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  • The man she’s dating doesn’t like titles and wants to wait until he’s financially stable - but she’s not quite buying it. Should she stay or walk away?
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  • @reeree21
    @reeree21 5 років тому +1696

    "If you gonna ask God for something, you gotta make ready to receive it." well said Steve

    • @favouredWoman777
      @favouredWoman777 4 роки тому +2

      That was a WHOLE WORD right there!!! Where's the offering tray? I wanna put my tithes in there

    • @aichitoshiki1321
      @aichitoshiki1321 4 роки тому +19

      I gotta remember that advice

    • @albrat1563
      @albrat1563 4 роки тому +2

      @@aichitoshiki1321 me too
      that was a wise one

    • @gurpreetrayat9210
      @gurpreetrayat9210 4 роки тому +11

      It’s an advice his mother gave him. He kept it near and dear to his heart, so he can pass it on. She taught him well. It’s true what he said.

    • @mercedeswilkins9085
      @mercedeswilkins9085 Рік тому +1

      Amen

  • @goudjomichel
    @goudjomichel 5 років тому +4083

    As a man, let me tell you, men know what they want.
    Pack up sis.

  • @ladyJ_000
    @ladyJ_000 5 років тому +2659

    Starting over after 6 years is better than wasting another 20 unhappy

    • @wilrobles9824
      @wilrobles9824 5 років тому +8

      Yes.

    • @alexandragisellechavez3564
      @alexandragisellechavez3564 5 років тому +7

      amen

    • @Onguard8737
      @Onguard8737 5 років тому +20

      But why wait six damn year for a reality check 😂

    • @Blessedabove
      @Blessedabove 5 років тому +3

      You said that! 👏💣👏

    • @misterrex684
      @misterrex684 5 років тому +7

      women at that age will need several years to get a new decent partner because most men are at that point in a long term relationship and have families

  • @dr.bassmab552
    @dr.bassmab552 5 років тому +447

    When I met my man a year ago, he wasn’t making much and was financially unstable but right after we started to date, he changed his job to a better one , trying to pay his debts, and still looking to increase his income .. he is working on getting back to school .. he sat plans and goals that include us .. he never once said that we can’t move forward because of his finances ( with around 30k).. he proposed to me 7 months of our relationship .. it is not a 10 thousands dollar ring but I love it .. even his family said he became a new person.. btw I have never asked him once to change anything in himself for me .. he did it because he loves me ..
    Girls don’t waste your time chasing and waiting for someone who doesn’t want to be with you or trying hard to be with you

    • @nosipho4899
      @nosipho4899 2 роки тому +9

      I love this 😀. So happy for you 💗

    • @TheWilDOn31
      @TheWilDOn31 2 роки тому +33

      He found something worth fighting for, he found his motivation. ♥

    • @Savvieyoung
      @Savvieyoung 2 роки тому

      ❤️

    • @bdn6078
      @bdn6078 2 роки тому +9

      That’s the key you never asked him to change or force him to speed up his life

    • @melvinbarnes6652
      @melvinbarnes6652 2 роки тому +22

      @@bdn6078 Nope. the key was he found the women he wanted. Within months a man knows whether or not he is going to marry a woman and he will lock her down QUICKLY. He won't risk losing her to another man. If marriage is what u desire and he hasn't proposed within a year, move on. He don't want you.

  • @SUN-it6rf
    @SUN-it6rf 2 роки тому +304

    Perfect advice ! I left my husband of 19 years. Nothing was going to change. I was 20 when I married him and left when I was 39. Did not want to be 40 and regret. I remarried when I was 49 and still married to a wonderful man for 18 years.
    Leave this guy and find a finer guy. 💗💗💗

    • @SUN-it6rf
      @SUN-it6rf 2 роки тому +5

      @@savithrivenugopal God bless you my dear. You will be very strong and go on with your wonderful life without any regrets. Stay blessed. Praying for you. 🤗🤗🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @zayu871
      @zayu871 2 роки тому +1

      thank u for such a great comment

    • @SUN-it6rf
      @SUN-it6rf 2 роки тому +1

      @@zayu871 🙏🏼🙏🏼💖💖

    • @emilykarimikivecu1486
      @emilykarimikivecu1486 2 роки тому +4

      I have been living with a man for 12yrs, we have 2 children with him. He hates to spend even the least amount of time with me except when we are in bed. He can't pay for house rent and always complain I place myself so high ie I take the kids to very expensive school, I should take a cheaper house if I want him to pay. I tried begging him to just pay a portion of the rent and I will pay the rest which he refused. The guy can't buy even food for the family and complain about everything I do not unless I pay for everything without asking him for anything. I have come to a point where I feel leaving him is the only best solution but I don't know what tell my kids.

    • @kenasssss
      @kenasssss Рік тому +5

      @@emilykarimikivecu1486 LEAVE. NOW. Leave in silence, say nothing, simply disappear and make sure your kids are safe. Do not engage in arguments, do not talk to him while alone. Bounce and live your life.

  • @suzanpeters1093
    @suzanpeters1093 5 років тому +2153

    She already had the answer, but needed validation.. I hope she heeds his advice! 😀

    • @highlyfavored2434
      @highlyfavored2434 5 років тому +38

      It's better to start over and find what you're looking for instead of wasting more time. She has already waited 6 years

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому +4

      💯

    • @defenderofdecency7218
      @defenderofdecency7218 4 роки тому +13

      It is likely she won't listen to Steve and will keep the guy for another some years until she has had it and will call it quits. By then she has wasted some more valuable time.

    • @bronzb.1499
      @bronzb.1499 4 роки тому

      Probably did not

    • @sethmorgan833
      @sethmorgan833 3 роки тому

      She didn't she stayed with the bum

  • @claracastillo7996
    @claracastillo7996 5 років тому +1717

    Steve, your Mom was a very wise woman. I love that story 😊

    • @anjelaramirez7719
      @anjelaramirez7719 5 років тому +7

      I loved the story aswell SO TRUE !! 🙄😀😂

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 5 років тому +19

      Clara Castillo...at first I was like where is Steve going with this story. But it makes hella sense! I think a lotta women are scared of being alone, starting over & facing reality of the piece of 💩they are currently with & like they story said...u gotta get that old crap outta there 1st!
      Hope she realizes that she can do better before she gets more invested(having children, marriage & home). But he weak as hell for the no title bs! Where they do dat @ mr 37yr old?? Boy bye 👋🏾 !

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 4 роки тому +1

      sour airhead, who hurt u sweetie? Lotta hostility in your response. U must be alone. FYI, I’ve been happily married for 20yrs.

  • @V33KTOR_NG
    @V33KTOR_NG 5 років тому +1613

    I'm broke AF; I decided not to go into a relationship because I ain't ready yet.
    Stop wasting another man's daughter time. Set that baby free & join us my brother.

    • @ericharrisgmail
      @ericharrisgmail 5 років тому +26

      V33kTOR NG 😂😂

    • @Thechicagolion
      @Thechicagolion 5 років тому +11

      👍🏼🤣🤣

    • @Noix009
      @Noix009 5 років тому +48

      Your comment is super hilarious!!!!!!

    • @thrilla72
      @thrilla72 5 років тому +50

      If despite him not being financially ready she still wants him... Why has he not married her!?

    • @quitecontrary23
      @quitecontrary23 5 років тому +86

      This comment isn't even funny he's being real

  • @teegsyd
    @teegsyd Рік тому +40

    That is exactly what she needed! Look at her face beam! I hope she’s happy now ❤

  • @miljanaantic8712
    @miljanaantic8712 4 роки тому +77

    Steve is so right. You give a men 2 options - to treat you right, or leave. Everytime I set those boundaries to some guy I dated, that revealed their true intentions with me.
    Dear ladies, don't be afraid letting someone leave if it is perfectly right thing to do. As Steve said, some breakups are blessing. It is much healthier to stay single instead of being desperate and investing yourself in guys who are not good for you.

    • @user-he5fd4bc2e
      @user-he5fd4bc2e 2 роки тому

      I would love and respect you for ever beautiful Miljiana

    • @mlungisimasuku5267
      @mlungisimasuku5267 Рік тому

      Not it not like their but the fact is I need you as I want to be your man.For the fact of having what always will make me and you happy in truly with the present of God everything we can have.

  • @stephanieekezie1479
    @stephanieekezie1479 5 років тому +1601

    37 years old, not financially stable and he doesn’t want a title 😳😳😳😳.. run away.

    • @3ma_lengend
      @3ma_lengend 4 роки тому +44

      Why are relationships one sided what does she bring to the table is she stable

    • @bronzb.1499
      @bronzb.1499 4 роки тому +33

      Probably already has a woman

    • @antoinettejohnson2188
      @antoinettejohnson2188 4 роки тому +10

      🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

    • @3ma_lengend
      @3ma_lengend 3 роки тому +9

      @Marly B I agree he should of put a title on the relationship but a lot of women want men to take care of them nothing wrong with that but she has to be down to take care of him when he's down and out women talk about equality they wouldn't do the same thing there waiting on a man to do

    • @MelaniaRose
      @MelaniaRose 3 роки тому +66

      @@3ma_lengend Too risky. When a man becomes financially stable he goes after the woman he really wants.

  • @byiza9484
    @byiza9484 5 років тому +812

    The fact that he don’t like titles speaks volumes! She refer to him as her friend. Read between the lines baby girl. He is not looking to commit period. In so many words he’s making that clear.

    • @deva190
      @deva190 5 років тому +38

      Yes. Don't spend years with someone who doesn't want titles unless that's what you want too.

    • @christenr7365
      @christenr7365 5 років тому +28

      Exactly
      Men who say I don’t like titles usually means some other woman is in the picture
      She also said they’ve been on and off for a few years as well.
      She’s a beautiful woman she can find herself a wonderful man.
      I hope she took Steve’s advice!!!!! And I hope she watches this clip and reads all our comments to help motivate her!

    • @stausskane3227
      @stausskane3227 5 років тому +2

      But if I girl ain ready to commit then its it's perfectly fine

    • @maryluvsmusic9298
      @maryluvsmusic9298 5 років тому +4

      Abdul Manssour...yup, I agree! He is full of it! She betta run honey cause next you gonna be pregnant 🤰🏾& that’s a whole new can of worms! Be with someone that is proud to call u his woman. Don’t settle! People treat u how u allow them to.

    • @nicolelewis6312
      @nicolelewis6312 5 років тому +1

      Sad.🤷‍♀️

  • @haemusic1
    @haemusic1 5 років тому +215

    That is priceless advice. "Get rid of that old car sitting up on cinder blocks."

    • @outsideworld76
      @outsideworld76 5 років тому

      Hey hey... No man is going to pay full price for used or damaged cars...

  • @gurpreetrayat9210
    @gurpreetrayat9210 4 роки тому +74

    Damn I started crying when he was talking about his mother. The teachings our parents give us. We keep them so we can pass them along as we meet people. ♥️ this is how we make our world a better place.

  • @susiesimmons2796
    @susiesimmons2796 5 років тому +7

    WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE WE GOING TO DO WITHOUT THE STEVE HARVEY SHOW?????? His wisdom, grace, humor, and straightforwardness is so needed when it comes to considering the cost of having a REAL, PURPOSEFUL relationship with someone.

  • @chaffls8786
    @chaffls8786 5 років тому +443

    Steve’s analogy was for me!!!!! Ouchhhhh

    • @hearthomepurposewithangeli906
      @hearthomepurposewithangeli906 5 років тому +3

      Me too!

    • @chinanguyen2260
      @chinanguyen2260 5 років тому +2

      Same here !!!!

    • @juded8530
      @juded8530 5 років тому

      You pretty @Chaff LS. I will like to get to know you.

    • @skyblade1258
      @skyblade1258 5 років тому

      @@MissBehaving888 marriage? What went wrong?

    • @datsbaykan
      @datsbaykan 5 років тому

      @@skyblade1258 Hun he just changed after marriage and now won't leave or let me leave. He thinks the 18 years I've given isn't enough and wants another chance. The red flags were there i just kept making excuses He just seemed to resent me as if had forced him to marry me and get into debt. İ am not a materialistic person at all. But now I'm trying to divorce as I thought I'd met the perfect man for me until a few days ago. This new guy wow was everything I could ask for. Willing to wait till my divorce was final. Just 4 days ago I found out something worry some about him. I don't think I could ever trust him. And he knows i know but hasn't really made an effort since to convince that he truly does love. That it all wasn't a big game to him. Oh well. It's a big nope from me for both my ex and my potential future partner lol. Unlucky in love am i :(

  • @yannickm.2648
    @yannickm.2648 5 років тому +98

    Sister is GORGEOUS!😍
    I hope she will make a wise decision

    • @voiceofreason4u147
      @voiceofreason4u147 5 років тому

      She WITH his cousin now

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 4 роки тому +1

      @@voiceofreason4u147 in other words he did the right thing

  • @bestseller8735
    @bestseller8735 5 років тому +154

    And let the church say Amen!

    • @3ma_lengend
      @3ma_lengend 4 роки тому

      What are relationship one sided what she bring to the table is she stable

  • @MatthewCoast
    @MatthewCoast 4 роки тому +191

    You should have walked away a long time ago.

  • @meganreed1989
    @meganreed1989 3 роки тому +128

    I’ve been right where she’s at. It was either I would put in another 6 years with a guy who wouldn’t commit with marriage or I walk away. It ripped everything out in me to leave but I knew I deserved better. My man I’m with now proposed in 8 months, we have a house and two cats. Getting married this spring 💕 When someone shows you who they are believe them and don’t try to paint them into something they aren’t.

    • @theinformedstudent7395
      @theinformedstudent7395 2 роки тому +2

      Wow. This is amazing

    • @maddieek6865
      @maddieek6865 2 роки тому +3

      You give me hope LOL

    • @sealife22
      @sealife22 Рік тому

      What if it's you who isn't sure 😢 not him

    • @harumiayame8586
      @harumiayame8586 10 місяців тому

      If it's you, then do not waste his time. It doesn't take multiple years. Clearly he's nice but not want you want. Let him find someone else who wants all of him.

  • @tebony06
    @tebony06 5 років тому +389

    Steve’s like the father I never had. Thank you ❤️ #Gems

    • @MissBehaving888
      @MissBehaving888 5 років тому +6

      I love him!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @tebony06
      @tebony06 5 років тому +3

      Miss Behaving Me too! So much Wisdom

    • @voiceofreason4u147
      @voiceofreason4u147 5 років тому +2

      Ahhhh baby just don't look for a father in your boyfriend....

    • @reneemyricks4306
      @reneemyricks4306 5 років тому

      @@voiceofreason4u147 story of my life

  • @annal3155
    @annal3155 5 років тому +287

    In this case, mr. Steve have a good point!!! She’s woman of certain age and ain’t nobody got time for that. She waited 6!!! Years and he’s not stable in his late 30s... time to move on sorry

    • @jamesroberts7115
      @jamesroberts7115 5 років тому +3

      Anna L I’m stable and doing well but I still haven’t find a stable woman yet 🤔

    • @S-u-r-e-n
      @S-u-r-e-n 5 років тому

      Hayeeer 💪🇦🇲🇦🇲

    • @jamesroberts7115
      @jamesroberts7115 4 роки тому +1

      LadyD I don’t think you got it right because some women have history of bad relationships,When a good man dates these women they can’t stay with a good man it sad

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 4 роки тому

      No ma'am ur incorrect about nobody having time for that at that age. Women don't have time for that ...that's y'all's issue not ours. I would employ men to move at their own pace that biological clock isn't ticking in our heads.

    • @femininityoverfeminism212
      @femininityoverfeminism212 4 роки тому +7

      spazz 8469 that’s only partially true. You don’t have a biological clock, but most women in their 20s doesn’t want a substantial age gap. Most women want someone their age to perhaps 5 years older. If a man in his forties wants to date younger women he will find himself with a smaller dating pool.
      Furthermore, women should never allow themselves to be taken advantage of even if they’re in their early twenties or thirties. It’s not moral for a man to take multiple years from a women’s life without committing.

  • @jsmum196
    @jsmum196 5 років тому +58

    Steve's mama must have been an amazing beautiful woman! Steve is carrying on for her. God bless you Steve.

  • @moniquephillips2415
    @moniquephillips2415 4 роки тому +4

    I'm in tears ,cause it sounds like Steve was talking directly to me

  • @tida9804
    @tida9804 5 років тому +60

    By the end of the first sentence I was already aggravated. A whole six years of your God given life.....I'm tired 😭
    P. S: Steve is our online father

  • @shewearsmanyhats377
    @shewearsmanyhats377 5 років тому +334

    Soon as he is comfortable with titles he'll be moving on to someone else.. Don't waste your time honey...

  • @Briwiththebighair
    @Briwiththebighair 5 років тому +852

    37 and not financially stable?!?! 37 and not into titles?? This fool has some serious growing up to do and you need to run sis!!

    • @Footballer85749
      @Footballer85749 5 років тому +24

      This would be assuming shes telling the truth. Again one side of the story, if shes not happy just leave dont see why asking Steve on National TV is a part of the equation

    • @Footballer85749
      @Footballer85749 5 років тому +21

      @@leemahay6742 relating does not equate to truth. But when it is all said and done she is staying in a situation she doesn't want to yet it's the guys fault..laughable.

    • @stausskane3227
      @stausskane3227 5 років тому +58

      But if a girl is 37 and not financially stable then its fine

    • @jamesroberts7115
      @jamesroberts7115 5 років тому +2

      Jenny Musa nah I can’t relate to this guy that not a grown man yet

    • @Briwiththebighair
      @Briwiththebighair 5 років тому +3

      RealBlessed I’m not assuming anything. My comment is based solely off the video. If she believes he is not stable based off her mentality and experiences then that’s all that matters. Everything is based on perception and that’s hers. She is the one dating him so if she feels that way there’s a reason. So as stated that’s ridiculous!

  • @beatricelaurent5059
    @beatricelaurent5059 5 років тому +146

    “He’s uncomfortable with title “ Steve face changed quickly 😂😂

    • @omopapa
      @omopapa 5 років тому +7

      Mine did too. Smh. I could see the pain on her face while she was talking. 😞

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому +1

      😭

  • @sussexseaangler1858
    @sussexseaangler1858 5 років тому +10

    Steve is so good with his stories! He puts it all in perspective and clarifies to perfection!

  • @yanicketienne1464
    @yanicketienne1464 5 років тому +174

    No matter your age, I wish more women would 'get' Steve's advice before investing all these years in such relationships. Sheesh!!

    • @3ma_lengend
      @3ma_lengend 4 роки тому

      What are relationship one sided what she bring to the table is she stable

  • @jaydepalmer17
    @jaydepalmer17 5 років тому +33

    Preach!!!! Forget the title "uncle Steve" you "Daddy Steve"!!! That right there was the truth! #lifelessons

  • @X266.
    @X266. 5 років тому +1424

    37 years old and he is not financial stable yet!!!! either he a loser or he is just not that into you, girl move on .

    • @Chutney1luv
      @Chutney1luv 5 років тому +64

      That sounds about right! He's middle age! Half way to retirement! I'd keep my legs closed on this one!! 😏😒😏😒

    • @JohnJohn-jm9oi
      @JohnJohn-jm9oi 5 років тому +200

      And I bet all you ladies here in your 30,s are financially stable

    • @malibuice650
      @malibuice650 5 років тому +256

      You dont know his situation as to why hes not financially stable. Job loss, disability, debt, and you flat out call him a loser. That's the problem with you women these days. You expect a man to give you absolutely everything and you do/give nothing in return. Have fun being single with that mindset.

    • @DeAndreTJ
      @DeAndreTJ 5 років тому +139

      @@malibuice650 Right. I've seen a lot of women in their 40's and 50's who are heavily indebted living paycheck to paycheck while dating.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 5 років тому +35

      @@malibuice650 Wrong. We give far FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR FAR MORE. THERE IS NO REASON. Women have more hardship then men. Men can get a job far more easily, make far more and get a promotion far more easily as well.

  • @mrsindianmonroe
    @mrsindianmonroe 5 років тому +57

    You gave him the best gift that you could give.... Your time! Sadly you can't get that back as Steve said "ask yourself do you want to continue another six years of this?!" I myself was in same situation and sadly took me a while to leave it hurt but it was best and I got something even better out of it a blessing I've been wanting for the longest...a man who claimed me and wanted me and swooped me up before anyone else could and put a ring on my finger! thank God I let go and got something better I been praying for the longest. Your a beautiful woman there is a guy out there who'll see your worth and will swoop you up as well and you'll be happy that you let go for better 😊🌸

    • @cnsummers4086
      @cnsummers4086 5 років тому +2

      Amen!! 👏

    • @KPITGangsta
      @KPITGangsta 5 років тому

      He meant to say your youth and your beauty instead of time. Plus, you can't ever tell what she's been doing or done to him beforehand. Better to keep hopping while securing bags and blaming bad guys.

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 4 роки тому

      Is he not giving her his time ? O don't understand this mentality that somehow her time is more valuable than his ?

  • @TheIndiaMonet
    @TheIndiaMonet 5 років тому +3

    Felt this on a spiritual level

  • @jemonthebrain
    @jemonthebrain 4 роки тому +12

    Her outfit and smile are amazing. Hopefully she gets her ‘new car’.

    • @paralegalkc
      @paralegalkc 4 роки тому +1

      Jemimah Ngu a new one with hydrolics

  • @stesfai
    @stesfai 5 років тому +15

    I teared up watching this. Bless you Mr. Harvey.

  • @christylouis2611
    @christylouis2611 5 років тому +310

    6 years and he can't even call you his girl? 🙄 Sis, miss me with all that. She is way too beautiful to be having some 37 year old boy who can't even call her his girl after nearly a decade. That's insanity. There are plenty of guys who'd be willing to call her their girl after a month or so of dating.

    • @cookiegirl891
      @cookiegirl891 5 років тому +5

      Christy Louis facts

    • @willicollins2069
      @willicollins2069 5 років тому +7

      It is a Fact women enjoy this kind of attitude from a man. If you are a good guy , you don't stand a chance

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 5 років тому +9

      That's it he's not a man he's an immature boy, she's wasting her time with him

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому

      Diddy style.. lol although Diddy even put a title I think..

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 4 роки тому +1

      And u will still find a way to disrespect them and call them a boy. I applaud the man for sticking to script something alot of women simply can't do

  • @yolandahilliman4493
    @yolandahilliman4493 5 років тому +44

    Sis , I said the same thing and invested 23 years for nothing. The only thing I am proud of, out of that relationship, is the child I now have. Love Steve's response. Well said

  • @jocejoy
    @jocejoy 5 років тому +10

    PREACH! He's speaking truth !!!!! 6 years in, 37 years old and still waiting to be financially stable, not into titles... smh A man claims what is his! No matter if he's broke! If he sees you as a wife material, he will say to the all world you are HIS! Women deserve so much better than some guys like this...
    I put an ultimatum to an ex boyfriend, I was afraid of doing this because I knew, deep inside, that our relationship will be over. He ran away. He got a new girlfriend the next week. He broke up with her at some point. He tried to get in touch with me less than a year after we broke up. But the thing is, I was so over him. I cried a lot, prayed a lot, and after all this time, I was happy that the universe got rid of this guy from my life. I was working on myself, on my body, on my mental health, on my attitude of gratitude, on my work goals, and so on. Everything happens for a reason. Life doesn't happen to you but for you.

  • @NaturalFactual
    @NaturalFactual 5 років тому +2

    Amen, say it again Steve. Many individuals need to hear this.

  • @azer-kurdi5045
    @azer-kurdi5045 5 років тому +619

    Damn she is very beautiful and cute
    edit:I ve never got223 likes on youtube before
    thx guys

  • @yaishathomas796
    @yaishathomas796 5 років тому +142

    I really need to hear this. This is my present situation, I'm so tired of waiting on this man to gain his financial independence. Tired of taking up his slack. Rather to be single and not feeling burden down.

    • @malabeyes8090
      @malabeyes8090 5 років тому +13

      Its my current situation too i want to end it but my heart keeps stoping me to do it

    • @yaishathomas796
      @yaishathomas796 5 років тому +4

      @@malabeyes8090 my heart has been like this for awhile. My heart telling me one thing and my mind saying something else. I loan this man over $250,000 towards his business. I support this man emotionally and all the "ally" you can think of and it's like I'm still not doing anything.

    • @malabeyes8090
      @malabeyes8090 5 років тому +6

      @@yaishathomas796 no you did enaugh you didn support him emotionally but also financially i think you r a sweat hearted lady and you deserve better don't blame yourself u did ur best now he has to reward you by him doing his best to you

    • @yaishathomas796
      @yaishathomas796 5 років тому +3

      @@malabeyes8090 I'm psychologically drain. You just be strong in whatsoever decision you choose and don't loose yourself like what happening to me now

    • @maryolie9585
      @maryolie9585 5 років тому +4

      @@malabeyes8090, same here.
      But one day soon, I'll leave him for good... I'm almost there!

  • @caudenciamoraa5148
    @caudenciamoraa5148 5 років тому +36

    Good teaching sir.I better clear my driveway

  • @kandicegarrett9721
    @kandicegarrett9721 5 років тому +4

    That's was a good one!!
    "He is in the driveway , on blocks!" Gotta get prepared for your blessing. 🙌🙌

  • @lasugarlipz8939
    @lasugarlipz8939 5 років тому +2

    HEY STEVE IM A HUGE FAN OF YOUR HEY STEVE SEGMENT.... SINCE I MISS IT DURING THE DAY I WATCH IT ON UA-cam BEFORE I GO TO SLEEP ....AND JUST WANTED TO LET U KNOW THAT MY DRIVEWAY HAS BEEN CLEARED UP FOR 5MONTHS AND NOT PLANNING ON LETTING NO ONE PARK IN IT ANY TIME SOON MEANWHILE I GOT MYSELF A BUS PASS AND MEETING NEW PEOPLE TIL IM READY TO GET A NEW RIDE .... U HAVE HELPED ME IN SO MANY WAYS ESPECIALLY IN MY LOVE LIFE THANK YOU I APPRECIATE IT FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART 😁😁😁😁

  • @andieclem5401
    @andieclem5401 5 років тому +30

    Steve Harvey is one of smartest man. God bless that man

  • @Rashaadthegr8
    @Rashaadthegr8 5 років тому +185

    I wish these guests had ig pages. I have a job she dont have to wait 6 more seconds.lol.

  • @sus30t
    @sus30t 5 років тому +13

    Man !!! Stevie a living legend 💯 obviously his mama was legend too 🙏🙌

  • @mwhitehall889
    @mwhitehall889 4 роки тому +2

    So real.
    Steve, your mother was a wise woman.
    Thanks.
    Blessings.
    Franny P.

  • @favouredWoman777
    @favouredWoman777 4 роки тому +2

    You betta SPEAK Steve! That Steve got some preach in Him! He know he be on point!

  • @missnlahi
    @missnlahi 5 років тому +25

    Man I understand her pain. Trust yourself girl and move forward

  • @maryolie9585
    @maryolie9585 5 років тому +10

    Thank you Steve Harvey!
    It's time!
    Out with the old
    In with the new

  • @tracyt2991
    @tracyt2991 5 років тому +6

    That's some heartbreaking truth right there!👏👏👏

  • @solrex2504
    @solrex2504 5 років тому +3

    Steve's stories are golden teaching for all people no matter the financial life but he always love to give from his own life experience for us to learn. He is 62 I think a man with that history must something to say for the young to learn. God bless Steve and his family forever. Great example.

  • @JonnyCoolMelt
    @JonnyCoolMelt 4 роки тому +4

    Steve’s mom was a very thoughtful lady!
    What a great analogy...

  • @MaxCharpentier
    @MaxCharpentier 5 років тому +111

    How you’re with someone for 6 years and that’s your “friend”? This guy needs to stop playing games. Whatever his situation is, he needs to work on that first then when everything is in order, now he can start dating.

    • @justkartis1398
      @justkartis1398 5 років тому +2

      Max Charpentier Exactly!!

    • @BluDrop5
      @BluDrop5 5 років тому +6

      They're probably having sex...

    • @Footballer85749
      @Footballer85749 5 років тому +6

      People are so quick to blame the dude and he hasn't even spoken it's just her word versus nothing. Read between the lines people. He has likely told her the deal and she has accepted it but reluctantly, but is looking for anyway to change it. why do you think she is on the show asking Steve for advice?

    • @tinychamberz
      @tinychamberz 5 років тому +1

      @@Footballer85749 exactly. People will do things you allow them to do.

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому

      @@BluDrop5 🎯🎯🎯

  • @divinerae4966
    @divinerae4966 5 років тому +44

    If a man can’t give you a position move on. Don’t be scared of fear to start over plus you still young girl. Remember men can do some things that women would never get away with.

  • @rahmaa9791
    @rahmaa9791 5 років тому +13

    I love this response from Steve!! I agree 100 percent

  • @Nicole-bj6qv
    @Nicole-bj6qv 5 років тому +12

    His mom seems wise. I loved that story. 🙌🏼 And sometimes the thing that you don't wanna do, is the thing that you need to do.

  • @alexandriawilliams7532
    @alexandriawilliams7532 5 років тому +7

    I showed this to my “boyfriend” and we broke up 3 days later. Not sure if i was the old car to him, but he was definitely the old raggedy pos on blocks for me. Needless to say, I’ll take some time to heal and go get me a new car! Thanks Steve.

    • @outsideworld76
      @outsideworld76 5 років тому

      Unfortunately you will never be a new car either.

  • @butdidyouknow1
    @butdidyouknow1 5 років тому +11

    1:18 You can tell a lot of women in the audience felt that in their spirit. We;ve all been there.

  • @AEvans36963
    @AEvans36963 5 років тому +99

    This young lady gave this man 6 yrs of her life and hasn't gotten the return on the investment she's made. She should cut her losses and move on because he figures as long as she's willing to keep the status quo, he sees no reason to change it. He hasn't in 6 yrs. After 3 yrs she should have had a clue.

    • @thecurator2626
      @thecurator2626 5 років тому +9

      3 months is long enough

    • @sabaande
      @sabaande 5 років тому +5

      @@thecurator2626 Exactly ...3-6 mths...all while dating other men too until you narrow down to the one who is serious about you.

    • @fayepatrice1672
      @fayepatrice1672 5 років тому +11

      3 months getting to know him without officially dating. Another 3-6 months dating exclusively. After that, I tell him what I expect from a relationship and he has to be able to tell me what his plans are. If those plans don’t involve marriage in the future, I am gone. The first time I did this, we continued dating for 2 years until I moved away for work and we broke up. The second time I did this, I got my husband. Men aren’t mind readers. I believe in being honest about you want and willing to walk away if they can’t give you that.

    • @thecurator2626
      @thecurator2626 5 років тому +12

      I told my husband day one what I required of and from him. He married me before 6 months passed. 9 years going strong. Stop letting these bs men waste your time. Stop tiptoeing around what you want. If you want it, require it. If he doesn't rise to the occasion, he wasn't for you. There are other fish in this big ass pond.

    • @stausskane3227
      @stausskane3227 5 років тому +5

      But yet if it were a girl in that situation then it's perfectly ok

  • @preetrayat4851
    @preetrayat4851 5 років тому +5

    Aaww you’re mom was a wise woman. God bless her soul. I don’t know why but as you were telling your story about your mother I started crying. Mamas are always right. We need to hear them out. And sir you’re pretty wise too. Thanks for sharing your stories. 🙂 I do learn a lot. 💕

  • @nehemiahnaga3135
    @nehemiahnaga3135 2 роки тому

    3:45 such a sweet smile.

  • @taydef6720
    @taydef6720 4 роки тому +22

    My best friend from high school met this guy when she was 24, she spent not 5, not 10 years, but 18 years in love with this guy who never settled down on anything..finally after all those wasted years she moved on continued living her life, working hard, and one day she met a new guy (momma's boy) she spent 5 years dating this unemployed careless guy, she used to pay anytime they went out and finally one day she called me to tell me the good news: the guy finally proposed.. she paid for almost everything for her wedding reception, but she looked so happy at her wedding day that I felt little guilty for being so harsh sometimes about the guy, but only after 6 or 7 months into her marriage the mom's guy kicked her out of the house ( yeap the guy took her to live at his mom's house, with Mom included), the guy continue living with mommy and never tried to go after my friend and live as a couple in their own place. Long story short: she's been waiting on this dude to settle down for a total of 15 years by now...she is 50 years old now and she wasted years and years of her life on men who now are happy married or dating someone else. LADIES believe me this is a real life story.. don't waste time on a man who doesn't wants to commit believe me doesn't worth it. Don't waste your time because that time will never ever came back...

    • @kaushikipal3407
      @kaushikipal3407 5 місяців тому +1

      I'm a 19 , reading this after 4 years and feeling absolutely horrible. I don't know much about the world , my boyfriend is 19 too and kinda broke , he is a student. I overthink coz he doesn't come from wealthy family but he has dreams and potential,but whatever happens I will seek advice on marriage and finance from my
      parents . Gosh, I can't imagine. Hope that lady is doing good now.

    • @IRONCORE20
      @IRONCORE20 5 місяців тому

      @@kaushikipal3407 I am a 28 year old man ,This is how girls are actually wasting your best years with fools 1st thing is you should clearly know what u want from a relationship? is it money , family or home security or love or all of it. A girl is best for child birth is between 17 to 25 means at this stage your body will regenerate very fast and things will be ok but a girl's best years are spend on cheap dating tiktok and education and when your age passes no man values you because your best years have gone and also women are selfish and with this reason women just becomes a liability for a man. Just like another child but you call yourself as wife.

  • @yamaha1313
    @yamaha1313 5 років тому +234

    Alot a women going be waiting for a long time.....

    • @franklinbrandon5283
      @franklinbrandon5283 5 років тому +23

      Haha FACTS!!! WE AIN'T MARRYING NO MORE

    • @rebecca4829
      @rebecca4829 5 років тому +26

      @@franklinbrandon5283
      Some women will still find marriage material men.

    • @franklinbrandon5283
      @franklinbrandon5283 5 років тому +7

      rebecca yeah maybe one woman out of 100!!!

    • @rebecca4829
      @rebecca4829 5 років тому +10

      @@franklinbrandon5283
      Then that means majority of dudes are trash....?

    • @franklinbrandon5283
      @franklinbrandon5283 5 років тому +22

      rebecca haha nah that means all most all women AREN'T WORTH investing in...

  • @hearthomepurposewithangeli906
    @hearthomepurposewithangeli906 5 років тому +5

    Wow, I love this message and I love the way Steve delivers them. He's got that old wisdom.

  • @mbali9311
    @mbali9311 2 роки тому +8

    I’ve seen this before, Uncle Steve’s advice is on point! Also...men who are financially unstable tend to be proud and often stubborn even when their circumstance doesn’t allow. They will let golden opportunities. I think men must step in and help advise eachother...maybe they can understand each other better. 💛

  • @cashlindontv7293
    @cashlindontv7293 3 роки тому +2

    Dude Steve always make some good old school stories that relatable. Man good job.

  • @meilad4178
    @meilad4178 4 роки тому +2

    I love Steve. Here is a true inspiration. He always has some wise words to teach.

  • @abigailfreeman5544
    @abigailfreeman5544 5 років тому +5

    I really needed to hear this thank you Steve for all you do saying hello from Nigeria

  • @patriciawilliams3458
    @patriciawilliams3458 5 років тому +4

    You are just a born genius when it comes to relationship advices.

  • @jessicamartinez5757
    @jessicamartinez5757 5 років тому +20

    Jesus spoke to me through this video!!!!! Thank you Uncle Steve!!!

  • @DarlinReal
    @DarlinReal 2 роки тому +1

    Advice of the century! And he took a bow.

  • @peterw1213
    @peterw1213 3 роки тому

    Best answer Steve !
    Genius!!!

  • @godswillfavorblessed7926
    @godswillfavorblessed7926 5 років тому +5

    Well for one Steve give it to you straight to the brain with no chaser! We know when these men are no good, but they still try to fix him up so he could fit into their lives. Sad but true trying to make a man something he is not capable of being. Just bow out gracefully ladies and live your best life and keep the faith.

  • @Womenswell022
    @Womenswell022 5 років тому +8

    Steve nailed it!

  • @tarysunshine3878
    @tarysunshine3878 2 роки тому +9

    My husband was 35 yo when we met with low income. But somehow he manage to purchase a house & decent car. That earn my respect when he proposed again in our 10th date.
    I always have short relationships. 6 months top. Because I’m not affraid to cut a guy who show incompatibility or red flags. People said that’s my red flag. But I’m married for 14 years now and gone through hell & back together. We’re not perfect, but we still dating 😁
    The key is commitment. It’s not have to be about your starting point or current condition. Don’t be afraid to cut someone when they not compatible or show future.

  • @Angel-sp7ty
    @Angel-sp7ty 5 років тому +2

    Thank you Mr. harvey...

  • @blugottigmk474
    @blugottigmk474 5 років тому +1

    I can relate to this message in so many ways so i always return to hear it again. Steve Harvey's a genius at delivering‼

  • @donnaallgaier-lamberti3933
    @donnaallgaier-lamberti3933 4 роки тому +18

    I once dated a man that said, "it takes five years of dating to know..." I'm thinking you are crazy. if you don't know sooner than that you are not for me. After 9 months I knew he was not for me.

  • @tiffanymelvin9781
    @tiffanymelvin9781 5 років тому +7

    Steve you betta PREACH!! Young Lady, he’s just not that into you! He’s into titles, just not with you. Pick up your mat and Run 🏃🏾‍♀️ You are worth so much more! You’ve waited 6 yrs too long..Best Wishes to you, there is someone out there in the world looking for you.

  • @ZZ-lf7xk
    @ZZ-lf7xk 5 років тому +2

    Wow. This was cracking advice. If you ask god for something you gotta make room to receive it. Felt that

  • @Eagle00pr
    @Eagle00pr 4 роки тому +1

    What a great mama so wise!

  • @elaineflores4465
    @elaineflores4465 Рік тому +1

    That's a mom with faith and wisdom she raised and taught her son well ❤️

  • @MsRae-ev9hs
    @MsRae-ev9hs 5 років тому +42

    37????...He ain't tryna get married at all. He almost 40 years old. If he wanted to get married he would have proposed by now. A person who wants to do something goes and does it. A person who doesn't wan't to something just doesn't do it.

    • @patrickananas1999
      @patrickananas1999 5 років тому +4

      Why would a man marry a woman in this one-sided court system?

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 4 роки тому +2

      Is there a date on marriage that I'm unaware of ?

    • @Phantom6lack
      @Phantom6lack 4 роки тому +4

      Ms. Rae marriage doesn’t benefit men.

  • @trooperjane998
    @trooperjane998 5 років тому +75

    Honey when they get stability forget about him! They drop you like hot potato

    • @deva190
      @deva190 5 років тому +9

      Yep. He will be on to the next one thinking he's making an upgrade.

    • @joyjoy449
      @joyjoy449 5 років тому +7

      Absolutely. That's why she needs to leave him and level up, find herself a stable one who'll marry her.

    • @shawntal.665
      @shawntal.665 5 років тому +3

      Yes they will. Believe me i know

    • @KPITGangsta
      @KPITGangsta 5 років тому +1

      Jump on to the next one and then collect the bag before jumping on the next one until you can't find anymore good men Girl, get what you deserve and everything owed to you, for real, LOL.

    • @helloearth11
      @helloearth11 5 років тому +1

      It's because you think being the same girl would help you attrackt different kinds of men, when in reality you get the same guy in a different skin. Don't ever blame someone else for something in your life you have control over.

  • @ShesooBreezy
    @ShesooBreezy 5 років тому +49

    Is she living with him?!! Don’t live with a man before he puts a ring on it. 💍💍 It’s hard, but it’s worth the wait to live by yourself or with a roommate compared to shacking up with a man and fearing that he won’t put a ring on it.

    • @AltNova
      @AltNova 5 років тому +5

      Why do all women want to rush into marriage? Just seems like a scam to me

    • @Vu7kan_
      @Vu7kan_ 5 років тому +3

      Nova personally I don’t see the point in marriage and before I continue, I am only 19 but too me it just seems like a title, too me you don’t have to get married and you can still have the same love and connection as a couple who is married

    • @AltNova
      @AltNova 5 років тому +1

      @@Vu7kan_ ikr its weird people think they cant truly love eachother without getting married

    • @ShesooBreezy
      @ShesooBreezy 5 років тому +13

      Nova and Dusty, well I don’t see the reason to support a man during their darkest times. I don’t see the reason to help a man pay his rent, bills, groceries, and help keep a roof over his head if he loses his job and be his morale support. This all the great things a wife does that friends or family might not do!! Wife is there to help support her husband financially and emotionally. I’d be damned to be a woman that is doing wifely things but still has a title of a girlfriend and no ring!! Try finding a woman that’ll put up with that bull crap for years without marriage cause she’ll leave if she has to wait for her ring!!

    • @AltNova
      @AltNova 5 років тому +5

      @@ShesooBreezy Its not doing wifely things its being a morally good human being and partner. Just because you arent married to someone doesnt mean you cant love and support them jesus christ. You would really be willing to ditch your boyfriend because he didnt give you a goddamn ring and contract? Just hideous.

  • @nezra3514
    @nezra3514 4 роки тому +1

    Steve Harvey spitting truth and wisdom!

  • @sophia4christ
    @sophia4christ 5 років тому +1

    What a word! Hallelujah to Jesus Christ!

  • @ella_64
    @ella_64 2 роки тому +9

    I've experienced both sides of men: turning the world upside down for a woman they love and also letting them wait and hope for years for who knows what reasons. When a man wants you, he will make sure you know!

  • @kellyd8082
    @kellyd8082 5 років тому +2

    this one touch me to the core. I'm in the same situation... Thanks Steve!

  • @ruslanaliiev2800
    @ruslanaliiev2800 4 роки тому +5

    He's a GREAT storyteller !

  • @zizi5137
    @zizi5137 2 роки тому +1

    Best advice I have EVER heard

  • @tthomas1111
    @tthomas1111 4 роки тому +1

    This truth made me cry😏

  • @isaaaaa6464
    @isaaaaa6464 5 років тому +46

    This man has a story for everything 😂

    • @codyjemison9558
      @codyjemison9558 Рік тому

      You ever feel like he just pulled it out his ass? 😂😂😂

  • @jeneden3492
    @jeneden3492 5 років тому +56

    37 years old + don't like being called a boyfriend = he's a player man child
    Betcha he's got a side kick or more than one
    This girl deserves better

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 4 роки тому +5

      What did she describe in this clip that would lead u to think she deserves anything ? What has she earned ?

    • @spazz-ok9nr
      @spazz-ok9nr 2 роки тому

      @The Chard N Nay Show is airing out private relationship business basic respect? U can tell all day what she should be given...I asked what did she earn ?

  • @celticgypsychick
    @celticgypsychick 5 років тому +5

    This is the most helpful and awesome ask steve I've ever heard! Ladies for real, we have to get rid of the baggage and free up space on our lives before trying to get the right man wooo!

  • @Relax_TouchGrass
    @Relax_TouchGrass 4 роки тому +1

    That story is everything 😭💞 it's solving all my problems

  • @Paulăo_opp
    @Paulăo_opp 4 роки тому +1

    Big fan of Steve Harvey man...ladies listen