Volunteering at church in the children's program is excellent advice. If you want to be a mom, working with kids in all age groups is a great way to expose yourself to what taking care of a kid can look like. The concept of kids and kids in reality are vastly different. Volunteering can help you understand kids better. 😄
Why not become a substitute teacher or help out with your nieces and nephews day, or even babysit for a day? A couple of hours at church isn’t going to expose you nearly enough. When you have kids if your own, you can’t just quit after two hours. I mean a lot of parents do. That’s why teachers are so stressed out. But that isn’t good advice then.
Why do churches have playgrounds and areas for the kids to sit while the church meeting is being held? I am JW and the kids listen and sit with the adults to the same talks and they’re so smart and well spoken when it comes to the Bible.
I am a highschool girl and i don't get much support from the people around me on my plan to becoming a tradwive! Thank you so much for making videos like this ❤
same, this video is everything I wanted her to post since i started watching her. I think I want to live a traditional lifestyle but I also feel like it’s important to have a plan for in between graduation and when you find a husband
I had a controlling, overbearing mother and I needed to stretch my wings and leave for college!!! I needed it for my soul. A Christian college is where I found Jesus. I used my degree as a teacher to teach for 2 years and then I found my husband. Teaching gave me experience with kids. I found my husband at the perfect time, now I’m a SAHM and homeschool the oldest, who is in kindergarten.
@@user-tg2gs2no7j Definitely. I'm already almost finished with an associates degree so I should graduate high school and have my degree at the same time
Dear girl unless you are planning to earn by tik tok dont be a trad wife,our grandmother who were trad wives educated our mothers because of a reason,dont forget that😊
I'm so happy you're normalizing this lifestyle! Being traditional is so unheard of these days that I barely tell anyone that I want to be a tradwife. I look up to you so much and aspire to be like you
How can she normalize and otherwise lifestyle that had always been normal except for a few distractions it began in the 1960s. There aren't any statistical numbers but I would suggest that maybe we're even with the number of women who want to be feminist and don't want to work to those women who are happily married and happily at home taking care of the house.
Christian homemaking is not a "lifestyle"; it is a calling. Please don't aspire to be like her; aspire to be like Jesus. Or, his mother, Mary. I encourage you to delve into Mother Teresa's letters, as well as the nonfiction books of Elisabeth Elliott and Kathleen Norris--and there are many more women who deserve to take up rent in your brain. Women of God deserve better.
Thank you for your support! I definitely didn’t normalize it haha can’t take the credit for that. The women who show and talk about this lifestyle are some of the best women I’ve met! 🙏
@@dps6198it’s actually the opposite. Women always worked unless they were wealthy. The concept of the housewife only began in the 50s… so technically it’s not traditional, as the 50s are too modern in a historical sense. A real traditional woman would be milking cows, going out to sell baked goods, working in a factory to help her family, etc. Learn history instead of being bias and emotional🤡
I wanted to be a traditional wife but went to college and got a degree and I’m SO glad I did. Still haven’t met a guy I want to marry but I can support myself because I had a plan b. All women need to be able to support themself if they don’t get married or if their marriage ends from death, divorce, etc.
Awesome! I'm 23 as well. I took community college, which was ok. But I didn't really figure out what I really wanted to do in life. Because I picked some classes that didn't really help me grow (I wish I could have picked better classes), and I'm still at this age trying to figure out what to do in life and where to find a guy with the same values as mine. But being a housewife doesn't sound bad!
If I had a supporting family I think I would have commuted to an ART school. Found a husband and started a family... probably still no career just hobbies.... I went to university and majored in Math because of the pressures of family and an unsafe home environment. I experienced so much trauma at school that only ended because in between the trauma I had fallen in love with a high school friend who bought a car, picked me up and took me away before i finished. We are happy now with our children and me a housewife... but I wish the journey for me wasn't so rough
To all the high school girls - you absolutely don't have to go to college right out of high school or even at all. However, I would definitely get some job experience at least. Have things to put on a resume. Life is not going to be cookie cutter perfect like you see on the internet. Divorce, death, injuries.. they all happen. Do not think you're immune to the unexpected. Be a stay at home wife/mom absolutely if you want to, but please please don't set yourself up for being blindsided and with zero options to support yourself in unexpected circumstances. I say this with love ❤ I have seen way too many people fall so hard thinking it won't happen to them. Estee I do think you're beautiful and well intentioned though.
I agree with this. I have a friend with three little children whose husband died unexpectedly. She is cleaning houses to try to make ends meet and it’s a nightmare. While we’re in high school we can start working, jobs with kids are great, and volunteering at church. Don’t be a stay at home girlfriend. Get out there and DO something! I met my husband while doing work for the Lord. If you want to meet the right guy then get involved in the right things! Sometimes (like in my case) this is a conservative Christian university.
Bad advice!!!!! Young girls DO NOT do this, go to college get a marketable degree and work a few years before you get married. Trust the older women. Estee is drop out and I PROMISE you she has no idea what she is talking about. Go look at the 40 year old women warning against this! DO NOT DO THIS!!!
Do you think people are expecting to get divorced on their marriage day? People get sick, injured, addictions. A good stay at home wife and mother has a back up plan to support the family if needed. Why are you so intimidated by educated women with careers?
This advice is good for the short term, which matches the current life Estee is leading right now as a mid 20 childless wife, but I don't hear any advice aimed at the long term financial security of women (and their families). My parents were very religious and traditional and practiced traditional roles in their marriage, but....due to their own life experiences they were also realistic about the future. They both grew up in poor families without a father to financially provide for the family, one due to the father leaving and one due to the father dying. They saw how much their mothers had to struggle to make ends meet and feed the children, so when my parents immigrated to a western country, they saw the opportunities their children could have, the boys and the girls. So what they did with me was encourage me to do well in school, go to university and build up a career. They also encouraged me to get married and have kids when ready, because to them that is simply a fact of life, but due to their own experiences they also wanted me to have the skillset needed to provide for myself and my family if need be. Encouraging schooling and building up a career was never about not being traditional for my parents, because trust me, they were very traditional. For them it was about loving me enough to want to prepare me for life in the long run. Life can always throw curfballs and it is your duty to at the very least be able to provide for your children as a mother. Studies have shown that women tend to be the most vulnerable financially, so be smart about your future in the long term. I will say that university in the US does seem like a scam, considering the going rates. Degrees are supposed to help in building up something that takes you out of poverty and/or keeps you out of it, but the types of debt young adults are being put in to have a certain name on their degrees is ridiculous.
I was similarly pushed to get higher education in order to fend for myself would I someday need to, but that was never presented in opposition to getting married and having children. I am due to graduate with a master in science in 2025 and will be likely getting married the same year, my partner and I want me to be the homemaker and I am soooo looking forward to it! So no education and a more traditional life path are not mutually exclusive.
The problem with college is the debt and that most degrees are pointless. Certain jobs need the education but many people end up with a useless degree and a dead end job. The advice is supposed to be short term anyway as it’s for high school girls.
Agreed. University is a scam here. Better off to go to community College, start in a field, and go to college when your employer will pay for it unless you are going into a very specialized field. Learned that the hard way.
@@sarahsf6940 Exactly, you can still choose to be a homemaker, but at least you'll have some financial security put in place if you need it in the future. It boggles the mind that some people can act like they know their future and don't need any back up plan, but you know what: it's their life. Just don't go around trying to convince others to do the same, especially with how some of these tradwife influencers present themselves. I know quite a few SAHM and they're some of the hardest working people I know. They certainly don't have time for professional level hair, make-up and styling, while making literally everything from scratch. They've got kids and everything else to take care of! I have a masters in health, have finished a post-master program and will enter a specialization program soon. Specialists are very hard to come by in my line of work, so that will be a solid back up plan. I will have free range in how many or little hours I work and employers tend to bend to your needs because they need you and are desperate. That way if I should ever need it, I'm assured of a placement and a good income until retirement. No way I'm risking the pipeline to poverty. I grew up poor and not going back to that if I can help it.
@@ab-gail High school girls however grow up and back up plans need preparation. If you just wait it out you better pray you are one of the lucky ones and life works out the way you wanted, because if it doesn't then you will need to start at the very bottom. That pipeline to poverty is very real, but you do need a degree in something useful to get a foot in the door in even the most basic jobs. Otherwise you can get stuck in something that maybe doesn't need a degree, but pays that way as well. You do need some experience as well though, otherwise a lot of jobs nowadays still don't pay that well, even with the requirement of a degree.
"If you want to be a traditional wife in the future, you don't need to go to college." If Estee had the wonderful privilege of attending a four-year college (or even flourished moderately at a community college), perhaps she'd understand something that Christian missionary and theology-based writer Elisabeth Elliot emphasized strongly in her books. I recommend any woman here read Elliot's letters to her daughter, "Let Me Be a Woman." Elliot was a firm believer in a college-level liberal arts education, which is beneficial to any woman who may choose the role of mother or wife upon graduation--especially if they decide to homeschool. Elliot's missionary husband, Tim, was murdered in Ecuador, and she raised her infant daughter on her own--and quite successfully, as Elliot was an educated Christian woman who knew her college degree and experience held merit, tenaciousness, and worth. Estee remarks, "You kind-of still get to be like a kid, and to feel like a kid. You're dependent on your family and you're still safe at home, and you're able to take that next step into the 'big world' which is getting a [part-time, minimum wage] job and just having that experience, and being able to spend money. You learn how to spend money a little bit more wisely, and learn how to save up for things rather than just asking your mom or dad to get things." An eighteen-year-old "kid"? Huh. My spidey sense is tingling amidst so many red flags and such poor advice for young women. I ask all of you watching this charade (and reading this comment) to closely read the works of educated Christian writers. Kathleen Norris ("Acedia and Me" and "The Cloister Walk") is another woman to admire. What if your husband died? What if he leaves you? What if your family isn't able to support you? The Proverbs 31 woman is educated, business-savvy, quite independent, and wise. "You will know them by their fruits."
There s absolutely not even one sole word in the Bible that could be interpreted to condemn women s access to any form of education,wether is tecnicatures or university degrees. We re suppose to first prioritize being useful for the kingdom of God...we are christians not talibans,right?. And what cringe me the most is the zero mention that we should be equally yoked in ALL way,not just faith but specially women and men should both be preserving for marriage.
Agreed! And to add to that…what if you don’t ever get to marry, or don’t meet ‘the one,’ until you are in your 40’s…your parents are not going to want you staying home bludging off them, and not earning money at that age, you need to look after yourself 😉
There are other ways of getting an education that are not college, especially these days. Why would someone get in debt to study arts, for example, when you have books and UA-cam for free?
I love that you are promoting to first go to community college and work part-time as that will allows a future trad wife to get her AA and not get into high amount of debt by attending a higher level university.
I really do advocate for community college if that’s something a young woman wants to pursue! I even enrolled in a program and got paid $1200 every semester because of my grades and didn’t have to pay a single dime to school. There are plenty of options!
If your friends don't come around. It is time to get new friends who are traditional housewives. Keep in mind many women attend college after their kids are old enough to fend for themselves like when they hit their mid teens It's not uncommon for women to enroll in day courses and when the kids are grown and gone or grown up enough for a woman to continue her education I went back to college when I was 47 years old not a big deal. I graduated three and a half years later with a business degree and I'm very happy I went back.
True. Life has different seasons. I knew people who went back when the kids hit elementary school. I also know people who worked and saved up in their 20s, had kids in their 30s, and hopped back into the workforce in their 40s. I also know women who decided to become entrepreneurs after becoming SAHMs. Life has different seasons.
I just want to add… Use some of your time to pursue your own interests and find a way to effectively monetize it over time or to stay connected with that field; that way you will have a plan B in case something happens to your husband or one of your children that requires you to bring in income.
Great advice on so many levels! I also believe that you don't need to wait until you're 18 or graduated from high school. My kids began doing these things as younger teens.(13-15) Concurrent high school/ community college classes can give credit for both and help slowly get used to the demands of college. Volunteering or apprenticeships as well. I homeschooled which gave our kids more flexibility for this, but there are ways to do this even if you're in school.
As an older woman, I would recommend going to college whether it be for medicine, teaching, childcare, culinary arts ..... Get an education! Why? Because 50% of marriages do end in divorce - even trad wives. Have the back up! You may need to support yourself and your children in the future. You can finish a degree by 21. That's a great age to think about marriage and have a child. Be aware that most men with degrees become husbands to women with degrees ..... But don't disregard the guy who is hard working and has completed an apprenticeship in a trade ..... They also can be great supportive husbands. Also, go talk to Grandmas ..... Some of the older ladies lived the real trad wife or had a mother who did. It is good to know the reality as opposed to the make believe version pushed by Hollywood which has gone on to be the basis of the modern social media idea of the trad wife.I If you want to be a trade wife then remember, it is basically your career. So you will need to learn to cook, clean, sew etc etc on a daily basis as that, along with child rearing, will be your contribution to a successful marriage.
I went to medical school. It’s one of 3 careers that I think need college (the other two being Law and Engineering). The rest all can be learned on your own or a trade school (or on the job). College is a huge debt trap. Tons of people are getting an education entirely through UA-cam. College is not the end all of education.
I know you asked why are girls getting apartments together at 18 years old. Three reasons. 1. They don’t have great family dynamics/ can’t stand their family. 2. They moved into that state to go to school. 3. They want to learn independent skills or move their boyfriend and add him on their lease. Those a common reasons I had friends move into apartments.
Thank you for that. I agree, those definitely seem like the top reasons for young adults getting apartments together. I remember wanting to do that so so bad when I was 19 hahaha and having $200 to my name lol
In my experience, I recommend going to college, getting that degree, and having it at hand. Either work a year or two, or stop there. It is always good to have it on hand because you never know what life may throw at you. I am Catholic and I wanted to become a religious sister in life. They asked me to finish college first. I did. I went back to them and lasted about a year, came back home. My parents retired and I was glad I had that degree to survive off of. Now I am recently (3 months) happily married, and I can’t wait to begin that stay at home life in the near future.
I am a married female and have a stem degree in engineering, I make tons of money 150K last year and work about 30 hours a week from home!! Besides working from home I get to travel all over the world for projects etc. I met my husband in engineering classes lots of great guys to chose from. And with the dual income my husband and I can retire much earlier. Engineering is amazing I highly recommend i! I can always quit now if I wanted to be trad wife so it’s the best of both worlds! Estee is very young and naive her advice is wrong don’t listen to it!
My biggest dream since I was a toddler was to be a momma and wife. It’s still something I want to be so bad. Estee, your videos are SO encouraging to girls like me, and they’re so helpful to those of us who don’t have a lot of support or guidance when it comes to sharing our love for femininity and traditional gender roles. You’re amazing and for that reason one of my biggest role models 🤍!
I went to college and took early childhood education. It gave me great lifelong lessons to raise my 9 children. I understood their developmental stages and their learning needs. It has served me well and I don’t feel I “wasted” my education at all. But I do recognize no one needs to have that information to parent well but if you want to go to school, picking something that will help you parent too is a win win.
THANK YOU FOR THE COMMUNITY COLLEGE REPRESENTATION AND ENDORSEMENT! I would love to be a tradwife/have tradwife characteristics, and I'm in college pursuing both my bachelors and masters degrees. For my masters, I just created a PR plan for my local community college that I attended. It was amazing to see the things people said in the research I conducted, whether they're teachers whose opinions have changed on community college from when they were in high school or graduates from the commcollege who are talking about their amazing experiences they had. I 100% recommend community college to anyone who is even remotely thinking about post-secondary education! I'm thinking about going back to my community college to take cooking classes! They're just such accessible places of LEARNING!
I’m 17, about to graduate high school and my dream is to have a happy family someday with a man I love who shares my faith. I do have some career-ish aspirations, like I want to study music ed and become a music teacher but my parents are immigrants and stress the importance of having a lucrative career in a stem field so I put “psychology” on a lot of college applications (which i like and I still want to study, but that’s not what I want to do). I have lots of other passions, like I’m writing a fantasy novel rn hoping to get it published while I’m in college, I’m an artist and I bake, and I want to do some side gigs related to my passions. But ultimately my career is not the most important thing to me. Having a family is the most important thing, and I want to be an amazing wife and mother someday, ig as a way to redeem the childhood and avenge my inner child who was stripped of a healthy, functional family. But it’s so looked down upon and my family wouldn’t support it immediately, plus it’s scary bcs it’s so hard to find the right man and Indian culture is very traditional but… in a very very toxic way not at all like the trad movement here in the west. Thank you so much, it’s bcs of traditional women like you who run so we can walk ❤
I am a married female and have a stem degree in engineering, I make tons of money 150K last year and work about 30 hours a week from home!! Besides working from home I get to travel all over the world for projects etc. I met my husband in engineering classes lots of great guys to chose from. And with the dual income my husband and I can retire much earlier. Engineering is amazing I highly recommend i! I can always quit now if I wanted to be trad wife so it’s the best of both worlds!
Thanks for this video I am in 8 th grade and when people ask me what I want to be and I say a stay home wife that’s trad they just laugh at me and say what if he leaves you or beats you.
You make a plan B. Because not only leaving you or beating you can happen; people get ill and die, too. Learn a skill that can sustain you in such case. You can also build a career slowly while married, like the trad wife UA-camrs, that’s their career.
I am a married female and have a stem degree in engineering, I make tons of money 150K last year and work about 30 hours a week from home!! Besides working from home I get to travel all over the world for projects etc. I met my husband in engineering classes lots of great guys to chose from. And with the dual income my husband and I can retire much earlier. Engineering is amazing I highly recommend i! I can always quit now if I wanted to be trad wife so it’s the best of both worlds!
This video isn’t really targeted to me (I’m 25), but this is great advice! I went to community college and did end up getting my undergrad and took a gap year. I saved so much money and felt safe with my family ❤. Not a trad wife yet, but I hope it happens!
advice #1: don't listen to young delusional girls who think it's not a big deal to be financially dependent on someone else. instead, listen to 40 years old women who used to be tradwives, and then decide whether it's such a great decision.
This is amazing. Advice I wish I had at that stage in my life. I watched this video simply because I love your vibe as well as being curious what your advice for young girls would be, and I am very pleased. This is wonderful advice and very encouraging. Thank you so much for content like this, you are a Godsend ❤ I would like to add though that many girls do not have supportive families or a healthy home life, and this is partially the reason so many are desperate to move out of the home - or are even forced to. Many younger parents of the previous generation have this ideal of kicking children out of the home the moment they turn 18 or else forcing them to pay massive amounts of rent and chores so the child is forced to have a job.
Ngl shes right, what she says makes sense for anyone thats unsure what to do after HS. I took half year off before goin to college and it helped me to be sure what degree i actually wanted.
We live in the age of the internet and so, you definitely do not need to attend college to become educated, learned, or informed. Absent a career in law, engineering, or medicine, which require licensing by the state, there’s no reason to attend college or university. In fact, you will miss out on acquiring most practical life skills when you throw away 100s of hours of your life away in a classroom and preparing for exams. Get out there, start making money, find a lifelong partner, and just live debt free.
Are you LDS? You are setting women back 50 years. You will look at things differently as you get older. Hope you never divorce because if you do you have nothing.
I feel like she has family money to fall back on and some kind of prenup in place she’s not sharing. It’s easy to tell someone to choose this like when she already (tried and failed) did all those cool stuff - making friends, college , modeling/acting, traveling, influencer etc. she did what she wanted and now ready to “retire” into homemaking while she is still young and perky. You notice not to many late 30-40s women preaching this lifestyle who are often the ones traded in for younger models.
I would advise for women to finish what you start as far as college goes. You want to have financial security or cushion for yourself because you never really know if your husband will stay or he can die and then you don't want the rug pulled from underneath you. Your loved one should be supportive if he met you already attending college and he should be patient if he loves you enough to be there through it till completion.
@soullessnight6539 What a lot of commenters on her page don't get is a lot of women before the 50s worked in family businesses or family farms. Since they were their own bosses, it was much easier to balance family and work at least in my generation.
I commented in a similar video of yours that going to college doesn’t necessarily have to end up with us compromising our values (while those who don’t pay heed to such values will find ways to engage in harmful behaviour even if they go to community college or don’t go at all). I went to college and stayed at students halls and that’s just a must-have experience in my opinion. It’s so much fun making friends and playing pranks on each other and what not.
Well said. I would also recommend that married couples prepare for the worst financially. This means having a savings in case the husband is suddenly not capable of providing.
Community College & contributing around the house is good advice for anyone, tradwife or no, female or male! Appreciate that you support family life and are sharing that message. Thank you!
Thank you for mentioning volunteer work! I volunteered at a local fire station and learned so much. It definitely would not appear to the naked eye that something like that would be helpful if your focus is to be a tradwife, but don't be deceived by appearances. When you are at home and your man is out working, it's going to be up to YOU to take care of emergencies in the home. The closest hospital where i live is almost an hour away. After having volunteered in emergency services, i know exactly how to handle many possible issues that could arise with myself or my children, and can stabilize them without panicking.
Estee, how could you say that marital rape is a joke? No one, man or woman, is ENTITLED to sex at any time. Withholding affection/love/sex from a partner is a type of abuse yes, as is marital rape. Both sides need to be addressed. Please stop pretending to be so wholesome.
@@m.t6299 I believe she said this on On TikTok or Twitter post from an account that she has since deleted because the comment got a lot of backlash. I have a screenshot of it if you want me to send it to you. Yes, she is crazy. Well, let me put it this way: I do believe that she is actually just doing this because she didn’t make it as an actress etc. and so now she’s found her niche That allows her to get the attention that she wanted through acting, etc., and she is fully aware of what she’s doing, and turns a blind eye to some of the dangerous messages in her Content. I think she acts a lot in these videos. And quite frankly, I think that this niche that she has found is a bit of a fetish and kink for her.
@@m.t6299 Apparently the comment was made on a tiktok or twitter account that she has since deleted due to negative backlash. The purpose of her content is merely to get attention and I do believe A. that she is acting a lot in her videos and B. that this is a kink/fetish for her and C. that she wants the attention (re she tried acting and it didn't work out), and so she fell into this niche and does not care about some of the dangerous messages in her content.
I cannot stress this enough: HAVE SKILLS AND A PLAN B. You never know what tomorrow holds. He could die, get sick, become injured or leave you for the next pretty young thing prancing around on UA-cam. Having a plan b is insurance to prevent poverty
Hi Estee! I am turning 18 in a few months, and my dad keeps mentioning how he might start making me pay rent to live at home once I am an adult, in addition to the homemaking I already do to contribute to the family and home. What are your thoughts and opinions on that?
Hello! I'm sorry but i don't think a parent should make their children pay rent even if they are adults, that is just wrong. In another hand, live your life at your own pace, always trusting the Lord and being led by Him, don't get discouraged or try to rush things, His timing is perfect! God bless both you and yours. Be careful of this world.
Estee, my prayer is to become a traditional wife. I am an Eastern Catholic, I love holistic medicine and healthy food. I am very studious and love learning, but I always say that the vocation of marriage and motherhood is more important. Like a degree can get a job, but only a womb can bear children. Any advice for my case? Prayers appreciated ❤❤
Number 8 is really bad advice. If you’re married and have kids and no proper education, what do you do if something happens to your husband? You can’t go to a job that would pay enough to support you and your kids and say “I read a book, I’m qualified.” And you might not have family to support you. Please don’t tell young women who look up to you that “ if you plan on being a stay at home mom, you don’t need college.” I’m a stay at home mom who skipped college when I had the chance and it’s the biggest mistake I made because I’d be stranded if something happens to my husband so I’m trying to get an education now.
Coming from a different culture, I can guarantee that here in modern day America, we push children and young adults to become “independent” in every way possible way too soon than is even necessary.
I respect the choice you've made, Estée, but I do not agree with your advices. To me, (having been both career oriented, then working mom and wife, then full-time mom and wife), the best thing to get prepared to be a tradwife AND enjoying it, is to experiment remote college then a few years full time working. Why? Because it will give you the right picture of the real nature of men : those to avoid at all cost because they are arrogant jerks and won't do a good tradwife husband, ant those (a minority I am afraid) who are respectful gentlemen and deserve to be served by a tradwife. The more you know about the cruel outside world, the more enlightened you will be the day you get on the path of being a tradwife. To me, Tradwifes are not bad, but enlightened tradwifes are better!
I would like to be in a group of people and stand up next to my wife and shout out, "My trad wife is the most awesome, the greatest, the best, and the most beautiful of all". And all of the men stand up next to their wives, and each one shouts out the same exact thing. And the beautiful thing is, WE'RE ARE CORRECT! Yes! 😊
You definitely don’t have to go to college! I think going to community college though is a big benefit just in case you end up wanting a degree. I don’t think girls moving out is a big deal. I’m so glad I lived on my own and had roommates before my husband, so I could learn the difference between what are roommate struggles and what are genuine personality struggles
Just because u go to college doesn't necessarily mean your smart...just an educated idiot ..in debt😂. Just think of all the kiddos in universities and colleges that owe thousands of dollars and will never pay it all off. Just look for what u want to do and excel in doing it!👍
If you don't want to obtain a marketable skillset (college, tradeschool, work exp.) for yourself, then do it for your future children. If something happens to dad, they'll need you to step up to the plate and take care of them financially. It's not a waste of time nor does it make you any less feminine.
Why not just finish college then become a trad wife so you have something to fall back on? Or at least gain a few years of work experience? I would love to see her commentary on those trad wife to food stamps videos
For those that are single late bloomers like myself and have the hope of becoming a homemaker and sahm but are in our 30s+, what do we do with ourselves if we personally thought our God given calling and purpose was to have a family and be a help mate to our Christian husband but it still hasn’t happened? Do I just continue to do inner healing, serve God and focus on my career? I wasn’t trying to strive for a “girl boss” life or a big career but I do have to work to survive and now I’m here. Having a career is something I ended up in but realizing it’s something I’ll have to give up for a greater purpose. But I guess is also a blessing in disguise because I’ll have something to fall back on if something happens to my future husband.
I don’t think that saying to people that’s it’s okay to not go to college is a good advice. Because, you don’t know if you’re going to find a spouse, you don’t know if you’re going to live your all life with him, and ect. And so, you may be smart and educated, but without a college degree, it’s going to be complicated for you to find a job.
You give great insight on how to be a better person in general not just for traditional wives. My wife is a school teacher so why she isn’t a traditional wife she is doing something to help benefit the next generation
I was so blessed that my university was in my hometown and that its normal for European children to stay home until they marry. I found in North America many parents kick the children out of the house when they turn 18.
I went to college due to getting scholarship funding after working 7+ years in HS and junior high to earn a place as a candidate. I also did not have a good home dynamic. Here are a few tips for the ladies in the group chat: 1) An AA or AAS degree will not get you in the door in some professions. Be leery. Most vocations require a bachelor's degree to get in now. 2) Scholarships are always an option. But be prepared to work for them. Get a good GPA, be part of student groups, and volunteer to stand out to scholarship committees. 3) Have an advocate if you do try to go to college. They help you gain more funding and proofread your scholarship resumes. 4) Going to college means getting into the college system and mild indoctrination. Ask yourself if you are willing to undergo ultra feminist ultra trump hate ultra liberal ideas and brainwashing for 3+ years. 5) High schools will pay for college classes and dual enrollment you so you get credits for your school and the college your class is through. Once your HS education is over, you can transfer classes to your college of choice using a college transfer request from wherever you took those classes from in HS. Hope this helps! 😊
I agree that not everyone should go to college. I went to college and then did some post-graduate work and it was A LOT. If the job you want doesn’t require a college degree, I wouldn’t go to college for the sake of going because it’s what your friends are doing, etc.
Another perk of community college is a lot of times those first two years of college are mostly required classes that people need to take to graduate anyways, so you can take them in a more inexpensive manner while figuring out if you want to finish a Bachelor's degree and what you would want to major in if you do. Young people face a lot of pressure to go to college, but do not feel pressured to go just because everybody else is doing it. Be true to yourself.
Can i ask a question? Im in no way being rude but what happens if a husband was to pass unexpectedly or get terminal illness? I would not wish on anyone ever. Im in uk so no a bill for hospital. Thanks. May your marriage be blessed, healthy, happy & long.
I can’t answer for her but at the moment Iam a homemaker, no kids. My husband has life insurance and so if anything where to happen to him I will be taken care of with that. I did go to school though and became a nurse prior to getting married last year. My advice is get your ducks in a row and have something for the unexpected prior to marriage and of course finding a good hearted man.
@@sarahanma6692 Thank you. I was just curious good to know about insurance and stuff. Also agree about ducks in a row. Wishing you all the happiness and blessings going forward to you and husband and any future kids.
Disability insurance and life insurance. I'm a stay at home mom and we have talked about our plan if anything were to happen and how far our coverage would go. I also got a degree and worked on my field to gain experience before having kids.
One has to be smart living on one income. The man has to carry enough term life insurance to - minimally - pay off the house and any vehicles, plus burial costs and a buffer to pay property taxes for a few years. Hopefully enough to send kids to college if that is their choice. It's easy enough for a woman to cover utilities and food if she needs to in the event of a catastrophic event. Short term and long term disability is also a necessity.
I'm 54, grew up in a traditional family. My father controlled the finances even when my mother had part time jobs. She had to ask him for money to buy hosiery. My mother did all of the child rearing whilst my father did the discipline aka beatings. My parents were married for 35 years. When my father died, my mother had to learn banking and paying bills at 65 years of age. She also discovered gambling debts. The traditional husband traditionally has mistresses too. So young ladies get the best education you can so that you are skilled and able to financially support yourself when your marriage fails or ends. You want a man, not a man-baby or Peter Pan. A man that earns a regular wage, is kind and helps with household chores and the kids. Most men are better at cooking too. No need to dumb down for a confident man. No need to be submissive to keep a man - he won't respect you. These are my life lessons learned from watching my parents and being a woman who got herself an education, bought her home and paid it off when single, married, had kids, divorced and still financially solid.
LIA: Okay!...You are beautiful, young, and have a wonderful smile...You can give lots of happiness to your family... The main "ingredient" of the recipes for life now is to find a husband who will never divorce you...Estee has evidently found that recipe in her kitchen, and you certainly ought to have a copy of it!.. Thanks, Lia....
Hey honey are you aware that by posting on UA-cam and TikTok you are are technically being an “influencer” which is considered a job, especially since you are using social media to influence a way of life on people that actually tells you NOT to have a job, this is just hilarious and hypocritical
i have no problem with any woman wanting to be a tradition wife, as long as she is a mother. its not really traditional that woman dont work, even while being moms. especially if the family has their own business. all through history women worked. its only in the last century that women were afforded the opportunity en mass to just stay home and be a house wife. but starting in the 60's women started going back to work and inflation countered that. so in these recent years, being a stay at home wife is not at all the same to being a stay at home mom. as stated previously, almost all moms worked at home cuz almost all of their works was the shop out front or the farm, etc etc where they were able to take care of the home, and the kids. dont kid yourselves feminists that are going to say it, of course the men helped. once again, only recently did only men go off to work while only women stayed home. thats a new thing, not a traditional thing, get over yourselves. only royalty was able to do otherwise. ur not royalty so shut up about it.
i’m glad you’re happy with your role but i wish you would just promote college for young women instead of just saying neither choice is better. education is always better than no education even if you’re looking to be a stay at home wife.
This option is definitely a blessing....wish more people made this normal and it was an option for those who desire....I know of some who would make amazing stay at home wives but unfortunately no marriage prospects so they are left to join the career trail. Kudos to those who do both. I wish someone had left me to my dreams of being a stay at home mom like my grandmother and not pushing being a career boss babe. Let your children choose but give them wisdom when choosing.
If you love school and want to go to university, I recommend you get a degree that has family-friendly hours such as teaching (if you are motivated to do so). I have friends in nursing too, and they've been able to step out of their careers and then back in after years of being homemakers. There are probably many other career paths that will allow time out without you losing the value of your education. The biggest thing is to avoid college debt at all costs because you don't want to start marriage with that hanging over you and your husband. It will make it harder to run your family on 1 or 1.5 salaries.
As a nurse, that was my own experience too. Teaching, however, is really only family friendly once the kids are in school. During the infant and preschool years, not so much.
@@monicalong1371Agreed. But if you intend to be a SAHM, particularly in the early years, it's not too hard to make your way back into education if/when it's the right choice for your family. You might need to take a test or apply to update your certificate, but getting into the classroom won't be hard.
Also you do have a career in a way because your online your an influencer. So that's something you can do from home. Will you be a family vlog channel once you have children?
Volunteering at church in the children's program is excellent advice. If you want to be a mom, working with kids in all age groups is a great way to expose yourself to what taking care of a kid can look like. The concept of kids and kids in reality are vastly different. Volunteering can help you understand kids better. 😄
Why not become a substitute teacher or help out with your nieces and nephews day, or even babysit for a day? A couple of hours at church isn’t going to expose you nearly enough. When you have kids if your own, you can’t just quit after two hours. I mean a lot of parents do. That’s why teachers are so stressed out.
But that isn’t good advice then.
Why do churches have playgrounds and areas for the kids to sit while the church meeting is being held? I am JW and the kids listen and sit with the adults to the same talks and they’re so smart and well spoken when it comes to the Bible.
Staying home with parents ✅
Working and helping around the house ✅
Excellent video!!!
Thank you!
I am a highschool girl and i don't get much support from the people around me on my plan to becoming a tradwive! Thank you so much for making videos like this ❤
You definitely have my support! ❤
@@EsteeWilliams Thank you! 🤗
same, this video is everything I wanted her to post since i started watching her. I think I want to live a traditional lifestyle but I also feel like it’s important to have a plan for in between graduation and when you find a husband
Me too!
You go for it. You will find someone who wishes the same. There are more men who want trad-wives than there are girls who wish to be trad-wives.
I had a controlling, overbearing mother and I needed to stretch my wings and leave for college!!! I needed it for my soul. A Christian college is where I found Jesus. I used my degree as a teacher to teach for 2 years and then I found my husband. Teaching gave me experience with kids. I found my husband at the perfect time, now I’m a SAHM and homeschool the oldest, who is in kindergarten.
I (A high school girl) aspire to be a traditional wife one day, thank you so so much for videos like this. God bless you Estee! :)
Don’t get married right out high school, go to college or a trade school at least. Engineering is an outstanding career for women.
@@user-tg2gs2no7j Definitely. I'm already almost finished with an associates degree so I should graduate high school and have my degree at the same time
I’m so happy you enjoyed it! ❤
Dear girl unless you are planning to earn by tik tok dont be a trad wife,our grandmother who were trad wives educated our mothers because of a reason,dont forget that😊
And where did it get you to? For how long do you think "western" civilisation will last from now?@@padme147
I'm so happy you're normalizing this lifestyle! Being traditional is so unheard of these days that I barely tell anyone that I want to be a tradwife. I look up to you so much and aspire to be like you
We need to be clear though, what income bracket is a woman willing to do this with?
How can she normalize and otherwise lifestyle that had always been normal except for a few distractions it began in the 1960s.
There aren't any statistical numbers but I would suggest that maybe we're even with the number of women who want to be feminist and don't want to work to those women who are happily married and happily at home taking care of the house.
Christian homemaking is not a "lifestyle"; it is a calling. Please don't aspire to be like her; aspire to be like Jesus. Or, his mother, Mary. I encourage you to delve into Mother Teresa's letters, as well as the nonfiction books of Elisabeth Elliott and Kathleen Norris--and there are many more women who deserve to take up rent in your brain. Women of God deserve better.
Thank you for your support! I definitely didn’t normalize it haha can’t take the credit for that. The women who show and talk about this lifestyle are some of the best women I’ve met! 🙏
@@dps6198it’s actually the opposite. Women always worked unless they were wealthy. The concept of the housewife only began in the 50s… so technically it’s not traditional, as the 50s are too modern in a historical sense. A real traditional woman would be milking cows, going out to sell baked goods, working in a factory to help her family, etc. Learn history instead of being bias and emotional🤡
I wanted to be a traditional wife but went to college and got a degree and I’m SO glad I did. Still haven’t met a guy I want to marry but I can support myself because I had a plan b.
All women need to be able to support themself if they don’t get married or if their marriage ends from death, divorce, etc.
You’re a good role model, Estee. God bless you, and your loved ones. ✝️
Thank you! God bless you 🙏
I'm 23 years old and already kinda did college, but i *CANNOT* wait to be a traditional wife!
I've been imagining it since i was 17. 🥰🥰💓💓
Awesome! I'm 23 as well. I took community college, which was ok. But I didn't really figure out what I really wanted to do in life. Because I picked some classes that didn't really help me grow (I wish I could have picked better classes), and I'm still at this age trying to figure out what to do in life and where to find a guy with the same values as mine.
But being a housewife doesn't sound bad!
If I had a supporting family I think I would have commuted to an ART school. Found a husband and started a family... probably still no career just hobbies.... I went to university and majored in Math because of the pressures of family and an unsafe home environment. I experienced so much trauma at school that only ended because in between the trauma I had fallen in love with a high school friend who bought a car, picked me up and took me away before i finished. We are happy now with our children and me a housewife... but I wish the journey for me wasn't so rough
Hugs and love🙏💖🫂
Pray for me, can that happen ❤
To all the high school girls - you absolutely don't have to go to college right out of high school or even at all.
However, I would definitely get some job experience at least. Have things to put on a resume. Life is not going to be cookie cutter perfect like you see on the internet. Divorce, death, injuries.. they all happen. Do not think you're immune to the unexpected. Be a stay at home wife/mom absolutely if you want to, but please please don't set yourself up for being blindsided and with zero options to support yourself in unexpected circumstances. I say this with love ❤ I have seen way too many people fall so hard thinking it won't happen to them.
Estee I do think you're beautiful and well intentioned though.
I agree with this. I have a friend with three little children whose husband died unexpectedly. She is cleaning houses to try to make ends meet and it’s a nightmare. While we’re in high school we can start working, jobs with kids are great, and volunteering at church. Don’t be a stay at home girlfriend. Get out there and DO something! I met my husband while doing work for the Lord. If you want to meet the right guy then get involved in the right things! Sometimes (like in my case) this is a conservative Christian university.
@@journeyjulie3973This is why life insurance is so important! 😢
Amen
I just had a 30 yr old friend her husband passed away unexpectedly she has a 5 and 3 year old.
It’s good to point this out, though Estee did say it’s good to get a job at first and get experience. (3:00)
Bad advice!!!!! Young girls DO NOT do this, go to college get a marketable degree and work a few years before you get married. Trust the older women. Estee is drop out and I PROMISE you she has no idea what she is talking about. Go look at the 40 year old women warning against this! DO NOT DO THIS!!!
Maybe those women made poor choices in men, sounds like a bitter pill 💊 was swallowed.
Do you think people are expecting to get divorced on their marriage day? People get sick, injured, addictions. A good stay at home wife and mother has a back up plan to support the family if needed. Why are you so intimidated by educated women with careers?
This advice is good for the short term, which matches the current life Estee is leading right now as a mid 20 childless wife, but I don't hear any advice aimed at the long term financial security of women (and their families). My parents were very religious and traditional and practiced traditional roles in their marriage, but....due to their own life experiences they were also realistic about the future. They both grew up in poor families without a father to financially provide for the family, one due to the father leaving and one due to the father dying. They saw how much their mothers had to struggle to make ends meet and feed the children, so when my parents immigrated to a western country, they saw the opportunities their children could have, the boys and the girls. So what they did with me was encourage me to do well in school, go to university and build up a career. They also encouraged me to get married and have kids when ready, because to them that is simply a fact of life, but due to their own experiences they also wanted me to have the skillset needed to provide for myself and my family if need be. Encouraging schooling and building up a career was never about not being traditional for my parents, because trust me, they were very traditional. For them it was about loving me enough to want to prepare me for life in the long run. Life can always throw curfballs and it is your duty to at the very least be able to provide for your children as a mother. Studies have shown that women tend to be the most vulnerable financially, so be smart about your future in the long term.
I will say that university in the US does seem like a scam, considering the going rates. Degrees are supposed to help in building up something that takes you out of poverty and/or keeps you out of it, but the types of debt young adults are being put in to have a certain name on their degrees is ridiculous.
I was similarly pushed to get higher education in order to fend for myself would I someday need to, but that was never presented in opposition to getting married and having children. I am due to graduate with a master in science in 2025 and will be likely getting married the same year, my partner and I want me to be the homemaker and I am soooo looking forward to it! So no education and a more traditional life path are not mutually exclusive.
The problem with college is the debt and that most degrees are pointless. Certain jobs need the education but many people end up with a useless degree and a dead end job. The advice is supposed to be short term anyway as it’s for high school girls.
Agreed. University is a scam here. Better off to go to community College, start in a field, and go to college when your employer will pay for it unless you are going into a very specialized field. Learned that the hard way.
@@sarahsf6940 Exactly, you can still choose to be a homemaker, but at least you'll have some financial security put in place if you need it in the future. It boggles the mind that some people can act like they know their future and don't need any back up plan, but you know what: it's their life. Just don't go around trying to convince others to do the same, especially with how some of these tradwife influencers present themselves. I know quite a few SAHM and they're some of the hardest working people I know. They certainly don't have time for professional level hair, make-up and styling, while making literally everything from scratch. They've got kids and everything else to take care of!
I have a masters in health, have finished a post-master program and will enter a specialization program soon. Specialists are very hard to come by in my line of work, so that will be a solid back up plan. I will have free range in how many or little hours I work and employers tend to bend to your needs because they need you and are desperate. That way if I should ever need it, I'm assured of a placement and a good income until retirement. No way I'm risking the pipeline to poverty. I grew up poor and not going back to that if I can help it.
@@ab-gail High school girls however grow up and back up plans need preparation. If you just wait it out you better pray you are one of the lucky ones and life works out the way you wanted, because if it doesn't then you will need to start at the very bottom. That pipeline to poverty is very real, but you do need a degree in something useful to get a foot in the door in even the most basic jobs. Otherwise you can get stuck in something that maybe doesn't need a degree, but pays that way as well. You do need some experience as well though, otherwise a lot of jobs nowadays still don't pay that well, even with the requirement of a degree.
"If you want to be a traditional wife in the future, you don't need to go to college."
If Estee had the wonderful privilege of attending a four-year college (or even flourished moderately at a community college), perhaps she'd understand something that Christian missionary and theology-based writer Elisabeth Elliot emphasized strongly in her books. I recommend any woman here read Elliot's letters to her daughter, "Let Me Be a Woman." Elliot was a firm believer in a college-level liberal arts education, which is beneficial to any woman who may choose the role of mother or wife upon graduation--especially if they decide to homeschool. Elliot's missionary husband, Tim, was murdered in Ecuador, and she raised her infant daughter on her own--and quite successfully, as Elliot was an educated Christian woman who knew her college degree and experience held merit, tenaciousness, and worth.
Estee remarks, "You kind-of still get to be like a kid, and to feel like a kid. You're dependent on your family and you're still safe at home, and you're able to take that next step into the 'big world' which is getting a [part-time, minimum wage] job and just having that experience, and being able to spend money. You learn how to spend money a little bit more wisely, and learn how to save up for things rather than just asking your mom or dad to get things."
An eighteen-year-old "kid"? Huh. My spidey sense is tingling amidst so many red flags and such poor advice for young women. I ask all of you watching this charade (and reading this comment) to closely read the works of educated Christian writers. Kathleen Norris ("Acedia and Me" and "The Cloister Walk") is another woman to admire.
What if your husband died? What if he leaves you? What if your family isn't able to support you?
The Proverbs 31 woman is educated, business-savvy, quite independent, and wise.
"You will know them by their fruits."
Thanks for the comment, I strongly agree with you. Could you recommend me any more Christian books on being a godly women and wife?
There s absolutely not even one sole word in the Bible that could be interpreted to condemn women s access to any form of education,wether is tecnicatures or university degrees. We re suppose to first prioritize being useful for the kingdom of God...we are christians not talibans,right?.
And what cringe me the most is the zero mention that we should be equally yoked in ALL way,not just faith but specially women and men should both be preserving for marriage.
Agreed! And to add to that…what if you don’t ever get to marry, or don’t meet ‘the one,’ until you are in your 40’s…your parents are not going to want you staying home bludging off them, and not earning money at that age, you need to look after yourself 😉
There are other ways of getting an education that are not college, especially these days. Why would someone get in debt to study arts, for example, when you have books and UA-cam for free?
I love the Lord. All women need to consult with the holy spirit as to the path they should take.
My daughter is a traditional Mom, raising four children, taking care of the house. She also has a very supportive husband.
"You are supposed to be happy in life" this generation needs to hear more this phrase
I’m 16, and I have being dreaming of staying and home and taking care of my children since I was a kid. I appreciate this video ☺️
So glad you liked it! ❤
I love that you are promoting to first go to community college and work part-time as that will allows a future trad wife to get her AA and not get into high amount of debt by attending a higher level university.
I really do advocate for community college if that’s something a young woman wants to pursue! I even enrolled in a program and got paid $1200 every semester because of my grades and didn’t have to pay a single dime to school. There are plenty of options!
If your friends don't come around. It is time to get new friends who are traditional housewives.
Keep in mind many women attend college after their kids are old enough to fend for themselves like when they hit their mid teens It's not uncommon for women to enroll in day courses and when the kids are grown and gone or grown up enough for a woman to continue her education I went back to college when I was 47 years old not a big deal.
I graduated three and a half years later with a business degree and I'm very happy I went back.
True. Life has different seasons. I knew people who went back when the kids hit elementary school. I also know people who worked and saved up in their 20s, had kids in their 30s, and hopped back into the workforce in their 40s. I also know women who decided to become entrepreneurs after becoming SAHMs. Life has different seasons.
Yup, how to be a Stepford wife 101.
I just want to add… Use some of your time to pursue your own interests and find a way to effectively monetize it over time or to stay connected with that field; that way you will have a plan B in case something happens to your husband or one of your children that requires you to bring in income.
Great advice on so many levels! I also believe that you don't need to wait until you're 18 or graduated from high school. My kids began doing these things as younger teens.(13-15) Concurrent high school/ community college classes can give credit for both and help slowly get used to the demands of college. Volunteering or apprenticeships as well. I homeschooled which gave our kids more flexibility for this, but there are ways to do this even if you're in school.
As an older woman, I would recommend going to college whether it be for medicine, teaching, childcare, culinary arts ..... Get an education! Why? Because 50% of marriages do end in divorce - even trad wives. Have the back up! You may need to support yourself and your children in the future. You can finish a degree by 21. That's a great age to think about marriage and have a child. Be aware that most men with degrees become husbands to women with degrees ..... But don't disregard the guy who is hard working and has completed an apprenticeship in a trade ..... They also can be great supportive husbands.
Also, go talk to Grandmas ..... Some of the older ladies lived the real trad wife or had a mother who did. It is good to know the reality as opposed to the make believe version pushed by Hollywood which has gone on to be the basis of the modern social media idea of the trad wife.I
If you want to be a trade wife then remember, it is basically your career. So you will need to learn to cook, clean, sew etc etc on a daily basis as that, along with child rearing, will be your contribution to a successful marriage.
I went to medical school. It’s one of 3 careers that I think need college (the other two being Law and Engineering). The rest all can be learned on your own or a trade school (or on the job). College is a huge debt trap. Tons of people are getting an education entirely through UA-cam. College is not the end all of education.
I know you asked why are girls getting apartments together at 18 years old. Three reasons. 1. They don’t have great family dynamics/ can’t stand their family. 2. They moved into that state to go to school. 3. They want to learn independent skills or move their boyfriend and add him on their lease. Those a common reasons I had friends move into apartments.
Thank you for that. I agree, those definitely seem like the top reasons for young adults getting apartments together. I remember wanting to do that so so bad when I was 19 hahaha and having $200 to my name lol
In my experience, I recommend going to college, getting that degree, and having it at hand. Either work a year or two, or stop there. It is always good to have it on hand because you never know what life may throw at you. I am Catholic and I wanted to become a religious sister in life. They asked me to finish college first. I did. I went back to them and lasted about a year, came back home. My parents retired and I was glad I had that degree to survive off of. Now I am recently (3 months) happily married, and I can’t wait to begin that stay at home life in the near future.
Also, I was had full ride scholarships, so applying and finding fund options will definitely help.
Thank you Estee!! This was super helpful 😁❤
-17 yr old girl who wants to be a tradwife/tradmom one day
You go girl ❤
I am a married female and have a stem degree in engineering, I make tons of money 150K last year and work about 30 hours a week from home!! Besides working from home I get to travel all over the world for projects etc. I met my husband in engineering classes lots of great guys to chose from. And with the dual income my husband and I can retire much earlier. Engineering is amazing I highly recommend i! I can always quit now if I wanted to be trad wife so it’s the best of both worlds! Estee is very young and naive her advice is wrong don’t listen to it!
Only bad thing about traditional wife is a traditional husband is usually abusive
My biggest dream since I was a toddler was to be a momma and wife. It’s still something I want to be so bad. Estee, your videos are SO encouraging to girls like me, and they’re so helpful to those of us who don’t have a lot of support or guidance when it comes to sharing our love for femininity and traditional gender roles. You’re amazing and for that reason one of my biggest role models 🤍!
I went to college and took early childhood education. It gave me great lifelong lessons to raise my 9 children. I understood their developmental stages and their learning needs. It has served me well and I don’t feel I “wasted” my education at all. But I do recognize no one needs to have that information to parent well but if you want to go to school, picking something that will help you parent too is a win win.
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THANK YOU FOR THE COMMUNITY COLLEGE REPRESENTATION AND ENDORSEMENT! I would love to be a tradwife/have tradwife characteristics, and I'm in college pursuing both my bachelors and masters degrees. For my masters, I just created a PR plan for my local community college that I attended. It was amazing to see the things people said in the research I conducted, whether they're teachers whose opinions have changed on community college from when they were in high school or graduates from the commcollege who are talking about their amazing experiences they had. I 100% recommend community college to anyone who is even remotely thinking about post-secondary education! I'm thinking about going back to my community college to take cooking classes! They're just such accessible places of LEARNING!
I’m 17, about to graduate high school and my dream is to have a happy family someday with a man I love who shares my faith. I do have some career-ish aspirations, like I want to study music ed and become a music teacher but my parents are immigrants and stress the importance of having a lucrative career in a stem field so I put “psychology” on a lot of college applications (which i like and I still want to study, but that’s not what I want to do). I have lots of other passions, like I’m writing a fantasy novel rn hoping to get it published while I’m in college, I’m an artist and I bake, and I want to do some side gigs related to my passions. But ultimately my career is not the most important thing to me. Having a family is the most important thing, and I want to be an amazing wife and mother someday, ig as a way to redeem the childhood and avenge my inner child who was stripped of a healthy, functional family. But it’s so looked down upon and my family wouldn’t support it immediately, plus it’s scary bcs it’s so hard to find the right man and Indian culture is very traditional but… in a very very toxic way not at all like the trad movement here in the west. Thank you so much, it’s bcs of traditional women like you who run so we can walk ❤
I am a married female and have a stem degree in engineering, I make tons of money 150K last year and work about 30 hours a week from home!! Besides working from home I get to travel all over the world for projects etc. I met my husband in engineering classes lots of great guys to chose from. And with the dual income my husband and I can retire much earlier. Engineering is amazing I highly recommend i! I can always quit now if I wanted to be trad wife so it’s the best of both worlds!
Thanks for this video I am in 8 th grade and when people ask me what I want to be and I say a stay home wife that’s trad they just laugh at me and say what if he leaves you or beats you.
Well if he leaves or beats you it's your fault. Because you didn't pick him too well.
@@worldclassact1389 AND THATS WHAT I SAID I said that he’s not going to because I’m gonna make sure he’s good for me.
You make a plan B. Because not only leaving you or beating you can happen; people get ill and die, too. Learn a skill that can sustain you in such case. You can also build a career slowly while married, like the trad wife UA-camrs, that’s their career.
I am a married female and have a stem degree in engineering, I make tons of money 150K last year and work about 30 hours a week from home!! Besides working from home I get to travel all over the world for projects etc. I met my husband in engineering classes lots of great guys to chose from. And with the dual income my husband and I can retire much earlier. Engineering is amazing I highly recommend i! I can always quit now if I wanted to be trad wife so it’s the best of both worlds!
Estee’s advice is WRONG and dangerous don’t listen to her! Trust the older wiser women. Estee is delulu
This video isn’t really targeted to me (I’m 25), but this is great advice! I went to community college and did end up getting my undergrad and took a gap year. I saved so much money and felt safe with my family ❤. Not a trad wife yet, but I hope it happens!
advice #1: don't listen to young delusional girls who think it's not a big deal to be financially dependent on someone else. instead, listen to 40 years old women who used to be tradwives, and then decide whether it's such a great decision.
This is amazing. Advice I wish I had at that stage in my life. I watched this video simply because I love your vibe as well as being curious what your advice for young girls would be, and I am very pleased. This is wonderful advice and very encouraging. Thank you so much for content like this, you are a Godsend ❤
I would like to add though that many girls do not have supportive families or a healthy home life, and this is partially the reason so many are desperate to move out of the home - or are even forced to. Many younger parents of the previous generation have this ideal of kicking children out of the home the moment they turn 18 or else forcing them to pay massive amounts of rent and chores so the child is forced to have a job.
Ngl shes right, what she says makes sense for anyone thats unsure what to do after HS. I took half year off before goin to college and it helped me to be sure what degree i actually wanted.
We live in the age of the internet and so, you definitely do not need to attend college to become educated, learned, or informed.
Absent a career in law, engineering, or medicine, which require licensing by the state, there’s no reason to attend college or university.
In fact, you will miss out on acquiring most practical life skills when you throw away 100s of hours of your life away in a classroom and preparing for exams.
Get out there, start making money, find a lifelong partner, and just live debt free.
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I agree, family support is everything! I don’t understand why women these days are fighting to work so hard. The soft life is way less stressful …
sounds great!
Are you LDS? You are setting women back 50 years. You will look at things differently as you get older. Hope you never divorce because if you do you have nothing.
I feel like she has family money to fall back on and some kind of prenup in place she’s not sharing. It’s easy to tell someone to choose this like when she already (tried and failed) did all those cool stuff - making friends, college , modeling/acting, traveling, influencer etc. she did what she wanted and now ready to “retire” into homemaking while she is still young and perky.
You notice not to many late 30-40s women preaching this lifestyle who are often the ones traded in for younger models.
I’m married 25 years. We keep it trad as possible. Really works.
Cheers! My wife and I are very much the same for 16. But to hear the critics tell it, marriages like ours don't exist.
Thank you, I’m always looking for videos to send my daughter and she’ll be getting this one too.
I’m happy you enjoy my channel ☺️
Eww why you thinking of your daughter’s marriage if she’s a minor.. 🤮
the bedsheet and the dress are cut from the same cloth seems like...
I would advise for women to finish what you start as far as college goes. You want to have financial security or cushion for yourself because you never really know if your husband will stay or he can die and then you don't want the rug pulled from underneath you. Your loved one should be supportive if he met you already attending college and he should be patient if he loves you enough to be there through it till completion.
So grateful for you Estee for showing woman who stay home and raise children and take care of their husbands is an honorable thing to do.
She literally has a career, dude. She isn’t traditional but definitely a smart business women.
What kind of business, dude?@@soullessnight6539
She hasn't shown us remotely any of that. She's a little over a year into marriage. She has no children yet. This is the easy part.
@soullessnight6539 What a lot of commenters on her page don't get is a lot of women before the 50s worked in family businesses or family farms. Since they were their own bosses, it was much easier to balance family and work at least in my generation.
I commented in a similar video of yours that going to college doesn’t necessarily have to end up with us compromising our values (while those who don’t pay heed to such values will find ways to engage in harmful behaviour even if they go to community college or don’t go at all). I went to college and stayed at students halls and that’s just a must-have experience in my opinion. It’s so much fun making friends and playing pranks on each other and what not.
Well said. I would also recommend that married couples prepare for the worst financially. This means having a savings in case the husband is suddenly not capable of providing.
Community College & contributing around the house is good advice for anyone, tradwife or no, female or male! Appreciate that you support family life and are sharing that message. Thank you!
Thank you for mentioning volunteer work! I volunteered at a local fire station and learned so much. It definitely would not appear to the naked eye that something like that would be helpful if your focus is to be a tradwife, but don't be deceived by appearances. When you are at home and your man is out working, it's going to be up to YOU to take care of emergencies in the home. The closest hospital where i live is almost an hour away. After having volunteered in emergency services, i know exactly how to handle many possible issues that could arise with myself or my children, and can stabilize them without panicking.
Delusional people...
I can speak from experience. This is very good advice. Take the time.
Estee, how could you say that marital rape is a joke? No one, man or woman, is ENTITLED to sex at any time. Withholding affection/love/sex from a partner is a type of abuse yes, as is marital rape. Both sides need to be addressed. Please stop pretending to be so wholesome.
When did she say that?
@@m.t6299 It was on either TikTok, or Twitter, an account that she has now deleted.
@@nacht_owl If that's what she said she's crazy
@@m.t6299 I believe she said this on On TikTok or Twitter post from an account that she has since deleted because the comment got a lot of backlash. I have a screenshot of it if you want me to send it to you. Yes, she is crazy. Well, let me put it this way: I do believe that she is actually just doing this because she didn’t make it as an actress etc. and so now she’s found her niche That allows her to get the attention that she wanted through acting, etc., and she is fully aware of what she’s doing, and turns a blind eye to some of the dangerous messages in her Content. I think she acts a lot in these videos. And quite frankly, I think that this niche that she has found is a bit of a fetish and kink for her.
@@m.t6299 Apparently the comment was made on a tiktok or twitter account that she has since deleted due to negative backlash. The purpose of her content is merely to get attention and I do believe A. that she is acting a lot in her videos and B. that this is a kink/fetish for her and C. that she wants the attention (re she tried acting and it didn't work out), and so she fell into this niche and does not care about some of the dangerous messages in her content.
I cannot stress this enough: HAVE SKILLS AND A PLAN B. You never know what tomorrow holds. He could die, get sick, become injured or leave you for the next pretty young thing prancing around on UA-cam. Having a plan b is insurance to prevent poverty
God bless yr heart , dearie .
Hi Estee! I am turning 18 in a few months, and my dad keeps mentioning how he might start making me pay rent to live at home once I am an adult, in addition to the homemaking I already do to contribute to the family and home. What are your thoughts and opinions on that?
Hello! I'm sorry but i don't think a parent should make their children pay rent even if they are adults, that is just wrong. In another hand, live your life at your own pace, always trusting the Lord and being led by Him, don't get discouraged or try to rush things, His timing is perfect! God bless both you and yours. Be careful of this world.
Estee, my prayer is to become a traditional wife. I am an Eastern Catholic, I love holistic medicine and healthy food. I am very studious and love learning, but I always say that the vocation of marriage and motherhood is more important. Like a degree can get a job, but only a womb can bear children. Any advice for my case? Prayers appreciated ❤❤
Number 8 is really bad advice. If you’re married and have kids and no proper education, what do you do if something happens to your husband? You can’t go to a job that would pay enough to support you and your kids and say “I read a book, I’m qualified.” And you might not have family to support you. Please don’t tell young women who look up to you that “ if you plan on being a stay at home mom, you don’t need college.” I’m a stay at home mom who skipped college when I had the chance and it’s the biggest mistake I made because I’d be stranded if something happens to my husband so I’m trying to get an education now.
Hope things are well when you hit 40.
She is all about positivity, and this is the response? 😢
@@hellybelle5 Yep.
@@suebotchie4167 that is sadness indeed 🥺
@@hellybelle5 what's even sadder, are women who are so DELUDED, they refuse to watch their own back$.
Coming from a different culture, I can guarantee that here in modern day America, we push children and young adults to become “independent” in every way possible way too soon than is even necessary.
Gold digger 101 😅
I respect the choice you've made, Estée, but I do not agree with your advices. To me, (having been both career oriented, then working mom and wife, then full-time mom and wife), the best thing to get prepared to be a tradwife AND enjoying it, is to experiment remote college then a few years full time working.
Why? Because it will give you the right picture of the real nature of men : those to avoid at all cost because they are arrogant jerks and won't do a good tradwife husband, ant those (a minority I am afraid) who are respectful gentlemen and deserve to be served by a tradwife.
The more you know about the cruel outside world, the more enlightened you will be the day you get on the path of being a tradwife.
To me, Tradwifes are not bad, but enlightened tradwifes are better!
That’s actually great advice. For people with a safe and loving home.
I would like to be in a group of people and stand up next to my wife and shout out, "My trad wife is the most awesome, the greatest, the best, and the most beautiful of all". And all of the men stand up next to their wives, and each one shouts out the same exact thing. And the beautiful thing is, WE'RE ARE CORRECT! Yes! 😊
Then why the hell don’t you?????
You definitely don’t have to go to college! I think going to community college though is a big benefit just in case you end up wanting a degree.
I don’t think girls moving out is a big deal. I’m so glad I lived on my own and had roommates before my husband, so I could learn the difference between what are roommate struggles and what are genuine personality struggles
Just because u go to college doesn't necessarily mean your smart...just an educated idiot ..in debt😂. Just think of all the kiddos in universities and colleges that owe thousands of dollars and will never pay it all off. Just look for what u want to do and excel in doing it!👍
If you don't want to obtain a marketable skillset (college, tradeschool, work exp.) for yourself, then do it for your future children. If something happens to dad, they'll need you to step up to the plate and take care of them financially. It's not a waste of time nor does it make you any less feminine.
I definitely think children should be part of this as being a traditional wife without them would be quite lonely .
Thank you so much!! I love this, it definitely helped a lot! ❤❤❤You are so inspiring!
Why not just finish college then become a trad wife so you have something to fall back on? Or at least gain a few years of work experience? I would love to see her commentary on those trad wife to food stamps videos
For those that are single late bloomers like myself and have the hope of becoming a homemaker and sahm but are in our 30s+, what do we do with ourselves if we personally thought our God given calling and purpose was to have a family and be a help mate to our Christian husband but it still hasn’t happened? Do I just continue to do inner healing, serve God and focus on my career? I wasn’t trying to strive for a “girl boss” life or a big career but I do have to work to survive and now I’m here. Having a career is something I ended up in but realizing it’s something I’ll have to give up for a greater purpose. But I guess is also a blessing in disguise because I’ll have something to fall back on if something happens to my future husband.
I don’t think that saying to people that’s it’s okay to not go to college is a good advice. Because, you don’t know if you’re going to find a spouse, you don’t know if you’re going to live your all life with him, and ect. And so, you may be smart and educated, but without a college degree, it’s going to be complicated for you to find a job.
you know how to say tradwife in any european country? its "wife"
You give great insight on how to be a better person in general not just for traditional wives. My wife is a school teacher so why she isn’t a traditional wife she is doing something to help benefit the next generation
I’ve actually always wondered what your thoughts were on woman teaching school
I was so blessed that my university was in my hometown and that its normal for European children to stay home until they marry. I found in North America many parents kick the children out of the house when they turn 18.
I went to college due to getting scholarship funding after working 7+ years in HS and junior high to earn a place as a candidate. I also did not have a good home dynamic. Here are a few tips for the ladies in the group chat:
1) An AA or AAS degree will not get you in the door in some professions. Be leery. Most vocations require a bachelor's degree to get in now.
2) Scholarships are always an option. But be prepared to work for them. Get a good GPA, be part of student groups, and volunteer to stand out to scholarship committees.
3) Have an advocate if you do try to go to college. They help you gain more funding and proofread your scholarship resumes.
4) Going to college means getting into the college system and mild indoctrination. Ask yourself if you are willing to undergo ultra feminist ultra trump hate ultra liberal ideas and brainwashing for 3+ years.
5) High schools will pay for college classes and dual enrollment you so you get credits for your school and the college your class is through. Once your HS education is over, you can transfer classes to your college of choice using a college transfer request from wherever you took those classes from in HS.
Hope this helps! 😊
Good advice!
I agree that not everyone should go to college. I went to college and then did some post-graduate work and it was A LOT. If the job you want doesn’t require a college degree, I wouldn’t go to college for the sake of going because it’s what your friends are doing, etc.
Agreed.
I think having a family is really important as a house without children or pets can feel empty. I have cats.
She's so incredibly gorgeous. Maybe the sexiest woman alive
C’mon simp!
Her boobs ain't natural
Another perk of community college is a lot of times those first two years of college are mostly required classes that people need to take to graduate anyways, so you can take them in a more inexpensive manner while figuring out if you want to finish a Bachelor's degree and what you would want to major in if you do. Young people face a lot of pressure to go to college, but do not feel pressured to go just because everybody else is doing it. Be true to yourself.
Can i ask a question? Im in no way being rude but what happens if a husband was to pass unexpectedly or get terminal illness? I would not wish on anyone ever. Im in uk so no a bill for hospital. Thanks. May your marriage be blessed, healthy, happy & long.
I can’t answer for her but at the moment Iam a homemaker, no kids. My husband has life insurance and so if anything where to happen to him I will be taken care of with that. I did go to school though and became a nurse prior to getting married last year. My advice is get your ducks in a row and have something for the unexpected prior to marriage and of course finding a good hearted man.
@@sarahanma6692 Thank you. I was just curious good to know about insurance and stuff. Also agree about ducks in a row. Wishing you all the happiness and blessings going forward to you and husband and any future kids.
It’s called life insurance.
Disability insurance and life insurance. I'm a stay at home mom and we have talked about our plan if anything were to happen and how far our coverage would go. I also got a degree and worked on my field to gain experience before having kids.
One has to be smart living on one income. The man has to carry enough term life insurance to - minimally - pay off the house and any vehicles, plus burial costs and a buffer to pay property taxes for a few years. Hopefully enough to send kids to college if that is their choice. It's easy enough for a woman to cover utilities and food if she needs to in the event of a catastrophic event. Short term and long term disability is also a necessity.
I'm 54, grew up in a traditional family. My father controlled the finances even when my mother had part time jobs.
She had to ask him for money to buy hosiery.
My mother did all of the child rearing whilst my father did the discipline aka beatings.
My parents were married for 35 years. When my father died, my mother had to learn banking and paying bills at 65 years of age. She also discovered gambling debts.
The traditional husband traditionally has mistresses too.
So young ladies get the best education you can so that you are skilled and able to financially support yourself when your marriage fails or ends.
You want a man, not a man-baby or Peter Pan. A man that earns a regular wage, is kind and helps with household chores and the kids. Most men are better at cooking too.
No need to dumb down for a confident man. No need to be submissive to keep a man - he won't respect you.
These are my life lessons learned from watching my parents and being a woman who got herself an education, bought her home and paid it off when single, married, had kids, divorced and still financially solid.
Estee... you are one of the best people in the internet. You build hope in all of us. Thanks for being yourself.
Really appreciate that !!! More Christian women need to speak up !!
Soon i wanna be a trade wife and work part time
LIA: Okay!...You are beautiful, young, and have a wonderful smile...You can give lots of happiness to your family...
The main "ingredient" of the recipes for life now is to find a husband who will never divorce you...Estee has evidently found that recipe in her kitchen, and you certainly ought to have a copy of it!..
Thanks, Lia....
Id love to see a video from you about how to pick the right man who supports your path of being a traditional wife.
Yes I am planing to do a video on that soon 😊
So true!! 👏🏼🤍
Hey honey are you aware that by posting on UA-cam and TikTok you are are technically being an “influencer” which is considered a job, especially since you are using social media to influence a way of life on people that actually tells you NOT to have a job, this is just hilarious and hypocritical
I reallyyy miss the long therm financial stability
It might be easier to meet a provider man in college than elsewhere.
You can be a trad wife and pursue college girlies. If anything ever happens between you and your husband you have your education behind you.
i have no problem with any woman wanting to be a tradition wife, as long as she is a mother. its not really traditional that woman dont work, even while being moms. especially if the family has their own business. all through history women worked. its only in the last century that women were afforded the opportunity en mass to just stay home and be a house wife. but starting in the 60's women started going back to work and inflation countered that. so in these recent years, being a stay at home wife is not at all the same to being a stay at home mom. as stated previously, almost all moms worked at home cuz almost all of their works was the shop out front or the farm, etc etc where they were able to take care of the home, and the kids. dont kid yourselves feminists that are going to say it, of course the men helped. once again, only recently did only men go off to work while only women stayed home. thats a new thing, not a traditional thing, get over yourselves. only royalty was able to do otherwise. ur not royalty so shut up about it.
great advice. does your husband have a channel?
Oh hey your dress matches the bedding 😋🩷
You remind me of Mrs Midwest
Both Disney vibes.💕
i’m glad you’re happy with your role but i wish you would just promote college for young women instead of just saying neither choice is better. education is always better than no education even if you’re looking to be a stay at home wife.
Can you give some advices to older women that want to do this life style as well.
This option is definitely a blessing....wish more people made this normal and it was an option for those who desire....I know of some who would make amazing stay at home wives but unfortunately no marriage prospects so they are left to join the career trail. Kudos to those who do both. I wish someone had left me to my dreams of being a stay at home mom like my grandmother and not pushing being a career boss babe. Let your children choose but give them wisdom when choosing.
Go to a good church. There's good men at church singles night
If you love school and want to go to university, I recommend you get a degree that has family-friendly hours such as teaching (if you are motivated to do so). I have friends in nursing too, and they've been able to step out of their careers and then back in after years of being homemakers. There are probably many other career paths that will allow time out without you losing the value of your education. The biggest thing is to avoid college debt at all costs because you don't want to start marriage with that hanging over you and your husband. It will make it harder to run your family on 1 or 1.5 salaries.
As a nurse, that was my own experience too. Teaching, however, is really only family friendly once the kids are in school. During the infant and preschool years, not so much.
@@monicalong1371Agreed. But if you intend to be a SAHM, particularly in the early years, it's not too hard to make your way back into education if/when it's the right choice for your family. You might need to take a test or apply to update your certificate, but getting into the classroom won't be hard.
Also you do have a career in a way because your online your an influencer. So that's something you can do from home. Will you be a family vlog channel once you have children?