This really resonates with me. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, Agoraphobia, and Panic Disorder, and I know that these were caused by trying to survive relationships with narcissists and toxic people. I am free now, but frozen by these lingering 'gifts' they gave me.
So true! In religions marriage and parents are untouchable. Thank you Danish. Finally I opened my eyes but it makes me sad. Why did I have to grow up in a narcissistic family? All I ever wanted was to be loved and accepted by my family 😢
I always felt like I wasn't enough because of wounds from my father, but now I kind of thank him, because as I grow and heal I'm realizing he taught me all the signs to look out for, blame shifting, seeds of doubt, disappearing when I want to talk about how his actions affected me deeply. He taught me all the classic gaslighting techniques to look out for in others that made me feel worthless for most of my life. Even though I will never accept him back into my life, I am thankful for the pain he caused, because through reflection it has taught me so many valuable lessons that wouldn't stick as well as if I just read or heard about them.
I moved to a different state with 2 of my adult children ❤ I slept on the floor of the new place for 3 days solid . Counselor was freaking out but I didn't have anyone messing with me and I knew we were safe . Rebuilding our lives together ❤️ . Danish I want to thank you for your support through the past few years ❤
It's so true. Your fears will be used to tether you to the narcissist. I was forced to confront my deepest fears to escape the narcissists in my life, and I will never be the same. Surviving these experiences has proven to me that I am extremely resilient, and even a team of narcissists cannot destroy me. 🙏
@@victoryamartin9773 For me it was all down to documentation. I recorded and documented as much of their insanity as I could and then used it to make them expose themselves to the liars they are.
@@victoryamartin9773 For one example in court I said that I had paid for the land I lived on minus the last 1 or two payments. Then, I proceeded to submit a well-overvalued estimate of the land value and payments made. They then countered me by producing the actual land payments and land value numbers that actuly showed that what I had paid was well over what the land was worth at the time proving I had actually payed off everything years ago. 🤣
@@victoryamartin9773 For one example in court I said that I had paid for the land I lived on minus the last 1 or two payments. Then, I proceeded to submit a well-overvalued estimate of the land value and payments made.
Thank you, Danish. 💕 During the 4th fear (religious gaslighting) your phrase "they abuse you through their actions more than their words" is interesting. Perhaps you could go into more detail with examples in a future episode?
I am afraid of being raged and screamed at for prolonged periods. I worry that they are out of control and might kill me. My church tells me not to be afraid and be willing to die if that happens. Easier said than done. It leaves me feeling so unsupported.
Spot on Danish. Whoever instilled fear, confusion, doubt, insecurity, disbelief in our potential and capability did it with evil intent in mind. We should help and encourage ourselves.
I’ve once been diagnosed with panic attacks and anxiety disorder, it took long to come to this knowledge. After that I gradually started healing myself by being unfearful of him. He realized that then suddenly relocated me and the children threatening not to be responsible over us if I decline, I didn’t want to but family who don’t know who he is thinks he’s been responsible why won’t I want to move in with him where he works, so I moved. As I speak, just within a year of moving, worse situations has happened to me, Infact he’s seeing his ex in the same location we relocated to. I’ve just been thinking because he uses finance to weaponise. He knows I don’t have means to leave and the reason why I’m feeling stuck yet I won’t give up on ensuring I leave eventually. It may take time, I ask God for mercy and help because I really I’m not capable to take care of 3children all by myself yet. But I know I sure will overcome soon, I believe. 🙏🏾
I love the correlation that you made with Parenthood and the narcissistic survivors ability to think that they're enough because the parent is the one who installs the beliefs in the child. So if it started at birth the child was unwanted and deemed to be bad. That's all they're going to know. It takes years and years and years to reverse that kind of damage. Aces is some of the hardest habits to break because the children have suffered from the very beginning. There's no other knowledge they have
Wow that sound very bad bro That first 8 sec. Im listening on I hope people will be cautious and conscious enough not to do this stuff you speak of I hope i never be guilty of any such things but i def have some problem. Im not abusive? But I feel like people chasing me and that makes me angry becuz i feel people need to mind their own business, not mine. And “helpless” as I am (to my habit) I often respond Assertive to this and maybe somtimes this causes fear Also, my responses sometimes cause pain for MYSELF! For i want to be Kind I want to have Positive relationshios OR none. The last is a bit of a thing. I like being alone (i would like to tell you but not publicly) Theres a multitude of reasons for it
Me: a truth teller, him: a covert narc, The older boy: golden child The young one: the scape goat This is my family I married a "christian" covert narc in church 16 years ago All I wanted was to make a christian family to serve God. Now all I have is a dysfunctional family.
Public Confrontation (Matthew 18:16-17) If the offender refuses to repent after private confrontation, two or three witnesses are brought in to confirm the details of the situation. If the offender still refuses to repent, the matter is taken before the entire church… talk about the type of humiliation that is supposed to work on narcissists. Too bad churches don’t do the Biblical model.
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I believe most victims of narcissism got weaponszed with fear. Thank God, he can not weaponize fear against me. He knows I am resourceful.
This really resonates with me. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, Agoraphobia, and Panic Disorder, and I know that these were caused by trying to survive relationships with narcissists and toxic people. I am free now, but frozen by these lingering 'gifts' they gave me.
So true! In religions marriage and parents are untouchable.
Thank you Danish.
Finally I opened my eyes but it makes me sad. Why did I have to grow up in a narcissistic family?
All I ever wanted was to be loved and accepted by my family 😢
I always felt like I wasn't enough because of wounds from my father, but now I kind of thank him, because as I grow and heal I'm realizing he taught me all the signs to look out for, blame shifting, seeds of doubt, disappearing when I want to talk about how his actions affected me deeply. He taught me all the classic gaslighting techniques to look out for in others that made me feel worthless for most of my life. Even though I will never accept him back into my life, I am thankful for the pain he caused, because through reflection it has taught me so many valuable lessons that wouldn't stick as well as if I just read or heard about them.
Same happened with me,they teach you best lessons no book or people make you learn
They have given me best life lessons, that's true
Similar here. What I had to learn and how does not make me feel I am a better person for it though.
My heart is healed❤
I moved to a different state with 2 of my adult children ❤
I slept on the floor of the new place for 3 days solid . Counselor was freaking out but I didn't have anyone messing with me and I knew we were safe . Rebuilding our lives together ❤️ .
Danish I want to thank you for your support through the past few years ❤
It's so true. Your fears will be used to tether you to the narcissist. I was forced to confront my deepest fears to escape the narcissists in my life, and I will never be the same. Surviving these experiences has proven to me that I am extremely resilient, and even a team of narcissists cannot destroy me. 🙏
Flip their script and turn their fears against them as your defense. It works.
I'd like to learn how to do that. I have to go to court with them next week, and I am afraid they'll win the judge to their side.
@@victoryamartin9773 For me it was all down to documentation.
I recorded and documented as much of their insanity as I could and then used it to make them expose themselves to the liars they are.
@@victoryamartin9773 For one example in court I said that I had paid for the land I lived on minus the last 1 or two payments.
Then, I proceeded to submit a well-overvalued estimate of the land value and payments made.
They then countered me by producing the actual land payments and land value numbers that actuly showed that what I had paid was well over what the land was worth at the time proving I had actually payed off everything years ago. 🤣
@@victoryamartin9773 For one example in court I said that I had paid for the land I lived on minus the last 1 or two payments.
Then, I proceeded to submit a well-overvalued estimate of the land value and payments made.
@@victoryamartin9773 I see YT is censoring me on replying with details.
How these words bring tears in the eyes because finally your feelings are put into words
May God continue to bless you Danish like you are blessing me.
I am and always been more than enough forever and always.🙏❤️🙏💜😊
Thank you, Danish. 💕 During the 4th fear (religious gaslighting) your phrase "they abuse you through their actions more than their words" is interesting. Perhaps you could go into more detail with examples in a future episode?
I am afraid of being raged and screamed at for prolonged periods. I worry that they are out of control and might kill me. My church tells me not to be afraid and be willing to die if that happens. Easier said than done. It leaves me feeling so unsupported.
Spot on Danish. Whoever instilled fear, confusion, doubt, insecurity, disbelief in our potential and capability did it with evil intent in mind. We should help and encourage ourselves.
Yes, I totally agree and 4th fear really distroy mental health of abuser and make her helpless, scattered her energy that she feel empty 😔
Your video can be summarised in 3 words " Hamster wheel baiting "
I’ve once been diagnosed with panic attacks and anxiety disorder, it took long to come to this knowledge. After that I gradually started healing myself by being unfearful of him. He realized that then suddenly relocated me and the children threatening not to be responsible over us if I decline, I didn’t want to but family who don’t know who he is thinks he’s been responsible why won’t I want to move in with him where he works, so I moved. As I speak, just within a year of moving, worse situations has happened to me, Infact he’s seeing his ex in the same location we relocated to. I’ve just been thinking because he uses finance to weaponise. He knows I don’t have means to leave and the reason why I’m feeling stuck yet I won’t give up on ensuring I leave eventually. It may take time, I ask God for mercy and help because I really I’m not capable to take care of 3children all by myself yet. But I know I sure will overcome soon, I believe. 🙏🏾
narcs will use even your childhood teddy bear if it means they can control you.
I always hear the religious voice in my head. Oh my God, you hit every nail right on the head. I cannot believe how accurate this is
Very true Danish 🎉🎉
Danish, how do Narcissists behave when you return their gift politely back to them? Do they get angry and humiliated?
It resonates with every narcissistic abuse survivor
I love the correlation that you made with Parenthood and the narcissistic survivors ability to think that they're enough because the parent is the one who installs the beliefs in the child. So if it started at birth the child was unwanted and deemed to be bad. That's all they're going to know. It takes years and years and years to reverse that kind of damage. Aces is some of the hardest habits to break because the children have suffered from the very beginning. There's no other knowledge they have
Spot on .
Please write an online book! People need to hear this!
Spot on .
They create the fears with their abuses. What insidious and diabolical behaviour.
Excellent!
Im dumbfounded here, but thank you!!
Yes yes yes.. Narc parents n severe narc drug addict husband
Wow that sound very bad bro
That first 8 sec.
Im listening on
I hope people will be cautious and conscious enough not to do this stuff you speak of
I hope i never be guilty of any such things but i def have some problem.
Im not abusive? But I feel like people chasing me and that makes me angry becuz i feel people need to mind their own business, not mine.
And “helpless” as I am (to my habit) I often respond Assertive to this and maybe somtimes this causes fear
Also, my responses sometimes cause pain for MYSELF!
For i want to be Kind
I want to have Positive relationshios
OR none.
The last is a bit of a thing.
I like being alone (i would like to tell you but not publicly)
Theres a multitude of reasons for it
makes sense . sadly
True facts
Me: a truth teller,
him: a covert narc,
The older boy: golden child
The young one: the scape goat
This is my family
I married a "christian" covert narc in church 16 years ago
All I wanted was to make a christian family to serve God.
Now all I have is a dysfunctional family.
Public Confrontation (Matthew 18:16-17)
If the offender refuses to repent after private confrontation, two or three witnesses are brought in to confirm the details of the situation.
If the offender still refuses to repent, the matter is taken before the entire church…
talk about the type of humiliation that is supposed to work on narcissists. Too bad churches don’t do the Biblical model.
Get proof
Please make same video in Urdu
God hates divorce but we are called to live in peace. If you can't get peace you need to go.
Send me no of Narcissists destroyed one want to to destroy an other one 😂
I am the Devil.. Bring it on 😂😂😂
I'm healed.
🪽🪽🪽🪽
Thank you Danish 🩷
I've been feeling terrible, and it's making me want to stay quiet. We're so close to getting away 🙏