Stine Linnemann differences between people like him and me, yea i get pissed off. But at least im not a passive aggresive little bitch, i’ll just straight up say what’s on my mind lol
@@angelarroyo6001 Must agree with this. When I am angry with some one I go real calm and talk real slow so they know why I am angry at them. If they can not read the signs and continue to make me angry it's then that they get a real close look at the ground, and a free ride to the hospital. There, Leo anger management at it's very best.
Dude! People that are searching for "Anger Management" videos, already know, they have a problem! They want to evolve as a person, and do better for the world as a human being! They are not losers! They are people just like you (NOT PERFECT)! If you can't understand such a simple thing! You should not come in a public space, and PLAY DOCTOR! Let people with a true knowledge of such a deep subject, do their work! YOU ARE NOT HELPING!!!! YOU ARE MAKING IT WORST!!!!!!
Danilo Ayres that's exactly what I'm doing looking these videos up like when I clicked this and started watching I was like "really asshole.. I already know... OMG bye" 😂
If you are seriously having anger issues you may as well just skip to 3:42 because the arse in him didn't realize beforehand that people who have this type of baggage will be completely rubbed the wrong way by the beginning of the video and not watch it which is actually counterproductive to even attempting to enlightened themselves on this serious issue they're having.
Yeh its a 1400 years old quote said by a very great personality called " imam ali" . You can search him up he has a lot of great sayings wich you may find interesting.
Why would u want to control anger if it's a very valid response to some injustice done to you which I experienced with a dumb ass pig who fathered my kids twenty years ago my values were trying to raise them to respect others his was opposite do wrong don't listen to authority figures e c t so sometimes a persons response to an injustice done doesn't mean they should not respond in anger
Telling people who came here to fix their anger problems that you consider them "fucking losers" is not a smart way to get through to them and it's very judgmental. Anger is often disguised sadness! It's also clear that if you've never experienced anger as you claim, then you probably aren't an authority on the subject. If you were addressing people with drug addiction would you call them f-ing losers in a self-help video? Not likely! Lastly, name calling angry people is counterproductive to helping them to NOT be angry! You're fighting fire with fire and that rarely works. What they need is compassion and understanding to see the light.
J Bag I agree but the way he belittled angry people calling them names is counter productive and could actually make some NOT get help for their anger due to the extra shame this guy is putting on them.
'Yeah - I have never lifted the bonnet of any car, I can't drive and I don't even _like_ cars...here's my 25min definitive treatise on how to get the most out of your Citroën SM.' 😂
When he said, "loser" towards people who experience intense anger, I could feel myself getting angry. Calling people names because they're trying to help themselves watching your videos isn't helping or motivating
Leo Nordin pretty sure a person who is self aware and capable of empathy and teaching others can find more helpful wording for constructive conversation.
@@feef5524 yes that is very true, im sorry. If anyone feels angry at times you could try to ask yourself. Why am I angry, why do I feel this way, should I feel this way, should I really feel this way, could I be wrong or is it Wright, when is anger good, when is it bad, why is that, what do others think of anger, could anger always be bad? Etc etc. Those questions come to mind every time I start to feel frustration. I just try to be mindful of all my actions that might be bad. In the end I am very learning oriented so I would advise to think about yourself often if you are new to that. We all will have kids some day and we don't wanna give our bad behavior into their futures. Also we don't want to tell our kids what is right and wrong because we don't really know. Why come when I ask family members why not to hit someone the answers are always so vague? Because they never figured it out, they said because of society, laws, you get hurt etc.. But not the real reasons to why it is not beneficial psychologically.
Leo Nordin I think it is important to be honest about how we really feel... regardless of shoulds... but once we accept that we are angry, I agree with you that we should find out what triggered it by asking ourselves questions... and then being accepting, loving, empathetic and patient with ourselves we should ask “what can I do about this?” This sets us up to be able to respond calmly and rationally to a situation vs. react out of emotion. I appreciate your response☺️🤗
I work at a prison and have to talk to inmates and connect with them. Many of their tragic pasts I have to sift through with compassion. This guy's approach would not fly at all. I couldn't imagine saying to an inmate with a past of abuse, molestation, and addiction "What are you so angry about you loser."
Never feels rage but calls people losers for having anger issues isn’t cool my dude . Most people with rage developed it over years from growing up with abuse most people are products of ther environment and just haven’t learned coping mechanisms
I think it depends on your age, I would not call a child a loser for having anger problems. On the other side if I see people hit each others and do these stupid things I believe they would be called losers by most. I only want people to be better so I don't care if you are a loser. If I would get angry when I should not even for once I would call myself a loser and spend a lot of energy not to do the same misstake again.
@@damiancampbell7534 and you must be a loser too then? Two people can play that game. Losers are people who judge without understanding. That's a loser.
@@damiancampbell7534 The fact that you came here, probably to manage your anger too, and decide to say this- when the only thing everyone else is trying to do is to get better is just, yikes, man.
Seriously you have no idea what disasters and traumas people have been through and how their anger manifests. This commentary is judgemental, ignorant and the issue is much deeper than your research.
That's true. But he did say that he has difficulty understanding it. Though of course that doesn't justify acting ignorant. I myself get angry often but I learned a lot from his other videos and I'm feeling good process on beeing able to control my anger. I'm writing this before I even watched this one completely. For the last two weeks I feel like I somehow managed to make a rather large shift of beeing a lot less easily frustrated. I do carry a lot of anger and hatred in me. The 'non-angry phase' might fade, I will have fall backs for sure, but the challange for me will be to not give up then and stick with it. And I won't give up.
I SWEAR I DIDN'T EVEN WATCH THE VIDEO YET BUT I FEEL YOU BRO BECAUSE IT'S FUCKING ABSOLUTELY RIGHT !! btw I just broke my wife's laptop screen ! Because of a stupid question that I didn't manage to answer differently... things could've been smoother. Most of My anger comes out of other's misunderstanding me -( only others that I CARE ABOUT AND LOVE )- or negative people or so.... Actually she picked a wrong timing for such a question and subject to talk about ... Well, my issue briefly is I feel guilty badly when I shouldn't actually just because of someone's brain is rotten and stupid enough to make me feel guilty as I said when I actually shouldn't..... so the anger of being guilty while you shouldn't be is getting on another anger of this last one when You have no power at that time and feels broken ... sad.. misunderstood... honest... beautiful heart... beautiful soul... beautiful person... at the beginning of a depression that you shouldn't even think about. ...... and so on... then again the anger is Unstoppable. . So this guy at the video he cares about views more than he got angry.. he is propably gay and his own thoughts got him believe in bullshit that he just posted. KURWA
Everyone commenting is so hung up on "being called a loser" they missed the message, which was a good one. As someone who experiences anger and rage a lot, it is a real struggle to figure out why this is happening repeatedly, how to fix it and how to stop yourself before it happens.
I've loved your videos... but this one felt a bit 'judgie' towards the people that came to watch this vid (people with anger issues)... by saying you don't understand or ever feel anger and that it's disgusting is not a great way to start a vid for people searching out how to help themselves on this topic... it kinda sounds like you don't emphasize with them, but instead judge them... probably not your intent... but by reading the comments... it might be what other people perceived as well... just sharing my initial thoughts from listening... great vids otherwise, thank you for taking the time to make them... :)
Leo is an unconscious idiot lol, I will definetly unsubscribe because this judgemental shit is way too much, I am not going to follow an idiot who thinks people are disgusting for showing an emotion(anger), if you think people are disgusting for being angry then u have low control of ur judgements, paradoxx? Leo you look like voldemort lol
I'm so sorry, I finally got your lesson! I'm such a disgusting angry person. You've taught me a great way to combat my anger. Act like you aren't angry, and criticize others for being angry! Wow, I feel much better knowing a person like you is going down the toilet, yet I don't feel bad! ITS GREAT! I'm shaving my head tomorrow.
I don't easily lose my temper but when I do, I explode. What he was saying in this video was uncalled for. Just because one person gets angry easier than the next, does not mean one is any better or more emotionally intelligent than the other. People get angry for subjective reasons, it's wrong to generalise anger like he is doing. Just because you get angry easier doesn't make you a bad person, it doesn't mean you're worth any less than your peers, everyone is individual. I would say it is important to try and reduce explosive tempers, for the sake of yourself and those around you and remember to try and be sensitive to other people's feelings.
My anger is weird. If I get sad, my sadness turns to anger. If I try thinking of happy thoughts to calm myself down, I start tearing up and then I get angry again. Sometimes if I'm really angry I snap at the nearest person, even if they did nothing.
I can't imagine a peaceful person needing to insult those who are having a problem they need help with. You have lost a great deal of credibility with the people who have followed you. Those who are peaceful at heart have no time for kicking someone who is down.
Yeah seriously I only made it 3 minutes before being like “I came here for advice not someone to say the same things my brain says to me all the time.”
I see so many angry people in the comments. I have anger issues, and the way I see it...maybe he is testing us. If you get wound up at being called a loser, then that is an anger issue. There is no reason to curse or make violent threats towards a word. At first I was angry, but then I was like...you know, he's right. And I felt calm. Screw this...I'm forgiving and letting go of this anger, which came from horrible circumstances throughout my life. I'm forgiving those that hurt me and I'm forgiving myself for the mean and violent things I have done. I'm letting it go. Thanks for the video!
If you believe anything anyone tells you about yourself you're going to end up depressed because the world is a cold place. I agree you shouldn't get mad over it but you shouldn't accept it.
Paula E same but my rages are called blind rages you can't see what your doing not too many people have them I get an adrenaline rush that's over my ability it's very dangerous my it's like a steriod I get
I don't care if he meant it "as a test", that would be a very stupid test because anyone who started watching this and has an anger problem ALREADY knows it, so there's no point to that. If he really had any knowledge about psychology and was of a "higher consciousness level" he would not say such a thing. And btw, I didn't get angry about it, I saw it as hypocrisy, lack of empathy and understanding of what lies behind the anger and him thinking he's superior because he doesn't get angry.
***** That didn't make any sense dear, I already posted, didn't I? Besides, it's not my problem that you have perceived my post as negative, obviously he doesn't know what he's doing and you don't know what you're saying. And honestly, it made me laugh that you said "my post", girl this is YT where anybody can post wherever they want, so just get over it, ok?
i know i have anger issues because people are really stupid where i from its not me judging them any normal person should see how people act in my town and they will see why i get mad
You called me a loser, I got pissed, and clicked the thumbs down... Then I actually listened to what you had to say and changed my mind. Thanks for this.
Good job! I love that you are continuing to help yourself fix yourself. No one person or thing can control our thinking but we can, and I see you are on a path of healing and healthy thinking!
Why do you want people to feel disgusting and a loser and make them feel wrong about their emotions before you help them with their anger? But its just a Way for you to be "a higher status person" than the viewer saying "your disgusting and a loser, and im not because i never experienced anger"... And thats ok :) i dont Think that you REALLY want to help people :) i think that you just want people to think your a genius :) you want to show people that your smart :)
No one that comes here for advice will not hear his advice for saying insulting things. This self indulged know all has no right to say idiot things like that. People hearing this will get turn off immediately.
Play4Vida fuck him and his judgemental attitude. I didn't come here to be spat uppon. However guys, if you need some help on anger issues, guided meditation has worked for me
Jonas Pedersen He isn't really that smart, when i told him that i had social anxiety, he kept telling, me, well you just done have "social experience it is simple as that" the guy cleary doesn't know what he is talking about.
Funnily enough I learned how to control my ROAD RAGE from my 8 year old daughter. The thing with children is they generally are patient and calm. One day I stopped what I was doing and watched her play outside. She took her time and absorbed everything that was happening around her and seemed relaxed and content 😌 Then I realised if I was more like her I wouldn't get so angry 😡 now instead of having road rage I leave home a lot earlier and sit further back from the car in front and take my time and when I look at other drivers in a rush and cutting people off I just say to myself "they must be running late, if only they had left earlier!" and it doesn't affect me 😊 And I'm usually and angry person... you can learn a lot from children. Observer them and let them have a voice.
Yeah, I'm sorry but I can barely watch this. I tried to get past your intro without blowing up because you called me disgusting and a loser for having anger issues due to years of trauma. You really don't sound like you understand what you're talking about. It's really difficult to control those feelings. When you get angry with anger issues you'll probably feel like you need to destroy something just to feel better. It makes you feel better for a bit but then you feel bad because you probably did break something or even possibly hurt yourself. You won't be able to really understand the feeling if you don't get angry often or at all. I would not like to remember this video when I'm angry because that would make it worse. I would get angrier and forget to "watch myself" as I continue to destroy my own life. Then I'll cry.
@@amandaperry4236 2 things for me: first is I have a very hard time talking about my problems; second is i feel it would be easier if it were to someone that understands as well.
Since you removed this video from your website one can conclude you realize how poor and angry it is. Could you do a favor for future people searching for ways to help with anger issues and take the video down? or make another version which doesn't insult people with anger issues. If you care about this topic at all, you won't ignore the many people who were insulted by you. thanks.
+Alexander Stöckl Yes he I liked what he had to say until he said that he doesn't understand it and it's disgusting. People who are angry are hurt, they have been hurt, probably as a child. I was raised in a family of yellers and I'm trying to find help, because I am a mother of a pretty defiant 3 year old boy. I don't want him to see me act out in anger and yelling the way I have seen. This guy doesn't understand. I know you're angry and it's very difficult to bite your tongue, but making him feel pain as an innocent child wouldn't have helped. I'm glad he didn't go through anything bad and most likely had a good childhood.
+Stephanie Smith If people are insulted by his comments that means he must be telling the truth. I notice this in my own life. When I bring up facts and truth to someone they get insulted because they are in denial about themselves. Exactly what he's trying to say. Instead of getting insulted, recognize why you are getting insulted. Usually, it's because it's true. Then correct the problem so that it would no longer insult you.
+Actualized.org This video is absolute shit Leo, especially coming from you "You're a fucking loser" Nice, I did not got frustrated so I was searched your videos since they are very informative and logical to strategically raise my EQ, yet that's what you say to me? I even bought your life course. This video is pure absolute shit. You do not insult someone and expect them to continue in a higher consciousness state. The irony is that you saying "You're a fucking loser" comes from a low consciousness state (Haha, I got you there >:D ) You should have jumped into finding the root cause, techniques to deal with anger, and other emotional intelligence I'm very relaxed after being angry for about 3 solid minutes from my dad yelling at me , but even seeing this in a mindful state I can tell it is pure shit, and I'm down voting it to oblivion. The reason the quality is so bad is that you can't relate, therefore you should not be teaching or instructing, idiot. Other than that, you are such a beautiful wonderful man :D
I'm at 2:30 and I've already stopped the video. Brother Leo, you've always helped me throughout my life but this one felt really insulting and a bit disappointing as well. Maybe because you haven't experienced the abuse, maybe childhood abuse in your childhood. the people you see raging are suppressing their anger and haven't been able to understand the causes of it and the ways to healthy releasing it. Instead of getting insulted, someone first needs validation for their anger, the true validation, not for the behavior but for the anger, why they're angry and why they can't get over it. What;s this anger is linked to. Why something happens that pushes the button and someone gets angry so easily. This video has to be more of the validation and understanding video than insulting and invalidating one. That's what the anger or any other emotions requires the first, the validation, then once his mind is calmed to believe it's ok to feel this way, his or mind can dive deep and understand the causes of it and make changes and get over it.
Vishal Upadhyay my son, he’s 20 and within the last year he’s been getting worse and worse. Angry over EVERYTHING!!??? I’m not exaggerating, it’s not like him and I think it’s a lot to do with his living situation and anxiety. He hasn’t had a girlfriend since high school and it’s only because he don’t try due to anxiety and self esteem. He’s got a good job, he is good looking, he has good hygiene, it’s all in his head that he’s not good enough. I cry at least twice a week lately due to his meanness and I hurt knowing he hurts. What do I do?.,
@@gamingwithmike5879 Getting angry from being insulted in a passive aggressive way by someone acting as though they're inherently better than you is a totally natural and healthy response; I'd honestly be more worried if you didn't have a similar response.
To the person who made this video - your problem is that you do not understand the deeper roots of anger, and it's so evident in the way how you speak. Do you honestly think that a person who has never got angry and claims they cannot understand it is adequate enough to give advice to others on how to control their anger? If you do not understand it, then you cannot see it from the right perspective, and if you cannot see it from the right perspective then you are not adequate enough to give advices. Also, bear in mind that not everyone's mental frame is the same as yours. It has a lot to do with someone's brain chemistry, it's not just a matter of pure lack of consciousness, awareness, whatever, nor people who get angry are "fucking losers", they're just humans. And you were talking something about ego, blah blah, - well, your ego is pretty big if you cannot understand others people's emotions and where they may come from so you choose to call them "fucking losers".
Still seeking approval from others? Seems like you learned nothing from my last comment below;) I strongly advise you to move on, there is more to life than wasting time on youtube;)
Roar Dino Technically speaking, anger is the emotional response that is produced by losing. It related to the reptilian dominance instinct in sexual competition, or if something is preventing you from winning a prize or taking an action. It would be perfectly accurate to say "If you are angry, part of your brain thinks you are losing"
I think how you see angry people is pretty short sighted, you just look at an event but you don't seem to understand that anger builds up over time, you just look at the outbreak but not what is behind it.. one angry outbreak can built up over years of smaller events.. let me warn you as well, people who never feel anger have a big tendency to have extreme outbreaks maybe later in life.. anger is a basic feeling if you never have it, there might be something building up inside you.. I like angry people, I always get the feeling they are honest, it's like a honest outbreak, I always kind of see what is behind it and do not take it too personal when it happens, you can even feel loved if a girlfriend shouts at you for example.. I see their pain and what is behind it, it gives me the feeling they care about something.. anger and love are two sides of one coin equally important and fulfilling.. without one you can't have the other I'm sure..
geistreiches Yeah usually people who have deep seated anger issues have many traumas in their past and need serious help, not to be put down. That makes people shut down right away. To say, hey I've never struggled with this I'm not like this, but let me enlighten you, sounds rude. Seems it would be helpful to hear from someone who has struggled, and overcome it. First you have to identify. Not saying he wont have good advice in the rest of the video, but that first part is a big thumbs down. People who are mad in general arent dumb to road issues or etc that hes trying to breakdown. They wake up miserable with unresolved issues and on edge already. Those things just bring out the emotions.
I completely agree. I used to be a lot calmer before people started screwing me over, and ditching me... I used to be very nice, and helpful and I used to barely get mad. But then people started being assholes and I started to realize that the ones you'd kill yourself for are also the ones most likely to let you drown. My anger issues have built up a lot and I've had a lot of hatred towards people in general ever since and it's very difficult to control when you feel like nobody understands you or cares. When people tell you to "just be calm" instead of trying to realize that you are TRYING to be calm, but it's difficult when you feel betrayed by almost everyone from your life. It goes a lot deeper than it looks. Edit: Although, looking at the video, no matter how much the beginning angers me, I can honestly say he's not wrong... When someone is acting angrily, like I am almost all the time, it's extremely toxic... And I notice myself how toxic I can be to other people simply because I can't control my anger. I can sometimes be disgusted with myself and I feel so horrible because I know I am in the wrong but I also feel too betrayed or stubborn to accept it, even though it's probably all in my head. I was aware that I was angry at other people not doing what I would do for them, which pretty much Leo is saying in this video. But I didn't realize this could be the cause of my anger.
I was searching for videos to help me cope with my anger. I am appalled at this video. It is counter productive (I wasn't able to continue watching it)it discussed me and this guy has problems himself. It's obvious. and considering I HAVE anger problems I think I handled this post very well
I see a lot of victims here and they need to watch the victim video. Take ownership of their anger and stop directing it at others even when we disagree with how they project their lessons. I love Leo!
Anger isn't something people should "overcome", neither is it lower consciousness. Useful expressions of anger such as focusing on work, exercise and bioenergetics are just some of many examples. Whatever you resist persists, if you feel angry you should express it and let it go, you sound a little passive aggressive. I do agree, that getting into "a blind fit of rage" is stupid, but from my experience, it usually happens when anger has been bottled up. It's a human emotion that needs to be explored and understood, especially for men.
+Sarl Cagan Yes! for me it's bottled up. I put up with small little things for a span of 2-3 years. little by little it makes me angrier and angrier. It should be dealt with from the beginning. But my situation is a relationship situation, so it involves 2 ppl. It can't be resolved on just my end. I only lose control when it's been a LONG time or when I'm trying to communicate and I'm getting shut down every which way and not acknowledged. That makes me explode.
I have to agree with some of the other people here. You are extremeley patronising toward people whom are just looking for ways to improve their way of life. I for one, is having problems with extreme anger. And i should be a lot mor angry than i am (yes, it's justified) but i actually just feel bad for you. You are never going to help anyone, if you dont learn how to do just that. Knowing all the facts is not going to help anyone. Being able to talk to people and show empathy, while utilizing what you know is the absolutely best way to help someone. I pray that you say what you said in the clip to an angry person in real life.
Just block negative people’s phone numbers to reduce or improve their negative energies from your life is the most helpful technique for me and it’s impossible for me to control anger no matter what but this helped me out. Thank you 🙏 for this amazing video btw
If you've never had first hand experience with rage or true anger, what makes you think you're in a position to tell people how to control it? That is tantamount to giving parents advice on raising their children when you've never had any yourself. Are you familiar with the term "quack"? how about pseudo-psychiatric babble? It appears that you're engaged in both. I would also like know what your credentials are.
Scott Malcolm People like to investigate and make assumptions from what they have seen. I try to think about the base of human emotions and needs... i'll say i'm not sure, but if i had to guess it be about knowing one worth and lovability. if you feel worth and loved, why would people be angry at themselves ? do you agree Sir?
Stone hornet First off, how can I agree with something I can't understand? Second, I'm going to guess that English is not your native language. Anyway, in an attempt to decipher your question here is my answer: No, one does not investigate and make assumptions. One can form a hypothesis (an educated guess), but never make assumptions. As I have already said: If one has never had first hand experience with rage or true anger, what makes one think they're in a position to tell people how to control it? Simply said, you can't give credible advice on a topic when you've never had to endure that topic.
Wow. You guys aren't feeling this video? What helped me from watching this video was when he said anger/rage is disgusting & to see yourself from the 3rd person. I immediately wanted to stop being disgusting. Worked me for. Good luck tho everyone. I hope you all find sth that works for u.
I was bullied throughout my childhood by my stepdad, part of which was physical abuse. I’ve had “rage anger” my entire life. Anything that has ever rubbed me the wrong way, I get angry, and then my anger goes back to memories of my childhood. I hold it in, and always have. I’ve never even spanked my own children, much less screamed, intimidated, or bullied them. I refuse to be like he was. If I explode, and start throwing fists in the air, it happens when I’m alone. But according to you, I’m a loser.
Yes, there is valid advice here. But one pointer. You might want to drop the judgmental characterization of angry people: I'm not a "fuckin' loser". Nor are many others like me all over the world. If you're enlightened, sir, why do you judge other people by your own standards and call abuse survivors with PTSD who turn our anger on ourselves "fuckin' losers"? I was raped and beaten almost to death. I'm not a "fuckin' loser". That's a very judgmental way of lumping people like me with narcissists and sociopaths who act like spoiled brats. Do you have any compassion for damaged people? I'm in therapy and I know why I'm angry. I've studied it since I was 9. I don't judge everyone by my ideals for reality; I'm 50 and I've long since lost any intolerance for that. But I am angry when someone physically threatens me or makes snide statements about my being handicapped or claims my being raped was my fault. You say you're not angry, but that statement "you're a fuckin' loser" says otherwise. It takes much away from what comes after it. You might want to reflect on doing things like that at the start of a video. ANGRY PEOPLE ARE IN PAIN. As for me, I am in physical and emotional pain every minute of every day. I'm recovering from decades of oppression and over-the-top violence inflicted on me. Being kept waiting doesn't make me angry. Being bullied does. And I meditate a lot; it helps much. I couldn't live without it!
Great points. About that angry people can be in pain. I wouldnt say that they necessary are pain. Some people just snap and get triggered. If they then do something stupid they might feel sad and be in pain for the harm they inflicted. There are many causes of anger. Being in pain is one of them. Or maybe you are right and pain is the reason people are angry. Forgiveness is a big thing in getting over all hurts. And its a process. Look for the book of forgiving forgivenesschallenge.com/book/
I was about to write the exact same post. I'm in the same boat as the maker of this video - I almost have an inability to get angry, but I have had massive depression and anxiety, and my father has massive anger issues, but I understand that they both come from the same fundamental error - that we attach personally to the thoughts and concepts we have about ourselves. I realise that when he gets angry, it is an expression of repressed sadness from many years of emotional suffering. It's just that he has been taught by society to not show that he is weak, and so he displays anger instead of sadness. Unlike many members of my family who judge him (and so make it worse), I know none of us are in control of our lives or thoughts in the way that most people think we are. I know that if it were easy my dad would not choose to be angry all the time (that is a shaming thought in itself, be careful not to get caught up in shame and blame - even pride is not a realistic notion in this regard. Same coin, different side), so I cannot possibly judge him for it and I'm surprised you think you can, Leo. Even if it's true that you feel disgust you must realise this feeling is a response to your conditioning and is not within your control, in the exact same way anyone else feels any other form of hate or anger - this was quite a glaring, unconscious mistake. If we are able to realise our lack of free will on a visceral level then that is where we are able to forgive ourselves and others for having these thoughts and emotions in the way we do. For me, my mind would tell me I'm worthless and that I'll never be happy, but in the complete opposite way as my dad, society has told me that it is bad to be angry (most probably through witnessing my dad's outbursts of anger) , so I would become reclusive and depressed instead, but fundamentally as humans we are all the same. I was pretty disgusted by the opening few minutes of this video and I'm sorry you had to see it tbh. But if the comments in this video offend you, forgive Leo in the knowledge that due to his conditioning he could not have responded otherwise. Then forgive yourself for any thought that may arise in agreement with his comment. In this way we see things as happening as opposed to happening to us. We can only act within our consciousness level - be more concious and it won't become personal! Just realise that when people say things, good or bad, your mind may also say them too, but if you can realise these thoughts we have and share are just a product of our environment outside of our control, it becomes silly to give any credence to them. All the best, PEACE :D X
you guys need a lot of work to understand this, im sorry for you,and yes everyone who is angry on many stuff like traffic for example is loser,no offence, i myself, cant control my anger , and when i am angry i become a monster, thank you leo
you are chosing to be angry to avoid your fear of pain, when it gets triggered. and you think you have the right to be angry. and you think feeling the fear and sadnes under the fear, you would not benifit at all... and you are afraid of loosing power... you might feel more worth all the time you get angry, because a lot of people show you "love" when you are angry. that's why you choose anger... it's emotional preferable for much reasons. and you have SO MUCH FEAR in you like you are getting angry, even if it's just passive agressive... you try to manipulate people with anger in order to make your world in your control so your fear goes away. the fear about the sadnes you have in you, because you were raped... it might almost feel like you will DIE, when you feel the triggered fear instead of moving to anger... even in very little reasons.
As a person with extreme crippling anger issues I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart I have been very mindful of how people get upset how others aren't like them I know I have been like this and the only reason why I am realizing other people do it is because I have some it my whole life after the military .... I have been avoiding it now watching and listening to you I realize I am on the right track to become less angry I seen it today in my gym how a guy a trainer was mocking someone saying I want to be the greatest fighter but never show up... I just saw that as a sign Just things I'm trying to avoid And to think the guys a trainer ...
Once I started following Leo, I began to notice the psychological defects in everyone I interact with daily and how we could all use practice in thinking differently, what if it isn't a messed up day or world, what if I am not stupid and unable to complete tasks confidently? Just asking ourselves these questions after making derogatory and negative remarks about ourselves that are not true until we create the thought. It is true, it is what we think it is!
The anger is real...stay safe people. I’m sure we are all good men and women despite our past. We HAVE to move on. YOU have to, I know you you know you can do it. You had to be strong to survive this far, you know yourself very well now...
Leo you said in this video that life is a beautiful thing. Are you under the assumption that life is a beautiful and good thing for everyone that does what they can or are you under the assumption that life can not be a beautiful and actually horrible thing for people no matter what they do?
I AM NOT LOST IN THE 'EGO'...SOME HAPLESS SOULS ARE BORN TO BE MISERABLE, THIS I BELIEVE IN MY 'LIFE' AND NO MATTER WHAT I DO I CAN'T WIN, AND I AM DAMN SICK AND TIRED OF THIS LIFE AND THIS UNTENABLE CONUNDRUM
no one is born to be miserable, i've had a difficult time the past 5 years or so and i've recently watched these videos, let go of my stubornness and ego, and taken in very helful and useful information, techniques and ideologies. I used to be a really cynical guy and i feel a lot happier because of Leo. He's been my therapist and he doesn't even know it. Pay attention to what he says and he can help you too
I DONT understand why ppl are hating on this video saying it wasn't helpful. Their just really closeminded and not awakened and DONT understand. You did great Leo. Ignore the haters/angry people.
Rage and anger can be used as tools to overcome obstacles when controlled. It took me years but I can now 5control it by bringing my anger to a simmer but not letting it go past that, I retain mental clarity and control. I've used my anger to overcome my opponents.
I have learned to turn the flame way down, too, to preserve nutrients, or cognition. The pressure still builds though, just not as quickly as before. Fear and anger excite our nervous systems more than caffeine ever could, so it is Nature's performance-enhancer to defeat or evade an attacker.
It does take years of practice to master how we respond instead of just reacting to situations. He gives a good practice suggestion in his Master your emotions video.@@h7opolo
People with anger issues getting angry to a video about confronting, and not simply narcotizing under the rug, whatever makes us angry. Great start. I myself trying my best and failing once, and again, and again... Awesome content. Thank you.
You’ve NEVER experienced anger “supposedly”, so how you could you ever know how it starts, where it’s comes from? Not to mention we people with a lack of emotional control comes to you for help and you insult us, no THATS disgusting. You have hatred in your heart for no reason
Yes, I agree. And ANGER is a TOOL to WAKE UP. Anger is a calling of your internal cells that something is not right, and your body needs alertness and energy to fix something in your life...or change a situation. Or change a perception. I love when I get angry because it is a little burst, that tells me that I am not on the right path, that I am not loving myself enough and caring for my inner health. Anger is like a GPS steering us away from something that is not serving us. Or it is bringing up something within us that we have to pay attention to and fix. If you see anger in this way, it is not a bad thing. For example...If you get angry because of traffic and congestion...road roage...people beeping and almost getting you into an accident. Maybe its time to relocate your home to the countryside, or move out of town so that you can drive slower, and enjoy the moment. We shouldn't encourage people to NOT get angry. We should encourage people to SHARPEN their intuition as well as learn more about their GUT FEELINGS so they can make their life amazing again.
Just some advice from someone with an education in Psychology. Try not to disassociate yourself from the person[s] with whom you are consulting with your own personal opinions and biases. It is best to leave out things such as profanity or statements such as "I never understood people with your disorder" or, "people with that issue never made sense to me". Avoid blaming, judging and labeling at ALL COSTS. This will only alienate people seeking help with a problem and cause them to shut down emotionally, or even worse, have lasting mental effects on them. I hope you consider these few recommendations. Those seeking help should be welcomed and accepted, not condemned. They need to understand that whatever problem they are having is truly more common than they realize and that it can be worked on, no matter how large of a problem it is.
That is a very sensible suggestion. I did feel a little hurt when Leo said depressed people are toxic. You don't know what the person went through - what broke their spirit.
All these people feeling triggered. And then there's me. I'm having some real anger issues - coming from intense sadness. But actually, after all these "empathic" videos, validating my anger... this was the one I needed right now. Someone who puts a boundary: expressing anger furiously towards others might not be the best way. He made some good points.
me and my mom argue alot, and I thank you for this.. sometimes I feel lost and unwanted, like thinking no one cares, not realizing I argue with someone who cares the most about me and it tears me apart when we bump heads cause deep down inside I don't wanna yell or break anything. I slowly feel myself yearling my mentality apart with isolation..
Ive watched more than half way through this video and please let me share that this is not at all useful or helpful at all. This is fine for someone who is going through road rage, who gets angry at the drop of a hat, but this is not at all helpful to someone who has been through a hell of a lot through their life, who is trying to over come the core issues of anger and move forward in their lives. You lost me here when you said that you yourself did not 'get' anger, one cannot teach what one has not been through. Anger is misplaced hurt. There is always a core reason behind it on a deeper level than what you've shared here. To tell these people to 'get a life' is not helpful at all. I would recommend that you re-read your self help books, as this is not for anyone's best and highest in this way. To tell them that they are a loser?? This is ridiculous, and being this is one of the very first videos that Ive come across of yours, I do not believe that I will be revisiting your channel again. This video is fine for the person who gets angry in chat rooms, on the road, over silly things, but it is not at all helpful to someone who has experienced a great deal and who is trying to overcome their experiences that have now developed into rage.
+Meichelle Spirit It doesn't apply to you and people like you. You don't know either what the videomaker has been through. It's not the best anger management video in youtube, yeah, but do you even know him personally? No, you don't. You don't know what other people went through. You're not the only person who went through shit. If you're looking for quality help, go to a therapist or you could always try TED talks. However, your comment's one of the more constructive ones among the others.
Razravenomdragon I am a professional mental health counselor as well as a professional spiritual healer. I was basing my comments on what he shared in his video,, not on judgement of him personally. Thank you for your comments, TED is very useful and I recommend them as well.
When you are raised in an environment that promotes violence and anger you grow up thinking that this the way you are supposed to act/react. Angry people have to learn that anger isn't the only way to live your life, that there are better ways to live. But, anger is also a great personal motivator and can be useful when used in the right way to create change. Perhaps a guy that needs to tell others how to live a successful life doesn't really have one ;) Or feels like a loser and needs to project this onto others. Never take advice from someone who needs to 'correct' people and knows it all.
Anger is created through the experiences one has with his surroundings or more so how the surroundings have effected ones experience. For example, Writing that brief statement towards my understanding of anger was casual and pleasant in a way, to throw out and explain. However, lets say my text erased somehow, then it did again, then the page froze after my third rewrite so i had to reload the page. Then after writing in out again there were to many characters and didn't post. These are the sort of things that cause people to be angry.
No, that's only what APPEARS to be happening if you have low consciousness. But in fact no external circumstance can cause you to feel anything. What creates your anger are the thoughts you THINK about the external circumstance. If you think an angry thought, you will feel angry. If you think a positive thought, you will be happy. Your emotions are self-created. But it takes higher levels of consciousness to see this. And it takes practice to control it.
Actualized.org that doesn't seem to make much sense to me. Chris Robert's example is a pretty good representation. You didn't start off angry. In fact you might start off feeling really great about sending this statement or whatever. It's not until you started running into so much difficulty that you started getting frustrated, then upset, then angry. For me however it's usually when I get all these things heaped up on me all at once. You'll start off having a pretty good day, then a customer wants you to get a TV, fine still feeling good. You're about to get the TV a customer stops you to ask about a phone, you try to answer the question about the phone, then someone else wants you to ring them up but you're obligated to get the TV for the first customer. You look over at your coworkers who are busy smiling and chatting with each other instead of helping out. Getting angry...You say to your co workers can you help the customer with the phone, they take that very moment to clock out to go to lunch. Getting angrier. The first customer now comes around to ask you why you haven't gone to get their TV and starts cursing you out for not having done so and asking to want to see your manager. Meanwhile although there were like 5 people on the floor at the time all this went down all of a sudden the floor is a ghost town!That's it you lost it! None of that was my fault. I was trying to be the good employee and see to the customer's needs and answer their questions. But you're saying that somehow it's our perception of the situation that's the problem rather than lazy coworkers and people asking you to do far too much all at once.
Actualized.org Apparently it doesn't but I don't see the alternative. What allow people to run all over you? Let your coworkers think it's okay for me to do all the work while they stand and gossip?
gamesmaster35 So they walk all over you, and you decide it's a good idea to walk all over yourself too? Make yourself feel bad? Give away all your control to some fools? I guess you could do that. But is that smart? What do you gain? The alternative is to stay cool and calm and go about creating the life you want. Don't compete with people. Out-create them.
1st 3 mins spent belittling others, and insisting that you are better than other people, and have trouble understanding how someone could be so base... Not exactly inspiring... and it looks like you decided to respond to such negative reactions that you evoked in people by not seeing that the problem lies in you. (Posting, "If you hated this video, you should watch these" 1) Why I'm a Dick - And Why I Won't Change 2) Openmindedness - Why Your Life Is A Cage...) You sir are a hypocrite and passive aggressive and emotional weakling, you mask your anger by believing that you are superior to others, and dismiss anyone who does not see your point of view. In fact you will go as far as to invoke anger in others to make yourself feel superior to them. This is your way of coping with the fact that you were bullied as a child and probably short in stature. (No, I don't know you, but I can read all your social cues that you gave in the first 3 mins.) Beware, I know you think your trying to help others, but help yourself first bro.
Cameron Tallack I think he means well. Maybe some deeper introspection, and concentration on compassion. I think everyone could benefit from the same, myself included.
My problem is judging myself for all the stupid things that I have done in my life. Im angry at myself to such a deep extent. Im here because I can't see a light at the end.
Even though you said you 'never get angry or rage', but I see your anger here in this video. Maybe your anger is so repressed so that you feel disgusted by other people's anger which actually is your disowned part. This video is unhelpful to people who need help with their anger issue.
This comment section is more actualized that this video. Your goal was to be there for people who get angry and instead we are here for you when you got angry at the thought of people who are angry. I call this irony. Thanks leo for manifesting an ironic moment right now.
I suppose you'd be just cool, calm, and collected if someone approached you and started calling you disgusting and a fucking loser because of your mental health problems. Yeah, right. He was out of line. Plain and simple.
@@fluorescenticon101 thats what people with anger problems typically do. the anger isn't disgusting, ithe way it's realeased on people around you is whats disgusting
I think watching myself get angry will help me the most. Whenever I step back and review my day and realize how I acted.. it really makes me more aware. So, trying to do it in the moment will really help I hope
At 2:26 i went off this video, it was to offensive to me as i have anger issues....i almost smashed my ipad because of what he said. Please can noone argue with me, it just my opinion
Ikr this guy knows absolutely NOTHING about having anger issues. I've had anger issues as since I was a little kid and this douche just thinks he can solve it all even though he has no idea what full rage feels like. I could barely watch 3 minutes of the video it didn't help it pissed me off more.
Lmao, best way I know to calm an angery person down is to call them an unenlightened loser by a random guy with no credentials presented. 😂 The troll of the year award goes to....!
If you here to teach us on your expertise then we appreciate it much but you won’t get a lot of ears if your calling people names and swearing at them and by the way there are kids watching this (because a lot of teens tend to have anger issues) and if they hear you swearing, what do you think their parents are going to think of you? And then lastly this is supposed to be a reminder to not get angry but you just showed us your own!
I've been making a very genuine attempt at trying to recognize and understand the root of my anger so I can conquer that negative reaction that I always tend to fall back on. Thus far I'm acknowledging my lack of trust in other's which typically results in me becoming angry more often than not. It's almost as if I automatically assume dishonesty once the honeymoon stage subsides in my relationships, mostly romantic relationships, but not always. Everything is good until the other person makes (what I consider to be) a mistake. Then I start to emotionally detach even though I really want that person to stay close. I get angry often but only because I'm projecting my fears onto the other person. With all of that said, I'm still trying to understand it. This is what I've come up with so far. I'm wanting to learn how to rethink myself through scenarios to have a more positive outcome when I feel threatened. How do I do this? Meditation is beautiful, I have come to really enjoy doing it. But in the more immediate scenario, how can I pull myself back from getting so threatened and angry?? PLEASE HELP ME with info, articles, videos, etc. Thank you.
Find videos on how to be a friend, when to act on red flags, and what is a red flag. This helps us be proactive in a situation where we see we are being taken advantage of. Find something to believe in. I mentor individuals on surviving abusive relationships. You may not feel you are in this category, but if you were taken advantage of this is a form of abuse, even if it is relationship abuse and not physical. They are abusing your relationship and destroying the chance of any relationship if they are deceptive. Also, keep in mind, this helps me, ASSUME = (read just the capitol letters) making an ASS out of U and ME.
Something never to say to someone who’s mad “what the hell is wrong with you! You needa get over it life is beautiful so move on” if your mad you can’t just move on and it’s okay to get mad it’s what you do with that anger that you need help with. Moving on just makes this build up
Hey man, your videos are normally very good, I think you have a lot to offer with your advice and techniques you teach but I have to say, this one is very odd, I feel you don't really understand the subject. Telling people to stop acting like dicks is the sort of advice I would expect to see in a comedy. The people who have come onto this particular video are aware that they have behaved in a manner that they are not proud of, they are seeking help. If you can't relate to some subjects I would stay away from them. If this was the first video I saw of yours I wouldn't have watched the rest. People suffer anger for lots of different reasons, stress, depression and sometime it's chemical imbalance which requires medication. Trying to have a generic solution that is going to solve all these problems is not really going to work as peoples anger comes from different places. I would most likely have a better chance for some people as I can relate... So here is a little advice that may help a couple of people.... I would say to anyone coming on here to ask yourself what is it in your life that is making you unhappy, you may not realise that you are unhappy, you may not be able to do anything about what is making you unhappy but if you can, do something about it. Do it as you only live once. Being unhappy leads to stress depression frustration impatience and anger. It can be scary leaving a job a relationship or any situation that you are in BUT you know what is more scary, staying put. Ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen if I get out of my current situation. Is that worse than the situation that I am in and if so what solution could you come up with to fix that. I guarantee it will be better than the one you are in now. The most important thing in this world is your health, physical and mental. With out that you are no good to yourself or anyone. These people are not dicks
I took you seriously until you said you don't get angry. Anger is a basic human emotion that is completely normal. It is the ways in which we deal with that anger that can be problematic. I will be professional and take the high road here and not say what I am thinking.
People who have real anger issues, don't just explode all the time, unless it's for a good reason/cause, or if it's something that's happened might have clicked psychologically for them to do such a thing.
Great video Leo, I needed this, Ive been doing work for 3 years on myself and anger has been the latest thing I am trying to get a handle on, the people who comment cuz you said if you can't control this you are a looser if you always explode and always angry, well heck yeah your a looser if you do that, I did that and I feel like a looser way before you said, and if that hurts your feelings then you have more things to work on. It's all part of the journey for all of us, if offended as why am I offended, theres a very deeper thing going on in each of us, were losers if we do try to change but to those who are willing and trying then your courages warriors, I am not offended. I would be 3 years ago, but I have a life time of work and self actualization to do, and I am willing to do it.
Untill around 5 minutes into the video, I was also frustrated like the most others commenting here. But now I'm like in 9 minutes and I feel like he's specifically talking about me. All those people who are angry at this video too, I'm just one of you guys. But this video does give us something. Realize what he says. It's true. I value truth which might be the reason why I accept his point.
He's rather passive aggressive for someone who doesn't get angry often.
Probably why he doesn't get angry. Gets it aaaall out in little mean stabs
Churdle hahaha exactly 😂
Stine Linnemann differences between people like him and me, yea i get pissed off. But at least im not a passive aggresive little bitch, i’ll just straight up say what’s on my mind lol
@@angelarroyo6001 Must agree with this. When I am angry with some one I go real calm and talk real slow so they know why I am angry at them. If they can not read the signs and continue to make me angry it's then that they get a real close look at the ground, and a free ride to the hospital. There, Leo anger management at it's very best.
Right? And he’s also very insecure. It’s not my opinion; it’s psychology.
Dude! People that are searching for "Anger Management" videos, already know, they have a problem! They want to evolve as a person, and do better for the world as a human being! They are not losers! They are people just like you (NOT PERFECT)! If you can't understand such a simple thing! You should not come in a public space, and PLAY DOCTOR! Let people with a true knowledge of such a deep subject, do their work!
YOU ARE NOT HELPING!!!! YOU ARE MAKING IT WORST!!!!!!
Agreed.
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Thank you very much, you just read my mind!
Danilo Ayres that's exactly what I'm doing looking these videos up like when I clicked this and started watching I was like "really asshole.. I already know... OMG bye" 😂
If you are seriously having anger issues you may as well just skip to 3:42 because the arse in him didn't realize beforehand that people who have this type of baggage will be completely rubbed the wrong way by the beginning of the video and not watch it which is actually counterproductive to even attempting to enlightened themselves on this serious issue they're having.
I should have read your comment before I watched the video🤣.. but I did make it through the first few minutes 😡.. so phew😅
We need to be disgusted with ourselves when we get that angry. He isnt wrong, our ego just doesnt wanna hear it. hahahah
thank you for giving the time to skip for actual help
a moment of patience in a moment of anger prevents a thousand moments of regret.
Wow, I love this sentence. it's true and inspiring. It alludes to the cyclic rumination of a single moment regrettably stealing one's very lifetime.
Yeh its a 1400 years old quote said by a very great personality called " imam ali" . You can search him up he has a lot of great sayings wich you may find interesting.
Thank you. I needed to read that today.
Why would u want to control anger if it's a very valid response to some injustice done to you which I experienced with a dumb ass pig who fathered my kids twenty years ago my values were trying to raise them to respect others his was opposite do wrong don't listen to authority figures e c t so sometimes a persons response to an injustice done doesn't mean they should not respond in anger
heydar mohammad May God Bless you for sharing that beautiful wisdom
Telling people who came here to fix their anger problems that you consider them "fucking losers" is not a smart way to get through to them and it's very judgmental. Anger is often disguised sadness! It's also clear that if you've never experienced anger as you claim, then you probably aren't an authority on the subject. If you were addressing people with drug addiction would you call them f-ing losers in a self-help video? Not likely! Lastly, name calling angry people is counterproductive to helping them to NOT be angry! You're fighting fire with fire and that rarely works. What they need is compassion and understanding to see the light.
Yeah! You tell em.
Thank You #Luke Molnar...and #Shaine MacDonald.
.. disguised sadness it is..!! perfect word
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I agree but the way he belittled angry people calling them names is counter productive and could actually make some NOT get help for their anger due to the extra shame this guy is putting on them.
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True! Most people that dislike anger as an emotion are doing so because they likely felt oppressed by an angry person as a child.
"I have no personal experience with anger and let me show you how to manage your anger." WTF
it supposed to make you angry so you get in the mood LOL
'Yeah - I have never lifted the bonnet of any car, I can't drive and I don't even _like_ cars...here's my 25min definitive treatise on how to get the most out of your Citroën SM.' 😂
When he said, "loser" towards people who experience intense anger, I could feel myself getting angry. Calling people names because they're trying to help themselves watching your videos isn't helping or motivating
Agreed. And the fact that he is relating it to himself and putting himself above others ...
I would call myself a loser if I got angry without good reason.
Leo Nordin pretty sure a person who is self aware and capable of empathy and teaching others can find more helpful wording for constructive conversation.
@@feef5524 yes that is very true, im sorry. If anyone feels angry at times you could try to ask yourself. Why am I angry, why do I feel this way, should I feel this way, should I really feel this way, could I be wrong or is it Wright, when is anger good, when is it bad, why is that, what do others think of anger, could anger always be bad? Etc etc.
Those questions come to mind every time I start to feel frustration. I just try to be mindful of all my actions that might be bad. In the end I am very learning oriented so I would advise to think about yourself often if you are new to that. We all will have kids some day and we don't wanna give our bad behavior into their futures. Also we don't want to tell our kids what is right and wrong because we don't really know. Why come when I ask family members why not to hit someone the answers are always so vague? Because they never figured it out, they said because of society, laws, you get hurt etc.. But not the real reasons to why it is not beneficial psychologically.
Leo Nordin I think it is important to be honest about how we really feel... regardless of shoulds... but once we accept that we are angry, I agree with you that we should find out what triggered it by asking ourselves questions... and then being accepting, loving, empathetic and patient with ourselves we should ask “what can I do about this?” This sets us up to be able to respond calmly and rationally to a situation vs. react out of emotion. I appreciate your response☺️🤗
I work at a prison and have to talk to inmates and connect with them. Many of their tragic pasts I have to sift through with compassion. This guy's approach would not fly at all. I couldn't imagine saying to an inmate with a past of abuse, molestation, and addiction "What are you so angry about you loser."
He never said you should be mean and inconsiderate of where your or other people's anger issues stem from, he said the opposite.
Ok Mr. McNutt. Lol
That's why you do that work there ..and he doesn't.
@Nick C He'd be a gonner
soon enough.
Never feels rage but calls people losers for having anger issues isn’t cool my dude . Most people with rage developed it over years from growing up with abuse most people are products of ther environment and just haven’t learned coping mechanisms
I think it depends on your age, I would not call a child a loser for having anger problems. On the other side if I see people hit each others and do these stupid things I believe they would be called losers by most. I only want people to be better so I don't care if you are a loser. If I would get angry when I should not even for once I would call myself a loser and spend a lot of energy not to do the same misstake again.
Lmao this video is a disaster
@@damiancampbell7534 and you must be a loser too then? Two people can play that game. Losers are people who judge without understanding. That's a loser.
@@damiancampbell7534 The fact that you came here, probably to manage your anger too, and decide to say this- when the only thing everyone else is trying to do is to get better is just, yikes, man.
It’s like a major phobia disorder, you just react way heavier than most people
This guy made me feel 10 times worse about my anger.
SAME HERE. I started watching and thought "Wooooww I feel shittier than I did before" great.
I had to read the comments :/
why
Seriously you have no idea what disasters and traumas people have been through and how their anger manifests. This commentary is judgemental, ignorant and the issue is much deeper than your research.
That's true. But he did say that he has difficulty understanding it. Though of course that doesn't justify acting ignorant. I myself get angry often but I learned a lot from his other videos and I'm feeling good process on beeing able to control my anger. I'm writing this before I even watched this one completely. For the last two weeks I feel like I somehow managed to make a rather large shift of beeing a lot less easily frustrated. I do carry a lot of anger and hatred in me. The 'non-angry phase' might fade, I will have fall backs for sure, but the challange for me will be to not give up then and stick with it. And I won't give up.
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I SWEAR I DIDN'T EVEN WATCH THE VIDEO YET BUT I FEEL YOU BRO BECAUSE IT'S FUCKING ABSOLUTELY RIGHT !! btw I just broke my wife's laptop screen ! Because of a stupid question that I didn't manage to answer differently... things could've been smoother. Most of My anger comes out of other's misunderstanding me -( only others that I CARE ABOUT AND LOVE )- or negative people or so.... Actually she picked a wrong timing for such a question and subject to talk about ...
Well, my issue briefly is I feel guilty badly when I shouldn't actually just because of someone's brain is rotten and stupid enough to make me feel guilty as I said when I actually shouldn't..... so the anger of being guilty while you shouldn't be is getting on another anger of this last one when You have no power at that time and feels broken ... sad.. misunderstood... honest... beautiful heart... beautiful soul... beautiful person... at the beginning of a depression that you shouldn't even think about. ...... and so on... then again the anger is Unstoppable. . So this guy at the video he cares about views more than he got angry.. he is propably gay and his own thoughts got him believe in bullshit that he just posted. KURWA
Thank you
I love that comment!!
Everyone commenting is so hung up on "being called a loser" they missed the message, which was a good one. As someone who experiences anger and rage a lot, it is a real struggle to figure out why this is happening repeatedly, how to fix it and how to stop yourself before it happens.
Not everyone is angry, some are just hurt... But I feel you
Yeah I agree man!
I've loved your videos... but this one felt a bit 'judgie' towards the people that came to watch this vid (people with anger issues)... by saying you don't understand or ever feel anger and that it's disgusting is not a great way to start a vid for people searching out how to help themselves on this topic... it kinda sounds like you don't emphasize with them, but instead judge them... probably not your intent... but by reading the comments... it might be what other people perceived as well... just sharing my initial thoughts from listening... great vids otherwise, thank you for taking the time to make them... :)
LYZABETH LOPEZ - Fitness & Nutrition clearly you missed the point of the video if you are ANGRY about it.. just take in the stuff that can help you.
i actually came to sort out my anger problem but t makes me more angry watching this NOT HELPFUL
Leo is an unconscious idiot lol, I will definetly unsubscribe because this judgemental shit is way too much, I am not going to follow an idiot who thinks people are disgusting for showing an emotion(anger), if you think people are disgusting for being angry then u have low control of ur judgements, paradoxx? Leo you look like voldemort lol
I think your just a lil to sensitive
The truth is never bad i liked it
He's actually helping me with my anger problems. I get a good laugh by just looking at him.
Samee😛😛
lol same he looks like voldemort from harry potter on meth
lmaoo same😂😂
Lmao! So glad I read this comment and replies. Helps. Haha!
I'm so sorry, I finally got your lesson!
I'm such a disgusting angry person. You've taught me a great way to combat my anger.
Act like you aren't angry, and criticize others for being angry!
Wow, I feel much better knowing a person like you is going down the toilet, yet I don't feel bad! ITS GREAT!
I'm shaving my head tomorrow.
I don't easily lose my temper but when I do, I explode. What he was saying in this video was uncalled for. Just because one person gets angry easier than the next, does not mean one is any better or more emotionally intelligent than the other. People get angry for subjective reasons, it's wrong to generalise anger like he is doing. Just because you get angry easier doesn't make you a bad person, it doesn't mean you're worth any less than your peers, everyone is individual. I would say it is important to try and reduce explosive tempers, for the sake of yourself and those around you and remember to try and be sensitive to other people's feelings.
I explode when I get angry also. I wouldn't even call it anger, it's more like rage. Once I get to that point I can't control myself.
+ThatTallGuy SAME HERE EXACTLY )
Thank you so much. I was exploding of anger but now......you know this nice feeling😇
My anger is weird. If I get sad, my sadness turns to anger. If I try thinking of happy thoughts to calm myself down, I start tearing up and then I get angry again. Sometimes if I'm really angry I snap at the nearest person, even if they did nothing.
I guess with some people, if you talk about your problem, you calm down.
I can't imagine a peaceful person needing to insult those who are having a problem they need help with. You have lost a great deal of credibility with the people who have followed you. Those who are peaceful at heart have no time for kicking someone who is down.
Amanda McCarthy agreed
I agree, I respected Leo a lot until this video. He’s showing his side that is the complete opposite of his internet persona.
Yeah seriously I only made it 3 minutes before being like “I came here for advice not someone to say the same things my brain says to me all the time.”
Some important tips to help you help people with anger issues.
1. Don't start by making them angry.
Lol exactly
I see so many angry people in the comments. I have anger issues, and the way I see it...maybe he is testing us. If you get wound up at being called a loser, then that is an anger issue. There is no reason to curse or make violent threats towards a word. At first I was angry, but then I was like...you know, he's right. And I felt calm. Screw this...I'm forgiving and letting go of this anger, which came from horrible circumstances throughout my life. I'm forgiving those that hurt me and I'm forgiving myself for the mean and violent things I have done. I'm letting it go. Thanks for the video!
Paula E Ya know your actually right.. It's a shame I can't say the same thing with a straight face
If you believe anything anyone tells you about yourself you're going to end up depressed because the world is a cold place. I agree you shouldn't get mad over it but you shouldn't accept it.
Paula E same but my rages are called blind rages you can't see what your doing not too many people have them I get an adrenaline rush that's over my ability it's very dangerous my it's like a steriod I get
I don't care if he meant it "as a test", that would be a very stupid test because anyone who started watching this and has an anger problem ALREADY knows it, so there's no point to that. If he really had any knowledge about psychology and was of a "higher consciousness level" he would not say such a thing. And btw, I didn't get angry about it, I saw it as hypocrisy, lack of empathy and understanding of what lies behind the anger and him thinking he's superior because he doesn't get angry.
*****
That didn't make any sense dear, I already posted, didn't I? Besides, it's not my problem that you have perceived my post as negative, obviously he doesn't know what he's doing and you don't know what you're saying. And honestly, it made me laugh that you said "my post", girl this is YT where anybody can post wherever they want, so just get over it, ok?
wow i feel like crap now.
you don't even know what rage feels like, don't make videos about how to control it
I know right?
i know i have anger issues because people are really stupid where i from its not me judging them any normal person should see how people act in my town and they will see why i get mad
Skylar Oakins exactly
Skylar Oakins FORREAL!!!!
Skylar Oakins just grow up. lol i laugh at people who get mad all the time. cry me a fuckin river.
You called me a loser, I got pissed, and clicked the thumbs down... Then I actually listened to what you had to say and changed my mind. Thanks for this.
Good job! I love that you are continuing to help yourself fix yourself. No one person or thing can control our thinking but we can, and I see you are on a path of healing and healthy thinking!
"It disgusts me to see people rage."
"Your a fucking loser if you're angry all the time."
Why? Just why?
Why do you want people to feel disgusting and a loser and make them feel wrong about their emotions before you help them with their anger? But its just a Way for you to be "a higher status person" than the viewer saying "your disgusting and a loser, and im not because i never experienced anger"... And thats ok :) i dont Think that you REALLY want to help people :) i think that you just want people to think your a genius :) you want to show people that your smart :)
No one that comes here for advice will not hear his advice for saying insulting things. This self indulged know all has no right to say idiot things like that. People hearing this will get turn off immediately.
Play4Vida fuck him and his judgemental attitude. I didn't come here to be spat uppon. However guys, if you need some help on anger issues, guided meditation has worked for me
Jonas Pedersen
He isn't really that smart, when i told him that i had social anxiety, he kept telling, me, well you just done have "social experience it is simple as that" the guy cleary doesn't know what he is talking about.
This guy is a butt don't listen. Some people have disorders and cant control it AT ALL
Funnily enough I learned how to control my ROAD RAGE from my 8 year old daughter. The thing with children is they generally are patient and calm.
One day I stopped what I was doing and watched her play outside. She took her time and absorbed everything that was happening around her and seemed relaxed and content 😌 Then I realised if I was more like her I wouldn't get so angry 😡 now instead of having road rage I leave home a lot earlier and sit further back from the car in front and take my time and when I look at other drivers in a rush and cutting people off I just say to myself "they must be running late, if only they had left earlier!" and it doesn't affect me 😊
And I'm usually and angry person... you can learn a lot from children. Observer them and let them have a voice.
Yeah, I'm sorry but I can barely watch this. I tried to get past your intro without blowing up because you called me disgusting and a loser for having anger issues due to years of trauma. You really don't sound like you understand what you're talking about. It's really difficult to control those feelings. When you get angry with anger issues you'll probably feel like you need to destroy something just to feel better. It makes you feel better for a bit but then you feel bad because you probably did break something or even possibly hurt yourself. You won't be able to really understand the feeling if you don't get angry often or at all. I would not like to remember this video when I'm angry because that would make it worse. I would get angrier and forget to "watch myself" as I continue to destroy my own life.
Then I'll cry.
Yeah , he doesn't understand the concept of trauma.
This is so me :/
Ill be your friend. I have the same issues. It's hard to find anyone who understands 😪
@@amandaperry4236
2 things for me: first is I have a very hard time talking about my problems; second is i feel it would be easier if it were to someone that understands as well.
@@amandaperry4236 Me too, if you have a group of people that suffer with anger pls lmk x
Since you removed this video from your website one can conclude you realize how poor and angry it is. Could you do a favor for future people searching for ways to help with anger issues and take the video down? or make another version which doesn't insult people with anger issues. If you care about this topic at all, you won't ignore the many people who were insulted by you. thanks.
It is still up on the website.
+Alexander Stöckl Yes he I liked what he had to say until he said that he doesn't understand it and it's disgusting. People who are angry are hurt, they have been hurt, probably as a child. I was raised in a family of yellers and I'm trying to find help, because I am a mother of a pretty defiant 3 year old boy. I don't want him to see me act out in anger and yelling the way I have seen. This guy doesn't understand. I know you're angry and it's very difficult to bite your tongue, but making him feel pain as an innocent child wouldn't have helped. I'm glad he didn't go through anything bad and most likely had a good childhood.
+Stephanie Smith If people are insulted by his comments that means he must be telling the truth. I notice this in my own life. When I bring up facts and truth to someone they get insulted because they are in denial about themselves. Exactly what he's trying to say. Instead of getting insulted, recognize why you are getting insulted. Usually, it's because it's true. Then correct the problem so that it would no longer insult you.
+Actualized.org This video is absolute shit Leo, especially coming from you "You're a fucking loser" Nice, I did not got frustrated so I was searched your videos since they are very informative and logical to strategically raise my EQ, yet that's what you say to me? I even bought your life course. This video is pure absolute shit. You do not insult someone and expect them to continue in a higher consciousness state. The irony is that you saying "You're a fucking loser" comes from a low consciousness state (Haha, I got you there >:D ) You should have jumped into finding the root cause, techniques to deal with anger, and other emotional intelligence I'm very relaxed after being angry for about 3 solid minutes from my dad yelling at me , but even seeing this in a mindful state I can tell it is pure shit, and I'm down voting it to oblivion. The reason the quality is so bad is that you can't relate, therefore you should not be teaching or instructing, idiot. Other than that, you are such a beautiful wonderful man :D
+Alexander Stöckl I sympathize with you friend, his this video is pure shit.
I'm at 2:30 and I've already stopped the video. Brother Leo, you've always helped me throughout my life but this one felt really insulting and a bit disappointing as well. Maybe because you haven't experienced the abuse, maybe childhood abuse in your childhood. the people you see raging are suppressing their anger and haven't been able to understand the causes of it and the ways to healthy releasing it.
Instead of getting insulted, someone first needs validation for their anger, the true validation, not for the behavior but for the anger, why they're angry and why they can't get over it. What;s this anger is linked to. Why something happens that pushes the button and someone gets angry so easily.
This video has to be more of the validation and understanding video than insulting and invalidating one. That's what the anger or any other emotions requires the first, the validation, then once his mind is calmed to believe it's ok to feel this way, his or mind can dive deep and understand the causes of it and make changes and get over it.
You’re getting mad at someone trying to help your anger typical
This helped a lot thank you
Vishal Upadhyay my son, he’s 20 and within the last year he’s been getting worse and worse. Angry over EVERYTHING!!??? I’m not exaggerating, it’s not like him and I think it’s a lot to do with his living situation and anxiety. He hasn’t had a girlfriend since high school and it’s only because he don’t try due to anxiety and self esteem. He’s got a good job, he is good looking, he has good hygiene, it’s all in his head that he’s not good enough. I cry at least twice a week lately due to his meanness and I hurt knowing he hurts. What do I do?.,
Hes treating people who get angry how he felt when he was treated when he was angry
Sounds like a wife-beater right here haha
I don't know why but when someone personally insults me publicly my rage is almost uncontrollable
Ironically this is making me angry...
Rachel Bride Ditto!!
Rachel Bride Take my cawk it will relieve stress
so you are trapped in your mind
@@gamingwithmike5879 Getting angry from being insulted in a passive aggressive way by someone acting as though they're inherently better than you is a totally natural and healthy response; I'd honestly be more worried if you didn't have a similar response.
this video made me angry
Same a lot of people in the comments are agreeing aswell. Lol :)
Same here, So a fucking loser if I'm angry at the person who killed my uncle.
Yeah, just look at the motherfucking smirks of his.
FFFFFFUUUUUUCK!!!!!!!!!
I made it to 4 mins and rage quit.
You Can Read it made me angry, but now reading all these comments its making me laugh :D !!!! HAHhahaHA
oh my God lol
I got angry watching this video😕
OkThanksBye
To the person who made this video - your problem is that you do not understand the deeper roots of anger, and it's so evident in the way how you speak. Do you honestly think that a person who has never got angry and claims they cannot understand it is adequate enough to give advice to others on how to control their anger? If you do not understand it, then you cannot see it from the right perspective, and if you cannot see it from the right perspective then you are not adequate enough to give advices. Also, bear in mind that not everyone's mental frame is the same as yours. It has a lot to do with someone's brain chemistry, it's not just a matter of pure lack of consciousness, awareness, whatever, nor people who get angry are "fucking losers", they're just humans. And you were talking something about ego, blah blah, - well, your ego is pretty big if you cannot understand others people's emotions and where they may come from so you choose to call them "fucking losers".
Still seeking approval from others? Seems like you learned nothing from my last comment below;) I strongly advise you to move on, there is more to life than wasting time on youtube;)
hahaha;)
byeee;)
you're right;)
Did you make an attempt to try what he said to do in the video or did ur ego get hurt and you just turned the video off.
'If you are ever angry you are a loser' - guy with three Ph.D.
😂😂
Stupid to the max! I stopped listening after that.
Roar Dino Technically speaking, anger is the emotional response that is produced by losing. It related to the reptilian dominance instinct in sexual competition, or if something is preventing you from winning a prize or taking an action. It would be perfectly accurate to say "If you are angry, part of your brain thinks you are losing"
Ph. D.?
@@userjames2009 good one
lesson learned today: When YOU get angry its insane , when THIS DUDE gets angry its perfectly normal
I think how you see angry people is pretty short sighted, you just look at an event but you don't seem to understand that anger builds up over time, you just look at the outbreak but not what is behind it.. one angry outbreak can built up over years of smaller events.. let me warn you as well, people who never feel anger have a big tendency to have extreme outbreaks maybe later in life.. anger is a basic feeling if you never have it, there might be something building up inside you.. I like angry people, I always get the feeling they are honest, it's like a honest outbreak, I always kind of see what is behind it and do not take it too personal when it happens, you can even feel loved if a girlfriend shouts at you for example.. I see their pain and what is behind it, it gives me the feeling they care about something.. anger and love are two sides of one coin equally important and fulfilling.. without one you can't have the other I'm sure..
geistreiches Yeah usually people who have deep seated anger issues have many traumas in their past and need serious help, not to be put down. That makes people shut down right away. To say, hey I've never struggled with this I'm not like this, but let me enlighten you, sounds rude. Seems it would be helpful to hear from someone who has struggled, and overcome it. First you have to identify. Not saying he wont have good advice in the rest of the video, but that first part is a big thumbs down. People who are mad in general arent dumb to road issues or etc that hes trying to breakdown. They wake up miserable with unresolved issues and on edge already. Those things just bring out the emotions.
Thank you sir. Yes the outburst is only the tip of the iceberg.
I completely agree. I used to be a lot calmer before people started screwing me over, and ditching me... I used to be very nice, and helpful and I used to barely get mad. But then people started being assholes and I started to realize that the ones you'd kill yourself for are also the ones most likely to let you drown. My anger issues have built up a lot and I've had a lot of hatred towards people in general ever since and it's very difficult to control when you feel like nobody understands you or cares. When people tell you to "just be calm" instead of trying to realize that you are TRYING to be calm, but it's difficult when you feel betrayed by almost everyone from your life.
It goes a lot deeper than it looks.
Edit: Although, looking at the video, no matter how much the beginning angers me, I can honestly say he's not wrong... When someone is acting angrily, like I am almost all the time, it's extremely toxic... And I notice myself how toxic I can be to other people simply because I can't control my anger. I can sometimes be disgusted with myself and I feel so horrible because I know I am in the wrong but I also feel too betrayed or stubborn to accept it, even though it's probably all in my head.
I was aware that I was angry at other people not doing what I would do for them, which pretty much Leo is saying in this video. But I didn't realize this could be the cause of my anger.
I was searching for videos to help me cope with my anger. I am appalled at this video. It is counter productive (I wasn't able to continue watching it)it discussed me and this guy has problems himself. It's obvious. and considering I HAVE anger problems I think I handled this post very well
I think you handled your comment well too, Linda. No point in hurling abuse. I agree with your point. Wish you & everyone good things. 🌻
Linda Rose same
Linda Rose Lol!
Agreed
Linda Rose true same here I was look for help not discrimination
Wow. I had saved this expecting it to be enlightening. Three minutes in and I’m gone
why are people hating on him?? this video really helped me. I learned alot.
I see a lot of victims here and they need to watch the victim video. Take ownership of their anger and stop directing it at others even when we disagree with how they project their lessons. I love Leo!
Anger isn't something people should "overcome", neither is it lower consciousness. Useful expressions of anger such as focusing on work, exercise and bioenergetics are just some of many examples. Whatever you resist persists, if you feel angry you should express it and let it go, you sound a little passive aggressive. I do agree, that getting into "a blind fit of rage" is stupid, but from my experience, it usually happens when anger has been bottled up. It's a human emotion that needs to be explored and understood, especially for men.
Sadly I do get blind fits of rage and I'm trying to learn how to control myself but I don't need somebody calling me a loser
Yeah anger is a natural emotion, it's when we can't control it there is a problem.
+Sarl Cagan Yes! for me it's bottled up. I put up with small little things for a span of 2-3 years. little by little it makes me angrier and angrier. It should be dealt with from the beginning. But my situation is a relationship situation, so it involves 2 ppl. It can't be resolved on just my end. I only lose control when it's been a LONG time or when I'm trying to communicate and I'm getting shut down every which way and not acknowledged. That makes me explode.
HAHA! Bruh, don't start a video with, "I can't relate to you guys, BUT here's some advice anyway.
lol
no disrespect but i rather hear from someone who actually is dealing with this
"Being an Observer is the key to never getting angry."
Is not helping at all...
Being an observer is actually the first symptom of being frustrated and then get angry
They key is observe your mind's behavior over your environment's behavior
Observe yourself and understand where the anger comes from.
You sound pretty angry about people being angry
I have to agree with some of the other people here. You are extremeley patronising toward people whom are just looking for ways to improve their way of life. I for one, is having problems with extreme anger. And i should be a lot mor angry than i am (yes, it's justified) but i actually just feel bad for you. You are never going to help anyone, if you dont learn how to do just that. Knowing all the facts is not going to help anyone. Being able to talk to people and show empathy, while utilizing what you know is the absolutely best way to help someone. I pray that you say what you said in the clip to an angry person in real life.
*claims not to get angry
**gets angry that other people get angry
amazing
Just block negative people’s phone numbers to reduce or improve their negative energies from your life is the most helpful technique for me and it’s impossible for me to control anger no matter what but this helped me out. Thank you 🙏 for this amazing video btw
If you've never had first hand experience with rage or true anger, what makes you think you're in a position to tell people how to control it?
That is tantamount to giving parents advice on raising their children when you've never had any yourself.
Are you familiar with the term "quack"? how about pseudo-psychiatric babble?
It appears that you're engaged in both.
I would also like know what your credentials are.
No answer? Why am I unsurprised?
Scott Malcolm People like to investigate and make assumptions from what they have seen. I try to think about the base of human emotions and needs... i'll say i'm not sure, but if i had to guess it be about knowing one worth and lovability. if you feel worth and loved, why would people be angry at themselves ? do you agree Sir?
Stone hornet
First off, how can I agree with something I can't understand?
Second, I'm going to guess that English is not your native language.
Anyway, in an attempt to decipher your question here is my answer: No, one does not investigate and make assumptions.
One can form a hypothesis (an educated guess), but never make assumptions.
As I have already said: If one has never had first hand experience with rage or true anger, what makes one think they're in a position to tell people how to control it?
Simply said, you can't give credible advice on a topic when you've never had to endure that topic.
well said :/
Scott Malcolm Well said :/
Hahah he actually got me a little pissed when he was telling the ppl with anger issues off in the beginning
Same i have anger issue to
Wow. You guys aren't feeling this video? What helped me from watching this video was when he said anger/rage is disgusting & to see yourself from the 3rd person. I immediately wanted to stop being disgusting. Worked me for. Good luck tho everyone. I hope you all find sth that works for u.
I was bullied throughout my childhood by my stepdad, part of which was physical abuse. I’ve had “rage anger” my entire life. Anything that has ever rubbed me the wrong way, I get angry, and then my anger goes back to memories of my childhood. I hold it in, and always have. I’ve never even spanked my own children, much less screamed, intimidated, or bullied them. I refuse to be like he was. If I explode, and start throwing fists in the air, it happens when I’m alone.
But according to you, I’m a loser.
Yes, there is valid advice here. But one pointer. You might want to drop the judgmental characterization of angry people: I'm not a "fuckin' loser". Nor are many others like me all over the world. If you're enlightened, sir, why do you judge other people by your own standards and call abuse survivors with PTSD who turn our anger on ourselves "fuckin' losers"? I was raped and beaten almost to death. I'm not a "fuckin' loser". That's a very judgmental way of lumping people like me with narcissists and sociopaths who act like spoiled brats. Do you have any compassion for damaged people? I'm in therapy and I know why I'm angry. I've studied it since I was 9. I don't judge everyone by my ideals for reality; I'm 50 and I've long since lost any intolerance for that. But I am angry when someone physically threatens me or makes snide statements about my being handicapped or claims my being raped was my fault. You say you're not angry, but that statement "you're a fuckin' loser" says otherwise. It takes much away from what comes after it. You might want to reflect on doing things like that at the start of a video. ANGRY PEOPLE ARE IN PAIN. As for me, I am in physical and emotional pain every minute of every day. I'm recovering from decades of oppression and over-the-top violence inflicted on me. Being kept waiting doesn't make me angry. Being bullied does. And I meditate a lot; it helps much. I couldn't live without it!
Great points. About that angry people can be in pain. I wouldnt say that they necessary are pain. Some people just snap and get triggered. If they then do something stupid they might feel sad and be in pain for the harm they inflicted. There are many causes of anger. Being in pain is one of them. Or maybe you are right and pain is the reason people are angry. Forgiveness is a big thing in getting over all hurts. And its a process. Look for the book of forgiving forgivenesschallenge.com/book/
Calling me a fucking loser is a great way to make me feel bad and angers me even more! Think about your audience!
I was about to write the exact same post. I'm in the same boat as the maker of this video - I almost have an inability to get angry, but I have had massive depression and anxiety, and my father has massive anger issues, but I understand that they both come from the same fundamental error - that we attach personally to the thoughts and concepts we have about ourselves. I realise that when he gets angry, it is an expression of repressed sadness from many years of emotional suffering. It's just that he has been taught by society to not show that he is weak, and so he displays anger instead of sadness.
Unlike many members of my family who judge him (and so make it worse), I know none of us are in control of our lives or thoughts in the way that most people think we are. I know that if it were easy my dad would not choose to be angry all the time (that is a shaming thought in itself, be careful not to get caught up in shame and blame - even pride is not a realistic notion in this regard. Same coin, different side), so I cannot possibly judge him for it and I'm surprised you think you can, Leo. Even if it's true that you feel disgust you must realise this feeling is a response to your conditioning and is not within your control, in the exact same way anyone else feels any other form of hate or anger - this was quite a glaring, unconscious mistake.
If we are able to realise our lack of free will on a visceral level then that is where we are able to forgive ourselves and others for having these thoughts and emotions in the way we do. For me, my mind would tell me I'm worthless and that I'll never be happy, but in the complete opposite way as my dad, society has told me that it is bad to be angry (most probably through witnessing my dad's outbursts of anger) , so I would become reclusive and depressed instead, but fundamentally as humans we are all the same.
I was pretty disgusted by the opening few minutes of this video and I'm sorry you had to see it tbh. But if the comments in this video offend you, forgive Leo in the knowledge that due to his conditioning he could not have responded otherwise. Then forgive yourself for any thought that may arise in agreement with his comment. In this way we see things as happening as opposed to happening to us. We can only act within our consciousness level - be more concious and it won't become personal! Just realise that when people say things, good or bad, your mind may also say them too, but if you can realise these thoughts we have and share are just a product of our environment outside of our control, it becomes silly to give any credence to them. All the best, PEACE :D X
you guys need a lot of work to understand this, im sorry for you,and yes everyone who is angry on many stuff like traffic for example is loser,no offence, i myself, cant control my anger , and when i am angry i become a monster,
thank you leo
you are chosing to be angry to avoid your fear of pain, when it gets triggered. and you think you have the right to be angry. and you think feeling the fear and sadnes under the fear, you would not benifit at all... and you are afraid of loosing power... you might feel more worth all the time you get angry, because a lot of people show you "love" when you are angry. that's why you choose anger... it's emotional preferable for much reasons. and you have SO MUCH FEAR in you like you are getting angry, even if it's just passive agressive... you try to manipulate people with anger in order to make your world in your control so your fear goes away. the fear about the sadnes you have in you, because you were raped... it might almost feel like you will DIE, when you feel the triggered fear instead of moving to anger... even in very little reasons.
As a person with extreme crippling anger issues I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart
I have been very mindful of how people get upset how others aren't like them
I know I have been like this and the only reason why I am realizing other people do it is because I have some it my whole life after the military .... I have been avoiding it now watching and listening to you I realize I am on the right track to become less angry
I seen it today in my gym how a guy a trainer was mocking someone saying I want to be the greatest fighter but never show up... I just saw that as a sign
Just things I'm trying to avoid
And to think the guys a trainer ...
Once I started following Leo, I began to notice the psychological defects in everyone I interact with daily and how we could all use practice in thinking differently, what if it isn't a messed up day or world, what if I am not stupid and unable to complete tasks confidently? Just asking ourselves these questions after making derogatory and negative remarks about ourselves that are not true until we create the thought. It is true, it is what we think it is!
The anger is real...stay safe people. I’m sure we are all good men and women despite our past. We HAVE to move on. YOU have to, I know you you know you can do it. You had to be strong to survive this far, you know yourself very well now...
Leo you said in this video that life is a beautiful thing. Are you under the assumption that life is a beautiful and good thing for everyone that does what they can or are you under the assumption that life can not be a beautiful and actually horrible thing for people no matter what they do?
+John Gronkowski It's always beautiful. The question is, are you conscious enough to see it? Or are you lost in ego?
I AM NOT LOST IN THE 'EGO'...SOME HAPLESS SOULS ARE BORN TO BE MISERABLE, THIS I BELIEVE IN MY 'LIFE' AND NO MATTER WHAT I DO I CAN'T WIN, AND I AM DAMN SICK AND TIRED OF THIS LIFE AND THIS UNTENABLE CONUNDRUM
He is more like a coward to me.
no one is born to be miserable, i've had a difficult time the past 5 years or so and i've recently watched these videos, let go of my stubornness and ego, and taken in very helful and useful information, techniques and ideologies. I used to be a really cynical guy and i feel a lot happier because of Leo. He's been my therapist and he doesn't even know it. Pay attention to what he says and he can help you too
Sometimes I wondered how brainwashed so many of you are!!!!
I DONT understand why ppl are hating on this video saying it wasn't helpful. Their just really closeminded and not awakened and DONT understand. You did great Leo. Ignore the haters/angry people.
First three minutes and your pissing me off
2:30 he said we're fucking losers if we're angry all the time. That shit made me mad
you're*
Same
Rage and anger can be used as tools to overcome obstacles when controlled. It took me years but I can now 5control it by bringing my anger to a simmer but not letting it go past that, I retain mental clarity and control. I've used my anger to overcome my opponents.
I have learned to turn the flame way down, too, to preserve nutrients, or cognition. The pressure still builds though, just not as quickly as before. Fear and anger excite our nervous systems more than caffeine ever could, so it is Nature's performance-enhancer to defeat or evade an attacker.
It does take years of practice to master how we respond instead of just reacting to situations. He gives a good practice suggestion in his Master your emotions video.@@h7opolo
People with anger issues getting angry to a video about confronting, and not simply narcotizing under the rug, whatever makes us angry. Great start. I myself trying my best and failing once, and again, and again... Awesome content. Thank you.
If you don't ever get angry, then how can you teach people to overcome it?
You’ve NEVER experienced anger “supposedly”, so how you could you ever know how it starts, where it’s comes from? Not to mention we people with a lack of emotional control comes to you for help and you insult us, no THATS disgusting. You have hatred in your heart for no reason
Yes, I agree. And ANGER is a TOOL to WAKE UP. Anger is a calling of your internal cells that something is not right, and your body needs alertness and energy to fix something in your life...or change a situation. Or change a perception. I love when I get angry because it is a little burst, that tells me that I am not on the right path, that I am not loving myself enough and caring for my inner health. Anger is like a GPS steering us away from something that is not serving us. Or it is bringing up something within us that we have to pay attention to and fix. If you see anger in this way, it is not a bad thing. For example...If you get angry because of traffic and congestion...road roage...people beeping and almost getting you into an accident. Maybe its time to relocate your home to the countryside, or move out of town so that you can drive slower, and enjoy the moment. We shouldn't encourage people to NOT get angry. We should encourage people to SHARPEN their intuition as well as learn more about their GUT FEELINGS so they can make their life amazing again.
Well within two mins I heard the words “I can’t relate COD I don’t experience anger” and “if you get angry you’re a loser” so obvs I switched off
Just some advice from someone with an education in Psychology. Try not to disassociate yourself from the person[s] with whom you are consulting with your own personal opinions and biases. It is best to leave out things such as profanity or statements such as "I never understood people with your disorder" or, "people with that issue never made sense to me". Avoid blaming, judging and labeling at ALL COSTS. This will only alienate people seeking help with a problem and cause them to shut down emotionally, or even worse, have lasting mental effects on them.
I hope you consider these few recommendations. Those seeking help should be welcomed and accepted, not condemned. They need to understand that whatever problem they are having is truly more common than they realize and that it can be worked on, no matter how large of a problem it is.
Very well put.
That is a very sensible suggestion. I did feel a little hurt when Leo said depressed people are toxic. You don't know what the person went through - what broke their spirit.
I'm about to cry here. You are so accurate, you mange to hit the target. My situation.
people who get angry after watching a video on how to not get angy, how ironic
What the hell is angy? Don't you mean angry?
CFMange2 this video didn't work at all. All he did was call us disgusting fucking losers then talk about everyone else being happy.
CFMange2 ikr
I did! LOL I'm struggling with it. I took his advice about observing myself, but it still didn't help. Maybe the meditation will work.
All these people feeling triggered. And then there's me. I'm having some real anger issues - coming from intense sadness. But actually, after all these "empathic" videos, validating my anger... this was the one I needed right now. Someone who puts a boundary: expressing anger furiously towards others might not be the best way.
He made some good points.
What a piece of work this guy is.
I have NEVER disliked a video until now. Wow
This video is a joke!!!
It's equivalent to a guy who's lived in poverty his entire life. Decides to make a 19minute video on how to get rich
me and my mom argue alot, and I thank you for this.. sometimes I feel lost and unwanted, like thinking no one cares, not realizing I argue with someone who cares the most about me and it tears me apart when we bump heads cause deep down inside I don't wanna yell or break anything. I slowly feel myself yearling my mentality apart with isolation..
Ive watched more than half way through this video and please let me share that this is not at all useful or helpful at all. This is fine for someone who is going through road rage, who gets angry at the drop of a hat, but this is not at all helpful to someone who has been through a hell of a lot through their life, who is trying to over come the core issues of anger and move forward in their lives. You lost me here when you said that you yourself did not 'get' anger, one cannot teach what one has not been through. Anger is misplaced hurt. There is always a core reason behind it on a deeper level than what you've shared here. To tell these people to 'get a life' is not helpful at all. I would recommend that you re-read your self help books, as this is not for anyone's best and highest in this way. To tell them that they are a loser?? This is ridiculous, and being this is one of the very first videos that Ive come across of yours, I do not believe that I will be revisiting your channel again. This video is fine for the person who gets angry in chat rooms, on the road, over silly things, but it is not at all helpful to someone who has experienced a great deal and who is trying to overcome their experiences that have now developed into rage.
Yes l agree.
+Meichelle Spirit Yup, shit video don't know why he hasn't taken it down
+Meichelle Spirit It doesn't apply to you and people like you. You don't know either what the videomaker has been through. It's not the best anger management video in youtube, yeah, but do you even know him personally? No, you don't. You don't know what other people went through. You're not the only person who went through shit. If you're looking for quality help, go to a therapist or you could always try TED talks. However, your comment's one of the more constructive ones among the others.
Razravenomdragon I am a professional mental health counselor as well as a professional spiritual healer. I was basing my comments on what he shared in his video,, not on judgement of him personally. Thank you for your comments, TED is very useful and I recommend them as well.
Meichelle Spirit I completely agree!!
When you are raised in an environment that promotes violence and anger you grow up thinking that this the way you are supposed to act/react. Angry people have to learn that anger isn't the only way to live your life, that there are better ways to live. But, anger is also a great personal motivator and can be useful when used in the right way to create change. Perhaps a guy that needs to tell others how to live a successful life doesn't really have one ;) Or feels like a loser and needs to project this onto others. Never take advice from someone who needs to 'correct' people and knows it all.
You'll never how bad it is to feel and get angry because you said you dont feel or dont get very angry
Anger is created through the experiences one has with his surroundings or more so how the surroundings have effected ones experience.
For example,
Writing that brief statement towards my understanding of anger was casual and pleasant in a way, to throw out and explain.
However, lets say my text erased somehow, then it did again, then the page froze after my third rewrite so i had to reload the page.
Then after writing in out again there were to many characters and didn't post.
These are the sort of things that cause people to be angry.
No, that's only what APPEARS to be happening if you have low consciousness. But in fact no external circumstance can cause you to feel anything. What creates your anger are the thoughts you THINK about the external circumstance. If you think an angry thought, you will feel angry. If you think a positive thought, you will be happy. Your emotions are self-created. But it takes higher levels of consciousness to see this. And it takes practice to control it.
Actualized.org that doesn't seem to make much sense to me. Chris Robert's example is a pretty good representation. You didn't start off angry. In fact you might start off feeling really great about sending this statement or whatever. It's not until you started running into so much difficulty that you started getting frustrated, then upset, then angry.
For me however it's usually when I get all these things heaped up on me all at once. You'll start off having a pretty good day, then a customer wants you to get a TV, fine still feeling good. You're about to get the TV a customer stops you to ask about a phone, you try to answer the question about the phone, then someone else wants you to ring them up but you're obligated to get the TV for the first customer. You look over at your coworkers who are busy smiling and chatting with each other instead of helping out. Getting angry...You say to your co workers can you help the customer with the phone, they take that very moment to clock out to go to lunch. Getting angrier. The first customer now comes around to ask you why you haven't gone to get their TV and starts cursing you out for not having done so and asking to want to see your manager. Meanwhile although there were like 5 people on the floor at the time all this went down all of a sudden the floor is a ghost town!That's it you lost it! None of that was my fault. I was trying to be the good employee and see to the customer's needs and answer their questions. But you're saying that somehow it's our perception of the situation that's the problem rather than lazy coworkers and people asking you to do far too much all at once.
gamesmaster35 And so how does getting angry help you?
Actualized.org Apparently it doesn't but I don't see the alternative. What allow people to run all over you? Let your coworkers think it's okay for me to do all the work while they stand and gossip?
gamesmaster35 So they walk all over you, and you decide it's a good idea to walk all over yourself too? Make yourself feel bad? Give away all your control to some fools? I guess you could do that. But is that smart? What do you gain?
The alternative is to stay cool and calm and go about creating the life you want. Don't compete with people. Out-create them.
I have more anger after watching this video. 👿
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why don't you try consuming rat poison you bald fuck.
same
I appreciate his sincerity, I understand people with deeper reasons to be angry not but again they need to know to look at themselves from outside.
Ok here really pissing me off
1st 3 mins spent belittling others, and insisting that you are better than other people, and have trouble understanding how someone could be so base... Not exactly inspiring... and it looks like you decided to respond to such negative reactions that you evoked in people by not seeing that the problem lies in you. (Posting, "If you hated this video, you should watch these" 1) Why I'm a Dick - And Why I Won't Change 2) Openmindedness - Why Your Life Is A Cage...) You sir are a hypocrite and passive aggressive and emotional weakling, you mask your anger by believing that you are superior to others, and dismiss anyone who does not see your point of view. In fact you will go as far as to invoke anger in others to make yourself feel superior to them. This is your way of coping with the fact that you were bullied as a child and probably short in stature. (No, I don't know you, but I can read all your social cues that you gave in the first 3 mins.) Beware, I know you think your trying to help others, but help yourself first bro.
Amen a thousand times.
jbbudish this guy sucks
Cameron Tallack I think he means well. Maybe some deeper introspection, and concentration on compassion. I think everyone could benefit from the same, myself included.
This is gold 👌🏽
My problem is judging myself for all the stupid things that I have done in my life. Im angry at myself to such a deep extent. Im here because I can't see a light at the end.
(hug)
Everyone's getting angry about you calling them losers for getting angry... The irony
That's us.
Even though you said you 'never get angry or rage', but I see your anger here in this video. Maybe your anger is so repressed so that you feel disgusted by other people's anger which actually is your disowned part. This video is unhelpful to people who need help with their anger issue.
This comment section is more actualized that this video. Your goal was to be there for people who get angry and instead we are here for you when you got angry at the thought of people who are angry. I call this irony. Thanks leo for manifesting an ironic moment right now.
Right.
Belittle those you claim you want to help
You are helping people but you are insulting people that need your help
Exactly he's very ignorant
+Megan Marie He's the one who needs help
+Natlieandjoey Msp UM YEA STOOPED!!!
He said it himself he's never experienced anger before
He said it himself he's never experienced anger before
so true man. the problem is if one is trapped in the ego he is not willing to listen and feel insulted.
"Anger is about violation of your standards" - so very true.
hahaha the comments section is hilarious! The video is actually good if you managed your anger and heard him out lol
HAHAHAHAHA!!!! This fuckin comment made my day. Funniest shit I have heard in like 10 years.
You must not go out much.
I suppose you'd be just cool, calm, and collected if someone approached you and started calling you disgusting and a fucking loser because of your mental health problems. Yeah, right. He was out of line. Plain and simple.
its honestly helpful
@@fluorescenticon101 thats what people with anger problems typically do. the anger isn't disgusting, ithe way it's realeased on people around you is whats disgusting
I think watching myself get angry will help me the most. Whenever I step back and review my day and realize how I acted.. it really makes me more aware. So, trying to do it in the moment will really help I hope
I kicked 2 holes through my wall, broke 2 computers, broke my wii u, and way too much to write/type down due to anger issues 😒😒
Good Actually I broke 7 houses 7 doors 4 computers 69 cop cars 14 like buttons and 90 dislikes
At 2:26 i went off this video, it was to offensive to me as i have anger issues....i almost smashed my ipad because of what he said. Please can noone argue with me, it just my opinion
Ikr this guy knows absolutely NOTHING about having anger issues. I've had anger issues as since I was a little kid and this douche just thinks he can solve it all even though he has no idea what full rage feels like. I could barely watch 3 minutes of the video it didn't help it pissed me off more.
You know messing with people with anger problems is not the best idea
Lmao, best way I know to calm an angery person down is to call them an unenlightened loser by a random guy with no credentials presented. 😂 The troll of the year award goes to....!
If you here to teach us on your expertise then we appreciate it much but you won’t get a lot of ears if your calling people names and swearing at them and by the way there are kids watching this (because a lot of teens tend to have anger issues) and if they hear you swearing, what do you think their parents are going to think of you?
And then lastly this is supposed to be a reminder to not get angry but you just showed us your own!
I've been making a very genuine attempt at trying to recognize and understand the root of my anger so I can conquer that negative reaction that I always tend to fall back on.
Thus far I'm acknowledging my lack of trust in other's which typically results in me becoming angry more often than not. It's almost as if I automatically assume dishonesty once the honeymoon stage subsides in my relationships, mostly romantic relationships, but not always. Everything is good until the other person makes (what I consider to be) a mistake. Then I start to emotionally detach even though I really want that person to stay close. I get angry often but only because I'm projecting my fears onto the other person.
With all of that said, I'm still trying to understand it. This is what I've come up with so far. I'm wanting to learn how to rethink myself through scenarios to have a more positive outcome when I feel threatened.
How do I do this? Meditation is beautiful, I have come to really enjoy doing it. But in the more immediate scenario, how can I pull myself back from getting so threatened and angry??
PLEASE HELP ME with info, articles, videos, etc.
Thank you.
Find videos on how to be a friend, when to act on red flags, and what is a red flag. This helps us be proactive in a situation where we see we are being taken advantage of. Find something to believe in. I mentor individuals on surviving abusive relationships. You may not feel you are in this category, but if you were taken advantage of this is a form of abuse, even if it is relationship abuse and not physical. They are abusing your relationship and destroying the chance of any relationship if they are deceptive. Also, keep in mind, this helps me, ASSUME = (read just the capitol letters) making an ASS out of U and ME.
Something never to say to someone who’s mad “what the hell is wrong with you! You needa get over it life is beautiful so move on” if your mad you can’t just move on and it’s okay to get mad it’s what you do with that anger that you need help with. Moving on just makes this build up
Hey man, your videos are normally very good, I think you have a lot to offer with your advice and techniques you teach but I have to say, this one is very odd, I feel you don't really understand the subject. Telling people to stop acting like dicks is the sort of advice I would expect to see in a comedy.
The people who have come onto this particular video are aware that they have behaved in a manner that they are not proud of, they are seeking help. If you can't relate to some subjects I would stay away from them. If this was the first video I saw of yours I wouldn't have watched the rest.
People suffer anger for lots of different reasons, stress, depression and sometime it's chemical imbalance which requires medication. Trying to have a generic solution that is going to solve all these problems is not really going to work as peoples anger comes from different places.
I would most likely have a better chance for some people as I can relate... So here is a little advice that may help a couple of people....
I would say to anyone coming on here to ask yourself what is it in your life that is making you unhappy, you may not realise that you are unhappy, you may not be able to do anything about what is making you unhappy but if you can, do something about it. Do it as you only live once. Being unhappy leads to stress depression frustration impatience and anger.
It can be scary leaving a job a relationship or any situation that you are in BUT you know what is more scary, staying put. Ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen if I get out of my current situation. Is that worse than the situation that I am in and if so what solution could you come up with to fix that. I guarantee it will be better than the one you are in now.
The most important thing in this world is your health, physical and mental. With out that you are no good to yourself or anyone.
These people are not dicks
I took you seriously until you said you don't get angry. Anger is a basic human emotion that is completely normal. It is the ways in which we deal with that anger that can be problematic. I will be professional and take the high road here and not say what I am thinking.
I said it very very hard for me to get angry. Don't shoot the messenger.
People who have real anger issues, don't just explode all the time, unless it's for a good reason/cause, or if it's something that's happened might have clicked psychologically for them to do such a thing.
You cannot pool everyone in one huge group. People have good reasons to be angry
Great video Leo, I needed this, Ive been doing work for 3 years on myself and anger has been the latest thing I am trying to get a handle on, the people who comment cuz you said if you can't control this you are a looser if you always explode and always angry, well heck yeah your a looser if you do that, I did that and I feel like a looser way before you said, and if that hurts your feelings then you have more things to work on. It's all part of the journey for all of us, if offended as why am I offended, theres a very deeper thing going on in each of us, were losers if we do try to change but to those who are willing and trying then your courages warriors, I am not offended. I would be 3 years ago, but I have a life time of work and self actualization to do, and I am willing to do it.
Untill around 5 minutes into the video, I was also frustrated like the most others commenting here. But now I'm like in 9 minutes and I feel like he's specifically talking about me. All those people who are angry at this video too, I'm just one of you guys. But this video does give us something. Realize what he says. It's true. I value truth which might be the reason why I accept his point.
Pretty sure that watching this made me even angrier.