How your brain is working against you
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That fact that you’re so straightforward with your “subtle” UA-cam tactics somehow makes them bearable.
Yeah, it’s a great strategy
your comment is intriguing. can you please explain what you mean?
@@jayanti2371 I think they mean how he asks for subscriptions and likes.
@@Bottlecap i agree you
One question that I always ask myself when I face negative thoughts or doubts is: What evidence is there for these thoughts? This helps me to zoom out and realize most of the time these thoughts are just, well thoughts. Also, celebrate your successes. As I am a person who likes to challenge himself I find it hard to say ‘’You did a good job, Albert”. But I realized by doing so, you will feel much happier. Everyone one of you can do this! You are an amazing storyteller and inspired me to also start a channel. I am nowhere near your level. But then again: what evidence is there for not give it a try? Keep going with your content!
Exactly, thats what we all need, positive self talk!
Good luck with the channel, dude! Thanks for the motivation!
Zoom out? Like the zoom from Flash? Who is a villain? Like the impostor from *Among Us* ?? So you're *sus* ?!
I love those insights. But beware of not forming an undesired habit. Great ideas start with a single thought and the more you enforce that idea the more likely you are to manifest that thought into the reality you think about.
Yes, exactly. People have a lot of thoughts so it’s stupid to assume for even half of them to be true. You don’t always have to trust your thoughts. You don’t always have to care about your thoughts if you feel like they are intrusive and negative.
It's bizarre how most times we even know we are not what we are setting for but being in the comfort zone is somehow secure even though it hurts to be stuck, taking risks and exposing ourselves is as well...
there is absolutely nothing wrong about the comfort zone. Life is about balance. You shouldn't be living all the time outside of your comfort zone and neither should you stay in it all the time. taking calculated risks and also reap the rewards is what matters. what you are describing is guilt for not doing something or doing something else instead - this is by far even worse than staying in your comfort zone, if you can't even enjoy it
Stuck? Stuck in *VENT* ??? SUS
I'm guessing you meant to say settling...?!
@@TheRealWurstCase Couldn't agree more! Incrementally going outside the comfort zone will over time broadens what's comfortable and in turn give profound results. 100% true though. Gotta have balance.
@@TheRealWurstCase Joey made a video on the comfort zone once. Long story short, by deliberately doing things that are juuust outside your comfort zone, they eventually become part of your comfort zone. He's kind of referring to that in this video as well when he talks about things becoming natural over time.
I’m not usually one to comment on UA-cam videos, but this spoke to me. I’ve been doing some reshaping of my brain and imposter syndrome for the person you want to be is a very real thing. As a younger, less “popular” brother myself, I’ve definitely internalized that. I’ve always felt like an “introvert by force” and whenever I act the way I wish I would I get overcome with anxiety and guilt for not being “me”. But I’m going to keep making myself uncomfortable in small ways to slowly become the person I’m supposed to be.
I can relate. I recently found a video by Leon Hendrix, named ''The hidden force that controls you'' - you might find it helpful.. it helped me a lot in a short period of time :)
Thanks for sharing. Maybe the Wim Hof Method is something you might want to check out. It's all about finding comfort in discomfort. Really helped me a lot. Take care!
i felt this to the point where i felt a little sharp pain in my chest when i read the second part.
For me it’s being weird
I’m completely conscious about it and can stop but I stick to it
So yh I can relate and it’s weird when I realise it every once in a while
Truly well said. Thank you for leaving this comment. I am going through something similar so I really appreciate you wording it out perfectly like that. It sort of helps to know someone is going through something similar in a way. I wish you all the best.
I'm on a war with myself 24/7 . My biggest enemy is my own self. I'm still on it tho . I still lose sometimes . But I'm taking more control than I ever been .
I recommend you the power of now by eckarte tolle
that's a life changing book
damn this was beautiful I legit almost cried - this dude feels way more genuine than the other self improvement channels that have these weird and useless brands that they promote
I'm not like other girls
@@rnomromro6715 good…. For……you?
yess matt d’avella and better ideas
@Joshua Millet ...and that's sad.
@Joshua Millet what was the joke I didn’t see no punchline
Something I've been trying to do the last few years is to stop telling myself these negative things, such as "Ellary, why are you so lazy? You need to edit and post that video to UA-cam!", or "Ellary, why are you so stupid?" and instead tell myself all the things that I'm proud of and have overcome. It's really made a lot of difference in both my confidence and mental health. I noticed that things immediately started to get better for me, even in just a short time. Of course, I still tell myself these things every once in a while, but I've gotten much better at catching myself and saying "NO!" to those thoughts. ❤️
Im struggling with the laziness for real. Well done to you for improving✨
@@mr.e6748 It's so difficult. I'll have UA-cam videos to edit, and a mountain of other projects to do, yet all I want to do is sit in bed and play Skyrim. 🤣
@@Ellary_Rosewood Yeah and its terrifying how easy it is.
@@mr.e6748 For example, at this moment I'm in the middle of writing a newsletter for my Patreon and I'm doing everything I can to procrastinate, including writing this comment. Ahhhhhhh 🫣
@@Ellary_Rosewood Stop talking to me this secomd and do your job young lady😂
Good luck✨
Our biological programming can really work against us in many situations. The context changed so much that we aren't "forced" to act the same way as before - this can really throw us off track
This comment is EXACTLY what I was looking for! so true
I've had to deal with severe major depression and anxiety my whole life and I've worked very hard on rewriting my brain. A negative thought would come by and I have learned to say, "this feeling is real, but it may not be true." And I now face the negative feelings as they come instead of letting them build up. It has gotten to the point now where I don't even have to try to do this anymore, my brain does it automatically. I'll be going through my day and an intrusive negative thought will pop into my head and literally I react shocked and think to myself, "Woah there, edge lord. Chill out it's not that bad we are fine and we are safe." I have found that a lot of this is just learning to have conversations with yourself and mediate yourself.
But in severe ocd it doesn't work that way, it is the most trickiest mental illness.
I am in a rut of negative thinking, feeling hopeless and helpless. Plus seeing people achieveing my dream life makes me feel so useless. So yeah, i am in a self loathing state. But thank you for the reminder this video provides.
Try check out a free CBT course online. There are some great mental health organizations offering them and they can help a lot of people
This happens to me sometimes…then I think, what goes does this cause? Negative thinking gets you absolutely nowhere and the only way to get out of it is to get shit done! So get shit done!
*Everything negative around you is an opportunity for you to rise up. Stop caring about what others are thinking, just start putting in the work. I am cheering for you...*
This sounds so cheap :D
@@eiramram2035 sounds so easy too.
@@GierJoost Dont know about that comment being cheap and easy but on the topic of cheap and easy...... my X
i know i know.. positive vibes but hey an opportunity missed is .. .. cant remember .. (insert Better Ideas quote here)
hey what’s the music at 3:40 ??
You read my mind with this video! I accidentally became agoraphobic 6 months ago. Right at the end of December I changed the story I was telling myself and it’s been working wonders. I had tried to use exposure therapy to get over this but I would end up at square one time and time again so this time I had an idea. I would stop telling myself I’m agoraphobic and I did that through having a plan to leave the house every day this year. Even if I’m not feeling well do a small trip around the block and as long as I do that then how can I be agoraphobic. Would an agoraphobic person be out of the house every day in a year while even doing two trips a day some times and I was like well no. It’s only been 1 month and I’ve been across town a handful of times where less than a month ago I couldn’t keep it together going around the block. This changing the story we tell our selves is so powerful and truly an amazing thing.
Your comment made me tear up, man. You can be really proud of yourself.
@@paratame105You made my day man! I really appreciate your kind words and when I go for my trip later today I’m going to think of your comment :)
so glad for you!
This channel has done so much for me, thank you for the uploads!! It's funny that he always seems to find a new way to put something into words to help out (even if it could be repetitive advice, its delivered in a way that offers a new outlook on it)
Joey I can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve posted.
You seem to always post a video when things aren’t going as planned for me, they have helped me so much.
This journey of self improvement is hard and difficult, but you’ve helped me tremendously.
Thank you Joey
Amazing video. I really needed this this today. Over the last few months I have gone through some really difficult times as I lost my father at the age of 21, that too after 2020 which already had such a huge mental effect. I have tried really hard to be strong during this tough time by meditating, reading Non-Fiction, working out etc. But in spite of all this it has still been very difficult which triggered a very negative point of view of myself, but this video directly addressed it and I am very thankful to you for creating deep, meaningful content.
Because I’ve been so busy working 60 hours per week on school and my business, I started to feel like I was an anti social introvert and became very awkward just because it fit my negative narrative. Went to a small dance over the weekend and the old me came back with a vengeance. My group of 3 guys that showed up together ended up being the life of the party, and I had about 10 different people come to me for my phone number. I find it funny that we can convince ourselves of such BS when it only takes a few hours for evidence to prove that the negative thoughts are totally untrue.
Yea man, I was always extrovert (but also a little shy sometimes) and popular, yet lately Im fiding myself kinda antisocial and awkward in MANY situations, probably some low selfsteem and depression, it sucks big time, I have fear of worsening.
I need a big holiday, many days of party, some money and an ambient with women to feel myself again. Cant wait for that.. but im waiting..
BetterIdeas - the channel we all want to be!!
Or maybe only the channel your brain has been telling you that you want to be.
or is it?
I had no idea how badly I've needed to hear this. I've been following self improvement for a while, and this, along with the slight edge, are the BEST self improvement advices I've heard so far
Whats slight edge?
@@jack-fm3lb the bock written by jeff olson, go read it it’s so good!
@@jack-fm3lb to add on to what schmelle said, it's basically the philosophy of consistency. Specifically how little overtime will always be better than your all one time. Also goes into things like taking responsibility of yourself, and how your philosophy fuels your thoughts, which fuels your actions, and your outcome
@@wooyaa8152 oh cool, thanks. I’ve definitely fallen into the trap of trying to improve all at once but unsurprisingly, I’ve found more success and happiness when I let it be a slow burn
@@jack-fm3lb yeah, Jeff Olson likes to refer to thst as being a victim of the "instant gratification world" very enlightening book
Scarily what I needed to hear! Been looking for a way to get rid of my limiting beliefs, the idea that I can't do anything well or change the monotony of life, and this is exactly the answer to what I was looking for! Thanks a lot!!
A really great reminder, I needed this today.
All Your videos I have watched so far are really hitting the nail on the head for me. Thank you for your genuine down to earth approach. It is all super relatable for me, and no doubt for many many others as well.
This is my favourite self development channel on UA-cam! I like how Joey cuts through the nonsense and gives us straightforward tips.
Dude. Your videos have opened my eyes so much. I’ve been able to grow so much watching your videos and learning from you. Thank you so much for what you do.
Love these videos. Productivity fuel. Keep em up!
Your videos really give me an outside perspective of my life and how I go about each day of my life. There’s a lot of things about me that I really need to work on and your videos certainly are a huge part of helping me change myself for the better. I would actually love to be able to talk to you and tell you my story! I Hope you’re doing good.
Brain is always in power saving mode. Brian wants us to use least energy as possible. So that we could use it at times where it’s really required. Like in life threatening situations. Our brain still works as it used to be when we used to roam in wild. But ofcourse, we can make it work the way we want, because we are humans. And Brain is always learning.
I appreciate the work you put into this. Thank you
'The world will ask who you are, and if you do not know, the world will tell you.'
Carl Jung
You're either the author of your own story or just a character in someone else's because there's never a shortage of people out there who will tell you what to think what to like what to wear and how to act but they're not going to tell you what's in your best interest but rather what's in theirs
This sentences at 4:55 "It feels like its not really YOU doing these things [...]" wow man this catched me really hard! Feels really true. I really give my best now to change things and that the brain biological adapts to behaviour changes really motivates me to go on. Thanks for this video (and this crazy good ending, escpecially because you didn't really hit the 10 minute mark :D) and have a wonderful day! :)
Ive been dealing with someone online pretending to be me and setting up blogs trying to portray me as a heartless sexhound who parades around the women ive supposedly been with. It took a tremendous toll on my mental and emotional health and destroyed my relationship with my now ex-girlfriend.
These days because of this ive felt trapped inside my own head; constantly saying things to myself over and over such as "Maybe falling in love with someone and being happy with her just isnt in the cards for me.". Or "this must be some sort of karma for my past mistakes and bad behavior.".
I dont know what the solution is or if there even is one for the online thing, but im actually more unnerved by my mental fragility and how ive been handling it. I feel exhausted by it all.
I can always count on Joey to post a video every month that basically confirms that I suck and here is what I can do about it. He is able to explain ideas in unconventional ways that are different/more useful than every other productivity channel. Most of the time I end up consuming this type of content and not putting it to use but this time I will actually execute!
Thanks as always Joey!
Excellent vid as usual ✨ thanks!
Learning how to be comfortable with silence and with your own thoughts (either alone or among others) could be an excellent topic to explore.
Glad your stable joey,also good to hear that you recovered from covid
Haha I loved that outro! All those moments make you feel so relatable and human you know. Thank you for all your videos you put out, they really help a lot of people!
Have a good one and take care!
Thank you so much for this video man, I've been trying to really better myself and get into more positive habits, and this only reinforced my will to truly change the negative bias I've had about my life for so many years. We're all gonna get better, let's all improve ourselves starting now!
it’s crazy that you drop this as i’ve just started “the brain book” a couple days ago, a lot of these things you’re saying now and this topic in general is very familiar and just very glad this plays perfectly into my life timeline
That must be an awesome feeling. I love moments like that
I needed to know this! I had always thought that my brain is making up narratives, now I know how it works and it makes me feel less confused.
Hey. I'm reading letting go from David Hawkins and it works wonders. The mechanism of letting go is life changing. Maybe you could make a vid about the mechanism.
Thanks for your work on videos ❤
Dude reading this book actually felt kinda illegal to me. I was like 'Wait, what if everyone knew this?!'
Love the double uploads cheers man
I've seen this video two months ago - and my life changed ever since in a way that I didn't thought was possible. The video itself didn't change anything - you won't improve anything in your life by just watching self-improvement videos but the video encouraged me to just do the things I always wanted to do but never found the courage to do - and do them over and over again until it feels naturally to me. Repetition is such a powerful tool to change your perception - just think about advertising industry who are using repetition to manipulate people so they want to buy a certain product. You can use those exact same mechanics to improve yourself - keep going. It's worth it.
Great content, keep it up!
As an infj I am acutely aware of all of these things more than you could possibly imagine I think and I'm glad people like you are out there to help everyone else figure it out because though I would normally be doing the same I've got a lot of very pressing things to do right now and precious little time to get them done but have to if I'm ever to be able to relax and enjoy some peace and quiet again so thanks for the video great job keep up the good fight and take care of yourself (and those around you)
If you aren't were you want to be right now, assume your knowledge of the world is insufficient, not the world itself.
Hope you get better soon, don’t overwork yourself! I loved this video:)
Thanks for all the videos!!
Спасибо за такую информацию и за позитив с прекрасной энергей, которые ты приносишь нам, несмотря на ковид. Как минимум нужно всегда улыбаться и радоваться, получать наслаждение от жизни. Найду сказанному применение!
А вот и русские!
@@romanos_romanos че так лайков много я в 8 утра в полуспящем состоянии написал это
@Phenomen it согласен
блин, не ожидал увидеть русских
@@jkamgreenleaf8650 согласен
Brain first create a problem and then waste its time solving that problem and its a vicious circle
It always tries to eliminate any possible threat whether physical or imaginary .
So to cope with that there is a need to understand the rules or laws upon which mind functions
I’m glad and grateful I have found your channel. Had a rough day today and you helped me so much. Thanks. From the bottom of my heart. Your words give me hope for my futur self.
good good content. ive been trying to untangle why i get burnt out so easily and your ideas and research definitely help me piece together the puzzle. much love, and your authenticity is much appreciated.
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thank you for this. I wish you fair winds and following seas, friend
My brain: Click this video immediately
Great video!! You should be very proud about yourselve. The fact that you make videos trying to help people its amazing
Incredibly awesome content my dude. Definite props on the direct and beneficial information your providing to everyone.
I am a simple person - I see the bald head, I hit like
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Am investing in crypto now........the dip is a clear sign for new investors to come in
Yeah this is absolutely the best time to buy and Invest
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I really needed this today, great content. Thanks so much, now it's onward and upward and time to create some new, improved pathways!
Your videos are always so helpful and straight to the point, I really appreciate it
thank you joey especially for the outro because it enriched my live!
thank you man i needed this vid
I have severe ptsd and watching your videos has really helped me. I was mad the first video but that was because I was being alot of the negative stuff. Shut ppl out, etc. The best way to make it through life is to love ,love ,love. Hatred and negativity WILL kill you.
This video has blown me away. Such digestible, relative content. Keep up the awesome work !!!
Super love your videos. Beautifully done and said as always. The end of this vid was the absolute best.
Loved the ending
Kudos to you man when Im in my toughest moments you always enlighten my perspective to this wonderful world
Bro thank you for making these videos. You’re seriously talented.
Really nice to see you smiling and to hear that you're thriving!
Oh Man ! I think this is the best outro I've ever seen ❤
Keep up the good work, I can't imagine UA-cam without your videos shoved into my feed by the algorithm.
This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing this. It’s so true.
Love love LOVE this message! Great video (even the outro).
Man!! This content is mind-blowing
New video yay I needed some motivation
Please don’t stop uploading, your videos really impact us a lot
Thanks a lot for this wonderful video. Your videos always help a lot.
i started feeling bad when i am open and communicative with other people because
my brain told me: "that is not you, you are faking it- you are not an open person. Stop being
like that." this gave me a good view that i am what i want to be and not what my brain tells me.
It is really hard tho to realize that there is no reason of you having to act a certain way because "thats you".
Right on time as always Joey, you're the man
Wow you always amaze me how you can structure these complex concepts into such simple sentences. I think everyone should watch this. Keep it up Joey 👏
Love your voice, it's perfect for narration!
This video inspire me to do as u said, try to encourage myself when i finish something tough to me . THK U
I am big fan! Thank you for all the input you share with the world.
Your humble way of presenting your findings, feelings and ideas will never be met.
It feels so much more honest that you don't claim to know it all and have this one perfect trick, noone would believe ( 😉 ).
You showing that improving oneself is a constant task to work on makes it feel like kind of a hobby instead of a crushing burden.
I took away from your videos that it is always worth giving it another go and how nice being happy with the achievments you make along the way is.
On top of all that, the videos are very well made and appealing to watch.
Also, on a side note , you seem to be a very nice guy.
So that's it.
Bottom line: Thank you and all the best for your way
your videos got an positive impact on me thank you
Your videos pop up every time I need them =) great as always, keep going!
this is very helpful. im so thankful i bumped into this video. i feel like this is very timely in my life right now
Such a great channel, it helped me change my way of thinking for the better, thank you so much
LOVE the outro btw, keep it stable!!
Love your content, keep sharing, like the outro, honest and open, and silence is wonderful.
Lord knows how long I've been waiting for a new video from this man!
Thanks for uploading best videos like this. These improve my life. Game starts with your videos!
Really good vid! The last part was kinda hilarious
Haha I love the honesty at the end!!
The best video in UA-cam ever glad to have you 👌🏼
This helped me a lot Joey, thank you!
Love your channel brother. Great life advice without being condescending or self-righteous about it. I really appreciate the advice. We need more people with compassion and good intentions in this world.
great advice on this video!
appreciated your honesty and the hutsle so i liked the video, hope you get better soon !
Great video and that outro lmao! Thanks Joey
I needed this video today, have to be very honest, each of your video acts as a eye opener for me, its like these are ideas that I needed some advices and god led me to you.
Good to hear that you've recovered and feeling well!
thanks man I needed this fr🙏
This outro was so cute, and real, and if felt very bonding and nice and friendly on your part. I appreciate it.
What a great video. Thanks for the insights.
This was a super great video. And the ending was educative as to the youtube video demands