My husband got his Karma when a few years ago he discarded me for new supply that ended being a promiscuous, full blown narcissist worst than him. She presented herself as a decent fine woman at the beginning, he got fooled. big time, he paraded her everywhere and on social media as his new trophy, something he never did with me, she cheated on him with more than one man.I certainly did not need to warn that woman.
“I’m winning this bum. He’s my bum now.” Lee you made me actually laugh out loud. Because it’s so true. They’ve won a prize bum. Not worth warning the new supply about it. That bum, and the person who won the bum, isn’t worth the time. Let them have their prize bum. Instead spend the time on the better people you meet now that the bum is not hanging like an albatross around your neck.
Years ago, I learned you never fight over a guy. There was ONLY ONE I would fight for. I married Him. He's passed away now. Whatever it took, I wouldn't back down. If a man wants you... He'll be there. Also, their ego loves women fighting over them. You want Him. Ok...You can have Him. I found this leaves them dumbstruck. I mean. Jaw drops and everything. I don't miss the sex either. He was lazy. Only do what you wanted for a few minutes. No I don't need that. He's not worth it.
hahahahah me too!! My ex-narc and his new supply are jobless! Lee is totally spot on! He scams other people into believing in " new business start-ups" and asks them for funding. The new supply thought she hits the jackpot. They both are losers.
@@pallysupatra The narc I knew now thinks they’re some kind of crypto genius. Complete delusion of grandeur. It’s rare that a narc achieves true affluence. Usually they’re just upper middle class at best but pretend they’re affluent until it runs dry.
Here are the things I told myself when I was the new supply: "she just didn't have what it took to help him" "she just wasn't strong enough to be with a man like him". "I can handle him better than she could, that's why we will last", "she just wasn't the right woman for him"
@female human - the last one is the biggest fallacy: "she just wasn't the right woman for him". We buy in to this tripe that they weren't a 'match' but we are, and the narc reinforces this by saying the same during the love-bombing phase - "she just wasn't the right woman for me. She did/said A, B and C.... YOU'RE the right woman for me!" Total rubbish. 🙄
Yes I think it is very generous fir the ex to have a conversation with the new suckered. I am very grateful I had a conversation with his ex and I hope it helped her too! He no doubt put her through it and for much longer than he did to me.
Even if the narc has money, educated, and has a lot going for them their personality negates all that. Cold heart, lies, cheating, the inability to connect deeper than surface level….no it’s not worth it. He put me and the ex- now his new supply the 3rd, 4th time-in competition with each other.
Battling over a bum narc is like a gambling addiction, and the house always wins. Watching their supplies fight over their loser ass is a form of supply in itself. Only way to win is not to play 🚪⏪️🏃♀️
They make new person think old one was crazy, abusive, did blah blah blah to them, make them wanna pitty them and get their trust and sympathy so can suck them in more till they find yet another new supply then they will start triangulate u with them and the new ones and in the end u eventually learn of each other and the fact he lied and played u all. Tell each one a different story to keep them hooked. They play each one to keep them hooked so if one don't work out or no longer value them or need them they have u to call back on.
Update: He didn’t put her on the lease, so they got put out…She’s holding on because she said God sent him to her 🤣🤣🤣 Homeless and happy they are! Lol Screw her! She knew about me but chose to believe EVERYTHING that he said. She moved in our old apt, old bed, old sheets lol I was STILL on our old Apts email list. 2 weeks after they got married I got an email that said they were late on their rent ( 2 weeks lol ) and he told her that he was an engineer lol He’s a temporary electrician for the company, never kept a job for over 2 years lol I dodged a damn bullet!
@@jill3686 you dodged a bullet!! I found out the dude who did me dirty was still married 🤦🏽♀️and shot at his wife in their house. Yes I reached out to her, we’re cool: she said “Go back to him if you want but you definitely dodged a bullet, Literally
I agree with you 💯 percent ! Why warn someone who already knew about you and was just sitting in the dark just waiting and willing to start trouble ? In other words .... you can't be honest with a daymmm theif...... let them figure out that the prize they both won or stole is worth less than a pile of donkey $#%# !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had feelings of wanting to warn the new woman, however, that went away fast but because I know who my Ex is. I played the conversation he most likely had with her in my head and knew that I would just be playing into his hand of being the "Crazy Ex" and "She still wants me" narrative he probably told the new supply. I let those feelings past and just continued with my healing and watching these videos. She has to learn for herself just like I did.
That’s the same thing I did..let it be. He has a tendency to bring us around his friends fairly quickly-like a revolving door. I learned some are messy and will tell you everything once it’s over She’ll hear about me soon enough
I’m not warning SH%#! Since all these side females over the years have thought they could do better, ima let them go ahead and try. Early on he’s gonna be amazing cause it’s fresh and he’s getting everything he wants. But once real life kicks in, he’a gonna be unhappy again and miserable. So his new supplies (multiples) can have him. F^%# them honestly. He’s dropping his whole family for some random females. I hope they all get what they deserve and YES I’m bitter and I’m hurt mode now. Too much has been done AND I’ve been grieving the loss of my mom so u KNOW my heart is hard right now.
I totally relate to every word you said. I got played my my ex narc. He left me 7 months pregnant for some random chick at work. Moved in and riding in her car now. What a bum! She will find out eventually. We have a 1 year old and one on the way. He left me with no money to help pay bills while I'm out on mater ity leave. No remorse , no empathy. Nothing.
Y’all can have him! I spinned the block way too many times and found out he has been spinning the block with a bunch of other Women! I should have listened to my intuition years ago, but I know better now. I also realize that some Women are ok with having a piece of a Man and some know about you and don’t care. Now he has ED so he should def stick with the recycled ones over the years because nobody else is gonna wanna deal with that. He portrays a great guy image but is for the STREETS!! Community D at its finest. Gross!!!!
Swamp donkeys and lot 🦎 lizards deserve each other. So never waste your time or energy trying to warn the dirty narc or their dirty supplies because 10 times out of 10 they already know about the empath & come in with the sole intent to cause destruction at ALL cost. Stay strong & Let karma do ALL the talkin' !!!!!!! Hoe - tel hell might be full but there's always a vacancy with their name on it.
The Narc’s son’s mother was always so nice to me in the beginning of the entanglement. I asked her why was she so nice because it’s unusual for the ex to be nice to the new “ girlfriend “. She said good luck with him and his mother and she proceeded to tell me what she went through. 11 years and a son later I found out that everything she said was true and the Narc’s mother was a narcissist too. I wasn’t mean to her when she warned me I just thought that my situation would be different because it was a different relationship but that’s all I thought. I wish I could have a conversation with the ex now though.
same. I remember is the beginning of my ex and my relationship his mom during a private convo said. "well Mark has a good heart.... but" ...ended there. but she was the same. we would visit his parents and immediately she would call him in room privately whispering and heard her talking about me or his ex when we would catch him or her in their lies. literally the worst 14 yrs of my life.
His new supply, who never became more than a side-piece, actually reached out to me and claimed to not only know that he was still with me, but also knew that he was dating two other women behind my back, knew he was a narcissist and likely a sex addict as well, but insisted that she loved him and accepted him as he was 🤦🏼♀️. Totally insane! She knew his true colors from the beginning and was okay with them, it's mind-boggling.
It’s true his Ex tried to warn me and I didn’t listen 9 years later 2 kids later and now I’m leaving I hated I didn’t listen to her. Him and his whole family tried to make the ex look crazy but she wasn’t crazy she was right the whole time damn I hated I thought it was going to be different
"How you met them is how you are going to lose them". 10000000% true facts! This happened to me, and I got left the EXACT same way, same scenario-he was engaged to his ex, like he was engaged to me, except I actually have a little one with him, and he still left me...for a girl half my age he met in a mental institution where he was supposed to be getting help.🤣You can't make this sh*t up. I thought we were just in love and he was in the wrong relationship. LOL. Thank you Lee! You seriously have me cracking up sometimes at your videos. So much truth. I plan to schedule a one on one soon! God bless you and your fam!
I ended up telling my ex-narc (in a very sweet voice) that there were many women sitting in Julia Tutwiler State Prison (in Alabama) for killing their men over a whole lot less than the BS he pulled over on me...that he had his life because I loved my freedom and I would do him absolutely NO harm...and...that he was welcome to go away from me so that he could eff-over that 'special-girl' who would care nothing about putting a knife in his gut. I said all of these things to him with a big smile on my face...because I'm a big sweetie!
Something I noticed is that when I talked to “girlfriends” about my troubles with narc ex’s it brought fake narcissistic “friends” out of the woodwork and shined a light right on them 🔦 I feel it brought their interest to him behind my back which I knew some things didn’t add up the way they treated me but I was unsuspecting of these fake backstabber friends for thee longest 🗡 🗡
So true. Let the new supply find out for themselves. That only gives us the old supply more time to keep going forward and healing to never be manipulated back to the Narc ever again. Good for you. 😊
Well - all nine of them have been a lot dumber then I was. I didn’t get the warning from the ex 😢 don’t know if I would have believed her over him at that time ? They seriously believe him !! He just lives here, we are separated, sleep in separate rooms .. I’m CRAZY.. they will get their karma for sleeping with a married man.. Don’t know how you can have a small child and BEG a man to let you come pick them up from their home at midnight - but these women are so desperate. Packing up your 2yr old at midnight to pick up a man you never even had a phone call with 😮😮😮?!?!? WTF craziness is that ?!?!? I need to let it go .. he is suppose to leave today with her - when he gets his NEW CAR ..😂 my hearts shattered in a thousand pieces .. but I GOTTA LET IT GO LET IT GO ❤
I finally warned the new supply because she was talking crap in the background.. new supply told me “she know all of this and she is gonna stick by his side…. It’s not her fault that I couldn’t lock him in with the 8yrs I have with him and she did it within 5mos) she basically trapped him with a baby. I told her that I don’t have to trap a man to keep him around.
Everything played out exactly like you are describing here. The ex was always painted as the crazy cheater psycho. I remember talking to her once and she told me everything I would eventually experience with him but I didn't listen. I tried so hard in vain.
My ex narcissist new supply actually came and found me 🤦🏾♀️ she said out of her own mouth that she new he was a narcissist. She told me all the things he did which he did to me too. He actually cheated on me with her. Funny thing is she actually thinks she’s won a prize 🤣 and now I think she had a baby with him and is probably married to him. I do t feel sorry for her either because she came to me and I told her and she already knew 🤷🏾♀️
Why would I reach out to the new supply? The #1 rule is NO CONTACT! Have a nice life and may God bless you both. He wanted to be in the streets so I gave him to the streets.
I'm grateful for the videos teaching on narcissism. These days, I run into narcs all the time. I have a handful of narc neighbors living very close by. I've had a narc best friend, narc relatives, a narc ex-husband. Here a narc, there a narc, everywhere a narc, narc.
The narcissist gave me his new supplies numbers and told me to reach out to them because he already warned them that I am crazy and to prove that I'm crazy! In our 16 year relationship I paid for everything, I had the house, and the car. Now, the 40 yo narcissist is a 22 yo college grad.
I have no urge of Any kind to warn Anybody. He recycles. So who he's rockin wit now, is who was there when him and I were together. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.....
Well... I figure they deserve each other. It took me quite a while to get to think this way. Eventually I realized that I was given a much better life than what I had had, and would have had with him. No more roller coaster emotional rides, no more money worries, no more living in hope that things will get better, no more dreaming of having a family life, no more waiting for him to come home and so much more. I was delivered and am enjoying life. Of course I am still rattled and still grieve the life I wish I could have had with him. But, things being what they are, ....I'm good.
Haha so spot on- they sometimes cheat w narc before youre discarded and you usually know who their new supply is because the narcissist has meticulously triangulated them in middle of your relationship before discard
Something you havent talked about is - You can always know what narcissist is doing behind your back because they accuse you of doing whatever theyre doing-
3:51 It's mind-blowing that when I was in it, I saw and felt the bad but didn't understand it. I kept trying to fix things, get on the same page and make things better ~ always to no avail. He'd just argue, run away and hide to avoid talking about anything - then act like everything is fine. Round and round we'd go. It was exhausting! Im 3 months out and I still feel exhausted and unbalanced having great days of empowerment and then waves of sadness, anger and grief. The roller coaster is still spinning 😔 I pray it balances out soon!!! 🙏💖🙏
Thank you so so so much for doing this. I am currently moving forward from a 12 year relationship with a narcissist and I happened on your videos and it's been so eye opening to the tactics he is currently using and to have a better understanding what was going on during the relationship. It has been keeping me from falling back into that toxic situation.
They don't love any of them. It's all fake till the next supply is found then u are discarded. They tell the same story almost how every one of the ex's was cheating or evil or bad. Crazy ect. They keep one foot in and one out the door, so they can keep u hanging on so they can later try to come back in if they want to or need u for some purpose or reason.
I would've listened to the old supply because I always felt something was off. I was convinced by others to be with him. Big life lesson learnt: follow your gut, not what people say.
on the other note i love your comparison to fighing for a bum prize. I used to compare it to a fight between two women that found a fake louis vuitton bag on some street market and fight to get it thinking it is real, despite suspicously cheap price tag.
I know from experience, yes they do think that, I been threw it already, I thought I was getting ahead once too to learn much too late it wasn't a privilege to be with a narcissist. Sometimes they are still jelous of their ex and want them back. So they use the new supply to make old supply jelous or mad. They make all ex supply's look like or tell new person they just want me back , they just jelous, I'm done with them I'm with u. However over time I learned they triangulated us both to argue and about fight cause the NPD gets off on others fight over them. Makes them feel powerful. They don't care about either they just using both till they find a third to triangulate u.
I was the new supply and thought it was all great and dandy now here I am pregnant alone doing doctor point appointments by myself find the buying all the stuff by myself, he owes me money and won’t pay me back and oh yeah he’s a bum and she can have him
After spending the past year trying to break a trauma bond from leaving my 12 year relationship with the ex narc this made me remember a thought I had over the years with her. The was some overlap at the beginning of our relationship with her ex, just like there's some overlap with me and her new supply. My thought over the years before we broke up was, "I wonder if her ex is happy I took her away from him!" I knew she was a handful years ago I just didn't know why until recently. I forgot all about that thought until I just watched your video Lee.
Understand this to a NPD Better is not really better, just a new opportunity to do the same thing. These people are trapped in hell pity the new supply and focus on yourself.
In hindsight I think this is part of the reason I was kept in the dark because if I knew who the supply was I probably would have wanted to reach out to them. ALL of the scenarios mentioned here are 💯
I'm not sure why the new supply is villainized when were are all once the new supply. The real demon is the narc. I actually feel sorry for the new victim. They're world is about to be pulled apart.
Well, I think the people who are villianized are the NS that are 190% aware of the current relationship or spouse. The ones who aren’t necessarily lied to, but are 100% willing to engage with little to no remorse or empathy for the current partner. I haven’t really witnessed anyone doing it aside from that reason
This. I wanted to warn because no one deserves what's coming but it's not my place to be in their drama. Every woman he's ever been with has figured out who he is eventually. I hope the new women figure it out faster than I did AND have the strength to leave him sooner!
Because some of us didnt willingly participate in hurting someone... Some new supplies are aware the narcissist is in the relationship with you.. but because the new supply is a narc as well they enjoy hurting you.. stop thinking all new supplies are empaths
I did realize and think about what was happening between him and his ex's. I listened to what the other women said. No I would listen to the ex. I knew he always dumped them at ten years. When I'd break up with him. He'd keep coming back. Last time I told the truth. And it was so easy. He's gone and left me alone. I don't miss him. I miss the person I thought he was. He's too lazy to work for a relationship.
I dont even put effort into convince some one what some one did. I just let them be and pray that they get out faster than i did and he wont destroy them as bad as he did with me.
I tried to warn a narc's EX supply through social media. Result: she went BACK to him and since then she is freaking scared of me, even after their end.
I tried telling her, hell I even showed up at a place I knew they were both at and told her that he was still seeing me with a ton of evidence and she just denied it to herself and threatened me. She doesn't want to know; she wants to pretend to herself that he's not like that 'to her'. She's the difference! ( Of course! Sure, right, ok!) I knew I must have come off as nuts ( and he will have told her that I am) and this made that worse, so now I'm just letting it fly. I left him, did a reverse discard. Let her find out for herself (but one thing I do know: The seed is planted there...) I have to say - I was mad as shit about all the lies he had told us both. I wanted my out. It was less about warning her and more about showing him out for what he is. Backfired a little, I guess - but not enough to not cause problems for me. I know what that makes me, but gee, I was livid at him taking us BOTH for idiots.
Take your energy and focus it back on yourself. Don’t randomly turn up at places to warn her. You are not her keeper! She will find out for herself and hopefully she will have ppl to support her. The best thing you can do is learn to be kind to yourself. 🙏🏾
@@tumbleweed2404 Absolutely. Once I realised this, I thought sod it - let her find out for herself. I think that she'll put up with it for far longer than I did - but that's her problem. I started to look at WHY I had stayed and what was it about me and my issues that kept me buying in and returning. I've figured that out, so now the focus is on me.
I did the same thing...lol I wrote an email to both of them! All I have to say it was my closure of 18 years. Fast forward a month they are together and she is helping him dodge child support. When 3 months before she was attacking me about not letting him see our daughter...now he will not even return his daughters calls. What a joke but it is all okay...I am no contact now. Having g a child with the narc does change things but my peace is real but the healing journey is painful
Same scenario for mw, i did it mostly to expose him. She didn't care, i bet she's so amazed by him up to this point. They just met like a month ago in a beautiful beach in México like we did years ago. He's been texting me hoovering this whole time telling me that he loves me, wants me back etc etc (i broke up with him 3 months ago) so i just wanted to expose him in some way. I finally could see just how pathetic he is, i told him everytime to stop reaching out and that i didn't wanted to be with him anymore. Sent her screenshots of all the hoovering... She didn't care lol, she sent me back a pic of both of them with big smiles saying "we send love your way" lol. Anyways, tried to warn her 🤷🏽♀️.
The Bum Olympics!!! My x's next told me "You don't understand" when I confronted her with sleeping with my then husband. *eyeroll* They deserve each other and I'm happy and in a healthy relationship. I thank them both for giving me the incentive to fix myself and move forward.
You are so right. I left my ex narcissist after a 5 yr relationship due to finding out about the new side source. After 6 months he discarded her and is on a new supply after a month and moving in with the new source. She probably thinks she is winning.
That's absolutely true, Lee. I didn't believe his exes either. I thought they were absurd. In all fairness, they may be more equipped. They didn't leave themselves as vulnerable, They may hopefully, never go through what others before them did.
Yep. That was me. I won’t have listened to anyone. He did all the preemptive strike crap and I believed it all. Right up until I discovered how much he’d lied…about EVERYTHING. Now I switch things 180 degrees from what he said and that is probably closer to the truth.
I really felt compassion for her and thought about warning her sometimes. A basic reason is that I learned she has bipolar disorder and I'm afraid he's gonna smash her soul completely.. But then I would expose myself to "danger" again.. I also asked my therapist and she advised me not to because she probably won't listen as she said.. I wish she'll realize what he is and leave him as soon as possible.. But I know from my case he won't let her leave, at least till he find another supply...
I definitely do NOT feel bad for the new supply. We started dating in 2015, married in 2017, had two kids, and now he’s with a chick he deployed with in 2015. But I’ve always known that he had his eye on her in some way because of how they interacted. That’s only one of 3 supplies that I know of but he’s with this one now and isn’t even with the person that he cheated on me with while 8 months pregnant 😑 Anyways, I don’t feel bad for his current new supply because she’s practically known him the same time as me…so she has an even playing field in my eyes and has had enough time to get to know him. That’s her problem now and she has 2 kids for sure, maybe 3 🙄
I have two small children with a narcissist. He has a total of 5 children. He is highly inconsistent with taking care of them. He recruited an older woman to help him cyber stalk me and she fell for it. She also introduced kid #5 with him with the impression he is a good father. I had to learn the hard way she's a 🐍. It has nothing to do with her attraction to irresponsible guys like him. She helped my ex abuser stalk me and relayed information to him. She is in her mid 40s acting like a teenager. She really believes he will be a great dad to her child. I also understand the spell she is under though. I think narcissists can spot out weak people who really don't know their worth. Just my thoughts
Competing for the Bum Olympics! You just made me laugh and I needed this because I’ve been hurting so much after I was dumped and replaced by a new supply young enough to be my daughter and his as well…
I was the new supply and the ex tried to warn me about him. The thing is that I wasn't even in the love bombing stage but what I'd call the grooming stage. He claimed they just wanted to be friends but warned me that his ex suffered from pathological jealousy and was jealous of all his female friends. It didn't help that she confronted me and accused me of stealing her man (even though nothing romantic had happened and we hadn't even been on a date yet) but she was convinced that there was something going on. This confirmed to me that she was crazy and that I couldn't trust what she had to say. She told me that karma would get me (for stealing her man) and that I'd find out what a nasty person he was (she said this with a bitter smirk of satisfaction). It turns out she was right about him being nasty but at the time I brushed it off due to the way she communicated it to me. Now, in hindsight and having learned how manipulative narcissists can be, I think he probably led her to believe that he had been seeing me behind her back and that there was something more than there actually was so that when she confronted me (he probably knew she'd do this) she would look crazy. The love bombing came shortly after this. At the time I saw it as a friendship that had blossomed into a romantic interest. However, when I look back I see how cleverly I'd been played.
I think when I was discarded, what hurt the most at first was he told me, "She's always been there for me, when I was going through it with my babymom, everything! Her boyfriend beat her up for talking to me and I was there for her! We've been through a lot together." But...he was physically abusive to me during our relationship. That hurt for some reason.
I was in contact with his ex before me for a few days before he found out that we were in contact. He spoke to her about it and I never heard from her ever again. He told me she was jealous of us and that she hated me, so she never wanted to speak to me anymore. I believed it because she is a borderline and that was also the reason she didn't warn me actually because she was still idealizing him at the time. She went no contact with him the first time while we were involved, but I cut him off first before she finally went no contact for the final time a few months after me. She was constantly breaking no contact when I was the "new supply," but I was a one and done. He has his new supply now, while I am certain he is grooming someone else after her. I would love to hear your take on how the old supply should handle it when the new supply finally reaches out to them when they find out about the narcissist.
Usually well half the time the new supply turns to me for help and support. We usually became friends. This is with ex narc 1, from 23 years ago. Ex narc 2 from last year we will see.....
You are so right I kept breaking up with him like 15 times and he he used to get verbally abusive and violent about 2 weeks ago he started being very distant no more love bombing I asked him if there was somebody else or he went back to an ex he will keep saying no then I ask him I want to break up and he was so good about it he said cool then I break up finally but now I miss him
I spent 12 years with a narc. When we first got together and I asked about exes they were all "crazy". It took me YEARS to realize that he was the crazy one. After I left I became the crazy one for the future supplies. I moved on and have been in a happy committed relationship for over two years and he still tells everyone that I was only with him for his money (that he didn't have😂). He still tries to slander me and my relationship and just cannot seem to move on. He's on his 8th or 9th girlfriend and while I hate that my teenage daughter experiences his constant love bombing to them and their children, my daughter totally puts that expiration date on the relationship and keeps her distance because she knows it won't last.
Hi Lee! Thank You first of all. Second of all 'Who wants the Bum prize anymore!"? Third of all while my Narc is still my neighbour, All his new supplies are more watching Me, than him, And off course they keep on dissapearing. I would Never warn them, why should I waste my good energy???😅
I wish I would’ve listened to his family in the beginning. He almost took my life and my sons life. 😢 He’s a bum and now has messed his life up! Locked up.
Bum fights! love it lol. Reminds me of my ex, he wasn't exactly a bum but he sure acted like it and now his rich new gf is raising him and clothing him....she was fighting hard for him...
My response CONGRATULATIONS and GOOD LUCK! The “New Supply”, not my business…. I don’t care where my X’s life goes, I’m OUT! 🙌🤣😂. Your life is your’s to do with what you want. I will feel sorry for the new supply, because she obviously will have No Clue what she’s getting into. That makes me sad, but only for the new supply! Caring about my X and his Narc sociopathic ways is like wanting to be rewarded with a Trophy built of dog💩! Sorry if that seems offensive I don’t intend that, just the most appt example I could think of!
She can have him
Damn right
Absolutely
Amen!!!
Hahaha Exactly
💯🎯 I actually laughed out reading your comment. Sometimes in life, the trash takes itself out.
My husband got his Karma when a few years ago he discarded me for new supply that ended being a promiscuous, full blown narcissist worst than him. She presented herself as a decent fine woman at the beginning, he got fooled. big time, he paraded her everywhere and on social media as his new trophy, something he never did with me, she cheated on him with more than one man.I certainly did not need to warn that woman.
I like this, it cheered me up 🤣🤣🤣
God don’t like ugly 😂😂😂😂
Yep she been married 2 times cheated on first husband with his son..he trophy is female version of him all her reltionships end the same..
@@crankypantsmcduff same here as I read it
So true. His new supply works in the mental health industry. She truly feels like she won the prize. Good luck to her!
🤣 This made me laugh out loud. Plot twist: my ex narc met his new supply IN the mental institution that he went to to get help...lol.
Well then eventually if she works in mental health that was not another good move of your ex narc 😂 she’ll figure him
Out.
“I’m winning this bum. He’s my bum now.” Lee you made me actually laugh out loud. Because it’s so true. They’ve won a prize bum. Not worth warning the new supply about it. That bum, and the person who won the bum, isn’t worth the time. Let them have their prize bum. Instead spend the time on the better people you meet now that the bum is not hanging like an albatross around your neck.
I agree narcs are bums
Years ago, I learned you never fight over a guy. There was ONLY ONE I would fight for. I married Him. He's passed away now. Whatever it took, I wouldn't back down. If a man wants you... He'll be there. Also, their ego loves women fighting over them. You want Him. Ok...You can have Him. I found this leaves them dumbstruck. I mean. Jaw drops and everything. I don't miss the sex either. He was lazy. Only do what you wanted for a few minutes. No I don't need that. He's not worth it.
hahahahah me too!! My ex-narc and his new supply are jobless! Lee is totally spot on! He scams other people into believing in " new business start-ups" and asks them for funding. The new supply thought she hits the jackpot. They both are losers.
@@pallysupatra The narc I knew now thinks they’re some kind of crypto genius. Complete delusion of grandeur. It’s rare that a narc achieves true affluence. Usually they’re just upper middle class at best but pretend they’re affluent until it runs dry.
Ya. Winning the prize.
The booby prize. 🤡
Here are the things I told myself when I was the new supply: "she just didn't have what it took to help him" "she just wasn't strong enough to be with a man like him". "I can handle him better than she could, that's why we will last", "she just wasn't the right woman for him"
Okay!!
And how wrong were you?
Are you reading my diary? 🤣
@female human - the last one is the biggest fallacy: "she just wasn't the right woman for him". We buy in to this tripe that they weren't a 'match' but we are, and the narc reinforces this by saying the same during the love-bombing phase - "she just wasn't the right woman for me. She did/said A, B and C.... YOU'RE the right woman for me!" Total rubbish. 🙄
This is how i felt. I was soooooooo wrong !!!!
When a narcs ex warns the new supply, it's a very generous act! They could hate her but instead they warn her.
And all the new supply does is attack, armed with the narcs constant misinformation they think is truth.
Yes I think it is very generous fir the ex to have a conversation with the new suckered. I am very grateful I had a conversation with his ex and I hope it helped her too! He no doubt put her through it and for much longer than he did to me.
Even if the narc has money, educated, and has a lot going for them their personality negates all that. Cold heart, lies, cheating, the inability to connect deeper than surface level….no it’s not worth it. He put me and the ex- now his new supply the 3rd, 4th time-in competition with each other.
Battling over a bum narc is like a gambling addiction, and the house always wins. Watching their supplies fight over their loser ass is a form of supply in itself. Only way to win is not to play 🚪⏪️🏃♀️
Stop battling for bums is my new slogan for life 🤣🤣🤣
Facts!!!!!
They make new person think old one was crazy, abusive, did blah blah blah to them, make them wanna pitty them and get their trust and sympathy so can suck them in more till they find yet another new supply then they will start triangulate u with them and the new ones and in the end u eventually learn of each other and the fact he lied and played u all. Tell each one a different story to keep them hooked. They play each one to keep them hooked so if one don't work out or no longer value them or need them they have u to call back on.
People tried to warn me but I didn't believe them. I was in denial and I couldn't believe them because he was perfect in the beginning.
🤣🤣🤣 New supply: but the old supply ain't me. Old supply: chillllle u gonna wish you were the old supply when he gets through wit you.
Amen.
😂😂😂🎉
Update: He didn’t put her on the lease, so they got put out…She’s holding on because she said God sent him to her 🤣🤣🤣 Homeless and happy they are! Lol Screw her! She knew about me but chose to believe EVERYTHING that he said. She moved in our old apt, old bed, old sheets lol I was STILL on our old Apts email list. 2 weeks after they got married I got an email that said they were late on their rent ( 2 weeks lol ) and he told her that he was an engineer lol He’s a temporary electrician for the company, never kept a job for over 2 years lol I dodged a damn bullet!
It'd be funny if you told her thanks did taking him. Your life is so much better now.
@@jill3686 you dodged a bullet!! I found out the dude who did me dirty was still married 🤦🏽♀️and shot at his wife in their house. Yes I reached out to her, we’re cool: she said “Go back to him if you want but you definitely dodged a bullet,
Literally
@@jill3686 it is!
Lol at karma idiots 🤣 belong together
Girl!!!!! You dodged a major bullet! F them ✌🏼
Why would I warn her? That's her lesson to learn. Besides, she's paying my child support and keeping him from bothering me.
I agree with you 💯 percent ! Why warn someone who already knew about you and was just sitting in the dark just waiting and willing to start trouble ?
In other words
.... you can't be honest with a daymmm theif...... let them figure out that the prize they both won or stole is worth less than a pile of donkey $#%# !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had feelings of wanting to warn the new woman, however, that went away fast but because I know who my Ex is. I played the conversation he most likely had with her in my head and knew that I would just be playing into his hand of being the "Crazy Ex" and "She still wants me" narrative he probably told the new supply. I let those feelings past and just continued with my healing and watching these videos. She has to learn for herself just like I did.
That’s the same thing I did..let it be. He has a tendency to bring us around his friends fairly quickly-like a revolving door. I learned some are messy and will tell you everything once it’s over
She’ll hear about me soon enough
I told the new supply and you know what i found out? She was just as crazy as him.
@@rturtle5795 Lol!
This messy chick came to my home..to make me aware..they both deserve what they get..god wont Bless You with another womans man!!@@
@@rturtle5795 MATCH MADE IN HELL for one another❗ 👹🤣🤣🤣
I’m not warning SH%#! Since all these side females over the years have thought they could do better, ima let them go ahead and try. Early on he’s gonna be amazing cause it’s fresh and he’s getting everything he wants. But once real life kicks in, he’a gonna be unhappy again and miserable. So his new supplies (multiples) can have him. F^%# them honestly. He’s dropping his whole family for some random females. I hope they all get what they deserve and YES I’m bitter and I’m hurt mode now. Too much has been done AND I’ve been grieving the loss of my mom so u KNOW my heart is hard right now.
Dang wow. I'm in the exact same boat!! Seems still grieving my Mom and my Granny my Mom's Mom. So I totally feel you!!
Thank you for your post !!!!!!!!!
Let karma shake that azzzzzzzzzz up !!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel you honey… I’m in the same boat!! Stay strong and heal!!!
I totally relate to every word you said. I got played my my ex narc. He left me 7 months pregnant for some random chick at work. Moved in and riding in her car now. What a bum! She will find out eventually. We have a 1 year old and one on the way. He left me with no money to help pay bills while I'm out on mater ity leave. No remorse , no empathy. Nothing.
Send you so many hugs!!!!!
Y’all can have him! I spinned the block way too many times and found out he has been spinning the block with a bunch of other Women! I should have listened to my intuition years ago, but I know better now. I also realize that some Women are ok with having a piece of a Man and some know about you and don’t care. Now he has ED so he should def stick with the recycled ones over the years because nobody else is gonna wanna deal with that. He portrays a great guy image but is for the STREETS!! Community D at its finest. Gross!!!!
My husband is a community D CHAMP! Def done recycling trash. The other trash buckets can have him now
Swamp donkeys and lot 🦎 lizards deserve each other. So never waste your time or energy trying to warn the dirty narc or their dirty supplies because 10 times out of 10 they already know about the empath & come in with the sole intent to cause destruction at ALL cost. Stay strong & Let karma do ALL the talkin' !!!!!!!
Hoe - tel hell might be full but there's always a vacancy with their name on it.
Sounds like someone I know. Don't marry them. You will regret it.
If the narcissist is the prize she can win! I'll lose happily
The Narc’s son’s mother was always so nice to me in the beginning of the entanglement. I asked her why was she so nice because it’s unusual for the ex to be nice to the new “ girlfriend “. She said good luck with him and his mother and she proceeded to tell me what she went through. 11 years and a son later I found out that everything she said was true and the Narc’s mother was a narcissist too. I wasn’t mean to her when she warned me I just thought that my situation would be different because it was a different relationship but that’s all I thought. I wish I could have a conversation with the ex now though.
same. I remember is the beginning of my ex and my relationship his mom during a private convo said. "well Mark has a good heart.... but" ...ended there. but she was the same. we would visit his parents and immediately she would call him in room privately whispering and heard her talking about me or his ex when we would catch him or her in their lies. literally the worst 14 yrs of my life.
The mom is a lying too
"Battling for bums" 🤣
Very true, the Narcissist makes all his relationships a competition!!!
“That’s my bum!”… “I would have fought back for my bum” 🥴😩🤣🤣 lmaooo
Lord help us as we heal!🙏🏽
His new supply, who never became more than a side-piece, actually reached out to me and claimed to not only know that he was still with me, but also knew that he was dating two other women behind my back, knew he was a narcissist and likely a sex addict as well, but insisted that she loved him and accepted him as he was 🤦🏼♀️. Totally insane! She knew his true colors from the beginning and was okay with them, it's mind-boggling.
Wooooow sounds like the new supply has a very low self esteem 👀 the narc will do what they are allowed to do ….. you dodged a bullet big time
Desperate .. that’s all that is. So sad they WANT someone to suck the life out of them 😢
"BATTLING FOR BUMS" - LET THEM HAVE THEIR PRIZE❗TOO HILARIOUS LEE ‼️ 🤣🤣🤣
It’s true his Ex tried to warn me and I didn’t listen 9 years later 2 kids later and now I’m leaving I hated I didn’t listen to her. Him and his whole family tried to make the ex look crazy but she wasn’t crazy she was right the whole time damn I hated I thought it was going to be different
"How you met them is how you are going to lose them". 10000000% true facts! This happened to me, and I got left the EXACT same way, same scenario-he was engaged to his ex, like he was engaged to me, except I actually have a little one with him, and he still left me...for a girl half my age he met in a mental institution where he was supposed to be getting help.🤣You can't make this sh*t up. I thought we were just in love and he was in the wrong relationship. LOL. Thank you Lee! You seriously have me cracking up sometimes at your videos. So much truth. I plan to schedule a one on one soon! God bless you and your fam!
I ended up telling my ex-narc (in a very sweet voice) that there were many women sitting in Julia Tutwiler State Prison (in Alabama) for killing their men over a whole lot less than the BS he pulled over on me...that he had his life because I loved my freedom and I would do him absolutely NO harm...and...that he was welcome to go away from me so that he could eff-over that 'special-girl' who would care nothing about putting a knife in his gut.
I said all of these things to him with a big smile on my face...because I'm a big sweetie!
Relatable
Something I noticed is that when I talked to “girlfriends” about my troubles with narc ex’s it brought fake narcissistic “friends” out of the woodwork and shined a light right on them 🔦 I feel it brought
their interest to him behind my back which I knew some things didn’t add up the way they treated me but I was unsuspecting of these fake backstabber friends for thee longest 🗡 🗡
Same
So true, don't bother telling the other supply anything let her deal with that bullshit sit back and laugh , see how stupid the new supply is. 🤣
So true. Let the new supply find out for themselves. That only gives us the old supply more time to keep going forward and healing to never be manipulated back to the Narc ever again. Good for you. 😊
Well - all nine of them have been a lot dumber then I was. I didn’t get the warning from the ex 😢 don’t know if I would have believed her over him at that time ?
They seriously believe him !! He just lives here, we are separated, sleep in separate rooms .. I’m CRAZY.. they will get their karma for sleeping with a married man..
Don’t know how you can have a small child and BEG a man to let you come pick them up from their home at midnight - but these women are so desperate. Packing up your 2yr old at midnight to pick up a man you never even had a phone call with 😮😮😮?!?!? WTF craziness is that ?!?!? I need to let it go .. he is suppose to leave today with her - when he gets his NEW CAR ..😂 my hearts shattered in a thousand pieces .. but I GOTTA LET IT GO LET IT GO ❤
I finally warned the new supply because she was talking crap in the background.. new supply told me “she know all of this and she is gonna stick by his side…. It’s not her fault that I couldn’t lock him in with the 8yrs I have with him and she did it within 5mos) she basically trapped him with a baby. I told her that I don’t have to trap a man to keep him around.
Everything played out exactly like you are describing here. The ex was always painted as the crazy cheater psycho. I remember talking to her once and she told me everything I would eventually experience with him but I didn't listen. I tried so hard in vain.
And I don't feel sorry for her. I'm sure she knew..everything.
My ex narcissist new supply actually came and found me 🤦🏾♀️ she said out of her own mouth that she new he was a narcissist. She told me all the things he did which he did to me too. He actually cheated on me with her. Funny thing is she actually thinks she’s won a prize 🤣 and now I think she had a baby with him and is probably married to him. I do t feel sorry for her either because she came to me and I told her and she already knew 🤷🏾♀️
@@chocolatebarbie3192 In that order sis. They are destined to destruction.
Why would I reach out to the new supply? The #1 rule is NO CONTACT! Have a nice life and may God bless you both. He wanted to be in the streets so I gave him to the streets.
" He wanted to be in the streets so I gave him to the streets " 😂😂😂
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!
Street city lesson one on one ( 101 )
with a PHD in Kick @$$ karma !!!!!
I'm grateful for the videos teaching on narcissism. These days, I run into narcs all the time. I have a handful of narc neighbors living very close by. I've had a narc best friend, narc relatives, a narc ex-husband. Here a narc, there a narc, everywhere a narc, narc.
The narcissist gave me his new supplies numbers and told me to reach out to them because he already warned them that I am crazy and to prove that I'm crazy! In our 16 year relationship I paid for everything, I had the house, and the car. Now, the 40 yo narcissist is a 22 yo college grad.
I need to replay this video every time he tries to come back. I remember when I was being warned and everything she said would happened , did.
I have no urge of Any kind to warn Anybody.
He recycles.
So who he's rockin wit now, is who was there when him and I were together.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes.....
Exactly 💯💯💯💯
My sister-in-law warned me and I laughed. I won my bum. Yay.
🙏🏽
Well... I figure they deserve each other. It took me quite a while to get to think this way. Eventually I realized that I was given a much better life than what I had had, and would have had with him. No more roller coaster emotional rides, no more money worries, no more living in hope that things will get better, no more dreaming of having a family life, no more waiting for him to come home and so much more. I was delivered and am enjoying life. Of course I am still rattled and still grieve the life I wish I could have had with him. But, things being what they are, ....I'm good.
Haha so spot on- they sometimes cheat w narc before youre discarded and you usually know who their new supply is because the narcissist has meticulously triangulated them in middle of your relationship before discard
Something you havent talked about is - You can always know what narcissist is doing behind your back because they accuse you of doing whatever theyre doing-
Don’t warn nobody because they won’t know what your talking about when you try to explain..
3:51 It's mind-blowing that when I was in it, I saw and felt the bad but didn't understand it. I kept trying to fix things, get on the same page and make things better ~ always to no avail. He'd just argue, run away and hide to avoid talking about anything - then act like everything is fine. Round and round we'd go. It was exhausting! Im 3 months out and I still feel exhausted and unbalanced having great days of empowerment and then waves of sadness, anger and grief. The roller coaster is still spinning 😔 I pray it balances out soon!!! 🙏💖🙏
Lmfaoo when you said sometimes it’s like competing for a bum…. 😭😭😭😭😭😭 it’s soooooo true! 😭😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂
Thank you so so so much for doing this. I am currently moving forward from a 12 year relationship with a narcissist and I happened on your videos and it's been so eye opening to the tactics he is currently using and to have a better understanding what was going on during the relationship. It has been keeping me from falling back into that toxic situation.
Same
They don't love any of them. It's all fake till the next supply is found then u are discarded. They tell the same story almost how every one of the ex's was cheating or evil or bad. Crazy ect. They keep one foot in and one out the door, so they can keep u hanging on so they can later try to come back in if they want to or need u for some purpose or reason.
Battling for a “Bum” took me out😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
I would've listened to the old supply because I always felt something was off. I was convinced by others to be with him.
Big life lesson learnt: follow your gut, not what people say.
on the other note i love your comparison to fighing for a bum prize. I used to compare it to a fight between two women that found a fake louis vuitton bag on some street market and fight to get it thinking it is real, despite suspicously cheap price tag.
I know from experience, yes they do think that, I been threw it already, I thought I was getting ahead once too to learn much too late it wasn't a privilege to be with a narcissist. Sometimes they are still jelous of their ex and want them back. So they use the new supply to make old supply jelous or mad. They make all ex supply's look like or tell new person they just want me back , they just jelous, I'm done with them I'm with u. However over time I learned they triangulated us both to argue and about fight cause the NPD gets off on others fight over them. Makes them feel powerful. They don't care about either they just using both till they find a third to triangulate u.
I was the new supply and thought it was all great and dandy now here I am pregnant alone doing doctor point appointments by myself find the buying all the stuff by myself, he owes me money and won’t pay me back and oh yeah he’s a bum and she can have him
After spending the past year trying to break a trauma bond from leaving my 12 year relationship with the ex narc this made me remember a thought I had over the years with her. The was some overlap at the beginning of our relationship with her ex, just like there's some overlap with me and her new supply.
My thought over the years before we broke up was, "I wonder if her ex is happy I took her away from him!" I knew she was a handful years ago I just didn't know why until recently. I forgot all about that thought until I just watched your video Lee.
I am done with having a relationship! I won’t be with another person ever again!
Ditto
Same but that's what they want!
Understand this to a NPD Better is not really better, just a new opportunity to do the same thing. These people are trapped in hell pity the new supply and focus on yourself.
In hindsight I think this is part of the reason I was kept in the dark because if I knew who the supply was I probably would have wanted to reach out to them.
ALL of the scenarios mentioned here are 💯
He said "The BUM OLYMPICS". I laughed so hard at work. He went on that rant topic for the perfect amount of time 🤣🤣🤣
Why would anyone want to warn the new supply?? That's crazy. They don't give a sh*t about you, let them deal with the insanity and abuse!
I didn’t listen and I regret it
I'm not sure why the new supply is villainized when were are all once the new supply. The real demon is the narc. I actually feel sorry for the new victim. They're world is about to be pulled apart.
Absolutely 💯 💯 💯 💯
The empath in me feels sorry for her...excuse me "them" but never enough to warn them. I wouldn't have listened either 🤷🏾♀️
Well, I think the people who are villianized are the NS that are 190% aware of the current relationship or spouse. The ones who aren’t necessarily lied to, but are 100% willing to engage with little to no remorse or empathy for the current partner. I haven’t really witnessed anyone doing it aside from that reason
This. I wanted to warn because no one deserves what's coming but it's not my place to be in their drama. Every woman he's ever been with has figured out who he is eventually. I hope the new women figure it out faster than I did AND have the strength to leave him sooner!
Because some of us didnt willingly participate in hurting someone... Some new supplies are aware the narcissist is in the relationship with you.. but because the new supply is a narc as well they enjoy hurting you.. stop thinking all new supplies are empaths
I did realize and think about what was happening between him and his ex's. I listened to what the other women said. No I would listen to the ex. I knew he always dumped them at ten years. When I'd break up with him. He'd keep coming back. Last time I told the truth. And it was so easy. He's gone and left me alone. I don't miss him. I miss the person I thought he was. He's too lazy to work for a relationship.
The new supply thinks they have a “PRIZE” little do they know they’re in for a SURPRISE. Buckle up 🤣
Kmsl😂😂
I dont even put effort into convince some one what some one did. I just let them be and pray that they get out faster than i did and he wont destroy them as bad as he did with me.
I tried to warn a narc's EX supply through social media. Result: she went BACK to him and since then she is freaking scared of me, even after their end.
I dont want to warn her, but I would love to thank her!! Now, just get him to stop calling me girl!
I tried telling her, hell I even showed up at a place I knew they were both at and told her that he was still seeing me with a ton of evidence and she just denied it to herself and threatened me. She doesn't want to know; she wants to pretend to herself that he's not like that 'to her'. She's the difference! ( Of course! Sure, right, ok!) I knew I must have come off as nuts ( and he will have told her that I am) and this made that worse, so now I'm just letting it fly. I left him, did a reverse discard. Let her find out for herself (but one thing I do know: The seed is planted there...) I have to say - I was mad as shit about all the lies he had told us both. I wanted my out. It was less about warning her and more about showing him out for what he is. Backfired a little, I guess - but not enough to not cause problems for me. I know what that makes me, but gee, I was livid at him taking us BOTH for idiots.
Take your energy and focus it back on yourself. Don’t randomly turn up at places to warn her. You are not her keeper! She will find out for herself and hopefully she will have ppl to support her. The best thing you can do is learn to be kind to yourself. 🙏🏾
@@tumbleweed2404 Absolutely. Once I realised this, I thought sod it - let her find out for herself. I think that she'll put up with it for far longer than I did - but that's her problem. I started to look at WHY I had stayed and what was it about me and my issues that kept me buying in and returning. I've figured that out, so now the focus is on me.
I did the same thing...lol I wrote an email to both of them! All I have to say it was my closure of 18 years. Fast forward a month they are together and she is helping him dodge child support. When 3 months before she was attacking me about not letting him see our daughter...now he will not even return his daughters calls. What a joke but it is all okay...I am no contact now. Having g a child with the narc does change things but my peace is real but the healing journey is painful
Same scenario for mw, i did it mostly to expose him. She didn't care, i bet she's so amazed by him up to this point. They just met like a month ago in a beautiful beach in México like we did years ago. He's been texting me hoovering this whole time telling me that he loves me, wants me back etc etc (i broke up with him 3 months ago) so i just wanted to expose him in some way. I finally could see just how pathetic he is, i told him everytime to stop reaching out and that i didn't wanted to be with him anymore. Sent her screenshots of all the hoovering... She didn't care lol, she sent me back a pic of both of them with big smiles saying "we send love your way" lol. Anyways, tried to warn her 🤷🏽♀️.
The Bum Olympics!!! My x's next told me "You don't understand" when I confronted her with sleeping with my then husband. *eyeroll* They deserve each other and I'm happy and in a healthy relationship. I thank them both for giving me the incentive to fix myself and move forward.
You are so right. I left my ex narcissist after a 5 yr relationship due to finding out about the new side source. After 6 months he discarded her and is on a new supply after a month and moving in with the new source. She probably thinks she is winning.
No longer my 3rd child!!! Have fun with your new shiny penny!
That's absolutely true, Lee. I didn't believe his exes either. I thought they were absurd. In all fairness, they may be more equipped. They didn't leave themselves as vulnerable, They may hopefully, never go through what others before them did.
Yep. That was me. I won’t have listened to anyone. He did all the preemptive strike crap and I believed it all. Right up until I discovered how much he’d lied…about EVERYTHING. Now I switch things 180 degrees from what he said and that is probably closer to the truth.
I really felt compassion for her and thought about warning her sometimes. A basic reason is that I learned she has bipolar disorder and I'm afraid he's gonna smash her soul completely.. But then I would expose myself to "danger" again.. I also asked my therapist and she advised me not to because she probably won't listen as she said.. I wish she'll realize what he is and leave him as soon as possible.. But I know from my case he won't let her leave, at least till he find another supply...
I definitely do NOT feel bad for the new supply. We started dating in 2015, married in 2017, had two kids, and now he’s with a chick he deployed with in 2015. But I’ve always known that he had his eye on her in some way because of how they interacted. That’s only one of 3 supplies that I know of but he’s with this one now and isn’t even with the person that he cheated on me with while 8 months pregnant 😑 Anyways, I don’t feel bad for his current new supply because she’s practically known him the same time as me…so she has an even playing field in my eyes and has had enough time to get to know him. That’s her problem now and she has 2 kids for sure, maybe 3 🙄
4:00 bum rant is gold
I have two small children with a narcissist. He has a total of 5 children. He is highly inconsistent with taking care of them. He recruited an older woman to help him cyber stalk me and she fell for it. She also introduced kid #5 with him with the impression he is a good father. I had to learn the hard way she's a 🐍. It has nothing to do with her attraction to irresponsible guys like him. She helped my ex abuser stalk me and relayed information to him. She is in her mid 40s acting like a teenager. She really believes he will be a great dad to her child. I also understand the spell she is under though. I think narcissists can spot out weak people who really don't know their worth. Just my thoughts
Competing for the Bum Olympics! You just made me laugh and I needed this because I’ve been hurting so much after I was dumped and replaced by a new supply young enough to be my daughter and his as well…
I commend u for doing this and owning up to your behavior
I was the new supply and the ex tried to warn me about him. The thing is that I wasn't even in the love bombing stage but what I'd call the grooming stage. He claimed they just wanted to be friends but warned me that his ex suffered from pathological jealousy and was jealous of all his female friends. It didn't help that she confronted me and accused me of stealing her man (even though nothing romantic had happened and we hadn't even been on a date yet) but she was convinced that there was something going on. This confirmed to me that she was crazy and that I couldn't trust what she had to say. She told me that karma would get me (for stealing her man) and that I'd find out what a nasty person he was (she said this with a bitter smirk of satisfaction). It turns out she was right about him being nasty but at the time I brushed it off due to the way she communicated it to me. Now, in hindsight and having learned how manipulative narcissists can be, I think he probably led her to believe that he had been seeing me behind her back and that there was something more than there actually was so that when she confronted me (he probably knew she'd do this) she would look crazy. The love bombing came shortly after this. At the time I saw it as a friendship that had blossomed into a romantic interest. However, when I look back I see how cleverly I'd been played.
Bum Olympics is perfect at describing it and that hit me hard - was really feeling it today thank you
I think when I was discarded, what hurt the most at first was he told me, "She's always been there for me, when I was going through it with my babymom, everything! Her boyfriend beat her up for talking to me and I was there for her! We've been through a lot together." But...he was physically abusive to me during our relationship. That hurt for some reason.
I thought I hit the jackpot. New supply will think the same.
I almost feel sorry for the poor bastard.
I really needed to hear this
🙌🏾
One of my girlfriends she has 3 bums who are narcs and they all got into a fight over her and she was forced to choose one. Lol crazy super bum fight
I was never told about an old supply or have any other person ever came up in our conversation. Never
Sometimes the bum has their own everything such as a nice home,car, their own bank account.
No, we don't listen. But we match the dots along the relationship. The patterns are all there. Hope they wake up! Without kids...
I was in contact with his ex before me for a few days before he found out that we were in contact. He spoke to her about it and I never heard from her ever again. He told me she was jealous of us and that she hated me, so she never wanted to speak to me anymore. I believed it because she is a borderline and that was also the reason she didn't warn me actually because she was still idealizing him at the time. She went no contact with him the first time while we were involved, but I cut him off first before she finally went no contact for the final time a few months after me. She was constantly breaking no contact when I was the "new supply," but I was a one and done.
He has his new supply now, while I am certain he is grooming someone else after her.
I would love to hear your take on how the old supply should handle it when the new supply finally reaches out to them when they find out about the narcissist.
Thank you, Haha she can keep him comment is perfect!
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You ain't lying Lee
Usually well half the time the new supply turns to me for help and support. We usually became friends. This is with ex narc 1, from 23 years ago. Ex narc 2 from last year we will see.....
No! Especially when they are supposed to have been friends of yours. They are now frenemies
The new supply can have her. They can get lied to and cheated on
Idk anymore! Let that new supply have him 😆🥵 I’m done and exhausted!
You are my favorite person, I appreciate all this info. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🤴🏿
You are so right I kept breaking up with him like 15 times and he he used to get verbally abusive and violent about 2 weeks ago he started being very distant no more love bombing I asked him if there was somebody else or he went back to an ex he will keep saying no then I ask him I want to break up and he was so good about it he said cool then I break up finally but now I miss him
I spent 12 years with a narc. When we first got together and I asked about exes they were all "crazy". It took me YEARS to realize that he was the crazy one. After I left I became the crazy one for the future supplies. I moved on and have been in a happy committed relationship for over two years and he still tells everyone that I was only with him for his money (that he didn't have😂). He still tries to slander me and my relationship and just cannot seem to move on. He's on his 8th or 9th girlfriend and while I hate that my teenage daughter experiences his constant love bombing to them and their children, my daughter totally puts that expiration date on the relationship and keeps her distance because she knows it won't last.
The Bum Olympics... Boy oh boy! You should patent that... Best line and description I have ever heard.
Bum fights! Lol this makes my day lol good stuff 👍💯
Hi Lee!
Thank You first of all.
Second of all 'Who wants the Bum prize anymore!"?
Third of all while my Narc is still my neighbour,
All his new supplies are more watching Me, than him,
And off course they keep on dissapearing.
I would Never warn them, why should I waste my good energy???😅
I wish I would’ve listened to his family in the beginning. He almost took my life and my sons life. 😢 He’s a bum and now has messed his life up! Locked up.
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Bum fights! love it lol. Reminds me of my ex, he wasn't exactly a bum but he sure acted like it and now his rich new gf is raising him and clothing him....she was fighting hard for him...
My response CONGRATULATIONS and GOOD LUCK! The “New Supply”, not my business…. I don’t care where my X’s life goes, I’m OUT! 🙌🤣😂. Your life is your’s to do with what you want. I will feel sorry for the new supply, because she obviously will have No Clue what she’s getting into. That makes me sad, but only for the new supply! Caring about my X and his Narc sociopathic ways is like wanting to be rewarded with a Trophy built of dog💩! Sorry if that seems offensive I don’t intend that, just the most appt example I could think of!