Totally loving the empathetic guy on the left. Getting up to offer support to others and breaking down when he was relating to the 16 year old on his card, that’s a good man right there.
@depanto 108 Not true .. I myself am recovering from addiction and if you had ever been there you would understand the true compassion and bond of one addict to another
As a person with depression anxiety and at one point self-harm, i really enjoy these video. They're something that i couldn't do and wouldn't do. I couldn't open up about my pain. The moment i did everything would be a disaster.
Both of my grandfathers are addicted to alcohol and both started drinking when they were starting to be considered «elders» in society. Seems like both are drinking to forget time.
These videos teach us about humans and how everyone has a complicated life and we must learn to love them We're all the same and we must learn to love and embrace everyone's flaws and if they need help, give them he,p and give them a hug ❤️
Joshy Washy that is a great point, but those who he hugged first could have returned some of the care when it was his following turn. Look at 3:28 when no one even seems interested after he got choked up
V Yeah, it’s all a little confusing. In their shoes, I feel like I’d be frozen to consider hugging a stranger in empathy for his pain. That initial barrier to let yourself go and be open to strangers to the extent of physically comforting them is not easy unfortunately.
Joshy Washy Much of that is due to societal expectations put on men to be rigid and “strong”. Yet the strongest and kindest one here was the one in the grey sweater. It’s easier for women, mostly. I hope a day will come where we can all be open, emotionally and physically, to easing the pain within ourselves and within others.
The guy in the grey sweater seems like a great human being. Comforting everyone and yet no one reached for him when he was crying. I would’ve given him an A+ hug
The videos are edited. It could be that someone did, but it wasn’t shown. Also people show affection and support differently. Doesnt mean they don’t care
The guy with the gray sweater was giving everyone a hug and comforting the girl who was crying and when he cried no one stepped up to do something for him Edit: wow I didn’t know I could get this much likes , thank you so much !
People show affection and support differently. For some they just don’t have the confidence to be that up front with someone like that Also since the video is edited, it could be just as likely that they did do something to show him support but we just didn’t see it
They keep really professional and informative most of the time. It’s actually really refreshing compared to how many wannabe social experiment channels there are, just wish they aired a bit more of the whole scenes or had BTS or extra so we can watch more.
You're problems are still real and valid even if they don't seem as bad as others. Just want to make sure you know that and don't try to undermine your struggles.
Sometimes our problems are bigger than we percieve them to be. Thinking that your problems aren't important or big enough to worry about is self-hate behaviour Gratitude is not self-hate
TheUglyBarnacle every problem is validated if it makes you feel negatively, it’s not about comparing yourself to others or others comparing themselves to you , it’s about supporting eachother💖
Thank you to all the supportive comments in this thread. ❤ They could really help someone! I wish I had read them when I was going through major depression. My mother made me feel so invalidated when I tried to open up to her, telling me about everyone who had it worse. (I was dealing with a lot at that time and my home life wasn't that great..) This made me feel so SO much guilt everytime I was sad, which made me feel even worse which caused more guilt. It got to a point where I would crave bad things to happen to me and felt a sense of relief and comfort when they did because it would justify my feelings. I got a little into self harm at that time and seriously started contemplating breaking my bones or doing other kinds of self damage just so it was "okay" for me to feel sad. I'm so glad I'm past that now ❤ Don't EVER down play your problems because it can lead to some messed up coping mechanisms. Again, thank you to eveyone in this comment thread, you all seem like such great people!! sending so much love ❤❤ (I'm sorry for the long comment but I got a bit carried haha)
I have so much respect for the man in the grey sweater. Not only did he continue when he got choked up, but he REPEATED it to emphasize the weight and seriousness of the words. My guy, you are incredible.
The guts they all have to share their stories. It’s so painful to hear. I feel like such a bystander sometimes when I feel like someone needs helps that I don’t give.
Millions of people in the world are in a LOT OF MENTAL PAIN. A LOT OF PEOPLE (Black,White,Asia,Latino,Indian)ARE SUFFERING FROM THE SAME MENTAL PAIN. WE NEED MANY MORE SESSIONS LIKE THIS ALL OVER THE WORLD. GOD WANTS US TO HELP EACH OTHER. THE WORLD IS SEARCHING FOR LOVE AND A HUG .
I'd hope these people will stay in touch after this shoot. Establish a day a month to meet and go through these thoughts/feelings. It is so important for people to have someone in their corner and to know others are struggling looking for a way to be okay.
I hope so too. In current times where everyone walks around looking at nothing but their phones or tablets, it is so important to have someone else who you can open up to. Someone who cares about you.
I think that’s not true... and if u r the one who loves u the most in life then that’s kind of sad. People need other people’s love. Yes it’s good to accept and help yourself but that’s not enough.
Kaepora Gaebora makes sense. But that’s not what I mean. I meant that if u r the one who loves u most (out of all ppl u know) is lonely. Not that u shouldn’t like yourself. Just hopefully someone would like u more than u like youself. One person is enough.
@@xHannaHx33 Honestly, okay I might be saying this because I love myself, but I don't think it's sad not having someone loving you more than you love yourself, I think it's very common, I think people love themselves the most, and some won't admit to it. I have friends and I don't think they love me more than I love myself and I'm perfectly fine with it.
the grey sweater -guy seems so genuine and lovely, i hope he has a great life now and in the future❤️ and of course i hope good things to happen to everyone else in the room and those who wrote the messages, this is the best vid i have seen on yt in a very long time
i like the fact that this video isn't just about drugs and alcohol. i clicked on the video thinking it would be just that without realizing that there are so much more ways and things you could be addicted to and their just as physically and emotionally harming
I have one friend who knows everything I've been through and anytime I'm in a dark space, from wanting to cut myself, to wanting to drive into a wall, jump into a river or OD or whatever and he's my rock. He's literally checked in on me everyday for the last 3 month's cause I had so much going on and I'm forever grateful to have him in my life. Everyone just needs that one person to believe in them and support them without judgement 💖💖💖
@@Nekroz05 everyone needs someone to vent to/talk with. I'm not going to be great at it but I listen pretty well. Whats your preferred mode of contact?
Adrian Rianto no problem that is making you feel like killing yourself is silly no matter how small it is compared to other peoples problem it is still a problem if you get what im trying to say (not really good with words)
My uncle was an alcoholic, he was a tough man, but a good man, caring and just. He got sober, but he carried alot of pain in him, I could always tell. One day my Father sat me down and told me that my uncle was dead, he had commited suicide after his wife left him. It was dark, but a very sobering experience. it taught me alot, most of all it taught me that sometimes even the strongest men can't carry their burden, and that true strength is having the courage to swallow your pride and just asking for help.
"True courage is swallowing your pride and asking for help." I'll remember that. Makes me think of the quote that says "real courage is simply embracing vulnerability".
@@amyamy2240 It must be said though that being too vulnerable is also dangerous but in different ways. It's a tough balance to find but it's important to know when you can do something on your own nd when you cannot.
My uncle was also a alcoholic and my auntie still is, they were both kind people but none of my family supported them through what they were going through. I think that's the problem with todays society we view drug addicts and alocohlics like they are the devils reincarnation when we really need to help them because they are the ones who need it the most, my uncle is now dead after falling down some stairs sorry i couldn't help you while you were uncle rest easy🙏
Jayarie u don’t think that could have been him earlier in life? or that they might change some facts that ppl who know them could not relate it back to them? this is just a conspiracy, and i’m not claiming it’s tru, i just think it’s interesting to analyze🤔😊
Jayarie yea exactly, i’m sure this series is a method for ppl to get things off their chest. i’m sure they would switch it up maybe if a person can’t read their own or to hide that it’s them more
Watching the man in the gray sweater comfort the people around him yet not be comforted when he cried, I burst into tears because that in itself is something I relate to so fiercely.
Self harm is horrible and i hate that some people dont view it as an actual addiction. Im 6 months clean and have been addicted to it since i was 12. Im 16 now and every single day i have the biggest urge to relapse. Its a big and real struggle. If anyone needs support or someone to talk to about it im here
Wow 12 years old That’s sad more than likely bad things were done to them while doing cocaine I hope that person has a wonderful rest of there life’s ❤️
This channel deserves so much more attention. I’m only 18, but I’ve been dealing with bipolar depression and it’s made it hard to make friends, be open with my siblings and feel motivated enough to get out of my house but I’m trying so it’s honestly so nice to know how much strangers care for you when you seem to not care for yourself. 🖤
Copping with depression is really hard, I myself cut too, it has been 2 weeks since the last time I did and it’s a small improvement I know, I still think about taking my own life sometimes, and how the promise I gave my 5y/o sister that I will be there for her is the only thing that’s holding me back from actually doing it. People say talk about it and seek help, medication whether it’s medicine or therapy doesn’t work with everyone guys, yes we do understand that people want to help and reach for us, but we have no control over it. And for me I don’t wanna be saved tbh.
First thing I want to say is that I am really proud of you! The fact that you wrote this and resisted cutting yourself for 2 weeks is a huge improvement! As someone who is also struggling with depression, I want us to be strong together. If you don't want to talk, try reading. I heard the book 'Reasons to stay alive' by Matt Haig is a good one. Haven't read it yet but I am planning on getting the book soon. Stay strong and be safe ❤️
I have struggled with depression for many years, in the end I got out of it but I know it's exeedingly hard to do, it sure was for me. If therapy can't help you (I can say it saved my life but you are right, it does not always help) try reading and studying everything you can regarding your condition, I found great support in reading what people who got over depression wrote about their experiences with it. Hope is there for all, if I could do it after 14 years of struggling you can do it too. Stay strong :)
The comment starting at 4:17 really hit me because I also struggle with depression and have cut myself in the past. I was lucky that the people I ended up telling have supported me very lovingly. It was my biggest fear to tell people because I was so afraid they would be disappointed. I still struggle with this. My heart goes out to the person who submitted that secret and to the lovely person who read it. May we all find peace and support to love ourselves rather than hurt ourselves.
Absolutely love everyone in this video. It takes a lot to even admit to yourself that you are or have struggled with addiction, but to admit that to the world is terrifying. Incredibly brave ppl here. Props to the girl who tried to encourage the person who self harms, saying that she loves and supports them. And huge about out to grey sweater guy that everyone a talking about. He's super empathetic and tries to comfort those around him, and even got emotional himself when listening to others stories.
I could feel everyone's pain, expecially the dude in the Grey sweater, as a male I had to go through and still go through these types of hard times. But In the end of the day there's a bright light that helps us become stronger.
@@musclemommymichelle I know they do, women go through SO much more pain, but male voice and advocacy Is less than women's voices. But growing up in school I was taught, that girls are the only one who face througj multiple challanges. But don't take my words wrong, it was just an opinion.
I just want to say this is amazing! people who lived through similar situations and having them relate to others who don't feel comfortable opening up to people is one of the best ways to help them. This is just the best.
I am sobbing. The reactions are so genuine. The guy giving hugs to everyone I just started sobbing. That guy supported everyone. What a beautiful heart and everyone there just wow..
I’m really glad that the whole group is empathetic and has a heart. Especially the one that got up and comforted others that were heartbroken. It’s so easy to put up a front and to bottle in pain, as well as blame yourself for things that were out of your control.
I want this guy in my life. Correction, I NEED someone like him in my life. Im a cynical, bitter person, just floating through life, doing very little of worth. Someone like that would maybe change that... only thing is... I dont know if I want to change that. I’ve become numb to life, and it kinda feels good... or at least not bad... But a person like that would definitely have a positive impact on my life.
This really hit home. The courage these people have to talk about addiction has inspired me. I think I’ll reach out to a friend I feel is going through something similar to what I did. I was to scared before. Now I’m not
A lot of my close family members are alcoholics and watching people you love constantly drink it's so depressing and you cant help but wonder what they're drinking for. If it's to forget things, to numb things or to not think about things. Everytime I see them drink it makes me sad and telling them the harm in it is mute because nothing anyone says will get through to them. I'm proud of my siblings and I for not going down that path.
Everyone of these episodes i swear the person gets the card that relates to their life the most. I feel like it was meant to be. To help bring out the emotions and to talk about it. To heal .
My uncle is one year sober. Watching this gave me hope for him. It is so comforting to know that other people have struggled just like he has. I wish more people could be open and honest about addiction.
The girl who felt it was ger fault her boyfriend past away made me cry alot. I have fortunatly not anyone who has in fact passed away but too many have been close enough and I know the feeling you havent done enough even though you knew their secret
These videos make me feel less alone/eases the pain because I know that everyone goes through something. Videos like these brings me comfort. Thank you 🙏🏾
A confession: A friend of mine told me that they were molested by a priest when they were young and they cut the breaks on his car. His car crashed. I don’t know what to do. It’s so hard to process. My friend killed someone.
Your friend is not you. You don't have to carry the burden of your friend's mistakes. The only thing you can do is pretend like you dont even know. That way, it's easier to forget. It's in the past, and you can't do anything now, so hive yourself peace of mind in the fact that nothing related to your friend is your fault, especially whether they go forward and confess or not.
Hearing the encouragement of those who'd struggled with this stuff- even though it wasn't for me- made me want to keep going with my recovery.. I've been struggling a lot the past few days with wanting to relapse. But I'm proud to say that on the sixth, I'll be hitting four months sober. Good luck to everyone who's watching this video.. Whether you're struggling yourself or someone around you is, I believe in you. You can recover from whatever you're struggling with. Please reach out for help, as terrifying as that is. You've got this
Here's one BIG THING that would make these videos better: make them longer. These are deep topics, and the longer the speakers get to speak, the longer we get to hear each and everyone's opinion (such as with this video, not everyone spoke), the better, stronger, and impactful the message will be. Please take that into consideration.
i was sitting through watching the video thinking “i wonder if there’s gonna be anything about self-harm addiction”. There was. I’ve been bartling with being addicted to cutting myself for 3 years now, and I still can see an end to it. I never knew anybody else would feel the same way as I do. I’ve always felt so alone about this, but the made me see that I’m not alone and that it’s never too late to ask for help
I'm a cyber-addicted,that's bad because it affects my social life.What's worse is that I don't like to admitit in front of my mother,since what she says most of the times turns out to be truth
@@Mary-km7rr I first told one of my psycologists(sorry I'm terrible at english),and then she told my mum and together they made up a plan to be on a 4 day trip.I still remember how anxious I felt without being able to be on my computer or using the wifi,I don't really remember where we went because in my head I was like running towards the computer and my phone so I didn't payed attention to what was going around
Same for me. I feel like I’m nothing without the internet and I will always be nothing. The internet just fills the void in my life. I don’t really have any social life or friends that I really can see on a regular basis. So I need online friends.
Wow....this one cuts me so deep and as someone with depression,it's both sad and a relief to know that others are familar with some of the pain and issues we face.But I feel like my love for the solidarity amongst people who suffer overrules my sadness that they are familiar with such pain.Thank you for this upload,definitely 1 of my favourite Jubilees for how raw and emotional it is♡
I’m so blessed I’ve never seen true addiction in my own life To all those who have I commend you for overcoming that it takes incredible strength. Good on you & stay strong!
The energy in that room Is so powerful although they were talking about something dark they were there for each other and that's something you could feel only by watching this video
LostX13 when you say thinking do you mean like getting caught up in fantasies that consume your being? Because that actually has a term called maladaptive dreaming.
I like this format more than the individuals reading the secrets one at a time. It shows support for the stories they tell that can relate, which shows people support is possible and also available.
I'm super glad I came across this. I've experienced anxiety and depression as far back as I can remember. My way of coping with life was playing soccer, I played at the highest level. I tore my ACL, meniscus and quadricep muscle in April 2008 resulting in reconstructive knee surgery. I started cutting myself the summer going into grade 9 (2008) at 14 years old (the summer I had surgery) which began an addiction to self harm and an introduction into pain medication. I struggled with self harm from July 2008 until January 1st 2013. I'm now over 6 years free of self harm. I drank every single day in the summer of 2009, but stopped once entering a relationship which turned abusive from 2009 until 2012. I started binge drinking and experimenting with drugs in the summer of 2012. I will be 1 year sober from all drugs and alcohol on March 30th. :) Shout outs to the man in the grey sweater for comforting and encouraging everyone, we need more people like him.
2:46 - There's a manifestation of plasma / orb (spirit, ghost, or angel) that comes around his neck, then it goes around his shoulders. This tells me that there's an spirit there looking after this guy, because he clearly feels this person's pain because he can relate.
I can relate to the post about porn addiction. Mine started when I was 12 and I struggled for years, I lost my husband partially over it. It was hard and even he ended up using it against me and making me learn to has myself more because of it... and I'm a woman. It isn't just men who deal with it. I had to struggle alone... thankfully I'm in a better place mentally and don't fight so hard to hide it and get away from it. I can say I don't chase it anymore and I actually don't want to pursue it like I did. I can still view it but I don't complete the addiction cycle using it anymore and I'm so grateful for that change in mindset.. took me almost 10 years, suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, isolation and loneliness, and now I know I'm not bad. And I'm definitely not alone and unlovable.
I have a atleast 3 alcoholics in my family 2 that are extremely bad. Im 22 years old I didnt start drinking until I was 16 years old.. 1 year ago I suffered from pancreatitis because of my own drinking.. I could drink up to 1,5-2 litres of vodka in a day sometimes when i was only like 20-21 years old. when I was in hospital and the doctors told me that i was there because of my drinking i was in denial, because drinking was the only reason for me to live... so 3 months went by and i thought the doctors were lying to me so i started drinking again and now i start to feel really sick everytime i start to drink but i dont wanna stop drinking.. i do drugs aswell.. any kind of drug as long as it gets me high or drunk im all for it... and whenever im sober i just feel so lonely and empty.. i dont know what to do with myself, i attempted suicide twice and im trying to stay sober now.. I started working out and all that, im doing everything i can but whenever i do something good i feel like i do 2 bad things aswell... i also lost my drivers license for drunk driving when i went to a drug dealer.. i dont know why im writing all this but my life is a mess and i dont know what to do with it......i dont know if life will ever get better.. specially when i could die from my next beer... i dont know....
I have no idea how you feel but know this, Jesus Christ loves you, he died for us so could have a relationship with him. The creator himself became man in flesh so he knows what you are going through. Just call on the name of Jesus and ask him to manifest himself in your life and he will set you free from darkness and do know you're not worthless, but you're special and have a purpose!!!
Don´t be too hard with yourself you are trying to be better. If you do something good, try not to focus on the things you have done bad. There is a mindset --- if at the moment of the past you were doing your best, you shouldn´t feel remorse about it (even if it is bad). You are just 22 years old, you´ll live happier and all this difficult moment will be part of the past , try to fight for yourself and look for some help. (I´m 25 years old ; I send you a big hug )
I love the guy in the grey sweater :((... what a sweetheart he truly is, and not afraid to show emotion like that and show that he cares even if he doesn't quite know the person.
This is one of my favorite series on UA-cam it just hits me with a reality check every time I watch one. It wont stop me feeling this way, all hurt inside, but it makes me feel as if overcoming it all is actually possible. Thank you.
The guy with the gray sweater... he's so sweet someone give him a hug please ;-;
*hugs man
Yes he was quick to offer support to everyone.
@Mihir Patel that's what you do in your streets dawg
He's a gentle soul❤️ I hope so much that life will be gentle to him....
Ik yeah he was so nice
Totally loving the empathetic guy on the left. Getting up to offer support to others and breaking down when he was relating to the 16 year old on his card, that’s a good man right there.
Right?? Be my husband please
Yes he is a good man!
Yet no one got up to console him ☹️
So a "he" is definitely a good person and you have made your judgement by looking a "his" mannerisms for like a few minutes.
Achutanand Choudhary it’s not very hard to tell if someone is good or bad. And why with the quotations?
It is clear that the dude at 2:32 has faced so many battles in his life. He was giving hugs and felt everyone’s pain.
Sara NZ YESS I WAS WATCHING THIS IN PUBLIC AND WHEN IT CAME TO HIS PART, I was gonna cryyy! DIDNT WANNA CRY SO I SAVED IT FOR LATER
Does anybody know any of his social media handles?
Compassionate man!
He is a great man !!!
I agree. He’s not afraid to be emotional. He’s learned about emotional intelligence and it shows.
huge probs to the man in the gray sweater for comforting everybody
Hope there's someone there for him as well..I really do
He's an angel, honestly.
Real people know real problems
props*
True , he seems like a sweetheart
I love how they supported each other.. even though they probably have never met.
Human is a social species
That's how it should be
~Your biggest fan is a stranger & Your biggest enemy is someone you know~
Forgot where i saw this quote..
@depanto 108 Not true .. I myself am recovering from addiction and if you had ever been there you would understand the true compassion and bond of one addict to another
The guy in the grey sweater is such a real one
Man😔
The Seeking secrets series is one of the best from Jubilee. Very deep, authentic and real.
i agree 100%. id way way way rather watch seeking secrets instead of their fear long videos.
As a person with depression anxiety and at one point self-harm, i really enjoy these video. They're something that i couldn't do and wouldn't do. I couldn't open up about my pain. The moment i did everything would be a disaster.
Honestly jubilee is really wining in this game... bringing us amazing content other youtubers won’t think of
Yeah. I was intrigued by the veterans one. God bless our Sons and Daughters of the nation
The guy in the grey is really guinuine
*genuine
Awesomeness haha nice 🤗🤩
Gwinwine*
Gehnewin*
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Both of my grandfathers are addicted to alcohol and both started drinking when they were starting to be considered «elders» in society. Seems like both are drinking to forget time.
Awe thats sad
:(
my dad has been a raging alcoholic my entire but I never knew until I got older that his behavior was never normal
I swear you watch all the same things as me because I see your comments everywhere.
I don't think i can name one male person in my family that wasn't addicted to alcohol, at least at some point of their lives.
That man who keep huggin people is soo sweet
These videos teach us about humans and how everyone has a complicated life and we must learn to love them
We're all the same and we must learn to love and embrace everyone's flaws and if they need help, give them he,p and give them a hug ❤️
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braeden thank you for commenting 💗
Rachel Dannheisser They show us our common humanity
That is not true
I’m gettin famous here..
That man with the tattoos is there for others and gives these strangers genuine compassion. Realize how no one seems to care about him?
V Idk. May be hard to open yourself up any more than what these guys are already doing. That man is just a step ahead of everyone.
Joshy Washy that is a great point, but those who he hugged first could have returned some of the care when it was his following turn. Look at 3:28 when no one even seems interested after he got choked up
V Yeah, it’s all a little confusing. In their shoes, I feel like I’d be frozen to consider hugging a stranger in empathy for his pain. That initial barrier to let yourself go and be open to strangers to the extent of physically comforting them is not easy unfortunately.
Joshy Washy
Much of that is due to societal expectations put on men to be rigid and “strong”. Yet the strongest and kindest one here was the one in the grey sweater.
It’s easier for women, mostly. I hope a day will come where we can all be open, emotionally and physically, to easing the pain within ourselves and within others.
I was so sad when he started crying and nobody came up to hug him
The guy with the grey sweater seems like that one dude friend you can go to for anything. How caring 😊
The guy in the grey sweater seems like a great human being. Comforting everyone and yet no one reached for him when he was crying. I would’ve given him an A+ hug
It goes to show that when days are dark, friends are few
The videos are edited. It could be that someone did, but it wasn’t shown. Also people show affection and support differently. Doesnt mean they don’t care
The guy in the grey sweater? Yeah he's an angel. Like for real.
Mountain Man Muriel 😭😭😭😭😭💞
I can confirm
The guy with the gray sweater was giving everyone a hug and comforting the girl who was crying and when he cried no one stepped up to do something for him
Edit: wow I didn’t know I could get this much likes , thank you so much !
Life in a nutshell
People show affection and support differently. For some they just don’t have the confidence to be that up front with someone like that
Also since the video is edited, it could be just as likely that they did do something to show him support but we just didn’t see it
Almost 1000. It's great you noticed him :)
these videos are so deep I love seeing videos like this on UA-cam
same ! ^^
samee
They keep really professional and informative most of the time. It’s actually really refreshing compared to how many wannabe social experiment channels there are, just wish they aired a bit more of the whole scenes or had BTS or extra so we can watch more.
Same (are you army?)
Army's 🙌💜
sometimes i still believe in humanity. thank u for this video
Videos like these make me wanna believe but reality drags me back.
This makes my problems seem not as bad anymore
You're problems are still real and valid even if they don't seem as bad as others. Just want to make sure you know that and don't try to undermine your struggles.
Sometimes our problems are bigger than we percieve them to be.
Thinking that your problems aren't important or big enough to worry about is self-hate behaviour
Gratitude is not self-hate
TheUglyBarnacle every problem is validated if it makes you feel negatively, it’s not about comparing yourself to others or others comparing themselves to you , it’s about supporting eachother💖
@@snivyshy2406 Thanks man 😎
Thank you to all the supportive comments in this thread. ❤ They could really help someone! I wish I had read them when I was going through major depression. My mother made me feel so invalidated when I tried to open up to her, telling me about everyone who had it worse. (I was dealing with a lot at that time and my home life wasn't that great..) This made me feel so SO much guilt everytime I was sad, which made me feel even worse which caused more guilt. It got to a point where I would crave bad things to happen to me and felt a sense of relief and comfort when they did because it would justify my feelings. I got a little into self harm at that time and seriously started contemplating breaking my bones or doing other kinds of self damage just so it was "okay" for me to feel sad. I'm so glad I'm past that now ❤ Don't EVER down play your problems because it can lead to some messed up coping mechanisms. Again, thank you to eveyone in this comment thread, you all seem like such great people!! sending so much love ❤❤ (I'm sorry for the long comment but I got a bit carried haha)
I have so much respect for the man in the grey sweater. Not only did he continue when he got choked up, but he REPEATED it to emphasize the weight and seriousness of the words. My guy, you are incredible.
The self-harm one hit too close. I wish that girl a kind recovery. It's a horrible addiction to have, and I hope she's getting help
I hope you are better now. You are a wonderful person
The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety.
The opposite of addiction is connection.
the king of cool love this.
My grandmother used to say addiction ("Sucht" in German) comes from searching something ("suchen" in German).
Kurzgesagt
Woww that was so deep
i think i saw that Tedtalk too
The guts they all have to share their stories. It’s so painful to hear. I feel like such a bystander sometimes when I feel like someone needs helps that I don’t give.
It’s really hard to go up to randoms and be that saint but I think we should all strive to do that..
It’s just so crazy everyone is walking around with so much severe trauma
They choose people that are
Millions of people in the world are in a LOT OF MENTAL PAIN. A LOT OF PEOPLE (Black,White,Asia,Latino,Indian)ARE SUFFERING FROM THE SAME MENTAL PAIN. WE NEED MANY MORE SESSIONS LIKE THIS ALL OVER THE WORLD. GOD WANTS US TO HELP EACH OTHER. THE WORLD IS SEARCHING FOR LOVE AND A HUG .
That guy jumping up to give a hug to people was one of a kind.
I'd hope these people will stay in touch after this shoot. Establish a day a month to meet and go through these thoughts/feelings. It is so important for people to have someone in their corner and to know others are struggling looking for a way to be okay.
I hope so too. In current times where everyone walks around looking at nothing but their phones or tablets, it is so important to have someone else who you can open up to. Someone who cares about you.
Wow this hit hard and I don't even do drugs. Everyone has a secret.
Kool_cat0778 uh
That guy in the grey shirt had my heart❤
Love yourself, people. No one will love you more than you could.
It's not easy. It's possible, but it's a long road to travel.
I think that’s not true... and if u r the one who loves u the most in life then that’s kind of sad. People need other people’s love. Yes it’s good to accept and help yourself but that’s not enough.
@@xHannaHx33 Someone who love himself will naturally seek company and love from other people
Kaepora Gaebora makes sense. But that’s not what I mean. I meant that if u r the one who loves u most (out of all ppl u know) is lonely. Not that u shouldn’t like yourself. Just hopefully someone would like u more than u like youself. One person is enough.
@@xHannaHx33 Honestly, okay I might be saying this because I love myself, but I don't think it's sad not having someone loving you more than you love yourself, I think it's very common, I think people love themselves the most, and some won't admit to it. I have friends and I don't think they love me more than I love myself and I'm perfectly fine with it.
The guy in the gray sweatshirt is such a good person and deserves so many HUGGSSSSS
the grey sweater -guy seems so genuine and lovely, i hope he has a great life now and in the future❤️ and of course i hope good things to happen to everyone else in the room and those who wrote the messages, this is the best vid i have seen on yt in a very long time
The guy in the gray sweater is just so sweet and compassionate
i like the fact that this video isn't just about drugs and alcohol. i clicked on the video thinking it would be just that without realizing that there are so much more ways and things you could be addicted to and their just as physically and emotionally harming
I have one friend who knows everything I've been through and anytime I'm in a dark space, from wanting to cut myself, to wanting to drive into a wall, jump into a river or OD or whatever and he's my rock. He's literally checked in on me everyday for the last 3 month's cause I had so much going on and I'm forever grateful to have him in my life. Everyone just needs that one person to believe in them and support them without judgement 💖💖💖
proud of both of u 💕💕
That's so amazing!
@@Nekroz05 wanna talk?
@@Nekroz05 everyone needs someone to vent to/talk with. I'm not going to be great at it but I listen pretty well. Whats your preferred mode of contact?
Adrian Rianto no problem that is making you feel like killing yourself is silly no matter how small it is compared to other peoples problem it is still a problem if you get what im trying to say (not really good with words)
My uncle was an alcoholic, he was a tough man, but a good man, caring and just. He got sober, but he carried alot of pain in him, I could always tell.
One day my Father sat me down and told me that my uncle was dead, he had commited suicide after his wife left him. It was dark, but a very sobering experience.
it taught me alot, most of all it taught me that sometimes even the strongest men can't carry their burden, and that true strength is having the courage to swallow your pride and just asking for help.
"True courage is swallowing your pride and asking for help." I'll remember that. Makes me think of the quote that says "real courage is simply embracing vulnerability".
@@amyamy2240 It must be said though that being too vulnerable is also dangerous but in different ways.
It's a tough balance to find but it's important to know when you can do something on your own nd when you cannot.
@@SkurtavusGrodolfus true
My uncle was also a alcoholic and my auntie still is, they were both kind people but none of my family supported them through what they were going through. I think that's the problem with todays society we view drug addicts and alocohlics like they are the devils reincarnation when we really need to help them because they are the ones who need it the most, my uncle is now dead after falling down some stairs sorry i couldn't help you while you were uncle rest easy🙏
conspiracy theory
they are reading their own letters, that’s why they usually “relate to it”
Anastasia Avrine i agree
The old guy is really 16 and afraid to tell his parents of prescription drug addiction?
Jayarie u don’t think that could have been him earlier in life? or that they might change some facts that ppl who know them could not relate it back to them? this is just a conspiracy, and i’m not claiming it’s tru, i just think it’s interesting to analyze🤔😊
@@anastasiaa3938 given someone there actually looked 16 I'd trust it's their story
Jayarie yea exactly, i’m sure this series is a method for ppl to get things off their chest. i’m sure they would switch it up maybe if a person can’t read their own or to hide that it’s them more
Watching the man in the gray sweater comfort the people around him yet not be comforted when he cried, I burst into tears because that in itself is something I relate to so fiercely.
Me too...
Man in the grey pullover is hugging everyone. So full of love ♡
The group hug at the end
monari_ michelle spoiler alert 😂
The man in the grey sweater is so genuine and caring, we need more people like him in the world
Self harm is horrible and i hate that some people dont view it as an actual addiction. Im 6 months clean and have been addicted to it since i was 12. Im 16 now and every single day i have the biggest urge to relapse. Its a big and real struggle. If anyone needs support or someone to talk to about it im here
I suffer from depression and social anxiety. It's hard to face each day when you don't really have any friends.
It will get better. You can learn to control your anxieties. Im sure you will meet cool people in the future :)
The man in the grey shirt was so sweet to everyone. Beautiful.
Wow 12 years old That’s sad more than likely bad things were done to them while doing cocaine I hope that person has a wonderful rest of there life’s ❤️
This channel deserves so much more attention. I’m only 18, but I’ve been dealing with bipolar depression and it’s made it hard to make friends, be open with my siblings and feel motivated enough to get out of my house but I’m trying so it’s honestly so nice to know how much strangers care for you when you seem to not care for yourself. 🖤
It gets better
Copping with depression is really hard, I myself cut too, it has been 2 weeks since the last time I did and it’s a small improvement I know, I still think about taking my own life sometimes, and how the promise I gave my 5y/o sister that I will be there for her is the only thing that’s holding me back from actually doing it.
People say talk about it and seek help, medication whether it’s medicine or therapy doesn’t work with everyone guys, yes we do understand that people want to help and reach for us, but we have no control over it.
And for me I don’t wanna be saved tbh.
First thing I want to say is that I am really proud of you! The fact that you wrote this and resisted cutting yourself for 2 weeks is a huge improvement! As someone who is also struggling with depression, I want us to be strong together. If you don't want to talk, try reading. I heard the book 'Reasons to stay alive' by Matt Haig is a good one. Haven't read it yet but I am planning on getting the book soon. Stay strong and be safe ❤️
I have struggled with depression for many years, in the end I got out of it but I know it's exeedingly hard to do, it sure was for me. If therapy can't help you (I can say it saved my life but you are right, it does not always help) try reading and studying everything you can regarding your condition, I found great support in reading what people who got over depression wrote about their experiences with it. Hope is there for all, if I could do it after 14 years of struggling you can do it too. Stay strong :)
The comment starting at 4:17 really hit me because I also struggle with depression and have cut myself in the past. I was lucky that the people I ended up telling have supported me very lovingly. It was my biggest fear to tell people because I was so afraid they would be disappointed. I still struggle with this. My heart goes out to the person who submitted that secret and to the lovely person who read it. May we all find peace and support to love ourselves rather than hurt ourselves.
Aww no one helped grey-sweater guy even though he helped everyone else
Dami The definition of being a Empath.
Dami perfect metaphor for modern "civilized" society
Absolutely love everyone in this video. It takes a lot to even admit to yourself that you are or have struggled with addiction, but to admit that to the world is terrifying. Incredibly brave ppl here. Props to the girl who tried to encourage the person who self harms, saying that she loves and supports them. And huge about out to grey sweater guy that everyone a talking about. He's super empathetic and tries to comfort those around him, and even got emotional himself when listening to others stories.
Hey you! Whatever you're dealing with, stay strong I love you
Bengisu . Aww thank you 😊
I love you too
Thoss poor souls. My heart goes out to them all. I hope they find the right support and guidance they need.
I could feel everyone's pain, expecially the dude in the Grey sweater, as a male I had to go through and still go through these types of hard times. But In the end of the day there's a bright light that helps us become stronger.
Kyle Lowry as a male? females go through addiction too
@@musclemommymichelle I know they do, women go through SO much more pain, but male voice and advocacy Is less than women's voices. But growing up in school I was taught, that girls are the only one who face througj multiple challanges. But don't take my words wrong, it was just an opinion.
Kyle Lowry Yeah that’s true
I really appreciate them putting in a secret about self harm, I feel like not enough people recognize it as the addiction it can very easily become.
Dude this got my heart... literally crying.
I have no words.
I just want to say this is amazing! people who lived through similar situations and having them relate to others who don't feel comfortable opening up to people is one of the best ways to help them. This is just the best.
this video is heart wrenching. thank you to not only the guy in the gray sweater, but to all of them.
I am sobbing. The reactions are so genuine. The guy giving hugs to everyone I just started sobbing. That guy supported everyone. What a beautiful heart and everyone there just wow..
Make your videos longer, please. This stuff really gets me and it’s so important letting people know they’re not alone.
I’m really glad that the whole group is empathetic and has a heart. Especially the one that got up and comforted others that were heartbroken. It’s so easy to put up a front and to bottle in pain, as well as blame yourself for things that were out of your control.
That guy in gray shirt... he deserve the world, someone who know him better keep him save.
I want this guy in my life. Correction, I NEED someone like him in my life. Im a cynical, bitter person, just floating through life, doing very little of worth. Someone like that would maybe change that... only thing is... I dont know if I want to change that. I’ve become numb to life, and it kinda feels good... or at least not bad...
But a person like that would definitely have a positive impact on my life.
I know him personally, he’s actually my ex. He is a good guy we are still great friends
This really hit home. The courage these people have to talk about addiction has inspired me. I think I’ll reach out to a friend I feel is going through something similar to what I did. I was to scared before. Now I’m not
A lot of my close family members are alcoholics and watching people you love constantly drink it's so depressing and you cant help but wonder what they're drinking for. If it's to forget things, to numb things or to not think about things. Everytime I see them drink it makes me sad and telling them the harm in it is mute because nothing anyone says will get through to them. I'm proud of my siblings and I for not going down that path.
Everyone of these episodes i swear the person gets the card that relates to their life the most. I feel like it was meant to be. To help bring out the emotions and to talk about it. To heal .
We don't need gray sweater guy in our life. We need to be gray sweater guy in someone else's life
My uncle is one year sober. Watching this gave me hope for him. It is so comforting to know that other people have struggled just like he has. I wish more people could be open and honest about addiction.
The girl who felt it was ger fault her boyfriend past away made me cry alot. I have fortunatly not anyone who has in fact passed away but too many have been close enough and I know the feeling you havent done enough even though you knew their secret
These videos make me feel less alone/eases the pain because I know that everyone goes through something. Videos like these brings me comfort. Thank you 🙏🏾
A confession:
A friend of mine told me that they were molested by a priest when they were young and they cut the breaks on his car. His car crashed.
I don’t know what to do.
It’s so hard to process.
My friend killed someone.
Your friend is not you. You don't have to carry the burden of your friend's mistakes. The only thing you can do is pretend like you dont even know. That way, it's easier to forget. It's in the past, and you can't do anything now, so hive yourself peace of mind in the fact that nothing related to your friend is your fault, especially whether they go forward and confess or not.
priest had it coming. karma
Maybe talk to them about confessing to the police? It could bring peace to your lives to know that you did what was right.
Dude is your friend dexter
As a person that was molested, the priest deserved it.
They’re all so beautiful 😭💙 That on guy who kept comforting whoever cries is so kind!!
Hearing the encouragement of those who'd struggled with this stuff- even though it wasn't for me- made me want to keep going with my recovery.. I've been struggling a lot the past few days with wanting to relapse. But I'm proud to say that on the sixth, I'll be hitting four months sober. Good luck to everyone who's watching this video.. Whether you're struggling yourself or someone around you is, I believe in you. You can recover from whatever you're struggling with. Please reach out for help, as terrifying as that is. You've got this
the guy who was given hugs is soo sweet and this was amazing thank you and of course emotional
The support radiating from everyone was beautiful
Every time the guy with the grey sweater stood up and hugged someone I wanted to give him a hug Bc he was so sweet
I got teary eyes when I heard 'and I'm addicted to cutting myself.' because I've been addicted to the exact same thing
This is a beautiful example of the mixture of kindness, understanding and acceptance. Jusayin
Here's one BIG THING that would make these videos better: make them longer. These are deep topics, and the longer the speakers get to speak, the longer we get to hear each and everyone's opinion (such as with this video, not everyone spoke), the better, stronger, and impactful the message will be. Please take that into consideration.
i was sitting through watching the video thinking “i wonder if there’s gonna be anything about self-harm addiction”. There was. I’ve been bartling with being addicted to cutting myself for 3 years now, and I still can see an end to it. I never knew anybody else would feel the same way as I do. I’ve always felt so alone about this, but the made me see that I’m not alone and that it’s never too late to ask for help
I'm a cyber-addicted,that's bad because it affects my social life.What's worse is that I don't like to admitit in front of my mother,since what she says most of the times turns out to be truth
Tell her❤️ you won’t regret it in the long run
@@Mary-km7rr I first told one of my psycologists(sorry I'm terrible at english),and then she told my mum and together they made up a plan to be on a 4 day trip.I still remember how anxious I felt without being able to be on my computer or using the wifi,I don't really remember where we went because in my head I was like running towards the computer and my phone so I didn't payed attention to what was going around
Isn't everyone under 30 a cyber addict
Same for me. I feel like I’m nothing without the internet and I will always be nothing. The internet just fills the void in my life. I don’t really have any social life or friends that I really can see on a regular basis. So I need online friends.
Wow....this one cuts me so deep and as someone with depression,it's both sad and a relief to know that others are familar with some of the pain and issues we face.But I feel like my love for the solidarity amongst people who suffer overrules my sadness that they are familiar with such pain.Thank you for this upload,definitely 1 of my favourite Jubilees for how raw and emotional it is♡
I’m so blessed I’ve never seen true addiction in my own life
To all those who have I commend you for overcoming that it takes incredible strength.
Good on you & stay strong!
Hearing these types of situations really bum me out. I pray these people are able to beat their addiction and strive for a better life
2:45 my heart sank💔
To the guy with the grey sweater, comforting everybody and feeling everyone's pain! I wanna give you a hug
UA-cam videos with real purpose damn
The energy in that room Is so powerful although they were talking about something dark they were there for each other and that's something you could feel only by watching this video
I have an addiction to thinking..
Yeah i think that's a thing
LostX13 I’m addicted to air
LostX13 when you say thinking do you mean like getting caught up in fantasies that consume your being? Because that actually has a term called maladaptive dreaming.
if you're a philosopher or english major like me of course
@@jared1861 kind of 😶
@@tvbnine793 i actually write a lot
I like this format more than the individuals reading the secrets one at a time. It shows support for the stories they tell that can relate, which shows people support is possible and also available.
I've been waiting for this for ages.
I'm super glad I came across this. I've experienced anxiety and depression as far back as I can remember. My way of coping with life was playing soccer, I played at the highest level. I tore my ACL, meniscus and quadricep muscle in April 2008 resulting in reconstructive knee surgery. I started cutting myself the summer going into grade 9 (2008) at 14 years old (the summer I had surgery) which began an addiction to self harm and an introduction into pain medication. I struggled with self harm from July 2008 until January 1st 2013. I'm now over 6 years free of self harm. I drank every single day in the summer of 2009, but stopped once entering a relationship which turned abusive from 2009 until 2012. I started binge drinking and experimenting with drugs in the summer of 2012. I will be 1 year sober from all drugs and alcohol on March 30th. :) Shout outs to the man in the grey sweater for comforting and encouraging everyone, we need more people like him.
This type of video is why i subscribed
2:46 - There's a manifestation of plasma / orb (spirit, ghost, or angel) that comes around his neck, then it goes around his shoulders. This tells me that there's an spirit there looking after this guy, because he clearly feels this person's pain because he can relate.
This is why I want to become a psychologist so many people are trying to reach out for help. But it's hard i want to be able to help.
I can relate to the post about porn addiction. Mine started when I was 12 and I struggled for years, I lost my husband partially over it. It was hard and even he ended up using it against me and making me learn to has myself more because of it... and I'm a woman. It isn't just men who deal with it. I had to struggle alone... thankfully I'm in a better place mentally and don't fight so hard to hide it and get away from it. I can say I don't chase it anymore and I actually don't want to pursue it like I did. I can still view it but I don't complete the addiction cycle using it anymore and I'm so grateful for that change in mindset.. took me almost 10 years, suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, isolation and loneliness, and now I know I'm not bad. And I'm definitely not alone and unlovable.
I have a atleast 3 alcoholics in my family 2 that are extremely bad. Im 22 years old I didnt start drinking until I was 16 years old.. 1 year ago I suffered from pancreatitis because of my own drinking.. I could drink up to 1,5-2 litres of vodka in a day sometimes when i was only like 20-21 years old. when I was in hospital and the doctors told me that i was there because of my drinking i was in denial, because drinking was the only reason for me to live... so 3 months went by and i thought the doctors were lying to me so i started drinking again and now i start to feel really sick everytime i start to drink but i dont wanna stop drinking.. i do drugs aswell.. any kind of drug as long as it gets me high or drunk im all for it... and whenever im sober i just feel so lonely and empty.. i dont know what to do with myself, i attempted suicide twice and im trying to stay sober now.. I started working out and all that, im doing everything i can but whenever i do something good i feel like i do 2 bad things aswell... i also lost my drivers license for drunk driving when i went to a drug dealer.. i dont know why im writing all this but my life is a mess and i dont know what to do with it......i dont know if life will ever get better.. specially when i could die from my next beer... i dont know....
ZT20 stay strong💘
I know this might not mean much, but you'll get through this. Life is tough, but you're stronger. You're here for a reason.
I have no idea how you feel but know this, Jesus Christ loves you, he died for us so could have a relationship with him. The creator himself became man in flesh so he knows what you are going through. Just call on the name of Jesus and ask him to manifest himself in your life and he will set you free from darkness and do know you're not worthless, but you're special and have a purpose!!!
Stay strong
Don´t be too hard with yourself you are trying to be better. If you do something good, try not to focus on the things you have done bad. There is a mindset --- if at the moment of the past you were doing your best, you shouldn´t feel remorse about it (even if it is bad). You are just 22 years old, you´ll live happier and all this difficult moment will be part of the past , try to fight for yourself and look for some help. (I´m 25 years old ; I send you a big hug )
I love the guy in the grey sweater :((... what a sweetheart he truly is, and not afraid to show emotion like that and show that he cares even if he doesn't quite know the person.
*Watches this really deep video*
next video in my auto-play: “Pumped up kicks except it’s not pumped up kicks and I eat a shoebox”
This is one of my favorite series on UA-cam it just hits me with a reality check every time I watch one. It wont stop me feeling this way, all hurt inside, but it makes me feel as if overcoming it all is actually possible. Thank you.
Everyone needs someone in their life like the guy in the grey sweatshirt
Love that self-harm is included in this, it’s an addiction I’ve struggled with for half my life
12yrs old taking lsd gave me chills😓😓😓🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤