we teach.
Same! And by the time they were 12 they were taking care of everything that had to do with themselves, and they had an extra chore, to contribute to the home!
Positivity is fine when its genuine. My last relationship ended because I was expected to pretend to be happy no matter what. There were things outside our relationship that were causing me a lot of fear and distress and when I expressed that, I was pushed away and told to get mental help. So I walked away from the relationship because aint nobody got time for that gas lighting crap.
Famous go to when men get called out for ""not being appropriate with people outside your relationship " saying your crazy is better than the truth . That YOU ARE SEEING EXACTLY WHAT INAPPROPRIATE THING HE IS DOING!!!😊❤🎉
This video is a breath of fresh air! I really needed to hear this. Some things I have been doing without realizing the negative impact it had on the men I dated. These cycle that I have been in is coming to an end today! Thank you Stephan for walking in your purpose!
#4 hit home brought tears to my eyes, I've been telling my self "SELF LOVE SELF CARE"..I feel overwhelmed because It hard to get time to myself.trying to make sure everyone else needs are fulfilled.and I have been noticing a huge change n my relationship due to the lack of being able to recharge..I can't move any steps further til I can get myself right on all levels you spoke on.. We all go thru challenging times in life and some of our actions show, from the challenge.. I'm glad I came across this..a good reminder to self improvement.
Seeing this 2 years later and I have to say this is one of your best videos. Everything you say Stephen is so on point in every video, but this really hit home in a lot of ways for me. As a single mom of two older teens, I definitely understand about being in a masculine energy at times because you have to be so responsible and provide. Yet I am very open to allowing a male show his masculine energy and sometimes when I feel like they don’t I’m then disappointed. Thanks to you. I have found someone that I’m dating now for almost 8 months but recently we got into very deep conversation where I was trying to explain some things where I didn’t feel like he did show a masculine energy. I did not word it that way, but it’s what I felt. Not too sure how we are going to navigate around this one. Thanks for all you teach and share!! 🙏🏼💜
Thank you soo much for this video, Stephan! Thanks to your book, I’m in the process of healing. I have never had a male role model in my life that demonstrated in a loving way his alpha leadership. Being exposed to sexual abuse as a child and seeing my mother go through domestic violence only allowed me to take on the role of an alpha independent woman. This has also caused me to attract the wrong men which failed. I’m tired of “raising men” as you mentioned in one of your videos. I’m longing for inter-dependence. Right now I’m loving myself, putting God first, and writing my letters to those who hurt me. Appreciate you and all the information you are providing in order to heal, move forward, and be prepared for the one.
Married for 23 years. Everything you say is still SO TRUE. Even as a stay at home mom, I always hustled with online businesses in an attempt to feel like I was financially helping my husband, even when he made enough and we didn't really need my side income. Growing up, I was taught to be a tomboy by a negative minded tomboy mother who didn't know how to teach me to be a girl. It's only now as I hit my mid 40's that I'm learning to allow my feminine energy to come out, even though I've always secretly yearned to be more feminine. Thank you so much for every video on your channel, every single one is filled with multiple tips that are really hitting home for me.
"One of the first times in a long time where she felt like a woman." Yes, so true! I realized that out in public, I would have this hard, cold stare so no creeps would talk to me. But this bled into other situations. I began to wear more dresses, and added more skirts and flowery, flowy, feminine pieces into my wardrobe. Lol, now I have been talking to a good man who is certainly masculine. It does work! Yes, smile more, be a good listener, learn to receive. One of my friends has had a hard time getting guys to ask her out. The one main reason is because she is tapping into that harder, "masculine energy," and does not know the difference between flirting, and "just being nice," or how to receive. A straight, masculine man does not want to essentially date another "man" and vie for power at home when he is already doing that in the workforce.
I am a feminine woman and have gotten more so with age. Smiling is literally self softening and these men never get smiled at. ❤ it’s beautiful to see their countenance change when approached with love
I was told I was unapproachable to the opposite sex and it hurt to hear it from my sister but after 4 years of harbouring the pain, I let it go and decided to become vulnerable with myself first, and delved deep into my soul to see what needed to be shaken up a little and realised that there were 3 men vying for my attention at the same time. I had to heal myself first and I then became open and approachable. I also decided to start living in the now instead of watching the biological clock counting down... I then became more positive because of it. Thank you for putting this video up - It was necessary lol
@@christinalewis2354 hi, yes I did and if I didn't I wouldn't have realized how much of a gentle, genuine and beautiful person he is (& it's not a facade) 🤗🤭 The other was a basket case (became and still is obsessive and manipulating)-lucky escape, the other is now a good friend. Wins all-round Ps I've also automatically become a lot more 'fluent' in expressing my feminine energy because of how much of a gentleman he is 🥹
@@sumayakenan6955 I truly believe we can heal ourselves when we take responsibility for having accepted to be treated in certain way and accepted we made a mistake. Take responsibility give us strength to look for balance through therapy, to be focused in things we want achieve and have faith that the right person will show up when we least expect. A new person can come into your life before you find yourself cured 100%. The other perso can actually speed up this process because he will mirror things you still need to work on.
You’re so wrong about the mama’s boy! Men who are so devoted to their moms that they fail to be a “man” to their wives are usually emotionally held hostage by their moms who have a lot of underlying issues going on, and rarely are those mothers exuding caring / nurturing qualities. Also these men may not have grown emotionally as they’re always trying to be in the good books of their mothers thereby failing to protect their wives and children. This often drives the woman to adopt more masculine traits in order to survive or protect their kids. And when these women try to be nurturing and caring for that man it many a times creates an environment of abuse.
The single most transformational piece of information I stumbled across in my search for trying to understand romantic attraction that transitions into life-long commitment was understanding the power in female/male polarity built within these two real energies. I can literally drop into my feminine energy by listening to my fav trigger romance songs, float through a grocery store and watch the trail of masculine men, young and old, catch their attention as they experience the allure of the energy shift floating by. Ladies learn what does it for you, slow it down, let yourself feel into the depths of your enchanting delights...let the curious little girl inside, guide you...so powerful!♥
Hi Stephan, I truly appreciate this video. It is important to note that some things you spoke about were reminders of why we as women need to fully embrace ourselves as women and something's you spoke about gave me more insight into the responsibility we have as women to allow our qualities to reflect who we are. I've had some genuine experiences in my life that taught me to be who I am created to be. One in particular, is how we are everything for everybody and we forget about ourselves. We are so self sacrificing that we don't know that we give away what we need for ourselves. When we do that, and it doesn't seem to be appreciated, we become disappointed and even angry at times, because we gave more than we should've. I had to learn that some of the things you give out to others, via, family, children, relationships and so forth, aren't meant for them, there are somethings that are meant to remain within you to allow you not to be completely depleted. Sometimes we feel that we don't have enough time and that with the time we have it's already dished out to everyone and everything in our lives. However, if anything can be gained from reading this message, with all due respect, you cannot be something to someone that you cannot be for yourself. If you don't have the time then make the time with what time you have. Everything doesn't have to get done within a day. Even though that was not the entire message, start with some things and add as you go along to build into a better you. Ladies we have it, all those qualities Stephan spoke about, some of us have just lost or forgotten them along life's journey and we have to reclaim them. Awesome message Stephan, appreciate you 👍👏🙏😊❤💯
Stephan You are truly a blessing....I recently brought your book love after heartbreak and have been listening to your advice and have decided to take a timeout to heal...one morning while writing the list...I broke down and cried so much because I didn't realize how much I had been abused as a child and this opened my understanding why I looked to relationships for love ....I feel so much better inside as a woman and am learning to love and take better care of myself and dismiss anyone who comes into my life and disturbs my peace....love you my brother...keep at it!!!
Preaching! Married for ten years. Our dynamic has shifted heavy recently. I’m still learning how to heal. These videos are truly changing lives. Thank you for bringing peace to the collective. 🙏🙏🙏
I struggled with that in my last relationship. I just read "Love After Heartbreak" I've learned so much! I thank you Stephan for knowledge and wisdom may God continue to bless you my brother 🙏🏾
Goodafternoon a real man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with ! A real man will when’d you roses , help with you with bills , make should you have gas in your car n also take you too work on your off days , communications is key n make should you first properity in his life n also have God in his life too!
Love this…I’ve listened to so many videos from you and have learned and grown a lot. I have 4 of your books so far and currently reading “the man god has for you” and “the daily affirmations”.
Good morning real good man going really luv for you n sacrifice too make you happy . First all about actions n simple things in life . Secondly , he going send you roses , make should bills are paid , car repairs , get away weekend , also make him first no matter what . Third work together as team n communications that ‘s important n also be your self .
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice for you too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with , ask what your’s your plans for in life . A real good man will send you roses , make should you have gas in your car , help with the bills , get away weekend , he will homie you , value you , also going make you feel first properity !
Looking back at my life and past the type of men has killed my feminine energy. The type of men that I have dealt with demanded a lot of me. Being mom and dad, and the bread winner. Those two roles and having to be strong has mentally exhausted me. I just got of a 2 year abusive relationship and it feels so good bc now I can heal myself and focus on me. Men would always asked me why I looked so mad and I never understood why men would say that. I was doing things that I didnt know I was doing.
Thank you so much for your videos. As a female who was in foster care with alot of trauma and a cancer survivor, I became independent and scared to open and rely on others. However, I have healed through therapy and making self-care days once a week, taking myself out, and this video helps me to become more feminine . I need to concentrate on stress as you spoke of since I work as a 911 Crisis Dispatcher for Mental Health. I need to be more approachable and not so hard looking. I will smile more and maybe put a flower in my head! Haha
Great points on feminine qualities. Agree with all of your 9 points. I would say that feminine qualities to me resemble love. Love is nurturing, attentive, kind, gentle, sweet, fun, filled with laughter, joy, receptive to others, compassionate, positive and full of radiance. So embrace love and that would exude all the feminine qualities. Walk in love. Speak with love and that would even change the tone of the conversation. Listen with your heart and that changes the perception of what you hear. To walk in love the happiness must be within us and that projects outwardly as well as becoming healed and whole . Thank you as always for the video. Blessing, and abundance to you.
My son is 10 and his main chore is cutting the grass to give me the time to do other things. Granted I do help with the yard work, but I only (sometimes cut) half the yard and edge. He’s responsible for cleaning his bathroom, his room & game room. And the kitchen only when he cooks for himself. Everything else I will take care of it. I find ways to make time for what I want. Quite frankly it’s a must!
Women leading the way and men going into their feminine energy, for me is the most impactful tip in this video. When I come across a man who feels uncomfortable or lazy in this position or simply just doesn't get it, I walk away...because I know me & the last thing I want to do is emasculate a man. Therefore, for me, he’s not a fit.
I agreed with everything you said. And honestly I truly believe that when you get closer to God and you begin living a lifestyle that is pleasing to him the things you said becomes natural to a woman. When I grew closer in Christ I begin to see myself like he saw me so walking in my femininity was easy to me. I love being a woman and walking in my truth as a woman. It’s an anointing that all women should have . And the older you become the more you allow your feminine side to lead, and the reason I said that is because your hormones begin to lead but you have to be in control of You and what greater way than to walk and act like a Woman!
Everything said is this video is on point! I've been watching you for a while and I read most of your books and the end results are... I removed myself from toxic relationships, started watering myself, healed, found peace & my purpose, stepped back into my Devine feminine energy and now I am living my dreams with the man of my dreams. God bless you!
This man has insights. Even as a strong and confident, financially secure feminist who doesn't NEED a man, I can see the gems in his delivery. Thank you.
Iv found that not caring what people do, helps you hold that softness. There's a line however, any disrespect isn't tolerated. And you don't attack, you stand firm with your boundaries and speak your truth which even means letting some guys go. Feminine energy is naturally nuturing, giving, understanding and exuding love, even in the hardest times. This is our power, to remain soft in the hardest times.
We're learning...the mindset is definitely shifting on my end ever since I started listening to you and I have some work to do.Honestly, I don't like being in control all the time.Mentally,physically,emotionally,financially,spiritually.I am exhausted.Exuding masculine energy,all day,everyday is exhausting.I'm just ready to allow someone to step in and lead,my spirit tells me that but I'm so flipping guarded...see,that's the part I have to work on,I look back at all my past relationships and I think me being guarded may have saved me from a whole lot of emotional damage as well and I'm thankful for that but I can't locate the stop button now...where is the stop button.
Start with trusting God to take care of you. Acknowledge Him for taking care of you - past, present, & future. Thank Him. This always puts me in a state where I feel cuddled up on his lap. Let your heart be filled with His love.
I appreciate the points you made in this video. I'm an "A" personality. It's very difficult for me to tap into full blown feminine energy but I do have my moments. Now I'm able to better understand what is happening in my relationships.
When I first started my healing process, I craved for my feminine energy to be restored. As I did the work on myself, it all showed up. Thanks Stephen, your work is wonderful!
I almost never comment on these platforms but you kept showing up in my algorithm so I gave this video a shot, and i like the way you relay the message without ego . A lot better and more effectively than the others. Thank you😊
These were the ladies of yesterday, but we were told to be independent for so long that we lost our femininity. we have to relearn to be feminine again..thanks Stephen great video❤
Funny enough I recently got told by my female boss that I need to be more aggressive/less agreeable in my job as an assistant to all. I was confused because that's not my nature or how I was raised plus I get along with everybody. A few months later I realized why some women are successful in their careers. People don't like them and yes they are aggressive and less agreeable more as you go up the ladder. I also realized that a career in corp America is not for me. My husband and I agree that one day I'll be home with our kids. They don't want a boss they want a nurturing mother. I say this because if you want a career, go get it, be that modern woman. You"ll get 💰. But if you're not about your career it's OK. That's not for you and your husband will love your femininity.
Good morning real good man will show actions n sacrifice too make you happy ! All men not the same it ‘s the simple things that ‘s cost . First, send her roses , car repairs , bill paid , take her work on your self off days ! Secondly make should she’s happy n also be their for her good times n Bad ! Good men finish last I ‘ m looking too be someone husband !
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice for you too make you happy , also ask what ‘s you need help with, what ‘s your future goals ! A real good man will make should you have gas in your car , send your roses , help with the bills , put God first in his life , also make effort too balance his life with you . A real man be about actions , not talking but show he really seriously about you !
You are spot on ! We need to allow a man to be a man and remember to treat them with respect and love. They will return it!! Ladies do not get bitter.... get BETTER!
Thank you for this wise wisdom. I realize alot of my masculine energy comes from how I was raised and the fear of "getting got". So now I am working on digging deep, healing and recognizing my feminity is a GOOD thing! All 9 are so vital. Thank you.
I love this guy, I have learned and reconfirmed so much through his videos. As per this video, and doubling back to what he says, women need to be selective. Y’all are depleted because y’all invested in men who were unable to deposit back into you all the things you required and then if the right guy comes along that negative energy that y’all have built up for yourselves in the name of being strong and independent pushes that guy away. Spend time with yourself, figuring out who you are, what you need, build up that confidence and stay there (feminine energy) so that when the right guy comes along, you don’t miss that opportunity.
No. Thank you! I discovered you after a failed relationship that seemed impossible to get over. Your words help me to realize my own deficiencies and to heal and also improve my compass as to what to look for and how to address things in a relationship. Your God sent man. Thank you for your wisdom. May God continue to use you and bless you!!! Greetings all the way from Jamaica 🇯🇲 😃🤜🏽
Good real man hard too find willing too sacrifice too show you he seriously about you n also actions . A real man will take the burden off you n also do the simple things in life too keep his woman first of all send her roses, making should car repairs are done , bill are paid , also take you work on your off days . Thirdly , get away weekend n values his time too you only !
Thank you for this Video 🔥 I feel so good about my future relationship. It took me some time to truly understand what it meant to fully be in my feminine energy. After 4 yrs…. I totally get it now and the Man I’m seeing now is totally masculine (Thank God) and his first words to me were…. “When I saw you come into the party… the way you greeted your friends was amazing. It was your energy that made me come and talk to you!” We literally had a convo about kids and marriage.
I love that after years of being fearful to have a relationship, due to a past horrible marriage. I’m able to share my Life with a masculine man and I’m able to be a feminine lady, who desires to serve the Man of God that God hand delivered ❤️
I agree with as a woman you have to be selective in the quality of men you choose. If you choose a deadbeat man, that's what you will attract. That happen to me in my last relationship, where I had to be the leader as he gave me no choice as the man would not or chose not to walk in his masculinity. I believe he is unable to and will just keep moving to one woman to the next, as he is struggling with his sexuality.
Beautifully spoken! You’re helping so many see the reality of what healing means. Bravo, sir! To open the heart, and let down the walls requires a willingness to see the limitations we’ve placed on yourself to “protect” yourself. An open heart means being loving and compassionate toward yourself first (healing your wounds first), so you can offer those same things to a partner. You must be it to attract it. Everything you’ve said here was me before going on a healing journey. It’s amazing how much more loving, grounded and centered you become once you nurture your traumas and wounds. The blinders of your pain release and you see the world through happy lenses. And with that, you learn how to be a vessel of love who knows how to speak to others with respect (the feminine essence) and also receive the same in return :)
Very good points Stephan....thank you! It is sometimes hard to practice all of these things with the stress of life and yes it does take a toll...along with being hurt in the past and healing from the past of failed relationships where you were "using your feminine energy" and was taken advantage of.
Smiling more - I agree with this. I love meeting people and when you show that positive energy by smiling you will then notice how people would like to talk to you and flock around you. This was also the reason I get to make friends and meet some potential but be careful as you will attract the wrong ones as well but smiling really works.
❤️ Join my SPECIAL coaching program here 👉 www.receivingmyblessings.com 👈 so many women are experiencing amazing results!
Anytime Thank you! 🙋🏻♀️
Lindelwa Twalo lqqqw
No
A lot of men like women with multiple partners that excites them. And their own kind of breed because other breeds seem to be stupid in their eyes. When in reality we just think different and act different.
Stephan not everyone is hungry for a relationship.Some men like throw it in your face when they suppose to do it.
Boy...call me..........
I believe feminine energy in a woman is heightened when they are being respected and feel protected by appropriate and safe masculine energy.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you more than welcome❤️
This is true. When women have been told I got you too many times and let down. When women have to do it themselves masculine energy develops
1000%, just met a man like this. I am the only girl with 2 brothers and ALL boy cousins. Naturally, I’m a tomboy but he puts that shit on the back burner. I’ve never worn so much makeup
@@millicentjennette7032 Exactly 💯
People don’t realize you can be soft/ feminine without being naive.
You're absolutely right. Femininity is snot weakness!
That’s a powerful statement and I am just able to see that at 50. I believe it’s an art … most of us have never seen it in done correctly from our mothers … either we become harden because how we see our mothers and our mantra becomes i wish a n would or you become a doormat .. some black women are awaking but now we need help to get there 🙂
Correct
Exactly.
Working on that
1. More Open and Receptive
2. Being positive - smiling more, being positive with words, attitude, overall energy
3. Knowing how to persuade, not dictate. Not telling him what to do.
4. Practicing self care and keeping yourself up - appearance, mentally, emotionally, spiritually etc
5. Being attentive and considerate - encouraging, supportive, like their mothers(most) do. Be approachable.
6. Being lighthearted and have a sense of humour- peaceful, joyful, playful, fun, taking jokes as they are, not easily offended. Helping him relax.
7. Listen and learn - not throwing things back at his face, processing what he really said and not misinterpreting, assuming and analysing. Learning his desires, how he works, his love language.
8. Being selective - not easily gotten, not being for everybody.
8. Being willing to embrace his lead - trust his leadership
Those are things I want in a man or anyone. LOL
In Jesus name💓
The ladies having the qualities from 1 to 7 can’t easily let an ordinary man lead them anymore. This’s the contradiction
@Eva To XU this is it! And, for women like this means that we ourselves aren't ordinary. So men should remember this as well.
Wow! I can't help but wonder what you bring to the table?
I was born feminine but became a tomboy at a young age to protect my body from harm, then became Feminine again at 17 when I realized how pretty I was but then became hardened because I didn’t receive the protection and safety from all the men in my life, I’m finally feminine again at age 44. I hope I receive the love I deserve. 🌹
I pray that you do!!!
Test the theory,I’m ready to give love and receive honer..
I’m just now figuring it out at 42…
Same story 🫶
There’s all type of women loved by many types of women. Not everyone has to be a kitten in a fuzzy pink sweater
I LOVE being a woman. Femininity is to be enjoyed.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I agree. I love when a man wants to take care of me.
Femininity is so sexy.
Same!!
Absolutely!
Married 25 years!!!!! Everything you said is so true!!! As Black women we all need to strive to live in our Femininity, please do not let past relationships and heartache harden you!
Too late. I'm done. Besides I'm 50. Happy for other's and very happy to learn these traits without being committed to one person.
Some of already are in the space because we are raised by feminine women and we saw the outcome of it
I'm dealing with a man that acts like that, I decided to communicate this to him Emden I return from where I am. Won't continue like this💯I listen to him and more.. he just don't deliver fully based off another chic. Woman power🥰
We have to try to stop being in masculine positions. We need more masculine men
@@jucyjay8398 Expound more,like where exactly?
Women having to do so much, including providing and protecting for themselves makes it hard for them to be operating in their feminine energy. We need more masculine men that are more providers/protectors, so that women do not have to work so hard and can be their more femine self. Great teaching.
💯. It starts with the fathers
@@MountedHands Very true. Unfortunately a very high percentage of fathers are not active in their children's lives.
So true!!
@@missj5564 many of them are not in the life because some vengeful mothers don't want the father to be in the baby's life. Others are either fbois and men who were tricked into pregnancy.
@@masterdevoe2519 lies
When I married my husband I did as you said and embraced wanting to be healed. He was so far ahead of me in this, and because I trusted him I slid into this feminine role without even noticing how or why I was doing it. His masculinity just brought it out. And every hiccup we have had along the way I have since learned was me trying to step back into the masculine role. You and Adrian Everheart have literally named the things I was doing wrong in your talks. Listen up ladies, what they are teaching is so spot on.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
Love Mrs Everheart she is such a soft Queen
I'm so pissed right now just came across this dude on a humbug!🤐😁 I just came out of a situation that he broke down in another video as if he was THERE !!! Being with a SAFE man...but BABY when he caught on. What I learned is that I was also his SAFE woman when he FINALLY got the slight attention of the woman he'd been chasing for yrs...all of this (unbeknownst to me). I ACTUALLY took the op to run b/c I could not have it both ways. I took the opportunity to ESCAPE b/c we had become codependent 👋. I'm learning to redirect my energy elsewhere while I learn to stand on my femininity. It is GLORIOUS, thanku GOD!
❤
Then you’re lucky to have a healthy masculine man…. It seems to me there are none left.
Feminine Qualities
1. Be open and receptive to kind gestures from men. Allow your man do for you, be vulnerable. Masculine men wants to provide for you, allow them. Let them feel needed.
2. Being positive and encouraging: for example; smile more which is easy if you are at peace with yourself.
3. Know how to persuade and not dictate: use more soft energy, it's more effective than being aggressive. Talk to your man politely.
4. Practice self-care, take good care of yourself and how you look. Make time for yourself. Dress more feminine; use bright colours (floral).
5. Be attentive, nurturing and considerate.
6. Be playful, lighthearted, don't be too serious but be joyful. Enjoy life and help your partner relax.
7. Be willing to listen and learn, be cooperative.
8. Be selective about who gets into your circle. Be mindful of clicks, have standard with the kind of men that comes around you.
9. Be willing to be led by your partner, be subservient to your man for a successful relationship.
As a finally healing person I must admit that this list is great and effective BUT in order to be treasured and respected you need to hold self-respect first. Make it soft, kind and everything just never ever lose it and don't let to violate it. Be gracious, open and tactful while holding it inside.
Men don't just fall for an easy person. They may chose one to make life easier or as a safe place. But they take care of someone they value. They become more attentive, gentle, invest more, etc. Just remember, this is the core: to be someone who creates and holds the value.
But when you're in a relationship you shouldn't be open and receptive to men other than your husband
That's so true ! I've been married to a man who drained me because I wanted to be easy to handle - he took advantage of me and never invested .
I finally got divorced and got to know a great man - I've learned with him to be receptive and it feels soooo good. Great relationship now- we got married two months ago 😍
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Congratulations
Thanks, it is good to know that there is hope.
Congratulations!
A clean home is part of self care. Women feel better to engage in self-care in a clean and inviting home atmosphere. It’s not just about staying busy for many women. But you’re right the effort is not always worth losing your free time over.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
There are lots of house cleaning services. Laundry can be outsourced. I would rather go fishing, gardening or earning money than doing housework.
@@rasbot2
This is what I think happened in the 50's. Correct me if I'm wrong. Remembering that God created everything perfect. I think men undervalued the roll of the woman being the home maker. They made us feel that earning money was way more important than making a home for our family. And women believed that lie and just to show them they said "ok making money is more important, I can do that" and off to work she went. Who suffered? We all suffered. who cooked healthy meals for the family? Who takes the kids to the doctors, who helps them with their home work?
Who wakes up during the night to give them water when you hear them coughing? Who is welcoming our kids home after School? Nobody. This might seem unimportant, earning money sure beats this. But you'd be wrong. We don't give any credit to our home makers. Our home gives us confidence in this world, it's our sanctuary, it's where everyone that loves us is. A mother who doesn't neglect us is priceless. We take it for granted when we have it. When we don't have it causes disasters such as, poor student, molestation, mal nutrition, bullying, criminal activity... the list goes on. So now women have both jobs earning money and making a home for their children. So what do we need a man for? We don't, so we kick him out and now she's a single mother raising kids on her own. No matter how good of a mother you are a woman can never be a father. She can't raise her boys to be good men. She doesn't know how. She does the best but the result falls short. Her boys grow up not knowing what a man's roll is in the family. They still have that responsibility they just don't know how to accomplish it because they have never seen it done. All their life mom handled it all. Now his wife will have the children and also be expected to work . And this cycle continues. When they say "they don't make men like they used to" they are right we don't. I've come to realize the things I love about men are all the things I don't have, like their decisiveness, their strength, the respect the world gives them, their rough hands, the way they men love and last but most important of course... you know. Men are also under valued by us and themselves I'm sad to say. Although good men ARE hard to find I still love them and need them and I don't want to live in a world where they're not there. This is just my opinion. Do you agree or disagree?
@@ameternal2012 agrees 👍
LOLUZt) U Qeta z%WU) LL%Lqkl
1m
I am my most feminine self when I feel safe, loved, respected and understood by the man I am with
I was told by my companion that he loves my femininity. I didn't understand what he meant and I didn't ask him to elaborate. Here I am, trying to gain more understanding 🤣🤣 I think it's also imperative to have a man that allows a woman to be feminine. Because I feel so loved by him, I don't mind showing my vulnerability. I don't mind cooking for him, massaging him. We laugh together, we talk about everything 🥰
You still didn't hear him LISTEN
BABY!!! A man will drive an hour to build you a dresser at midnight behind feminine energy! True story!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Yess Queen!!
My man went to another town to pick up a desk I had seen on the side of the road lol. He had to locate it because I didn’t know the exact location lol. Then when he brought it to me, he actually fixed it up, nailed some places down etc. he did that! I would sometimes feel like I’m spoiled, or asking for unreasonable things etc. but he wants to make me happy and he goes above and beyond to do that. He comes over every day to clean my litter box and take out my trash! It’s so nice to be taken care of like that
Lol true
That’s awesome. Just make sure you’re showing love with acts of femininity. Men will try so hard but often modern women do not do anything.
This is so true. I was hurt so bad before meeting my husband. He was so freaking sweet, funny, and genuine that I didn't think he was real. I tried to run, and I saw how upset he was and how much he cared for me and my son, and it made me feel bad. Then I remembered the prayer I prayed to God, and I was very specific on what I wanted in a man. He reminded me that this is what I asked for, so let go and trust. So I did, and I have been with him for 8 years.
Woo!!!!!
God Bless You.🙏❤️🙏
You will radiance feminine energy with the right man 😊
Absolutely!
You are so right. I for one couldn’t bring out that feline radiance in me Bcs I feel I’m with the wrong man who wants things his way.
@@Dhatgirlbecca_ with u there
Totally 👍🏾
This is Gold. Any woman who runs with this will surely attract a good man in no time. I especially love number 6, that was the deal breaker with my ex. Ladies, please don't be too walled up and see every joke as a threat or a reason to get offended. Stephan is spilling out hard facts. You're God sent.
❤ 🙂 Thank you very much I appreciate your feedback!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks it's a pleasure to be connected with you. I've shared this video with a close friend of mine. I'm sure she'll find it as valuable as I did
@@alanstevens75 Thank you for sharing I appreciate your support ❤
Bravo!!! I've listened to many of your videos and sincerely appreciate the way you convey these valued points. This video is my favorite so far!! Thank you and God bless you.
I think it depends honestly, if he’s not a good man he’s gonna constantly joke about things that are hurtful to you and then claim you’re being too sensitive when you get hurt by it… joking and sarcasm is amazing and healthy in small doses, the wrong man won’t have the common sense not to cross certain lines in the name of “joking”.
"You don't have time? NO. You haven't created the structure to MAKE that time." BOOM.
I'm a mom and YES yes Y E S to ALL of this. Thank you for uplifting + informing.💎
Glad you found the video helpful, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!
Absolutely!!! Thank you so much for reminding me…. how to be feminine 🌺
My 2nd husband spoke almost these exact words to me. He was so right. I fixed that by teaching my “grown ass” kids how to do for themselves.
This is so spot on! I used to be very aggressive with my approach, I would remove my own self care and focus more on the man. After I changed this perspective and focused on me and my femininity I attracted the man I always wanted. Men respect and will cater to a woman who can go within and know her own worth, you have to exude it in your presence everyday.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
How did you make the change? How long did it take for him to recognize it?
@Latisha Naomi I guess that's true!
I was with a man for 10 years feeling like I was over masculine soon as I got with a man with confidence in his masculinity I was instantly softened I instantly realized i loved being submissive and sweet
Exactly! Our souls know what that masculinity is and how should be used an therefore we react instantly. So attractive when a man sits in his masculinity with ease and confidence.
This......
There’s a difference between having jokes and being back handed disrespectful.
You're absolutely right!
Shout THIS AGAIN FROM THE ROOF!!❤
Vulnerability takes courage. Maya Angelou said this much so many times. This is only one of her quotes about love... "Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time."
I’ve been in survival mode for so long but I am slowly healing myself so that I can thrive in my femininity 💕 thank you so much for your content.🦋
My pleasure ❤️ and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Same!!!!!
Same here.
I have spent so much time around men with my brother and dad initially. I love masculine energy. I love being in my feminine. I genuinely think that’s why I’ve had great relationships with men.
Thank you for sharing that and being honest. I have long known already that healthier upbringings generally breed healthier people. You and others who are honest like you, are an example of that so thank you. It’s refreshing because a lot of people these days who had a good upbringing like to downplay it in order to relate to others but it does more harm than good because then people think that no one around them has had positive examples growing up and that dysfunction is normalized.
One of my favorite affirmations “I am open and receptive.” ❤️
There are men that expect a feminine energy but expect one to do all the work as masculine. That's why I take care of me self care single because can't Deal with toxic men who don't lead and act more feminine than masculine. So I use my feminine energy self care for myself. Thanks for sharing much needed 🙏❤🙌💕💙♥
Glad I could help!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thanks 😊
With u there.. these dudes seemly in 2021 are being too feminine but complain abt woman taking charge.. im over it..I give the dude I speak to attention and more yet still he's abt self. Say he don't want someone using him 4 $ but always taking abt his $.. what's ur character like with it dude
I have not met a man that lead.
This is so on point. My beloved is a very masculine man he always tells me my feminine energy,soft voice,gentle touch is what made him fall in love with me🥰.
Because that's your attributes that we tend to fall weak for
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
I AM GUILTY OF NOT ACCEPTING HELP & I NEED TO WORK ON THIS AREA . THANK YOU STEPHAN 💙💙💙
My pleasure ❤
It isn’t your fault. You haven’t had people you could depend on. Be gentle and you will get there. What I did was develop self trust. Start there
+2348103378310⏯💕🖤💕
Yep, As a single female, I kinda got use to doing what needed to be done. With my overly independence, I find it hard to ask for help, or allow help to be given. Gotta work on this big time.
@@VictoriaRodriguez-by3fs be gentle with getting out of that rut. I totally get it
Wow. I needed this. I didn’t realize how much I lost of my femininity by coping with trama. I lost myself. I was turning masculine without even realizing it. Then I started attracting the wrong type of man.
I'm happy this was helpful to you
I am in a new relationship which is different then any relationship before. I have learned to relax, not thinking so negative so much, and enjoying each other's company. I have learned to tap in to my feminine side more. I never really dressed 👗 up but my partner ask for me to wear a dress once. He loves it so I on occasion wear a dress and feel so comfortable and beautiful.
I was put down by past partners for anything. My partner tells me how proud he is of me working hard and going to college. He helps me sometimes with homework and he does his office work when I do homework. We both love that support we give each other.
I hope everyone finds love in them self. This will help you find love in a partner when it is time. ❤
His #3 should be called, "A masculine man doesn't want you to talk to him like your his Moma" . I saw this in action when I was working in a school office years ago; and I saw a Black male child psychologist and a Black female staff. She was a single mom. He was 1 of 3 men on the whole staff roster. They both were in the office and she said something to him as if she was his mother. It was a directive with authority. He responded calmly, but his words were effective. I can't remember what he said, but his words humbled her. She tried to be nicer, but the damage was done. He did not see her favorably for the rest of the school year.
This was very good information. I bless you young man.
❤ 🙂 Thank you for sharing I appreciate that!
I am realizing that I could’ve been more feminine in my last relationship, even though he was draining my energy to the max. There were so many issues but maybe it would’ve been less draining if I was more persuasive than demanding. Always appreciate these videos
All facts. For the first time in my life, I am walking in my femininity on all levels from a healed place. That’s why every word spoken resonates with me. I love how careful, mindful, aware and intentional you are with every word that you speak. That’s how one knows that it’s all coming from a place of love. Thanks for edifying us the way that you do.
Pointers please?
Feel you ♥️ Love and Light 🕊️🤍🕯️🌹
I cried in the part where he said “that’s what got me hurt before” I’m going to be fearless and feminine. I feel my natural energy is feminine and I know I can get it back.
I know this is an old comment, but the way you said “fearless and feminine” just made me realize that’s exactly it! It’s so brave to be open and feminine👏👏
I'm very blessed to say that I have a partner that has these conversations with me fairly often. And giving me pointers and tips towards how I speak to him. And your third point about being persuasive instead of dictating is right on the money. I feel like I come across very demanding and telling him what to do instead of requesting him to take what I have to say in the consideration. And he tells me that that is something that I need to work on.
I love being feminine! This really works ladies. I will have a man doing everything! They love it and whenever and with my husband and at a party with male friends you can see other man drawn to you because you are feminine and knows how to keep yourself smelling so good.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Yes, healing first is very important!
People just have to take a chance and be open if they really want true love to come into their lives.
You're absolutely right healing is definitely key!
This made my heart smile 🥰. Completely on point and made me call my husband at work and tell him how much I appreciate him ❤️
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
1) Honesty, 2) Affection 3) Mutual value in each other 4) Communication 5)Sense Of Humor6)NICE shape 7)Freakiness in sex with me 8)Doesn't ALWAYS ask for money 9) has own interests that will make me ADMIRE/DIG them more.......
We know most of you are broke anyway so don't worry about anyone "ALWAYS asking for money"
@@lisajohnson1627 Of course, after you went through our wallets in the FIRST place, SMDH....
I go into EVERY relationship, absolutely feminine. Yes, I am strong..but not so independent that I won't let a man be there for me. I ended up with a dude that did not want to do for me. He pretended he didn't see my needs, or made up excuses why he couldn't do for me. It was really bad. I never knew toxic masculinity until I met him. He even told me if he did anything for me financially that I was a prostitute for expecting anything from him but sex and time. Totally different spill from everything he said to get me. When I told him how men operate and used his dad as a perfect example he got angry and would deflect his flaws by bringing up other guys. He was so insecure I could not even walk in front of him. Even if I was running to get out of the cold🤦🏽♀️
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
Sounds like a narcissist.
Baby, You were dating a Narcissist
Narcissistic males identifying as Men...I pray he didn't drive you crazy
Wow! I have a man in my life that just wants to do for me and take care of me and I find it hard to accept his gifts. I don't want him to think that I'm using him and I struggle with that as being feminine. He is very generous he pays for everything .
I pray that you're able to do what is truly best 🙏
Thank you for the blessings and encouragement. 🌹
Same exact feeling here
I really know this and is tiring
I have had a hard time cause I don’t want them to think I owe anything because that’s what I went through in the past, some men do stuff for and you accept it but they always try you, like try to get some sex out of it or something sexual.
I appreciate this video. Growing up in an abusive home and living on my own from so early, I was hyper independent and I only now realize how damaging that was. This honestly has me in tears because I feel like I spent decades being frustrated unnecessarily, so wish I had found you sooner :(
Thank you for speaking for me, this got me into tears , the life I have lived from trying to make a living alone at a tender age has ripped me off my feminity, i have lost good men coz of this , I feel like I need therapy😔, I miss being soft n tender, n more feminine🙏
By God's grace the best is yet to come. Stay happy. Dwell in your feminity. Stay blessed!!
I’m learning that trying to control/force a man and manipulate him (even subtlety) and not being able to accept “no” is also masculine. A lot of us want to control and it’s so much easier to let go and allow.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I have learned through my experience that I need to take care of myself first and love who I am before I can really project positivity to others. I notice that when I focus on improving myself physically, the mental is also improved. I totally agree that choice of words play a big role toward the reaction from men.
I am a very feminine woman. Men are very attracted to me. Femininity is not weakness or stupidity or naivity. Being independent is not a masculine trait. I am independent, but also am very feminine. Being feminine means also that I know how to stroke mens ego so that they feel respected and appreciated.
When a man offers to do something for me: if I am not interested in having a sexual relationship with him I reject his help or I pay money for his help. Only if I am interested in having a sexual relationahip with him, will I let him help me and I will not pay him money for it. The reason I do that, is that I want people to know that I am not having sex with men I am not in an official relationhip with.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I absolutely love being the feminine woman I am.... Makes my relationship much better
Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing!
Great! Were you already exuding femininity or began to? (It's the "much better" that led to the question.)
Following
@@atlantasfaithsmom following
This resonated in my entire soul and I’m married!!!!! These tips are wonderful for any woman--single, divorced, married, widowed. Whoever. Keep dropping the knowledge King.
WOW‼️ I have checked off everything in my femininity toolbox. 🙌🏽
This is awesome because it made me look at the men that pursues me more.
I’ve always been the type that knew what I want. Men are attracted to me like magnets and I typically make good choices. They become obsessive too soon and want
to possess me. I don’t like the clingy over zealous undertones.
Thank you so much for the enlightenment. 👑❤️
My pleasure ❤
Interesting you sound like a competent business woman which has a lot of masculine energies and inadvertently attracting guys who are seeing in you what they lack in themselves. Explains the clinginess? Possible?
I taught my children how to do their own laundry at 10. Life skills are important!
You too! 10 was the laundry age for my boys.
Same here! My youngest started at 4 folding clothes and 7 washing and drying with help. Kids are capable of doing so much more than we think. We just have to learn to be patient as we teach.
Same! And by the time they were 12 they were taking care of everything that had to do with themselves, and they had an extra chore, to contribute to the home!
Positivity is fine when its genuine. My last relationship ended because I was expected to pretend to be happy no matter what. There were things outside our relationship that were causing me a lot of fear and distress and when I expressed that, I was pushed away and told to get mental help. So I walked away from the relationship because aint nobody got time for that gas lighting crap.
Totally...what's the point if your partner isnt being emotionally supportive.
Famous go to when men get called out for ""not being appropriate with people outside your relationship " saying your crazy is better than the truth . That YOU ARE SEEING EXACTLY WHAT INAPPROPRIATE THING HE IS DOING!!!😊❤🎉
This was so good on all levels! Not just when it comes to dating but for personal growth in general! :) Thank you
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
This video is a breath of fresh air! I really needed to hear this. Some things I have been doing without realizing the negative impact it had on the men I dated. These cycle that I have been in is coming to an end today! Thank you Stephan for walking in your purpose!
Glad I could help 🙏
#4 hit home brought tears to my eyes, I've been telling my self "SELF LOVE SELF CARE"..I feel overwhelmed because It hard to get time to myself.trying to make sure everyone else needs are fulfilled.and I have been noticing a huge change n my relationship due to the lack of being able to recharge..I can't move any steps further til I can get myself right on all levels you spoke on..
We all go thru challenging times in life and some of our actions show, from the challenge..
I'm glad I came across this..a good reminder to self improvement.
Seeing this 2 years later and I have to say this is one of your best videos. Everything you say Stephen is so on point in every video, but this really hit home in a lot of ways for me. As a single mom of two older teens, I definitely understand about being in a masculine energy at times because you have to be so responsible and provide. Yet I am very open to allowing a male show his masculine energy and sometimes when I feel like they don’t I’m then disappointed. Thanks to you. I have found someone that I’m dating now for almost 8 months but recently we got into very deep conversation where I was trying to explain some things where I didn’t feel like he did show a masculine energy. I did not word it that way, but it’s what I felt. Not too sure how we are going to navigate around this one. Thanks for all you teach and share!! 🙏🏼💜
Thank you soo much for this video, Stephan! Thanks to your book, I’m in the process of healing. I have never had a male role model in my life that demonstrated in a loving way his alpha leadership. Being exposed to sexual abuse as a child and seeing my mother go through domestic violence only allowed me to take on the role of an alpha independent woman.
This has also caused me to attract the wrong men which failed. I’m tired of “raising men” as you mentioned in one of your videos. I’m longing for inter-dependence. Right now I’m loving myself, putting God first, and writing my letters to those who hurt me.
Appreciate you and all the information you are providing in order to heal, move forward, and be prepared for the one.
Married for 23 years. Everything you say is still SO TRUE. Even as a stay at home mom, I always hustled with online businesses in an attempt to feel like I was financially helping my husband, even when he made enough and we didn't really need my side income. Growing up, I was taught to be a tomboy by a negative minded tomboy mother who didn't know how to teach me to be a girl. It's only now as I hit my mid 40's that I'm learning to allow my feminine energy to come out, even though I've always secretly yearned to be more feminine. Thank you so much for every video on your channel, every single one is filled with multiple tips that are really hitting home for me.
"One of the first times in a long time where she felt like a woman." Yes, so true! I realized that out in public, I would have this hard, cold stare so no creeps would talk to me. But this bled into other situations. I began to wear more dresses, and added more skirts and flowery, flowy, feminine pieces into my wardrobe. Lol, now I have been talking to a good man who is certainly masculine. It does work! Yes, smile more, be a good listener, learn to receive. One of my friends has had a hard time getting guys to ask her out. The one main reason is because she is tapping into that harder, "masculine energy," and does not know the difference between flirting, and "just being nice," or how to receive. A straight, masculine man does not want to essentially date another "man" and vie for power at home when he is already doing that in the workforce.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I am a feminine woman and have gotten more so with age. Smiling is literally self softening and these men never get smiled at. ❤ it’s beautiful to see their countenance change when approached with love
I was told I was unapproachable to the opposite sex and it hurt to hear it from my sister but after 4 years of harbouring the pain, I let it go and decided to become vulnerable with myself first, and delved deep into my soul to see what needed to be shaken up a little and realised that there were 3 men vying for my attention at the same time. I had to heal myself first and I then became open and approachable. I also decided to start living in the now instead of watching the biological clock counting down... I then became more positive because of it. Thank you for putting this video up - It was necessary lol
@Banana Rae did you choose to entertain any of the men?
Healing is definitely key. Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
@@christinalewis2354 hi, yes I did and if I didn't I wouldn't have realized how much of a gentle, genuine and beautiful person he is (& it's not a facade) 🤗🤭 The other was a basket case (became and still is obsessive and manipulating)-lucky escape, the other is now a good friend. Wins all-round
Ps I've also automatically become a lot more 'fluent' in expressing my feminine energy because of how much of a gentleman he is 🥹
How did u heal yourself ?
@@sumayakenan6955 I truly believe we can heal ourselves when we take responsibility for having accepted to be treated in certain way and accepted we made a mistake. Take responsibility give us strength to look for balance through therapy, to be focused in things we want achieve and have faith that the right person will show up when we least expect. A new person can come into your life before you find yourself cured 100%. The other perso can actually speed up this process because he will mirror things you still need to work on.
You’re so wrong about the mama’s boy! Men who are so devoted to their moms that they fail to be a “man” to their wives are usually emotionally held hostage by their moms who have a lot of underlying issues going on, and rarely are those mothers exuding caring / nurturing qualities. Also these men may not have grown emotionally as they’re always trying to be in the good books of their mothers thereby failing to protect their wives and children. This often drives the woman to adopt more masculine traits in order to survive or protect their kids. And when these women try to be nurturing and caring for that man it many a times creates an environment of abuse.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you!
The single most transformational piece of information I stumbled across in my search for trying to understand romantic attraction that transitions into life-long commitment was understanding the power in female/male polarity built within these two real energies.
I can literally drop into my feminine energy by listening to my fav trigger romance songs, float through a grocery store and watch the trail of masculine men, young and old, catch their attention as they experience the allure of the energy shift floating by.
Ladies learn what does it for you, slow it down, let yourself feel into the depths of your enchanting delights...let the curious little girl inside, guide you...so powerful!♥
Beautifully, wonderfully said!
When he loves his mother in that way disrespecting you run for your life.
Hi Stephan, I truly appreciate this video. It is important to note that some things you spoke about were reminders of why we as women need to fully embrace ourselves as women and something's you spoke about gave me more insight into the responsibility we have as women to allow our qualities to reflect who we are. I've had some genuine experiences in my life that taught me to be who I am created to be. One in particular, is how we are everything for everybody and we forget about ourselves. We are so self sacrificing that we don't know that we give away what we need for ourselves. When we do that, and it doesn't seem to be appreciated, we become disappointed and even angry at times, because we gave more than we should've. I had to learn that some of the things you give out to others, via, family, children, relationships and so forth, aren't meant for them, there are somethings that are meant to remain within you to allow you not to be completely depleted. Sometimes we feel that we don't have enough time and that with the time we have it's already dished out to everyone and everything in our lives. However, if anything can be gained from reading this message, with all due respect, you cannot be something to someone that you cannot be for yourself. If you don't have the time then make the time with what time you have. Everything doesn't have to get done within a day. Even though that was not the entire message, start with some things and add as you go along to build into a better you. Ladies we have it, all those qualities Stephan spoke about, some of us have just lost or forgotten them along life's journey and we have to reclaim them. Awesome message Stephan, appreciate you 👍👏🙏😊❤💯
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
God speaks through you! I absolutely love all these points and how you deliver them.
❤ 🙂 thank you very much!
Stephan
You are truly a blessing....I recently brought your book love after heartbreak and have been listening to your advice and have decided to take a timeout to heal...one morning while writing the list...I broke down and cried so much because I didn't realize how much I had been abused as a child and this opened my understanding why I looked to relationships for love ....I feel so much better inside as a woman and am learning to love and take better care of myself and dismiss anyone who comes into my life and disturbs my peace....love you my brother...keep at it!!!
💕💕💕
Preaching! Married for ten years. Our dynamic has shifted heavy recently. I’m still learning how to heal. These videos are truly changing lives. Thank you for bringing peace to the collective. 🙏🙏🙏
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
I struggled with that in my last relationship. I just read "Love After Heartbreak" I've learned so much! I thank you Stephan for knowledge and wisdom may God continue to bless you my brother 🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing, I'm happy the book has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Goodafternoon a real man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with ! A real man will when’d you roses , help with you with bills , make should you have gas in your car n also take you too work on your off days , communications is key n make should you first properity in his life n also have God in his life too!
@@rashawntaylor4316 Yes I believe that thank you
No problem I keep real n honest good men do get by pass !
Love this…I’ve listened to so many videos from you and have learned and grown a lot. I have 4 of your books so far and currently reading “the man god has for you” and “the daily affirmations”.
Glad to hear that I appreciate your support ❤ thank you for sharing!
Good morning real good man going really luv for you n sacrifice too make you happy . First all about actions n simple things in life . Secondly , he going send you roses , make should bills are paid , car repairs , get away weekend , also make him first no matter what . Third work together as team n communications that ‘s important n also be your self .
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice for you too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with , ask what your’s your plans for in life . A real good man will send you roses , make should you have gas in your car , help with the bills , get away weekend , he will homie you , value you , also going make you feel first properity !
Looking back at my life and past the type of men has killed my feminine energy. The type of men that I have dealt with demanded a lot of me. Being mom and dad, and the bread winner. Those two roles and having to be strong has mentally exhausted me. I just got of a 2 year abusive relationship and it feels so good bc now I can heal myself and focus on me. Men would always asked me why I looked so mad and I never understood why men would say that. I was doing things that I didnt know I was doing.
I understand, you are strong woman and you deserve love
Thank you so much for your videos. As a female who was in foster care with alot of trauma and a cancer survivor, I became independent and scared to open and rely on others. However, I have healed through therapy and making self-care days once a week, taking myself out, and this video helps me to become more feminine . I need to concentrate on stress as you spoke of since I work as a 911 Crisis Dispatcher for Mental Health. I need to be more approachable and not so hard looking. I will smile more and maybe put a flower in my head! Haha
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
❤❤❤❤❤
Your job is not to match his masculinity & power but to remind him of his masculinity & power"!!! Facts Stephen💯
💯 Yes!
how do i do that ?
Great points on feminine qualities. Agree with all of your 9 points. I would say that feminine qualities to me resemble love. Love is nurturing, attentive, kind, gentle, sweet, fun, filled with laughter, joy, receptive to others, compassionate, positive and full of radiance. So embrace love and that would exude all the feminine qualities. Walk in love. Speak with love and that would even change the tone of the conversation. Listen with your heart and that changes the perception of what you hear. To walk in love the happiness must be within us and that projects outwardly as well as becoming healed and whole . Thank you as always for the video. Blessing, and abundance to you.
My son is 10 and his main chore is cutting the grass to give me the time to do other things. Granted I do help with the yard work, but I only (sometimes cut) half the yard and edge. He’s responsible for cleaning his bathroom, his room & game room. And the kitchen only when he cooks for himself. Everything else I will take care of it.
I find ways to make time for what I want. Quite frankly it’s a must!
Femininity makes men wild.
Be alluring and slightly mysterious as well, don't over share on social media.
Women leading the way and men going into their feminine energy, for me is the most impactful tip in this video. When I come across a man who feels uncomfortable or lazy in this position or simply just doesn't get it, I walk away...because I know me & the last thing I want to do is emasculate a man. Therefore, for me, he’s not a fit.
Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback ❤
I sent this to my daughters ages 34yrs, 33 yrs., & 31yrs. ❤️It.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏
I agreed with everything you said. And honestly I truly believe that when you get closer to God and you begin living a lifestyle that is pleasing to him the things you said becomes natural to a woman. When I grew closer in Christ I begin to see myself like he saw me so walking in my femininity was easy to me. I love being a woman and walking in my truth as a woman. It’s an anointing that all women should have . And the older you become the more you allow your feminine side to lead, and the reason I said that is because your hormones begin to lead but you have to be in control of You and what greater way than to walk and act like a Woman!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
What utter nonesense
@@JulianEcho What do you not agree with. Just curious. Thank you in advance
I work with Men in a Male dominated environment and let me tell you when you know how to talk to Men they will do anything! 😊
You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!
Everything said is this video is on point! I've been watching you for a while and I read most of your books and the end results are... I removed myself from toxic relationships, started watering myself, healed, found peace & my purpose, stepped back into my Devine feminine energy and now I am living my dreams with the man of my dreams. God bless you!
This man has insights. Even as a strong and confident, financially secure feminist who doesn't NEED a man, I can see the gems in his delivery. Thank you.
Iv found that not caring what people do, helps you hold that softness.
There's a line however, any disrespect isn't tolerated. And you don't attack, you stand firm with your boundaries and speak your truth which even means letting some guys go.
Feminine energy is naturally nuturing, giving, understanding and exuding love, even in the hardest times. This is our power, to remain soft in the hardest times.
"To remain soft in the hardest times." I love that
I like how you’re careful with how and what you say when explaining various subjects.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Same! It makes me listen to everything he says and learn 📝
We're learning...the mindset is definitely shifting on my end ever since I started listening to you and I have some work to do.Honestly, I don't like being in control all the time.Mentally,physically,emotionally,financially,spiritually.I am exhausted.Exuding masculine energy,all day,everyday is exhausting.I'm just ready to allow someone to step in and lead,my spirit tells me that but I'm so flipping guarded...see,that's the part I have to work on,I look back at all my past relationships and I think me being guarded may have saved me from a whole lot of emotional damage as well and I'm thankful for that but I can't locate the stop button now...where is the stop button.
Start with trusting God to take care of you. Acknowledge Him for taking care of you - past, present, & future. Thank Him. This always puts me in a state where I feel cuddled up on his lap. Let your heart be filled with His love.
I appreciate the points you made in this video. I'm an "A" personality. It's very difficult for me to tap into full blown feminine energy but I do have my moments. Now I'm able to better understand what is happening in my relationships.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
When I first started my healing process, I craved for my feminine energy to be restored. As I did the work on myself, it all showed up. Thanks Stephen, your work is wonderful!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
I almost never comment on these platforms but you kept showing up in my algorithm so I gave this video a shot, and i like the way you relay the message without ego . A lot better and more effectively than the others. Thank you😊
These were the ladies of yesterday, but we were told to be independent for so long that we lost our femininity. we have to relearn to be feminine again..thanks Stephen great video❤
My pleasure ❤
@@MeetStephanSpeaks ✨
±2348102689570⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup.,.....
Funny enough I recently got told by my female boss that I need to be more aggressive/less agreeable in my job as an assistant to all. I was confused because that's not my nature or how I was raised plus I get along with everybody. A few months later I realized why some women are successful in their careers. People don't like them and yes they are aggressive and less agreeable more as you go up the ladder. I also realized that a career in corp America is not for me. My husband and I agree that one day I'll be home with our kids. They don't want a boss they want a nurturing mother. I say this because if you want a career, go get it, be that modern woman. You"ll get 💰. But if you're not about your career it's OK. That's not for you and your husband will love your femininity.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
You nailed it with this statement!
You’re speaking so much knowledge it’s definitely doing something to my spirit I wanna cry
❤ 🙏
Good morning real good man will show actions n sacrifice too make you happy ! All men not the same it ‘s the simple things that ‘s cost . First, send her roses , car repairs , bill paid , take her work on your self off days ! Secondly make should she’s happy n also be their for her good times n Bad ! Good men finish last I ‘ m looking too be someone husband !
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice for you too make you happy , also ask what ‘s you need help with, what ‘s your future goals ! A real good man will make should you have gas in your car , send your roses , help with the bills , put God first in his life , also make effort too balance his life with you . A real man be about actions , not talking but show he really seriously about you !
You are spot on ! We need to allow a man to be a man and remember to treat them with respect and love. They will return it!! Ladies do not get bitter.... get BETTER!
Thank you for this wise wisdom. I realize alot of my masculine energy comes from how I was raised and the fear of "getting got". So now I am working on digging deep, healing and recognizing my feminity is a GOOD thing!
All 9 are so vital. Thank you.
My pleasure ❤️
I love this guy, I have learned and reconfirmed so much through his videos. As per this video, and doubling back to what he says, women need to be selective. Y’all are depleted because y’all invested in men who were unable to deposit back into you all the things you required and then if the right guy comes along that negative energy that y’all have built up for yourselves in the name of being strong and independent pushes that guy away. Spend time with yourself, figuring out who you are, what you need, build up that confidence and stay there (feminine energy) so that when the right guy comes along, you don’t miss that opportunity.
You're absolutely right thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback!
No. Thank you! I discovered you after a failed relationship that seemed impossible to get over. Your words help me to realize my own deficiencies and to heal and also improve my compass as to what to look for and how to address things in a relationship. Your God sent man. Thank you for your wisdom. May God continue to use you and bless you!!!
Greetings all the way from Jamaica
🇯🇲 😃🤜🏽
❤️
I’ve learned how powerful my feminine energy is!! It’s truly a gift 💕
Good real man hard too find willing too sacrifice too show you he seriously about you n also actions . A real man will take the burden off you n also do the simple things in life too keep his woman first of all send her roses, making should car repairs are done , bill are paid , also take you work on your off days . Thirdly , get away weekend n values his time too you only !
Good morning I take this very seriously ! Thank you for replying back
@@rashawntaylor4316 yes I agree, it's amazing when a man can step in where it's needed. Hope your are doing well 😊
I ‘ m making it I think god he on my size n pray
@@rashawntaylor4316 I love what you said about sacrifice. It’s very important for all women to understand this.
Thank you for this Video 🔥
I feel so good about my future relationship.
It took me some time to truly understand what it meant to fully be in my feminine energy.
After 4 yrs…. I totally get it now and the Man I’m seeing now is totally masculine (Thank God) and his first words to me were….
“When I saw you come into the party… the way you greeted your friends was amazing. It was your energy that made me come and talk to you!”
We literally had a convo about kids and marriage.
Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing I appreciate your response!
That's dope
AMEN sis!!!!!;
People
my partner says I am very beautiful when I smile...and also said he feels peace with me... I get it now!
thank you, great content! 💯👌
I love that after years of being fearful to have a relationship, due to a past horrible marriage. I’m able to share my Life with a masculine man and I’m able to be a feminine lady, who desires to serve the Man of God that God hand delivered ❤️
I agree with as a woman you have to be selective in the quality of men you choose. If you choose a deadbeat man, that's what you will attract. That happen to me in my last relationship, where I had to be the leader as he gave me no choice as the man would not or chose not to walk in his masculinity. I believe he is unable to and will just keep moving to one woman to the next, as he is struggling with his sexuality.
Beautifully spoken! You’re helping so many see the reality of what healing means. Bravo, sir! To open the heart, and let down the walls requires a willingness to see the limitations we’ve placed on yourself to “protect” yourself. An open heart means being loving and compassionate toward yourself first (healing your wounds first), so you can offer those same things to a partner. You must be it to attract it. Everything you’ve said here was me before going on a healing journey. It’s amazing how much more loving, grounded and centered you become once you nurture your traumas and wounds. The blinders of your pain release and you see the world through happy lenses. And with that, you learn how to be a vessel of love who knows how to speak to others with respect (the feminine essence) and also receive the same in return :)
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
Very good points Stephan....thank you! It is sometimes hard to practice all of these things with the stress of life and yes it does take a toll...along with being hurt in the past and healing from the past of failed relationships where you were "using your feminine energy" and was taken advantage of.
I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
Smiling more - I agree with this. I love meeting people and when you show that positive energy by smiling you will then notice how people would like to talk to you and flock around you. This was also the reason I get to make friends and meet some potential but be careful as you will attract the wrong ones as well but smiling really works.