Never Convince Him To Be With You! Do This Instead & Make Love Inevitable!

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  • @pamelakelley3098
    @pamelakelley3098 4 роки тому +1099

    You are totally right Brian. The more you try to push a man to be with you the further back he will go and pull away. It took me a really long time to realize this. So now I just back off and let them come to me. No pressure, no discussions, nothing. Try to just be happy each time they see u and enjoy ur time being with them that's what they really want and really want to see in you. Men just basically want happiness. Not someone bringing them down all the time. Maintain your own individuality. Be interesting and fun to be with. Do what you enjoy. Love yourself first and foremost. If it is meant to be it will be.

    • @aditipandey1736
      @aditipandey1736 4 роки тому +2

      Dittooo

    • @nicolewinters
      @nicolewinters 4 роки тому +21

      Meant to be lol some girls chase guys and they get married lol

    • @patriciapeeters7
      @patriciapeeters7 4 роки тому +64

      No discussions... Only happiness?? How long can you keep that up? 😅

    • @pattykakes214
      @pattykakes214 4 роки тому +1

      💯

    • @nishazamanianti7334
      @nishazamanianti7334 4 роки тому +6

      Very deep words..
      Sorry for my bad English.
      But all you said is true.
      When we love someone. Just let them go and set them free😊

  • @raginisharma9302
    @raginisharma9302 4 роки тому +864

    “If you are not the kind of wine they want, you handover the menu to them and leave the table “ 👏👏. You are every woman’s true friend who is feeling weak because of her emotions. Thanks for coming here 💐

    • @carrie7677
      @carrie7677 4 роки тому +23

      This may be the best line I've ever heard.

    • @filoboyanimations1771
      @filoboyanimations1771 4 роки тому +1

      thank u
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      ulit has always happened in japan 🇯🇵 this week i has a day of spring to day to come out in the day haha 😆 morning was that day to come and watch me sis in my love 😍 i i morning morning love.

    • @meenapriya8086
      @meenapriya8086 4 роки тому +2

      super

    • @arnoldalana33
      @arnoldalana33 4 роки тому +4

      Im totally stealing and reposting this. Realist shit I ever heard🙄

    • @Julia-ws9wn
      @Julia-ws9wn 4 роки тому +2

      Couldn't have said it better 👏

  • @samarztk
    @samarztk 4 роки тому +975

    ladies if you’re confused... ever. Ditch him. Like stop wasting your time! Someone better will come along!

    • @spartangreg1
      @spartangreg1 4 роки тому +15

      Nah, they really won't, unless he's a simp, which girls won't ever truly love or respect. Any man with options or high value just moves on since he has options, we don't give mixed signals or confuse women. This isn't highschool

    • @marionlewis741
      @marionlewis741 4 роки тому +3

      Yea but it's hard..I thought I was n luv

    • @idayuribe3800
      @idayuribe3800 4 роки тому +7

      The one who left me confused and ghosted and reappear to me I ignore him now he just stalking me . Why not I am gorgeous he tought I'm so desperate to have him & csnt move on.

    • @phoenixrising8007
      @phoenixrising8007 4 роки тому +4

      So True!
      Remember OUR own Value!

    • @tranquilambiance1751
      @tranquilambiance1751 4 роки тому +8

      @@spartangreg1 in other words, you're all jerks.

  • @sabrinem.3836
    @sabrinem.3836 4 роки тому +266

    "If someone doesn't like the type of wine you are, hand them the menu and leave the table".. This is the best advice I have heard. Thank you!

  • @dianaofmarkham
    @dianaofmarkham 4 роки тому +811

    Thank you, Brian. Always looking forward to watching your videos.
    ”The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.” Bob Marley

    • @parinazbasiri543
      @parinazbasiri543 4 роки тому +7

      Diana Of Markham nice quote

    • @lt3308
      @lt3308 4 роки тому +11

      That just happened to me recently! Well said!😊

    • @dianaofmarkham
      @dianaofmarkham 4 роки тому +5

      @@lt3308 Sorry to hear that. :(

    • @marefisher6462
      @marefisher6462 4 роки тому +10

      Bob Marley spoke the truth ....as he always did
      God rest his soul.

    • @karenrandles4931
      @karenrandles4931 4 роки тому +4

      That is exactly the quote the man I fell for said to me 😢

  • @qmi404
    @qmi404 4 роки тому +389

    I'd rather be single forever than end up with the mismatch person.💟

    • @parinazbasiri543
      @parinazbasiri543 4 роки тому +2

      Logicgal 👌🏻

    • @coreycox2345
      @coreycox2345 4 роки тому +5

      Sometimes one doesn't see it until years in, though, Logicgal.

  • @LittleMissProcraftinator
    @LittleMissProcraftinator 4 роки тому +592

    Brian is so right, I spent too long trying to get the white wine drinkers to value me but now I have found my red wine connoisseur 💕

    • @JustMe-xz4xg
      @JustMe-xz4xg 4 роки тому +32

      bullcrane Kai I love this,the comparison of white wine drinker to a red wine connoisseur.Sometimes we wanted badly to be in a relationship that sometimes we forget our value and love the wrong person.

    • @nardabramer
      @nardabramer 4 роки тому +15

      I loved when he talked about this also! Such a great analogy and so true. My connoisseur is out there looking for me also❤️🙌

    • @LittleMissProcraftinator
      @LittleMissProcraftinator 4 роки тому +34

      @@nardabramer he is out there for you, don't let the low class white wine drinkers distract you haha leave your heart free for him 💕
      My previous relationship left me feeling worthless - he couldn't think of one thing he liked about me, laughed at the thought of me being considered pretty and ghosted me out of the blue. It affected my self esteem. After him I met a guy who looks at me like I'm the most wonderful girl he's ever seen, tells me I'm amazing and beautiful, treats me like I'm a fine wine and has asked me to marry him :) It just takes the right person to appreciate you, like Brian says though the challenge is finding him.

    • @LittleMissProcraftinator
      @LittleMissProcraftinator 4 роки тому +13

      @@JustMe-xz4xg definitely, we can't allow someone else to allow us to devalue ourselves 💕

    • @nameme8936
      @nameme8936 4 роки тому +2

      My red wine connoisseur left me...cause he needed to move in another country but seems like he’s staying... :) and I like him still, and he was having a crush on me for a year and all his friends knew that...and all that happened between us happened few moths while he waited for papers...so he said i Don’t want to hurt you it will hard for both of us if I go and you stay if it happens I’m going... and he really showed he’s in to me...but now it’s all in the God’s hands... destiny...

  • @AnnaM-bt2je
    @AnnaM-bt2je 4 роки тому +315

    We will never be the “good enough” for the WRONG person.
    The person that’s meant for you will not ask you to change because you are enough just as you are.

  • @FaceOfTheCity.StPete
    @FaceOfTheCity.StPete 4 роки тому +52

    “The goal in our love life is to find our connoisseur” ...very well said.

  • @carrie7677
    @carrie7677 4 роки тому +158

    Really needed to hear this information. Im not red or white wine. Im bourbon and I've been looking in vineyards for way too long.

    • @b4b2getU
      @b4b2getU 4 роки тому +7

      Mmmm Bourbon

    • @Tina-wu3zl
      @Tina-wu3zl 4 роки тому +6

      😂😂😂😂 I feel you...kmsl we strong don't sip us like wine be a grown man and drink us...

  • @zaddyholmes6735
    @zaddyholmes6735 2 роки тому +30

    This video was so valuable for me. The penny finally dropped, I’ve been trying to convince a guy that I’m worthy because he does really like a lot about me. But he told me he isn’t looking for a relationship- not in a convo about us just in general. I feel like if he really wanted me like that he wouldn’t have said that. It’s his actions that confuse me because he will do really thoughtful wonderful things for me and with me. But I think he just likes the girlfriend vibes and not the actual girlfriend commitment right now. Which means ultimately he isn’t the guy for me. Sucks so bad because is everything I want in a partner, like the only person I’ve met who ticks all of my boxes. I guess all but one, that he likes me enough to be with me. Harsh truth and a hard pill to swallow. I’m trying not to let it make me feel unworthy or destroy my self esteem but it’s proving very difficult. I know I need to invest all my energy into my personal growth and development. But this crush has felt so yummy and exciting for months and not having that now feels empty and makes life seem boring. But I know this is a side effect of my limerance for him. I pray it leaves me because I don’t want to feel this way anymore. If only he wasn’t the hottest man I’ve ever seen and kind and smart to boot. Oh well. Hopefully I’ll meet someone else who is hot and kind. I hope so because no one else seems worth it now. I’m so messed up lol but this video was very helpful for me to realise I have to let go and stop deluding myself. It’s bad for my health.

    • @DarkCentaur24
      @DarkCentaur24 2 роки тому +2

      Going through this right now, it's almost like your describing my fiancé. Im on my way to find my self worth again, you can do this❤️

    • @saakshijaiswal-f2c
      @saakshijaiswal-f2c 8 місяців тому +1

      same girl same, it sucks and how. More power to you to move on

  • @zhavii5911
    @zhavii5911 Рік тому +10

    High value women wouldn't convince the man to be with her. Remember that if they pull away, then it's not great love. 😉 Indeed, the right one stays. Anyhow, Let's be thankful that we are protected and being redirected to the best one. Stay valuable princess, you are a gem, a high price. 💙

  • @lisaweglinski7999
    @lisaweglinski7999 4 роки тому +178

    Here's the problem- he typically does not have the courage to actually tell her. Leading to confusion and indifference. He enjoys the attention to his ego. Guys- be honest with her.

    • @snoopyw6589
      @snoopyw6589 4 роки тому +10

      Lisa Weglinski yes. I agree. I’m not wasting anymore time

    • @neurologicalworms
      @neurologicalworms 2 роки тому

      YES!! I WISH!

    • @XenaGaunt-wi7rx
      @XenaGaunt-wi7rx Місяць тому

      I have been always asking him to be HONEST. Just say it already, don't try to sweeten it for me. Stop dropping hints here and there. Stop the ambiguity. Just tell me, and set us both free! Oof...
      F**k this first, I won't lie. I have been loving this man since I was 22, and by that time I was a war vet, alright? I wasn't a naïve little girl. I met him, and then after a few months I knew I wanted to be with him.
      I summoned my courage and told him: "I love you. I think you are the one."
      He said, "I won't lie to you. I like you, but I have never said to any woman except my mother that I loved her, and I don't want them to be empty words. Let's see for a little bit longer, if you want. I want to feel it before I say it."
      This brought tears to my eyes. I was a bit hurt, but I was impressed by his words. So we continued dating, and after a couple of months our love blossomed.
      We got married after three years.
      But, as I've mentioned, I had been through some tough military stuff, and it left me with a bunch of troubles.
      After our wedding I had a miscarriage, and, well... It was painful emotionally.
      He was attentive, kind, understanding. I went to therapy, I started taking antidepressants.
      Two years after that, I went back to school and started studying at a university. All was so well, until it wasn't. I have developed depression, and I haven't finished my degree.
      So a few years of jumping from a job to a job followed, and then I became so severely depressed, I couldn't work. Finally, after nine years, my doctor suggested I might have ADHD, which totally took me by surprise. But my brother has Asperger's, meaning that the genetic component is really strong, and the diagnosis have explained all of my life's oddities. The meds have been extremely helpful.
      Finally, I was climbing uphill.
      What happened next is so painful. My husband said during an argument: "I think I should leave." I was thunderstruck. For me, it came out of nowhere. For him, the years of my struggles have been the years of struggles, too. He said he couldn't make me happy. He said he didn't know how to "fix" me, and it made him feel helpless. He said he was resentful.
      Now, I have been through much stuff. I mean it.
      Nothing had broken me, but the man I love not loving me anymore... This is where I fell, and I cannot get up.

  • @sarah-janeross864
    @sarah-janeross864 4 роки тому +53

    Say goodbye to someone who doesn't see your light...

  • @maia23zade98
    @maia23zade98 4 роки тому +38

    "The goal in our love life is to find our connoisseurs" -- this is pretty much the most amazing thing I've ever heard. Thank you.

  • @allthewayforchrist
    @allthewayforchrist 4 роки тому +153

    I knew he did not love me but sleeping around and using me financially then I changed the game. I played the fool, make him get addicted to me and all the benefits then dump him like a thrash when he needed me most, now he is going mad, I made myself his Karma.

    • @langdamina2161
      @langdamina2161 4 роки тому +16

      Need to learn from u 😂😂

    • @coreycox2345
      @coreycox2345 4 роки тому +11

      It may have been better not to let resentments build until you want to dump him like trash for revenge, Abby Oye.

    • @dalcox3250
      @dalcox3250 4 роки тому +10

      @Lauren Tither no she didn't. She just cut him lose and had fun doing it. He deserved it to be cut lose.

    • @PucciNYC
      @PucciNYC 4 роки тому +10

      Kool give him a taste of his own medicine.

    • @lt3308
      @lt3308 4 роки тому +2

      Love it!!

  • @a1stbornunicorn
    @a1stbornunicorn 3 роки тому +18

    As a wine sales person who happens to also be a single woman.. bravo man! This is the niche but relatable love advice I need in my life. Thank you!

  • @estherhabil1342
    @estherhabil1342 Рік тому +3

    I love your comment about the more incompatible we are with a certain someone the more we want to make them like us. This has got to be a mind game and a complete waste of time.

  • @lunaava9201
    @lunaava9201 4 роки тому +52

    Yep...my bf and I clicked on the first meet, great date, and an awesome kiss at the end. It's been super easy for 9 months..
    I am divorced after 16 yrs married, was single for over 5 before he came into my life 😊 ....I also dated some wrong men for me and had to set them free, it wasn't easy but all worth it

  • @Sinala82
    @Sinala82 4 роки тому +47

    Your advice has me rethinking my entire life !!! This is pure common sense, so common it’s hiding in plain view😂 You are also very knowledgable in emotional intelligence. You deliver this in a very funny and witty way. I find myself laughing at your humour and myself for not seeing obvious things in past relationships! 😂😂😂 In one video I wasn’t sure if I wanted to slap my ex or myself! 🤣🤣😂

  • @ema4617
    @ema4617 3 роки тому +4

    I am going thru a very bad relationship, still in it actually, felt totally neglected, cries for weeks, after hearing all what brian said, i felt better, empower again, and before i know it, i didnt cry at all this two days, for the first time, i learn to know my value, you dont know how much you help me, thank you so much!!, Gonna search his books!

    • @ema4617
      @ema4617 3 роки тому

      @@donalddaniel5227 thanks❤️

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 4 роки тому +25

    If you force a relationship, it may end eventually.

  • @TheDarthpsi
    @TheDarthpsi 2 роки тому +4

    This advice is actually good even for men. Don't waste time and energy on the wrong people, if you're trying too hard, you'll know.

  • @AlexinMadrid
    @AlexinMadrid 4 роки тому +39

    Love the wine analogy, especially because I love white wine. Thanks for reminding us that there’s a connoisseur out there who will appreciate exactly the kind of wine we are 😊

  • @kemzi2454
    @kemzi2454 4 роки тому +11

    Don't ever try to convince anyone of your value. As long as you know your value, you are not obliged to make anyone else see it. You just go with those who do. Hold your head up! It's not easy but you need to, don't waste time settling!

  • @duckypam
    @duckypam 4 роки тому +229

    Men just fall out of like with us like that “snaps fingers” and suddenly after all the attention we are left going - wait where do you go?? Don’t come at us unless you are sincere please men! We are tired of being jerked around

    • @kiki1266
      @kiki1266 4 роки тому +25

      They're usually the ones that have wives, girlfriends, and other options in their lives, that they conceal for a moment, then comes the decline😔

    • @LynnTarr
      @LynnTarr 3 роки тому +5

      I don’t know what makes men think it’s ok to mess with a woman’s feelings the way they do. I’ll never go out with a man I’m not physically or emotionally attracted to, but a man will pretend to be in love with you for sex. Chase you until he gets what he wants then disappear, leaving you hurt, broken, and confused. They’re so selfish. Then they move on to the next victim. It’s not ok.

    • @georgialee6755
      @georgialee6755 2 роки тому +1

      Lynn Yes There also needs to be videos on how to teach men how to behave. How to treat is women better!

    • @DallasDelorto
      @DallasDelorto 4 місяці тому

      Exactly

  • @mrsaleksandra2481
    @mrsaleksandra2481 4 роки тому +14

    I love this guy! He's so humble, has a great sense of humor and explains everything so well, I feel much better after watching his videos!
    Thank you, Brian ❤

  • @cupcakesparkle4335
    @cupcakesparkle4335 4 роки тому +88

    I'm to the point where I am just tired and yes I take accountability for dating the wrong men. I'm tired of being the one that loves more, care more, reach out more, initiate more. It has took a toll on me physically. Now it's like I get physically sick to my stomach when a guy approach me. I just don't want to be bothered anymore. My mind and body has shut down.

    • @0730546234
      @0730546234 4 роки тому +14

      I’m sorry ☹️ I know exactly what you mean though. I feel like that too sometimes. Like I have nothing left in me to give and the thought of another man trying to approach me makes me feel physically sick 🤢

    • @ak-47intelligence75
      @ak-47intelligence75 4 роки тому +3

      You articulated my exact state of mind right now.

    • @Digital-Donna
      @Digital-Donna 4 роки тому +13

      cupcake sparkle- i’ve been where you are at. I completely understand where you are coming from. Like you are completely drained emotionally and physically and feel like if you give anymore....you are going to be eaten alive. Here’s my advice.....take a few (not just one) steps back.....BIG LONG deep breathe....give yourself some time away from “hanging out with anyone” (hint, hint....think you get it), whether that be a few days, weeks, or months (just make sure it’s not permanent cause then it will get to the point that it affects you negatively yet again)....however long you need cause it’s different for everyone....then lastly (but should be first) give it to God, the entire situation...release to God. Those steps worked for me.....hope it works for you too!! Best of luck!!

    • @2sides_2everystory
      @2sides_2everystory 3 роки тому

      Relatable.

    • @cupcakesparkle4335
      @cupcakesparkle4335 3 роки тому +4

      @@Digital-Donna thank you for the advice. I'm in a self healing and self love journey and I'm taking better care of my mind, body and soul. I'm nourishing my inner self and it has been going great. I have disconnected from everyone and it feels so good and when the time becomes open again I will only let nourishing people in my life❤️

  • @renamaze
    @renamaze 8 днів тому

    This is so true! I recently was talking to a guy, he made little effort. But when I took a step back he started calling me. He is a bit handsome & also rich & when I took I step back I started to see clearly that he wasn’t the man I wanted to be with, he didn’t have the kind & caring character I wanted in a guy to reciprocate how I am. Sometimes feelings/emotions will lie to us, but when I took a step back & prayed, God showed me who he really is and I’m not at all interested in him anymore. He was not the type of wine I know I wanted & deserved & nor was I to him.

  • @janemullock497
    @janemullock497 4 роки тому +16

    I wish I’d seen this over five years ago, it would have saved me a lot of heartache. Although over time he did say he loved me occasionally, he always made me think I wasn’t the right bottle of wine he was looking for, otherwise he would have bought the wine instead of leaving his options open.

  • @ambraiezzi5037
    @ambraiezzi5037 2 роки тому +4

    Amazing thank you.
    It all comes down to the point that we have to tell ourselves that we are enough as we are right now. Period.

  • @IzzyD-mn8eq
    @IzzyD-mn8eq 4 роки тому +15

    His advice always resonates well with me, it's genuine and caring. His tone is calming like that of a close dear friend. Thank you so much for sharing your advice with us. 🙂👍

  • @schoolingdiana9086
    @schoolingdiana9086 Рік тому +1

    Great analogy! Not everyone can step up to your brand of wonderful, ladies!

  • @anothersoldier3420
    @anothersoldier3420 4 роки тому +14

    Yeah he‘s absolutely right, we should not waste time with people who are not right for us. But the problem is when you fell in love with someone and you know it’s not the right person, but you still love him, it hurts so so much. It’s the same with some „friends“ of mine, I know they‘re not good for me, but I‘ve known them for years and breaking up the contact after all this years is not easy. I really want to look forward and want to think I will find better people, who really appreciate me, but I just can‘t let go. Every day I see the picture of the one man I love in my mind and my dreams and he left me years ago. It never goes away, I just want that this ends... I even visited a doctor who said I have a manic depression and that‘s why it never goes away :(

  • @Liz-dragon-street.
    @Liz-dragon-street. 3 роки тому +1

    When i started 2 watch Brian is video's i changed so much for the good! Not only in a relation with man but also for the good 2 other people because i feel so much more connected 2 myself now a days♥️💯

  • @rdunyc554
    @rdunyc554 4 роки тому +3

    Where has this man been all of my life! Every woman seriously needs to listen to this man every time they log into a dating site. Brian is a breath of fresh air!

  • @stephanietang4103
    @stephanietang4103 4 роки тому +46

    Wow, you are my all time favorite relationship adviser! You’re so great at explaining things to us. I will make better relationships choices b/c of you. Thank you!! 🙏🏼

  • @lovetrustandpixiedust
    @lovetrustandpixiedust 4 роки тому +17

    "If someone doesn't like the type of wine you are, you hand them the menu and you leave the table." WORD!

  • @rockydluffy2537
    @rockydluffy2537 4 роки тому +3

    I feel like he just completely described me there. Feeling that Im not good enough, because guys just curve and ghost me all the time. I even started asking my friends if they think something is wrong with me. I really needed to see this video, coz even I, dont see my worth anymore. Thank you.

  • @kittimolnar7509
    @kittimolnar7509 4 роки тому +14

    This video perfectly describes my love life. I even started to cry. Thank you ❤

  • @taniac6579
    @taniac6579 3 роки тому +10

    Im so fed up of dating, each time I like a guy he runs away or friend zone me. Yes my self esteem is totally drawn in the gutter... I think there is no one for me an it saddens me a lot. Definitely there's something wrong with me

  • @nurseintheuk
    @nurseintheuk 3 роки тому +1

    "If someone doesn't like the type of wine you are, you hand them the menu and you leave the table" Wow. So glad I found this channel. Thanks Brian!

  • @singwings
    @singwings 3 роки тому +5

    This is how my parents are and they’ve been married 40+ years. Thanks!

  • @nan281
    @nan281 2 роки тому +2

    Well said.. all you need is one to see your worth! Also just move on if they don't....
    Thanks

  • @fanicara3837
    @fanicara3837 4 роки тому +19

    This is your first video that I must comment because it is your most WISE and TRUE video.

  • @queenieb1941
    @queenieb1941 4 роки тому +3

    I love this man's videos. They always make sense and his mode of delivery is second to none.

  • @cathrinekatsigianni8823
    @cathrinekatsigianni8823 4 роки тому +14

    Sometime's though everything flows easy initially but after a while even after a long time things change.

  • @dindi380
    @dindi380 4 роки тому +1

    This is the best video for those who feel abandoned from relationships down the hill.... thank you so much i downloaded this and play it over and over again

  • @lenarobins2480
    @lenarobins2480 4 роки тому +5

    Love the truth covered in humor! Simple, to the point, yet adoreable

  • @lovinglife58
    @lovinglife58 10 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for this!! I needed to hear this. I keep asking my bf how he feels about me and was planning on asking him if he thought I was "The One", but now I will just leave it alone, and stop nagging him about it. He already told me to please be patient with him and it will happen. Love your channel!!

  • @tarantulabunnydog
    @tarantulabunnydog 4 роки тому +5

    The goal is to find our connoisseur... I love this 💗

  • @lilianna9872
    @lilianna9872 2 роки тому

    Thankyou for sharing!
    What colour of wine has nothing to do with how good a wine is!
    It would be how it was prepared, formed, brewed, and how long it has been distilled:
    Thats what made a wine irresistably for a compliment!
    As far as meeting someone, or wanna start a relationship with someone?
    Its best to have the courtesy to respect that person!
    to feel like a prisoner in any relationship!
    Especially the one, that barely started with a few outings!

  • @michellewall6748
    @michellewall6748 4 роки тому +16

    Why are there so many dating coaches teaching women how to behave towards men?? Why aren’t there any teaching men how to win and deserve a woman?? Most men are utterly clueless!

    • @Tatiana-ge3ub
      @Tatiana-ge3ub 3 роки тому +2

      Men don’t go looking for this info like we do or care as much about their part in the relationship sadly...

    • @SpiritMQ
      @SpiritMQ 3 роки тому +4

      Coz men don't bother... They just want their needs met and as somebody said in one of the posts here that they need cheerleaders

  • @afrozeahmed6515
    @afrozeahmed6515 4 роки тому +13

    Loved this video!The perspective is what we should be doing instead of feeling bad about ourselves

  • @kdgjmm
    @kdgjmm 3 роки тому +4

    I love Brian's sense of humour 😂

  • @barbarajohnson1442
    @barbarajohnson1442 4 роки тому +2

    I feel like such a fool. So right. Two months and in the same place... thanks

  • @renehale8721
    @renehale8721 4 роки тому +1

    Gosh... you are one lovely man. Full of real empathy and a lovely way of putting out your message. I love your fairy stories relating to real life! Very artistic of you. And entertaining. Thank you for sharing your gentleman-like nature and understanding of relational dynamics. It is very encouraging.

  • @susane945
    @susane945 Рік тому

    Oh what a great analogy! Hiirt has hit the nail on the head once again! The only problem is, sometimes that 'Me' connoisseur just isn't enough. What if we match in SOME areas, like intellectually, but are just not compatible in the bedroom? What do we do then? It sux! LOVE sux!

  • @almamagallanes4430
    @almamagallanes4430 3 роки тому +4

    I agree, I believe Now that a man should see and appreciate a woman’s worth. I liked what Brain said about not wasting time with someone that does not show interest consistently, ghosting to me seems cowardly. But I finally get it, I should never convince anyone to like me or be in a relationship with me. Because if they can’t see how awesome I am then it’s truly their loss.

  • @bcbee7848
    @bcbee7848 4 роки тому +4

    Love how you are addressing relationship. Always a pleasure watching your video.

  • @mz.martinez1619
    @mz.martinez1619 3 роки тому +2

    I just believe sometimes its bad timing. Or the person makes us realize what we deserve or don't deserve.

  • @carlos-rh9lq
    @carlos-rh9lq Рік тому

    Pure gold, just what I was looking for, thank you, I know it is not easy letting someone you love go, but you have to respect yourself and let others to respect you as well.

  • @dawnurbina176
    @dawnurbina176 3 роки тому +2

    Brian, you’re so right. I had this relationship, but he died. It is possible

  • @frenchie.t5737
    @frenchie.t5737 4 роки тому +4

    Your advice is very spot on, it really helped me cut ties (hope this time is real) with my ex who has been on and off stringing me along for nearly 2 years..! Little had I known that he’s been devaluing me for the actions that I took. I believed his words rather than actions. My fault.
    Looking forward to your new (audio) books!

  • @nataliatothemoon
    @nataliatothemoon 4 роки тому +3

    I found my connoisseur for advice and videos and just straight up vibing :) I am so happy I found your channel. Great vibes

  • @eps4560
    @eps4560 4 роки тому +4

    5:13-ish... "yea cool but that's bs" 😂 was delivered so chill I got to cracking up.

  • @isabelm6198
    @isabelm6198 4 роки тому +9

    This makes so much sense! The right men will be attracted to the real me and all I'll have to do is decide on the one for me. I've tried with the white wine drinkers and need to focus on the red wine drinkers.

  • @rhegh2619
    @rhegh2619 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Brian.. I'm still thinking of finding the right connosisseur. I love you for helping us.. God bless you 🙏

  • @travelswithaz
    @travelswithaz 4 роки тому +71

    But sometimes you fall in love with someone you know isn’t meant for you. But you love them anyway despite all this. How do you get over that feeling? When you know you cannot go on without them but know personalities clashes all the time

    • @natthebratster
      @natthebratster 4 роки тому +10

      In the same boat. I've tried throwing myself into work, my practices and routines before him. I've decided that either I'm going to 1) go on a date with someone I would never otherwise consider 2) do something absolutely terrifying think skydiving or for me, public speaking, to overcome the angst. Good luck sweetie!!

    • @anoushazia377
      @anoushazia377 3 роки тому +1

      All of the comments.. I've found truth in your comment, 200% true❤️

    • @sashasorensen5945
      @sashasorensen5945 3 роки тому +1

      THIS. I'm so stuck.

    • @2sides_2everystory
      @2sides_2everystory 3 роки тому +5

      Unfortunately we can (& do) fall in love with people we cannot be with. I've had to leave 2 men while I was deeply in love with them, 20 years apart. Took years and therapy but I broke away.

    • @biba350
      @biba350 3 роки тому +5

      I know this one i am in a relationship with someone who i feel was never really ment for me I love him but I feel I am forever trying to convince him that I am worthy sad but true

  • @highervibration6255
    @highervibration6255 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you. This should have been obvious but it wasn't

  • @melissabarnes9469
    @melissabarnes9469 4 роки тому +1

    Such a simple concept and yet I couldn't conceptionalize it until you put it in perspective. I wish more men would watch these videos.

  • @phoenixrising8007
    @phoenixrising8007 4 роки тому +12

    🙋‍♀️ been there done that!
    Put a lot of effort into the wrong guy for me 😓
    Basically just spinning my wheels with no traction. I stupidly Over invested in
    him/us and got little back in return 😕

    • @Prettygun
      @Prettygun 3 роки тому +1

      To be honest
      I am feeling like am pushing him away by fighting for his attention
      I really love him so much but I want him to fight for me too💔it hurts

  • @angelinasamson6996
    @angelinasamson6996 2 роки тому +1

    He’s like mirror , we are so compatible it’s stupid , we roll of the banter together, he says that I’m sick 😂. We both pick our nails , we both make random noises . We both do so many other things that are the same , we feel so at ease with each other . We both like the same movies music spiritual stuff food crystals the list is endless …

  • @Flylikea
    @Flylikea 4 роки тому +2

    Agreed. It's about compatibility and suitability.

  • @mnk7440
    @mnk7440 2 роки тому

    I couldn't find a better video to understand that we have to let go of the people that aren't meant for us.

  • @kimngannguyen485
    @kimngannguyen485 2 роки тому +1

    Such wonderful content! I am from Vietnam and I just watched your videos and your books. They are authentic, inspiring and really helpful!!

  • @mol101
    @mol101 4 роки тому +44

    Oh thank you! Why didn't someone tell me years ago! I'm catching up tho.... 🙂🌈

    • @istiundcaro
      @istiundcaro 4 роки тому +3

      I drank the wrong wine for 22 years. I am glad I managed to get out of the wine cellar. Now I am going abstinent. It feels good.

  • @Chargesheimer
    @Chargesheimer 3 роки тому +2

    you are such a lovely human being! i really love and enjoy your videos. the way you talk, what you say...

  • @bex3090
    @bex3090 3 роки тому +3

    Brian, you’re the first relationship coach I’ve heard say this. Sometimes it’s made out that if you do x, any man will be attracted. But that is simply not true if you’re not his type. Or he may feel attracted but won’t go for it if he knows you’re not right for him. And I’m the same with men. They can be hot, interesting, pay me attention but I won’t date them if they’re not right for me.

  • @divinap.paderes4047
    @divinap.paderes4047 3 роки тому

    THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO. THIS TOTALLY MADE ME DECIDE AND REALIZED..... MORE POWER. I wasted a lot of times by it they didn't see my worth. Self love is the best.

  • @ozzyoz5210
    @ozzyoz5210 3 роки тому

    I love this guys accent. This information is so different than the typical dating advice. Thank you for being a gentleman!

  • @bethanystpaul5683
    @bethanystpaul5683 4 роки тому +17

    Thank you so much Brian! I love your wine analogy! So easy to understand. I like the idea of not wasting time trying to make everyone like us. Dating is a numbers game, I think once we see the person once or a couple times we'll know if we want to spend more time. We all must use our heads and multiple factors to arrive at this, so I'm in! Thank you for your time and videos:))

  • @denetakovacevic2324
    @denetakovacevic2324 3 роки тому +2

    Love this guy! He’s insightful and witty!

  • @jju2131
    @jju2131 4 роки тому +1

    This is an amazing explanation..his correct, having no satisfaction to one person isn't going to get you someone better even if you date thousands of women/men. Playing games/ghosting isn't the real game it'll cost you zero likes after.

  • @juliamarssola8267
    @juliamarssola8267 4 роки тому +9

    Brian, I really like your videos, but this one was particularly amazing. That's exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you some much. You gave me peace of mind and lightened up my heart

  • @ANokes1
    @ANokes1 2 роки тому +1

    I do enjoy your humor. And thank you for your material and your perspectives.

  • @25mariec
    @25mariec 4 роки тому +1

    Your words are always enlightening. I always go back and watch your videos whenever I feel lost and pity on myself. Then, I feel comforted and make me realize again that I’m valuable. 💕

  • @carlahabib1768
    @carlahabib1768 2 роки тому +1

    Brian, I just wanted to say how awesome you are. You’ve helped me tremendously. Thank you!!

  • @dianehuntley-lewis2308
    @dianehuntley-lewis2308 4 роки тому +95

    Super analogy. Your delivery is warm, sincere, engaging. Obviously you have insights that come from a wise source or just experience. Either way, they are most helpful and very much appreciated. Maneuvering through the senior dating scene is most challenging after many years of life, kids and hurts. Love and the desire for it seems to cross all age limits and demographics. I shall continue to listen to your advice as I work through my own dating adventure which is loaded with many unusual but exciting circumstances. Cheers!

    • @ThePariskat
      @ThePariskat 4 роки тому +3

      Yes, he just lovely. He tells us how it is. Kindly.

    • @ltdodgen
      @ltdodgen 4 роки тому +5

      Well said! I’ve been on my dating adventure for 7 years now, after losing my husband of 30 years. I never realized how hard it is to meet someone you’re attracted to and compatible with. I’ve dated quite a lot and had some memorable adventures. I’ve been infatuated a couple of times, but always recognized it for what it was. And now, at 64, I’ve met a man I feel excited about. We had 5 dates before the lockdown and we’re still in touch. He’s not as communicative as I’d like, but I’m cutting him some slack because these are strange times and besides, most women have a greater need for contact. As long as he makes the effort to keep in touch, I will keep him around till this is over and we can date again. Years ago, I might have let him go because he wasn’t meeting my needs, but now that I’ve been out there and seen how difficult it is to find a man who even comes close to doing that, I will not be so rash. Let’s face it, no man will ever fulfill our every need or desire, so if you find a good one who comes close, don’t dismiss him over small stuff.

  • @saphirus1able
    @saphirus1able 4 роки тому +12

    This is so chock full of wisdom. Thank you, Brian.

  • @karinabalazon
    @karinabalazon 4 роки тому +5

    Love the wine analogy. Crystal clear. Thank you!!!

  • @delving_oshin
    @delving_oshin Рік тому +3

    You cleared my mind thanks 😊

  • @zoeyanaqvi-zn7482
    @zoeyanaqvi-zn7482 4 роки тому

    Well-said dear ! Every good person is not compatible enough for you and not meant for you. Life is not based on temporary pleasures and fantasies. It isn't a story of Cinderella. i watch your videos to learn about human psyche.

  • @kalhencoaching
    @kalhencoaching 4 роки тому +4

    Only one connoisseur is needed 💕💕💕💕

  • @biba350
    @biba350 4 роки тому +13

    When I meet my partner he had been separated from his wife 10 years no divorce now 6 years on she wants a divorce I said too him when you divorce come through we could get married his reply no am to old to get now I was really upset still am made me feel I am not good enough but now if he asks me no way thanks for upload x

  • @lihong9389
    @lihong9389 2 роки тому +1

    You put everything in better perspective. You are so funny 😁 and so much fun to watch

  • @ngoziigwe17
    @ngoziigwe17 3 роки тому

    Brian, this is so true....how a guy can be fantastic but not the right guy.....this is insane because I have met many men like this and after a month it fizzles out and there is not connect

  • @lynettemcgrann5094
    @lynettemcgrann5094 4 роки тому

    Brian you make a lot of sense. I'll remember this fircfuture reference. I didn't get to here all you said I was interrupted. However I got the fist of your say. The problem is I cant come across anyone in my age group& I'm unable to get out much. And no I wont put myself out there to get embarrassed, humiliated or get mud on my face. My friends daughter says we can go out this next weekend. Will see. Shes in here thirties. I remember those were the best years of my life. I had a common law husband. However in the end after the loss of our son& other really terrible stuff that happened to us. I couldn't convince him to stay. His brother couldn't either. In the end he abandoned both of us. I still am in contact wh his brother. The pain we went through is not something weve found anyone can relate to. No 11 years later I dont want common law. And i find it difficult to even come across a man who's even attracted to me. Let alone sharing common interest wh. I'm also severely over weight but I work out every day. I'm not used to this in used to getting any man I wanted in the past. So I'm gathering all the information I can so that when I do meet a man who's attracted to me& we share common interest I'll have a fighting chance it will work out. My Grandma always told me dont look for a man. He will find you. That hasn't happened yet however I'm still inclined to agree. Ty

  • @hawaali4115
    @hawaali4115 4 роки тому +13

    You make relationships sound so effortless. I love your analogy.

  • @ateliermayamizouri5873
    @ateliermayamizouri5873 3 роки тому

    I love your videos , short , effective , no 548485 publicity cutting the video. I m extremely happy to find your youtube channel !