'My Abusive Girlfriend Made My Life A Living Hell' | This Morning
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- Gareth Jones became suicidal after his girlfriend Sarah Rigby subjected him to months of abuse and humiliation in a horrific case of domestic abuse. Sarah taunted Gareth about everything from his hairline, weight, and sexual performance and physically abused him while controlling his finances. Last month she was sentenced to a 20-month suspended sentence, after pleading guilty to coercive and controlling behaviour. Gareth shares his story and raises awareness about male domestic abuse victims.
Broadcast on 03/06/2024
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Domestic violence has no gender. Both women AND men can be abused. Respect to him for bravely telling his story ❤️
99% of cases are men doing the abusing though, let’s be real here.
No true everyone turn a blind eye when women experience this but now it's been take serious now the roles are reserved its now been taken more seriously
@@Gem_ini no actually it’s not, there is actually men out there suffering in silence, because of the stigma. Yes more females get abused and it’s shown in the media a lot more, but there is also a lot of men who are in that position but are afraid to speak up
@@Gem_ini Exactly he's story is very sad and vile and not as common those are the facts women and men aren't the same.
Sadly I don't think male abuse is still recognised yet. Let's hope this changes.
Good on you fella for finally freeing yourself from that abusive woman. It takes real courage as a man to go on national television and speak up, I admire you for that.
Wish you all the best for your future.
Absolutely utmost respect to him
So glad they showed a photo of her so everyone can see who she is !!!
Abuse is universal and universally unacceptable
Absolutely.
Absolutely. 💔
Yes agree but sadly men are not recognised
.no not really men had no issue with men behaving this towards women so why should be feel sorry for men
Men have suffered physical verbal and emotional abuse gor years but would never dare doeak up for fear of being ridiculed or not believed. So happy that this gentleman has decided to tell his story which will give the right message to others who have suffered in silence. Abuse comes in many forms, irrespective of gender.
He’s very brave to talk about this. Please beware of online dating sites, these are hunting grounds for narcissists. The woman he dealt with was undoubtedly a narcissist, they often use dating sites to catch their prey. Please be careful out there🙏🏼
And a sociopath too
You can meet the wrong people anywhere, at a dance, in a club, even the supermarket. That’s a very narrow view of reality.
A guy went clubbing with his friend that were friend's from nursery. He killed her in a park after walking her home.
Everyone is a narcissist to a certain degree. The term narcissist is thrown around now like it's something special, when it's a common trait of humans. The woman, this man was dating, was a sociopath.
Yes agree 💯
Some of the comments on here are unbelievable! There is no excuse for abusing someone and victim shaming is just as bad as the abuse itself! He isn’t telling his story for sympathy but to raise awareness as to what abuse can and does look like, whether the victim is a man or a woman. I take my hat off to him and think he’s extremely brave!
What? Are there negative comments?! Oh No..then I can't look at them...what a lovely man .... And I wish him all the best...that creature was flashed on our screens if only she knew that one day Karma will get her!
UA-cam can delete negative comments this also happens with me sometimes @@reginamushi6582
I don't see any negative comments?
@@orangesnowflake3769 there are some comments mentioning that he probably chose to stay and men don’t get abused! Absolutely disgraceful
@8plusus97 ah well they'll always be one I guess... but best to ignore and engage with the decent comments
I hope this man finds someone as lovely as he is.
or no one. Too much pressure to be in a relationship or move in with someone. Stay alone for a while.. ..get good platonic friends and then decide what you want.
Hats off for speaking up
💯
It is difficult for men to acknowledge the controlling behaviour of a female. Harder for the authorities to understand
That sentence should not have been suspended
Sadly, if the roles were to be reversed, the man would do jail time ….. it’s time society accepted that it’s just a common for women to be abusive as it is for men to be abusive.
@@147crayin what world?
I got death threats from my ex-husband last summer (a highly abusive ex-husband of 8y) and he’s still 100% free.
@@a.b.2850liar
@@147crayMy cousin was unalived by her husband. He got found guilty of manslaughter. They may aswell not bother sentencing him
@a.b.2850 big difference between words and physical abuse.
Abusers mess with your mind and self-esteem. By the end, you're so beaten down, you can't even think straight, much less walk out. After they get you in a corner, then the physical abuse starts. He was blessed to get out when he did, otherwise this might have become life-threatening. Good on you Gareth!
Yes absolutely 💯
This happened to someone I knew. Sadly, no longer with us. Such people destroy lives.
So true 😢
Very true they beat you down
As a woman who has seen my male relatives go through so much abuse. I have warned and taught my son to pay attention to red flags and that a partner needs to treat him right vice versa too.
You are a kind woman who thinks for humans not gender
What are the red flags? Please tell me so I can share with my nephews and brothers. Thankyou
@@Ravalos3260 the red flags are clearly being said in the video. Have another watch, listen carefully and take some notes!
I really don't agree with the suspended sentence. She will only go to prison if she does something else. She needs to be punished for what she has already done. It wasn't one incident in a fit of rage ( also not OK by the way!) but a campaign of abuse that was thought out and sustained.
Sorry to disagree.
He wasn’t in a vulnerable situation like a single parent to 3 kids under 6 stuck with a part time job.
He accepted her behaviours, for whatever reason, and went along with it. He needs to be honest and mature and realize that he was also getting something out of it.
@@a.b.2850hmmm, not sure I agree with this. We don’t know whether he was vulnerable or not. Also, I don’t think you’d think this way if he was a woman
@@a.b.2850 Mankind or Women’s Aid are good places to start if you want to understand why victims don’t leave. There is a complex psychology behind it which is too long to explain here, but you would be better off researching the topic yourself.
Totally agree. Women should not think it's OK for them to be victims and nor Men. Women stay for different reasons as well as Men.
@@a.b.2850If a guy said this about a woman, it would be called victim blaming. Double standards are wild
Am a woman and I believe him 1000%. Am so proud of him to talk about and explain how he experienced the abuses. Please everyone should comes forward because Dv is bad just like any sickness
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Because the 1000+ women that have been SO brave to talk about abuse, meaning for some putting their own lives at risk, and those that did die of abuse have not yet been enough to capture society’s attention.
All this time all WE, Women, needed apparently was A MAN to explain his (dodgy imho) abusive relationship on a morning show to give a real chance to victims to finally be acknowledged, eventually hopefully heard, believed and taken seriously by law enforcement.
The rate of femicides proves my point.
@@a.b.2850 society has been listening to women *exclusively* about this subject for years..
Are you that insecure that when one man speaks up amongst thousands of women (who are all taken more seriously btw) you get upset.
Bizarre
@@66kaisersoza and still, hundreds of women of killed from DV each day.
Don't think anyone doesn't believe him
Wishing Gareth all the best going forward. Sounds horrendous
Poor guy, glad he's away from his abuser.
Our son went through something similar and luckily managed to get out but kids are involved and she's still using them to get control.
We wish you all the luck in the world. Well done for speaking out. Sending lots of love x
That is so so common.Weaponising the children.Theres no voice for men.
I'm not sure if he is aware that he has taken something so terrible and he is using it to help others. So many men do not report abuse, I hope because of his story others have the strength to come forward. ❤
You can’t confront or negotiate with a Narcissist, they will attack you more.
BRAVO for speaking out and making others aware that it's not ok to put up with abuse of any kind
He comes across as such a decent guy 🤍🙏🤍
I hope someone comes and treats Gareth the correct way and he finds true love
I was abused by my exhusban for 45years i wish i left the marriage years before i did. They are very very evil people who abuses nice people to make themself feel better. I am proud of you Garet for standing up to this very evil woman. She should have gone to prison for 5years.
It’s beyond belief that the sentence is not the same. Abuse is abuse is the same male or female.
searched abusive girlfriends to see if anyone else has been through this and this video was posted less than an hour ago. If trauma can pass through generations, so can the healing.
I hope he manages to heal. No one should abuse anyone!
Eh?? The two comments about him being weak can just shut up.. I was in a domestic violence relationship was so hard to leave. U get kinda brain washed. I'm not weak. I'm strong so is he. It's the abusers that are weak!!!!! Come at me then!!!!
100% agree. I've also experienced domestic abuse and it's extremely complex. There will be a lot more to this man's experience than he can tell us in a short interview. The strength it takes to get away from an abuser is unreal too. They do not make it easy for you to leave
@@geml6540 exactly it very very hard to leave
Lllt
Well said clare❤❤
@@sharonhughes1538 thank you 🩷😽
Abuse has no gender!!! God bless this man for getting out of that situation, many would have stayed and put up with the abuse.
I go by the quote “when people show you how they are believe them”
Yes you are spot on with that 😊
It's a quote by Iyanla Vanzant
The same thing happened to me. It started off normal and then suddently she started being controlling. Made me change my phone number so none of my friends could contact me. Chose who I could see, when I could see them.
Slowly it started to get violent, she would start hitting me. Then it started to turn into her emotionally blackmailing me through suicide attempts. It was horrific.
Goes to show. I’ll be showing my son this episode as a warning
LIAR JUST FOLLOW HIM
@@asihiashut up
This is exactly what is happening with my brother and his partner.
Please encourage your brother to speak to DV charities for men. Some give incredible support in every area possible.
I hope your brother gets away, and that he's able to remain in contact with you and other relatives and friends.
Nobody was put on this planet to be used, misused, and abused.
So he had evidence, she pleaded guilty & she still got out of jail?!? Somethings wrong here....
If he was my son she'd know about it.
Same here
Poor guy, this is just horrible. It's hard to understand how a person can become enmeshed in this psychological cruelty. Dear Gareth, I hope you have lots of support from friends and family and will one day have the courage to find someone with whom you can have a loving and healthy relationship. I wish you well.
I have been treated bad by ex girlfriends, both men and women can be very abusive
Very brave of him to share his story. I hope he gets the support he needs to heal
People are completely insane.
The energy of someone like this is extremely toxic and negative ..it's very overpowering . It's terrible and difficult to extract yourself from .
Gareth, if you're reading this, then I want to commend you for your courage and how you've taken a hellish situation and are now using it to help others.
Well done for sharing this story, what happened to is terrible, sending healing hugs
Brave of Gareth for speaking out. Hope he can find someone decent in the future.
Suspended sentence? Disgusting
Poor man, but sadly, it happens. It is a sad and tragic story. i hope he gets better soon
What a brave and courageous man! So sorry that happened to you. Hopefully you find someone who will mend your heart ❤️
It wouldn't be different if it were a man. Abuse is not taken seriously, regardless of gender.
Bless him, he seems like such a sweetheart ❤
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. Wish you all the best and hope you find someone deserving of your kindness.
He’s such a nice man
Hopefully he’ll find a lovely lady ❤
I don't appreciate people who do this
Thank you for talking about this Gareth, you are empowering yourself and you are empowering men and women who are in abusive relationships
I was abused by my narcissistic wife for years. Everything seemed perfect in the first 12 months or so. I didn't notice the gaslighting after that. I was controlled in so many ways and I lost contact with my family for far too long. I could write so much about it here, but I know most people wouldn't be interested.
So sorry to hear this Michael
I know 2 women personally who were very abusive to their husbands
Your wrong.I think you'll find people will believe you.This is commoner than you think.
You're wrong. Many of us are very interested in your story.
She should of gone to jail x
My brother went through this. Destroyed his life.
This man requires some therapy. The woman should be in jail
I went through something not quite as bad as this…manipulation, controlling behaviour, blackmailing. It’s not until you get out and look back that you realise how bad things are/were.
I wish him well for the future
Im so sorry this happened to this lovely man. Its sickening how people feel they have the right to treat people with no regard and respect. I think when this man is ready he will have plenty of good honest and loving ladies waiting for him. Best wishes for a happy future
I went through a similar thing.
Gareth you are a hero. Thank you for sharing your story
Wow ! Im so sorry this man went through this ... i just want to give him a hug. This is horrendous ! Just goes to show you never know whats going on behind closed doors.
Kudos to this lovely man for speaking out about this 😊❤
May you go on to heal from this sir 🙏🏼❤️
Unfortunately 😢, Domestic violence 😔 affects both genders! Not just women but males probably will not say anything. I applaud this guy for putting his story forward.
Thats really brave of him to talk about this! You have to be really strong to do that. He deserves someone who appreciates him and loves him.
This interview just shows they are not right for the job
😅
Pick yourself up and get on with what you want to do in life...., you seem a nice guy who " SHE " Abused, she's gone now.. forget her she certainly not worth anymore of your time or your thoughts... you will find someone nice.. wish you all the best for the future.....
Urgh working for a domestic abuse charity.. 20 months 2 years suspended.. is nothing! Disgusting! Also RO’s are broken all the time.. abusers don’t care! They will breach any conditions they don’t care. Poor guy thank god he escaped and is able to speak his story and help other men
He seems like such a lovely man - really sorry this happened to him. Always happens to the most kind hearted. He’s very brave and I’m so glad he got out of it.
Online dating is not dating. First red flag.
Sadly these days that’s how it goes..long gone are the days when we went to a disco/dance and could meet someone face to face 🤷♀️
@@chockycake1 Not everyone meets online dating, so that is incorrect lol
He’s such a kind person I hope he finds a good woman
Gareth
Well done for speaking out on the domestic abuse you endured by your ex wife
Stay strong and continue speaking out because I am sure there are a lot of other men been abused by their partner but will be too embarrassed to talk about it
Good luck in the future
What a brave man to talk about this, it's heartbreaking what she put him through ☹️
I am deeply sorry for what you have been through, very strong that you had spoken out.💗🌻🙏👨🏽🦽
As said by the presenter, he is a catch indeed. Wishing him well, and that life may bring him a new love in time.
i’m so glad i came across this video i can relate so much, my abusive ex partner was similar in the sense of if she was not getting her own way or having a bad day i would be the one she took it out on, there were times where i was signed off sick and she would flip things saying that i was pathetic she was the bread winner im a stay at home dad and a free taxi driving her here there and everywhere, times she would be forcing me to sleep in my car even though i had extremely important medication that would be left in the house that she’d refuse access for me. there were times i’d have to go and sleep in Tesco’s carpark using the car wash as shower facilities and to brush my teeth. it started off with verbal abuse which developed into mental abuse making every problem to be my fault never taking ownership for what she was doing to me, it got so bad with the mind games i felt like i was going crazy telling me i needed to be sectioned. after three years i became brain washed believing this is just what life is, i started self harming and overdosing with the intent of ending my life. one minute she’d be supportive the next i would feel alienated and that im sick! i eventually got away from her toxicity and even after the relationship ended she would harass me and be obsessive. all i wanted was to be left alone so i contacted the police and got a harassment order against her, her reply was ‘stop trying to play the victim.
She's an obvious narcissist. The reason why she thought she made a mistake is because he walked out on her, she wasn't finished with him! And no doubt, she will do the same to another man that can be easily manipulated. The narc can't change!
This is becoming a thing that pops up more & more as time goes on, I truly believe that relationships in this generation are doomed and destined to fail. I am so lucky and glad that I got out of my toxic 2 year relationship with my ex girlfriend when I did, same as this story... Love bombed me for the first 5/6 months and then as soon as I moved in and gave up my initial place & my life to move in with her, everything changed. Narcissistic, master manipulator, controlling behaviour. Really makes you appreciate being single. Any guys, girls out there reading this... Just be careful make sure that it's a balanced relationship & don't fall for the love bombing in the beginning stages.
I hope he's learnt his lesson. He needs to focus on himself and ensure he looks out for all the signs in his next relationship.
Well done to this guy for speaking out, my son was in a similar situation and took a long time to heal!! Eventually we went to court, he's now married and very happy. More needs to be done for the men who are in these situations my son was automatically assumed to be the aggressor and locked up !! I tried to get some emergency accommodation after she threw him out late at night but everything was geared up for women we need to be just as supportive for men.
Thanks for sharing
If he was the one who was doing this to her, he wouldn't have been given a suspended sentence.
Women always get lighter sentences as well. They should be charged exactly like men.
People who have not experienced this cannot possibly understand. I have known so many, male and female, although often not to such a degree. These people play on a vulnerability and then they have you, get a hold over you and pull the strings until the other person is in a constant state of fear and anxiety, resulting in brain fog so severe that the other person feels they are going crazy. My ex husband did it to me, this is how I know what it feels like. I have lost at least two female friends because they were treating their husbands in this way. Men very often suffer in silence due to the stigma that can be attached. This man is very brave to speak out.
Well done, don't let it prevent you from finding love, just take note of the red flags
What a lovely guy.
It's great Gareth reached out to the charity, Mankind.
Thousands of men will be more aware of such support.
I wonder if commiting too soon by leaving everything to live together is part of the problem. Couples are basically strangers, if that is so.
Gareth, enjoy your freedom - long may you thrive.
Nothing but respect for this man. Domestic abuse is genderless.
This is mad and quite upsetting as this took place in a house I used to live in that was a very loving family home. However since Sarah Rigby bought it off us she has turned it into a controlling and manipulative environment and tarnished all those amazing memories. Such a shame. Thoughts go out to Gareth and his family and hopefully they can reach some sort of normal again.
No says a thing when a man is abused and attacked by a women its not just men who can be aggressive
What’s wrong with people like this.
Well done ❤
She's a sicko😡
Aww bless him glad he got a way from the witch
The things like not allowed to use the toilet and couldn't use the shower are not normal he must of known that ,why would he still stay there just with them 2 things let alone everything else
100% for speaking up, plus it's good to see mainstream media covering domestic violence where female is in the wrong its not talked about enough.
Poor man
God bless him hope he meets someone decent and well done for speaking up as you don't know how many men you may helped seeing this who will get help or tell someone 😘
Aw bless him so glad he escaped that lunatic .I hope he can rebuild his life and be happy again he's so brave he's such a lovely man 😊
Been theremy friend just escaped a 3 years of torture mentally physically and lost everything and everyone because of her ,too anyone reading this who is in situation walk away it does get better and you find yourself as a person again trust me it's a process but its worth it in end self worth is paramount and your own needs rather that chaseing external validation
Good lad. People don't realise how difficult it can be for men to be in an abusive and controlling relationship, people don't take you seriously and just brush it off as your partner being high maintenance or "a diva"... but the mind games they tangle you up in are so destructive for your sense of self and even if you do manage to break away from that person it leaves you broken & hurting and it can take a lot of time to put your pieces back together and find yourself again. I hope he finds happiness in himself and in a relationship again soon ❤️
Mad he reported it and the police still assumed he was the problem
Her black eyebrows and blonde hair were the first red flag