I’m 18 single, and and you’ve helped inspire me to not be afraid of my feminine energy, I’ve been wearing dresses and lot more and wearing pink, I haven’t left like a princess since I was 5. I’m planning a hair care routine soon too ☺️ Love you!
Awesome! Just remember femininity needs to be more than external(external is important too, for sure), just keep in mind there's more to being a woman than how you look😉
I'm still pretty young engineering student but I've put a lot of effort in dressing feminine. Even though I haven't had success in getting approached by a man, I've noticed all of my relationships (whether it be family or acquaintances) have improved. People enjoy my company and I'm grateful to God for it.
I do consider myself masculine, I don't have a degree because it nevere interested me because 1. Debt And 2. I like to use my brain and muscle to figure things out and then when the engineer comes and asks: 'how did you do that?' To shrug my shoulders say: 'dunno!' And laugh on the inside as they are figuring things out backwards of what I just did. An engineer makes more than what I make, I do not have any illusion about that, but the vast majority of content and masculine men make what I make, sometimes less. If you come with a high earning job or a higher education most men (especially the self content ones) will leave you in a ditch. It's not that they're insecure or trying to control you its more that they see themselves as the giver and you as the receiver and beautifier. So if you put yourself into a situation where you outeducate almost any man, the pool of dateable men shrinks. Until the quality of men goes down and you end up with someone who is the equivalent of the lonely old cat lady. Listen to Estee, she knows what she's talking about and as every video I've seen of her: spot on!👌
@@jamesdelmontegermanonthemo9711 I am from a low income family with a dead father. Engineering is my sole window out of poverty. Im not going to school with dating marketplace power dynamics in my mind, I’m going to school to save my family. I know that it’s a risk considering your arguments, but I don’t want to burden my husband with financial matters concerning my immediate family, turning him into a cash cow.
I love tip #6. It is so encouraging and refreshing to hear from someone else that it is good and okay for a young single woman to live at home and be dependent on her family for food and shelter when our society today pushes independence on young people (and I feel like especially on women) so incredibly hard. Living at home does not mean being only a consumer in your family. You can practice your homemaking skills and really bless the family by helping out around the house, cooking meals, baking goodies, and things like that. Then they will be sad when you do eventually leave the nest.
This! I lived at home with my parents until I got married. I was working (part time and definitely NOT enough to cover the bills. Otherwise I probably would have tried to get my own place), going to college, and helping my parents with a lot of housework..... they miss me. I try to visit them every week. I love Estee. She's a great role model for women of all ages. ❤
I completely agree with this! I actually found it so odd when the people I knew at 18 were getting roommates and living in apartments and working 40 plus hours and going to school when they had beautiful homes and such amazing parents! It’s almost looked at as “ un cool” my parents just wanted me to be home and do my chores at home, have a part time job and had free time to figure out who I was. It’s nice to hear someone agree with this!
Yes! My parents have always encouraged my sisters and I to stay at home! The day may come that we move out on our own if we never get married, but they have also told us that living at home, especially if you are working part or full time, will also allow us to save money which can later be put towards a future wedding, house, or just as a nest egg for marriage or even possibly living on our own in the future.
Or you can just be who you ever you are and be a woman. Yeah these tips logically will help you catch more eyes. But you need to be you. Womanhood is not a pink frilly characature. Womanhood can be anything women want it to be. Including "man-jobs" if they so choose. Also doctors take care of people but they all used to be men. Is being a doctor a man job or a woman job. There is nothing more empowering than women being true to themselves.
@@jessicamessica2271why can’t you all choose outside jobs? You the blue collar jobs men do where women are less than 5%. It’s always about status with you fefail wahmxnists.
@@jessicamessica2271it wouldn’t matter what this lovely lady said you would still come back with your triggered answer.As long as you have that chip on your shoulder you will just be a nasty unhappy wench. Your words just seethe with discontent and malice.
@@fauxbro1983 wait…is she? so is she not actually married? I do recall seeing her husband and children in one of her clips🤔 Does she not actually lead the life that she talks about; does she not actually practice what she preaches? If you can prove otherwise, then how can I not believe you?🤷🏼
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I consider myself a masculine traditional valued man and have no idea how I came across this page. But everything your saying is 100% what's men want and sadly rarely ever find today. You will bring your husband unending happiness with your mindset and it will result in a prosperous and happy marriage. I commend you and encourage you to never let anyone keep you from speaking the truth and calling out the flaws in our modern society.
You are so right! This is always how I always attracted men. I was raised to let them come to me, not chase them. I always dressed nicely and smiled. I was genuinely happy to meet people.
I love this!!! I was raised this way too! My dad always told me I wouldn’t need to chase a man. He told me as long as I act like a lady men will be gentleman towards me. I like that you mention you were happy to meet people. Being open minded is so important in the dating world too 😊
being in shape, dressed feminine and smiling goes such a long way! It attracts a man and shows him that a) you are confident in a relaxed way and b) you would enjoy interacting with him. Both are massive green flags. For sure, only few might approach. Especially if you are not so or very attractive. But these men are more likely the right ones you are looking for. They love a) confident and b) interested women and leave the others alone.
I found this super refreshing as it’s so rare to speak of these qualities in the mainstream. Number 4 was really spot on and very overlooked. I’m a preschool teacher, Montessori, and unfortunately that method and training is quite masculine and even I feel I have to tap into my masculinity to be that kind of teacher. That said, I feel professions really matter when it comes to the sexes.. Number 1 was everything! ATTRACT not pursue… And the last one about being dependent really hit me deep. I’ve been so focused on being independent my entire life and it was really softening to hear that. Thank you for your bravery to share your wisdom on this topic. 😊😊😊 It’ll be mainstream soon enough! ;)
I’m a preschool teacher as well and am wondering why you feel the method and training is masculine? I feel that teaching children is very much feminine.
As a high school boy soon to graduate, I definitely notice that as I age, I slowly want a more and more feminine girlfriend just as the girls slowly want someone more and more masculine, not yet being ready for hyper-masculine earlier in life though. I do greatly thank you though for trying to preserve the balance of male and female in relationships for the women I may meet later in life!
I am in my late 50s. I am witnessing the trends go full-circle from when I was raised by my mom and dad. This is really quite welcome and refreshing! Wishing you all the best, young man
This is a great comment and I think you nailed it when you said as you age you want a more feminine girlfriend. I think that’s totally healthy and a normal part of getting older. I too remember when I was in highschool the “bad boy” type my friends hyped up just wasn’t that ideal I wanted someone who would be nice and treat me great and still be protective. I’m so happy to hear younger people say they want this still!! Thanks for coming onto my channel 😄
Solid advice. As a man I can tell you that Femininity is a Super Power, and many young woman don’t know this. . . And come across acting and looking like teenage boys.
That may be but there equally aren't enough men to be in healthy masculinity. It's a two way street of social evolution. You can't have one without the other.
Die hard tomboy here. I can't be like this even if I tried, but some of this advice is pretty good. I started wearing make up every day, dressing decent (nice sweater or top, with slacks or jeans, the odd time a skirt or dress even) and I avoid wearing jogging pants, a part from rare occaisions. It really does feel great. People treat you better and even the kids have a different opinion of you. It's nice to be classy. Learning how to cook, and home make (gardening, canning, preserving etc) is a necessity if you want to eat healthy too. I hate being in the kitchen but I like being healthy more. Working out is essential for stress reduction as well. We aren't that different after all. There is nothing wrong with bringing out the feminine side.
Oh yeah this cracked me up. I was a teacher. Choose jobs that keep you in your nurturing feminine energy lmao. That's terrible advice. Choose a job you actually like doing for one. And she may like to know that for a long time teaching was only for men. And there were male doctors before nurses. Being a doctor is a desirable job in a male partner. And what's more nurturing than caring for the ill. Also being a teacher litterally requires you to master the ability to exert dominance while still being friendly and nurturing. It is a very DOMINANT LEADERSHIP role. more than any typical male job. Your basically a micro monarch. I also know women who followed zero of these rules and got a provider man.
@@jessicamessica2271being a nurse or a teacher we can agree can’t be very stressful depending on the work environment but they can also be a career that allows you to be nurturing while making 6 figures. I really think her point was that there are jobs that are more conducive to expressing femininity. That being said I believe that it has more to do with ones mindset. In other words you can be a CEO who is feminine and nurturing. It’s a personality type. I’ve had teachers and nurses who were not at all feminine or nurturing.
Seconded! Hope Estee stays and continues to be one of the brightest most sensible positive female influencers on youtube!!! You're changing lives Estee, and giving women an ideal role model to emulate in todays shattered dating scene. We need you here, your wisdom, bravery, and lovely example.
I love the bit about smiling. My husband said he liked my smile when we met and that i seemed pleasant. I never had a shortage of men asking me out following these tips. It did, however, take me moving out of Southern California to meet a decent man. The men there were so used to loose, beautiful women throwing themselves at them that they had largely lost their desire to have a marriage and family.
@@kc6810 People don't usually flip switches. They either lie about who they are or the victims ignore the warning signs. In most cases of domestic violence the abusers are drunks, junkies, hooligans, criminals, etc or a combination of those and they were like that before they started their relationships. It is these types of people who usually want their partners to not be financially independent. Those who really love their partners would want what's best for them and having a second income is always a good thing for multiple reasons: 1. If 1 income is enough to pay the bills, the second one is 100% profit. 2. If something happens to the working spouse the other can still survive (and support the children) without having to remarry for money. 3. They know they married each other, not the partner's money.
I love that there are women who still like to project a soft, feminine, and traditional energy. 👍😄 I'm pretty traditional and feminine myself, and love seeing that it's still appreciated. 😊
it has not stopped being appreciated as its in mens DNA to want it. Its just that the tribe took control of all main levers and are actively undermining our society as its required in their law.
Actually most good men prefer a fairly traditional and especially feminine female energy. It's advocates of feminism, men and women, that hate traditional females like this.
When I was a kid in the 1970’s, you couldn’t even say the word “housewife.” It was so frowned upon. There was the euphemism “homemaker” but it was still not put forth as an option for anyone. I’ve always felt that I mostly have housewife skills & personality. But this was never an acceptable path or choice when I was coming of age. I really appreciate the content you’re putting out now. Being a housewife is a really good fit for some women, and it should be a valued & respected lifestyle. Thank you from this GenX girl 🥰
Love the video Estee! I’m a fellow Christian “trad wife” who also loves vintage so your style really appeals to me. My husband and I were actuallly just having a conversation today about the current dating culture and how all the advice single men and women are getting these days is just awful. It just seems to lead to loneliness or very unhealthy relationships. I do however see an uprise is women and men wanting to return to this way of life. Especially, after having children.
I’m starting to see a shift for the better as well! I think because of the upside down way so many people lived their life there was a huge hunger for a more simple life which is why many took to the internet to speak of traditional values and the blessing it is. Thank you for this comment I love finding more Tradwives ❤️❤️❤️
on point! as a masculine man i will says you are 100% right in your tips! really enjoying this content and happy to know there is still womans like you!
As a man, I can say these things are very attractive to us. I have found that modern woman give off a “do not approach” vide very often. A masculine man will approach a woman, but will be a gentleman and not approach if she gives off leave me alone energy.
Yes Ma'am. A woman that truly carries herself knowing she is a LADY. Men respect the Lady that respects herself, dresses nicely and modestly, and cares for her good health. Nice dresses, no smoking, cultured and 'classy', while still being fun and (seemingly) carefree. It's good to remember 'Traditional Family' values have worked well for Tens of Thousands of Years ! 😀
Number 4 is truly the way. Before my current job (Disability support worker where I predominantly care for elderly woman) I was working in architecture where my boss was overbearing and harsh. I am so thankful to God that I am out of that job now and the only man I will need to submit to is my husband (he is loving, responsible, wise and kind, and wants the best for me. That’s the best thing for me!) Once we have children I’ll be purely a stay at home wife and mum. Being trad is the way to go! Thank you for your content and I’m so happy you are posting again!
This charming and elegant woman is so much the polar opposite of the Blue-Haired People attempting to dictate our society and culture, I'm thinking of hiring her to cohost my channel... God bless you and your husband, Estee!
Even though I do not relate from the Christian point of view, there is something so relieving and makes me feel at peace about these values. I love homemaking, looking beautiful and providing in that type of way. It feels very natural. In a world that is overly stressed out by unfulfilling jobs/roles, I feel that embracing our natural masculine/feminine nature is honestly a breath of fresh air!❤
@@ssgringuebergI respect the way you worded that. It's refreshing to hear someone who doesn't live a particular lifestyle still respect someone else's choices.
I agree with some of this, I definitely believe EVERY woman should have marketable skills, it’s fine to be a stay at home wife and or mother but if something happens a woman should be prepared to stand on her own 2 feet, no I’m not a feminist ( far from it 😂) I am a Pentecostal woman and we only wear dresses and skirts and most of my church friends are stay at home wives or mothers ( I am a nurse) in most of their lives I see the potential for problems if their husband dies or gets too sick to provide, most of them do not have a skill to support them if need be😊
I will marry Prince Charming next September and all your tips did sound familiar ! I guess it is my time to contribute : *1° Learn how to walk with heals* : this is a special skill that requires some training to be comfortable and look elegant (if you don't train, you will look heavy and clumsy on top of having sore feet and a backache). You need to extend your back as if you were aiming for the sky with your head, and you have to walk on the tip of your toes. You can look up some ballet tutorials on UA-cam to strengthen your feet and ankles. *2° Learn how to move gracefully in a dress* : my fiancé loves the way I gather my long dresses to climb up or down the stairs, and how I adjust the position of my knee-length ones to cover my knees when they move. It is a small habit to make that gives you this extra natural feminine touch.
Men y’all need to make sure you are being masculine. Working out, taking care of you body and health too. Also opening doors for the women in your life wether it’s your sister, mom and especially your woman! The list can go on and on! I love the video baby ❤️
While I fully agree with you, in the age of dating apps and hookup culture, no one knows how to approach anyone anymore and it's just sad. Men are also afraid to walk up to a woman in case she accuses him of assault or being a creep.
It’s sadly true. We are losing the social skills we once had and if a man asks a girl on proper date than they freak out like he just asked to marry them. Then some of these same women don’t understand why all the hear is “let’s hangout!”
@savannahtollison4425 I agree. And because a lot of women put out right away, no man even cares to get to know you unless you'll let him inside your pants because that's what they're used to. All this modern stuff has made it really challenging for us more traditional ladies.
Hi Estee! I love your content and everything that you are representing, I am working to become a more traditional Christian wife and you were one of the first women who sparked this for me, so I appreciate your boldness, tact and honesty ❤ Estee, I do respectfully disagree about nursing as one of the jobs where you can maintain your femininity and peace...I have been a registered nurse for almost 7 years now, but before that I had been a homemaker and stay at home mom since I was married at 19 and became a mother at 21... while in nursing school, I was surrounded by mostly women, who were far too masculine acting, femininity was not a thing but feminism was... I'm not saying that there aren't feminine women who are nurses but you won't often find yourself in good (or much) company if you have feminine views or traditional views/values. Speaking as a wife, I feel that being a nurse and the entire model of todays nursing jobs and workforce of nurses as a whole, in general: nursing schools, healthcare employers of all kinds, work week hours/structure of work week for nurses, the politics involved, the undercurrents involved, all of it, it undermines the foundation of a traditional nuclear family in more ways than just removing the wife and mother from the home, the attitudes that are involved in the field of nursing do not cultivate outcomes favorable for being a traditional wife. I could keep going on but I really just don't want any other women to think that it's a "safe" job for guarding your femininity and your role in a traditional marriage as a wife, because it's not. Otherwise, I love your content and everything you share is wonderful so please keep doing what you are doing ❤
Yanno (about to get real personal here) when I was in the psych hospital there were several nurses that exuded femininity and kindness. I remember one specific nurse very fondly. She was an older Mennonite nurse and every time she came to give me my medicine in the early morning she would sit down on the edge of the bed and take the time to talk to me for a few minutes. I was struggling and she held my hand, and rubbed my back while I cried despite the encouragement to not show affection within that setting. I think it depends on the type of nursing you go into. She was a true blessing.
Honestly I would not suggest any career that is female dominated. There’s too much miserable women at 9-5s. A lot of masculine women who have given up there feminity and if they see a feminine women they will absolutely bully her. I feel like I have lost a part of my feminity after joining the workforce and having to constantly be on edge and having to adopt masculine traits to defend myself from other women who are miserable.
I agree with your entire list. Altho I do have my own apartment, its a tiny studio mainly so I could/can grew into being a better woman. You are awesome💯
Thank you Estee for these valuable tips! I love when you say that we should be happy with ourselves in the single period and pray for the right man to come into our life. I believe in a faithful God and that this is the basis for a happy marriage. ❤
I’m happy you enjoyed the video! I believe we don’t need to be in that wanting a man phase while preparing to be a wife. We can prepare to be a good wife while being content being alone and single until the right man comes ❤️
Point 1 & 3 is so true. I’ve had single friends that are a great catch that struggled to meet someone. I think because they were perusing men and not happy single, it made them come across as desperate. The moment they gave up and decided to focus on their own wellbeing, they attracted men without trying. Men are attracted to a happy woman.
we are very attracted to happy women and so dress really feminine as we first see the beauty and then think oh her nurturing instincts must be high and so i have a good chance of creating a successful family. Never say to a man that i don't cook as you want me in the kitchen bare foot and pregnant. you will immediately be banned as wife material by top end men and moved into pump and dump category. A woman that can cook provides two very important things to attract men. she provides nutritious food to his future children so they grow up strong, smart and healthy and a meal made for a man makes him feel appreciated. that's our form of flowers and jewelry. All the best.
Problem with a lot of those jobs like caring for many kids or challenging kids or nursing is that they are mega stresful jobs só despiste being in the care industry it put you in a hard hustle energy to make through each day. My sister working in an office has moe peaceful energy than me working w 30 kids c😢
My cousin is a primary school teacher (6-7 yr olds) and she is burnt out! Today's kids are a tough lot to deal with. She is a kind, patient female and she has been spit on, told to f-off, had her computer knocked off her desk, and has to deal with kids running around shoeless or with no pants on. I feel for her. Kids aren't being taught basic manners and respect anymore. Really unfortunate for those in the teaching profession if their classes have a lot of these kinds of kids. She is permanently exhausted.
Also nerdy ladies there is hope out there! I met my fiance in a dungeons and dragons group. I feel so lucky that I found a provider man who is interested in the same things as I am. It's rare to find a masculine nerd but they do exist.
The field I am going into is mainly male-dominated (computer science/engineering) but I would say I am pretty feminine myself. While I wouldn’t want to be a trad wife, this is a pretty cool video regardless because it gives some great tips for meeting a future romantic partner! Thanks for the advice, Estee, I wish you nothing but peace and prosperity! And to everyone live your life the way you want to! Just do what makes you happy! Love you all. 😊🌸⭐️
Estee.Some perspectives from me ( a man) You can also seek out men actively. You are not a masculine woman, but very feminine. When you would take the initiative, men wouldn't see that as 'masculine', because you are just hyper feminine, you know. Although you probably wont do that, cause most woman dont take the initiative. This only happend once to me, that a woman took the innitative I dont think men will approach you in the gym etc, because they dont want to come across as PUA's. And they are scared of a feminism, and being seen as 'toxic masculine'. Being on a dating app is saver. I agree, being able to be content without a man is important About the job. You are a very feminine woman. When you would do a 'maculine' job, you would still be feminine. And a masculine woman that works as a nanny, is still a masculine woman. Its more about the energy and appearance, that is what makes you feminine. If you would be a football player, you would still be feminine, and men would feel attracted to you.
I feel like that's true. In fact science has proved that it's actually women who usually make the first move with suddle body language cues. Most men are far more likely to approach a women if she has given off subconscious cues she finds him attractive or interesting. I've also made the move to strike up talking to plenty of boys randomly who took a shine to me. Sometimes I was interested, sometimes I was just being friendly. But I feel like your drastically decreasing your odds by waiting only for men to approach you. If your a pretty woman, men will like it if you come up and talk to them lol.
@@jessicamessica2271 Yes, someone has told woman that its not ok when they apporach a man. That they are than seen as 'slut'. This is not the case. I dont know who told you this ?
@tobiastobias2419 who the heck said that? I've never heard that. I don't think it's slutty at all. In fact honestly most of the time, i am not interested that way. In some situations I am just being friendly and polite by introducing myself to the people around me. Sometimes I am just bored. And I assume most of the people who stop randomly to talk to me are the same. Obviously it depends on the situation. If it's totally random I can always ask them for help with something and I can usually tell if thier interested. Like omg these cans of beans are so high, how will I ever reach them lmao To me it seems ridiculous to only ever wait for men to talk to you.
@@jessicamessica2271 Yes, so if we really want to stop this whole war between the sexes It would be good if you chicks also talk to men, when you like them. That has nothing to do with 'feminism' or any ism. Although, dont feel obliged offcourse just say hello etc, you know what i mean. Men will feel so honored, you can't even imagine
@tobiastobias2419 yeah. I mean there's sort of a war. I'm more just offended someone said they thought it was "slutty" for women to talk to men. Like what man has that huge ass of an ego that he litterally thinks women want to sleep with them because they said hello to him. It kinda does have to do with feminism because real feminism is just about opportunities for equality. Although alot of people left and right seem to not understand what the word "feminism" actually means. So people misunderstand it. Anyway yeah boys like it if you come by and flirt with them or say hello to them. But feminism is relevant in that it's time to call out gender based double standards. Ie that men can hit on women, but if a woman does it. Dear God call the national guard!
Very well said! And ladies, seriously, don't accept anything less than a good man if you're doing all you can to be a good woman. If you're feminine and approachable, follow the video's advice and you'll find him.
The most important thing is that you want to learn these skills now! With the internet it’s a lot easier too haha I’ve learned so much watching other women ❤
I’m 18 I met my husband, 20 at a bookstore where he helped me reach a book because I’m 4’11. We had a courthouse wedding after about 8 months. He has a full time job and I attend collage. Literally a dream come true, this is some great advice!
I absolutely support you! I’m 58 and I have experienced many years of a career, being a mother , and personally I think families could be happier if they could just roll back their spending and moms could take care of their children without having to work 60 hours a week. Men have become so unmanly and things need to turn around. You are a superhero !
This is great advice! As a man, I can say that I find all these characteristics very attractive in a woman - the kind I would want to marry, as opposed to just dating for 'fun'. I found the advice about 'feminine jobs' particularly smart. What she said about men being attracted to in those roles is very true. An elementary school teacher or a nurse is highly valued by men as she appears both caring and capable to us. Most men are capable of earning enough money to support a family. We look for women who can be supportive partners, and handle those aspects of life that we cannot. The more highly accomplished a man is (professionally), the greater his attraction to feminine women who exude a loving and caring demeanor.
Thank you for all of your wonderful tips, starting with a baseline of embracing femininity really helped me. Previously, before clinging to the feminine, traditional lifestyle I have, I was a trainwreck of a woman to say the least, and am still learning more and more daily about how to adapt to this life I love in a modern society that doesn’t know how to appreciate traditional values. Your teachings are helping women like me every day and I couldn’t appreciate it more. Thank you, Estee 💜😄 keep up the amazing work
This is all great advice. As a man that is looking for a trad girl, I can say that everything Estee mentioned is something I would go for. I'm not super picky about her being in shape as i feel that's something we can work on together, but the feminine energy, dress and demeanor is 100% accurate. I never realized it until she said it but I seem to be more attracted to waitresses and nurses, etc, those fields are for sure attractive. I'm having the flip side issue of this video though.. I can't find these kinds of women anywhere lol. I work a lot so I'm limited to the internet for the time being. Do you know where these kinds of women hang out online?
So much truth here.....don't know how many times I have opened the door or held the door open for women only to have them not even acknowledge me let alone say thank you. By the same token I don't know how many doors I have had slam in my face even though I was literally rigth behind a woman, I am always conscious of if someone is behind me when I am going out or walking through a door so that I could hold it open for the next person man or woman, I hardly ever receive the same consideration.
I agree. I opened the door for a lady not long ago at a small mechanic shop. She didn't even acknowledge me and walked directly to the check-in counter (about 15ft from the door). I honestly probably would have insisted she go right ahead in front of me, but I didn't get the chance to offer.
As a man, its real simple, most men want peace in their life. If you can bring harmony into the household and feed him well, you’ll be wearing a ring with a pretty rock.
You are an amazing woman, your husband should consider himself to be the luckiest man in the world 🌎 as you are so refreshing and down to earth to listen too. In this world of so many Girl boss feminist you are so different and beautiful compared to all of them! Loved your video! Absolutely perfect! May the lord bless you and protect you as I wish more woman would follow your advice, it’s spot on!
Wonderful tips! One that is crucial is surrounding yourself with women that have the same standards and morals as yourself. Unfortunately, there are many women that live the party lifestyle and will derail the family lifestyle you are seeking.
I am a firstborn daughter to a workin class Asian family, I was born with a burden on my shoulders to make my family's life better. It's been hard to embrace femininity with the huge expectations put on my shoulders. I love channel like yours exists, it makes me feel good and help me embrace my feminine side as I heal from the broken heart growing up with fucked culture. Thank you Estee, youre so sweet, please keep up the good work youre doing. God bless you❤❤❤❤
Thank you very much for sharing the art of being debonair gracious ,lovely is wise and rare now days. I love this channel encouraging women who love traditional ways & embrace their femininity 🙏❤️✝️💃✨️💄
I traveled across the US to go to a Christmas party for a boy who was a jerk to me the whole time. My husband met me at the Christmas party, told his buddy he was going to marry me, and then asked me out the following day. I love him so much ❤😭
100% agree. Actually, living at home and being dependant makes you more attractive to men. And while I agree that men are attracted to the jobs mentioned, It is also a good idea to have a job working behind a counter, as a cashier, for example, in retail or service, where many customers come and go throughout the day. You will be on display so that men who are looking can find you, and you will be a captive audiance, making men more willing to take a risk asking you out.
I’m glad you are telling young women to embrace their femininity Estee.And the messages you get from angry feminist.Wear them like are badges of honour.✌️💪👨👩👦👦
I’m in literal awe I’m so glad you exist .Catching up on your previous videos. I knew this is how I wanted to live my life, however the guilt to work from society just took over. I’m a Muslim women so literally everything you mention resonates with me . Respect to your religion and family . ❤
What a sweetie you are, Estee. I'm a conservative guy and I love Trad women like this. So refreshing to find authentically conservative women who respect their man and want to please him. That inspires me to do the same for her. We need to get back to family and loyalty to each other in a relationship. 1950's moral values - YES !
I met my husband when I was a newly divorced, single mom, party girl. He could see I was a good mom and wanted to provide. Now I'm a stay at home wife and homeschool mom. I'm a super girly girl but was definitely in my fight if flight masculine mode at that time, so don't feel I was attracting a provider. But I definitely recognized him as a super sweet provider type let him put me in this feminine relaxed era of my life. Recognize a truly sweet man when you see him.
Perfect video but I have one item which many (informed) men will see differently. Nursing is one of the top fields where women end up cheating on their man. Many good guys will not date nurses/doctors, flight attendants, females in the legal field, etc. It's not a 'working professional' thing but a statistical thing. Men and women have to minimize their risk when selecting a mate.
Yes. Stay away from nursing, etc. These women will turn you against men. Statistics show that the most difficult divorced women are teachers, nurses, university graduates, and stay at home wives. ( Comes from divorce attorneys. )
First part is wrong at it's basis. Women can approach guys, it's not a crime. Don't let other people explain you, what you should and shouldn't do. Use your brain and own consciousness.
I was with you up until the “get a feminine job” tip. Nannying, babysitting, teaching, and nursing are some of the lowest paid jobs precisely because they are female dominated. Also, they come with a share of long hours of unpaid labor that make it hard to implement some of your other (valid) suggestions such as meal prepping, staying fit, putting time into your appearance, and being social. Perhaps encouraging women that there’s a way to be feminine in any profession they enjoy might be better for our world and our women.
I'm not sure there is a way to be feminine in any profession a person enjoys. There is a reason many careers are dominated by men; it's because they require competition, command, and all the hard things that will make a woman masculine over time
Sitting around and waiting for a man to approach you might not always work. For example, if I don’t make any move, it’s only black men (not my type at all) who will approach me. When I make the first move, I can get a white partner easy. Sometimes they type you want is what you have to pursue
As a man wearing a dress is one of the best tips If your trying to be a beautiful graceful and joyful woman who's comfortable in your femininity it will be a good step forward
God brought a super special woman into my life, im so grateful and thankful. Normally im a empath, but after divorcing my ex, i have learned more about myself and now i learning how to be more masculine.
I’m a female in the trades and couldn’t imagine being a housewife (my husband just recently became disabled and has to stay home now), but I highly appreciate how respectful you are with your views. Also as a Christian female, I see so many women bashing on other women for making their own choices with their lives. Wanna be a SAHM? Go for it! Want a career? Go for it!
I was corporate for 2 years and hated every minute of it. Luckily I met the love of my life, my soulmate, and I because a SAHM after we had a long discussion on it before we decided to get engaged. I am so sorry for your situation and we both have life and disability insurance just for that. I want to believe that nothing bad will ever happen to us but I just have to be realistic.
I am working and studying in the law field and that means I’m very different at work and at home and in my personal life. I’ve also learned that no matter what job you do, you can absolutely do it from your feminine energy! It will inform why and how you do things!
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I’m 18 single, and and you’ve helped inspire me to not be afraid of my feminine energy, I’ve been wearing dresses and lot more and wearing pink, I haven’t left like a princess since I was 5. I’m planning a hair care routine soon too ☺️ Love you!
You can do it! You are beautiful! Keep on finding your femininity
As a man, i can confirm that's attractive.
Good luck Dear
How have people changed their behaviour around you
Aww this warms my heart! Thank you for sharing that!! I’m so happy I’ve inspired you and thank you for watching my videos ❤
Awesome!
Just remember femininity needs to be more than external(external is important too, for sure), just keep in mind there's more to being a woman than how you look😉
I'm still pretty young engineering student but I've put a lot of effort in dressing feminine. Even though I haven't had success in getting approached by a man, I've noticed all of my relationships (whether it be family or acquaintances) have improved. People enjoy my company and I'm grateful to God for it.
Interesting
Engineering? Nice!
And the right man will come at the right time. Trust in God's plan for you
I do consider myself masculine, I don't have a degree because it nevere interested me because 1. Debt
And 2. I like to use my brain and muscle to figure things out and then when the engineer comes and asks: 'how did you do that?' To shrug my shoulders say: 'dunno!' And laugh on the inside as they are figuring things out backwards of what I just did.
An engineer makes more than what I make, I do not have any illusion about that, but the vast majority of content and masculine men make what I make, sometimes less.
If you come with a high earning job or a higher education most men (especially the self content ones) will leave you in a ditch. It's not that they're insecure or trying to control you its more that they see themselves as the giver and you as the receiver and beautifier. So if you put yourself into a situation where you outeducate almost any man, the pool of dateable men shrinks. Until the quality of men goes down and you end up with someone who is the equivalent of the lonely old cat lady.
Listen to Estee, she knows what she's talking about and as every video I've seen of her: spot on!👌
@@jamesdelmontegermanonthemo9711 I am from a low income family with a dead father. Engineering is my sole window out of poverty. Im not going to school with dating marketplace power dynamics in my mind, I’m going to school to save my family. I know that it’s a risk considering your arguments, but I don’t want to burden my husband with financial matters concerning my immediate family, turning him into a cash cow.
I love tip #6. It is so encouraging and refreshing to hear from someone else that it is good and okay for a young single woman to live at home and be dependent on her family for food and shelter when our society today pushes independence on young people (and I feel like especially on women) so incredibly hard. Living at home does not mean being only a consumer in your family. You can practice your homemaking skills and really bless the family by helping out around the house, cooking meals, baking goodies, and things like that. Then they will be sad when you do eventually leave the nest.
This! I lived at home with my parents until I got married. I was working (part time and definitely NOT enough to cover the bills. Otherwise I probably would have tried to get my own place), going to college, and helping my parents with a lot of housework..... they miss me. I try to visit them every week. I love Estee. She's a great role model for women of all ages. ❤
The people who say that are against women and their safety.
I completely agree with this! I actually found it so odd when the people I knew at 18 were getting roommates and living in apartments and working 40 plus hours and going to school when they had beautiful homes and such amazing parents! It’s almost looked at as “ un cool” my parents just wanted me to be home and do my chores at home, have a part time job and had free time to figure out who I was. It’s nice to hear someone agree with this!
@Faithandflowers, Those are excellent points!!!
Yes! My parents have always encouraged my sisters and I to stay at home! The day may come that we move out on our own if we never get married, but they have also told us that living at home, especially if you are working part or full time, will also allow us to save money which can later be put towards a future wedding, house, or just as a nest egg for marriage or even possibly living on our own in the future.
I'm glad that there are women who still want to be in their feminine energy. This is refreshing. Thank you Estee.😊
I’m definitely seeing more and more men and women talk of femininity and masculinity and I’m all here for it! 😀
The fact that it's surprising for a woman to want to be in here feminine energy.
Or you can just be who you ever you are and be a woman. Yeah these tips logically will help you catch more eyes. But you need to be you.
Womanhood is not a pink frilly characature. Womanhood can be anything women want it to be. Including "man-jobs" if they so choose. Also doctors take care of people but they all used to be men. Is being a doctor a man job or a woman job.
There is nothing more empowering than women being true to themselves.
@@jessicamessica2271why can’t you all choose outside jobs? You the blue collar jobs men do where women are less than 5%. It’s always about status with you fefail wahmxnists.
@@jessicamessica2271it wouldn’t matter what this lovely lady said you would still come back with your triggered answer.As long as you have that chip on your shoulder you will just be a nasty unhappy wench. Your words just seethe with discontent and malice.
Protect this QUEEN at all cost!💯 Your dignity , grace, and wisdom are appreciated Ms. Williams. God bless you.
Mrs.Williams
bruh she's a grifter.
@@fauxbro1983 even if she is shes still right about everything
@@fauxbro1983 wait…is she? so is she not actually married? I do recall seeing her husband and children in one of her clips🤔 Does she not actually lead the life that she talks about; does she not actually practice what she preaches? If you can prove otherwise, then how can I not believe you?🤷🏼
@@tarusbriggs7415 She is married but has not had kids yet
When counter-culture makes more sense than the current cultural norms!
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00:00 🚺 *To attract a masculine man, focus on receiving their pursuit rather than seeking them out actively.*
00:28 🏢 *Put yourself in social situations where you can be approached, like going to the gym, grocery store, or bookstore.*
01:37 💅 *Being feminine is not just about appearance but also about being peaceful, content without a man, and friendly.*
02:57 🥦 *Take care of your body through good nutrition and regular exercise to maintain a feminine figure.*
04:33 👩⚕️ *Consider feminine jobs like nannying, teaching, or nursing if you want to maintain a nurturing and feminine energy.*
05:57 🍳 *Learn homemaking skills like cooking, cleaning, and home maintenance to be prepared for future roles.*
06:23 🏡 *It's okay to be dependent before marriage, living with parents and having a part-time job is acceptable.*
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I consider myself a masculine traditional valued man and have no idea how I came across this page. But everything your saying is 100% what's men want and sadly rarely ever find today. You will bring your husband unending happiness with your mindset and it will result in a prosperous and happy marriage. I commend you and encourage you to never let anyone keep you from speaking the truth and calling out the flaws in our modern society.
Speak for yourself. You have no idea what anybody other than you wants.
@@nomistrebreh He said masculine men, I concur to that.
@@navsofour2892 ....so what is a "masculine man"?
....so what's a 'masculine man'?
@nomistrebreh Lighten up Francis.
You are so right! This is always how I always attracted men. I was raised to let them come to me, not chase them. I always dressed nicely and smiled. I was genuinely happy to meet people.
Love this!
I love this!!! I was raised this way too! My dad always told me I wouldn’t need to chase a man. He told me as long as I act like a lady men will be gentleman towards me. I like that you mention you were happy to meet people. Being open minded is so important in the dating world too 😊
@@EsteeWilliams : I’m sixty-two now and married for thirty-three years. I call him Captain because he’s the head of our ship.
@@savahbejin7511 aww that’s so cute!! Love it 💕
being in shape, dressed feminine and smiling goes such a long way! It attracts a man and shows him that a) you are confident in a relaxed way and b) you would enjoy interacting with him. Both are massive green flags. For sure, only few might approach. Especially if you are not so or very attractive.
But these men are more likely the right ones you are looking for. They love a) confident and b) interested women and leave the others alone.
I found this super refreshing as it’s so rare to speak of these qualities in the mainstream.
Number 4 was really spot on and very overlooked. I’m a preschool teacher, Montessori, and unfortunately that method and training is quite masculine and even I feel I have to tap into my masculinity to be that kind of teacher. That said, I feel professions really matter when it comes to the sexes..
Number 1 was everything! ATTRACT not pursue…
And the last one about being dependent really hit me deep. I’ve been so focused on being independent my entire life and it was really softening to hear that.
Thank you for your bravery to share your wisdom on this topic. 😊😊😊 It’ll be mainstream soon enough! ;)
Teaching these days is no longer a feminine job!
Thank you so much for commenting this! I’ve been so inspired by the women in my life and online and I love to share the things I’ve learned ❤
I’m a preschool teacher as well and am wondering why you feel the method and training is masculine? I feel that teaching children is very much feminine.
@viciousLUA Try middle school and high...there lies your answer!
@@EsteeWilliamsHi there,Can u share some more recipies please preferably vegetarian meals please?
As a high school boy soon to graduate, I definitely notice that as I age, I slowly want a more and more feminine girlfriend just as the girls slowly want someone more and more masculine, not yet being ready for hyper-masculine earlier in life though. I do greatly thank you though for trying to preserve the balance of male and female in relationships for the women I may meet later in life!
I am in my late 50s. I am witnessing the trends go full-circle from when I was raised by my mom and dad.
This is really quite welcome and refreshing!
Wishing you all the best, young man
This is a great comment and I think you nailed it when you said as you age you want a more feminine girlfriend. I think that’s totally healthy and a normal part of getting older. I too remember when I was in highschool the “bad boy” type my friends hyped up just wasn’t that ideal I wanted someone who would be nice and treat me great and still be protective. I’m so happy to hear younger people say they want this still!! Thanks for coming onto my channel 😄
I’m so, so happy to read this from a young man. It gives me hope for our current and future daughters!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Dear Mrs Williams, you are such a sweetheart, you are m lovely not only on the outside but your heart is in the right place. God bless you.
Solid advice. As a man I can tell you that Femininity is a Super Power, and many young woman don’t know this. . . And come across acting and looking like teenage boys.
Agreed! Femininity is beautiful 🌸
That may be but there equally aren't enough men to be in healthy masculinity. It's a two way street of social evolution. You can't have one without the other.
Yes, a lot of effeminate men @@mjey1
Or maybe they don't want to change who they are
Couldn't agree more.
Die hard tomboy here. I can't be like this even if I tried, but some of this advice is pretty good. I started wearing make up every day, dressing decent (nice sweater or top, with slacks or jeans, the odd time a skirt or dress even) and I avoid wearing jogging pants, a part from rare occaisions. It really does feel great. People treat you better and even the kids have a different opinion of you. It's nice to be classy. Learning how to cook, and home make (gardening, canning, preserving etc) is a necessity if you want to eat healthy too. I hate being in the kitchen but I like being healthy more. Working out is essential for stress reduction as well. We aren't that different after all. There is nothing wrong with bringing out the feminine side.
Being a teacher and nurse are actually quite stressful jobs
Oh yeah this cracked me up. I was a teacher. Choose jobs that keep you in your nurturing feminine energy lmao.
That's terrible advice. Choose a job you actually like doing for one.
And she may like to know that for a long time teaching was only for men. And there were male doctors before nurses. Being a doctor is a desirable job in a male partner. And what's more nurturing than caring for the ill.
Also being a teacher litterally requires you to master the ability to exert dominance while still being friendly and nurturing. It is a very DOMINANT LEADERSHIP role. more than any typical male job. Your basically a micro monarch.
I also know women who followed zero of these rules and got a provider man.
How about therapist (not a crisis worker) or a florist?
they are now because of the collapsing society.
But keep smiling… your sugar daddy can’t see u stressed
@@jessicamessica2271being a nurse or a teacher we can agree can’t be very stressful depending on the work environment but they can also be a career that allows you to be nurturing while making 6 figures. I really think her point was that there are jobs that are more conducive to expressing femininity. That being said I believe that it has more to do with ones mindset. In other words you can be a CEO who is feminine and nurturing. It’s a personality type. I’ve had teachers and nurses who were not at all feminine or nurturing.
She's BACK!! Disregard the HATERS!! WE LOVE YOU, Estee!! Blessings to You and your Family!
Thank you ☺️
Blessings to you and your family as well! 🙏🙏
Seconded! Hope Estee stays and continues to be one of the brightest most sensible positive female influencers on youtube!!! You're changing lives Estee, and giving women an ideal role model to emulate in todays shattered dating scene. We need you here, your wisdom, bravery, and lovely example.
I love the bit about smiling. My husband said he liked my smile when we met and that i seemed pleasant. I never had a shortage of men asking me out following these tips. It did, however, take me moving out of Southern California to meet a decent man. The men there were so used to loose, beautiful women throwing themselves at them that they had largely lost their desire to have a marriage and family.
Nice to know there are actual LADIES that appreciate a Man's natural qualities.🌹
@@kc6810As long as the wife doesn't become a land whale, the marriage is fine.
@@kc6810 People don't usually flip switches. They either lie about who they are or the victims ignore the warning signs. In most cases of domestic violence the abusers are drunks, junkies, hooligans, criminals, etc or a combination of those and they were like that before they started their relationships. It is these types of people who usually want their partners to not be financially independent. Those who really love their partners would want what's best for them and having a second income is always a good thing for multiple reasons:
1. If 1 income is enough to pay the bills, the second one is 100% profit.
2. If something happens to the working spouse the other can still survive (and support the children) without having to remarry for money.
3. They know they married each other, not the partner's money.
I love that there are women who still like to project a soft, feminine, and traditional energy. 👍😄 I'm pretty traditional and feminine myself, and love seeing that it's still appreciated. 😊
Yes Ma'am. A woman that truly carries herself knowing she is a LADY. 100% Top Class! Her respecting herself brings out the best in good men.
it has not stopped being appreciated as its in mens DNA to want it. Its just that the tribe took control of all main levers and are actively undermining our society as its required in their law.
Actually most good men prefer a fairly traditional and especially feminine female energy. It's advocates of feminism, men and women, that hate traditional females like this.
“Feminine, fit, and friendly;” love it! “Have a sense of peace about you.” Also, a great place to be approached is CHURCH!
Great advice from a youth pastor in our church: "Be the person that the person you're looking for is looking for!"
When I was a kid in the 1970’s, you couldn’t even say the word “housewife.” It was so frowned upon. There was the euphemism “homemaker” but it was still not put forth as an option for anyone. I’ve always felt that I mostly have housewife skills & personality. But this was never an acceptable path or choice when I was coming of age. I really appreciate the content you’re putting out now. Being a housewife is a really good fit for some women, and it should be a valued & respected lifestyle. Thank you from this GenX girl 🥰
Love the video Estee! I’m a fellow Christian “trad wife” who also loves vintage so your style really appeals to me. My husband and I were actuallly just having a conversation today about the current dating culture and how all the advice single men and women are getting these days is just awful. It just seems to lead to loneliness or very unhealthy relationships. I do however see an uprise is women and men wanting to return to this way of life. Especially, after having children.
I’m starting to see a shift for the better as well! I think because of the upside down way so many people lived their life there was a huge hunger for a more simple life which is why many took to the internet to speak of traditional values and the blessing it is. Thank you for this comment I love finding more Tradwives ❤️❤️❤️
on point! as a masculine man i will says you are 100% right in your tips! really enjoying this content and happy to know there is still womans like you!
As a man, I can say these things are very attractive to us. I have found that modern woman give off a “do not approach” vide very often. A masculine man will approach a woman, but will be a gentleman and not approach if she gives off leave me alone energy.
How do you avoid giving off that do not approach vibe?
@@goodmorning2386 brief eye contact with a polite smile works.
Yes Ma'am. A woman that truly carries herself knowing she is a LADY. Men respect the Lady that respects herself, dresses nicely and modestly, and cares for her good health. Nice dresses, no smoking, cultured and 'classy', while still being fun and (seemingly) carefree. It's good to remember 'Traditional Family' values have worked well for Tens of Thousands of Years ! 😀
Number 4 is truly the way. Before my current job (Disability support worker where I predominantly care for elderly woman) I was working in architecture where my boss was overbearing and harsh. I am so thankful to God that I am out of that job now and the only man I will need to submit to is my husband (he is loving, responsible, wise and kind, and wants the best for me. That’s the best thing for me!) Once we have children I’ll be purely a stay at home wife and mum. Being trad is the way to go! Thank you for your content and I’m so happy you are posting again!
As a man, I confirm this message. ✔️
Ladies listen to her. This is one of the most graceful charming young ladies I have seen. She oozes feminine wisdom.
Watching this while happily married just to support your channel 😂👏
This charming and elegant woman is so much the polar opposite of the Blue-Haired People attempting to dictate our society and culture, I'm thinking of hiring her to cohost my channel...
God bless you and your husband, Estee!
🥰 Facts. I like her alot.
Even though I do not relate from the Christian point of view, there is something so relieving and makes me feel at peace about these values. I love homemaking, looking beautiful and providing in that type of way. It feels very natural. In a world that is overly stressed out by unfulfilling jobs/roles, I feel that embracing our natural masculine/feminine nature is honestly a breath of fresh air!❤
@@ssgringuebergI respect the way you worded that. It's refreshing to hear someone who doesn't live a particular lifestyle still respect someone else's choices.
I agree with some of this, I definitely believe EVERY woman should have marketable skills, it’s fine to be a stay at home wife and or mother but if something happens a woman should be prepared to stand on her own 2 feet, no I’m not a feminist ( far from it 😂) I am a Pentecostal woman and we only wear dresses and skirts and most of my church friends are stay at home wives or mothers ( I am a nurse) in most of their lives I see the potential for problems if their husband dies or gets too sick to provide, most of them do not have a skill to support them if need be😊
Same here, when I am out in public I wear a dress but when I am cleaning the house alone don’t be surprised if you see me in my bra and panties.
Estee you are gorgeous and a great example for those women who want a traditional life!
I will marry Prince Charming next September and all your tips did sound familiar !
I guess it is my time to contribute :
*1° Learn how to walk with heals* : this is a special skill that requires some training to be comfortable and look elegant (if you don't train, you will look heavy and clumsy on top of having sore feet and a backache). You need to extend your back as if you were aiming for the sky with your head, and you have to walk on the tip of your toes. You can look up some ballet tutorials on UA-cam to strengthen your feet and ankles.
*2° Learn how to move gracefully in a dress* : my fiancé loves the way I gather my long dresses to climb up or down the stairs, and how I adjust the position of my knee-length ones to cover my knees when they move. It is a small habit to make that gives you this extra natural feminine touch.
What if when you get married you’ll scare off your real Prince Charming? Best to wait till you’re 65 just to make sure you exhaust all options 😂
Ma'am your voice is very soothing. You are a paragon of peace and tranquility. God bless you.
I want my future wife to watch this!
Men y’all need to make sure you are being masculine. Working out, taking care of you body and health too. Also opening doors for the women in your life wether it’s your sister, mom and especially your woman! The list can go on and on! I love the video baby ❤️
While I fully agree with you, in the age of dating apps and hookup culture, no one knows how to approach anyone anymore and it's just sad. Men are also afraid to walk up to a woman in case she accuses him of assault or being a creep.
It’s sadly true. We are losing the social skills we once had and if a man asks a girl on proper date than they freak out like he just asked to marry them. Then some of these same women don’t understand why all the hear is “let’s hangout!”
@savannahtollison4425 I agree. And because a lot of women put out right away, no man even cares to get to know you unless you'll let him inside your pants because that's what they're used to. All this modern stuff has made it really challenging for us more traditional ladies.
Estee, you are so refreshing. Your tips are solid. There will be “haters” but don’t doubt for a minute that you’re on the right track! Blessings.f
Thank you so much I really appreciate this and sometimes need to remember this lol ❤
I recently found your channel and I love it, I wanted to say thank you not being afraid to speak your mind. Some of us truly appreciate you.
Hi Estee! I love your content and everything that you are representing, I am working to become a more traditional Christian wife and you were one of the first women who sparked this for me, so I appreciate your boldness, tact and honesty ❤ Estee, I do respectfully disagree about nursing as one of the jobs where you can maintain your femininity and peace...I have been a registered nurse for almost 7 years now, but before that I had been a homemaker and stay at home mom since I was married at 19 and became a mother at 21... while in nursing school, I was surrounded by mostly women, who were far too masculine acting, femininity was not a thing but feminism was... I'm not saying that there aren't feminine women who are nurses but you won't often find yourself in good (or much) company if you have feminine views or traditional views/values. Speaking as a wife, I feel that being a nurse and the entire model of todays nursing jobs and workforce of nurses as a whole, in general: nursing schools, healthcare employers of all kinds, work week hours/structure of work week for nurses, the politics involved, the undercurrents involved, all of it, it undermines the foundation of a traditional nuclear family in more ways than just removing the wife and mother from the home, the attitudes that are involved in the field of nursing do not cultivate outcomes favorable for being a traditional wife. I could keep going on but I really just don't want any other women to think that it's a "safe" job for guarding your femininity and your role in a traditional marriage as a wife, because it's not. Otherwise, I love your content and everything you share is wonderful so please keep doing what you are doing ❤
I agree, in my experience knowing nurses. In the 50s yeah. Today, not so much. Perhaps it would work if you were a school nurse. 🤔
Yanno (about to get real personal here) when I was in the psych hospital there were several nurses that exuded femininity and kindness. I remember one specific nurse very fondly. She was an older Mennonite nurse and every time she came to give me my medicine in the early morning she would sit down on the edge of the bed and take the time to talk to me for a few minutes. I was struggling and she held my hand, and rubbed my back while I cried despite the encouragement to not show affection within that setting. I think it depends on the type of nursing you go into. She was a true blessing.
Honestly I would not suggest any career that is female dominated. There’s too much miserable women at 9-5s. A lot of masculine women who have given up there feminity and if they see a feminine women they will absolutely bully her. I feel like I have lost a part of my feminity after joining the workforce and having to constantly be on edge and having to adopt masculine traits to defend myself from other women who are miserable.
We need more sensible women like you
this woman is a LEGEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with your entire list. Altho I do have my own apartment, its a tiny studio mainly so I could/can grew into being a better woman. You are awesome💯
you’re so beautiful, elegant and kind! i really look up to you and your videos make me feel more prepared for the future ☺️❤️
Sis u are beautiful too❤
@@jenniferibarra7737 thank you so much!
That’s so kind of you to say! Thank you so much! ❤
The most important tip:
Require your daughters watch this queen once a week starting in middle school.
I just woke up, still in bed and your video is the first video recommended to me by UA-cam. Such great advice ❤
Thank you Estee for these valuable tips!
I love when you say that we should be happy with ourselves in the single period and pray for the right man to come into our life. I believe in a faithful God and that this is the basis for a happy marriage. ❤
I’m happy you enjoyed the video! I believe we don’t need to be in that wanting a man phase while preparing to be a wife. We can prepare to be a good wife while being content being alone and single until the right man comes ❤️
@@EsteeWilliams So true! Thanks again so much 💖
Point 1 & 3 is so true. I’ve had single friends that are a great catch that struggled to meet someone. I think because they were perusing men and not happy single, it made them come across as desperate. The moment they gave up and decided to focus on their own wellbeing, they attracted men without trying. Men are attracted to a happy woman.
we are very attracted to happy women and so dress really feminine as we first see the beauty and then think oh her nurturing instincts must be high and so i have a good chance of creating a successful family. Never say to a man that i don't cook as you want me in the kitchen bare foot and pregnant. you will immediately be banned as wife material by top end men and moved into pump and dump category. A woman that can cook provides two very important things to attract men. she provides nutritious food to his future children so they grow up strong, smart and healthy and a meal made for a man makes him feel appreciated. that's our form of flowers and jewelry. All the best.
Problem with a lot of those jobs like caring for many kids or challenging kids or nursing is that they are mega stresful jobs só despiste being in the care industry it put you in a hard hustle energy to make through each day. My sister working in an office has moe peaceful energy than me working w 30 kids c😢
My cousin is a primary school teacher (6-7 yr olds) and she is burnt out! Today's kids are a tough lot to deal with. She is a kind, patient female and she has been spit on, told to f-off, had her computer knocked off her desk, and has to deal with kids running around shoeless or with no pants on. I feel for her. Kids aren't being taught basic manners and respect anymore. Really unfortunate for those in the teaching profession if their classes have a lot of these kinds of kids. She is permanently exhausted.
Also nerdy ladies there is hope out there! I met my fiance in a dungeons and dragons group. I feel so lucky that I found a provider man who is interested in the same things as I am. It's rare to find a masculine nerd but they do exist.
This advice is so sweet and wholesome. ❤
The field I am going into is mainly male-dominated (computer science/engineering) but I would say I am pretty feminine myself. While I wouldn’t want to be a trad wife, this is a pretty cool video regardless because it gives some great tips for meeting a future romantic partner! Thanks for the advice, Estee, I wish you nothing but peace and prosperity! And to everyone live your life the way you want to! Just do what makes you happy! Love you all. 😊🌸⭐️
I’ve been listening to a lot of your videos! You’re spot on with what men want! Speaking from a man’s point of view, you are 100% correct!
Estee.Some perspectives from me ( a man)
You can also seek out men actively. You are not a masculine woman, but very feminine. When you would take the initiative, men wouldn't see that as 'masculine', because you are just hyper feminine, you know. Although you probably wont do that, cause most woman dont take the initiative. This only happend once to me, that a woman took the innitative
I dont think men will approach you in the gym etc, because they dont want to come across as PUA's. And they are scared of a feminism, and being seen as 'toxic masculine'. Being on a dating app is saver.
I agree, being able to be content without a man is important
About the job. You are a very feminine woman. When you would do a 'maculine' job, you would still be feminine. And a masculine woman that works as a nanny, is still a masculine woman.
Its more about the energy and appearance, that is what makes you feminine. If you would be a football player, you would still be feminine, and men would feel attracted to you.
I feel like that's true. In fact science has proved that it's actually women who usually make the first move with suddle body language cues.
Most men are far more likely to approach a women if she has given off subconscious cues she finds him attractive or interesting.
I've also made the move to strike up talking to plenty of boys randomly who took a shine to me. Sometimes I was interested, sometimes I was just being friendly. But I feel like your drastically decreasing your odds by waiting only for men to approach you. If your a pretty woman, men will like it if you come up and talk to them lol.
@@jessicamessica2271 Yes, someone has told woman that its not ok when they apporach a man. That they are than seen as 'slut'.
This is not the case. I dont know who told you this ?
@tobiastobias2419 who the heck said that? I've never heard that.
I don't think it's slutty at all. In fact honestly most of the time, i am not interested that way. In some situations I am just being friendly and polite by introducing myself to the people around me. Sometimes I am just bored. And I assume most of the people who stop randomly to talk to me are the same.
Obviously it depends on the situation. If it's totally random I can always ask them for help with something and I can usually tell if thier interested. Like omg these cans of beans are so high, how will I ever reach them lmao
To me it seems ridiculous to only ever wait for men to talk to you.
@@jessicamessica2271
Yes, so if we really want to stop this whole war between the sexes
It would be good if you chicks also talk to men, when you like them.
That has nothing to do with 'feminism' or any ism.
Although, dont feel obliged offcourse
just say hello etc, you know what i mean. Men will feel so honored, you can't even imagine
@tobiastobias2419 yeah. I mean there's sort of a war. I'm more just offended someone said they thought it was "slutty" for women to talk to men. Like what man has that huge ass of an ego that he litterally thinks women want to sleep with them because they said hello to him.
It kinda does have to do with feminism because real feminism is just about opportunities for equality. Although alot of people left and right seem to not understand what the word "feminism" actually means. So people misunderstand it.
Anyway yeah boys like it if you come by and flirt with them or say hello to them. But feminism is relevant in that it's time to call out gender based double standards. Ie that men can hit on women, but if a woman does it. Dear God call the national guard!
Very well said! And ladies, seriously, don't accept anything less than a good man if you're doing all you can to be a good woman. If you're feminine and approachable, follow the video's advice and you'll find him.
Wish I spent more of my High School years learning to be a homemaker. Trying to learn all those skills now with 2 kids is tough!
Same!
The most important thing is that you want to learn these skills now! With the internet it’s a lot easier too haha I’ve learned so much watching other women ❤
I’m 18 I met my husband, 20 at a bookstore where he helped me reach a book because I’m 4’11. We had a courthouse wedding after about 8 months. He has a full time job and I attend collage. Literally a dream come true, this is some great advice!
I absolutely support you! I’m 58 and I have experienced many years of a career, being a mother , and personally I think families could be happier if they could just roll back their spending and moms could take care of their children without having to work 60 hours a week. Men have become so unmanly and things need to turn around. You are a superhero !
This is great advice! As a man, I can say that I find all these characteristics very attractive in a woman - the kind I would want to marry, as opposed to just dating for 'fun'. I found the advice about 'feminine jobs' particularly smart. What she said about men being attracted to in those roles is very true. An elementary school teacher or a nurse is highly valued by men as she appears both caring and capable to us. Most men are capable of earning enough money to support a family. We look for women who can be supportive partners, and handle those aspects of life that we cannot. The more highly accomplished a man is (professionally), the greater his attraction to feminine women who exude a loving and caring demeanor.
Thank you for all of your wonderful tips, starting with a baseline of embracing femininity really helped me. Previously, before clinging to the feminine, traditional lifestyle I have, I was a trainwreck of a woman to say the least, and am still learning more and more daily about how to adapt to this life I love in a modern society that doesn’t know how to appreciate traditional values. Your teachings are helping women like me every day and I couldn’t appreciate it more. Thank you, Estee 💜😄 keep up the amazing work
This is all great advice. As a man that is looking for a trad girl, I can say that everything Estee mentioned is something I would go for. I'm not super picky about her being in shape as i feel that's something we can work on together, but the feminine energy, dress and demeanor is 100% accurate. I never realized it until she said it but I seem to be more attracted to waitresses and nurses, etc, those fields are for sure attractive. I'm having the flip side issue of this video though.. I can't find these kinds of women anywhere lol. I work a lot so I'm limited to the internet for the time being. Do you know where these kinds of women hang out online?
Your videos might just save the world! Keep up the great advice!!!
So much truth here.....don't know how many times I have opened the door or held the door open for women only to have them not even acknowledge me let alone say thank you. By the same token I don't know how many doors I have had slam in my face even though I was literally rigth behind a woman, I am always conscious of if someone is behind me when I am going out or walking through a door so that I could hold it open for the next person man or woman, I hardly ever receive the same consideration.
I agree. I opened the door for a lady not long ago at a small mechanic shop. She didn't even acknowledge me and walked directly to the check-in counter (about 15ft from the door). I honestly probably would have insisted she go right ahead in front of me, but I didn't get the chance to offer.
@@richhoops2413 in what world is that acceptable behavior?
@@richhoops2413 just want to take a moment to thank my parents for teaching me manners
As a man, its real simple, most men want peace in their life. If you can bring harmony into the household and feed him well, you’ll be wearing a ring with a pretty rock.
You're a rare dimond , beautiful elegant, classy. Please never change ✨️
Wow. How did you get this much wisdom about men. As a guy I'm so glad this video is out there
You are an amazing woman, your husband should consider himself to be the luckiest man in the world 🌎 as you are so refreshing and down to earth to listen too. In this world of so many Girl boss feminist you are so different and beautiful compared to all of them! Loved your video! Absolutely perfect! May the lord bless you and protect you as I wish more woman would follow your advice, it’s spot on!
Estee!!! I’m so glad you are back. I am transitioning into a tradwife and need you girl! Please keep posting videos.
She’s so cool- thank you for tips!! I’m happily married myself but I sent this to my girl who is needing a provider man cuz they are the best 👍😄
As a man I find this so refreshing. You give me hope! I thought women like you were extinct in the west!
Wonderful tips! One that is crucial is surrounding yourself with women that have the same standards and morals as yourself. Unfortunately, there are many women that live the party lifestyle and will derail the family lifestyle you are seeking.
I am a firstborn daughter to a workin class Asian family, I was born with a burden on my shoulders to make my family's life better. It's been hard to embrace femininity with the huge expectations put on my shoulders.
I love channel like yours exists, it makes me feel good and help me embrace my feminine side as I heal from the broken heart growing up with fucked culture. Thank you Estee, youre so sweet, please keep up the good work youre doing. God bless you❤❤❤❤
Thank you very much for sharing the art of being debonair gracious ,lovely is wise and rare now days. I love this channel encouraging women who love traditional ways & embrace their femininity 🙏❤️✝️💃✨️💄
I traveled across the US to go to a Christmas party for a boy who was a jerk to me the whole time. My husband met me at the Christmas party, told his buddy he was going to marry me, and then asked me out the following day. I love him so much ❤😭
She said bookstore! My head snapped up at that word! I have a reason to get more books!
Whoever married this women.....dang!? he's a blessed man alright.
Thank you so much for this lovely advice.
100% agree. Actually, living at home and being dependant makes you more attractive to men. And while I agree that men are attracted to the jobs mentioned, It is also a good idea to have a job working behind a counter, as a cashier, for example, in retail or service, where many customers come and go throughout the day. You will be on display so that men who are looking can find you, and you will be a captive audiance, making men more willing to take a risk asking you out.
So basically just work in terrible “people skilled” job with low pay & lots of physical labor to attract a man? 😂😂😂
I’m glad you are telling young women to embrace their femininity Estee.And the messages you get from angry feminist.Wear them like are badges of honour.✌️💪👨👩👦👦
I’m in literal awe I’m so glad you exist .Catching up on your previous videos. I knew this is how I wanted to live my life, however the guilt to work from society just took over. I’m a Muslim women so literally everything you mention resonates with me . Respect to your religion and family . ❤
What a sweetie you are, Estee. I'm a conservative guy and I love Trad women like this. So refreshing to find authentically conservative women who respect their man and want to please him. That inspires me to do the same for her. We need to get back to family and loyalty to each other in a relationship. 1950's moral values - YES !
I met my husband when I was a newly divorced, single mom, party girl. He could see I was a good mom and wanted to provide. Now I'm a stay at home wife and homeschool mom. I'm a super girly girl but was definitely in my fight if flight masculine mode at that time, so don't feel I was attracting a provider. But I definitely recognized him as a super sweet provider type let him put me in this feminine relaxed era of my life. Recognize a truly sweet man when you see him.
Perfect video but I have one item which many (informed) men will see differently. Nursing is one of the top fields where women end up cheating on their man. Many good guys will not date nurses/doctors, flight attendants, females in the legal field, etc. It's not a 'working professional' thing but a statistical thing. Men and women have to minimize their risk when selecting a mate.
Proof?
Yes. Stay away from nursing, etc. These women will turn you against men. Statistics show that the most difficult divorced women are teachers, nurses, university graduates, and stay at home wives. ( Comes from divorce attorneys. )
Seems like a stereotype thing but what is your source?
You inspire me a lot!💗
First part is wrong at it's basis. Women can approach guys, it's not a crime.
Don't let other people explain you, what you should and shouldn't do.
Use your brain and own consciousness.
I was with you up until the “get a feminine job” tip. Nannying, babysitting, teaching, and nursing are some of the lowest paid jobs precisely because they are female dominated. Also, they come with a share of long hours of unpaid labor that make it hard to implement some of your other (valid) suggestions such as meal prepping, staying fit, putting time into your appearance, and being social. Perhaps encouraging women that there’s a way to be feminine in any profession they enjoy might be better for our world and our women.
I'm not sure there is a way to be feminine in any profession a person enjoys. There is a reason many careers are dominated by men; it's because they require competition, command, and all the hard things that will make a woman masculine over time
Nursing and Teaching are not low paid in Canada
Maybe we should stop seeing jobs as masculine or feminine
(Ignore username I am a woman) these tips where actually very useful. Thank you.
Sitting around and waiting for a man to approach you might not always work. For example, if I don’t make any move, it’s only black men (not my type at all) who will approach me. When I make the first move, I can get a white partner easy. Sometimes they type you want is what you have to pursue
As a man wearing a dress is one of the best tips
If your trying to be a beautiful graceful and joyful woman who's comfortable in your femininity it will be a good step forward
Please do a makeup routine ❤
Sounds about right
Protect this angel !!!
Who knew angels were real.
God brought a super special woman into my life, im so grateful and thankful. Normally im a empath, but after divorcing my ex, i have learned more about myself and now i learning how to be more masculine.
I love your videos Estee thank you.
I’m a female in the trades and couldn’t imagine being a housewife (my husband just recently became disabled and has to stay home now), but I highly appreciate how respectful you are with your views. Also as a Christian female, I see so many women bashing on other women for making their own choices with their lives.
Wanna be a SAHM? Go for it! Want a career? Go for it!
I was corporate for 2 years and hated every minute of it. Luckily I met the love of my life, my soulmate, and I because a SAHM after we had a long discussion on it before we decided to get engaged. I am so sorry for your situation and we both have life and disability insurance just for that. I want to believe that nothing bad will ever happen to us but I just have to be realistic.
What a sweetheart!
I am working and studying in the law field and that means I’m very different at work and at home and in my personal life. I’ve also learned that no matter what job you do, you can absolutely do it from your feminine energy! It will inform why and how you do things!
Yes..Reece Witherspoon exemplified it in the movie Legally Blond!!
Amazing! Well done you're doing good things for this world