There is always a period of time for mourning of the death of love. Men seem to commit their love to someone. That commitment is a deep emotional part of him as a gift to that person. When that love ends, it's like a death that needs a period of mourning. Even when you know that the end of a relationship is better for you, it still takes time to get past it, even when you are happier.
i think some men, like myself had such a beautiful person as a mother, loosing them is the ultimate loss, my wife and no one will love me as much as that beautiful woman. i have just lost her. i love life and will continue until its end, I dont have room in my heart anymore for another bond of this magnitude. but it is okay.
A wise man once told me: The realities of romantic love is: for men, there are only 2 women that aren’t cunts. Your mother and your daughter. Is he right? 🤔
Logic is different from rationalisation which isn't concerned with the truth, so in fact they often if not usually conflict with most people. As most people aren't interested in the truth.
I have been applying your techniques and wisdom for the past year and i have obtained results more effectively than many therapy sessions. My emotions and relationships are more in tune with my life and its goals. Thank you.
We are like method actors who initially know we’re playing a role but get caught up in the identity of the character we’re playing, in a script (written by the writer/creator) we had no part in writing.
@@GratefulZen I would add - that toxic people, dark triad, manipulators, psychopaths and sociopaths of all kinds - push us into emotional fusion. This needs to be said.
This is a message I really needed to hear today. I’m coming up on the two year anniversary of a stroke that has robbed me of my mobility and independence and wrestling with my emotions has become a constant task. There are times I wish I had not survived to be a burden to my family I know I should be grateful to still be on this side of the “dirt nap” that we all have coming, but in truth I feel so diminished. Thank you for a new strategy.
@@michelledee2586 I don’t really know for sure. I was vaccinated, but whether that was a cause or not is inconclusive. I was 57, and negotiating with a school to return to China and teach. If it had to happen I’m glad it didn’t happen there, or else I would for sure be dead. So instead of doing what I want, I do what I can. Instead of having a big life that meant traveling the world, I have an exceptionally small life.
It happened to my brother two years ago. A very bad stroke. I’m watching him recover, very slowly, but he now gets the maximum amount of pleasure from the small things. He is committed to the fight and he makes progress. He was 50.
I see my emotions like a sea, sometimes calm and sometimes with giant waves. Emotional detachment for me is about surfing upon the waves, I try to ride them by maintaining control. The bigger the wave, the harder it is to not topple into the water. If you don't learn to surf or float, you will eventually drown in them. No-one can swim forever!
I would add -there is tsunami sometimes. We need to know that toxic people are tsunami - and we need radar and technology to pick up red flags to avoid earthquake prone areas in life.
This is quickly becoming my favorite channel. This is what MEN need. Practical examples as well as practical methods of implementing the changes moving forward
Thank you for putting your wisdom somewhere so accessible, I've slowly and carefully been implementing a lot of your tips in my life, and there has not been one negative outcome and found all the positive, it’s also allowed me to be more aware. Im only 18 but I couldn't thank you enough.
this is a really late comment but i just wanted to say that it makes me happy hearing you’re pretty young and seeing that you’re developing such a healthy mindset. im 24 and found content similiar to this around your age and i kind of felt isolated since no other guys around me discovered this stuff. not that the guys around me needed to be exposed to it, or maybe they were and i just didnt know, but you get the gist. anyways i just wanted to really say kudos to you man and good luck in life, im sure you’ll make it far🙌🏻
Very interesting topic. I am right now going through an unhappy phase of my life. And I was trying to completely shut myself down emotionally. I just realised I was wrong in doing so.
Your videos are helping save me and develope me as a man Im 33 and just lost my first girlfriend - my firsteverything 3 years gone but not for nothing I hope to become a better version of myself helped by your content and output on youtube Cheers from the UK
Whenever I had emotional detachment.. I felt numb always.. when he gave that example about the cereal I couldn’t really relate, you feel like it’s pointless to even get cereal so you end up not even going to the store. Emotions give life reason, but they need to be kept under control like he said.. I believe the detachment from my emotions was a great lesson learned because now after I regained them with medication and healthy lifestyle, completely off medication for 2 years.. I go about life scanning my emotions and justifying them before anything.. because when I lived without them I made decisions based on the true value it would bring me. I may not feel better but I will certainly gain something out of it. Helped with quitting a job I hated ended up getting a huge raise to stay with less responsibilities.. since I had no fear I easily took action. So yeah that’s my 2 cents. I love this guy he has some excellent content👍🏾
Amazing message. I would add that narcissistic abuse, mobbing, lack of money, lack of shelter, lack of security, ACE and ACoA - mess this attachment process up big time. First of all - people went through long term harassments - probably since childhood have learned and been programmed to be emotional fusion. So this information about Emotional Detachment is like talking space technology to cavemen - it will sound futuristic and unreal and miss many components needed to know what has been said. This means - many people will confuse emotional detachment with dissociation or as you call it emotional amputation - so it is great that you made clear distinction - as I see in the comments here - people are already mixing up dissociation with emotional detachment. My point is - when we actually do emotionally detach - if we have toxic people around us - they will attack us for it. Toxic people like us to be scared and hypervigilant and that we emotionally respond to their abuse. This needs to be said.
You can still connect even when emotionally detached, however, this requires a stronger control of one’s emotions. Not easy but attainable. I’m working on it as we speak.
To “love without emotional attachment” is just plain impossible. It would be a contradiction in terms! Instructions like these shouldn’t be taken literally. They’re like Zen koans-interesting thought experiments, but not realistic guidelines for everyday life.
May I say … to detach emotions practically comes with experiences… as older you get and as much you have hurtful experiencing you will become an expert of emotional detachment person….. for someone is experiencing painful situations right now and going through the same pattern in life at some point you will learn how to detach. That very point that you would feel most pain that you have never experienced and the suffering you have never seen that very point you will understand how to detach things and feelings….. life is supposed to be chaos without chaos you are not alive,,,,, thank you for sharing good video
emotional detachment: while accessing the information of your emotions, you don't cling to them. while feeling the emotions in your body, you have the ability to analyze and control them. you will learn to let things come and go without experiencing an uncontrollable roller-coaster of emotions. you will live more vividly and will feel deeply. emotional intelligence is the key factor for overall success, in any aspect of your life
Thank you. This *does* reflect my experience, and my conclusions. For (blah-blah-blah) reasons, I've spent much of my life suppressing too many emotions, and wondering why I even have to deal with the pesky things. I view emotions as chemical reactions in the brain which occur in response to stimuli, but they can and should be held apart from conscious thought. "Listen to your gut," means your gut is telling that something is wrong (or right) but it can't tell you what is wrong, or why. That is for your conscious (and/or subconscious) mind to figure out using the most logical criteria possible. Deciding how to act in response to the stimuli, is also the responsibility of your conscious mind. I'm now learning to feel, understand, and express my emotions, and I've realized that they have no inherent meaning. The only meaning (as opposed to purpose) they have, is the meaning I give them. As I explore them, I try to focus on the specific events or people attached to them in my past experiences. Sometimes I find very clear memories associated with an emotion, but more often I find past emotions associated with only vague mental images. I think what this means, is that the "meaning" of each my emotions evolves over the years of experiences and stimuli. The only objective aspect of them is their physiology, so I need to learn to let go of my need to find objective meaning within them. I need to learn to *acknowledge* my gut, while using my objective experiences to decide how to respond to whatever it tells me. I guess that's the "middle ground," and I probably need to learn to trust the judgement I've developed through experience. Sorry for rambling...
Hi Orion, I just wanted to say thank you for your consistently well-thought contributions to the public discourse. Achieving such a high level of quality with such consistency is very impressive and quite helpful.
Really insightful. This is something I have struggled with most of my adult life. I’ve tried to observe my thoughts and emotions almost as a third (second?) party observer would, and while I think that has kept me out of a lot of trouble and harmful relationships and situations, I also wonder if I haven’t played it too safe, crossing over into “avoidance” territory, missing out on opportunities and relationships and adventures. As Dr. Taraban notes, it is a balance. Great video.
Thanks! So wise. I have studied the Buddhist teachings on letting go. It does take a strong self-discipline to be aware when those emotions well up, but possible with practice, like you say. Thank you for your messages. I listen and share your videos. You have an amazing mind!! I love listening to you because of your incredible intelligence and your ability to convey your thoughts so effectively.
Wow! You just convince me to be more emotional detached and also appreciate others that are more distant of their own emotions without seeing them like ETs. Thank you very much. Greetings from Brazil
Very buddhist concept, observing the emotions and drawing wisdom from them yet not attaching to them and understanding they aren’t exclusive to you. Thanks for another great episode
The Hindu scripture Bhagavad Gita talks about emotional detachment. Krishna teaches in the Gita (Chapter 2, Verse 47): "You have the right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty."
That's very interesting. Emotions are almost like a motor to get you to move through life and make decisions. You don't always need to go along with them
For a couple of seconds I almost let loose today. Ive been working a lot. I bought a new TV and I was selling my old one for super cheap. People are so annoying. They wanted it even cheaper. I almost picked it up and smashed it in front of the guy. Smashing it was flashing my mind and the energy was jolting down my veins but I stopped it. The guy bought the TV and even sent an email thanking me.
You're lost. You're very emotional. When selling used stuff ANYTHING YOU GET ABOVE $0.00 IS A WIN..don't benchmark against what you bought it .. benchmark against what you would get if you take it to goodwill or thrash it .and that's $0.00
@@zuibeckpulezon4626 LoL yeah, I get that but the stupid TV was taking me away from work that pays more so I was becoming angry that my time was wasted dealing with f tard.
I always give EBay price. If you are confident enough in your negotiation & willing to leave you should be fine. I’m terrible at deal making, much less under stress from work. Tv sucks tho should have smashed it on principle.
I’ve watch so many of your lessons and this one is the most enlightening one and put into words the practice of that I stumbled on a couple years ago. It’s always a daily battle and practice but the moments of being still in the moments of chaos around me, remind me in that moment the absolute value in that still awareness. Keep on keeping on Doc, thanks for the wisdom.
Thank you. I am starting to learn to not be so emotionally attached to people or things tgat I love. And you are right... to hold it gently is better. And to think about what the emotional part will do to your reasoning❤
This man knows what he’s talking about. I am so thankful for how much clarity this wonderfully articulated piece just brought into my life. You are one of my favorite artists and craftsmen.
Incredibly important to recognize emotions as information to how one understands reality, but then to realize that's as far as they go. They are based on understandings and interpretations which gives one fuel for self work and decision making. Not to be induced in shame or believed as truth.
Thanks Orion, your episodes always get to me when I'm trying to figure out things that happen to me. I'm apparently seem to be quite emotional detached to ex girlfriend according to her as I always remain calmed when we were basically talking about breaking up in multiple occasions or when we're not on the same page. Inside I felt the emotions and fear circulating my body but I managed to control quite well this in many aspects of life. Sometimes I wonder If I'm too emotional detached from people and if this is something that will hit me hard in the future, but as you said, everything will be taken from us or will move on as some point, try to enjoy in the present... This video really helped feel better about these wonders of mine❤
There was a time in my life when i had to learn to turn my emotions off just to get through the day, and i never learned how to turn them back on because of how much i depended on that skill. It's definitely a struggle to find peace when you're trying to learn how to feel again.
Wow! Priceless! Dr. Orion Taraban yet again with the "Bars!". Much appreciation for sharing your insights. Thank you yet again for another invaluable gem 💎. I can't wait for your book. I will be definitely purchasing immediately.
I'll tell you this for free, for a month or two now i have been listening to the great Alan Watts for wisdom on detachment and letting go, i couldnt wrap my head around what to do still. But listening to this man's one video right here gives me everything ive ever needed to know about really just detaching from my emotions and being a more stoic man. God bless you Orion, remain on your throne king 🙏🏽
Recent "tip" is a small token of the value I received from the trilogy of "how to get any man" series. These are THE most valuable and concise guidance on what a man on his own program looks for from his partner. THANK YOU!
Again, thank you. "Emotional Control" is easier if one attempts to practice a stoic philosophy. We are in control of very, very little. Emotions are easier to control if we realize (immediately) that we don't control that which makes us "emotional".
For me this means recognizing when my emotions can give me trouble and doing the right thing regardless of what i feel. Feel good and everything going well? Dont let emotions stop you. Feeling angry and frustrated? Still behaving myself and saying what i SHOULD say not what i would want to say. Having control of your emotions.
Bob proctor talks about something like this. I think it’s called a paradigm shift. Where everything starts from a thought, then expressed as emotions, and actions are demonstrations of what emotions we were feeling. Upside-down, Inside- Out.
I’m happy to notice that I have some psyhacks in me I use to tell people to split E-Motion to understand the deep meaning behind Energy in Motion Huge amount of informations That is helpful when we train to channel it instead of being bullied by it Thank you it’s insightful
I like to see it as managing emotions. I got myself into stoicism years ago and this philosophy has become a fantastic way to deal with emotions. I think detachment is not the word...you can't just detach your emotions but you can manage them.
@@Holy_Athletics , not at all. It is the realization that what is "coming in" , is just an emotion, nothing more a feeling that might be nothing more than a distortion of reality made up by my mind in a certain moment in time. Sometimes, my mind really shouts : Emotion alert !!! do not react to this feeling, it is just an emotion that does not require any action from your side directly,stay put and reflect ! The only thing which we control in life, in reality, are our actions, the way we decide to deal with things. Very powerful , to internally realize that no one can take that away or change it People can take your money, your wife, you can get sick, your reputation down the drain...but what you think about something.... no-one can take...so you better use that. The rational mind later on can deal with these emotions later on or put everything in perspective. Once you truly understand that in reality the only thing we can control in our lives are our actions, what we think , life becomes so much easier.
Emotions are another facet of the mind that needs to be controlled by reason. Emotions are helpful in dealing with issues in relationships but too much emotions tends to short circuit the thinking process.
I’d really like to say thank you for making this video. I have been struggling to understand this topic. I now know, i am swimming but i am not the body of water. 🌊 Merry Christmas to you and to everyone who sees this 🎄
There is always a period of time for mourning of the death of love. Men seem to commit their love to someone. That commitment is a deep emotional part of him as a gift to that person. When that love ends, it's like a death that needs a period of mourning. Even when you know that the end of a relationship is better for you, it still takes time to get past it, even when you are happier.
i think some men, like myself had such a beautiful person as a mother, loosing them is the ultimate loss, my wife and no one will love me as much as that beautiful woman. i have just lost her. i love life and will continue until its end, I dont have room in my heart anymore for another bond of this magnitude. but it is okay.
A wise man once told me: The realities of romantic love is: for men, there are only 2 women that aren’t cunts. Your mother and your daughter.
Is he right? 🤔
@@neomacchio4692Sorry - My mum was a C.
Lol.. Something tells me “cold” and stoic Scandinavian people will probably understand your message better than passionate Latin people;-).
Stoics were great . Sound like you know what they taught .
I'm not a THING, I'm a PROCESS. That's the most important revelation I've ever had.
I like the concept “We don’t just have a body, we are somebody”. -Stanley Milgram
People use emotions to make decisions and use logic to rationalize their choices.
Thank you Dr. Orion for this valuable reminder.
Insightful!
Correction women (not men) use emotions to make decisions and use logic to rationalize their choices.
@@doggychops7304Generally, everyone does that with everything.
@@doggychops7304men also
Logic is different from rationalisation which isn't concerned with the truth, so in fact they often if not usually conflict with most people. As most people aren't interested in the truth.
Feeling the heat from the fire, rather than being on fire.
I have been applying your techniques and wisdom for the past year and i have obtained results more effectively than many therapy sessions. My emotions and relationships are more in tune with my life and its goals.
Thank you.
Same. This might be the most helpful channel I've found on UA-cam for personal growth. It's been helping me immensely.
Much appreciated that there is no background music. Good video, thank you.
Yes!! I cannot stand background music.
@@Onnitfan1 So.. you are emotionally fused with background music.
Be an observer of your emotion. Understand why it feels hurt or happy. Do not sway away of it and do not reject it. Understand it.
We are like method actors who initially know we’re playing a role but get caught up in the identity of the character we’re playing, in a script (written by the writer/creator) we had no part in writing.
@@GratefulZen I would add - that toxic people, dark triad, manipulators, psychopaths and sociopaths of all kinds - push us into emotional fusion. This needs to be said.
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This is a message I really needed to hear today. I’m coming up on the two year anniversary of a stroke that has robbed me of my mobility and independence and wrestling with my emotions has become a constant task.
There are times I wish I had not survived to be a burden to my family I know I should be grateful to still be on this side of the “dirt nap” that we all have coming, but in truth I feel so diminished.
Thank you for a new strategy.
Hope there are better times to call brother just know you are loved stay strong love from
houston!
Was it from the vax? You are not alone many people got injured.
@@michelledee2586 I don’t really know for sure. I was vaccinated, but whether that was a cause or not is inconclusive.
I was 57, and negotiating with a school to return to China and teach. If it had to happen I’m glad it didn’t happen there, or else I would for sure be dead.
So instead of doing what I want, I do what I can.
Instead of having a big life that meant traveling the world, I have an exceptionally small life.
It happened to my brother two years ago. A very bad stroke. I’m watching him recover, very slowly, but he now gets the maximum amount of pleasure from the small things. He is committed to the fight and he makes progress. He was 50.
@@leviathon2 please wish your brother well for me.
I see my emotions like a sea, sometimes calm and sometimes with giant waves. Emotional detachment for me is about surfing upon the waves, I try to ride them by maintaining control. The bigger the wave, the harder it is to not topple into the water. If you don't learn to surf or float, you will eventually drown in them. No-one can swim forever!
I would add -there is tsunami sometimes.
We need to know that toxic people are tsunami - and we need radar and technology to pick up red flags to avoid earthquake prone areas in life.
Like it 👍
Man this guy blew up fast in the last 12 months, subbed when he was under 10k. Good stuff 💯
He is the wisest I ever heard
This is quickly becoming my favorite channel. This is what MEN need. Practical examples as well as practical methods of implementing the changes moving forward
Subscribed immediately.
I have been binging your videos. Pure gold back to back.
Interesting. I'd never considered before that emotions HELP you make decisions. I always felt they got in the way of thinking logically.
Yin Yang.
We need logic and heart to be complete.
Thank you for putting your wisdom somewhere so accessible, I've slowly and carefully been implementing a lot of your tips in my life, and there has not been one negative outcome and found all the positive, it’s also allowed me to be more aware. Im only 18 but I couldn't thank you enough.
this is a really late comment but i just wanted to say that it makes me happy hearing you’re pretty young and seeing that you’re developing such a healthy mindset. im 24 and found content similiar to this around your age and i kind of felt isolated since no other guys around me discovered this stuff. not that the guys around me needed to be exposed to it, or maybe they were and i just didnt know, but you get the gist.
anyways i just wanted to really say kudos to you man and good luck in life, im sure you’ll make it far🙌🏻
Very interesting topic. I am right now going through an unhappy phase of my life. And I was trying to completely shut myself down emotionally. I just realised I was wrong in doing so.
Your videos are helping save me and develope me as a man
Im 33 and just lost my first girlfriend - my firsteverything
3 years gone but not for nothing
I hope to become a better version of myself helped by your content and output on youtube
Cheers from the UK
Whenever I had emotional detachment.. I felt numb always.. when he gave that example about the cereal I couldn’t really relate, you feel like it’s pointless to even get cereal so you end up not even going to the store. Emotions give life reason, but they need to be kept under control like he said.. I believe the detachment from my emotions was a great lesson learned because now after I regained them with medication and healthy lifestyle, completely off medication for 2 years.. I go about life scanning my emotions and justifying them before anything.. because when I lived without them I made decisions based on the true value it would bring me. I may not feel better but I will certainly gain something out of it. Helped with quitting a job I hated ended up getting a huge raise to stay with less responsibilities.. since I had no fear I easily took action. So yeah that’s my 2 cents. I love this guy he has some excellent content👍🏾
Amazing message.
I would add that narcissistic abuse, mobbing, lack of money, lack of shelter, lack of security, ACE and ACoA - mess this attachment process up big time.
First of all - people went through long term harassments - probably since childhood have learned and been programmed to be emotional fusion. So this information about Emotional Detachment is like talking space technology to cavemen - it will sound futuristic and unreal and miss many components needed to know what has been said.
This means - many people will confuse emotional detachment with dissociation or as you call it emotional amputation - so it is great that you made clear distinction - as I see in the comments here - people are already mixing up dissociation with emotional detachment.
My point is - when we actually do emotionally detach - if we have toxic people around us - they will attack us for it.
Toxic people like us to be scared and hypervigilant and that we emotionally respond to their abuse. This needs to be said.
You can still connect even when emotionally detached, however, this requires a stronger control of one’s emotions. Not easy but attainable. I’m working on it as we speak.
Finally someone addresses what true emotional maturity is. not emotional fushion like a kid, but also not like a toxic jack in the box. Thank you
Thanks for this, Dr. Tarban! it really clicked for me. Especially after your talk on "how to LOVE WITHOUT emotional ATTACHMENT". 👍
To “love without emotional attachment” is just plain impossible. It would be a contradiction in terms!
Instructions like these shouldn’t be taken literally. They’re like Zen koans-interesting thought experiments, but not realistic guidelines for everyday life.
@@terry9238Love is more than emotion. In fact emotion is the least of it, really.
May I say … to detach emotions practically comes with experiences… as older you get and as much you have hurtful experiencing you will become an expert of emotional detachment person….. for someone is experiencing painful situations right now and going through the same pattern in life at some point you will learn how to detach. That very point that you would feel most pain that you have never experienced and the suffering you have never seen that very point you will understand how to detach things and feelings…..
life is supposed to be chaos without chaos you are not alive,,,,, thank you for sharing good video
emotional detachment: while accessing the information of your emotions, you don't cling to them. while feeling the emotions in your body, you have the ability to analyze and control them. you will learn to let things come and go without experiencing an uncontrollable roller-coaster of emotions. you will live more vividly and will feel deeply. emotional intelligence is the key factor for overall success, in any aspect of your life
Thank you. This *does* reflect my experience, and my conclusions. For (blah-blah-blah) reasons, I've spent much of my life suppressing too many emotions, and wondering why I even have to deal with the pesky things. I view emotions as chemical reactions in the brain which occur in response to stimuli, but they can and should be held apart from conscious thought. "Listen to your gut," means your gut is telling that something is wrong (or right) but it can't tell you what is wrong, or why. That is for your conscious (and/or subconscious) mind to figure out using the most logical criteria possible. Deciding how to act in response to the stimuli, is also the responsibility of your conscious mind.
I'm now learning to feel, understand, and express my emotions, and I've realized that they have no inherent meaning. The only meaning (as opposed to purpose) they have, is the meaning I give them. As I explore them, I try to focus on the specific events or people attached to them in my past experiences. Sometimes I find very clear memories associated with an emotion, but more often I find past emotions associated with only vague mental images. I think what this means, is that the "meaning" of each my emotions evolves over the years of experiences and stimuli. The only objective aspect of them is their physiology, so I need to learn to let go of my need to find objective meaning within them. I need to learn to *acknowledge* my gut, while using my objective experiences to decide how to respond to whatever it tells me. I guess that's the "middle ground," and I probably need to learn to trust the judgement I've developed through experience. Sorry for rambling...
Hi Orion, I just wanted to say thank you for your consistently well-thought contributions to the public discourse. Achieving such a high level of quality with such consistency is very impressive and quite helpful.
The best explanation on Detatchment I’ve come across. Excellent video 👌.
This was an exceptionally helpful, more detailed description of loving without emotional attachment. Thank you as always Doc.
Really insightful. This is something I have struggled with most of my adult life. I’ve tried to observe my thoughts and emotions almost as a third (second?) party observer would, and while I think that has kept me out of a lot of trouble and harmful relationships and situations, I also wonder if I haven’t played it too safe, crossing over into “avoidance” territory, missing out on opportunities and relationships and adventures. As Dr. Taraban notes, it is a balance. Great video.
Striking a balance is hard.
@@MKULTRA_Victim_this is the goal that needs much tenacity.
Thanks! So wise. I have studied the Buddhist teachings on letting go. It does take a strong self-discipline to be aware when those emotions well up, but possible with practice, like you say. Thank you for your messages. I listen and share your videos. You have an amazing mind!! I love listening to you because of your incredible intelligence and your ability to convey your thoughts so effectively.
What you're describing is stoicism.
Emotional detachment disorder is something people like myself actually struggle with.
Wow! You just convince me to be more emotional detached and also appreciate others that are more distant of their own emotions without seeing them like ETs. Thank you very much. Greetings from Brazil
Very buddhist concept, observing the emotions and drawing wisdom from them yet not attaching to them and understanding they aren’t exclusive to you. Thanks for another great episode
Emotional detachment is definitely a skill I want to cultivate. Thanks.
This was one of my favorites yet. Beautiful way to convey this intersecting wisdom from a deep understanding of Buddhism + psychology.
The Hindu scripture Bhagavad Gita talks about emotional detachment.
Krishna teaches in the Gita (Chapter 2, Verse 47): "You have the right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty."
Thanks! Great words. Now to cling to them until they are autonomic.
I really appreciate your work and professionalism in your channel.
A most excellent description of emotional detachment and the role emotions play in decision-making. Thank you.
That's very interesting. Emotions are almost like a motor to get you to move through life and make decisions. You don't always need to go along with them
For a couple of seconds I almost let loose today. Ive been working a lot.
I bought a new TV and I was selling my old one for super cheap. People are so annoying. They wanted it even cheaper. I almost picked it up and smashed it in front of the guy. Smashing it was flashing my mind and the energy was jolting down my veins but I stopped it.
The guy bought the TV and even sent an email thanking me.
No matter how good a deal is, lots of people will still try to Jew you down. That’d just the way it is.
You're lost. You're very emotional. When selling used stuff ANYTHING YOU GET ABOVE $0.00 IS A WIN..don't benchmark against what you bought it .. benchmark against what you would get if you take it to goodwill or thrash it .and that's $0.00
@@zuibeckpulezon4626 LoL yeah, I get that but the stupid TV was taking me away from work that pays more so I was becoming angry that my time was wasted dealing with f tard.
I always give EBay price. If you are confident enough in your negotiation & willing to leave you should be fine. I’m terrible at deal making, much less under stress from work.
Tv sucks tho should have smashed it on principle.
People who buy second hand TV do not have money - probably do not have money for food all through the week. Keep that in mind, too.
I really liked the analogy of swimming on your emotions… you are a being on the ocean of emotions, not an ocean of emotions inside a being
I’ve watch so many of your lessons and this one is the most enlightening one and put into words the practice of that I stumbled on a couple years ago. It’s always a daily battle and practice but the moments of being still in the moments of chaos around me, remind me in that moment the absolute value in that still awareness. Keep on keeping on Doc, thanks for the wisdom.
i like your genuineness of speaking truth.
Thank you. I am starting to learn to not be so emotionally attached to people or things tgat I love. And you are right... to hold it gently is better. And to think about what the emotional part will do to your reasoning❤
Perfectly explained,hard lesson to learn and transition to....especially late in life.Never too late to learn it
Thank you for clarifying this.
A very insightful episode , thanks Dr. Taraban 👌🏻😊
This man knows what he’s talking about. I am so thankful for how much clarity this wonderfully articulated piece just brought into my life. You are one of my favorite artists and craftsmen.
Incredibly important to recognize emotions as information to how one understands reality, but then to realize that's as far as they go. They are based on understandings and interpretations which gives one fuel for self work and decision making. Not to be induced in shame or believed as truth.
Thanks Orion, your episodes always get to me when I'm trying to figure out things that happen to me. I'm apparently seem to be quite emotional detached to ex girlfriend according to her as I always remain calmed when we were basically talking about breaking up in multiple occasions or when we're not on the same page. Inside I felt the emotions and fear circulating my body but I managed to control quite well this in many aspects of life.
Sometimes I wonder If I'm too emotional detached from people and if this is something that will hit me hard in the future, but as you said, everything will be taken from us or will move on as some point, try to enjoy in the present...
This video really helped feel better about these wonders of mine❤
There was a time in my life when i had to learn to turn my emotions off just to get through the day, and i never learned how to turn them back on because of how much i depended on that skill. It's definitely a struggle to find peace when you're trying to learn how to feel again.
Exactly, good comment!
Wow! Priceless! Dr. Orion Taraban yet again with the "Bars!". Much appreciation for sharing your insights. Thank you yet again for another invaluable gem 💎. I can't wait for your book. I will be definitely purchasing immediately.
I'll tell you this for free, for a month or two now i have been listening to the great Alan Watts for wisdom on detachment and letting go, i couldnt wrap my head around what to do still. But listening to this man's one video right here gives me everything ive ever needed to know about really just detaching from my emotions and being a more stoic man. God bless you Orion, remain on your throne king 🙏🏽
Recent "tip" is a small token of the value I received from the trilogy of "how to get any man" series. These are THE most valuable and concise guidance on what a man on his own program looks for from his partner. THANK YOU!
This video got me started on a journey that changed my life. Thank you.
Really insightful follow-up! Emotions as heuristics is really good.
This is absolutely the advice men of today need to hear. 🔥🙌
You are The Master applauded
Again, thank you.
"Emotional Control" is easier if one attempts to practice a stoic philosophy.
We are in control of very, very little. Emotions are easier to control if we realize (immediately) that we don't control that which makes us "emotional".
this talk has been an epic understanding thank you.
I have to listen to this lesson again.
Thank you Dr. Watched many of your videos, learned a lot of organized, straight-to-the-point, practical insights from you. Appreciate you a lot.
Life is change. Always. But. The things and people that improve our lives are worth holding onto.
Practicing emotional detachment is a skill that needs constant practice, but in the end, it's a sanity saver.
Beautifully said❤ you’re like a philosopher psychologist
For me this means recognizing when my emotions can give me trouble and doing the right thing regardless of what i feel. Feel good and everything going well? Dont let emotions stop you. Feeling angry and frustrated? Still behaving myself and saying what i SHOULD say not what i would want to say. Having control of your emotions.
Letting Go by Dr. Hawkins, great read in regards to surrender and emotional detachment
I love and appreciate his way of explaining things!
Bob proctor talks about something like this. I think it’s called a paradigm shift. Where everything starts from a thought, then expressed as emotions, and actions are demonstrations of what emotions we were feeling. Upside-down, Inside- Out.
👍 ❤Probably one of your most important videos because it’s practice can be used in any situation: family, career, love, heath care etc.
Love the perspective, excellent, well spoke.
I’m happy to notice that I have some psyhacks in me I use to tell people to split E-Motion to understand the deep meaning behind
Energy in Motion
Huge amount of informations
That is helpful when we train to channel it instead of being bullied by it
Thank you it’s insightful
You may have just changed my life. Thanks
I always want to feel so I can keep feeling happiness.
Wow such well balanced and non-trivial information! Thank you for your work!
Outstanding! Thanks Doc and God bless you! 👏
A great video and reminder. Thanks plenty Dr. Taraban!
The video being 11:11 long truly add more vibe to it.
@@bathlar I know right.
Wisdom. Thanks again.
I believe you encouraged mediation and stoicism in-directly
One of my favorites
Team Taraban 🙏
Emotional detachment means, not to worry but to care. Love incudes you as well.
Glad there is an update.
You approach such a sensitive topic sooooooo well! The swimming analogy is perfect!
Wow that sand analogy is mind-blowing
I like to see it as managing emotions. I got myself into stoicism years ago and this philosophy has become a fantastic way to deal with emotions.
I think detachment is not the word...you can't just detach your emotions but you can manage them.
Hey man can you explain this a little more? Is it basically feeling your emoti9ns, but not showing them?
@@Holy_Athletics , not at all. It is the realization that what is "coming in" , is just an emotion, nothing more
a feeling that might be nothing more than a distortion of reality made up by my mind in a certain moment in time.
Sometimes, my mind really shouts : Emotion alert !!! do not react to this feeling, it is just an emotion that does not require any action from your side directly,stay put and reflect !
The only thing which we control in life, in reality, are our actions, the way we decide to deal with things.
Very powerful , to internally realize that no one can take that away or change it
People can take your money, your wife, you can get sick, your reputation down the drain...but what you think about something.... no-one can take...so you better use that.
The rational mind later on can deal with these emotions later on or put everything in perspective.
Once you truly understand that in reality the only thing we can control in our lives are our actions, what we think , life becomes so much easier.
Emotions are another facet of the mind that needs to be controlled by reason. Emotions are helpful in dealing with issues in relationships but too much emotions tends to short circuit the thinking process.
as does 'blinded' consumerism, btw.
Dr. Orion’s back to shed some wisdom.
I’d really like to say thank you for making this video. I have been struggling to understand this topic. I now know, i am swimming but i am not the body of water. 🌊
Merry Christmas to you and to everyone who sees this 🎄
Another great lecture, Maestro! Bravo! Auf Wiedersehen! Salom. 🙏🖖🔥🌈
Absolutely brilliant.
Your wisdom is very helpful as always. Thanks Doc!
Imagine this guy and Dr.K collab. We would learn so much
❤❤❤your is the only channel which I need whenever I am in delimma
Woah. This video is actually life-changing
Awesomely said.
As a Middle Path Extremist, i approve of this video 😁
I just want to say thank you for this video is my first time on your channel a friend sent me this video and it spoke to me thank you sir.......
I think I needed to hear this. Thank you so much.
Thank you Dr. Orion for sharing this valuable information
You dropped some heavy gems in this one. Thank you for this. It's a perpetually relevant message for people to hear
I see some similarities with some other teachings. Like Eckhart Tolle teachings about observing and being present. Great video. Thank you.