Key advice when looking for spouse in islam (getting married) I2019I Omar Suleiman

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  • @Ashnesss
    @Ashnesss 7 років тому +181

    I think arranged marriage is best especially if the guy is well brought up and from a good family. All my proposals have been from guys who are mature, intelligent and well settled. I think guys my own age act like clowns. And after my marriage proposals, I feel like anything outside of arranged marriage is a downgrade. I've chosen arranged marriage from amongst my proposals. It's definitely a two way street. I think it's important that the guy is older and mature. I think young guys are very immature and don't know the responsibility required of a husband

    • @MuslimaaDK
      @MuslimaaDK 7 років тому +11

      Aisha and there's so much barakah in having the family in it

    • @Ashnesss
      @Ashnesss 7 років тому +20

      ILiterallyHasNoLife:i yes of course! If it's with a person who's mature, has similar values and is well brought up, and you're both compatible, then it's great.
      Most guys in the subcontinent aren't raised to be men.

    • @MuslimaaDK
      @MuslimaaDK 7 років тому

      Aisha haha xD where is that? I'm from EU though.

    • @Ashnesss
      @Ashnesss 7 років тому +9

      ILiterallyHasNoLife:i Pakistan. The guys here have no exposure. Their standards are low and their behaviour is cheap.
      Social media is their only link to the world. They copy what they see cause they don't know anything themselves.
      And they think they're capable of dealing with girls who have travelled and have more exposure.
      You can tell guys here to f*ck off but they don't get the hint!
      I've had a guy stalk me for 2 yrs. He has told people his intentions are serious. He contacted me from fake profiles. He tries to make me jealous for attention. He poked his nose in my friends. He thinks he's mature but he's a clown.
      I've had marriage proposals and I know who I wanna marry.

    • @MuslimaaDK
      @MuslimaaDK 7 років тому +3

      Aisha may Allah make it easy for you sis and all of us Allahumma Ameen 🌸☹️😊 at least you know what YOU want Alhamdulillah

  • @prettycaramel9237
    @prettycaramel9237 5 років тому +195

    I recently decided to submit to Islam. I pray Allah presents me to the man whom I'm most suitable for. I don't know everything but I strive to. I sincerely desire to be the best Muslim woman, wife, and mother some day. I pray to be pleasing to Allah and my husband.

    • @ArdoBlueMoon
      @ArdoBlueMoon 5 років тому +7

      Alhamdulillah, may Allah accept your good deeds and forgive your sins, and make this journey to the hereafter and beyond happy and pleasant for you. May He give you what you need. Welcome to the Din, sister. :)

    • @prettycaramel9237
      @prettycaramel9237 5 років тому +1

      @@ArdoBlueMoon ASA. Thank you beloved. May ALLAH/GOD be pleased with me.

    • @syedabdolgadirbinhusainalt562
      @syedabdolgadirbinhusainalt562 3 роки тому +2

      InshaAllah

    • @arwaaomran9093
      @arwaaomran9093 2 роки тому +2

      @pretty Caramel sister i'm here if you need any help or to befriend a muslim sister, 💓 Alhamdulillah that Allah guided you im so happy for you💕💕💓

    • @hasanihaydar7474
      @hasanihaydar7474 Рік тому +2

      Ma sha Allah

  • @ifraahaxmed381
    @ifraahaxmed381 2 роки тому +55

    I felt it when he said “ some people become jerks when they try to become more religious becoming more judgemental, and literally everyone is wrong but them”

    • @SYEDSHAZEB46013
      @SYEDSHAZEB46013 6 місяців тому

      are you married now or still looking?

  • @rehmanarshad7282
    @rehmanarshad7282 6 років тому +114

    The point he made about being in relationships over and over again is so true, you are never the same, don't let yourself get emotionally attached until you are married

    • @ArdoBlueMoon
      @ArdoBlueMoon 5 років тому +10

      And don't have a casual relationship either, it risks someone getting emotionally attached and then hurt. The thrill will hook you in like a drug.

  • @Eccentric312
    @Eccentric312 6 років тому +110

    "You look for that person that wants to grow in the deen. And if the priority is deen. If the priority is akirah..."
    -Allah describes the spouses as a garment.
    -When you go to a store and you see a shirt, you don't say that this shirt has potential. I can cut it up and make it look good.
    -Character (khuluq) is important. Don't go for the people who are strict and think everyone else is wrong. Rather look for the one who has good character and regard for the deen and is willing to grow.
    -Make your intentions for marriage as sincere as possible.

    • @Ohmyitsmal
      @Ohmyitsmal 2 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing these points 🤍

  • @igloobundle4981
    @igloobundle4981 2 роки тому +17

    Ameen may we all be married to righteous spouse.

  • @poachedeggbagelz
    @poachedeggbagelz 7 років тому +40

    12:45 is on point. Don't be a jerk on your path to becoming more pious

  • @alibeatz2170
    @alibeatz2170 8 років тому +121

    The prophet said in a hadith "live this life like a traveler or a wayfarer" meaning live this life for what the time is worth 60-70 years of life.
    So marry a wife who can support you within that time for the hereafter not the dunya.
    Beauty, money and lineage if for dunya enjoyment. Religion and Good character is for the eternity in Jannah inshallah.

    • @Traveldudess
      @Traveldudess 8 років тому

      Jakir Ali

    • @toniva6700
      @toniva6700 6 років тому +1

      So just get married and don't enjoy marriage whats the point

    • @university2775
      @university2775 6 років тому +1

      Wish every man understood and accepted this and acted accordingly.

    • @khadijaaithmid5536
      @khadijaaithmid5536 Рік тому

      Assalam aikom , well said Allahoma barik !!

  • @qoriahsiti8576
    @qoriahsiti8576 5 років тому +133

    I hope I can get married this year 🙏

  • @TheTruth-fully
    @TheTruth-fully 9 років тому +83

    The last part of this lecture scars me. May Allah never make us among those people. May Allah make our religion a mean to prefect our manners. Amen!

    • @mfmf1278
      @mfmf1278 5 років тому

      Faizah al-Katheri Ameen

    • @Novause
      @Novause 5 років тому

      It's Ameen
      Ameen

    • @sanji546
      @sanji546 5 років тому

      Please chnage your profile picture

    • @makeupisallaboutyou
      @makeupisallaboutyou 5 років тому +1

      @@sanji546 why should she?

  • @johunter4733
    @johunter4733 6 років тому +67

    Very badly edited. Messes up a beautiful message.

  • @adminimini8278
    @adminimini8278 3 роки тому +11

    May Allah make easy for me to find a pious husband. I also pray for you who are searching her/him aamiin

  • @zuhairzafar1649
    @zuhairzafar1649 4 роки тому +18

    May Allah bless all of us with spouses with whom we will be happy with INSHALLAH

    • @nastehaalielmi7166
      @nastehaalielmi7166 4 роки тому

      Assalamu aleikum,how are you doing and how old are you?

    • @zuhairzafar1649
      @zuhairzafar1649 4 роки тому

      @@nastehaalielmi7166 Walaikum Assalam sister. Alhamdulillah I'm doing well. How are you doing? And why are you asking my age? Just being curious. Anyways, take care and stay blessed.

  • @MUHAMMEDWAIGA
    @MUHAMMEDWAIGA 6 років тому +12

    Masha Allah!!!! May Allah grant you goodness in this world as well in the hereafter Ameeen...your family and our families and the 《《Ummah》》 at large Ameeen...And May He grant us 《《Janatul Firdous》》 Ameen...

    • @SHORTIMAANBOOSTERS
      @SHORTIMAANBOOSTERS  5 років тому

      Barak Allah feek. Check out my new video What Jannah is like ua-cam.com/video/YpAio2VeX-E/v-deo.html. Where we will be with our spouse iA

    • @mfmf1278
      @mfmf1278 5 років тому

      Ameen

  • @supplegrey3613
    @supplegrey3613 3 роки тому +13

    I want to married this year, I hope Allah send him soon.

    • @zohrant7399
      @zohrant7399 2 роки тому +1

      1. Pray Tajahud and make consistent dua.
      2. Think am I , myself , ready for marriage? Would I want to marry myself?

  • @RubinaMerchant
    @RubinaMerchant 5 років тому +16

    Spot on. Marry for deen and character. But where are they? Men over 50 seem to have lost both.

    • @sweetpeace6877
      @sweetpeace6877 4 роки тому +1

      They exist, I think they've just lived long enough to be incredibly social. So Deen doesn't show up in the stereotypical manner.

  • @wasimcharity4all
    @wasimcharity4all 3 роки тому +4

    Epic lecture by Shaykh Dr Omar.S

    • @a.haseebmalik6974
      @a.haseebmalik6974 Рік тому

      Do you have the name of the lecture or link to the complete lecture by any chance ?

  • @aspengrey1898
    @aspengrey1898 2 роки тому +9

    Looking for a spouse is like looking for a needle in haystack. It's overwhelming

  • @teresavale2517
    @teresavale2517 3 роки тому +4

    Unfortunately We don’t Pick our Spouses!!! Our Hearts Pick them before Our brains have a chance to Process!!! I knew my 😍before he even Spoke!!!

  • @YeOldVisigoth
    @YeOldVisigoth 9 років тому +15

    where's the entire lecture??

  • @floorgang1483
    @floorgang1483 3 роки тому +1

    12:05 the most exact part of the video

  • @itech40
    @itech40 2 роки тому +3

    Salem, I,d like the original video (full version of his talk) link please if possible, it would be appreciated!
    Shukran

  • @aprilapril4891
    @aprilapril4891 5 років тому +17

    Maybe my FUTURE HUSBAND lost somewhere 🤭 I'll wait for him to come in my real life

    • @mo_checks7
      @mo_checks7 4 роки тому +1

      April April inshallah 🤷‍♂️

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 Місяць тому

      I hope you found him.
      and i hope to find my future husband soon too, in sha Allah.

  • @irajkasimi4272
    @irajkasimi4272 4 роки тому +8

    Keeps being cut right when he makes a good point smh

  • @amatullahamatullah9411
    @amatullahamatullah9411 8 років тому +13

    Jazakum Allahu khairan for sharing and may Allah bless our Sheikh
    One question if anyone has an idea:
    but how will every one marry better in deen , one of them wud b less ?
    supose a man wants to marry better then him , then for his wife hes lower then her..?

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo 6 років тому +3

      Amatullah Amatullah
      Don’t over analyse too much, only Allah knows what’s in our hearts.
      just find a pious spouse or help someone who isn’t to be the best muslimah they can be.

  • @sweetsoul6147
    @sweetsoul6147 Рік тому +1

    I will be turning 35 in couple of years and then 40 ultimately. Listening to this I am forced to believe that marriage is not for me. Impossible

    • @mohamedunisakamara5988
      @mohamedunisakamara5988 10 місяців тому

      😮😮😮😮

    • @sweetsoul6147
      @sweetsoul6147 10 місяців тому

      @@mohamedunisakamara5988 what? ? Marriage is not end of world for God's sake. Keep your pitty mind away.

  • @syedabdolgadirbinhusainalt562
    @syedabdolgadirbinhusainalt562 3 роки тому +3

    Im 61 yemeni born in Singapore seeking wife about same age ☺

  • @atwar12345
    @atwar12345 5 років тому +11

    What happens when that shirt wants you because you are better than her at Deen ? Then how do you consider ?

    • @dianaelhaj3409
      @dianaelhaj3409 5 років тому +2

      Atwar Hussain yesssss exactly

    • @user1-user-0421
      @user1-user-0421 Рік тому

      You’ve to save yourself from drowning before you can save others from drowning!

  • @ZoyaKhan-nl4fl
    @ZoyaKhan-nl4fl Рік тому +1

    But where I’m from, status is also correlated with the reasonableness of in-laws. THAT’s why my family is looking for someone with status for me

  • @safiyyahzaman2334
    @safiyyahzaman2334 4 роки тому +5

    Is the full lecture available?
    It will be helpful if someone could share the link
    Jazakallah khair

    • @fathy_ar
      @fathy_ar 4 роки тому +5

      Here's the link: ua-cam.com/video/tbHTTRVIaHQ/v-deo.html

    • @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD
      @Dr.JudeAEMasonMD 2 роки тому

      @@fathy_ar Jazakallah khair for sharing

  • @thomasbuxton2648
    @thomasbuxton2648 5 років тому +5

    Many sisters would say I want a man who loves Allah and down to earth pious etc but when it comes to the crunch and someone not very attractive shows up with those qualities, I doubt those same sisters would be willing. Even if they did, it would be half hearted, and I don’t want to marry a girl who feels she is compromising by marrying me.

    • @asmauzurmi7547
      @asmauzurmi7547 3 роки тому +12

      Bet you wouldn't marry someone you aren't attracted to either. I certainly wouldn't recommend that.

  • @zohrant7399
    @zohrant7399 3 роки тому +4

    Where can we find the entire lecture?

  • @IramShabir-ur2rj
    @IramShabir-ur2rj 5 років тому +2

    SubhanAllah

  • @samahamara8543
    @samahamara8543 4 роки тому +2

    I'm looking for the right man for me but I just don't know where to look.

  • @moves2008
    @moves2008 9 років тому +5

    There is no audio?

  • @zk3128
    @zk3128 5 років тому +9

    If u get a good proposal from muslim man who is strict follower of sunnah,sunnah shining on his face,body,dress and attends 5 times namaz,kind,silent and if u rejected him becoz of low income allah will curse u...money stays today may not stay tomorrow..but first priority is for deen and sunnah.
    By vastad sheik omar sulemaan

    • @SHORTIMAANBOOSTERS
      @SHORTIMAANBOOSTERS  5 років тому

      Barak Allah feek

    • @samahamara8543
      @samahamara8543 4 роки тому +4

      No, a person can still not be attracted to that very Muslim man and u can never really know how religious a person is

  • @faraqkul
    @faraqkul 5 років тому +7

    Its very difficult finding a muslim girl to marry ...

  • @questioneverything7011
    @questioneverything7011 3 роки тому +4

    I’m having a hard time understanding how to go about getting to know someone and deciding if this person is the one I should marry if we can not also connect emotionally .. or “alone “ … like wouldn’t it be weird for me to be on a date with someone and we got people watching us? How can we be ourselves … help me understand. This seems way to complicated. I want to go about this the most righteous way but also realistic ..

  • @romanasalip1518
    @romanasalip1518 9 років тому +58

    But now very deficult to find a good muslim man.

    • @geiseric5551
      @geiseric5551 7 років тому +21

      Romana Salip oh, why u said so?
      there are a lot of guys very good Muslim. they willing to have good Muslim wives but the problem they hid them selves cz they don't know how interact with girls.😕

    • @amaliathatgirl9248
      @amaliathatgirl9248 7 років тому +8

      abdulrahman الداخل I thought the same because I'm 26 now but Allah blessed me with the best man, we are on the right track to get married next year inshallah, Allah knows best, pray and he will answer your prayers inshallah

    • @amaliathatgirl9248
      @amaliathatgirl9248 7 років тому +1

      man nna, jazakallah

    • @klel4334
      @klel4334 7 років тому +9

      You mean its hard to find a rich, tall, successful, popular, handsome man who's willing to marry me when i'm ready (30+).

    • @imaaniddir5177
      @imaaniddir5177 7 років тому +14

      To be honest it's hard to find a man who just lowers his gaze.

  • @minimini7480
    @minimini7480 7 років тому +3

    assalamu alleikum i am lookig for a good muslim afghan pashtu guy living in uk who wants to marry. i am a shy 22 years old girl.
    there were 4 proposals but all of them were not islamic enough for me. praying 5 times and love for islam

    • @hamerbutucan1779
      @hamerbutucan1779 6 років тому

      mini mini

    • @humishah8464
      @humishah8464 6 років тому

      toni va r u a model looking guy urself??

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo 6 років тому +1

      toni va
      Very Immature comment,
      Allah is the provider, you could loose your millions then end up jobless with 10kids. Your brother has aged for reasons only he and Allah knows best.
      Some ppl are happily married and don’t have much in their bank account

    • @toniva6700
      @toniva6700 6 років тому

      @@Zazezoo You said it right. Some people are happy. Point made. Its a lot better to not be married. Lets say i do take your advice get married and end up like the 98% who wish they never did get married

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo 6 років тому +1

      toni va
      Where did you get your statistics from? 98%
      If you wish to remain single that’s upto you, some of us are hopeful when the right person comes we’ll have a happy marriage. You have to work on your marriage and find the right person. Ths days ppl are so shallow and only obsessed with physical appearance and wealth, if only they focused on the heart. Be positive and pray for the best, negativity will only result in negative results.

  • @itsmuna8155
    @itsmuna8155 5 років тому +1

    Can you link the full video

  • @banished4eva
    @banished4eva 3 роки тому +1

    I wanted to hear the story at the end 😐

  • @feistymind4915
    @feistymind4915 2 місяці тому

    No sound ?

  • @kyla62
    @kyla62 3 роки тому

    12:45

  • @cati101
    @cati101 9 років тому +2

    👍

  • @nastehaalielmi7166
    @nastehaalielmi7166 4 роки тому +1

    oooops should a 16 year old be here? i think i lost my way intentionally,advice to all the couples,your connections should be stronger than your wifi connection,hahaha,no need to say thanks ,am good to go

  • @mohammedalam437
    @mohammedalam437 2 роки тому

    In Queue......

  • @keepitreelcatfishing5883
    @keepitreelcatfishing5883 11 місяців тому +1

    This was simpy lecture. Why are these “compassionate “ imams afraid of stating what Allah and his messenger stated: Men are in charge and in leadership of women

  • @CruzieX
    @CruzieX 7 років тому +1

    Today most most women are exposed and very hard to find a good spouse :(

  • @aaliyaharunkhan2957
    @aaliyaharunkhan2957 7 років тому

    no audio.

  • @romanasalip1518
    @romanasalip1518 9 років тому +16

    But now very deficult to find a good muslim man.

    • @MrESuliman
      @MrESuliman 9 років тому +4

      +Romana Salip True, and same goes to a muslim women

    • @romanasalip1518
      @romanasalip1518 9 років тому +1

      women no problems. But what is important is man . Co's he is the head of pamilies

    • @romanasalip1518
      @romanasalip1518 9 років тому

      women no problems. But what is important is man . Co's he is the head of pamilies

    • @romanasalip1518
      @romanasalip1518 9 років тому

      women no problems. But what is important is man . Co's he is the head of pamilies

    • @MrESuliman
      @MrESuliman 9 років тому +6

      yes it is a problem she must be a good muslima , and im not saying one of them (woman) should be the good between the two! OH! no im saying both!
      and its hard to find a good-Mu'mn woman or a man in this age.
      It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say, “Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The man is the shepherd of his family and he is responsible for his flock. The woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock. The servant is a shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock.” He said, I heard this from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
      (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 853; Muslim, 1829)
      الحمد لله علي كل شئ