6 Signs You're Very Important & Valuable to Him
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Don't play hard to get, play hard to forget.
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Oooohh, I love this one! I always wonder why women think being chased and hard to get keeps a guy interested. On the contrary
Dont play hard to get, be hard to get
@@MariaV0071 Women do that because we know the harder you work for something the more value it has
@@hopemcelligott4313 it's OK to play hard to get the first week's, but after that you really need to get rid of that behavior. It pushes man away who only needs to put in triple the effort. Men also should feel appreciated and feel wanted. They are also human beings with feeling and are also worth it.
4:15 is when he gets to it..
Thank you lmaooo
I learned that my guy is a keeper. After being in an emotionally abusive marriage for many years, I’m so grateful I’ve found a good one. Thank you for this video
Congratulations!
Yr lucky
Same
We attract what we want with our attitude.
A good partner is supportive
Builds you up, holds your hand, makes sacrifices for you, compromises for you. then he genuinely cares about you. He sees the good in you believes in you when you don't see it in yourself, he respects, he considers you, is considerate of your feelings 💥
In fairytales. if it suits him to have you around, he will do that maybe
@@amnbvcxz8650 Or he's out of options 😂
When I met my guy, I didn't like him at all - he was annoying and not at all my type. We agreed to just be friends. He persued me, and continued to do so for over a year before he won me over, and I decided to give him a chance. We are over the "honeymoon" phase and in to the first ever "going to get tough", and he is just amazing. Exactly like you talked about in this video. When I am loosing my cool, he is just absorbing it, and then he is like.. okay lets sit down and talk about this. When he is an idiot, he is the first one to state that he is an idiot, and then he would like to sit and talk about that. He sais all the time that he loves to learn about me, and he is facinated by my thunder, and he is always interested in what made me feel that way. He spends nearly all his free time on me. When I cross his line, he backs off- like completely off - but always with letting me know that he isn't going anywhere, and ready to talk and let me learn about HIM, when he comes back. He is investing so much in our relationship. We had our first big argument recently, and I was the worst one - which I am not proud off. But he said to me - "You know, regardless of what happens, if we are not married in the future we will at the very least be friends, because loosing you would hurt more than anything else." He is SO patient, so calm always, and so willing to put in a LOT of work, and I did know that he is a good guy - but when he said that to me, and in the way he said it. I don't really think it was till then that I actually realized just how amazing he actually is. He is definitly a keeper.
How long have you two been together?
YOG
Beautiful
After watching this, I know without a doubt I have found a really great man. Celebrated our one year anniversary a few weeks ago and I've never been happier in a relationship. He was so worth the wait. Kind, loving, supportive, great communicator/listener, hardworking and funny. I could go and on. Thank you for sharing this video and helping people understand what a good partner actually is. So glad I found mine.💕
This is so nice to hear, I'm so happy for you! 😊
Yay!! I'm sincerely happy for you!!
@@gigi9301 Thank you! Still together. Celebrate 3 yrs next month🙂❤️
@@pipermcpickles5283 Thank you! Still happily together for 3 yrs🙂
The secret is contentment. My fiance was shocked when he took me ring shopping and he went for the big diamonds...I went for the tiniest diamond. He insisted on the bigger one. And I refused. After 28 years I still have my beautiful tiny diamond wedding ring. He released I was not in it for how valuable I am with what he buys. He then worked harder on pleasing me. He knew money and diamonds did not give me value. Or our relationship . Contentment in self and relationship. You Don need a ring.
I love this!! I feel like I would be the same way. I like the simple things of life. May God continue to bless you. I pray to find a great loving man someday and live our lives together
@@wshelby83 you are so kind. Thank you. May you be blessed too. 🌺
If and when the time for a ring presents itself, I shall purchase my own. I don't wait for men to ask me out, give me gifts
Continued. Or love me. I would rather be respected, the way men want women to respect them.
Deals with your emotions, trying to support you.
Respects your boundaries.
Paying the price of a relationship.
Thank you for this. Sometimes we take things for granted and focus on the negative. Hearing this and recalling the moments I've had with the guy I'm dating, makes me realize how much he's sacrificing his time for me. And I just want to thank you for reminding me of how awesome he is. Thank you! Forever grateful for this. ❤️
When i have an issue with my husbands behaviour, i present it as MY problem, which it is. I ask him to assist me with that problem. I try to stay away from making the issue his "fault" or something he's done wrong. I want to address my discomfort without him feeling like I'm finding fault with him. I don't believe that there has to be someone at fault, just that i want his assistance in making it more comfortable for me. This approach has worked very well for both of us and we are stronger for it. It stops the seeds of resentment before they can even start.
Can you share a example of your approach question mark
@@dajuanajones5559 Sure...Ill say that i would really love to chat and could really use his help with something. Whenever that chat can take place i let him know im having trouble with something. I try not to say Im having a problem with him, his choice, his behaviour, because I think that implies the other person is doing something TO you and they just arent. I may say "Im finding it difficult to make all the meals, i was hoping you wouldnt mind helping me out with some of them." Because he isnt the one having the problem, I am. If i want the problem to be fixed, im going to need his help. This works for us though x And there is literally NO blame game. And he too has been able to do the same. We literally dont argue very often and when we do ...someone is usually not feeling well or their best self. But the other understands this, so it never escalates. I think we have both just had enough of the negativity and mutually just choose not to have this as a part of our relationship. The beauty of relationships, you can make them into whatever you want ...as long as both parties are safe, happy and healthy x
Both men and women need to have their emotional and mental life straight. The expectations will either slow you down or just simply ruin it for you. If you have addictions or negative attachments then sort those out first, because the other person doesn't have the time or ability to save you from your negative past. We all got to bring something positive and useful into a relationship. Step up to the plate with inner richness and not just expectations.
While I see your point, and agree to it to an extent.. It would also mean that every person with some sort of trauma, can not look for a partner.. not even a friend actually. And this is not true.. we can.
Honesty is a must, about the bad as well as the good. Both my partner and I are heavily traumatized. He has PTSD, I have C-PTSD. One might think this is a horrible match, but we find different.
When I have a totally insane reaction, being triggered and I have no clue whats going on, he will see it. And when he needs a hand because he is having flashbacks and seeing images from war.,. Um fine just being there as an anchor until it passes.
Due to our trauma , and being mature enough, we can draw on eachoter, rather than just drain eachother.
@@Goldenhawk583 we all have our strong and weak sides. How much we are able to give, take and handle varies from person to person and also your upbringing and experiences in life. We expect the perfect partner while we ourselves have many imperfections. We should right from the beginning expose our weak side and concerns and see how our significant other reacts to it. Emotional availability from both is a key factor to a healthy relationship. I learned that all my imperfections came from my generational past and that I have no intention to repeat the past anymore. My parents live in a screwed up relationship and they just don't see it. I faced my demons and let go of the things I loved and now my life has a whole new meaning. I look at dating totally different now that I am in a healthy relationship with myself.
I appreciate your insight a lot. Regards, Jojo
@@joachimpeteransorge4946 stay safe:)
I must be that weird person that it never gets old when my partner holds my hand or kisses me. No matter how long we’ve been together. Never. ☺️
I tried telling him what I needed, but he changed the subject or devalued my feelings. I have come to realize that he didn't truly love me and that we didn't matter. What he wanted or needed was the only thing that mattered.
You have a very even, realistic and logical way of explaining the minds and actions of men - while understanding the same about women - with a nice touch of humor here and there . Very helpful. TY ; )
Every point.... tells me breaking up with the ex was the perfect decision :) thank you
You can't have the cake and eat it.
I love the part where the guy helps build your confidence instead of demolishing it.
If he tries to be your rock while letting you be the swirling sea🎯
YES 💙
Brian, You are an amazing teacher, and your playfulness in teaching makes your message easier to hear. Your partner is lucky to have you.
Being self-sufficient woman is attractive. The less you need the more you receive.
Depends. If you can't count on the man at all... It gets really obnoxious. Women and men are supposed to help each other and be partners
Men can’t handle that..... they want to be needed
@@lindseydickey9282 I have 1 experience with that and I never went back. I sharpened my skills to dip (cut losses), mirror (equal give and take), screen potentials (honesty) and the works (sieve all BS).. Watch out for opportunists.
Yes, this might be true, though being independent does has its downfalls. I have asked a few men who wants an strong independent genuine woman they all have agreed that these kinds of men all said that they still want their women to need them as well. I am a very strong and independent woman who has always had mentioned that I need my man to be able to be a couple who is in a partnership and to help and allow another to grow in the way that can only happen within the comfort that the commitment is being nurtured to enable and keep the potential of awesome going
Very astute
He remembered every detail even from the last moment you met. Such a guy i wanna spend the rest of my life with!
Haha! I love your videos - “cars going around in circles or guys throwing a ball around and trying not to drop it.”
Another great video Brian!
Women need to open up and learn to communicate, we men are not mind readers. The fact that we are still there for you, when your behavior is at its worst. That should speak volumes to you, how important you are.
I agree, William, as the woman who struggles to open up. Guys are NOT mind readers, and nor should they or anyone else be expected to be. It’s hard to open up, but it is much better to share vulnerably and potentially hurt each other in the moment than for it to unexpectedly blow up in your faces later after a build-up of miscommunications. (And yes, I’m speaking from personal experience).
I just found out I am a great woman 😂
Aaaaaaw that's awesome🧚♀️did the right person help you see that? Sometimes the wrong person can ruin our selfworth
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Thank you Brian for another insightful video. Love your videos!
This comes in the right time, because I questioned it myself. Thank you so much for your content and your work! 🙏🏼 Wish you the best!
There are needs and wants in life. Humans need relationships. We are relational beings. Problems in today’s era have risen in relationships because people’s value on relationships has gone down. People don’t see the value of relationships anymore.
That’s why I’m marrying him…♥️
When it gets tuff, he's there for me n I for him.
Thank you for sharing, Brian. All 6 signs are important, I have found #6 is most important to me...respect and consideration.
Just thank you so much for sharing this! I had to watch your video twice 😉... All the things you said about the price to pay for a relationship acceptance, and being a man respectful of their partner's feelings and boundaries are so important! We're talking about it as something necessary to create a relationship in the long run, but it's indeed so rare.
Those elements are absolutely to be kept in mind, they're so helpful!
This came right in front of me... When i needed the most ...
He is a great guy and is of worthy to wait for...
What a great sense of humor you have, Brian. Your videos are entertaining as well as informative
My guy has knocked it out of the ballpark!! He identifies with all of these points regarding the right man. Thank you for this video. ❤️
The opening of the video hit the message home really hard! Easily one of your best videos 😍
“My guy doesn’t buy me donuts” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm glad I watched this I had started taking many things for granted and it just started feeling routine but this reminded me I have an amazing man.
I have this man in my life now ❤️
I always value your videos so much! I learn a lot, not only about men, but also about myself and what partner I am and what partner I need. Thanks Geert! 😊
This is wonderful...understanding what a good supportive partner is in relation to what a woman needs.
Perfect timing, thank you - I've found a good one & its early days. Love and appreciation to you Bian 💯💞🙏
I'm wishing you success and every happiness 💞
I just want to say Thank You and send you a big HUG.
I appreciate your comments. You sound sincere and knowledgeable. Again thanks, you make me think…
I definitely can get many emotions and I am so grateful when he asks to talk it out. But I dont like when someone goes into problem solving mode because sometimes I just want to vent about my feelings ya know
Oof--I seem to never find anyone who cares enough to help solve a problem! Lmao 😩
Hi Sam.....yes totally agree we need a rant with someone simply nodding🙂💜
Then tell him that you just need him to simply listen to your ranting and he doesn’t need to actually provide a solution. He can’t read minds
@@CuteKristy179 This is true, we can say nicely 'now shut up and listen'
Amazing!! I love this !!Thank You 😊 💕
Fab video!!!!!! Really, lovely short enough, and complete and clear, thx!
It is true that your mind gets used to what the other person is doing for you, and you start to take things for granted.
Super valuable video, the channel is super! Thanks
Thanks Brian for the tips notes to look out for!😉
Wow, Brian.
That was just great. I wish everyone would hear this.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight with us.
I'm wishing you every happiness.
@@marysebastian1220 I'm not interested in your recommendation..
I love your work Brian, I’ve got a good one for the first time in my long life and it’s beautiful 😍
Starts at 4:16
Brian, thank you for the video. I enjoy your sense of humor.
I needed to hear this~ Thank you
Thank you so much!! This helped me get over my ex once and for all. He's a good guy but he doesn't value me.
THIS. 💜 Same here, Melissa. So pleased I can finally say it too, and without anger or FOMO. And just let him go. It wasn't meant to be.
Thank you Geert 🥰
Thank you Brian
You nailed it!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing.
Hi! all you said is true my husband is a great guy we are married for 21 years the more I love him. Ty too for thru your explanation I am now aware who are my true friends. Tc stay safe
Thank you so much! All your videos that I have watched, have been very helpful. But also sometimes makes me wonder, are there similar videos out there, that would help understand things or life in reverse? Might be helpful in order to strike a balance as all your videos are so well done. Thanks again!
If my mutually exclusive mate bought me a beautiful ring that was a perfect fit 😎 I would cherish it forever if his intentions were pure. Every time I look at it reminding me of how much I am loved, cherished, adored, wanted, appreciated, valued and the bond we share. Universally symbolic of True Love & Committment ☀💙 💍 its not so much the ring as the connection ☮☯
Cheers and I have rapid emotions, am a creative,cancerian empath!!!
Bit too much for myself sometimes lol👈🙂and an introvert ,and an exuberant loner!!
I'm dating a great guy finally at 60. he checks all the boxes and was definitely worth the wait but this video also showed me that I just settled for crumbs when I should've waited for the whole cake like Ed. We all deserve our cake!!! 🎂🎂🎂
Really interesting things to focus on
Thank you! 👍👍👏👏
Ask that girl to look at his heart and the consistency of his actions. Not the size of the ring. Silly woman. Some women don't even get a 'happy birthday' wish every year. I have been in a LDR with a man who is living in another country. He is not a man of many 'sweet' words to buy my heart but he makes time to talk to me every single day, and has been for the past 2.5 years now. His time equals his love and commitment to me and our relationship. And for that, I thank God for him and us everyday.
How are people still with someone that doesn't wish them Happy Birthday? Esp. in the era of calendar notifications?
5:00 our emotions would blow all his circuits! 🤣🤣🤣
Sincerely, thank you
Thanks this is an eye opener. Made me make a major decision
He was great when we are not marrying, after married he is different
Hey Hjeert, I love & value your insights and presentations ❣And especially your original name 😊 which apparently is difficult for some people... There's something incredibly UNIQUE and Extraordinary about YOU, 😍 So... please keep up with your Valuable contributions to our lives 💙💛💜
I totally agree with you! His delivery is different
A video that I need to watch everyday!
My guy is all of this... YAY!!
Dear God🕯🕯🕯
May are be able to receive that love.
Well you hit the 6 key points I see in my man, thx Brian…
Wow this is so amazing 🤩 you are 💯 accurate thanks 🙏
Thank You!!!
Im not totally self sufficient. Im independent in many ways but in some ways I love to depend on a good kind man. Thats very attractive and good feeling and they always feel happy with that as well..At least I have had received many roses...still female x male is great
Great topic thanks
Wow, such a great video!
Any gift is worth way more than the value because he thought of you & its special even if it’s $5.00.
So true! And cars going around in circle haha
Please make videos in point format, so that it's easy to consolidate everything :)
So good!!!
Well now I know my friend is a awesome guy
Great feedback
Got your point, Fred. I am sorry for being such a going
Grouchy. Still not well!
Great video!
Amen! 🙏❤️
Ya - advantages of being in a relationship yet still being a bachelor. Good one!
Thank you very much much for your advice … I need it coming from guys option!! God bless you ! I love your advice….☺️ i find out my boy friend is all that you said ! I happy 😊
Thanks 💗
Thank you! Dissatisfier’’
I needed this I almost have a great man but I don’t think he is ready to pay the price.
This is amazing 👏
Learning so much thanks
My boyfriend just recently got drunk on call. (We are in a long distance relationship, he’s from Illinois, and I’m from Canada.) he got drunk on call. At first it was funny, just oh haha you’re acting dumb.
But then it got serious. It got to the point where he could barely stand. His brother walked in, and the call ended. 20 minutes later his brother called me, and I could hear my boyfriend crying in the background saying things like “I just wanted to know what type of drunk I was so I didn’t hurt her in the future.” (This was drunk him speaking btw.) and “I wanna say good night to Samantha before I pass out :(.” and “What if she breaks up with me???” And it really warmed my heart. What do you all think of that?
HAMS is a great program, it works great for so e people, as an alternative to AA but definitely a cry for help. I pray that he finds Jesus and knows how much he's loved.
For a long distance relationship to work, you should be planning on getting together in person ASAP and as often as possible.
Real time spent together is required to determine if you're compatible.
It's gotta be more than chemistry and physical attraction.
Are your lifestyles compatible? Are you both emotionally mature? And do you share the same values?
Good luck!
@@yusufshuaibu362 Please go away.
I believe you have his heart. If you feel the same you can move mountains together
How beautiful and sad to know my friend is a great man who matches all 6 qualities yet we are just platonic friends.
There’s a better role reversal here for me because I tend to be much more calm cool and collected and very happy person quite naturally. And I think it’s just because I’m a hopeless optimistic I’m not blind or deaf or dumb
The last person I dated much fits the description you have for a female and yet these were all very toxic negative emotions which I was standing there blinking just staring at him but who’s having these meltdowns over seemingly nothing and they absolutely had nothing to do with me but just his reaction to certain things which is almost everything to be honest.
It was like dead silence and all you can hear was my eyelashes bad and like on a cartoon wink wink wink
I’m sure butterflies across the world change patterns after that
Funny how things work sometimes it’s not gender specific
But if we start looking at it from an aspect of masculine energy and feminine energy and not actually put labels on the person depending on what gender they were born as then I think it would make more sense so your channel kind of needs to be unisex in a way because it definitely doesn’t fit the bill for everybody
I have just confirmed to myself once more that I divorced my ex for all the right reasons... :) Thanks for another great video!
Your right!! If you happened to meet a guy...a right guy....then it's a good sign I think!!
Thank you ❤
I had heartbreaking relationship when man didn't show 4 points of these 6
@@marysebastian1220 thank you, I don't have a need
@@jamesrobert4443 I'm from Russia