We recently did this. We moved closer to my husband's job. Now without the commutes, without the childcare for 2, with healthy home cooking every meal...it honestly doesn't matter that we lost 50% of our income!
Amen! This is what so many 2-income couples miss. Less driving, less eating out or preprepared meals, no maid service, no child care (except occasional babysitters). All the traditional housewife work we’ve outsourced to others. This is not only more expensive, but is also taxable and of lower quality than if you did them yourself (usually).
Great handful of years that I had the privelege. My kids love their schools now but dang it’s expensive. I work just so they can attend because they enjoy it so much. And it’s nice to have some of my own time back too. But I have no regrets about those years at home with them.
You have to be willing to sacrifice for your children and your marriage. Children don’t need separate rooms so you don’t need a bigger house. You don’t need fancy cars so you can buy used. Concentrate on building a loving family rather than a wealthy family.
Yeah ppl need to learn to share & having same bedrooms from your childhood is a great way to do this. One room for the daughters & One room for the sons cuz boys & girls shouldn’t sleeping in one room especially as they grow up.
Hi Estee, my name is Andrea and I want to thank you so much for your videos. You have truly helped me and my family. When I found your channel a few weeks ago, I was working long hours, was coming home in the evening very tired and was not giving my husband and daughter the attention they deserve. Even tough my husband’s salary was enough to support our family, I didn’t feel it was ok for me not to work, somehow society had convinced me that not working would make me a bad example for my daughter. After meeting you, I realized being a homemaker is not a sin, on the contrary, it’s natural. So, I finally quit my job to become one. I now have time to cook healthy meals for my family while listening to my gospel songs and I feel happy, rested and energized. My family is in a much better place now and you truly contributed for that. Thank you so much for being a light in this crazy dark world. God bless you and your husband.
Awww this warms my heart so much to hear this. I’m so happy for you and I am honored I was able to inspire you ❤ even more I’m so happy that you feel at peace with your new position! Blessings to you and your family and thank you so much for making me smile 😊 🥰
Due to a rare condition in pregnancy,we went from 2 incomes to 1 income literally overnight.our biggest blessing is that when we purchased our home I always told my husband let's buy small it's our first home and we should really be buying more of a Rental than a forever home we should buy it based off 1 income just incase anything we're to ever happen financially in the future. After 8 years of infertility, I was finally pregnant and hospitalized for several things. I was like, "Oh goodness, thank goodness 1 income can cover all the necessities and some. Sure, we are a family of 5 in a 2 bed 1 bath, but it's our own home, and I get to raise our babies.its a real blessing
I love this comment! Thank you for sharing that and I love how you see the blessing in your situation…even while your children share a room! Looking back, It really was lovely to share a room with my younger sister. My husband and I also just downsized from our larger home that we rented and we are so happy with the small cozy space we have.
@EsteeWilliams I love that. I will have to say having all the same gender has made it easier staying in our home.i know there will be a time to give them their own space. I am just super grateful that their bond with one another is so tight that even with a bigger home they will still turn to one another.My littles are 4,3&2 so having them so close has been so great.
This is actually really important. But small to begin with and while starting a family. Then trade up later on. Or even choose to stay in the small home and have a happy low debt life and retire early.
@myday2704 the plan is pay it off in 3 or 4 years upgrade have this as a rental and then pay off the upgraded house early as well and just live under budget for travel and experiences so my husband can retire early. I'm optimistic and also very very grateful for everyday
Great video! My husband and I began walking this road nearly 18 years ago and it’s been a tremendous blessing. Our kids are teenagers now and we are so glad we chose to be a one income household. It’s sad that it doesn’t make sense to a number of people, but we wouldn’t change a thing! These are great tips!!
I remember when it was a point of wifely and motherly pride to become expert at budgeting, and to just run a household well. Her fulfillment and happiness were in the way she cared for her family, not in the way her hair, nails, and new clothes looked. She liked looking beautiful too, but her main focus was her family, not herself. Both men and women today generally have a lot of growing up to do in this regard, to get back to the level of maturity most people used to have a couple generations ago. We both need to stop focusing on ourselves, and start thinking of others more. That'll be a good start. Regarding budgeting sufficiently on even a lower income, it's amazing what a couple can do when they put their minds to it. It's amazing what they DID do back in the day!
My husband and I did this exact lifestyle change 18 years ago so I could stay home with our twins. We purposely lived in a cracker-jack box size home so we knew we could live on one income. Could not have asked for a better way to live! As God blessed us with 4 children and steady income increases over the years, we were able to move to a larger house still on 1 income. Just takes a lot less material spending! Started working 2-3 days a week when kids are in middle school and high school to make some "family fun" money.
When my husband and I first got married, we were living in an apartment and told everyone that we were going to buy a house before having kids. But then since the housing market got so high, we decided it was more important to build a family then wait for a house. Fast forward to 5 years later, and we are living in an apartment with 2 kids and have never been happier! I am fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom, and I have really loved it. I get to cook for my family and bake yummy things homemade, make our home clean (it is not always clean but I try), and add some unique touches that I know we all enjoy. It has been my favorite "job" and I truly feel that I was made for it. Our society made me think that being a homemaker was something to be ashamed of since I wasn't working out of the home, but I disagree with that now and think it's one of the most amazing jobs. And going to 1 income is hard at first because we were used to spending money on whatever we wanted, but after setting a budget we have learned to wait to buy things we want at the end of the month if we have money leftover, it's made us appreciate what we already have.
I like how you are able to be respectful to those who may not live this same lifestyle as you, and I think it's great that you encourage people to prioritize family regardless of what kind of job they have. 💕 Another note: Historically, this type of "traditional marriage" was not actually around since the "beginning of time." It really just seems to be what was achievable and common in the 50s and 60s. During the industrial revolution women were working jobs in factories even if they were raising families. And before the industrial revolution it was normal for husbands and fathers to spend most of their time at home helping to raise kids as they ran their family businesses or farms (in fact, most of the earlier books on child rearing were written for men).
@user-np2yj4pr8h Not according to Proverbs 31. How much of the Bible have you read? Also, in what parts of the world is the woman staying at home the norm? I lived in Europe for four years, and I spent four months in Ghana and almost every woman I met had a job outside the home.
As a guy, I would take extra classes whether online or community college to upgrade my skills so that I could make more money to support my tradwife and the children.
My wife and I did this when our child was born. She stopped working for 3 1/2 years. She took care of our baby, avoided unnecessary expenses, we paid all bills on time and didn’t struggle for a bit with one income alone, all without using any savings. My income was average (around 45-50k gross). It is definitely possible and I would say that during that time we had some of our happiest memories.
Estes, many people love and appreciate you! I was blessed to stay home with my children while they were little. I did go through a divorce, but that’s as a result of my just leaping into a relationship. Keep putting yourself out there, because many women need your support. There are so many unhappy women who are trying to be everything to everybody. I have always said that children will not remember designer clothes or expensive housing, but they will remember if mom was there at home.
Just subscribed to your channel. Wasn't sure if you were still teaching how to become a trad couple, but I'm glad to see you are. 👍 I'm hoping that America will learn how to function in families again. I'm glad to see everyone who is trying to use their influence to help that happen.
My husband and I also transitioned from two to one income GRADUALLY. I love that you suggest that! The gradual transition from me working outside the home full-time, down to part-time, down to contingent, made the change less of a shock. It IS possible!
I support whatever life people feel happiest living. Please know that these kind of choices are very impacted by domestic violence. Meaning: women often are financially dependent on the men. That’s ok unless he is abusing her. This is indeed a big reason why “traditional” marriage hasn’t always been the healthiest for woman. ❤
Women face domestic violence in 2 household incomes as well. The income doesn’t make people more likely to abuse others it’s just some people marry abusive people and take advantage either way.
@@sweetxjc yes but the point is that while having 2 incomes won't stop an abusive husband from being abusive, it will provide an escape route for the wife/ kids. This is especially true in countries like mine with disastrous legal systems where getting a divorce will take several years and child benefit/ alimony is a joke. Also a woman with no source of income won't be able to afford lawyer fees either.
@@sweetxjc even "worse" than abuse is desertion where the husband will literally leave his family and shack up with another woman (usually another destitute woman who is perhaps younger and prettier than the current wife). So many women rather stay in abusive marriages where the alternative is she and the kids being left to starve/ homeless.
Due to a husband with a disability, he is at home and unable to work a job at all. I work one full time remote job and 4 part time freelance remote jobs. BUT I still cook meals from scratch, care for the home and my children and livestock - my life is wonderful based on the fact that we live in a setting for us where I am able to live both worlds without regret.
Off late I have been closely watching the rural life. The houses were made from mud and neighbours get together if someone’s house is to be made. It’s a very close knit community life. There was plenty of land on that fruits vegetables and cereals were grown. Clothes were made locally. Therefore, there wasn’t a need for money. Animal husbandry was integral part. This was holistic living by being self reliant and being a producer instead of today’s lifestyle of being a consumer. Chasing money for things you don’t really need and just being a parasite by not being a producer.
@@bugaboo1625 Proverbs 31, of course! This is why I think it's misleading to say it's a single income home. Why not disclose or describe the reality of having multiple incomes in different forms?
@DonnaBorooah I totally agree! Not having a typical labor job doesn't mean you aren't (or cant) make an income. And any little bit helps... like selling the extra vegetables from the garden
@@LordHoward it’s true, but there’s still something sinister here. She is making a profit and an income off of selling the idea of not working. She only makes this income - that supports her household - by trying to convince the next woman not to. Not all homemakers could make the same content to make the same kind of income selling the same idea back and forth to each other.
I appreciate this video! My hubby and I are working towards this goal! I’m trying to pay off some of my debt and get my bills to a more comfortable position before we do so! God bless!
My best advice to anyone who may be watching this who isn't married yet is to never rely on two incomes. Always base your living expenses on your husband's income. And any income you make is "extra." My husband and I did this when we got married, and it has been such a blessing to us. We never had to go from two to one. And it's great because when I did work part time, my income went to fun things instead of necessities!
I will say even being a "one income family" didn't stop my wife from still trying to make money to help out with the bills (because she's awesome like that). She did everything from selling baked goods she made out of our home, or picking up online work when she could. Now she works from home for a company she loves and is still able to do all the at home things she enjoys doing as far as making a home for her husband and children. Thankfully we live in a day and age when one person staying at home doesn't mean they can't financially contribute. Also, keep shining that #tradwife light in this dark world! It needs more of it!!
@@kc6810 You do realize men and women have different priorities right? What you perceive as a woman as him "ignoring it" is actually you projecting onto him, without realizing it thinking he is a woman and responds to things like you do, but really men are very different in that we didn't ignore it many times it wasn't a concern for us to begin with the way it would be for a woman. I hope this makes sense.
@@HeavyChevy35096the point is I do hope you're not expecting her to do all the home things while she is contributing financially. You worded it to obviously make someone wonder. Why did you get defensive?
@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 I didn't get defensive, I simply asked for specifics (which you still have yet to give). What part of what I wrote made you think I don't do any of the things you mentioned? Feel free to copy and paste from my original comment. I'm not defensive, I'm genuinely curious.
I grew up poor yet was so rich in love from my mum. My father was mentally ill and mum had to care for him, take care of me and a home. We had so little yet I learned to really take care of my things and to this day treasure everything. It is possible. X
Hi! You are so sweet✨ just want to add…it’s reeeeeeally important that you marry the right person…your partner’s life has to also completely revolve around you and family…it has to be the focus of both people…having a little job on the side that fits in with your family’s lifestyle, and making sure your partner has very good life insurance are just some things that come to mind as well…
This is an awesome point! I completely agree! This lifestyle can only work if you marry the right man who wants to provide. I’m all for traditional wives making some money on the side if they want to make some spending money or for something important.
Women have brains too and can do wonderful jobs and have a family, be perfect wives and cook well! You don't need to sacrifice your brains to be a good housewife. Working is not only to pay the mortgage, but also to fulfil one's dreams. There are women who dedicate their lives to making the world a better place, women who produce beauty with their work, women who make an impact, women who just want to have a culture, learn, be smart. where do you see materialism?!
Wanting to work outside the home doesn’t make a woman materialistic; sometimes a woman _has_ to work outside the home to _afford_ materialistic things. So if a woman wants to stay home more, she may need to give up some of those things. The key word here is “want”.
It is impossible to give 100% effort to 2 different things at the same time, just by nature one of those things will suffer from the trade off and the energy of the person attempting this pointless feat will be depleted..
@user-np2yj4pr8hsorry if you feel i was insulting i didn't mean to scorn any woman who stays at home. For me it's more a matter of independent choice,i think it's wrong to just assign housekeeping to women when women are more than capable also to follow their dreams and ambitions which could range from volunteering to become an astronaut. Men can help too, in the family menage.
I’ve been a “Trad-Wife” for 19 years!! I am grateful to be able to support my family. Now the reality is one car with kids in extracurricular activities isn’t gonna work in the suburbs. I had to get part-time jobs to pay for extracurriculars for my kids as well. This is not going to work for everyone especially for people who are paying back extremely high, educational, debt, or during times of extreme inflation. What happens when your middle aged and your kids leave, and then maybe your husband wants to leave? I really think this is a slippery slope for women to be trapped.
You evidently either have a rich husband or are earning money from being a content creator, then want to give advice on how to become a homemaker. It’s extremely frustrating when rich women who decide to embrace the homemaker route try to tell poor women how they’re going to have to make sacrifices and give up the shiny things..
Great video. Tip from me... God will provide. Trust in Him. Put your plans before Him and I know He will honor the plan because I believe it is within His will for this type of "traditional" arrangement. I love her practical tips and ideas because it WILL take effort and discipline in our part, but I can say from experience that God will honor your efforts. Shalom! One more practical tip... in today's world and market, women can find work at home and help with carrying the burden without compromising her goals and effort at home. Example, my wife decided to do some day care in our home. It was her choice and we don't need the income, but she wanted to do it. The extra money she makes allows us to take family trips more often and she enjoys taking care of children (who also happen to be our niece and nephew). It's a win, win, win situation. Put your plans and your heart before the LORD and He will make your path straight. Love y'all.
I am a traditional wife, but....these times almost require to work with two people... So i got myself a partime cleaning job starting at 05:00 ..so when my kids need to go school and wake up, im there, and still support my husband a little...
Ladies please plan for the future. If your husband is the bread winner and something happens to him what would you do? My ex husband cheated on me after 30 years. I was a stay at home Mom. We both couldn’t afford schooling so I sacrificed for our future. He got the degree and great paying job. Our future no longer exists.
That’s where life insurance & savings comes in. If something tragic happens. Also just because a woman is a stay at home mom does not mean she doesn’t have to a degree or can’t pursue it on her free time (online schooling) or her own skill sets for a job. Times are changing for stay at home mom’s with technology. So the risks are not the same as they used to be.
@@sweetxjc Online degrees are still overpriced. If a couple has difficulty paying for one, they’re not gonna afford a spare. But it does suck to plan a life with someone and they don’t fulfill their promises.
@@sweetxjcher videos are watched by women from other, less fortunate countries than the US. Not earning (online or offline) isn’t simply idiotic, it’s also simply dangerous, especially for a woman with kids. No matter how great the marriage is.
If I may give a different approach, before she starts cutting back hours maybe have a couple months to a year of transitioning bills and taking that that percent should would normally be paying as part of her 50 and put it in savings and then start cutting back hours. That way you build up savings first to help the transition just in case and then if you don't end up needing it( in case of emergency) you now just have a nice emergency fund.
I used to be a traditional wife at home but had to go to working being a single mom for a few years until my husband and I reconnected (before we got married), now we decided we wanted to go to a traditional marriage to be back into what we used to have. Honestly, I love it and hope we can figure everything out so we can continue this for a while. ❤❤
Great Tips! ❤😇 Also, one tip I am constantly at work in applying is doing some of the beauty or grooming myself and at home. For instance, I have learned how to do my own gel nails 💅🏾 and my own intricate hairstyles 💁🏽♀️.
These are excellent tips - thanks Estee❤ we’ve been living these for ten years now to keep me at home. It’s been an absolute fight to make that happen and raise the kids and even though we’ve done all these things, I still need to work. Unfortunately that magical scenario isn’t possible anymore unless your husband is earning exceptionally well. World economies and cost of living look very different from the way they did in the 1950s unfortunately 😢 so many caveats and disclaimers are necessary. But, great job on your tips - the point you’re making is that if this important to you, you must be willing to make uncomfortable and unconventional sacrifices and that is spot on.
We were surprised to find we were okay on one income, when it happened by chance. We aren't saving money, but if we really wanted to, we could, and it's nice to know that.
@zsofiamolnar4677 she's cooking probably 6 days out of the week, meal prepping her husbands lunch & dinner, cleaning, doing her AND her husbands laundry, grocery shopping, filling up the tank when needed, making sure they are budgeting well/getting bills paid on time, keeping herself maintained by working out almost everyday, all while her husband comes home after working HIS job to sit back to have a beer & kick his feet up while she gives him a foot or back massage-and while before bed maybe something more "spicy" sense she has more energy than a nurse working 12 hour shifts until 65.
I have been so glad i watched your videos and i never been soo happy and see there is still some women in the world who really cares abiut family life your the best ❤
Or in her case, become a content creator and get 55K subscribers on UA-cam to make extra cash. 😆 My guess is her husband and her are close to the 50/50 with the income she’s getting from her social media content.
55,000 is really not that much... and she mentions women having jobs to help supplement a husband's income when it's needed at times. Hobbies can actually turn into an income and there's nothing wrong with that. She actually says this in the video. The Proverbs 31 woman has many roles.
She has over 194k followers on Tik Tok, where she able to monetize her account and make a lot of money. I definitely think she is making enough to make it at least 50/50 in their household. Being a content creator is a full time job for many people and I think Estee is one of those people.
Please when looking at the financial part, include into your planning a good pension plan for the housewife and some kind of insurance that covers for the expenses of at least a year for the whole family in case the husband dies or gets sick!!!
We dropped down to one income over 2 years ago and while we've had some struggles, we've survived and we learned we can live on so much less than we thought. Here are some things we're doing to help stretch our money, in case anyone needs some ideas! 1. We live with my aging grandfather. We still pay him rent, but we agreed on a discounted rent in exchange for me helping to take care of grandpa, cooking for him, and keeping the house clean. 2. We DIY everything we can. I bake our bread, simmer our chicken broth, grow a veggie garden, and trim our hair (thank goodness my husband isn't picky with his haircuts!). These things all require a minimal amount of skill but once you muddle through doing it the first few times you'll get the hang of it! Even my hobbies are DIY. I love knitting and I try to make things I will actually wear and use, like socks, mittens, and sweaters. 3. We just live with less. I rarely wear makeup, and if I do it's very minimal. I only buy new makeup if one of my products runs out or is expired. I rarely get my nails done and if I feel like painting them, I can do it myself at home. My husband loves books, but he limits his purchases very carefully so they're never messing up our budget. 4. We enjoy cheaper forms of entertainment. For us, a couple of streaming service subscriptions is much cheaper than cable if we want to watch a show or movie. For going out, we don't need to see an expensive event or go to a club. Going to a small, local restaurant is a splurge enough for us, and finding a park with lots of walking trails is an excellent free activity when the weather is nice. If there is a more pricey event that we want to go to, we plan in advance and slim down the budget in other areas to make it happen! I hope this helps, living on one income is definitely a challenge in this economy, but I think it can be a beautiful thing and bring families closer together in the long run. ❤
I completely agree with you. We need to make sacrifices for our families. I have always wanted to be home. I came home when i was pregnant. Being home with my daughter is such a joy. It is very tight financially, but traditional marriage is very rewarding. Society is so wrong about marriage. Kids want their moms home with them.
I've been steadily working towards this, and I think potentially 2 more pay raises (which is about 2 more years at work) and it can happen. That is, if my wife is interested in this. I feel like she loves spending time at home with the kids and taking care of the home, but, she also really enjoys her work. With that said I would be pretty ecstatic with maybe 2 days on, 3 days off sort of arrangement.
Does she know you’re thinking this? You need to discuss it if she doesn’t. Even if she doesn’t initially agree, you should give her time to get used to the idea.
Amazing tips baby!! ❤ And men y’all need to get out there and grind grind grind! Figure out ways to increase your income with the skills you have. It takes hard work and dedication but you can do it.
You realize economic climate isn’t what it used to be like in the 1950’s right? The whole landscape is different, regardless of whether it works for some people it also leaves you vulnerable to domestic violence with no financial means of survival on your own if you ever find yourself in such a situation, there’s a reason the suffragette movement was started among others but it gave women the right to have independence from potential abusive partners, having your own bank account is a privilege that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Women can always move in with their parents or siblings if they have them. Also having money does not keep you safe from abuse. Many women who make money are abused by spouses for years. Furthermore, abuse is not the same taboo as it was in the 1950s. There’s homes for women and their children who are abused today and way more resources. They don’t have to be financially stranded anymore.
@@sweetxjc I understand but what this Tradwife is saying is that the wife shouldn’t be allowed to be making any money and that leaves you financially dependent on said person, in your words “financially stranded.”
@@sweetxjcthat is a great option for the women who come from a loving family but some women don’t have the family support because they come from a toxic family and don’t have siblings or family that would offer support if they were stuck in an abusive marriage. It’s always wise for women to have education and their own income to be able to escape if they were in an abusive marriage. unfortunately ive met several women who confided in me that they divorced their husbands because their spouse tried to kill them.
@@heavymetalzombiepilot4049actually if you watch the video, she doesn't say that at all. She actually talks about wives having supplemental income for a season or a lifetime if it's needed. But her content is sharing how to live off of one income if that's your goal. If it's not, no worries.
You make some good points about modern society. I never considered myself a traditional wife (not even Christian), but my husband and I kind of naturally grew into a 'smaller' life on 1 income. We have enough money but live in an apartment, have 1 car, only shop things we actually wear & use, and I do all my 'girly' stuff myself instead of going to the salon. We just realized that life wasn't about the material stuff or keeping up with the rat race, and it made our lives so much better because we have more time & focus on each other and what actually matters in life, instead of having very full days and weekends and stressing all the time because we both worked (full time). I don't feel that everyone should (or could) live like this, but for us it truly works. Also: I do have a plan B & C if things go south (you never know - the statistics ARE against us), and I notice that some people who think I'm stupid in being too financially dependent sometimes don't have a good situation themself (working very hard while having kids too so they can 'leave if they need to' without having the proper agreements and papers in place to actually split things fairly in the case of a divorce).
The idea of transitioning to less income sounds painful. I'm glad that I've always just expected to take care of my wife and family. Even more glad to have landed a career that makes that possible.
Thankfully in Europe it’s the most common to have just one car and, depending on the country, a bike. That’s how we have it and I actually loooove using my bike to go everywhere (but like I said in Germany we have excellent set ups for bikes and it’s the most common means of transport)
@@st-dm2luWell, if the husband is the one working 9-5, I think it’s fair that he comes home to a meal prepared by his wife. Generally, a stay at home wife should do all the household tasks when the husband is at work. It’s not like she’s suppose to play video games all day. Couples usually agree for one to stay home because there’s work to be done, such as raising the kids. But if both halves of the couple are working, then 50/50 housework sounds reasonable. Whoever comes home first would probably be in charge of the dinners. Whoever comes home last might be in charge of restocking groceries. Either way, there’s usually a balance.
Thanks for this. If your budget is stretched, eating seasonal comes in handy.That is, do not go for strawberries in the midst of winter unless you live in California or Florida. Also,making food durable in summer or fall for the winter by a special way of cooking iit and putting it in special glasses might save you money. You have time, use it wisely. The children do not always have to wear the latest fashion. It is not a bad thing to buy clothes for the kids from a second hand market when you wash them properly. And younger children can wear the outgrown stuff from the older ones, it is okay despite what many people say. Gardening as a hobby with planting your own herbs or fruit and vegetable is not only rewarding but might even enhance the qualities of your meals while lowering your expenses. In Germany, gardening is a very traditional hobby.The kids can have fun with it, too. do not feel ahamed to ask them to help you in the garden, it actually benefits them. If you sew, there is no reason to feel ashamed to make teddies. for your children yourself. Some kids love these even more than expensive ones from the store. Do not shy away from mending or repairing your clothes or even the clothes of the kids. If you do it creatively, the stuff might even look cooler than beforehand. Make going out and dining out special again. If you do it right, you can really save money and enhance the quality of your diet by cooking and eating home-made meals. Learning about cooking, storage of food, how to prepare leftovers for another good meal does not only help your budget but also the environment - if you, for example , made noodles the day before, you can make a great noodle-salad from the leftovers the day after., the same works with potatoes. If you or your husband into DIY, go absolutely for it. It can save you a lot of money and give your home a very personal touch. And a trick from German housewife: Accounting books. Write down the money that you have and everything you spend. You might find out very fast where you can save some money, like the coffee at Starbucks, the extra cake here, the little spoiling thing there....You name it...
The press on Kiss or Impress nails at the dollar store last me at least a week and I get 2.5 manicures out of each $6 package! I always get complements.
We have lived off of one income for 20 years. It's been so integral to our family to have a person at home keeping everything running smoothly. It's looking more and more difficult to do in this economy, so I'm grateful that we've had the opportunity to increase my husband's income over the last 20 years. But our lifestyle has definitely come with sacrifice, and you absolutely cannot live this way if you can't make them.
We recently moved across country to downsize and make life actually possible. We left the large rental with the 2 car garage in flashy California and purchased a 2 year old mobile home outright in Texas. Our home is beautiful. It is a modern mobile home and we adore it. The cost of living here is like 60% of what it was in California. We sold the expensive big car and have a solid fully paid for used car now. The insurance payments are still killer but hey, it is what it is. I had never heard of “tradwife” or anything like that until very recently and I think it’s fantastic and without realizing it my family has been moving in that direction throughout our move here. I thought there was something wrong with me mentally in California because I was always so anxious and depressed and didn’t like our marriage always being at odds because we never were together and nothing at home was ever taken care of and the arguments about whose job it was when we both worked felt soul crushing. There was nothing wrong with me there. The situation was wrong for me and my marriage. I think it’s more important that we be happy and comfortable than keeping up with Joneses.
I work as a commercial cleaner 96 hrs a fortnight and still have to manage running the household being a homemaker and the 3 children we have 2 incomes and I don’t buy makeup I don’t get to buy clothes I live of thrift stores I do my own beauty regime and we still live week by week we still rent can’t afford to buy or save 🤷♀️ todays costs are overwhelming and the struggle is real we still have a traditional marriage and the hard work is real but that’s life in 2024 if your the same I feel you 👌🥰 we got this ladies everyday we wake up our lives are worth it and we have meaning 😘xx
Please know if you're a mother and in a position where you cant do this. Where its not a choice of making some changes to your budget but the income you bring in keeps your home and car and food on the table. You are not less than. You can still hold tradtional values, still raise your children with the Lord and work. Its great to make being home your goal and if you're not currently achieving your goal you're not a bad mom or wife.
This is all very doable. I was strictly a home maker for 10+ years. We're down to just our youngest living at home and shes in middle school. I work 15 hours a week as a librarian to get out of the house. Thats how I earn my "extras" money, makeup, clothes, treats for our daughtet or special things I want to do for my husband. We downsized our house, got rid of the "extras" stuck with used cars and only buy what we can pay cash for. For me, personally, I'm SO MUCH happier now than I ever was as a "working mom/wife". Not only as a trad-wife but just not having so much "stuff" to deal with.
If a man wants a trad wife like Estee, he has to be able to provide. If you cannot provide this lifestyle for your wife, you’ll both have to settle for another lifestyle.
When you factor in the fact that you don’t have the cost of a commute, lunches out, parking, bridge tolls, daycare, you start eating at home; the home becomes managed better and you become cost conscious you will almost ALWAYS come out on top. That’s before you factor in that everyone’s quality of life automatically improves. I’ll never regret it
Can also make money from home selling things online. It doesn't take a lot of time and can also be very enjoyable while making some extra money. The wife and I retired a couple of years ago and we went down to having one vehicle. We are saving money on not having to insure two vehicles, maintenance and gasoline.
Maybe the step down instead of the wife taking less hours she can start by putting 25% of her salary in savings, then 50%, then 75% and if that works when she quits for good, they have that nest egg in savings.
I'm reaching a point where your stance is becoming increasingly irksome. Your claim about contributing to a better world through your lifestyle doesn't quite align with the research suggesting potential academic challenges for kids in that setup. And dedicating a whole day to cleaning and cooking? That seems like a serious time management rethink might be in order. Let's tackle the mixed messages you're throwing around. On one hand, you're all about personal choices, and on the other, you're championing this somewhat dated "family first, always" idea. Spoiler alert: many working women are expertly juggling family responsibilities without pigeonholing their partners into mere financial roles. No beating around the bush here - your cooking style feels like a throwback to the '70s. And giving advice on supermarket product toxicity (a past video)? Not sure the credentials are adding up there. And this whole advocating for a sole breadwinner scenario? Studies are pointing to that being a recipe for stress. Your dream of staying at home might be contributing to that load. Do your thing, but expecting a round of applause for the bare minimum might be a bit much. But don't talk to me about the success of your approach until you've been successfully married for as long as I have. I will reach out to you in 25 years and we can compare notes.. if I'm still alive!
Soooooo… your tip for transitioning from two incomes to one, is that the woman still has to work at least part time to be able to have money for anything besides the barest of necessities? Sounds like the “man” in this scenario isn’t much of a Provider after all. 👀
My tip is to prioritize paying off debt. Hard to transition to single income if you have 2 car payments! Also having a small emergency fund helps for unexpected costs.
Dude she's married for 3 years ans she used to be a hoe. I mean she's pretty to look at but i wouldnt take advice from a child about how to run my finance.😅
They're around... But this is going to be a chicken and the egg scenario.... Who's going to start first? Men need to step up but so do us Women. I'm already married, but MOST women (including myself for a long time) don't know what to do with a masculine man and fight with them constantly. Learned the hard way over here 😂🙋♀️
@@sineadiloveyou They're all around you, most men are masculine, the energy has just gone dormant in modern times because men have largely been made to be superfluous now because women now work as well, only difference is, most of them (men) are wired to protect you if you're in need, this is true even if you are not related to them they will lay their lives down for you instinctively! This is part of what masculinity is, and is art of why men are worthy of respect. Its who men are, they (we) are literally protectors and providers innately, funny enough a woman who is in her feminine draws out a mans masculine energy so both energies can independently coax out the other polarity within the other person.
Understanding not all couples have children. However the ultimate ‘cost’ is to children in full time childcare (60hours a week). I use childcare to do a little work to help out (15hours). In return I’m less stressed, my husband is happy and so are the children. We all eat well and our house 🏠 is comfortable. Ultimately what more could you ask for? ❤
Don’t really buy into the tread wife movement but I do miss the spirit of what a traditional relationship is. I don’t mean 1950s America “traditional”; I mean what traditional relationships always were… men and women always worked together, both for survival, and to raise a family. The idea was a wife would help her husband and whatever business or occupation he was involved in; In addition to monetizing her own hobbies and activities while at home. A husband and wife could easily be partners both in marriage, and running a business, even in modern daytimes. The issue is, if not all women have no interest in that type of loving partnership…
That and a man will have more energy for work because he’s being recharged at home, not drained. That’ll lead to more hours/promotions/pay increase by default.
Interesting, I didn’t think about it that way. Making videos that go viral must produce some extra cash for her, but from the sound of it, her husband seems to take in the bulk of the financial responsibility.
Her ASMR handle used to be Gwengwiz, and she used to do lingerie hauls, this makes me wonder if her husband or boyfriend is making her make these videos as her personality on her previous channel would suggest she is being coerced into making this “TradWife” content.
@@heavymetalzombiepilot4049 You are talking about a different content creator. Estee and Gwen are not the same person. Gwen is also a similar tradwife content creator and looks a lot like Estee , so i understand your confusion.
@@style_museshe is also doing interviews. And she could literally earn money by just holding something into the camera or placing it somewhere to be seen. This way you wouldn’t even know it’s advertising.
Not ironic at all. There are lots of ways a SAHM can earn extra money - especially now online. Before women were expected to work for money, they did most of the volunteer work in this country. Another way our late-stage capitalism has impoverished us.
We recently did this. We moved closer to my husband's job. Now without the commutes, without the childcare for 2, with healthy home cooking every meal...it honestly doesn't matter that we lost 50% of our income!
Amen! This is what so many 2-income couples miss. Less driving, less eating out or preprepared meals, no maid service, no child care (except occasional babysitters). All the traditional housewife work we’ve outsourced to others. This is not only more expensive, but is also taxable and of lower quality than if you did them yourself (usually).
Great handful of years that I had the privelege. My kids love their schools now but dang it’s expensive. I work just so they can attend because they enjoy it so much. And it’s nice to have some of my own time back too. But I have no regrets about those years at home with them.
You have to be willing to sacrifice for your children and your marriage. Children don’t need separate rooms so you don’t need a bigger house. You don’t need fancy cars so you can buy used. Concentrate on building a loving family rather than a wealthy family.
Yeah ppl need to learn to share & having same bedrooms from your childhood is a great way to do this. One room for the daughters & One room for the sons cuz boys & girls shouldn’t sleeping in one room especially as they grow up.
@@pearleunjoo5439 in many states its actually illegal past the age of 5.
Or maybe both, of course if you can.
@@marissajones1840 WHAT?!?! Thats insane!
@annaorr6808 not really boys and girls shouldn't be sharing a room past a certain age, not even siblings.
Hi Estee, my name
is Andrea and I want to thank you so much for your videos.
You have truly helped me and my family.
When I found your channel a few weeks ago, I was working long hours, was coming home in the evening very tired and was not giving my husband and daughter the attention they deserve.
Even tough my husband’s salary was enough to support our family, I didn’t feel it was ok for me not to work, somehow society had convinced me that not working would make me a bad example for my daughter.
After meeting you, I realized being a homemaker is not a sin, on the contrary, it’s natural.
So, I finally quit my job to become one.
I now have time to cook healthy meals for my family while listening to my gospel songs and I feel happy, rested and energized.
My family is in a much better place now and you truly contributed for that.
Thank you so much for being a light in this crazy dark world.
God bless you and your husband.
Wow! This is so beautiful! You made a truly courageous and beautiful choice! God bless you and your family.
@@leagiardina9102 thank you 🙏 God bless you too ☺️
@@AdvogadadeDeus thank you 🥰
God bless ❤ I’m so happy for you
Awww this warms my heart so much to hear this. I’m so happy for you and I am honored I was able to inspire you ❤ even more I’m so happy that you feel at peace with your new position! Blessings to you and your family and thank you so much for making me smile 😊 🥰
Due to a rare condition in pregnancy,we went from 2 incomes to 1 income literally overnight.our biggest blessing is that when we purchased our home I always told my husband let's buy small it's our first home and we should really be buying more of a Rental than a forever home we should buy it based off 1 income just incase anything we're to ever happen financially in the future. After 8 years of infertility, I was finally pregnant and hospitalized for several things. I was like, "Oh goodness, thank goodness 1 income can cover all the necessities and some. Sure, we are a family of 5 in a 2 bed 1 bath, but it's our own home, and I get to raise our babies.its a real blessing
I love this comment! Thank you for sharing that and I love how you see the blessing in your situation…even while your children share a room! Looking back, It really was lovely to share a room with my younger sister. My husband and I also just downsized from our larger home that we rented and we are so happy with the small cozy space we have.
@EsteeWilliams I love that. I will have to say having all the same gender has made it easier staying in our home.i know there will be a time to give them their own space. I am just super grateful that their bond with one another is so tight that even with a bigger home they will still turn to one another.My littles are 4,3&2 so having them so close has been so great.
This is actually really important. But small to begin with and while starting a family. Then trade up later on. Or even choose to stay in the small home and have a happy low debt life and retire early.
@myday2704 the plan is pay it off in 3 or 4 years upgrade have this as a rental and then pay off the upgraded house early as well and just live under budget for travel and experiences so my husband can retire early. I'm optimistic and also very very grateful for everyday
Great video! My husband and I began walking this road nearly
18 years ago and it’s been a tremendous blessing. Our kids are teenagers now and we are so glad we chose to be a one income household. It’s sad that it doesn’t make sense to a number of people, but we wouldn’t change a thing! These are great tips!!
Thank you so much for sharing that! ❤ it for sure is a blessing 🥰
And what do you do now when your kids are not little anymore?
I remember when it was a point of wifely and motherly pride to become expert at budgeting, and to just run a household well. Her fulfillment and happiness were in the way she cared for her family, not in the way her hair, nails, and new clothes looked. She liked looking beautiful too, but her main focus was her family, not herself.
Both men and women today generally have a lot of growing up to do in this regard, to get back to the level of maturity most people used to have a couple generations ago. We both need to stop focusing on ourselves, and start thinking of others more. That'll be a good start.
Regarding budgeting sufficiently on even a lower income, it's amazing what a couple can do when they put their minds to it.
It's amazing what they DID do back in the day!
Remember that she wants to look good for her hubby. Life is good when a man comes home from work to be welcomed by his dolled up wife. Just sayin'.
Modernity it is just women disrespecting their men and hungry for money
Lots of adults can’t put down the videos games now. It’s crazy.
@@johnlopez7529 it doesn't have to be expensive to look put together and pretty. I don't see the relation here to the first comment
@user-np2yj4pr8hridiculing a man for having a hobby...how original.
So many women go to work to make money they ultimately waste on day care. It’s insane.
This is so true! Daycare is like a second mortgage now.
My husband and I did this exact lifestyle change 18 years ago so I could stay home with our twins. We purposely lived in a cracker-jack box size home so we knew we could live on one income. Could not have asked for a better way to live! As God blessed us with 4 children and steady income increases over the years, we were able to move to a larger house still on 1 income. Just takes a lot less material spending! Started working 2-3 days a week when kids are in middle school and high school to make some "family fun" money.
I love this!!! Makes so much sense and gives you something to do a couple days a week 🤗
When my husband and I first got married, we were living in an apartment and told everyone that we were going to buy a house before having kids. But then since the housing market got so high, we decided it was more important to build a family then wait for a house. Fast forward to 5 years later, and we are living in an apartment with 2 kids and have never been happier! I am fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom, and I have really loved it. I get to cook for my family and bake yummy things homemade, make our home clean (it is not always clean but I try), and add some unique touches that I know we all enjoy. It has been my favorite "job" and I truly feel that I was made for it. Our society made me think that being a homemaker was something to be ashamed of since I wasn't working out of the home, but I disagree with that now and think it's one of the most amazing jobs. And going to 1 income is hard at first because we were used to spending money on whatever we wanted, but after setting a budget we have learned to wait to buy things we want at the end of the month if we have money leftover, it's made us appreciate what we already have.
I like how you are able to be respectful to those who may not live this same lifestyle as you, and I think it's great that you encourage people to prioritize family regardless of what kind of job they have. 💕
Another note: Historically, this type of "traditional marriage" was not actually around since the "beginning of time." It really just seems to be what was achievable and common in the 50s and 60s. During the industrial revolution women were working jobs in factories even if they were raising families. And before the industrial revolution it was normal for husbands and fathers to spend most of their time at home helping to raise kids as they ran their family businesses or farms (in fact, most of the earlier books on child rearing were written for men).
@user-np2yj4pr8h Not according to Proverbs 31. How much of the Bible have you read? Also, in what parts of the world is the woman staying at home the norm? I lived in Europe for four years, and I spent four months in Ghana and almost every woman I met had a job outside the home.
As a guy, I would take extra classes whether online or community college to upgrade my skills so that I could make more money to support my tradwife and the children.
@user-np2yj4pr8h Excellent advice.
My wife and I did this when our child was born. She stopped working for 3 1/2 years. She took care of our baby, avoided unnecessary expenses, we paid all bills on time and didn’t struggle for a bit with one income alone, all without using any savings. My income was average (around 45-50k gross). It is definitely possible and I would say that during that time we had some of our happiest memories.
Estes, many people love and appreciate you! I was blessed to stay home with my children while they were little. I did go through a divorce, but that’s as a result of my just leaping into a relationship. Keep putting yourself out there, because many women need your support. There are so many unhappy women who are trying to be everything to everybody. I have always said that children will not remember designer clothes or expensive housing, but they will remember if mom was there at home.
Just subscribed to your channel. Wasn't sure if you were still teaching how to become a trad couple, but I'm glad to see you are. 👍
I'm hoping that America will learn how to function in families again.
I'm glad to see everyone who is trying to use their influence to help that happen.
We are slowly going down to one income right now. Thank you so much for posting more videos! I am looking forward to being a full time homemaker 😊
My husband and I also transitioned from two to one income GRADUALLY. I love that you suggest that! The gradual transition from me working outside the home full-time, down to part-time, down to contingent, made the change less of a shock. It IS possible!
I support whatever life people feel happiest living. Please know that these kind of choices are very impacted by domestic violence. Meaning: women often are financially dependent on the men. That’s ok unless he is abusing her. This is indeed a big reason why “traditional” marriage hasn’t always been the healthiest for woman. ❤
She doesn’t care about those women. She is building her social media career telling women not to work or have plan B in case something goes wrong.
Women face domestic violence in 2 household incomes as well. The income doesn’t make people more likely to abuse others it’s just some people marry abusive people and take advantage either way.
@@sweetxjc yes but the point is that while having 2 incomes won't stop an abusive husband from being abusive, it will provide an escape route for the wife/ kids. This is especially true in countries like mine with disastrous legal systems where getting a divorce will take several years and child benefit/ alimony is a joke. Also a woman with no source of income won't be able to afford lawyer fees either.
@@sweetxjc even "worse" than abuse is desertion where the husband will literally leave his family and shack up with another woman (usually another destitute woman who is perhaps younger and prettier than the current wife).
So many women rather stay in abusive marriages where the alternative is she and the kids being left to starve/ homeless.
@@minervarose7664I'm curious, do you know women are more likely to be abusive than men?
Due to a husband with a disability, he is at home and unable to work a job at all. I work one full time remote job and 4 part time freelance remote jobs. BUT I still cook meals from scratch, care for the home and my children and livestock - my life is wonderful based on the fact that we live in a setting for us where I am able to live both worlds without regret.
you are a superhero!
Off late I have been closely watching the rural life. The houses were made from mud and neighbours get together if someone’s house is to be made. It’s a very close knit community life. There was plenty of land on that fruits vegetables and cereals were grown. Clothes were made locally. Therefore, there wasn’t a need for money. Animal husbandry was integral part. This was holistic living by being self reliant and being a producer instead of today’s lifestyle of being a consumer. Chasing money for things you don’t really need and just being a parasite by not being a producer.
This platform is a form of income, still a two income household.
Part of a traditional household biblically is that the wife is an entrepreneur... Which is easier than ever since the internet...
@@bugaboo1625 Proverbs 31, of course! This is why I think it's misleading to say it's a single income home. Why not disclose or describe the reality of having multiple incomes in different forms?
@DonnaBorooah I totally agree! Not having a typical labor job doesn't mean you aren't (or cant) make an income. And any little bit helps... like selling the extra vegetables from the garden
She's referring to what most people would think of, where the woman is working a job away from home all day
@@LordHoward it’s true, but there’s still something sinister here. She is making a profit and an income off of selling the idea of not working. She only makes this income - that supports her household - by trying to convince the next woman not to. Not all homemakers could make the same content to make the same kind of income selling the same idea back and forth to each other.
I appreciate this video! My hubby and I are working towards this goal! I’m trying to pay off some of my debt and get my bills to a more comfortable position before we do so! God bless!
My best advice to anyone who may be watching this who isn't married yet is to never rely on two incomes. Always base your living expenses on your husband's income. And any income you make is "extra." My husband and I did this when we got married, and it has been such a blessing to us.
We never had to go from two to one. And it's great because when I did work part time, my income went to fun things instead of necessities!
food preservation and meal prep was/is a HUGE financial aid. making all breads from scratch is a life changer.
I will say even being a "one income family" didn't stop my wife from still trying to make money to help out with the bills (because she's awesome like that). She did everything from selling baked goods she made out of our home, or picking up online work when she could. Now she works from home for a company she loves and is still able to do all the at home things she enjoys doing as far as making a home for her husband and children. Thankfully we live in a day and age when one person staying at home doesn't mean they can't financially contribute. Also, keep shining that #tradwife light in this dark world! It needs more of it!!
Yessss!!!!! THISSSSS!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@@kc6810 What about my statement would make you think I don't do any of those things?
@@kc6810 You do realize men and women have different priorities right? What you perceive as a woman as him "ignoring it" is actually you projecting onto him, without realizing it thinking he is a woman and responds to things like you do, but really men are very different in that we didn't ignore it many times it wasn't a concern for us to begin with the way it would be for a woman. I hope this makes sense.
@@HeavyChevy35096the point is I do hope you're not expecting her to do all the home things while she is contributing financially.
You worded it to obviously make someone wonder.
Why did you get defensive?
@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 I didn't get defensive, I simply asked for specifics (which you still have yet to give). What part of what I wrote made you think I don't do any of the things you mentioned? Feel free to copy and paste from my original comment. I'm not defensive, I'm genuinely curious.
I grew up poor yet was so rich in love from my mum. My father was mentally ill and mum had to care for him, take care of me and a home. We had so little yet I learned to really take care of my things and to this day treasure everything. It is possible. X
Hi! You are so sweet✨ just want to add…it’s reeeeeeally important that you marry the right person…your partner’s life has to also completely revolve around you and family…it has to be the focus of both people…having a little job on the side that fits in with your family’s lifestyle, and making sure your partner has very good life insurance are just some things that come to mind as well…
This is an awesome point! I completely agree! This lifestyle can only work if you marry the right man who wants to provide. I’m all for traditional wives making some money on the side if they want to make some spending money or for something important.
Women have brains too and can do wonderful jobs and have a family, be perfect wives and cook well! You don't need to sacrifice your brains to be a good housewife. Working is not only to pay the mortgage, but also to fulfil one's dreams. There are women who dedicate their lives to making the world a better place, women who produce beauty with their work, women who make an impact, women who just want to have a culture, learn, be smart. where do you see materialism?!
Wanting to work outside the home doesn’t make a woman materialistic; sometimes a woman _has_ to work outside the home to _afford_ materialistic things. So if a woman wants to stay home more, she may need to give up some of those things. The key word here is “want”.
It is impossible to give 100% effort to 2 different things at the same time, just by nature one of those things will suffer from the trade off and the energy of the person attempting this pointless feat will be depleted..
@@theironson1043 sorry I don't agree. It's a matter of priorities, planning and joint family running.
@user-np2yj4pr8hsorry if you feel i was insulting i didn't mean to scorn any woman who stays at home. For me it's more a matter of independent choice,i think it's wrong to just assign housekeeping to women when women are more than capable also to follow their dreams and ambitions which could range from volunteering to become an astronaut. Men can help too, in the family menage.
And she herself has a job since she's an influencer 😂 she makes money!
I’ve been a “Trad-Wife” for 19 years!! I am grateful to be able to support my family. Now the reality is one car with kids in extracurricular activities isn’t gonna work in the suburbs. I had to get part-time jobs to pay for extracurriculars for my kids as well. This is not going to work for everyone especially for people who are paying back extremely high, educational, debt, or during times of extreme inflation. What happens when your middle aged and your kids leave, and then maybe your husband wants to leave? I really think this is a slippery slope for women to be trapped.
You evidently either have a rich husband or are earning money from being a content creator, then want to give advice on how to become a homemaker. It’s extremely frustrating when rich women who decide to embrace the homemaker route try to tell poor women how they’re going to have to make sacrifices and give up the shiny things..
Love your content. Makes me very calm to watch your channel and pass by your video. ❤
That’s a real time home maker. Makes us feel at home even when we are far far away :))
Great video. Tip from me... God will provide. Trust in Him. Put your plans before Him and I know He will honor the plan because I believe it is within His will for this type of "traditional" arrangement. I love her practical tips and ideas because it WILL take effort and discipline in our part, but I can say from experience that God will honor your efforts. Shalom! One more practical tip... in today's world and market, women can find work at home and help with carrying the burden without compromising her goals and effort at home. Example, my wife decided to do some day care in our home. It was her choice and we don't need the income, but she wanted to do it. The extra money she makes allows us to take family trips more often and she enjoys taking care of children (who also happen to be our niece and nephew). It's a win, win, win situation. Put your plans and your heart before the LORD and He will make your path straight. Love y'all.
I am a traditional wife, but....these times almost require to work with two people...
So i got myself a partime cleaning job starting at 05:00
..so when my kids need to go school and wake up, im there, and still support my husband a little...
Great video and well thought out material. I hope those looking to do this are able to do it. God bless
Ladies please plan for the future. If your husband is the bread winner and something happens to him what would you do? My ex husband cheated on me after 30 years. I was a stay at home Mom. We both couldn’t afford schooling so I sacrificed for our future. He got the degree and great paying job. Our future no longer exists.
That’s where life insurance & savings comes in. If something tragic happens.
Also just because a woman is a stay at home mom does not mean she doesn’t have to a degree or can’t pursue it on her free time (online schooling) or her own skill sets for a job. Times are changing for stay at home mom’s with technology. So the risks are not the same as they used to be.
@@sweetxjc Online degrees are still overpriced. If a couple has difficulty paying for one, they’re not gonna afford a spare.
But it does suck to plan a life with someone and they don’t fulfill their promises.
@@sweetxjcher videos are watched by women from other, less fortunate countries than the US. Not earning (online or offline) isn’t simply idiotic, it’s also simply dangerous, especially for a woman with kids. No matter how great the marriage is.
We never know what lies ahead. I am sorry that happened to you, but I think we should be supportive to stay at home wives.
So young and so wise! 😊
Totally agree with you Estee!
Keep going and God bless you! :)
If I may give a different approach, before she starts cutting back hours maybe have a couple months to a year of transitioning bills and taking that that percent should would normally be paying as part of her 50 and put it in savings and then start cutting back hours. That way you build up savings first to help the transition just in case and then if you don't end up needing it( in case of emergency) you now just have a nice emergency fund.
I used to be a traditional wife at home but had to go to working being a single mom for a few years until my husband and I reconnected (before we got married), now we decided we wanted to go to a traditional marriage to be back into what we used to have. Honestly, I love it and hope we can figure everything out so we can continue this for a while. ❤❤
Great Tips! ❤😇 Also, one tip I am constantly at work in applying is doing some of the beauty or grooming myself and at home. For instance, I have learned how to do my own gel nails 💅🏾 and my own intricate hairstyles 💁🏽♀️.
These are excellent tips - thanks Estee❤ we’ve been living these for ten years now to keep me at home. It’s been an absolute fight to make that happen and raise the kids and even though we’ve done all these things, I still need to work. Unfortunately that magical scenario isn’t possible anymore unless your husband is earning exceptionally well. World economies and cost of living look very different from the way they did in the 1950s unfortunately 😢 so many caveats and disclaimers are necessary.
But, great job on your tips - the point you’re making is that if this important to you, you must be willing to make uncomfortable and unconventional sacrifices and that is spot on.
We were surprised to find we were okay on one income, when it happened by chance. We aren't saving money, but if we really wanted to, we could, and it's nice to know that.
My husband and I did this. I raised my own kids without having to use day care. I'm STILL stay -at-home and our kids are 26 and 29! Lol
So you basically do nothing whole day?
@@zsofiamolnar4677 Kids never move out anymore, so she’s still caring for them. 😂
@zsofiamolnar4677 she's cooking probably 6 days out of the week, meal prepping her husbands lunch & dinner, cleaning, doing her AND her husbands laundry, grocery shopping, filling up the tank when needed, making sure they are budgeting well/getting bills paid on time, keeping herself maintained by working out almost everyday, all while her husband comes home after working HIS job to sit back to have a beer & kick his feet up while she gives him a foot or back massage-and while before bed maybe something more "spicy" sense she has more energy than a nurse working 12 hour shifts until 65.
@@SunnySummer777Most women do this while working where I live;)
@@kc6810 not really. Meant no new car. Sometimes a lame Christmas, struggling with bills. One car. But my kids were safe and comfortable.
I have been so glad i watched your videos and i never been soo happy and see there is still some women in the world who really cares abiut family life your the best ❤
Or in her case, become a content creator and get 55K subscribers on UA-cam to make extra cash. 😆 My guess is her husband and her are close to the 50/50 with the income she’s getting from her social media content.
55,000 is really not that much... and she mentions women having jobs to help supplement a husband's income when it's needed at times. Hobbies can actually turn into an income and there's nothing wrong with that. She actually says this in the video. The Proverbs 31 woman has many roles.
She has over 194k followers on Tik Tok, where she able to monetize her account and make a lot of money. I definitely think she is making enough to make it at least 50/50 in their household. Being a content creator is a full time job for many people and I think Estee is one of those people.
Let's make this lovely lady viral so more women can wake up 🙏🏽
What? Then men need to earn more as well and willing to work more, this easy
Please when looking at the financial part, include into your planning a good pension plan for the housewife and some kind of insurance that covers for the expenses of at least a year for the whole family in case the husband dies or gets sick!!!
She teaching that while having a TWO income household due to youtube: 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
We dropped down to one income over 2 years ago and while we've had some struggles, we've survived and we learned we can live on so much less than we thought. Here are some things we're doing to help stretch our money, in case anyone needs some ideas!
1. We live with my aging grandfather. We still pay him rent, but we agreed on a discounted rent in exchange for me helping to take care of grandpa, cooking for him, and keeping the house clean.
2. We DIY everything we can. I bake our bread, simmer our chicken broth, grow a veggie garden, and trim our hair (thank goodness my husband isn't picky with his haircuts!). These things all require a minimal amount of skill but once you muddle through doing it the first few times you'll get the hang of it! Even my hobbies are DIY. I love knitting and I try to make things I will actually wear and use, like socks, mittens, and sweaters.
3. We just live with less. I rarely wear makeup, and if I do it's very minimal. I only buy new makeup if one of my products runs out or is expired. I rarely get my nails done and if I feel like painting them, I can do it myself at home. My husband loves books, but he limits his purchases very carefully so they're never messing up our budget.
4. We enjoy cheaper forms of entertainment. For us, a couple of streaming service subscriptions is much cheaper than cable if we want to watch a show or movie. For going out, we don't need to see an expensive event or go to a club. Going to a small, local restaurant is a splurge enough for us, and finding a park with lots of walking trails is an excellent free activity when the weather is nice. If there is a more pricey event that we want to go to, we plan in advance and slim down the budget in other areas to make it happen!
I hope this helps, living on one income is definitely a challenge in this economy, but I think it can be a beautiful thing and bring families closer together in the long run. ❤
I completely agree with you. We need to make sacrifices for our families. I have always wanted to be home. I came home when i was pregnant. Being home with my daughter is such a joy. It is very tight financially, but traditional marriage is very rewarding. Society is so wrong about marriage. Kids want their moms home with them.
I've been steadily working towards this, and I think potentially 2 more pay raises (which is about 2 more years at work) and it can happen. That is, if my wife is interested in this. I feel like she loves spending time at home with the kids and taking care of the home, but, she also really enjoys her work. With that said I would be pretty ecstatic with maybe 2 days on, 3 days off sort of arrangement.
Does she know you’re thinking this? You need to discuss it if she doesn’t. Even if she doesn’t initially agree, you should give her time to get used to the idea.
So glad to see you posting again!
Amazing tips baby!! ❤ And men y’all need to get out there and grind grind grind! Figure out ways to increase your income with the skills you have. It takes hard work and dedication but you can do it.
What you are saying is common sense but unfortunately it’s largely absent in most people
You realize economic climate isn’t what it used to be like in the 1950’s right? The whole landscape is different, regardless of whether it works for some people it also leaves you vulnerable to domestic violence with no financial means of survival on your own if you ever find yourself in such a situation, there’s a reason the suffragette movement was started among others but it gave women the right to have independence from potential abusive partners, having your own bank account is a privilege that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
Women can always move in with their parents or siblings if they have them. Also having money does not keep you safe from abuse. Many women who make money are abused by spouses for years.
Furthermore, abuse is not the same taboo as it was in the 1950s. There’s homes for women and their children who are abused today and way more resources. They don’t have to be financially stranded anymore.
@@sweetxjc Until a transwoman enters the shelter. Unfortunately, the trans activists are creating a bleak future for women & children.
@@sweetxjc I understand but what this Tradwife is saying is that the wife shouldn’t be allowed to be making any money and that leaves you financially dependent on said person, in your words “financially stranded.”
@@sweetxjcthat is a great option for the women who come from a loving family but some women don’t have the family support because they come from a toxic family and don’t have siblings or family that would offer support if they were stuck in an abusive marriage. It’s always wise for women to have education and their own income to be able to escape if they were in an abusive marriage. unfortunately ive met several women who confided in me that they divorced their husbands because their spouse tried to kill them.
@@heavymetalzombiepilot4049actually if you watch the video, she doesn't say that at all. She actually talks about wives having supplemental income for a season or a lifetime if it's needed. But her content is sharing how to live off of one income if that's your goal. If it's not, no worries.
You are such an intelligent and conservative lady, your husband is such a lucky man. God bless you
Omg, I have those same sheets in my bed right now!! Very warm.
You make some good points about modern society. I never considered myself a traditional wife (not even Christian), but my husband and I kind of naturally grew into a 'smaller' life on 1 income. We have enough money but live in an apartment, have 1 car, only shop things we actually wear & use, and I do all my 'girly' stuff myself instead of going to the salon. We just realized that life wasn't about the material stuff or keeping up with the rat race, and it made our lives so much better because we have more time & focus on each other and what actually matters in life, instead of having very full days and weekends and stressing all the time because we both worked (full time).
I don't feel that everyone should (or could) live like this, but for us it truly works. Also: I do have a plan B & C if things go south (you never know - the statistics ARE against us), and I notice that some people who think I'm stupid in being too financially dependent sometimes don't have a good situation themself (working very hard while having kids too so they can 'leave if they need to' without having the proper agreements and papers in place to actually split things fairly in the case of a divorce).
Having a homemaker lifestyle: grow a garden, learn to preserve & pickle, cook from scratch, bake bread, sew, simple, cheap date nights etc.
The idea of transitioning to less income sounds painful. I'm glad that I've always just expected to take care of my wife and family. Even more glad to have landed a career that makes that possible.
Thankfully in Europe it’s the most common to have just one car and, depending on the country, a bike. That’s how we have it and I actually loooove using my bike to go everywhere (but like I said in Germany we have excellent set ups for bikes and it’s the most common means of transport)
You need to be an excellent team player to do this. Most women think team player means splitting the household chores 50-50.
Whats wrong with 50-50
@@st-dm2luWell, if the husband is the one working 9-5, I think it’s fair that he comes home to a meal prepared by his wife. Generally, a stay at home wife should do all the household tasks when the husband is at work. It’s not like she’s suppose to play video games all day.
Couples usually agree for one to stay home because there’s work to be done, such as raising the kids. But if both halves of the couple are working, then 50/50 housework sounds reasonable. Whoever comes home first would probably be in charge of the dinners. Whoever comes home last might be in charge of restocking groceries. Either way, there’s usually a balance.
Thanks for this. If your budget is stretched, eating seasonal comes in handy.That is, do not go for strawberries in the midst of winter unless you live in California or Florida. Also,making food durable in summer or fall for the winter by a special way of cooking iit and putting it in special glasses might save you money. You have time, use it wisely. The children do not always have to wear the latest fashion. It is not a bad thing to buy clothes for the kids from a second hand market when you wash them properly. And younger children can wear the outgrown stuff from the older ones, it is okay despite what many people say. Gardening as a hobby with planting your own herbs or fruit and vegetable is not only rewarding but might even enhance the qualities of your meals while lowering your expenses. In Germany, gardening is a very traditional hobby.The kids can have fun with it, too. do not feel ahamed to ask them to help you in the garden, it actually benefits them. If you sew, there is no reason to feel ashamed to make teddies. for your children yourself. Some kids love these even more than expensive ones from the store. Do not shy away from mending or repairing your clothes or even the clothes of the kids. If you do it creatively, the stuff might even look cooler than beforehand. Make going out and dining out special again. If you do it right, you can really save money and enhance the quality of your diet by cooking and eating home-made meals. Learning about cooking, storage of food, how to prepare leftovers for another good meal does not only help your budget but also the environment - if you, for example , made noodles the day before, you can make a great noodle-salad from the leftovers the day after., the same works with potatoes. If you or your husband into DIY, go absolutely for it. It can save you a lot of money and give your home a very personal touch. And a trick from German housewife: Accounting books. Write down the money that you have and everything you spend. You might find out very fast where you can save some money, like the coffee at Starbucks, the extra cake here, the little spoiling thing there....You name it...
The press on Kiss or Impress nails at the dollar store last me at least a week and I get 2.5 manicures out of each $6 package! I always get complements.
We have lived off of one income for 20 years. It's been so integral to our family to have a person at home keeping everything running smoothly. It's looking more and more difficult to do in this economy, so I'm grateful that we've had the opportunity to increase my husband's income over the last 20 years. But our lifestyle has definitely come with sacrifice, and you absolutely cannot live this way if you can't make them.
We recently moved across country to downsize and make life actually possible. We left the large rental with the 2 car garage in flashy California and purchased a 2 year old mobile home outright in Texas. Our home is beautiful. It is a modern mobile home and we adore it. The cost of living here is like 60% of what it was in California. We sold the expensive big car and have a solid fully paid for used car now. The insurance payments are still killer but hey, it is what it is. I had never heard of “tradwife” or anything like that until very recently and I think it’s fantastic and without realizing it my family has been moving in that direction throughout our move here. I thought there was something wrong with me mentally in California because I was always so anxious and depressed and didn’t like our marriage always being at odds because we never were together and nothing at home was ever taken care of and the arguments about whose job it was when we both worked felt soul crushing. There was nothing wrong with me there. The situation was wrong for me and my marriage. I think it’s more important that we be happy and comfortable than keeping up with Joneses.
I just love everything you said! This is amazing!
I work as a commercial cleaner 96 hrs a fortnight and still have to manage running the household being a homemaker and the 3 children we have 2 incomes and I don’t buy makeup I don’t get to buy clothes I live of thrift stores I do my own beauty regime and we still live week by week we still rent can’t afford to buy or save 🤷♀️ todays costs are overwhelming and the struggle is real we still have a traditional marriage and the hard work is real but that’s life in 2024 if your the same I feel you 👌🥰 we got this ladies everyday we wake up our lives are worth it and we have meaning 😘xx
Please know if you're a mother and in a position where you cant do this. Where its not a choice of making some changes to your budget but the income you bring in keeps your home and car and food on the table. You are not less than. You can still hold tradtional values, still raise your children with the Lord and work. Its great to make being home your goal and if you're not currently achieving your goal you're not a bad mom or wife.
I just love you! Keep it up. I am happy for you both.
This is all very doable. I was strictly a home maker for 10+ years. We're down to just our youngest living at home and shes in middle school. I work 15 hours a week as a librarian to get out of the house. Thats how I earn my "extras" money, makeup, clothes, treats for our daughtet or special things I want to do for my husband. We downsized our house, got rid of the "extras" stuck with used cars and only buy what we can pay cash for. For me, personally, I'm SO MUCH happier now than I ever was as a "working mom/wife". Not only as a trad-wife but just not having so much "stuff" to deal with.
If a man wants a trad wife like Estee, he has to be able to provide. If you cannot provide this lifestyle for your wife, you’ll both have to settle for another lifestyle.
When you factor in the fact that you don’t have the cost of a commute, lunches out, parking, bridge tolls, daycare, you start eating at home; the home becomes managed better and you become cost conscious you will almost ALWAYS come out on top. That’s before you factor in that everyone’s quality of life automatically improves. I’ll never regret it
Don’t forget paying off little debts and doing the snowball effect to eventually knock out those big debts! 🎉
thank you honey for being you and embodying what a woman should be what men want and not caring what the haters think . thank you
Are you really sacrificing? How much money does your channel generates? There is a disconnect for sure.
How do you feel safe,does he give you an allowance.? He could get up and leave you w nothing!
Can also make money from home selling things online. It doesn't take a lot of time and can also be very enjoyable while making some extra money.
The wife and I retired a couple of years ago and we went down to having one vehicle. We are saving money on not having to insure two vehicles, maintenance and gasoline.
Maybe the step down instead of the wife taking less hours she can start by putting 25% of her salary in savings, then 50%, then 75% and if that works when she quits for good, they have that nest egg in savings.
Great tips girl ❤
good advice thanks
Your husband knows what he has!!!! Good man.
That’s a good idea to do a slow transition trying to save up now and cut back on expenses
I'm reaching a point where your stance is becoming increasingly irksome. Your claim about contributing to a better world through your lifestyle doesn't quite align with the research suggesting potential academic challenges for kids in that setup. And dedicating a whole day to cleaning and cooking? That seems like a serious time management rethink might be in order.
Let's tackle the mixed messages you're throwing around. On one hand, you're all about personal choices, and on the other, you're championing this somewhat dated "family first, always" idea. Spoiler alert: many working women are expertly juggling family responsibilities without pigeonholing their partners into mere financial roles.
No beating around the bush here - your cooking style feels like a throwback to the '70s. And giving advice on supermarket product toxicity (a past video)? Not sure the credentials are adding up there.
And this whole advocating for a sole breadwinner scenario? Studies are pointing to that being a recipe for stress. Your dream of staying at home might be contributing to that load.
Do your thing, but expecting a round of applause for the bare minimum might be a bit much. But don't talk to me about the success of your approach until you've been successfully married for as long as I have. I will reach out to you in 25 years and we can compare notes.. if I'm still alive!
Soooooo… your tip for transitioning from two incomes to one, is that the woman still has to work at least part time to be able to have money for anything besides the barest of necessities?
Sounds like the “man” in this scenario isn’t much of a Provider after all. 👀
My tip is to prioritize paying off debt. Hard to transition to single income if you have 2 car payments! Also having a small emergency fund helps for unexpected costs.
Will you please do a video on your skin care routine?❤
I don’t think you can teach people about that topic because you are still working as influencer on social media.
Exactly 🙄 she is talking about 1 income but she is getting some 💰 too 😐
It's a little easier to have a small home, one car & a single income when you have no children too.
Stuff it! You are just jealous!
@@susanwilliams1575 you are what people call a sheep. 😂
Do I need to get a b**b job and a UA-cam channel too????
A feminine woman who supports masculine men, is a beautiful thing.
Dude she's married for 3 years ans she used to be a hoe. I mean she's pretty to look at but i wouldnt take advice from a child about how to run my finance.😅
Where the masculine men at?
They're around... But this is going to be a chicken and the egg scenario.... Who's going to start first? Men need to step up but so do us Women. I'm already married, but MOST women (including myself for a long time) don't know what to do with a masculine man and fight with them constantly. Learned the hard way over here 😂🙋♀️
@@sineadiloveyou They're all around you, most men are masculine, the energy has just gone dormant in modern times because men have largely been made to be superfluous now because women now work as well, only difference is, most of them (men) are wired to protect you if you're in need, this is true even if you are not related to them they will lay their lives down for you instinctively! This is part of what masculinity is, and is art of why men are worthy of respect. Its who men are, they (we) are literally protectors and providers innately, funny enough a woman who is in her feminine draws out a mans masculine energy so both energies can independently coax out the other polarity within the other person.
Keep the videos coming 💃💃💃💃
Thank you 😊
Understanding not all couples have children. However the ultimate ‘cost’ is to children in full time childcare (60hours a week).
I use childcare to do a little work to help out (15hours). In return I’m less stressed, my husband is happy and so are the children. We all eat well and our house 🏠 is comfortable.
Ultimately what more could you ask for? ❤
Excellent advice. 🙏
Don’t really buy into the tread wife movement but I do miss the spirit of what a traditional relationship is. I don’t mean 1950s America “traditional”; I mean what traditional relationships always were… men and women always worked together, both for survival, and to raise a family. The idea was a wife would help her husband and whatever business or occupation he was involved in; In addition to monetizing her own hobbies and activities while at home. A husband and wife could easily be partners both in marriage, and running a business, even in modern daytimes. The issue is, if not all women have no interest in that type of loving partnership…
Thanks for sharing!
That and a man will have more energy for work because he’s being recharged at home, not drained. That’ll lead to more hours/promotions/pay increase by default.
God bless you, woman.
Irony: Claims to live off one income, but legit makes money (income) off telling other women to live on one income...
Interesting, I didn’t think about it that way.
Making videos that go viral must produce some extra cash for her, but from the sound of it, her husband seems to take in the bulk of the financial responsibility.
Her ASMR handle used to be Gwengwiz, and she used to do lingerie hauls, this makes me wonder if her husband or boyfriend is making her make these videos as her personality on her previous channel would suggest she is being coerced into making this “TradWife” content.
@@heavymetalzombiepilot4049 You are talking about a different content creator. Estee and Gwen are not the same person. Gwen is also a similar tradwife content creator and looks a lot like Estee , so i understand your confusion.
@@style_museshe is also doing interviews. And she could literally earn money by just holding something into the camera or placing it somewhere to be seen. This way you wouldn’t even know it’s advertising.
Not ironic at all. There are lots of ways a SAHM can earn extra money - especially now online.
Before women were expected to work for money, they did most of the volunteer work in this country. Another way our late-stage capitalism has impoverished us.
Great video you’re the absolute cutest!!❤❤❤
This is real valuable info
Do you like to thrift? I'd love a video on your thrifting as you always look so pretty. I adore Vinted x