Sunk Cost Bias: The Biggest Mistake YOU Can Make

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  • @OwenCookSelfHelp
    @OwenCookSelfHelp  4 місяці тому +4

    Get 20+ years of my best lessons in my FREE COURSE: www.HigherPurposeProgram.com - Join me at my next FREE EVENT: www.SelfHelpFreeTour.com/ -Owen

  • @CLCSelfHelp
    @CLCSelfHelp 4 місяці тому +19

    It’s like when our kindness is taken for weakness - focus on screening for the small percentage of people that will love you and connect with what you have to offer. Don’t waste time in relationships that don’t see your worth.

    • @SirRocalot
      @SirRocalot 4 місяці тому +1

      Exactly those that connect with your frequency and energetic vibration at the base, without jumping through a gazillion hoops

    • @CastleHassall
      @CastleHassall 4 місяці тому +2

      that happens to me a lot.. I'm really good hearted to people when I'm out in the world but it ends up with people being bitter at me that I'm happy and liked by others so the toxic people end up trying to make me look bad to try to spoil my social standing,.. does anyone have any ideas on how to solve this pattern (as it's very destructive to me socially but i don't want to stop being good hearted and uplifting to people (which triggers the toxic people into trying to derail my social progress)

    • @SirRocalot
      @SirRocalot 4 місяці тому

      @@CastleHassall have some witty and mind-numbing ( like in the movie good will hunting when he's in the bar perfect example) comebacks that are precise and tell all the truth about who they are (and they'll know they can't go back against it), and puts the bullies at their place without resorting to being reactive physically or lash out emotionally (because then you're the one losing control of the situation and show weakness about who you are) the point is to know exactly whom you're dealing with and coming back at them with poignant words that reach right to their conscience and ego and you're right about them in the same time, honestly you'll always have these kinds of people around waiting for the right time to dominate and pry on others just so they take their place socially (and they'll use verbal and physical violence or dominance because they're usually not very mature mentally or psychologically to have solid arguments and words to give worth to their position) staying mentally and physically calm, poised, composed and keep a clear mind not giving weight to what's being told or done to you, and knowing exactly who you're dealing with (understanding personalities and their psychology, behaviors, idiosyncracies, etc. that's also learned by being very observant ) will make you confident to be who you are without caring about others' opinions because you'll be yourself knowing who you're mingling with in the same time. Hope that helps

  • @94seanster
    @94seanster 4 місяці тому +5

    Man, this hits on so many levels. I learned game, got in a relationship with my “dream girl” and then slowly kept making the exceptions Owen talks about. It literally felt like I gave my soul to her, and she left with a massively inflated ego and with me completely broken. Maybe this is what I needed to hear again to get off my ass and start the long road of getting good at game again.

    • @SirRocalot
      @SirRocalot 4 місяці тому +2

      The key principle what I think he's saying here is to become the person like he said that's just able to be in any kind of relationship, or bounce back from a bad relationship because you're the one able to connect socially and on many levels with many types of people (got social options) going to many events because you're comfortable and capable of being sociable and really understand people and how to connect with different types of people in whatever event you attend, and personally, just an epiphany I had, even when you're with a girl you really like, you still have to embrace the mindset allowing you to be that best version of yourself as you're able to give your mind and slowly more of yourself to building a great relationship with her exclusively if you really chose consciously to do so with her, and being that kind of man will enable you to remain focused on becoming more influential since you're constantly building on your success lifestyle and simultaneously focus on committing in a relationship with a woman more and more ... From th get go, it's to find someone that also has that same mindset of total and powerful growth, intimacy and complicity, a lifestyle that builds both into great individuals, individually and as a couple

    • @ezrabrehm9480
      @ezrabrehm9480 3 місяці тому

      Its not about game, its about being light bro. Light on your feet, light on situations, having empathy for yourself and others.

  • @dariostabletopminatures
    @dariostabletopminatures 4 місяці тому +2

    Owen, Thank you that you Stayed Relevant through all the Years... Decades!

  • @leonardosilva5444
    @leonardosilva5444 4 місяці тому +8

    These lives are gold. I've probably watched the live about "the ick" and buyer seller dynamic 3, maybe 4 times to deepen my understanding.
    Tbh kinda sucks because I started to see every interaction with a element of transaction. But as you said this is a good thing because a 5/10 can date a 10/10 and a person that are able to use the halo effect and hold frame can be a leader.
    Another thing is that I can notice when I am having a ras flip. I did a lot of inner awareness and detachment work in the past months and I fall into the trap that I was above this "mind/biology tricks" man... how immature I was hahahaha. Living and learning 😅
    Anyway thanks for another live even with the busy schedule. Praying for a fast leg recovery.
    Love you man ❤

  • @solomondavid9811
    @solomondavid9811 Місяць тому

    33:39 notice how he uses the sincere laugh to create a positive emotion with the action he wants you to do. Brilliant communication skill here.

  • @RudeReaper
    @RudeReaper 4 місяці тому +10

    "The ability to be happy without somebody" if you take anything from this video, it's this.

  • @sumgi1537
    @sumgi1537 4 місяці тому +4

    Idk how it happens but EVERY SINGLE video Tyler puts out i relate to in my life. This one shocked me because im going thru a relationship break up and another one where its a poison drip toxic one.

    • @bataatti
      @bataatti 4 місяці тому

      same here mate, lets get trough it and win!

    • @sumgi1537
      @sumgi1537 4 місяці тому

      @@bataatti appreciate it ! when i wrote this i was going thru it but now the video helped me get thru it and now im using the negative emotions towards personal development! lets get it !!

  • @user-lu3nq3yh2f
    @user-lu3nq3yh2f 4 місяці тому

    I’ve been watching Owen for 15 years - we’re the same age and it’s so wonderful to be growing alongside him 😊

  • @WarriorNurturer-vg8fd
    @WarriorNurturer-vg8fd 3 місяці тому

    Please come to Jacksonville, FL this city needs YOUR HELP.

  • @G44984
    @G44984 4 місяці тому +1

    This is so true. My boss (who started off as my friend) who was paying me below market rate, tried to put me on two days a week and acted like I should be grateful for this. I went and got another job and he couldn’t believe it

  • @heartdominance
    @heartdominance 4 місяці тому

    One last thing, made to the end and just wanted to say thank you man! Biggest subconscious influence over the full span since my first comment was that you got me to value my energy more with respect to who I give it to socially and the manner in which I share my energy. Thank you! 🚀

  • @anttisipila
    @anttisipila 4 місяці тому

    Just what I needed to hear right now. Been letting my boundaries slide with my babymama since our kid was born. Time to start enforcing them again. Thanks!

  • @ElijahXMedia
    @ElijahXMedia 4 місяці тому +2

    Facts. The color of LA in the background is 🔥

  • @bataatti
    @bataatti 4 місяці тому

    Exactly stuff i been going trough last months its just started with small things and get bigger and bigger all time i tried to save it with all my capabilities but the flip has happened and now i know how to handle situations like that from now on

  • @fantasizer8473
    @fantasizer8473 4 місяці тому +1

    Was thinking of this concept this week. Hugely relates to me and my personality.

  • @lucianocastillo694
    @lucianocastillo694 4 місяці тому

    It’s a harsh truth.
    It’s another level of awareness when you can also see this nature within yourself.
    Don’t let this reality stop you from seeing value in others even when no one else can or they present something else.
    Some of the best value you can gain is from the person who is not known, who has a concept or vision that could be so valuable in the future but human nature can’t see it until a little success.
    If someone 100% believed in their vision I’ll hear them out regardless if I loose a grand of opportunity.
    The best opportunity is being able to understand the value in everything, to apply it later.

    • @lucianocastillo694
      @lucianocastillo694 4 місяці тому

      If you know about RAS flips you can be aware in the moment when you’re subject to it.
      By me messaging so much it comes off as expending my resources I don’t value my time but the point is if you can push through this “resource opportunity” driven paradigm you can soak in so many inputs and apply yourself so much more.

  • @mikebarker8861
    @mikebarker8861 4 місяці тому +1

    Owen thanks for that one bro, obviously I've been thinking about these things on my end! ....pretty much it's been everyday

  • @billusher2265
    @billusher2265 4 місяці тому +2

    9:19 can you make videos on the top 10 biggest mistakes people make in your experience, and then a video on the top 10 best decisions they make.

  • @laurameloy275
    @laurameloy275 3 місяці тому

    Level UP, totally. My newsletter name. I should do an “episode” on you.

  • @NoelFiedler
    @NoelFiedler 4 місяці тому

    best video in a while. great job Owen.

  • @Fountains_
    @Fountains_ 4 місяці тому +1

    Owen, you are describing how exactly relationship with a narcissist (no matter man or woman) goes.

  • @WarriorNurturer-vg8fd
    @WarriorNurturer-vg8fd 3 місяці тому

    This video makes me fucking sad owen. But it empowers me. So spot on with the cycle of descending into chaos by matching their vibration.

  • @heartdominance
    @heartdominance 4 місяці тому

    Feedback: I loved what you said about “intertwinement of energy” it’s such a subtle and multilayered subject, I think that’s a subject you would have so many creative perspectives on that I think is valuable pressure against what is otherwise a culture that’s becoming cut-off from understanding not only their own inner energy as I brought up in my first comment pre-taking this in but also with respect to the energy dynamics between themselves and others which I think you’re much more of an expert on than myself. I simply don’t understand those elements enough and to be honest, some of those areas I find a little spooky, I think we all do, but I guess at least in part that’s due to our not fully understanding those dynamics, I mean it’s difficult to even just use analogies like chemistry and physics, because of course just as I brought up before there’s a hierarchy of power with respect to how we can understand it via that context as well.
    Anyhow I’m off, peace out ✌️. Going to watch till the end! Rocked it 🏎 haha, seriously though 🗽.

  • @angeldelmundo01
    @angeldelmundo01 4 місяці тому +4

    I began listening to You when I understood 35% of English
    Now 7 years later I understand 95%
    Thanks for everything

  • @natybar-yosef9931
    @natybar-yosef9931 4 місяці тому

    Well it took me 6 months to study owen is blue back in 2018 and today im teaching my blue soon up to the meta
    I was so focus in that course that it was odd,
    I owen to this man so much

  • @SidtheCreativeKid
    @SidtheCreativeKid 4 місяці тому

    I needed this video so bad right now man❤

  • @dimRizo
    @dimRizo 4 місяці тому

    Tyler .. always posting the best shit for years now. Your videos have helped me so much.. Greetings from Greece. Hope to meet you in person one day

  • @flor.7797
    @flor.7797 4 місяці тому

    Was just thinking about sunk cost bias this morning as something I learned at a very young age

  • @peeterutsi4028
    @peeterutsi4028 4 місяці тому +1

    Damn, I have spent on my car repairs more than I paid for the car.

  • @CastleHassall
    @CastleHassall 4 місяці тому

    hey I hope you can advise me on a serious problem in my life..I'm really good hearted to people when I'm out in the world but it ends up with toxic people being bitter at me that I'm happy and liked by others so the toxic people end up trying to make me look bad to others to try to spoil my social standing,.. that can end up being really really destructive to my social standing..
    do you or anyone have any ideas on how to solve this pattern? (as it's very destructive to me socially but i don't want to stop being good hearted and uplifting to people (which triggers the toxic people into trying to derail my social progress)

  • @StylishCashew31
    @StylishCashew31 4 місяці тому

    My opinion on your personality has changed frequently; however my opinion on your wisdom has not. Thank you for the video bruv

  • @jonsnow911
    @jonsnow911 4 місяці тому

    3:35 maintain your power, 7:55, 9:50, 11:40, 19:20, 23:20, 28:40, 30:40, 36:15, 44:10, 45:30

  • @BrainztormProductions
    @BrainztormProductions 4 місяці тому

    This was a good one!!

  • @houseofvalue
    @houseofvalue 4 місяці тому

    top 5 best videos you did……

  • @Chuckichanly
    @Chuckichanly 4 місяці тому +1

    i actually like it better when you speak more calmly like this normally its way too much dopamine it accelerates my thoughts for the rest of the day lol

  • @thatsrandom737
    @thatsrandom737 4 місяці тому

    this one was solid.

  • @Chuckichanly
    @Chuckichanly 4 місяці тому +3

    ok but is there really a perfect partner? when is the partner good enough

    • @khairt1731
      @khairt1731 4 місяці тому

      You clearly didnt watch. This is about you and NOT HER

  • @walkingnote1090
    @walkingnote1090 4 місяці тому +1

    I can't believe I can watch this stuff for free

  • @zuesfun2433
    @zuesfun2433 4 місяці тому +4

    I’m broke and don’t make a living yet. How do I get income to get an apartment?

  • @2367J
    @2367J 4 місяці тому

    Why do you have to go "all in"?

  • @genaroflores835
    @genaroflores835 4 місяці тому +1

    Maxim: Once she gets a whiff that he believes she’s his last option… he’s hosed😌

  • @Johnwilkinsonofficial
    @Johnwilkinsonofficial 4 місяці тому

    why cant i download ?

  • @heartdominance
    @heartdominance 4 місяці тому

    Owen, I love your stuff man and I continue to learn from you however you haven’t reached your potential yet with respect to the paradigm by which you view consciousness through. You used to teach the kybalion a little right? Well, I feel you’re not yet on the level by which you perceive just how much energy dominates everything you think you feel to such an extent that it generates the illusion of the avatar that we view our life through. This doesn’t mean “all is an illusion” it is and it isn’t, it just has a “logic” to it and that logic is by definition, our language of consciousness.
    Let’s cut to the chase, I want to see you Owen reaching a level whereby you’re literally able to transmute any consciousness state you’re experiencing because you’ve honed the relationship between your awareness, intention, ability to discern and categorize consciousness states, etc that you’re able to literally able to heal and grow different cells in your body.
    Why are you so in fear mode preoccupied with sunk cost, which is a valuable term by the way there’s two+ sides to every coin I’m just trying to make a point, when you can just transmute whatever it is you’re experiencing?
    See here’s what I’m noticing, you have to realize there’s a hierarchy of power that everyone falls on with respect to what I’m talking about, this inherently biases us regarding what we find valuable and what we don’t, if you believe you’re at the top, then you believe that what you find valuable is obviously the right thing, however at every higher level we reach, naturally the value hierarchy alters as well.
    You know where I’m going good sir, you have fantastic pattern recognition.
    Take it in, absorb and reassess, reflect, model and then simply enjoy the greater paradigm by which you’re viewing experience through because you’ve moved up the consciousness power hierarchy. That’s what many of these hippies don’t realise but they mean well, many of those flag waving “free love” can just as easily get caught in victim mindsets, not realising how they’re swayed from one pendulum to the other as it talks about in the kybalion, not realising that the love was always something they took control of and mastered internally first as opposed to say just mindlessly flag waving even though persuading others to do “good” is generally a much better thing to do than persuading them to do “bad” right.
    Good day good sir and enjoy this holy night heh! 😎❤️🌎
    I will now start watching this video, I want you to imagine what my perception of it may be based on this comment I’ve written as a thought experiment about learning from your own potential bias on how I might perceive it. I love you man you’ve helped so many ❤️👑😎

  • @anthonysobczak2723
    @anthonysobczak2723 4 місяці тому

    Crucial conversations nonviolent communication

  • @milanklimes5765
    @milanklimes5765 4 місяці тому +1

    Amazing video. It saved me

  • @poochieshomeplanet1649
    @poochieshomeplanet1649 4 місяці тому

    16:37

  • @Iwondefful
    @Iwondefful 4 місяці тому

    so his friend was upset he didn’t get laid for buying a girl oysters, but they also don’t want to be treated like sugar daddies . .

  • @happydreamakamr.bonanza7108
    @happydreamakamr.bonanza7108 4 місяці тому

    This guy is really giving life advice while sipping on a 40 oz. C'mon bruh.

    • @stu-ep6361
      @stu-ep6361 4 місяці тому +2

      What? What are you talking about ?

    • @happydreamakamr.bonanza7108
      @happydreamakamr.bonanza7108 4 місяці тому

      @@stu-ep6361 He has a 40 oz. bottle of Mickey's beer in his hand

    • @stu-ep6361
      @stu-ep6361 4 місяці тому +3

      @@happydreamakamr.bonanza7108 he doesn’t even drink alcohol. Are you talking about Owen?

    • @Sam.Mikhail
      @Sam.Mikhail 4 місяці тому

      @@happydreamakamr.bonanza7108 nah it’s this boujee spring water

    • @samlloyd672
      @samlloyd672 4 місяці тому +3

      That’s mountain valley water bro