Love the breathing tip and back up plans. Experienceing this one today... My great gran (favorite person in the world for the young me) taught me circular thinking. It meant to me a bunch of different possibilities. The circle is about focusing on all directions I can choose at any time. So, if this does not work out for me, I move on to the next, or the next ... My great gran was lost to me when I was 7 years old. But not before she taught me circular thinking for every event. She gave me the greatest tool! Now I use it like an over-lay to make the most of each situation. I no longer have to react. I can instantly maximize my options. I am now 72 years old and it has been my 'go-to' for a very long time. I have also tried to teach my children and grandies as well as great grandies.
Yesterday I identified that I had a meltdown and was looking online for literature/explanation with adult females so I could use logic to balance out the emotion, and then I get a notification for your video! What a coincidence!
For me I don’t have meltdowns over change or sensory overload, but rather stressful situations like taking a test. It’s tough because I can’t exactly remove myself from the test. My best tactic at this point is to use accommodations and not take classes or do jobs that will be too hard and stress me out.
I have great difficulties with removing myself from the situation. It's fine if I'm in a store or w/e, then I'm able to leave or even avoid going in in the first place. But when I'm doing something, like a task or a project, it's like I can't stop doing it even though a meltdown is coming on. It's like I have to finish the task or resolve the problem or w/e it is that I'm doing. Sometimes I put myself in those situations in the first place, even though I know there's a risk stuff will go sideways or in some way cause a meltdown. Like this evening, I wanted to fix a pillow I've made and I wanted to do it sitting on the couch, even though the pillow contains styrofoam beads (I don't know if that's really what they're called, but you know those beanbag beads) and I fricken KNEW I wouldn't be able to not spill any. But I convinced myself that if I were really careful everything would be fine. Well, sh*t didn't end up fine so I wasn't fine. Luckily it was a mild meltdown but it still got followed up with the self loathing and shame. I'm going to really try your tips, Dan, and also work harder to not sabotage myself. I'm fine now and I hope that anyone reading this also is fine. ❤❤
Great helpful hints, thankyou! The breathing thing is so funny isn't it? Everyone knows they have to breathe, but so many forget how to do it properly.. including myself! Cheers Dan
I'm melting down as I'm banned from all activity as I'm anorexic. I'm very depressed i have said I will eat extra calories and still won't compromised. Got yelled at over 500 steps and the shop was further away than I thought. It was mortifying enough the situation. Im 5 stone and quite sick. I had to go to kids boutique to get dress. Staff cancelled my trip to the restaurant for dessert and another staff said I shouldn't even swing on the swing as that burns calories. Everything burns calories. I faked my weigh in as I could not actually gain weight due to the stress. I can only gain a bit at a time. I gained a little though. So sad rn. I dont want to move or do anything more and I will just get smaller anyway. I like to sew and that burns calories getting very very sad
What helps me to to prevent meltdowns are physical and mental exercises. I go to the gym before work so I don't have too much energy to stress out and I'm feeling more calm and relaxed. I regularly analyze my environment to spot any risks that could cause a meltdown and try to figure out countermeasures and backup plans. When my stress level reaches a certain point, I start breathing exercises, listen to my favorite music and either distract myself or try to analyze the situation and ask myself if it's really as bad as it feels like. Self-reflection does help a lot here! If it still doesn't get any better, I talk to someone who's willing to listen to my problems and I vent my frustration verbally. After that, I always feel much better. I still get meltdowns at least once or twice a year. It's usually because so much happens within a short time span that I can't catch up with it.
Questions for Dan (and any other autistic people who have answers) : Do all autistic people have meltdowns? Can it look like just shutting down like instead of looking very upset, they just don't react or answer questions at all? I am trying to understand what a person close to me is struggling with and their social+emotional issues point towards asd /Asperger's. But a lot of the "classic" signs like obvious stimmig, meltdowns or incessantly talking about Special interest aren't really there as far as I can see. 🤔
It can be difficult to see when someone is masking. Shutdowns are definitely an autistic thing. It's difficult to see the signs when someone is good at masking but what you are describing could definitely be a sign of someone who is masking but has no more energy to keep the mask up. Meltdowns happen after that, if someone needs to shut down but they are unable to and forced to keep going.
Any tips on how to avoid angry outbursts that are triggered by things people say? My mother said something uncharitable to me the other day and I went from zero to meltdown in two seconds flat.
To be honest w/ you that's tough. I had to limit my contact w my mother. she's toxic for me. when i get triggered i remove myself immediately and if i show and she is in a mood I don't stay long because i used to force myself to do that and made the melt downs worse.
Yep, just limiting contact helps me avoid conflict. Removing myself from the environment or giving myself time to process rather than immediately responding to her criticism is sometimes easier said than done.
Can you do a video on how to help siblings play together nicely together? my son has adhd and autism and can only play his way. which was good when my daughter was little as she followed him but now she has her own ideas. Just a thought thanks love your content
Brillia does help but our problem was it would wear off half way at school and school would not approve him to take it because there's no prescription. Plus after your 1st try then it's $60. That's pretty high compared to prescription my insurance covers.
Love the breathing tip and back up plans. Experienceing this one today...
My great gran (favorite person in the world for the young me) taught me circular thinking. It meant to me a bunch of different possibilities. The circle is about focusing on all directions I can choose at any time. So, if this does not work out for me, I move on to the next, or the next ...
My great gran was lost to me when I was 7 years old. But not before she taught me circular thinking for every event.
She gave me the greatest tool! Now I use it like an over-lay to make the most of each situation. I no longer have to react. I can instantly maximize my options.
I am now 72 years old and it has been my 'go-to' for a very long time. I have also tried to teach my children and grandies as well as great grandies.
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1. Backup Plan
2. Box breathing
3. Brillia (ad)
4. Escape plan
Yesterday I identified that I had a meltdown and was looking online for literature/explanation with adult females so I could use logic to balance out the emotion, and then I get a notification for your video! What a coincidence!
For me I don’t have meltdowns over change or sensory overload, but rather stressful situations like taking a test. It’s tough because I can’t exactly remove myself from the test. My best tactic at this point is to use accommodations and not take classes or do jobs that will be too hard and stress me out.
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I mostly meltdown / shut down from conflict ,
I have great difficulties with removing myself from the situation. It's fine if I'm in a store or w/e, then I'm able to leave or even avoid going in in the first place. But when I'm doing something, like a task or a project, it's like I can't stop doing it even though a meltdown is coming on. It's like I have to finish the task or resolve the problem or w/e it is that I'm doing. Sometimes I put myself in those situations in the first place, even though I know there's a risk stuff will go sideways or in some way cause a meltdown. Like this evening, I wanted to fix a pillow I've made and I wanted to do it sitting on the couch, even though the pillow contains styrofoam beads (I don't know if that's really what they're called, but you know those beanbag beads) and I fricken KNEW I wouldn't be able to not spill any. But I convinced myself that if I were really careful everything would be fine. Well, sh*t didn't end up fine so I wasn't fine. Luckily it was a mild meltdown but it still got followed up with the self loathing and shame. I'm going to really try your tips, Dan, and also work harder to not sabotage myself. I'm fine now and I hope that anyone reading this also is fine. ❤❤
Still being roughly 4 months away from my assessment, despite the fact I'm pretty sure I'm on the spectrum, these kinds of things are super helpful!
Great helpful hints, thankyou! The breathing thing is so funny isn't it? Everyone knows they have to breathe, but so many forget how to do it properly.. including myself! Cheers Dan
Thank you so much for the comment!
Brillia is a SSRI the same thing as Elicea. It is hightening up serotonine in the system
I'm melting down as I'm banned from all activity as I'm anorexic. I'm very depressed i have said I will eat extra calories and still won't compromised. Got yelled at over 500 steps and the shop was further away than I thought. It was mortifying enough the situation. Im 5 stone and quite sick. I had to go to kids boutique to get dress. Staff cancelled my trip to the restaurant for dessert and another staff said I shouldn't even swing on the swing as that burns calories. Everything burns calories. I faked my weigh in as I could not actually gain weight due to the stress. I can only gain a bit at a time. I gained a little though. So sad rn. I dont want to move or do anything more and I will just get smaller anyway. I like to sew and that burns calories getting very very sad
What helps me to to prevent meltdowns are physical and mental exercises. I go to the gym before work so I don't have too much energy to stress out and I'm feeling more calm and relaxed. I regularly analyze my environment to spot any risks that could cause a meltdown and try to figure out countermeasures and backup plans.
When my stress level reaches a certain point, I start breathing exercises, listen to my favorite music and either distract myself or try to analyze the situation and ask myself if it's really as bad as it feels like. Self-reflection does help a lot here!
If it still doesn't get any better, I talk to someone who's willing to listen to my problems and I vent my frustration verbally. After that, I always feel much better.
I still get meltdowns at least once or twice a year. It's usually because so much happens within a short time span that I can't catch up with it.
5-5-5 is fantastic and how I will now take the 10 deep breaths I currently use when I feel overwhelmed. Thank you!!!
I like the 5-5-5 method. Thanks for another tool in my toolbox of coping skills.
Questions for Dan (and any other autistic people who have answers) :
Do all autistic people have meltdowns? Can it look like just shutting down like instead of looking very upset, they just don't react or answer questions at all?
I am trying to understand what a person close to me is struggling with and their social+emotional issues point towards asd /Asperger's. But a lot of the "classic" signs like obvious stimmig, meltdowns or incessantly talking about Special interest aren't really there as far as I can see. 🤔
It can be difficult to see when someone is masking. Shutdowns are definitely an autistic thing. It's difficult to see the signs when someone is good at masking but what you are describing could definitely be a sign of someone who is masking but has no more energy to keep the mask up. Meltdowns happen after that, if someone needs to shut down but they are unable to and forced to keep going.
🤯 how much!!!!!! Now that has really set me off, robbing pharmaceutical companies taking advantage.
Great work buddy, very useful tips👍
Thank you!! 🔥❤️🙌🏼
Any tips on how to avoid angry outbursts that are triggered by things people say? My mother said something uncharitable to me the other day and I went from zero to meltdown in two seconds flat.
To be honest w/ you that's tough. I had to limit my contact w my mother. she's toxic for me. when i get triggered i remove myself immediately and if i show and she is in a mood I don't stay long because i used to force myself to do that and made the melt downs worse.
Yep, just limiting contact helps me avoid conflict. Removing myself from the environment or giving myself time to process rather than immediately responding to her criticism is sometimes easier said than done.
I have autism, and I have found cannabis to help with my meltdowns.
Yes!
I wish it’s very illegal in my country and also interacts with my adhd drugs☹️
@Sophie Astrid Rooth there is cbd and gummies. You don’t have to smoke.
Medical Cannabis is still not legal here in Alabama. They are in the process of getting the permits and doctors.
So will it be legal medically in Alabama soon? I have not heard about that but its awesome. I needs to be federally legalized. @@amberallen4181
Can you do a video on how to help siblings play together nicely together? my son has adhd and autism and can only play his way. which was good when my daughter was little as she followed him but now she has her own ideas. Just a thought thanks love your content
Brillia does help but our problem was it would wear off half way at school and school would not approve him to take it because there's no prescription. Plus after your 1st try then it's $60. That's pretty high compared to prescription my insurance covers.
Merci pour ta vidéo
Tysm!
AMAZING!!!
Thank you
Thank you so much for the comment!
Good video
Great thumbnail!
The child what helps
Brilla -_-
Omg whats the dam options come on
First!!!
Yay!
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