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Do you believe in Chivalry?
I will if I was living in the medieval age.
chivalry by definition is code of conduct for battle, you're as with most, are swapping masculinity for chivalry. keep being a beacon for truth in a emasculated world
@@mrjinglesdice2368 what you said. Chivalry is a battle code with a small portion reserved for protecting ladies. Chivalry is very similar to bushido.
Yes I try to show it as much as possible but it is getting hard these days.
I believe in mutual respect before chivalry. Men used to automatically grant women respect and we abused it. Once we start returning that respect maybe chivalry should make a comeback but not before then.
I was arrested for grape in 2012 but when I pleaded to everyone in my family I was the victim no one believed me except my mum when I said to her where it happend she told the police where it happend and on video it was shown I was forced at gun point I nearly had my life destroyed because of these gender bubbles and now I advocate for men's mental health and rights so I applaud this youtuber for her stance on this situation
You got lucky! If you had actually been convicted and sent to prison, you would have either been beaten daily, or flat out murdered. That`s what your mother saved you from.
I knew a guy that was graped by a woman. The woman started telling people that they both knew that he sexually assaulted her. She came over to his house, told him that if he came with her for a ride she would tell people the truth but if he did not she would tell everyone that he knew that he sexually assaulted her. Then after they got to her house she forced herself on him and told him that if he told anybody she would tell the cops that he graped her and since she is a woman they would believe her. After that all that I know is that she told several people that he did not assault her she then moved to a different state and got married while the guy disappeared.
on the news today. southern africa. 3 girls graped a mentally unfit dude. his mom believed him. go google. south africa or namibia. was on local radio so namibia i guessing
Why do we put up with this anymore
@@wightwolf5235we don't. We simply remove ourselves from any interactions with these hos
Truly... I recall opening a door for a young lady in 1981... Her response was,"I can get the door myself!" I started to change my behavior, after that. Now sometimes I do, and sometimes I don't... From time to time I've said, "you're welcome!" How many times a female has let a door slam in my face... More than 90% do, or have done this... Ladies, this is all on you.
Be Chivalrous to women over 40/45 or older, under 40 no, they don't deserve it.
I make it easy. I can open the door for anyone. Im not chivalrous, Im being nice.
My guy don't lie... women in the 80s where no where near like todays women. Click on any video and this comment is always the top comment. Sad. Goofy old man.
George, I was born in 1981 myself. But I experienced the same thing. I now handle it like this.. I don't feel obligated to open a door for any female, if I want to.. I then will ask..
" You're not going to get offended if I open the door for you, are you?" you'll find out right then and there. And it has been quite a good conversation starter.
Why am I so into these videos? I haven't dated in almost 7 years! And I thought it was terrible. I should just shut it all out, but human behavior is so gross I have to look! 🤔
I was raised by my single grandfather. He always taught me that if you hold and maintain yourself respectfully and embrace your femininity, embrace the differences between men and women and appreciate them, men are chivalrous. And tbh, men always have been for me. For every man that did something bad because they’ve bad character, I’d say there’s a good 15-20 good ones there that would be happy to help you. Men are NOT the enemy
Edit to add: it’s sad how it doesn’t seem like anyone ever tells or shows men that they are appreciated.
i hear ya. so sick of the divide. honestly i love this channel not only for the good content but its also a nice oasis from all the bickering (from both sides)
they do tell us that we are appreciated and needed... when it's time to use us as meat-shield in wars.
Thank you Kat. We aren't always so bad.
I happened to stumble upon Roma and started watching her videos. There are other women out there like her but they seem to be much rarer as time goes on. Love the fact that she speaks her mind with unambiguous clarity . She is not only smart but a natural beauty who doesn't hide beneath a face full of cosmetics.
As a woman, I fully support Men's Rights. Men are human beings and deserve as much support as we can give them!
My parents taught me, my little brother, and little sister about how to be polite when dating. My little brother and I were told to always pay for our date because that’s how it’s done, but our sister was always given money in case the guy didn’t bring enough money for her.
I pulled out a chair once, just once. The girl looked at me and said; dude, I’m not disabled. I asked for separate checks right off the bat, and boy she didn’t like that. I never saw her again.
Aw hell nah bruh Im only 16 but these stories in the comments make me feel like my right hand is plenty good enough
@@JacobDaDJ it is. The trick is to find happiness in yourself. It will prevent you from having a lot of troubles in life.
I was inebriated one night with a female and wasn't in the mood but she was. I fell asleep or passed out, when I woke up she was riding me. Oh well, it never crossed my mind to call the law on her or anything like that. They would've bust out laughing so hard that they'd be rolling around on the ground. That was a first for me and I just chalked it up to experience. What else could I do ?
@@jakesmith9526 Sadly, if it were flipped you'd be locked up. So much for " Equal under the law"
You dodged a bullet, my dude. 😅
Those men that stayed at home with their jumper cables were smart. There is a recent story of a woman that friend zoned a man. She called him to help her with "car trouble". When he got there he was robbed and beaten by two other men. BE CAREFUL!
I got a worse one. My cousins best friend was murdered when he took his girlfriend to pick up her bother, and his friend dudes got in the back, and before he pulled out of the driveway, one of the guys stranged him.
He had just started dating this girl he was only 15 or 16 at the time, ever sense, then I don't let anyone I don't personally know in my back seat.
@@johnbaker1901 Wow! I hope they got arrested. I can see why you would be scared of such a thing. I'm sorry that happened to your cousin.
@@johnbaker1901 damn, why I stay home…
@danielbailey5072 I don't blame you, when all this went down it made me rethink alot about who I was going out with and who I trusted.
WTF was it a set up did she call him so he could be beaten and robbed if that's the case low life girl
I do find this woman a breath of fresh air in today’s society.
I’m lucky enough to live in the north of England where I can be chivalrous without fear of repercussions, but when I see what’s going on in places all over the world, it makes me both sad, but also grateful for living where I do.
I’m all for women’s rights, but when certain individuals take offence at individuals who are just being polite, I worry for our future.
Thank you Roma for dedicating a big part of your life to helping us.
I hope your fame will be spread and your message as well.
I will help where I can.
My friend as his wife had a fight. Later that night, they get cozy, and as she's riding him, looks him dead in the eye and says "You're graping me." I shit you not! She called the cops, and he was taken to court. 8 years later, the judge had him plea to spousal abuse, gave him 130 days community service, and an anger counciling class. And if he completed it in a certain period of time, it would be stricken from his record. 8 FUCKING YEARS!
The street justice for such a situation cannot be stated...
Terrible situation but adorable piggie pfp 😊
He ignored a lot of red flags. That doesn't just happen. How long had they been married? He also sounds like he had a shit lawyer. Spousal abuse needs evidence.
Once again women be Cray Cray!
I follow Michael Jackson's advice...
JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
😏😼🤣😉
That women was still mad because she may have lost the fight and wanted to get even while she did.
I was at my kid’s school yesterday for a meeting and a little boy stopped to hold the door for me. I smiled brightly and told him thank you. I’ve noticed boys in elementary are more than happy to hold the door, but by the time they get to high school they stop doing that. I think if we still want men to hold the door for us we should positively reinforce it especially when they’re young.
Instead these toxic feminists show these kids exactly why they shouldn't hold the door.
You should also reinforce the girls to show more gratitude and not act like spoiled, pampered brats.
Everyone should hold the door...its just polite...
Northwest Florida Panhandle... I have had people using wheelchairs/walkers, of both sexes, hold the door for me... and I don't use either of them.
... Is it à Man or women question ? I m holding doors to anyone. I i expext man and women to do the same for me...
Myself & my brother got the PERFECT lesson on chivalry & manners last week from my 10 year old nephew. We were out shopping, & my nephew saw a woman (guess mid 20's) walking towards the door (that opened towards us. So he stepped forward & help the door open for his young lady. She then stopped & proceeded to tell my nephew that just because he's a boy doesn't mean he needs to open doors for ladies. His response had both me & my brother doubled over in laughter, as well as a couple of other people all chuckling. The little man just looked her in the eyes & said. To quote:
"No, I don't have to open a door for someone. But my Mom & Dad taught me to be polite to people, & do little things like that. Clearly something your Mom & Dad never taught you."
I have rarely been so proud of himHope everyone has an amazing week ahead & much love top all from here in the UK
One of the first aggressive confrontations I had with my ex was not long after we got together. She lost her s*** about something one day and ended up kicking and punching and throwing things at me. This assault went on for about half an hour before I had enough and grabbed her arms and pinned her to the wall too defend myself. Over the next following days and weeks I found out she was going around to telling everyone I attacked her.
I've got so many stories about her I should write a book. I feel like an absolute idiot for staying with her for so long. Fortunately I'm not with her anymore but she is still trying to make my life hell by financially destroying me.
I feel for you. I was never accused of attacking my ex, but I suuuure was myself. Of course I don't know you, or her, but she sounds to me like the classic narcissist type who's been hurt and wants nohing more than t see you bleed. I don't know if my story would be helpful to you in any way -each case is different-, but the only way I managed for my ex to leave me be after threats, insane letters, videos, emails... and constant calls to my family and friends telling them how horrible I was without giving any proof whatsoever, was to just STOP defending my side of the story to her and trying for her to understand me. She was never going to do that. It was a fool's errand and only fueled her rage. She was furious and wanted only to crush me because she felt small and hurt after I left her. I stopped all communication save for a conversation where I told her I was happy for her and that it was great we both had got out of a clearly toxic relationship while I avoided engaging with her blaming and guilt-tripping trash talk. Then, I stopped answering, never spoke or wrote to her again, asked everyone I love to block her, moved town, and never looked back. We are both so lucky we never had children. And so are they, even if the don't exist XD
Yup. It’s okay for my lip to get busted, be threatened with knives, break my stuff, destroy my self esteem, but if I at all resist, I’m a woman beating SOB who deserves to die alone. At this point, whatever, I’d rather die alone.
"WHERE, IS FAR LESS
THAN WHEN, TO GO"
for others to speak of your purpose then & now, is nothing to lend weight upon, nor honor for - that which was, has passed for you & it is veritable to that end, likely for the best...
if we come to renew ourselves, build what may have been lost, or wonder why so long we stayed, as that could rout anyone for answers, such will forever be part of our personality; know that you are actually in company of supportive, experienced people, many of whom, say you are well to be done & those words reflect their own struggles and times, they are past...
the stiles turn us, so to say & 'equal' always favors 'the house', as though it is 'tied' in a game of cards; a rule, as written, by same - when it was made in such ways, that meant to show true colors, as you choose either stay or leave..
that tragic madness is a scream of agony as false sense of control shudders under the weight of those things 'she' should not do, as if told the following :
"thou shalt no
control others"
~WarriorPoet~
that quote was mine, so it is firmly burnt into 'this kid's' brain, alongside the many profound & similarly created philosophies...
your story compels my response, as 'she' parallels actions seen inflicted onto good friends, some put to myself, as well - not unlke words above, a belief over them has long been valid, as though in some way, it was changed in a decision of codification, to prevent its power from becoming unstoppable - the world's predilections could not be, under such a fundamental statement, so said...
there are so many other such safeguards which do not appear, as they, too, in their simplistic logic, warn us of deleterious tactics & lasting damage if ignored; most have brought me to be what has become that one to speak of them, and most of all, to practice the form & keep its suited tale from vanishing, herefrom..
to any who will hear of those ways & the spirit for which my mentors gave it before their departure, we can speak just a few more for any interested, then in doing, shall leave you with what forges my tempered mettle, to be said :
{∆} make no fear to become reality..
{∆) if they won't pay to hurt you, you may elect to hear them not..
{∆} the right to have an opinion, can also be the right to keep opinions to themselves..
{∆} an abuser has power for so long as you choose to stay and take it..
{∆} these are words & will hurt so much as someone decides to be offended..
{∆} envision tomorrow or remember yesterday, but always live here & now..
{∆} beware what you covet in life, for it may possess you, hereafter..
{∆} when your time on earth is finished, should, by all means, leave..
{∆} to find your love is a grand wonder & when true love finds you, it is a wealth of magic..
{∆} learn from mistakes of others, or perish making all those on your ,own..
{∆} our apathy destroys more than we may ever acknowledge..
{∆} knowledge as 'power' implies using it against people or things
{∆} knowledge used as 'immunity' protects from danger throughput its craft .
{∆}
- €πD -
~ e p i l o g u e ~
"as the squire stood
nearby, his dread of
what was heard out
of sight grew, and it
struck him with just
one simple thought,
'should i run away ?'
~WarriorPoet~
Some woman: "I'm strong and independent, I don't need no men to help me"
Same woman: "Chilvarly is dead and men don't help anymore"
Just get on a horse and joust. That's Chivalry.
That Grammer made me want to leave
@@garygolt7754grammer?
My sons are all taught Chivalry, passed down form generations. However! Youngest son got abused for opening a door for a Lady older than him, and got confused/upset over the matter. I told my sons if that happens just simply say to the woman, "I am not doing it for you. I am doing it for my Father" !!!!
agree
Did you teach them the part about chivalry being the code of honor for knights? How peasants were treated so lowly that it wasn't a crime or dishonorable for a knight to kill them? Or how true chivalry has NOTHING to do with gender?
As a KT as well - I know precisely what you mean.
Great response , I love it.
Well you need to reteach them the correct way and shut the door in the biatch face
Fighting trhough crippling depression and painful levels of loneliness I've started to try and 'get out there' so to speak, not necessarily dating but just seeing how I can make myself available, where I can meet new people that I find attractive to explore the possibility of relationships and...
It's been absolutely horrible. First, it's terrifying how dangerous it is for a man to show any sort of interest in a woman, and second, the amount of mixed signals, hypocrisy and double standards is insane. I've had 8 different women who I either approached on a dating site or they wrote me first, that had stated on their profile that they are looking for an "emotional" or "open" man... we chat for a bit about out hobbies or stuff, but as soon as I show any sign of being sad or dealing with some difficulty in my life, they disappear and I never hear from them again.
Even within the videos you showed, pretty much all of these women wanted men to do things for them or help them, after men having been demonized for "unwelcome help" for the past decade. Why the hell are you surprised we're not helping you anymore, you told us that you don't want us to help.
I was single mom raised. Taught to show and exhibit good manners and politeness. I’ve exercised her teaching in life. Please, thank you, may I, after you, ladies first, do you need a hand with that and one of the easiest and most common. Opening and holding a door for you. I’ve not only did this for females, I’ll do it for men. It’s a simple and polite gesture. It shows I recognize your existence, it’s a random act of simple kindness, it’s polite and good manners.
I don’t do it anymore. 9 times out of 10 the gesture is never recognized. Not that I did it for validation. I did because it’s a polite act in social situations. A thank is never required. But the blatant disregard of the act is insulting. The walk right in without even a half of a nod is bizarre. I acknowledged your existence but mine is meaningless. There’s very rarely a thank you unless it’s from someone older than me. The generation of women who came before me almost always say thank you or looks and nods and acknowledges the politeness.
I’ve had females literally get mad or most likely fake mad and cause a scene. Saying things like “I can open my own door!” “I don’t need your help!” I never once opened or held a door for a female for any of those reasons. I did it because it was instilled and taught to me by a woman, my mom.
Here’s the weird part. I was taught to hold a door for females and the elderly of both genders. But I’ll hold a door for everyone and the men always say thanks or thank you. The older generation of men and women will always acknowledge it with either words, a smile or a nod depending on their physical capabilities. But females today? Nothing. 90% of the time absolute nothing or like I mentioned there will be some idiotic scene they cause for attention.
I stopped holding the doors for them. I don’t care if they have packages in their hands. A tray of overly sugared coffee drinks size venti in their hands at a Starbucks. Or if they’re having trouble trying to open that door. I’ll legit just stand there. And the amazing thing is every single one of them will say sarcastically “Oh, what a gentleman you are!” Or “Your parents did a horrible job raising you!” There’s always some snarky comment an dirty look.
How is it possible that they’ll never 100% of the time give a thank you or even a head nod when I open and hold that door. But will 100% have something terrible to say when men don’t?
Make it make sense!!
They wanted equal everything, well I guess now they’re getting it.
after getting a blast from a woman for holding a door
i just responded " because i was raised with manners
I open the door for anyone, regardless of their sex. It's just polite.
I’ll remember that if I ever go on a date.
I guess she wasn't raised with manners. Oh well...
I mean I’m a woman and I open doors for people all the time. It’s just the polite thing to do.
I mean, what do they want... for us to close it in their face.... I open the Door to anyone, It's manner's it has nothing to do with chivalry and if someone say's it is they are 100% wrong and should get called out on it.
Just recently I was walking home from the gym, and I passed by the cafe where an elderly woman in a mobility scooter sat at the door waiting to be let in by the staff.
I went over and offered her some assistance, she accepted and I held the door open for her, wished her a good day and she said thank you.
True Story.
Good job. Her appreciation is important. It's a simple acknowledgement of what you did, and most men will do the same, for as little.
Probably because older people still remember not eeryone offering help does so with bad intentions. Throughout the years I experienced both sides. People that were genuinly grateful and people that assumed I had some nefarious intentions. It never hcanged my behavior, it is my "instinct"(by lack of a better word) to offer help if I see help is needed. You either accept or decline, I don't really care. If it is declined I say goodbye and walk away regardless of what crap they sometimes shout after you.
Alwats remain your true self.... always.
Thank you! I love this! Not all women are jerks! Some of us really appreciate it!
This cant be a true story. Impossible
@@mavadelothats it.
you're awesome, keep expressing yourself honestly, it's nice to hear.
I’ve been single for 11 years for these exact reasons. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in the way I feel about women in today’s society. Thanks for everything you do. We as men really appreciate you calling it like you see it. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Being a victim of abuse thank you for bringing this to light.
I gotta admit.... This woman won me over. I'm a fan. Thank you for all you do for us. It's INSANE OUT HERE. YOU ARE AWESOME
Ditto I gave up years ago
I found this channel 2 weeks ago.
Pleasantly shocked at the Honesty.
Dude, I've been saying the SAME THING for days now! She's absolutely crushing it. Hey Roma, if you're reading this, remember reading this today. Today is the day I predicted you'll look back on this very message in two years after you've cleared over 20M subs and beyond! Everything about what you're doing on this channel is right on, and we love it! And we love YOU!
Roma...I love your incredible Insight and intelligence, your wit and natural beauty. I'm young in heart but old school at my age. The advantage is to be able to read a woman and see her flawed character ahead of time. Not many out there who I would want in my life. Feel so sorry for my son's. ❤❤❤
@@davegrant3236 She is A1.
I really wish she was in my age group.
You are an absolute breath off fresh air thank you for restoring some faith in us men not all of women have subscribed to this man hating mindset thank you
❤
I was at a Walmart and held the door open for multiple people. It was one of those moments where you let one person through them suddenly your stuck holding the door for multiple people. But whatever I did it. This woman walked in last literally saw me holding the door for everyone and says "how dare you what I can't hold the door open myself? I have a husband that's disgusting." I was shocked because she literally followed the mob of people in the store. But as I went to apologize she continued "you need to learn some respect." This is when her husband another man I had held the door open for takes her by the arm escorts her out the front. He looked at me and said "excuse me" made me let go of the door and left his wife on the other side. "I'm sorry about that. And thank you for holding the door for us. She can stay outside until she calms down. I nodded and walked off still not even saying one word. She opened the door after he let it go and she kept yelling at him. He shut her up by saying "keep it up and you can buy your own shit and walk home." I just shook my head and kept walking.
Funny story... Over two decades ago, before I was happily married, I was working at a packing plant. The cardboard boxes you used to pack were stacked at roughly neck-level on a shelf. I began dating a woman around that time who at first seemed to be a decent, normal sort. Things began to go downhill at a certain point, until a day came when I was at work, pulled a box, and it hit my neck. Didn't hurt, I barely remembered it, but the next day I had a very noticeable bruise that looked *A LOT* like a "hickie" (however that's spelled). And what assumption did my then-lover make? That I was absolutely cheating. She knew full well what my job situation looked like, and I shot a photo of the boxes, from eye level. Although she eventually calmed down about it, I know she never fully believed me when I explained things. Not to mention things continued steadily on a downward spiral until out of the blue, she ended things one night, collected her things, returned her spare key to my apartment to me, and left. I was...broken for a while after that. I had done quite literally everything to make her happy and allowed her access to my personal living space, no strings attached. She saw that as an open invitation to leave messes for me to clean up, with her art supplies and whatever else. Suffice it to say I look back now and smile knowing that whole period of my life ended, and now I'm married to my best friend who is, in every way, my dream come true.
Beautiful
Pretty cool marrying your best friend. I haven't seen mine in 2 yrs but he was cool as heck. Offering any female stuff with no strings attached is a good way to get used
Hitting your neck in the boxes was divine intervention. Someone up there didn't want you to be with this woman. Glad everything worked out for you in the end
Have seen worse. Apologies for length, hope some find the story useful as a warning. There’s maybe too many like it. A more recent situation the female (can’t call her a Woman) weaseled her way into this guy’s place. He had a girlfriend and there was nothing between the trespasser and he. She took off for a few days, during which he enjoyed the peace and quiet. Then she shows up breaking windows, doors, and more. He got away from there and called the police. No response. Few hours later she’d gotten into his place and there were the sounds of her wrecking it. Another guy called the police. No response. Talked with the guy who, wisely in this day and age when there is a massive bias against men, some of that bias enacted into laws that should be declared unconstitutional, was staying away. He figured he should “man up” and explore with her about some other alternative to staying there. He went over there to his place. Before he knew it she, having already handcuffed one arm, handcuffed him to her. He managed to call the police, then managed to call me. Still no response to a guy calling police about this criminal. She called police after he called me. They came immediately before could even walk over there, didn’t take a minute for them to show up, three police cars, no female officer. If a woman officer had been there the officer would have been hard put not to just slap her. She played this “where would I get handcuffs?” and all this whining and provocatively wiggling her assets. The officers said they would handle it, not listening to anyone’s accounts of what happened. Observed at a little distance and hoped they knew their business. Then after they got the handcuffs off saw them talking with her behind the first police car, still doing that helpless and sexy act. The guy was already loaded in the last police car. She just walked away to the place where she had been squatting. This is just one example of why we tell these guys to be very wary of females these days. Too many psychopathic ones running around.
Idk if this will bite me one day. But I have definitely been scorned publicly for simple acts of kindness directed at a female such as “holding doors open”. And each incident leaves me no less confused. Though, I would (and do) just as quickly hold it open for a man as well. I don’t think the change in societal tones will ever stop me from performing simple acts of kindness. Thank you Roma for all the wonderful you keep pumping out🤘🏼
At 67yo, I hold the door automatically--believing my departed grandmother would come back to life and slap the back of my head if I didn't. On two occasions, I've had girls berate me for doing so, standing there waiting for me to let go of the door. I've just said, "I can stand here all day..." Both occasions they've slipped in of course with a scowl on their face and one girl flipped me off. HOWEVER--each time another female has come up to me and said thanks for being a gentleman. At my age I don't understand this gender-bender feminist hoo-haw. I just want to get through life. My wife of 40-something years appreciates me holding doors and all. Jeepers, I even take my hat off indoors!
I held the door *behind* me while leaving a Buffalo Wild Wings and this guy tried to attack me bc I apparently offended his partner earlier in the night and didn’t realize it. I don’t hold the door for anyone but my wife now
@wolffredd2664 had some similar happen to that. Group heading out, I was the 1st one so I just held the door for the whole group. Several gals after us and their boyfriends as well. The boyfriends came up and wouldn't allow me in my car. I told my gf at the time to run for the door of the restaurant. She ran the dudes pinned me to the hood and low and behold there was a cop who was doing retail theft prevention (local cops post up in certain parking lots and wait for calls etc) and he put em both in handcuffs and made their girlfriends Uber themselves home
I still don't know why they were mad other than I held open the door
@@wolffredd2664 Naw, keep on holding doors and being a gentleman...just maybe not a Buffalo Wild Wings. Just sayin'
When I was.... six or so, fairly young, I used to stand in the middle entry area of our local wal-mart while my folks were inside buying things. They'd leave me a bunch of quarters to play with those little ride machines and such that they had in there, and I'd entertain myself while they were busy. I usually ran through my quarters or my interest long before they came back, and would wind up watching for people coming in and run up to open the doors for them. I remember distinctly, one older gentleman in a wheelchair thanking me profusely for opening the door, giving me a twenty, and telling me to 'keep being kind.'
I also distinctly remember, about a year later at that same wal-mart, that I ran up to open a door for a young woman around twenty-ish, and getting cursed out for it. It was immensely confusing and hurtful, since I'd just been trying to be kind and all it had earned me in that moment was getting shouted at. Since then, I've been a lot more leery about opening doors for women I don't know, but I still continue to hold doors open for guys, and typically still get thanked, even if it's just a quick 'Thank you' as they pass by. Even if it's just one bad experience, if it's bad enough or happens early enough in their life, women can kill the modern chivalry that men might direct towards them. The fact that it's not a rare event today doesn't do a damn thing to help matters. Women are continuing to bring this lack of polite respect and thoughtfulness on themselves, and it just makes me sad and angry when a lot of those same women scorn the guys they helped make by saying Chivalry is Dead.
It's not dead, but it's certainly not benefiting them near as much anymore.
Thank you for being a decent human. I would like to think that I’m not only a chivalrous man but a human being who treats all other humans with due respect. I spent 18 years in an abusive relationship with a woman, the mother of four of my children, who constantly tore me down and made me feel less than human. No matter how hard I worked and tried to please her, it all boiled down to me being a peice of shit. All the while, I was being cheated on and forgiving her every trespasses for the sake of my children. Literally vacations crashed by the guy(s) she was cheating with. Why am I viewed as a piece shit just because I’m a man who is trying to do right by those I love? I am in a much healthier relationship now, but the scars of what came previously are still showing. I’m trying to recover. Thank you for advocating for guys like me, it means more than you could ever know.
my good fellow, frank ~ "BLAMING YOU FOR HER
CRAP, KEPT SIGHT AWAY
FROM HER UGLY TRUTH"
your leniency is part of the wisdom carried within what once was chivalry & as you so chose to be, did also join a creed of sisters and brothers who would, as well - through all of an ordeal, there is no proper way to heal that which is scarred just by words..
you, alone, began your
journey upon that path in one single, final moment's choices - for you had not, then, shall have, now for a lifetime; and the liberation serves to amplify, enrich & begin, anew..
we can but hear as you have said, at best to learn, so thereby, possibly avoid, and carry on.. it is wealth, beyond material things, to come upon one fine day & see true love find you - as you may find that to be, it marks a time to recover & through that, will carry on with the brightest days..
each may have been in such a place, as some had not that strength to keep, others may have stayed & not one of us know more, or less, from each lesson..
once, was i asked, why should i have put up with 'her' vile ways & that i did answer; but on the day of another's urge, went forth and found her cheating in an undoubtable situation..
we must hold our limits just as we would maintain boundaries; so, left due to my discovery, found it not well for many months.
my resolve still remained steadfast & even if my last nor the next knew honor - all i was before, returned & in time, was found myself, and gained a wealth when that day brought me new sight, healing & carried on to this very moment..
i can sympathize within, as i hear your own story & it brings wondrous sound, as you speak of goodness in your house, that can be appreciated by we who in our own ways, feel you've come to such, in contrast over what was a venom & could not kill your spirit no matter the attempts..
may you & yours find a jubilation to envigorate all of your days, together - i know the feeling, and this would be the best things for me to say, today..
carry on, enriched elden..
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4:14 the fact that her entire contact list said no just goes to show what kind of person she is. If my best friend needed me, and it wasn’t a constant thing, I’d go help. If it’s some freeloading person I kinda know you’re getting vm or laughed at
Remember, even though she said she was not assuming gender rolls, she only called the MEN on her list, not her 'friends' on the list.
@@ingiford175 right, but she also said “all” her girlfriends were in the car with her. Which I’m assuming means 3-4 tops since she seems like the type that drives a 2008 Kia Forte with 245k and a $20k loan on it.
Exactly this. She has "friends", not friends.
I used to help everyone, i would give so much of myself, i forgot who i was, then i started to see that women were just using me to get what they wanted. and men, so i gave up, i dont give as much of myself anymore, and yeah i am lonely but its better than being a doormat, only wanted when they want something then when I needed help they were always too busy..
Brother, I'm right there with you. I was always the "Best Friend" when they needed something, but i was "who are you again?" when I needed something. I stopped putting myself out there for others, and then I met the woman who is now my wife. Admittedly, I was expecting her to 'friend-zone' me after she mover to my city, but we've been together now for a8 years, so I guess she's not gonna dump me (still expecting it, but the chances keep going down, so I'm hopeful).
@@krisandersen8695 see i was married, was with her for 3 years and decided to get married, then 6 months later she divorced me, by a PURE coincidence i am sure(yeah no it wasnt), it was a state which had community property laws after 6 months she wanted half of everything i had.. luckily i had nothing so she got half of nothing. she was American/texan and i was british. and well you could guess what was in the divorce papers.. that was the LAST Nail .
@@Greenwood4727 You have my sympathies on your relationship, but I'm fairly sure there were warning signs. Like, you always paid for everything? She had more than a few "close friends" that happened to be male and attractive? She often had "weekend Plans" that didn't include you? As much as you might want something to be real, always look out for the signs that it's not. Trust me, I'm saying this from personal experience.
@@krisandersen8695 actually i mostly blame her father, he was a very controlling person he moved house with her and took ages to connect to the net, so i am sure that he pressured her. that was part of it
Only my closest friends are deserving of my help. All others can go to Hell. I might help others in an emergency, but nothing else.
This channel has definitely gotten my interest 🙂👍. Earlier today I went to the shop to get my Saturday night beer before Munich and watching darkest hour for the first time. Anyway an older gentleman who was obviously in pain was behind me in the queue so I gave him my place and then a lady who's trying to manage two hyperactive kids was behind me and in turn I gave my place in the queue both gave a sincere thanks. I believe that it's about empathy seeing a situation for what it is. I'm from the UK so I learned something today that I never knew and for that thank you for the Intel 🙂. To the lady who runs RomaArmy I highly recommend watching a movie called the big hit staring Louis Diamond Phillips. It's great junk food munching fun but also shows some acts of chivalry that people of any gender should take note of. Keep the content going but also get a punch bag to help with the fact that you can't save the world as much as you would like to and it gets more frustrating everyday. Everyone stay safe and try to get along with eachother. Nice person big thumbs up and gratitude 🙂
I'm disabled these days, car accident, woman not paying attention went through a give way in her landrover discovery and t-boned my Mitsubishi lancer, writing it off and damaging my spine from neck to s1. She tried to say it was my fault and i should have gone round her, luckily i got photos of both vehicles and position on road, etc (don't remember taking them, was running on autopilot with a hefty concussion). Got a lot of nerve damage, makes it difficult to walk and get a lot of spastic motions and spasms to go along with searing pains throughout my body. I was a fairly big guy, 6' (5'10" now with all the discs I've lost) fit, active marital artist and in my profile pic i was around 265lbs. I find a lot of women to be pretty horrible letting doors close in my face, (i always try and hold doors open for people regardless of sex or gender), to one older women in a supermarket kicking my walking stick out from underneath me causing me to fall into a display as i wasn't getting out her way quick enough. Life is hard enough now without the snide comments and crappy behaviour from some folk
I was at a party once where a girl recounted how she'd go out and try to get as many men to give her free stuff as possible "because I'm cute, and I deserve it!" She'd then basically say whatever she ha to to get bartenders to give her drinks, guys to buy her dinners, even cab drivers to give her free rides, not in exchange for so much as a "thank you," but because "I deserve it, I'm cute!" She was literally a thief, at least to those bartenders, cab drivers whose livelihood is based on what they sell.
But worse than hearing her crime stories, was that none of the girls I knew at that party thought she did anything wrong. They all thought she was "charming" and "funny."
If a dude spends money on you for nothing it's his fault. Yes it's dishonest from her but getting free stuff from people is not a crime if it is consensual.
@@1bullneck1 ur missing the point of what he meant 🤦♂
Thank you for bringing up men being “made to penetrate.” That’s a story that I stopped talking about after either being called a liar, being mocked, and being told “you can’t rape the willing,” knowing that If I left one mark on her body, I’d be in jail.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Yeah. That scares me. I worried for years about my brother, still do honestly, as he has a developmental disability and could be considered vulnerable to this. Men can be r*ped too.
Much love for ya Roma..nuttin but respect
Thanks Roma! Great video and thanks for your support.
I believe in chivalry,I still use my manners,it's the way I was brought up,thanks society for making me look strange, lol.
Regardless, it shouldn't be forced on people. And it's sexist to teach boys to be servants to women.
Thats not chivalry, its good manners but even decent manners are in short supply!😎🖖
Chivalry does not mean allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. A woman calling you at 3 AM for help, and you know you're friend-zoned, is simply taking advantage of your being available to be disrespected.
Amen!!
Stuff like this scares the crap out of me my late girlfriend spoiled me in so many ways, we hardly ever fought and we had mutual respect for each otber. My girlfriend of 16 years passed away back in October and I'm getting to the point where I'm thinking about dating again, but stuff like this makes me stop and think do I really want to put myself through all that.
JB I am so sorry for your loss man. Hang in there and keep your chin up!
Don't bother wasting your time on women now until they change their behavior.
You were lucky. You had a good run, and you should cherish the memories. Sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss it sounds like you and your girlfriend had a wonderful relationship and although there are some horrible evil women out there there are still some good ones unfortunately just takes a little time weeding out the rotten ones
@angelac141 we did have a wonderful relationship in so many ways, and i was very well aware of it even before she passed. I know there are good women out there, but there seems to be a lot more horrible women also.
❤I love your message. I wish all women would have your attitude. Thank you, Love ya
"WILL YOU PLEASE GET TO THE POINT"..LOLOL...🎉....😂😂❤ U
I seen a women post that a man tried to be a gentleman to her and that it made her think that he was a b*tch and then she couldn't respect him🤦
The fuvk..? Ridiculous.
I've been hurt by men and women my whole life but if a guy opened a door for me at the least I'm going to smile or say thank you if there's another door I'm opening it for him if we are going the same direction, as well as if a guy 30 feet away from me said "excuse me miss" (or anything along the lines of that) I would be on edge but I'm going to answer or turn around to make sure they are talking to me and politely have a conversation with them. This is coming from a 19 year old girl who has been SA'd multiple times, almost kidnapped multiple times, has been abused in everyway. All by men and I still have enough sense to know its not everyone sadly enough its an issue but not everyone and I can show those men respect.
I know it won't do anything or mean that much but I'm sorry there are men like that in the world just wanted to say this as I didn't want to just scroll by and like the comment
Thank you for keeping a level head in spite of your experiences.
I've been chased multiple times and have been stabbed from which I almost died. Now days I keep my distance and carry a knife with me, but I still treat strangers like they are human, I look at them in the eye and respond in like manner.
I am the kind of person who would naturally hold open the door for anybody who is coming in or exiting the same building I'm either leaving or entering, it is been a part of how I was raised. My father was always the type of person to do these little gentlemanly things, so naturally a lot of this Behavior I observe growing-up rubbed off on me.
Just simple acts of being nice or smiling and so forth has been getting me a lot of weird looks and stares at people who i do these simple things for and it's making me second-guess everything that is basically been ingrained into me since early childhood. I used to do this type of thing just because and it made me feel good to make somebody smile or even so much as receive a thank-you or whatever just gratitude.
But with this type of behavior in today's standards, which are stupid because they're double standards now, it makes me question if these little habits are even worth it anymore, like do I even bother or do I just slam the door in people's faces now?
It's like cancelculture but for real life 😢
Hi, and thank you. I always enjoy your view. I was brought up to never hit a woman no matter what. My own sister exploited this to her advantage. So here I am as a single man for over 30 years that owns my own home after working hard and saving money. My sister owns her own home and never worked a day in her life. Hmm go figure. My parents basically bought her a house after she fell pregnant for the second time and her marriage failed. I am proud of myself for rising above it, but I have no trust in females as a partner and I am sad about this. This is obviously the shorten version because I could write a book on how I was hogtied and defenseless against aggressive, physical and abusive women. Again, thank you, I take solace in your opinion and views and appreciate your content. Respect to you and more.
"No woman comes with bad intentions to a man, it is the man's behaviours that changes the intentions of a woman"
I couldn't stop laughing at that one. I was with a woman who saw everything I did as evidence that I was cheating on her. If I'm on the phone, I'm cheating (even when she takes the phone off me and sees for herself that I'm not). If I'm not on the phone, I'm cheating. Her whole mindset was that no matter what I was doing, it was interpreted as evidence of me cheating.
The ironic thing being that I ended the relationship when I caught her actually with another man.
Dude, it's literally the easiest way to understand that woman is cheating. I can assure you that 99% of the times, if woman accuses you of cheating, she already cheated on you before and simply projecting.
Yeah if someone accuses you of something that YOU KNOW you aren't doing, it's them that's doing it. I've seen it happen in relationships for men and women.
yeah there's a rule that goes something like 'an untrustworthy person doesn't trust others'
Both reasons are legitimate enough to dump her. One for cheating and two, for the false accusation of the former.
A lady I was seeing accused me of cheating on her because in her dream I did, and everyone knows that dreams tell the truth! (I wasn’t)
Chivalry isn't dead necessarily, not every woman deserves it, and being a gentleman, or a lady has nothing to do with superiority, it's about making sure that the people around you are as comfortable as possible.
"Blast From The Past" is still a great movie, after all these years!
@@theengagedfew I know, I qouted a movie, but that doesn't make that statement any less true.
@@seanfowler3966 I never said that it did. Just pointing out the reference, because a lot of people might not get it, as the movie wasn't a huge hit.
Hell. I remember one time I was the DD for a close female friend of mine on her 21st. One of her friends was clearly EXTREMELY drunk and tried very VERY hard to get in my pants, and I had other men telling me I must be gay. I've even had situations where a woman literally wants absolutely nothing from me other than to cause me stress. An ex of mine who I dumped after learning she had been sleeping with my brother (and also half the county, you can think I'm being colorful but I'm dead serious) after she finally left, she threatened me with legal action SEVERAL times unless I gave her the necklace she had given me close to the start of our relationship. She finally convinced me to give it up, only to never once show up to get it. She just wanted to cause me to be afraid. She just wanted to know she made me squirm one last time.
Been getting your shorts in my feed lately and it is nice to see that someone arent just streaming men are bad
I remember once trying to get a woman's attention in the Walmart parking lot, because I noticed something hanging loose under her vehicle, and she screamed at me violently. Therefore, I got back in my vehicle and called 911 with her location, vehicle description, license plate, and a brief description of the concern. I watched her get pulled over on the roadway a couple of blocks away, and thought to myself, "Good job". **shrug**
Just this week I tried to warn woman about some of her shopping in front of her car when she got ready to drive off (waving at her to stop and pointing to front of her car, while loudly calling "madam you have your shopping in front of car" from maybe 15-20m) . She started screaming "help! he's trying to attack me" and drove over two of her shopping bags full of stuff. Worst is it didn't ended there, after this she stopped the car and started screaming at me that she's calling police because I destroyed her stuff so I need to pay for it or get arrested.
I remember years ago a man followed me and pulled up beside me in traffic and started yelling to get my attention….I was like “weird, ok. Wonder what he wants.”
My gas cap was off, and my trunk hadn’t fully locked. I was so thankful for him.
while (even if its at a ridiculous lvl atm) im glad to see the change towards women taking more responsibility about their own safety. it was not all that long ago when the narrative was "teach grapists that graping is bad (like they care...), and also drag decent men in the dirt for something that they too hate while we are at it"... seriously that logic still hurts xD improvements can be made to threat assessment. but its a skill and from what ive heard from quite a few places its not taught as often to girls (that shit is so backwards bc its a useful skill and even more to women due to biological factors). even i got taught that a lot and i live and grew up in a small-medium town that is about as peaceful as it could get in my country (violent crime happens more these days but its still rare).
p.s just to make it clear how you dress is not consent but it can raise your risk in certain places. i wont deny reality just because its an uncomfortable truth. and it does not only apply to women.
i doubt anyone in this community will strawman my argument into something else but im just covering my bases with this part xD (man i miss when that was not a thing you ever had to do because ppl didnt expect the worst first)
Psychotic. That was psychotic behavior on her part.@@martinrolecek8837
older Gen X here... I appreciate your message... I stopped helping years ago, I have a lot of experience and am typically prepared... I'm not a doormat or a doorknob. Only my few closest friends and my kid get my help.
When i was 12 i almost died because a pretty serious lung and throat inflammation. A doctor came in every 30 minutes for the first 3-4 days at night to check on me how much liquid is in my lung so they could do an emergency operation in time if i started to choke. I was on infusion for like a week and a half. They didn't let me out to the toilet so i needed to use an urinal. I was really weak anyways because of the lack of oxygen my body got. On day two an old nurse came in to check on me and she said "what a cute boy you are". Then she came to my bed three or more times a day to "check on me". She started caressing me but i was moving away because it really started to creep me out. One day i needed to pee but i couldn't reach the urinal so i called someone to help. She came. She grabbed the urinal and said that i should just lay back and let her help. At this point i was really fucking creeped out so i told her to let me do it. She said no, then she tried to grab my junk while i was pulling my pants down but I blocked her with my hands. "Fine, but i will hold the urinal." She was fooming. After i finished peeing she poured my pee on my face. And it was quite lot because i needed to pee for like a hour or so. The most traumatic event in my life. After that i got depressed and was thinking about suicide for years. I didn't do it because i loved my father and i didn't want to hurt him. And yes woman can molest and rape man.
I like what you're doing! These things have been happening all around the world for a long and I rarely see discussions on this! I like the way you think! Thank you for your voice !
Thank you! I just wanted to say it’s so refreshing to see another woman defending men. It absolutely breaks my heart how this world is now today. And especially those stats you posted. Men don’t get a fair chance and their lives could be ruined from 1 lie a woman tells. It shouldn’t be like that. I don’t think the modern woman gives men a chance. So again thank you so much for all you do for men’s health and the awareness you bring. My brother is my best friend and means the world to me and he struggles with his mental health. I just want him to be safe and as happy as he can be. Thank you again!
Ellen, your comment really made my day! Please speak out when you see misandry and men being treated terribly by females. Only when women speak up will things change...
i sometimes wonder how skewed the stats are. we know men are afraid to report(on a larger scale) due to either facing social backlash or just not being taken seriously (so its quite plausible that many just dont bother and do the classic and bad way of bottling that pain) and we know that too many women (in the grand scheme i still think the actual number would be less that what it looks like) make false reports (without ever facing any form of real blowback, if any). honestly i would not be surprised if the real number of "grapes" are closer to equal between the sexes (maybe 60/40 or maybe even 55/45). i cleared out my reasoning more but i removed it bc its already too long and i think i got my point/thoughts across :)
Ok. I have to say two things. 1- when I lived in Connecticut there was a woman broken down in the side of the road. I stoped in my company van ( name and number on the van) to ask if she needed help. She started screaming for me to get away from her and backing away....ok. She may have had an issue or issues with men in the past, but it was daytime with a company name and number on my van....and I was in In inform with my name on my shirt......not exactly the scene of a kidnaper....so I just left her alone and went on my way...2- I got yelled at for holding the door for a woman entering a restaurant. She yelled that she is perfectly capable of opening her own door.....well.....I was raised to be a MAN. ( I may not be muscular or even good looking ) BUT..I will ALWAYS: work hard to take care of my wife, hold the door for a woman ( or even an elder man ), open the door to a woman's car, help the stranded woman, defend a woman ( ANY) with my life, say yes mam no mam, help a woman across a street and pick up something she dropped so she doesn't have to bend over.....if any woman can't handle the fact that I put women before me or a man then don't come near me, because I'm not stopping. I've watched many of your videos and have not ever made a comment but this one struck a nerve. Thank you for your videos.
This is gold lol. You will NEVER run out of content 😂
Glad I came across your channel , I'm hooked had to subscribe.
First off I love your channel! Currently going through something similar. I told her I wanted a divorce after 16 years together, 12 married (we were fighting and very drunk...I've been sober for 6 months now while she is not just fyi) after learning about her latest "emotional affair" with one of her clients (she is a LMHC with her own practice), 3rd one I know about, she hits me upside the head as usual and she proceeds to go into the house (we were in our barn at the time) and call the police and tells them I "slapped her" , no marks, no evidence, inconsistent stories from her and they arrest me! Then she files for divorce and has me served on New Years Eve day, files a restraining order, and files to contest the per-nup we have. Long story short...protective order dismissed, pre-nup in full effect, she's been removed from my residence, DV case is going to be dismissed I have been assured, and best of all I have revoked my rights to myself to be angry with her and have become indifferent to her as a whole. Patience and understanding will "pay" off if you let it fellas! Good luck!
Please keep making these videos!! Great stuff!
6:42 On a different note, it used to also be that meeting an online stranger was creepy AF and dangerous. Also, the way you used to obtain dates back in the day without social media was by profiling amongst your social circles.
An example is either your parents or extended family knew of a single person or two around your age range from work or church. You'd ask about them like their hobbies, religion, whatever. Then if you're interested, that person(s) would be told of your interest in them and they profiled you through your common contact. Then you'd both receive an invitation to the same party. There you are introduced. Technically this is not considered a first date but you do get to talk about your interests in family. If your future plans line up well, then you both agree to a date. You wouldn't be dating a complete stranger. That's how you know you're in good hands. If the man tries anything, his family will be shamed and lose social standing in the community.
Heres the thing, police, the court's, even adults who I thought should have at least cared all laughed at me and told me "you know you liked it".
I am going through therapy so apparently discussing this and reminding myself that I was not at fault or responsible for what happened, so here's the gist. Im sure there's going to be someone who doesn't consider this the r word, but whatever. When I was 17, my first girlfriend broke up with me because I refused to run away to vegas with her, I was already on outs with my family and the last thing I wanted was to piss off her parents, especially since she was a figure skater and trained a lot and was up for selection for some massive competition. Anyway, I was heartbroken over it, so I went to a friend who in hindsight was probably a shitty friend, but he took me out into the woods during lunch at school, toked me up for the first time, and I drank alcohol for the first time (a lot of vodka). I do not remember how I made it through the rest of school without being noticed, but by the time I was heading home on the bus, I was messed up and still getting worse.
Remember, I never smoked or drank before, and I was also still a virgin. A young lady who was a year older and had an infatuation with me that I did not reciprocate as she was not my interest. I was a kinda small guy at the time. Like 5' 9" and 130lb soaking wet, she was not. I do not mean to disparage anyone but her size played a role. She followed me home, i was too drunk to get inside my house (I had to jump a balcony usually to save my mom giving me a key), so I went behind the house and passed out in an old treehouse. Not a whole lot of memory due to being very under the influence, but I became consious enough to find her on top of me naked, and so yeah. I kinda gave up on the whole save the virginity till marriage thing after that, as I grew up religious, and well it was gone.
She later would be abusive and bully me because I was angry and completely ignored her after that. When I reported it to the sheriff station, I was laughed out. Apparently being male means you automatically want it, like it, and if not, you are a bitch.
Sorry for the long post, I dont want any sympathy, my point was only to reinforce the fact that society doesnt think men can be harmed in such a way. I got my therapy, and its been 20 years, so I deserve no sympathy. It just is what it is and I hate that society thinks this is acceptable.
Sorry that happened to you, geez I need to learn self defense for situations like that
Hey Beyond. Listen man I am sorry that happened to you. Anyone who made fun of you is either a woman or a man with no morals nor brain functions. I am glad you have had therapy and keep doing what you need to do. I hate to say it but sometimes REVENGE is necessary to help survivors of rape, etc. heal. No it would not undo what she did, but it would make you feel better and she damn sure deserves it.
Don't say "I don't deserve sympathy". Why shouldn't you deserve sympathy, you are a human with feelings! Just like we all!
There has happend something terrible and afterwards you where laughed at... how awful is that!
I am SO sorry that you have to go trough all of that 😢 heartbreaking 💔
Don't talk yourself down please, you deserve more! You are worth it ❤
I, too, had to learn that women are legally protected predators the hard way. They can be caught destroying lives, and still walk away without so much as a slap on the wrist.
It really sucks that you were taken advantage of. Sucks even worse that you weren’t listened to, nor believed, when you did the right thing.
Stay brave, brother.
I love this lady! ;-) I've been single for the last 15 years because I just can’t seem to find any reasonable footing as to what women want from a man, anymore. Some women expect men to be chivalrous, Some are offended by the very idea of a man opening a door for them.
I was raised by parents that were happily married for 50 years when they passed, but also old school in their relationship view. They were partners and equal in almost everything. This is what I was raised with, but I’ve tried to acclimate myself to evolving relationship values. But it seems women change their expectations of men to benefit themselves in any given situation.
I simply can’t bring myself to tolerate the hypocrisy, double standards, and selfishness that I find has spread through the female psyche. I don’t want to live the rest of my life alone….sadly, it looks like that’s where I’m headed.
Thank you Roma, for your insights!!
Fun fact to help reinforce that mixed signals point that i remembered when the lady was talking about men not opening doors for woman anymore or doing anything like that for them, i had a date about a year or two back where i did this exact thing and was trying to open doors for her, pull out her chair, yes it's old school but i was raised mostly by my mom which was like that in terms of appreciating small things like that and wanted to teach me to be like that for the future, well the date didn't go so well, the whole time she was making foul underhanded comments about how i was doing all that to seem more masculine and better about myself, I thought maybe i got off on the wrong foot and wanted to keep in touch for whatever reason, I'm an idiot I'm not too picky, but i ended up getting ghosted perpetually after that all because i tried opening doors and pulling out chairs for a woman lol, yes bullet dodged, and also yes i didn't care at the time that it happened and i still don't care, just saved me the trouble in the long run, i realize i cant judge a whole gender based off that and i don't I'm sure some women would actually really appreciate stuff like that, but man, idk where these women get the idea that they can openly try and tell men how they should be treating all women to be successful in a relationship when a lot of them don't even understand other women.
another reason why passport bros exists
I'm so glad you do this work and show the stats on how life is. You're so amazing. As a victim of some of these things that don't get talked about, I'm so so glad you're such a passionate advocate. Love you and stay strong. ❤
Love everything you put out here, that mini blind being crooked is driving me crazy LOL
A woman with knowledge & sensibility with the men,, oh thanks Lord... you're brave and have my support..
My teacher was opening a door for a student and she was very upset that he held the door for her. Being that my teacher is a much older guy it was just something you do for woman and he tried to explain it that way. She had none of that and went batshit crazy on him about how she doesn't need help.
pfft not even "just something u do for a women" as it is just common courtesy for any one coming to too the door not too far behind u, male or female, but im sure that certain types of women would still react that way and try to argure anyways 🤷♂
Whenever chivalry is brought up I’m always reminded of a routine by a stand up comedian named Brett Druck:” A lot of people misuse the word Chivalry. I looked up the code of Chivalry and there’s only one part in there about respecting women, the rest of it is medieval battle etiquette. A week ago I didn’t hold the door open and she said “I guess Chivalry is dead.” So I challenged her to physical combat. Turns out I’m the better jouster. Chivalry is alive, but that woman is dead!”
Long story here: I was eating by myself at a restaurant a few years ago when a child turned around in the booth behind me. The child was trying to get my attention, but the mom told the child not to because I might kidnap! I never made eye contact or verbal contact with the child or the mom, but she tried to scare the child into behaving by saying I might be a kidnapper! WTF?!
Ya know, I was dating someone,... and she hit me out of the blue she's moving to Missouri (We were in California).
On her way out of state at 9PM, towing a trailer behind her truck, she calls me cause she's vertically challenged at 5'2" and the tarp was coming off her stuff in the bed of the truck (One item was her fridge, and every time I picture her trying to do it, I chuckle). I drove over in my van and ladder and fixed the tarp for her. Also noticed the lights on the trailer were partially out (screwed up wiring), so had her drive to my place (with me behind her) so I can see if I can fix the trailer lights (Working in the dark was a problem, and I didn't have the parts needed in my van). On the way to my place a trailer blew a tire.
I live in the middle of no where, a small town population of around 4,700 people, called a few places but they were all closed or didn't service trailers (AAA for example).
All that to say I didn't get home until 3am after getting her, her kids, her dogs, her truck and the trailer to a hotel near my place, and safe.
Then I went home and got ready for work at 4am.
If that's not chivalry, I give up.
I was "made to penetrate" when I was younger and was for years. When I had my first real consentual situation with she was impressed at how "experienced" I was. That was at age 16 and my "made to penetrate" didnt stop until I was 17 and happened once again in 2017. I am 35 now and was confused about the whole thing until I spoke about it to my therapist and she told me "yeah you were graped all those years". then when I told my friend about it he stopped speaking to me because he said that was disgusting so I was made to carry so much guilt and shame because of it. Thank you for your videos
A woman left her wallet at a food place and then got mad when i tried to let her know. So i took her wallet home, cut up all of her cards then took the empty wallet with only an ID, and 40 in cash to the police station.
It's not worth trying to even say "hey. You left your wallet." Anymore.
Should have taken the 40 as a "f*ck you" tax. Then launched the rest of it into the street.
I once opened this door for an attractive young woman about my age. She walked into the convenience store without even acknowledging me. She acted like I was supposed to hold the door for her like she was royalty or something. We both paid for our stuff, and I walked out the door a few seconds ahead of her. I opened the door just enough to get by. A few seconds later, I heard a loud thump. I turned and saw the woman had walked into the door. I didn't even try to hold in my laughter. Turns out she was at the pump next to mine, and we both needed to put gas in our vehicles. As I finished pumping the gas in my, I looked over to where she was, and she was looking at me with a "wtf" look on her face. I flat out told her that next time someone holds the door open for her, to have the common courtesy to say thank you. Got in my car and left with a big smile on my face.
Just stumbled onto your channel....I think I love you! lol. I mean that in a non creepy way as in I love the things you are saying. It is a little odd that I am qualifying my statement given your content. Keep it up !
Hi Roma. Chivalry isn’t something we do for women. It is something that we do for ourselves. Women can accept or dismiss those acts, but at the end of the day, this is something akin to Southern manners. I am old. I will be dead in 50 years, but I will still get up at 3:00 AM and help men and women when possible.
When I had a “Work-Wife.” We would be at the office until very late at night. If I still had work to do, but she was done for the day, I would walk her to her car. My work wife, ‘Peggy’ had pepper spray, a knife, and a small caliber handgun (It’s a Texas Thing).
I would still walk her to her SUV. Why? Because I was also a deterrent. If I was attacked first, she could nail the fucker.
If I didn’t walk her to her car, and she was accosted, I would feel that I wasn’t as noble, as chivalric (sp) as I hold myself to be.
Men who would do Chivalry to be seen as honorable are show ponies. Men who do it for a centered sense of honor wouldn’t stop because the current culture says it isn’t acceptable.
Women are not the ones who determine if Chivalry is dead; men are.
Damm you have such a way of putting things together, I thank you for sharing your thoughts and taking on the real tuff things that men deal with. Peace out
I used to open doors for women years ago, somewhere in the 1970's so it's been a while. What I got from most women was, "Male, chauvinist PIG!" That is what Women's Lib did for women decades ago. I remember hearing women saying to burn the bra since it was a male invention to enslave women. LOL!!! I found out about 20 years ago that a woman created the bra and i looked more like a bikini top that is triangular in shape. Yup, women always feel it's the guy's fault. My ex-wife who I was married to for almost 16 years, used to tell me how worthless I was since I was not handy with fixing things. She had broken something that I knew how to fix and asked her if she wanted me to fix it. She told me no that she would fix it, since she was smarter than me. An hour later she was still messing with it and told me to go down and fix it, it was in the basement. I told her that I thought she was smarter than me and didn't need me to do it. I don't remember what the item was, this was over 25 years ago, I just remember telling her to fix it herself.
I do. I still do what I can. It's not much, mostly opening or holding doors. I do it for the guys too. I also say thank you when it's done for me.
And just who do you think you are going out in the publics and subjecting the unwashed masses to your civility! You, sir, should be ashamed of yourself!
I'm kidding, of course. I do the same thing. And it still bothers me when people don't say "thanks".
The chivalry is still strong with me. Only now I predominately practice it for older women because their response is always “Thank you young man.” or “That’s very kind of you.” After the third surly look and the second “I can get the door myself!” I just figured ok. Open the damn door yourself.
Say what you will about boomers but they know manners and politeness.
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One day I held the door open for a woman and as she walked into the store she looked at me and said I have a boyfriend. I immediately replied that must have taken a lot of peanut butter. She stormed off pretty quick. I will still keep holding the door open for people regardless of what a dumbass says to me.
4:26 stamp. I love your face expression, I already knew what she was about to say.., 🤣🤣🤣.. Love from Switzerland!!!
Father:Rule number 1-son always make sure you are happy and at peace, anything that disturbs it eliminate it from your life.
Son: well why are you still with mom if you always say she doesn't give you peace and pisses you off dad?
Father:🙄 you act just like yo mama.
Its women like these that I really just help older people. They are actually happy to see someone help them out of respect.
So, I was raised to be a gentleman by my single mother. I respect women. I respect men, too. Humans. I respect humans. This happened a few years ago, but sticks with me. So I'm at the supermarket, and I see an old couple ahead of me, a little frail maybe, so I kind of jog over and pull the door open for them. They're thankful. I then hold the door for the person who was behind me, since I'm already there. A woman, about my age I guess, mid-30's maybe. She gives me this look that says 'how dare you!?' and flips me off. Probably muttered things under her breath, too. I dunno who the fuck she was, never met her in my life, I was just being nice. So I just ignored it and moved on with my day. But that shit sticks with you. It was so... randomly mean for no reason. It might also be that I'm white and she was darker, maybe thought it was a race thing? Like... do I need a better tan to hold the door open? The fuck. It's shit like that that makes men not want to be bothered. If we're just going to get hate for being nice, then we won't be nice.
...I... also have a more personal tale of a... 'made to penetrate' involving... myself... but I'm not really going to get into that. But yes, it absolutely happens. And it's... emasculating.
Chivalry...1.in extreme situations like in rescue circumstances. 2. When situations come up to do a nice act and quickly go. Like returning a trolley at the shopping centre. 3. Holding doors where I've walked through first and holding door behind. That way if she reacts negatively, I've got my back turned and walking away. 4, I save the most chivilrous acts for the elderly as they grew up in a time where it was part of life.
Just found your channel a bit back, glad I stumbled upon it, much love, God bless ✝️
BEST VIDEO EVER! thank you so much Roma.I am LITTERALLY so close to giving up on living because of the disgusting and infuriating double standards of todays society, where I the abused have been left on the streets to sleep, when the abuser gets a nice warm bed and roof regardless if it was MY HOME and i had another child to a previous relationship with 50% custody..... I am so close to going out to the streets and give up because of this nightmare society..
I’ve been single for 18 years, and it’s exact same reason thanks for sticking up for all of us man at least one woman altar understands
I remember holding the door for a woman who proceeded to yell at me for doing so. Evidently, she didn’t need help. I still hold doors for anyone behind me, regardless of gender. But I can see how too many of those situations could lead to people stopping the practice. Let’s just try to treat people with respect and kindness.
Roma, you are my hero.
Almost every time I was touched without giving any consent happened while I was asleep.. and by multiple females. I removed myself from those situations. Most people don't care when it happens to a man.
Men are disposable. At least, that’s what it often seems like.
I'm a libertarian who happened to, by choice, live in large East-coast inner city "hip" neighborhoods for my entire adult life. I was immersed in the culture because of the "edginess," the dangerous element, the open-mindedness and acceptance of freaks [who, although I never looked like one (I used the pious "working class" look), I certainly felt like one] and people who I thought were accepting. But, of course, this was never true when it came to politics, but I always held my libertarian conservative-leaning political beliefs.
So your dress, the tattoos and piercings I became over 30 years encultured into but always assumed no one else was around with political ideas similar to my own. It's nice to know that they were out there (perhaps disguised by their appearance), they just couldn't say what they believed because of that society's hatred and shunning of the "non-believers." I don't know what others have said on the site about your style, but I for one, find it very sexy.
I was always brought up to be a Gentleman open doors for women hold elevators or even allow women to use instead of me give up me seat for women basically everything a polite man should do.
One day i was taking my daughters to swimming and happened to notice a lady with her child running for the door that was about to lock before she could reach. I like a gent proceeded to hold door preventing her from being locked out...........once she had gotten past the door held by me she verbally affended me by saying i dont need no man to hold the door for me and proceeded to push the door shut on me. Then as my children was getting into the pool i had referred to my two girls as little ladies to which the very same woman spoke up and said just call them girls for forksake. As you can tell i was not happy but as i didnt want to make any scene i stayed quiet and held my self together. The comments wasnt needed and i felt that i couldn't say anything as i was the only male in the room.
Im starting to feel that Respect should be earned and that if i dont trust you respect won't be given
Chivalry will never die. Real men are still here!
Chivalry can die when it's expected but not appreciated. Men are chivalric to women who appreciate it and act appropriately. You can only have a one-way conversation for so long.
Good video with great points Chole! I'm 37, and old school. Chivalry was taught to be by my father, and grandmother. It's just what men do. A women cares and supports their boyfriends, fiancee, and husbands. It's something to see the change in the world as the years have past. Why can't it be as it should be? Men are men, and women are women. Men and women are two sides of the coin, yin and yang. It's weird how the only two sex of humanity has become divided.
You said it perfectly I couldn't agree with you more
Or as I saw at the beginning of a three stooges short, when the men where men and the women where glad of it! 😂
I also feel as a relationship progress there's a comfortability factor where both SOs don't even think about chivalry and focus more on life love and the pursuit of happiness being so in love that a door is no longer an obstacle
I love your videos ❤ty for all your work
Love your content please keep it up!!!
I stumbled upon your videos while watching videos on an entirely different subject 😂. You’re an interesting and rather insightful woman. On the subject of chivalrous ideals and actions, there is a depressing lack of such things especially in recent years; however, sometimes being chivalrous can get us dudes in trouble as the bad apples of my gender have created a stigma that we all have hidden agendas that are possibly nefarious in nature. It’s a hard balance we must practice so as to not inadvertently offend or looked on with suspicion. Thanks for lookin’ out for the good guys in your videos darlin’ 😉