he’s 41. Going through the same thing, honey. I’m the only one working. I work 2 jobs. I pay for car insurance, child support, I pay for food, his cell phone and mine and I’m the only one putting gas in the car. I just lost my dad so I have to take care of my mom. I drop my mom off with my brother before work and pick her up after. Now I drop him off there too. I have told him he needs a job. He can get one but then he quits or gets fired after a few weeks. I can’t deal with this much longer.
You show him by stating that you are going to put up with him not having anything or putting in anything because you want a man around. What does he do for you besides that? I’m curious
I met my ex when i was 25 and he didn’t work the whole time i was with him i even had to work while i was pregnant he was the laziest person I’ve ever met.
I don’t know how anybody could love somebody that doesn’t contribute and pay their fair share that is not what love is .if you have to pay for everything and you can’t make ends meet there’s no way you can love him. You may put up with it, but that doesn’t mean it’s love maybe it’s in security maybe it’s fear of being alone but I’d get rid of him and start even saving money while you’re still young being alone isn’t the worst thing in the world
He is not worth it. Love yourself more. There is nothing wrong with being single. You can atruggle on your own. You sont need a grown child to care for.
Wasted 3 years dude was 10 years older than me I paid for everything mind you I was 19 at the time, broke my heart bc I had to leave but love isn’t enough I was drowning in bills and all he ever said was “it’s going to be okay”
Good video. They only thing is why even ask for advice on how to save a relationship with someone who wants to take advantage of you? That's over to me.
My says he wants to work but he doesn’t know where he wants to work. So my question is does my boyfriend really want to work. My boyfriend is tired of talking about it which is why I am giving it a rest until the spring.
If he isn’t actively looking for work or putting in research to see what he wants to do he doesn’t care and just wants to be lazy. If you have to be the one to remind him to contribute he’s not worth your time
@@scubatuba1083 now he knows he wants to work. He wants to works at the place called ice. Which the is engineering. This time it was the right job. But I think he is depressed so we are going to try some depressed gummies.
I have same problem here . But my bf is 30yo. I tried to speak with him so many times during this realationship (2y he's not working and we are togetger 2.6) . Every time he said that he will find a job ,but nothing yet . Ok at least if i work my ass of as a weitress , I would expect to have worm meal when I come home ( also I'm buying food,cigarettes ,paying rent ,bills,feul etc ) and he dont know hoe to cook , he dont want to learn it. Sometim he make a bread ,but it doesnt taste good . I show him so many times tutorials ,but he dont want to do it that way. And also dont want to buy it . I feel so disrespectfull and angry . I know that I should break up with him , but you know how love works . One of Hardest desicion in my life ... What to do
sorry that you’re going through that with your bf. if you have to ask a man to find a job, then it’s time to leave that relationship. i learned it the hard way. i waited 18 years and still nothing changed. the longer you stay in the relationship, the harder it is to leave.
@mija radovic break up with him. Always love yourself more than the other person. No exceptions. If he loves you he’ll use the time post breakup to get himself together and come back.
I am going through this too, I want to move in with him in the future. He said I would love to live with you because you would just cover rent for me. I told him I would love to live with him. We were texting this late too so he said goodnight sweetie when I told him I would love to live him if he got a job.
@@lydiadelay5960 "Love to live with you coz you'd cover the rent" OMG! The audacity if this guy. Well there's your first red flag for starters.Doesn't sound like moving in with him would be a positive move.
@@anonymousone7448 I am going to give the job thing a rest until the spring, and if it changes. My mom also thinks that he will eventually want to move out and get a job. I hoping she is right.
I was a fool. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I married my husband in the temple. Commitments and covenants are a serious business--but covenants need to be kept by both sides. He got several jobs but lost them or quit them. He had a job and missed a lot of time. He came up with short paychecks. After having two paychecks that were $200 short of what they should have been so I decided to leave and legally divorce him. I had been married to him for 22 years. If I hadn't married in the temple no way would I have been married to him for that long. It was with guilt that I contacted a lawyer. My bishop who was on his second marriage--both he and his wife had been divorced--told me that divorced was not part of Jesus' plan. He wanted to arrange for us to have counseling. I was 47 years old and I didn't want to spend one second more in my marriage. After my divorce he stalked me at church. Several times he would slam me. He'd watch from outside and when he saw me he'd barge in the door and slam into me. I learned never to walk into the hallway alone. The first time he did it I saw the tension and the hate in his face and I was so glad I had divorced him. Your boyfriend won't change. If he gets a job--guess what? He'll quit or more likely get fired and you will be on the hook. You love him. Or do you love the man you hope he'll be? Please don't waste your young years on him. I spent just about all of my young adult years hoping this marriage would change and it never did. As I say, I was 47 when I finally left. I spend the years from 26 to 47 with this man--the best years of my life. Don't be a fool like me. Even if he gets a job--chances are he won't keep it. He might even lie to you about reasons why he can't work.
He found a life "loophole"; find yourself someone else to pay for bills so you can enjoy your "early retirement" on someone's else dime. Don't be a fool. Leave.
"Bills dont stop because you woke up sad this morning" such truth
😂 hilarious
he’s 41. Going through the same thing, honey. I’m the only one working. I work 2 jobs. I pay for car insurance, child support, I pay for food, his cell phone and mine and I’m the only one putting gas in the car. I just lost my dad so I have to take care of my mom. I drop my mom off with my brother before work and pick her up after. Now I drop him off there too. I have told him he needs a job. He can get one but then he quits or gets fired after a few weeks. I can’t deal with this much longer.
You show him by stating that you are going to put up with him not having anything or putting in anything because you want a man around. What does he do for you besides that? I’m curious
He just see you as a goldmine. He not motivated with n ambition. You can't change a man . He will have to change himself .
Enabler
Same thing I’d give him a time . I would then leave or have him leave . He doesn’t respect you . Teach him differently.
this is how i feel my bf hasnt worked in 6 years the cost of living has gone up and we have had another child i cant keep doing it all on my own
I met my ex when i was 25 and he didn’t work the whole time i was with him i even had to work while i was pregnant he was the laziest person I’ve ever met.
Why you be dating bums?
What do u do
I don’t know how anybody could love somebody that doesn’t contribute and pay their fair share that is not what love is .if you have to pay for everything and you can’t make ends meet there’s no way you can love him. You may put up with it, but that doesn’t mean it’s love maybe it’s in security maybe it’s fear of being alone but I’d get rid of him and start even saving money while you’re still young being alone isn’t the worst thing in the world
"Money isnt everything!?"- my homeless ex girlfriend
Don't ever fall for the depression excuse
Dang, my man always say this smfh
He is not worth it. Love yourself more. There is nothing wrong with being single. You can atruggle on your own. You sont need a grown child to care for.
I’d give him a date and that’s when he needs to get a full time job . I’d leave that day . Let him go home to mommy.
Wasted 3 years dude was 10 years older than me I paid for everything mind you I was 19 at the time, broke my heart bc I had to leave but love isn’t enough I was drowning in bills and all he ever said was “it’s going to be okay”
These men got serious Peter Pan Syndrome. Stop being a Wendy Darling…. Yes I’m talking to myself too. 😢
Good video. They only thing is why even ask for advice on how to save a relationship with someone who wants to take advantage of you? That's over to me.
Absolutely spot on.
Thank you.
No money no love
How do you not have more subs you preach the truth
He need to get a job.
Ha! Chances are he won't stay in his job. I've been there.
Thank you !
Sounds like he has a-lot of symptoms of covert narcissist. Red flag I wouldn’t marry the guy. Don’t be the rescuer it’s a dangerous Place to be
Or of ADHD and executive functioning issues. Regardless, he NEEDS to go see a professional for mental health.
My says he wants to work but he doesn’t know where he wants to work. So my question is does my boyfriend really want to work. My boyfriend is tired of talking about it which is why I am giving it a rest until the spring.
If he isn’t actively looking for work or putting in research to see what he wants to do he doesn’t care and just wants to be lazy. If you have to be the one to remind him to contribute he’s not worth your time
@@scubatuba1083 now he knows he wants to work. He wants to works at the place called ice. Which the is engineering. This time it was the right job. But I think he is depressed so we are going to try some depressed gummies.
I have same problem here . But my bf is 30yo. I tried to speak with him so many times during this realationship (2y he's not working and we are togetger 2.6) . Every time he said that he will find a job ,but nothing yet . Ok at least if i work my ass of as a weitress , I would expect to have worm meal when I come home ( also I'm buying food,cigarettes ,paying rent ,bills,feul etc ) and he dont know hoe to cook , he dont want to learn it. Sometim he make a bread ,but it doesnt taste good . I show him so many times tutorials ,but he dont want to do it that way. And also dont want to buy it .
I feel so disrespectfull and angry . I know that I should break up with him , but you know how love works . One of Hardest desicion in my life ... What to do
sorry that you’re going through that with your bf. if you have to ask a man to find a job, then it’s time to leave that relationship. i learned it the hard way. i waited 18 years and still nothing changed. the longer you stay in the relationship, the harder it is to leave.
@mija radovic break up with him. Always love yourself more than the other person. No exceptions. If he loves you he’ll use the time post breakup to get himself together and come back.
I am going through this too, I want to move in with him in the future. He said I would love to live with you because you would just cover rent for me. I told him I would love to live with him. We were texting this late too so he said goodnight sweetie when I told him I would love to live him if he got a job.
@@lydiadelay5960 "Love to live with you coz you'd cover the rent" OMG! The audacity if this guy.
Well there's your first red flag for starters.Doesn't sound like moving in with him would be a positive move.
@@anonymousone7448 I am going to give the job thing a rest until the spring, and if it changes. My mom also thinks that he will eventually want to move out and get a job. I hoping she is right.
I was a fool. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I married my husband in the temple. Commitments and covenants are a serious business--but covenants need to be kept by both sides. He got several jobs but lost them or quit them. He had a job and missed a lot of time. He came up with short paychecks. After having two paychecks that were $200 short of what they should have been so I decided to leave and legally divorce him. I had been married to him for 22 years. If I hadn't married in the temple no way would I have been married to him for that long. It was with guilt that I contacted a lawyer. My bishop who was on his second marriage--both he and his wife had been divorced--told me that divorced was not part of Jesus' plan. He wanted to arrange for us to have counseling. I was 47 years old and I didn't want to spend one second more in my marriage. After my divorce he stalked me at church. Several times he would slam me. He'd watch from outside and when he saw me he'd barge in the door and slam into me. I learned never to walk into the hallway alone. The first time he did it I saw the tension and the hate in his face and I was so glad I had divorced him. Your boyfriend won't change. If he gets a job--guess what? He'll quit or more likely get fired and you will be on the hook. You love him. Or do you love the man you hope he'll be? Please don't waste your young years on him. I spent just about all of my young adult years hoping this marriage would change and it never did. As I say, I was 47 when I finally left. I spend the years from 26 to 47 with this man--the best years of my life. Don't be a fool like me. Even if he gets a job--chances are he won't keep it. He might even lie to you about reasons why he can't work.
He found a life "loophole"; find yourself someone else to pay for bills so you can enjoy your "early retirement" on someone's else dime. Don't be a fool. Leave.
I’d leave