The way he untangles gaslighting you don’t even need a closure and admition from whatever said person driving you crazy. This guy will give you all the mental HEALness and clarity 🤣👍
I don't see the narc in him yet. Going thru his videos, showing respect and looking for examples of his past. He is too in tune to other people's feelings and telling them to put themselves first..... that's not a typical profile. He also doesn't seem too full of himself. I understand he's been in therapy, but I am so confused (as of now).
I would say another reason is that they are afraid that you will pull back your supply. They want you on the stringer with the rest of the fish. They don't want anything to change unless THEY change it.
What ever it is... Once you find out don´t be a fool and leave. Because such people will never change. They are ill-minded. (Simple they are...). So if you figure them out (when their mask finally falls off leave and never look back). Let them be with the new supplies - you won because you are free and don´t have to put up with their bullshit anymore. People with such character are not worth it (cheating, lying - no thank you... I personally don´t want such a person in my life).
Ohine in my name tio, landline anyway. He tried to steal my phone number and have it put into his name. Took awhile to get it back to my name. I continue getting text messages 10 years after for his name , hers, its madness
I saw my ex-Narcy's new boyfriend and she raged out on me in a text message. I texted her saying that her boyfriend appears to be a nice genetleman and I would not do anything to infringe on her happiness. Shortly after, I went NO Contact. I wish them both well. Yet, my ex-Narcy calls and leaves messages periodically to see how I am doing. I am neither a trash bin nor a recovery hospital for the mentally insane.
My ex introduced my kids to her new boyfriend…. My son says “dad, he won’t leave, he sleeps on the couch and mom can’t get him to leave and she’s swearing alot”…. 🤨🤣 oh geez sounds like everything is so great with the new supply 🤣
Never base all your movements and decisions on someone that will never respect you and finds you completely irrelevant. They say "dominate" when looking for a master.
My soon to be ex never wanted anyone to know about his new supply. The only reason he was forced to admit to the new supply was because she got pregnant and he knew after 3 years of hiding her she would take his kid and leave and his ego wouldn’t allow that to happen.
The new supply? Mine hides every intimate partner in his life...He was also hiding his ex-wife... He looks like a "single ready to mingle" man all the time. 🙄🙄🙄
I am just amazed at once you go through the narc pattern a couple of times and "recall" what you know about what he said his ex did to him(😂) , it's like watching a rerun of a comedy series. So glad to be on the other side of this and he think we are still in a relationship and nothing is wrong😂😂😂. He has a new supply and still hovering. He need my "validation " and my super empath power. That ship has sailed. Just playing nice to get through this divorce.
Once is enough for me!!! Yeah, I’ve been discarded in a most egregious manner, I escaped (literally). Made it back to America to be hovered!! OMG!!! If it wasnt for the tenacity of my young adult children, I could have easily returned to him. His hover was quite steamy. I used that time (we were messaging) to lay it ALL OUT. It was weird, he was SO NICE AND VERBALLY REPENTANT. Nope!!! Once I finished my rants and truths, once he actually said that I did not deserve his SHIT. That’s all I needed. I allowed him to suggest we stop messaging. As soon as he said… “maybe we should go our desperate ways.” I WAS FREE. Lol, I answered back with one word. I typed “Alright” then I clicked block and delete! It’s been a couple of months. Yaaas I want to unblock him to peek at his life…nope. I don’t need that. On my healing road. This is hard. Staying Strong. Therapy, even meds, journaling, good friends etc. However, I still have bad emotional moments. I hate that he remains in my head. All the video snd photos I took while I was over there with him🥹🥹🥹🥹will haunt me for a bit, however the trip was amazing in that I resisted manipulation, spoke with via FaceTime ) and texted family and friends in America DAILY. We were together here for an entire year before going on this so-called adventure. Poor guy… he found out the hard way that I OBEY NO ONE! 😅. Shocked him when I simply left the country and went home. The idiot😜. That’s what he gets for playing his game with me. I was discarded because I refused to play his games. I emotionally closed myself off. Made a good friend over there and had a BALL. Lucky for me I kept my friendship with my driver quiet. Somehow, I knew not to share this info. My friend also checked in on me daily and showed me wonderful sites w/o the idiot, because he never wanted to accompany me. I have several journals that chronicle our 14th month relationship. Gonna write about this once I am able. Wow!! Praise God for protecting me and sending me home. Oh yeah… my driver saved me that fateful night. Very dramatic. I’ve been home for 7 months. I’m a mess inside, but I’m doin the work and staying no contact. Ugh🥹😎
"If I don't ADMIT to it, it is not real" 😮😮😮 I wasn't imagining it! That's exactly how they act. I politely ask "did you mean to hurt me with that sction/comment?" and they say nothing. Zip. Like it never happened
The ex-narc I used to date very recently told me he’s about to be engaged by the end of this year… which sounded really bizarre to me because he would always tell me he wasn’t looking for a relationship despite us being in a full blown relationship. When I would ask him why he didn’t want a relationship, he would always say “I made my bed” as if he had done so much dirt throughout his life that he was trying to avoid anything coming back on him, yet we met each other’s families, I don’t get him. Anyway, he discarded me over a year ago but I saw him this year (thought I needed “closure”) stupid mistake. I think he now sees how well I’ve moved on without him. I’ve since bought a beautiful home and am highly unphased by his childish behavior now. So he has the nerve to pull a new trick out of his bag and try to get a reaction out of me and say I don’t know how you’re gonna take this but I’m getting engaged at the end of this year (2023). First off, no one says I’m getting engaged by this date, they say I’m engaged to be married already if anything. Number 2, he had the audacity to ask for my “blessings.” I thought the whole thing was ridiculous and a lie and I laughed at it. I asked when can I meet this new woman who was so fascinating to make you wanna propose to her after constantly rejecting me and making it seem as though I wasn’t good enough? He said you will get the chance. (Needless to say, I haven’t heard back since.) LOL He kept saying how she was so much like me and comparing her to me. I said if your new woman has all these similarities to me, why did you discard me? All he could come back with is I was too combative yet he constantly told me how good of a person I am and very rare. He was always contradicting himself (very strange bird) WEIRDO! Anyway that’s my story… one of many of course. Pure foolery 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Glad to be done with him ✌🏽
My ex would always compliment how smart I was but Never wanted to follow my advice or financial suggestions. He also said I was stable but cheated on me with women with drug addictions. Yeah they don't make any sense at all.
My ex never ever posts photos of his girlfriends. He never even had photos of ex wife. I thought it was odd when we were supposedly in a committed relationship for 2 1/2 years thst he never posted photos. He just said he doesn’t like putting his stuff out there. I personally think he never posts his relationships because he knows it won’t last and he goes through so many people and that doesn’t look well.
It’s the games for me! Narcissist 🤮 The way they think, it’s so destructive! The “love bomb or idealization” phase is making plans for the final destruction or discard. 🤦🏽♀️ These transactions end very painful. This shit ain’t right, they’re too dangerous the way they “play” with people’s lives. The No ACCOUNTABILITY game narcs play..💩
I was the new supply once, and I can guarantee you I was hidden, at a bare minimum on social media at her insistence. Had me lie to my family about her marital status, which I was OK with at first because I was told a divorce was imminent. She’s hiding the new supply she left me for too. As with me, I think certain people or maybe a group of people know about him and that’s it.
When I changed my name on Facebook when we got married, his brother was pissed! He didnt even know we had got married, he just thought I randomly put my last name as his! Ain't that something y'all?
For my nex is all of the above 😅. He always goes back to the thirsty ex-hookups. One even ruined her current relationship with her fiance because he was finally on the market. Good luck, girl!
Noone wants to be in a row of supplies and they know it...they are always tired from lying and have terrible memories so they slip up.Its like being with a ticking time bomb waiting for it to blow up in your face...
thankful to now be in a place where i'm not affected at all by what/who she does after me. her soul always seemed tired in a way. she'll never know how willing and interested i was to love her exactly as she was. not the mask.
My recent ex narcissists hid his supply for 4 years out of the 8 years we were together. Only found out as she called me, and told me all. It wasn't nice😮😑. Yes he denied it, still just two days ago, still does.
@MentalHealness I did lol im no longer his girlfriend. Did and have spoken to him, but not in that way, as I not stupid and know she's still around. When they argue, I guess that's when he'll something communicate. Don't respect him, and I've always since last October maintained that we are both single, as she also knows this. Hi Lee by the way😀x
Multiple supplies is correct i found out about an ex wife,ex girlfriend and a neighbor that took the caje when i found out about all these people n i was like gross he doesn't love himself one looked like a dude n he tried to hide her so bad but she had money but he hid her for over a year and half
I was married to a narcissist many years ago and had to have him arrested (that's how bad it had gotten with the physical abuse, it turned into sexual assault) and leave the city/state we moved to in order to get away from him. Before leaving I got a 2 year order of protection against him just in case he tried to come for me when I returned to my hometown. There is nothing worse than going through a terrible marriage with a narcissist and back then I had no idea wtf I was actually dealing with. Even though I miscarried our babies, I was so glad I didn't have any children with him, I would've had to go for full custody because he would've made my life hell trying to coparent
Yes my Toxic ex used to say he wishes he would have met me when I was in my twenties. I'm glad I didn't! I think that's what he would have liked was to get me pregnant so I would have had to deal with him for at least 18 yrs. The fact that I met him when I was alot older, even though I didn't know anything about Narcissistic personalities I think he felt I would have tolerated even more bec. I wouldn't have had the life experiences I have now being older. This relationship was my worse ever, I had never had anyone feel so comfortable to push me, hold me down , pinch me and the last straw was when he punched me in the stomach. That was it! I ended up leaving my own house, went into hiding, got a PTO, which I had to wait until 8 or 9 days for him to be served, filed a police report, an eviction notice, while I was staying in the hotel, that's when I found out about Narcissism. I had called the Domestic hotline at least four times before I was finally able to talk to someone and the next thing I knew a video from Dr. Ramani came to my Utube videos and that's when I started learning. Thanks to Dr. Ramani, Lee Hammock and others is how I have gotten knowledgeable. I will never let someone rush me into a relationship again. I always felt like I was living on eggshells and a roller-coaster ride, but my ex had some good qualities too, he always cared about me getting things fixed around my house, etc.
@@MegaRose1958 My relationship with my ex-husband was my worst relationship as well and I told him so when he tried to get me to come back to him. I asked him 1 question: why would I give you another chance over someone who has never fucked me over? He couldn't answer... Its been difficult to connect with someone who would treat me better ever since I left him. I'm glad you were able to get out of it safely because its the hardest thing to do! I'm a true empath and I hate that I attract all kinds of broken men so for now I prefer to stay to myself.
They dont have emotional connections. But they have emotions...anger, jealousy, insecurity, envy, greed etc. They have no problem betraying you. They just dont want you making them feel bad about it. They dont care how their behaviour makes you feel.
It wasn't me!! Lol, just keep the partner questioning themselves about your double life and ones sanity, as long as they don't get caught. They need to grow up
Thisssss….triangulation! He dated and married more than 1 person 😢in my friend circle. One of them was woman enough to tell me when she put 2n2 together! He’s such a tramp!
I think his supply was on the back burner just simmering throughout our entire relationship. He met her on a deployment 6 months into our relationship in 2015 and after throwing a divorce in my face in 2021…she was one of the first ppl he ran to. Imagine that. She’s still married too 🙄 I heard they stopped talking after he was in the hospital for something serious and she started to become flaky…whoa didn’t see that coming 🙄🙄
Pretty sure my narc ex husband brought home hpv from one of his nasty affairs. I was trusting with rheumatoid arthritis since age 14. I had enough issues already. Then because of him I got cervical cancer. Had to fight for my life. I survived but it’s ruined my health and now I’m 95 lbs with chemo induced heart problems. He left me while on my heart monitor to go excercise with his who*e. These narcissists play with fire. Something to think about.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Narcs are the ultimate in betrayal and scandal and will kick you at your most vulnerable time and when you need them the most. Wishing you healing from such monsters.
I found out about the new supply and contacted her on social media. She had no idea of my existence, and the narc got dumped by both of us simultaneously. He fled the country within a week.
She's been with the new supply for over 12 months, no sign of the rebound relationship but still has our public photos up. Smoke and mirrors seems like standard practice for others as well.
It's like You are talking to me 😢 It's sickening any reason and I'm so sad Tfs 😘 XOXO You always bring light and somewhat Peace ❤ God I hate this.... loving someone like this 😭
Yo this shit is crazy because the majority of the reasons you gave apply to an ex of mine who spun the block on me about a year ago. Lol. The main ones that stood out to me were the ones about the old and current supply knowing about each other, keeping the identity a secret from people and reputation.
Yes, I heard she was younger than him, and she has been buying him whatever he can get out of her. But he doesn't claim her on social media 😅 your clarify for me.
@mentahealth I went through this. My ex narc hide his new supply for three years. The only reason i found out, the new supply found & contacted....told me everything, sent me pictures of them together, screenshots of their conversations (of their olans together, how he talked about me like i wasn't shit to him after 10 years together). When i confronted him he denied all of it. He claimed she was lying about everything and how could I believe a stranger and let her destroy his character like that. I found his new supply is married (23 years) to her husband with 3 kids. The new supply claims she was playing/catfishing my ex from the start and that she was never going to leave her husband for my ex. I blocked both of them and this "Jerry Springer" episode.
Mine has been hiding the new supply, but I was suspicious by the change in behavior. I believe the new supply is hidden because the new supply is also married and they've commiserated about their unhappy marriages. But the new supply isn't in the narcissist's life as much anymore and the narcissist is distracted with work, so the new supply was "gently" discarded to keep that door open. Thanks for the straightforward answers. I've been putting a lot of thought into what's going on and you confirm most of what I'm thinking.
So true if they don't admit to it they dont believe it n dont want you to believe it. I had pictures and everything an he denied then he switched it on me n then said i still wanted him. I told him go be with the new person and leave me alone he denied it until i came uo to him with her n he ran off n lied to her like he had an emergency
Granted, it did take me a long time to find out and get the proof. Which of course he denied despite the blatant proof. And, yes, he did not believe me when I said we were over.
😂 so true. New supply photos all over the house, but just a friend, the narc suddenly drink new beer, and like braai fires, whereas before she couldnt stand beer or braai fires 😂😂
The accuracy of everything you’re saying in regards to my current situation heading to a divorce. Seeing the photo of the person with the statement “We’re just friends” and after a recent conversation of hovering attempt while using our daughter as manipulation the question I asked “Help me to understand why you’re kissing a man, not your husband, in a different state that was I lead to believe was a trip with on of your girlfriends?”
The really mind blowing thing is that even when you have proof, they will gaslight you and try to shame you like you're jealous, insecure, paranoid, controlling etc. WTF?!
The narc I used to be with ended up having kids and marrying a girl I went to high school with he started seeing her at the same time he was seeing me he was abusing the hell out of me but ended up giving her a family it took me four years to find out who the new supply was and when I did omg it broke me today I’m happy and both of them look worn out and tired I hear he’s abusive toward her and everything so I’m lucky we never had kids I could’ve been her lmfaoooooooooooooooooooo and yeah she was a complete downgrade to me but we both have slit eyes and gap teeth which is weird !!
He his the identity because it was his ex ! And she knew we was together but she was okay destroying our family as long as he chose her ! She was also okay with him being a deadbeat to appease her ! But he hid from everybody because of what they did ! She was definitely a downgrade and he didn’t want people to know that
She sounds like a desperate "pick me" girl. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Just be glad you're away from his toxic behavior and can't hurt you anymore ❤
i don’t get why my ex (who i broke up with and denied getting back with) completely dropped off social media and his new wife barely shows them. like did he want to stay away from my eye and does he have her brainwashed into keeping him off her social media too?
It’s my opinion: agreed Question: victims are often left exhausted dealing with a Narcissist…..Does a Narcissist ever get exhausted by dealing with many supply maintaining their lies double life? How are they able to keep going and going?
They get fired n tend to fall back on the old supply to convince the new supply that they're a great catch once they get the new supply convinced that they're this wonderful person they come back to the old supply to confuse you into thinking they care for you more than the new supply
It's called repetition compulsion and it's part of the disorder, they literally feel better when they leave one for a new one and so on and on.This is why they dont want you to end it that ruins the compultion to end it in their time.They dont care about anyone.The repetition compultion is their detachment style..they cannot detach or attach in a healthy way.
On the way home from the library just now on the the driver told me he has a girlfriend but he's looking to settle down with somebody not her. He said he's only going to keep her around until he find somebody he wants to settle down with. I wonder how many women go for that?
They hide them as well because has someone you will end it and he loses control over you and you will move on and find someone else and cut em out if your life and leave him to deal with what he chose and he knows what you bring to a relationship and what he doesn’t . So they will crash because if him and you will move on and be happy with someone who actually appreciates you and that scares them
my narcissistic male friend would not go out to bars or clubs with me we was suppose to go out he told me to send him a pic and when I did he said nah we just gon go somewhere another day just me and you then got the nerve to tell me how everyone we both knew was there he was jealous and insecure cause I looked good & he didn’t want nobody looking at me 💯 I didn’t know he was a narcissist then just found out November 2023 he was a narcissist 10yrs later
2full yrs later and this dude definitely hide his new supply ..i only know about her is when we argue and its always him being petty bringing her up ...now when he needs a favor Oooh no i was just playing to get you upset is his reaction. I dont guess about anything because i dont care 😅 if anything i feel soooo sorry for her
Another reason they hide the new supply is bec it's easy to do. In my case, he traveled cross country as a truck driver. So he probably had a chick in each zip code. His dizzy sister said oh come on, you didn't know he was cheating? To this day that comment ticks me off. Who makes a video of themselves cheating and sends it to the primary supply??? Look at who I'm doing tonight, honey! Yeah, it doesn't work that way.
My ex’s sister referred to me as collateral damage - he gave her financial support so that influences opinions of course 😂 it’s ingrained in these families
It hurts too much. My husband is a narcissist. We have only been married for a year and 6 months, but It feels like 20 years or more. I'm tired and drained. I regret everything, including leaving my birth country. I feel like foolish that I lost everything to endure this.
How would you feel if I don't admit your existance? That's right. I protected MY REPUTATION and have never admit to anyone I had "situation" with narc. All coffybars girls thinks narc is someone. No, he isn't. Circle of my friends, both males and females are ppl who have stability, recognized and normal lives. What to say to them?
Mine was hiding because she was on only fans and they were making sex tapes while he was claiming he was working in the city or decompressing. He wasn’t even calling our kids. He just disappeared in the middle of the night. He was also emotionally abusing me and trying to make me feel guilty for what happened between us. He was playing the victim with me and and it was working. I thought I had screwed up despite being the person that was sexual harmed in the relationship… then when he stopped playing victim he just started verbally abusing me and degrading me. Phone was in my name and she wrote him a card so I found all the deception.
Don't do that. You will look desperate and she will take it as a competition. She doesn't know you so let it go and stay out of it. She will turn on you and say you trying to take her man lol
He def showed her off on Snapchat not Facebook or instagram tho I asked him did he move on he always said no I finally saw for myself and it hurt me to my core
She was a woman he had an affair with years ago. She seems to be married currently as well. He is also currently active on dating sites while seeing her...But I win! I left !!! They are perfect for each other. LOL
❤ thank you lie because that is so true but this ex narc when he didn't you know he didn't I didn't I didn't I but let him a little bit after when we broke up and that's good because now the exarch neus supply all the x supply is going to deal with his bulshit thank you again Lee
This hurts. His new supply is someone I trusted. She has a child... she seems like a decent person... and he's only prey for him 😢... my loss tho, I guess?
Well how can you deny has his last name cuz he married her ass and now she has his last name.Yep he married an old supply while living with me.With all way we get info they can hide the game.What gets me is flying monkeys are fine with the way the Narcissist did.Yes it is fine ,how can people be fine with that kind of underhanded game.I have never want anyone to get in the mess but they could of said to him he was wrong for doing me so dirty.
That part about not wanting two supplies to meet makes me wonder what the narcissist I dealt with was up to, then. If they were just living dangerously with me- playing with fire or what their angle was? Because they did it constantly and there’s no way they were that incompetent. They kept coming back around to me but if dealing with me was going to be that risky, I’d think it would be best to just cut their losses with me, find less risky supply, than constantly have to worry about me ratting on them to the next girl that they do a horrible job at hiding and I tattle on. It happened constantly and pissed them off all the time because, “why do I always have to try to ruin their relationships?”… Funny that they couldn’t own up to their own BS there. Ironically enough, me and them were, “only ever FRIENDS!”, until it was convenient for them to claim I cheated on them, when they were banging the several other chicks I had found out they were with, so I did my own thing at that time, too 😂 Literally can’t win with narcissists
I think they probably got "supply" from you reaching out to the new people. It was proof of how much you cared that you would try to "ruin their new relationships".
@@TheShitArtist That could very well be the case. I blocked them everywhere but we both play this mobile game. They made a completely different account, with a completely different name, just to reach out and harass me. They didn’t say it was them, but based on things they knew and the way they spoke, it was obvious. Had I known who they were before I replied, I wouldn’t have. One of their other supplies also plays the same game. I decided not to even say anything to her, that time. If what you’re saying is correct, my reaction is probably exactly what they didn’t want. Their circus, their monkeys. All that BS isn’t my problem anymore.
They will reap what they sow
When they jus find more victims and fools to do their dirty deeds on
This is true. I waited a looong time. But it took 18 years but finally it blew up in my dads face. He got his Karma.
Most definitely
This guy is so hilarious because everything he says is legit so real and transparent 10/10 no sugarcoating and bullshit fluff 😂😂
The way he untangles gaslighting you don’t even need a closure and admition from whatever said person driving you crazy. This guy will give you all the mental HEALness and clarity 🤣👍
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I don't see the narc in him yet. Going thru his videos, showing respect and looking for examples of his past. He is too in tune to other people's feelings and telling them to put themselves first..... that's not a typical profile. He also doesn't seem too full of himself. I understand he's been in therapy, but I am so confused (as of now).
😂😂😂yes I agree
I would say another reason is that they are afraid that you will pull back your supply. They want you on the stringer with the rest of the fish. They don't want anything to change unless THEY change it.
FACTS!
@@kamed.This was my experience
What ever it is... Once you find out don´t be a fool and leave. Because such people will never change. They are ill-minded. (Simple they are...). So if you figure them out (when their mask finally falls off leave and never look back). Let them be with the new supplies - you won because you are free and don´t have to put up with their bullshit anymore. People with such character are not worth it (cheating, lying - no thank you... I personally don´t want such a person in my life).
Well SAID!
I believe that my ex. is hiding his affairs, because he want to dodge the ramifications of his deceit, until we are done in court.
Same. I knew everything. Phone was in my name lol 😅
Ohine in my name tio, landline anyway. He tried to steal my phone number and have it put into his name. Took awhile to get it back to my name. I continue getting text messages 10 years after for his name , hers, its madness
@@RuthNelly927😏 you read my mind 🤣
Same! Omg
@@nicholecornes1915 I’m sorry for you.
We are still not done in court; It seems like court in my Country is on the side of the scammers, sadly 😔
I saw my ex-Narcy's new boyfriend and she raged out on me in a text message. I texted her saying that her boyfriend appears to be a nice genetleman and I would not do anything to infringe on her happiness. Shortly after, I went NO Contact. I wish them both well. Yet, my ex-Narcy calls and leaves messages periodically to see how I am doing. I am neither a trash bin nor a recovery hospital for the mentally insane.
Well STATED!
My ex covert narcissist never shows any person on his social media! Not one ever!
Reason 7 🗣️THERE IS NO NEW SUPPLY!
My ex introduced my kids to her new boyfriend…. My son says “dad, he won’t leave, he sleeps on the couch and mom can’t get him to leave and she’s swearing alot”…. 🤨🤣 oh geez sounds like everything is so great with the new supply 🤣
Sounds like the Narcissist has a "Haunted House" living within themselves.
That poor cat. Her name is Shockie.
Never base all your movements and decisions on someone that will never respect you and finds you completely irrelevant. They say "dominate" when looking for a master.
It's difficult to spot the red flags when it's normal growing up
My soon to be ex never wanted anyone to know about his new supply. The only reason he was forced to admit to the new supply was because she got pregnant and he knew after 3 years of hiding her she would take his kid and leave and his ego wouldn’t allow that to happen.
The new supply? Mine hides every intimate partner in his life...He was also hiding his ex-wife... He looks like a "single ready to mingle" man all the time. 🙄🙄🙄
I am just amazed at once you go through the narc pattern a couple of times and "recall" what you know about what he said his ex did to him(😂) , it's like watching a rerun of a comedy series. So glad to be on the other side of this and he think we are still in a relationship and nothing is wrong😂😂😂. He has a new supply and still hovering. He need my "validation " and my super empath power. That ship has sailed. Just playing nice to get through this divorce.
Once is enough for me!!! Yeah, I’ve been discarded in a most egregious manner, I escaped (literally). Made it back to America to be hovered!! OMG!!! If it wasnt for the tenacity of my young adult children, I could have easily returned to him. His hover was quite steamy. I used that time (we were messaging) to lay it ALL OUT. It was weird, he was SO NICE AND VERBALLY REPENTANT. Nope!!! Once I finished my rants and truths, once he actually said that I did not deserve his SHIT. That’s all I needed. I allowed him to suggest we stop messaging. As soon as he said… “maybe we should go our desperate ways.” I WAS FREE. Lol, I answered back with one word. I typed “Alright” then I clicked block and delete! It’s been a couple of months. Yaaas I want to unblock him to peek at his life…nope. I don’t need that. On my healing road.
This is hard. Staying Strong. Therapy, even meds, journaling, good friends etc. However, I still have bad emotional moments. I hate that he remains in my head. All the video snd photos I took while I was over there with him🥹🥹🥹🥹will haunt me for a bit, however the trip was amazing in that I resisted manipulation, spoke with via FaceTime ) and texted family and friends in America DAILY.
We were together here for an entire year before going on this so-called adventure. Poor guy… he found out the hard way that I OBEY NO ONE! 😅. Shocked him when I simply left the country and went home. The idiot😜. That’s what he gets for playing his game with me. I was discarded because I refused to play his games. I emotionally closed myself off. Made a good friend over there and had a BALL. Lucky for me I kept my friendship with my driver quiet. Somehow, I knew not to share this info. My friend also checked in on me daily and showed me wonderful sites w/o the idiot, because he never wanted to accompany me.
I have several journals that chronicle our 14th month relationship. Gonna write about this once I am able. Wow!! Praise God for protecting me and sending me home.
Oh yeah… my driver saved me that fateful night. Very dramatic. I’ve been home for 7 months. I’m a mess inside, but I’m doin the work and staying no contact. Ugh🥹😎
Yup. I haven't blocked my soon to be ex narc because the divorce isn't final. No contact for over a month now.
"If I don't ADMIT to it, it is not real"
😮😮😮 I wasn't imagining it! That's exactly how they act. I politely ask "did you mean to hurt me with that sction/comment?" and they say nothing. Zip. Like it never happened
At the end of the day, the new supply should be the one feeling crappy.
that’s an awful thing to say about another woman. Also she’s suffering narcissistic abuse. Wake up girl.
The ex-narc I used to date very recently told me he’s about to be engaged by the end of this year… which sounded really bizarre to me because he would always tell me he wasn’t looking for a relationship despite us being in a full blown relationship.
When I would ask him why he didn’t want a relationship, he would always say “I made my bed” as if he had done so much dirt throughout his life that he was trying to avoid anything coming back on him, yet we met each other’s families, I don’t get him.
Anyway, he discarded me over a year ago but I saw him this year (thought I needed “closure”) stupid mistake. I think he now sees how well I’ve moved on without him. I’ve since bought a beautiful home and am highly unphased by his childish behavior now. So he has the nerve to pull a new trick out of his bag and try to get a reaction out of me and say I don’t know how you’re gonna take this but I’m getting engaged at the end of this year (2023).
First off, no one says I’m getting engaged by this date, they say I’m engaged to be married already if anything. Number 2, he had the audacity to ask for my “blessings.” I thought the whole thing was ridiculous and a lie and I laughed at it. I asked when can I meet this new woman who was so fascinating to make you wanna propose to her after constantly rejecting me and making it seem as though I wasn’t good enough? He said you will get the chance. (Needless to say, I haven’t heard back since.) LOL
He kept saying how she was so much like me and comparing her to me. I said if your new woman has all these similarities to me, why did you discard me? All he could come back with is I was too combative yet he constantly told me how good of a person I am and very rare.
He was always contradicting himself (very strange bird) WEIRDO! Anyway that’s my story… one of many of course. Pure foolery 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Glad to be done with him ✌🏽
Yeah they get really weird it’s bizarre and hilarious 🤦🏽♀️🙄🤣🤣
My ex would always compliment how smart I was but Never wanted to follow my advice or financial suggestions. He also said I was stable but cheated on me with women with drug addictions. Yeah they don't make any sense at all.
Wow!!! My ex denied with proof and still denies this!
My ex never ever posts photos of his girlfriends. He never even had photos of ex wife. I thought it was odd when we were supposedly in a committed relationship for 2 1/2 years thst he never posted photos. He just said he doesn’t like putting his stuff out there. I personally think he never posts his relationships because he knows it won’t last and he goes through so many people and that doesn’t look well.
It’s the games for me! Narcissist 🤮
The way they think, it’s so destructive! The “love bomb or idealization” phase is making plans for the final destruction or discard. 🤦🏽♀️ These transactions end very painful. This shit ain’t right, they’re too dangerous the way they “play” with people’s lives.
The No ACCOUNTABILITY game narcs play..💩
I was the new supply once, and I can guarantee you I was hidden, at a bare minimum on social media at her insistence. Had me lie to my family about her marital status, which I was OK with at first because I was told a divorce was imminent. She’s hiding the new supply she left me for too. As with me, I think certain people or maybe a group of people know about him and that’s it.
When I changed my name on Facebook when we got married, his brother was pissed! He didnt even know we had got married, he just thought I randomly put my last name as his! Ain't that something y'all?
For my nex is all of the above 😅. He always goes back to the thirsty ex-hookups. One even ruined her current relationship with her fiance because he was finally on the market. Good luck, girl!
Since when is a Narcissist going to admit to guilt?
When hell freezes over 😅
Noone wants to be in a row of supplies and they know it...they are always tired from lying and have terrible memories so they slip up.Its like being with a ticking time bomb waiting for it to blow up in your face...
thankful to now be in a place where i'm not affected at all by what/who she does after me. her soul always seemed tired in a way. she'll never know how willing and interested i was to love her exactly as she was. not the mask.
My recent ex narcissists hid his supply for 4 years out of the 8 years we were together. Only found out as she called me, and told me all. It wasn't nice😮😑. Yes he denied it, still just two days ago, still does.
why wouldnt' he deny it if he doesn't think you're going to take action?
@MentalHealness I did lol im no longer his girlfriend. Did and have spoken to him, but not in that way, as I not stupid and know she's still around. When they argue, I guess that's when he'll something communicate. Don't respect him, and I've always since last October maintained that we are both single, as she also knows this. Hi Lee by the way😀x
Multiple supplies is correct i found out about an ex wife,ex girlfriend and a neighbor that took the caje when i found out about all these people n i was like gross he doesn't love himself one looked like a dude n he tried to hide her so bad but she had money but he hid her for over a year and half
I was married to a narcissist many years ago and had to have him arrested (that's how bad it had gotten with the physical abuse, it turned into sexual assault) and leave the city/state we moved to in order to get away from him. Before leaving I got a 2 year order of protection against him just in case he tried to come for me when I returned to my hometown. There is nothing worse than going through a terrible marriage with a narcissist and back then I had no idea wtf I was actually dealing with. Even though I miscarried our babies, I was so glad I didn't have any children with him, I would've had to go for full custody because he would've made my life hell trying to coparent
Yes my Toxic ex used to say he wishes he would have met me when I was in my twenties. I'm glad
I didn't! I think that's what he would have liked was to get me
pregnant so I would have had to deal with him for at least 18 yrs. The fact that I met him when I was alot older, even though I didn't know anything about Narcissistic personalities I think he felt I would have tolerated even more bec. I wouldn't have had the life experiences I have now being older. This relationship was my worse ever, I had never had anyone feel so comfortable to push me, hold me down , pinch me and the last straw was when he punched me in the stomach. That was it! I ended up leaving my own house, went into hiding, got a PTO, which I had to wait until 8 or 9 days for him to be served, filed a police report, an eviction notice, while I was staying in the hotel, that's when I found out about Narcissism. I had called the Domestic hotline at least four times before I was finally able to talk to someone and the next thing I knew a video from Dr. Ramani came to my Utube videos and that's when I started learning. Thanks to Dr. Ramani, Lee Hammock and others is how I have gotten knowledgeable. I will never let someone rush me into a relationship again. I always felt like I was living on eggshells and a roller-coaster ride, but my ex had some good qualities too, he always cared about me getting things fixed around my house, etc.
@@MegaRose1958 My relationship with my ex-husband was my worst relationship as well and I told him so when he tried to get me to come back to him. I asked him 1 question: why would I give you another chance over someone who has never fucked me over? He couldn't answer... Its been difficult to connect with someone who would treat me better ever since I left him. I'm glad you were able to get out of it safely because its the hardest thing to do! I'm a true empath and I hate that I attract all kinds of broken men so for now I prefer to stay to myself.
Emotional!!! I thought they didnt have emotional comnections 🤯
Some don’t
They dont have emotional connections. But they have emotions...anger, jealousy, insecurity, envy, greed etc. They have no problem betraying you. They just dont want you making them feel bad about it. They dont care how their behaviour makes you feel.
All these narcs can lay on a busy highway
Lee. You have nailed it .. they don't want their identity known...
It wasn't me!! Lol, just keep the partner questioning themselves about your double life and ones sanity, as long as they don't get caught. They need to grow up
Give us a part 2 we need another one and do one on the narc new supply being someone in your circle like a supposed friend or best friend
Thisssss….triangulation! He dated and married more than 1 person 😢in my friend circle. One of them was woman enough to tell me when she put 2n2 together! He’s such a tramp!
@@4WallsDesigns I am so sorry that happened to you he's obsessed with you and really trying to hurt you and break you down smh 🤦🏾♀️!!!
For complete denial when they try to come back
So you can think the poor poor man just sat alone miserable because you’ve done him so bad, and apologize and try again
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I think his supply was on the back burner just simmering throughout our entire relationship. He met her on a deployment 6 months into our relationship in 2015 and after throwing a divorce in my face in 2021…she was one of the first ppl he ran to. Imagine that. She’s still married too 🙄 I heard they stopped talking after he was in the hospital for something serious and she started to become flaky…whoa didn’t see that coming 🙄🙄
That happened to me as well. I’m so sorry.
Pretty sure my narc ex husband brought home hpv from one of his nasty affairs. I was trusting with rheumatoid arthritis since age 14. I had enough issues already. Then because of him I got cervical cancer. Had to fight for my life. I survived but it’s ruined my health and now I’m 95 lbs with chemo induced heart problems. He left me while on my heart monitor to go excercise with his who*e. These narcissists play with fire. Something to think about.
I am so sorry. Sending prayers for your health and recovery. These narcs are absolutely pure evil.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Narcs are the ultimate in betrayal and scandal and will kick you at your most vulnerable time and when you need them the most. Wishing you healing from such monsters.
@@CL-lo4wd Thank you. 🙏🏼
@@Cerez78 Thank you🙏🏼 It’s pretty horrible they can harm your health and get away with it.
I found out about the new supply and contacted her on social media. She had no idea of my existence, and the narc got dumped by both of us simultaneously. He fled the country within a week.
She's been with the new supply for over 12 months, no sign of the rebound relationship but still has our public photos up. Smoke and mirrors seems like standard practice for others as well.
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Thank you very much for your explanation 👍
So true and so true!!!!😮
Hahaha that’s why my ex got mad when I made it official on Facebook 😂
It's like You are talking to me 😢
It's sickening any reason and I'm so sad
Tfs 😘 XOXO You always bring light and somewhat Peace ❤
God I hate this.... loving someone like this 😭
In my case, because as soon as I found out I left.
I have so much respect for the way you work on yourself, so I bought your paper back for practising gnosis!
I just needed to hear this. Thank you very much for the explanation. Gives me so much peace of mind
My new favorite Channel! THANK YOU SIR
Yo this shit is crazy because the majority of the reasons you gave apply to an ex of mine who spun the block on me about a year ago. Lol. The main ones that stood out to me were the ones about the old and current supply knowing about each other, keeping the identity a secret from people and reputation.
Yes, I heard she was younger than him, and she has been buying him whatever he can get out of her. But he doesn't claim her on social media 😅 your clarify for me.
@mentahealth I went through this. My ex narc hide his new supply for three years. The only reason i found out, the new supply found & contacted....told me everything, sent me pictures of them together, screenshots of their conversations (of their olans together, how he talked about me like i wasn't shit to him after 10 years together).
When i confronted him he denied all of it. He claimed she was lying about everything and how could I believe a stranger and let her destroy his character like that. I found his new supply is married (23 years) to her husband with 3 kids. The new supply claims she was playing/catfishing my ex from the start and that she was never going to leave her husband for my ex. I blocked both of them and this "Jerry Springer" episode.
Mine has been hiding the new supply, but I was suspicious by the change in behavior. I believe the new supply is hidden because the new supply is also married and they've commiserated about their unhappy marriages. But the new supply isn't in the narcissist's life as much anymore and the narcissist is distracted with work, so the new supply was "gently" discarded to keep that door open. Thanks for the straightforward answers. I've been putting a lot of thought into what's going on and you confirm most of what I'm thinking.
Supply is supply, no such thing as 1st 2nd new or old
Some of us don't care if you admit it. You're fired lol
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@Tranquility9235 - you are wrong! Lee’s videos help thousands.
lol love this
@@mightymom1691I believe they’re talking about the narc’. New supply or not some of us don’t care as they’re fired. That’s so true 😂
Illusions plus they leave you hanging to return
So true if they don't admit to it they dont believe it n dont want you to believe it. I had pictures and everything an he denied then he switched it on me n then said i still wanted him. I told him go be with the new person and leave me alone he denied it until i came uo to him with her n he ran off n lied to her like he had an emergency
Granted, it did take me a long time to find out and get the proof. Which of course he denied despite the blatant proof. And, yes, he did not believe me when I said we were over.
😂 so true. New supply photos all over the house, but just a friend, the narc suddenly drink new beer, and like braai fires, whereas before she couldnt stand beer or braai fires 😂😂
The accuracy of everything you’re saying in regards to my current situation heading to a divorce. Seeing the photo of the person with the statement “We’re just friends” and after a recent conversation of hovering attempt while using our daughter as manipulation the question I asked “Help me to understand why you’re kissing a man, not your husband, in a different state that was I lead to believe was a trip with on of your girlfriends?”
The really mind blowing thing is that even when you have proof, they will gaslight you and try to shame you like you're jealous, insecure, paranoid, controlling etc. WTF?!
@@simjam1980 true, very true! I’ve seen it all what Lee is saying since I moved out.
I really don't care about her new supply, I only care that she doesn't bring it around my kids.
The narc I used to be with ended up having kids and marrying a girl I went to high school with he started seeing her at the same time he was seeing me he was abusing the hell out of me but ended up giving her a family it took me four years to find out who the new supply was and when I did omg it broke me today I’m happy and both of them look worn out and tired I hear he’s abusive toward her and everything so I’m lucky we never had kids I could’ve been her lmfaoooooooooooooooooooo and yeah she was a complete downgrade to me but we both have slit eyes and gap teeth which is weird !!
To hide them from future supply in the same scene or environment and keep their options open
He his the identity because it was his ex ! And she knew we was together but she was okay destroying our family as long as he chose her ! She was also okay with him being a deadbeat to appease her ! But he hid from everybody because of what they did ! She was definitely a downgrade and he didn’t want people to know that
She sounds like a desperate "pick me" girl. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Just be glad you're away from his toxic behavior and can't hurt you anymore ❤
My ex hid that we had remarried from his kids. Because you know when we broke up, he slammed me to them, and anyone who would listen.
excellent explanation. thanks for describing this phenomenon.
Then run off with the homewreaker but they dont want their ruptation damaged
i don’t get why my ex (who i broke up with and denied getting back with) completely dropped off social media and his new wife barely shows them. like did he want to stay away from my eye and does he have her brainwashed into keeping him off her social media too?
Lee as usual you have helped me thru this nightmare of 7 years with my narc ex I thank you for your honesty sir
It’s my opinion: agreed
Question: victims are often left exhausted dealing with a Narcissist…..Does a Narcissist ever get exhausted by dealing with many supply maintaining their lies double life? How are they able to keep going and going?
They get fired n tend to fall back on the old supply to convince the new supply that they're a great catch once they get the new supply convinced that they're this wonderful person they come back to the old supply to confuse you into thinking they care for you more than the new supply
@@Hazelnut3988 ohh how exhausting…..
It's called repetition compulsion and it's part of the disorder, they literally feel better when they leave one for a new one and so on and on.This is why they dont want you to end it that ruins the compultion to end it in their time.They dont care about anyone.The repetition compultion is their detachment style..they cannot detach or attach in a healthy way.
She was baiting him than once she thought he was a good supply she told me lol
Thank you this was very informative 👍 !!!
They are married.
So they can live in the same house and xlaim seperate government benefits! No other reason,they like to throw it in your face.
💯💯 ex narc hid me from his family.....only time I met his mom was when he needed money from her. Yeah they just want to be with multiple supply.
They're dirty mfs that's wat they are definitely get tested after dealing with them they're all dirty
On the way home from the library just now on the the driver told me he has a girlfriend but he's looking to settle down with somebody not her. He said he's only going to keep her around until he find somebody he wants to settle down with. I wonder how many women go for that?
They hide them as well because has someone you will end it and he loses control over you and you will move on and find someone else and cut em out if your life and leave him to deal with what he chose and he knows what you bring to a relationship and what he doesn’t . So they will crash because if him and you will move on and be happy with someone who actually appreciates you and that scares them
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my narcissistic male friend would not go out to bars or clubs with me we was suppose to go out he told me to send him a pic and when I did he said nah we just gon go somewhere another day just me and you then got the nerve to tell me how everyone we both knew was there he was jealous and insecure cause I looked good & he didn’t want nobody looking at me 💯 I didn’t know he was a narcissist then just found out November 2023 he was a narcissist 10yrs later
The ex narc got with a old lady and a transgender..so yeah he keeps them hid.
2full yrs later and this dude definitely hide his new supply ..i only know about her is when we argue and its always him being petty bringing her up ...now when he needs a favor Oooh no i was just playing to get you upset is his reaction. I dont guess about anything because i dont care 😅 if anything i feel soooo sorry for her
Another reason they hide the new supply is bec it's easy to do. In my case, he traveled cross country as a truck driver. So he probably had a chick in each zip code. His dizzy sister said oh come on, you didn't know he was cheating?
To this day that comment ticks me off. Who makes a video of themselves cheating and sends it to the primary supply??? Look at who I'm doing tonight, honey! Yeah, it doesn't work that way.
My ex’s sister referred to me as collateral damage - he gave her financial support so that influences opinions of course 😂 it’s ingrained in these families
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It hurts too much. My husband is a narcissist. We have only been married for a year and 6 months, but It feels like 20 years or more. I'm tired and drained. I regret everything, including leaving my birth country. I feel like foolish that I lost everything to endure this.
How would you feel if I don't admit your existance?
That's right.
I protected MY REPUTATION and have never admit to anyone I had "situation" with narc.
All coffybars girls thinks narc is someone.
No, he isn't.
Circle of my friends, both males and females are ppl who have stability, recognized and normal lives.
What to say to them?
Mine was hiding because she was on only fans and they were making sex tapes while he was claiming he was working in the city or decompressing. He wasn’t even calling our kids. He just disappeared in the middle of the night.
He was also emotionally abusing me and trying to make me feel guilty for what happened between us. He was playing the victim with me and and it was working. I thought I had screwed up despite being the person that was sexual harmed in the relationship… then when he stopped playing victim he just started verbally abusing me and degrading me.
Phone was in my name and she wrote him a card so I found all the deception.
The question is, should I possibly reach out in time to the new supply to warn them? Or let bygones be bygones?
No, it back fires. They will both laugh and say you're crazy. Let them figure it out on their own. Trust that!
Worry about urself from now on fk that narc and their bs relationships
Don't do that. You will look desperate and she will take it as a competition. She doesn't know you so let it go and stay out of it. She will turn on you and say you trying to take her man lol
Lmao my ex still pretends like he didn’t cheat on me although I’ve got receipts from his phone and he told me himself during our last argument
He def showed her off on Snapchat not Facebook or instagram tho I asked him did he move on he always said no I finally saw for myself and it hurt me to my core
She’s on his Facebook and is quiet. I’m on there too. His grade A
I didn't buy nothing for him just clean his dirty house
She was a woman he had an affair with years ago. She seems to be married currently as well. He is also currently active on dating sites while seeing her...But I win! I left !!! They are perfect for each other. LOL
I can understand everything that you say, I don't find them gibberish
❤ thank you lie because that is so true but this ex narc when he didn't you know he didn't I didn't I didn't I but let him a little bit after when we broke up and that's good because now the exarch neus supply all the x supply is going to deal with his bulshit thank you again Lee
She is hiding the new supply but, she is pregnant. And let's the whole world know.
Sooooo true
Thank you ok I appreciate
You’re welcome
My Ex never showed any other girl
What an exhausting life!!
My ex mom told me he was in a new relationship while discussing our child and he still hides her … 😂😂 5:04
This hurts. His new supply is someone I trusted. She has a child... she seems like a decent person... and he's only prey for him 😢... my loss tho, I guess?
Sorry for what you went through. Karma will get them
His loss though.
Lol, the new supply is a old supply and my kid's teacher! Lol no what you teaching. Wow
Well how can you deny has his last name cuz he married her ass and now she has his last name.Yep he married an old supply while living with me.With all way we get info they can hide the game.What gets me is flying monkeys are fine with the way the Narcissist did.Yes it is fine ,how can people be fine with that kind of underhanded game.I have never want anyone to get in the mess but they could of said to him he was wrong for doing me so dirty.
That part about not wanting two supplies to meet makes me wonder what the narcissist I dealt with was up to, then. If they were just living dangerously with me- playing with fire or what their angle was? Because they did it constantly and there’s no way they were that incompetent. They kept coming back around to me but if dealing with me was going to be that risky, I’d think it would be best to just cut their losses with me, find less risky supply, than constantly have to worry about me ratting on them to the next girl that they do a horrible job at hiding and I tattle on. It happened constantly and pissed them off all the time because, “why do I always have to try to ruin their relationships?”… Funny that they couldn’t own up to their own BS there. Ironically enough, me and them were, “only ever FRIENDS!”, until it was convenient for them to claim I cheated on them, when they were banging the several other chicks I had found out they were with, so I did my own thing at that time, too 😂 Literally can’t win with narcissists
I think they probably got "supply" from you reaching out to the new people. It was proof of how much you cared that you would try to "ruin their new relationships".
@@TheShitArtist That could very well be the case. I blocked them everywhere but we both play this mobile game. They made a completely different account, with a completely different name, just to reach out and harass me. They didn’t say it was them, but based on things they knew and the way they spoke, it was obvious. Had I known who they were before I replied, I wouldn’t have. One of their other supplies also plays the same game. I decided not to even say anything to her, that time. If what you’re saying is correct, my reaction is probably exactly what they didn’t want. Their circus, their monkeys. All that BS isn’t my problem anymore.
The new supply could be underage, either legally or socially.
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The supply is on Instagram and Facebook.
My ex always hide me