Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication | Catherine Molloy | TEDxEnniskillen

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  • @smyrnasstory
    @smyrnasstory Рік тому +162

    “Thoughtless speech is like the stabs of a sword, but the tongue of the wise is a healing”

  • @shelaghbrennand348
    @shelaghbrennand348 2 роки тому +46

    This is brilliant. It seems such a simple thing to do - conscientiously communicate - but clearly it’s not! Catherine delivered such an important message so perfectly.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 роки тому +2

      Appreciate 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️agree
      If it was simple communicating wouldn't still be the number 1 most needed skill !

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +1

      Yes such a little thing that makes a big difference ❤

    • @khanyisamatebese4051
      @khanyisamatebese4051 5 місяців тому +1

      Mmm😊

  • @VikkiSpeller-w8y
    @VikkiSpeller-w8y Рік тому +10

    Thank you, Catherine, for highlighting the importance of conscious communication and sharing your story and knowledge. I value your insights and appreciate you bringing awareness to such an important subject that impacts us all.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +2

      Thank you Vikki . Yes being aware of our self talk mixed with our non verbal can make all the difference ❤.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 місяці тому

  • @brightsideperspectives991
    @brightsideperspectives991 Рік тому +3

    “The response is everything.“

  • @moseshmoses5074
    @moseshmoses5074 Рік тому +5

    thank you, I thought I was just going crazy. I've always thought of communication in the same manner. I am glad I've found this video.❤

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 11 місяців тому +1

      You're so right ✅️ miscommunication does drive you crazy 🤪 😮😊... so glad it resonated x thank you for sharing.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 місяці тому

      I'm glad you watched it too!

  • @demipaterson
    @demipaterson 2 роки тому +14

    Such fantastic information, I love the power of three!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 роки тому +1

      Thanks Demi ! 😊 the power of 3 The tools we've all been given!

  • @rosminazuchri9090
    @rosminazuchri9090 Рік тому +7

    I am Rossy. This vidio very interesting n.helpful to learn communication in English. Thanks

    • @FelixManthi
      @FelixManthi 5 місяців тому

      Yes I agree with you ross its wonderfull

  • @prakashkumaroneworld
    @prakashkumaroneworld 2 роки тому +12

    Catherine , this is amazing stuff. knowingly or unknowingly we are a victim of mis-communication or missing the context of conscious communication. Thank for bringing such an important aspect of daily life. I truly agree conscious communication brings domino effect and high productivity. Once again thank you.

  • @orvilleraposo7760
    @orvilleraposo7760 Рік тому +5

    We must be aware of the unconscious, that which is outside our consciousness because unconscious thoughts emotions behaviors attitudes biases inclinations cause us to trip. We can be mindful only when we are conscious of the unconscious, that which is outside of our consciousness, all that is automatic and conditioned like our reflex actions anger and our very nature... Once we become conscious of the unconscious we can become mindful and conscious and aware.. And live deliberately.. Consciously.. Mindfully.. With awareness and translate that into conscious communication

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому

      Wow, you nailed that ❤😊 an aussie expression 👏... you got that right !

  • @HassanYounes-official
    @HassanYounes-official Рік тому +1

    Great TEDx talk...Very relevant to our times.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +1

      Yes, when we make up stories for others, it often ends in confusion... always best to check in! 😊

  • @Robert_mulh_wisdomworld
    @Robert_mulh_wisdomworld Рік тому +1

    Amazing speech Cath ❤🙌 thank you for sharing your wisdom🙏🙏🌺💝

  • @couplevibes__
    @couplevibes__ 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @bredamccaguemotivationalsp6732
    @bredamccaguemotivationalsp6732 2 роки тому +2

    Brilliant TedX Catherine 🌟🌟🙌🙌

  • @bestar__8954
    @bestar__8954 5 місяців тому +1

    It's a good stage to learn English and phrases...I really want to speak but I can't ...so I attend all seminar of tedx

    • @Shaziya-yh4ly
      @Shaziya-yh4ly 2 місяці тому

      Is it helping u? Did it improve

    • @bestar__8954
      @bestar__8954 Місяць тому

      @Shaziya-yh4ly yes it is so helpful for me and now I can speak more better

    • @Shaziya-yh4ly
      @Shaziya-yh4ly Місяць тому

      @bestar__8954 did u suggest something to me , like on what I really focus on

  • @clementosea.8294
    @clementosea.8294 Рік тому +1

    An interesting topic this is, and was well presented.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +1

      Appreciate how easily we miscommunicate. The number one problem in all businesses and life. Just bringing some consciousness to our own language. Thank you

  • @hulamei3117
    @hulamei3117 2 роки тому +4

    Needed this !

  • @beverleyhenderson5956
    @beverleyhenderson5956 2 роки тому +3

    Amazing, thank you!!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 роки тому

      Glad you enjoyed! Looking for more win wins in life x

  • @kimberlykane7065
    @kimberlykane7065 2 роки тому +8

    Like being in a bad therapy session this Ted talk

    • @maggiemaynard6199
      @maggiemaynard6199 11 місяців тому +3

      She's got the right ideas but could present it better. The intro story went on for too long...

    • @OnlybyGrace-e57
      @OnlybyGrace-e57 21 день тому

      @@maggiemaynard6199take her for what she means

  • @Sammy0187
    @Sammy0187 6 місяців тому +2

    Got into a huge fight with 2 of my friends and I really need this 😅

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 5 місяців тому

      Sorry to hear that ... amazing how quickly we can miscommunicate.

  • @MondayMorningActivation
    @MondayMorningActivation 2 роки тому +2

    Great content. Always learning from your content.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you.... like is a wonderful lesson! Xxx

  • @lanhuongnguyen9988
    @lanhuongnguyen9988 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much❤❤❤❤

  • @IfechiCrowned
    @IfechiCrowned Рік тому

    hmnnn!!! Bravo 👏🏼 @Catherine for your presentation dear., yet in my opinion, WE are Not D Same individually. 1st Some pple will spite at U or even frown when u Smile at them, some will totally decide to go opposite just Nevis they are wired that Way. U making an excuse for yr husbands inability to have communicated his concern in a more gentle ñ verbal way rather than a smack ñ also communicating certain morales to a certain demographic may turn out to be a new schooling on yr Psyche altogether Nevis of Cultural beliefs but A BIG tHANKS to U for I did Learn somethings from yr Talk maam

  • @kirankumar-hg5fd
    @kirankumar-hg5fd 2 роки тому +1

    Just loved it😍

  • @antandshell
    @antandshell 9 місяців тому +4

    "Would you like to change lanes " is still a trigger. Let him drive, he doesn't want your help.

    • @Svemol
      @Svemol 6 місяців тому +1

      If a person is worked-up anything might act as a trigger.

    • @May-ob8oq
      @May-ob8oq 3 місяці тому

      That why both needs to be able to communicate well.

  • @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch
    @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch 8 місяців тому +1

    Yep... Gonna need that one.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 місяці тому

      Yes, unfortunately, we all make up stories every day!

  • @ekene626
    @ekene626 Рік тому +7

    Love the story, but why would tensing up, make someone upset.

  • @transelite
    @transelite 2 роки тому +2

    love it!

  • @LarryP248
    @LarryP248 Рік тому +8

    The content here is extraordinary. Reading a book on the same subject was a transformative experience for me. "Mindful Mastery: Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World" by Kyle Ash

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому

      That's awesome thank you for sharing.
      My book was traditionally published with international rights being sold to UK and they made it business book of the year in 2018. The Million Dollar Handshake. If you get a chance to read it I hope you enjoy it ! 😊

  • @kazukisaita8111
    @kazukisaita8111 2 роки тому +5

    Sorry I didn’t exactly get what she wanted to tell me because of my English, Could anyone tell me the main point of this Ted talk briefly if it’s possible 🙏
    As far as I know, before taking action, people might as well think second thoughts so that we can take away the miscommunication

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 роки тому +8

      Hello 👋
      we react before we speak ... if we think about the action we just did ...eg the talk and me leaning back ... then used our words to match eg. Do you need to change lanes? ...Then you would decrease the amt of miscommunication you have in life. You see what we think isn't always right ! We need to be more conscious in the present . 🎁

    • @kazukisaita8111
      @kazukisaita8111 2 роки тому +2

      @@catherinemolloy1
      Thank you for your help!! It’s pretty much straightforward and good examples! I truly appreciate it

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +5

      @@kazukisaita8111 miscommunication is the number one biggest problem in all businesses and housholds today . Yet the solution is simple. We need to be present /conscious of our actions and think about our responses in the moment. Thank you for your response:)

    • @LLMTECHSTORIES
      @LLMTECHSTORIES Рік тому +1

      ​@@catherinemolloy1 thank you for this video, conscious communication. How do I practice this? Should I prepare myself before hand? Or just before doing any action, think. How to put this into practice daily? 13:53

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому

      Yes, it's about being present and conscious of our thoughts, which domino into actions and words. Sometimes, we need to explain our actions so as to not confuse the other person !

  • @kimanhh999
    @kimanhh999 7 місяців тому +1

    Good share

  • @SDMNKhan
    @SDMNKhan 4 місяці тому +2

    This says the what, but where is the how? Specially under extreme pressure?

  • @deena_annmarie
    @deena_annmarie 5 місяців тому +3

    We need Tam Kaur up here.

  • @adnangan7639
    @adnangan7639 8 місяців тому +1

    terimakasih bu atas ilmunya

  • @YasminYoruba
    @YasminYoruba Рік тому +2

    I think so intellectually but I can’t say what it is I am thinking 😢

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому

      Interesting isn't it ... One part of our commuication is just being aware of our micro expressions, and what we are thinking to help avoid miscommunication , however, you may find writing it out first will help you when delivering what it is you want to say. x

  • @garybriandoherty7299
    @garybriandoherty7299 2 роки тому +1

    Love it

  • @Linda-s1Linda_39
    @Linda-s1Linda_39 5 місяців тому

    Let's play the refund game - details and anticipated actions edition

  • @CB19087
    @CB19087 Рік тому +3

    My communication is a mess. I've used humour all my life to avoid showing up authentically. Sometimes I say things that sound abusive and I think why? Why did you say that??

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +2

      Wow that’s great that you know this ❤ first step to being more conscious and present is understanding you. I know it's not easy, but practice will get you there. Cheering you on 🎉

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 місяці тому +1

      Yes I think that's why I started studying NLP and body language to become more present and conscious of my responses x

    • @CB19087
      @CB19087 3 місяці тому +1

      @@catherinemolloy1 blast from the past! My communication is much better!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 місяці тому +1

      @CB19087 wow 👏 ... I know it's the little things right ✅️ 😌

    • @CB19087
      @CB19087 3 місяці тому

      @catherinemolloy1 self awareness helps! 😊

  • @LoganBrock42
    @LoganBrock42 2 місяці тому

    5:15

  • @1minute.everyday923
    @1minute.everyday923 Рік тому +2

    JESUS LOVES YOU ALL ❤️

  • @vlogons
    @vlogons Рік тому +1

    how can i improve my English any body can talme. because I'm learning English language...

    • @smirkfanta5535
      @smirkfanta5535 Рік тому +1

      1. Watch movies
      2. Read books
      3. PRACTICE speaking with someone
      And the third point is the most important

  • @ibeshkhadka
    @ibeshkhadka 8 місяців тому +1

    Don't just assume what they want to say from their behaviour communicate properly...!

  • @SumitGupta-so3jv
    @SumitGupta-so3jv 2 роки тому +2

    Good

  • @Gabby_beauty
    @Gabby_beauty 7 місяців тому +1

    bro this is literally me

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 місяці тому

      It is everyone if they are honest ! 😅 Miscommunication the biggest problem in all businesses and relationships. The stories in our head !

  • @MichaelSkinner-e9j
    @MichaelSkinner-e9j 4 місяці тому

    I don’t believe in hacking communication mechanically, but I think people can be more eloquent with ther spoken word.
    Honesty is just part and parcel to human relationships.
    If someone is continually dishonest and withholds information, that’s a serious problem

  • @StojceDimitrievski-n2j
    @StojceDimitrievski-n2j 29 днів тому

    Hmmm to be or not be.

  • @shahidrafique6253
    @shahidrafique6253 3 місяці тому

    please please please don't put random images in between it can distract some people..

    • @boiski9356
      @boiski9356 2 місяці тому

      It ain’t that bad, and if you are listening correctly the images amplify the conversations anyway

    • @shahidrafique6253
      @shahidrafique6253 2 місяці тому

      @boiski9356 Idk but i felt extremely distracted by these images

  • @JeffGoldberg-bx2tv
    @JeffGoldberg-bx2tv Рік тому +7

    She just kept repeating herself for 14 minutes

    • @MobileZoneel
      @MobileZoneel 10 місяців тому

      She share her own experience with us and i think it's best ever in ted talk

    • @RH2000-v4w
      @RH2000-v4w 9 місяців тому +2

      Fr she was just yapping for the first 10mins

  • @fan_of_horses9104
    @fan_of_horses9104 Місяць тому +1

    All i Can hear is thé spit in her mouth its so distracting 😢

  • @travisarmour8709
    @travisarmour8709 Рік тому +2

    pretty basic stuff, not sure why all the praise here - are people generally this naive about this stuff?

  • @gami195
    @gami195 2 роки тому +8

    Wasted 14 minutes of my life, not a good talk.

  • @shaileshyerekar9746
    @shaileshyerekar9746 7 місяців тому +1

    Ye kaisi eng h sab mere sir ke upar se gaya😂

    • @limaxx031
      @limaxx031 3 місяці тому

      Start with a light english conversations.... 😊

  • @ottomaan1186
    @ottomaan1186 Рік тому

    you dont need ted for whining about the personal stuff. primitive

  • @SJT929496
    @SJT929496 2 роки тому +7

    She seems like she’s in an abusive relationship if she knows her husband is mad by how hot he is. He went off on her for nothing and she blames herself which is classic victim mentality.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 2 роки тому +4

      Interesting point. Everyone has energy language, and not a lot of people tune into it. As an expert in the field, I read this well. Communication is the number one biggest problem on the planet. So I took this small example to show you how quickly you miscommunicate through making up incorrect stories for each other. If you can take that away maybe you can make a difference with your family friends and teams. 45% of marriages end in divorce 90% of these are registered due to miscommunication.

    • @GretchenV95
      @GretchenV95 Рік тому

      Especially after that many years of marriage? Surely he’d understand her habits and body language by this point. 😅

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 Рік тому +1

      Now you know why there is so much miscommunication people react in a nano second before they consciously think. That is the point of this. To stop and bring more consciousness to your life. Communication is the key to business and life successes and failures!

  • @CourtneyW-jr6fx
    @CourtneyW-jr6fx Рік тому

    In the words of the Bush famuly wouldnt be pertinent Mac

  • @lizalove91
    @lizalove91 4 місяці тому

    Wait I’m sorry your husband hit you hard in the arm?? Wtaf that’s what we should be talking about??

    • @May-ob8oq
      @May-ob8oq 3 місяці тому

      Wait where did that happend?

  • @user-ko2tu3ss3o
    @user-ko2tu3ss3o 2 роки тому +4

    Boring. And the cause of much 2nd hand embarrassment.